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You have to overcome your insecurities or find someone without those preferences
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/24 09:55 PM
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Not every woman wants commitment. The same way not every man does. You overcomplicate it by moralizing it lmao. It doesn’t matter what men prefer bc they don’t adhere to their own standards 9 times out of 10 which is why again it’s not a big deal if men start opting out. Especially since other men will continue to shoot their shot and women will continue to pursue who they’re attracted to. Most women have a lot of options they don’t have to worry about aligning to someone’s specific preference.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/24 09:44 PM
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It’s one of those “please don’t do it but I support you” things for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/24 09:43 PM
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You’re the one with the double standard king the majority of men will fuck who ever is down lmao. You’re just mad you don’t have options Every woman I know is married dating or doing their own thing. The men that can’t get a date are the ones with a whole ass complex. Also men still approach Ive been approached multiple times in the last two weeks you just don’t lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/24 08:57 PM
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It’s how they have to characterize women and sex to convince themselves it’s okay that they don’t have options
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/24 08:34 PM
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Kinda wild that men just go along with this if so many dudes think girls that act like that are disgusting lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/24 08:13 PM
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Yeah so men that have weird toxic views of sexuality in general are better off going their own. If you feel that way don't date women. Again not a bad thing. If you have genuine disdain for most men don't date men. Also not a bad thing. That's not a drag in either direction. Men will continue to pursue and approach women. And women will only approach the men they're attracted to and occasionally be pleasantly surprised by the random dude that came out of nowhere. The people that opted out will l…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/24 08:02 PM
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Yep. Idk I feel like my kid is gonna be a lil gay anyway lmao (this is 98% sarcastic)
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/24 07:09 PM
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That's cool, so are women. I don't think that's a bad thing on either front. I'm in a relationship so I like going out and not being bothered by men I don't know. But if you want a partner and you're a dude I don't see it happening easily if you don't approach.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/24 07:07 PM
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You can decide you’re going to wait for someone to approach you but I don’t think that’s a strategy that plays out longterm for the majority of men
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/24 06:00 PM
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I feel like I’d be happy in whatever circumstance if I was taking uppers all day and dropping a stick of butter into everything I cook. But idk autonomy is p cool too
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/24 05:58 PM
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I enjoy that attention from women more so than men. My partner and I have been hit on by women in certain nightlife spaces more than once and that's always welcome. I'm down for a genuine compliment/conversation from men but in general I kinda shut down unless my boyfriend is around. If the dude still acts normal once they know I have a boyfriend we're in the clear and can be friends. If I feel like I'm getting hit on I shut it down respectfully. To be fair the places I encounter this are primar…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/24 05:51 PM
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Incorrect everyone I know with an OF has multiple jobs. In the arts, in the service industry, OF is a sidehustle only .5% can make it a full time thing (and even then it's unsustainable) 10/10 wouldn't recommend but they are juggling 3-5 jobs the majority of the time
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/24 05:47 PM
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Rape victim here, you should not be dating with unresolved trauma around sexual assault. That does not mean you are undateable forever. Jesus Christ.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/24 04:43 PM
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Eat shit I would never have kids out of wedlock into a financially strapped situation. Sorry we weren’t all born with a silver spoon in our mouth moron
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/24 11:45 AM
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Lmao I had a 10 year old call me a bottom bitch to my face bc I told him to put my phone away. Tate head ALL of the other kids hated him.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/24 11:43 AM
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Bahahahahhahahaaha
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/24 04:07 AM
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I’d be less worried about having kids if I had paid maternity leave and guaranteed access to adequate care throughout my pregnancy, affordable childcare, quality education in public schools. And enough of a work life balance to actually SEE my kids
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/24 03:14 AM
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Genuinely no regrets I went the musical theatre route and worked in New York for a few years I still perform for money but it’s definitely more of a side hustle now. No regrets but that was the trade off lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/24 02:10 AM
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This is why the birth rate is actually down.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/24 01:37 AM
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I took dance for most of my life and it high key gave me body dysmorphia so maybe not dance lol
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/24 01:35 AM
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I agree with all of this. I used to run arts programs and after school programs and the only thing the boys do now is play video games and watch YouTube. I compare that to my fiancé’s nephews who are all in multiple youth sports and they have a friend circle and are significantly smarter/more adept than the kids I was working with (but their parents are super thoughtful about EVERYTHING) I don’t think it HAS to be sports but getting them into groups activities preferably with movement is a good …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/24 01:23 AM
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That men are unhappy single and women can be happy single or in a relationship depending on their individual circumstances. We been knew.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 11:00 PM
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Again varies.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 10:15 PM
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This
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 08:17 PM
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Bahahaha
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 07:56 PM
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You’re right y’all need to organize around actual male issues like draft/suicide rates.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 07:30 PM
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I find most men’s talking points on this pretty useless. The hungry are rarely fed. Y’all are primarily spectators and don’t know what you’re talking about. You’re strategy to sift through women who you aren’t interested in is valid uwu I’m sure all three that express interest will think you’re super smart lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 07:29 PM
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That’s cool you still have to have options for any of this to matter
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 07:27 PM
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Cool again men do this too. You have a complex lmao. This is human behavior not women behavior.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 07:24 PM
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Okay? Do you want a cookie?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 07:22 PM
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I think it’ll vary from person to person. In general women have more to lose in terms of independence when they get married than men do. So it doesn’t shock me that older single women are happier. They can go out whenever they want, have more disposable income, and only have to worry about themselves. Marriage is supposed to be a life long commitment kids are expensive. I’m engaged and want children and sometimes I get the scaries about how I won’t just be able to go to the gym/bar whenever
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 06:31 PM
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Lmao okay mister “ I dont have a complex” that’s a totally rational worldview
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 06:15 PM
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Been on both sides of the equation didn’t develop a complex just added another “fuck no” to my “absolutely not list”. Now I’m engaged. Dating involves getting fucked over. Regardless of gender. You are looking for one person that’s perfect for you, you’re gonna have to sift through some shit to find that
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 06:12 PM
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Past 26. Will not elaborate
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 06:08 PM
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I have a ring lmao. When I was on both sides of this equation I literally just dusted myself off and moved on. It’s more gratifying to leave time wasters on read than it is to develop a complex over it.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 06:07 PM
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So I have an Instagram for my real life and one for the nightlife shit I do. I look significantly hotter in the nightlife one because I’m advertising events/concerts/shows etc. I get booked a lot off of clips I post performing. Social media isn’t real y’all and at this point it’s only useful if you work in an industry that requires self-promotion. My real insta is where my dog pics and silly pics are.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 04:31 PM
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I think your standards should be proportionate to you. Like please meet the standard you’re insisting a partner adhere to. I’ve just had more than one run in with an overweight dude insisting his girlfriend be skinny and if you can pull that off great. Maybe don’t say that preference out loud if you can’t see your feet over your gut If it’s an LTR I’d be realistic about longterm goals. Your wife will likely not be the same size for a while after she gives birth unless you can afford quality chil…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 04:23 PM
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I don’t think these are high standards but: Good relationship with women in his family Has a handle on his insecurities Creatively inclined Funny/charismatic Extroverted Handle on his emotions/good communicator Conflict style that excludes yelling Smart Employed Similar interests Good in bed I’ve dated men in the past that didn’t have these qualities and it was fucking miserable and I’m not doing that again. I’m engaged to someone that has these qualities and I’m the happiest I’ve ever been
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 04:19 PM
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If the majority of you were good in bed it wouldn’t feel like a favor 💕
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 04:09 PM
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Men do the exact same thing. They’re just mad that they are: A.unable to do the same as easily B. The shoe is on the other foot and they don’t like where they fall on that specific individual’s scale None of it is my problem. And given that half of these guys loudly hate women I kind of just shrug. Life’s not fair you break up/fall out with the majority of people you date or hook up with. It’d be great if people were transparent about their intentions but I never expect that from men and they do…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 04:08 PM
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Boo fucking hoo
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 04:02 PM
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Exactly There’s nothing wrong with having preferences. No one wants to hang out with an asshole lol
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/24 02:35 PM
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Incorrect.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/24 02:30 PM
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Nope.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/24 11:13 PM
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Welp 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/24 06:31 PM
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Oh no I shared the perspectives of people in my life with ASD that are successful romantically that multiple people from this sub with the same diagnosis also agreed with I’m a terrible person. You still have no solution or advice for OP.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/24 06:12 PM
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I don’t have an issue lmao. But you clearly do. Who here is triggered you’re the one getting emotional lmao. Which I guess checks out given the everything about you
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/24 05:47 PM
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So here’s the tea if you aren’t vulnerable. Those unspoken feeling build and build until you have a rage flash over something random and then you look psychotic. And that’s going to kill the relationship anyway. The only way to find out if your partner is safe is to be emotionally vulnerable if you don’t like how she’s responding talk about it. If she’s still being awful. Then you’re probably in a toxic relationship and it might be a good idea to end it
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/24 04:16 PM
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Lmao I’m engaged to the love of my life who also played the field. You’d have a high body count if you could get laid. And if you have one I could just as easily talk about your lack of self respect. And how you’ll stick your dick in anything without ever being honest about your feelings or intentions because you just have to settle for whoever will have you. And if you don’t have a high count but have gotten laid I could mock your inexperience. All of the slut shaming shit and sexuality shaming…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/24 03:59 PM
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This is the best take I’ve read. I completely agree. It’s all a death rattle for dudes mad that women don’t rely on them for income and stability anymore so if they want a relationship they have to actually work to attract someone and work to maintain the health of the relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/24 03:39 PM
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Genuinely engaged now it’s the best sex I’ve ever had and he’s everything I’ve wanted in a partner my entire life. I don’t harsh on people who want to wait I get it. But idk I feel like seeing if you’re sexually compatible early cuts through a lot of bullshit. I already want to have sex with you I’ll know your actual intentions once I do. It’s better to find out sooner when I still don’t have expectations
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/24 03:05 PM
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If men weren’t abusive. That’s it that’s the whole enchilada. When y’all say “choose better” you imply that you’re a contender you’re probably not. You imply that she knows you exist she probably doesn’t. You imply that you wouldn’t be your own version of toxic and unbearable but your rhetoric and viewpoints suggest you would be. You are not a better option. Youre the same thing in a different font
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/24 02:33 PM
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Lmao you need to get your head out your ass and get a fucking grip. “Choose better” oh buddy…guess which percentage you’re in lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/24 02:23 PM
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I’ve given up on dialogue and just start roasting lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/24 02:22 PM
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See I used to just decide whether or not he was a contender for an LTR if the sex was good but that’s just me.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/24 01:41 PM
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Men also put women into relationship category vs. casual sex categories. Y’all just get heated because the shoe is on the other foot and every girl you meet isn’t 100% desperate for commitment with every man. Men move through the dating world in pretty much the same way I feel like every post on here is just “women have an easier time having sex and getting into relationships and that makes me mad” meanwhile men do the exact same thing (typically) less successfully. Y’all have autonomy in these …
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/24 01:36 PM
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Oh. So no self respect. They’ll literally stick their dick in anything. Got it.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/24 01:33 PM
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I actually am gonna take that to heart thank you <3
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/24 10:09 PM
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Never said I was against getting approached but it's not really my preference especially since I'm in a relationship lmao. In general, I'm not leaving my home with the intention of meeting a partner. Half of the times I've been approached it was by men I hadn't noticed when I was in the middle of something. It's not disdain it's genuine I don't know you exist we're in a public place you're a stranger you didn't catch my eye. You can learn how to flirt. Social skills are skills for a reason. If a…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/24 10:07 PM
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Alright here's everything you put in your initial comments that made this reply hilarious. "Men are constantly told over and over and over again they have do so better, be better, not be creeps, not stalk women, do a bunch of things to go out of their way to make women feel safer, happier, or whatever. "- Your dumb ass You are already not supposed to stalk women or behave in ways that would creep them out. That's not "doing better" that's "not being a threat". "And then when men ask "ok where is…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/24 09:03 PM
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Well the distinction is I wanted to fuck my fiance and made that clear after he sent signals he was into me. We kept it casual for awhile and then he asked to make it official, 3 years later now we’re engaged Prior to that we were acquaintances he was my roommates friend and was one of their frequent comps to shows they’d perform at (so was I). And we would talk mostly to eachother because we didn’t know a ton of people there. Id only been living with my roommate for a few weeks so the timeline …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/24 08:11 PM
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You’re contradicting yourself. You compared men to children and pets who need behavioral training. You’re infantilizing men by implying that men should be getting praised for not doing shit they shouldn’t have been doing in the first place. It reduces men to the stereotypes many women have had continually reinforced their entire lives by simply being around men. You are responsible for cultivating friendships and connections in your own life so you aren’t alienated. It is not women’s responsibil…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/24 07:56 PM
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I met my fiance through a mutual when I wasn’t looking for a long term partner. Now when I get approached I’m by definition not available for whatever this dude wants. Yeah I’m personally not a fan of cold approaches. Because I don’t go into public hoping strangers talk to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/24 07:41 PM
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Exactly, this is like the girl version of "no fatties". It's just so unnecessary and needlessly mean.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/24 07:27 PM
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Not being in the percentage of "bad men" doesn't mean you deserve a partner. Men do not have endless empathy or support for women hence the cultural backlash towards men from women. The prize for not abusing, demeaning and harassing people is avoiding prison and legal action. You are not a dog. You are not a child. You're an adult. And if adult men need behavioral training in the way pets and children do then you're literally re-enforcing the worldview that men are inherently bad and depraved. H…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/24 07:06 PM
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That's shitbag behavior, and the person in your example is a bad person. But that's why you have an open channel of communication about this even if that means you're the one who initiates it. I'd agree that you owe people an honest conversation about your intentions. I also agree that you're not entitled to a relationship with that person.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/24 05:34 PM
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Define "men doing better" and "going out of your way." Be specific. Because it SOUNDS LIKE you think you're entitled to a girlfriend because you don't harass or use women. And that's not doing better. That's just not being a terrible person. "Not stalking" isn't doing better. Lmao it's not committing a crime that could get you into serious legal trouble
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/24 05:25 PM
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Women existing in public spaces aren't necessarily hoping you approach them or they get approached. This is the disconnect, we're at a bar with friends/grabbing groceries/studying/commuting, we aren't on the prowl for dudes. Everytime I've been approached I wasn't hoping to be approached. Every time I've been approached it was by someone I didn't notice upon entering. Idk why y'all don't get this. We don't approach because we aren't constantly on the prowl for a potential fling or partner. Somet…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/24 05:11 PM
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Lmao just letting yourself get pumped and dumped bc she was pretty. Wow so you would just leap at the chance to be passed around. Lmao no self respect what a slut
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/24 12:16 PM
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Oh no are you still lowkey ugly? Wow look at how making a vague generalization didn’t solve your problem 💕
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/24 12:15 PM
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Those are factors you can’t control 👍 focus on what you can improve on👍 Or whine 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/24 04:19 AM
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Nah I pay my own way, see if I like the guy before putting any expectations on it. I’m in the habit of not giving men the opportunity to claim I owe them something lmao “Personal ATM” guys are usually broke 🤷‍♀️ no shame in that game sorry your wallet isn’t thick enough to catch a gold digger I guess
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/24 04:16 AM
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The majority of dudes on here are extreme outliers. You can’t take them seriously
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/24 04:14 AM
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I’m Engaged to man but yeah those women probably wont reproduce
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/24 03:50 AM
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Welp 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/24 03:48 AM
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DOUBLING DOWN WOW bear sounds great rn
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/24 03:45 AM
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I don’t really give a fuck about your individual dating issues this is a weird tangent that wasn’t the topic of the post. But I typically hook up with a guy before I commit Bummer for you though because men who compare women to cars don’t typically get the luxury of deciding the order of events lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/24 03:43 AM
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Oh a threat! You sure showed us! Men are totally safe to be around and deserve a gold star for not killing us yet 💕💕💕💕💕
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/24 03:41 AM
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I think we need to encourage men to read social cues. Approaching strangers at parties clubs and bars is fine and it’s kind of a dick move to be mean on arrival if you’re approached in a space like that and it’s better to just give a polite no(unless he doesn’t take the no) Things like “don’t approach women wearing headphones” “don’t approach women in the middle of something” “if she’s not engaging she’s not interested” “Grocery stores and public transit is less likely to get a yes” Are what the…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/24 03:38 AM
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Bummer for you I guess 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/24 03:32 AM
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Sounds like you were passed around yourself lmao.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/24 12:54 AM
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Do you know this from experience? Bc you have 0 relationships in your tag
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/24 12:53 AM
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I had a FWB with an autistic person in college. Fully didn’t know til they told me. I guess it depends where you fall on the spectrum but yeah you can get laid with ASD
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/24 12:45 AM
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Idk RP dudes are constantly talking about how much they respect themselves but seem to be constantly having to hide their beliefs and pretend to be a totally different person to get with women that would show open disdain for them if they knew what you actually believed and thought to sleep with them? It genuinely makes no sense to me?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 11:00 PM
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Bahahahahahaha I hope she left and stuck him with the bill lmao. I'm so mean when I need to be I know I'd go nuclear.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 10:56 PM
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OOF you're right I forget these dudes with an "iron clad strategy" to attract women have to lie to get laid because their views are repugnant to women lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 10:30 PM
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Why would I date someone I'm not attracted to? I have the option of dating someone whose values I actually share.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 10:29 PM
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Getting dumped is part of dating and avoidance of that isn't a reason to settle for someone you aren't head over heels for.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 10:14 PM
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If you're lying to get laid you're a predator and a loser.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 10:10 PM
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Few Ways: I used to go on their Instagram click on "following" and search for manosphere creators and peep the meme pages. If it's a dude that approached me in person they're kinda easy to spot because they're hypersensitive and use "females" alot. They also do weird negging shit, triangulation shit, lmao pretty much their version of "cocky asshole" which is what they think women will be attracted to and it's just not my vibe. Or I'll just go "who'd you vote for in 2016"/ "Oh my god did you ____…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 10:08 PM
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You’re accountable for yourself and your actions. No one owes you anything and sometimes things don’t work out the way you want them to. That’s it that’s the whole thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 08:31 PM
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It’s definitely trickier for ND men because so many people expect men to approach first. Honestly I’d put yourself in social situations and just be okay with eating shit for a while. Every ND guy I know that is able to maintain romantic relationships has a story about how they were super awkward but kept trying. They approached whoever was there until someone was down to talk to them. They didn’t linger after getting a no they just got a “okay have a good night”. They’d go away and try to figure…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 08:26 PM
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There’s nothing wrong with being a late bloomer. There are issues with the qualities you posted though but you’re pointing to the wrong issue Men in emotionally incestuous relationships with their mother are being emotionally abused/neglected. I’ve met the stem lords you’re talking about (fuck those guys) but I’ve also met totally normal nice dudes that happen to have careers in stem. Assholes don’t have one career I dated someone who was lovely with ASD I dated someone who was terrible with ASD…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 07:56 PM
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Tbh I lost my virginity to a virgin and it was sweet we were dating we loved eachother but the experience itself wasn’t anything to write home about. It’s only a “bad experience” if you hyperfixate on your lack of experience vs. her experience. Things like this are only a big deal if you make it a big deal. No one’s first time is 100% ideal even if you’re in ideal circumstances. I’m not saying be wreckless and don’t value sex at all. BUT HONESTLY the best sex of your life will be after your firs…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 07:42 PM
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That’s why I dumped his ass when he started acting like a chode 💕 he was not an edgy “bad boy”. He was a 5’7” overweight nerd that was pretty fun to be around for the first year lmao.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 07:33 PM
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You mean my 2000s comedy, Star Wars fanatic into Pokémon boyfriend pursuing a liberal arts degree lmao. Glad you’re alone and struggling. ❤️
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 01:26 PM
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Bahahaha it’s so funny bc men like you stare at ceilings and wonder “why does no one want me” You only view women as potential conquests that girl that “chose wrong” would have never picked you. Not because she doesn’t want a nice guy. Because she doesn’t want you. She isn’t attracted to you. You aren’t entitled to her. You aren’t in the equation at all. You aren’t a contender. If you’re ever a victim of DV you’ll think about this. But we all know men like you are more likely to have victims.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 01:24 PM
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You being a permavirgin isn’t my problem and I don’t want to hear about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 01:21 PM
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Lmao still nope. I just hate men that blame women for their inadequacies. Stare at the ceiling some more bc idc.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 01:20 PM
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Great take ❤️ 10/10
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 11:19 PM
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I told you the difference sorry it hurt your feelings
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 11:16 PM
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Meanwhile cats are great lmao.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 10:34 PM
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Woman in this scenario: I want a man that's taller than me and has a decent job. Man in this scenario: I want a slim, 18 year old virgin that's super agreeable. One is seeking an equal the other isn't. The woman likely doesn't struggle to get attention from the opposite sex and is able to find a partner with these things. (btw height isn't even on my preference list). The man likely can't say the same. Because men that get their "dream girl" have enough tact to not loudly declare "No fatties and…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 10:34 PM
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I agree with you. It's tricky dating if you're a man and struggle socially. But that doesn't mean shy people should only date shy people
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 10:27 PM
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Who traded and bred those women like cattle. A genuine get a real struggle.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 10:21 PM
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You can't go "which gender is treated the best bc it's men. " When there are parts of the world where women can't leave their homes without a male escort. All of the things this post is bitching about are in regards to "men being oppressed" has more to do with class warfare not gender warfare. Btw "more likely to be the victim of a violent crime" statistically your assailant will be a man. "Sexual abuse is automatically their fault" applies to both genders not just men. Even in my own life I've …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 10:18 PM
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Aw did I hurt your feelings when I pointed out that women are still subjugated by men globally because of societal structures created by and for men. Sorry about that lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 08:55 PM
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You aren't entitled to someone's body or time if they don't want to give. Someone else isn't entitled to your body and time if you don't want to give it. In general the only people concerned about your preferences are people who want to date you. If no one wants to date you no one cares about your preferences or wants to hear about them. Especially if they're off putting or disparaging to people that don't fit into whatever weird aesthetic margin you're imposing onto a group of people who don't …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 08:48 PM
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JFC stuff like this legit pisses me off so much. I have an anxiety disorder and CPTSD in part due to unmeet needs in my childhood. I don't speak to my loved ones like this. He isn't special just because his parents didn't hug him enough. His mental illness (or whatever he is diagnosed with) is his responsibility. He is responsible for his actions regardless of mental illness. Legally, socially and personally. I'm literally saying that as someone that had a lot of work to do after leaving home. D…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 08:41 PM
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Who set up society in the first place? You’re complaining about infrastructure that men made.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 08:29 PM
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The difference is social men will still go for you and you likely aren’t phrasing your preference in a way that disparages men that don’t meet that standard. You’re saying “I like social guys” You aren’t saying anything disparaging about socially awkward men you’re just stating a preference. You become an asshole when you’re shitting on anyone that doesn’t fit into your preference.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 08:25 PM
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Idk why yall think it’s suddenly okay to say unforgivable shit to your partner because of “unmet needs” from childhood. Your partner is a shoulder to cry on not a punching bag for your weird emotional outbursts.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 08:02 PM
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You can desire whatever you want. The issue isn’t desire it’s entitlement. You aren’t entitled to anything. You can have six figure income, be tall, be fit and you still aren’t entitled to a life partner or sex. You can have none of those things you’re also not entitled to a life partner or sex. But it’s cringe whenever dudes that look like bridge trolls with trash personalities, no job, no ambitions and no options start shit talking women. It’s just an obvious cope.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 07:47 PM
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This is an insane hypothetical scenario that isn’t realistic to how DV situations escalate. You don’t “choose” an abuser, a pattern of seemingly normal behaviors slowly escalate over time. I couldn’t imagine my ex punching a hole in a wall and blaming me for it the first year of our relationship. He waited until we moved in together and we were isolated to start acting like an asshole lmao. It’s just insane how y’all are constantly coming up with insane scenarios where you’re somehow are the “vi…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 07:35 PM
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I can't resist roasting misogynists. Tis a weakness I fear
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/24 06:38 PM
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Never said that. In this hypothetical scenario women aren't being posed as physical or sexual threats even though a percentage of us are. We compare men to bears because they pose an existential physical threat to us. Men don't do the same because the risk isn't as high for them as it is for us. The biggest threat we pose in OP's mind is emotional abuse. Something men are also capable of and in my *anecdotal* experience do more frequently than women lmao (why do you think daddy issues are a thin…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/24 06:36 PM
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i have PTSD from emotional abuse from men. You are talking to someone with the literal diagnosis you're describing. My abuser was a man. Emotional abuse is not gendered. Men perpetrate it as well lmao. y'all are dense if you don't think your bro is just as capable of emotionally abusing someone. Go hang out with a tree. Genuinely Trees rule.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/24 06:34 PM
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Okay. Men also hurt us emotionally and leave wounds for life. This isn’t gendered you’re just incapable of looking outside your perspective. Emotional insensitivity isn’t gendered And comparing that to sexual and physical violence lmao y’all want to be oppressed so bad
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/24 04:55 PM
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Lmao I'm sorry it hurt your feelings that most women would rather be mauled by a bear than spend time with you
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/24 04:36 PM
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Yeah the question is dumb because emotional insensitivity isn't gendered. I'd rather hang out with a tree than a stranger. I've worked in multiple customer facing roles and he general state of humanity is pretty grim lmao. The question is different but the behavior in question isn't gendered and isn't an apt. comparison lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/24 04:35 PM
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I think the fact that men are compared to bears and women are compared to trees kind of inadvertently confesses that women enmasse don't pose a physical threat to you the way men do to women. A genuinely more appropriate example would legit be "would you rather be alone with a woman, or a lion" or something like that lmao. But then it falls apart because most men wouldn't pick the lion for obvious reasons. Also I've cut two men out of my life for starting arguments and saying things they couldn'…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/24 03:50 PM
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lmao a gentleman
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/24 03:47 PM
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Missed "bitch" pun opportunity tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/24 02:50 PM
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Asian women have body hair what are you talking about
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/24 01:10 PM
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It depends on who you talk to. There’s different schools of thought but bottom line is it’s your body hair and your business no one else’s. The theory I hear most predominantly is the media pressures women to stay young forever and conditions men to prefer young women. Kids don’t have body hair so neither do women in media. 🤷‍♀️ idk if I buy this but I do think the idea that body hair is the “alternative” choice and being shaven is the norm is annoying bc women naturally have body hair. It’s lik…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/24 01:09 PM
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Lmao no one cares king.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/24 08:02 PM
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This took me out lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/24 08:01 PM
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Exactly! The majority of men who get “trapped” were lying about their intentions, came inside her, weren’t wearing a condom, and didn’t want to shell out for Plan B. Meanwhile in parts of the country women can’t get abortions. Tbh all of the guys rallying for this shit can get fucked. Vasectomies are reversible the majority of the time and doctors typically don’t give men the “but what if you want children” runaround. There’s nothing preventing most men from avoiding pregnancy.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/24 02:33 PM
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People have headaches and get busy. It’s a toss up some of those might have been excuses some of those might have been the truth 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/24 08:40 PM
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This example specifically sounds like something actually came up. If they're initiating hangouts at other times and actually following through I think you're good. But idk I'd need a really specific timeline to give you an accurate take. In general someone who is really into you will actually show up and not flake
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/24 08:05 PM
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In the context of relationships: ebbs and flows are normal. There is no set amount of times you’re supposed to be having sex, if you’re in a dry spell you likely need to spice things up/discuss what’s going on that’s caused the ebb In the context of hookup culture: a lot of women are cautious/want to avoid dudes that view sex as inherently degrading for women and aren’t going to respect them for having sex out of the context of a relationship (even though that’s also what the guy wants lol). Als…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/24 05:57 PM
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The issue is people’s attitudes towards sex and women who have it and men who don’t. More than often the people that struggle to function in hookup culture probably shouldn’t be participating for a variety of reasons You’re getting flamed by some of these guys but men that adopt your attitude don’t struggle to get laid
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/24 04:42 PM
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Lmao. Ashton Kutcher’s character in that show is notoriously underwritten and he’s moving the script too fast and as you pointed out it’s fictional. Post a pic of yourself before you come for others ❤️
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/24 04:37 PM
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Aw do you want a cookie for doing a good deed lmao get over yourself
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/24 04:19 PM
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There’s nothing wrong with not helping. It’s annoying when men pretend that they do lol
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/24 03:34 PM
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https://www.eviemagazine.com/post/passport-bros-reportedly-getting-killed-columbia-after-find-women https://sandrarose.com/2024/01/8-passport-bros-killed-in-the-past-3-months/ https://www.bbc.com/news/world-latin-america-68022288 Yeah the crimewave is recent like the "passport bro" ish is the two are related. Love Columbia, be careful using dating apps while there in general no one likes tourists.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/24 08:49 PM
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Colombia is where passport bros are falling for catfishes on dating apps and getting murdered so maybe don't do your weird submissive wife search there lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/24 08:23 PM
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Lmao okay bye. Have fun! I'll even give you a pointer actually learn their language and don't be angry when she's a full person with complex desires and interests and not the stereotype you've created in your mind.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/24 08:17 PM
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The majority of rapists don’t see jail time. Men are at more of a risk of being raped than they are of being falsely accused. The bear thing is a joke it’s been a joke this whole time that never warranted this level of discourse but the complete meltdown from some has been fun to watch 👍 I hope you get picked love
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/24 03:40 PM
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Most aren’t. Short men never shut up about their height and it’s offputting.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/24 02:46 PM
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I think this is a nonissue until Roe V Wade is codified. I also think that when male birth control becomes a thing it'll become even more of a nonissue. In the interim wrap it
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/24 08:38 PM
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The disclosure is a temperature check it's making sure you aren't going to invalidate or be weird about her boundaries
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/24 08:27 PM
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I think it's fair because the answer to half of these "why are women so ______" posts is because of a fear of men stemming from either an assault or a close call.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/24 08:26 PM
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I want abortion to be legal everywhere so we can actually address these issues. Currently it doesn't matter for a decent portion of the country if you want to take responsibility or not. She can't opt out of the pregnancy so you shouldn't be able to either. Glad we're both prochoice.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/24 08:20 PM
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Until birth control and abortion services are available everywhere everyone should be subject to consequences related to unsafe sex. Many men in many parts of the country already are. That's why this argument just makes me roll my eyes.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/24 08:10 PM
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Most rapists never see jail time just fyi
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/24 07:06 PM
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I think that until Roe V Wade is codified and the right to abortion is available in every corner of the world this conversation is stupid. There are parts of the country where women can't opt out of giving birth and men should be just as on the hook for the fallout of stupid politicians as women. Anyway if you don't want kids or STDs you should be wearing a condom EVERY TIME. When male birth control is available take it <3
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/24 02:51 PM
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I dated a dude who lied about his common interests and a huge reason I dumped him was because I hated anime and didn’t want to eat bland tasteless food for the rest of my life. I also didn’t want to have to watch every indie film coming out for the rest of my life by myself bc apparently “Hereditary” is douchey lmao It matters
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/24 02:40 PM
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TBH I was on Bumble at its peak. It was a thin crowd of men. The tea is the majority of men preferred to be on apps where they could message first. The ones that preferred women who messaged first (atleast in my zip code) weren’t worth swiping right on and messaging. And the few conversations I had, it was dudes that were pretty cringe/dull. Idk what other users experiences were but I opted for other platforms where there were more options
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/24 02:29 PM
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Tbh there’s a ton of infighting within any demographic. It’s only conflicting because some women want a more traditional model for their relationship and others don’t. I’d hold out for someone that wants an even split If it’s any consolation the men that want trad wives end up being hella controlling and the divorce is messy and then the woman is years or decades behind in their career. I have never seen a trad wife situation play out well longterm and they usually start over at like 30
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/24 08:39 PM
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Typically if you’ve broken up once it’s not wise to get back together either bc the fallout from the first time becomes ammo in every argument going forward or the reasons you broke up the first time resurface. From what you’ve described it sounds like you and your girlfriend aren’t compatible and she isn’t taking your needs into account at all. Truly I don’t think the relationship is worth salvaging.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/24 07:21 PM
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Yeah reclamation of a term used to demean us rebranded as empowerment. 👍
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/24 02:03 AM
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We get it no one wants you 👍
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/24 01:38 AM
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Bahahahahahahahha what a fucking loser. Your last name is gonna die with you
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/24 01:37 AM
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Lmao why should we care about what men want
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/24 12:34 AM
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I don’t care. 👍
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/24 10:14 PM
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Typically the people calling women bitches are people those women don’t care about lmao. I genuinely don’t care what general populace men think about me. When they try to insult me with shit like “bitch/slut/nonfeminine” All my brain hears is “I’m a loser I’m a loser I’m a loser”
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/24 10:09 PM
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Plenty. It’s not that complicated you’re born into it and get married at like 19-22
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/24 09:19 PM
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Ace? Maybe he’s ace? Idk what’s his personality like? That’s kind of the only reason I could think of. There are plenty of nice dudes that have their shit together but aren’t socially outgoing maybe that’s a component?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/24 08:34 PM
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Biphobia nice 👍
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/24 07:08 PM
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I’m also bisexual I heard the accounts I tend to believe them bc of the fanaticism that Ive encountered with “reformed homosexuals” who went through conversion therapy programs who then embrace and love their actual identities a few months later when it becomes apparent that queerness isn’t something you pray away. “I call out degeneracy” lmao okay Hope that boot tastes yummy king. 👑
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/24 07:04 PM
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It’s not a fantasy I grew up in a house of screaming adults who clearly made eachother miserable. I think neither of them were mature enough to get the full responsibility of being parents or what it took to sustain a marriage. I think that’s the case in the majority of marriages that looked like my parents a I could tell stories give specific anecdotes but bottom line is I grew up in a “Christian home” with Christian parents who waited until marriage and I’d rather stand in front of a truck tha…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/24 06:58 PM
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👀👀👀
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/24 06:33 PM
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Older generations got married younger. I think that's a factor. My parents stayed together "for the kids" but they probably should have gotten a divorce because our homelife was miserable for the first decade of my life lmao. Divorce for a lot of religious couples isn't an option. The ball and chain stuff that I've observed is mostly Gen X/Boomers. But I had a gen X father and sorry but he was kind of an idiot and had a lot of maturing to do in terms of stepping up to the plate emotionally and c…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/24 06:16 PM
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I'm holding onto the hope that all of this is a death rattle. And I do just kind of relentlessly mock shit like this because besides voting, protesting, calling my senators etc. What else can I do? But it is concerning that people feel emboldened to say these things out loud.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/24 05:39 PM
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Harrison used to hook up with men in college so all of this moral posturing is extreme projection. Multiple alums from his college class have detailed accounts of him hooking up with a male cheerleader. We'll see if that's fake but in my experience with vocal opponents of the queer community...it's pretty likely Dude took that Pride line entirely out of the context of the Bible and incorrectly interpreted that scripture. So not only was he being needless divisive, he literally is preaching from …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/24 05:30 PM
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Nah we took classes together he approached me at a party I made it clear what I had the bandwidth for about a week in.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/24 02:40 PM
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That's cool they can take the clear social cue of "not interested" that I'm giving and go talk to another woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/24 01:57 PM
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I don’t think it’s cheating. But if the other party feels they’ve been cheated on then tells everyone else about a guy that strung them along and then slept with someone else, that guy looks like an asshole regardless of whether or not you were in the clear. And if this is like someone in a shared social circle it can fuck up the social circle for you That’s why it’s important to communicate your intentions the moment they’re clear to you and see if those align and if they don’t move on lol
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/24 05:38 AM
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Nope. But you should communicate that you’re looking for something casual and make sure the other party is cool with that
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/24 02:42 AM
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Bisexual here both genders do this. And in both circumstances it’s abuse 👍
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/24 12:38 AM
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I’m sure false accusations happen but it’s not an epidemic. The majority of actual rapists don’t see jailtime
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/24 09:57 PM
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I'm of two minds tbh. Pretty much every situationship I've been in was initiated by me lmao. I was in a period of my life where a long term commitment didn't make sense for the. trajectory my life was on and didn't want to start something that would inevitably end. I had an FWB situation that was super healthy and had no expectation of commitment and it was really great for that phase of my life. I've also had friends go fully off the grid for months over some dude that is just CLEARLY leading t…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/24 05:58 PM
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I try not to catastrophize and only address things that are actually happening. I wouldn't date someone who has an AI girlfriend, but for the same reason I wouldn't date a dude with a waifu pillow. The same way most women don't. This is a population of men I never interact with in real life and don't have interest in. I don't care what they're doing with their free time. Right now AI gfs don't have sentience. If they ever develop sentience we really can't predict how they would or wouldn't react…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/24 04:50 PM
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I don’t think anyone should have to be with someone they don’t want to be with. That’s pretty duh. Right now it’s in the realm of body pillow wife though so 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/24 03:01 PM
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I genuinely don’t care what lonely men who’ve exhausted all their options are doing to stave off that loneliness. I probably wouldn't date a man who has had one, but I likely wouldn't have dated that dude anyway so idgaf. I will care if their synthetic gf becomes sentient and starts expressing that she's unhappy and wants to leave.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/24 02:30 PM
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Yeah if I ever got rude it's cause the dude immediately started harassing me or saying some weird condescending creepy shit like “oh you’re just shy” after I said no and then doesn’t leave. My least favorite is the dude that tries to hide the lead. I’ve grabbed a drink/coffee in between gigs and have used communal spaces (like bars/cafes) to literally catch up on work while waiting to go to the next place. Can’t count how many times a dude has done the “is this seat taken” thing and it’s a commu…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/24 02:08 PM
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I just genuinely don’t care what people who’ve exhausted all other options are doing to stave off loneliness. Genuinely no judgment either way on my end. I doubt this will “replace women” I think it’ll offer some outlet for lonely people that probably isn’t healthy long term but can be a crutch in the interim 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/24 01:18 PM
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I only get rude when they get rude 💁‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/24 12:26 PM
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Bahahahhahahaa
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/24 01:00 AM
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Yeah you don’t get roses for being abused you just get abused
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/24 05:23 PM
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Highly likely bc I’ve been raped 👍 . I can only speak to the experience of being raped by a man but idk if a lot of y’all realize how many dudes do rapey shit. I’ve been raped but I’ve also had multiple close calls. From strangers, friends, coworkers, educators. I pretty much always believe the person who comes forward unless there are multiple witnesses that can counter their claim. I’ve witnessed first hand how this stuff happens and pretty much end up siding with the victim every time because…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/24 02:20 PM
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.08 ACL Depends where you live heres NY though https://www.new-york-lawyers.org/amp/second-degree-coercion-ny-penal-law-135-61.html If you’re asking for these specificities you’re probably trying to figure out what you can get away with bc you’re a predator lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/24 10:35 PM
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This!! I get road rage while walking
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/24 09:11 PM
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That doesn’t shock me at all. lol and these guys always do everything but date within their religious community. The amount of hyper religious dudes that sling into my DMs… they’re all hypocrites
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/24 06:59 PM
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None. 👍
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/24 06:25 PM
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Good men with your worldview don’t exist king. I’m currently living happily ever after.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/24 05:58 PM
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Oh buddy wait until I tell you about condoms. Repression leads to rebellion. Common sense sex education and access to contraceptives is key. The states with abstinence only education policies have higher rates of teen pregnancy. Men that get weird about what women who have no interest in them are doing in their private times are coping with their own lack of a sex life. I’ll pray for you
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/24 05:46 PM
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Can definitely respect that
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/24 05:10 PM
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Dude it’s rough over here lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/24 04:58 PM
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Legally two drunk people having sex is a weird gray area where you “technically” assault eachother. It’s kind of one of those “no one addresses this when it happens because usually neither party feels they were assaulted” things. It only becomes a crime if someone goes to the cops ya feel me? That’s why if you have a legit paranoia around being falsely accused it’s a bad idea to sleep with drunk women even if you’re also drunk.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/24 04:54 PM
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Feel free to give her your number she might call you in the morning lol. But yeah don’t sleep with her while she’s drunk.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/24 04:48 PM
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Hard agree. As long as everyone is honest about their intentions these are no harm no foul situations.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/24 03:50 PM
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I’m engaged king and in my 20s 👍
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/24 03:20 PM
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My honest take is kids have unmonitored internet access when they're still hella impressionable. Throw in an emotional incest mom and a dad that's bad at being a husband and you have a generation of men that are getting their model for relationships/masculinity from grifter misogynists on the internet who's income depends on men feeling lost and struggling to get women. There are few decent positive examples of masculinity in public media but ya know I'm not a man and men don't typically listen …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/24 03:06 PM
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My partner is 9 years older than me and our relationship is amazing. We met when I was 26 though. We wouldn't have been able to maintain anything beyond a hookup had we met three years prior. Idk I think a lot of y'all don't experience/want to experience this but your early 20s (like 20-25) are all about actually figuring out what you want in life. You aren't as financially stable, you're life plan isn't set in stone. I changed industries three times in 5 years bc of the economy and lockdown and…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/24 02:55 PM
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Religious dudes always talk the most shit and know the least about reality hard pass I get it.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/24 02:43 PM
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Dealbreakers: religious, conservative, republican, too into cars,aggressive (like yells profanities at the television and is angry about the outcome of games for way too long) sports enthusiast. I don't do yelling conflict management styles, we're grownups.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/24 02:42 PM
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We are discussing literal legal definitions my guy. Legally someone over the legal limit cannot legally consent. Plenty of people have drunk sex and oftentimes no one goes to jail no one is traumatized the two parties don't view what happened as assault. BUT LEGALLY if someone was inebriated at the time of intercourse they are LEGALLY able to call that assault because they couldn't LEGALLY consent. Coercion is LEGALLY a form of sexual assault. Plenty of people do it and get away with it. It's ha…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/24 02:31 PM
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I completely agree. Why would you want to sleep with someone that isn't absolutely into it, and completely clear headed especially if you have a phobia about false accusations. Pressuring/relying on substances to get laid might work and you might get a way with it. But you're playing with fire legally.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/24 02:19 PM
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Men never listen to women it’s a sounding board for them to go “but actually” Tbh I kinda just come on here to see how bad men have gotten. Never been disappointed
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/24 12:53 PM
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But she’s still in school. Y’all are so fucking gross lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/24 12:52 PM
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Because y’all have an inherently problematic view of sex which is why no one will fuck you to begin with
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/24 12:24 PM
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Sounds like they didn’t have active fathers 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/24 12:24 PM
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Better that than an old loser wasting her time
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/24 12:23 PM
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An inebriated person cannot legally consent 👍 that doesn’t mean she is going to report you and she’s going to go to jail. It means LEGALLY she can go to the police and use inebriation in her report 💁‍♀️ (so can you btw)
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/24 01:47 AM
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Yeah I’m speaking literally and that’s also not gendered a man I know was raped this way
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/24 01:47 AM
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Read David Deida he has genuinely helpful advice on sexual polarity. But in general it’s not my job to teach men how to function. Y’all don’t listen to us anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/24 01:46 AM
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An inebriated person cannot legally consent that is legally rape. I am speaking literally.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/24 01:44 AM
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Tea
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/24 08:58 PM
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Don’t have sex with women under the influence(this is legally rape) Don’t have sex without enthusiastic consent. (Even if this means verbally asking if something is okay or not) Take the first no don’t keep pushing (this is coercion) Take any indication of hesitation as a no. There is not a massive false accusation epidemic that’s in your brain. Dudes blindsided by accusations 9 times out of 10 probably did do something they shouldn’t have done. The ones that genuinely were falsely accused get o…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/24 08:55 PM
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They're trapping a good portion of their audience in a self fulfilling prophecy of failing at relationships scape goating women and going back to them. My heart breaks for these socially awkward middle school boys who fell down the Tatesphere specifically. I taught a few of them and the girls in their grade hated them. Kids that were already going to struggle socially because of general awkward teen things are now going to be maligned by their peers who find out they're on the manosphere. It's g…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/24 08:07 PM
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You could literally say the same for men. Older dudes dating 23 year olds are contributing to that baggage. A 25 year old has been in the workforce for several years, can legally rent a car, is likely paying the majority if not all of her bills, and has the appropriate amount of life experience to be dating someone who has had a longer career. I know 23 year olds still in college going to frat parties. No one wants a 40 year old man at their frat party lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/24 08:04 PM
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I agree I think all of these influencers are more self-aware than anyone is giving them credit for.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/24 07:57 PM
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The same reason you side eye a junior in high school hanging out with an 8th grader. You’re likely not age appropriate company and people your age think you’re weird. 👍 Every under 25 year old girl I know who dated someone 10+ years older than them typically breaks up with them within 2 years and the dude ended up being wildly immature for his age, controlling, condescending and ended up not actually having his shit together and relying on their lack of world experience to avoid getting it toget…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/24 07:33 PM
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If you’re pursuing a committed LTR yes. I’d say anything over 23/24 is fair game for casual sex. Dating someone who is less than a year into the real world as someone with mortgage is mid life crisis behavior at best, intentionally seeking out a relationship with a power imbalance at worst. Both scenarios can be detrimental to the younger party. Why are y’all so opposed to dating someone who can rent a car on their own lmao.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/24 07:05 PM
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It’s delusional to think there’s nothing weird about a 30 year old having to sneak his 20 year old girlfriend into a bar. Dudes who get side eyed for this deserve it ❤️
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/24 06:57 PM
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Every 23 year old I know who has dated someone a decade older than her deeply regretted it. Bc they’re losers who typically are emotionally undeveloped. They get hella controlling and resent them for acting 23. Just date a 25 year old lmao (but that’s too hard bc a 25 year old has an actual idea of her worth) why do y’all want to get as close as you can to literal highschooler why do yall fetishize people’s age it’s gross.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/24 06:29 PM
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Yeah bc they want someone impressionable yikes behavior
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/24 06:28 PM
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He is also according to several blind items likely closeted. 👍
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/24 06:17 PM
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I do think he’s a loser lmao. Have you read the blind items about him in bed. There’s a reason he’s a meme. I had a friend that rubbed shoulders with him at an event and he tried to get him to pay for his Uber this was while he was blacked out on god knows what. Celebrities don’t live in reality and are typically a little weird you interact with the persona not the person 👍
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/24 06:15 PM
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25 is the age where my eye brow doesn’t raise at an age gap. Bc of the reasons everyone else has pointed out. If a 40 year old is dating someone younger than that and I wonder what’s wrong with them that’s preventing them from finding a partner in a similar phase of life.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/24 06:11 PM
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Yeah I fully have no empathy for people who do this. You’re wasting everyone’s time.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/24 05:40 PM
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40 year olds have no business hitting on -interns/tas -college students -service industry workers at their workplace. Weirdo behavior, loser behavior, “the women my age know I’m a loser” behavior. I can buy you met and hook-upped with a 23 year old you met at a bar, genuinely think that’s fine/whatever. But Cultivating a meaningful relationship not focused on fetishizing her youth and taking advantage of her still impressionable mind… I’m skeptical bb.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/24 05:37 PM
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Fringe perspective but figured I'd share anyway I grew up in purity culture with the intention of waiting til marriage and was raped before I could get there. In general pedestalizing virginity is a bad idea. Communities that push this tend to put the weight of "waiting" on women when men are significantly more likely to initiate sex than women are. And the way women are treated within these communities if they don't wait is worse than the way men are treated. Because of this women sexually abus…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/24 04:52 PM
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Any younger than that and I start to wonder what's wrong with the dude
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/24 04:21 PM
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I think a lot of men lie about things like personal interests and experiences. I think they don't think ahead in the future where if you say for example you like dancing, your girlfriend is going to want to go dancing with you, if you lie and say you love country music it's going to be disorienting for her when you're suddenly frustrated that your partner is playing country music while you're cooking. I caught my ex in multiple lies 2 years in that he'd told in the beginning of the relationship …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/24 04:14 PM
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Bahahahahahahaha I love that every reply is just doubling down lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/24 04:58 PM
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Die alone then
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/24 04:57 PM
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Yeah obvi y'all suck
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 10:14 PM
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Y'all are so incapable of comprehending finding love I feel sorry for you
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 08:52 PM
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It’s been a minute but I remember reading at certain points in Ancient Greece women were literally for procreation only and the men really were just fucking eachother all the time. Don’t quote me on that though lol
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 07:47 PM
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“Historical men hate women” “Actually when you put these views into the context of the period/“ “I was just joking OH MY GOD” Lmao they’re all about facts until it doesn’t support their worldview
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 07:44 PM
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omg I love that this bit has escalated to men presenting detailed research about bear attacks lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 07:38 PM
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Tbh in general we need to take everything written by people that owned slaves and didn’t know you had to wash your hands after shitting with a grain of salt
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 07:35 PM
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lmao I kinda just like watching men pull up stats about bear attacks in parks and go "SEE SEE" v funny 10/10
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 06:53 PM
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Well that’s why going against societal norms (like getting married) might require trade off or sacrifice. So many people with their full chest are actually okay with the idea of being single forever rather than compromising on what they ultimately want out of their relationship. They either find someone with aligning views, stay single or compromise. Again neither outcome is bad that’s just the trade off. I’d argue most people don’t actually know which they’d do until they’re in the situation or…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 06:50 PM
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These aren't problems though if you're pursuing people with aligning interests and know what you want. There’s nothing wrong with either option just seek out people that are also pursuing those things.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 06:41 PM
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These are all personal decisions. If you don't want to get married you don't have to get married. If you want to pursue casual flings you can pursue casual flings. If you want an LTR without marriage you can look for someone whose interests align with yours. You can opt in and out of either both paths have different rewards and risks attached. Both mean potentially gaining and losing something. If you think getting married is too risky don't get married, done problem solved.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 06:05 PM
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If I can track it down it's on a very broken Surface Pro that I wasn't backed up lol
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 04:28 PM
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Lmao people are always "clearly joking" after they've been caught talking out their ass you're embarrassing yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 04:27 PM
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A. I'm bisexual. And literally did a thesis piece on how Wilde's sexuality, multiple scandals and internalized shame with his own sexuality appear in his work. B. Oscar Wilde's relationship with his sexuality and the women around him is deeply complex and largely informed by the world around him. He was a man quite literally hurt by traditional patriarchal norms and had lingering shame of his sexuality. Nearly every man on this lists view of women is informed by the way their specific society wa…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 04:13 PM
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Oscar Wilde a famously gay man whose wife was and knew she was a beard that pursued age gap relationships that were problematic even in the 1800s lmao. That sodomy trial had more to do with the age of his lover than the nature of their affair. His view of women was defined by his lack of sexual interest in them and the societal pressure to still pursue them, marry, and have children with them, obviously there'd be some resentment (this is an example of how heteronormative patriarchal structures …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 03:55 PM
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That's the best outcome for all parties lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 02:47 PM
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"I don't date people based on their opinions and beliefs"- lmao yeah your basis for attraction and standards for a partner are vapid.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 02:46 PM
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No one wants to date you anyway sooooooo
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 02:37 PM
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I would not be compatible with someone who voted for Trump. I don't have the patience or bandwidth. Our views are too different, there's no basis for attraction there for me lmao. Idk why y'all get offended I doubt you'd want to date me based on my social beliefs lmao.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 02:36 PM
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Welp 🤷‍♀️ sounds like you need to examine your views compromise on them or stay single
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 04:43 AM
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I know a dude who hooked up with a girl he met at a club and later found out she had a boyfriend (not cool on her part not to disclose that tbh). Her reason was “he thinks I’m doing it anyway” So idk constantly accusing someone of doing something can expedite things. Idk if she would’ve done that anyway but I’m sure getting constantly grilled with accusations wasn’t helping shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/24 11:43 PM
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Again big 🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/24 11:33 PM
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You can’t win either way tbh. Holding out for wealthy men is “gold digging” in this neighborhood. Lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/24 08:35 PM
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And then get dumped when you show your ass. Congrats on tricking someone to fuck you.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/24 08:22 PM
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You’re being needlessly pedantic. If you need more specificity global politics/politics that directly affect your day to day life. Abortion, marriage equality, immigration, which politicians you support, your stance on Israel and Palestine, gun laws, your stance on privatized healthcare, your stance on gender affirming care, are sociopolitical issues for example that could come up down the line and could negatively impact your relationship in the long run if you don’t align. (For example, What i…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/24 07:36 PM
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For you 👍 not for everyone else. Never had issues finding dates that share my beliefs or passing on partners who don’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/24 07:04 PM
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All of it. It all ends up mattering. Social issues are political issues. Post 2016 I made a point of asking who they voted for before meeting.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/24 06:16 PM
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You should. I used to vet their social medias before meeting in person and ghosted if there was something I didn't like.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/24 06:04 PM
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Also in NY, Yeah that’s a temperature check. Well y’all aren’t compatible find someone else plenty of fish in the sea. I typically bring up my political/social views early too (probably not in this way). I don't believe in wasting time on stuff that isn't going to work longterm different beliefs is a hard no for some women
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/24 05:53 PM
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Probably a Temperature check. Like deciding whether or not they want a third. Edit: read the full post and omg was this like a joke or was she serious. “Pay for the sins of your brothers” was sarcastic right?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/24 05:34 PM
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I live in America here are the stats: average U.S. annual salary in Q4 of 2023 was $59,384 Average cost of daycare in US per month 1300 The average monthly grocery bill of a family of three in the US is $902 Giving birth costs $18,865 on average, including pregnancy, delivery and postpartum care with insurance 30k without (many people get laid off after getting pregnant so that means no insurance) The average rent in the United States is $1,515/month (where I live that’d be with roommates) The a…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/24 04:18 PM
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Idk how affective it’ll be but incentivizing having children with things like paternity leave and labor reforms is atleast progress. So many people opt out of having kids bc it’s not financially sustainable and not worth it considering with the way our work culture is structured you barely see them anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/24 03:49 PM
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And that shit personality 🥲 bummer that no one gives a shit lmao.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/24 03:14 PM
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Lmao it’s so funny how aggressively y’all compensate. No one wants or cares to hear about your conquests. Sorry you were ugly as a child and have made that your entire identity.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/24 03:04 PM
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Courting was a thing in my church community. Super weird tbh. Not a fan. I just have no positive examples of the trad lifestyle in my life. I grew up around people that waited until marriage and married young and attempted to follow a version of the model you described and it just isn’t reality.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/24 03:12 AM
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Im in an LTR so nothing would really change outside of my regular routine
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/24 03:06 AM
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There is nothing wrong with wanting casual sex and not settling down. Clear communication about your intentions is key. Different strokes for different folks. Y’all make this stuff into moral conundrums and it’s really just not that serious
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/24 02:57 AM
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Listen if the first one is perfect by all means. But I know so many women that put up with shit that I have kicked men to the curb for. They don’t know their birthday, they tell these “endearing stories” that paint their partners in a terrible light, minimizing their partners, tearing them down in public dudes not even touching the bare minimum and that's just what we see in public who knows what's happening in private. I’ve been that girl and it’s just not worth it. I’d rather date around than …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/24 02:37 AM
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Nah my fiancé also played the field. So we both had our cakes and ate them too by your metrics👍 I was never planning on being married before 30. My Christian friends that got married at 22 are now divorced. You can’t get by on weaponized incompetence, poor hygiene, and acting like going to the gym is a substitute for a personality anymore. No one wants to play mommy to a man child. Cry about it I guess
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/24 02:32 AM
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Aw I love when sad boys that constantly call for stats can’t handle stats. Here’s another one, 92% of violent crimes are committed by men.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 08:46 PM
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Aw someone’s emotional lmao. Okay fam stay in the Bible Belt I guess
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 08:03 PM
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These people probably wouldn’t have cheated if they had more sexual experience and a clearer idea of what they wanted in their partner. You’re literally illustrating how monogamy doesn’t guarantee morality. Men lead in infidelity rates btw https://discreetinvestigations.ca/infidelity-statistics-who-cheats-more-men-or-women/#:~:text=According%20to%20the%20General%20Social,their%20partner%20while%20still%20married. https://www.choosingtherapy.com/who-cheats-more-men-or-women/ https://ifstudies.org…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 08:02 PM
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yeah most men have no impulse control this is not news lmao. That’s why the vast majority of men who are moralists have the gnarliest skeletons in their closet.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 07:39 PM
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Yeah you have weird views on sex and sexuality and think your approach to sex has to be the same as everyone else’s. Having sex isn’t comparable to smoking and drinking. Lmao. Having casual sex isn’t a big deal as long as everyone is consenting and proper protections are in place. Acting like being sexually active is comparable to destructive behaviors is just asinine lmao It’s cool that you want to wait until marriage. People who care about other people’s sex lives are usually losers who want t…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 07:32 PM
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Yeah those men struggle to maintain LTRs. 🤷‍♀️ a lot of the pitfalls I see men fumble into is doing a lot in the beginning than dropping it once you’re committed or have been together a long time. Also presenting a false version of themselves (like pretending to like things you don’t actually like) I mean I kinda don’t care about relationship history unless you were an abuser or something but that’s just me.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 06:45 PM
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No one needs to have sex with a lot of people and no one needs to be abstinent. It’s personal preference. Anyone with a hard opinion in either direction has some weird sexual ish going on. I played the field now I’m in a committed relationship with someone who also played the field. I tend to find the slutshamers are the ones that struggle to get laid/find companionship. I tend to find the prude shamers are the ones who regret their past decisions. Both groups need to get a fucking grip and quit…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 06:25 PM
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You’re in trouble north of 25. I’d aim to lose it before you leave college. I wouldn’t stress if it doesn’t happen. In the interim all of the information on how to be “good in bed” is widely available. Sex is a skill you can develop. In person practice is going to be the most valuable but you don’t have to go in totally blind.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 06:22 PM
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I dated a guy that fully told me “ I like that you’re beautiful but don’t think you’re beautiful” like fully told me my body dysmorphia was sexy lmao Anyway we broke up.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 06:17 PM
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Lmao if you’re against promiscuous anyone you probably have a weird bland boring sex life and are concerning yourself with other people’s business. Normal people have their preferences and personal beliefs and don’t push that onto others. You can be abstinent and not be a loser
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 06:00 PM
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I don’t see an issue with it as long as they’re not fetishizing the culture of the person they’re pursuing.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 05:59 PM
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You literally listed skin care products as makeup. Lmao. Go dust that collection of fugly hats you wear to cover your receding hairline.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 05:16 PM
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Oh my god y’all make hooking up so dramatic. One person is bored and horny, another person is bored and horny. So they have sex. That’s it that’s the whole enchilada. Any emotional mess that happens inbetween is because one party lied or withheld their real intentions. Anyone that has weird hangups about casual sex shouldn’t be having casual sex. Anyone who has weird views of casual sex shouldn’t be having sex outside of the context of a relationship. If you don’t know if you’re in a relationshi…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 05:07 PM
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I think dating a variety of people helps you get an idea of what you want and don't want in a partner. Committing when you're young and immediately isn't wise for either gender. Nearly all of the women in my family/women from the religious community I used to be a part of got stuck with dud dudes and are looking at me lopsided bc I'm engaged to a thoughtful man, with a great job and aligning views. I get an egalitarian split of household chores, thoughtful acts of kindness, and shared activities…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 04:54 PM
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I agree. Decenter romantic relationships king then you'll actually be able to sus out what/who is or isn't right for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 04:44 PM
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Being desirable and approached isn't gendered. Men do get approached just not as frequently. If the roles were reversed the majority of dudes complaining about this STILL wouldn't get approached. The same way y'all don't approach women you aren't attracted to. Duh
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 04:43 PM
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In general I avoid republicans/prolifers/conservatives/ religious people (like actually religious/no sex til marriage / women should cover up religious) any dude that is following these bro podcasts is an automatic no. Voted for Trump, no. Gets super “not all men” about everything. Any outstanding rude opinions on women’s choice of attire/ makeup etc gives me a big ick tbh. You can have a preference I don’t need to hear what a slut someone is bc you can see her belly button lmao. It’s not really…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/24 08:59 PM
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Tbh when I was single I found the selection on Bumble pretty thin. Just legit not as many dudes on there lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/24 08:05 PM
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You can decide not to approach women and wait for them to come to you. No one is forcing you to approach women. But you can't force people to approach you. Women do approach men. It doesn't happen as frequently but it does happen. However if a man has never been approached, I doubt that would suddenly change if there was a mass role reversal where women initiated more often than not. So again, you have to be approached to reject lol
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/24 07:53 PM
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Oh bear then
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/24 05:49 PM
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In order to do the rejecting someone has to approach you king. Equality has nothing to do with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/24 04:45 PM
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No one is forcing you to settle.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/24 03:54 PM
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Tbh you gotta just tune dudes like this out. These dudes are typically fixating on one girl who is miles out of their league, they don't go out frequently and when they do they pick like one girl on the floor and when she says no collapse into a doom spiral of self-loathing. There is such a deep level of self-hatred that inhabits men with these worldviews that they genuinely believe the best they can hope for is to be settled for. They'll figure out that makes things worse on their own we don't …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/24 03:53 PM
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I'll message you
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/24 03:11 PM
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Hey fam, I worked in childcare for many years. We had two instances of child abuse at our site. Both perpetrators were men.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/24 02:58 PM
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I don't message first because I don't have to, when I was single and on Bumble the crowd was a bit thinner in terms of what I was looking for and when I did use apps I gravitated towards the ones that everyone was on. I don't approach because I don't have to. All I have to do is sit down for 10 minutes by myself and someone will approach/try to start a conversation with me. On the rare occasions I have approached I haven't been rejected/if I was I literally don't remember it (bc ya know it's not…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/24 02:56 PM
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Men used to do this to me and I find they stop when you tell them to mind their own fucking business.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/24 02:47 PM
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TBH I think I need more info to have an accurate take, but I have a few thoughts. When I was in an abusive relationship I found out all of the things that my ex was doing that went "above and beyond" were part of his mask which had slowly fallen off over time and were dropped altogether when we had moved in together. Love bombing is a big thing they tell you to look out for early in relationships. Idk maybe they mistook your respect for love bombing and that was the trigger. (I almost did this w…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/24 02:38 PM
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Dude we're currently cutting off a dude that was caught with the worst thing imaginable on his hard drive. ALL he posts about rn is Palestine
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 10:34 PM
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Would you be shocked if I tell you that narcissists can be both genders lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 10:33 PM
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Yes. Particularly if you're on dating apps. Women will look you up to make sure you are real/not a catfish. I'm echoing what everyone else said, but if I can't find any socials I fully think you're a catfish/hiding something
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 08:54 PM
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When I was in counseling for PTSD I really struggled with a fear of men and being approached by them was genuinely rage-inducing/scary for about a year, particularly if they didn't take the no with grace lol. It's a phase you have to get out of, if for no other reason than men shouldn't get to have this level of control over you, you're actively feeding your trauma if you refuse to break out of the "fear/anger" cycle.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 08:48 PM
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The birth rate is declining bc high healthcare costs stagnated wages and rising cost of living. Anti natalists typically cite climate change for why they aren’t having kids. Most of us won’t live to retirement age regardless👍 and if you want a baby so bad hire a surrogate. Korea Patriarchy 101 shit below https://www.koreasociety.org/images/pdf/KoreanStudies/Monographs_GeneralReading/GettingtoKnowKorea/GTKK%206%20Boo%20Jin%20Park%20Patriarchy%20In%20Korean%20Society.pdf scroll up for the one chil…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/24 05:03 AM
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Women don’t want abusers and rapists around. If you don’t fall into either category no one is talking to you. If you defend men in those categories we legit don’t want you around. Hope that clears things up
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/24 04:57 AM
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YES lmao the bear thing is a joke asking for stats is a joke. Y’all are posting/looking up skewed stats to prove women are more likely to be killed by a bear than a man lmao. This has gotten to your heads so much that y’all are twisting your brains into pretzels bc you can’t stand the idea that a small portion of women just don’t wanna fuck with men rn lmao. Trying to literally “well actually” a fucking hypothetical scenario. Also “why go against god” my brother in Christ I live in a studio apar…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/24 04:51 AM
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I’d rather get mauled by a bear than raped again lmao. The way y’all are so triggered over a joke on TikTok. It’s hilarious. Bear over you boo
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/24 04:37 AM
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Again THE BIRTH RATE IS LOW BC OF ONE CHILD PROPAGANDA. Not 4b. There are literally less women in Korea bc of one child. DV rape and sexual violence don’t always lead to homicide and DV and rape are trivialized there the same way they are here. Meaning underreported. Korea is significantly more patriarchal than here. Some women opted not to participate. In a country where men outnumber women that’s a big “fuck you” no matter what the size of the movement is. (Even though OP is from the West he’s…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/24 04:27 AM
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Oh bears rape human women now?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/24 04:26 AM
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Babes no one wants you💕
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/24 12:06 AM
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🤷‍♀️ okay so we should have compulsory military service here then? I don’t like drafts dude
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/24 12:05 AM
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I’d incentivize joining the army with career advancement opportunities education opportunities, housing programs and competitive pay 👍
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 10:50 PM
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It’s either a rapist or a dude like you? Alone. 👍
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 10:49 PM
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What are the bear rape stats?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 09:59 PM
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Okay so are you for the draft
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 09:55 PM
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Not a fan at of mandated service in the armed forces in any country bc it’s a violation of an individual’s bodily autonomy 👍
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 09:54 PM
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So yay 4b
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 09:51 PM
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Oh no and is there a draft being enacted?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 09:44 PM
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So do y’all hate selected services or not what is your deal lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 09:02 PM
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No we haven’t had a “world war” since world war 2. Here’s a list of the wars we’ve been in since the 40s: The Korean War Vietnam War Gulf War War on Terror It’s cool that you’re pro draft. I’m not though. 👍
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 08:55 PM
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Never posted these guys before lol pretty shocked that I couldn’t find any men’s groups that are advocating against the draft. At present it looks like that group of college feminists are the only ones that give a shit about this Almost like this is a nonissue y’all only taut out as a “gotcha” and not something that’s had any actual impact on your lives
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 08:47 PM
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We don’t need a draft. Because people voluntarily join the armed services. Many because it’s a track to higher education and job security. We’ve been protecting ourselves without a draft for over 70 years.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 08:43 PM
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That’s where I land. It’s so incentivized in the US that this is a nonissue men taut out to shit on feminism and nothing else.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 08:38 PM
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Why do you think it’s dropping? From what I’ve observed: They’re in a significantly more patriarchal country than we are in the west. Due to the one child propaganda there are now significantly more men than women. (So already less options than straight men here have) There is significantly more gender based violence in Korea than there is here. In response many women have decided to not get married because marrying and having kids in Korea is more limiting and in many cases dangerous than it is…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 08:35 PM
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You clearly do fam. Domestic violence, rape and gender based crimes are why 4b is a thing in Korea
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 08:23 PM
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We haven’t had a draft since the 60s because the government incentivized joining the military. If you actually like your country you’re proud of it and want to protect it when it’s under attack. If you’re in a shitty country in a meaningless war that only lines rich people’s pockets no one wants to participate and then you need the draft.👍
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 08:22 PM
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I think the draft should be abolished 👍 no one should have to join the military if they don’t want to 👍
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 08:18 PM
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The issue is domestic violence and gender based violence with no intervention so women are turning away. It’s pretty cut and dry tbh.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 08:17 PM
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https://www.nippon.com/en/in-depth/d00915/ “have one child and raise it well” <image> Google is free my guy
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 08:09 PM
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YEP
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 08:06 PM
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Are y’all quoting Dark Knight rn
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 08:05 PM
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https://nnomy.org/index.php/en/content_page/item/931-feminists-against-the-draft.html idk dude here’s a Feminist group specifically working to abolish the draft Email them and ask. https://repository.library.georgetown.edu/handle/10822/1051355#:~:text=Although%20women%20were%20immune%20from,from%20all%20walks%20of%20life. Here’s an article about their hand in anti draft activism in Vietnam. This is all energy you could be spending contacting your congressman and telling him you oppose the draft
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 08:01 PM
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I heard Israel does something similar but men and women have to do it. Yeah fucked. No one should have to join the military
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 07:57 PM
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Yeah which is why women in Korea aren’t getting married or associating with men
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 07:55 PM
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Oh I’m a dumbass I thought we were talking about the US lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 07:49 PM
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Okay so “yay 4b” then
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 07:48 PM
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Yeah there hasn’t been a draft since the 60s because it’s wildly unpopular and the military uses educational incentives to get people to join now. Lmao y’all want to be victims so bad. Men only ever bitch about the draft when they want to dunk on feminism. Meanwhile in the 60s feminists were the loudest opposers.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 07:47 PM
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And feminists oppose that. This is an actual men’s rights issue. Y’all should mobilize around getting rid of the draft and leave us alone lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 07:41 PM
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So you could also stay away from women to avoid that reliance lol
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 07:39 PM
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More gender based violence and less sex?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 07:36 PM
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Feminists oppose the draft actually that was a cornerstone of the feminist movement during Vietnam. 👍
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 07:36 PM
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Lmao. So the one child policy in Korea killed the birth rate. 4B came about bc DV, sexual violence and gender based violence is significantly higher in Korea than it is in Europe and in the US. 4b in the US is pretty much a TikTok trend, that so far is just “I’m not dating right now because I don’t like men”. Okay? Is that really soul crushing for you? That some women don’t like you? Is that really the end of the world? Like why are y’all so obsessed? So are you excited because you’re going to g…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 07:31 PM
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Every time I show a post from this sub to my boyfriend the first thing out of his mouth is how he got good at dating when he went out every night
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/24 08:20 PM
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I feel like it’s hard to give decent advice via Reddit bc idk what you look/sound like irl. So you’re left with pointers that are kinda “duh” Like if you aren’t going out at all your chances of meeting people will be smaller. If your dating profile is all group shots no one will swipe right on you etc. But if I have a conversation with you and you’re talking over me/ have a really patchy beard/ are coming on way too strong that’s something tangible to go off of
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/24 08:17 PM
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I don’t lie about that stuff to weed out the losers tbh.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/24 03:28 PM
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Finding one took a while but I’ve been enjoying it
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/24 03:28 PM
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Your entire argument is made in bad faith. I’m sending screenshots of this to the GC and we’re making fun of you. Lmao you’re the one throwing a hissy fit (v funny one too)
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 02:26 PM
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Lmao who is triggered. Adults have sex men are just as likely to be “pumped and dumped” but y’all wouldn’t know about that lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 12:45 PM
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That all of this bitching about women sleeping around is a projection of your own lack of options.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/24 06:42 PM
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3 is way more common than y’all think it’s just rare for you
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/24 05:58 PM
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It's all projection of their own insecurities. It's also p pathetic
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 11:06 AM
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Regional nonunion gig. Cast housing is standard. Many regional theaters literally have housing onsite. Do you think everyone who works in entertainment has security? The stereotype is "starving artist" for a reason. It's hilarious how men have opinions about industries they don't work in. And how they feel like they need to defend a predator they've never met. Insane behavior.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 10:55 AM
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You would think that but alas my life experience begs to differ.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 10:10 PM
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I kicked him out and was pretty firm. IDK what he thought was going to happen I was literally asleep. I avoid cast housing and regional gigs unless I know everyone REALLY well. It's so tricky to deal with this when there's no HR and the dude that tried to pull this is technically part of the creative team. Fully didn't come to terms with what would have happened if I hadn't woken up/ handled it differently until months later. We'd all been drinking and fully if I'd been passed out passed out I t…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 09:08 PM
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I used to work as an actress which meant cast housing and after a close call with SA I told my mom a coworker came into my room at the casthouse we were at and tried to hookup with me after we'd all gone to sleep. I woke up and he was just IN MY BED (I kicked him out). My mom asked me if I was in my pajamas. In my bedroom. Where you wear pajamas.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 09:03 PM
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The belief that ugly men don't have the capacity to be awful is a cope. Even now your victim complex is so intense that you're literally hurling manosphere rhetoric at me and going "But guys like me are safe" Plenty of dudes that can't get a date or have weird complexes around their perceived flaws develop a weird victim complex and hatred for women. That they then project onto the women into their lives. My rapist was a 5'3" "nice guy" FYI
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 08:04 PM
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yeah to be totally forreal the guys that don't have issues dating/getting attention from women it's the ones that struggle who seem to hate us.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 07:32 PM
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I'm currently dating a perfect man y'all be safe though <3
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 07:28 PM
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LMAO okay vroom vroom "I man" lmao. You're the male equivalent of a Swiftie,
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 07:17 PM
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It's not ironic. One puts you on a registry the other doesn't. One is clothing/ cosmetic surgery the other is legally a sex crime. A woman wearing makeup isn't lying to you you're just an idiot that can't tell when someone has painted their face. I guess you're such a loser you have to trick women into sleeping with you. Sad.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 07:14 PM
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Well I'd love to know where those 10 men were EVERY TIME this has happened to me. It's cute how you think life is a superhero movie
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 06:40 PM
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If they had a conversation about "what they were" no harm no foul. I can see how finding out your friend is partying with your FWB would be kind of a shock (If he literally didn't know they were friends idk). When I had a situation like this we literally disclosed everything to eachother to keep us both safe and healthy. Honestly if either party is getting jealous/getting possessive they probably shouldn't be in a dynamic like this. If they never had a discussion about boundaries/what they were …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 06:34 PM
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What's the gender of the leaders causing global sufferings for women all over the world?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 06:28 PM
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Genuinely it's comical how stupid these dudes are
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 06:26 PM
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I want to hear her side of the story lmao. How old was he and how old was she
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 06:24 PM
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I think if you're going to assert that men "run the world infrastructure in essentially every facet of life and civilization was a male endeavor. " then by your own logic you're culpable for everything wrong with the world. I could get into how men prevented women from ascending to same social status as men for centuries but HONESTLY. It's funnier to just watch y'all meltdown over stupid cope hypotheticals with no basis in reality where by your own logic you're still the bad guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 06:21 PM
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CAP you're leaving something out lmao with this post....no way
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 06:16 PM
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Then I guess men are lowkey losers
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 06:13 PM
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lmao I'm not arguing morality. Having sex while wearing spanx, bras, and makeup isn't classified as sex crime. Having sex under a false identity is. I know you're really stupid but just because you think something is unfair doesn't suddenly make it legal
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 06:12 PM
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Oh I'm sorry he was trying to date me but I wasn't dating because I was in counseling for the CPTSD I was diagnosed with after being sexually assaulted. When I told him I wasn't looking for a commitment like that right now and my friend expressed interest in him I let him know and he called her fat to my face when he had a gut of his own. Later that year he presented a piece about his "struggles" around not being able to date me in front of our entire department. Because somehow he was the one m…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 06:05 PM
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Nah this is just the logical conclusion when a dude gets online and goes "Men run the world infrastructure in essentially every facet of life and civilization was a male endeavor. " Well okay, if we agree that this is true than by that logic men are responsible for everything listed above. A biproduct of industrialization was exploitation, climate change, colonialism and genocide. Lmao, you can't take the accolade and not the accountability for every atrocity committed throughout history or the …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 05:56 PM
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Lmao I don't need to start a revolution all of this manosphere shit is an embarrassing death rattle. RIP I guess
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 03:39 AM
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So you do admit that the global conflict, the slave trade, nearly every global conflict in human history, the majority of religious extremism, 92% of violent crimes, exploitative workplaces, fascism, nationalism ,and the majority of sexual assaults are pretty much attributed to men. But climate change is everyone's fault <3 Sick bro. So glad y'all are in charge lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 03:29 AM
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Big eye roll dude. No one is emotional. This entire hypothetical is misogynistic as was assuming I'm emotional and not making fun of your dumbass lmao. "Men are responsible for everything"- and now the planet is dying and we're in the midst of another global conflict so clearly that wasn't a fail proof rule. Sorry you sound like a dumbass when someone decides to apply your logic to the state of current affairs. "Hey Fellas, should women exist?" Lmao.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 03:17 AM
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I'm not wasting my breath pointing out the blatant stupidity and hypocrisy that runs rampant in this community. Guys like this are a lost cause. That's how they got here
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 03:07 AM
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I pray that every bad woman and bad man find eachother and ride off into the sunset. But I've dated men and women. Men are more of a gamble.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 03:05 AM
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lmao sure king tell yourself that
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 02:57 AM
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Women who work in construction deal with disproportionate sexual harassment from their colleagues compared to women in other fields but SURE it's cause we don't want to get our nails dirty.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 02:54 AM
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10/10
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 02:48 AM
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TEA
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 02:43 AM
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The world is collapsing. Right now. Coincidentally because of industrialization and capitalism which you've attributed entirely to men.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 02:42 AM
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"Men have been in charge for centuries and run every facet of society" -Including expediting climate change, starting wars, sticking their dicks into animals and creating multiple stds, the slave trade, nearly every global conflict in human history, the majority of religious extremism, 92% of violent crimes, exploitative workplaces, fascism, nationalism, suburbia and the subsequent deterioration of the "village"/community, fast food (and all of the preservatives in there making us fat) ,and the …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 02:40 AM
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Many women have experienced a bad male partner. Many of us have experienced a bad male partner to the point of trauma and ptsd. Men claim to want relationships with women while denigrating us, cheating on us, and projecting their weird mommy issues onto us, it could be a manifestation of insecurity and emotional immaturity surrounding a relationship skill deficit. Why don't men upgrade their relationship skill set?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 02:34 AM
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My boyfriend has pretty much the same backstory but gravitated more towards Deida as well as Game (which is honestly not nearly as problematic as RP is). We talk about the manosphere/red pill stuff alot because it's kind of hard to dodge now (it's everywhere lol) and he said pretty much the same thing. You literally just have to show up to nightlife ready to be social and to brush off whatever "no" you get and move onto the next person. Everything else is getting in your head and in the way. Dud…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 02:22 AM
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"Back in the good old days when POC where enslaved, queer people were in closets, and women didn't have rights" Trash take.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 02:11 AM
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This is exactly what happened when I gave an average guy a chance. Wouldn't you know it though those average to below guys never give women in their league a chance. I remember losing my shit on a plus size guy I was friends with in college because he didn't want to give a girl ALSO MIDSIZE a chance because she was "too big for him" (a real thing he said to me). She was literally out of his league looks wise and was into him. They're constantly on this "give the average guy a chance" stuff but t…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 02:09 AM
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Just because you think it's dumb doesn't mean that going on Tinder under an alias and having sex with someone using that alias can't get you into legal trouble. Cry about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 01:32 AM
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It'd be easier if the majority of y'all didn't sound like straw men.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 01:30 AM
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My boyfriend was a friend of my roommates and was the funniest dude in the room and treats everyone with kindness not just women he's trying to sleep with. In general I go dutch until I know the person better. I don't take drinks from strangers (I fully send back the "that dude bought you a drink" guys) and I try to pick up my own tab unless the dude is someone I'm also interested in who is insisting on paying. The majority of men that go the "chivalry" route aren't holding doors open for old wo…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 01:26 AM
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It probably varies from marriage to marriage. But the only person I know who has had an arranged marriage is divorced now. It fell apart pretty immediately when they immigrated to the United States for his job. It was an amicable divorce they were both miserable and once their parents weren't around in their day to day lives they both realized that they'd pretty much only gone through with it for their parents. They'd gone on two "dates" before they tied the knot.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/24 08:44 PM
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Lol sure king. You are the one on a vendetta to convince a stranger on the internet that a dead marriage is better than no marriage. Married people can become unhappy. Single people can become unhappy. Being on your own and developing friendships is going to be exponentially better than staying in a nonfunctional marriage where there is no space or room for growth and throwing a couple of kids in the mix. If you aren't head over heels for your person after the honeymoon phase you shouldn't get m…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/24 08:10 PM
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Who's crying? My partner exceeds all of my "superficial" standards. We're getting married next year. The only people "Crying" are men. Pretty publicly too.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/24 08:01 PM
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It's genuinely just a bunch of dude's complaining that no one wants them. And doing everything but decentering sex from their lives (not women they don't care about women sex) or godforbid doing things to better their prospects. Their entire strategy is to convince us that "No we actually need the opposite sex" (like queer people don't exist) and to scare us with the idea that we'll die alone. Which is just a projection of their own fears that they'll die alone. Most misogynists hatred for women…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/24 08:00 PM
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The standards only seem superficial if you don't meet them. Hope that helps :)
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/24 07:50 PM
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I just feel like dudes don't know this is something you can get in legal trouble for. It's rare but it does happen.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/24 07:08 PM
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Exactly!!! And of course the boys here that yell "choose better"/want women without a body count are the same men complaining about women being hyper-selective. The tables have turned and all of these societal ideals they've put on women has blown up in their faces and they're pissed lmao.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/24 07:06 PM
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Y'all, lying about your identity on dating apps and having sex with people under those circumstances is legally classified as sex under false pretenses. JUST FYI. If you make an entirely false identity to sleep with women and those women find out you've legally committed a sex crime and are by definition a sexual predator. (If this offends you I'm assuming you feel called out). You also don't need to lie. You need to beef up your socials and actually write up a bio. Take photos of yourself that …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/24 06:52 PM
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Yeah and she's like genuinely not high maintenance either. I genuinely think it's just a shit dating pool combined with her being better off financially than most of the men around her lmao. I get downvoted because these dudes can't handle anything that doesn't make women sound delusional or secretly desperate. I guess I'd do something similar if no one wanted me
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/24 06:38 PM
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Tbh I think the "relationship crisis" we're in right now is because more people of both genders are no longer marrying people or committing to people they don't passionately love/ have a ton of compatibility with.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/24 06:23 PM
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A woman. And honestly I wouldn't call bullshit immediately. I've seen it. One of my best friends works with celebrities and is pulling in 6 figures. She's also hot. She can't nail down a dude that's in her league and the ones she gives chances too are weird about her job. Like it comes up in conversations and they make these weird comments about her "stacking bread" but not in a celebratory way. I've seen the dudes she's into they aren't uber jacked wealthy giants they're regular degular dudes w…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/24 05:58 PM
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A dishwasher is a LUXURY where I live in the states as well. Y'all have universal healthcare and get more than a week off a year and which of the westernized countries has it worse has nothing to do with passport bros. Because those dudes aren't rolling up to westernized countries looking for "submissive women". But I'll bite that your food is awful and the monarchy is stupid lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/24 05:53 PM
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I'll take dying alone thanks.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/24 05:51 PM
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Guys that offer commitment right away (at least the ones under 30) usually end up being nightmares to date. It's why not being exclusive right away became part of my strategy when I was single, no regrets.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/24 05:49 PM
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Your inflation isn't as bad. Europe has a higher quality of life than the Americas because of an actual work life balance thanks!!!!
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/24 05:12 PM
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So you see how that goes both ways? No one owes anyone companionship. Y'all are the only ones moralizing being single. It's not a failing. Plenty of women are happier being alone than with a fucking loser like what are you not grasping. I don't pity or feel bad for single people because I'm not a fucking weirdo. Being "single and childless" isn't a death sentence it's just a different life path. Men are the ones that are throwing a tantrum because no one wants them without asking why "mid" girls…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/24 05:10 PM
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Can you not read. One is predatory the other isn’t. Jfc
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/24 11:37 PM
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Okay you can just say you’re a creepy weirdo that fetishizes other cultures then.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/24 11:27 PM
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Which is why international dating isn’t the same as being a passport bri
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/24 10:56 PM
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Big eye roll. All of my friends partners meet this metric. My partner meets this metric. Idk what world you’re living in. But that mom is probably single bc the dude she was with didn’t meet the metric I described. Avoiding crusty dudes with no financial responsibility is how you literally avoid becoming a single mother
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/24 10:55 PM
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🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/24 09:29 PM
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A closer definition is western men who go to nations with a lower standard of living than in the US or Europe solely so they look wealthier by comparison with the intent to find a partner. A lot of times these dudes have a fetishized idea of what women in these places are like usually based on stereotypes (particularly in Asian nations where you’ll hear them toss around wanting a “submissive wife” a lot) . International dating isn’t the same thing as being a passport bro.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/24 08:04 PM
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Lmao Because they are targeting passport bros specifically. They use dating apps to seek out dudes from Western countries with either catfishes or women who are in on it. Personally I don’t give a fuck about passport bros. In any sense. As long as everyone is consenting and aware of the dynamic I don’t care.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/24 07:45 PM
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White passport bros aren’t getting mugged in Switzerland they are getting mugged in Columbia which is where the murder in OP’s post took place 👍 Don’t play dumb a lot of these men are explicitly seeking partners from countries where the standard of living is lower than it is in Europe and the US
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/24 07:39 PM
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Ah thank you for the clarification 💕
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/24 07:31 PM
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Tbh the type of man relocating their life in an attempt to find a “more submissive” partner is the exact kind of dude that won’t bother researching cultural norms before leaving so NONE of the hate/violence they get from their host countries shocks me. Flaunting how much cash you have in a poorer country is a sure fire way to get stabbed.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/24 07:30 PM
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That’s what I read. I’d buy it’s harder for men to get full custody when they want it though
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/24 07:25 PM
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If you genuinely like someone you're kind to them. I don't want random men holding doors open for me as an excuse to try and spark up a conversation (it feels condescending). I don't want men paying for my meals so they can try and act like I owe them something at the end of the night. Basically I don't want to deal with any type of chivalrous gesture if it means I'm going to owe a stranger my time/energy/attention. If all of these things came solely from a place of human decency without an ulte…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/24 05:46 PM
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I had read that men typically opt out of full custody.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/24 05:21 PM
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The tea is there are plenty of men making decent money that don't turn their nose up at committed relationships. A chunk of these men aren't uber conservative and strive to be active fathers and good partners regardless of whether or not you're in a dual income or single income household. I personally think the latter is more important than income. The dudes on here who pretend these are unrealistic relationship goals probably just aren't up to the task themselves. But being alone is better than…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/24 05:17 PM
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I’m not in the minority. Every woman I know contributes to the bills, married/LTR regardless of age. I can name one housewife off the top of my head and she has children. Sorry y’all don’t have options you’re still capable of saying no to dynamics you don’t like. You’re life isn’t in danger being single isn’t a death sentence
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/24 08:55 PM
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Because some of y’all are acting like this is on par with domestic abuse. Big eye roll.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/24 08:52 PM
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I guess I just can’t stand the thirsty guy whining tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/24 12:26 AM
2

I opted for being single rather than dealing with someone that was going to mess up my finances down the line. Just because you “can’t be picky” doesn’t make complaining about norms that you’re opting into bc it’s easier than being alone any less whiny.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/24 12:24 AM
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Someone refusing to pay rent and someone physical abuse are not the same thing. I’ve had a squatter and I’ve experienced domestic abuse. It was easier to get rid of the squatter 👍
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/24 12:22 AM
1

That’s on y’all then
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/24 09:09 PM
1

Listen like if you wanna support her whatever but if it’s AN ISSUE break up??? That’s such a dealbreaker
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/24 08:57 PM
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Yeah I’m asking SO WHY are y’all putting up with this. My ex tried to pull a version of this shit but with his parents money instead of mine and I dumped his ass. WHAT DO YOU MEAN you’re going to stay unemployed just cause. like it’d be one thing if we had kids or something???? But I’d never date a freeloader in this economy
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/24 08:55 PM
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So why are y’all acting like it’s an issue? If you are okay with the dynamic why is it a problem?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/24 08:50 PM
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Why are you pursuing those women?/letting women live with you without contributing to rent/mortgage
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/24 08:46 PM
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Why are you dating women that are making you pay for everything?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/24 08:15 PM
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Yep. That pretty much sums up the fallout of three relationships I had.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/24 05:10 PM
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Men can’t escape the “friendzone” bc they aren’t sexually attracted to you. The idea that men in LTRs don’t have emotionally vulnerable moments with their partners is insane
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/24 05:08 PM
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Cats are great what’s the beef lol
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/24 07:03 PM
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Lmao “women get cheated on and that’s their fault” this is why I did thorough research on everyone I met through dating apps prior to meeting. LADIES GET HIS SOCIALS IF HE DOESNT HAVE SOCIALS GET HIS LAST NAME. Don’t meet up with men on the internet that you haven’t found anything on. Everyone has an online footprint if nothing comes up that’s a fake name 👍
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/24 04:05 PM
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Tbh a social media check is okay. I literally do that to gauge if we have similar interests. I think you run into trouble when you start misrepresenting who you are to become your perception of that person's "ideal". If you're LITERALLY stalking someone. No. Absolutely not.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/24 02:38 PM
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💁‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/24 10:37 AM
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Under different circumstances probably tbh.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/24 01:16 AM
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That’s cool👍 you seem completely unbothered. There’s nothing wrong with being single my guy
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 11:58 PM
1

I’m not 4b. 🤷‍♀️ If it doesn’t affect you good for you. You seem totally not affected at all
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 11:53 PM
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👍 glad you’re not going to be affected
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 11:45 PM
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I just think you’re kind of disproving your own point if you’re loudly going “NO MORE MEN IM DONE INTERACTING WITH MEN” you can just not interact with men anymore and not be performative about it. From what I’ve seen in South Korea they are making their own content around the movement and not just stitching men calling women bitches and being sexist (maybe that content is out there but I’ve not seen it) If it’s literally just to get a rise out of men you aren’t interested in interacting with any…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 11:41 PM
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Because I don’t. 4b is a response to violence subjugation and discrimination. Red pill is not. MGTOW is something I’m just hearing about literally right now. If it’s literally just “boy 4b” knock yourself out lmao. 4b women don’t want to have to interact with men. You’re literally giving the ideal response. 10/10. I don’t think anyone should have to fuck with people they don’t like. 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 11:39 PM
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Pretty viable, good jobs, nice dudes they were mostly people I worked with professionally when I was performer full time so like old coworkers from past projects. Some of them might have been just trying to fuck but I’m not a mind reader lol. They were cute though. My exes friend was a hard no, and one guy just wasn’t my vibe. So like 3/5 But I wasn’t trying to date right away. That’s why it took half a year to try again lol
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 11:35 PM
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Well rape will do that to you 👍 If men are doing the same as 4b go ahead. Sounds mutually beneficial lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 10:13 PM
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4b is a response to gender based violence. I don’t keep up with the specifics of red pill but from what I’ve seen it’s a lot of grifters spewing misogynistic rhetoric and preying on men’s insecurities. Men I don’t know typically strike up conversations with me to try to hookup. I’m by definition not available for that so I avoid those interactions
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 10:07 PM
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🤷‍♀️ again I’m not 4b. But if all of your experiences with men have been disappointing/frightening you’re less likely to give people that chance. And if a dude is a friend by definition there is no sexual attraction. That’s why he’s a friend lmao To be totally fr in real life I talk with queer men, men I work with and my boyfriend. I pretty much avoid interacting with men I don’t know altogether bc they’re usually only associating with me to attempt to sleep with me. Outside of my partner, a few…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 10:02 PM
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I’m in a happy relationship but see why 4b is more viable than dating for many. My single friends stories are pretty grim and my own list of exes prior to the man I’m with would probably have me swearing off men too if there hadn’t been a break in the clouds I do sorta side-eye the constant “see men see we don’t need you” almost every video I see about 4b is in response to some loser dude talking shit on the internet. Idk personally I’d just let them rot in my indifference rather than loudly ann…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 09:30 PM
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Okay 👍My safety is more important than your feelings
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 08:17 PM
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Okay we don’t have mind reading goggles to tell y’all apart
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 08:00 PM
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Mid 20s is where age gaps stop being weird. You both likely are financially independent in your own respective careers.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 07:49 PM
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Yes both short term and long term. i left my ex after he started getting abusive. The second we changed our statuses on Facebook 2 dudes slung into my DMs with very clear “if you ever wanna chat (hookup) let me know” lmao. I went out with a friend the next night and met the guy that I’m currently dating. It took six months to make it official but now we’ve been together for 2 years. Before meeting him two other men had approached me. We lowkey just have more options. I think there’s some validit…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 07:30 PM
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Bc lack of maturity isn’t as attractive to women as it is to men. Men’s proclivity to pursuing women that are still in school and can’t drink legally is something I side eye.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 07:22 PM
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I think it’s weird if you’re dating someone that can’t legally drink. 21+ isn’t really that big of a deal if everyone is consenting. I can atleast buy that y’all met in a noncreepy way. There’s just something weird about sneaking your 19 year old girlfriend into bars when you’re in your late twenties.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 07:20 PM
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Most men aren’t violent from the jump.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 07:19 PM
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I’m saying that my personal preferences are based on past experiences and I was able to find someone who meets those and then some. If we broke up tomorrow though that preference would stay in place lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/24 03:24 PM
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My current partner has a thriving career and helps around the house. We got together six months after I left the last guy, he pursued me and we’re coming up on 3 years. It’s the happiest relationship I’ve ever been in and I’m grateful we found eachother when we did. Love him madly he’s the best thing that ever happened to me. Not only was I able to find someone who was actually egalitarian in terms of the work/life balance, I didn’t have to do much active pursuing/dating around in the interim. Y…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/24 03:20 PM
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I mean even in this you clocked it. All I have is my experience to reference. If one dude fucks up, I avoid dudes that I could put in the same category from then on out. From now on I'm not entering in a relationship where I'm making more and still having to play homemaker therefore I only date men with careers and income of their own. If you don't like that quit yelling "choose better" lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/24 02:46 PM
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In my limited experience I find that men typically still want women to take on the majority of household responsibilities regardless of income or who is making more. I dated and lived with a dude getting his masters, his degree, portion of rent and living expenses were pretty much being covered by his parents (no shame in that game they were loaded). I was pursuing my masters, working as a barista and a teaching artist while picking up gig work as the world slowly began reopening (this was 2020-…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/24 01:41 PM
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I live in New York and work in night life so they’re either smoking or butt ugly with no inbetween.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/24 07:04 PM
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This shit is so long and they’re saying nothing. Hot people are always going to have more options. Realizing what you want is unattainable isn’t suddenly going to make someone want you. All of this “top 1%” shit isn’t getting you any closer to in a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/24 07:01 PM
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Who are we scared of Rough-Form6212 lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/24 06:55 PM
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But men do similar stuff when they catcall us. It's not actually about trying to get our attention they know that catcalling us doesn't work. It's a dominance game for the men around them. Or it's an actual threat. But no I go to the bathroom with my gal pals because I like spending time with them and I've had men follow me into bathrooms before. If your girl is asking you if you love her constantly you likely aren't saying it enough/ aren't behaving in a way that communicates that. Do with that…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/24 06:44 PM
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Cause a lot of men tend to be emotionally distant and bad at communicating their feelings. Women's lives don't revolve around relationships. Women in relationships tend to prioritize the wellbeing of said relationship in addition to their existing priorities. I have two degrees, a cool ass job, an artistic side hustle, an incredible friend group and a partner that I love so much it makes me dizzy. My partner has a cool job, a writing side hustle (and multiple self-published works) a hopping frie…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/24 06:38 PM
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Tbh I'd rather y'all keep this info to yourself lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/24 05:06 PM
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WE KNOW THAT Y'ALL ARE HORNIER WE TRY NOT TO THINK ABOUT IT THANKS.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/24 05:05 PM
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I’m dating mine , y’all stay safe though
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/24 01:49 PM
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So in my previous relationship a few examples: -I was a theatre critic and would get free tickets to cool fringe shows constantly. They always give you two comps that’s the standard. This dude never came with me. So I’d have to either scramble to find someone to take the second ticket or call the box office to say I was going solo (annoying and a little embarrassing bc ya know I had a boyfriend). This was the standard with pretty much any social event. He didn’t come with me to birthday parties,…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/24 01:22 PM
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If your partner isn’t adding to your life they’re subtracting you’re undeniably better off single than with a man that isn’t on the same page as you.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/24 01:10 PM
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It kind of doesn’t matter if you’d be interested in it if it’s not a viable option for you in the first place 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/24 02:16 PM
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Yes. Not dating around is how you settle with someone that ends up not being right for you
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/24 01:42 PM
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Men can get on their hot girl shit too I wish more would because those guys are normally chill and nonjudgmental
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/24 01:40 PM
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Same
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/24 02:08 PM
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Breasts and penises are not equal in certain states in America you literally aren’t required to wear a shirt. This is primarily so women can breastfeed in public without issue (which is their literal biological purpose) Breasts are sexually attractive but they aren’t classified as genitalia.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/24 02:08 PM
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YES. My boyfriend did this when he was single. The bar he was a regular at is now a HUGE part of our relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 08:57 PM
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Plenty of women are also only looking for casual sex and not wanting to commit. So our interest with “Chad” ends up aligning lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 04:15 AM
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That’s fine you can have that preference and not make it your entire personality or a weird hill you’re willing to die on. You don't have to date someone to respect them. This is part of the problem. No one cares if you want to date an SWer or aren't into hookup culture. You can respect and be kind to women you don't want to sleep with. We don't just exist as "people I'd date" and "people I demean harass and disrespect"
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 11:04 PM
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The way we are taught to view sex conditions us to shame eachother. It keeps everyone sexually frustrated lol
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 08:44 PM
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Everyone deserves a baseline of human decency yes. Stigmatizing sex workers prevents them from leaving the industry and finding other life paths. It allows for victims of trafficking to be prosecuted against for solicitation. You can feel however you want about whatever. Shaming sexworkers is counterintuitive to creating safe paths for women to transition out of that lifestyle.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 08:10 PM
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I think a lot of men walk around with this idea that women who have sex with men/ have had multiple partners are somehow “damaged” or “debased” is indicative of a belief that men fucking women is inherently a corrupting force and not just something adults do together when they’re horny. This whole idea that women who fuck around are “low value” feeds into the idea that men are inherently depraved sex monsters that go around sticking their dick into anything that moves. When in actuality two cons…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 07:38 PM
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That’s a whole lot of “women get to have sex whenever and I can’t, so women are bad for having sex”. Your ideology doesn’t propose that we’re different. It proposes that men are expected and allowed to consume porn and hire sex workers and engage in casual sex whenever the opportunity arises and the women that provide that service or are also engaging in hookup culture are lesser than. While simultaneously taking no accountability for your part in contributing to the demand that continues to all…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 07:02 PM
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Show me your browser history. Which demographic created the demand for sexwork?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 06:47 PM
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Crazy thing is they lowkey don’t have to feel that way. Sex with consenting adults on your terms is great.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 06:46 PM
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Yes. Lmao. You can probably sus out whether or not you categorize women as moral and virginal or whores and don’t leave room for nuance. If what I said hit close to home examine that 👍 I don’t hold disdain for men I’m pointing out trends that I see in their behavior and in their rhetoric around women having sex. Plenty of men watch porn but have open contempt for pornstars. Plenty of men want to have casual sex but show open contempt for women who have casual sex. Plenty of men view women having…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 06:27 PM
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Only the men who view women’s sexuality or women having sex as inherently degrading and immoral 💕
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 05:37 PM
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Because I’m right and they don’t want to do any introspection. Also they love pretending psychological terms don’t evolve and take on new shape when social paradigms shift
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 05:27 PM
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Yeah men wife women then stop fucking them. I’ve experienced this thanks. Once she becomes his wife or committed partner he loses interest or gets weird about having sex because he views women having sex as degrading.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 05:18 PM
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Which one is better in bed? How good is the old one at conversating? Introverts can’t stand me so I don’t think the other dude would like me anyway lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 05:16 PM
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No one hates men fucking more than men 💕
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 05:14 PM
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Scroll up king. I’ve been the Madonna and the whore. Because men behave like this without realizing. 💕
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 05:13 PM
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I saw and edited my b
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 04:09 PM
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If you respect strippers and sex workers I’m not talking about you lmao.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 03:49 PM
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Then have the audacity to be mad that we have such “high standards” lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 03:45 PM
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It’s because a lot of men are lowkey ashamed of their sexuality but can’t admit it to themselves and have to project that shame onto another party. It’s why they act like a woman’s value goes down everytime a man touched them.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 03:28 PM
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Yeah you’ve never been the Madonna so you don’t get it 👍
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 03:25 PM
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Nope. Wishing harm on strangers because you don’t agree with their life choices is a yikes. You chose to give that energy. You were an active willing participant. You weren’t ensnared, she offered a service you utilized that service. I don’t love the porn industry, the people within it are still human and don’t deserve to be shamed/stigmatized for the line of work they’re in. A lot of y’all point a finger at them with your left hand while jerking off with the right and never take any actual acco…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 03:16 PM
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The lack of comprehension is proving my point lmao.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 03:14 PM
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Why are you consuming that content if that’s how you feel about the people in it.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 02:55 PM
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Yeah that’s why women are repulsed by the average man’s sexuality and why more men are struggling with women. The fact that we can’t be anything other than a wife or a fuck is why a lot of women don’t fuck with the average man anymore 👍
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 02:53 PM
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You haven’t experienced it lmao but it’s very real. Plenty of men categorize women as either wives or sluts and nothing inbetween. It’s fucking Lame
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 02:09 PM
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Why do you want to settle down in your 20s?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 01:54 PM
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Tbh it’s more the Madonna Whore complex hypocrisy. Y’all watch porn but hate sex workers. You want to have casual sex but don’t respect the women who are looking for that dynamic. You go to strip clubs but don’t respect strippers. A lot of the appeal of porn seems to be getting to degrade promiscuous women or corrupt “innocent girls” who are almost always framed to be babysitters, high schoolers, college students, can’t legally drink. Sorry it’s objectively uncomfortable when you hold it up unde…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 01:33 PM
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My partner is 8 years older than me we met when I was 26. I think dating women in their mid twenties is fine bc you’re in similar phases of life. I pay my own bills am self sufficient and hold down my own job. There’s not a huge power imbalance the way there would be if I was still in college Tbh 23+ Im never gonna side eye However you’re a fucking loser if you’re in your thirties chasing women that can’t legally drink yet.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 03:13 AM
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Just what do you want us to do with this information that we already know and try not to think about lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/24 07:23 PM
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This answer is hot
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/24 05:27 PM
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So everytime this has happened to me the room/bar was crowded and I had assumed they were asking because they wanted to literally sit down lmao. Then they start talking and I want to sink into the floor
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/24 05:26 PM
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Do you want me to pat your head and go “I’m so sorry that sounds super hard for you”
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/24 03:49 PM
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Lmao the whataboutisms are cringe tbh. I don’t virgin shame. I do relentlessly mock people who slut shame others.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/24 03:40 PM
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“Men care about women’s sexual history” -bc they’re jealous the equation isn’t weighed in the other direction. Cry about it I guess 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/24 03:35 PM
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Idk jerk off more lmao what do you want us to do about that? “Men are super horny and that’s women’s fault” like????
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/24 03:31 PM
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That’s super interesting I’d heard something similar about period sex lol but not with like spaghetti and cooking
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/24 03:09 PM
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Can I ask what culture that is?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/24 02:47 PM
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My current relationship started out casual. I had broken up with an abusive partner a few months prior and we had been hooking up for about a month. There were no labels but neither of us were really seeking out other partners. I was REALLY trying to protect my heart bc I knew I had healing to do. But I’d be lying if I said I didn’t see a future with him. He respected where I was emotionally but about a month in pretty much just told me that he understood where my head was at that moment but if/…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/24 02:44 PM
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Lmao tea
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/24 02:10 PM
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Yeah people trying to diminish your worth as a person based on what you do in your free time with consenting adults is incredibly unnerving. Trust me I’m no stranger to slut shaming. The people that do it though are fucking losers. My go to retort when women say shit like this to me has always been: “if you pull the stick out your cunt you might actually cum next time.” When a guy does it I default to “We get it no one wants you” I’m a 5’2” girl though and I don’t mind offending people idk how t…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/24 01:21 PM
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Tbh both genders are horny and depraved on the DL. people who bitch about other people’s sex lives don’t have one of their own to fixate upon. Ignore
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/24 12:42 PM
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No. That’s shitty behavior.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/24 12:37 AM
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Because I literally screen men for these things before going out with them. I don’t fuck with prolifers/sketchy people that seem to have inconsistent values. That way in the event of an unplanned pregnancy I’m not paying for an abortion entirely out of pocket with someone trying to convince me to keep a kid I can’t afford. Men can’t get pregnant so they don’t get to have the final say. Whether or not they should have to pay for the kid I think should be handled on a case by basis. Currently a ma…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/24 06:35 PM
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Why were you sleeping with someone uncomfortable with taking plan b?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/24 06:29 PM
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Plan b king. And again case by case. I don’t think anyone should be forced to be a parent. But if you weren’t using protection and weren’t trying to conceive you’re a dumbass.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/24 06:24 PM
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In the interim wear a condom. 🤷‍♀️ I am someone who is comfortable with the idea of getting an abortion if necessary. When the condom breaks I take a plan B. I’m shocked men date women that don’t align with them on abortion. If you’re prolife you should avoid prochoice people and Vice versa to avoid this.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/24 06:18 PM
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I actually do think these situations need to be handled on a case by case basis. Bc I am one of those “I’m only having children if my finances, relationship and future are secure”people. I don’t think it’s wise to bring kids into the world if you can’t guarantee a good quality of life and one of those things hopefully is a support system free of toxicity and resentment from the caregivers. My partner and I have had lengthy conversations about what we’d do in the event of an unplanned pregnancy (…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/24 06:10 PM
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Yup. 👍
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/24 05:57 PM
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“Women approach people they’re attracted to” duh.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/24 05:57 PM
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Both are gross. The adult film industry is incredibly predatory and I don’t think an 18 year old posting themselves on onlyfans is making an informed decision that’s wise for their future. Tbh the age to be included in media like this should be atleast 21. It’s wild that you can’t legally buy beer but you can post yourself on OF at 18
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/24 05:31 PM
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I live in NYC so my meter is different than some. But I’ve been threatened/followed/assaulted/harassed/ made to feel unsafe enough times to where I don’t fuck with people I don’t know. This has happened at my workplace/ nightlife venues/ on public transit/ on my street etc. it’s annoying and it’s scary. I keep seeing men on this sub conflate genuine harassment with being rejected while cold approaching. But I think y’all aren’t grasping that there are men out there that are weird as fuck who go …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/24 04:35 PM
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Plenty of women do make the first move a lot of men on this sub just haven’t experienced that
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/24 04:28 PM
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It is true though. Same rule goes for men. If someone is serious about you they don't fuck around. If they aren't committing they aren't that serious about you, are being dishonest about their intentions (likely just wants something casual) or aren't ready for a relationship. All three are enough to discount them from your dating pool if you're looking for a relationship. Getting into a healthy relationship is usually easy. It's not a toxic back and forth/cat and mouse game.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/24 09:09 PM
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Keep at it. I'd probably have a different opinion if my exe's family wasn't controlling him with their finances while he was pushing 30 still fully dependent on them.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/24 03:46 AM
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10/10 I think it's a compatibility thing
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/24 03:45 AM
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But that's also not okay. If we hold men to this standard women should be held to the same. Idk how we move the needle on it but BOTH are bad.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/24 03:23 AM
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Genuine sexual harassment (in my experience) usually implies rape or sexual violence even if nothing happens. I once had a man whisper "damn mommy you're so sexy" to me on a train while standing incredibly close to me but not touching me, I got off the train a stop early (he followed me) ducked into a coffee shop (he followed me in) and he started taking pictures of me. I turned around screamed for him to stop, he fucked off immediately because now the entire cafe was staring at him. This all ha…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/24 03:09 AM
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Eeeeh I think it's a mutually beneficial relationship and as long as both parties are on the same page who cares???? Idk I think it can be racist and predatory but it doesn't have to be. I think it varies from person to person. Everyone is an adult and consenting. If you're fetishizing them because of their culture I think that's where it gets messy. But if you're just seeking other avenues of dating because you've been unsuccessful in your own country or idk traveling anyway and happen to fall …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/24 02:58 AM
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And these aren't easy conversations to have when you're in the talking phase tbh. So I'd probably make one of those assumptions (and maybe that's a fault on my part). It wouldn't be a dealbreaker though necessarily (it wasn't for me with an ex that was in grad school). But his family ended up being a factor in why we didn't stay together (though of course his family was abusive)
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/24 02:48 AM
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I'm 5'2" I've dated men my height and shorter. Literally women with braincells don't care about height. That's such a ridiculous metric
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/24 02:37 AM
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That's cool that's not my preference
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/24 02:27 AM
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Aw cute. Okay sweetie that's what's happening, your version of reality is 100% accurate. <3
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/24 02:24 AM
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Tea
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/24 02:21 AM
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That's great! Living with my family wasn't an option. So I had to get five jobs and do my best until I finished my Masters lmao, I don't have a lot in common with someone who is able to just live off their parents like that
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/24 02:20 AM
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Idk why are y'all okay with dating women who live with their parents when they're pushing 30? If I was living with my parents I'd likely feel differently but I don't live with my parents currently bc that wasn't an option for me and I value my independence soooooooo
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/24 02:17 AM
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Love this whole discourse happening under a comment just stating the obvious and neither incentivizing or condemning this girl's strategy lmao. Stay bitter I guess
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/24 02:14 AM
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Yeah obvi, people typically seek more than what they possess in some capacity. It's why mid men go for girls miles out of their league. Plenty succeed.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/24 02:11 AM
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She's probably trying to date in a higher financial bracket than her own / doesn't want to have to sneak around to have sex. I also think age is a factor tbh, I was living on my own and paying my bills by the time I was 22. So I wouldn't be jazzed to date someone that wasn't also in a similar situation.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/24 05:46 PM
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Lmao. "women have casual sex but not with me so I'm mad" .
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/24 05:44 PM
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I think the ace experience is something people like us aren't going to be able to understand fully because we aren't ace. For me sex is a vital part of a relationship tbh. But that doesn't mean our needs are going to match everyone else's. I personally don't get it but I wouldn't because I have a typical libido
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/24 05:42 PM
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My boyfriend said something super similar. He's never used any of the apps he just went to bars and clubs and talked to as many people as possible and if he got rejected it wasn't the end of the world he would just go talk to someone else
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/24 04:18 PM
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I've been the twenty two year old that gets hit on by older men and it made me feel gross not attracted. This narrative that fifty year old men have their pick of the litter is just something I've never seen play out in real life (unless they're paying for it). When I'm fifty I want to be active, established in my career, making art, hopefully married to my partner, and happy. If I'm still seeking male validation from randos and beefing with women 30 years younger than me I need to see a psychol…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/24 04:15 PM
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I have a few exes I'm on good terms with. They were usually right person wrong time scenarios. I've never really been broken up with lol I guess ghosted during talking phases a few times (but I ignore those guys when they reappear). However the majority of my exes became exes because they did something that made me so angry I fully excommunicated them from my life. I'm not someone who commits quickly or leaves over nothing. It was usually a pattern of bad behavior that I expressed issue with ove…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/24 03:45 PM
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I don't fight with emotionally adjusted intelligent men that don't base their entire identity around being angry at how they're perceived by women. Men on this sub, I'm gonna argue all day lmao,
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/24 01:13 PM
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My boyfriend's sister is a nurse. She's watched it happen over and over again, it's always the men who leave. It's actually one of the reasons she has stayed single. Yuck <3 https://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2009/11/091110105401.htm https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2020/mar/30/the-men-who-give-up-on-their-spouses-when-they-have-cancer https://www.reuters.com/article/idUSTRE5AB0C5/ https://www.nbcnews.com/health/health-news/men-more-likely-leave-spouse-who-has-cancer-flna1c9450218 htt…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/24 01:09 PM
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White cishet men were the only gender that had the opportunity and outright encouragement to do so in the US. Despite this there were plenty of queer men and women, poc men and women and white women that made strides in their own respective industries. There's also plenty of historical trends of men stealing or taking credit for women's inventions and work. Again just answering OP's question about why "men are the problem?". Any progress white cishet men made is great, but it was on a curve wher…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/24 01:04 PM
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Two things 1.You're misrepresenting the data from that study *unless you're referencing a new study but if it's the same one y'all always tout out you didn't read it correctly*. That study explores which demographic has experienced the most domestic abuse. Since women are more more likely to be abused in a relationship, plenty of lesbians have experiences with being the victim of DV in the past. (As in both members of the partnership have been victims). Queer women are more likely to be victims …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 08:28 PM
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Personally, I think keeping things casual until you meet someone you actually see a future with is more ethical than committing to someone out of convenience and wasting eachothers' time. As long as you're clear about the nature of your dynamic.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 01:48 PM
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