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Most people don't seem to, that's the entire rant of the post of how socially unaware people are. I've taken to saying excuse me when walking behind even with a cart because I've had instances where people back into me. Someone could be hard of hearing and not hear the cart coming. My mother is losing her hearing so I know it can be easy to catch people unaware. I think it more or less comes down to tone in the situation your talking about.
/r/PussyPassDenied19/06/24 06:06 PM
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Of course but don't you think that just increased the amount of people when it was encouraged though broadcasts. I'm not saying it's responsible, just saying I feel like it informed and influenced people who otherwise wouldn't have considered it. It's just a matter of quantity i think
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 11:01 AM
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I wouldn't expect it would but I do think the media had an impact. However who knows, may have just been more popular for being taboo if it wasn't in the public eye. I just think the media presence had a hand in the amount
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/22 08:52 PM
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Just wanna say that puberty can and often hits before ten. Around grade 4 seems common when girls would be like 7-8. All depends on the surroundings and such but even in a North end school, majority of kids knew about sex and prostitution at grade 4. Generally from the school ground gossip. Parents work hard to shield children but kids overhear and learn things on the playground, not to mention the ease of porn since the early 2000s and kids were getting exposed to it before 10 regularly. In an …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/22 08:44 PM
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I feel like that maybe be due to the obsession with girl on girl action that was really prelevant in media and such. I remember guys in school would rave about girls kissing in a movie. I don't understand either side really but I remember seeing alot of girls kissing in 90s and 2000s media and even kids would comment on it. You couldn't find two guys kissing unless you went looking for it really, so I don't think it was in the public eye as much.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/22 08:25 PM
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90s and early 2000s are really coming back aren't they lol
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/22 05:50 PM
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There's no guartnee for a good relationship or experience during dating. It could leave them feeling worse in the end. If you believe getting a romantic relationship will result in you being happy then you probably will feel worse in the end. Often times there are many variables to why someone is in such pain, perhaps depression, and when people realize once the honeymoon stages are over, it's often back to normal. Realizing that can leave people in a worse place than originally. Just wanted to …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/22 02:22 AM
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There are instances where it happens in reverse as well. Both my parents wanted a son, he was the golden child who wasn't allowed to be punshied, physically or not. Me and my sister were though, if my father wanted to spank my brother, my mother would cry "no my baby". Never with her daughters though. It can happen on either side and no child regardless of gender should be hit. It happens to both genders, this happens behind closed doors and is generally not a topic people want to discuss so it …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/22 12:50 AM
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Yeah I know there's alot that goes on in Hollywood to make everyone appear more attractive than they already are. Procedures and things are not uncommon so I would imagine juicing would be the same. I feel like people are becoming more aware of the use of steroids but I think it can still be difficult to spot. Especially if your someone who is fairly ignorant when it comes to muscle building and such. I do realize alot of people do not recognize when people are using steroids. Often people have …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/22 12:17 AM
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I don't keep up with him so I haven't heard anything of if he uses or not. I was just saying that more often than not, when he is brought up, steroids are too and was just wondering if it's been common for you to meet people that thinks he's natural. Even if he denies it, as a celebrity people will gossip about it regardless.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/22 12:11 AM
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Are you not complaining right now? What about all the complaints over Twlight when it was super big. Romance movies, shows and books have always been made fun of. They are also complained about for giving unrealistic or just down right toxic expectations. I've seen plenty of guys say this about romantic novels and I would agree that alot do. People have complained about it even if you haven't personally seen it.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/22 12:09 AM
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Percy Jackson, The Lightning Theif
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/22 12:00 AM
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Appreciate an inside look on that and have to ask, have you actually come across people who believe The Rock is all natural? I think I met a couple teens who thought that but everytime I've heard him mentioned, steroids are as well. I just thought it was a pretty common talking point.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/22 11:55 PM
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I would agree but like you said some women and I believe that's it's own niche. There are people who literally want to make their partner bigger due to a fetish so I'm positive there are people like that. I'd say if you can imagine anything, one human will probably like it lol
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/22 11:47 PM
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You can also feel muscles without using steroids. Every person has muscle and a toned muscle can be nice to feel but it's not like that's limited to people who use steroids. Boyfriend has a labourous job, never touched steroids and I like the feeling of his muscles. You don't need to go overboard to have someone apprentice the feeling of toned muscles. Honestly I'd be pretty bummed if someone only liked how firm I felt lol
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/22 11:43 PM
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There countless people in the world who have different ideas of what attractive can mean to them. Personally that isn't what I would find attractive and I've heard many women express the same. There is a reason why people recommend moderation, there is a limit to everything and there are reasons the human body has limits.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/22 11:41 PM
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Since when have women blamed movies for needing to shave? As I said it's societal expeditions that you encounter in everyday life. It is not limited to media and I actually felt more pressure to shave irl as opposed to because of media. I would like to see where woman are putting the blame of shaving and similar things onto movies. I hear them complain about what is expected of them and it's only mirrored in the movies but it happens in everyday life. Media is literally just a beautified version…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/22 11:29 PM
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Do people act like they are oppressed by media? Or by societal expectations that can be shown through media? I personally haven't seen that so I was wondering how you've experienced people expressing their oppression by the media.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/22 10:48 PM
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Apologies for that then I just wanted to make sure to make sure someone didn't misunderstand me because I know people can perceive things very differently. I appreciate the advice, I've seen meeting hostility and toxicity can at times be communicated with when approached with calm and understanding. Of course there are times when nothing can get though to a person and I'll disengage, same with if I feel myself getting combative or defensive because it normally doesn't help. Thank you for the rem…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/22 03:42 AM
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I've heard that can be called a love addiction where they are chasing limerence or infatuation because they believe that to be love. I heard that women are more likely to be affected by love addiction and men more affected by sex addiction. I believe these fields of study are more new so I'd take it with a grain of salt but I find it interesting to ponder
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/22 03:07 AM
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I hope to accomplish some positivity here. Are you implying that I have mocked anyone in my previous comments? I'm sorry if it has come across that way. I am well aware of how hurtful it is to be mocked while enduring a breakdown. There are hypocrites everywhere unfortunately but I can say for certain I have seen non liberal bullies, however I do think preaching anti bullying rhetoric while doing the opposite is disgusting. I am sorry you didn't receive the help when you asked for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/22 02:48 AM
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Sorry what exactly was your point then? People will cheat, attractive or not. Some may have more options than others but in end it comes down to personal choice
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/22 02:41 AM
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Nature's always ready to hurt ya haha
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/22 01:58 AM
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Yes there are signs you can look for but some people are incredibly good at hiding it. Some people never have outsiders saying he's bad news or a flirt. Some people have literally gone to their graves with that secret. Even if more attractive people have more chances to cheat that's not a guarantee. I suppose we will agree to disagree. Sure a person smoking cigarettes knows the consequences, if they ever do need to deal with the consequences I'm not going to say I told you so, stop acting the vi…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/22 01:57 AM
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I haven't personally done anything to you and I unfortunately can not stop others from saying what they want. I never said you should be expected, if you want to do so you have every right to. I just personally believe it doesn't get us anywhere and just brings more negatives, dividing us apart more. I have been engaging in several civil and a few very nice ones in this sub. I can remember there is a human behind the screen perfectly and I often know they are in pain. I try my best to remain neu…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/22 01:42 AM
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Creating friendships really isn't easy, especially as an adult. Only thing I can suggest is hobby groups or something to meet people who like similar interests but alot easier for non introverted people haha. When the opposite sex comes into place it just complicates things more but you spelled it out more clearly than I ever could. I'm sincerely glad you were able to get a taste of that again because that really is the joy of socializing, all the different flavor of social interaction. I had fo…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/22 01:36 AM
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Really? Now that's interesting, I definitely didn't think they'd be used anymore, well the more you know i guess lol
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/22 01:16 AM
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It happens to everyone here. I try to avoid doing so, if you disappreciate it so much, perhaps not doing the same. I'm sure people don't enjoy it when you do it to them
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/22 01:05 AM
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Yeah according to this sub. I had the same thought as a preteen because while I may have found my ex cute, many didn't and were vocal about it. I was naive to believe that because he was perceived as ugly by others he wouldn't cheat. He even said the same thing which is a red flag for me now , he didn't have any other options and he was so grateful and happy to have me. Just lies so he can have a relationship while getting some on the side. Usually using sympathy to be manipulative and get what …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/22 01:03 AM
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I been cheated on by a guy not conventially attractive and would certainly not be in terms of attractive by the RP crowd. People perceived as ugly by society still have the opportunity to cheat.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/22 12:59 AM
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Alrigh continue to have whatever assumptions you have about me and thanks so much, I thought it was quite funny
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/22 12:57 AM
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You assuming I'm an American liberal? There are more parties than that and like I said I mostly wanted to share that organ condom existed lol. There are places where it fits, where it doesn't belong and where it shoe horned in, nature is not end all be all. Maybe natural but that doesn't always equal healthy
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/22 12:44 AM
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Lol nature is beneficial but it's also cruel and murderous. Just because it's natural doesn't mean it's better, I sure as shit wouldn't wanna be fucked with a sheep bladder covered dick lmao. I don't think the nature argument works for everything but I don't think I'll ever forget organ condoms existed and had to share lol
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/22 12:21 AM
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Dude humans used animal organs as condoms. I think the stomach but I'm not sure. It exists in nature but we don't use them anymore lol. Even the ancients realized they needed to wrap their willy lol Edit: The condoms used in Ancient Rome were made of linen and animal (sheep and goat) intestine or bladder. It is possible that they used muscle tissue from dead combatants but no hard evidence for this exists. The archaic Djukas[1] tribe that inhabited New Guinea developed its own idea of the condom…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/22 12:07 AM
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So if someone is cheated on by someone hot they are not a victim of cheating? If you believe so, you don't need to interact then if you believe it's useless and goes no where. I was simply saying my opinion
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/22 12:01 AM
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Yeah I definitely get not wanting to insert yourself into groups or just into an interaction, I hate doing that myself even without the possible assumption it's just for sex. I do feel bad for those who aren't just looking for sex and are just assumed to be doing so because I'm sure there is alot of missed opportunities and relationships but I know the risk on the other side so it's tricky all around unfortunately. It's very possible that cold approach is just more common in the casual scene, in…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 11:57 PM
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Of course, I had the same reaction when I was younger as well in regards to other girls. It's alot easier to get into that mindset when your not aware of abuse in relationships and such but even then in the worst of times I think it happens to men and women too. We compare ourselves with everything we consume, from the social media we use, from the ideal image of our gender to the scorn of society. That's just another human for us to use to compare ourselves to so I don't think it's uncommon at …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 11:24 PM
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I definitely understand that, it's certainly not easy and can be really hard to deceiver. I have had problems figuring out socials norms as well and have been told by friends that I was flirting when I was trying to be nice and that I've missed people flirting with me as well. I'm glad you can see the reality of what is happening because I can realize how shitty it can feel when you look over and see someone have such a shit personality but able to find romantic companionship. It's a hell of a l…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 10:50 PM
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That's a good question though, men always ask what women bring to the table? It's obvious people need to contribute something to the relationship even if it's casual. Even friendships people need to contribute, it's not limited to dating , there are just different requirements and such
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 10:31 PM
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Unfortunately alot of people will not give you the time to prove it, but the best advice is generally to develop relationships naturally with women. Majority of women I know and speak to had romantic relationships start from friendships. Please do not get sucked into the every women will completely ignore the nice guy and only go after assholes. There are people who completely miss the red flags for assholes during the infatuation stage with rose colored glasses. People don't know them or they c…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 10:18 PM
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How does that absolve women at all? I was talking about individuals as women and man? I never specified a gender to try and mitigate that. The women in the relationship is not always pursued more than her partner. She could be perceived as the ugly one and her partner having more options, especially since it's known taken men are looked upon in a better light because they've been "pre vetted" by someone else. I really don't understand how you believe I am trying to absolve women of responsibilit…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 10:08 PM
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You also have to take into consideration that good is a single word that is used by thousands of people to describe someone they want. Each person could have a slight variation of what good means to them. You may not meet the standard of what one person would consider good but you may reach someone else's standard. Then there are people who believe they are good but are generally blinded by their ego. Like a hateful Christian thinking they are a good person because they are showing so many peopl…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 10:01 PM
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Keep believing that. Why do you think I want what you classify as what is worthy of fucking? I have no problem being chosen if your worried about that. I had problems learning which were worth the personal investment towards a relationship and wasn't just looking for a quick bang.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 09:32 PM
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Could you provide sources it is a fact? It only takes one offer as you said. I was giving an opposite to your example, I wasnt trying to imply my side was a guarantee either, I apologize if it came across that way. I believe it has more to do with the individuals personality, confidence and morals and less to do with options. That's my personal opinion though, I don't know if it is a fact.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 09:28 PM
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Repeating that men will less options are more likely to be faithful because they just don't have the option to be. Your implying they are more likely to be faithful but that is not true. You never guaranteed it and I never said you did. If they are given that option they may be more likely to take it than the person who is used to choices.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 08:49 PM
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True true haha, I feel like some of those are very common to see on threads about vetting but I can also see how it can be easy to forget if you are being charmed haha. There are some people, men and women who don't know how to vet or some do not care to because they are just too happy someone is attracted or interested in them. Some may feel their time is running out, whether that's a kid or something. Honestly I'd say mental health is a huge component because many disorders affect dating on a …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 08:41 PM
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Everyone has narcissistic traits, I don't think there are many people who actually want to be narcissistic
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 08:24 PM
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Yeah alot of people don't notice it or are too focused on their own struggles to care. I realize there are much deeper implications to what affect men than just what I mentioned but I didn't want to have a whole paragraph on just that. Conversations being shut down and men being shut out happen far too often, especially when it is something that needs to be talked about, especially from personal experiances. However I wouldn't say it's not talked about all together. I actually was talking with m…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 08:21 PM
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Because this is shit advice that can hurt people on both sides. That guy said things along those same lines so whenever a guy says the same thing, it puts off warning sirens in my heard.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 08:01 PM
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Sometimes lies are needed so it's quite a disadvantage when you are such an open book. Being a narcissist doesn't just mean being a liar, I'm curious as to why you'd want to be a good narcissist?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 07:55 PM
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Honestly it'll be different for very one and so people will be much more harsh in the ways of vetting. I don't put myself out there much so I don't experience it much myself so I couldn't give much insight other than the general basics I see others discuss haha. Oh I'm certain there are plenty of times people get to hung up on the first impression and don't realize someone could be a compatible match. That's part of the problem with first impressions but there's really nothing anyone can do but …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 07:53 PM
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That hasn't been the case generally. Honestly don't think your giving men enough credit for their intelligence. You may experience things differently but for myself that is definitely not true.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 07:50 PM
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Honestly we ask the same question lol. Perhaps it has more to do with winning the woman over, the lies, the chase? You wouldn't get any of that if you were to just pay an escort I suppose. More often than not when it comes to paying for prostitutes it seems to come down to pride of not outright paying for sex. However I have absolutely no idea and am just spit balling. If anyone else wants to add on or give personal experience I'd be happy to hear it. The honeymoon stage just allows for more red…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 07:48 PM
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Basically my entire point, thank you for putting it so eloquently. It happens on both sides. I just hate seeing that advice thrown around because it generally works the opposite. As a preteen I stupidly believed that and it only caused hurt. I can understand it, it sounds like it would work on the surface level but once you give it more thought it just crumbles apart
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 07:42 PM
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Thanks for the apology, it's understandable since it's not a topic brought up too often anyway. That very well could be true but I wouldn't be entirely sure. Majority of the men I've encountered that have endured relationships like that, it was often early on in the dating scene when they wouldve been teens and in their twenties. Of course I've spoken to others where it does happen later on but I'm honestly not too sure. I suppose in the end it will always come down to individuals but i believe …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 07:37 PM
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Appreciate that, I'm sorry I misunderstood you in the beginning. I would certainly think it's alot more common than people think, often why I think we see alot of complaints that online dating never goes anywhere. Often times I think both sides are trying to get validation, just in different ways.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 07:29 PM
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Also I would absolutely love to know when someone is lying, anyone whos been cheated on I'm sure would agree. Wouldn't have wasted eight years of someone continously cheating and lieing to my face. You usually can not tell, how can you know you normally assume correctly that it is a lie? There are people who lie for decades, to their grave and some people never knew. It is completely false you can usually tell when someone is lying. If they are terrible at it of course but there are good and gre…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 07:25 PM
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Yes so learning what constitues a red flag can be tricker for some people. There is also the saying of rose colored glasses for the beginning of the relationship. Everything is sunshine and rainbows for the initial get together with the influx of hormones and we put on our rose colored glasses that make it harder to pick them out as well. Some people become infatuated insanely fast that it is impossible to see any red flags because this seems like a dream come true or the best person ever. Once …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 07:20 PM
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That's also due to the fact that there is way less support for male abuse victims and is often reported or people will hold stereotypical views that a man can no be abused. We can not safely say what the difference between each gender they experience abuse. I have spoken to more male victims than I thought I'd ever meet. We need to do more as a society to help men in abusive relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 07:13 PM
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Well just realizing some people are not as good at flirting or as just more introverted seems like pretty common sense. I'm probably fairly biased because I fall into both of those groups haha. Yeah didn't mean in the way of "hunting woman" but I have actually seen men do that, an ex boyfriend actually who enjoyed the chase so he would constantly be on dating apps. He had many self esteem issues as well but he was very good at appearing confident, especially in front of other men. Had quite the …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 07:10 PM
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Generally by spending time together and learning about him. What else can you do? You have to build trust together. Yeah and I'm saying some people are not aware of red flags or they have lived with red glasses on their how lives. If someone grows up in an abusive household, that is where they will form their ideas of love generally and will often have it repeat itself in romantic relationships until the person can work on themselves. For some people picking out red flags is a piece of cake, som…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 07:05 PM
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Men are in abusive relationships as well. Of course men stay in relationships that they don't like, woman too. Don't be so naive.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 06:57 PM
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How do you know which guy to trust though? All depends on the person, someone with low self esteem will be much more likely to fall for that. Of course but what happens when you think your trusting the right guy? Then you get threads complaining about women being so picky. They get to choose if they want sex, just like you, only men seem to want it faster. By wooing her as a romantic partner and not saying your looking for casual? Make the woman feel loved and safe so she is comfortable being vu…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 06:53 PM
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People act like the person who is less confident would be a better match for a relationship just because they have less choices. First of all why do you want to choose someone just before your the only one available? Also when it comes to dating and confidence, I noticed people with low confidence or self esteem are more likely to turn outside the relationship. They have less options so if another one does come along they will have a harder time saying no. Someone who is used to the choice isn't…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 06:48 PM
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Thats completely false, it's the number one complaint I hear from other women online and offline when it comes to dating. There are plenty of men looking for relationships but there are more than enough men willing to lie for sex that it's a problem and women have to vet more carefully to know if it's just a ruse to get into her pants
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 06:44 PM
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You say that but that is not guartnee. My first boyfriend was made fun of for his looks and wasn't considered conventially attractive. I still found him cute but he made it clear how unpopular he was with everyone, not even the women. I was like 13 at that point so I did have that thought for a moment, he's not as popular or wanted so there's no way he'd cheat on me. Only found out by the girl reaching out because he lied that we broke up. It is never true and especially why people run when some…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 06:37 PM
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I was thinking the same lol, even most people I know haven't had that many, I know maybe one or two people with that many relationships but they are also not in their 20s. Most likely different circles but I'm really not sure on it being the average either
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 06:23 PM
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Aren't the gender expectations something that has been considered a societal issue? I feel like it hasn't been given the best term but when toxic masculinity comes up that's what it is generally referring too. Toxic societal norms of masculinity that have affected many people negatively. Such as man up, stop acting/throwing like a girl and other common phrases and things that shape people's expectations. I feel like people were going in the right direction with it but I feel like having toxic ma…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 06:07 PM
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It's also just entirely different dating online than off. Many women know men will swipe on every single profile so they are aware they need to be even more careful. It's a tactic that's been well known since the start basically so I'm not surprised most women are more selective online. If someone is looking for a hook up as well, the main feature would be looks I assume which would be another reason I believe. I haven't used them myself but have talked with others and seen many threads on it. O…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 04:39 AM
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Don't want to beat a dead horse but dating online is majorly different from offline. Many of those platforms have a majority of men and many of those platforms have a reputation for hooking up. There are not many on there to begin with so I'd imagine majority are looking into hookups. A handful maybe looking for relationships but I think a large portion just use them for validation as well. I won't argue in regards to rejection due to discrimination because I have no knowledge of that but I woul…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 04:09 AM
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Of course and I'm accepting a Ying and yang type as well but that doesn't mean that many people teach their children that. It's the opposite of telling a boy to toughen up and be strong because he's suppose to. As a child hearing that and anything related to being feminine as weak, you associate being masculine and a man with being strong. Anything seen as girly must be banished for fear of appearing weak, especially in the eyes of fathers which seemed very common. Gender expectations often just…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 03:51 AM
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I've heard of studies into why women are missed in being diagnosed with autism and it seems to come down to more clearly defined social structures for girls and learning to mask at a younger age. In the end getting your foot in the door comes down to looks because that is the only thing on display. You have no way of displaying large parts of your personality in such a short time. The only time personality comes beforehand I believe is when someone is trying to set people up. Like a friend setti…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 03:41 AM
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Alot of women don't want to be seen as feminine because they were taught anything associated with it is considered weak. I pushed away alot of things I liked and am only starting to get comfortable expressing myself in a more feminine way. I've heard countless other women say the same, it was actually quite nice to stumble onto a thread of women discussing it one day.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 03:34 AM
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I feel like just the fact that autism is in the picture it made the dating world harder then it would for the general public.I would say that learning to pretending to be neurotypical is common and learned early on. Usually just referred to as masking and it's always appeared to be the best way for us to advance in the current society. I feel like this is more related to mental health than gender because any subset of mental health can have an impact on obtaining and maintaining relationships, r…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 03:23 AM
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That's why I said that, many of them know alot of the validation they reviece is hollow in a way but it's still easier to obtain. Even when it's unwanted unfortunately haha
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 12:54 AM
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I would say women can get validation easier but the dating market isn't easier. Your first point is in relation to sex not dating. A chat friend is normally just a friend either gender can get, more socially outgoing people will have an easier time as opposed to introverts. Your third point is literally just finding a partner which is equally hard on both sides I think , just different approaches and difficulties
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 12:42 AM
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Dont think it just comes down to saying there are psychos and assholes out there. Of course there is but generally it just comes from pain and even people who may have a colored perception may not want it or want to speak up about it. It can really easy to grow insesstiently worried about something if you've experienced it before. It's an easy mindset to slip into out of fear, I still experience it at times in regard to cheating, more of a worry of who else if capable of that? Having experienced…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/22 09:31 PM
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I am so sorry to hear that happened to you.. I'm glad your in a positive mindspace about differentiating the blame. I just know it can be an easy process to transistion to that type of thinking thats more akin to paranoia. Not so much thinking that everyone person that meets a characteristic will be bad or recreate the situation, I think it's just heightened awareness about that which can lead to overthinking and fear, leading to a paranoia. Some people need more help developing the skills to pr…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/22 09:08 PM
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Alright you added the edit about the addict working on themselves, what are they to use if government programs have been defunded? People need to hit their rock bottom to want to change. Helping people on their way so they can actually make that change I think is good. Someone could have changed their lives in the future but not having the help they need to survive makes it even harder quit. They should have the chance to change because I've seen people who haven't been able to do so until their…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/22 08:06 PM
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Yeah everyone is having a hard time so why not acknowledge we're all going through a struggle it sucks? Alot of people make bad decisions throughout their lives, doesn't necessarily mean they are a bad person. Yeah I cant agree I don't want to have them shoving their drugs in my face and if the only way that will stop is help, jail or death and if I can finance some help I have no problem doing so. Just like I have no problem supporting and financing mental health programs, addiction is a mental…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/22 07:58 PM
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Yeah they would just hoard it and exchange it until it went back into the system eventually. Do you really believe that when there are so many people who need help and I've seen a child refused help. I literally just said the government is wasteful and they need better spending. My whole point is complain about the government and their failings, look for solutions instead of burning it to the ground. There would not be more to go around because as humans we are greedy and hoard shit. There are p…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/22 07:41 PM
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Less people paying taxes would mean less to go around so that doesn't track much. How would you suggest lowering taxes then because that would mean cutting services or going easy somewhere else in the budget. Letting people opt out of taxes would do the expect opposite, especially since it wouldn't be put into banks and into the economy until they use private services so it would literally just remove money. It wouldn't create more money for charities? Your literally getting less money in Edit: …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/22 07:15 PM
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Honestly if someone wants to opt out of government services to avoid paying taxes I'd say all the power to you but realistically how many people would sacrifice so many modern convinces and safety, wouldn't be able to ask firemen or police services for help, to avoid paying taxes. I have no problem with that at all but I feel like that would be very difficult to implement though I'm sure with advancing technology it's just getting easier. Do you see some with a drug addiction as bad person becau…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/22 07:13 PM
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I don't think you can blame either gender for being cynical about the other. Its always gonna come back to bad or traumatic experiences so I think it's understandable. I think it's more when it's starting to affect more than you. I think it's the same principle with mental health, it's not your fault but you have to take accountability and personal responsibility for it, especially when it comes to harming others.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/22 06:00 PM
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There was laws a hundred years ago, there were governments and empire set up thousands of years ago. The roman empire? They all had laws, even the wild west had laws, it was just alot harder to enforce the laws because people were much more spread out and weren't as localized as we are today. Even when spread out you had maybe a handful of people to uphold the law. Just because it was refereed to as the lawless west does not mean they in actuality had no laws. Corruption was ripe which made thin…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/22 05:52 PM
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Lots of women were shamed for acting feminine since they were little girls so I'm not surprised in that aspect at all
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/22 05:08 PM
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I never mentioned the ability to opt in or that it was free money being given out. I'm well aware of how taxes work in that regard and I never stated the present social programs are the best in place. I actually mentioned we need more but apologies I didn't mention the ones currently. There are some programs where I am that require drug test so they would not be able to aquire the money from those programs. It is true there are many people who will help out those who need it, even those on the s…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/22 04:56 PM
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Of course that's why I said it's apart of being human. Alot of times people are not aware of lines they cross because they are not always as clear to them as others. Some people don't care. I can understand your empathy being eroded over time, it's a common occurrence and have had it happen to myself and seen it others. I do hope you know there are people on both sides who do their best to avoid the judgment and will correct themselves if pointed out. I personally was very judgmental of other wo…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/22 04:04 PM
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Appreciate that, hadn't heard the term before
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/22 03:55 PM
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They don't like "hoes" as a person, they like what they can get from them. Or they don't seem to like them as a person at all and only value what they can get from them so I wouldn't call that liking a person. Perhaps liking a quality that benefits themselves
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/22 03:37 PM
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Yeah and those who had no parents or anyone to turn to often passed away. Just because something was a certain way for hundreds of years doesn't mean it's currently still the best option in our advancing society? There are many people who have no support or social net, this includes mothers and children as well as fathers and both of the gender with no children. Another option for many years was a work house as a last resort. You work for your lodgings and food but you were very likely to die fr…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/22 03:22 PM
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Of course there are different levels of competition and price depending on where you move, I'm just saying that's not possible for everyone. Generally I think majority of people would move to look for better options and it seems really likely with so much movement of families looking for something more affordable. My main point was that people can't afford these stupid prices, some people are unable to leave, weather that's health, family, job or other reasons and it usually doesn't come down to…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/22 01:43 PM
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That's completely untrue, there has been a large swing where you see people celebrating it , for either gender and was more commonly celebrated for guys, but there are absolutely people who still shame others for the amount of sex they have. Men and other women still do and it's never going to completely disappear. Do you really believe every single human will share the same belief and stop the shame? That just seems naive and incredibly unrealistic. There will always be shame and there will alw…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/22 01:33 PM
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Congrates you live in an area where the housing market isn't as affected. Some people would have to move province, state or country to look for lower price housing. Many of times that's just not possible. Even in small rural communities in my area there is nothing at all close to that. Even in small towns around me there is absolutely nothing under 100,000, even houses that look like a crack den. It is not just people wanting a HOA plan or whatever, that's not even common and usually hated near …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/22 01:29 PM
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Lol yes if they were nice conversations to be had I wouldn’t mind them. Since it’s one on one messaging as well people generally are not as polite, especially when your not open to being hit on lol
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/21 07:33 AM
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Lol generally it is guys trying to hit on me and the opening line is often something along the lines of I know… but I’m actually a virgin. I’ve also noticed quite a few users who say they are in long term relationships and married but will also post elsewhere about being virgins. Seems some people forget everything they post is visible
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/21 07:28 AM
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Realistically there can be feelings of jealousy and some sadness and such however if we have a healthy relationship, why would I demand something that could make him uncomfortable? Some people have preferences that change or have things in their past that make something no longer enjoyable. Either way if its something he’s uncomfortable doing that he has such a strong stance he never wants to do it again, I’d never ask him to do such. If someone is uncomfortable but is open to trying something a…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/21 06:26 AM
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Oh damn I need more sleep, sorry bout that, misread that lol
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/21 06:03 AM
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Quite interesting but I was aware of a lot of these facts and as the author said it is an opinion and some will not agree.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/21 06:02 AM
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Thanks so much I appreciate that lol. I noticed that, you guys seemed to have a lot of luck lol. I didn’t use it in that time so I’m not sure if there is much of a difference, location and luck and certainly play a factor as well. I don’t think I’ve seen so many positive comments on one post compared to negative ones lol. Its a good post. Yeah I had to drop my old account due to privacy reasons so I’ve been around for a bit so I’ve seen just how hostile it can get. Thanks for the advice! Sounds …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/21 05:58 AM
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Lmao that’s how it always is isn’t it. Funny how being out of the loop can cause anyone of any age to say that causes them to feel old lol Honestly even as someone who is currently single I can’t really stand it myself. Most of the time it seems like people looking for hookups so it can suck. I’ve also just never been one for it much, didn’t use it for long lol
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/21 05:38 AM
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I wasn’t aware it did work? Could you provide sources for that
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/21 05:34 AM
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Stands for online dating. Took me a bit until I figured it out too lol
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/21 05:30 AM
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How does OP need luck?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/21 05:29 AM
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Where did it work? I was talking about the US prohibition
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/21 04:54 AM
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Very true and it’s something I’ve been thinking about more recently. Have heard of a lot of similar shit uploaded to tik tok which is dominated by the younger generations. It’s incredibly sad to me how much hate is circulating and how easily kids can find it. Yeah I noticed people are like it’s not all sunshine’s and rainbows but like you say it’s not all shit stains and dumpster fires either. I guess it’s not too surprising with how polarized people can be unfortunately. Ive definitely tried to…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/21 03:43 AM
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Literally or figuratively lol
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/21 03:31 AM
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Funny how many will admit to being virgins in dms but will act like they pick up a girl everyday on here lol
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/21 03:27 AM
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Lot of people become really homophobic when it’s brought up. Which is stupid but easier to spot lol
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/21 03:24 AM
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That can be very true. Getting a rise out of people can be fun at times but I generally avoid that. If you do feel like that truly I think you could make a lot changes. You just need to start putting in the work, normally the first step is just becoming aware. Being vulnerable is extremely hard, also easier online anonymously lol. I definitely understand it though. A lot of times people don’t work on things until they hit rock bottom but if your able to realize and start working on it beforehand…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/21 12:43 AM
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Well that’s good to hear, if your open to suggestions and working on yourself, you might not be as bad as you come across lol Jokes but I do hope you are able to find some help. I can understand a lot of the feelings of bitterness and insecurities, it can be hell to deal with
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/21 12:33 AM
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Why would it matter if it’s something he no longer wants? People’s preferences change over time and that’s understandable. Thinking someone is tainted for whatever reason isn’t as understandable
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/21 12:31 AM
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Well I can say from personal experience it depends on who you go to. I realize there is a lot of stigma that is attached to personality disorders but there are professionals who do want to help. I have traits of BPD but that was only considered after I went to a Trauma Specialist instead of a regular psychiatrist. There is also online booklets that many people use when help becomes too expensive since that can be a huge factor. If you do feel like an asshole like OP describes you have some guilt…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/21 12:24 AM
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Yes? After you mentioned your internal feelings and processes I mentioned my ex who was on the narcissistic spectrum said stuff like that constantly. Even he wasn’t as blunt as that either. Not like I’m saying that’s a guarantee but like that’s that just seems similar and sounds like a lot of examples I’ve seen.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/21 12:14 AM
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Are you purposely ignoring what I mentioned or are you being truthful
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/21 12:10 AM
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Yes I never specified what your bitter at. It’s pretty apparent from some of your comments where your bitterness is directed towards. Being calculated means nothing for self awareness.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/21 12:07 AM
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You serious? Also people are always bitter for personal reasons, don’t think I’ve met anyone who wasn’t? It’s kind of obvious that someone is bitter for personal reasons, you just never know the specific reasons
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/21 12:02 AM
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For someone interested in psychology so much you don’t seem very aware of your own. You talk a lot like my ex who was on the narcissistic spectrum, guess it’s suiting that you use narc abuse.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 11:59 PM
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Just need to make sure, some people seem to believe focusing on one aspect is enough
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 11:54 PM
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I’m saying it works to get abusive relationships. Your clearly clueless, you just looked up what you could use as tactics. No not every woman has a long list of abusive exs. People who end up in abusive relationships generally have low self esteem and self respect, or they grew up in similar environments. Either way your taking advantage of vulnerable people. Red pill has their own problems. Your problem is your bitter but don’t realize it and try to come off as some nice person. I thought there…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 11:53 PM
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Depends on the woman you want to attract and keep. A woman who values loyalty and honestly most likely would not appreciate being lied to. If that’s not what your looking for, all the more power to you lol
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 11:46 PM
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You said you understood some human psychology. It seems you don’t
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 11:45 PM
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That should be a focus of course but should not be the focus. Sex is important in a relationship but it is not the end all be all. If it was, why not just have casual sex? There is more to dating than just a good fuck
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 11:44 PM
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Omg, I don’t think your gaslighting, your using it wrong. Apologies I get worked up over someone advising people to use abuse tactics? You seem to think you know a lot more about the psychology of humans than you actually do
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 11:43 PM
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It’s your responsibility if you don’t want to be abusive? That is literally disgusting and one of the most common sayings for abusers. That is something my ex boyfriend said as well as many similar things to make me believe I couldn’t leave. How are people able to leave a relationship when they literally don’t believe they can!?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 11:42 PM
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Stop with the woman’s autonomy crap. Is the same when men are in abusive relationships? People have free choice in things but you clearly don’t understand abusive relationships if you think they are easy to walk away from. Most people have a hard enough time walking away from any relationship, let alone one that can literally leave you questioning your sanity.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 11:40 PM
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I’d agree loyalty can be hard to find on both sides these days. Seems we agree to disagree on lying though
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 11:38 PM
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I don’t know how you can say that if you clearly understand what happens in abusive relationships? People have free choice but we are humans with emotions. Not to mention the fact that romantic relationships often kick them into high gear. Have you heard of a trauma bond? That’s another useful term for abusive relationships and is a reason some people have a difficult time leaving. Even if logically your mind says run the fuck away, if your heart out weights it, your not gonna listen to your hea…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 11:37 PM
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Some do, I know a lot of people read or watched it due to the hype and not everyone liked it either. I just know most people who have seen or watched it have complained about it
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 11:34 PM
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Of course it will leak into society, the internet is not removed from it. It’s just a different aspect of our society
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 11:33 PM
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Well impressing someone doesn’t seem like a need to me. I agree with the general idea but people have very differing opinions on what is a need. Agree on that, however I just know that a lot of the problem people have with cheating is that they don’t feel like they ever knew their partner since they were able to lie so easily about cheating, what else would they be willing to lie about? That’s just the general thinking I’ve seen commonly from both genders
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 11:33 PM
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If your saying you should look up narcissistic abuse for advice and what to do that is incredibly wrong as is the fact that abuse is a mindset. Most abusers don’t believe themselves to be one? You do not have to be in a certain mindset to be abusive, that’s rubbish
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 11:30 PM
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Well you can count me as one who didn’t read the novels or saw the movies. I know there are more out there. It was stupidly popular but not every woman has seen or read it
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 11:28 PM
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That’s not true at all? If this sub included every member of the population then yes I’d agree but no it’s a bunch of people disagreeing. Can you think of anything that people are unanimous on? Absolutely anything where at least one person doesn’t agree? It’s human nature to have different perceptions and opinions, the only way this sub wouldn’t exist is if we all did have hive minds like some people claim lmao Edit: forgot a word
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 11:25 PM
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That is still telling people to lie? That is extremely untrue. It’s the same justification cheaters use but partners after years of a relationship or marriage are terribly hurt by it. Your obviously free to lie since it’s not illegal but it’s just not my cup of tea. Everyone lies of course, most of the time people try to avoid doing so though
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 11:23 PM
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It may only be important in the beginning to you but majority of people I believe wouldn’t see it that way
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 11:19 PM
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You complain about the internet but use slang created on it as well as use it. That’s the only fact here
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 11:18 PM
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That’s your opinion
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 11:15 PM
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Finding a healthy relationship? It’s incredibly difficult to grow a healthy relationship, you don’t just find one
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 11:13 PM
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How do you know? Most people I’ve seen appear to just assume. Also if someone is so superficial they are only interested in you because of money or something similar, doesn’t seem like the best relationship to agree to
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 11:11 PM
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If you believe so, perhaps you were surround by those that could be considered abusive and that is why you mostly see it. Either way I’d suggest looking up abusive relationships and the psychological reasonings behind it. If you don’t take it, whatever it’s your choice
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 11:10 PM
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I meant a healthy relationship
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 11:05 PM
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If you really believe so. You obviously haven’t looked into the psychological aspect of it so I won’t argue with you. Lucky that you had parents who did that for you, not everyone has that. Growing up in an abusive environment can make it seem normal as well, OP is a pretty good example of that
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 11:04 PM
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How the hell do you develop a relationship on such a big lie lol?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 11:00 PM
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Have you ever looked up what tactics abusers use? There is a lot of things that happen in abusive relationships in the way of psychology. It’s actually quite interesting to read about since the human mind is so complex. I never said it was anyone’s fault or specified a gender. Men and women can end up in abusive relationships. Edit a word
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 10:59 PM
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It’s certainly interesting stuff to learn about. Avoiding becoming bitter can be difficult for either gender but it’s important, hating the other gender does no one any good. Everyone’s cringe at some point lol
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 10:50 PM
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Yes? Do you not care about abusing people? Either way it would result it an abusive relationship. You’ve talked about how you’ve seen them in your personal life, do you want to live it firsthand?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 10:44 PM
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Honestly surprised too. With your last comment I agree with majority as well, just not sure about the stalking advice lol. Generally doesn’t work the best in my personal experience lol Edit: Surprised because I’m a dumbass who didn’t read and no we don’t agree
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 10:41 PM
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Thanks so much, nice when you come across conversations like that lol. Best wishes to you as well
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 10:37 PM
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No problem, hearing that it’s used more often than I thought is helpful as well
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 10:31 PM
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Those are tactics used by abusers. Cut and dry
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 10:28 PM
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If you personally believe the cornerstone of attraction is looks then I can’t say much. I personally think it’s a bigger mix for myself but I know others don’t share the same view. I’ve met some women who openly say they are focused on looks or pick mostly based on looks. I’ve seen it said on the internet. Some people maybe lying and you can believe I am all you want.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 10:27 PM
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Yeah I’m entirely sure there are plenty of people who use the term, I just personally haven’t met anyone offline who does so.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 10:24 PM
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Take the advice and look up the reason why abusive relationships happen. Other commenter even gave you terms to search up but there is plenty more information available
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 10:23 PM
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I’m not saying people don’t use the term. I just said it’s not used commonly, at least not around me as I said in another comment. It could be commonly used in your area, I’m not sure
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 10:01 PM
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Not too sure what your implying? It could represent many places in a persons life was my main point. Those who genuinely don’t like sex are in the minority it seems is what I meant. I was just simply saying there are many reasons to be celibate and in my personal experience people explain the situation way. Normally people don’t say I don’t have sex or I am celibate and leave it at that, they generally say I’m on a break or due to religious reasons. That’s all I meant by that?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 08:59 PM
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Wasn’t the majority of replies point to this comment thread about hearing it used to refer to oneself outside of online? Was just adding my thoughts since I doubt most people are unaware of what it means
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 08:02 PM
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Just because it’s the definition it doesn’t mean it’s commonly used to refer to oneself. Only time I’ve heard it used outside of online is when people give lectures about abstinence
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 07:58 PM
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There’s many reason for being celibate though? More often than not people will talk about their place in life or reason as to why, majority of the time it’s not because they don’t enjoy it.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 07:55 PM
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Of course, that’s why I personally believe appearance is just one part of attractiveness. Personal beliefs like this will always be on a spectrum, some people will take it to a more extreme approach, similar to just about everything else. It’s not necessarily at extremes but it can certainly go that way.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 07:07 PM
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Yeah I’ve seen stories like that but I don’t think it’s average. Either way it’s always good to check up on yourself when your able too lol
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 05:47 PM
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Probably a good idea anyway but this example is at least a thousand over the average amount
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 05:31 PM
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Honestly know idea, just makes sense that if your above what the medical community considers average I’m sure it can be difficult to deal with. That was just my thought when I saw it.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 05:11 PM
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Well that’s the thing, the person being love bombed could view them as attractive even if others or majority don’t. Love bombing also works better on people who have low self esteem and I’ve seen both genders, when they have low self esteem they can sometimes be desperate. Abusive tactics generally don’t work on secure or confidant people, it’s why it’s so common for abusive relationships to happen when people are young
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 05:10 PM
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It’s because they use abuse tactics that mess with the brain. Most common one is love bombing so people don’t see how much of an asshole the person is, regardless of how hot they are
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 05:01 PM
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So he was measuring in at 1000 over the average mans testosterone level? I would expect things to be more difficult if your not in what is considered medically average. I’m sure there are other issues with T levels that high but I’m not sure
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 04:57 PM
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You have people in all camps, some who believe appearance won’t change your chances, appearance is the only thing that matters or appearance is just one factor. There are always people at both extremes and people in the middle as well
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 04:37 PM
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Perhaps some people never liked alcohol? There are a lot of people who just never get into enjoying alcohol
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 04:33 PM
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Once you brought up the question I thought of that myself and I agree
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 04:23 PM
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Good question. I personally haven’t heard someone use the term celibate to describe themselves outside of online spaces. I’m sure some do but I haven’t met any
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 04:19 PM
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Honestly if people go to the extremes it doesn’t result in much. It is interesting to talk about general trends and such but when people just assume one gender is like the other not much you can do. Also I don’t see any rules that you must provide studies and are not allowed to use personal anecdotes. Also some people who refer to themselves as pills will rely heavily on studies and others rely heavily on anecdotes. Honestly most of the time this subject isn’t too meaningful because a lot of tim…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 04:17 PM
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I could say the same thing about any of the pills, they can repeat the same stupid jargon, doesn’t make it anymore correct. What is the point of a discussion if we assume one gender acts as one?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 04:08 PM
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Personally, no. People can decide to prioritize their life over sex at any point. Does seem like an odd assumption.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 04:07 PM
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It’s only platitudes if you believe it is. Saying people are individual can be apart of the argument since there are obviously people who do not agree and are ready to debate.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 03:55 PM
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True, It’s common for those with money but it’s not common to have enough money to support multiple houses. Sorry about, was falling asleep and think I mixed up comments
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 03:32 PM
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That’d be nice lol. Do you think perhaps it’s because you came from money so your family most likely hung around those with more money? Maybe due to something medical reasons
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 01:26 PM
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Lol not around me, a parent paying for their kids bills after moving out is so rare I don’t think I’ve come across it in my personal life lol. Many people live at home past what some people consider normal but even then most people I know, allowances stopped during the teenage years
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 01:10 PM
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Most people don’t have an allowance as adults livings on their own
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 12:54 PM
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Something else I noticed that I was honestly a little baffled by lol. Just different end goals lol. Number one thing I hear from parents is stuff about grandkids. Normally parents want their child to have a stable life and relationship if they are asking for grandkids.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 10:13 AM
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Apparently gimp comes from money so her and her husband don’t need to worry
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 09:56 AM
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Well some seem to be more screaming their opinions but yeah lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 09:55 AM
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Thanks, who knows though, I’m just throwing my opinion out there lol
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 09:51 AM
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Not entirely sure but there was a huge spike then as far as I can remember. Hm, also not sure that all advice from before then would be more or less obsolete. There has been good and shitty advice since the dawn of time and it slowly changes as the societies do. I’d probably say a mixture of good, shit and outdated personally
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 09:44 AM
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Thanks, the world is just changing at rates that haven’t been seen before. It’s going to make sense a lot of older advice is just not longer applicable but it just also means we’re currently dealing with generations in the past haven’t. They can give us an idea but we need to figure out this new world on our own generally
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 09:34 AM
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There definitely has been some big changes, especially due to technology. I don’t necessarily agree that everyone’s online nowadays and are hardly able to meet offline. (If we mean dating apps) I would say it’s much more difficult simply due to the changes in our society. Ive also seen studies about how we have a feeling of abundance nowadays due to dating apps. Like you know there is literally thousands of people out there and you can easily connect with them now, maybe the next one will be eve…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 09:24 AM
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True I don’t deny that. It’s been said for as long as I remember that attractive people are treated better on average. I find the topic of blue pill interesting just because I was raised what could be considered that but seeing others experiences written it normally just seems they went a bit extreme as well. I think a lot of this confusion just stems from how quickly our world changed. People often complain about their parents not giving them the proper information. A lot of times it is just pl…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 09:08 AM
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Yeah the swastika tattoo is a bit extreme lol but when your choosing based on a picture and a limited character count there’s not much to go off of. There will always be shallow people, it’s often a surprise how shallow people can be lol
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 08:41 AM
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I would think people would assume the main criteria of a photo based dating app would be focused on looks? I’m so glad I don’t use dating apps lol
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 08:20 AM
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Honestly very well could be, not too sure because there are women who can think in the same ways incels to. If what all she says is true about her situation I could kind of understand. Apparently the marriage was arranged by her parents and I believe she said she’s in her forties. The human mind is a fascinating thing and it often does weird things in a manner of protection. Honestly I do hope it is a troll but I just can’t be sure, maybe I’m just too naive for trolls though lol
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 08:17 AM
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Gimp is always a riot. Doesn’t believe someone on the internet but also has the most unbelievable story lol. Apparently a mom of four, married at 18 to a dude who has no job and she secures other women for him online.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 08:06 AM
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Yes people who go to Harvard are a catch generally speaking since it generally takes alot to get into such a well known school. To stay in that school they would have to work incredibly hard. Some college kids work aswell, they are busy focusing on their studies and possibly work. Once they are done with college alot of people feel like they have more time for finding a relationship now. Considering most sex is in between couples
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 07:51 AM
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Not all college boys are the same though. Some people don’t don’t believe in the alpha and beta thing. I’m also sure you’d get different results from different classes. Your quote is from a survey from the Harvard class newspaper. If you looked at a college known for partying you might get different stats. You can believe whatever you want, I was just pointing out the numbers in the survey and the fact that not everyone answer all questions.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 07:39 AM
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Was just stating my opinion on the study you quoted. I don’t doubt many were embarrassed, didn’t mean to imply otherwise. What truth are you looking for?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 07:30 AM
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No problem at all, happy to share when people are looking for feedback
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 07:29 AM
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Personality is the most important in my opinion. Sure the muscles can be good to look, to an extent some people are too muscular for me, but it doesn’t matter if our personality’s don’t mesh. If I can find a Greek god that checks all my boxes sure but that’s a fantasy lol. Unfortunately there’s a lot of liars and cheats but there’s alot of good people out there too. Just gotta fight the bitterness lol. Yeah I was really judgemental when I was younger, realized it wasn’t doing anyone any good so …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 07:19 AM
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I see a lot of people talking about it but it’s hard to find stats that differentiate between gender. I found one that’s from 2010 but a lot has changed since then lol That’s annoying lol. It seems likes it’s been all together on the rise, which is what I thought seeing so many youtubers and podcasts around that. Pretty interesting for that alone https://www.google.ca/amp/s/www.theringer.com/platform/amp/tv/2021/7/9/22567381/true-crime-documentaries-boom-bubble-netflix-hbo
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 07:14 AM
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I meant more personality wise lol I don’t personally think I would be comfortable with it. If it was something they had a little fun with in the or needed money in the past but I would want my relationship to be exclusive and monogamous.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 07:04 AM
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Just saying we don’t even know how many people answered per question. Everyone could answer number 1, then 50 could only answer number 5. Just doesn’t seem like the best stats to rely on
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 06:55 AM
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Ah true true. I believe I’ve seen studies were women are shown to be more neurotic which can include increased worry or something like that? Studies are an interesting thing, they can be helpful but I think we’ll always having missing pieces or information. Either way I’m not too sure, I’ve met alot of men that worry a lot, they just often bottle up their feelings because they are told to “man up”. So I think that’s an interesting factor as well, many men feel like they are not allowed to worry …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 06:53 AM
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It says they received 760 responses, about half the class and not everyone responded to all questions.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 06:45 AM
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Haven’t personally seen that but I hadn’t paid much attention to that, I know quite a few men who are interested in true crime but I don’t know it one gender watches more. It’s quite possible but I’m not sure. Just for myself both my parents have always been interested in true crime documentaries so I remember quite a few from when I was a kid. Honestly the one that stick out in my mind is the case of Jaycee Dugard because I remember it being talked about alot when I was kid. My mother refers to…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 06:38 AM
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Lol generally a good idea. I watch quite a bit of true crime so I’ve come across things like that before, seeing the statistics are a whole other ballpark though..
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 06:15 AM
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No problem lol. Yeah if we are talking about stats of abusive relationships or something similar it is incredibly hard to get an accurate number. There’s plenty of studies going on but the thing needed is to stop stigmatizing those that need help, especially men since I know it’s often not thought about as seriously. Which I get but people’s mental health is a serious issue in my opinion. Gender dynamics can be extremely interesting, most of the time we’re just humans who really aren’t that diff…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 06:06 AM
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I noticed you said in comments you messed up by bringing in an extreme example. I think both genders are both filled with toxic people who will lash out or want revenge on their ex. When we ignore the extreme situations I would say it’s probably around equal. I know there are countless stories of spousal murder and such and can be easier to get statistics for abusive relationships where the woman is the victim. However it is well known it is often swept under the rug or not reported. Especially …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 05:49 AM
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I don’t think most people like manipulative cheaters. The only ones who would cheer them on would be other toxic people
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 05:42 AM
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Bans usually don’t work, biggest example is the alcohol prohibition.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 05:21 AM
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When people put in the work. It’s to help guide you through problems, it’s not a cheat sheet like many people believe.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 05:04 AM
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Generally no since our values wouldn’t line up since I’ve never been once for casual sex or things of that sort. I don’t mind my partner previously posting on OF and such. Once we become exclusive I would hope that would include posting sexually online. It all depends on the person.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 01:03 AM
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All depends on if the person is open to working on themselves honestly
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 12:55 AM
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I understand what your talking about, my first boyfriend was like that and his insecurities only grew. I tried my best but you can’t cure someone else’s insecurities.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 12:22 AM
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Lol what’s the point of being on a public form then. Okay doesn’t bother me.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 06:03 PM
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Supply and demand. If the demand wasn’t so high the need for supply wouldn’t either. Not like it will ever stop but still, supply and demand.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 05:39 PM
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Normally when people refer to those that are older acting as teens it’s because they’ve haven’t matured. From what I’ve seen in my personal life anyway. Again from my personal experience that doesn’t solely happen with women, I’ve had men experience problems with it as well. I think learned helplessness maybe a term that’s helpful for what your describing but honestly I’m not too sure and could be way off the mark. I’ve just seen little difference in how both genders act, it just depends on the …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 05:26 PM
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Did you read what I wrote? Once again, never claimed you hate anyone. I was just saying it seems very black pill. I said I somewhat agree with the commenter because black pills and incels often overlap but are not always the same. Never once said you hate anyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 05:16 PM
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Think the confusion is some people just use the term spinning plates to justify cheating. I don’t think it inherently is. If people are open about it, logically there should be no problem. However humans are emotional and we don’t always follow logic lol. In the end if it is clear there is no exclusivity to the arrangement, its normally just two people hooking up.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 05:14 PM
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You don’t need to outright say anything for their to be implications. I never mentioned hate either. I don’t think hate is a requirement for black pills. I said I kind of agree, not that I fully agree. Black pills just often seem to be on the slippery slide down to the term incel.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 05:11 PM
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Basically how I feel. I don’t have much personal experience or looked too deeply into it but it can interesting to peek in on conversations that are so deep and puzzling to solve
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 05:09 PM
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Lol they weren’t trolling. They were giving their opinion which I kinda agree with. If you can’t look inside instead of assuming everyone’s a troll I think that’s all the more reason to take a hard look
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 05:04 PM
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Some people just never grow up? There’s many people I’ve met that act like teenagers, both men and women. It’s not just one gender acting like a teenager
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 05:00 PM
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That doesn’t show statistics that majority of women are having children with higher level criminals. People can be aggressive without being abusive lol
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 04:54 PM
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Of course. Regulations for anything can be a shit show and I’m sure this would be no different. I don’t have a strong stance on it. I said generally and no idea because there is a lot I’m uniformed on which is also why I’m interested to hear other responses. Already learning about things I hadn’t before. Thanks for adding that as well, I hadnt heard of flat rate brothels before.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 04:39 PM
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Doesn’t change the definition. Since when is triggered only used when instances of rape are brought up? If you can find a source that says I’m changing it, send it my way. An emotional/psychological reaction caused by something that somehow relates to an upsetting time or happening in someone's life. This reaction is often found to happen in war veterans, people suffering with PTSD, depression, and other mental disorders. popular and well known definition* triggered is when someone gets offended…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 04:35 PM
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No idea. If something is illegal and unregulated it is just supplied through the blackmarket. Generally think it would be better if it was legal because then there could regulations put in place. I’ll be interested to see opposing arguments thought and mull them over.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 03:42 PM
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Some people are horrible at communicating during and about sex. I’ve had a male partner do the same in the past and some people are insecure and get defensive or ignore suggestions at times. I feel like it’s more common for women to not be open about it but for men to not listen or take it into account, believing they know best. However that’s just what I’ve seen, very likely it could be equal, idk lol
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 03:36 PM
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Yeah I realize that obviously. Generally people don’t comment back a full day later either though if they don’t have much to add. If you can’t see that I was simply saying that I don’t think she was mixing up libidos I don’t know how to help you.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 03:10 PM
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Thanks, I’m surprised I didn’t think of attachment styles earlier but that’s my own fault for commenting at like 4am lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 02:49 PM
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If you are employing love bombing as a tactic if it often used by abusers. Not claiming out right you are one but you are using an abusive tactic. If you mean lead people on by lying, I don’t think really think you needed to make this post, your looking for permission and validation that your actions are not too shitty
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 02:33 PM
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So why explain? Wasn’t trying to do anything but say a joke
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 02:26 PM
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Lol just gotta make sure it’s known it’s a personal opinion. Actually not sure why it didn’t cross my mind earlier but it’s most likely just the attachment style being avoidant. Have you heard of attachment styles, it’s quite interesting to dive into. The fear of intimacy, also sometimes referred to as intimacy avoidance or avoidance anxiety, is characterized as the fear of sharing a close emotional or physical relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 02:25 PM
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Its a joke. If that’s your personal opinion, either way she assumed so but she said to speak up.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 02:21 PM
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Of course, as much as I hated it in the moment I’m glad for the lessons I’ve learned. It is a huge problem with people don’t focus on themselves and believe a relationship can fix them. Seems like a common misconception. Well it’s a human reaction to become defensive. Some people just noticed that and put in the work to change: It seems possibly that men are usually more commitment hesitant but it’s hard to say. I would certainly say a lot of commitment issues are based on uncertainty but I woul…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 02:19 PM
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Damn how many? I’d be interested in hearing why as well lol
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 09:00 AM
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Yeah, I do know he had at least two girlfriends before me but we connected and he used my naivety against me. He was just a shitty dude who lied to girls about having just broken up with me if he got the slightest attention. We got along because we both had such horrible self esteem but that was part of why I stayed for so long lol. Yeah honestly both of my relationships are perfect FDS posts lol it’s really unhealthy to become bitter about the opposite sex. However I also realized my own faults…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 08:54 AM
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No problem at all! Continue killing it lol
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 08:47 AM
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Doesn’t prove what you think it does. Still has no mention what percentage of single women are single mothers. Seems like it’s 25% for single parent, not even single mothers. 21% percent for single mothers, less than half of 50% 25% of U.S. families are headed by a single parent, and 80% of single-parent headed households are moms — or 21% of U.S. children live primarily with a single mother, according to Census data.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 08:42 AM
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Not too at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 08:36 AM
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You’ve still yet to provide sources that back up your claim
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 08:35 AM
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If you think so, hasn’t been hard for me to notice introverts. Extroverts generally have more attention but you can still find introverts lol
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 08:33 AM
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Anyone is free to use what words they want on here as long as they don’t break Reddit or sub rules lol
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 08:32 AM
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Have sources that aren’t divorce numbers this time?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 08:30 AM
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Well I do lol. I personally don’t know, I’d probably just suggest looking in places that are more common with introverts. I just don’t party and I’ve noticed those into that scene are usually more extroverted and social
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 08:22 AM
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No problem at all. It was a huge learning experience for myself aswell. I think it’s an interesting topic that’s often brushed aside as well. I can’t say most guys don’t have opinions. I’m just personally wary of that myself because my first boyfriend used phrases like that. He thought pretty lowly of himself and being young and naive, when he said he didn’t have opinions I believed him. He ended up cheating on me so just am a bit more on guard when phrases like that come up even if they are to …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 08:21 AM
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Yeah I don’t deny it doesn’t happen but that doesn’t mean all women do that. Yeah it would be more common in the party scene but you do realize some women don’t like that environment. Just because your experiences are true doesn’t make mine any less true. We are just interacting with different people
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 08:13 AM
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Sorry I added more with an edit I don’t think you saw. Very possibly it’s in the minority but from what I’ve witness it doesn’t seem rare, just not as openly talked about. The person I have experience with was struggling with a sex addiction. He was the one who opened up allowing me to realize he dealt with all of those once he realized he needed help and started looking for therapy. Don’t want you to think I’m suggesting it could just be sex addiction either. Just figured I’d share my experienc…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 08:12 AM
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Lordy do you really believe that? I’ll drop all my standards because someone is you define as the top comes along? I personally place more on connections between people and not just looks. He maybe nice to look at but if I don’t connect with him, why would I want to spend my life with him?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 08:06 AM
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All four could definitely be a reason. I’ve personally dealt with someone who had loved the chase. If it is something you want to work on regardless of the underlying reason it would be most likely helpful to look into therapy. Cliche I know but it is a guide to help you life. Edit: Actually the person I have experience with dealt with low self esteem and constantly worried about rejection. Only thing I can’t confirm is the lizard brain thing. Either way I think therapy is the best option, if av…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 08:05 AM
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Yeah I prefer not to date single fathers or men with high n counts but I don’t talk down about them every chance I get?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 07:59 AM
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So your just gonna drop your claim and just stoop to insulting single mothers as a whole? Met many single mothers like that but I’ve also met incredibly amazing single mothers. You don’t have to date a single mother but having hate towards a group normally isn’t healthy
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 07:54 AM
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Yeah that seems like a whole other can of worms. One thing to talk about it, to show pictures and videos, that’s disgusting and a huge breech of trust. I’m glad you found someone that aligns better with your values
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 07:53 AM
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Again just because half of marriages end in divorce does not mean half of all single women were previously in a marriage or have a kid. Divorce rates tell you nothing
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 07:48 AM
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Yes, so again, do you have sources for your claims that half of all single women are divorced or mothers as well?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 07:30 AM
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Rest In Peace? Did the commenter die lol
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 07:11 AM
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Your free to do so, I’ve seen both genders talk about it generalized and in more depth. I personally haven’t seen a lot of difference in the amount I’ve encountered. So I just comment on my own experiences. I know a lot of people have been burned because people are too open with their sex life and it fucking sucks, I just know not everyone does it. Just was speaking for my own experiences
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 06:57 AM
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Possibly but it seems generally easy to spot those who do regret it because I have certainly met women who regret their decision as well. That’s the plan, good luck with the kids
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 06:53 AM
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If you believe so. My aunt never had kids and hasn’t changed her mind. She’s in her sixties in a marriage with no want for children. I’ve met many more childfree women but I known her my whole life
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 06:39 AM
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Also just because around half of marriages end in divorce doesn’t mean half of women in western countries are divorced?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 06:35 AM
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Yes but not all divorced women are mothers? Childfree wave has just been getting stronger
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 06:29 AM
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I’ve heard a lot about it and it’s been on my never ending read list lol. I think I heard that too, it’s amazing when someone has that dedication and passion in my opinion
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 06:28 AM
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Do you have sources to back up that claim?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 06:24 AM
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No I personally didn’t even if that’s where you got the idea from. Not everyone wants kids either
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 06:20 AM
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Not trying to convince you, know you’re not one to change your mind easily. Was just staying an opinion.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 05:07 AM
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Once again. I never mentioned which gender does it more often. I was simply pointing out that not all women are comfortable being open about their sex lives.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 04:58 AM
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I didn’t claim anything about pregnancy affecting work. I’m well aware it can have a huge effect. Commonly women return to work, depends on the kids age and other factors. Many more couples are becoming childfree as well so they wouldn’t have that specific problem. Childbirth is hard for a couple in way more ways than just financial
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 03:44 AM
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Never mentioned the amount of work. Simply addressed the fact that most are dual incomes these days. Either way it’s up to the individual couple to decide what they want in the ways of work division.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 03:32 AM
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I figured that’s be obvious
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 01:26 AM
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It’s incredibly common, more often than not it’s needed. Also good job on all the hard work you put towards being a partner at a law firm, can only imagine lol
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 01:02 AM
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Yes it can include toxic masculinity and toxic femininity. If we are talking about toxic people it’s not that far of a stretch that they often take their gender roles in a toxic way. The discussion on that is the toxic societal standards which have created so many problems. It has been unfair that is has mainly been focused solely on toxic masculinity but I’ve seen more talks of toxic femininity to bring it to light. Nothing you says disputes what I said, shitty people acting out shitty behaviou…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 12:10 AM
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I really didn't want to elaborate on the examples but readers got hung up on them so I was just trying to be accommodating. I'm concerned about the abstract question but Reddit tends to jump on irrelevant specific illustrations. I was referring to that. I mentioned in my reply to that comment but you ignored it. I don’t mind having the conversation as I said, I just feel like it is odd that if your going to use extreme examples then are confused when people want it clarified. It happens all the …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/21 11:55 PM
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Okay so why answer almost a full day later. Just write it off and move on
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/21 11:43 PM
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Okay, still just don’t understand how you think the examples are irrelevant if like I said they were relevant enough to make the post. Either way I don’t really care, was just speculating and writing aloud basically when I responded to the other commenter.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/21 11:42 PM
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If only they appreciated it at the time lol. I can understand both sides to it. Like I said it’s not for me personally but if the couple doesn’t have a problem with it, I don’t either.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/21 11:36 PM
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Oh I’m not surprised by that one bit lol. I can just say I’ve never personally been comfortable speaking about my sex life outside of my relationship. That’s just why I said not every woman, I know some woman who are very free about that subject, I don’t mind, just not for me lol
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/21 11:24 PM
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Many people want others to stay below them but others want people to thrive. You specifically said demand respect which is the problem I believe. Anyone demanding respect will generally not be met with the best response.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/21 11:22 PM
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Not every woman is open about their sex life with their friends either. I’d say it depends more on the friend group than the gender
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/21 11:15 PM
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Examples are normally given to prove your point. I don’t understand how it is irrelevant if you decided it was relevant enough to include in the post. I don’t know where you have been but people have always wanted information about the examples. If someone feels the post didn’t make it clear enough people will ask.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/21 11:09 PM
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Do you realize what a crush is? It normally doesn’t trump love in a healthy relationship. I believe most people are talking about the scenario when you love your partner but you get crushes on people.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/21 10:44 PM
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You do realize everyone’s doesn’t live in the US and your link didn’t prove me otherwise The percentage of dual-income households was fairly stable between 1998 and 2017, ranging from 52 to 58 percent. (See figure 1.) In this article, a dual-income household is defined as one in which one spouse works full time and the other works at least part time. From 2007 to 2011, there was a steady decrease in the percentage of dual-income households (from 58 to 53 percent for couples who had some kind of …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/21 10:09 PM
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Then the guy needs to be able to get sex somewhere else. This is what I mean by not everyone agrees. Some people are strictly monogamous and wouldn’t want that.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/21 09:52 PM
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It’s generally not something we do consciously. I’d suggest looking up studies if you really haven’t heard about it. It’s commonly brought up
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/21 09:36 PM
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Yeah I don’t doubt that either. However as I said not everyone agrees. Doesn’t mean men don’t want sex
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/21 09:33 PM
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Most couples work. It’s not common for single income households anymore. Even after children women generally go back to work
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/21 09:31 PM
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Depends on where you look. Some people will encourage each other to engage in toxic behaviours and others will call it out regardless of gender. Also people of both gender can be hypocrites where they give leeway to their own gender. I’m just saying there are always enablers, toxic and abusive people but they come in all genders. All we can do is call out both, least that’s how I see it. We can’t control others actions but we can speak up when we think something is toxic or choose to leave that …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/21 09:26 PM
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Yeah I can understand wanting to start a conversation about it but they are like the extreme worst examples. According to his other comment it is two out of hundreds so it seems like he specifically chose those two. Don’t mind a discussion on either of the topics, just seems odd to combine the two. However he didn’t mention anything about abuse in the post so I’m not sure. Can only think it’s for validation with all that together but I don’t really care anymore lol
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/21 09:20 PM
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Some do, which I don’t agree with. Some men test a women on her femininity to see if she is “woman enough” for him. Like I’ve said before there are shitty people on both sides. Those that justify shitty actions need a lot of inner learning, some of which will work on that and some will completely dismiss it.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/21 09:09 PM
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If you really believe so, just saying both genders do it. Both genders can be those traits, it’s not exclusive to just one
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/21 09:04 PM
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I always took it as a part of seeing if that person was who you wanted at that point, weather it was for casual sex or relationships. I just always took it as a test of do I want you in my life or no? Could be wrong, that’s just how I interpreted it, don’t understand testing femininity and masculinity and even then that could be a reason for why they want someone around. So it could be a mixture I guess. Just don’t see it as the end all be all of shit tests I guess
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/21 08:41 PM
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Call it whatever you want, some men do it too
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/21 07:54 PM
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Lol thanks, if it wasn’t for purge I probably would have had an easier time remembering but that was a shit show and my first purge lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/21 06:16 PM
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That is an excuse because I have BPD traits and I am monogamous to the core. I would suggest looking into love or sex addiction if you feel like you want to just constantly chase the feeling of something new. My ex experienced that, he had sex addiction but I’ve seen it’s common in love addiction, depends on how it manifests. I understand your feelings in a sense because it was something my ex said often. Just figured I’d offer a suggestion, don’t know if it’s right or helpful, just figured I’d …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/21 06:15 PM
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Damn I really wish I was on my old account. Would be a lot easier to find, I had to drop it because someone from my life found it and was making problems. Annoying happened right before purge though lol. Can vaguely remember one comment I’m thinking but can’t remember what thread it was on lol
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/21 06:07 PM
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In your opinion. Not everyone agrees.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/21 05:58 PM
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Recovering from childbirth is generally considered a legit medical reason
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/21 05:51 PM
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Shitty men lol
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/21 05:40 PM
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Some people mean all men and all women literally. AWALT is a counter argument to many things I say so it seems a lot of people believe one gender have a hivemind
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/21 05:09 PM
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Lol was just a switch up by that commenter because it’s normally said to women who end up in abusive relationships. Don’t agree with it but I’m guessing that was why it was said
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/21 04:51 PM
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Yet that was all you talked about when people asked for more explanation so obviously it was important to you. The commenter is right that an abusive relationship is not an example of a normal relationship what so ever. It is common but it is not a normal relationship
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/21 04:17 PM
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Of course, I’m just saying because some people seem to think it is a guarantee
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/21 04:05 PM
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Even if it’s not always true it does happen. What are you talking about, there is information out about that. As the other commenter said if someone is raised in an environment where they don’t have a good example it’s common for them to not have healthy relationships. The roller coaster of emotions are normally explained by trauma bonds.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/21 04:03 PM
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Some red pills and men do their own shit test
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/21 03:59 PM
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Yes I’ve seen those studies as well. Personally I don’t fall into either, the past matters but I don’t believe it is a guarantee to be a predictor. For myself it generally just comes down to different attitudes about sex. Like I personally prefer not to date someone with a high n count because it most likely wouldn’t line up with my own values. I’d say high n count can correlate with the ability to form strong bonds and be a good predictor but it’s not always the case. So it can be a good indica…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/21 03:52 PM
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I have heard of the book but haven’t read it myself yet. I can’t say much for the other points because I haven’t as much knowledge or experience with those aspects
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/21 03:36 PM
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Pretty obvious, just pointed out that the main problem seems to be with lying, not high n counts. If you don’t wanna date someone with a high n count, fine, just don’t understand the obsession with it. Men have lied about theirs to me in the past before as well but I don’t think every man with a high n count is gonna lie
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/21 03:31 PM
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How would I know, everyone could have their own reason for one. I’m not one too personally but I also never said it didn’t matter. Just pointed out that it’s the most common example used.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/21 03:30 PM
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Just been noticing that people often mention lying when they talk about reasons for disliking someone with a high n count
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/21 08:18 AM
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Sounds like most of the problems are with lying, not the actual n count.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/21 08:04 AM
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Yeah I said there are differences and I’m just not sure if she is mixing them up. She very well could be as I said, I just personally didnt think so from the first comment.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/21 02:42 AM
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No people don’t need to be diagnosed or have a disorder to be abusive
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/21 02:34 AM
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Well like I said generally introverts do tend to approach less and they of course would have less of a chance of finding someone because they don’t put themselves out as often as someone extroverted. Same thing for me, have had two relationships and those are the only times I’ve been approached because I’m quite introverted. Mostly stay home and usually wasn’t in a situation to socialize. Extroverts are more likely to socialize so they are likely to meet more people, resulting in a better chance…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/21 02:33 AM
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It’s very possible it could have been with someone with a high libido, I just feel if she was comfortable going to the opposite end it was likely she dealt with someone who was obsessed with sex. She very well could be, I just know I’ve dealt with someone obsessed with sex and I considered going the other extreme to completely avoid anything like that again. Just my personal interpretation, could totally be wrong was just sharing my feelings on it
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/21 02:28 AM
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I’ve heard more extroverted women say they wouldn’t want a introverted man and yes some men are less likely to approach if they are introverted. However there are many women who are introverted as well? They generally prefer someone on the same range as them so they want someone more introverted. Never been told being an extrovert is good and introverts are bad. We just have a tougher time because society is build for the extroverts normally. Sure, I just personally don’t believe it applies to i…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/21 02:26 AM
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What are you talking about? There are studies that connect cluster B disorders and low impulse control, which is often with cluster B. That’s a minority of women as well. People do not have to carry a disorder to be abusive or toxic either
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/21 02:23 AM
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Honestly I’ve never heard of an example like that used for introvert. I don’t deny there will be people who conflate a lot of words, I just personally haven’t seen that a lot. The term incel just seems to have evolved overtime. It seems like a lot of those in the community keep the original meaning but it has been changed by those outside the group. Language changes, I tend to avoid the word incel so I normally don’t have much say on such
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/21 02:16 AM
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Just personal perception, I wasn’t entirely sure what the original comment meant but when I saw the reasoning behind it made perfect sense to me
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/21 02:08 AM
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I don’t think so, she might have dealt with someone who was obsessed like many do and ends up finding a partner on the opposite spectrum. I personally have and I can definitely see the appeal for going to the extreme opposite
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/21 02:04 AM
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Makes me think, here we go again and from her reply it makes perfect sense. Hadn’t heard of the pervious thread but makes sense when she has that in mind
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/21 01:56 AM
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Yes I understand that but majority of questions were what were the reason behind the sex strike. You could’ve said she never gave a reason. Easy peasy then if someone asked for clarification you could go into more detail but my point was you were so focused on showing how crazy she is to you that you didn’t really answer the question clearly
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/21 01:11 AM
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If that is when she accused sexual coercion yes that’s wrong. If anything it’s an ultimatum. Why such the need to say she is crazy. If she literally gave no reason and just went on a sex strike just say so. She never explained her reasons and claimed a sex strike. Easy. Was literally just trying to figure out if she gave a reason on not. Calling someone crazy is not an excuse I said before either because they can be open about what they want as well. Sometimes more so.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/21 12:51 AM
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Some people do it solely because of past insecurities, other times it is because the partner pressures the other into sex or a sex act they do not enjoy. Even if you can’t imagine yourself doing it, unfortunately men and women both do so
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/21 12:46 AM
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Don’t participate in it so I don’t care about it. When I was young I was a stuck up bitch in my head towards those that enjoyed casual sex. Men and women. When I realized how judgemental and shitty that was I started working on it. Couldn’t care less what people do in their sex lives now long as it’s legal lol
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/21 12:37 AM
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Hey I don’t do shit tests, not since I was a teen anyway, was just wondering if you thought three months wasn’t early on. I’m literally just curious about things dude. If you mean like three months is early on for a relationship but not for a shit test I get that, was just wondering what stance it was
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/21 12:34 AM
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You haven’t though, you’ve explained the relationship with that woman but you haven’t explained the situation. Unless I completely missed but I didn’t see anything other than you taking about the woman’s character, not the situation. I understand the character, I’m trying to understand that specific situation. Like could you provide an example of what she called sexual coercion, I’d be interested in hearing what she considered such considering you included it in your post
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/21 12:29 AM
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Is three months not early on in your opinion in a relationship?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/21 12:24 AM
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I’m not disputing that at all. I was just looking for more information with that specific situation
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/21 12:23 AM
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Just because someone is considered crazy doesn’t mean there’s no reason behind their actions or that they won’t voice them
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/21 12:17 AM
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I totally understand that people can be abusive. I’ve been in abusive relationships and one withdrew affection and sex but they specifically said they were using it as a punishment because I wasn’t living up to their expectations. If someone is abusive they can normally be volatile and that often ends up with them lashing out and sometimes sharing more than intended. Honestly just trying to get more information for that specific situation.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/21 12:15 AM
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Still am curious about the reason behind the first girls strike. She was clearly open enough to say you have no right to my body if what you stated is true. Just seems odd she’d be comfortable saying that but wouldn’t explain why she wants a break from sex in a relationship. Curious about what she considered sexual coercion as well. People can withdraw sex as an abusive tactic but it’s hard to know with so little information.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/21 12:05 AM
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From that one comment I never wanna hear about the dude again
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 10:30 PM
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I’d say I have a pretty big array of what I can find attractive, I’d say like femboys up to kinda muscular men but when there is too much muscle I personally don’t like it. I also like soft faces up to more sharp faces but there’s a limit to it as well. Either way what the person looks like doesn’t matter if they are someone I don’t wanna be around lol
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 09:25 PM
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OP posted another previously with both men having hair, one commenter said the man on the left looked like a child so OP replaced it with this one. Could be a meme but I just decided to answer truthfully. Edit: OP also posted all the picture comparison I saw so I assumed it would just be best to answer truthfully
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 09:06 PM
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I’d say he’s attractive as well but not my type, just a bit muscular and sharp in the features for me
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 09:05 PM
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Yeah I’ve heard a lot of horror stories involving that which made me more cautious. Open communication is extremely important during relationships, even more so in these situations
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 09:10 AM
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Very true, I’d say it’s a good mixture of both and a couple and decide what part they’d focus on more it seems or if they want a balance of it. Because I know some enjoy just the control aspect and hate any part to do with pain. So it’s more like a mix and match of what you and your partner want lol
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 09:06 AM
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Sorry was just disputing the title. You can believe all that if you want. Looks are extremely important on dating apps, I wouldn’t say personality is ignored but I can’t say because I don’t use dating apps
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 09:01 AM
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Happens everywhere. I get it though, had a lot of negative thoughts on sex, not even just kinky sex, and it can certainly be hard to change a mindset
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 08:52 AM
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Lots of hot takes on what people do in the bedroom. If the couple is happy I see no reason to pitch a fit lol
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 08:48 AM
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That is certainly very possible. Being a sub doesn’t always mean you want to be hurt or there are limits to it though. I’m not that big into masochism, I like some pain but I’d still consider myself a crybaby compared to what others enjoy lol
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 08:48 AM
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Huh that’s super interesting and hadn’t thought of that but it certainly makes sense. Thanks for letting me know, probably wouldn’t have realized otherwise lol
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 08:43 AM
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Quite Possible, interesting discussion either way I think
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 08:34 AM
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Understandable for some, some like it really hard core lol. Headspace during has so many factors mixed in aswell, It’s interesting to think how much you can get into that headspace which may impact the results? The human brain just blows me away lol
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 08:34 AM
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Just fascinating to think about sub head space in that type of way. The human brain is an interesting thing with many mysteries
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 08:23 AM
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Yeah can’t speak for anyone else but it doesn’t match up with my own experience but it seems interesting to dive into
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 08:22 AM
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Damn I didn’t even think of that but that could definitely be factor for many
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 07:21 AM
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I feel that pain lol. I was the same way with onions, now I can enjoy them in moderation, one of the few things that wasn’t due to texture lol
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 06:32 AM
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Perhaps. I think it has more to due with sub headspace because it mentions during BDSM practice. It’s a interesting thing by itself to talk about and not easy to explain. I’ve seen some people explain it like switching your brain off in a certain way so perhaps that’s why?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 06:25 AM
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Oof, I’m sorry to hear that. I would really suggest trying to find a hobby or something you’d consider a nice time. Working yourself into an early grave is your first worry I’d say
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 06:20 AM
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Lol see it all depends on your idea of stingy, frugal and expensive. People can have a wildly different ideas. I’d say under 20$ is stingy , 85$ steak is fucking expensive and 500$ is like a new television lmao. People are going to have very different ideas, just need to find someone with similar ideas to you
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 06:19 AM
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Yeah, it’s just annoying when you actually want to enjoy something but one small thing just makes it a no lol. That is hilarious that you mention pickles because I’ve always loved them. More so even as a kid, family would call me the pickle princess lmfao. I try to keep it in mind since I’m normally hesitant to try new foods but you can always find a hidden gem if you try something
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 06:17 AM
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Thanks for the research, it’s super informative even if it’s like welp for me lol. I have traits of BPD so I guess not surprising I answered that I seem to participate more than users that have responded lol. Luckily i haven’t experienced it as severely as others have. The subject of female subs having lower empathy is quite interesting. I think I’d like to dive deeper into that because that’s not my personal experience so it’s quite interesting to hear and ponder. Makes sense when you hear peop…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 06:13 AM
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Honestly that’s no problem. That makes a whole lot of sense now, just wasn’t sure which point you didn’t like or if it was all of it lol. I definitely understand saving up and know there are a lot of frugal people who don’t like spending money. Honestly some people prefer it because it’s routine and predictable. I would try to pick up one hobby at least so your not focused just on work and saving. That will probably burn you out
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 06:05 AM
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Thanks for that lol. Was having a hard time connecting the dots. Sure, that’s a reasonable assumption but it depends on what people mean when they mention stingy. If they mean it in only certain contexts and such. You mentioned a steakhouse, I bet you wouldn’t mind dropping some dough there. Steakhouse can be expensive depending on which one you go to but to some people it’s worth it. I can understand the activities as well but like I said before what your brought up was pretty specific. A lot o…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 06:02 AM
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Yeah, just always feels like the safe thing to say in PPD, not for me but I know others enjoy it lol
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 05:53 AM
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Ah fuck I had forgotten about Tumblr. Wouldn’t be surprised if that influenced me lmfao
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 05:53 AM
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Yeah over text makes it’s tricker. I can definitely understand how the language barrier can make things more difficult as well. I can’t imagine speaking another language well enough to hold a conversation lol. Already miss things in my own native language lol
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 05:50 AM
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Think a lot of people got some venting done during purge lol
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 05:42 AM
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I can say I enjoy aspects of BDSM and seeming from the other responses probably just a bit more than those who’ve response so far. Definitely have limits and I enjoy vanilla sex as well but can be fun to be kinky once in a while. It’s an interesting discussion as to why someone is into BDSM I’m not too sure. I became aware of it relatively young, in my preteens so perhaps that contributed I’m not sure lol. Either way both types of sex can be fun. No reason to shame those that are more vanilla or…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 05:41 AM
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Are you referring to the part about not knowing how to have a nice time? That’s the only thing I can slightly connect but there are so many different types of ideas of what a nice time is, it depends on the individual
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 05:37 AM
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Glad to hear, try to be helpful but I’ve been told I’ve been kinda tone deaf at times and it’s even worse over text so just wanted to make sure lol
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 05:35 AM
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That is super interesting. I’ll admit I’m normally hesitant to try new food just because I’m not used to leaving my comfort zone in food but I enjoy the experience even if I don’t enjoy the meal lol. I’ve never heard of Peruvian beef hearts, it sounds interesting. There are foods I wish I could enjoy but texture just ruins it for me lol. For example I like the taste of fish and I like the other ingredients in sushi but I can’t stand the texture of fish, wish I could though lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 05:33 AM
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No problem, keep up the chill vibes lol ✌️
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 05:24 AM
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I agree, just wanted to keep it to facts. Even if the insecurities are reasonable, they are still there, I never said if they were justified or not. I see no problem with it, just becomes tricky with the actions that can be chosen next
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 05:23 AM
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I just don’t see how that connects with what the commenter said. These are very specific but I know a couple people like that. Like I said I’m kinda picky with food, not as much as you but I definitely understand it. I walk mostly on the front sides of my feet apparently so I’m in the same boat. Honestly only know a few people that actually enjoy hiking lol. Haven’t been bowling in a while but I go for fun. My wrists are too weak for that lol. I use a kid bowl one handed or I have to use two han…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 05:21 AM
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No problem, hopefully that didn’t come off as rude lol, really sorry if it did
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 05:15 AM
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From all the replies people obviously don’t see that. It’s also just unrealistic to discuss relationships without the pitfalls, especially the most extreme. I agree if the relationship is healthy there is no problem, I just don’t think it should be actively encouraged. Like don’t encourage but don’t shame, if someone ends up in a healthy relationship with an age gap I’m happy for them and people generally don’t give it much thought
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 05:14 AM
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In that sentence I’d say they suffer from a victim mindset. They imagine situations that result in victimization. Right idea, just generally see the term victim mindset used in that context. Unfortunately it’s incredibly true but I’m also well aware of how hard it is to take yourself out of that mindset
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 05:11 AM
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Your post has no indication that it is reduced to just sex. You specifically mention relationships. Abuse can happen outside of sex and generally that is where a lot of the power imbalance lies.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 05:08 AM
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Often not, they are sometimes just looking for something to blow up at and let off some steam
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 05:06 AM
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Yeah that is still in the context of consensual relationships. Abusive relationships are often consensual.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 05:04 AM
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No problem, I normally agree with majority of your points and you normally communicate them more clearly lol. You seem to do a great job a triggering people lol some people have a hair trigger though the wind could probably set them off
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 05:03 AM
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Wouldn’t have asked if I didn’t know how chill you were lol
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 05:01 AM
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Your talking about age gap relationships. Just stating young men can be taken advantage of just like young women which can result in molestation and exploitation. I’m not saying it’s a guarantee or anything but age gaps normally increase the chances. Your point is that it’s fine for young men and I disagree
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 05:00 AM
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I can relate to some of the pickiness to food and drink but apologies I’m not following.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 04:59 AM
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Exploitation and molestation can occur in consensual relationships. Just because something starts as consensual doesn’t mean it always ends the same way. You can be in a consenting relationship but not consent in that moment and have it result in molestation.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 04:57 AM
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Thanks for humouring me and giving me an answer. I figured from some other comments I had seen from you but it’s always best to ask the source lol
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 04:55 AM
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Was waiting for your take, always love your lists lol
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 04:45 AM
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I generally agree, question for you though because I know your Bi and some have a leaning towards one gender still. Do you normally lean towards being more attracted to men? Apologies if it’s a rude question, just genuinely curious
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 04:43 AM
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Why do you say that?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 04:31 AM
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Damn where are the old ladies offering me food lol. Was probably Snow White or people repeating Stranger Danger, could never think of any other reason lol. Lol damn right, think that just shows how effective media is lmao. They seem to have a resurgence every once in a while lol. Been on PPD way too much lately but the comment brought out my forgotten nerd lol. Guess that’s not entirely true, made a Star Wars quote during purge lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 04:30 AM
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Just keep it in mind lol Lol honestly I think it’s a warning on stranger danger, I also thought Snow was more comfortable taking from an older woman since they often have an image of the grandmotherly figure. Just a guess lol, been a while since I’ve watched it, I apparently remember television and movies way too well lmao Lol I hadn’t seen Beyblade and YuGiOh mentioned in years when I saw the comment I had to answer lol. Was also confidant that the other women would give an accurate portrayal o…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 04:11 AM
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Very different response than I’m used to lol. I agree I believe it is a natural response for a large amount of people. Even that simple question normally snowballs into more and they start fixating on it. Depending on the people’s insecurities and circumstances. It all comes down to what the couple is comfortable with, if there is a need for compromise and such. A lot of people are becoming more strict on porn usage in their relationships and some are more lax.However I think it’s great that you…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 04:07 AM
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Damn I get that lol. Well there’s a lesson in conflict resolution i guess lol Yeah Snow White and the seven dwarves was the one with the apple lmao . Damn I’m just reliving nay childhood through this thread
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 03:49 AM
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Yeah I can comment on how attractive I personally view them but I can’t say if I’d date someone from a photo lol. At least with a dating app you can get a shitty bio to get a tad bit more info lmao.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 03:29 AM
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Lmao we sometimes remember ourselves being better players. I’ll be sure to send flower arrangements. Now I just have the vision of a DS in place of Snow White and that’s hilarious lol
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 03:26 AM
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I’d agree they are both around average. I’m not too sure, looking through a lot of men would date the girl but with conditions of her changing her appearance. I haven’t taken too hard of a look once it started getting so long though lol
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 03:23 AM
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Dead bedrooms suck for everyone involved. Roles can be reversed as well, it’s not a one sided or gendered issue. I have no problem if you personally don’t want to date someone with a high n count, you just seem to be making a lot of assumptions
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 03:16 AM
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Again assumptions. That’s not every woman. I’ve never participated in casual sex and I have a high sex drive once in a relationship. People are individuals who are different. It sounds like you just expect a dead bedroom regardless of who is in the relationship
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 03:08 AM
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Not every women does. Some just enjoy casual sex I guess lol
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 02:58 AM
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Omg prepare the funeral. That fucking sucks. Honestly not too sure if my DS still works because I lost the charger and mostly kept it as a memory piece
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 02:55 AM
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Been convinced for a while lol
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 02:22 AM
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Plastic pieces of crap lol. Omg too many memories lol. I miss it too but I can at least say I still have my Nintendo DS! Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 02:13 AM
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That sucks, hearing and vision are both helpful
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 02:11 AM
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I’ve heard of the of the problems with the research and I agree with a lot of it. I just have personal experience with someone who did have compulsions related to porn and sex and it destroyed our relationship. I can also say my ex has poor impulse control in other aspects, which many say is not surprising which I don’t either. The amount of porn watched does not make someone an addict. I hear about men like you all the time. Until I my last relationship where I dealt with an addict, I hadn’t he…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 02:11 AM
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If you believe so, all depends on the individuals participating
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 01:59 AM
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Perhaps you don’t but a lot of couples expect that. Men and women
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 01:55 AM
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Why would that be? Couples should listen to each other and communicate.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 01:49 AM
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Now I have the theme song stuck in my head lmfao wonder how long that will stick around lol
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 01:30 AM
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Lmao I’m having a trip from the past. Those stadiums were never big enough for us players lol. Damn, beyblade, YuGiOh, Pogs, Pokémon, yeah I think I peaked then too lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 01:30 AM
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Actually really interesting to think. I know that field of study is still fairly new so I’m gonna take a look. Quick peek so far I can find mostly things related to sex addiction since the research into that isn’t as new. Compulsive sexual behaviour disorder is characterized by persistent and repetitive sexual impulses or urges that are experienced as irresistible or uncontrollable, leading to repetitive sexual behaviours, along with additional indicators such as sexual activities becoming a cen…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 01:27 AM
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Find the Blue Eyes White Dragon and you’ll definitely be golden lol
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 01:19 AM
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Haven’t thought of that in a long time but I can remember buying my metal beyblade from a corner store lol. Let er rip! Oh my the memories lol
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 01:16 AM
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Why does it matter if a gender is “losing” in a thread. Looked it up and it doesn’t change my answer. Honestly don’t find him attractive but I’m aware there are women who’d love that look.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 01:10 AM
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The metal ones were the best lol
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 01:06 AM
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I personally have to feel an emotional connection before sex or continuing sex so I’ll be interested to read what others have to say and see the opposite view point
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 01:00 AM
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Age has no guarantee in that fashion
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 12:44 AM
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We get to enjoy the purge posts afterwards but mods are back on the prowl lol
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 12:01 AM
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Oof well the tattoo gives me an idea of the personality so no I wouldn’t date them but I don’t think I saw that post
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 11:55 PM
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Generally they do not lol however purge has ended a couple hours ago I believe
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 11:45 PM
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That’s your personal opinion. Many disagree
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 11:30 PM
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Smartest way to go about it lol. I think the girl is cute too. I don’t think either are unattractive at all
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 11:29 PM
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Ah where were you when I put my foot in my mouth lmao. That’s exactly what I meant lol
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 11:27 PM
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Exactly. Being one gender doesn’t make it okay for some reason. Maybe talked about less but that should be changed
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 11:26 PM
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That still happens in consensual relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 11:20 PM
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Apologies for that, I remember your not a native speaker, should have put more thought into that. Normally don’t use the term “call back” anyway so not sure why I used it lol
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 11:18 PM
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I’m really sorry to hear that. I know the feeling of being in an abusive relationship but I know I don’t have the understanding of a mans perspective and how they are treated. I’ve always hated that, anyone who needs and wants help should be given it, not ridiculed or told to suck it up. Especially in situations like abusive relationships. I hope those emotional scars slowly fade over time for you
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 11:16 PM
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Agreed and I can understand how people can worry about coming off across as creepy or threatening. If it really is a misunderstanding I feel really bad because I realize everyone is different so majority could find something totally normal and some could think it’s the weirdest thing they ever encountered. Everyone has struggles they need to deal with, it normally just feels much more important to the individual and can be easy to forget others when your so focused on yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 11:06 PM
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It does seem to happen to women more commonly unfortunately. I am aware a lot of men are not the most open about being in abusive relationships because they are often shamed into thinking they are weak because of so. I’d be interested to see how equal it actually is but it can be quite difficult to get accurate results.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 11:02 PM
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Thanks, we’re all human so it makes sense we all deal insecurities and weaknesses. People often lash out if they feel threatened so it’s not surprising. Lol thanks, weird ass timing was the most annoying part
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 11:00 PM
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Not true at all. Seen men get taken advantage of just the same as women if they are in an age gap relationship where the elder abuses the power
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 10:55 PM
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Yeah that’s generally how I view it. Yeah seems a bit like common sense. If only people would use it nowadays lol
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 10:38 PM
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Honestly I couldn’t say why one criminal gets more crazy groupies than another. Like I mentioned it’s just well known for high profile criminals.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 10:38 PM
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Lol it’s a hard lesson to learn
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 10:37 PM
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Exactly lol. He was first that I thought of but it’s extremely common for high profile criminals to have their own kind of crazy groupies lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 10:36 PM
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If you believe so. There have been numerous studies on this done. Fairly simple to find
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 10:29 PM
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You can only help a person with support or by sticking to boundaries. No one will change unless they decide to.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 10:28 PM
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Yes I mentioned high profile. If they are in the media then of course more people will be aware of them. Better chance of coming across the eyes of a toxic person or someone dealing with mental health issues. Publicity. Happened with Ted Bundy, still does. As I said its not new, there have been studies done
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 10:27 PM
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Do you realize how common mental health issues are?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 10:26 PM
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Happens with a lot of high profile criminals. They are generally people with a lot of personal problems unfortunately. Normally the people falling for openly toxic people are toxic people themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 10:21 PM
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Unfortunately that’s true. I’ve definitely encountered that. Both of my relationships had reactions like that and it sucks when your genuinely trying to help. Just a bunch of life lessons lol
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 10:18 PM
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I can say I always refer to both genders and try to remain neutral but there will always be people unhappy or mad about something. Unfortunately my old account had to be dropped because someone in my personal life started causing trouble due to it. Worst fucking timing for it to happen around purge lol
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 10:15 PM
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I’m sorry you’ve gone through that. I don’t relate to everything but I do to a lot. All we can say now is that they are life lessons
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 10:06 PM
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If you believe so. Regardless I’ve dealt with a sex addict as well which is often interchanged with a porn addict now. Sometimes referred to online sex addiction. Don’t care to debate over if porn addiction is accepted but sex addiction has been talked about for years now
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 10:04 PM
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Haha yes it is. I’ve dealt with many other things in that relationship and the one after. I mentioned that example because it seems to be one that is more unanimously agreed on generally.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 10:02 PM
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Quite possibly, who knows unless they wanna share some answers lol
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 09:22 PM
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Same here. Can only guess it’s due to emotions and not logic haha
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 09:14 PM
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Congratulations!
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 09:05 PM
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Some people ignore red flags and that’s commonly during the relationship more than before. No people do not become abusive over night.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 09:03 PM
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Yeeep so much for all their talks on empathy lol
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 09:01 PM
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Yeah I never denied that lol. I was well aware of that
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 09:00 PM
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Believe what you want lol
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 09:00 PM
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Lol enjoy purge
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 07:13 PM
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Lol okay dude. Keep refusing to believe what anyone says and continue coping, have fun
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 07:10 PM
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Go read a history book
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 07:06 PM
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I was never obsessed with celebrities looks so I can’t say much. Was more likely to compare myself to others around me than on television and such
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 06:46 PM
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Lol says the one coping
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 06:36 PM
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You want most women to find you attractive because that improves your chances. I literally said it improves your chances. I’ll admit what I originally said was a bit silly shouldn’t have added the second half. My main point was being attractive to the majority of the opposite sex doesn’t seem realistic for anyone and shouldn’t be needed. I think it’s the question of why the need for majority, there’s billions of people. I don’t think anyone really needs the majority
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 06:23 PM
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Yes because grammar is important on Reddit during a purge lol. Jokesters can still cope too , you were the one to fly off the handle. I’m just enjoying purge lol
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 06:16 PM
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Nice assumption I’m not American lmfao. It raises your chances but no people generally don’t need to be attractive to the majority of the opposite gender. They’ll probably never meet that many people lol
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 06:15 PM
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Damn can you think of nothing original? I’m doing fine bud, your the one coping to high heaven over there lmfao
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 06:00 PM
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Perhaps. That can depend though, for example that boundary and casual sex has always been a strong one but that doesn’t mean I have strong boundaries for other things. I also generally think of myself of an average person lol. Don’t think I’m overly bad or good. I can just personally say that I have had some strong boundaries but others are close to nonexistent lol. So I’d say I have a strong boundary on monogamy in relationships I guess haha Edit: I am working on setting certain healthy boundar…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 05:51 PM
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Why does someone need the most of gender to find them attractive? Generally you need one, your partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 05:44 PM
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Yep. First partner wasn’t comfortable with it, so I avoided touching his ass lol, second one was.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 05:43 PM
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It’s your choice. I’m also “out” at the moment as I’m not looking so I have no reason to convince you otherwise. Sometimes we need a break
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 05:36 PM
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Unfortunately there’s cheaters on both sides. I could never imagine doing it but after being on the receiving end I know it is something I could never do. A guess I just remind myself that I’m not a cheater and I’m no one special so obviously there have to be others that share my view. Simplistic but whatever to avoid being bitter after being cheated on lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 05:34 PM
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That’s what I notice is often missing. There is a great emphasis on getting a romantic partner, but what happens when it actually does occur lol. Looks are like the foot in I’d say for most people but your personality is what keeps people around
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 05:31 PM
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I wish but it is trial and error unfortunately, like many things in life
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 05:29 PM
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Oh god damn I never heard of the man before and now I’m upset I have now
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 05:27 PM
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Try not to become to bitter. Believe me I know how being cheated on feels like. Even if many cheat, there are many who don’t
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 05:22 PM
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Not to be a dick but I think his nose got broken at one point. Dad has the same nose after he broke his lol
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 05:21 PM
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Really weird how the entire post is about making kids and you say you want to be a daddy but have no thoughts for a hypothetical future child. You literally end of with arousing, I feel like this is a fetish more than wanting to be a dad lol
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 05:17 PM
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He’s not unattractive in my opinion. No idea if I would date him because I have no inkling of what he is like.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 05:14 PM
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Hey as long as you put in the work no need to pay for a gym membership lol. Keep up the good work 👍
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 05:11 PM
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I never claimed to speak for her. Just said I had a similar experience and gave my own. Getting the as many anecdotes would be helpful instead of listening to just one right? I don’t deny he could have been boring, I never made an assumption about her relationship
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 05:10 PM
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It does have an advantage for a lasting relationship. What is the point if you can get a girl but you can’t keep a relationship with her? (If that’s what you want). Nice is a general word that gets substituted for others a lot of the time. A lot of times people will refer to someone that is desperate or a doormat as nice but there is a difference
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 05:09 PM
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Relationships because someone is nice to you often don’t end up well. I was in the same position. That was my first boyfriend. Whom I would have left earlier but he threatened to kill himself if I left. It’s desperation and taking whomever is nice to you. Amazing way to get taken advantage of
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 05:04 PM
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The fact that you feel the need to state it when there is no need ..lol
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 05:01 PM
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Lmao 🪞
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 04:58 PM
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It’s hilarious how many will admit in dms they are actually virgins but then act like they know how to get women every night lol
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 04:55 PM
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Yes that’s why I said they generally don’t know in the beginning. Abusers often use lovebombing to rope the victim in. Once your in a relationship and developed feelings it’s much harder to break it off. Those who stay in abusive relationships generally don’t have the best self esteem and it is normally broken down continuously. Most times the end up believing what the abusers says “I’m the only one who can love you””I’m the only one who ever will”. Phrases along those lines are extremely common…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 04:51 PM
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Lmao so a service employee remembers a regulars order? Not new
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 04:46 PM
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Dude it’s literally a joke because of the hygiene posts. That’s why I said it was a call back. It’s purge lighten up lol
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 04:37 PM
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If you think so lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 04:36 PM
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Definitely need better studies and understandings. Just like many mental disorders I’d suspect there is a variety of reasons. I feel like both could be likely in some but the brain is a fascinating thing. Shaming never works as well as people think it does lol. All depends on the person. There are many people here who admit to realizing the consequences of their actions but they simply don’t care. There are people like that everywhere unfortunately. Trust can go in extremes like most things and …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 04:35 PM
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I’d more say someone who is filled with denial. Men end up in abusive relationships as well
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 04:29 PM
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You can believe that but some people don’t cheat and actually enjoy sex with their partner
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 04:28 PM
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Why hips? Women have bigger hips for child bearing lol. Of course women on average have bigger hips
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 04:09 PM
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True, tend to not address it very often because of the emotions surrounding it. How I’m well aware of it unfortunately. I was naive kid who was been groomed but then men who were close to thirty knew what they were doing. I am thankful I never experience anything other than that. Was absolutely terrified of one of my papas friends when I was a toddler, still have no idea why but I still remember how terrified I was and my family mentioned it often. Who knows though. It’s a weird one that seems t…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 04:08 PM
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The average waist size of a woman in the United States is 38.7 inches , according to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC). Seems like the average American women is not far off. And size 14 seems to be the average is sizing even though as I said it’s fucking weird lol The average size of an American woman has historically been reported as a size 14. The clothing industry somewhat took this into account and adjusted its sizes. Though, most labels didn't even do that; the majority o…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 03:57 PM
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Doesn’t change the fact that majority of women’s sizing has what is called vanity sizing. Personally from what I’ve seen pants are the worst offenders for funky sizes lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 03:53 PM
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Very true. I don’t disagree with anything you say. I’m not one to throw that word out but was more thinking of what I’ve seen other people give as explanations. Generally it just seems like a lot of hate and contempt which is why I mentioned emotions because us humans often throw logic away in emotional situations lol. Hebephilia was the one I was thinking of. Knew it started with an H lol. Yeah I’ve gotten in the past because yes it is a mental disorder and not a sexual attraction. For those wh…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 03:51 PM
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Women’s sizes vary within brands and stores. Saying size 16-18 doesn’t mean a whole lot in women’s clothing
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 03:45 PM
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Or some are being truthful lol. A lot of people don’t care about seeming perfect. Even more so on the internet normally
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 03:42 PM
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Yet to meet one who knowingly does. Re enter an abusive relationship yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 03:40 PM
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Lol damn you got triggered easily. People can enjoy multiple subreddits and don’t need to remain in one lol. Take a chill pill dude
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 03:39 PM
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Why would you knowingly go into an abusive relationship? Most times people don’t know lol. All down for a loyal and loving man. I don’t think he’s unattractive either
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 03:36 PM
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Cope
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 03:30 PM
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There’s another word used in the scientific community that’s on the tip of my tongue. However not surprising at all that the general population just sticks to one word and doesn’t show variance. I feel like most people don’t think the difference is big enough to care to make the distinction. Generally has a lot of emotions involved as well so not surprised
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 03:23 PM
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Hadn’t heard that definitive of natty before at all lol. Don’t care if it works for you, just funny to think a woman producing porn tries to talk for all women, including those whose morals do not cross that line
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 03:18 PM
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Lol okay. Enjoy the rest of purge
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 03:16 PM
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Statistics don’t change any of my points either. Just said it was becoming more common. Forming their lives does not mean being a stay at home parent. There are other ways to perceive that. Both parents are important during the early years, throughout all years really. Perhaps that’s in your experience. That’s quite sad, haven’t encountered a man personally that had to choose between his wife and child. I never once claimed it was the majority. My whole point was personal choice, you made assump…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 03:16 PM
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That really all it means lol?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 03:09 PM
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Goddamn that’s a jump. I do not have any children nor plan to have any so I wouldn’t have to make that choice. My feelings for my children would most likely kick in as well. There are some shitty ass parents out there. If I ever did have a kid they would hold a lot of my feelings and I’d do my damn to be the best I can. Maybe start with smaller assumptions before jumping off the deep end lol
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 03:09 PM
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So you went natty lol?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 03:06 PM
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Lmao Cosplay takes more effort than getting ready regularly. Your basically impersonating a character
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 03:01 PM
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You mention modern conveniences. You mention nothing about feelings which is why romantic relationships normally form. Thanks for the advice but I don’t believe in God.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 02:59 PM
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If humanity didn’t build civilization and societies we would never have progressed and stayed as cavemen and women. What’s the point of the question?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 02:49 PM
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That makes no sense lol. Everyone has their own standards of what they want in a romantic partner. Most commonly it is love and companionship, someone to grow and share your life with. Love at first sight seems like a teenager thing or some really rare phenomena. Don’t believe in it but not gonna say it doesn’t exist.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 02:48 PM
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Yes and I said I’ve generally seen it said in just the context of romantic relationships. Not that they don’t need their father, brother or male friends. Of course some really mean I need no men but I’m just saying from personal experiences it seems more common to be in the context of romance.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 02:43 PM
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I literally said romantic relationships. It’s just like men of MGTOW.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 02:40 PM
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Most times I’ve seen in the context of not needing the other gender for romantic relationships. Doubt there would be many who would drop all of one gender, including family members just because they are a man or women
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 02:35 PM
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Haha quite possible I just haven’t travelled so I keep my mouth shut about it lol
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 02:33 PM
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Also I’d look up the available statistics for porn addicts aswell if you think it’s just dozens. Also how do you know we are speaking of the same country lol
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 02:24 PM
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Did I give a number? Did not for this specific reason. I don’t claim to know how big the problem is. I just am aware there is a problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 02:23 PM
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Nofap is focused on not masturbating as I see it as well. Many don’t see that as necessary and simply work on their addiction rather than trying to cut out tapping all together. Don’t really know what to think about that so I don’t comment on it lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 02:19 PM
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Well it’s lucky you don’t relate to it lol. Nofap is a strange one that leans on the cult side I’ll admit. I’ve only been on nofap only a handful of times. There are other subreddits though. There’s one literally called porn addiction. If your interested in the partners side there are subreddits for support on that side as well. Biggest one I remember is LoveAfterPorn.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 02:17 PM
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Lol maybe look into porn addiction. You can realize it is in that context if you have any knowledge about it
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 02:13 PM
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attraction means nothing when it comes to addiction unfortunately. Which is what OP is referring to even if she is unaware
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 02:12 PM
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If your looking for more information I’d suggest looking at personal accounts. It has become more widely and openly talked about in the last few years. Many addicts are vary open about how it affects them
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 02:11 PM
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Oh very interesting! Can’t remember for the life of me where I picked it up but I remember using it in elementary school and I feel like I’ve seen people around me use it as well
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 02:10 PM
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That’s really not the only complaint. Many is due to just insecurities but many are due to addiction. Many personal accounts of addicts online. It’s not hard to see what people go through if you try looking lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 02:09 PM
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Lol don’t live in a big city. I’d say probably about four off the top of my head. No idea what your going on about. I don’t want children so I’m not looking for a potential father. Yes toxic people look down on stay at home mothers still as well. There are always people with hate and problems. Just said that men staying home with the children is becoming more common. I think your getting the idea of equal rights mixed up lol. Lots of feminists also have a weird idea of it but it’s not to make a …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 02:07 PM
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Haha good to hear. Never left Canada so I just know the stereotype. Know we have our own assholes though lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 02:02 PM
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I acknowledged that many have insecurities. I’m just saying I’ve seen many many stories about relationships where there is an addiction. Of course I generally go to subs dedicated for that rather than just dating spaces because yes your more likely to encounter those with just insecurities. However addiction is a huge problem and I wouldn’t say insecurities are a way bigger deal. In my personal opinion it’s the opposite but personal experiences will shape how we perceive that
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 02:01 PM
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I’ve seen it used like that yes won’t deny that at all. There are hurt people on both sides that like to lash out. The reason I mentioned denial though is because a lot of men seem to hold that idea even if they are not conscious of it, or refuse to admit because even they can admit there’s something fishy there. I do feel for those who are looking for a genuine connection and love, I understand how heartbreaking it can be being so lonely and such. When it comes to entitlement it’s hard to feel …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 01:59 PM
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Oh cool! Been to Toronto a few times but such a big city for me lol. Don’t think I could handle the big apple lol. Glad you enjoy your time in Toronto
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 01:54 PM
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I’ve seen it mostly come from experiences with addiction. Many are from just insecurities though I’ll admit. I have seen many more people opening up recently about how it affected their relationship, regardless if they were the addict or partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 01:53 PM
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Lol didn’t think it was that uncommon, from Canada myself
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 01:51 PM
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Won’t disagree with that. I understand venting and I have no problem with that. I’ve just seen people who skirt around incel rules outside of purge. I’m not one to use the phrase normally but I have noticed some that are just in a mountain of denial. Happens to both genders lol
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 01:50 PM
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If you really believe so lol. I just believe the same as him. You can assume I wanna take advantage of people all you want but never my intention lol
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 01:48 PM
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No problem, it’s all personal preference. So just try to remember if you get some jackass saying your ugly af there will be someone to think the opposite
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 01:47 PM
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Sounds like those men have problems with porn then lol. Not surprised this is your take. I guess I hope your never in that situation but if you believe all men do it, you already are lol
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 01:46 PM
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I doubt most people would believe it’s every man that frequents this sub. I have noticed a large amount but I’d never ever say it includes all men. That would just be someone generalizing the men in this sub
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 01:44 PM
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I’d say that’s true. Plenty of people with low self esteem and those on the opposite side. The higher the self esteem the more likely you’ll view yourself as attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 01:42 PM
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Aweh keep up that hope. I know there are people with good hearts out there too. Some people are so miserable they can’t notice it
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 01:40 PM
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In the end it’s not going to matter because everyone has their own idea of what is attractive. I wouldn’t listen to anyone that says your just straight ugly. That’s their perception and I don’t believe it lol. So it just all depends who’s answering
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 01:40 PM
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Everyone could use some sun and a break from purge I’d say lol
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 01:37 PM
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Love that is what you bring up lol. I personally don’t enjoy facial hair like that but seeing the moustache comment on its own made me laugh a bit haha
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 01:31 PM
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If it doesn’t allow it, they are certainly slacking lol. I’ve seen a lot of parasocial or however it’s called relationships between viewers and Youtubers. People can get obsessed, doesn’t have to be sexual. I can’t remember when memberships were added but I think sometime last year or the year before? I just know youtubers can be directly paid by their audience now. Seems like most youtubers use the most recourses they can. Ad money, sponsorships, patreon and memberships.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 01:27 PM
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How about the fact that there are memberships on YouTube directly now. Super chats, many have been using Patron so that could be included depending on how you view it. Many people directly pay and support youtubers
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 01:15 PM
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You do realize how popular it is for Youtubers to do sponsors for a company right? Because it makes more money than ad revenue generally Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 01:04 PM
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You’d be surprised unfortunately lol
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 12:52 PM
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Lol if you believe so I guess
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 12:23 PM
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Lmao worse timing. Main account is known by someone I prefer didn’t so I had to drop it. Least I can say this, won’t be disappearing after Purge lol
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 08:17 AM
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Pros and cons to everything. Enjoy the pros of your current situation. Focusing on the cons and negatives normally isn’t helpful lol
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 08:15 AM
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🐍 Slytherins can be a fun bunch at times lol
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 08:14 AM
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Okay Hufflepuff lol
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 08:11 AM
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Normally yes it is not seen in the best light and I don’t know many people who would date someone who openly eats their buggers. She mostly likely wanted to avoid an embarrassing conversation so she said nothing. Especially if she is an intern, very low in the workplace normally.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 08:03 AM
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Is this a real question?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 07:59 AM
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Love how you say your not like other girls but continue to say what all women apparently want lol
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 07:55 AM
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I’d say most have been used by some. Know toys, water faucets and cucumbers have all been mentioned from what I’ve seen. Knives throws me off, that’s a niche fetish I’m guessing lol
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 05:28 AM
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Did I ever say I was one lol? Have fun quoting me on that
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 05:05 AM
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I’d have no problem dating a bi man. And yes that includes one who has bottomed in the past for any future answers.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 04:49 AM
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If you believe so. Many fathers form their lives around their children just as much as mothers. Stay at home dads are not ridiculed around me. It is becoming more common for a man to stay home with the kids if that’s what he prefers. Everything you said doesn’t take away from my points at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 04:26 AM
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Lol was just a call back to your posts about hygiene
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 04:24 AM
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I’m loving your comments lol
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 11:29 PM
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Wow I said I understand where your coming from because I have pretty similar experiences. Was just suggesting you look up some men’s answers for cat calling. Even if some do it because they find someone attractive a lot do it for a reaction. Sorry I was just trying to help a bit .
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 11:21 PM
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I understand where your coming from. However as the other commenters said it’s normally not due to how attractive they perceive you. If you look on this sub there has been numerous times when cat calling has been questioned. Majority of the answers were about scaring or getting a reaction. I’d suggest looking up men’s answers as to why they catcall. I’ve always been told it says more about them than who they cat call but the answers just confirmed it.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 11:12 PM
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Lol you need to learn history
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 11:08 PM
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https://www.parents.com/parenting/i-m-a-mom-and-i-had-an-abortion/ Shame there isn’t more stats I can find but I’m still looking. Funny your comment about married couples because apparently they are the most likely to get an abortion
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 11:02 PM
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That’s a problem if there are no stats. How are we to know how many abortions are agreed upon and those that have a disagreement. Stats help people make more informative decisions rather than ones just on emotions
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 10:58 PM
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Yes that’s why I didn’t say every woman. Of course some women will be using methods that are easier to start and restop
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 10:56 PM
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Lol damn you got triggered. Just said from context it makes sense. I actually just asked a question then stated my reasoning from the picture. Never claimed you were wrong lol. I literally said we have no idea if he mentioned it beforehand but it makes sense in that context. She very well could be an idiot. She could not be. Chill out dude lol
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 10:55 PM
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You literally quoted me saying it not the majority but it is still very much needed. That means the minority. Then as I said it becomes a problem when it’s not agreed upon and I’d like stats because it seems to happen alot more than it does around me.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 10:52 PM
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Do you know how unrealistic it is to just hop off and on birth control for a lot of people?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 10:51 PM
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Lol ok
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 10:44 PM
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If the mother is in danger due to the pregnancy? Normally according to the doctors lol. Yes that’s why I’m saying my personal experience is different from yours. Well obviously our experiences don’t match up which is why stats are normally informative
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 10:41 PM
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Haha most likely. Sometimes you need to yell at someone but some people need it too often haha. Lol yeah I can understand like being anon all over again but I’d rather just keep my old account lol. Had made another account looking for support about the situation. Got shit on because I didn’t want to go into all the shit that went down in my relationship, would normally rely on my past posts since it was so much and people normally understood then lol. But oh well mostly used it for debates and t…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 10:38 PM
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Most people are aware of that lol. That is why abortions are needed before another life is birthed onto this planet
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 10:35 PM
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You really love assumptions don’t you lol
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 10:34 PM
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Even if it’s not the majority it is still very much needed. That’s also a personal opinion. Perhaps in your personal experience but in my own it has been the parents coming to a mutual decision on a abortion. I’d actually be interested to see if there are stats for unanimous decisions on abortions versus the other to see how big the problem is. It doesn’t seem as common around me
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 10:33 PM
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Also people can accept that they can get pregnant but not be financially or emotionally ready for a kid. Or never want a kid.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 10:30 PM
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Lol thanks for the heads up
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 10:29 PM
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How about the fact that it’s only mentioned he has a twin sister at the end. We have no idea if he mentioned it beforehand. He most likely just said he was a twin. As far as we know it doesn’t become apparent until the second last text lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 10:28 PM
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Sometimes there’s a need to a pregnancy to be stopped as well. As long as the parents both agree I don’t see why there would be a problem. It becomes a problem when it’s not agreed upon by both.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 10:27 PM
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Dude your comments are public, it’s quite easy to see you carry a lot of anger lol. Anyway, try to give it a break and have a good time for a bit
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 10:24 PM
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Lmao guess I better go listen to it
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 10:23 PM
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Very true! I’ve read it’s not a guarantee for either gender. Slipped my mind, thanks for the reminder though!
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 10:23 PM
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? Because they realistically know birth control can fail at any point. That does make sense. It’s also not just women. It benefits some couples.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 10:22 PM
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Well damn thanks for letting me know I guess. Just haven’t come across it personally yet
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 10:21 PM
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Most likely lol. It’s great when your able to have a discussion, what’s the point of coming to a debate sub if you can’t even debate with someone lol. Don’t know if I want it linked but I had told my ex about my username when we were still dating. For some reason he looked it up recently and was causing me problems. The account was made to vent about relationships problems while I was in a toxic relationship. So it sucks but since I can’t change the username I had to kind of ditch it.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 10:20 PM
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Interesting. Haven’t seen abolish but if that’s true as I said that’s fucking ridiculous
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 10:17 PM
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Generally people are realistic about birth control not being a guarantee. Other than abstinence and surgery that’s all there is to rely on. For either gender. Edit: Abstinence, birth control and surgery are the only things that can be relied on. Abstinence is the only guarantee but I think we all learned how well that works in highschool lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 10:17 PM
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You do realize birth control fails and women have different levels of fertility right? Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 10:15 PM
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Do they say abolish or reform? Heard reform before , abolish would be ridiculous for everyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 10:13 PM
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Lmfao, maybe it’s because you know your parents would be disappointed with what you put on Reddit. Either way you can assume all you want , enjoy your hate lol
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 10:11 PM
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Thanks for the word lesson lol. Never once heard of that term. Everyone is gonna be a bit petty and trashy, no matter how hard they try, no ones perfect lol
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 10:10 PM
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Lmfao that’s a lot of assumptions. Cry over the assumptions that my parents are ashamed of me lol
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 10:08 PM
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Very true, he did specifically mention he had no problems with other social programs, only ones that benefit single mothers. It is very vague and I highly doubt I would get a response. I appreciate the discussion with you, had conversations with you on my old account so I was interested in what you had to add.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 10:07 PM
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Cry about the fact that you believe that lol
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 10:05 PM
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Cry about it lol
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 10:02 PM
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Damn your a triggered little boy. Maybe go clean your house, take a break from PPD and have a breather lol
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 09:58 PM
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Having a single mother that put herself in that situation is not unanimous though. Some people do not agree with that like I said. I understand the concept behind all this, question though if they aren’t entitled to his tax money? Why would anyone else? Taxes are a shit show especially when you throw emotions in the mix. So what is the expectation, any single mother who wasn’t pumped and dumped by a chad can get welfare? He could be addressing only those single mothers but I hadn’t seen a distin…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 09:57 PM
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Lmao okay
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 09:53 PM
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Sure sure whatever helps you feel better lol
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 09:50 PM
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Everyone has a little trashiness in them lol
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 09:49 PM
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Literally just said don’t wanna do your work for you. You can assume away, I just know how easy it is so you men should be able to find it easily right because your suppose to better lmfaoWasn’t the original person who said so anyway. Just backing up that I have seen it. The other commenter did give an example as well lol. Maybe try to look
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 09:45 PM
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Nice assumption. Gonna tell me why you think I’m full of shit?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 09:43 PM
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Also why do you keep telling people to apologize to their parents? Do you feel the need too lol?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 09:41 PM
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The fuck do you mean lol? How am I full of shit?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 09:38 PM
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True that’s what I meant by taking advantage of the system. It’s well known there are people who take advantage of it and makes it harder those who truly need it. Putting the blame on someone for their circumstances doesn’t always work either. People are usually not unanimous of that and often have different ideas of if someone did that to themselves. But like I said even I dislike those who take advantage of the system because it just causes more hatred and problems for those who need it. Of co…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 09:37 PM
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Funny, like I said it’s purge so most of this has been in joking fun. Take a break from Reddit. Like I said your focusing on the negative. Men and women can both focus to heavily on the negatives and that ends up with you remembered it more. Also If your getting so worked up, probably best to distance yourself from anyone who consider toxic then. Give yourself a break
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 09:28 PM
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Damn it’s purge lighten up. In my other comment I even mentioned it’s purge week so people are not as polite as normal. Keep finding exhibits though, it’s fucking hilarious
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 09:21 PM
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I can do whatever the fuck I want lol. You gonna call the mods because I said something you didn’t like that doesn’t even break the rules outside of purge, grow up lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 09:17 PM
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Lol no problem, I’ve done the same in the past lol
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 09:17 PM
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Yeah like I said single moms just often end up in the low income bracket so it makes sense they would take advantage of social programs available to them. Obviously, just don’t know why people are getting angry if someone obviously needs the support. There’s always people who are upset at those who take advantage of the system when they don’t need it, myself included. Not every situation is like that though.I can somewhat understand that but still. You have no idea of someone situation unless th…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 09:16 PM
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Actually just backed someone else up when you disputed the claims. Take it up with the original person or do the work yourself lol
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 09:11 PM
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I’m just saying I’ve had horrible experiences online and offline. I’ve had great experiences as well. Obviously if I’ve experienced shitty things it generally is because I’m surrounded by shitty or toxic people. Generally that is part of life and learning though. I was just saying I’ve experienced shit that has made people toxic and bitter but I’m actively working against and honestly haven’t had a problem from PPD. But I’m also very aware we’re all humans regardless of our gender, some of us ar…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 09:10 PM
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If that is true apologies then, not too common in that aspect. I can say for myself height has not been a dealbreaker. I’ve said before it’s breaker for some people. Dated a guy that was 5’5. Can also say that I personally don’t wear makeup to attract male attention. Once again I’ve said elsewhere some women do and love the attention but not true for all.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 09:07 PM
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Lmao under five mins and you believe the sub is free of it as you claim, okay bud lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 09:04 PM
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Thought men didn’t care about brains? Lol couldn’t care less
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 09:03 PM
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Depends on the person. I’ve had horrible experiences with men online and off but I haven’t become bitter because I don’t believe this bullshit. A lot of people come here for laughs. Some people will be sucked in and it’s not good for them agreed, probably the majority haha
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 09:03 PM
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Why so you can just say I’m a liar lmao. Been on PPD long enough that it doesn’t matter what I say, just what people assume apparently lol
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 09:00 PM
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Don’t care to, got my point across lol. You always claim your not like other girls but then claim to speak for them all. Doesn’t add up lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 08:59 PM
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Lmao not you gonna do your work for you. It’s even easier during purge week lol
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 08:58 PM
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Well thanks for admitting it’s a generalization I guess lol. Lot of people tend to remember negative things and events more, doesn’t mean they happen more. Just mean it had a bigger impact and they remember it more. Men and women do that.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 08:57 PM
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Lol keep talking for other girls then.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 08:55 PM
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Lol seriously, there are posts and comments. Really not that hard to find either
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 08:54 PM
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Apparently we are mind readers now, fun lol
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 08:53 PM
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Won’t deny there are attractive people on tik tok but filters are over used everywhere
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 08:51 PM
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So all women on PPD are like that? Like I said it seems to be a variety of types of women.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 08:50 PM
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Well yes but my main point was the the only requirement is not just having a child. Yeah I was looking into it and was seeing it seems to just be a collection of older social programs into one. Huh that’s pretty interesting. I can’t say anything on that because when I was job hunting before in my area it was incredibly difficult to find a full time job and most people have to settle with multiple part time jobs. Most likely changed due to Covid but companies commonly employed maybe one or two fu…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 08:50 PM
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What type of women are you talking about? There seems to be a variety in the type of women who comment
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 08:39 PM
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Perhaps, I have no problem seeing both of them. There are huge assholes here of both genders but there are polite users too. People’s perception will be different for what is viewed as atrocious. Everyone has a general guideline of what they means but they generally have their own ideas and bias added
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 08:33 PM
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Possibly, always hard to say with people. I just want a link to a credible website that gives proof to his claims. Because if it is true in the UK I’d be interested in learning about it
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 08:31 PM
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I’ve also been asking for sources, not here say. I’m looking for primary sources, not secondary sources You can claim Child Benefit if you have a child under 16, or under 20 if they are in full time non-advanced education (e.g. sixth form or further education college) or on approved training. Same thing in Canada. Is not for only single mothers. It’s for parents. Universal Credit is the new benefit that is replacing a range of previous benefits. At present. it is only running in certain areas of…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 08:30 PM
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Seen some women be rude here just like the men but both genders have users that are polite in the subreddit. Course purge is a bit different normally but I wouldn’t say every man or every women here is atrocious
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 08:24 PM
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Not too sure about that either because he has a post about mail order brides for American men. If that is true in the UK and he’s complaining of certain laws he’s familiar with he should be able to provide proof for that incredibly easy
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 08:19 PM
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Never mentioned the rate of sex either because it’s irrelevant. I only addressed the fact that having a certain genitalia does not result in a life of rainbows and butterflies. Normally the saying is sunshine’s and rainbows as far as I know as well lol
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 08:15 PM
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Lol several years with no complaints. What does that have to do with anything? Someone can still have a miserable life while still getting laid lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 08:11 PM
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Could you give me sources that is the only qualifications they have? Most of what I’ve seen there is usually more requirements than simply having a child. It’s also tricky because there are a lot of social programs that are referred to as welfare but we could be talking about entirely different ones even if we’re in the same location lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 08:11 PM
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Also privilege doesn’t mean a life of rainbow and butterflies. Privilege is an advantage, it is not a guarantee you’ll have an amazing fairy tale life. That’s a delusion some people of both genders have.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 08:08 PM
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Believe what you want and you can say some feminists believe men’s lives are rainbows and butterflies but obviously I don’t believe someone’s genitalia guarantees that. So even if some people believe men have carefree lives because they were born a man, I don’t believe so. Have fun with all your hate and assumptions lol
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 08:06 PM
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Lol I’d love to see this fantasy land for women you speak of. Your delusional if you believe someone’s life is rainbows and butterflies because of their genitalia lol
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 07:57 PM
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Like I said that doesn’t hold true around me, if you would like to provide sources or claims I’d be happy to look and change my mind. However ive never seen that as a sole qualifier of receiving welfare
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 07:55 PM
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Not sure about requirements of welfare near you but you seem to have some beliefs that don’t always hold true. I’d be interested in the qualifications for welfare in your area because you make it seem much easier to receive than it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 07:31 PM
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I think both are extremely common when people are using insults
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 06:56 PM
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People use insults they think will best bruise someone ego. Seems true for both genders. A lot of times people will use insults they know aren’t true even if it will still get a reaction.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 06:48 PM
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Lmfao all twins are not identical. Never heard of Fraternal twins lol
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 06:41 PM
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Filters and makeup. Well known in social media now. Thought it was anyway
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 06:19 PM
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Yep. Don’t know why people complain about someone’s high standards unless they wanna get with them haha.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 05:29 PM
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There’s more to the meme than just being considered ugly though..
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 01:43 PM
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Realistically people can have whatever standards they want. How realistic it is can vary depending on the person and their views
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 01:36 PM
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Lol biggest thing is a credit card in someone else’s name. That could cause some really big fuck ups. Also talk is easy, I’d like to know if what she says is true when it comes down to it
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 01:33 PM
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Some places have common law which often gives the same rights as a spouse. So marriage is not as legally important in some places
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 01:28 PM
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Maybe go have a shower before speaking for me lmfao
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 01:07 PM
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Thanks for the assumption and speaking for me lol. Just means both genders have a choice in getting married and having kids majority of the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 01:05 PM
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Neither gender needs to get married or have kids, it’s a personal choice
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 01:04 PM
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Fear is the path to the dark side … fear leads to anger … anger leads to hate … hate leads to suffering. In seriousness away from the star warz quote lol, best to take a break. Can be pretty easy becoming bitter but normally best to avoid that lol
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 07:37 AM
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Ah yes because a human can never be okay without a spouse and or a child. Marriages and babies or nothing!
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 07:35 AM
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People can post whatever they want online or lurk, doesn’t mean they take the advice lol
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 07:32 AM
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Yes because grammar is so important on Reddit if the point is made lol. Change the subject to protect yourself, enjoy your misery lol
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 07:26 AM
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Course I am since your the authority on everything apparently. Lol call me a kettle but make another assumption that I’d care about horoscopes because I’m a women. Either way from your responses I can tell I’m no where as miserable as you as that’s an upside for me :)
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 07:24 AM
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Lmao sure I’m useless, keep going around assuming and pulling stupid shit out of your ass. Enjoy your miserable life lol
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 07:20 AM
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That makes no sense lol. You literally say they give advice on how to get a relationship. Majority are not going their own way if they are looking to vet for HVMs. Know it’s purge but try harder
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 07:17 AM
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Lmao nice cope, I’m sure you’d be happier if females were into you
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 07:16 AM
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He does doesn’t he? I’m sure all the girls are throwing themselves at him for how nice he is
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 07:14 AM
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Another hot topic on PPD repeated. No surprises or updates here. Nah they both see perfect angels, that’s why there are never complaints
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 07:13 AM
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Oh my, can hardly contain myself once you’ve addressed me. Like anyone would have thoughts like that for a man like you lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 07:11 AM
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She doesn’t even go here!
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 07:09 AM
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He seems more normal than you lol
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 07:07 AM
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Damn I’d never ever guess she’s 70 omg haha
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 05:26 AM
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I know, couldn’t resist lol
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 05:24 AM
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Glad I gave the worst number for purge week I win lol. Also if sex is for one person, wouldn’t that just be masturbation? Lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 05:19 AM
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My first boyfriend had a similar mindset, no idea if he referred to himself as such. Didn’t know about the term incels at the time. Didn’t end well for me but I’d say I already slept with and dated one
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 05:05 AM
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If you believe so, I personally don’t. Would you care you explain your side
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 04:56 AM
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Yeah, was trolling him back, even if he does believe it I don’t really care lol. Was planning on sitting purge out but boredom is a killer lol
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 04:50 AM
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Lol most dudes on PPD do
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 04:41 AM
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To you. Majority of people would consider that a low n count and would not care. That’s just your personal opinion, I shared mine as well. Never said you aren’t free to have it, just that it is not a end all be all truth
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 04:41 AM
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Also, wasn’t exactly complaining. Was asking questions for more information lol
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 04:39 AM
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You put a puking face emoji first lol. I will after purge
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 04:38 AM
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I don’t want a high n count partner for myself. I’d prefer someone in the same range but what happens happens. If I’m not interesting in dating someone their n count means nothing. Don’t hate them or think they are gross, just wouldn’t prefer a relationship with someone who had a high n count because we’d most likely have different views on sex. However it could happen. Both my partners had more partners than me but I wouldn’t consider them high n counts
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 04:35 AM
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In your mind
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 04:31 AM
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Apparently we have no morals if we have an N count above 1 lol. Literally have an n count of 2 from relationships and was told I should get some morals lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 04:31 AM
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Really? Because I’ve have two relationships and I was physical during them? You have an n count of 1 I’m assuming if two is puke inducing
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 04:27 AM
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Lol because having sex with two people in your lifetime so far is puke inducing, might wanna get a stronger stomach then
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 04:25 AM
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Good to hear lol, yeah still don’t know how his name still gets around as much as it does after being a known women beater. I usually never remember celebrity gossip either. At that time my friend was just really into Rihanna and for some weird reason I can remember snippets of reports of it from tv.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 04:24 AM
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Dude who hit Rihanna back in early 2000s. Only reason I remember his name. Think he is or was a rapper
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 03:40 AM
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Would say some men like bitchy loud girls but there are many that prefer more quiet ones as you put it. I’d also say someone easily putting out has more to do with their self esteem and how they personally view themselves. I’ve seen looks and self esteem both in that manner
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 03:32 AM
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It’s been talked about before, just not as openly talked about as the other genders struggle with porn. Both still have human brains though that can both be affected
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 03:29 AM
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Yeah some people would consider that a bit too muscular for their tastes. Know some girls love it but not for me lol
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 03:28 AM
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For majority of people yes, on this sub, no lol
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 03:23 AM
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25f, 2
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 03:17 AM
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Lol bible was not mentioned in that comment I quoted so I don’t know why you brought it up. You already have an idea and just seem to like refuting what someone considers new to their bedroom. Have fun with that, have a good day
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/21 07:07 PM
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Just because someone reads something does not mean they always take it in and learn. Why comment on here are then if your aware where people get their ideas outside of porn? You seem to have a good idea of where they get them outside of porn as well so I don’t know why your so hung up on this. Seems it all has to do with how new something is.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/21 07:05 PM
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What media discusses sex trends? Sutra is old. Not much "new" ideas coming out of it (as the OP asked and you responded). The OP didn't ask how you get ancient sex ideas lol Your sending mixed answers. You dismiss media then talk about machines within a thread about porn. Another person commented about the cosplay and dress up portion. So obviously it is not 100% clear your not referring to just porn. Either way we agree that knowledge comes from outside of porn aswell. It all depends on how new…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/21 07:03 PM
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The entire point though is that it is new to the individual, not to society , it depends the context and this was asking for personal accounts. That’s not within porn though, I was asking for new novel ideas within porn that don’t include machines. That was your argument.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/21 07:00 PM
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Right before you were talking about how machines are not the only new thing in porn.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/21 06:57 PM
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Okay so your biggest gripe is with how people define new in the bedroom. You have no say on what people consider new information to them especially as something as private as in the bedroom. Could you please answer my question as to something new or novel that does not include technology?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/21 06:56 PM
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Okay, your comment didn’t imply that. You’ve made your stance clear now but it wasn’t in the beginning and either way, like the commenter said it’s not too hard to know what goes on during sex. We live in a hugely sexualized society.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/21 06:52 PM
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Are they suppose to tell what they are currently learning? Perhaps they are comfortable now and don’t feel the need to try something new. That was an example they gave as to how they learned something new. Also there’s a difference in just reading the book and trying to enact the positions. I’ve seen a few snippets of it and some seem very difficult lol so it might take some practice. Either way that was their answer as to how they learned new things. That would be like saying you watched a porn…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/21 06:50 PM
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Lol don’t like when people are condensing to you but your fine to do it. I simply commented about your cowboy comment and dress up with cosplay and such because those are one of the easiest things to discover without porn
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/21 06:48 PM
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I never mentioned that, like I said you were talking with someone else and I hopped in. Either way any of those positions could be new to the couple, why is it so important for it to be new to society?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/21 06:46 PM
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Well you were having a conversation with someone else, who even said they take things from media then I hopped in. Other than openly talking to friends about it all others seem very common. There’s been previous forums on other subs and it mostly comes down to those answers and imagination.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/21 06:45 PM
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I’m sorry I don’t follow your question
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/21 06:43 PM
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Yes and I’ve seen some of those answers in the thread?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/21 06:43 PM
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Still dosent change the fact that it is new to the individual. Why do you need to be the first and original in the bedroom? There are very little things that are original nowadays. Could you give an example of something new that doesn’t include technology since you’ve countered that claim many times
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/21 06:41 PM
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Yeah and there have been many answers but you don’t believe that they are new enough. Realistically it could be new to the couple and they could love it, you could have known about since you were like 12. It all depends on what’s new for the couple
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/21 06:38 PM
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Okay so why the argument? You just keep bringing up porn. Maybe people use if but this is a post for people who don’t enjoy it. There are many answers given but you don’t seem to think it results in something new enough
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/21 06:37 PM
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Also what’s the point then since the question is to those who don’t watch porn? They obviously are able to find things outside of porn. I’m sure most people are aware you can learn from porn and outside of porn. These commentators are ones who don’t use it. So obviously you can find new ideas from porn but it’s not the only place
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/21 06:34 PM
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Well the point of many comments are saying you don’t need porn to learn about something involving sex. You were only talking about porn, I’m just saying those things can be discovered outside of porn.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/21 06:32 PM
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Definitely don’t need to watch porn for that. You really think a couple would only discover a cowboy kink from porn?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/21 06:29 PM
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