LipstickBandito Archive

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3	I still believe in the red pill even though it's harmful.But I don't know what else to believe in Yeah I get what you're saying. Those hyper masculine traits that women have been socialized into not onlg accepting, but finding attractive, are actually really harmful to everyone. Same with the crazy woman thing, it's just not good. I wish we could divorce attractiveness from toxic traits.But it's another one of those things.They seem to be an unconscious bias It's hard to eradicate when society continues to romanticize this crap. Kids are shown from a young age that XYZ are the traits that ge…	/r/ExRedPill	23/12/24 03:44 AM
11	I still believe in the red pill even though it's harmful.But I don't know what else to believe in I'll tell my female friends that to their ideas about what's attractive and not is very toxic.And sometimes they outright lie to themselves and to others What kind of stuff are you telling them? Purely out of curiosity, to see if I can add some input here Like what do you consider a toxic thing for women to be attracted to? Not trying to argue, just trying to understand better and maybe give my opinion if that's cool	/r/ExRedPill	22/12/24 09:09 PM
1	Have you ever noticed that it doesn’t matter a man’s political officiation, but the second you threaten to remove pron he freaks out? Most women watch porn too and banning it would be a massive violation of the people's freedom of speech. I mean, I agree with your overall comment, but watching porn isn't freedom of speech lmfao Banning the ability to make porn would be anti-freedom and extremely authoritarian, but we're already not allowed to just post it anywhere we want. Private companies offer spaces for that. You can't even start your own website to post without going through a private company. Like I'm all for porn existi…	/r/ExRedPill	22/08/24 08:16 AM
3	Why are women so picky compared to men? I only really ever see attractive women dating average or ugly guys on social media I see it in real life a lot more than the reverse Women are pickier because we have more on the line to lose, that's what it comes down to.	/r/ExRedPill	02/08/24 08:11 PM
11	What made you abandon the red pill ideology? That's rough, and why online dating is best avoided. When you're online, you have a larger pool and the bar goes up, because there's a lot more competition. Tons of men, not tons of women. Not to mention the amount of 5' girls demanding a 5'10-6'3 guy I mean, does the height of the girls matter? If they like tall, they like tall. Whether they're tall or short themselves. Some people are really into size/height differences. You say attractive women don't message you back. Maybe their standards ar…	/r/ExRedPill	30/07/24 04:31 AM
15	What made you abandon the red pill ideology? I think a lot of red pillers with low self-esteem are doing better than they think in the attractiveness department. They'll tell men they have to be over 6 feet tall, have a 6 pack, have a razor-sharp jawline, etc. I stg red pill talking heads set the bar ridiculously high, so that you feel inadequate, and so you keep coming back for their "advice". Glad you got away from all that. Social media can skew our expectations of ourselves and others, and online dating doesn't help either. Living in r…	/r/ExRedPill	30/07/24 01:46 AM
9	I feel like the guys that exhibit the qualities that people talk about as bad and unattractive to women are the guys women want to be around the most I'll save you the trouble: they are	/r/ExRedPill	29/05/24 01:18 PM
22	Is there really a “loneliness epidemic” going on or is it just a online narrative It's real, just not limited to men. It's happening across most demographics where people feel lonelier or less supported. Lots of women I know have surprised me with their lack of support networks, because I always assumed other women all had that together, and I was the odd one out. Turns out a lot of us are struggling. That's not to say men aren't too. I think it's happening across the board. Couldn't say if it's worse or not for one geoup or the other, just that it's not a men's issue only. W…	/r/ExRedPill	16/05/24 05:33 AM
2	Is waiting several days or a week to call or text a girl after a first date in order to avoid seeming needy a red pill idea? Waiting that long will have the opposite effect of what you want. I don't know if it's necessarily exclusive to red pillers, but everybody knows about it. You don't want to come off as 1) not liking her that much or 2) trying to hard to seem cool. As a woman, I genuinely enjoy when a guy texts me after we're both home and hits me with the "that was fun hope we can do it again soon" text. It doesn't come off as desperate or anything, it comes off as being good at communicating, and eases any doub…	/r/ExRedPill	09/05/24 07:00 PM
9	This community is so blackpilling. I never felt as bad or as hopeless as I do now until reading through here. Knowing that women aren't actually physically interested in average men, and average men can never be a woman's first choice Bro lmao what There are plenty, PLENTY of average and below average dudes out there who manage to have women interested in them. Where are you getting this idea that women aren't interested in average? I'm a woman with literally no reason to lie on my anon account and I'm telling you that average is fine. If you're below average physically, develop a sense of humor to make…	/r/ExRedPill	17/03/24 10:06 PM
2	I feel like I’ll never be someone’s first choice Bud I get that. Eevery time I'd wake up feeling ugly in the morning, or got an acne breakout, or was bloated, I was thinking what he was thinking. If he was regretting his choice to be with me, comparing me to other girls, etc. Maybe he was, maybe he wasn't, but we lasted until I broke things off for unrelated reasons. It's totally normal to feel insecure sometimes, or doubt that your partner is 100% satisfied with you. It comes down to insecurity. We all have insecurities, but some of us let th…	/r/ExRedPill	16/03/24 06:55 PM
4	I feel like I’ll never be someone’s first choice Well that's kind of part of what relationships are about. You both like each other, you bring each other up, support each other and you find each other attractive. Give or take a few things that's a relationship. Like, there's billions of people in the world. There's almost definitely a better match out there. Most people will never find their absolute best match, or even their top million match. At a certain point, you just decide to be happy with somebody, you know? As long as you're both happ…	/r/ExRedPill	16/03/24 06:22 PM
4	I feel like I’ll never be someone’s first choice Exactly. I totally get OP's feeling on this and don't want to completely invalidate the concern, but almost everybody has their celebrity crushes, for example. Like, sure, my last boyfriend was technically second choice to Timothee Chalamet. Did that mean I wasn't happy with him? Of course not. I mean, eventually, I was unhappy when I realized we just weren't compatible, but that's a whole different thing. Like, part of committing to a relationship is the idea that "yes, even though somebody who…	/r/ExRedPill	16/03/24 05:34 PM
11	I feel like I’ll never be someone’s first choice Well said. It might totally sound like a cope, but you don't always want to be the first choice anyway, because a lot of people's first choices are based entirely on appearances, not on substance or connection. You don't want to be the one somebody picked because of FOMO, only to have your valuable time wasted when you both realize you don't mesh all that well.	/r/ExRedPill	16/03/24 05:27 PM
44	I feel like I’ll never be someone’s first choice This is a valid fear, and I think a lot of us can relate. Even as a woman I fear this. Just remember, there's ALWAYS going to be somebody more attractive. There's always going to be somebody who is objectively a better choice than you. Famous celebrities loved and crushed on by millions get dumped for somebody better. It's always going to be a possibility. And yet, so many people are in happy relationships, people who are FAR from perfect themselves. Not even in terms of looks, but in terms of p…	/r/ExRedPill	16/03/24 09:59 AM
4	How can you un-loser yourself as a 36 year old virgin? Have you seen a mental health professional? Purely to rule out any possibility of a neurodivergency diagnosis. I don't mean this to be rude at all, just that things like being on the spectrum can make the whole flirting game a LOT harder. Just being aware can help you navigate.	/r/ExRedPill	16/03/24 06:15 AM
5	How can you un-loser yourself as a 36 year old virgin? Is being a virgin the only reason you consider yourself a loser? Because I really don't necessarily think that's true. It's out of the norm, no doubt, but I relate a little bit to the feeling because I (27F) didn't start having sex until I was older, granted it was due to medical reasons. Play it to your advantage. You know for a fact you're STD free. That itself is huge. When we're younger, our partners are more likely to be clean purely due to lack of sexual experiences. As we age, that risk g…	/r/ExRedPill	16/03/24 06:10 AM