Lilviscious Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
13	Swallowing TRP and RPW tastes wonderful!	FIELD REPORT	Lilviscious	/r/RedPillWomen	05/02/17 10:26 AM
5	Bought my bf a R-rated toy after I heard he had never owned or used one		Lilviscious	/r/RedPillWomen	05/09/18 12:57 PM
1	How to respect his needs but not be the last priority?	RELATIONSHIPS	Lilviscious	/r/RedPillWomen	09/04/19 07:14 PM

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
3	Do men actually like nice girls? In my experience men do like nice girls. However, certainly not every men does. In my social circles it is evident very quickly that men who seek short term gratification enjoy what we call the chase (with the woman not showing interest or be more of a challenge). While men who seek long term gratification will also acknowledge the women who they can chase, but will opt for nice girls instead, because they are seeking a deeper connection and they realize chances are higher of finding that with a…	/r/RedPillWomen	23/12/22 04:35 PM
20	I need someone to talk to.. Finding a place to volunteer that has women is a good one. You could also try to connect with girlfriends/wives from your husbands friends? Ask the friend over to have dinner and tell him to bring his partner or a plus one, see if you can get some friendships started through the men you know. Are there any other relatives or neighbours you can do the same with?	/r/RedPillWomen	29/05/21 05:48 AM
41	Anyone else notice that people (men and women) are nicer to you when you dress feminine? When I wear a dress with heels I notice men are much more thoughtful: holding doors open, asking if I need asisstance with anything. At first I thought I looked uncomfortable and was actually looking distressed because it's not often that I wear dresses or heels, but after several similar situations, I came to the conclusion that men (mostly older men) become more attentive to me. Not so much women. For the men I think it's because it appeals to them in general and it reminds them 'oh yes, this …	/r/RedPillWomen	18/03/21 07:25 PM
3	Ladies! How do you support your man when he’s standing up for himself/you? I've always been too hot-headed to back down in confrontations. I had to learn not to engage and let my partner handle it instead, and to keep from meddling when he was in an argument that didn't involve me. By standing down, I gave him the freedom to act as he saw fit and it showed I trusted his judgement. Which made him a very happy, proud man! Win-win-situation! However. Confrontations can be a scary thing, especially when there's a possibility of violence. However, you can find support and s…	/r/RedPillWomen	14/08/20 03:53 PM
20	Ladies! How do you support your man when he’s standing up for himself/you? Baby steps! If he's confronted you can support him by being by his side and following his cues, you don't always have to do so vocally (e.g.: if he says he's leaving, you're leaving as well, showing you are together in this). You can ask him if there's anything he might expect from you in those situations and then try to respect those wishes. In turn, perhaps he can bolster your confidence and practise with you what to say or what /not/ to say in difficult situations when he's not around to assi…	/r/RedPillWomen	14/08/20 03:39 PM
3	How to stand up for myself in a feminine manner? (From random rude strangers) Wow, what a way to be kind of sassy/confident without being rude back! Wish I could pull it off without embarrassing myself.	/r/RedPillWomen	14/08/20 01:19 PM
64	Am I dating a narcissist? Don't think he is a narcissist. However, there are many contradictions which makes me believe he is lying about his persona and interests.. this is in the end also a big red flag. He doesn't seem honest and wants to show off how popular he is, but is he really? Perhaps he is boosting his value, hoping you won't know what he's really like. He doesn't sound like LTR material to me.	/r/RedPillWomen	07/08/20 03:59 PM
4	I’m 26, have only slept with 2 people and I’m actually embarrassed and ashamed by it. Don't be embarrassed. I know that men in general prefer to settle down with women who have a lower 'body count'. Also, it is your body nobody else gets to say how many people you share it with!	/r/RedPillWomen	31/07/20 05:19 AM
3	Money battles in a relationship Agreed. Gifts didn't cost a thing and you promised to buy stuff 50/50, so keep your word en pay 50%. Everything that is gifted doesn't make it confusing, the promise still stands.	/r/RedPillWomen	17/07/20 02:57 PM
6	A Valentine’s Day Reminder I don't see why you couldn't make it work for both events? Unless a birthday takes up an entire day? I'm not familiar with your way of celebrating. For me, I can imagine doing an acitivity during the day or having dinner in the evening together and use the other half of the day to spend with the family? It's a compensation, of course. Having the entire day to yourself would be ideal.	/r/RedPillWomen	15/02/20 08:56 AM
3	A Valentine’s Day Reminder My bf and I don't pay attention to Valentine's day, but this year was different. We carpool to work since it's very close to each other. When I'm done with my shift I walk to his office building where he parks the car. I got off work a little early to go to the flowershop and pick out nice flowers to surprise him with (very proud to be the first gf to ever have given him flowers! Ever since I found out, I buy him flowers a few times a year). By the time I was almost at his office, he calls me as…	/r/RedPillWomen	15/02/20 08:51 AM
1	Femininity shouldn’t mean materialistic I'm not materialistic by nature and neither is my long term SO, but I can relate to women who flaunt the items they've been given or are able to purchase, because indirectly it shows they are (financially) being taken care of quite well. To me this feels like a signal from women to women, boosting their self worth by showing off what good a man they have. And if their husbands enjoys this behaviour, it is a win-win for those women. People are often more concerned about the opinion of others than…	/r/RedPillWomen	06/01/20 04:01 PM
1	Notice the self control @the beginning I was actually cheering for the boy when he finally retaliated. Good for him, boys and men should never have to tolerate women's abuse like that. What an idiotic girl.	/r/PussyPassDenied	10/11/19 04:00 PM
5	What are some nice gestures you do for your man that says "I love you"? When cooking meals I keep track on which dishes he likes best and try to make them on a regular basis. I keep track of his change in taste and buy his favorite things in bulk so we never run out. I also offer to get him drinks throughout the days when we're both home and offer to make him lunch. I basically tend to his basic need for food and drinks before it occurs to him he should eat/drink something lol Also, I sometimes tell him to wait while he's changing clothes, just so I can squeeze his …	/r/RedPillWomen	06/10/19 01:46 PM
1	Are You Ready for Your Summer Body? Very motivating, thanks for sharing!	/r/RedPillWomen	08/07/19 08:45 AM
3	How to respect his needs but not be the last priority? Thank you for the time you've taken to write down your advice. Providing him with clear samples of a date night / time spent together might make it easier for a change to happen. I'll keep this in mind. I must stress however, that crying in front of him was something I was not planning on doing, had been telling myself I wouldn't do when discussing this with him, because I am well aware it won't bring anything constructive to the table and overloading his senses is always the last thing I wish t…	/r/RedPillWomen	10/04/19 09:15 AM
1	How to respect his needs but not be the last priority? Yes, I've noticed some similarities, and they joke about it when we're at family gatherings lol but men and women are different, that much is clear! Thank you for your support :)	/r/RedPillWomen	09/04/19 08:08 PM
0	How to respect his needs but not be the last priority? Thank you for your reply and guidance. I posted it here, because I know he is a Redpill guy and he in turn knows I'm here on RPW, and we discuss topics from either subreddits frequently, but without arguments. Many things I've learned here work well in our relationship. Also, I have looked into autism as my mother has it and my SO was honest about his own condition. I've learned a lot over the years, but it is so unique per person that a lot is still trial and error as I go, haha. My SO and I li…	/r/RedPillWomen	09/04/19 07:47 PM
1	Examples of admiring your man? Being honest is basically the easiest way to show admiration. I used to be a more preserved person, keeping thoughts to myself, but I've learned at work the power of compliments. It works in a romantic relationship as well, and as I've already said: it's quite easy if you're truly infatuated with your significant other. Some examples from my personal experience (I'm in a LTR of over 4 years): - needing a solution for a difficult situation and turning to my man, stating: Well, we both know you've…	/r/RedPillWomen	09/04/19 06:33 PM
4	Co-worker is obnoxious, want to deal with her like a RP lady would. Ah yes, this feels familiar. It happens when a woman at work becomes uncomfortable with the presence of another, possibly better, woman. Which means she is deliberately picking on you, to make you feel bad and herself feel better, because she feels threatened by you. Now, this is a shitty situation to be in, but you've got nothing to worry about, because this behaviour is easy to call out as rude and obnoxious, and once you do call her out on it, she will most likely be embarrassed and back off,…	/r/RedPillWomen	09/04/19 06:20 PM
1	How to deal with negative emotions. Great piece. I've also been spending more time rationalizing what causes me to experience certain emotions. I've started a new job last week so your example of feeling fear for not doing well the first time resonates strongly with me, and reframing my thoughts, explaining to myself it's okay to feel this way and that the feeling will also pass, is exactly how I get through sleepless nights!	/r/RedPillWomen	01/10/18 07:55 AM
9	When it was my SO's turn to complain about his gf during Boys Night, he didn't have much to go off of! That's the best confirmation you can get that you're doing well in your relationship :D It's definitely something to be proud of!	/r/RedPillWomen	01/10/18 07:26 AM
0	How to dress better? There are a good amount of skirts and dresses you can wear to be cute and accent your curves without wanting too much attention. Most important is that you shop for something that forms to your natural body shape and perhaps wear leggings with a skirt if you feel it to be too sexual otherwise :)	/r/RedPillWomen	20/09/18 01:25 PM
17	What I look for in a man: Husband Material Thank you for sharing such insights! This is definitely some food for thought, and I am very agreeable with your list of questions as I feel they strive to filter what is most important to you and a possible future together, which in the long term is what I value a lot. I am currently in a ltr of 3 years and could answer many of your questions with a content look on my face. I hope this post gives many people motivation to seek a healthy relationship but not expect things they themselves won't w…	/r/RedPillWomen	08/09/18 03:20 PM
1	Bought my bf a R-rated toy after I heard he had never owned or used one While browsing for his gift I found things to stimulate vaginas, butts and so much more, haha! It is the same for us, the toys only serve their purpose well when one of us is away for whatever reason. We did use one together and that was also fun. Wow, if you ever do make that vagina, do let me know what the endnproduct looks like and if it is actually any good, hahah! That sounds like an amaziing project!	/r/RedPillWomen	06/09/18 07:23 AM
1	Bought my bf a R-rated toy after I heard he had never owned or used one My boyfriend and I are in the same age range as your friends and we live in western Europe. I don't believe it is a big issue but I have heard that men are more frowned upon than women when owning toys. It's a shame really!	/r/RedPillWomen	06/09/18 07:20 AM
1	Opposite Sex Friends At this moment I have very few male friends that aren't my boyfriend's friends, which means I hardly am in contact with them outside of my boyfriend's knowledge. My boyfriend equally has very few female friends who are not my own friends. We also feel completely fine with leaving each other in the company of the opposite sex, knowing we only wish to be intimate with each other and that if there is any reason for another attraction elsewhere, it will be announced. This means we don't have a syste…	/r/RedPillWomen	05/09/18 07:06 PM
2	Genuine question I can only speak for myself and my relationship with my SO (LTR of 3 years and we have lived together for 2.8 years so far, haha) when answering your question (which is an inquiry I had as well upon first visiting this reddit!). In my relationship we focus on balance and put in our strengths, talents and preferences to get us through finances, chores and everything that life throws at you. I'm the kind of person who is independent, but also wants to please my SO. Fortunately my SO is a RP man wh…	/r/RedPillWomen	13/07/18 09:39 PM
1	How to be the hostess with the mostest? Good luck! Would love to hear how it went afterwards!	/r/RedPillWomen	22/06/18 09:24 PM
9	How to be the hostess with the mostest? Lovely that you are willing to host the dinner party. When I'm a hostess I inform which foods to avoid in case of allergies/preferences, and actually have a seating arrangement. It might sound silly to some, but it helps you set the table and certain foods/drinks more efficiently, and it makes for interesting opportunities to mix the people around and have them seated next to those they normally wouldn't converse with often.	/r/RedPillWomen	19/06/18 03:09 PM
1	Quick Note on Weighloss Thank you very much! It is exciting even to talk to others about progress and tips and tricks to get this far :D I was so pessimistic about going to the gym for so many years, but now that I have a trainer at the gym who helps me out with exercises, diet tips and monthly weigh-ins, it hardly feels like a chore to be losing weight. I'm very happy with the changes it has brought as it has made me more possitive in life! I started out by doing a lot of lifting and a bit of cardio. A month ago I tip…	/r/RedPillWomen	13/06/18 10:04 AM
1	Splitting household chores? I was in a similar position about a year ago when both me and my partner worked full-time, but in the end I was the one doing 90% of the chores and th other 10% would only get done if I explicitely asked him to do them, every single time. So exhausting and frustrating, I tell you. But it is the reality that you have to face: men are not prone to do chores, so your idea of doing 50-50 is admirable, but it might backfire. In my case I confronted my partner about the difference in taking on chores,…	/r/RedPillWomen	13/06/18 09:27 AM
2	How are you currently trying to improve yourself? (For yourself or your SO) I have had my insecurities about being an annoyance by checking up on him if he were, for example, not home an hour later than the time he told me he'd be. I did tell him once that I would like to know beforehand if he was running late. His immediate reaction was asking if I thought he was cheating on me, which was baffling to me because that had never even been a thought in my head and being accused of being 'paranoid' made me wonder if I had been showing behaviour that would lead to him saying…	/r/RedPillWomen	13/06/18 09:18 AM
2	How are you currently trying to improve yourself? (For yourself or your SO) I absolutely agree! It is always easy to point out flaws, but it is only productive to show appreciation for talents, skills and accomplishments. I am generous in thanking my partner when he takes on tasks in whatever situation, but I feel inspired by your passionate comment to add an extra step and make it a habit of complimenting him moreoften, and feel less timid to voice my gratitude!	/r/RedPillWomen	13/06/18 09:05 AM
1	Quick Note on Weighloss That's amazing, congratulations! Many people say you have to lose weight for yourself or else you won't make it, but I believe that's not entirely true. Whatever reason you have, if it works, it works. I decided to lose weight for two reasons that are, in my honest opinion, equally important: for my health and to please my boyfriend. Normally people would say my health is more important than satisfying my partner, but it is also a 'state-of-mind' kind of thing. I could be healthy and not satisfy…	/r/RedPillWomen	13/06/18 08:58 AM
2	Using a Mantra to STFU It is relieving to hear others struggle with this, as do I. I am used to being the problem solver at work, as a personal assistent, so it makes it difficult for me to step back and rely on my boyfriend sometimes. He is a far more calculated and thoughtful person than I am, so whenever I feel the urge to speak up, I don't have a mantra, but I do tell myself that if he needs my opinion on something, he will ask for it. If I find it difficult not to meddle, I remove myself from that particular situ…	/r/RedPillWomen	28/04/18 09:26 PM
8	Should I be Worried About Our Age Difference? You're still relatively close in age and thus will be able to relate to each other in different 'periods' of time as your relationship (hopefully) prospers. It is amazing how immature some older men are and how mature some younger men are, so don't let age worry you too much. His personality, and the way he treats and treasures you, are most important!	/r/RedPillWomen	28/04/18 09:17 PM
3	Try to lose the weight no matter what he says Yes, which is why I said I wanted to share my experience and show it is possible for men to speak the truth.	/r/RedPillWomen	16/02/18 01:55 PM
3	Try to lose the weight no matter what he says While that might be true, men settling for curvier women because they believe they can't get better, I do know many men personally who have fine self esteem and still prefer a more chubby woman. My own boyfriend has an decent ego, don't get me started on how he flexes his muscles in front of the mirror ever since he started going to the gym, but he is very honest about his preferences and also has had a preference for curvier women. Just wanted to leave this to let people know there are plenty o…	/r/RedPillWomen	15/02/18 09:42 PM
1	Try to lose the weight no matter what he says I have experienced somewhat the same. I lost 8kg in 5 months and our intimacy has really increased. However, in my personal case I noticed it's because I feel more confident and more alluring now that I have less blob to move around. I'm sure my partner picked up on it, and it might be the same for your man as well. Women like confident men, but I have noticed men like confident women as well (at least confident in their looks..) Thanks for sharing!	/r/RedPillWomen	15/02/18 09:36 PM
3	Red Pill Fitness There are several reasons why I want to lose weight. Looking good for my partner is definitely one of them. I'm proud to say I lost 18 pounds in 4,5 months by watching what I eat, taking the stairs instead of elevators and going to the gym three times a week. In the gym I cycle a lot and do strength straining for my arms and legs. At home I also spend one evening a week training my core and obliques. So that's four out of seven days, which sounds like a lot but once you got it fixed into your sc…	/r/RedPillWomen	15/02/18 09:24 PM
2	Do you accept that status is important? In my case I can easily and rapidly anwer with 'yes', because that would very much be the situation in which I met him and accepted to be in a relationship with him. Of course, it would be a set back and I wouldn't be able to applaud or cheer, but having been in that kind of situation before where I have to be the main provider makes it less difficult for me to honestly say I will love him anyway.	/r/RedPillWomen	05/02/17 03:32 PM
1	Girl with father abandonment issues cheated Let's have faith that the moderators will make this decision for us.	/r/RedPillWomen	05/02/17 03:23 PM
2	Swallowing TRP and RPW tastes wonderful! It is with all of the LTR in my friends' circle that the man is unwilling to do 50/50 on the household chores. I did discuss this with my SO and he told me in his case that he simply doesn't see the necessity to clean half of the stuff I want to have cleaned in the time frame stated by myself. It might be a difference of defining 'clean', but I did realize that I won't ever get all the help from him that I long and that it isn't exactly fair to force him into cleaning something he doesn't consid…	/r/RedPillWomen	05/02/17 03:20 PM
1	Girl with father abandonment issues cheated How is that question relevant to this post? Also, he clearly states at the end of his post that he posted it on TRP and now here because he's interested to see a woman's perspective on this and most likely is trying to understand what he could have done to understand her better. Granted it is unclear to me, because I am new to this sub, if this is the correct place for this post, but your comment doesn't add any value whatsoever and can be considered sexist if by your comment you mean that no ma…	/r/RedPillWomen	05/02/17 12:53 PM
1	Declare your strengths! Having just posted my flaws at another topic on this sub, I am more than ready to boast about my strengths! 1) Organization: I am a personal assistant at work and in my LTR. I aid my Captain by remembering dates for him, by scheduling appointments, by doing the groceries so he won't ever face an empty fridge or kabinet, and by doing the laundry on time before he's out of fresh socks and underwear. 2) Ambition: I have a lot of ambitions and therefor am always seeking for improvement of myself as …	/r/RedPillWomen	05/02/17 11:06 AM
1	Declare your flaws First I applaud everyone who has shared their flaws. It is immensely confronting to admit to them and it's amazing that everyone is supportive of each other! As for my own flaws, gosh.. 1) Weight: I'm overweight and I can't remember when I wasn't overweight. I did try to exercise a lot and have been on several diets, but ever since meeting my SO and catering to his preference of food, I have realized that while he doesn't gain a pound, I have gained even more weight. Which is a problem if I want…	/r/RedPillWomen	05/02/17 10:49 AM
7	Sex and intimacy, intimacy and sex. Even though I'm not married, I can relate to the post when taking in perspective that my sexual drive is less active than my SO's. At first that was a bit tough on me, because as mentioned I need the women approach to be ready to have sex and that wasn't always what my SO wanted to do without losing sexual interest himself. So I have decided that if he does need sex and I am not quite ready on the spot to make that happen, I do tell him so while offering him perhaps a non-penetrative way. I have…	/r/RedPillWomen	05/02/17 09:50 AM
1	Do you accept that status is important? I have had several conversations about this with my SO and we have both come to the conclusion that it is a very logical thing for women to seek out a SO with a high status, because this means the SO will be a good provider for her and her possible children (and isn't that basically what most of us women want in the end?) When I met my SO he wasn't a well established entrepreneur nor did he have a good paying job at some fancy big company. This would make you think that he didn't really make a c…	/r/RedPillWomen	05/02/17 12:35 AM