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5	Got played like a fiddle by a married man and I feel incredibly stupid You played yourself on this one. You slept with a man you knew wasn’t divorced on the second date. Even if he wasn’t interested in working it out with his wife, living apart for a few months isn’t long enough for him to have moved on from the mother of his children. Lesson learned - unless they can prove they’re divorced and theyve offered you a formal commitment, don’t jump into bed with them	/r/RedPillWomen	12/11/25 04:15 AM
1	Why is sex a nontradeable ? When’s the last time you saw parades thrown in a prostitute’s honor? How many families do you know that send out care packages to their local street walker? Where are the lifelong government benefits being offered to prostitutes so they can better themselves after their service?	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/10/25 09:06 PM
5	What would be your thoughts on someone co parenting a dog? That typically doesn’t last. It’s likely that one party will end up taking the dog full time and the other will stop visiting. Pets are family, but they’re also legally property. Whose name is on the adoption or AKC registration papers, vet records, etc? Hers or his? I’d focus more on what the relationship looks like - are they spending time together with the dog, or is this a pickup/dropoff situation only? What were their reasons for breaking up and are they civil? Does one still have feelings …	/r/RedPillWomen	09/06/25 05:59 PM
1	Do you regret not sleeping with someone Only once. Everyone thought we had anyway, so I might have well have. But it’s probably for the best.	/r/RedPillWomen	04/03/25 08:09 PM
2	Occupations that are in line with RPW goals? “Breed” is such a weird way to refer to becoming a mother. She’s not livestock	/r/RedPillWomen	04/03/25 07:37 PM
14	How do you have a good "girl game" with a man that has a lot of options? I’m going to say the same thing I did the last time you posted about this guy: He broke up with you once before and now wants you to put in the work to try to keep him around. He says he wants you to be sweet, to be vulnerable, to be emotional, etc. because he wants you to chase him as if he were the prize. He views women as disposable, but likes the attention and the feeling of getting women to pursue him. That’s why he’s told you to be more feminine and vulnerable - it’s not because he loves y…	/r/RedPillWomen	04/03/25 07:32 PM
1	Occupations that are in line with RPW goals? Are you anti-child or just bitter that her fiancé wants to provide?	/r/RedPillWomen	04/03/25 04:37 AM
1	It's sad that women have been conditioned to be self serving and overly interested in men's money and resources. Let’s try again: So you’re disgusted with the men as well, and believe their love for their women is fake? They’re bad people, according to you, because they expect something from women? The only good people are ones who never ask for or expect anything from their partners?	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/03/25 08:55 PM
6	Boyfriend climbed up a few stories to help a woman get into an apartment My dad helped a woman break into her car at the grocery store once, to save her the trouble of having to call a locksmith. I was around 8, but I’ll never forget the relief on her face. I thought my dad was a hero that day. He continuously shows up when my sister and I need rescuing, and he’s been a loyal husband as far as I know. Your boyfriend might be a similar kind of man. But you said he’s lied before and is impulsive around attractive women. That’s a big red flag. I wouldn’t necessarily bri…	/r/RedPillWomen	03/03/25 04:36 PM
2	It's sad that women have been conditioned to be self serving and overly interested in men's money and resources. If it’s not actually happening, the social pressure isn’t that big of a deal. And once again, both genders can provide in different ways, even if one is handling the finances	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/03/25 03:59 AM
10	It's sad that women have been conditioned to be self serving and overly interested in men's money and resources. According to their posts, OP is against people having children and doesn’t think it’s fair that people have to have jobs. He’s perfectly fine with civilization ending lol	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/03/25 05:32 AM
22	It's sad that women have been conditioned to be self serving and overly interested in men's money and resources. No. Both genders provide, sometimes in different ways, but men are not usually the financial provider. The vast majority of households are duel income, and more men than ever want a 50/50 lifestyle.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/03/25 05:31 AM
21	It's sad that women have been conditioned to be self serving and overly interested in men's money and resources. So you’re disgusted with them as well, and believe their love for their women is fake? They’re bad people, according to you?	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/03/25 05:29 AM
16	It's sad that women have been conditioned to be self serving and overly interested in men's money and resources. I didn’t deny that, I said that’s not their reality. Most men want a woman who will raise the kids and handle the domestic, emotional, and mental labor. So what? You never answered my question btw: Do you feel the same toward men who want women to bear, raise, and teach their children? Men who want women to take care of the domestic labor? Are they disgusting and selfish for wanting a more traditional marriage? Is their love fake too?	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/03/25 04:53 AM
32	It's sad that women have been conditioned to be self serving and overly interested in men's money and resources. Are you living in 1850? Tons of women are equal partners or the breadwinner. MOST men are not the sole provider.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/03/25 04:45 AM
38	It's sad that women have been conditioned to be self serving and overly interested in men's money and resources. Do you feel the same toward men who want women to bear, raise, and teach their children? Men who want women to take care of the domestic labor? Are they disgusting and selfish for wanting a more traditional marriage? Is their love fake too? Edit - also, are you implying men are being tricked or aren’t aware that they’ve taken on the role of provider? Do men not have agency to choose what type of woman they marry? Do you not realize that providing for his family is something that makes certain me…	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/03/25 04:14 AM
87	It's sad that women have been conditioned to be self serving and overly interested in men's money and resources. All relationships are transactional, to some extent. Men don’t marry women with the intent to get nothing in return. You don’t keep friends around who have nothing to offer you. Even family is often cut off when the relationship is no longer a two way street. Women who want men to financially provide for them aren’t necessarily pretending to love him or begrudgingly giving him sex as a trade. They just prioritize financial security and/or traditional gender roles. Their men are likely looking fo…	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/03/25 04:06 AM
3	How turned off would you be if before sex, he pulled out a consent form? Right, I’m sure women would be happy to not only be recorded, but to have that video shared on a server (which would be hacked) with police (who have a high rate of violence against women). That sounds so safe!	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/02/25 07:56 PM
1	Occupations that are in line with RPW goals? I’m pretty sure Starbucks pays for school, as well. I’d look for jobs that have programs like that, so you can get a free/heavily discounted education	/r/RedPillWomen	28/02/25 07:35 PM
6	New here. Can anyone give me tips? I’m currently reading Fascinating Womanhood and really enjoying it!	/r/RedPillWomen	28/02/25 05:22 AM
55	Would you support arranged marriage coming back into style? I don’t believe we can trust parents to make good matches these days. If families cherished their sons and daughters and had their best interests at heart, it could work. My own father, for example, adopted a “whatever makes you happy” attitude with his children, and that has had negative consequences for myself and my sisters. Without proper instruction, we didn’t know how to properly vet, what to expect in the dating world, or what boundaries and standards were acceptable/unrealistic. My mothe…	/r/RedPillWomen	25/02/25 09:27 PM
–	Men, stop whining about women not wanting to passionately f*ck you Basically, if you don’t fit into their echo chamber, they’ll get too angry and upset to engage in a good faith conversation. They just want validation. And before this comment sets em off too - #notallmen	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/02/25 04:47 PM
4	[Update] How do I gauge his interest about commitment and dating without fully revealing my feelings yet? Yes that would be my take. And I’m willing to bet those calls were not accidents. I’m not saying don’t go out with him again, but just be aware that he’s trying to hold the power - he’s older, he initiated the break up, he’s making demands of you, etc.	/r/RedPillWomen	25/02/25 12:52 AM
3	[Update] How do I gauge his interest about commitment and dating without fully revealing my feelings yet? He broke up with you once before and wants you to put in the work now to keep him around. He wants you to be sweet, to be vulnerable, to be emotional, etc. He wants you to chase him as if he were the prize.	/r/RedPillWomen	25/02/25 12:07 AM
6	Society Was Better off When Female Preferences/attraction triggers Were Kept in the Dark I’d like to add nearly every male character in Jane Austin books, Narnia, and LOTR	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/02/25 04:09 AM
3	Society Was Better off When Female Preferences/attraction triggers Were Kept in the Dark There was a time when men genuinely believed that being a good provider, a loyal partner, a protector, a pillar of stability and a decent human being was the path to winning a woman’s heart. The men who are like this don’t have issues finding wives, never have never will. This is literally what women want in a husband. The truth is that women’s most intense, visceral attraction(perhaps through no fault of their own) isn’t to the stable, dependable “nice guy.” It’s to the, disagreeable, thrill-se…	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/02/25 04:08 AM
2	I just want to live like my great grandma Not sure where you’re located, but in the US the government has made it near impossible to just find land and tend to it. If you don’t pay the tax bill they’ll come talk your house, even if you “own” it. We’re never truly free, and we likely won’t get back to that kind of life again. Now the good news is, if you have some money and don’t mind living in the middle of nowhere, you can get cheap land and do backbreaking work to get it into a livable state. Or if you want to be really isolated, you …	/r/RedPillWomen	22/02/25 05:16 PM
1	Struggling with weight gain & femininity—need advice Yep, been there. I just started working with a personal trainer. Does your job/insurance offer anything like that? Some offer free gym memberships, nutritional counseling, etc.	/r/RedPillWomen	22/02/25 03:49 PM
3	Question! If you can also sew and mend, you can make a good bit from being a seamstress. I hired one a few times to help with costumes I wanted to make. Just a thought :)	/r/RedPillWomen	22/02/25 01:54 AM
1	Hello (23) M here, ill go by Rick and my SO as Darla (19) (need some advice please) If you can’t accept her past, just move on. It isn’t fair to either of you to start a relationship off with that kind of resentment and retroactive jealously.	/r/RedPillWomen	21/02/25 06:49 PM
–	Paying for Women: A Charity, Not an Investment It’s etiquette. If I have friends over, I don’t demand they bring their own food or pay me back for the beers I offer them, because I understand that I’m hosting. Likewise if I ask someone to dinner - it’s an event I’m hosting, and they’re my guest. Dates are no different. You invited someone out, and there shouldn’t be conditions or demands attached to that. That said, there are plenty of women who do want to go 50/50 on dates, regardless of how well or poorly it goes. If that’s the kind of wom…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/02/25 04:27 PM
2	Paying for Women: A Charity, Not an Investment These men value sex more than anything else, to the point where they are willing to lie, cheat, pressure, and pay to get it, but then turn around and claim a $50 plate and some awkward conversation should be enough to make a woman give it up 🙄	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/02/25 11:50 PM
1	Social awkwardness in men is exactly as much of a turn-off to the opposite sex as being a fat woman. Yeah, shocker, you need to have something to offer. No looks, no money, no status, no social life, and no magnetic personality…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/02/25 11:02 PM
2	If you believe in "Nobody is entitled to a Relationship" and "Nobody is owed anything in a Relationship" then you believe in the following: You’re free to ask for whatever you want within a dating relationship, and the other person is free to say no and break things off. A marriage should be different IMO. If you’re ditching your spouse because you value orgasms more than spending your life with them, you’re too selfish and immature to be married. Marriage is meant to be monogamous. Sex is usually a part of a healthy marriage, but you don’t vow to put out whenever your spouse wants, you vow to stay together despite hardships. And of…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/02/25 05:49 PM
–	Sexual fidelity to your partner and sexual satisfaction from your partner should be considered a zero sum system. Riiiiight, it’s sexist to point out that vows don’t include having sex so your spouse doesn’t cheat lmfao Best of luck to you, you’re gonna need it	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/02/25 02:07 PM
1	Sexual fidelity to your partner and sexual satisfaction from your partner should be considered a zero sum system. Cheating on your spouse is not a normal part of marriage or life, and the “doing whatever you want” mindset shows you’re too selfish and immature to be a good spouse. Marriage means fidelity and monogamy (unless you agree to have an open marriage, but that defeats the purpose imo), and vows often reflect that. Vows never include a level of sex, so your argument falls short there.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/02/25 01:59 AM
1	Sexual fidelity to your partner and sexual satisfaction from your partner should be considered a zero sum system. Yeesh, a lot of yall value having orgasms more than you value getting to spend your life with a spouse that you love and cherish. Sex waxes and wanes in most marriages, and sometimes stops altogether. Age, sickness, childbirth, injuries, etc are all a normal part of life that can affect your sex life together. If that’s enough to make you cheat and/or leave, don’t get married. Ideally sex is part of a healthy relationship, but the vows are “for better or worse,” not “until I’m no longer sexually…	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/02/25 09:27 PM
–	One thing led to another on the first date.. how do I keep my cool and not scare him off? I have to agree. A first date and she’s already talking her clothes off and giving him pleasure? It’s loose behavior. OP, it’s good at least that you have some sense of self awareness and recognize that you’re starting to obsess over this guy. But unless you knew him previously, he’s a stranger. He should not be taking up this much emotional energy in your heart and mind. Has he contacted you at all since the date? Does he message you first, check in to see how your day went, offered to take you…	/r/RedPillWomen	18/02/25 05:14 PM
–	If you’re upset that women dont ‘properly vet’ before the first date, you’ve never been on dates. You don’t have to. But if you don’t have looks, social status, or a magnetic personality, why would women want to date you? They don’t have to. Therefore, if you want to be realistic, having money is something you could have to offer. If you don’t have that or don’t want to offer it, then you’ll likely stay single. But let’s not pretend that’s the case for most men. Most men end up dating/married so they have something to offer, as do the women.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/02/25 08:46 PM
1	If you’re upset that women dont ‘properly vet’ before the first date, you’ve never been on dates. Women as a whole don’t demand that men they aren’t attracted to take them out on dates. But frankly, if you’re not physically attractive and your personality isn’t one that makes women gravitate to you, then yeah you’re going to need to do something else to make it worth her time if you want to take her out that badly. Some women are willing to overlook looks in favor of being provided for. That’s just the way it is for some people. But it’s not the majority.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/02/25 02:36 AM
2	If you’re upset that women dont ‘properly vet’ before the first date, you’ve never been on dates. Some could argue you’re not actually into her, if you want to invite her on a date but refuse to pay. If I have friends over, I don’t demand they bring their own food or pay me back for the beers I offer them, because I understand that I’m hosting. Likewise if I ask someone to dinner - it’s an event I’m hosting, and they’re my guest. That said, there are plenty of women who do want to go 50/50 on dates. I’m not sure why you’re implying that women will pay for dates if they like the guy (which ag…	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/02/25 09:27 PM
2	How do I stay feminine and submit to my husband in conflict? HELP!! Would he consider counseling? Was he like this before or did it only start when you quit your job? Did yall discuss what the roles would be when you made that shift? Try reading the book fascinating womanhood, also. The issue isn’t that you need to be more submissive. But you can learn how to nativists your way through his emotions in a way that’s appealing to both of you	/r/RedPillWomen	13/02/25 01:28 PM
1	Women can seem unapproachable these days hence why we don’t do it. The scenario I described happened to me, not something I saw on tv lmao. You think men don’t back women into a corner, sometimes literally, to try and get a date?	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/02/25 01:12 PM
6	Women can seem unapproachable these days hence why we don’t do it. Yeah, it’s possible she won’t look at you or smile. In which case she’s minding her own business and wants others to do the same, or she’s not interested in you. That’s not a mystery, that’s literally your answer. These are just basic cues people should be able to pick up on, regardless of gender.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/02/25 10:28 PM
1	Marriage, power dynamics and sex. Therapy. And read the book Fascinating Womanhood	/r/RedPillWomen	12/02/25 03:11 PM
1	If you’re upset that women dont ‘properly vet’ before the first date, you’ve never been on dates. Your experience of women not wanting to date you really has nothing to do with this though. You tried to paint women as selfish for wanting to get to know men they didn’t know beforehand to see if there would be relationship potential. You’re ignoring that this is how most dating happens, regardless of gender. Your personal attractiveness or lack of dates doesn’t change that	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/02/25 03:03 AM
1	If you’re upset that women dont ‘properly vet’ before the first date, you’ve never been on dates. However much you think the most important decision in your life is worth. I assure you that the most important decision of a woman’s life isn’t deciding to go on one date lol. Marry and bear children, maybe. Spending thousands per month on a PI is both unrealistic and a foolish use of finances when you can just go out for dinner a few times, then do a more thorough background check if you want to before committing Her socio economic status made the chance of her finding someone better than me / …	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/02/25 01:12 AM
1	If you’re upset that women dont ‘properly vet’ before the first date, you’ve never been on dates. That’s off topic. The vast majority of people get to know potential romantic partners by dating them. If you choose to limit your pool by only dating people you’ve already known in a non-romantic way, you’re free to do so. It just isn’t realistic to expect most others to do that	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/02/25 01:03 AM
2	If you’re upset that women dont ‘properly vet’ before the first date, you’ve never been on dates. So you don’t date. I see why your viewpoint would be what it is	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/02/25 12:28 AM
1	If you’re upset that women dont ‘properly vet’ before the first date, you’ve never been on dates. Glad it worked out for you the first time. Given the large number of men who approach a woman monthly on dating apps & in person, how much do you think is a reasonable amount to set aside for a PI budget? Also I’m curious why you got a PI to vet a homeless woman for you. What made you think she was a good choice from the start? Seems like your situation calls for a PI more than a woman trying to date a man with a job, home, family, social media, etc. You picked a risky partner	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/02/25 12:20 AM
3	If you’re upset that women dont ‘properly vet’ before the first date, you’ve never been on dates. How are you getting to know her before going on a date, unless you’re already friends or you insist on a phone date first?	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/02/25 09:26 PM
3	If you’re upset that women dont ‘properly vet’ before the first date, you’ve never been on dates. I think your idea is ridiculous, for both the cost and invasion of privacy, but I’m curious: What kinds of things are you asking the PI to find out that you can’t figure out on your own before a date? How many times have you personally done this, and do you inform your dates at any point that you did this?	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/02/25 09:25 PM
6	If you’re upset that women dont ‘properly vet’ before the first date, you’ve never been on dates. If you like a woman enough to take her on a date, you’re hoping to get something from her - attention, sex, a relationship, etc. Men aren’t dating for selfless reasons	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/02/25 09:15 PM
3	If you’re upset that women dont ‘properly vet’ before the first date, you’ve never been on dates. Do we get to send the bill to the men if we don’t like what the PI digs up?	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/02/25 09:12 PM
72	Women can seem unapproachable these days hence why we don’t do it. If you’re going to cold approach, try this: make eye contact, smile, maybe nod, and hold that for a second so it’s obvious it wasn’t an accidental glance. If she returns the smile, go talk to her. If she looks away, appears busy, seems annoyed, etc she’s not interested. It’s startling sometimes, to have a guy just walk up to you when you hadn’t even seen him (looking at you, dude who saw me enter the 7-11 but waited until my back was turned while getting a soda from the fridge to slide up behind…	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/02/25 08:29 PM
1	Why does autism seem to be the only hyper-masculine trait which isn't attractive? Like I said, I can only share my specific experience!	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/02/25 08:18 PM
3	Why does autism seem to be the only hyper-masculine trait which isn't attractive? My ex was diagnosed Asperger’s (although we don’t call it that anymore). I enjoyed that he was straightforward in his communication, and he was incredibly intelligent. Those were the most attractive things about his autistic tendencies. That said, he was incredibly self serving. He wasn’t motivated by love, doing the “right” thing, or how his actions affected others - he was interested in how he could satisfy his own desires. So while he was enjoying the relationship, things were wonderful. Then…	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/02/25 06:07 PM
2	My friends GF broke up with him because he only has a part time job Not likely. On occasion you’ll find a woman willing to stay in poverty, but most women won’t choose that life unless they really can do no better	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/02/25 11:01 PM
3	My friends GF broke up with him because he only has a part time job But marriage and children aren’t. You mention in another comment on my thread that a woman might love his personality - what about the information given makes him lovable to a woman? His desire to live in poverty? His lack of being able to save for emergencies? His absence of motivation? His judgment that women are shallow for recognizing all of this in him?	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/02/25 09:29 PM
6	My friends GF broke up with him because he only has a part time job Yeah like a savings account, for starters! It isn’t necessarily about wanting nice cars and fancy vacations, it’s about not having to scramble when something goes wrong because you’re already below the poverty line.	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/02/25 06:55 PM
7	My friends GF broke up with him because he only has a part time job He’s a 35yr old man. He’s fast approaching middle age (77 being the average life span for men in the USA). If he were in college and working hard to create a better future for himself and his eventual wife/kids, OP wouldn’t have posted here. This guy has no motivation. He’s not a wise choice for a woman, hypothetical gym bod or not	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/02/25 06:53 PM
3	My friends GF broke up with him because he only has a part time job I see you’re not capable/interested in having an actual discussion or answering the question. Have a nice day!	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/02/25 06:43 PM
5	My friends GF broke up with him because he only has a part time job Yes you already inferred you think that a woman should pull him up out of poverty. You didn’t say why that would be a good choice for her	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/02/25 06:30 PM
4	My friends GF broke up with him because he only has a part time job Yep, I’ve got money. Do you? Or maybe we can move past our personal finances and you can give an actual rebuttal - tell me why a woman, especially one who wants marriage and kids, should choose a man who lives in poverty and has no desire to better himself, even for the sake of a future with someone	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/02/25 06:25 PM
–	You cant say “Guys arent even given a chance” and then tell women “Choose better”. Which male relatives? The boomers who thrived on the “I hate my wife” jokes? The GenXers who pushed equality and feminism on their children? The millennials who were too busy working to properly participate in the family, assuming they even had a stable marriage to begin with? And how do you think men over 15 are going to react to that? “Nice to meet you Steve, age 42, mins coming home to talk to my daddy so he can see if you’re worthy of me?” If you think most families these days have strong ma…	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/02/25 06:23 PM
20	My friends GF broke up with him because he only has a part time job Most women won’t accept a man who makes minimum wage. The lowest min wage is $7.25. At 24hrs/wk, he’s making $9,048 a year. The highest min wage is $17.50. At $24hrs/wk, he’s making $21,840 a year. Unless he has a significant savings account or is on welfare, he’s barely affording his bills. He can’t afford to date, let alone provide for a family. Most people, regardless of gender, do not want to live in poverty, especially if children are involved. That’s not a “shallow” desire.	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/02/25 04:53 PM
16	Feeling trapped You’re long distance but he’s monitoring your clothes and curfew time? How? Are you volunteering this info to him or is he demanding updates? This all sounds controlling and not something that you should be attracted to. He’s lied, cheated, and I’m assuming isn’t providing… time to find someone else!	/r/RedPillWomen	09/02/25 06:48 PM
2	Repairing my relationship If this were her husband or even fiancé, then I’d say she could consider differently. But this is a 23yr old man who wants to break up because he’s busy prioritizing getting his life together. That’s not a bad thing, but it means she shouldn’t put all her eggs in this basket. Give him space to become a man and figure things out.	/r/RedPillWomen	09/02/25 05:56 PM
0	Repairing my relationship Yes, by giving him space, not chasing after him. He hinted at wanting to break up and they’ve only been together for a few months! The affection died off, he hasn’t made plans for VDay, he had stopped contacting her… he’s just not that interested in making her a priority right now.	/r/RedPillWomen	09/02/25 07:03 AM
4	Repairing my relationship It’s been less than six months. He healed parts of you that you didn’t know were broken? That seems…very rushed and has the ability to turn into something damaging and/or codependent. He got busy TWO weeks ago and yall considered breaking up because he didn’t give you enough attention? I have to strongly disagree with the other commenter who suggested you start buying him door dash, planning dates, and showing up with snacks. Back off and let him figure out how to manage his own schedule. He sho…	/r/RedPillWomen	09/02/25 01:52 AM
1	What to do with a man who presently has a Weak career? Why can’t you date in your culture? Or look outside of your culture? Surely not all Indian people just jump into an arranged marriage - there are no men you can date without agreeing to marry them first??	/r/RedPillWomen	06/02/25 07:32 PM
2	What to do with a man who presently has a Weak career? Are you willing to look outside of those two options, then? Or are you set on picking between the two? I think both have pros and cons. If you’re not madly in love with this man, I’d lean more toward marrying wealthy and doing your best to vet the families so you end up with in-laws that you can peacefully coexist with.	/r/RedPillWomen	06/02/25 03:30 AM
4	You Can Never Trust a Woman Who Doesn't Have Intense Lust for You Nearly Immediately Let’s say she is passionate at first, then you agree to a relationship with her and one month later she’s gone back to more regular sex once she’s got you locked down. You need to bail now before it gets too difficult to leave her. Men value sex more than anything else a woman can provide - you’re encouraging men to leave, even if they’re getting “regular sex.” If she doesn’t want to passionately make love to you for hours sometimes, kiss you in front of others, proud to show you off, then she d…	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/02/25 10:25 PM
5	What to do with a man who presently has a Weak career? I’m confused as to what you want us to say. If you move forward with this relationship, you will have to work full time, and likely will not have children. It’s up to you if you’re okay with that. You also have said that your other option is to marry wealthy but be obedient to in-laws. Again, up to you if you’re willing to do that. Do you love this man? Are you passionately head over heels in love, to the point that you’re willing to pay half the bills and never have children, as long as you get…	/r/RedPillWomen	05/02/25 10:09 PM
1	Men dont care about men’s issue. That’s a nice idea, but unfortunately so many boomers and gen xers really don’t care if their kids struggle. They have the “I made it so you should be able to” mentality, even though economics and society are vastly different now. Family businesses and childhood homes are being sold off because mom and dad would rather make a profit than pass along success to their kids. They’re willing to forgo grandkids because they can’t be bothered to help watch them while their daughters go to work to pay h…	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/02/25 09:57 PM
2	Men dont care about men’s issue. First, I’m very sorry to hear that you were struggling to the point of making an attempt. That’s a really sucky place to be in, made worse by not having support when you reached out to friends and family. No one, regardless of gender, should experience that. While your experience is anecdotal, of course, I do believe it’s a common one… and one that proves OP’s point: it’s been women you dated who cared, who loved you through it, and who didn’t pull away. Not other men. You may not have an answer…	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/02/25 09:45 PM
3	Men dont care about men’s issue. In my area, suicides in men shot up through the roof, so they opened up male support groups in the community center. Not a single person showed up, not one. Suicides kept climbing. These men would literally rather die than be seen as the kind of man that needs these services. Many men on PPD will insist the answer is getting a girlfriend - aka, it’s a women’s job to fix this problem. Oh but don’t be vulnerable around her or she’ll leave! Aka, a woman’s fault. For all the complaining PPD men do a…	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/02/25 03:10 PM
4	Would it be appropriate of me to ask my SO to pay for my travel tickets? I would not repeatedly pay thousands of dollars to go visit a man. If he wants to pursue you he can make that happen	/r/RedPillWomen	05/02/25 01:07 AM
3	How to instigate desire? Can he take some things off of your plate, so that you have time to focus on the priorities? For example, do you need to work because he expects you to pay bills, or could you give up your job to clear time for house work and school? Is this house in your name too, or is he just demanding you help him build equity into his home (in which case you could consider setting a boundary there, which frees you up)? Realistically, you can’t do it all. Focus on the priorities and encourage him to lift oth…	/r/RedPillWomen	04/02/25 07:27 PM
2	Help Would you be able to achieve this if you weren’t working full time? It’s unrealistic to expect you to handle the home and the cooking when you’re also paying half the bills	/r/RedPillWomen	02/02/25 03:50 PM
1	The male loneliness epidemic is worse than you think. It would be nice to have empathy, yes. But ultimately you need to take accountability for your own feelings and make the changes you need to see the results you want. There are a lot of excuses here in the comments about why men won’t support each other (somehow, women’s fault). Go to therapy, go to the gym, join the knights of Columbus or other men’s groups, host a men’s Bible study, make friends with your neighbors, start swapping numbers with other dudes on PPD, etc. If you make an effort you…	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/01/25 02:19 AM
4	Thoughts on kissing & touching on a first date Oh my. That’s very bold of him!	/r/RedPillWomen	23/01/25 02:26 PM
2	Do I hang on or let go? I promise you, you can do better. You said your friends already have plans to match you up with people, and that you’ve had other men ask you out! Everything you’ve described about yourself makes you sound like a lovely woman. You will thrive and flourish without this man. I got married a couple of years ago, in my 30s, and while the dating pool can be a bit exasperating, there are still plenty of good men out there! I’m so glad to see you’ve packed your things and are prepping to leave. Remembe…	/r/RedPillWomen	23/01/25 02:25 PM
2	Thoughts on kissing & touching on a first date Did you go to his house or was all of this out in public? If he was trying to make out and grope your groin, it leads me to believe you were alone in private with him. In addition to that being a safety concern, many men will believe that if you go to their home (especially on a first date/very early on), you’re down to get physical	/r/RedPillWomen	23/01/25 05:01 AM
2	Do I hang on or let go? He’s a broke racist animal abuser but you want to hang onto him because he bought you a few dinners and half a used laptop? I beg of you, have more respect for yourself than this.	/r/RedPillWomen	23/01/25 04:48 AM
0	Dating advice So he wants exclusivity from you while you’re not even in a committed relationship? How does that work? Why are you sleeping with him if you want to talk to other men?	/r/RedPillWives	23/01/25 04:44 AM
8	Am I (28F) letting the provider (28m) comments get to me? And you’re looking at her as a Barbara the Builder, wanting her to help a nearly 30yr old man decide on and pursue a career. He doesn’t know what he wants to do, takes no steps to better himself, and has no follow through. It isn’t her responsibility to fix that, especially for a new boyfriend.	/r/RedPillWomen	21/01/25 10:49 AM
6	Am I (28F) letting the provider (28m) comments get to me? Or if he loved his career field but it wasn’t going to be financially lucrative - something in charity work, for example. But to say he doesn’t know what he wants to do (aka unsatisfied) and has no skill (aka never worked to better himself) and says he wants to get a better job but hasn’t taken any steps (aka unmotivated, isn’t prioritizing providing a future for OP, lack of follow through on his goals)?? Red flags!!	/r/RedPillWomen	21/01/25 10:44 AM
2	As a woman, I really don't get the logic behind "I got used for sex" You can’t advocate for that, then there would be no virgins left for men to wed, and society would be lost /s	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/01/25 05:27 AM
–	“Single men just want to fuck supermodels & 10s” is completely wrong. So your argument is that the average male is a pedo? Or that because “elite” males are pedos, average males are happy to have sex with average women? I’m really not following your logic here	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/01/25 05:18 AM
38	Am I (28F) letting the provider (28m) comments get to me? Not knowing what he wants to do and having no skills would be the bigger red flag to me.	/r/RedPillWomen	21/01/25 03:18 AM
–	“Single men just want to fuck supermodels & 10s” is completely wrong. It does if you’re trying to argue that most men don’t want “10s,” but your examples of who those men DO want are children.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/01/25 03:12 AM
8	I feel rejected, my bf told me "I don't think I can just keep paying for everything", how do I deal with this situation? He doesn’t pay my bills. He gives me money every month but it’s not a gift, it’s a salary from work. So I don’t think that counts. So you’re providing for yourself, by working. Unless you’re simply on the payroll but not doing anything, this isn’t him “giving you money,” this is him paying an employee. That’s not a kindness he’s doing you. He pays for dates, occasional gifts, trips, visa for trips if needed. But not my bills. Dates and trips are things he’s experiencing with you. He’s benefiting…	/r/RedPillWomen	19/01/25 11:06 PM
28	Is my boyfriend using me as a placeholder It doesn’t sound like he has a serious plan in place, despite saying he wants one. Personally I’m not a fan of LDRs. You’re pledging years of loyalty and youth to a boyfriend that you barely see. If he keeps putting off moving you to him, then it’s possible he’s just keeping you on the back burner. At the very least, he’s not financially stable enough to feel comfortable being a husband. That’s fine, but probably not something you want to wait around for. Don’t date potential.	/r/RedPillWomen	19/01/25 10:41 PM
3	Boyfriend "refuses" to provide, but still expects me to clean his apartment? You are a guest in his home, stop acting like his wife. You’re giving him free domestic labor, and I’m assuming sex and emotional support, as well. You are wasting your youth on this man. He is not a provider, and does not treat you with respect	/r/RedPillWomen	15/01/25 02:10 PM