I've never called anyone an incel in my life because quite frankly your sexual intrests really shouldn't be relevant to anyone who doesn't want to have sex with you. Being married and committed completely to my husband I have no concern for anyone's sex life unless they are seeking advice. As much as you want it to be true, not all women are evil, I promise.
How could we? We aren't guys, I am really sorry though. It is obvious that some awful women have done awful things to a lot of guys on this sub and it breaks my heart. No one should be treated with the type of abuse it takes to create this mind set. I know I can't change what happened to you or anyone else but I promise you I will try my best to stand behind you guys and let the "nice girls" know they are just as bad as the asshats they complain about.