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Constant throughout my life. I remember my 7th grade math teacher yelling to my chaotic class, calling me the “one benign cell” surrounded by “cancerous cells”, my classmates. No way that any strategic seating was gonna work in that crowd!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/21 03:31 PM
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Seriously though, I’ve often wondered if they consult with each other when making the profiles, it’s eerie how similar and unoriginal they are. Or maybe they’re all just “basic bros”? Dead fish, sports, and drinking are not personality traits! The last time I tried OLD, I tried to give more insights into my values and personality traits on my profile. I got so many messages saying “so nice to see a REAL person here, so rare!” But I don’t think I ever saw any male profiles that came across as gen…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/21 02:18 PM
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Yes, and I’ve learned the hard way that when a man says that he wants to be with a “strong woman”, he’s really saying that he doesn’t want to have to take care of his partner. 🚩This man will never show up for his partner. If she runs into any hardships and turns to him for help, he’ll just say “you’re strong, you can handle it!”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 10:53 PM
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-No one who relies on drugs/alcohol to drown out their emotions -No one who irons their clothes on their coffee table -No one who enjoys vandalism -No one who pushes me off the couch and laughs when I’ve hit the floor -No one who sneaks alcohol into movie theaters -No one who is a self-proclaimed artist whose work only consists of their self portraits -No one who doesn’t give me a gift on Valentine’s Day AND insists on spending our date watching a cowboy movie. I repeat, this was Valentine’s Day…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 04:20 AM
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Thank you for this. My last relationship was with an emotionally abusive man, and I felt destroyed when that relationship was over. I hated my job and I barely had enough money to pay the bills. I spent a lot of time in therapy to cope. About a year later, after the dust had settled, I remember my therapist encouraging me to date again. I said: “That’s not a priority for me right now, I don’t feel happy in my life. I want to find my happiness, my dream job, and stability first. I want to be happ…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 02:43 PM
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Thank you for this 👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 04:27 AM
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Just skimmed it...my god, those men are all so fragile. I feel that they really live in a different universe from women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 03:46 AM
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Thank you for this beautiful reminder! We can always direct love at ourselves 🍱❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/10/20 05:07 AM
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Yes, this is so important! I’m finally learning this lesson. I was always taught to be kind and polite, but I’ve learned the hard way that everyone doesn’t deserve that treatment automatically. They have to earn it. Being kind to people who violated my boundaries ultimately hurts me all over again. I’m now working to rebuild my relationship with myself after trusting too many toxic people. Be kind to yourself first!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/20 10:58 PM
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This is so liberating. I was convinced that I was broken and destined to fail in relationships. That the narcissists and abusers could somehow see it and target me. But I’m the one who can see more clearly now, and I’m not going to let them in.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 02:40 PM
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Before I was involved with my emotionally abusive ex, I naively assumed that most people tried to have mutually beneficial and fulfilling partnerships. From the very beginning, he was constantly comparing me with his exes, and I was put in this sick competition with these women that I had never even met before. He made me feel unworthy. He loved to brag about all of his dating and sexual experiences, puffing up his own ego and making me feel ashamed of my lack of experience. He was constantly be…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 04:27 PM
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🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 02:44 AM
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You’re doing the right thing! The only children you should be taking care of are your darling cats, not this man child. I’m so excited for what’s in store for you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 02:13 AM
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I went through similar situations with my ex where I was afraid of his anger/potential police involvement, and also couldn’t bring myself to talk about it with others. But just want to say that you weren’t an idiot for tolerating it. When people put you in those scary situations, all you need to do is get through it safely, and you did! That’s the most important thing. And no one expects their significant other to act that way, it can be shocking to see it happen. We weren’t anticipating it and …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 02:17 PM
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Thank you for this! My abusive ex keeps popping up in my brain lately. I’ll give this a try!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 04:58 AM
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Thank you for saying that! That definitely puts it all into perspective, and I’ll keep it all in mind when I interact with her. I think part of what I’ve struggled with is watching her jump into her relationship so quickly. I can see how unhealthy/unbalanced it is, but she can’t, and I’m worried about the outcome. But I think we all have to go through these relationship dynamics on our own to actually learn. I’m hoping best case scenario, no matter what happens with this dude, our friendship sur…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 04:38 AM
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Oh my God, that’s eye opening. I never stopped to think about how many people I’ve interacted with who do that... 😟
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 01:19 AM
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Thank you. I think you’re totally right, her actions are showing her priorities. I’ll step back and let things unfold however they’re going to unfold. I thought this kind of stuff ended in high school, but this is happening in my late twenties! I guess friendships shift and change at any age.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 06:38 PM
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I’m grieving a friendship. My best friend got into her first relationship right before quarantine, and doesn’t have time for me anymore. This guy is basically living at her apartment now. I met him once, and he was okay. I didn’t sense any red flags, but he was just underwhelming and bland. Whenever I’m in relationships I make a point of still spending time with friends weekly, and not spending all my time with a significant other. Balance matters. I value friendship. I don’t look at friends as …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 02:59 PM
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I agree! I’ve realized that there’s not one shared definition of dating anymore, and it’s so confusing because people are using the same label to describe so many different things. I blame OLD.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 02:24 PM
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Listen to your gut. How YOU are feeling matters the most. It’s clear that he’s disregarding your feelings, and that’s not okay. You’ve been upfront with him, but he doesn’t care. He’s using gifts as a way to pressure you into interacting with him. If you don’t want to interact with him, don’t interact with him. You didn’t ask for any gifts, he’s forcing them on you. It may seem kind, but it’s manipulative on his part. You don’t owe him anything. You don’t even have to respond to him if you don’t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 03:37 AM
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I’m so glad that you’re out of that relationship and in a peaceful place now!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 02:11 AM
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Holy shit 😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/20 11:11 PM
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This is so sweet! Gives me hope
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 04:20 AM
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Ugh I’m sorry they’re putting you through that. You’ve already done the hard work of applying and they know that you’re interested, you shouldn’t have to do anything else! Either way, I hope you ultimately have the best outcome out of this!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/20 04:24 AM
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I was recently rejected for a fellowship. I was expecting to get it (my work experience and resume are strong, and I was a good fit for the program). When I read the rejection email, my initial reaction was “seriously?!”. I realized just my reaction alone was a win. In the past, whenever I had been rejected, I thought “I’m not good enough”, and would feel desperate to prove myself. Now, I know that I AM good enough. I realize that if someone, whether in a professional or romantic situation, does…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/20 03:26 AM
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Hi all! I’m feeling very content with being able to work from home and spend quality time with myself. I’m taking better care of myself than I have in years, I’m in tune with myself, and I feel a greater sense of clarity about my life. I realized under normal circumstances I felt so much peer/societal pressure about being single and it’s been nice to be disconnected from that. Knowing that people can’t date in real life alleviated a lot of pressure. And then I keep seeing articles like this. I s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 10:23 PM
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Looking for advice/rant: I’ve been really disappointed in my best friend, who has been showing lots of pickmeisha tendencies lately. She’s a 29 year old lawyer and one of the smartest people I’ve ever known. But when it comes to men she shows bad judgment. She’s tried OLD for the past few years but the guys always end up ghosting after a few dates. She met a guy on tinder in February. Their second date was Valentine’s Day (a fancy dinner that SHE planned and booked, not him). She said she’s the …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/20 03:13 PM
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