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I feel the opposite. That's one of the few sites I've seen where they seem to know what they're talking about. In particular Chase, Ricardus, or Rolstad The one that made me realize Chase knows what he's talking about was the 8 Red Flags She's Crazy article. Those red flags matched up perfectly w crazy impulsive girls I've dated and I haven't seen anyone else break it down like that
/r/seduction30/12/17 01:32 AM
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For the posters here trashing the Girlschase website, there's a lot of good stuff in there once you stop having emotional reactions to pop ups. Not just Chase's articles, which in my opinion are as good as it gets, but stuff like Ricardus's relationship series, book reviews, etc Most of the guys who write for the site are well read so a lot of it is intellectually grounded (which is ironically the same reason people like Mark Manson). Jonathan Haidt's Moral Foundation theory gets brought up a lo…
/r/seduction10/11/17 05:57 PM
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My take is masculine dominance doesn't mean uber-macho or some caricature. It means knowing yourself and what you want out of life and being able to take action. Meanwhile feminine submissiveness means just being along for the ride Almost all PUA advice, from approach a gazillion times to stop caring what people think to lead her back to your place is teaching guys some facet of how to be masculine. Everything that typically doesn't work, from wait for her to make a move to needy behaviors, puts…
/r/seduction14/10/17 01:41 AM
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What do you disagree with about his post?
/r/seduction13/10/17 11:13 PM
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It's part of most of them. Masculinity involves being able to lead the woman in the relationship - socially, emotionally, intellectually, physically, sexually. Those qualities you list make it easier to lead and are usually reflective of guys who know how to lead
/r/seduction13/10/17 11:06 PM
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Hey Hector, fan of your your GC articles To me it looks like that discussion was just semantics. Authentic dominance has different faces. Even Stoicism can be considered dominant behavior because it's non-reactive and someone non-reactive can't be controlled. Best book I ever read on masculine/feminine polarity is Open Her by Karen Brody. It covers why masculinity/dominance is so attractive from a female point of view and she lists several different masculine archetypes and shows how they lead
/r/seduction13/10/17 05:05 PM
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Nobody gets hurt moving forward isn't giving up, it's giving her a justification to have an open conversation. Safe environment is basically trust, which is developed by successfully leading her. When you seduce her you lead her by moving her place to place, escalating while calibrating, etc. When you're in a relationship you lead her by planning mutual growth, pushing her to be a better version of herself, etc. When there's conflict, you lead her emotions to resolve the conflict.
/r/seduction30/09/17 12:25 AM
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No guarantee she'll reciprocate because you said she shuts down but if you're the type to talk things out, you can always tell her how you feel and what you want and see what happens IE "I feel like we should've had this conversation at the beginning because I think there's a lot of confusion right now caused by us not being in sync. I didn't expect to catch feelings for you but I did because as I got to know you, I learned that you're X Y Z. Not sure if you feel the same about me and if you don…
/r/seduction29/09/17 03:35 PM
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This is more a conflict resolution/relationship management issue than a seduction problem What kind of relationship are you guys anyway? Is it casual only? Is it deeper with emotions? What kind of relationship do you want with her? What does she want from you? You two are not on the same page with expectations
/r/seduction29/09/17 02:43 PM
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I guarantee you most of the guys who ask this kind of question are not doing it tongue in cheek or teasing. It's more of a valve release like, please? I'm hormonal right now? Let me kiss you? This is basically another version of the why can't I say to her, "I want to fuck you" question that pops up here once a month And it isn't a confident vulnerability or playing games or worrying about rejection thing. It's a social intelligence / understand the type of environment you're creating thing
/r/seduction28/09/17 02:36 PM
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Only works if she wants to kiss you too, at the same exact time. Otherwise you being direct like that is putting something out there you can't take back, and you're expecting her to make a logical snap decision. If she doesn't want to kiss you or if she's iffy about you, which is gonna be the case with most girls you haven't slept with, it's instant awkwardness because shes' got no choice but to reject you by being quiet or withdrawing or whatever It's better to convey intention by being ambiguo…
/r/seduction27/09/17 10:10 PM
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I'm sure you've probably picked up on it when a girl is trying to figure you out and the vibe goes back and forth between her feeling easy to you and her putting up resistance because she doesn't know what box to put you in And by unreliable I mean she can't control you or make you do what she wants. So to her, all your pretty much good for is the here and now - if she actually tried to think of you in terms of the future, you'd be a headache for her Good luck
/r/seduction25/06/17 06:25 PM
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I'll just link a couple articles to girlschase, because Chase Amante's game and worldview match mine and he explains stuff better than I ever could. It's a paysite but they give you 10 free articles so just don't hit refresh Telling Women You're not Boyfriend Material Difference between Lover and Loser
/r/seduction25/06/17 01:40 AM
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I'm late 30's and I can see what you're going through. Once they're near 30, most girls have gotten the crazy partying out of their system and are looking to settle down because of their biological clock and kids. Exception are the ones who decided early on they're not the marriage type but they're rarer. This pattern is never gonna change But you should be able to frame yourself as a fling and not an LTR if that's all you want. Girls that want relationships still enjoy/need sex in the meantime …
/r/seduction24/06/17 04:47 PM
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Guys harass and scare the shit out of women every day It doesn't even have to be approaching, most guys who are incapable of approaching are still perfectly capable of acting creepy Lot of women go through their day with this underlying sense of anxiety in response to guys in their environment and are way more attuned to who's safe/unsafe than us guys are. The more attractive/social/charismatic the girl is, the more she has to deal with this. And the thing is they're fucking polite as hell about…
/r/seduction24/06/17 04:28 PM
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Here's boring talk. "Nice weather huh..." Here's fun talk. "It's HOT as SHIT outside today!... it's perfect beach weather, can't wait to go to Malibu this weekend"... segue into how I went last weekend and fell asleep in the sand. I'm from LA and it's literally hot as hell this week Here's boring talk. "Oh look, a cloud" Here's fun talk. "Haha check it out, that cloud reminds me of a..." whatever the hell it reminds you of People that don't know how to make conversation fun, doesn't matter they …
/r/seduction21/06/17 03:18 AM
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No it's not a clear sign of anything. The weather is just another topic and you can segue it into something else if you're bored
/r/seduction21/06/17 12:14 AM
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Know your boundaries, know what you like and don't like, know what you want and don't want, know your strengths and weaknesses, know your fears, know where you're going in life and what you want out of it. Ton of guys don't know any of this so they supplicate, chase, have weak realities, don't know how to lead, are hyper-reactionary to anything a woman does. These guys end up making women feel like their moms Women want a guy who's masculine. Being comfortable with yourself is a masculine qualit…
/r/seduction21/06/17 12:02 AM
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How many days of experience in a megaton?
/r/seduction16/06/17 08:25 PM
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How old are you?
/r/seduction16/06/17 08:02 PM
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Communicate to her that you're not ready for a relationship right now and need to keep things casual. Let her know you're being honest with her because you care about her feelings and don't want her to get hurt. Even then, understand you can't control other people so if she's one of those needy girls who won't accept it, cut her off because she's just gonna be drama. Most girls appreciate the honesty early on because it gives them a boundary to respect, removes a lot of the uncertainty, and lets…
/r/seduction14/06/17 05:11 AM
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Figure out what you want. You want an ONS, then casual sex should not be a big deal, meaning girls that you're not exclusive with talking about casual sex should also not be a big deal. You think you nexting her is screening her out... well she basically just screened you out too thinking, I hardly know this guy and my sexuality is already a big deal to him, he can't handle me, etc You want an LTR, you should screen for red flags, but I still wouldn't go red flagging every girl that talks about …
/r/seduction10/06/17 06:50 PM
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Anything Chase Amante writes on Girlschase
/r/seduction09/06/17 04:05 PM
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Ignore him like he doesn't exist. Seriously. And if you have to say something to him, say something minimal effort (like "no") and then go back to gaming your girl and forget about him. Literally This is a frame battle. The more energy the guy uses trying to get you to comply, the more idiotic he looks when you don't comply or acknowledge him Don't fight and get emotional. That shit is retarded, ends your night early, and any girl who sees this shit gets turned off because you're now more emotio…
/r/seduction09/06/17 04:15 AM
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I'm an Asian dude and this question is fucking stupid Talk to her like you would any other girl
/r/seduction08/06/17 02:29 AM
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Bingo Insecurities are only insecurities when you hide them. You put them out there and own them like they're normal, they eventually cease to be insecurities. One of life's paradoxes
/r/seduction06/06/17 09:17 PM
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Masculinity Which pretty much encompasses everything that works in seduction
/r/seduction06/06/17 08:50 PM
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Some of these guys don't get it and their lack of experience or misogynistic views means they're not gonna get it anytime soon Great post and insight into female psychology
/r/seduction06/06/17 04:23 PM
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Yes it would be a good idea Here's an article that talks about why
/r/seduction05/06/17 11:07 PM
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You don't have to do that 4 hrs a day stuff unless both of you want that, which gets old pretty quick. You get to 10 hours a a day, that usually means you guys have nothing better going on in your lives than each other, which means you guys are emotionally fused and the relationship is toxic. So balance is everything - balance your own identity and personal needs against the demands of the relationship. I'm not big on texting because 99% of everything important happens in person. So communicate …
/r/seduction04/06/17 08:50 PM
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Genuine, self-confident, and most importantly, FUN. A conversation can't be FUN without emotion For any kind of self-confident communication, which is critical for seduction, you HAVE to know yourself. Not only does a guy who doesn't know his likes/dislikes/wants/fears not have much to talk about, he also subcommunicates weakness. Most girls don't want to be with a guy who can't set boundaries. When you talk, how you communicate matters more than what you talk about. Gardening is not wierd unles…
/r/seduction04/06/17 01:17 AM
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Some tips and concepts to look up if you're interested. In an LTR, most of the game playing goes away and gets replaced by more authentic, vulnerable communication That euphoria/rush NRE in love feeling will go away. Both of you have to understand this and realize afterwards, the relationship will change for better or for worse depending on effort and how well you both complement each other. But that whole in love feeling lasts forever expectation is unrealistic. Says neurobiology The biggest th…
/r/seduction04/06/17 01:03 AM
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Yea it's dependent on whether the girl likes you. She likes you, it's endearing. She doesn't like you, it's creepy
/r/seduction31/05/17 03:47 PM
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If a good looking guy talks about the weather to a girl while drooling/staring at her tits, the girl will think he's creepy. Because any girl with half a brain automatically knows he doesn't give a shit about the weather. So OP is right about #2 and incongruence and you're right about fixing that by just being yourself. A LOT of guys screw this up though because they got deep issues with owning their intentions and sexuality I'll add that the vibe that defines creepiness is a threatening vibe. A…
/r/seduction31/05/17 03:41 PM
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All I'd add is don't try to approach conversation too logically. It's an art, not a science. If you're constantly telling yourself, first you do this, then do some of that, without any awareness of what you feel, you'll lock yourself into a logical frame by default. Practice having fun with conversation as an art. Humor, expressing your likes/dislikes, figuring out what makes the person in front of you tick, flirting, being playfully ambiguous - all that is emotional conversation. If I ask you r…
/r/seduction30/05/17 07:05 PM
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Your ex was probably more socially intuitive than the typical girl then Most orbiters are guys that don't know how to get what they want and are willing to stay in a girl's life for months/years hoping that the universe makes something happen. These are typical nice guys that live in a white night fantasy and to most girls, they come across literally as harmless and helpful without an agenda
/r/seduction29/05/17 05:40 AM
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I have the same frame and I think ghosting is one of the worst things out there because of the emotional uncertainty that follows. But there's very little you can do until there's a relationship going on. Once you're in a relationship you can communicate that one of your needs for it to work is upfront communication. If you're on a first date, you can communicate that being ignored when you text is a pet peeve so it's implied if she doesn't follow through, she loses points. Until then though, pe…
/r/seduction29/05/17 05:39 AM
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I've gotten out if it and it's a pain in the ass and regardless, it's really her choice in the end. It's better to not get in it in the first place To get out, once I realized I was in it (which happened because it took me too long to make a move), I clarified the "relationship" (I like her in a non-friend way). She kept pushing for friends so I explained why I could not be her friend, which was a summary of what I actually feel about the friendzone and guys who stay in it - that any guy willing…
/r/seduction29/05/17 05:22 AM
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Most girls, if she's invested in you and you keep her happy, are not gonna cheat. You wanna minimize this even further, don't date a party girl whose hobby is going out and getting trashed. Date a girl who's inexperienced Your assumption that a model type guy with game can seduce any girl isn't reality.
/r/seduction29/05/17 04:55 AM
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Women are allowed to do that shit. They're the more emotional sex and like anyone who's highly emotional, they get in the moment If women weren't emotional, they'd be guys, all stoic and making too much sense, and none of us would want to date them Works the other way too. As a guy you're supposed to be strong and not as inconsistent as women. If you start acting more emo than you're typical woman, getting mad at not getting a simple text back, your masculinity goes out the window
/r/seduction29/05/17 04:35 AM
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Women are not gonna cut off orbiters. Most of the time they don't even realize the orbiters are orbiters, because those guys are emasculating themselves as harmless little friends to stay in those womens' lives so they can keep their crush going for 5 years which they're never gonna act on anyway, then eventually they do something passive aggressive and then the girl is like WTF just happened I thought we were friends Women are not gonna bother teaching those guys how to be men, that's not their…
/r/seduction29/05/17 04:33 AM
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I text a lot but I think it's one of the worst forms of communication out there because, it's not real-time, context goes missing which makes miscommunication really easy, and almost anything worth texting is better worth saying in person. Pretty much the only cool things about it are it's convenient for the times you can't be in person, and emojis, which linguists have found are pretty much a brand new language. Plus some introverted girls out there prefer texting to the phone so you kinda have…
/r/seduction29/05/17 04:26 AM
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The emotion vs logic distinction sets the high-level framework for pushing any interaction forward. Almost every piece of advice that works is geared toward triggering positive emotions in women and minimizing logical thought because being in the moment is fun, too much thinking is not fun. For every thing you read here that works, analyze what it's doing to women. Is it forcing them to use the logical part of their brain? Or is it letting them to feel positive emotions by reacting to what you p…
/r/seduction27/05/17 07:22 PM
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Models is good but Manson makes a lot of things more confusing than they need to be The whole intention vs facts thing is basically emotion vs logic, which is a universal theme in male/female dynamics. Emotions vs Logic = Feminine vs Masculine = In the Moment vs Planning for the Future = Reactive vs Proactive = Amygdala vs Prefrontal Cortex, etc. Almost every piece of seduction advice involves the guy doing something to put the girl in an emotional frame of mind so she can be her living in the m…
/r/seduction26/05/17 09:06 PM
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No, like posters below said, you shouldn't do it until after you've already fucked her and until then, you gotta learn how to communicate things like that using ambiguity/humor (AKA flirting) Girls don't think like guys. Moment to moment, if it hasn't happened yet, they're still trying to figure out whether they wanna f you and that process involves you pushing the right buttons to trigger the right emotions. You say I wanna fuck you blatantly and factually, you're forcing her to logically make …
/r/seduction26/05/17 08:31 PM
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When showing intent at the beginning, I always do the plausible deniability thing Basically avoid outright statements and turn everything into a "maybe" by being ambiguous and/or humorous. That ambiguity/humor gives you the ability to communicate intent out there while also being able to take it back via plausible deniability. You overlay your intent with uncertainty and give her a fun space to play and chase you back in. This is how you flirt effectively. This is also what most women do Reason …
/r/seduction25/05/17 11:35 PM
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Mark Manson touched on this in Models I've read some of the books summarizing the research that uncovered this ("What Do Women Want" by Bergner is the main one), couldn't figure out how to apply it, and eventually forgot about it. Later I figured out if you're comfortable with expressing your sexuality, it all takes care of itself. The whole she feels what you feel dynamic is called transference. PUA's called it sexual state back in the day. The thing is she's gotta already like you for it to wo…
/r/seduction25/05/17 10:20 PM
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Open Her - Karen Brody Most useful book nobody's read because the cover looks like a romance novel
/r/seduction18/05/17 05:36 PM
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I'm in my late 30's. Go to Happy Hours, and don't invite too many coworkers
/r/seduction18/05/17 05:24 PM
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You're actually right. Self-differentiation is not the same thing as being charismatic. Charisma is just a combination of specific personality traits that draw people to you. Short list here Self-differentiation is what guys who have no clue how to lead, or how to be assertive, or how to say no to people, or who they are/what they like/what they want/etc need to develop. It's basically the cure to neediness
/r/seduction18/05/17 04:49 AM
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In psychology this is called self-differentiation
/r/seduction18/05/17 04:42 AM
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She wanted you to make her not feel guilty about it Something like "I don't care, I like you anyway" would've done that, then you keep going I think tests are blown out of proportion on this sub but this is obviously a test because she's putting it on you to sway her emotions. And her saying she doesn't love her boyfriend makes it obvious which way she wanted you to sway her
/r/seduction14/05/17 11:06 PM
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This is true, but this is why people need to talk about what they want and have that "defining the relationship" talk EARLY. If it's casual, that talk should include rules like only see each other X # times a week, let the other person know if you're catching feelings, and an end date because purely casual relationships don't last and shouldn't be expected to last. Casual relationships need rules to work and those rules are meant to curb emotion. Also casual relationships work best when it's pre…
/r/seduction14/05/17 01:14 AM
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Touch her at high points in the conversation. These are tied to emotional spikes. She tells you something sad, put your arm around her. You two share a laugh, lean in and touch her arm. She says/does something impressive, high 5 her. She tries to push your buttons, push her away playfully. You both find out you like each other, hold her hand. You wanna move across the bar, lead her by the hand There's literally hundreds of these emotion to kino transitions if the conversation/vibe is fun and thi…
/r/seduction11/05/17 12:45 AM
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Never knew double texting was even a thing... And I've texted way more than that repeatedly so I don't think it even matters unless every text of yours is a needy block of emo-ness I'd text her, hey I like you and want to see you but if you're not into it just let me know so we don't waste each others time. Get out of that fuckin gray area where you're expecting her to make something happen. Give her some expectations and tell her what you need for this to work
/r/seduction10/05/17 12:54 AM
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It works because it subcommunicates basic masculine strength that women look for. And Mark Manson didn't even really come up with the core idea - Brene Brown wrote a bunch of books and did a Ted Talk on it so it applies outside of dating too In dating though, your imperfections are not a big deal to women if you're comfortable with them. Because if you own them enough to put them out there, they're no longer weaknesses. Meanwhile if you hide them, the fact that you feel you need to hide somethin…
/r/seduction09/05/17 08:22 PM
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Yep... last weekend... the girl kept trying to tell me what to do and it took me out of the moment Sometimes you feel obligated instead of being in the moment and it kills it. With a ONS, if the desire is gone, there's no attachment so it turns into work I've found that with casual sex, you gotta be a little selfish. You and the girl are just using each others' bodies, nothing more. If both of you are selfish, that's when chemistry happens. If you go into it trying to think you're gonna be the b…
/r/seduction09/05/17 12:41 AM
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How long since you guys broke up?
/r/seduction08/05/17 07:06 PM
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Not a romance novel but Open Her by Karen Brody has what you're looking for
/r/seduction03/05/17 05:24 PM
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Those girls are friends of mine so I know them well and they were interested All game playing is, is insecurity, which considering the vast amount of people who have no clue how to be vulnerable, is fairly ubiquitous. In psychology it's a part of self-presentation theory. You start dating someone, there's a huge gray area between you two at the beginning where you don't know her and she doesn't know you, so a lot of people play around in that gray area to further their personal agenda And just b…
/r/seduction03/05/17 04:47 PM
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Nah lot of girls do play games I've had quite a few female friends ask me for advice because they've followed books like The Rules to a T and have no clue how to do anything other than be inauthentic. They're like guys with canned lines And in general, a guy's job is to lead while maintaining balance by being able to walk away. If she stops showing interest, you don't chase or assume. You ask her why Maybe she's truly not interested in you. Or maybe something else is going on in her life
/r/seduction03/05/17 04:15 PM
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I think most of that list is a miserable way to look at male/female dynamics. Most of it are overblown generalizations, nuance is lacking and I'm thinking some bitterness and/or drugs must've contributed to that long ass post The whole women fight vulnerability/feelings because it lets them be manipulated to have sex with men is a wierdly cynical way to explain how women are emotionally driven. A more positive way is to put it is that women love guys who let them be their free emotional feminine…
/r/seduction18/04/17 09:15 PM
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This x100 Put it out there like it's normal and move on, she'll probably be flattered
/r/seduction18/04/17 08:43 PM
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Just wanted to say there are some psych concepts from Bowen Theory that mirror what you're talking about. Bowen theory takes 2 people and models what happens when anxiety is introduced into the relationship. It's usually for LTR's but you can apply it to pick-up The concepts are emotional fusion and self-differentiation Emotional fusion = when the other person's reaction/state defines you. You have no boundaries because you don't know who you are so you react emotionally and let the anxiety crea…
/r/seduction21/03/17 03:30 AM
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Open Her by Karen Brody - like Deida, it's about masculine vs feminine polarity. Unlike Deida, which is more spiritual, this book is actionable and was written by a woman. Most valuable part is she draws on her past experience and tells you how it feels to a woman when a guy is masculine vs non-masculine I really believe every piece of seduction advice that works, does so because it ties into displaying masculine polarity Solution to Social Anxiety by Aziz Gazipura. Besides doing a helluva job e…
/r/seduction17/02/17 05:02 PM
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Best part of PUA history to me is that there were a ton of characters. Most of these guys were extremely intelligent and eager to treat the world as their laboratory - I always say that if pick-up wasn't considered taboo, a lot of these guys would be winning Nobel prizes in social psychology. Far as self-improvement in 2017 though, a lot of that stuff is too outdated to be useful
/r/seduction16/02/17 08:37 PM
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I read it a long time ago. It's old - it was written back when people thought you had to use NLP on women for them to sleep with you, or wear stupid hats and do card tricks in a bar. Back before anyone knew about natural game, before people knew what congruence and inner game was, back when every dude was using the same pick-up line ("heyyyy... who do you think lies more, men or women????"), back when all the nerds were trying to AMOG and NEG each other on message boards David Deangelo came up w…
/r/seduction15/02/17 10:08 PM
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I'm good with Latinas who don't have English as a primary language. I'm Asian and can speak decent spanish that gets better when I'm drunk, so I guess that makes me an interesting novelty to them Personally I've found the whole language barrier makes things easier. Communication gets distilled into its simplest form, double meanings and stuff don't exist, and the girl has to put in work to understand you, which means she's investing in you from the very beginning
/r/seduction11/02/17 02:11 AM
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Something to read and think about - Article from Girlschase To summarize, the more experienced you are, the less you care how hot your flings are - you only really care about quality in your long term relationships. Meanwhile those who are inexperienced always care with every girl, because they treat every girl like a potential girlfriend
/r/seduction11/02/17 01:50 AM
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Look up anxious attachment style. That's basically what you are. You feel any uncertainty with respect to her and you immediately get anxious and then you start doing what are called "protest behaviors" things like watching your phone or checking her FB, which are geared toward removing that anxiety. And to fix, it takes work. You gotta know your tendencies and you have to how to counter them until you're centered. Best books I know to help guide you are Passion Trap (read the section on Healthy…
/r/seduction06/02/17 06:24 AM
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Masculine polarity refers to the qualities that differentiate men from women - conventional gender roles You wonder why, as a guy you're expected to do the approaching. It's because of your polarity. You're responsible for making the girl feel safe and comfortable. You're responsible for leading and making decisions and knowing where you're going. You're expected to be outcome independent because your life is supposed to be much more than just women. These are all tied to masculine polarity. Bei…
/r/seduction06/02/17 06:04 AM
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geez
/r/seduction05/02/17 04:46 AM
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I'm mid-30's and I got two click moments. For the record I discovered mASF in 2000 so I've kinda watched the whole PUA movement evolve and seen how fucked up it can be (and still is at times) First was realizing I didn't really have to hide anything about myself with women. I could just put my insecurities out there and own them and strangely women would think I'm confident. In 2017 this core confidence falls under the banner of natural game and authors like Brene Brown have now made millions wr…
/r/seduction05/02/17 04:39 AM
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Wondering if you get anxiety at the possibility of emotional intimacy. AKA even though you really want emotional intimacy, the uncertainty that comes with it feels scary so you run from it. If that's true, you're probably what's called an Avoidant Attachment type. That girl from the past might've been the trigger
/r/seduction05/02/17 04:10 AM
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True. Many people here seem to worry too much about what women think. However, who can blame them? It's human nature. I think there's a center every man needs to have. Where you can care about what women think but they can't emotionally sway you from your center. Most guys have no center so they project their purpose/state on the woman they like. And women are hyper emotional and all over the place which means these guys end up hyper emotional and all over the place by proxy. They end up acting …
/r/seduction04/02/17 06:09 PM
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Tell her and own it like it's normal How you say it matters more than the fact you are Once they like you, 99% of the girls out there won't care you're a virgin. They will care however if you're masculine enough to not act like a little bitch about it. You act like a little bitch - she goes into mom mode and starts thinking I gotta babysit this little boy now - and sexual attraction goes out the window. Same goes for any vulnerability. You own the vulnerability enough to be able to express it co…
/r/seduction04/02/17 05:59 PM
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| First sign of silence and I go for the number close. You need to figure out why you're doing this and stop doing it. Sounds like some kind of emotional anxiety. Silence is not necessarily a bad thing btw. If she's having fun and wants the conversation to continue, she's gonna wanna fill the silence herself. | what are some good first text to send or are they normally situational on what your first meet was like. Some variation of "Hi this is ____, was nice meeting you!"
/r/seduction04/02/17 05:47 PM
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The whole receptive from the start is basically girls that have always targeted you. These are the girls that'll literally wait around a whole year for you to do something instead of moving on or auto-rejecting. It's more of a qualifier to explain that kind of rare behavior than anything you can really use. In practice most of these girls that wait around for a whole year for you end up in that situation because you never wanted them in the first place and ignored them. For you, all that matters…
/r/seduction04/02/17 05:39 PM
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There are plenty of girls out there who want the same thing - independent women and women with emotional intimacy issues pretty much thrive on casual sex. But you need to have sensual chemistry with them and lead them while avoiding boyfriend LTR qualities. Which is why /u/lipchuck 's advice makes sense - be more of a mystery and don't reveal too much about anything that would make her see you as LTR material (career and shit like that) | When I go up to a girl, should I tell them my interest in…
/r/seduction04/02/17 04:54 PM
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Honestly I find quotes on masculinity from centuries old dead guys more pertinent than 99% of the crap that gets posted on PUA and RP forums. And he's not a poster boy for PUA's because most PUA's aren't even following this philosophy That old quote is about stoicism. Ryan Holiday is one of the most popular modern-day stoics and also an incredible writer. Stoicism means only worry about what you can control (basically yourself), be unaffected by what you can't. Half the posts here are the opposi…
/r/seduction04/02/17 04:38 PM
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You're not awkward, just need to figure out what your sticking points (emotional or social) are and work through them. You're gonna be forced to talk to people for the rest of your life, so might as well figure out how to get comfortable This book might help
/r/seduction04/02/17 04:26 PM
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Here's one nobody knows about: Close Encounters: Communication in Relationships by Guerrero/Anderson/Afifi It's a psychology textbook with a ton of frameworks and theories for how people hook up and form relationships. Most of the seduction community has zero formal exposure to these things (I've only seen one message board post ever that referenced any of these theories - this one from 2012), yet they're all empirically supported, and most gurus, whether they know it or not, are just rehashing,…
/r/seduction03/09/16 12:15 AM
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/r/seduction01/09/16 12:59 AM
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Pretty sure you creeped her out
/r/seduction31/08/16 07:31 PM
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Models has two core themes - non-neediness and vulnerability. Writing something down and communicating it is related to both Typical needy guy is someone who's reactive to women. Part of why he's like that is he doesn't know himself - he doesn't have a strong identity he can communicate to women, he doesn't know what traumas gave him a specific attachment style, doesn't know what he has to offer, so he just seeks validation from whatever attractive woman is within arms reach. Exploring/understan…
/r/seduction23/08/16 03:01 PM
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I'm Asian, 5'7", and I stopped trying to interpret interactions through race when I was in my early 20's There's no point. There are like a million reasons why a girl may or may not like you that have nothing to do with race and you'll probably never know because if they don't like you, not like you're gonna follow up with them. Meanwhile if you have your shit together, women of all races are gonna be friendly or attracted to you to the point the ones that shut you down are worth spending zero b…
/r/seduction20/08/16 09:26 PM
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There are "tests" in the sense that girls use your behavior as feedback to gauge you but most girls are not playing games, sitting around plotting to fail you. And we do the same thing to them. We subconsciously take feedback during an interaction and if the girl says anything weird, a red light goes on in your head, that is, assuming you have standards and know what kind of girl you don't want to be with. Problem here is this sub and the community in general for the last 10 years has been overb…
/r/seduction20/08/16 09:14 PM
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Actually Models tells you to polarize neutral women so they either become attracted or reject you ASAP Not to stay in no man's land and pursue for months with nothing happening
/r/seduction19/08/16 04:25 PM
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Creepy = making a girl feel threatened sexually Creepy and flirtatious are opposite sides of the same coin. One you express your sexuality and she likes it. The other you express your sexuality and she's like WTF and wants to run away You don't have 100% control on how a girl reacts to you but agree with /u/Xane3x the biggest thing is whether or not you hide your intentions IE You talk to a girl about the weather and stare at her tits the whole time with drool coming out of your mouth = creepy. …
/r/seduction19/08/16 03:51 PM
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If she won't shut up, she's probably a nervous talker. Filling in empty space w words to avoid awkwardness is what nervous talkers do. Most people are the opposite btw - they feel social anxiety and get all quiet and stuck inside their head in analysis paralysis. Nervous talkers feel anxiety and just talk and talk and talk I just cold read them and if it's not an annoying turn off I tell them I think it's cute. IE when you get anxious you ramble a lot huh. That's like the opposite of me. What's …
/r/seduction19/08/16 03:39 PM
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Well luckily that's not the case Why you wanna settle for a wierd girl for?
/r/seduction19/08/16 12:05 AM
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It's not an apology, it's me telling her why I brought her here. And if she interprets it as I have something to apologize for then she must be socially retarded
/r/seduction18/08/16 11:34 PM
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Here's what I woulda said Yeah I take all my dates here. I'm not a fan of movie and restaurant dates. To me point of a date is to get to know the girl, bounce my personality off her, see how she feels. I like how I can just grab a coffee, walk around here and just get to know a girl, no bullshit All I did was answer the question. If me saying this kills my chances, then the girl is wierd
/r/seduction18/08/16 11:05 PM
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Small talk = talking about facts. Interesting talk = talking about emotions. Really interesting talk = talking about emotions regarding her, you, or the both of you Tell her what you like about her, quirks that you've noticed about her that you think are cute, etc. Talk about your life, what you love doing, what you wanna be doing in 10 years, what you're afraid of, what you like in a girl, what's a dealbreaker for you in a relationship, etc, let her answer the same questions and open up to you …
/r/seduction18/08/16 10:55 PM
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Can't tell if serious
/r/seduction18/08/16 10:13 PM
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This sub is overboard w the shit tests Why not just answer the question?
/r/seduction18/08/16 07:55 PM
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Just wanted to point out your definition of selfish is what other people call not being needy
/r/seduction18/08/16 02:59 PM
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Yup exactly What I've found is the jokes and humor come naturally once you're totally comfortable with who you are. Because if you're having fun with a girl and something like that about you comes up, you naturally wanna joke or self-deprecate about it a little to keep the vibe going
/r/seduction18/08/16 02:56 PM
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You have to own your flaws/insecurities to the point you can communicate them like they're nothing and don't affect you If you can tell a girl, you stutter when you get nervous, or that sometimes you think you don't look good, or whatever insecurities you just posted up top... and can tell her about them comfortably without hating yourself, you're unstoppable. And that girl you're dating, no matter how hot or cool you thinks she is, has a ton of "flaws" too she's probably hiding See this is wher…
/r/seduction18/08/16 04:52 AM
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Shit tests are totally blown out of proportion and not as important as most guys think they are IMO. Then you got guys who think everything a girl does is a shit test and end up being unable to socialize like a normal human being because they're always on the defensive For OP, the girl's not shit testing you. She's genuinely interested and trying to make normal conversation
/r/seduction17/08/16 02:29 PM
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Call them out on it. If they hitting you up a week after, something like, I really wanted to hang out w you but you totally flaked on me. Next time just tell me straight up so we don't waste each other's time Some girls won't be into you but won't tell you. Some girls got issues. Don't let either waste your time, they'll drive you nuts
/r/seduction16/08/16 04:18 PM
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Ignoring all the details on how to do stuff, that's the gist of it. Some of the how to could be spelled out better but... The whole be vulnerable and sharing yourself is gold IMO. If you've spent a decade using canned lines or performance behaviors or whatever the hell they call it now, shifting to just putting yourself out there and seeing it work is actually pretty amazing
/r/seduction16/08/16 04:06 PM
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For me, my parents' masculine/feminine polarities were inverted. Mom ran the show, dad was passive. Which means you grow up not really having a male figure to model yourself after. That Robert Glover book is all about what childhoods like this do to a guy. Personally, whatever was missing, I recovered on my own through life experiences while being self aware enough to know what parts of me were screwed up
/r/seduction28/07/16 02:16 PM
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