| Upvotes | Title | Category | Author | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
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| 162 | HVM that make less than you | DISCUSSION | LiquidSapphire | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/21 02:38 PM |
| 21 | What abuse can look like - Catch these red flags | STRATEGY | LiquidSapphire | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/21 04:36 PM |
| 1 | A mindset that has helped me feel better about my former PickMe-ism | MINDSET SHIFT | LiquidSapphire | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/21 11:31 PM |
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| 31 | How do queens handle a lukewarm man?I will add the counter point of my former best friend as an instance where your concern might be valid for others who may be reading. My friend had an innate talent for finding men to go out with, but it was because she had no standards at all. Sex offenders, mentally ill, still married, all desperate. Didn't matter. Anyway, many of these men were very passionate on date 1, love bombing basically, to the point that if she finally went on a date with a normal person who didn't love bomb her on da… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/03/22 01:14 PM |
| 36 | My HV boyfriend turned in to a LV fiancée. I need help on how to leave.The ladies here are so terrific. What thoughtful mature and lovely advice you are getting. I just wanted to say that and give you a virtual hug. Good luck to you | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/03/22 12:26 PM |
| 197 | Jordan Peterson + Childless WomenAlso those same child free women are told their whole lives:. "oh you don't want kids? Don't worry you'll change your mind.". Fuck those morons I never did and I'm 39 now :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/22 06:44 AM |
| 279 | A man will date you for weeks, have you be exclusive with him JUST to have sex and leave as soon as he gets it. This scares the hell out of me about dating, I wonder how one can vet this kind of behavior.Or some type of dumb fox move:. "I'm looking for someone with x qualities:" and name things he's already told you about himself or are clearly already established facts. You don't look like you're dodging the question, but obviously you saw something good or you would not have agreed to the date, and he gets no extra info out of you, he only gets info he already gave you parroted back at him. Plus it's a compliment and men love those. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/22 10:58 PM |
| 63 | Ladies, stop coddling your sons.Shower thought, I can't think of a single instance of a woman killing her parents. It's always male perps. Edit welp there are some! i stand corrected | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/22 07:34 PM |
| 5 | The Sun magazine inspiring postHahaha I love this!! When I was about to divorce my ex husband he said; who's going to fix your car and your computer? And that was wild to me that that was all he thought he brought to the table. And he was right; it was all he brought to the table. Because we had separate finances. And I realized I could pay people to do those things for me, and it actually doesn't cost all that much. It's been 12 years and I'm still glad every day he's not here anymore. What a waste of O2. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/22 04:03 PM |
| 73 | Does anyone else want a long-term partner, but also doesn’t want to live with them?It might be a deal breaker for some people; but you should do it anyway if that's what you want. This is pretty common for women 50 and up. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/22 08:33 PM |
| 266 | What made you finally decenter men from your life?Honestly, I just reached a limit of pain where I realized that I'd rather be single and alone forever than put up with one more LVM. It made me much more picky. You have to be okay with being single. It's the only way to come from any position of power. You must always know that you can walk away and not only be okay but also great on your own if you walk away. It's so important. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/11/21 10:06 PM |
| 4 | A man disclosing his mental health/therapy habits early on is an absolute red flagMaybe you could start early and talk about your "cousin" with MDD and see his reaction? It's a white lie but it's an understandable one also. And also the kids conversation can happen early. Try to vet how badly he wants them and what is his philosophy on shared labor after kids happen? If he really wants kids and expects to be able to work his job while you do SAH stuff that's probably not a match. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/21 10:58 PM |
| 2 | Please form the queue ladiesSomething I've found very interesting about dating profiles is that usually talk about that which they lack or gets a lot a lot of attention from them. If someone yaps about how they love travel they probably take one trip a year in the country. People who have traveled a lot don't feel the need to talk about it constantly. Same with "nO dRaMa" --> this dude will bring allllll the drama. They tell on themselves ladies | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/10/21 09:21 PM |
| 13 | When in doubt, do withoutMore like -- should have stayed -- 0 should have left - 100 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/21 11:45 PM |
| 57 | Ladies of Reddit, what’s the sexiest thing an overweight gamer in his 30s can do to make you have sex with himLeave me alone, let me wonder if you're worth it rather than confirming you're definitely not | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/09/21 06:08 PM |
| 4 | HVM that make less than youAbout five months | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/21 04:05 PM |
| 79 | Remember ladies, any man who makes being liberal or a feminist part of his dating persona is a wolf in sheep’s clothingI've also seen men with no game or self esteem present themselves as feminists as sort of male "pick me's" -- I view it as a flavor of "Nice Guy" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/21 04:02 PM |
| 9 | Dating men with depression: proceed at your own riskPreach queen! My life experience echoes this exactly. It has never been worth it. I just won't do it anymore. Would rather be single than get saddled with the care and feeding of someone else's mental illness | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/08/21 04:09 PM |
| 188 | Being in a good relationship has made me realize how women are being gaslit on a mass scale to ask for lessHoly hell story time. I was talking to a male friend a few years back. In hindsight I can see he was an LVM. And he was telling me all about how his girlfriend was annoying and insecure and he didn't really like her all that much and he was thinking about dumping her anyway because of how needy she was. And it dawned on me and that moment and I actually shared it with him in that moment - she has every reason to feel insecure. He didn't like her as much as she liked him. That's not exactly a rec… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/21 05:44 AM |
| 163 | I don’t know if you’ve guys have seen this account. But it’s literally just the husband “simping” over his wife even after 24 years of marriage. And I’m down for it, it’s so bloody cute.Also some scrote replied to this comment ; but it was gone before I could even click on it. Mods killing it for real we should take up a wine tasting collection for them | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/07/21 07:41 PM |
| 700 | I don’t know if you’ve guys have seen this account. But it’s literally just the husband “simping” over his wife even after 24 years of marriage. And I’m down for it, it’s so bloody cute.The best part is that this isn't even that hard. Other than the flowers nothing in this video cost him any money or even that much time. He just loved on her with dancing, hugs, kisses, and helped her out with the final touches on an outfit a couple times with a smile. You can tell he just cherishes her. So great | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/07/21 02:51 PM |
| 8 | Please share stories of some weirdly specific rules you set after *that* one guyNo fucking long-term mental health medications. I'm glad they exist - but I have dated way too many people with fucked up depression and anxiety that refused to do anything about it - or just popped a pill and planned to do that the rest of their life. Medication is a short-term fix while talk therapy does the heavy lifting. I check every fucking bathroom cabinet. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/06/21 01:21 AM |
| 3 | The emotional labor of being hurtWhere did Gottman say that? I'd love to read it. Thanks! :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/06/21 01:23 PM |
| 1 | Don't over-complicate your relationships: if a relationship is not making you feel good majority of the time, it's time to leave.One thing that was eye-opening for me to realize is coupledom/being in a relationship should be so much more rare than it actually is. There are so many garbage relationships around me that actually make being single the rare and odd thing to do. But if you value being single over a relaxing with an unhealthy person, it would be much more common. Ironically if everyone did that we would have a collective increase in the value of HV people available and maybe this wouldn't hold true anymore 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/06/21 11:55 AM |
| 2 | I regret giving back my diamond engagement ring after the divorceFunny, he was definitely emotionally abusing me, he definitely has narc tendencies. This was really insightful thank you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/06/21 10:53 PM |
| 9 | I regret giving back my diamond engagement ring after the divorceLololol when I got married my lvm insisted that I take his last name. I wasn't partial to mine so I did. Two years later he was cheating on me and we divorced and he had the audacity to say that "I could keep his name if I wanted to" -- like he has a say or it was up to him. Idiot. Edit:. Oh yeah and he asked for the ring back and I gave it to him, stupidly. 🤡 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/06/21 10:20 PM |
| 2 | It's the edit for me ~~~Ah this states exactly what felt off to me but I couldn't quite figure out what. Well done | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/06/21 04:40 AM |
| 3 | What not to do... there's a lot to unpack hereTail of woe from my pick me days: I used to think it didn't matter if a man was a bad dad or didn't take care of his kids because I was child free and didn't want them around anyway. I also dated plenty of guys I would never ever choose to have kids with because "it was okay that they would be a shitty dad, I'm not gonna have kids.". Hoooo boy how short sighted that was. Learn from my fail child free ladies: If he either would be or is a shitty dad, that is worth leaving someone over because he'… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/05/21 08:00 PM |
| 4 | As requested... My aforementioned cats 😻What a handsome little man :-) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/05/21 08:10 PM |
| 29 | Every “girls should make the first move!!” Post in a nutshell 🌰 🥜I never ever ask out men because there are only two possible outcomes; none of which are good for me. 1) he's just not that into me. If I've waited around long enough to wonder why he's not asking me out to the point that I've been thinking I should do it, he just isn't motivated enough to ask me out. They know they're supposed to do the asking. They. KNOW. They also know they cant expect you to do it, so if they don't ask they don't get you. They did the math, and didn't ask you. You weren't wo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/04/21 12:57 PM |
| 11 | Posted in a female subreddit... most comments are empathizing with LVM and even excusing their behavior as “competitive”??💀This is additionally so much bullshit because men generally have longer legs and arms, so they need fewer strokes to cross the same distance. Thus the fact that he was so much faster doesn't even actually mean that he's any more physically fit than she is. THROW HIM AWAYYYYYYYYY ughhhh | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/21 01:27 AM |
| 100 | If a man tells you he won't put in effort, he won't.Every man who has said this to me has been a lazy fuck who never did even the bare minimum and I have left every single one over low effort | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/21 04:19 AM |
| 14 | I am so glad that more and more women are realising that casual sex is a complete scam for women.Get one as soon as you can. I had moderate dysplasia on my cervix by age 24. Had to have it cut out because there was a 50% chance it could turn cancerous. At that point in my life i had only had three sexual partners, all relationships that lasted for over two years. There is just no guarantees out there. And i had no idea I had it. I was so lucky they caught it in me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/02/21 04:31 AM |
| 67 | Don’t eat a shit sandwich just because you’re hungry. This is not build a scrote.Isn't this the fucking god damn truth I would rather be single for the rest of my life than deal with one more bullshit LVM relationship | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/21 04:24 PM |
| 58 | Imagine rejecting a proposal and the first thing a man says is “I am rich, I have a lot of money”. So you can agree to marry him.I hate this mindset in this guy. I am not for sale . You cannot "buy" me. There is not a price you can pay to "have" me. I am almost instantly suspicious when someone is flashing all kinds of cash and flash around me way too early. It feels super manipulative. They always want something and it's something I wouldn't give out of my own volition which is why they are trying to cajole it out of me. Cheers to this woman who didn't give in to this horribly pushy man AND this awful crowd. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/21 07:13 PM |
| 14 | Why do men refused to love themselves or fix their issues, but demands women do both in the dating world?This reminds me of a moment I had about 5 years ago - well before I found FDS. We were all hanging out around a table and somehow the question came up: "If you could date the exact version of you - but of the opposite sex (we were all heterosexual) - would you?" I said yes, and didn't have any hesitation. I was a damn good partner - even if I was a Pick Me back then. Everyone else at the table was male - and every single man said "No" - no - they absolutely would not date themselves. It was almo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/21 01:23 AM |
| 77 | If you actively practice FDS, people are going to fucking hate you.I feel this - I used to think I was okay doing most of the emotional labor but the pandemic has made it clear to me who's not meeting me halfway. At first I was really bummed and missing them and then I figured out that what I missed most was who I thought we were and what I thought we had and I was grieving that most. I was reading this concept of "Pandemic pause" - like some friendships are just on hold and will pick up when the pandemic ends where they left off. What? You blow off my virtual … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/21 08:04 PM |
| 18 | Where is the lie?Oh, this post made my day. I was trying to stop sulking about being single today and bought myself a bunch of shit on amazon and played with my cat. My friends are all hanging out with their families or their SO's. COVID has squelched most of what used to be my amazing social life. But this post makes me feel better. I absolutely have a great career, money, car, I have a huge down payment for a house in a super high COL city just waiting for the right place to come on the market. I would rather … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/12/20 10:07 PM |
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