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Lift_Vs_Gravity/r/Divorce_Men05/07/26 03:21 AM
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Lift_Vs_Gravity/r/Divorce_Men07/08/26 11:57 PM
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Lift_Vs_Gravity/r/Divorce_Men07/08/26 05:25 AM
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Thank you! This is a great community with great people!!
/r/Divorce_Men08/08/26 02:28 AM
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It seems like my wife has no interest in reconciliation, which I’m OK with. Some of the stuff she’s done and said to me I just can’t get over anyways. I like being with my kids without her anyways. Now she just avoids me, tries to make her own parenting plan, etc. I’m not sure how temporary custody will work while cohabitating? Will someone have to move out..?? Very confused and nervous right now….
/r/Divorce_Men08/08/26 02:27 AM
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I’m so glad you reached out!! I hope I can cover a large chunk with my retirement, and I do have a HELOC with a zero balance. What if she doesn’t want to leave? She seems comfortable, put all my stuff in the garage, tells me I can move on and that we are done, etc. But she would never mention the D word. Honestly I’m just nervous about custody, the rest is less important, though keeping the house would be ok, cause the kids know it and would be comfortable here.
/r/Divorce_Men08/08/26 01:28 AM
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Oh my…sorry to hear that. Hang in there though! These Reddit communities have really been a blessing to me. Honestly got me through some dark times, so keep coming back!! Some great people in here. We’ll get through this together…
/r/Divorce_Men08/08/26 01:04 AM
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Great to hear that I have hope!! Maybe because my kids are older it will be easier..? I’ve been overextending myself for years…I’m used to it. I’ll do whatever I have to do for the kids….I told my attorney that’s my biggest priority…I could care less about money/assets/whatever else. I don’t really wanna give my STBXW a free house though…she’s been terrorizing me for many years…I’m making baby steps toward freedom…just entered the tunnel…I don’t see light yet..but I know it’s down there somewher…
/r/Divorce_Men08/08/26 01:01 AM
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You are in the process as well? How old are the kids..??
/r/Divorce_Men08/08/26 12:55 AM
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Does somebody have to move out during the divorce? That’s what the paralegal told me, but she just might not know for sure…thanks!!
/r/Divorce_Men07/08/26 07:24 PM
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Alright thanks a lot! I figured they maybe have to make sure everything is dialed in and correct and what not, no errors, plus whatever their workload looks like. Thanks again!
/r/Divorce_Men07/08/26 07:03 AM
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I’m still having trouble finding the courage to get the ball rolling…I keep envisioning the other side though…and it looks amazing….just me and the kids, no nagging, peaceful, I really feel for ya…hang in there…time to heal..
/r/Divorce_Men31/07/26 12:36 AM
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Did you each have lawyers? 50/50 custody was that quite a battle??
/r/Divorce_Men29/07/26 04:50 AM
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I was living in my car for 4 months….she didn’t care….I finally said enough is enough….came back home to be near the kids….I’ve had a couple paid consultations already and have a lawyer I would use….just hard to get that ball rolling…thanks for the encouragement..we’ll get through this together!!
/r/Divorce_Men29/07/26 02:07 AM
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I’ve been sleeping in our camper in the backyard so I don’t even have to be around her…and I work graveyard so I’m out there out of the way during the day…every text she sends to me is conducive to…she wants a divorce…but she won’t say the magic word. Does she think I’m just gonna live in the camper, pay all of the bills, and take the kids places when she decides I can, forever?? I don’t think I can do this much longer….
/r/Divorce_Men28/07/26 11:55 PM
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Not yet…I keep getting cold feet..I have a lawyer in mind, and I think I just need to do it. I’m not sure how to get started, but I have to get it done. She also says she doesn’t feel safe around me, one of the nicest guys you’ll meet. They’re crazy! They can’t all be like this….
/r/Divorce_Men28/07/26 11:45 PM
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Wow this is me!!! And everything I have (kayaks, dirt bikes, camper, etc.) is because of her!! She’s been a SAHM for 17 years….the youngest is almost 14…..
/r/Divorce_Men28/07/26 11:23 PM
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I do have a lawyer in mind, and I’m about to pay the retainer and have him file I think. I don’t know if she would make this whole process ugly and drag it out if I do…even though I think we are required to do mediation anyways? So confused and done here…thanks for all the responses btw….very helpful.
/r/Divorce_Men27/07/26 05:19 AM
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She keeps bringing up mediation for a parenting plan we can agree on…should I just get a lawyer and file? I know I need 50/50 of my kids…I have to get them away from her at least half the time….
/r/Divorce_Men26/07/26 10:42 PM
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So the problem I’m having now is that she has the kids brainwashed with this 24 hour notice rule, which btw, she says is quite lenient. I really would love to take the control away from her somehow, because she has to be in control. It’s driving me insane….
/r/Divorce_Men26/07/26 01:36 PM
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She makes it so tough to hang out with my kids, even when I’m there. I’ve been staying in the camper in the back yard, cause I sleep during the day. She has some rule about giving her 24 hours notice before I take my kids somewhere or something. It’s ridiculous. I don’t think I can hold on much longer here, I need my kids and no her….I’m losing my sanity….
/r/Divorce_Men26/07/26 07:05 AM
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Yeah I told her I wanted to take the kids somewhere tomorrow and she says “No. I need 24 hours notice.” I say what!!?? That’s ridiculous. I have as much right to these kids as you do. I can’t hold on much longer man…..I just want it to be me and the kids….she has one of my credit cards she’s been using….She got mad when I was in the house today when she came home from somewhere, saying I’m not respecting her space, blah blah blah…..I mean I just got done living in my car for 4 months….but OK….
/r/Divorce_Men26/07/26 05:04 AM
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She won’t even talk to me, can’t stand having me around, talks about me moving on, and honestly, I can’t wait to be rid of her. She can have the house, I just want my stuff and the kids 50/50. Maybe if I let her have the house, paid off with my retirement funds, and alimony gets waived….? I wish this hell was over, but it’s just beginning….
/r/Divorce_Men25/07/26 01:48 AM
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Hopefully mine will be a little easier since I don’t miss her when she’s not around, and love being with my kids and no her. Same boat, 21 years together, 15 married…about to start the process, just gotta figure out how…someday soon I hope you will find joy in tending to your tomato plants….
/r/Divorce_Men25/07/26 01:05 AM
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Hello sir I’m back! Me and my son just got back from a trip to South Africa. Things are going OK I guess….she still tells me that I’m invading her space and that I can move on, etc….but I tell her I’m not moving out again, I’m done sleeping in my car. She mentioned something about ‘all assets and debts divided equally’ but won’t say the D word. I am envisioning my life without her in it, just me and the kids, even if for only half the time. It would be much higher quality time with them, and it …
/r/Divorce_Men21/07/26 04:59 AM
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She’s been a SAHM for 17 years, mind you the youngest is 13, and she thinks I owe it all to her, she’s the reason I have this house, she’s the reason I have these dirt bikes, etc. etc. She made the sacrifice of staying home, even though I worked overnights and was taking care of the kids whenever I was awake. She’s really baffling me. She says there will be guidelines to follow upon my forced return. Just wild. I definitely picked a good one…..
/r/Divorce_Men06/07/26 10:30 PM
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Apparently this is me bullying her. Forcing my way back onto the property and making it uncomfortable for them. I think the ‘them’ is just her, the kids are probably being brainwashed by her. Our bond is strong, me and the kids. She says she doesn’t feel safe because of my communication issues. I’m so glad I have this community to vent to, and receive guidance. Thanks!!
/r/Divorce_Men06/07/26 10:16 PM
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Good point. Thank you for the insight. This post and all these responses have given me so much strength, I’m amazed. Thank you!!
/r/Divorce_Men06/07/26 12:21 PM
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We will just sort of live separate lives I guess, me and my STBXW? Let her be uncomfortable for a little bit? It’s always me leaving, me sleeping in my car, in fact, last year on the 4th of July, that’s exactly the same thing I was doing. You guys gave me the nudge I needed, and in a moment of clarity, it happened. Thank you!
/r/Divorce_Men06/07/26 11:14 AM
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These are the words I needed to hear. Thank you! I made my way back in, I told her I’ll stay in the camper or whatever, be in the garage, and we can kinda live separate lives, I just need to be there with the kids. She did mention mediation, and she’s not trying to keep the kids from me, so maybe we can get this thing done cleanly, 50/50 custody, and move on quickly. She threatened a protection order, so I called the sheriff and told them that she might try something, and they said that phone ca…
/r/Divorce_Men06/07/26 05:00 AM
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Also….just stay and let her be uncomfortable right…?? She said that is her space and she’s not comfortable with me in her space….
/r/Divorce_Men06/07/26 01:50 AM
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She is very convincing when she talks to me…..she almost talks me into believing that everything is my fault….do I just stay even with her comment about the kids being stressed? I told her I’ll just be in the camper or in the garage or whatever…..I need to know your schedule….haha…because I like your responses….thank you sir…
/r/Divorce_Men06/07/26 01:49 AM
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She said my daughter was cutting herself because of the tension in the marriage…?? Also I got blamed for making it get to a point where she had to call me names and verbally abuse me…..my fault….this has to be BPD right….??
/r/Divorce_Men06/07/26 01:02 AM
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So I did it and she says I’m being selfish because it’s causing stress with the kids. They all were happy when I was away. I don’t understand….me and my kids are so close…..she mentioned mediation, and she wouldn’t try to keep the kids from me, etc. I’m not sure if she thinks she would get to keep the house in a divorce or what…..at a crossroads here….I’ve just been tinkering in the garage like the old days….running the dirt bikes and other small engines……thanks for the nudge….
/r/Divorce_Men06/07/26 01:01 AM
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I think I’m gonna do it…she might het mad but I have to. I want to thank you guys for nudging me….
/r/Divorce_Men05/07/26 07:49 PM
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I think I’m done living out of my car and seeing the kids randomly. Living in here for 4 months. Haven’t slept in a bed since March. I’ll stay in the camper or something. That’s what I’m about to tell her….
/r/Divorce_Men05/07/26 06:50 PM
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Thank you for the support. The thing is we are on opposite schedules, but I have a camper in the back yard I could use.
/r/Divorce_Men05/07/26 06:08 PM
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Thanks for reaching out. I might just have to suck it up and get back in there. I do have a camper in the back yard too.
/r/Divorce_Men05/07/26 06:06 PM
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I do have a camper in the back yard and I thought about moving into that. Thank you for the outside perspective. I am just in such a jam right now. I work overnight also so we are on opposite schedules.
/r/Divorce_Men05/07/26 06:04 PM
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I can’t be around her. She is so volatile, and I don’t want any false DV accusations that I hear about. I have a lawyer I am about to retain…all I think about is my kids…I am so lost and lonely…
/r/Divorce_Men05/07/26 04:23 AM
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Any kids…???
/r/Divorce_Men02/07/26 04:48 AM
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Please save me a spot on the other side as well! So you hired a lawyer and she didn’t? Did you get 50/50 with the kids, if any? What state?
/r/Divorce_Men28/06/26 12:45 AM
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This is exactly where I’m at. Living in my car since March, 2 teens at the family home with BPD wife, about to retain a lawyer and file. I lay in my car and cry myself to sleep reading these posts, thinking about the kids, what they’re thinking, how and when will I see them during divorce? Even when they do hang out with me, they’re mom’s presence lingers over them, she is so controlling. But I will not give up. I’m going for 50/50, at all costs. This is as bad as it gets, and I know things will…
/r/Divorce_Men27/06/26 08:27 PM
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So she has to move out even if she doesn’t want to? I am divorcing a SAHM and we have 2 teens, I would likely buy her out with a HELOC/refinance, but she might go kicking and screaming. Currently staying in my car to remove myself from her volatility. It would be her karma for getting mad and kicking me out off and on for the last 15 years…..
/r/Divorce_Men12/06/26 09:31 AM
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What state is that? I am starting the process in WA, am a very involved dad of a 16 and 13 year old, wife got mad and raged until I left the house. Now living in car, she has been a SAHM for 17 years almost. I think she has BPD, from what I’ve read about it. All I care about is 50/50 at minimum with kids. I think my odds are good…when can kids choose? 14? Sorry for long reply, just very anxious/depressing time right now….
/r/Divorce_Men10/06/26 11:42 AM
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