Litelifer386 Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

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3	Soon-to-be-ex car repossessed: Had the same situation, only it was written into agreement. Car still got repo’d after finalized divorce. Guess what happened? Nothing. There’s really no recourse, other than I was able to negotiate with the creditor and get a lower balance to pay off.	/r/Divorce_Men	03/03/26 06:47 PM
2	In an amicable divorce, how did you cut your emotional ties? Like many others have said, time. Just give it time. It’s not going to be easy, but you’ll figure out your own life with kids, new traditions, new memories.	/r/Divorce_Men	05/02/26 11:39 PM
2	How is custody determined? Divorce is tough on everyone. There is no situation where things will be 100% shielded from kids. It’s going to be bumpy for a bit. Kids are resilient and adaptable. Just try to do everything you can for them. Family therapy, books, talk to them, check in with them routinely, create your own traditions, your own memories.	/r/Divorce_Men	05/01/26 05:30 PM
3	How is custody determined? Fight for 50/50, if that’s what you want. You don’t have to believe everything she says or blindly go along with it. Time to think about you, and what’s best for your kids. Be strategic and selective with what you say going forward.	/r/Divorce_Men	05/01/26 05:04 PM
10	Ex wife has a new boyfriend that has moved in with her Wow! 5 years? My ex waited less than a year. You really have zero control over who she brings around or lives with her and your son. As long as the children are safe and taken care of is all that matters. It stings and it sucks feeling like you’ve been replaced. That’s valid. However, one day children will grow up and see who you really are and how you raised them. You’re the dad, not him. Try to avoid thinking of it as a popularity contest or a competition. Make memories and create traditions w…	/r/Divorce_Men	05/11/25 10:54 PM
9	Is cheating during a separation a thing Sure is! So is lying, manipulation, smoke and mirrors and probably gas lighting. The question you should be asking is if you live in a no fault state. If you do, none of this matters. I would avoid snooping through her stuff. Start preparing yourself to accept the fact the marriage is over. I would avoid contacting the boyfriend. What do you hope to accomplish? What will you say? What response are you looking for from him? If you’re going down the road of separation and divorce stop talking to h…	/r/Divorce_Men	27/10/25 03:47 PM
5	Have to meet the "new man", how to approach this? Uhh…I didn’t meet him. What do you hope to accomplish by meeting this person? If you don’t approve, it’s not going to change anything. There is really nothing to say. Unless you want to become friends with her/him, that’s a whole other conversation. I asked my kids if he is nice to them and left it at that. One time I waived when I picked kids up, but that’s it. I didn’t feel it was necessary to meet him. Each parent gets to decide who the kids meet or are around on their parenting time. As long…	/r/Divorce_Men	03/09/25 05:43 PM
7	How did you manage your relationship with kids post divorce.? Somehow there is a perception that kids automatically go with the mom and the dad is automatically out of the picture. Automatic CS. You are the dad and you have rights. She just doesn’t get to decide what happens. Get a lawyer, do your research. It will surprise you. I got 50/50 custody and she pays me CS. As the other comment said, it’s all business. Choose your words carefully, build a boundary and be strategic with what you say to her.	/r/Divorce_Men	14/12/23 08:58 PM