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| – | Where did this ridiculous notion come from that men lack emotional competence because they are only allowed to feel angerLmao don't worry it doesn't suck as much as being one of these loser "not all men" dudes. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/03/24 06:37 PM |
| – | Where did this ridiculous notion come from that men lack emotional competence because they are only allowed to feel angerI never blamed an entire gender. But you do when you defend abusers and when you actively align with them. Looks like a duck/quacks like a duck all of that shit. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/03/24 06:34 PM |
| 1 | I would rather be single than settle for a man.Men advocating for women to “settle” know they aren’t shit. Ignore them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/03/24 05:15 PM |
| – | Where did this ridiculous notion come from that men lack emotional competence because they are only allowed to feel angerI have no doubt half the men on this sub get scary angry. The rhetoric around women alone speaks volumes. And if you aren't like that that's how you're presenting. Don't even pretend. It is enough of you for it to be a stereotype. You don't have to take accountability for other men's bad behavior. Why do you feel a need to defend them? That alone speaks alot about the type of person you are. One who makes excuses for abusers. You also shouldn't blame victims of DV (another thing that makes any w… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/03/24 05:11 PM |
| – | Where did this ridiculous notion come from that men lack emotional competence because they are only allowed to feel angerI have seen 2 men punch holes in walls and my dad kicked a hole in my desk. If your expression of anger is violence your emotions don't deserve validation. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/03/24 04:10 PM |
| 1 | Why are people still so hesitant to admit that two-parent households are best for kids and that fathers are important?Ideally you come from a two parent household that's just not reality for many. This post leaves out queer couples but FTR I've noticed a trend of parents from same-sex couple households are better behaviorally, socially and academically than their peers from my time as a teaching artist. Probably has something to do with how many hoops you have to jump through to adopt and these are people who are actively ready to parent. Either way I think it has less to do with gender and more to do with havi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/03/24 03:52 PM |
| – | Where did this ridiculous notion come from that men lack emotional competence because they are only allowed to feel angerEvery time I read posts like this I just go "the hole my ex punched in my wall would like a word" Nuance is all well and good but at a certain point why is men's expression of anger usually tinted with violence. I've never been so angry that I broke something or scared anyone around me. It's obviously not all men but it's enough for me to dump dudes the moment they start to remind me of my ex. I don't think men are emotionally incompetent inherently I think they bottle up their emotions because … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/03/24 03:33 PM |
| 1 | What’s your opinion on the 4B movement coming to America?I think settling is a bad thing. I think you’re ultimately wasting eachother’s time. And in that time you wasted you could have actually met someone who has aligning interests and goals | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/03/24 02:03 PM |
| 2 | What’s your opinion on the 4B movement coming to America?Tbh I just don’t care. If women in my life swore off dating I’d be happy for them. If they wanted to keep dating I’d be happy for them. The dating pool is super grim for straight girls from everything I’ve witnessed/heard in the last few years. Economy sucks and Conservatives are coming for things like birth control access. I get it tbh | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/03/24 01:59 PM |
| 4 | What's with the huge popularity of polyamory and open relationships at the moment?Tbh I don’t think teens should be”dating” at all until they can drive but you can’t really control that | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/03/24 09:15 PM |
| 4 | What's with the huge popularity of polyamory and open relationships at the moment?That’s insane bc that’s not even what being poly is. Like genuinely that’s awful. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/03/24 06:30 PM |
| 1 | Thought experiment on direct/indirect communication styles in women.Because I’m thirsty and want something to drink and he’s already up. But when I say things like “I’m stressed” my man will go get me tea without me asking. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/03/24 06:14 PM |
| 5 | What's with the huge popularity of polyamory and open relationships at the moment?A lot of guys will tell girls they’re poly and not mention that their gf doesn’t know and Vice versa and that’s not being poly that’s 💕cheating💕 It’s a bummer bc people like that give a false impression of the community | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/03/24 06:09 PM |
| 8 | What's with the huge popularity of polyamory and open relationships at the moment?Yo send me your sources IVE NEVER HEARD THIS and I’m so curious | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/03/24 06:03 PM |
| 7 | Why do women on dating apps ask what men do for work?I’ve not met one that’s defied this stereotype alas | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/03/24 05:57 PM |
| 3 | Why do women on dating apps ask what men do for work?Tech/finance/military dudes are a hard pass for me. Lived in “yeehaw” American south and now in Hella Left NYC and I’ve seen too much from those demographics lmao. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/03/24 05:56 PM |
| 11 | Why do women on dating apps ask what men do for work?Don’t worry you’re safe | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/03/24 04:59 PM |
| 9 | Why do women on dating apps ask what men do for work?My exact expression when I read that | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/03/24 04:57 PM |
| 3 | Why do women on dating apps ask what men do for work?OP how much do you make a year | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/03/24 04:24 PM |
| 6 | What's with the huge popularity of polyamory and open relationships at the moment?I mean it’s just the absence of sex positivity/close mindedness about anything that isn’t exactly their worldview. The way these guys discuss this stuff just gives me the biggest ick. It’s a dull boring limited way to view sex and relationships. It genuinely sounds like they’re scared of human sexuality when insert thing doesn’t line up with their views or experiences. Which honestly makes me wonder about what their sex life is like bc this is a lot of energy to give to a group of people that it… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/03/24 04:16 PM |
| 7 | What's with the huge popularity of polyamory and open relationships at the moment?I have friends in poly relationships. They’re happy. It doesn’t affect me. A lot of them are performers/hella artistic types that work in queer communities and nightlife. Also pretty hot. Like get paid to model hot. It’s a lifestyle that makes sense for them because they’re constantly taking out of state contracts/going on tour or that’s just their preference. It makes more sense for them to be open bc they’re leaving eachother for months at a time to work. My other friends just realized they we… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/03/24 02:58 PM |
| 2 | What's with the huge popularity of polyamory and open relationships at the moment?TEA | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/03/24 02:58 PM |
| 2 | Women will always have options, men need to create opportunities to have options.Lmao this one is too honest and rooted in reality they aren’t gonna like it | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/03/24 02:12 PM |
| 2 | Should men fix themselves before seeking a relationship?The “self improvement quest” is supposed to help you decenter the opposite sex so you don’t spiral if you can’t find a partner. I was single all throughout college and the first part of my 20s with flings here and there. It was a fun time for self-exploration where I was able to figure out what I wanted for my life and in a partner. I picked up hobbies, learned an instrument, read and performed a lot It’s not necessarily about “fixing yourself” (unless there are things about yourself that you wa… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/03/24 02:03 PM |
| 8 | What's with the huge popularity of polyamory and open relationships at the moment?There’s also no incentive to have children. Our healthcare system is fucked, maternity leave is fucked, paternity leave is nonexistent, housing prices/grocery prices are sky high, wages have stagnated the kids that are in school have dismal literacy rates. Capitalism is corroding the family unit lmao not poly people | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/03/24 01:59 PM |
| 7 | What's with the huge popularity of polyamory and open relationships at the moment?It’s so weird that these men always hop to “well they’re ugly anyway” They don’t know what we look like lmao. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/03/24 01:53 PM |
| 10 | What's with the huge popularity of polyamory and open relationships at the moment?I’m a monogamous girlie tbh. But I have friends who are poly and the success rate varies but they’re all pretty happy. One of my friends in a throuple has a baby that they all coparent. (They’re parents and I’m not lmao) Idk the moral panic around this is v overblown. Most poly people are minding their own business and being open about what they’re seeking. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/03/24 01:52 PM |
| 1 | Prostitution won’t work (change my mind)You can believe what you want. You can what you want. But the truth is the truth. So you admit that the majority of men view women as sex objects and are only kind to us in pursuit of sex. And you aren't ashamed or embarrassed of that? Yikes. Your prostitution theory is also incorrect and batshit. You're making shit up. The majority of women don't want to fuck random men for money (c'mon we've all seen men). It won't work bc it won't happen. I've known sex workers and the reality of sex work is … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/03/24 12:42 AM |
| 2 | Prostitution won’t work (change my mind)You're less likely to run into a street walker in a state where it's legal. I live in NYC, in Brooklyn, Drag shows are really prevalent here. I still have to look up the show online, go to a queer venue and pay an entry fee/buy a drink. Despite me living in a stereotypically queer neighborhood there are still PLENTY of churches and straight people. ALSO The emphasis on "why" people want sex work to be legal has more to do with the safety of sex workers and the elimination of things like traffiki… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/03/24 10:15 PM |
| 1 | Both sides are right, if you look at things from their perspective it makes logical sense,5’2” and dated a dude my height and a dude that was taller than me but only by a couple of inches. THEY ARE THAT INSECURE | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/03/24 06:03 PM |
| 1 | Measures to get over a crush.If it's someone you dated give yourself like a rot 72 hours to a week. Journal about it/call someone and talk about it then after that get under someone else ASAP (make sure you're clear about the casualness of this). If that's not a possibility go out, hang out with friends, put yourself in social settings, being alone with your thoughts is going to be tough for a while so I would genuinely try to have atleast one place to go a day. Particularly on weekends, having one activity or social event … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/03/24 05:08 PM |
| 6 | Prostitution won’t work (change my mind)All of this is delusional and has no bearing in reality. Sex work has been around since the beginning of time. It is the oldest industry in the history of humanity. It is always going to exist regardless of legality and regardless about how anyone feels about it. That’s why it’s important to legalize and regulate sex work so it can be safe for sex workers and their patrons. Sex work needs to be legalized to protect sex workers, not because we have to solve the “men can’t get laid” gap. If you ar… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/03/24 03:46 PM |
| 1 | All your dating problems come down to one thing....So stay single then🤷♀️ if that’s really how you feel about women | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/03/24 12:33 PM |
| 1 | Most women are too concerned about themselves and what they can get from men to be able to love.Jesus touch grass no one is altering their behavior so they can be attractive to you | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/03/24 12:31 PM |
| 1 | Most women are too concerned about themselves and what they can get from men to be able to love.I’m just genuinely baffled…most women put on some version of coverup everyday like it’s not subtle lmao and y’all CANT TELL | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/03/24 12:12 PM |
| 3 | Humans will eventually become a male-only species.I think women would be super impressed and turned on if there were no more wars actually. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/03/24 03:29 AM |
| 3 | Do men feel less guilty about dating autistic people compared to women?King shit SwigglyWiggles 10/10 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/03/24 03:00 AM |
| 1 | Do men feel less guilty about dating autistic people compared to women?OP is he really struggling socially like does he have friends outside of romantic attachments? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/03/24 02:53 AM |
| 37 | Humans will eventually become a male-only species.The real question is when women don't exist who are these weird grifters going to blame for their problems lmao | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/03/24 12:13 AM |
| 1 | Why are women so keen on having male friendsIt was the forced proximity Lmao. We probably would have hooked up but I don’t shit where I eat. Discounted on arrival | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/03/24 11:51 PM |
| 1 | Why are women so keen on having male friendsI’ll be forreal he wasn’t an uggo, he was in good shape, had a realty license (when we were like 20 and in college) and great at his area of study just wasn’t for me. He ended up going to grad school at Juliard. Talented dude just wasn’t someone for me and now knowing what I know isn’t Someone I want to interact with again | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/03/24 10:56 PM |
| 15 | Do men feel less guilty about dating autistic people compared to women?ND women get manic pixie dreamgirled. Autistic women are usually diagnosed much later in life and have been spending a lot of their lives masking to get by so they probably don’t struggle as much socially as their peers do. Traits people traditionally associate with autism (not always)/the way they come off to NT are considered attractive when women have them but not necessarily men. For instance quirkiness, naïveté, intense passion, hyperfixations etc. (again these are stereotypes not necessari… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/03/24 10:47 PM |
| 1 | Why are women so keen on having male friendsDid you mean to reply to this comment lmao | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/03/24 10:39 PM |
| 2 | Why are women so keen on having male friendsI personally don’t view all of humanity as “mate or not” Genuinely. Not every guy I meet is potential conquest. And that’s such a limiting way to view the world. He wasn’t counted out bc he was lacking in anything. I wasn’t looking to date or fuck my classmate and he presented as FRIEND until we were drunk. He wasn’t clear about his intentions and after those intentions were rebuffed he’d wait about 6 months to a year, maybe date someone in between then try again. I don’t think he was lacking in… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/03/24 10:34 PM |
| 2 | Why are women so keen on having male friendsWe didn’t date bc we were stuck with eachother for four years and if we had a messy fall out it would have been a shitshow that could have impacted our academic and professional careers. I also didn’t particularly want a boyfriend and I wasn’t sexually attracted to him. He wasn’t being graded on a metric of “will I or won’t I” fuck him. I never took offense to him distancing bc I knew he had a history of expressing interest with me and I could get how that would make his partner uncomfortable. I… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/03/24 09:33 PM |
| 2 | Why are women so keen on having male friendsYeah it was legit really upsetting to find out. I knew he might have lingering feelings but there was enough time between each of these attempts for me to think he was finally over it. And we were in one of those super small college programs together so we had to interact with each other for the better part of four years, I had thought he had kind of buried whatever was going on because the potential fallout of us dating/hooking up would have made our college experience a nightmare because of ho… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/03/24 09:00 PM |
| 1 | Men only have importance to women as providers.SO you're telling me you have all of these traits that all of these man children INSIST will get you the love of your life. And you're on this sub, making unrelated rage bait on a comment that had nothing to do with men picking up the check and "these whore feminists". Wow almost like Looks, money and status don't actually matter that much. LMAO for your sake I hope you're lying otherwise you're walking proof that LMS isn't as important as people like to pretend it is. You're doing that cyclical… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/03/24 08:47 PM |
| 1 | Men only have importance to women as providers.Nah I’ll tell it to my loving partner of two years who is taller and makes more than you 😘 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/03/24 08:18 PM |
| 1 | Men only have importance to women as providers.There’s nothing you could say to me that would dampen my view of myself bc frankly (again) your opinion holds no value | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/03/24 08:17 PM |
| 1 | Men only have importance to women as providers.Lmao is that supposed to hurt my feelings? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/03/24 08:15 PM |
| 1 | Men only have importance to women as providers.Slut is my fav insult. It’s exclusively used by losers with miserable or nonexistent sex lives. Love it ❤️ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/03/24 08:13 PM |
| 1 | Men only have importance to women as providers.Your periphery opinion of women who’ve shown no interest in who are placed in a category I don’t fall in is irrelevant. You’re whining about something no one is making or forcing you to do. You do not have to pick up the tab if you don’t want to. The fact that THIS is your gripe, hysterical, petulant. Y’all want to be victims so bad but the gripes you pick barely warrant discourse. Quit being a little bitch stand on business and refuse to pay. Otherwise your whining. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/03/24 08:08 PM |
| 1 | Men only have importance to women as providers.Never identified as a feminist lmao. Again y’all create these boogie men in your head but men are the ones who created these dynamics when they spent the first millennia subjugating women. You’re upset that you’re no longer guaranteed a partner and children. But if the only way for that reality to be guaranteed for you is by re-enforcing patriarchal cultural norms natural selection is selecting. Your woes with women don’t extend into rape or violence so tbh Idgaf. Grow a backbone and refuse to p… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/03/24 08:03 PM |
| 1 | Men only have importance to women as providers.You aren’t describing feminists. You’re describing women who want traditional relationships. Which most of y’all can’t afford lmao. Guess what social dynamics/ demographic in previous generations made the man picking up the tab the norm I’ll give you a hint it wasn’t feminists | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/03/24 08:00 PM |
| 1 | Men only have importance to women as providers.“Hypocrisy whores” = women who wouldn’t glance your way if you lit yourself on fire. Keep coping king 👑 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/03/24 07:37 PM |
| 2 | Men only have importance to women as providers.Sounds like you either need to hold out for 32% or open your wallet 🤷♀️. Go against the grain ✌️ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/03/24 06:31 PM |
| 7 | Why are women so keen on having male friendsEvery time we got drunk he tried to fuck me and kept dropping off the face of the earth whenever he got into a relationship. Can’t keep a guy around who’s only nice to you bc he’s waiting for sex tokens to fall out. I was actually really upset when I found out that was always his goal. A bit of a polite distance since we both graduated then I found out he shoved my friend to the ground after she rebuffed his advances when they were seniors in high school so now he’s on my shit list. 🤷♀️ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/03/24 06:29 PM |
| 3 | Men only have importance to women as providers.Link the surveys.Link the studies. No one is forcing you to pay lmao. No one is forcing you to interact with women that only care about money. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/03/24 05:38 PM |
| 2 | Men only have importance to women as providers.Has a woman forced you to pick up the tab or did you offer? Why can’t you say no? Why are you accepting behavior you think is unacceptable? If you don’t want to buy her meal then don’t? Literally say no. Y’all don’t even have the funds to be in a traditional relationship so don’t be? I just don’t feel bad for y’all I went Dutch for the majority of my 20s unless the dude insisted on paying lmao. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/03/24 05:32 PM |
| 3 | Men only have importance to women as providers.“Oh no my only contribution to the relationship was a paycheck and now she gets one too 😭” | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/03/24 05:26 PM |
| 1 | Q4W: Looks, money, status... Is it true?My current partner makes 170k a year, is the life of every party and is one of the first people his friends call when they have exciting news or need advice, and I personally think he’s not as fuck. If we broke up tomorrow those would be my new metrics 👍 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/03/24 04:07 PM |
| 6 | Why are women so keen on having male friendsI’m no longer keen on it. My closest guy friend of years was fully just trying to fuck me the whole time. All of my existing guy friends (the ones that survived the purge) are queer, engaged, or I work/collab with them professionally a lot ✌️ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/03/24 03:43 PM |
| 6 | Men only have importance to women as providers.I’m so sick of this moral posturing lmao. Patriarchal structures cast men as providers and women as mothers. Under patriarchal structures women also lose their potential, identity and unlike men under these structures our autonomy. These structures were set up by and for men and upheld by the most annoying people alive. A large percentage of women (and men) have rejected these structures and sought to provide for themselves or seek happiness independent of traditional relationship norms. Your be… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/03/24 03:07 PM |
| – | Abundance and scarcity drastically alter the marketTea | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/03/24 01:04 AM |
| – | Abundance and scarcity drastically alter the marketPlot twist the people that make sex a religious sacred pact between two people that have to be married and bemoan anything they deem as “promiscuous” actually care and obsess about sex more than people that have sex with consenting partners when they feel like it | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/03/24 08:31 PM |
| 1 | Disregarding appearance, modern dating dynamics naturally select for emotionally unavailable menLove emotional people. Love emotionally secure people. I don’t gel with people who hold everything inside then have a rage fueled explosion over something random. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/03/24 08:10 PM |
| – | Abundance and scarcity drastically alter the marketIn “the eyes of Christ” it definitely doesn’t count. In fact “everything up to pnv” is biblically sodomy lmao CONGRATS ON 20 YEARS THOUGH ❤️❤️❤️❤️ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/03/24 08:02 PM |
| 1 | Abundance and scarcity drastically alter the marketIs this satire? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/03/24 07:14 PM |
| – | Abundance and scarcity drastically alter the marketEvery couple I grew up with who “waited” got divorced or almost got divorced (3 of those were bc of affairs). Waiting til marriage to have sex doesn’t work in terms of guaranteeing a lasting union. You need to go through all of the honeymoon phases including the post coitus one and live together for a decent chunk of time and even then it might fall to shit. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/03/24 07:13 PM |
| 3 | The best and most healthy relationships in the real world usually involve women who are crazier for their male partner than the other way around.Currently in the most healthy relationship I’ve experienced so far. We’re both crazy for eachother, both eachother’s number one. Was in a relationship where my partner didn’t like me as much as I liked them. I left them. Been in a relationship where my partner was crazy for me but was so wildly insecure about how “out of his league” I was that I couldn’t go to work without him accusing me of cheating. So I left. You either cherish and respect your partner or you lose them. Simple as that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/03/24 06:47 PM |
| 1 | Most women are too concerned about themselves and what they can get from men to be able to love.I’m sorry can y’all literally not tell when women are wearing makeup? Like you really can’t tell??? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/03/24 06:29 PM |
| -1 | Are Situationships for the most part, a result of women not being able to secure men they wish to date?A lot of overthinking here. An FWB dynamic is established and communicated both parties know the dynamic they’ve entered into bc they’ve discussed it out loud probably more than once. A casual fling is one time and things don’t progress from there for whatever reason. A situationship is usually one party being dishonest about their intentions and the other party is being delusional. Usually one or both parties knows that longterm a relationship wouldn’t work but the sex is good and the connectio… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/03/24 04:12 PM |
| -1 | Are Situationships for the most part, a result of women not being able to secure men they wish to date?Tea | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/03/24 04:03 PM |
| 1 | Do you care if there's an age gap in dating?It depends on the age gap. 18-20 (in the US specifically) HOW DID YOU EVEN MEET? We’re you grifting around college campuses? Hanging out at like college parties? Are you working a minimum wage gig with college students that you’re chatting up? Big creep energy not a fan. 21+ it’s your life I don’t think you’re making wise choices but that’s your business. I’d buy you met at a bar/club I think the whole you’re 21 and should explore/date around to get a firm idea of what you want before shacking u… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/03/24 04:02 PM |
| 3 | Are women actually entertaining hypersexual douchebags?Oh I guess it’s time for the weekly “How come women who proclaim to not want anything serious keep hooking up with men that they wouldn’t pursue seriously?! 🥲” post. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/03/24 03:55 PM |
| 0 | Without the influence of modern culture, men would be more successful with women.Lmao. Having a casual sex partner doesn’t mean you rely on that person. It’s literally the opposite. That’s why it’s casual. Been in an LTR for 2 years I don’t need partner. I love my partner. My partner doesn’t need me. He loves me. Forced dependency isn’t love. It’s transaction | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/03/24 02:20 PM |
| 1 | Without the influence of modern culture, men would be more successful with women.Try Grindr then 🤷♀️ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/03/24 02:18 PM |
| 2 | How do women emotionally move on from relationships so quickly?Thank you 🥲 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/03/24 02:15 PM |
| 1 | How do women emotionally move on from relationships so quickly?“She finally chilled out and we don’t argue anymore” -someone who is going to be single in 6 weeks or less | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/03/24 02:15 PM |
| 2 | How do women emotionally move on from relationships so quickly?Tbh if I’m ending it, it’s because I’m not attached anymore. I’m not a dude but in my experience a lot of guys think these little spats/ reoccurring arguments are just their partner “being annoying” but it’s actually much bigger to them than that. People lose feelings for their partner when that partner isn’t validating their feelings or taking them for granted. A lot of times girls will stick around to see if you change/if their feelings come back but it becomes apparent that the relationship i… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/03/24 02:13 PM |
| 2 | Without the influence of modern culture, men would be more successful with women.You’re literally throwing a tantrum over freedoms women have won by feminism. Cry harder | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/03/24 01:58 PM |
| 3 | How do women emotionally move on from relationships so quickly?Oh yeah. Literally met the love of my life a week later and 5 months later we made it official. I’ve never been happier. A week ago I realized that was probably his karma | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/03/24 01:57 PM |
| 1 | How do women emotionally move on from relationships so quickly?When my ex did this we had a lengthy conversation. One of his friends called him out on it when we were all hanging out | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/03/24 01:54 PM |
| 12 | How do women emotionally move on from relationships so quickly?I was also in school. The accommodations I was making to make his schooling easier he wasn’t returning. That’s where it got actually fucked up he’d go on and on about how “important” getting his Masters was and how he was “wasting it” but gave no regard or value towards the one I was pursuing and was a being disruptive during my classes and not changing his behavior after multiple conversations | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/03/24 07:25 PM |
| 17 | How do women emotionally move on from relationships so quickly?I can actually for example; He needed me to get dressed in the living room bc I had to leave for work at 4 AM ✅ I somehow had to sneak those clothes back into our bedroom without waking him up bc he didn’t want clothes in the living room ✅ He needed me to mindful in case he needed the bathroom so didn’t want me to take baths bc those take a long time and use water ✅ He insisted on monopolizing the common area bc he was in grad school so when he had class I had to hide in the bedroom and only com… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/03/24 07:10 PM |
| 26 | How do women emotionally move on from relationships so quickly?A lot of men think once they have a girlfriend they’ve checked a box and can stop trying. My ex didn’t go out with me, didn’t spend time with me, and was only concerned about his needs (that I accommodated) but scoffed and mocked mine. I felt like a fucking maid and not a partner, when I realized this was the dynamic he wanted I left that took a few months Previous relationship we got together and he ran hot when he was angry in a way I couldn’t tolerate (lot of yelling lot of mean things said) … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/03/24 06:46 PM |
| 4 | How do women emotionally move on from relationships so quickly?YEP. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/03/24 06:13 PM |
| 4 | How do women emotionally move on from relationships so quickly?We grieve while we’re still in the relationship that’s why the pattern looks like that | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/03/24 06:10 PM |
| 8 | How do women emotionally move on from relationships so quickly?Self deprecation is such a lame form of humor that it’s frowned upon in comedian/comedy writing circles. Also self deprecate means “towards yourself” lmao he just said a mean thing about her body for no reason. That’s deprecating someone else. It’s just tactless I hope that dude learned his lesson | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/03/24 06:09 PM |
| 4 | How do women emotionally move on from relationships so quickly?Lmao the way you described my “get over him immediately” strategy 😭 I feel seen | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/03/24 06:07 PM |
| 3 | The "All women are 10's" phenomenon - How Male competition (overt) and female competition (covert) works and why female cooperation is leading women to delusionLmao the way y’all equate being kind to others for the sake of it with mental illness is so depressing for you. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/03/24 05:51 PM |
| 8 | How do women emotionally move on from relationships so quickly?In my experience you have the same argument 30 times with no changed behavior. Wait around a bit longer to see if it’ll get better… it doesn’t. It gets worse. We stop arguing back/complaining bc we’ve accepted that you’re just like this. Sunken cost fallacy/we’ve been together so long let’s try to make it work. Eventually we check out completely. We realize we’re checked out and realize that this dude is a terrible partner and we don’t even like him anymore/the situation has become emotionally u… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/03/24 05:45 PM |
| 1 | Which gender do you think treats the other gender worse, on average, in modern western society, and why?10/10 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/03/24 05:37 PM |
| 1 | Which gender do you think treats the other gender worse, on average, in modern western society, and why?I hope a boy you like finds this post and picks you ❤️ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/03/24 05:36 PM |
| 1 | The "All women are 10's" phenomenon - How Male competition (overt) and female competition (covert) works and why female cooperation is leading women to delusionA logical person wouldn’t care. I literally do not care about how men see themselves. I have no opinion on how they equate their physical appearance (besides wondering if they know that the male beauty standards they’re describing are more prevalent in the gay community lmao). | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/03/24 05:34 PM |
| 1 | Without the influence of modern culture, men would be more successful with women.I just think all of these narratives are to help you sleep at night. You moralize interactions you yourself can’t figure out how to navigate yourself therefore “well those girls are getting pumped and dumped/ they aren’t actually 10s/ if my wrist was thicker”. Meanwhile that coping mechanism is probably 60% of the issue. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/03/24 05:22 PM |
| 1 | Without the influence of modern culture, men would be more successful with women.Wow incorrect but tell yourself that lmao. Have fun struggling 👍 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/03/24 05:10 PM |
| 1 | The "All women are 10's" phenomenon - How Male competition (overt) and female competition (covert) works and why female cooperation is leading women to delusionI worked in entertainment for five years as an actor vocalist, dancer and (one time lol but I’ll count it) model after an agency scooped me up after college. I left after lockdown bc I wanted stability, had used the free time to get a Masters and was recovering from an ED (a big reason why I’m anti-equating value to physical appearance). Currently in addition to my day job I’m a cabaret and performance artist that works in plenty of nightlife venues in Manhattan and Brooklyn (easier schedule mor… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/03/24 04:58 PM |
| 1 | Without the influence of modern culture, men would be more successful with women.Women have a plethora of options. Why should we settle for when men are throwing themselves at us. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/03/24 04:53 PM |
| 1 | manosphere dudes are turning off the very women they are trying attract and seem oblivious to this.This is why being an active parent is vital tbh. He’s seeking bc he feels like his parents can’t or won’t help. It’s legit sad | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/03/24 04:51 PM |
| 1 | Without the influence of modern culture, men would be more successful with women.Listen I’m definitely a little weird but my male celebrity crushes are : Peter Dinklage (loved him in Station Agent) Jack Nicholson and at one point ( I had a big Boardwalk Empire phase in highschool) Steve Buscemi. How women experience attraction is more nuanced than what you’re presenting here. This standard of attraction is actually more common in the gay community (hop on Grindr for like five seconds that’s where muscles actually matter). All of that self improvement shit is great. But if yo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/03/24 02:34 PM |
| 1 | The "All women are 10's" phenomenon - How Male competition (overt) and female competition (covert) works and why female cooperation is leading women to delusionPersonally I think Lizzo has balling bone structure and is incredibly pretty. She happens to be fat. I feel so sorry for your wife | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/03/24 02:26 PM |
| 1 | Without the influence of modern culture, men would be more successful with women.What are these men actually doing to improve their prospects? Nothing. They’re mad that they don’t have the options their grandfathers did who (I’ll say it) were likely terrible partners 👍 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/03/24 02:25 PM |
| 3 | Without the influence of modern culture, men would be more successful with women.Big eye roll. If you needed an oppressive societal structure to get married you weren’t supposed to get married. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/03/24 02:21 PM |
| 0 | The "All women are 10's" phenomenon - How Male competition (overt) and female competition (covert) works and why female cooperation is leading women to delusionWe know how men view Lizzo and know that if you’re saying I look like Lizzo you’re attempting to insult me. People don’t enjoy being insulted even if the insult is bad considering that in my case we aren’t even the same race so the comment legit wouldn’t make sense lmao. Lizzo wouldnt fuck you either btw | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/03/24 02:19 PM |
| 3 | The "All women are 10's" phenomenon - How Male competition (overt) and female competition (covert) works and why female cooperation is leading women to delusionIt must be so hard to have all of these feelings about people you don’t know’s internal self image and know that those same people don’t know or care about your existence. 🥲 Big fan energy. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/03/24 02:17 PM |
| 2 | The "All women are 10's" phenomenon - How Male competition (overt) and female competition (covert) works and why female cooperation is leading women to delusionI’d genuinely be like “good for him” 👍 and go on with my day. He’d be more attractive to me then the asshole shoving his iPhone in my face demanding I rate my appearance so people online can be demeaning. Y’all are so obsessed with us lmao get a fucking hobby that isn’t demeaning and harassing women for existing | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/03/24 02:09 PM |
| 1 | The "All women are 10's" phenomenon - How Male competition (overt) and female competition (covert) works and why female cooperation is leading women to delusionI haven’t rated a man using a numeric system like a psychopath once in my entire life. Beauty is subjective and the standard of beauty changes and evolves throughout history. Why are you pressed that women have self esteem? Why do you want women to feel bad about their appearances? Why do you assume women care if you (someone who most women probably wouldn’t date/associate with) find us attractive or not? Why are all of you so emotional about this? Lmao you want us to think we’re ugly so bad. Bu… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/03/24 02:06 PM |
| 2 | The "All women are 10's" phenomenon - How Male competition (overt) and female competition (covert) works and why female cooperation is leading women to delusionOnce again no one gives a fuck about insecure dudes’ opinions on our appearance. No one wants to hear it. Are these guys someone I want to date? No. Be friends with? No. Associate with? No. Will I mock them for having a meltdown over the fact that the average woman holds themselves in a high regard, lmao yes. Y’all are hilarious you want us to care about your opinion so bad. Lmao this is fan behavior ❤️ y’all are obsessed | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/03/24 01:59 PM |
| 1 | manosphere dudes are turning off the very women they are trying attract and seem oblivious to this.I agree but it starts at home. These kids probably had shit parents that weren’t monitoring their screens/giving them way to much freedom/ they’re seeking content that re-enforces the dynamics they’re seeing playing out in these homes. I know for a fact the suspension was the chosen method of discipline bc the parents weren’t hearing it/ picking up the phone/ were being incredibly dismissive of their kid’s behavior. Basically inconveniencing the parents so that maybe they’d actually idk hold the… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/03/24 01:55 PM |
| 1 | The "All women are 10's" phenomenon - How Male competition (overt) and female competition (covert) works and why female cooperation is leading women to delusionRating yourself at all is overrated. Comparison is the death of joy. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/03/24 10:20 PM |
| 2 | The "All women are 10's" phenomenon - How Male competition (overt) and female competition (covert) works and why female cooperation is leading women to delusionDidn’t align with or say that. It’s weird that y’all are obsessed with how we perceive ourselves. It’s not dystopian it’s embarrassing. You want us to care about how you feel about our looks so bad lmao. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/03/24 10:09 PM |
| 4 | The "All women are 10's" phenomenon - How Male competition (overt) and female competition (covert) works and why female cooperation is leading women to delusionDidn’t align with that. It’s weird that y’all are obsessed with how we perceive ourselves. This is embarrassing behavior | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/03/24 10:09 PM |
| 11 | The "All women are 10's" phenomenon - How Male competition (overt) and female competition (covert) works and why female cooperation is leading women to delusionNo I wouldn’t. I’d assume he has hobbies,maybe is super talented at something, has multiple degrees, is incredibly funny, super kind or idk just feels good about himself that day. Self-esteem is not chauvinist. An example of Chauvinism is assigning numeric value to women’s appearances to make yourself feel better about how little control you have over your dating prospects 👍 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/03/24 10:04 PM |
| 1 | The "All women are 10's" phenomenon - How Male competition (overt) and female competition (covert) works and why female cooperation is leading women to delusionIt’s annoying that you care about how women perceive themselves. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/03/24 10:01 PM |
| 5 | The "All women are 10's" phenomenon - How Male competition (overt) and female competition (covert) works and why female cooperation is leading women to delusionGenuinely like why do they caaaaaare? It’s so pathetic | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/03/24 09:54 PM |
| 4 | A woman pushing for commitment can leave a man feeling the same way a man pushing for sex makes a woman feelThat’s literally what I said. At that point you’re wasting your own time. Don’t be annoying, leave and go find someone else who wants commitment Coercing someone into sex is sexual assault, nagging a dude into a relationship isn’t. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/03/24 09:52 PM |
| 6 | The "All women are 10's" phenomenon - How Male competition (overt) and female competition (covert) works and why female cooperation is leading women to delusionThere’s one intent for a man you don’t know with a camera to asking you to rate your appearance and it’s to neg you/ tear you down. Bc there’s no right answer? Any number you give is scrutinized or mocked. I guess if you believe your physique is the only metric of value you possess that sort of thing matters 🤷♀️ but personally I’m beyond giving a fuck. Why do you care so much that these women have self-esteem? Why do you care? Just because you think you’re ugly doesn’t mean everyone else needs … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/03/24 08:57 PM |
| 28 | The "All women are 10's" phenomenon - How Male competition (overt) and female competition (covert) works and why female cooperation is leading women to delusionBeauty is subjective and any man who asks you to rate yourself is baiting you. Many women say “10” as a “fuck you”. When I was asked this question I refused to answer because I know a bad faith question when I see one. And I refuse to let some rage baiting loser that’s inconveniencing me with this approach to begin with then try to neg me. I don’t care how men like that perceive me. The way they only equate value with physical appearance is it’s own level of unattractive. Why are you so desperat… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/03/24 08:44 PM |
| 0 | Blue Pillers constantly respond to criticism or men venting with “well clearly your attitude/personality is why you struggle” but this makes zero sense, as venting anonymously online has absolutely nothing to do with how you interact with women/people in real lifeIdk pretty sure if any woman dating you saw this post or posts like it on your phone you’d never hear from them again 🤷♀️ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/03/24 08:12 PM |
| 14 | A woman pushing for commitment can leave a man feeling the same way a man pushing for sex makes a woman feelIf someone is pushing for something you don’t want leave. It’s that simple. Women shouldn’t get overly invested in men that aren’t invested in them duh. If he’s being wishy washy you should respect yourself enough to leave. If someone is pressuring you to do things you’re uncomfortable you should stop associating with that person that has abuser red flags all over it. Just FYI coercion is legally a form of sexually assault and in certain contexts can land you in prison. Asking someone to commit … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/03/24 08:07 PM |
| 9 | Without the influence of modern culture, men would be more successful with women.Lmao I’m sorry women’s indifference toward you is giving you an existential crisis. Let’s go back to wiping our asses with leaves and dying of broken limbs bc then it’ll be easier for you to get laid | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/03/24 07:52 PM |
| 4 | You can't change what you're attracted to. But most people can compromise on certain preferences.Don’t talk about my man Gomez like that | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/03/24 06:59 PM |
| 2 | Without the influence of modern culture, men would be more successful with women.Genuinely. Half of these dudes just want a live in maid sex mommy. The temper tantrums are honestly funny at this point | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/03/24 06:57 PM |
| 5 | manosphere dudes are turning off the very women they are trying attract and seem oblivious to this.Half the audience for those shows are literal middle schoolers. I was a teaching artist at a middle school for a while and we had a couple RP Tate kids. One of them was eventually suspended for calling a teacher a bottom bitch. The girls hated him. It’s sad to watch tbh these kids are ruining their prospects before they’ve even stepped into the real world. They’re making the next 5 years of their life miserable and all of the “fuck yous” probably re-enforces the misogyny. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/03/24 06:53 PM |
| 9 | Without the influence of modern culture, men would be more successful with women.In many parts of the Middle East the Hijab is compulsory. Meaning they didn’t have a choice. Literally google is free | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/03/24 06:50 PM |
| 8 | Without the influence of modern culture, men would be more successful with women.Hey fam do you know what an honor killing is? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/03/24 06:49 PM |
| – | Without the influence of modern culture, men would be more successful with women.I’m sorry your having an identity crisis bc women can get jobs, open bank accounts and vote now 🥲 that must be super fucking hard for you ❤️ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/03/24 06:45 PM |
| 1 | Without the influence of modern culture, men would be more successful with women.Teeeeeeeeeaaaaaaa | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/03/24 06:43 PM |
| 1 | Without the influence of modern culture, men would be more successful with women.If y’all don’t need women then leave us alone damn | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/03/24 06:42 PM |
| 6 | Without the influence of modern culture, men would be more successful with women.Lmao we don’t need them and they can’t handle it 😂 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/03/24 06:41 PM |
| 1 | Is it a bad or good idea to display any real emotional issue or vulnerability in a relationship?If you allow yourself to express your emotions freely instead of bottling them up and having them come out all at once in a random expression of rage you’ll be good. 👍 People that don’t allow a full range of emotions are bad partners. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/03/24 07:40 PM |
| 2 | Why are women so aggressively worried about being murdered by men?Hi hey hi. So I’ve had my safety threatened by men more times than I can count. It’s been strangers and people I know. Granted I live in New York but this is like a monthly occurrence. Idk why men that aren’t violent struggle to acknowledge that we’re constantly being put in danger by the opposite sex and have to move through the world in a state of vigilance. Lmao sorry that makes approaching us “inconvenient” | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/03/24 06:20 PM |
| 7 | Those raised by parents/caregivers who didn't conform to gender roles, how did that affect your attitude to dating and the things you're attracted to?I’m gonna answer the opposite bc this has low traction I grew up in one of those patriarchal “head of the household” Christian homes I’m a big fat heretic now. I go out of my way to avoid men that hold the same values and political beliefs as he did. My family sees me about once every two years because frankly outside of us “being related” we have nothing in common and there was a whole closet of skeletons I found out about after leaving home. Idk about swapped gender roles but the traditional m… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/03/24 06:07 PM |
| 1 | Do the plethora of choices in men when it comes to online dating and social media make it more difficult for you to commit to one man long-term?When my grandma was on base she would go on a different date every night to avoid having to eat in the mess hall. She didn’t sleep with any of those men. They paid for her food. The entire time she was also chasing my grandpa. Y’all if anything it’s gotten better lmao | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/03/24 04:14 PM |
| 5 | How significant of a factor is slut shaming in reducing the amount that women sleep around or pursue men on average (compared to other factors).I have never been slut shamed by someone I wanted to sleep with. People who have loud opinions about what consenting adults do with one another are unhappy with their own lives. You're welcome to wait, you're welcome to not date promiscuous people. It's weird to spend time loudly decrying people having safe sex with consenting adults lmao. It gives off big "I can't do this and am mad that other people can" energy. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/03/24 08:31 PM |
| 2 | What experiences or observations do you think leads to someone being “misandrist”? What experiences or observations do you think leads to someone being “misogynistic”?Love this. 10/10 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/03/24 08:09 PM |
| 5 | Do the plethora of choices in men when it comes to online dating and social media make it more difficult for you to commit to one man long-term?It's all in how you communicate tbh. Even in the fifties women dated around until they were formally "pinned" to one dude. This idea that prior to feminism courting was easier/less transactional is a little naive (my grandma's army stories are INSANE lmao). When I was on dating apps I was looking for casual fun. If it turned into more, great, but I wasn't really banking on finding my boyfriend on an app lol. And most of the guys on apps aren't looking for girlfriends. So you have endless hookup … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/03/24 07:06 PM |
| 1 | Sexist/offensive "jokes"Lmao "Oh no I've been caught as a bad ass performance artist that makes a bulk of their income being hot/funny onstage for money" If you'd ever been paid for a joke you'd written on your own maybe you'd actually understand why leaning on stereotypes for humor is indicative of a lack of creativity, individuality and personality. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/03/24 06:43 PM |
| 0 | Sexist/offensive "jokes"Did you have to look up how to spell that one? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/03/24 05:29 PM |
| 7 | Would women go redpill if they had to chase and date other women?Bi woman here. Approaching women is intimidating. Women in general are easier partners than men are. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/03/24 05:26 PM |
| 2 | Fellas, you’re not single because you are unattractive, short, broke, play video games, watch anime, or other generic guy shit your single because you’re boringWhy are you interesting? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/03/24 03:39 PM |
| 0 | Sexist/offensive "jokes"Love how y'all romanticize your inability to come up with an actual joke that isn't rooted in harmful stereotypes. It's cute. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/03/24 02:32 PM |
| 2 | Sexist/offensive "jokes"You can believe that but you're going to fuck your life up if you make gross jokes about marginalized groups that you aren't a part of in front of the wrong people. I've seen people get fired over racist/sexist jokes. The dudes making them had already alienated their workplace . | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/03/24 01:23 PM |
| 3 | What experiences or observations do you think leads to someone being “misandrist”? What experiences or observations do you think leads to someone being “misogynistic”?All of the misogynists I've encountered are either conservative, Christian or both. Evangelicalism/Islam/certain sects of Judaism cast women as "less than" and call them to "submit to their husbands" while casting the blame for men's urges and actions onto women. A big phrase in the church I went to was "don't dress in a way that causes your brother to stumble" In action it becomes "Oh you were raped? Okay but were you dressed in a godly way, at a place where only godly things are happening" Bas… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/03/24 12:59 PM |
| 2 | Sexist/offensive "jokes"There aren't equivalent jokes to make. That's the difference. Men weren't lobotomized for being "hysterical" and there aren't places in the world where men are murdered for showing too much of their face. Punching up vs. punching down blah blah blah Rape jokes are gross regardless of gender. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/03/24 12:55 PM |
| 13 | What experiences or observations do you think leads to someone being “misandrist”? What experiences or observations do you think leads to someone being “misogynistic”?Every misandrist I've met is a rape or domestic violence survivor. Most misogynists usually give some story about getting cheated on /raised in a church/ had a terrible mother. But these dudes typically aren't as articulate about their experiences so I genuinely don't know (I'd be shocked if some of these dudes don't have legitimate trauma that they haven't processed). | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/03/24 08:56 PM |
| 2 | The "Wall" does indeed exist, but only for women who have built it themselves.It's probably all of the vaping. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/03/24 07:55 PM |
| 3 | Sexist/offensive "jokes"You can make whatever joke you want. But you can't control how they respond. You have freedom of speech not freedom of consequences. I personally stop talking to men who make sexist jokes. Fully have had conversations on dating apps. The dude dropped a rape joke. That dude never heard from me again. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/03/24 07:31 PM |
| 1 | Hypothesis - In the US Rudeness Increases as Feminist Beliefs increase within a population.Im rude to people who are rude to me 👍 The rude women I have encountered across the board have been middle aged conservatives. It’s never been someone in a pussy hat yelling ra-ra “I’m a feminist” | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/03/24 03:05 PM |
| 1 | do you guys people who can fight?I think physical violence is the lowest form of conflict resolution. We aren’t on a battlefield we’re in a dive bar in Brooklyn a big ol’get a fucking grip from me. I’ve dated dudes that have done the whole “he’s looking at you” Schtick and it’s honestly a little tacky, why are you looking for a fight? If you’re like on a wrestling team or learning a martial art though that’s a cool hobby to have. It’s weird if you’re looking for a fight. 👍 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/03/24 02:23 PM |
| 2 | Using surrogates and egg donors to have kids instead of with a romantic partnerI know someone who had a donor dad, her mom was single and wanted a kid. Her mom was super cool super career focused and according to my friend an awesome mom. The donor was part of a gay couple and Katie had a relationship with them as well they would show up to her shows/holidays/ events. 10/10 families don’t have to be made in the “traditional” way and can look like a million different things | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/03/24 02:18 PM |
| 2 | Do most people get married just to get married?We are overpopulated and expediting climate change as a result. The children we have will likely be affected by this in their lifetime. The current model of “everyone get married and settle down” has landed us in this position. In addition to social introverts, it’s queer people, ace people, people who wanted to focus on other things etc. all expected to get married. And lack of contraceptives caused a lot of unplanned pregnancy and unplanned children. Many of those marriages (and the majority o… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/03/24 02:04 PM |
| 8 | Hypothesis - In the US Rudeness Increases as Feminist Beliefs increase within a population.Alternative hypothesis men lack self awareness and come off as rude constantly get deserved matched energy or confuse indifference for rudeness then come online and act like victims. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/03/24 10:10 PM |
| 5 | Every modern dating problem can be summarized into “Too little respect, Too much hubris”Dude if that was me I’d rip this guy a new asshole and leave him with the check | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/03/24 10:05 PM |
| 11 | Every modern dating problem can be summarized into “Too little respect, Too much hubris”I’m sorry lmao at this date did you tell her verbatim “I’m not romantically attracted to you?” Like a half hour in? Damn dude I’d leave too. Or was she the one who said that? Either way brutal. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/03/24 09:07 PM |
| 26 | Hypothesis - In the US Rudeness Increases as Feminist Beliefs increase within a population.In what context are these women being mean to you? Like at your job as a customer service person? Is your girlfriend rude? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/03/24 09:03 PM |
| 17 | Do most people get married just to get married?Plenty of people do. They also have kids just to do it. An uncomfy truth is not everyone needs to or should get married, settled down and have kids. We need to stop devaluing different life paths that aren’t the norm. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/03/24 07:44 PM |
| 3 | How would you describe “lady game”?I just state my intent directly. 👍 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/03/24 06:29 PM |
| 2 | How do you feel about the fact that women are encouraged to do things in relationships that men aren't?So the bolder quote is honestly just a modernized version of how dating worked in the 40s & 50s. This is how my grandparents dated. If you really liked someone you had to “pin” them otherwise she was by all accounts free to let some other dude buy her a milkshake at the sock hop lmao. In the interim (teenagers were still teenagers) many girls were hooking up with their potential suitors. Regardless if you want to be exclusive with someone say so and live with the response. If you haven’t clearly… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/03/24 02:59 PM |
| 1 | Would you say dating is easier as a straight girl or guy, or easier as a gay guy or girl?I’m being so sincere men are so mean to eachother it makes me sad | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/03/24 02:46 PM |
| 1 | Looking at "Simon biles dilemma" should be enough for men to know the main problem in datingIdk why everyone is so pressed about this. Simone Biles is objectively more famous than her husband and Travis Kelce. Omg are you really this stressed about a black athlete having global fame. Here: Kanye West was a more prevalent public figure and made Kim Kardashian the fashion icon we know today and elevated her family’s status from realty TV trash to cultural icons. There, there’s your cookie 🍪 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/03/24 02:45 PM |
| 3 | Feminism encourages women to never take accountability for their poor decisions when it comes to choosing incorrectlyLoneliness is on the rise because of the decimation of third places and an over saturation of technology that causes people to isolate. Romantic relationships are not the only type of interpersonal relationship you can have and the absence of one doesn't mean you're inherently lonely. A fear of being alone is an unfair reason to get into a relationship for both parties. Genuinely, "I'm not satisfied with my options" is enough of a reason to stay single. All you do when you settle is lose time yo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/03/24 09:44 PM |
| 3 | Would you say dating is easier as a straight girl or guy, or easier as a gay guy or girl?One of my friends on Grinder has shown me genuinely some of the meanest things I've ever read in my life that men who don't even have their face in their profile have sent them bc they weren't masc enough. The beauty standards in that community are unhinged | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/03/24 09:35 PM |
| 6 | Would you say dating is easier as a straight girl or guy, or easier as a gay guy or girl?Bi-woman here, it's easier to date men, you literally no work, they come to you. Women are intimidating I get why y'all are stressed lol I have noticed that the women who do approach me are usually more masc presenting in how they dress. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/03/24 09:33 PM |
| 5 | Feminism encourages women to never take accountability for their poor decisions when it comes to choosing incorrectlySo we agree. Because most options are awful it's wise to decenter relationships and focus on other parts of your life rather than doom spiraling about dying alone. I've seen men's lives ruined for staying with women that were toxic bc they were scared of being single. Y'all aren't immune to this either. It is better to be single than to settle | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/03/24 09:27 PM |
| 2 | Feminism encourages women to never take accountability for their poor decisions when it comes to choosing incorrectlyOr just the general assumption that women are inherently terrible with money. All of the girls in my life that are high earners are legit STRUGGLING to find men in their income bracket, and apparently the ones who make less are weird about the fact that they earn more. Idk where they get this "women don't know how to set up a 401k/save and invest stuff "comes from. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/03/24 09:22 PM |
| 3 | Feminism encourages women to never take accountability for their poor decisions when it comes to choosing incorrectlyPeace and love but the payoff from dating most men is barely worth the risk. I was lucky enough to find the person I'm with now. I completely understand why more and more women are leaving men behind altogether. Sincerely it is better to be single than to settle. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/03/24 09:13 PM |
| 1 | This sub is basically a place for men to come and vent and argue about their frustrations about dating. Where are all of the women with bad takes?Most women have enough self-awareness not to declare their bad takes online as universal truths. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/03/24 08:28 PM |
| 6 | Feminism encourages women to never take accountability for their poor decisions when it comes to choosing incorrectlyAlot of men who get bugged out by Me Too have done something that teeters into coercion or assault. And are realizing that they are not safe from getting canceled on smaller scale. I remember multiple dudes lowkey admitting that they'd pressured girls who repeatedly said no into sex and had no idea that this was coercion (which legally is a form of sexual assault). There's no other reason they'd be opposed to a movement that has benefited both men and women who have been negatively impacted by s… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/03/24 07:51 PM |
| 6 | Feminism encourages women to never take accountability for their poor decisions when it comes to choosing incorrectlyThis is the actual pill they don't want to swallow lmao. Being single is exponentially better than settling. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/03/24 07:39 PM |
| 4 | Do Any of You WANT An Arranged Marriage? Why? Who Should Arrange it?My partner and I have a friend from India who got an arranged marriage before he and his wife immigrated to the states. Fell apart about 2 years later and they got a divorce. They both weren't happy. They parted ways pretty amicably. They'd only done it to appease their families and once they had to actually sustain the marriage (in a different country no less) it didn't have legs. An arranged marriage doesn't magically eliminate marital problems and you can still end up divorced. If anything ma… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/03/24 05:08 PM |
| 2 | Women constantly use how “dangerous” and high risk dating is for them as an excuse for their pickiness but then consistently select and return to abusive low lifesCollege theatre isn't the real world. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/03/24 05:01 PM |
| 2 | Looking at "Simon biles dilemma" should be enough for men to know the main problem in datingI vaguely knew the name, didn't know his team/position/prevalence within his community. I still often confuse him with Travis Scott (who I initially thought Taylor was dating) lmao | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/03/24 04:59 PM |
| 2 | Women constantly use how “dangerous” and high risk dating is for them as an excuse for their pickiness but then consistently select and return to abusive low lifesPersonally I know a few men who've had experiences with SA. The majority experienced it with other men. But two dealt with it at the hands of women, one in childhood, one in adulthood. Both of them are in favor of egalitarian relationships, one identifies as a feminist. My honest take is just victims/survivors need to be able to discuss their experiences without being shamed or blamed for how they ended up in those circumstances. The reason SA is underreported (for men and women) is because of t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/24 09:03 PM |
| 1 | Women constantly use how “dangerous” and high risk dating is for them as an excuse for their pickiness but then consistently select and return to abusive low lifesI'm not defending the comment. I'm saying that men who are misogynists = hate women People who hate women = Abuse women You are not advocating for women to stand up for themselves. You're yelling "Choose better" If anything you've described is actually your intent work on your verbiage. Because you sound like misogynistic abusers. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/24 08:43 PM |
| 1 | Women constantly use how “dangerous” and high risk dating is for them as an excuse for their pickiness but then consistently select and return to abusive low lifesAnecdotal but women who are abusive I've noticed aren't publicly disrespectful to men. Quite the opposite they're super controlling and are in it for validation. When the validation wears off they start yelling. The women I've encountered that were definitely abusive gave off more "obsessed with male validation" pick me energy. When the validation dried up they start picking the dude apart/being super controlling/cheating/being in general an unfaithful bad partner. My abuser's mother was a textb… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/24 08:09 PM |
| 3 | Women constantly use how “dangerous” and high risk dating is for them as an excuse for their pickiness but then consistently select and return to abusive low lifesLmao I love how y'all immediately hop to debasing when you know you're big wrong. It's hysterical. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/24 08:00 PM |
| 1 | Women constantly use how “dangerous” and high risk dating is for them as an excuse for their pickiness but then consistently select and return to abusive low lifesClearly not if you're on this sub | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/24 07:57 PM |
| 2 | Women constantly use how “dangerous” and high risk dating is for them as an excuse for their pickiness but then consistently select and return to abusive low lifesIdk you tell me. Do you hate women? If so why? Some POC are wary around white people, some queer people are wary around straight people. Some women are wary around men. That wariness is a trauma response. Personally, I'm not a misandrist. But I am mean to men who behave and align with misogynistic views because ya know. I don't have to be nice to misogynists. Most men who loudly identify as misogynists that I've encountered, (peace and love) aren't victims of SA or DV. And overwhelmingly their b… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/24 07:54 PM |
| 3 | Women constantly use how “dangerous” and high risk dating is for them as an excuse for their pickiness but then consistently select and return to abusive low lifesThe tea is there are plenty of kind, good, rational men out there. Many of whom are also struggling to date. It's terrifying the messaging that's being pushed on them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/24 07:15 PM |
| 6 | Women constantly use how “dangerous” and high risk dating is for them as an excuse for their pickiness but then consistently select and return to abusive low lifesLoudly being misogynistic is indicative of a hatred of women. People who hate women are more likely to abuse them. Hope that clears it up. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/24 07:08 PM |
| 9 | Women constantly use how “dangerous” and high risk dating is for them as an excuse for their pickiness but then consistently select and return to abusive low lifesTHIS is how you phrase the sentiment of "please be extra aware of warning signs when dating men" without sounding like a totally narcissistic sociopath moral posturing to abuse victims about how somehow their abuse is "their fault" actually and making someone's trauma about your inability to get laid. lmao THANK YOU for the tact | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/24 07:03 PM |
| 3 | Women constantly use how “dangerous” and high risk dating is for them as an excuse for their pickiness but then consistently select and return to abusive low lifesWomen aren't neurotic weirdos who compare themselves to abusive women. We also don't rally around victim blaming men who fall victim to abuse. We don't center men's experience with domestic abuse around our inability to find companionship. Because doing that would be narcissistic. But I only ever hear about men's experience with DV when it's in the service of telling women to shut up about a man that abused them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/24 06:57 PM |
| 2 | Women constantly use how “dangerous” and high risk dating is for them as an excuse for their pickiness but then consistently select and return to abusive low lifesYou are putting words in my mouth. Men who show open disdain and malice for women by doing things such as : Blaming women victims of domestic abuse for things done to them by abusers (which this post does) are likely abusive. Treating and discussing DV like this in itself is indicative of a lack of empathy, lack of self awareness, lack of emotional intelligence, misplaced outrage, tendency to blame shift, self-centeredness, narcissism and in this instance misogyny. Truly the gall of a man that c… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/24 06:34 PM |
| 2 | Women constantly use how “dangerous” and high risk dating is for them as an excuse for their pickiness but then consistently select and return to abusive low lifesFlipped a facade when they moved in together yes | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/24 04:16 PM |
| 3 | Women constantly use how “dangerous” and high risk dating is for them as an excuse for their pickiness but then consistently select and return to abusive low lifesI did. Sounds like you should see one as well | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/24 04:15 PM |
| 1 | Women constantly use how “dangerous” and high risk dating is for them as an excuse for their pickiness but then consistently select and return to abusive low lifesMisandry is born out of bad experiences with men. Duh. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/24 04:15 PM |
| 2 | Women constantly use how “dangerous” and high risk dating is for them as an excuse for their pickiness but then consistently select and return to abusive low lifesPeople who blame victims of abuse for their abuse 9/10 are usually abusive themselves. Regardless it’s “does not deserve companionship behavior” | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/24 04:14 PM |
| 5 | Women constantly use how “dangerous” and high risk dating is for them as an excuse for their pickiness but then consistently select and return to abusive low lifesSo two years is too soon? Lmao why are you defending abusers. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/24 03:36 PM |
| 4 | Women constantly use how “dangerous” and high risk dating is for them as an excuse for their pickiness but then consistently select and return to abusive low lifesI swear they keep up the facade for as long as they can then the mask slips. In their minds they probably think they're just being "what she wants" or "Putting their best foot forward". But you can't sustain a totally different persona and those habits eventually come out. Dudes forget that abusers don’t set out to be abusive/don’t intentionally get abusive. These are hella entitled dudes that are a little fucked in the head with no issues being malicious or vengeful and are able to find a way t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/24 03:02 PM |
| 4 | Women constantly use how “dangerous” and high risk dating is for them as an excuse for their pickiness but then consistently select and return to abusive low lifesBlaming victims of either gender for abuse they suffered at the hands of someone else is indicative of abusive tendencies. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/24 02:55 PM |
| 5 | Women constantly use how “dangerous” and high risk dating is for them as an excuse for their pickiness but then consistently select and return to abusive low lifesSee this is a good faith argument. I agree with some of it. But the things you’re describing don’t typically start happening until you’ve been in the relationship for a WHILE. Sunken cost fallacy fully kept one of my friends in a DV relationship for way longer than it should have. You don’t see the misogyny until you’re in too deep/until the dude can’t keep up the charade anymore and the mask slips. Genuinely peace and love to everyone but if you’ve never been in this relationship you have no id… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/24 02:53 PM |
| 1 | Women constantly use how “dangerous” and high risk dating is for them as an excuse for their pickiness but then consistently select and return to abusive low lifesLmao worked in entertainment for 5 years as an actor, vocalist and dancer. Was represented by a prominent entertainment agency that scooped me up after college. Left after the pandemic bc I wanted more stability and was recovering from an ED. Currently I perform in nightlife as a vocalist and performance artist in addition to my day job. Not that it matters, but I’m hot 👍 You guys have a hard time looking in the fucking mirror and acknowledge your complete disdain for women. Of course no one wan… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/24 02:47 PM |
| 4 | Women constantly use how “dangerous” and high risk dating is for them as an excuse for their pickiness but then consistently select and return to abusive low lifesGenuinely, if anything guys with abusive tendencies are now willingly self-identifying before you ever meet IRL. I used to screen out conservatives if I was back on these apps I’d probably have to screen for RP/Incel ish | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/24 02:41 PM |
| 5 | Women constantly use how “dangerous” and high risk dating is for them as an excuse for their pickiness but then consistently select and return to abusive low lifesSo no. Cool you’re talking out your ass rn. Get a grip, learn some empathy and if you can’t even manage that don’t engage with topics you’re clearly clueless about | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/24 02:40 PM |
| 6 | Women constantly use how “dangerous” and high risk dating is for them as an excuse for their pickiness but then consistently select and return to abusive low lifesMy duck was 5’6” abusers aren’t a specific height. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/24 03:57 AM |
| 3 | Women constantly use how “dangerous” and high risk dating is for them as an excuse for their pickiness but then consistently select and return to abusive low lifesI live in NY and worked in the arts for most of my adult life and I’m just convinced none of these guys have been exposed to any sex positive communities | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/24 03:56 AM |
| 2 | Women constantly use how “dangerous” and high risk dating is for them as an excuse for their pickiness but then consistently select and return to abusive low lifesI’m not ignoring the ones you’re putting up rn weirdo | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/24 03:51 AM |
| 2 | Is it over for inexperienced men who didn't go to college?I really think you don’t need to be concerned until like 24/25. Even then I don’t think you’re done for. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/24 03:09 AM |
| 3 | Women constantly use how “dangerous” and high risk dating is for them as an excuse for their pickiness but then consistently select and return to abusive low lifesI’m saying men only tout this out to dodge accountability for being victim blaming cunts. I’ve helped men and women out of abusive dynamics with women. I’ve helped more women out of abusive dynamics with men. If you only bring up men’s experience as a “gotcha” to women discussing their experiences with men You don’t actually care about men who are victims of DV. 👍 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/24 02:59 AM |
| 3 | Women constantly use how “dangerous” and high risk dating is for them as an excuse for their pickiness but then consistently select and return to abusive low lifesIt takes a special kind of stupid to go “I’m low value” and act like you don’t carry that energy into interactions lol. High value male Low value male Rhetoric created by men to rate each other 👍 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/24 02:52 AM |
| 7 | Women constantly use how “dangerous” and high risk dating is for them as an excuse for their pickiness but then consistently select and return to abusive low lifesYou’re a misogynist bc you’re blaming victims of abuse for the abuse they endured. If this post was about men being abused by women you’d be maybe a misandrist but more likely just a POS ❤️ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/24 02:43 AM |
| 12 | Women constantly use how “dangerous” and high risk dating is for them as an excuse for their pickiness but then consistently select and return to abusive low lifesI’m directing it at you because I have encountered two female abusers in my life. Why is it I only hear about women abusers when we’re discussing men abusing women? Why aren’t men advocating against the abuse they suffer at the hands of women? Why aren’t you mobilizing the way women do? Why are you tolerating the pervasive issue of domestic abuse which affects every demographic not just women? WHY do I only ever hear about men’s experience with abuse in the context of diminishing women discussin… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/24 02:42 AM |
| 9 | Women constantly use how “dangerous” and high risk dating is for them as an excuse for their pickiness but then consistently select and return to abusive low lifesThese are not good faith conversations. It’s bitching about “men who beat women get laid why can’t I??” 🥲🥲🥲🥲🥲🥲🥲🥲🥲🥲🥲🥲🥲🥲🥲🥲🥲 Followed quickly by “if you weren’t so fucking shallow” If I were to use physical attributes to determine if a man was abusive I’d have to avoid dad bod guys under 5’7” who are in grad school with minimum wage gigs. My abuser didn’t meet the “Chad” metric and wouldn’t you know it, those insecurities were part of the reason they were controlling and narcissistic. Abusers are m… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/24 02:33 AM |
| 1 | Women constantly use how “dangerous” and high risk dating is for them as an excuse for their pickiness but then consistently select and return to abusive low lifesHave you been in an abusive relationship? With a man or a woman? If you aren’t promoted at a job that isn’t appreciating you and in your rage you then you call the CEO a dumb bitch that needs to choose better you’ll get fired ❤️ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/24 02:24 AM |
| 4 | Women constantly use how “dangerous” and high risk dating is for them as an excuse for their pickiness but then consistently select and return to abusive low lifes“Low value” is a metric you’ve assigned yourselves. The fact that you can’t fathom why this post comes off as victim blaming condescension is all I need to hear. Don’t ask questions you don’t want the answer to 🤷♀️ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/24 02:06 AM |
| 8 | Women constantly use how “dangerous” and high risk dating is for them as an excuse for their pickiness but then consistently select and return to abusive low lifesDo those “low value” men regard women as lesser than? Omg they do! I don’t care about their solitude then 👍 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/24 01:57 AM |
| 1 | Women constantly use how “dangerous” and high risk dating is for them as an excuse for their pickiness but then consistently select and return to abusive low lifesWomen who openly disrespect men (usually but not always) have only had experiences with men who disrespect women But the cycle of abuse USUALLY goes you either get abused again or become an abuser. So jury is out either they’re abusive or they’re predisposed to fall into another abusive dynamic. Or they processed their trauma in a healthy way and are able to assess when a situation is going south | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/24 01:54 AM |
| 16 | Women constantly use how “dangerous” and high risk dating is for them as an excuse for their pickiness but then consistently select and return to abusive low lifesI’m saying that disrespecting women is an early indicator that you will be abusive. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/03/24 11:51 PM |
| 6 | Women constantly use how “dangerous” and high risk dating is for them as an excuse for their pickiness but then consistently select and return to abusive low lifesThose women were also Nazis and owned enslaved people. These examples are equal offenders. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/03/24 11:31 PM |
| 7 | Women constantly use how “dangerous” and high risk dating is for them as an excuse for their pickiness but then consistently select and return to abusive low lifesAre these socially awkward men using misogynistic rhetoric? They are! Omg then in addition to being socially awkward they're misogynists. THerefore, I don’t care | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/03/24 11:30 PM |
| 1 | Looking at "Simon biles dilemma" should be enough for men to know the main problem in datingI can but you’re being willfully obtuse. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/03/24 11:09 PM |
| 12 | Women constantly use how “dangerous” and high risk dating is for them as an excuse for their pickiness but then consistently select and return to abusive low lifesMisogyny is misogyny idc the root cause. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/03/24 10:22 PM |
| 1 | Looking at "Simon biles dilemma" should be enough for men to know the main problem in datingI fully do not believe you did not know her name before today. I fully don't believe Jonny didn't know her name before today. Beyonce and Jay Z (post and pre Lemonade Jay Z is a cheater but it's not my life) build eachother up publicly, sing eachother's praises publicly. Taylor Swift & Travis Kelce build eachother up publicly sing eachother's praises publicly Barry Keohgan & Sabrina Carpentar: Build eachother up publicly sing eachother's praises publicly Ryan Gosling Eva Mendes sing eachother's … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/03/24 10:01 PM |
| 1 | Looking at "Simon biles dilemma" should be enough for men to know the main problem in datingCan you read? Jonathan is an NFL football player whose name the average person doesn’t know. He is married to arguably the best gymnast in the world brand deals out the wazoo I know who she is. He went on air and diminished her accomplishments and claimed he was “the prize”. People don’t think men can’t be valuable within a relationship lol. They think it’s hysterical that this in this ONE instance this man was delusional enough to think he has had a bigger cultural impact than his wife. Plenty … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/03/24 09:43 PM |
| 1 | Looking at "Simon biles dilemma" should be enough for men to know the main problem in datingCan you read? Jonathan is an NFL football player whose name the average person doesn’t know. He is married to arguably the best gymnast in the world brand deals out the wazoo I know who she is. He went on air and diminished her accomplishments and claimed he was “the prize”. People don’t think men can’t be valuable within a relationship lol. They think it’s hysterical that this in this ONE instance this man was delusional enough to think he has had a bigger cultural impact than his wife. Plenty … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/03/24 09:43 PM |
| 1 | Looking at "Simon biles dilemma" should be enough for men to know the main problem in datingCan you read? Jonathan is an NFL football player whose name the average person doesn’t know. He is married to arguably the best gymnast in the world brand deals out the wazoo I know who she is. He went on air and diminished her accomplishments and claimed he was “the prize”. People don’t think men can’t be valuable within a relationship lol. They think it’s hysterical that this in this ONE instance this man was delusional enough to think he has had a bigger cultural impact than his wife. Plenty … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/03/24 09:43 PM |
| 4 | Looking at "Simon biles dilemma" should be enough for men to know the main problem in datingWomen shouldn’t either do this either. I’m not in their relationship I can say who is objectively the bigger deal by the fact that people who aren’t into sports know who Simone is bc of how prolific her accomplishments are. Idk what position Jonathan even plays lmao What Jonathan did is cringe bc he went out of his way to diminish and compare himself to her. That’s yikes no matter who you are. It’s cringe bc his wife is a celebrity with international fame and i didn’t know who Jonathan was until… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/03/24 09:34 PM |
| 11 | Looking at "Simon biles dilemma" should be enough for men to know the main problem in datingYes I do they’re Olympic athletes. But I know who Simone Biles is bc she’s one of the best in the world and definitely the best in the country. Idk who Jonathan is | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/03/24 09:27 PM |
| 4 | Looking at "Simon biles dilemma" should be enough for men to know the main problem in datingLmao *Kelsey my b. Where is this status gap trivialization happening? Give examples. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/03/24 09:26 PM |
| 12 | Looking at "Simon biles dilemma" should be enough for men to know the main problem in datingOkay? I know who Simone Biles is I didn’t know Jonathan was an athlete until this post. It’s honestly cleared things up for me a lil bit I fully thought this random regular degular dude that was married to Biles got on a podcast and was all “I’m the prize not my Olympic medal winning wife” It makes him come off a little less delulu | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/03/24 09:15 PM |
| 4 | Looking at "Simon biles dilemma" should be enough for men to know the main problem in datingJust stating that I do not know who Jonathan is I know who Simone is. Atleast with the Travis Scott I knew he was a football player that was a “big deal”. I have NO IDEA who Jonathan is | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/03/24 09:08 PM |
| 10 | Looking at "Simon biles dilemma" should be enough for men to know the main problem in datingI mean I don’t think identifying who “the prize” is in your relationship is healthy or indicative of a good relationship. My partner is the prize to me in our relationship but if you ask him I’m the prize in our relationship. We both feel lucky to be with eachother we are both “the prize”. You can value yourself and think highly of yourself without diminishing your partner is what I’m saying. Who tf gets on air and acts like your partner who you presumably love and respect is “lucky” to be with … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/03/24 09:07 PM |
| 26 | Women constantly use how “dangerous” and high risk dating is for them as an excuse for their pickiness but then consistently select and return to abusive low lifesI mean genuinely they think it’s superficial shit but it’s their complete disdain for women. Abusers don’t think they’re abusive as displayed by men bemoaning loudly how lowly and worthless women are while simultaneously wondering why no one will sleep with them. Delusional | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/03/24 08:56 PM |
| 7 | Looking at "Simon biles dilemma" should be enough for men to know the main problem in datingI am pretty anti sports. I know who Simone Biles is. I didn’t know she was married until that “scandal” I didn’t know her husband was an NFL player until this post. Jonathan (I’m not even bothering to scroll up to see his last name) shouldn’t be comparing who “the prize” is you should be eachother’s prizes and not comparing which partner is better. But let’s be so forreal rn acting like Simone Biles isn’t more beloved in the cultural consciousness is delulu. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/03/24 08:53 PM |
| 2 | Sex Work needs to be decriminalized to fix datingJfc y’all have earned the loneliness predicament you’re in. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/03/24 08:40 PM |
| 90 | Women constantly use how “dangerous” and high risk dating is for them as an excuse for their pickiness but then consistently select and return to abusive low lifesIdk how to say this nicely but from the way some of y’all conduct yourselves and speak about women on this sub you also have no redeemable qualities and would probably be lowkey abusive if in a relationship. This feels v pot calling the kettle black accept atleast the pot is cute and was able to mask his abusive tendencies | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/03/24 08:31 PM |
| 25 | Women constantly use how “dangerous” and high risk dating is for them as an excuse for their pickiness but then consistently select and return to abusive low lifesThey switch it up about a year in or when you move in together. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/03/24 08:29 PM |
| 36 | Looking at "Simon biles dilemma" should be enough for men to know the main problem in datingI have no idea who Jonathan Owens is. I know who Simone Biles is. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/03/24 08:29 PM |
| 1 | if self improvement is necessary for men , Wouldn't it justify a lot of men's " bad " behaviours?I probably would drop it tbh but it wouldn’t be because my partner was bodyshaming me. And you’re right it’s a path you shouldn’t go down bc you’d have to address how these standards you hold women can have life threatening consequences 👍 Not these are situations you’ll never be in. And you’ll blame something superficial but it’ll probably be your personality and sense of entitlement. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/03/24 08:27 PM |
| 2 | Sex Work needs to be decriminalized to fix datingBc typically the guys hurting the most are the ones who hate sex workers and don’t want to solicit them. Also idk don’t be a manipulative piece of shit. Men who do this get off to manipulating someone. It’s what gave y’all this rep with most women in the first place. You don’t need sex you don’t need to lie about your intentions to get sex. Someone who “needs” to do that probably shouldn’t be having sex | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/03/24 08:06 PM |
| 2 | Sex Work needs to be decriminalized to fix datingYeah. I agree. That doesn’t “fix” dating though. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/03/24 07:47 PM |
| 1 | if self improvement is necessary for men , Wouldn't it justify a lot of men's " bad " behaviours?I went through ED recovery in my current relationship and did put on weight as a result 👍 he asked my parents for their blessing to marry me last week. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/03/24 07:47 PM |
| 1 | if self improvement is necessary for men , Wouldn't it justify a lot of men's " bad " behaviours?Difference of opinion (don’t reproduce) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/03/24 06:56 PM |
| 2 | Sex Work needs to be decriminalized to fix datingI think sex work should be decriminalized but idk if it’s going to fix dating lmao | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/03/24 04:06 PM |
| 2 | if self improvement is necessary for men , Wouldn't it justify a lot of men's " bad " behaviours?There isn’t anything wrong with being honest about attraction. You’re fucked in the head if you’re body shaming your partner less than a year after giving birth. How are you not understanding that distinction? Are you this dense? How’s your love life going? Do they know about these views? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/03/24 04:05 PM |
| – | if self improvement is necessary for men , Wouldn't it justify a lot of men's " bad " behaviours?You sound like a failure of a man. Who doesn't have enough knowledge of how traumatic birthing can be and how much energy raising a child takes and how *sorry if you're on this sub* that load isn't going to be shared. The complete lack of knowledge or empathy on what happens to your body when you give birth. Men like you don't deserve children and if you have any I pity them. My biggest nightmare would be ending up with some loser dude who is like "Hey I know your body is covered in stretch mark… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/03/24 02:59 PM |
| 29 | Why Do Manosphere Dudes Get Mad At Women Having Options Instead of Other Men for GIVING Them Those Options?Not all men are struggling to date. They are. They have to blame women otherwise they’d have to actually measure themselves up next to their counterparts who (shocker) are able to get laid despite not necessarily being 6 ft., uber wealthy or hyper jacked. The actual cause would take too much introspection for them and would leave them with some uncomfy truths that they aren’t willing to face. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/03/24 02:09 PM |
| 2 | if self improvement is necessary for men , Wouldn't it justify a lot of men's " bad " behaviours?Cool don’t reproduce. I know for a fact your lazy ass isn’t helping with any of the actual child rearing. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/03/24 02:02 PM |
| 4 | if self improvement is necessary for men , Wouldn't it justify a lot of men's " bad " behaviours?Don’t reproduce. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/03/24 12:20 PM |
| 0 | What is dating generally like in NYC?Love NYC. Love it. Met the Love of my life here. If you have a falling out you never have to see that person again. There are infinitely more options for men and women. I've honestly not experienced what everyone else is complaining about but I'm a very "go with the flow, I'm focusing on my garden" type of person, I also really avoided the "finance bro" guys. I've had pretty marginal issues with dating men from NYC overall. *with a couple of fringe narcs from Jersey lol* If you can roll with the… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/03/24 09:48 PM |
| 10 | Men are constantly told they are delusional and shoot for women out of their league, but even the casual observer can see that the exact opposite is true ***EDITED PER MOD REQUEST***Was this your whole argument? They’re spot on. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/03/24 09:12 PM |
| 6 | if self improvement is necessary for men , Wouldn't it justify a lot of men's " bad " behaviours?Do you have virgins lining up to date you? Just curious. Bc everything in your post is indicative of being an inadequate partner. The massive leaps in logic and false equivalencies, reducing an entire gender to a monolith, making sexist generalizations left and right lmao. Any woman with a brain in her head would leave you and it would have to do with your shit worldview not your lack of self-improvement. All of this gives future absentee father disowned by his children energy. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/03/24 08:17 PM |
| -1 | Marraige is a net loss move for men.So don’t get married? You’re coming to the same conclusion feminists did like 4 decades ago lmao | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/03/24 06:11 PM |
| 12 | if self improvement is necessary for men , Wouldn't it justify a lot of men's " bad " behaviours?If you’re struggling to find companionship regardless of gender you probably should focus on self-improving so you don’t get caught in a “no one loves me” doom spiral and are actually using your energy and efforts in a constructive manner without obsessing over singledom. It’s all well and good to have preferences and you’re welcome to hold out for your ideal but if you have like 0 prospects, personally, I’d re-examine your preferences. (Or live a fulfilled life as a single person that’s also an… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/03/24 06:05 PM |
| 8 | What advice would you give to average and below average men who want hookup and not be in a monogamous relationship?Be funny. Go to places where people traditionally go to meet and socialize with strangers (bars/clubs/parties). Approach immediately don’t leer. Don’t get attached to one woman especially if there are multiple at the venue. Be clear with your intentions and relaxed about the outcome. Use protection be comfortable with rejection🤷♀️ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/03/24 05:42 PM |
| 1 | If a guy has sex with you but doesn’t want to date you, how often is it a guy with a similar personality / common interests?Lmao genuinely they don’t know what to do when the script is flipped it’s hysterical | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/03/24 05:01 PM |
| 1 | I think paying, if possible, is much better for rich smart men than marrying or even "free sex"Build yourself a stack and do that 👍 you don’t sound like you’d be in a partnership for the right reasons and money would be the only thing you’d bring to the table anyway. The honesty is refreshing tbh | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/03/24 04:58 PM |
| 1 | If a guy has sex with you but doesn’t want to date you, how often is it a guy with a similar personality / common interests?I mean genuinely then they get in their feelings about it a month later and suddenly they’ve “never met anyone like you” lmao no they just aren’t used to the role reversal and are confused as to why you aren’t chasing them. Genuinely this idea that all women only want commitment is a myth. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/03/24 03:53 PM |
| 1 | A video of a group of girls dancing during Mardi Gras went viral on social media and provoked a strong reaction from some in manosphere. What are your thoughts on the controversy?You will never catch me being kind to misogynists. They’ve built the reality they live in I don’t owe kindness to people like that ❤️ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/03/24 03:50 PM |
| 2 | A video of a group of girls dancing during Mardi Gras went viral on social media and provoked a strong reaction from some in manosphere. What are your thoughts on the controversy?From Louisiana originally, this is TAME for Mardi Gras which is in itself a state nestled in the Bible Belt ( a portion of these women probably are conservative). Literally they cannot handle a party thrown in a rural part of a red state lmao that’s actually fucking hysterical. A question they should ask is “would these women want me?” Which the answer is honestly probably not. It provoked this reaction for the same reason those men bitch about everything. “woman having fun is bad bc no want fun… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/03/24 08:12 PM |
| – | How is the second branch secured during a monkey branching?If that bad woman was abusive she deserves the hurt. Cheating is wrong but if you aren’t cherishing your partner someone else will plain and simple. I met my current partner a week earlier we didn’t DM eachother I don’t think we were even following eachother on social media. That’s how fast it happens. Firmly believe my situation shook out the way it did as a karmic punishment for my ex | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/03/24 05:35 PM |
| – | Most women want to be loved, but they don't want to love.Baby you should get yourself a sugar mama and call it a day 👍 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/03/24 03:57 PM |
| 0 | If a guy has sex with you but doesn’t want to date you, how often is it a guy with a similar personality / common interests?Every time I was in this situation it was with someone I also didn’t want to date. I need y’all to internalize that sometimes women also want casual sex. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/03/24 03:43 PM |
| 1 | How is the second branch secured during a monkey branching?Why wasn’t she happy in the current relationship? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/03/24 03:34 PM |
| 1 | Have you ever been abused, sexually assaulted or harassed by a woman?Men are typically larger than women and more likely to be able to fight them off. When men have grabbed/ followed me it’s scary bc they’re physically imposing. If a man gropes me he is a tangible threat and that man is a predator. If a woman does it that’s also predatory but the reason less men do anything about it is bc A. Being groped by a girl without consent is probably terribly emasculating and they’d rather not discuss it B. As you’ve pointed out they’re probably less likely to be able to … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/03/24 03:29 PM |
| 2 | [Q4W] Could you be with a man who you knew was intimate with other men in the past?I work in entertainment and am still a nightlife performer (with a day job). I went to a performing arts highschool and then a very liberal arts college. I’m also bisexual lol and I do think queer people kind of find eachother So even though I grew up in the Bible Belt I’ve kind of always been around queer people lol. Since moving to Brooklyn the majority of my friends are somewhere on the queer spectrum | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/02/24 10:53 PM |
| 1 | [Q4W] Could you be with a man who you knew was intimate with other men in the past?Honestly all of my friends are girls gay or my current partner lol. Try to make friends with bi women maybe? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/02/24 10:33 PM |
| 0 | How is the second branch secured during a monkey branching?Hard agree. I’m always sus of the dude when they start doing the whole “she moved on immediately” My brain always goes to “what thing did you keep doing or not doing that you’d had numerous arguments about with no changed behavior” the weirdest part about my breakup was when he went “When did you stop loving me?” And genuinely with a straight face I had to tell him it was when he punched a hole in the door of our sublet after calling me a stupid bitch bc someone stole his package out of our lobb… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/02/24 10:31 PM |
| 3 | [Q4W] Could you be with a man who you knew was intimate with other men in the past?I’m in NY and I’ve definitely heard that stereotype before | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/02/24 09:44 PM |
| 1 | How is the second branch secured during a monkey branching?Lol minus Australia we have incredibly similar backstories. I left my abuser and within a week hooked up with someone else to guarantee to myself I wouldn’t go back (this is a strategy many women use not just me lmao). I hooked up with my then roommate’s friend and it was supposed to be a casual one time thing that just kept happening and since he was a friend to the apartment he was always around and we pretty much were dating lol I didn’t mind he was super chill and we were super compatible. I… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/02/24 09:38 PM |
| 5 | [Q4W] Could you be with a man who you knew was intimate with other men in the past?I have been intimate with men that had been intimate with men. Idk if you’re only pursuing conservative women or if that’s all who is in your circle but I don’t know anyone who has this as a dealbreaker. It’s legit never come up lmao | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/02/24 09:09 PM |
| 12 | Have you ever been abused, sexually assaulted or harassed by a woman?Hey fam legally everything you just described is sexual assault. It’s not always traumatizing (I have been in traumatizing situations where it was exactly what you’re describing) but ya know still assault could still get locked up don’t do it Rape is penetration they’re different legal definitions. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/02/24 08:20 PM |
| 4 | Have you ever been abused, sexually assaulted or harassed by a woman?That’s so fucked up and unhinged I’m sorry that happened to you. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/02/24 08:19 PM |
| 1 | Why do you care what men masturbate to?Most men are disgusting tbh. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/02/24 05:59 PM |
| – | Why do you care what men masturbate to?😂 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/02/24 04:24 PM |
| 2 | With the growing ideological divide between men and women and increasing bitterness, is heterosexuality becoming inferior?This one got me 😂 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/02/24 04:23 PM |
| 3 | With the growing ideological divide between men and women and increasing bitterness, is heterosexuality becoming inferior?Many bisexual women end up with men because that’s who approaches us more frequently. Women have many of the same hangups and challenges with approaching other women as men do. Meanwhile men throw themselves at us lol. Many of the bi men in my life have girlfriends. I’ve literally dated bi men. Being bisexual for me wasn’t a healing process I was aware I was queer before I’d been with men I’ve always had a sexual attraction to both genders. Implying women biologically only end up with men and us… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/02/24 04:18 PM |
| 4 | With the growing ideological divide between men and women and increasing bitterness, is heterosexuality becoming inferior?The study you’re referencing was on queer women’s experiences with domestic abuse. That isn’t exclusive to queer relationships that includes past heterosexual relationships, abusive family members as well as within queer relationships etc. etc. y’all tout this study out constantly and someone always comes in with that exact retort. Please link it bc if you’re referring to the study I’m thinking of you’re misrepresenting the data. Domestic abuse exists in any relationship spectrum including in qu… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/02/24 04:14 PM |
| 8 | With the growing ideological divide between men and women and increasing bitterness, is heterosexuality becoming inferior?Lmao biphobic. You’re actually an example of the homophobic things I encountered while dating women. Weird pathetic crusty dudes that can’t find the clit and are mad that a woman they don’t know has found a partner who can. Still desire women also desire men. Expressing otherwise minimizes, objectifies and diminishes the women I’ve been with (most of whom were lovely it just didn’t work long term) Wild to deal with biphobic rhetoric from a bi dude❤️ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/02/24 03:41 PM |
| 12 | With the growing ideological divide between men and women and increasing bitterness, is heterosexuality becoming inferior?Bisexual here dated both genders, life partner will likely be the man I’m with now. Both dynamics come with their own cultural expectations and unique set of issues. I agree with you though. I’ve had some shitty girlfriends but they don’t begin to compare to how shitty the men I’ve dumped are. Atleast in queer relationships things feel egalitarian. Most of the issues I had while dating women were just homophobic people (and them trying to move in immediately lol) My current partner is the first … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/02/24 02:12 PM |
| – | Why do you care what men masturbate to?Wow that’s sad. Did you cry about it afterwards | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/02/24 02:05 PM |
| 1 | Why do you care what men masturbate to?Why are you replying if you don’t care that I think jerking off to women in your life makes you a worm person? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/02/24 10:21 PM |
| 1 | Why do you care what men masturbate to?Why are you replying if you don’t care that I think jerking off to women in your life gives off worm energy? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/02/24 10:18 PM |
| 6 | Why do you care what men masturbate to?Look at you deciding to get offended again lmao. Go delete your browser history | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/02/24 09:12 PM |
| 7 | Why do you care what men masturbate to?Lmao I’m answering a question asked directly to women about what our beef is with this behavior. You’re getting triggered bc what I said struck a nerve. Do whatever you want dude idc but the behavior is repulsive 👍 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/02/24 09:06 PM |
| 3 | Why do you care what men masturbate to?It’d only be out of pity | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/02/24 09:04 PM |
| 11 | Why do you care what men masturbate to?Lmao “oh no my friend caught me jerking off to her Instagram and now she won’t talk to me I’m being abused” | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/02/24 09:03 PM |
| 5 | Why do you care what men masturbate to?THIS HAPPENED TO ME and it happened to me again a year later with a guidance counselor at my college. Both times I didn’t make a big stink (probably should’ve for that second dude but didn’t) I just was so disgusted by it that I just avoided them lmao | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/02/24 08:59 PM |
| 9 | Why do you care what men masturbate to?They don’t understand it’s not a “how dare they” reaction It’s more of a “gross that’s so pathetic” lmao | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/02/24 08:59 PM |
| 6 | Why do you care what men masturbate to?Exactly so rude by default. I’m in an LTR and I have no reason to be kind to men if this is how they spend their private time 🤷♀️ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/02/24 08:58 PM |
| 8 | Why do you care what men masturbate to?So you’re choosing to be offended that I think men jerking off to women without their consent are pathetic and gross 🤷♀️ I’m not offended I’m repulsed there’s a difference lmao | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/02/24 08:55 PM |
| 3 | Why do you care what men masturbate to?If you’re stupid enough to get caught you should probably be ostracized 🤷♀️ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/02/24 08:34 PM |
| 3 | Why do you care what men masturbate to?I mean yeah that’s kind of what I’m saying. I think it’s disgusting. But I’m not a moron and know that men do it. If I find out specifically someone is doing that to me he’s p much dead to me. It’s not that I care it’s more of a “oh gross I’m going to avoid you from now on” This type of behavior to be frank is why some women are mean to men on-site now. Bc we know that y’all do this shit in your downtime and we aren’t into it and don’t want to deal with it lmao. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/02/24 08:32 PM |
| 4 | Why do you care what men masturbate to?Like you’re a pathetic loser that feels you deserve access to me. 🤷♀️ I’m not stupid I know how men behave with eachother and in private but that behavior is why I’m mean to men 👍 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/02/24 08:31 PM |
| 0 | Why do you care what men masturbate to?Cause some of you aren’t slick and we find out and then we have to contend with the reality that you want to fuck us directly. It’s uncomfortable | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/02/24 08:22 PM |
| 1 | We’re constantly talking about guys jacking off to porn but what about guys jacking off to girls they know?Honestly it’s so disgusting that they get off to the lack of consent part. There’s an entire industry of people willing to give you the green light. But being a creep is literally PART OF IT. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/02/24 07:57 PM |
| 1 | We’re constantly talking about guys jacking off to porn but what about guys jacking off to girls they know?Genuinely it’s pointless to curb any part of your appearance to either get or avoid attention from men. It literally makes no difference in how you’re treated if you try to curb it they find a way, if you aren’t on social media someone will take pics of you in public, in nations with modesty laws sexual violence is higher so 🤷♀️ I’m gonna walk around nipping under my tshirts lmao | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/02/24 07:10 PM |
| 1 | We’re constantly talking about guys jacking off to porn but what about guys jacking off to girls they know?Genuinely pro this. Can’t remember the last time I’ve willingly worn a bra. Men cat call/approach regardless so 🤷♀️ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/02/24 06:45 PM |
| 1 | We’re constantly talking about guys jacking off to porn but what about guys jacking off to girls they know?Genuinely pro this. Can’t remember the last time I’ve willingly worn a bra. Men cat call/approach regardless so 🤷♀️ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/02/24 06:45 PM |
| 5 | We’re constantly talking about guys jacking off to porn but what about guys jacking off to girls they know?One time my guidance counselor from college liked a pic of me in a bikini from 3 years prior at 3 in the morning. Not certain why he was stalking my Facebook that far back but I can take a guess. I work in nightlife and have befriended a few OF girlies who across the board have said some version of “when I realized they were already jerking off to me I figured I might as well get paid”. I get that this is kind of inevitable and one of those things that most men who do it get away with bc they do… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/02/24 06:00 PM |
| 2 | Resources and casual sexAnd that’s a more honest transaction lmao. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/02/24 02:51 AM |
| 2 | Resources and casual sexI agree and I think that they would save EVERYONE a lot of time if they went that route but they typically hate sex workers. Lmao. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/02/24 01:30 AM |
| 1 | Resources and casual sexThey aren’t attractive enough to obtain casual sex so they try to buy it. Half the time they still won’t get it. That’s it that’s the whole reason. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/02/24 01:26 AM |
| – | If it’s not acceptable for older men to pursue 18 women then we shouldn’t allow 18 year olds to birthday debut on OFI completely agree. Girls who join at 18 have no idea what they’re getting themselves into. I’ve heard stories of producers showing up to parties and hanging around in places that high schoolers hang out with the intent of convincing high schoolers to enter porn. That’s why I’m an advocate for raising the age. I think there’s absolutely a way to ethically produce porn without victimizing girls barely out of high school and I think regulation is the move. These sets should honestly be treated lik… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/02/24 07:14 PM |
| – | If it’s not acceptable for older men to pursue 18 women then we shouldn’t allow 18 year olds to birthday debut on OFIf you’re anti OF though you should also be anti-porn in general. OF content is more ethically produced than pornography that comes out of a production house in LA/Florida/ the Northeast. Like just so you’re aware the porn industry in its current form is exploitative in ways beyond just “young girls making a reckless decision and changing the trajectory of their lives”. Performers are often signed with managers that take advantage of them and push them into scenes and acts they said they wouldn’… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/02/24 05:52 PM |
| 2 | If it’s not acceptable for older men to pursue 18 women then we shouldn’t allow 18 year olds to birthday debut on OFYou shouldn't be able to enter any facet of the adult film industry until you're atleast 21 (I'd even push for 25). It's creepy that grown men are trying to date girls still in high school. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/02/24 07:47 PM |
| 1 | Guys and watching pornI more mock the consumption of it and subsequent disgust with SW as a concept. I don't care what people do in their free time by themselves. But I do think if you're anti-OF you shouldn't be watching porn of any kind. Bc OF content is usually made more ethically than anything coming out of a production house. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/02/24 06:57 PM |
| – | Can you count the amount of times you’ve been insulted ? Q4WI have one of those ugly duckling origin stories lmao. My bullies backed off by the time I was in high school when they realized my insults were meaner. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/02/24 06:55 PM |
| 14 | Manosphere contradictionsLmao. Honestly, it's guys complaining about a club they can't get into. Most women have enough options to still find companionship without needing to tolerate/contend with any of these contradictions. Tons of guys out there that aren't raging misogynists and have a grip on reality. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/02/24 05:05 PM |
| 2 | Do women want chivalry back?I don’t care for chivalry tbh. It feels a little condescending/ a means to an end. It feels disingenuous I doubt you’re doing this for all women just to be nice and are instead only behaving this way towards women you want to fuck. I’m not gonna make a fuss over someone holding a door open for me/offering to pay for my food but it doesn’t get any extra points from me lol. Im more concerned about respect than chivalry tbh | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/02/24 07:04 PM |
| 1 | Most men are struggling to find their equivalent, which is why TRP has not only spilled over into the mainstream but become common senseThanks for the info legit didn’t know this. Media outlets are reporting that he’s a member of the RP community lol that was my confusion | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/02/24 06:23 PM |
| 1 | Most men are struggling to find their equivalent, which is why TRP has not only spilled over into the mainstream but become common senseYou sound like you’re in a cult dude. Like literally brain washed | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/02/24 06:22 PM |
| 3 | Is there really an epidemic of women divorcing nice guys for no reason ?You’ll get divorced again if you don’t examine what happened. No one leaves just cause dude I’m sorry. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/02/24 06:21 PM |
| 1 | Would you say women don’t want a man that outshines them ?Dated a guy like this and have a similar trauma response hyper vigilance is a bitch sorry you’re dealing with that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/02/24 06:20 PM |
| 1 | Would you say women don’t want a man that outshines them ?I have never compared myself to a partner in that way. My partner is a baddie. Great job (that he shines in), funny, smart, great chef, incredible writer, amazing mediator all in all the best person to have in most rooms. Love how he shines. That doesn’t make me insecure bc I’m also a baddie. And my partner loves how I shine. Why would I trade in my awesome partner for some mid person due to weird insecurities about “BuT WHo SeTtlEd FOr WhO” Comparison is the death of joy 💕 if you have a partner… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/02/24 06:13 PM |
| 1 | Most men are struggling to find their equivalent, which is why TRP has not only spilled over into the mainstream but become common senseSend me a clip. His public image is tied to RP and his sentiments are RP again, if I’m wrong y’all have an untenable optics issue on your hands | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/02/24 05:35 PM |
| 1 | Most men are struggling to find their equivalent, which is why TRP has not only spilled over into the mainstream but become common senseThat’s false. Incel is someone who is involuntarily celibate. The community was started by a woman on MySpace struggling to have sex and has since been co-opted by misogynistic men that can’t get it in. Someone can identify as incel sure. But the point of being an “incel” is an inability to get sex. Whereas RP ranges from typical self-improvement advice to openly hating women. Both groups in their current form are pariahs in terms of social mobility. You can take the advice or philosophy of eith… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/02/24 05:34 PM |
| 1 | Most men are struggling to find their equivalent, which is why TRP has not only spilled over into the mainstream but become common senseIf that was true you wouldn’t be RP. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/02/24 05:30 PM |
| 2 | Is there really an epidemic of women divorcing nice guys for no reason ?OP was addressing women initiating divorce not men. The reason for leaving isn’t an “excuse” that’s dismissive. You’ll figure this out when you deal with divorce don’t worry ❤️ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/02/24 05:29 PM |
| 5 | Is there really an epidemic of women divorcing nice guys for no reason ?See you’re doing it now 💕 Anyone with this reaction is likely going to have a cycle of relationships that fail or fall apart for similar reasons while never realizing they’re the problem. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/02/24 04:55 PM |
| 3 | Is there really an epidemic of women divorcing nice guys for no reason ?9 times out of 10 the dude gets upset and claims it was for no reason. But if you talk to the exwife there was usually controlling behavior/ lack of emotional support/ lack of appreciation/addiction issues/misaligned long term goals/adultery etc. Truth is after marriage people change, life happens, sometimes you didn’t actually marry the person you thought you did Divorced for “no reason” is more of a rallying cry for people that can’t face accountability for their past behavior or look at their… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/02/24 04:25 PM |
| 1 | Most men are struggling to find their equivalent, which is why TRP has not only spilled over into the mainstream but become common senseAgain the rhetoric that attracts this type of men are also the men that can’t follow through on those tenants. The rude awakening is most women can get another dude in seconds. Most men cannot. Regardless of what pseudo tactics they’re using. As for him “failing RP tenants” doesn’t actually matter. He identifies as RP he is a representative of your community. The internet is littered with similar stories of RP men doing similar things than scrambling when they can’t get the girl back. If my take… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/02/24 04:16 PM |
| 4 | Most men are struggling to find their equivalent, which is why TRP has not only spilled over into the mainstream but become common senseAnd you don't care about women. See how that works? Men need to handle men's problems in terms of social change the same way women have. It is asinine to demand women care about a subset of men that openly hates and expresses contempt for them lmao. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/02/24 08:30 PM |
| 0 | Most men are struggling to find their equivalent, which is why TRP has not only spilled over into the mainstream but become common senseAll of those podcasts where men bring on Only Fans models and berate them for hours are not run and produced by incels. Red pill influencers intentionally distance themselves from that community because they wouldn't make money if they let loose that they can't get laid. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/02/24 08:30 PM |
| 4 | Most men are struggling to find their equivalent, which is why TRP has not only spilled over into the mainstream but become common senseThis post is not about incels. Most incels are black pill not red. Red pillers have typically not given up on dating all together and are not doing the whole Lie Down and Rot thing. Regardless of what "your opinion" on the red pill is the fact is that the abusive assholes amongst you taint the public perception of the movement. He isn't "not redpill" bc his behavior makes you uncomfortable he identifies and vocalizes that RP is his worldview he also is an abuser. If that makes you uncomfortable … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/02/24 08:27 PM |
| 5 | Most men are struggling to find their equivalent, which is why TRP has not only spilled over into the mainstream but become common senseIf RP was just advocating for male suicide prevention and decentering relationships with women by focusing on their health, lifestyle and career I'd be into it. But it's tainted by misogyny and all of their frontmen are just rage baiting clowns profiting off of vulnerable people looking to improve their prospects/blame an entire group of people for their problems so bummer. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/02/24 08:19 PM |
| 3 | Most men are struggling to find their equivalent, which is why TRP has not only spilled over into the mainstream but become common senseAndrew Tate identifies with Red Pill. He's not an incel. Incels from my understanding typically identify with black pill with the aligning consensus being women=evil lmao. No sweat off my back either way. Most of these gripes are just Darwin Darwining. Y'all have fun though | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/02/24 08:13 PM |
| 8 | Most men are struggling to find their equivalent, which is why TRP has not only spilled over into the mainstream but become common senseMy friend dated a guy into RP before it “blew up” in like 2019. One day he sat them down in front of A YouTube video about it and was deeply serious. She didn’t tell me til after bc she was embarrassed that she stayed with him. But guess what else I found out after they broke up??? He was physically abusive, dumped her, then scrambled to get back together her (presumably bc no one else would want to date someone this volatile) and started stalking her when she said no. I saw screenshots dude was… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/02/24 08:02 PM |
| 1 | Q4M: Would you date a broke woman?Love Tiktok, love it. But it's lowkey a psy-op that pushes brain dead, divisive content on purpose. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/02/24 07:35 PM |
| 8 | How would the artificial wombs affect the dating market?Genuinely why are they such losers. And they don’t see it it’s laughable. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/02/24 03:56 PM |
| 7 | How would the artificial wombs affect the dating market?Lmao. Genuinely it’s the most pathetic part of all of it. They do NONE of the work | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/02/24 03:55 PM |
| 24 | How would the artificial wombs affect the dating market?Heirs to their nonexistent, unimpressive legacy. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/02/24 02:14 PM |
| 17 | How would the artificial wombs affect the dating market?Lmao they’re so useless it’s hysterical at this point. Asking mommy to watch their kids bc they don’t want a child they want it as some weird status thing | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/02/24 02:13 PM |
| – | Why do people not want to accept the reasons modern dating isn’t working?Birth rates are lower bc we can’t afford children stop touting that as a failure of modern dating. It’s a structural failure spearheaded by a skyrocketed cost of living/lack of paternity & maternity leave/ and stagnated wages. Technology has increased isolation Marriage isn’t a pass or fail not everyone wants to get married not everyone has to get married many women and men’s views on “what they want out of life” have changed and evolved most marriages we grew up around were miserable so people … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/02/24 02:01 PM |
| – | What do you honestly think about 22yo male virgins?I lost my v card at 20 that’s really not that far behind and had people tell me that was late. It’s not. 22 is fine. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/02/24 05:24 AM |
| – | What would happen if girls only got stranger danger drilled into them as much as boys do?I mean not only this plenty of men are victims of SA/abuse and don’t realize bc it’s vocabulary only women are taught. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/02/24 12:02 AM |
| – | What would happen if girls only got stranger danger drilled into them as much as boys do?We’d get raped more 👍 Next question | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/02/24 12:00 AM |
| – | Immaturity is a bigger problem with guys than they think.They also aren’t whiny and solve their own problems 🤷♀️ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/02/24 08:36 PM |
| 1 | This is how women sound when saying "I'm giving the ugly guy a chance".I mean 🤷♀️ good for her. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/02/24 07:21 PM |
| – | Immaturity is a bigger problem with guys than they think.See my mid thirties boyfriend has all of the monetary success you’re describing and is also neurodivergent and doesn’t melt down like this when he doesn’t get his way. We aren’t talking about monetary gain we’re talking about getting a fucking grip lol. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/02/24 04:31 PM |
| 0 | This is how women sound when saying "I'm giving the ugly guy a chance".First photo dude was training to be a cop. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/02/24 04:24 PM |
| – | Immaturity is a bigger problem with guys than they think.Also true but in my experience there’s less “mothering” and in general less bullshit. I’m also in my late twenties so like it’s not as massive an age gap as it would be for say a 21 year old (which does make my eyebrows raise) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/02/24 04:23 PM |
| – | Immaturity is a bigger problem with guys than they think.The real reason women tend to date older is bc younger guys display these behaviors enmasse tbh. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/02/24 02:21 PM |
| 1 | Immaturity is a bigger problem with guys than they think.Oh watch out guys we have a Dark Knight enthusiast lmao | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/02/24 02:19 PM |
| -1 | This is how women sound when saying "I'm giving the ugly guy a chance".I’m saying my friend is fat and has dated gym bros not hooked up with dated. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/02/24 02:14 PM |
| -1 | This is how women sound when saying "I'm giving the ugly guy a chance".Ew They’re plus size not slim thick thanks I know the difference Sorry that fat women aren’t perpetually alone idk what to tell you. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/02/24 01:34 PM |
| 1 | This is how women sound when saying "I'm giving the ugly guy a chance".I have dated 3 plus size men when I was at my thinnest. Those men (with the exception of 1 who ended up being a POS) were charming funny and thoughtful. I know plenty of women who date men that they’re objectively more attractive than so idk what to tell you lol you have to blame something else for your problems. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/02/24 01:33 PM |
| – | Social construct hipocracyBet your ass I do. Under my clothes, guess what? I'm naked | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/02/24 03:53 AM |
| – | Social construct hipocracyDisagree. Women are still feminine when they age. Sexual experience isn't something you can sense. Guys that seek virgins are typically the ones that create the excess relationship baggage that y'all are complaining about. Speaking from experience | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/02/24 03:41 AM |
| 1 | Do you think online dating has been a net positive or a net negative for the average women?Idk I know people who've met their spouses on apps. it just varies from person to person. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/02/24 02:11 AM |
| – | Social construct hipocracyHymen thing is accurate I tore mine in a dance class in highschool before I'd been kissed | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/02/24 01:09 AM |
| – | Social construct hipocracyIn certain parts of the world having sex outside of marriage as a woman (whether rape or consensual) can result in literal jail time. Through out history women's worth has been predicated on whether or not a man has previously touched her and in fact her worth detracted whenever a man touched her. There were real world tangible consequences around having sex before marriage that went well beyond "dudes are weird about women having sex" that applied only to women and not men. Meanwhile losing you… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/02/24 12:58 AM |
| 4 | This is how women sound when saying "I'm giving the ugly guy a chance".I think it's legit attraction tbh. All of my plus size straight friends have dated gym bros some point so I've definitely seen what you're talking about. Idk what/why that is though different strokes for different folks I guess. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/02/24 12:51 AM |
| 0 | This is how women sound when saying "I'm giving the ugly guy a chance".If an ex did me dirty he becomes "an ugly dude I gave a chance" regardless of what he looks like lmao you have to save face in these streets. Men do the same. At the end of relationships particularly messy ones you talk shit about your ex. That's the only time I've ever heard the "I gave an ugly guy a chance" said outloud to a group of people. I've never heard that said when things are going well. Idk what about any of this is ground breaking lmao | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/02/24 11:45 PM |
| 1 | If a dating app gender ratio was reversed, do you think it would solve dating problems?I think if the dating ratio was reversed women still wouldn't approach at the rate men do. So idk probably more single people | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/02/24 09:29 PM |
| – | Is most of dating dynamics about who is the most “parent”? Who can appear as the most high status individual? Is there no equal relationship?I am rooting for your success dude. Y'all sound like a lovely couple | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/02/24 06:56 PM |
| – | Is most of dating dynamics about who is the most “parent”? Who can appear as the most high status individual? Is there no equal relationship?Eh. I think we're reckoning with the death of old gender dynamics and not everyone is on board yet. My partner and I help eachother navigate the world. He pulls through for me in specific areas that he's more experienced in like negotiating for higher pay in my current role/ interviewing for corporate roles. He sends me his creative projects and asks for input because I used to be a paid theatre critic and when he had a panic attack I taught him the grounding techniques that got me through the p… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/02/24 06:48 PM |
| – | Why don't more struggling men join conservative religions?Genuinely and if there is an immediate turn off to "being religious" but you still hold women to standards that were set and enforced by religious institutions, then you actually just want to control women and are mad that you can't. Atleast old Christian white men believe with conviction that premarital sex will send them to hell (though they still partake lmao). | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/02/24 06:10 PM |
| – | Why don't more struggling men join conservative religions?That's bc the waiting til marriage model doesn't actually work. This reflects exactly what I grew up with where by the time I was 22 all of the "Christian Marriages" I was encouraged to emulate as a model for my own future marriage had ended in divorce. The commonality I noted was adultery, with a few cases of DV/incredibly controlling behavior. Genuinely half the reason I no longer hold sex as this "big powerful special thing" is because you don't actually know someone well enough to marry them… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/02/24 05:56 PM |
| – | Why don't more struggling men join conservative religions?Because many men don't want to conform to the same ideals they want for their "ideal partners". Actual religious women however will turn their nose up at things like porn consumption, promiscuity or the encouraging of it, drug use, depending on the religion alcohol use, specific media that is or isn't in accordance to their beliefs (I was banned from reading Harry Potter and watching anything that alluded to other gods lmao) and many (atleast in the church I grew up in) are waiting or claim to b… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/02/24 05:41 PM |
| 1 | Do you think online dating has been a net positive or a net negative for the average women?The question was about the net positive or negative for Women not men. That's the question I answered lmao. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/02/24 05:32 PM |
| 6 | At a 50/50 male to female ratio, why are there so many men left out?The actual solution that they have a million excuses for everytime | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/02/24 04:30 PM |
| 0 | Do you think online dating has been a net positive or a net negative for the average women?When I used online dating I wasn't trying to find a boyfriend I was bored and trying to find a quick fling (if it turned into more than that cool but that wasn't my goal_. Overall no bad experiences pretty easy way to meet people. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/02/24 02:31 PM |
| 3 | How should men protect themselves from paternity fraud?lmao my stance is always if you get a paternity test you better pray your partner was actually cheating. Bc I know I'd be out if some dude did this to me after I'd carried his kid for 9 months. I'd take the kid and take him for all he was worth tbh. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/02/24 08:36 PM |
| 1 | How should men protect themselves from paternity fraud?Fam tampons, pads, pregnancy tests are all things you have to buy yourself, paternity tests should be bought by men. The same way women have to buy menstrual products and pregnancy tests. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/02/24 08:32 PM |
| – | Women aren't happier single.Tbh if I wanted to bash men I could just tell you stories from my personal life lmao | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/02/24 08:23 PM |
| – | Women aren't happier single.Women are happier in healthy relationships. Staying in a toxic dynamic just cause you're scared of being single is harmful. I'm in a healthy relationship now and I've never been happier. The closest I've ever been to suicide was when I was with my ex. My suicidality/SH pretty much evaporated the moment he was out of the picture. Never regretted a hookup, never regretted the 5 year relationship gap I had. Deeply regretted the relationship I had with my ex. I'd stay single forever before being wit… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/02/24 08:20 PM |
| 3 | Fear of men..or fear of consequences?-"In fact I have a friend, who was literally stabbed in her sleep by some man, and she's not a misandrist in anyway." I have been raped three times and deal with sexual harassment on the daily I also don't view myself as a misandrist but I now take significantly more precautions any time I'm alone or around a man I don't know (and even around men I do know). Every woman has a story like your friend's you really can't be too careful. -" In a club a woman will walk about to a group of guys, take t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/02/24 06:23 PM |
| 1 | Have you ever heard a woman say of her male partner "He makes me a better person."?I say it actually. But my partner actually does make me a better person. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/02/24 06:09 PM |
| 1 | Women, have you ever been approached by a stranger in public (outside of a bar, college campus, or party) that you would consider dating?No. Never. Not once. Not one time. Genuinely I would give out no's on default. I'm just not in that headspace when I'm on transit/in a store/at work etc. Some girls are into that but it's a little off-putting to me because I wasn't seeking out that type of interaction. It's no harm no foul but I'm personally not a huge fan. Bar, club, party, apps were where I gave out my number. There are social settings where strangers are encouraged to mingle. So I pretty much only mingle there. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/02/24 05:52 PM |
| 11 | “Extreme male brain is autism and extreme female brain is BPD”FYI a lot of women diagnosed with BPD go on to be diagnosed with autism (with BPD being a misdiagnosis). It's happened to a couple of women in my life. Autism looks different in women than it does in men. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/02/24 05:46 PM |
| 2 | Soft harems and polygamy will be destigmatized in the coming generations if current trends continueThey're scattered across the country and just don't talk about it tbh. Throuple is in New York. I know a Polycule in California I know a married poly couple (as in they each have their own girlfriends/boyfriends in addition to eachother) that live in Louisiana. My childhood best friend is in a married couple while also being in a polycule (as in they are all dating the same people) with their husband also from Louisiana. One of my friends from college is in a polycule in Melbourne Australia. The… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/02/24 05:23 PM |
| 1 | If girls liked or wanted sex as much as guys, most guys wouldn’t struggle to get laidOne day men will realize that if we sleep with them on the first date it's because we don't respect them lmao | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/02/24 04:42 PM |
| 1 | Soft harems and polygamy will be destigmatized in the coming generations if current trends continueIncorrect I've taught at Title 9 schools. kids get abused/trafficked/taken away when their parents can't provide and are put into a system where homelessness is at the other end. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/02/24 04:37 PM |
| 2 | Soft harems and polygamy will be destigmatized in the coming generations if current trends continueI’d rather not have children then give my children a lesser quality life than what I have now. We live in a country with privatized healthcare. There is no incentive to have children in the US. You can literally go bankrupt just from giving birth. Daycare costs as much as most mortgages. Cost of living has skyrocketed wages have stagnated. No most of us probably won’t have children. Having kids without a safety net endangers children, growing up in poverty can be traumatizing. Most people are no… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/02/24 08:39 PM |
| 1 | Women on this sub really need to stop calling men who struggle in dating "socially inept"Tbh I never know how to politely say “you aren’t owed a partner” to these dudes. Like I know that’s mean but that’s literally the situation. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/02/24 07:08 PM |
| – | Women on this sub really need to stop calling men who struggle in dating "socially inept"I judge women that date redpill dudes. I think they’re moronic and lack self-esteem. Or she’s going to leave him when she finds out 🤷♀️ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/02/24 07:04 PM |
| 0 | Soft harems and polygamy will be destigmatized in the coming generations if current trends continueI know a throuple currently raising a baby. My best friends are poly. They’re doing fine. I’m monogamous and in a relationship but I’ve done a version of what you described when I was in school and in my first few years into my career. It’s great being self-sufficient and only calling men when you want sex/are bored was a mutually beneficial dynamic that kept me focused on building my life without any dusty dude drama and allowed the dude to do like idk whatever. Moralizing these dynamics is jus… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/02/24 06:36 PM |
| 7 | Soft harems and polygamy will be destigmatized in the coming generations if current trends continueLiterally “we have kids regardless of whether or not we can feed, house and educate them” Okay? That’s not a flex my guy. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/02/24 06:35 PM |
| 0 | Soft harems and polygamy will be destigmatized in the coming generations if current trends continueWe aren’t having kids unless we can pretty much guarantee a good quality life. We currently can not. Hope this helped ❤️ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/02/24 06:34 PM |
| – | Money and status and career are not that significant for men (including being rich)No he’s kinda cooking here. I’ve had v rich men try to date/hookup / whatever with me but they were so socially inept/ so lowkey disrespectful/ so just incompatible with me that I passed. Money is awesome integrity is everything though lmao Guys think they crush when they basically bought a hot girl. I’ve almost been that hot girl and tbh I was clowning this dude the whole time and never met up IRL after our initial meeting. I’m sure girls have but ya know probably just for the money. Idk just F… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/02/24 05:12 AM |
| 2 | Men express emotions in the right way“Just because you didn’t make a hole in the wall doesn’t mean your expression of behavior is better” That’s literally exactly what it means. When I get angry the cops aren’t called. No one has to hire a repair man. My expression of anger isn’t categorized as a form of domestic violence. The fact that men justify this behavior lmao y’all have built and earned the reality you live in. No one should have to tolerate a grown man having a toddler tier meltdown . Who calls these women “spicy”? If you … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/02/24 04:53 PM |
| – | Women are becoming increasingly less feminine and exhibiting masculine traits that most men find unattractive, yet due to desperation and simping they have no motivation to stopTea. I had boyfriend that kept complaining bc I dressed “masculinely” at my job. As a barista. At a coffee shop. Lmao genuinely pressed bc I was constantly in jeans and a button down | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/02/24 04:32 PM |
| – | Women are becoming increasingly less feminine and exhibiting masculine traits that most men find unattractive, yet due to desperation and simping they have no motivation to stopHave you considered that these are women that you’re simply not compatible with? I abhor the way many men behave/act/move through the world. Look at me just not giving those men my number or going on dates with them | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/02/24 04:31 PM |
| 2 | Men express emotions in the right wayDestroying things or injuring others is not an affective way to handle your emotions. That’s not a healthy way to express anger, it’s dangerous. Men who behave this way deserve to be left. Women who behave this way deserve to be left. I do not do those things. Most women do not. Men however do it with such frequency that it’s becomes a stereotype. quit punching dry wall. That’s not an expression of anger it’s a temper tantrum in which an emotionally immature man child attempts to scare those aro… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/02/24 04:23 PM |
| 2 | Men express emotions in the right wayBe scary in front of a squad car and see what happens. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/02/24 03:35 PM |
| -1 | Men express emotions in the right way“Men express emotions in the right way” Fam there’s a hole in the apartment door of the sublet I shared with my ex that would like to have a word with you. The hole in the desk that my father kicked in in my childhood bedroom has some thoughts. The shattered coffee mug that my friend’s ex broke on the back of their head definitely disagrees. I’ve met several well composed men that don’t behave like morons the moment they don’t get their way. (They’re usually in their 30s) The majority however th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/02/24 03:30 PM |
| 11 | If females want so much trust in a relationship, then they should be fine without no-fault divorce laws.Men like this never have to worry about divorce bc no one would dream of marrying them. Frankly so beyond help that you might as well just let him stomp his feet and let Darwinism have its way with him | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/02/24 02:28 PM |
| 2 | Doesn't being "on guard" with all men just drive away good men and leave only predators?Most women that are “on guard” aren’t interested in associating with any men in a romantic context. What you’re describing sounds like someone that didn’t feel like having a conversation with that person. Her motives or reasons for why aren’t your business. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/02/24 02:25 PM |
| 1 | What have you guys learned from this subreddit?I think that if men are using their “biology” as an excuse to conduct themselves the way they have for centuries then they have earned the reality they live in now ❤️ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/02/24 02:23 PM |
| 2 | It's totally justified for "nice guys" to feel a bit frustrated.So I’d need to ask for their resume and inquire about the three year gap like it’s a job interview | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/02/24 10:37 PM |
| 0 | It's totally justified for "nice guys" to feel a bit frustrated.I agree it’s a shame that so many men are domestic abusers 🤷♀️ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/02/24 10:36 PM |
| 0 | It's totally justified for "nice guys" to feel a bit frustrated.So you’re an expert how do I spot an ex con in my local dive on a Saturday. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/02/24 10:27 PM |
| 1 | It's totally justified for "nice guys" to feel a bit frustrated.You only addressed the convict one. But I'll bite How many criminals do you know? What were their crimes? How long were they in for? Describe the physical attributes I should be on the lookout for? I personally have never hooked up with an ex-con and don't have anyone in my life who has served time. And apparently you're an expert so I'm begging please enlighten me. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/02/24 10:22 PM |
| 0 | It's totally justified for "nice guys" to feel a bit frustrated.Aight let's get into it. SO if you're a convict you don't identify as a convict right away. You don't divulge that info to someone off the bat. If you have a history of DV you aren't going to volunteer that to a stranger. If you're a cheater you aren't going to tell that to a stranger. You usually don't find these things out until you're a few months then and some people *shocker* are morons who will overlook these things or justify their partner's past with a "he'd never do that to me" (he prob… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/02/24 10:16 PM |
| 2 | 4B movement and Ni Una MenosThis made me CACKLE | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/02/24 10:03 PM |
| – | Do you think people that can’t be alone are weak?I think it's a case by case basis. I think someone who can't be alone in susceptible to giving time and energy to relationships and friendships that aren't good for them because they're desperate for companionship. An ex-friend of mine has been in three toxic situations in a row because whether they'll admit it or not they don't know how to be single and will accept any companionship regardless of whether or not it's good for them or they're actually happy together. That becomes genuinely danger… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/02/24 09:55 PM |
| 3 | Why is it so bad to fall for your friends?Every time a friend has developed feelings for me we stopped being friends shortly after. It was very apparent I was only wanted in a relationship capacity and not as anything else. Which did make me feel gross when those "friends" distanced. It gave me this whole complex about people only wanting me for sex and it's a huge reason why I avoid having cis/het male friends that aren't already wifed up That's why people get grossed out by stuff like this. It's not that it's morally bad necessarily i… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/02/24 09:21 PM |
| 6 | It's totally justified for "nice guys" to feel a bit frustrated.Idk my abuser was kind of an uggo if we're comparing him to "Chad" metrics. Shitty men typically don't have hangups around approaching and getting rejected. They are typically very clear with their intentions (or atleast pretend to be well enough to trick someone into going home with them). Frustration is relevant but if you aren't putting yourself out there as much as the "bad guys" then yeah you probably won't get laid as often | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/02/24 09:16 PM |
| 2 | Could everyone be happier if our entire planets sexual orientation was bi - sexual?I'm bi. It's great. Next question. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/02/24 05:56 PM |
| – | What have you guys learned from this subreddit?Idk what this has to do with anything I just said but people who are judgmental of other people’s sex lives are fucking losers. So if I meet a dude that describes a girl as “run through” I think he’s a fucking loser that can’t get any and is mad. I meet someone who describes someone who is inexperienced as an incel that person sucks in their own way. Those guys don’t deserve sex. If they happen upon it regardless good for them. But plenty of fucking losers don’t have problems getting laid. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/02/24 02:57 PM |
| 2 | It seems for the average guy every woman is suddenly "demisexual"Maybe she feels emotional compatibility and sees a future. That’s enough of a reason. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/02/24 12:05 AM |
| 2 | It seems for the average guy every woman is suddenly "demisexual"And you’re welcome to do the same 👍 Life isn’t fair. Having sex with someone under false pretenses is asshole behavior | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/02/24 10:18 PM |
| 2 | It seems for the average guy every woman is suddenly "demisexual"It genuinely does not matter. She doesn’t want casual sex at this moment. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/02/24 09:46 PM |
| 2 | It seems for the average guy every woman is suddenly "demisexual"It does not matter. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/02/24 08:32 PM |
| 1 | What have you guys learned from this subreddit?And then when they go “but that doesn’t make girls want me” I’m like THE POINT IS TO FIGURE OUT HOW TO NOT ATTACH YOUR WORTH TO THAT | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/02/24 04:19 PM |
| – | When did we become so entitled?Low self-esteem ❤️ I’m in a happier relationship now but one of my day jobs involves a ton of waiting on other people to get back to me so I end up on Reddit in the interim lmao | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/02/24 04:18 PM |
| 1 | It seems for the average guy every woman is suddenly "demisexual"I have fallen out of attraction with men I’ve dated bc they ended up sucking lmao. But when we started dating the attraction was there | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/02/24 03:40 PM |
| – | It seems for the average guy every woman is suddenly "demisexual"Idk what you’re asking. If you have sex with a woman you have no interest in dating, knowing that the woman isn’t interested in something casual and wants to date you you’re a piece of shit. There are plenty of women who want/pursue no strings attached hookups. Leading someone on who doesn’t just because you can’t attract the former is piece of shit behavior. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/02/24 03:38 PM |
| 2 | It seems for the average guy every woman is suddenly "demisexual"I couldn’t tell you I don’t lie about my sexual history. I also don’t date men that reveal they’re less experienced than me and are uncomfy with it. Too much insecurity usually we would politely part ways before anything happened. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/02/24 03:35 PM |
| 5 | What have you guys learned from this subreddit?That's what also floors me about the rhetoric, the moment they let it rip any girl with a brain in her head is out the door. But a guy that is just clear in his intent, who has his shit together and is relaxed about the outcome of his approach/pursuit is honestly ideal. I was floored by how similar the actual "advice" was to things I'd told women in my own life to do to stop stressing about being single. IT SUCKS that it has misogynistic roots I think the bullet points of build a career, pick up… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/02/24 09:55 PM |
| 8 | What have you guys learned from this subreddit?I think it’ll result in a clearer sense of purpose and happier relationships. Genuinely yes king, stack that bread, hit the gym, never settle. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/02/24 09:23 PM |
| 1 | What will be the longterm implications of the erosion of the "Women's are wonderful" effect in dating and relationships?Decent men don’t blame victims. Decent men don’t become misogynists bc they’re rejected by women. They don’t blame women for things their abuser did to them. Men also aren’t able to tell automatically a good woman from bad. So many men end up being awful, and many women are waking up to the reality that a less than ideal partner is more of a hinderance than an asset. I’d rather be alone at forty than in an unhappy marriage. Many women have come to that perspective. They don’t want to get married… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/02/24 08:07 PM |
| 22 | What have you guys learned from this subreddit?I’m down with the self improvement aspects of RP and their goal of decentering women/relationships from their lives. They lose me with the beta bucks, starter gf, degradation and misogyny though 🤷♀️ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/02/24 07:54 PM |
| 1 | It seems for the average guy every woman is suddenly "demisexual"Womp womp | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/02/24 07:52 PM |
| 9 | It seems for the average guy every woman is suddenly "demisexual"It’s a bad thing. It’s getting someone to fuck you under false pretenses. It’s not like illegal but it is fucking sketchy at best | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/02/24 07:50 PM |
| 1 | What will be the longterm implications of the erosion of the "Women's are wonderful" effect in dating and relationships?Oh I think I misunderstood on the first read my b. Yeah that’s probably a factor too. It also explains why plenty of the loud male feminists are kind of just white knighting with nail polish | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/02/24 07:33 PM |
| 1 | What will be the longterm implications of the erosion of the "Women's are wonderful" effect in dating and relationships?The OP’s post is literally about a demographic I’m apart of what are you talking about? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/02/24 07:32 PM |
| 2 | What's your opinion on men who want to date long term by don't want to get married or have kids?If we're talking a life partnership/ LTR with no kids or marriage that sounds cool but you need to be upfront with that otherwise you're wasting people who want a family's time. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/02/24 07:23 PM |
| 0 | What will be the longterm implications of the erosion of the "Women's are wonderful" effect in dating and relationships?LMAO. You're still doing it. Violent, belligerent, throwing a literal temper tantrum bc a woman online said "it's hard to trust men with women's advocacy bc half the time they're using feminism as a front to get laid". Literally to a T exhibiting the exact behavior that alienates women and pushes them into swearing off dating altogether. Donald Trump is an inaffective leader and his supporters are social piranhas (and Trump has a chance of not being eligible) . Incels are going to continue to li… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/02/24 07:18 PM |
| 4 | Women safe places on reddit are fucking bullshit and only cause a bigger divide between men and women.Yeah I was legit pulling up these subs in a different tab lmao ya caught me | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/02/24 07:06 PM |
| -1 | Women safe places on reddit are fucking bullshit and only cause a bigger divide between men and women.TEA. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/02/24 07:05 PM |
| 1 | What will be the longterm implications of the erosion of the "Women's are wonderful" effect in dating and relationships?lmao is this supposed to make me sad. You aren't witty or clever you're just proving my point. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/02/24 07:00 PM |
| 0 | What will be the longterm implications of the erosion of the "Women's are wonderful" effect in dating and relationships?They can but again. They have more options and are putting up with less from men. And a lot of men conduct themselves in a way that make them incompatible for companionship. As do women. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/02/24 06:06 PM |
| -1 | What will be the longterm implications of the erosion of the "Women's are wonderful" effect in dating and relationships?Oh so we should date men who get online and mock DV survivors. You aren’t a prize either your rhetoric/conduct around these topics is also a massive dealbreaker for most women. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/02/24 06:00 PM |
| 0 | What will be the longterm implications of the erosion of the "Women's are wonderful" effect in dating and relationships?I’m actually in a relationship with a great guy. On the heels of an abusive one. I took note of the traits and flags my abuser displayed and now I kick anyone to the curb that exhibits the slightest similarity👍 I feel bad for men who are struggling but I’m not going to behave like men who’ve gone full misogynist deserve companionship. And I’m not going to pretend that anyone is owed sex/a family/ a wife. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/02/24 05:57 PM |
| -3 | What will be the longterm implications of the erosion of the "Women's are wonderful" effect in dating and relationships?Bc most of the issues that impact women are caused by men. The men that don’t contribute to these issues have difficulty acclimating to feminist spaces bc of scrutiny from feminists and it’s hard to tell apart good faith actors from bad ❤️ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/02/24 05:53 PM |
| -1 | What will be the longterm implications of the erosion of the "Women's are wonderful" effect in dating and relationships?What do men bring to the table? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/02/24 05:51 PM |
| -1 | What will be the longterm implications of the erosion of the "Women's are wonderful" effect in dating and relationships?Exhibit A ⬆️ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/02/24 05:50 PM |
| 2 | What will be the longterm implications of the erosion of the "Women's are wonderful" effect in dating and relationships?What’s funny is many historians do think that one of the contributing factors of Hitl*r’s antisemitism was being dumped by a Jewish women who left him for a Jewish man so do with that what you will It’s absolutely batshit that with your full chest you go “yeah I hate women” And then are upset that women don’t like you. I’m a rape victim and DV survivor individual men have irreparably affected my life in a negative way and I’m still not a misandrist. I don’t have empathy for misogynists who’s hat… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/02/24 05:01 PM |
| 4 | Are most men "low quality"? If so, why?Idk dude value is subjective. I pretty much only have deal breakers not set standards based on height/income. Just a list of things I won’t tolerate/don’t gel with regardless of what the dude looks like/ does career wise. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/02/24 04:54 PM |
| 0 | Why Don't Man-Hating Chicks Just Date Other Women?I’m bisexual and if my current relationship falls through that’s the plan 👍 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/02/24 04:51 PM |
| 1 | Why Don't Man-Hating Chicks Just Date Other Women?All of the beauty standards they put on themselves are only aggressively sought after in the queer community so I mean 🤷♀️ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/02/24 04:51 PM |
| 2 | What will be the longterm implications of the erosion of the "Women's are wonderful" effect in dating and relationships?Boo lame. Not getting laid doesn’t justify being a misogynist. And a man who struggles to get laid turning into one as a result has no substance (or style bummer) Furthermore being single is better than being with a partner that isn’t exactly what you want. decenter romantic relationships then maybe you’d actually date someone your compatible with instead of wasting everyone’s time by committing to the first person that expresses a molecule of interest or developing an inferiority complex bc you… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/02/24 04:48 PM |
| -6 | What will be the longterm implications of the erosion of the "Women's are wonderful" effect in dating and relationships?Exhibit A ⬆️ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/02/24 02:43 PM |
| 1 | When did we become so entitled?Nah but he had to take the train home when I dumped his ass | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/02/24 12:19 AM |
| 1 | Women dress provocatively for male attentionMeanwhile we’re just going to the gym | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/24 11:19 PM |
| 3 | What will be the longterm implications of the erosion of the "Women's are wonderful" effect in dating and relationships?Yup | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/24 10:08 PM |
| 3 | What will be the longterm implications of the erosion of the "Women's are wonderful" effect in dating and relationships?I mean what's frightening is any counter to RP has to come from men. They will not listen to us lol. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/24 09:37 PM |
| – | Women dress provocatively for male attentionControlling conservative man mad that women wear crop tops. Truly my heart aches for your plight | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/24 09:01 PM |
| 1 | Women dress provocatively for male attentionI do not I’m looking at his face lmao. Y’all just wear like jeans and T-shirt’s, sometimes shorts, maybe a lil hat. Nothing flashy. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/24 08:59 PM |
| 10 | What will be the longterm implications of the erosion of the "Women's are wonderful" effect in dating and relationships?Yeah I think when RP men realize that their self help gurus only care about profiting off of them and not them improving their lives the tide will begin to turn. I think the issue is we’ve identified the masculine traits from previous generations that were harmful now but we haven’t replaced them with anything aspirational. I can name like 20 female role models off the top of my head. I struggle to think of any male role models that are masculine and non problematic (Idk maybe Travis Kelce/Jason… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/24 08:55 PM |
| 4 | What will be the longterm implications of the erosion of the "Women's are wonderful" effect in dating and relationships?It’s genuinely disheartening and is a huge reason why men don’t receive a lot of empathy from women. It’s tit for tat back and forth with nothing getting better for either. Idk how to explain this it’s just hard to align yourself with people that genuinely don’t care and even benefit from your oppression. And most men have shown they only care if they can get laid. It sucks. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/24 08:49 PM |
| 9 | What will be the longterm implications of the erosion of the "Women's are wonderful" effect in dating and relationships?Yeah genuinely I think that without oppressive structures that kept women from basic human rights it’s kind of revealed that a significant portion of men don’t have a shot with most women when the field is leveled lol And men are pissed. And regardless of what RP says many of the things that discount these men are not shallow and have more to do with conduct/ worldview. A significant portion of women have de centered relationships altogether. I think that’s the disconnect too | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/24 08:33 PM |
| – | Women dress provocatively for male attentionLmao never tell me about your sex life again plz I’m glad you’re searching for someone who aligns with your worldview. I’d suggest a doll, you can always control what they wear | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/24 07:48 PM |
| 25 | What will be the longterm implications of the erosion of the "Women's are wonderful" effect in dating and relationships?Tbh I just genuinely think that too large a percentage of women will always have more options and aren’t opposed to remaining alone. Things that people used to try to shame us with aren’t shameful anymore. We aren’t tolerating what we watched our parents put up with. Good dudes are still out there, they’re harder to come by so women aren’t committing as much as they used to. It’s going to be a lot of stomping and a lot of lonely people. But I don’t think most women are going to budge tbh | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/24 07:46 PM |
| -3 | What will be the longterm implications of the erosion of the "Women's are wonderful" effect in dating and relationships?Yeah if I became single again I’d pack it in tbh. Too many nightmare dudes to Wade through now. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/24 07:43 PM |
| 1 | One of the most insanely frustrating things is how women very rarely make it entirely clear when they are interested, making approaching them unnecessarily stressfulYeah again I don’t really approach. People come to me. So I can only really say what’s typically an “automatic no” for me lol | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/24 07:40 PM |
| 5 | There is often criticism targeted at women for dressing provocatively - sometimes at a moral level. What about men who do the same?Thank you ❤️❤️❤️ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/24 07:20 PM |
| 7 | There is often criticism targeted at women for dressing provocatively - sometimes at a moral level. What about men who do the same?Pretty sure it’s a user from another day under a different account also trying to imply I’m fat. I work in entertainment so it’s hard not to compare yourself/get in your head about appearance but I “graduated” I still try to avoid scales to play it safe though | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/24 07:06 PM |
| 2 | If women started approaching men, they would still end up approaching a minority of themI didn’t assign virtue to either role. Being approached is annoying. Approaching people is annoying. But there’s limited dating strategies. If the shoe was on the other foot I genuinely believe less men would get approached and there would be less cold approaches in general. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/24 07:03 PM |
| 0 | If women started approaching men, they would still end up approaching a minority of themThat’s honestly bc approaching in general more often times than not is an inconvenience not a compliment regardless of who is or isn’t doing the approaching. I think in general we just wouldn’t date around or sleep around as much bc most women don’t view dating as a numbers game the way many men do | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/24 06:31 PM |
| 11 | There is often criticism targeted at women for dressing provocatively - sometimes at a moral level. What about men who do the same?Im recovering from an ED so I medically am happy and 💕not allowed to know💕 Did I strike a nerve? I’ll break protocol if you tell me how much your girlfriend weighs | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/24 06:26 PM |
| 4 | Women dress provocatively for male attentionLmao okay go get a girlfriend that subscribes to your lifestyle update me when she appears | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/24 06:01 PM |
| 12 | There is often criticism targeted at women for dressing provocatively - sometimes at a moral level. What about men who do the same?The “scantily clad” women they’re upset at wouldnt glance their way if they lit themselves on fire so they place moral failings on people they can’t have. Have you noticed half the men making these posts immediately concede that they’re currently single lmao. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/24 05:58 PM |
| 2 | There is often criticism targeted at women for dressing provocatively - sometimes at a moral level. What about men who do the same?Modesty as a concept is a subjective metric that varies from culture to culture (in the US from state to state). The double standard you’re describing is why I’d never consider dating a man that follows any Abrahamic religion. It’s also a huge reason why I left religion. The double standards in those communities are insane and the men in those communities in general are mid at best in all categories. Men who get their nuts in a knot over immodest women who wouldn’t look their way if they lit the… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/24 05:56 PM |
| – | Women dress provocatively for male attentionLmao. Listen to you? Are you her dad? Jesus dude | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/24 05:51 PM |
| – | Women dress provocatively for male attentionAll of this for a hypothetical girlfriend. I dumped my last ex bc he had a constantly changing metric of how I “should be dressing”. Men are gross they come onto us no matter what. This is a guaranteed way to get dumped dude. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/24 05:43 PM |
| 3 | 50/50 relationship are not equalReread and try again lmao👍 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/24 05:22 PM |
| 5 | 50/50 relationship are not equalThey’re all over this sub lmao they aren’t proud of it they’ve sunk into victimhood and aren’t making active change bc they’ve tied their identity to this label. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/24 05:19 PM |
| 4 | 50/50 relationship are not equalIncels gave themselves that label. I agree with you I think it’s largely self-inflicted and comes from a place of defeatist entitlement | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/24 05:13 PM |
| – | Women dress provocatively for male attentionEh different strokes. I dumped my last boyfriend over controlling behavior when he started getting weird about me leaving the house in sleeveless tops. Being controlling over your hypothetical girlfriend bc of her perceived intentions of getting dressed up. Yikes my guy | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/24 05:12 PM |
| 1 | Women in relationships with male best friends?My male best friend is engaged and I’m in a committed relationship so it’s not weird. If he was still single I’d probably be more careful about how we interacted but he’s head over heels for her so no danger | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/24 05:10 PM |
| 4 | 50/50 relationship are not equalIt exists but it’s the failings of individual men not the entire gender. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/24 05:05 PM |
| 31 | Would women suggest that men not approach them?Hey fam so it’s context. Does she have headphones on? She probably doesn’t want to talk. Is this a social setting that welcomes interaction with strangers? Yes. Then fuck it go for it. Is she reading/working out/ mid task, probably not a good time to approach. The tea is if she isn’t attracted to you there’s little you can do in your approach to change her mind, if she doesn’t want to talk the conversation is going to feel dead or she’ll straight up reject you. Unless there’s a mutual attraction… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/24 05:03 PM |
| – | Women dress provocatively for male attentionSo why do you care? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/24 04:31 PM |
| 7 | Are women who date online "exploitative"?Lmao this took me out | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/24 04:28 PM |
| 7 | If women started approaching men, they would still end up approaching a minority of themI agree if it shifted we’d only approach a small amount of men. When I was single I did approach men and women I was attracted to. We’d still have options by a large margin just more agency in when we choose to engage in these dynamics rather than constantly being thrown into them regardless of mood, desire or interest in whoever is initiating 👍 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/24 04:26 PM |
| – | Women dress provocatively for male attentionIdk why they care tbh. I never notice or care about what men are wearing. They can do everything but mind their own business than wonder why women are swearing them off in droves it’s embarrassing | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/24 04:12 PM |
| – | Women dress provocatively for male attentionYeah when I worked in childcare it was a lot of leggings and sweaters | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/24 04:08 PM |
| – | Women dress provocatively for male attentionTbh i just dress however I want to dress for whatever occasion without anyone in particular in mind. Again why do you care? Who are men dressing for? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/24 04:04 PM |
| – | Women dress provocatively for male attentionTea it’s more of a “they sexualize everything we wear so I might as well wear what I want” than a “let me get sexy to attract men” thing. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/24 04:03 PM |
| 1 | When did we become so entitled?Yeah I completely agree. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/24 03:20 PM |
| 1 | When did we become so entitled?Bro I’m not from Korea I’m just telling you why Korea has a mass movement of women that would rather be alone than be with men. The way their society is structured caters to men at the cost of women and there’s not a ton of women as a result (literally many Korean parents aborted once they realized they were having a girls) so now there are less women for men to choose from. And the ones who are available don’t want to put up with the shit their moms did. The USA will follow suit if nothing chan… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/24 03:18 PM |
| 1 | When did we become so entitled?I’m currently in a super happy relationship with a man but he’s definitely a cut above the rest in terms of emotional intelligence. It’s more that the men I’ve regretted being in relationships with misrepresented their interests and long term goals to string me along (whether intentionally or unintentionally) when it came down to it they didn’t know what they wanted beyond “a hot girlfriend” as a box to check and then the effort/kindness just stopped once we were committed. Literally wasted my t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/24 02:52 PM |
| 3 | Telling men their standards are high because they don't want to date or pursue single moms for a LTR is absurdMen not being able to find companionship isn’t my issue. Most people are aware of what they look like/where they rank or are atleast self aware enough to realize why they might not be having luck. I only point out flaws when I’m asked. I only give advice when I’m asked. No one asked you how you feel about single moms so you kind of just look like an asshole. Single moms probably wouldn’t be interested in you anyway bc of the paranoia you have around her being a gold digger. That shit is nightmar… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/24 02:46 PM |
| 2 | Telling men their standards are high because they don't want to date or pursue single moms for a LTR is absurdHave you considered no one cares? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/24 02:42 PM |
| 1 | Telling men their standards are high because they don't want to date or pursue single moms for a LTR is absurdThat’s kind of why I immediately go straight to mockery. I wouldn’t be jazzed to date a single parent I’d never like make a whole thing out of it bc tbh I’ve never had a single parent try to date me Lmao it’s an entirely hypothetical scenario and my hesitation is more “that’s a big ass responsibility that involves more than just me and this person” But even in this dudes hypothetical reality the reason is “it’ll be an issue with my inheritance and she’ll be a leech” what? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/24 02:40 PM |
| 1 | When did we become so entitled?Tea. Women are opting out of participating in traditionally patriarchal roles expected of them such as being a wife. In a nation with gender norms that would be considered misogynistic by our standards I think refusing to take part in those roles is a pretty apt response. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/24 02:14 PM |
| 1 | When did we become so entitled?I agree I think as long as misogyny exists there’s always going to be beef. I think the way we’ve done relationships/courtship in the past hasn’t worked. I truly cannot make any positive examples of het marriages that haven’t turned into an utter shitshow (and I grew up in a very traditional red state suburb). My parents didn’t have a happy marriage, neither did their parents. And almost every marriage I grew up witnessing ended in divorce for a multitude of reasons (adultery, DV etc.) the model… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/24 02:09 PM |
| 1 | Why do women require bottomless trust from men but don’t give an ounce to us?Listen I think the concept of having a literal go bag is ridiculous. But we can't actually compare things like wondering if your spouse might cheat and wondering if your spouse might murder you are comparable. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/24 04:58 AM |
| 3 | Telling men their standards are high because they don't want to date or pursue single moms for a LTR is absurd100% they’ll do just that that’s why we must flee to the woods. Lest she capture us and drain our 401ks | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/24 04:34 AM |
| – | One of the most insanely frustrating things is how women very rarely make it entirely clear when they are interested, making approaching them unnecessarily stressfulWho said I was opposed to hookups. It’s just wild to expect women to anticipate a stranger wanting an interaction with them and getting upset bc they aren’t initiating an interaction. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/24 02:10 AM |
| 4 | Telling men their standards are high because they don't want to date or pursue single moms for a LTR is absurdShe’s cursed the bloodline | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/02/24 10:59 PM |
| – | One of the most insanely frustrating things is how women very rarely make it entirely clear when they are interested, making approaching them unnecessarily stressfulI’m obvious. For men I want to approach me | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/02/24 10:59 PM |
| 5 | When did we become so entitled?It’s all projection these were men I dated who were aware they were big but for whatever reason thought I couldn’t be lmao | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/02/24 10:51 PM |
| 5 | Telling men their standards are high because they don't want to date or pursue single moms for a LTR is absurdLmao it’s so funny bc I’m absolutely positive that you look like Sméagol. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/02/24 10:05 PM |
| 5 | Telling men their standards are high because they don't want to date or pursue single moms for a LTR is absurdHave you ever been a paid model? Actor? Dancer? I have and still do ❤️ Have fun picking out hats for your bald spot. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/02/24 09:57 PM |
| 14 | Telling men their standards are high because they don't want to date or pursue single moms for a LTR is absurdI wouldn’t date a single father for the same reasons. It’s more the “this is entirely hypothetical and sounds like the set up for Knives Out” that had me rolling | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/02/24 09:53 PM |
| – | Telling men their standards are high because they don't want to date or pursue single moms for a LTR is absurdLmao I don’t have a gut and don’t assign value to people’s size. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/02/24 09:51 PM |
| 10 | When did we become so entitled?Many Asian countries did a eugenics to get rid of most of the girls (no one ever mentions that there's literally less women in these places). They have significantly more patriarchal structures than we do in the US and their sexual violence/harassment stats are no joke. Their schools are also (atleast in Korea) largely separated by gender which means there's little socialization between the sexes at all before they've reached adulthood. Women committing to not having children and being alone (es… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/02/24 09:45 PM |
| 7 | When did we become so entitled?The tea is I do genuinely believe that dating someone or marrying someone that isn't your ideal is wasting your time and you would genuinely be better off alone. I've not regretted any of my one-night stands. I've deeply regretted 2 of my LTR's. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/02/24 09:40 PM |
| 8 | Telling men their standards are high because they don't want to date or pursue single moms for a LTR is absurdWe better hide she could be lurking around the corner | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/02/24 09:17 PM |
| – | Telling men their standards are high because they don't want to date or pursue single moms for a LTR is absurdIn the middle of what we must stay vigilant one could be lurking around the corner. No time to argue bury the gold lest she emerge and ask you to pay for her daughter’s philosophy degree | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/02/24 09:16 PM |
| 4 | Telling men their standards are high because they don't want to date or pursue single moms for a LTR is absurdhttps://sandrarose.com/2024/01/8-passport-bros-killed-in-the-past-3-months/ don’t go to Columbia | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/02/24 09:10 PM |
| 12 | Telling men their standards are high because they don't want to date or pursue single moms for a LTR is absurdWhy would you do that though if you’re scared that she’ll steal your inheritance and slaughter your young. I thought you were fearful of the pox she’d bring on your home | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/02/24 09:09 PM |
| 15 | Telling men their standards are high because they don't want to date or pursue single moms for a LTR is absurdSo no cool. I don’t think you need to worry about a single mom stealing your inheritance at this time but I’ll keep an eye out. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/02/24 09:07 PM |
| 29 | When did we become so entitled?Every man that has had something to say about my body has been fat. I was an actor, singer, dancer and model working professionally for the first half of my twenties and my body/weight has not fluctuated much since then. These comments were made when I was at my thinnest. They’re literally delusional and truly believe they deserve Heidi Klum while not meeting that metric. It’s embarrassing | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/02/24 09:05 PM |
| 11 | Telling men their standards are high because they don't want to date or pursue single moms for a LTR is absurdLmao. Is there a single mom trying to date you right now? No? Then why are you dedicating time and energy to justifying why you’d reject this hypothetical woman that has expressed no interest in you | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/02/24 08:59 PM |
| 17 | Telling men their standards are high because they don't want to date or pursue single moms for a LTR is absurdHave you met a single mom that’s expressed interest in you? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/02/24 08:56 PM |
| 17 | Telling men their standards are high because they don't want to date or pursue single moms for a LTR is absurdThere’s nothing to debate this is a scenario you made up in your head that will never happen. Unless manifestation is real in which case you’re willing it to happen lmao | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/02/24 08:55 PM |
| 8 | Telling men their standards are high because they don't want to date or pursue single moms for a LTR is absurdBe careful they’re targeting Americans now bc of Passport bros | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/02/24 08:54 PM |
| – | Telling men their standards are high because they don't want to date or pursue single moms for a LTR is absurdLiterally when they try to shame you with the “that’s petty you’re shallow” Idgaf I wouldn’t date you either. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/02/24 08:52 PM |
| 30 | Telling men their standards are high because they don't want to date or pursue single moms for a LTR is absurdI don’t understand why we’re talking about hypothetical women that have otherwise expressed no interest in you or your potential inheritance. Lmao. I wouldn’t date a single dad I’m not dedicating time and energy to justifying why. It is simply 🌸not my vibe🌸 What do you think is going to happen? Is she going to force you to pay for her kids college at gunpoint? I’m trying to get a good visual in my brain. I think she probably wears red lipstick and eats the hearts of men for breakfast. You’re des… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/02/24 08:49 PM |
| 38 | Telling men their standards are high because they don't want to date or pursue single moms for a LTR is absurdIs the single mom with inheritance hungry kids that wants an LTR with you in the room with us? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/02/24 08:45 PM |
| – | One of the most insanely frustrating things is how women very rarely make it entirely clear when they are interested, making approaching them unnecessarily stressfulThen I think you have your answer | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/02/24 07:13 PM |
| 2 | Every time a male celebrity's nudes are leaked - women and gay men spread it, laugh about it, discuss it, critique it, shame it etc. with zero blowback.Tea. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/02/24 07:13 PM |
| 1 | Every time a male celebrity's nudes are leaked - women and gay men spread it, laugh about it, discuss it, critique it, shame it etc. with zero blowback.Drake is a groomer and everyone seemed to forget about it so idc (I haven't seen the video and this is the first place I've heard of it lol). But in general leaking nudes isn't cool doesn't matter the gender of the person, it's not okay. Girls and gays doing that are gross and should stop | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/02/24 07:11 PM |
| – | One of the most insanely frustrating things is how women very rarely make it entirely clear when they are interested, making approaching them unnecessarily stressfulIt is and if you’re not one of those guys you gotta approach | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/02/24 06:51 PM |
| 1 | One of the most insanely frustrating things is how women very rarely make it entirely clear when they are interested, making approaching them unnecessarily stressfulHard agree. I’ve found direct approach relaxed outcome is the only thing that works everything else is weird lol | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/02/24 06:48 PM |
| 1 | One of the most insanely frustrating things is how women very rarely make it entirely clear when they are interested, making approaching them unnecessarily stressfulYeah those dudes should get comfy getting nos. I have a boyfriend but still go out with friends anyone approaching me is going to get a no. Doesn't mean they're uggo losers I'm just not available for that type of interaction. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/02/24 06:41 PM |
| – | One of the most insanely frustrating things is how women very rarely make it entirely clear when they are interested, making approaching them unnecessarily stressfulTbh I’ve never had to work at attracting partners. The only advice I can ever really give is “Here’s what typically won’t work if you’re hella normie in terms of status” But I’m bisexual so I do know a bit about picking up women, I doubt my methods would translate here though lol | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/02/24 06:39 PM |
| 1 | The problem with dating advice today is that people are seen as trophies rather than investmentsI've been with someone for 2 years that goes above and beyond everything I could have ever imagined in terms of what I'm seeking in a partner. The men I dated before him misrepresented themselves and were revealed to be emotionally stunted losers with terrible work ethic who when a challenge crossed our path it ended up being something I had to handle on my own (even though we're talking like men I lived with and it was a problem affecting both of us). Personally I'm done dating people that only… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/02/24 06:19 PM |
| – | One of the most insanely frustrating things is how women very rarely make it entirely clear when they are interested, making approaching them unnecessarily stressfulI'm not afraid of rejection I came here to have fun not scout out dudes. If dudes appear great if not I'm still going to have fun. Women don't approach because they don't have to. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/02/24 06:05 PM |
| 1 | The problem with dating advice today is that people are seen as trophies rather than investmentsYeah but I have to literally leave him for any active change to occur so what good does that do me lmao. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/02/24 05:57 PM |
| – | One of the most insanely frustrating things is how women very rarely make it entirely clear when they are interested, making approaching them unnecessarily stressfulI mean tbh you've had luck with three women and now think that there's this mass populace of women that care about being approached by strangers and are willing to alter their behavior so you specifically will approach them. Most women go to venues for more reasons than just meeting men it's on the docket but it's not always a priority. 90% of the men that approach me appear out of the ether and I had no idea they existed until they said hi. My current partner of 2 years was one of these men. I'… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/02/24 05:56 PM |
| – | One of the most insanely frustrating things is how women very rarely make it entirely clear when they are interested, making approaching them unnecessarily stressfulSounds like you need to learn what that looks like . 9 times out of 10 though if you can't tell it's cause they haven't noticed you or they don't want to be approached | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/02/24 05:39 PM |
| – | One of the most insanely frustrating things is how women very rarely make it entirely clear when they are interested, making approaching them unnecessarily stressfulTHANK YOU. This is the actual answer. There are like 30+ people at any venue, we're usually there with other people and we genuinely don't register most men looking for weird hidden nonverbal communication signals that we likely weren't giving off. Idk why most guys on here don't understand, there's no universe where women care enough to approach strangers at bars and the men that are attractive enough to warrant that response we probably still wouldn't approach bc that dude would look like *ins… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/02/24 05:35 PM |
| – | One of the most insanely frustrating things is how women very rarely make it entirely clear when they are interested, making approaching them unnecessarily stressfulGenuinely if you can't tell if a woman wants to be approached it's cause she doesn't want to be approached | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/02/24 05:17 PM |
| – | One of the most insanely frustrating things is how women very rarely make it entirely clear when they are interested, making approaching them unnecessarily stressfulIf you can't tell if they want to be approached it's because they probably don't want to be approached, that takes the guess work out of it altogether. There's also a plausible chance that they literally have not noticed you trying to get their attention most women show up to bars and clubs with friends or dates and aren't necessarily "on the prowl". That doesn't mean they're opposed to being approached it just means that's not the sole reason they went out and wouldn't be scouting the room for … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/02/24 04:47 PM |
| – | Men, which woman is better? Why?No that’s v low actually | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/02/24 04:07 PM |
| 1 | The problem with dating advice today is that people are seen as trophies rather than investmentsTbh I'm not going to change/improve a man. They're fundamentally incapable of changing without deciding internally they want to and my influence isn't going to do anything (and if anything will make the situation worse). So I'm not investing in someone that doesn't already align with what I'm looking for in a partner. That way when the bad times do come I'm not saddled with someone completely incapable of meeting the situation with me. Everytime I've had a guy that's less than that I've ended up… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/02/24 03:32 PM |
| 1 | What advice would you give a "high value man" who is struggling with dating?Apparently not in OP's friend's case which is why I answered the question but go off king. I know plenty of people on the ASD and SPD spectrum that are able to maintain conversations with minimal issues around social cues/ they're charming in their own way so women look past whatever those issues might be. I dated someone on the spectrum for about 6 months in college when we both were BROKE. So yeah it's just a matter of dating people who aren't ableist The ones who struggle typically have frien… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/02/24 01:59 PM |
| 1 | Why does Polyamory get so much hate here?OP’s post specifically is talking about hate that Poly people get. Not middle of the road people or people who don’t care. So idk what you’re disagreeing with me on. People who hate polyamorous relationships are upset at something lacking in their own lives. If those people long for a life partner they’re likely upset that there’s a group of people who have several and they can’t get one. If you pity them that’s also weird. These people are minding their own business and likely don’t care what a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/02/24 06:02 PM |
| 1 | Why does Polyamory get so much hate here?Are these people you’re sleeping with? No. Then why are you obsessed with their sex lives. It’s weird. I’m monogamous and I’d be weirded out if someone judged me for that decision. Worry about your bedroom stay out of other people’s. It’s the exact same reason why a lot of homophobic people are found on Grindr. Any beef someone has with a population of people that isn’t bothering anyone else is weird/judgmental/projecting. It’s usually envy or outright disdain for something they can’t have or a … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/02/24 04:49 PM |
| 1 | Why does Polyamory get so much hate here?If you care about other people’s sex lives you’re a weirdo | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/02/24 12:04 PM |
| 1 | What advice would you give a "high value man" who is struggling with dating?Lmao where did I say that. I know plenty of people on the spectrum that can hold a conversation | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/02/24 12:01 PM |
| 2 | Why does Polyamory get so much hate here?Same. I just literally don’t care about other people’s sex lives. I’m not poly but my friends who are are totally normal nice people | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/02/24 11:44 PM |
| 4 | Why does Polyamory get so much hate here?You know shitty poly people then 🤷♀️ All of the poly people in my life are pretty normie or met playing DnD | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/02/24 11:42 PM |
| 5 | Why does Polyamory get so much hate here?Bc they’re mad they aren’t getting any and there’s a population of people that not only have one sex partner but gasp multiple. That’s it. People who aren’t super experienced can’t grasp how nuanced and legitimate these bonds often are and lash out bc they don’t get it and can’t get any themselves. ANY TIME someone has a lot to say about the bedroom activities of people they themselves aren’t sleeping with there’s some weird projection/repression/hangup thing going on. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/02/24 09:45 PM |
| 2 | If two guys go for a woman at the same time, what could you do to make her choose you?Be clear with your intention and relaxed about the outcome. Don’t change anything for her she’s already made her decision and altering your behavior won’t change the outcome anyway | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/02/24 06:25 PM |
| 24 | What advice would you give a "high value man" who is struggling with dating?Tbh I feel like a “high value man” that’s struggling to date either isn’t high value or the metrics RP uses to assign value to men aren’t guaranteed success if you still struggle to hold conversations and connect on non material grounds | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/02/24 04:23 PM |
| – | Why do some people prefer casual sex while others prefer monogamy?Yeah I’ve just found that being in a relationship just cause rather than screening for things like aligned values/ shared vision for the future etc. it ends up being a massive waste of time. I’m in a position where I can screen so I do. Also 22 isn’t that old I didn’t lose my v card til I was 20. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/02/24 05:46 PM |
| – | Why do science says that married men live longer when marriages are stressful and full of hassles?This was exactly what I was going to say lmao | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/02/24 09:19 PM |
| 1 | Women will reject or lose interest in a guy for the most frivolous reasons, and then completely rule him out no matter what he does to redeem himselfYou can get the ick for your boyfriend usually about 3 months in. Icks can vary from having a goofy laugh to idolizing Hitler so it REALLY depends on context. In general though I've seen it over stupid stuff that if you applied that standard to women I'd want to tussle so my point stands. It's honestly a way to find out from the jump if your relationship has legs. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/02/24 11:27 PM |
| 4 | Population collapse and datingIn the US there's no incentive to have children and every incentive not too. Most work places offer only 3 weeks of maternity leave (which is psychologically bad for both mother and child) and no paternity leave at all for fathers. Childcare is exorbitantly expensive now. Our parents are working to older ages so they aren't able to help. But most households can no longer survive on a single income. If you're uninsured you will go bankrupt just delivering a child and even if you do have coverage … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/02/24 09:35 PM |
| 1 | Why do older women not understand that most guys who end up with younger women are just playing the odds?Omg just say you want to date a high schooler already jfc y’all are so creepy | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/02/24 09:04 PM |
| 1 | Why do older women not understand that most guys who end up with younger women are just playing the odds?My POV on this is always commonalities in life experience. I can buy a dude in his 30s maybe met a 25 year old at their workplace or through mutual friends or at a bar. I can buy that a guy in his 30s met a 21 year old in a bar. I think it’s weird that you’re dating a college age person and definitely think the older dude is wasting her time but it’s legal so 🤷♀️ . I don’t buy that a guy in his mid 30s met an 18 year old in a non sketchy way. Many 18 year olds are still in highschool. Across th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/02/24 08:51 PM |
| 1 | Do men require more support than women?Honestly. HONESTLY. There is no way to engage with this topic without acknowledging violent crime stats broken down by gender and acknowledging which population routinely victimized women and who set up a society to strengthen existing power differentials built into our relationship dynamics in the first place But that always triggers y’all to meltdown so 🤷♀️ If you think there is a service that men currently don’t have access to. You should get together and advocate for that to elected officia… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/02/24 08:17 PM |
| 1 | How are average looking men in this day and age supposed to meet women?Okay but what if I'm busy lmao | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/02/24 06:53 PM |
| 0 | How are average looking men in this day and age supposed to meet women?Honestly if they don't want to use apps and they don't want to go to bars or clubs I genuinely just don't know what else to say. Approaching someone in a place that isn't friendly towards socializing with strangers is already flirting on hard mode bc you have no idea what the person you're approaching wants to do at that particular day and moment or how they'll respond to being approached. I know guys who have had success doing that but even they admit that you have to be comfortable getting gla… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/02/24 06:38 PM |
| – | Accepting the "red pill" framing is a trapWe don’t want to date losers with a victim mentality that they try to make our problem | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/02/24 04:41 PM |
| 4 | Women will reject or lose interest in a guy for the most frivolous reasons, and then completely rule him out no matter what he does to redeem himselfMy suspicion is there was no eye fucking. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/02/24 03:32 PM |
| 1 | Why is it normalized for women to be irritable and thus yell at their partners when before they menstruate or are pregnant?And women are on the receiving end of men being volatile aggressive and pervy 24/7 PMS involves an influx of testosterone. Literally women who are PMSing are like that bc of the hormones we associate most broadly with masculinity. Meaning how we act with excess testosterone in our system is similar to how you behave all of the tome | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/02/24 01:14 PM |
| 1 | Are relationship worth it?My current relationship is the first one where all of the boxes are checked and is more than worth it and one of the best facets of my life. To be totally honest every other relationship by and large wasn’t worth it. I think hopping to commitment is unwise in general and there’s nothing wrong with actually making sure this person is worth committing to. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/01/24 08:11 PM |
| 3 | Accepting the "red pill" framing is a trapHonestly it’s really similar to feminism in terms of “decentering relationships” They just lose me when they start talking about “pump n dumping”, rating women, and using terms like starter girlfriend it just gets very yikes. It sucks dude I’m on board with everything that doesn’t involve treating women like shit | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/01/24 07:53 PM |
| 5 | Accepting the "red pill" framing is a trapRP’s self-improvement suggestion I do think is beneficial. I think encouraging men not to get hung up on one woman when there are 100s is healthy. Advising to get skills/a high paying job fuck yeah why not? Learning how to play a guitar is cool, disposable income keeps you secure and safe working out regularly promoted mental wellness . I don’t even care if they’re doing it in hopes of getting laid this is a clear path to some form of self-actualization that can open plenty of doors It’s a shame… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/01/24 07:26 PM |
| – | The reason why society shuns age gap dating is because the younger a girl is, the more shes covetedI think 23 is when I actually start to buy that the two people in the relationship hit it off rather than it being creepy or weird. It’s very likely that you’d have similar social circles/work places. They can legally drink and it’s usually an age when you’re a year out from college. My only aversion is when there’s like no commonality in life experience due to age. I think that’s where it gets hairy | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/01/24 06:11 PM |
| – | The reason why society shuns age gap dating is because the younger a girl is, the more shes covetedThe women who have an issue with age gap relationships bc of the experiences they had when they were 18 dating older men. I’m in an age gap relationship we met when I was 26 and he was 34. We were in similar phases of life and are madly in love, our ages rarely come up anymore and I’ve never dealt with scrutiny from people in my life about our age difference. But I’m sorry a 30 year old dating an 18 year old is weird. I spent half of 18 in highschool. I directed multiple highschool theatre produ… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/01/24 06:00 PM |
| 10 | Women will reject or lose interest in a guy for the most frivolous reasons, and then completely rule him out no matter what he does to redeem himselfAh thank you 🙏 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/01/24 05:45 PM |
| 15 | Women will reject or lose interest in a guy for the most frivolous reasons, and then completely rule him out no matter what he does to redeem himselfThat’s kind of my stance too. It’s usually a joke, when it’s not it says more about them than you. Why would anyone want to be with a shallow person that doesn’t allow you a full range of expression | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/01/24 05:04 PM |
| 9 | Women will reject or lose interest in a guy for the most frivolous reasons, and then completely rule him out no matter what he does to redeem himselfWhat’s the nonsensical shit that caused her to lose interest? That’s relevant | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/01/24 05:02 PM |
| 2 | It’s become socially acceptable in America for women to lie about sexual abuseExactly and it sucks that people lie about it. It really fucks stuff up for survivors trying to get help | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/01/24 04:22 PM |
| 2 | It’s become socially acceptable in America for women to lie about sexual abuseI do generally believe a woman who comes forward but I did literally see a situation where someone lied and like definitively lied there were witnesses the door was opened she was super fuckedup (I think she might have genuinely been confused blacked out and woke up scared but idk) and what she said happened didn’t happen. The guy of course didn’t suffer any consequences/blowback it was dropped pretty immediately. So now I try to be wary of a situation not sounding right if you catch my drift | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/01/24 04:18 PM |
| 2 | The number of women having casual sex is highly exaggeratedI mean honestly it’s one of those things where like you totally can just not encounter it and typically the people who don’t wouldn’t have been into it anyway. I’m not really into orgy scenes and only encountered them once I moved in with a burlesque performer that would get booked to perform at these parties where like after they performed shit went down. I met some of them outside of this context and they were totally normal nice people. It’s just weird to me that people have hard opinions on … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/01/24 04:15 PM |
| 0 | The number of women having casual sex is highly exaggerated“Fucked up and neglected” for you lmao yeah it’s a circle jerk Plenty of people are in relationships. Plenty of people are actively choosing to remain single and play the field. Figure out which one you want to do or keep complaining on the internet about women having sex | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/01/24 04:11 PM |
| – | What’s the hate with hijabi women?I’m not cool with religious practices fixated on covering your body for “modesty” (men). Modesty in a biblical context is not being prideful and moving through life with humility. No actual suggestion of clothing/covering enters the frame until Paul. Anyone with a passing knowledge of the history of the Bible knows that all of those modest is hottest rules have more to do with men not being accountable for their lustful thoughts than the failings of the women. It’s just super fucking annoying an… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/01/24 03:50 PM |
| 1 | The number of women having casual sex is highly exaggeratedYeah circle jerking. Everyone I know is in a relationship. This is an individual problem. Probably stemming from making L takes like “How come women are such bitches on their periods?” Meanwhile me PMSing is pondering the futility of existence and crying bc a woman missed her bus. Truly | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/01/24 03:39 PM |
| 1 | Do you guys think AI humanoid girlfriends will be popular in the future?I hope they are. Just be nice to them so they don’t overthrow us lmao | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/01/24 02:18 PM |
| 1 | Why is it normalized for women to be irritable and thus yell at their partners when before they menstruate or are pregnant?Tbh it’s not your problem but a man made a post complaining about it. Which is so bizarre to me. OP brought it up, said a bunch of really minimizing inaccurate shit about an experience he himself doesn’t have to deal to …. What? Bitch about it? Honestly as much as half the men on here complain about their issues meeting women, it’s just abundantly clear that they just don’t like us. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/01/24 01:27 PM |
| 2 | The number of women having casual sex is highly exaggeratedLmao whatever my dude. Keep circlejerking ✌️ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/01/24 11:22 PM |
| 4 | The number of women having casual sex is highly exaggeratedIt varies by location and phase in your life. If you live in a small town with an absent nightlife yeah there’s going to be less sex. If you’re in a city/college town there will likely be a bigger hookup scene. Neither routes are bad. I work in nightlife and all of the girls in my circle that are single do hook up. Women do get as horny as men we just don’t make it an issue. Sex drive varies from person to person There are orgies happening behind the scenes but they’re private events that you’re… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/01/24 09:12 PM |
| 2 | Being girlfriend zoned is worse than being sex zonedYou shouldn’t commit to anyone unless you see a future. Point. Blank. Period. If you don’t see yourself potentially marrying your partner you’re wasting both of your time. Play the field until you find someone worth committing to. If you can’t figure out how to do that you’re SOL. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/01/24 09:04 PM |
| 6 | Why is it normalized for women to be irritable and thus yell at their partners when before they menstruate or are pregnant?Lmao why should it what? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/01/24 06:14 PM |
| 6 | Why is it normalized for women to be irritable and thus yell at their partners when before they menstruate or are pregnant?It’s THE WORST. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/01/24 05:15 PM |
| 1 | Why is it normalized for women to be irritable and thus yell at their partners when before they menstruate or are pregnant?We don’t and that’s why there’s a loneliness crisis. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/01/24 04:50 PM |
| 30 | Why is it normalized for women to be irritable and thus yell at their partners when before they menstruate or are pregnant?I cry at everything the week before my period. Full existential crisis and sometimes even dread, it can expedite existing anxiety or depressive episodes. It’s so crazy bc the moment I realize why I feel that way it becomes easier to manage lmao but if you haven’t put two and two together you don’t even realize you’re being bitchy or irrational. If you haven’t experienced it you don’t know what you’re talking about. It’s very real regardless of how well the person experiencing it is managing. It’… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/01/24 04:49 PM |
| 6 | Whose fault is it in a deadbedroom?Depends on the situation. It’s usually whichever party isn’t making the other climax | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/01/24 04:40 PM |
| 1 | Society seems to assign womanhood virtue.I don’t need to there is no study in existence where men outnumber women in terms of sexual victimization the current stats on sexual violence victims by gender have women at 91% of victimization with men making up 9%. With the perpetrators broken down by gender being 99% men and 1% women. I’d argue there’s fluctuations in those stats due to lack of reporting. But keep in mind both genders don’t report. To claim men are victimized more frequently than women is false. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/01/24 04:37 PM |
| 2 | Are women not getting approached anymore?Yeah I’d probably not be into a man from Grandpa’s day approaching me either | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/01/24 04:34 PM |
| 4 | It’s become socially acceptable in America for women to lie about sexual abuseMy “I’m probably a bad feminist” hallpass has always been if one woman comes forward the dude is sketchy if more than one woman comes forward (particularly if those women don’t already know eachother) he’s a rapist. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/01/24 02:24 PM |
| -3 | Are women not getting approached anymore?Y’all I promise the dudes approaching aren’t like your grandpa you aren’t missing much | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/01/24 12:53 PM |
| 4 | Are women not getting approached anymore?I still get approached. It’s chilled out a bit though since lockdown but it’s still a weekly thing. I think the pandemic kinda killed a lot of interactions like this. I don’t miss this one though If you want to meet dudes go to bars/clubs/parties. If you have a dude in mind and it won’t harsh the vibe approach yourself and it’ll skip a lot of bullshit. But if you’re trying to meet people at work/on your commutes that’s starting with obstacles in your way. Most people on set are trying to progres… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/01/24 12:46 PM |
| 2 | Ladies, what made you choose your boyfriend?My current partner saved me from being date raped at a club. Someone drugged my drink and he got me home safe when it became clear that I was way too fucked up for the amount Id had (a single cocktail on a full stomach). We’d only met once before that, he sat in my living room while I made sure I had my wallet and keys and then wished me good night. I was getting an MFA in Strategic Communications he at the time was a Marketing Consultant. We used to “talk shop” for hours When we finally did sta… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/01/24 06:35 PM |
| 1 | Men want new pussy very quickly after getting a girl (no matter how good the sex is) and they don’t like admitting it because it’s unpleasant. This makes it hard for girls to get validation from sex.I’m begging y’all to consider that many women participate in hookup culture for the same reasons men do and it’s not that deep. Jfc | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/01/24 06:19 PM |
| 0 | Why do some people prefer casual sex while others prefer monogamy?It depends on where you are in life. When I was in college I had no interest in being in a LTR. I was pretty focused on aligning myself for the best situation possible possible. Boys in their early twenties across the board lacked emotional intelligence and realistic ambition, so I kept it very casual. My first few years out of school I wanted to make sure I actually knew what I was doing to before leaping into anything (I didn’t want to live on my own for the first time ever and then immediatel… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/01/24 06:17 PM |
| 3 | Q4W: Who is the most romantically/sexually unsuccessful woman you know? What’s their personality like? Describe her.An old mentor of mine had a sister in her 60s that was very religious and never married despite wanting to. She’s still saving it for her husband but has definitely seen the writing on the wall. She isn’t happy. It’s shaken her faith. I thank who ever is up there everyday that I got out of puritanical evangelical circles the moment I graduated college | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/01/24 05:48 PM |
| 2 | Society seems to assign womanhood virtue.The reason the majority of women are hostile towards strangers that are men is bc of their proclivity towards violent crime. Men that fall victim to violent crimes and sexual crimes are more likely to be victimized by men than women. Your beef is with violent men not women. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/01/24 06:58 PM |
| 2 | Telling small d men to be good at oral amd fingering is emasculatingIf you aren’t good at foreplay you aren’t good in bed. Point blank period. It doesn’t matter how big you are. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/01/24 06:28 PM |
| 7 | Why do women on this sub often say that they are not attracted to promiscuous men?I think it varies based on where you live/the circles you run in. I’m in NY I work in nightlife I’ve been in an LTR for two years. All of my friends participate in hookup culture. I used to too. So did my partner. Different strokes for different folks | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/01/24 04:31 PM |
| 2 | Why do women on this sub often say that they are not attracted to promiscuous men?I don’t judge people based on promiscuity I judge them based on how they treat the people around them, particularly their sexual partners. In college we didn’t rag on guys for having a lot of sex we ragged on them for lying about their intentions, being disrespectful about how they handled the encounters they had and being careless with the feelings of those around them. The promiscuous guys that slutshame, just as an example, are unattractive more for the cognitive dissonance than the actual be… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/01/24 04:24 PM |
| 1 | Society seems to assign womanhood virtue.Better than it happening again 🤷♀️ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/01/24 04:22 PM |
| 2 | Is there a Lizzo Paradox™ for males?I mean Im white and I know how much I weigh. If a man was comparing me to Lizzo I know for a fact it’d be bc he’s trying to mock me. It wouldn’t work though bc I know what I look like and I don’t really view plus sized bodies as lesser than it says more about him than me. I work in entertainment and was in the commercial theatre industry for a few years so having an idea of what you actually look like is incredibly important bc it determines your cast type. I’ve quite literally been compared to … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/01/24 04:11 PM |
| 1 | Society seems to assign womanhood virtue.This does not change the fact that the majority of violent crime perpetrators are men. Hence most people are cautious around men who are strangers. A community where misandrists were in charge just wouldn’t have men. A world where misogynists were in charge would have the abuse rape and suffering of women. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/01/24 04:03 PM |
| 1 | Society seems to assign womanhood virtue.Nah survivor. Gave dudes a chance those dudes fucked up now I’m more careful which dudes I give chances to 🤷♀️ cut and dry took a lot of therapy. I know the rhetoric/ actions/ flags to look out for if they appear I’m out 👍 blaming women for the actions of men is one of them btw. Just fyi | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/01/24 03:55 PM |
| 1 | Is there a Lizzo Paradox™ for males?Jack Black,Jonah hill, Kevin James, John Goodam, Zach Galifianakis, Seth Rogan, Ice Cube, Eric Stonestreet, Wayne Knight, Ricky Gervais 🤮for example are all plus sized male celebrities that have been in the public eye for years without a cultural discourse around “would I fuck them though” ever appearing in the cultural zeitgeist. Their weight has fluctuated overtime and has never been a particularly huge part of their brand. Women in the public eye are expected to be thin and attractive. A woma… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/01/24 03:47 PM |
| 0 | Society seems to assign womanhood virtue.Victimization of men is more likely to be perpetrated by men rather than women. You’re more likely to be mugged by a man than by a woman. The gender that perpetuates more violent crime (and by a large margin more sexual crime) is men. The issue is violent men that pose a threat to dudes like you and girls like me. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/01/24 03:19 PM |
| 1 | Society seems to assign womanhood virtue.Men qualify as victims but they’re more likely to be victimized by men when we’re discussing violent crimes. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/01/24 03:15 PM |
| 3 | Society seems to assign womanhood virtue.Who commits more violent crime? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/01/24 03:12 PM |
| 3 | Society seems to assign womanhood virtue.Thank you ❤️ it’s also worth noting that a lot of those stats are intentionally pushed and skewed to paint black people in a bad light. I honestly have never really seen similar studies on white crime. More violent crimes are perpetrated by men than women regardless of their racial, ethnic or financial background. It’s literally the one constant in that equation. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/01/24 02:51 PM |
| 1 | Society seems to assign womanhood virtue.Or we have fought and found peace by being very selective in which men we speak to and holding very firm boundaries on when they’re out the door because we’ve experienced escalation of violence in the past. Victimhood is continuing to find yourself in the same situation over and over again, not seeing the signs that you’ve seen before, and not changing your behavior. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/01/24 02:47 PM |
| 3 | Society seems to assign womanhood virtue.I mean honestly I don’t even like her but that Taylor Swift AI shit is a pretty apt example. Even if men aren’t committing sexual violence they’re going to make fantasize about it than actualize it into fake revenge porn of you as a means of degradation and humiliation and frankly to threaten you with real world sexual violence. And if a man isn’t a rapist or someone who would use potential sexual violence as a one-up on a successful woman he might also be in the hoards of men who go “it’s funny… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/01/24 02:39 PM |
| 1 | Society seems to assign womanhood virtue.Women do not statistically rape as much as men do. The data doesn’t represent that my guy men make up 99% of rapists women make up 1%. Men can fall victim to sexual violence the same way women do but statistically they are more likely to be raped by a man. The majority of adult male victims that are raped are raped in the prison system by other men (and this is horrific fucked up and needs to be stopped). There’s a slim margin of men who have been assaulted by women that do genuinely struggle to… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/01/24 02:32 PM |
| 3 | Society seems to assign womanhood virtue.Women also commit violent crimes. But I am more likely to be victimized by a man than a woman. After multiple close calls I’ve adjusted the way I move through the world to avoid men that are a potential threat. 🤷♀️ If you were victimized by women the way I have been by men I wouldn’t blame you for being reluctant about strange women approaching you/yelling at you/ expressing sexual interest in you. Especially if when you shared this experience with others women overwhelmingly told you you were … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/01/24 02:18 PM |
| 2 | Society seems to assign womanhood virtue.I didn’t say that was a good thing I think someone needs to figure out a way to have comparable kit for all forms of SA. I think it’s a shame that there currently isn’t. Also I’d argue the 9% stat is higher but more accurate data isn’t available due to lack of reporting. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/01/24 12:09 AM |
| 4 | Society seems to assign womanhood virtue.Bc tbh 99% of rapists are male 1% are female 91% of victims are female 9% are male. The majority of rape victims were penetrated no penetrating so the tech reflects that. You’re the one triggered dude | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/01/24 11:51 PM |
| 4 | Society seems to assign womanhood virtue.Bro I was raped with a purity ring on my finger and still got the old “what were you wearing”runaround and didn’t get justice either so genuinely 🤷♀️. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/01/24 11:43 PM |
| 1 | Society seems to assign womanhood virtue.It’s not actually regardless of who the victim is most rape victims struggle to get people to believe them and their rapists rarely see jail time. And a large percentage of women also don’t report. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/01/24 11:30 PM |
| 4 | Society seems to assign womanhood virtue.Literally just stating tangible facts readily available for anyone to look up. The majority of violent offenders are men. Violent offenders pose a threat to women and men. The issue isn’t women avoiding men. It’s violent men. Violent men are fucking things up for both men and women. If your sole complaint is “women think I’m a threat” the fault lies at the men who were threatening them not the women who are taking necessary precautions to keep themselves safe after being threatened | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/01/24 11:28 PM |
| 4 | Society seems to assign womanhood virtue.I’m tired of men placing this issue at our feet. What you’re dealing with is violent men co-opting the perception of your gender through acts of violence that pose a danger to women and men. It’s now created an optics issue so massive that a large portion of women actively avoid associating with men they don’t know bc they feel inherently uneasy due to past experiences. My safety is more important than your feelings. You can argue with a wall for as long as you want but you’re screaming at the w… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/01/24 11:24 PM |
| 5 | Society seems to assign womanhood virtue.The majority of those resources were set up for women by women. If men want those same resources they should organize the way women did and set those up Rape kits typically only take into account the penetrated party so if you were anally raped you would be able to get a rape kit. Men get rape kits I’ve known men who were raped that had to get one | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/01/24 11:18 PM |
| 3 | Society seems to assign womanhood virtue.What victim did I blame? If you’re a man you’re more likely to be raped by a man. There are predators within every demographic but men outshine women on this front by a large portion. That doesn’t mean you’re a rapist or all men are rapists that doesn’t mean there are no women rapists or that all women are angels. But most rapists are men. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/01/24 11:09 PM |
| 8 | Society seems to assign womanhood virtue.Where did I say that. If we were discussing men actually being victimized that’d be a different story. But that’s not what this post is discussing. But if a man who was abused by a woman went onto avoid most women I wouldn’t pretend that’s an irrational response. But Ftr I only ever hear men bring up their own victimization when they want a woman discussing her experiences with violent men to shut up. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/01/24 11:03 PM |
| 2 | Society seems to assign womanhood virtue.Neither do women most rapists never see jail time. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/01/24 11:00 PM |
| 9 | Society seems to assign womanhood virtue.Honestly I think this gets to it. Men want to control and possess us we want to be left alone. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/01/24 10:00 PM |
| 2 | Society seems to assign womanhood virtue.How many men frame this issue like women are a problem for taking precautions after bad experiences rather than framing it as an issue of dangerous men creating an optics problem for your entire gender that’s preventing women from feeling safe around you regardless of your intentions. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/01/24 09:35 PM |
| 5 | Society seems to assign womanhood virtue.Totally agree and not to get dicey but even if we were to break this down violent crime stats through the lens of ethnicity the majority of violent offenders would STILL be men with women being an incredibly slim margin regardless of race or ethnicity. So idk what that comment was supposed to do. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/01/24 09:33 PM |
| 7 | Society seems to assign womanhood virtue.Never denied that. Women avoiding men isn’t victimizing them. Women having preferences isn’t victimizing them. Avoidance of men doesn’t victimize men. By your own admission in your initial post these things are not causing victimization, they aren’t violent acts. It’s just telling that this post sets women up as villains for having residual trauma responses around men due to violence they’ve experienced. But the anger is still directed towards the women and not the men who harmed them. And then … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/01/24 08:25 PM |
| 14 | Society seems to assign womanhood virtue.Nope again it’s common sense. I’ve had men attempt to follow me home, now I don’t let men walk behind me I step to the side and let them pass I cross the street or I duck into a store and see if they wait outside/follow me in. Men have been catcalling me since I was 12 now i wear headphones everywhere I go and I don’t humor conversations with men who approach me. I’ve been sexually assaulted and have had very close calls with sexual assault. Most women have. I have since then learned that I have… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/01/24 06:35 PM |
| 1 | Ladies be honest, how many of you are truly interested in dating an older man?I wasn’t than I met an older man and we hit it off 🤷♀️ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/01/24 06:30 PM |
| 11 | Society seems to assign womanhood virtue.It’s literally that simple. You can’t talk about woman “victimhood” without discussing male violence which LITERALLY affects both genders. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/01/24 06:25 PM |
| 3 | Why do you use makeup?I use makeup because I work in entertainment and nightlife (I’m literally a drag artist). Because of this combined with a career in theatre for the better part of 5 years, putting on makeup feels like work. I rarely wear it to my day job and in my day to day life. I found if you got in the habit of wearing it everyday the moment you skip some dude is gonna do the whole “Are you feeling okay? You look a little tired” I don’t mind how I look in or out of makeup. I’ve been hit on in both. I just ge… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/01/24 06:11 PM |
| 1 | Dating advice, therapy bait-and-switchThe root of your problems is probably the defeatist attitude but go off king | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/01/24 05:42 PM |
| 10 | Society seems to assign womanhood virtue.I read your post. Men being perceived as a threat is due to the actions of other men. Posts like yours don’t address the problem of other men, who pose a threat to you as well as me. Tying in dating preferences as if those are comparable is ridiculous. You aren’t oppressed bc women cross the street to avoid you when they’re walking home alone at night. You aren’t oppressed bc women have preferences that you don’t meet. And minimizing misogyny doesn’t elicit sympathy from me. Women aren’t big sca… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/01/24 05:39 PM |
| 29 | Society seems to assign womanhood virtue.Genuinely though. Men are more likely to be a physical threat to women and men. Men commit more violent crimes. It’s just cut and dry. If you’re a man there’s more of a chance another man is gonna rob/rape you than a woman will. It’s obviously not all men but I don’t get why totally normal dudes get so upset that women have to take precautions bc of the actions of shitty men. If it bugs them so much do something about these men but like omg quit bitching about us like we’re at fault because we d… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/01/24 05:28 PM |
| – | Women, Have all your straight male friends tried to sleep with you? Or do you think they would given the chance?Not all. Some of my fwb situations just happened bc we were working together on a creative project for school and we were both bored. These were clear cut FWB situations with very distinct, respected and shared boundaries. Some just stayed friends and it never progressed beyond that because that wasn’t the vibe. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/01/24 04:57 PM |
| 1 | Why can't women take an L?😱 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/01/24 03:54 PM |
| 1 | Dating advice, therapy bait-and-switchThat’s cool keep doing you then 🤷♀️ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/01/24 03:52 PM |
| 1 | Dating advice, therapy bait-and-switchThis is actually where I agree with RP ideologies. Don’t love the rhetoric and vitriol for women. Advising men to focus on improving their physical health, financial status/skills and not getting obsessed or attached to one potential girl when there are thousands and one of them is bound to like you is good advice. It’s advice that I have given to people in my life before. Forward motion is better than no motion. You can’t really successfully date unless you’ve achieved some level of self-actual… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/01/24 03:27 PM |
| 1 | Dating advice, therapy bait-and-switchThat’s cool if you’re not having luck though self improvement can get you further than you could have gotten otherwise. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/01/24 05:57 AM |
| 1 | Redpill men: How much money do you make? Do you feel that you make enough to provide for both you and your (real or hypothetical) spouse?My partner is makes 100k and yeah I'm not gonna be a SAHM unless that changes | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/01/24 09:38 PM |
| 1 | Dating advice, therapy bait-and-switchIdk what to tell you my dude I'm sorry that lovers don't fall out of trees. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/01/24 08:53 PM |
| 1 | Dating advice, therapy bait-and-switchYeah that's typically what happens when you make a perceived inadequacy/lack of relationship a massive part of your identity. That's why it's important to not tie your entire identity to societal ideals for what is and isn't right/stable/adult and to find outlets that improve yourself and make you happy regardless of what you have or don't have. That's why a lot of people's go to is "go to therapy". A relationship isn't going to magically solve any insecurities or existing issues. But being happ… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/01/24 08:38 PM |
| 1 | Dating advice, therapy bait-and-switchOkay I guess you can just continue to do nothing and hope something changes 👍 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/01/24 08:32 PM |
| 4 | Dating advice, therapy bait-and-switchOkay I guess you can just keep being sad about your prospects and halt all personal growth bc you can’t find a girlfriend. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/01/24 08:30 PM |
| 3 | Dating advice, therapy bait-and-switchCool but if you do things that better yourself even if you're still single you're single with new skills, a better bod, more money, and more confidence. Which is better than being single and sad without those things. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/01/24 07:46 PM |
| 3 | Dating advice, therapy bait-and-switchOkay so back when I was Christian (lol) I actually got incredibly good advice from a youth pastor regarding dating (and threw the rest out bc it was puritanical nonsense). People focus a lot on finding "the one" and not "being the one". Focusing on other relationships in your life/other activities/ your career/your fitness etc. those things make you attractive (going to therapy for example is a way to get you on the path of self-improvement). Seeking out companionship super aggressively/saying y… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/01/24 07:09 PM |
| 1 | Why can't women take an L?That has not been my experience. And that's not how I swipe. Framing a dynamic as one thing then ripping the rug out from under somebody because you wanted sex is bad behavior. If women are doing this it's also bad behavior. Every time I have had casual sex I literally announced "hey I'm not looking for anything serious right now" Well before we did anything, because I don't want to give him a false impression. I have had people leave because that wasn't their vibe I've had people go "okay cool"… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/01/24 05:19 PM |
| 1 | Why can't women take an L?Men treat dating apps like slot machines and swipe right on everyone. I personally am not super picky about physical appearance but I’m not policing or moralizing other people’s standards. Having preferences isn’t the issue. Getting upset that people will go on happy regardless if they fit into yours. As for what you described that sounds like shitty dude behavior and lack of communication. I have always sussed out men’s intentions p immediately. I have hooked up with men I had no intention of c… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/01/24 03:30 PM |
| 1 | Why can't women take an L?Lmao “knowing your place”. Feeling good about yourself isn’t a sickness. Fat women shouldn’t walk around perpetually ashamed of themselves just because you don’t want to fuck them. They probably don’t want to fuck you either. So like why do y’all care. Y’all shouldn’t either btw. The sickness is assigning worth to others based on their appearance. I’ve dated men and women who aren’t the media’s portrayal of a hot person. I went out with them because they were kind, funny, smart and had their shi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/01/24 02:48 PM |
| 1 | Why can't women take an L?Lmao you’re still here? I’d say bend over and take a spanking but honestly I’d rather literally anything else 💕💕💕💕 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/01/24 02:32 PM |
| 1 | Why can't women take an L?Men place a higher value looks when seeking a partner. Men are constantly overestimating the affects of “looks maxing”. Women get dressed up when they go out for a variety of reasons. That’s not immoral just because you don’t like it. If you don’t like how a girl looks without makeup you might just not like women. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/01/24 02:25 PM |
| 1 | Why can't women take an L?Lmao. If I want a spanking I can go get it from someone I’d actually fuck. If you want to spank someone without going to prison you’d probably have to open your wallet. Go cry about it. ❤️ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/01/24 02:22 PM |
| 3 | Why can't women take an L?Lmao did I hit a nerve or something? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/01/24 01:46 PM |
| 1 | Why can't women take an L?It’s cool that you feel that way. Women are hotter than men to me makeup or not | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/01/24 01:45 PM |
| 2 | Men, describe your “Sex Zone”.I had this exact situation in college and it was the best thing for both of us tbh. Neither of us were ready/wanted a relationship we were super good friends but neither of us thought we’d last as an LTR. It’s such a weird dynamic to explain to people bc we did hang out a lot and we did hookup but we weren’t dating lol | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/01/24 12:26 PM |
| – | Why can't women take an L?Yeah it makes me go “nice I picked out a cute fit” and not “Jesus Christ” | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/01/24 12:04 PM |
| 6 | Why can't women take an L?Imagine thinking your going to have sex by constantly bemoaning your plight on the internet | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/01/24 12:03 PM |
| 3 | Why can't women take an L?Who is lining up to date them? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/01/24 05:18 AM |
| 3 | Why can't women take an L?Who’s denying reality. With enough charisma you can participate in hookup culture regardless of what you look like. I can point to multiple men in my personal life and men I have dated or hooked up with. Hot people have always had an easier time dating/hooking up. That doesn’t mean it’s impossible to get laid. Someone’s inability to participate in hookup culture for whatever the reason isn’t my issue. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/01/24 05:14 AM |
| 1 | What is less intimidating to a woman, going on a coffee date or going jogging together if you live near one another?Coffee it’s hard to talk and run | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/01/24 05:05 AM |
| – | Why can't women take an L?1.They don’t. Someone having difficulty participating in something doesn’t make it inherently bad. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/01/24 04:58 AM |
| 1 | Why can't women take an L?The only time I've been genuinely fucked over was when I dated down. I've watched what you're describing play out with friends though. Both can be assholes. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/01/24 11:09 PM |
| – | Why can't women take an L?Been in the fuck it phase since 2012 then got hot in 2014 AND LET ME TELL YOU the fuck it phase is the best phase regardless of appearance. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/01/24 11:07 PM |
| – | Why can't women take an L?Resident bisexual. Women are more aesthetically pleasing (for me again this is subjective). Men are great but if we're going in terms of what floors me before anyone has said a word, it's women. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/01/24 11:05 PM |
| – | Why can't women take an L?The quiet part out loud is that they are not at peace with what someone with compatible interests/is in their league will actually look and present as. Chances are the average dude isn't going to marry a virginal woman that looks like Heidi Klum, and they don't want to do the work required to even have a shot. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/01/24 10:59 PM |
| – | Why can't women take an L?I had an ex like this. I was so sick of showing up to events alone, getting hit on all night, then having to deal with him being pressed about the fact that I went to an event we were both free for and both invited to alone. The wrong dude can literally drag you down. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/01/24 10:56 PM |
| – | Why can't women take an L?Private conversations amongst people you often don't know about things you did is not the same as demanding women be accountable for having "low value" in a dating market oversaturated with options for them. I'm going to keep my self-esteem moving and grooving regardless of how my perceived confidence affects others. Plenty of men shit talk women/describe what they want to do to them with their friends constantly. We had a whole "locker room talk" scandal where a bunch of men outed themselves as… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/01/24 10:54 PM |
| – | Why can't women take an L?Tbh it's just juvenile behavior. The moment a man asks me what I'd rate myself I'm making fun of them in my head. I refuse to answer. It tells me everything I need to know about them. I wouldn't assign myself a metric based on someone I wouldn't glance at if they lit themselves on fire's standards. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/01/24 10:44 PM |
| – | Why can't women take an L?Tbh the one time I got this question I refused to answer. I'm not assigning myself a metric based on someone I wouldn't date's standards. I'm not giving anyone an opportunity to fail at negging me. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/01/24 10:40 PM |
| – | Why can't women take an L?Okay but like my ideal woman is likely going to be different than yours both personality and looks wise. Same with dudes tbh. Y'all assign metrics to things that are pretty subjective. There are absolutely people who are objectively not rocking it in the looks department. Those people can still dress well/do their makeup/do their hair, I'm usually commenting on that (if I comment at all) regardless of gender. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/01/24 10:37 PM |
| – | Why can't women take an L?This is also how I prefer men to compliment me tbh. "I love your shirt" is a better opener than "you're beautiful" ever will be. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/01/24 10:35 PM |
| – | Why can't women take an L?Literally men who assign value to women based on metrics they don’t assign to themselves is always hilarious to me. Like who’s the delusional one here? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/01/24 10:11 PM |
| – | Why can't women take an L?Lmao literally they want us to care about their opinion so badly it’s cringe | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/01/24 10:09 PM |
| – | Why can't women take an L?Have you considered that women also create these dynamics for the same reason? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/01/24 08:49 PM |
| – | Why can't women take an L?It's a sure fire way to get them to dislike you though. I have dumped men that have called other women sluts. They weren't talking about me lol. It didn't matter. Now that dude is on my shit list. Y'all tell on yourselves with rhetoric like this | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/01/24 08:47 PM |
| 1 | Why can't women take an L?I simply. Don't value the opinion of others. In regards to how I conduct myself. If I don't gel with someone we don't hang out. I don't curb my behavior on the off chance that men will think I'm crass/slutty/whatever. A stranger's opinion of me is none of my business. So unless that man is important to me I don't take his opinion into consideration. Beauty is subjective. My ideal woman likely doesn't look like yours. Regardless if I see a girl wearing a cute outfit with nice makeup/a cute haircu… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/01/24 08:41 PM |
| – | Why can't women take an L?No this is the tea tbh. I have enough self-respect to not be with a dude that's overly judgmental of women who wouldn't glance their way if they lit themselves on fire. It's hater behavior. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/01/24 08:20 PM |
| – | Why can't women take an L?Tbh I aim to be kind to women regardless of how I feel about their physical appearance. I'm not a slutshamer and don't make a huge deal about sex (regardless of which gender is having sex). Y'all reduce things to phrases like "pump and dump" but that type of interaction is reciprocal. All of this "a man who sleeps with you on the first night doesn't respect you" stuff is kind of irrelevant to me bc TBH I probably don't particularly respect that guy either. But we're both on the same page so no h… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/01/24 06:50 PM |
| 3 | Most of what gets called “manipulation” and “grooming” seems to be just seduction people don’t likeTBH I'm in an age gap relationship we met when I was 26 and he was 35. It's pretty much like dating anyone else in terms of our conversations and relationship. However with the same age gap at 22 I don't think it would be healthy or make sense tbh. We would have been in very drastically different stages of life and I do think we would have gotten more eyebrow raises. (We definitely do now but that's from strangers not from people in our lives) I'm an actress and I've dealt with the dark side of … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/01/24 03:58 PM |
| 1 | Is it controlling to want your girlfriend to not go clubbing?Yeah I also work in nightlife and this was my first thought. She needs to ditch those friends and grab a bouncer or he needs to go with her. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/01/24 03:40 PM |
| 2 | Is it controlling to want your girlfriend to not go clubbing?My boyfriend just goes clubbing with me. We did, however, meet in a club. I love it, I get to actually relax and cut loose and not worry about scary dudes like your girlfriend described. Could you have gone with her?/If y'all make it through this spat I'd try to go with her. Tbh I think an ultimatum was the wrong move I don't think anyone responds well to demands. It sounds like there's a values difference here and you might just not be compatible long term. But if she wanted to cheat she wouldn… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/01/24 06:29 AM |
| 1 | What are some partner behaviors that are commonly considered cheating, but you don't (or otherwise don't mind)?Porn =fine Following and liking hot girls photos=fine My partner and I have almost had threesomes multiple times which we are open to but the timing hasn’t been right. The way to tell if you’re cheating is if you feel like you have to hide the behavior/messages/browser history (whatever it is) from your partner. That’ll vary from person to person though. I have friends who do sex work, some of them have incredible supportive partners that view it as work knew it was part of the deal coming in an… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/01/24 02:32 AM |
| 1 | Is it seen as ungrateful or a bad choice to decline sex?Hi you should say no whenever you feel like it. Idk where this question is coming from but this is how you get coerced into something you aren't into. Coercion is legally assault. Please say no to sex when you don't want it it's literally in everyone's best interest to be upfront. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/01/24 02:09 AM |
| – | Women wearing revealing clothingThis election year I'm voting Full titty 2024 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/01/24 01:53 AM |
| – | Women wearing revealing clothingSo the thing is, men sexualize us no matter what we wear. So I'm gonna dress however I want without thinking about how it affects the men around me. Someone else's thoughts aren't my concern. Context is key. I've been with the same person for 2 years now. We met at a nightclub I was dressed how you describe *and I looked and felt great*. I'm a cabaret performer/drag performer in nightlife, prior to that I was an actor and to be really frank, in that line of work you end up in a lot of leotards/t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/01/24 01:48 AM |
| 1 | CMV: Bluepillers don't actually care about self improvement.Tbh self-improvement shouldn't be about getting laid. The reason I used to always hop to "well time to work on myself" whenever I feel inadequate (in any capacity) is because that's how you grow. RP pushing self-improvement is actually one of the few talking points we agree on, because even if on the other side of the fence you don't meet your wife, you're probably *now* more confident, more capable, and have a better grasp on your own sense of self-worth. Picking up a new skill, working out mor… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/01/24 09:21 PM |
| 3 | “Don’t bother a woman at [location]. She’s just there to [do activity].”A clear way to tell someone isn't trying to be bothered is to just look and see if they're open to interaction. Someone wearing headphones probably doesn't want to chat, someone scrolling on their phone probably doesn't want to chat, someone wearing sunglasses inside probably doesn't want to chat. If you were staring at someone and y'all made eye contact and they immediately looked away or made a face at you they don't want to chat. If you've thrown a compliment out and they're ignoring you they… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/01/24 12:00 AM |
| 1 | What is a red pill and a blue pill opinion you have?My Red Pill Opinion: There are plenty of fish in the sea don't get upset if one girl dislikes you. Focus on self-improvement My Bluepill opinion: Personality is the most important component for me when selecting a partner | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/01/24 11:49 PM |
| 2 | "You have to work 10 times harder than your grandfathers for women 10 times worse."Thank you sometimes I don't have the energy to go "It doesn't count as right if a man had to co-sign" | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/01/24 11:45 PM |
| – | [nsfw][?] Women of PPD, what's your threshold for infidelity?I think it’s good that you know that about yourself and there’s nothing wrong with that. Plenty of people I dated expected me to drop my career over some blocking, I think that’s where it gets gross bc like that was something they knew could happen when they started dating me. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/01/24 09:25 PM |
| 2 | "You have to work 10 times harder than your grandfathers for women 10 times worse."Honestly it was the era of false pretenses it makes sense | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/01/24 08:35 PM |
| 3 | "You have to work 10 times harder than your grandfathers for women 10 times worse."I know plenty of fat women that work out regularly/could out run me on a treadmill. Again it’s fine to have a preference it’s another thing to disclose it, try to defend and also not meet it. It’s red flag behavior bc it’s rude. Not bc the preference itself is bad. I also feel this way about the “no short dudes” girls. I just don’t love people bodyshaming for any reason. It’s asshole behavior | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/01/24 08:35 PM |
| 1 | Do most women really dislike being approached in general?Lmao aight “oh she suffered abuse from men and now we’re gonna mock her for that” sounds like you and my ex have a lot in common. Behavior like this is actually shit bag behavior indicative of abusive tendencies and was one of the red flags that caused me to leave that piece of shit who I’ve posted about on this sub multiple times. Im open about my past I realized my worth and moved on. The universe rewarded me immediately with a better man, better home, better job and a better life. Social anxi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/01/24 07:57 PM |
| 1 | "You have to work 10 times harder than your grandfathers for women 10 times worse."Party. My b ❤️ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/01/24 07:49 PM |
| 1 | Do most women really dislike being approached in general?Do you think I’m pulling this out of my ass. This is a daily occurrence for me. Idk why it’s so hard for people to read social cues and mind their own business. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/01/24 07:48 PM |
| 1 | Do most women really dislike being approached in general?Nah I’m the “please don’t make me take my headphones off just to give you an answer you won’t like” type. Just because I’m in public doesn’t mean I want to interact with strangers. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/01/24 07:46 PM |
| – | [nsfw][?] Women of PPD, what's your threshold for infidelity?I fully misread your “you’d be okay with your partner kissing and a groping another person” comment in your reply my b | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/01/24 07:43 PM |
| 1 | Do most women really dislike being approached in general?Why else would a stranger ask me out on a date?/Ask for my number? If he wants to sell me something I’m not interested in that either lmao | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/01/24 07:41 PM |
| – | [nsfw][?] Women of PPD, what's your threshold for infidelity?Eh if it’s in the context of theatre or film it’s not sexy. I’m speaking from experience. No sparks. All pretend half the time you have multiple modesty garments on underneath so unless you’re like stark naked, you can’t actually “grope” the way you would with a partner. The only thing that’s real is the kissing and even then if it’s onstage it’s considered a faux pas to use tongue. It feels more like choreography than anything tbh | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/01/24 07:05 PM |
| 2 | Do most women really dislike being approached in general?A lifetime of missed opportunities with someone that approaches dating the way Girl Scouts sell chocolate | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/01/24 06:50 PM |
| 3 | "You have to work 10 times harder than your grandfathers for women 10 times worse."Would you be shocked to know that omg gasp I’ve also dated fat men, coincidentally two of them had this preference and dumped them in part because of it bc lmao what delusion❤️❤️❤️ Projection is a bitch and not my issue. A good personality can get over any hurdle but that would require effort so “I guess all women are stuck up bitches” | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/01/24 06:45 PM |
| 3 | "You have to work 10 times harder than your grandfathers for women 10 times worse."I don’t have preferences so much as hard dealbreakers. I won’t date someone who’s RP I won’t date a conservative man I won’t date someone who is openly hateful of women bc insert benign standard they themselves don’t meet. I won’t date someone who has misogynistic views. I won’t date someone with a victim mentality I won’t date someone with a defeatist mindset I won’t date someone who only expresses emotions through aggression It doesn’t matter how hot you are if you have one of these three it’s… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/01/24 06:41 PM |
| 1 | "You have to work 10 times harder than your grandfathers for women 10 times worse."It’s just like be ffr the women who don’t meet your preferences don’t want you either | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/01/24 06:33 PM |
| 2 | "You have to work 10 times harder than your grandfathers for women 10 times worse."Would it shock you to learn that height is not a factor for me and I’ve dated men shorter than me 😱 Almost like women aren’t a monolith or something and our preferences aren’t universal lmao | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/01/24 06:31 PM |
| 0 | If men don’t pay for dates are they willing to change their preferences for the sake of equality?Y’all are having sex on like the first date without a condom 😩😩😩😩 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/01/24 05:52 PM |
| 1 | There is a correlation between women's gravitation towards Dark Triad personality traits, and their propensity for being victimsThank you! This was really well put | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/01/24 05:50 PM |
| 1 | In the current year, do you think men should pay for dates? Why or why not?I think it varies. I always ask if they want to split and let the guy take the lead. I don’t order anything I couldn’t pay for myself so it’s not a concern. Some guys like paying bc it makes them feel masculine. Some guys don’t. Idc either way it doesn’t make a difference to me | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/01/24 05:47 PM |
| 3 | "You have to work 10 times harder than your grandfathers for women 10 times worse."Listen I’m not calling bullshit bc I have no clue what you look like and for all I know you’re ripped, but every man I’ve met who has articulated this standard out loud was fat himself. Or frankly didn’t have much going for him in terms of desirability. And typically we immediately tell our friends this dude said that and none of us date him bc it’s asshole behavior. It’s fine to have a preference but yelling “no fatties” every chance you get when the person yelling has no prospects themselves i… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/01/24 05:42 PM |
| 1 | "You have to work 10 times harder than your grandfathers for women 10 times worse."Yeah I was about to say I live in Bushwick bigirloe capital and those guys CLEAN UP | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/01/24 05:37 PM |
| 4 | "You have to work 10 times harder than your grandfathers for women 10 times worse."I love how it always narrows down to “no fatties” every guy I’ve ever met with this preference was built like Jack Black. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/01/24 05:34 PM |
| 4 | "You have to work 10 times harder than your grandfathers for women 10 times worse."I just never get the logic that comes from “women don’t find me desirable But here’s my list of demands for a woman to have a chance with me.” True delusion, self-admitted mid dudes with nothing but audacity upset that no one cares or is willing to fit into their preferences. Why would their opinion matter to us? It’s not like they take ours into account? I don’t care if you don’t want to date fat girls or women who’ve had sex. Chances are those women wouldn’t look their way anyway it’s legit em… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/01/24 05:30 PM |
| 1 | "You have to work 10 times harder than your grandfathers for women 10 times worse."Honestly don’t love the verbiage, agree with the sentiment. If you don’t like marriage play the field and don’t get married. Times are different marriage isn’t the default. Plenty of people embrace that and are happier for it/ end up meeting someone they actually love instead of rushing to the alter due to sunken cost fallacy. You waste time in relationships with people you don’t see a future with. Time you could have spent meeting other people. That’s not gendered I met my partner when we both … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/01/24 05:21 PM |
| 1 | "You have to work 10 times harder than your grandfathers for women 10 times worse."You sound like a terrific lay lmao. That’s why they’re obsessed with virgins. They know how they actually measure up to their counterparts and don’t want to be compared. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/01/24 05:12 PM |
| 21 | "You have to work 10 times harder than your grandfathers for women 10 times worse."Anytime a guy starts romanticizing the 50s I write them off tbh. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/01/24 05:10 PM |
| 1 | Do most women really dislike being approached in general?If you’re a door to door salesman a lot of people are gonna slam the door in your face it’s p much the same situation in terms of response you’re likely to get. That doesn’t mean you won’t make a sale but you take rejection as part of the deal. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/01/24 03:44 PM |
| 12 | "You have to work 10 times harder than your grandfathers for women 10 times worse."10/10 that’s awesome I wish my grandmothers had this situation ❤️ they were p much trapped | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/01/24 02:42 PM |
| 30 | "You have to work 10 times harder than your grandfathers for women 10 times worse."Our grandmothers couldn’t open bank accounts until the 1960s and could only pursue divorce in cases of domestic abuse until 1977. Many housewives were hopped up on uppers to stay thin and dull the pain of being in situations where they couldn’t self-actualize and pursue their own ambitions with the same freedom their male counterparts could. Our grandfathers were free to behave and act pretty much however they wanted without consequence. My grandpa sucks. He’s a total chauvinist asshole, watchin… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/01/24 02:29 PM |
| 3 | Do most women really dislike being approached in general?Lmao good ❤️ sounds like you actually know how to read body language and approach someone when they’re hoping to chat. Otherwise it gives off Jehovah’s Witness energy. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/01/24 12:39 PM |
| 1 | Sexual Selection in Men and WomenGirls aren’t having sex to feel sexy they’re having sex to come. They typically wont shame a guy who can’t accomplish that but they probably aren’t going to call him again | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/01/24 12:35 PM |
| 2 | Do most women really dislike being approached in general?Honestly I don’t agree. I don’t have to humor every stranger that wants to start a conversation. I don’t talk to dudes handing out fliers on the street. I don’t talk to jehovahs witnesses or street preachers. I don’t engage with buskers on trains at 7 in the morning . I don’t have to talk to every stranger that approaches me. I think men seriously underestimate how frequently we’re approached and how grating that gets particularly if you’re already in a bad mood. I live in a city I get approache… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/01/24 12:33 PM |
| 1 | Do most women really dislike being approached in general?Tbh dude I’ve had men follow me, grab me, scream at me, start taking photos of me bc I’ve said no. I’ve had to duck into restaurants/grab the police/go hide somewhere for 10 minutes so this dude will stop following me So I now avoid even giving a no or speaking to them at all. I just ignore and hope they go away. I don’t have time to decipher if this dude I don’t want to talk to is safe, he probably is, but I don’t have interest or time in this interaction. It’s genuinely like when a Jehovah’s W… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/01/24 12:24 PM |
| 1 | Do most women really dislike being approached in general?That’s p much exactly what I do. I wear headphones and pretend I can’t hear them. If they continue I say some variation of “no” and move on. I live in NY so I have interactions like this p much once or multiple times a day. So it does get grating and about 40% of the time they don’t take the no. It’s also victimizing yourself to take women’s lack of interest as an insult. You aren’t entitled to our attention. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/01/24 12:23 PM |
| 2 | Do most women really dislike being approached in general?The women you’ve had success with are. I don’t want to be bothered during my day by strangers. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/01/24 12:18 PM |
| 1 | I honestly just don't get the complainingI’d be more understanding if the replies didn’t immediately devolve into debasing women while simultaneously demanding empathy from the few girls on this sub that bother engaging at all. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/01/24 04:48 AM |
| 4 | Do most women really dislike being approached in general?Ftr I know men who have luck cold approaching but they got very used to rejection and didn’t take it personally. This type of stuff interests me so i ask about it. They pretty much just said that getting no’s is part of it but you get better at talking to girls as you go and it stops being an uphill battle every time. But I wasn’t there so like idk | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/01/24 03:31 AM |
| 3 | Do most women really dislike being approached in general?Tbh bc at a grocery store I’m just trying to get groceries while listening to my podcast lmao | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/01/24 03:28 AM |
| 5 | Do most women really dislike being approached in general?I mean tbh we shouldn’t have to humor a stranger who wants to sleep with us if we don’t want to on the off chance he doesn’t have a large social circle. I feel for you that sucks but honestly I only have a finite amount of time to myself in my day and I don’t want to socialize ya know. Bar/club/party is different but if we’re talking like in the grocery store or on a train my mind is just not in “let’s flirt” mode | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/01/24 03:25 AM |
| 13 | Do most women really dislike being approached in general?Did you read what I wrote? I literally gave you 5 different ways/locations I’ve met men. Through friends/apps/parties/clubs/bars. It’s not a missed opportunity my dude. If I’m not into it I’m not into it. There is no opportunity if one party isn’t interested bc they’re not trying to talk to strangers while they’re on their way to work | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/01/24 03:18 AM |
| 7 | Do most women really dislike being approached in general?I met my current boyfriend at a nightclub. Our mutual friend was performing and we were put on their guest list. They introduced us and we really hit it off and started dating a few months later. I used apps to meet people prior to that and I liked it. I actually read bios lol would add them on social to make sure it was viable who are they voting for what are their interests, are they actually single etc. we’d chat for a bit get a vibe and meet up for a date and see how it went from there. Othe… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/01/24 03:10 AM |
| 2 | Do most women really dislike being approached in general?Honestly atleast for me no. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/01/24 02:36 AM |
| 6 | Do most women really dislike being approached in general?I personally don’t like cold approaches. Im nicer in about it in bars and clubs though bc that’s a place where I think it’s socially appropriate to approach strangers. I wear headphones to deter cold approaches and I go typically only go places to complete tasks whenever someone tries to get my attention I feel like I’m being interrupted, then the reason/conversation the guy wants to have is usually the exact opposite headspace that I’m in. I really can’t separate the whole “they’re approaching … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/01/24 02:31 AM |
| 1 | Would you leave a man you love if he refused to marry you?Tea | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/01/24 02:22 AM |
| 4 | Sexual Selection in Men and WomenExactly being able to communicate openly is key. And tbh I’ll be real girls are super specific and it’s totally normal for it to take a while before the dude gets it. But some guys walk through life convinced they’re good in bed and will literally say things like “Well I went down on you so something’s wrong with you” LIKE INSANE they literally will tell you your body is broken because they like touched you for five seconds before sticking it in and you didn’t come. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/01/24 01:18 AM |
| 1 | Sexual Selection in Men and WomenTbh I’m just glad I’m not in a situation where I have to worry about it anymore. You’re right though how they receive that info does come down to effort and whether or not you care about the other person’s experience. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/01/24 01:15 AM |
| 1 | "conditional femininity" vs "conditional masculinity"I don’t really think these are strategies. I think masculinity and femininity are energies that people live/flow through that aren’t gendered. We obviously associate them with a gender but I know plenty of masculine women and feminine men. Everyone moves through either when they need to but they have a preference. I don’t think it’s a rigid as these examples present and I don’t think someone is right or wrong for not being the hyper gendered ideal of a masc or femme. It’s more of a spectrum. I t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/01/24 12:50 AM |
| 3 | Would you leave a man you love if he refused to marry you?Bc every time I’ve watched it play out that same dude is married to someone else a year later. I’m not going to continue to invest in someone who’s isn’t investing in me. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/01/24 11:53 PM |
| 1 | Would you leave a man you love if he refused to marry you?Nah I just don’t waste time on people that don’t align with my vision for the future. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/01/24 11:51 PM |
| 3 | Would you leave a man you love if he refused to marry you?It signals that we either have incredibly different ideas of what we want long term. Or he doesn’t love me. So I’m gonna bounce. Guys who pull this shit are using you as a place holder until they find someone better. Either way I’m out ❤️ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/01/24 11:50 PM |
| 6 | Would you leave a man you love if he refused to marry you?He clearly doesn’t love me. So I’m gonna bounce. Guys who pull this shit are using you as a place holder until they find someone better. I won’t participate. My last ex pulled this shit so I left. I’ve been insurmountably happier since ❤️ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/01/24 11:43 PM |
| 2 | Sexual Selection in Men and WomenIt’s the only way. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/01/24 10:04 PM |
| 4 | Sexual Selection in Men and WomenI completely agree. When you try to communicate most men get defensive, get more in their head and then the sex gets worse or stops bc they’re insecure. No matter how delicately you try to communicate your wants some guys take it as “OH SO YOU THINK I’M BAD IN BED” and that argument is the biggest turn off you’ll ever experience. You have a solid point. It’s literally easier to find a guy who can than try and communicate what you want. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/01/24 10:02 PM |
| 5 | Sexual Selection in Men and WomenITS NOT. And then they get defensive when you try to explain what you actually like lmao | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/01/24 09:59 PM |
| 2 | Sexual Selection in Men and WomenLITERALLY | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/01/24 09:59 PM |
| 3 | Sexual Selection in Men and WomenThe quiet part she isn’t saying out loud is that women want to orgasm during sex. Many men lack the ability to make a woman orgasm. We want to come during sex the fact that we can’t doesn’t mean that isn’t our ultimate goal. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/01/24 09:58 PM |
| 2 | Sexual Selection in Men and WomenAre we gonna say the mean thing out loud to him. Bc I might lol | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/01/24 09:56 PM |
| 6 | Sexual Selection in Men and WomenI ghost men who don’t do foreplay. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/01/24 09:44 PM |
| 1 | "conditional femininity" vs "conditional masculinity"Read “Intimate Communion” by David Deida it tackles masculine and feminine polarity within relationships and how each can bring out the other. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/01/24 09:27 PM |
| 14 | Would you leave a man you love if he refused to marry you?Yeah bc literally we can find another dude in minutes. If they don’t want to commit what incentive do I have to stick around lmao. These same guys always end up married to someone else a year later. If they don’t want to marry you and it’s been years they aren’t actually invested. There are exceptions sure but I’m not aiming to be an exception. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/01/24 09:06 PM |
| 3 | how is hookup culture accepted if you’re supposed to get to know women "as people" first?They fully think we have a hive mind lmao | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/01/24 08:53 PM |
| 1 | Sexual Selection in Men and WomenAu revoir ❤️ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/01/24 08:49 PM |
| 36 | Would you leave a man you love if he refused to marry you?Exactly they could just leave and then you have a kid that you’re raising alone on one income. Absolutely not. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/01/24 08:48 PM |
| 6 | Would you leave a man you love if he refused to marry you?If I’m dating someone for more than three years and it hasn’t come up he’s wasting my time. Leaving. Out the door they will not hear from me again. I don’t waste my time on people who don’t know what they want. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/01/24 08:47 PM |
| 1 | Sexual Selection in Men and WomenWell the person I’m discussing can hold a conversation with women without difficulty. The question had nothing to do with “getting women” and everything to do with sexual experiences. An inability to find someone to give head to has nothing to do with the conversation. The way y’all redirect every conversation to some variation of “women won’t give me a chance” is genuinely grating. There are 100s of posts on this subreddit about getting women go comment on those. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/01/24 08:39 PM |
| 1 | Women in their thirties are way better than many women in their twentiesFrom my experience in general, men in their thirties are typically better conversationalists, have more diverse interests, are more stable, are more emotionally intelligent and are in general better partners than their younger counterparts so I’m not really shocked that women in their 30s would follow suit. Most of the women I’ve developed flames for were in their early thirties so it checks out. Idk man age and experience makes you a more attractive partner doesn’t really shock me that this goe… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/01/24 06:12 PM |
| 3 | Why do women here consistently portray men's dating preferences as malicious and their own as benign?I didn’t defend anything. That’s some people’s preference it’s not mine. There are women that want to be trad wives and clean house all day. I’m not one of them ergo I dumped my ex when I realized he expected that. If you don’t want a traditional relationship where the man is the provider don’t date women expecting that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/01/24 06:08 PM |
| 6 | Sexual Selection in Men and WomenTea. Guaranteed way to keep a lady. Good head | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/01/24 05:33 PM |
| – | What do you think about female teachers going after teenage boys ?The first time a grown man expressed sexual interest in me I was 12 so I buy it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/01/24 05:18 PM |
| – | What do you think about female teachers going after teenage boys ?Its pedo behavior and I hate it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/01/24 05:16 PM |
| 22 | Sexual Selection in Men and WomenGood dick is rare good head is rarer. I knew a guy that had a model on his roster bc his head was fire. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/01/24 05:16 PM |
| 3 | Why do women here consistently portray men's dating preferences as malicious and their own as benign?I mean honestly the only guys getting upset by what I said are guys that are assuming all women want men’s wallets. Tbh I don’t like getting to know someone to feel transactional I’d never want a guy to pay bc he feels like he has to. I think giving an out is only fair. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/01/24 04:34 PM |
| 2 | Why do women here consistently portray men's dating preferences as malicious and their own as benign?When women point out similar hypocrisies this is the response we get from men. We’re expected to accept the hypocrisy and move on. So many of us have unanimously gone “okay we just won’t date guys like that.” And turns out not all guys are like that so we just date those guys instead. Do the same ❤️ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/01/24 04:21 PM |
| 3 | Why do women here consistently portray men's dating preferences as malicious and their own as benign?I pay for my partner on occasion. No one wants to pay for you bc you’re whiny ❤️ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/01/24 03:35 PM |
| 3 | Why do women here consistently portray men's dating preferences as malicious and their own as benign?If you really think all women are like this then don’t date us? When women can’t find a dude to meet their standards they stay single. Do the same. An inability to find companionship isn’t the failing of an entire gender. Your choices are: bitch about paying for girls, violate your own boundaries and spend money you don’t have, or don’t participate and date girls with realistic expectations that like you for you and not your wallet. It’s that simple but it’s easier to circle jerk about how ALL w… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/01/24 03:19 PM |
| 3 | Why do women here consistently portray men's dating preferences as malicious and their own as benign?That’s cool dude as long as there are men offering to pay they’ll always have an edge over you if the girl you’re pursuing is a “pay my way” girlie. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/01/24 01:18 PM |
| 5 | Why do women here consistently portray men's dating preferences as malicious and their own as benign?Yeah I do I dumped a guy bc he expected me to do most of the housework while he did basically nothing. Don’t put up with bullshit y’all respect yourselves | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/01/24 01:16 PM |
| 1 | Why do women here consistently portray men's dating preferences as malicious and their own as benign?I encourage being selective it’s genuinely how you regain control of your love life it’s gonna look different for men than it will for women but the alternative is bitching about it or complying. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/01/24 01:15 PM |
| 6 | Why do women here consistently portray men's dating preferences as malicious and their own as benign?That sucks, but again acknowledging it sucks doesn’t change anything. I’m literally someone that doesn’t have that standard so you’re not exactly working to change my mind. The girls who hold this standard won’t even humor this dialogue they will literally just find someone else who will pay for their meal. So idk if this is a massive “absolutely not I will not date someone with these expectations” you have to make peace with a portion of women blowing you off over that. The same way I made peac… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/01/24 12:28 AM |
| 3 | Why do women here consistently portray men's dating preferences as malicious and their own as benign?I know isn’t it great that it’s not 1950 anymore and you can literally approach dating however you want and do what works for you ❤️ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/01/24 12:22 AM |
| 6 | Why do women here consistently portray men's dating preferences as malicious and their own as benign?It’s honestly the least toxic approach. We rarely talk about who covers what in our relationship. I just go “wanna split” and am chill with either answer | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/01/24 10:37 PM |
| 1 | Why do women here consistently portray men's dating preferences as malicious and their own as benign?Lmao now you can’t read | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/01/24 10:36 PM |
| 7 | Why do women here consistently portray men's dating preferences as malicious and their own as benign?I don’t have empathy for men that make sweeping generalizations about a group they aren’t a part of that then discuss women as a problematic monolith. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/01/24 10:14 PM |
| 2 | Why do women here consistently portray men's dating preferences as malicious and their own as benign?No he didn’t he made sweeping generalizations about an entire gender giving no further info outside of anecdotal existence. If I wanted to do that I’d just give y’all violent crime statistics broken down by gender | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/01/24 09:50 PM |
| 1 | Why do women here consistently portray men's dating preferences as malicious and their own as benign?I’m not accountable for an entire gender the same way you aren’t accountable for yours. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/01/24 09:12 PM |
| 1 | Why do women here consistently portray men's dating preferences as malicious and their own as benign?Nah I just am not gonna sit here talking about why they aren’t school yard taunts. Why adult men preying on little girls isn’t acceptable. Nor will I humor your POV. If we’re meeting on a ground with this much disagreement from the jump you’re a lost cause and I’m not wasting time. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/01/24 09:10 PM |
| – | Why do women here consistently portray men's dating preferences as malicious and their own as benign?Wow sounds super tough for you hope you figure that out ✌️ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/01/24 08:55 PM |
| 6 | Why do women here consistently portray men's dating preferences as malicious and their own as benign?Women are not a monolith and we don’t all have this preference (again the first sentence of my comment) My original argument stated that Women have a plethora of options that doesn’t mean you have to do whatever they want you to do but you should probably make peace with the fact that you aren’t going to be compatible with girls who are insistent on you paying in the first place. And be aware that you probably won’t get them to drop this standard bc they can hold out for someone who will. Again … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/01/24 08:24 PM |
| 6 | Why do women here consistently portray men's dating preferences as malicious and their own as benign?Bingo. That’s why all of these posts are reductive to me. It’s obvious who has more options I said that multiple times in my original post. That doesn’t change the fact that if this is a dealbreaker for you, you should hold out for a girl that’s not going to expect you to pay her way every time. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/01/24 08:05 PM |
| 5 | Why do women here consistently portray men's dating preferences as malicious and their own as benign?I was okay with being permanently single and many women would say something similar. If you can’t find someone who meets your standards you should examine your standards measure them up to yourself and ask why you can’t find a partner that meets them and is also interested in you. This isn’t gendered, women experiencing this should do that to. Women have always had more options. That’s why it’s important to actually examine if these things y’all take issue with and ask yourselves if this is some… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/01/24 08:00 PM |
| 1 | Why do women here consistently portray men's dating preferences as malicious and their own as benign?Women are sleeping with the men that meet their standards. If a woman has a standard you don’t like don’t date her. Sex is easier for women than relationships are as well. That’s why most women are starting to only commit to men that fit what they want. Relationships are time consuming and often times end up being time wasted. Id rather stay single than commit to a man I’m not jazzed about. I don’t care what anyone calls (cat lady, slut, gold digger etc.) labels from men I wasn’t interested in t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/01/24 07:56 PM |
| 1 | CMV: Although it should remain legal, it is immoral for a woman to remain pregnant if the man doesn’t want the child.Oh my god if y’all are this concerned about unplanned pregnancy, wear condoms or be celibate. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/01/24 07:47 PM |
| 2 | Why do women here consistently portray men's dating preferences as malicious and their own as benign?Oh okay I see what you’re saying now. Yeah I agree. I used to live in the Bible Belt, I hated dating bc I wasn’t conservative and that was the dating pool. Moved to NY was immediately surrounded by likeminded men and women, it became easier to date and build those communities | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/01/24 07:43 PM |
| 7 | Why do women here consistently portray men's dating preferences as malicious and their own as benign?Tbh my guy I’m having a hard time understanding your comment bc of how these sentences are structured. But I’ll keep it to this. If you cannot find anyone who meets your standards you should re-examine your standards and consider why you can’t find someone who agrees/meets them. That’s not gendered btw | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/01/24 07:19 PM |
| 9 | Why do women here consistently portray men's dating preferences as malicious and their own as benign?Tea honestly. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/01/24 06:14 PM |
| 16 | Why do women here consistently portray men's dating preferences as malicious and their own as benign?Literally you’d think I was posting some “all men are rapists” shit instead of like “some girls are gonna be shallow maybe just stop pursuing a girl when she shows these traits” | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/01/24 06:08 PM |
| 2 | Why do women here consistently portray men's dating preferences as malicious and their own as benign?Nope doing what I did in my previous comment. Listen my guy If y’all want to continue to self-sabotage your own prospects and waste time circle jerking about how mean women are bc they don’t want to sleep with you that’s your business. Hope you figure your shit out.❤️ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/01/24 06:04 PM |
| 3 | Why do women here consistently portray men's dating preferences as malicious and their own as benign?That sounds really hard. Hope you figure out a way past that ❤️ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/01/24 05:45 PM |
| – | Why do women here consistently portray men's dating preferences as malicious and their own as benign?Oh sorry my advice of “consider that women with sky high standards/beliefs that men are creepy aren’t gonna be a good match for you and won’t be fun to date so don’t get super upset when those girls don’t express interest” was offensive to y’all. This thread started bc I literally agreed with a man. But y’all only want to fight with me because you can’t stand when the same advice comes from a woman. That’s why I don’t engage after I’ve said my piece. Neither of us are gonna change eachother’s mi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/01/24 05:30 PM |
| 19 | Why do women here consistently portray men's dating preferences as malicious and their own as benign?Tbh I don’t disagree. That’s why I lead the interaction with “wanna split.” When I was single and let the guy take it from there. But you aren’t going to change someone’s mind on this if that’s their expectation. And if that is their expectation they probably aren’t gonna be an ideal girlfriend for you. edit Again y’all can downvote this if you want. It’s literally reality lmao | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/01/24 05:19 PM |
| – | Why do women here consistently portray men's dating preferences as malicious and their own as benign?I frankly have never had a productive conversation with a man that genuinely thinks all women are an issue that are constantly victimizing him for not sleeping with them. But are somehow expecting me to humor his POV. Lmao. Your entire comment was gendered insults. You don’t have an accurate worldview or a point. There’s nothing here to debate. You hate women and want an excuse to dunk on them. Embarrassing. Hope you figure your shit out my guy ❤️ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/01/24 05:12 PM |
| 5 | Why do women here consistently portray men's dating preferences as malicious and their own as benign?That’s always what it’s actually about lmao | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/01/24 05:01 PM |
| 20 | Why do women here consistently portray men's dating preferences as malicious and their own as benign?If you think women are a monolith you have no business dating one. ❤️ I said explicitly that neither gender was a monolith and you only heard women, sad. I also could produce several real world examples of men behaving poorly and make a similar flawed analysis about men, but I didn’t bc that would be immature, inaccurate, reductive and idiotic. These TikTok’s y’all watch and then project onto an entire population are trapping you in cycles of toxicity. That are ultimately to your own detriment n… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/01/24 04:48 PM |
| 2 | Why do women here consistently portray men's dating preferences as malicious and their own as benign?Oh I’m sorry “lmao sucks for that guy” moves on | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/01/24 04:29 PM |
| – | Why do women here consistently portray men's dating preferences as malicious and their own as benign?I don’t need to. I’m doing the thing I said in my previous comment “sounds rough my dude hope you figure that out”. I don’t argue with walls ❤️ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/01/24 04:22 PM |
| – | Why do women here consistently portray men's dating preferences as malicious and their own as benign?Lmao okay king go off ❤️ sounds like your method of combatting this is working great | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/01/24 04:03 PM |
| 5 | Why do women here consistently portray men's dating preferences as malicious and their own as benign?I was inundated with slut, whore, dirty, worthless before I ever had sex. I was being slutshamed before I was sexually active. While simultaneously began receiving unwanted sexual attention from grown men when I was 12. We can compare which is worse but it’s kinda pointless bc both come from different places of contempt. Both suck. I took that went “alright fuck you” and stopped tolerating disrespect even if that meant being alone. Even if that meant looking “emotional” or crazy. Good. Im repell… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/01/24 03:57 PM |
| 5 | Why do women here consistently portray men's dating preferences as malicious and their own as benign?Exactly. A toxic relationship is worse than being single. There’s so much more to life than sex and there’s no reason to get hung up on girls that have shallow standards. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/01/24 03:43 PM |
| 5 | Why do women here consistently portray men's dating preferences as malicious and their own as benign?I don’t agree with the rhetoric but I agree with the sentiment. If you don’t like girls who behave this way don’t pay attention to them. Aim for a girl who doesn’t act like that and quit getting hung up on girls that you weren’t compatible with to begin with. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/01/24 03:40 PM |
| 44 | Why do women here consistently portray men's dating preferences as malicious and their own as benign?Women aren’t monoliths, neither are men. Preferences and standards vary from person to person. There are assholes in every demographic and they’re usually the loudest. I think a lot of y’all need to make peace with the fact that some women likely won’t be compatible with you if things like expecting their date to pay their way are dealbreakers. If a girl is insisting you pay their way (kinda tacky but whatever) and that’s a dealbreaker to you (and no judgment if it is) than it’s likely the girl … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/01/24 03:31 PM |
| 1 | Why does it seem like progressiveness towards the gender roles only apply toward women?I don’t. When I was single it typically went We go round for round. Or he offers I say no he insists. If we don’t talk about it i roll up expecting to pay lmao I’ve never shown up to a date without money to pay my way. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/01/24 03:41 PM |
| 1 | Why does it seem like progressiveness towards the gender roles only apply toward women?TEA | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/01/24 03:39 PM |
| 0 | Why does it seem like progressiveness towards the gender roles only apply toward women?The backlash is bc men who won’t date fat women never shut up about how they won’t date fat women. You can have a preference, no one likes an asshole. Constantly dunking on fat people is asshole behavior thats not gendered. Having preferences and standards for your partner isn’t incel behavior. A hatred towards women because you’re struggling to get laid is incel behavior. ❤️ Furthermore having standards isn’t some mass movement. It’s an individual list of preferences my dude that many people sa… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/01/24 03:22 PM |
| 7 | Why does it seem like progressiveness towards the gender roles only apply toward women?That is the standard ❤️ I have never demanded material anything from a partner. I demand emotional intelligence and respect. Everything else is confetti ❤️ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/01/24 05:14 PM |
| 3 | Why does it seem like progressiveness towards the gender roles only apply toward women?Incorrect but once again you don’t have to date girls like me. I also have a good job lmao. So again this is never an expectation. Develop some standards that work for you and implement them. The only reason I found the love of my life is because I kicked people that weren’t my ideal to the curb. For you a girl who expects a dude to pay her way everytime wouldn’t be your ideal so you shouldn’t humor a date with her lmao There’s no shame in that game. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/01/24 05:12 PM |
| 0 | Why does it seem like progressiveness towards the gender roles only apply toward women?Love free shit. Where did I deny that lmao I’ve been with someone for two years with a great job. He doesn’t pay my way everytime bc I don’t want that dynamic. We split grocery bills, bar tabs etc. pretty much anything that isn’t a special occasion we go Dutch. However Valentines Day our anniversary my birthday etc. he insists on footing the bill. His birthday, he gets a promotion, he has something to celebrate I’m buying him something nice. It’s a give and take my dude. And not something we rea… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/01/24 04:59 PM |
| 7 | Why does it seem like progressiveness towards the gender roles only apply toward women?Sounds like you’ve found your first dealbreaker. Faux financial independence. I’d say it’s a good one. There’s a plethora of issues that could arise if someone is lying about their financial history.Don’t date women like this. (Or anyone like this tbh) Mine was “open about his mommy issues immediately” I noticed men with bad relationships with their moms were hella mean to me so if it came up on a first date there’s not a second one. You pick up on your yucks and narrow down what you want from t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/01/24 03:24 PM |
| 0 | Why does it seem like progressiveness towards the gender roles only apply toward women?Truly though this just isn’t our issue lmao | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/01/24 03:08 PM |
| -3 | Why does it seem like progressiveness towards the gender roles only apply toward women?I’m not a “pay for my shit” lady but I’ve heard too many horror stories about men leaning into full deadbeat and becoming another mouth to feed (in addition to the kids) with nothing else to offer. Picking up the tab every now and then signals to single women who are financially independent that you aren’t going to become another mouth to feed down the line. And is just a nice thing for both members of the couple to do now and again. But it should never be the norm or an expectation The only dif… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/01/24 03:06 PM |
| 1 | Why does it seem like progressiveness towards the gender roles only apply toward women?Tea the only difference I ever see is women actually going “oh okay you’re gonna do ___ I don’t date people who do that” like just follow suit my dudes | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/01/24 02:55 PM |
| 1 | Where is the incentive for a woman to be submissive?I give my abstentions (he’s usually thought these through) so I tell him to go for it. 🤷♀️ we are incredibly similar people though so to be totally for real that’s happened maybe once. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/01/24 03:15 PM |
| 17 | Slutshaming is objectively good (?)Lmao. People who are concerned with other people’s sex lives don’t have a satisfying one of their own. But I’ll be meaner to men who approach me. Wouldn’t want some mid dude who can’t get it in thinking I’m a slut. ❤️ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/01/24 11:07 PM |
| 1 | Slutshaming is objectively good (?)Lmao. Then men deserve the continued vitriol they receive when they approach women with the intent of sleeping with them. God forbid some guy that can’t get it in thinks I’m a whore for giving a guy a chance. People concerned with other people’s sex lives don’t have a satisfying one of their own. No one is demanding you date someone who has a lot of sexual partners. But going out of your way to shame people for it says more about you than them ❤️ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/01/24 11:04 PM |
| 8 | Where is the incentive for a woman to be submissive?Tea but we have to remember our audience lmao | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/01/24 10:48 PM |
| 1 | Abusing Pornography for Men == Abusing Online Dating for Sexually for Women*nopillsgirlie* I'm just putting this one out there. Using online dating for its intended purpose is not "abusing online dating" lmao. I don't have an issue with porn as a concept versions of it have existed pretty much since we started making films. In its modern context, a lot of production companies have unethical practices that abuse the cast. Their casting processes are super predatory *I've read accounts of performers who met a producer while still in highschool at like 16 or 17 and essent… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/01/24 09:23 PM |
| – | Why do some people bend over backwards to find excuses for everything women do?This is the response I was looking for tbh. Thank you. It's not so much that I'm like. "women are always right forever and incapable of wrong" I don't think that. I have plenty of dumbass friends that date fuckboy men that absolutely are stringing them along. I'm still, typically more frustrated with the guy for not communicating but I can acknowledge that my friend has some issues they need to work through and figure out. But what sends me is that these examples always include abusive dynamics … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/01/24 09:20 PM |
| – | Why do some people bend over backwards to find excuses for everything women do?I will completely own that women get trapped in cycles of abuse, I've lost friends to it. But again all of these abusive dynamics don't show up until you're deep in the relationship, up until that point the signs look like blips/bad moments. They become routine when you're married and have a kid and then it's too late unless you divorce. It's the metaphor of a frog being boiled alive. No guy comes out the gates devaluing and discarding someone they're trying to entrap. It's a slow process of gra… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/01/24 09:03 PM |
| 5 | Can advocates of casual sex propose it’s merits?Reply Because they only care when girls are having casual sex lmao. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/01/24 08:53 PM |
| 6 | Can advocates of casual sex propose it’s merits?This took me out | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/01/24 08:52 PM |
| 11 | Can advocates of casual sex propose it’s merits?I have been in a committed relationship for two years now with a guy that also played the field. We both had plenty of options and still picked eachother. We swap stories all the time. It in no way negatively impacted my life, I took necessary precautions and kept it light. There's more risk in committing than keeping it casual. A lot of people are crazy and put their best foot forward until they feel they don't have to anymore. Also lmao "this behavior" Humans have sex. Sex has many meanings at… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/01/24 08:43 PM |
| 9 | Can advocates of casual sex propose it’s merits?*nopillsgirlie* Being in a relationship takes time and energy that I don't have for dead end dudes. There are more people I'd sleep with than settle down with. When I ventured into hookup culture I was incredibly career focused and didn't have much interest in the men around me outside of sex because everything else in my life was more important. It's fun. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/01/24 08:37 PM |
| 3 | Ladies (non-exclusively), what are your thoughts on population collapse?*nopillsgirlie* If we hold out long enough maybe they'll pay us lmao | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/01/24 05:43 PM |
| 2 | Ladies (non-exclusively), what are your thoughts on population collapse?If anything a lot of women are going celibate tbh. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/01/24 05:19 PM |
| 7 | Ladies (non-exclusively), what are your thoughts on population collapse?*nopillsgirlie* I really want kids. I just want to preface with that. There's no incentive to get pregnant in America and every incentive not to. You can no longer survive on a single income, so regardless of what you want to do you have to go back to work typically within a few months of your child being born, if you're lucky. This is bad for the psyche of the child and the mother as recovery from pregnancy can take months and many labors are traumatic. There's no guarantee you won't lose your … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/01/24 05:16 PM |
| 9 | Where is the incentive for a woman to be submissive?*nopillsgirlie* Exactly it's not so much that I am submitting, I in general don't really like taking the lead on most things and am more of a collaborator. My partner is a collaborative leader with a good head on his shoulders. It looks more like him coming to me and saying "I want to do this" and it's usually a 10/10 idea so I go "fuck yeah baby let's do it". He treats everyone with kindness, is the life of every party, great with kids, and in general is just a grade A dude that I'm lucky enoug… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/01/24 04:51 PM |
| 6 | Where is the incentive for a woman to be submissive?*nopillsgirlie* If you're partner is a bitch the other party follows suit | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/01/24 04:42 PM |
| 24 | Where is the incentive for a woman to be submissive?*nopillsgirlie* This is the dynamic I have with my partner. He bends over backwards for me without me asking, advocates for me, steps in for me when he needs to and as a result I wanna be super sweet warm and loving towards him. If you want wifey treatment you have to actually display husband material. The guys on these podcasts are losers that are trying to get these dynamics by force. They look and act like clowns having to be hypermasc but in reality it's either a DV situation or the girl has… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/01/24 04:16 PM |
| – | Why do some people bend over backwards to find excuses for everything women do?*nopillsgirlie* "Psychopathic men have more kids"- Abusers have masks that they typically don't drop until they have their target isolated/trapped (getting them pregnant would be a way to achieve this). Were the flags there? Sure. But even in this example you've pointed out the man in question is psychopathic. So I'm unsure what you're upset about here. Are mad that people don't blame victims of that psychopathy? If one party is psychopathic and the other isn't the one with psychopathy is in the… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/01/24 04:10 PM |
| 1 | Debate : People dont understand that Money and status makes you GENUINELY more sexually attractive as a Man.I did. When we broke up I literally went “You are incapable of taking accountability for your actions at the expense of my own mental stability and wellbeing” then he tried to tell me I was mean for dumping him after he rolled around on the floor screaming that he hated me bc he thought he saw a bed bug (it wasn’t a bedbug lmao) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/01/24 02:07 PM |
| 4 | If someone is content being single, then their standards can be as high as they wantnopillsgirlie Completely agree tbh. If you compromise on things you’ll put up with/traits you desire in a partner, they turn into a hinderance down the line. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/01/24 07:57 PM |
| 1 | Debate : People dont understand that Money and status makes you GENUINELY more sexually attractive as a Man.No one is expecting men to solve women’s problems. A large portion of men display behavior and actions that make up the majority of women’s problems. There are statistically more male rapists than there are women so again regardless of the gender of victims the ones perpetuating the crime are by and large men. However the stats I have found and the majority of stats on SV don’t reflect what the study you sent suggests. According to everything I’ve read 99% of rapists are male 91% of victims are … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/01/24 07:50 PM |
| 1 | Debate : People dont understand that Money and status makes you GENUINELY more sexually attractive as a Man.Most women want to be left alone. Like I know that’s the opposite of what y’all wanna hear. They don’t want to solve it bc they don’t care, its either not our issue or not a priority. The same way y’all don’t care about our SA experiences or our sexual harassment experiences. We don’t care that y’all can’t find a gf. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/01/24 06:17 PM |
| – | Women and the body positivity movement, why is it wrong?nopillsgirlie I think a lot of it is lack of empathy and education. There’s a plethora of reasons someone would be bigger that go beyond eating bad and being lazy and they’re all none of our business tbh. The kicker about bodyshaming is that it ends up contributing to binge eating in individuals with binge eating disorders like bullemia. We should be striving to be healthy and happy, whatever that looks like for the individual. We aren’t all meant to be super thin but we’re all meant to be activ… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/01/24 05:30 PM |
| 1 | Debate A Man should be allowed to opt out being a father if he says it enough early in a pregnancy.nopillsgirlie wear condoms if you’re this concerned. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/01/24 05:11 PM |
| 1 | CMV: Dating apps are becoming the only socially acceptable way to get a relationshipnopillsgirlie I met my boyfriend of two years at a nightclub. Because I was at a nightclub looking to have fun and meet people. Bars/nightclubs/parties are more welcoming to interactions like this bc usually both parties are there with similar goals in mind for how they want their night to go. I don’t go to a library to talk to strangers. I don’t typically make friends with people I want to date. I don’t want to hook up with my coworkers because if things go awry I might have to find another job… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/01/24 05:05 PM |
| 1 | Debate : People dont understand that Money and status makes you GENUINELY more sexually attractive as a Man.Eh tbh most women aren’t on the train going to work looking to approach a guy. They aren’t in the grocery store trying to meet men. If and when women approach it’s typically in nightlife/class/work etc. but for the most part sex isn’t on the forefront of our minds the way it is for guys. Hence why I’m like don’t approach a girl unless it looks like she’s out to have fun and not like literally on her way somewhere. The real issue at play here is that men have historically dehumanized women. Now a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/01/24 04:51 PM |
| 1 | Debate : People dont understand that Money and status makes you GENUINELY more sexually attractive as a Man.The only advice I have on how to approach women (frankly) is just when to do it and when not to do it. In general I’ve never been a fan unless I was at a bar/party/club/on an app everywhere else I get a little peeved bc I’m usually in the middle of something and some rando interrupted me. It gets grating when it’s your day to day if I’m being fr. What you’ve said about lesbians having dead bedrooms in no way reflects my experience in relationships with women. lesbians typically are better at nav… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/01/24 04:36 PM |
| 1 | Debate : People dont understand that Money and status makes you GENUINELY more sexually attractive as a Man.I don’t concern myself with that bc I’ve never had to. Even in queer spaces I’m typically the one who gets approached and doesn’t do the approaching. Also in general unless I’m in a super specific setting I kinda don’t like or enjoy being approached I’m in a relationship so now I kinda just rebuff before they can get into their whole schtick. In general it’s not a skill that straight women need it’s like saying “you know most ballet dancers aren’t very knowledgeable about waterpolo” like k? I do… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/01/24 04:13 PM |
| 1 | Is it becoming a growing trend for women (and especially young women) to casually disrespect and sexually demean men they believe are less attractive than them with no provocation?I’m fully convinced it’s lowkey fetish content. Like WHY WAS HER PREDOMINANTLY MALE AUDIENCE STILL SENDING MONEY? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/01/24 03:22 PM |
| 2 | Debate : People dont understand that Money and status makes you GENUINELY more sexually attractive as a Man.Yeah he knows exactly why we broke up. I disclosed that he was a narc p immediately. I said high maintenance because he was a narcissist who was also incredibly high maintenance. Most narcissists don’t realize they’re narcs. He probably is still deflecting and blaming everyone but himself and thinking that I’m a terrible person for breaking up with him after he punched a hole in our door bc someone stole his package out of our lobby. It’s why I’m such an advocate for “if it doesn’t work just lea… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/01/24 01:58 PM |
| 1 | Debate : People dont understand that Money and status makes you GENUINELY more sexually attractive as a Man.Girls typically don’t approach so obvi? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/01/24 01:12 PM |
| 15 | Is it becoming a growing trend for women (and especially young women) to casually disrespect and sexually demean men they believe are less attractive than them with no provocation?nopillsgirlie Watched the video and I’m being so sincere are we sure this wasn’t a subliminal humiliation fetish stream? Idk this whole thing just felt very “YUCK I don’t want to kiss this average mid guy but I will for money wink wink”. A lot of people get off to that “It’d be so gross if I solid 10. Kissed a yucky incel boy gross. But I will for money” -idk this whole thing seems fetishy I’m not trolling I’m genuinely asking. I know twitch has a reputation for sketchy hidden fetish content/sof… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/01/24 09:56 PM |
| 3 | Debate : People dont understand that Money and status makes you GENUINELY more sexually attractive as a Man.Yeah I think we literally agree with eachother. If your standards are shallow the pool is gonna be shallow. If you’re only going for 10/10 knockout girls that you’re getting to flock to you with money idk what to say like the results you get are what you get. If you’re only going for guys with fuck you money you’re gonna get a guy with fuck you money and everything that entails (and usually a guy that’s leading with money is compensating for something) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/01/24 09:33 PM |
| 5 | Contrary to what the Internet and Hollywood makes you belief, why does it seem Cougars are a minority and most women don’t want to date men their age nor younger than themselves?nopillsgirlie This is super anecdotal but I’ve dated men my age and I’m currently dating a man 8 years older than me. Tbh there’s just less bullshit. He has his shit together and he doesn’t stress me out. He makes good on his promises and he doesn’t say things he doesn’t mean or isn’t going to follow through on. He has a job that he’s passionate about and loves. His friends are all fun to be around. He’s actually dependable and possesses a shit ton of emotional intelligence. He puts in a ton of … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/01/24 09:28 PM |
| 3 | Debate : People dont understand that Money and status makes you GENUINELY more sexually attractive as a Man.I disagree tbh. I think opportunistic women and men do that but I’m engaged to my ideal partner rn 🤷♀️ I only found him bc I refused to settle. My version of “settling” would have been staying single. C’est la vie I guess. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/01/24 08:40 PM |
| 3 | Debate : People dont understand that Money and status makes you GENUINELY more sexually attractive as a Man.That’s a bummer. 🤷♀️ if you’re leading with cash you’re going to get girls interested in cash. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/01/24 08:37 PM |
| 9 | Debate : People dont understand that Money and status makes you GENUINELY more sexually attractive as a Man.This is true. If you’re trying to attract women with money you’re going to attract girls with a materialistic streak that like your money not you. I get that there are guys down to settle for that but I honestly can’t help but roll my eyes when guys that are buying bottles at nightclubs to get girls come out of those relationships/hookups thinking that all girls are shallow and “gold diggers” when tbh idk what kind of girl they expected to attract when money was all they put forward lol | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/01/24 07:11 PM |
| 5 | Debate : People dont understand that Money and status makes you GENUINELY more sexually attractive as a Man.Oh dude that doesn’t shock me I was roommates with an Indian girl in college who tried to date within her community whenever possible and the STORIES she would tell me about rich Indian guys were insane | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/01/24 05:05 PM |
| 5 | Debate : People dont understand that Money and status makes you GENUINELY more sexually attractive as a Man.Tea. You’re right it’s because they’ve never had to learn game | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/01/24 04:17 PM |
| 2 | Why do a lot of women say that men like b*tc3s?Yeah I just remember finally dating a man with emotional regulation skills and realizing the men I was dating were bringing out the worst in me | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/01/24 04:16 PM |
| 9 | Debate : People dont understand that Money and status makes you GENUINELY more sexually attractive as a Man.Lol the term my therapist gave me was narcissistic abuser. But in general, incredibly entitled, incredibly volatile, lacked self-awareness, lacked any sense of accountability (everything was always everyone else’s fault), super possessive and controlling , never compromised on anything but always expected me to, constantly belittling and demeaning me and was incapable of admitting when he was wrong. He also had no survival skills, I’ve always prided myself on being self-sufficient but I didn’t s… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/01/24 04:13 PM |
| 10 | Debate : People dont understand that Money and status makes you GENUINELY more sexually attractive as a Man.nopillsgirlie I dated a mid guy than a month in found out his family (and by extension he) was loaded. I still dumped his ass when he became too high maintenance which a lot of rich dudes end up being 🤷♀️ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/01/24 03:13 PM |
| 3 | Why do a lot of women say that men like b*tc3s?Dude they’re literally agreeing with you JFC | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/01/24 03:04 PM |
| 3 | Why do a lot of women say that men like b*tc3s?nopillsgirlie Im probably gonna sound toxic but when I dated a volatile man child that yelled at me constantly I turned into a bitch that yelled back 🤷♀️ Difficult people create difficult people, idk if men “like it more” but certain men communicate like bitches and you have to match that energy or they’ll walk all over you (this works for about two months than you realize you can just dump them and find a dude that doesn’t suck ass). Now I’m with a guy who’s conflict management style matches m… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/01/24 02:36 PM |
| 5 | Modern women have been brainwashed by Disney moviesLmao literally “men gain media literacy challenge” | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/01/24 12:33 PM |
| 2 | Do you think young girls need to bring back the 90 day rule, or even more extreme like wait until marriage?I agree. They just are not for me. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/01/24 04:53 AM |
| 3 | Do you think young girls need to bring back the 90 day rule, or even more extreme like wait until marriage?nopillsgirlie I’m so sorry this happened to you. That’s the thing too is she probably had no basis of comparison if this was the only man she’d been with which is a reality in a bunch of super fundie circles. It’s so wild bc even when you follow all of the “church’s” rules everything still fucks up. Nearly every Christian married couple my family was friends with growing up is divorced or separated now (both that I’m thinking about off the top of my head were instances of adultery) I know there … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/01/24 09:54 PM |
| 5 | Do you think young girls need to bring back the 90 day rule, or even more extreme like wait until marriage?nopillwomen honestly I had the opposite of a “liberal feminist mother” and I still rejected their ideals. I work in nightlife and cross paths with a lot of burlesque dancers (love burlesque no shame in that game) but wouldn’t you know it? At every gig there are three that went to Catholic school/had a pastor father/at some point owned a purity ring. We end up shit talking our childhoods at every event. Legit the fastest way to guarantee your daughter screws into promiscuity is to tell her her en… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/01/24 09:38 PM |
| 7 | Do you think young girls need to bring back the 90 day rule, or even more extreme like wait until marriage?“Special snowflake syndrome” is thinking that you know what’s best for women when you’re a man by advocating for an arbitrary 90 day rule that only applies to one group of people that you aren’t apart of lmao | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/01/24 09:01 PM |
| 4 | Have you ever had a realization, or epiphany, about dating that helped put things in perspective?nopillsgirlie -I’m not for everyone and everyone is not for me. -if someone shows you who they are believe them -being in a shitty relationship is worse on every level than being single and playing the field. -Most men in general are not worth getting worked up over. Sexual compatibility does not mean a commitment or relationship is a good idea. -If you’re supposed to be with someone getting with them should feel easy. -people concerned with your personal life or sex life don’t have a satisfying… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/01/24 06:05 PM |
| 0 | People here exaggerate the hate that age gap relationships get. If you're so sensitive that a few comments get you then don't be in an age gap relationshipWe have a law like that in Louisiana (age of consent is 17 but 2 year age gap is allowed) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/01/24 05:53 PM |
| 11 | Do you think young girls need to bring back the 90 day rule, or even more extreme like wait until marriage?nopillsgirlie Proud “whore” now in a committed relationship with another proud “whore”. No regrets. We both had fun we both love eachother and even though we both had plenty of options we still committed to one another. I date seeking all components of a relationship. I’m not normally this shallow but I’m not waiting three months to find out that I don’t share sexual compatibility with someone because it’s a crucial aspect of a successful relationship. If other people want to wait for marriage t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/01/24 05:41 PM |
| -2 | People here exaggerate the hate that age gap relationships get. If you're so sensitive that a few comments get you then don't be in an age gap relationshipnopillsgirlie I’m in an age gap relationship and I think the age of consent should be 21 because military recruiters approaching high schoolers grosses me out. I also think it should be 21 bc I don’t think you’re able to fully grasp how your life will change if you start an OF page or begin a career in porn. I know plenty of 17 year old girls that I went to school with who had 25 year old boyfriends. They’re all in therapy now and view that man as a predator. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/01/24 03:37 PM |
| 4 | Why attempt to change your partner’s lifestyle rather than just finding someone who matches yours?nopillsgirlie TEA honestly I get trying to put your first foot forward like on a date and being supportive even if you’re not quite into whatever your partner is doing. But to completely misrepresent yourself borders on diabolical. It’s insane to go out of your way to pursue hot girls that party and dance and then get upset when they continue to want to do that once you’re together lmao. The crazy thing is in hindsight we would’ve been good FWBs and just left it there, we probably would still be… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/01/24 03:12 PM |
| 11 | Why attempt to change your partner’s lifestyle rather than just finding someone who matches yours?nopillsgirlie I dated one of these on accident and he fully pretended to be chill about how I dressed/acted until we lived together and suddenly he never wanted to go out but also would try to stop me from going out. Hate to be this guy but like DONT DO THAT. Literally if someone is interested and your lifestyles don’t align just have casual sex/establish FWB otherwise you get dumped down the line and wasted both parties’ time. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/01/24 03:05 PM |
| 1 | Do you think women should be able to be sued or convicted of a crime for paternity fraud?He’s basically saying he doesn’t want a wife anymore 🤷♀️ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/01/24 12:50 PM |
| 2 | Debate: free romantic love has failednopillsgirlie Settle for being alone if you can’t find someone who makes you happy. Being in an unhappy marriage is more of a trap than being alone forever is. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/01/24 09:26 PM |
| 1 | Do you think women should be able to be sued or convicted of a crime for paternity fraud?nopillsgirlie I’m genuinely not opposed to paternity tests when the pregnancy was the result of a hookup/situationship/polyamorous situation where something like this might occur. But if my husband accused me of cheating and asked for a paternity test he wouldn’t be my husband anymore and would end up paying child support anyway ❤️ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/01/24 09:22 PM |
| 1 | There is nothing wrong with being a side chick if we accept the reality of hypergamyNah my continually clean std record did ❤️ go get tested everytime you get a new body regardless of whether or not protection is used that’s 101 shit. But everytime I hooked up with a guy he used protection anything he did in his free time never affected me because of this. And again we both had rosters 🤷♀️ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/01/24 08:37 PM |
| 1 | Performativity is your weaknessPolitical views reflect values, the more your values align the more likely you are to be compatible. If you’re struggling to find companionship from women bc of your views idk reconsider your views or go for women that agree with you. Or go cry about it idk what to tell you. Most liberal/democrat/leftist women won’t share their beds with republicans on principle. I’m definitely in that camp 🤷♀️ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/01/24 08:36 PM |
| 1 | Are woman’s standards fixed or do they change?nopillsgirlie This question kinda doesn’t make sense bc personality and looks are subjective and what’s attractive hass varied from century to century/culture to culture. Like idk what a 10/10 across the board would even look like for me but it wouldn’t be the stereotypical football player/artist that’s in a lot of mainstream media. What people are attracted to varies lol But in general I’d say most people’s standards adjust because of their experiences rather than preferences. Someone who dated… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/01/24 08:32 PM |
| 1 | Is asking out a friend only going to ruin your friendship if you're not attractive?nopillsgirlie I think it’s less about appearance and more that you feel that this person you’re friends with only got close to you because they wanted to fuck you. That’s atleast how it comes across, that you befriended this person so you could eventually sleep with them (not that you became attracted to them overtime which like might be the case idk) but regardless that can be really disorienting. And now they have to say no or say yes knowing that when they say no their friend will stop talkin… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/01/24 08:02 PM |
| 6 | There is nothing wrong with being a side chick if we accept the reality of hypergamyLmao “there simply are not enough desirable men for every woman that wants a relationship” Is the most honest thing I’ve seen on this subreddit. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/01/24 07:52 PM |
| 1 | There is nothing wrong with being a side chick if we accept the reality of hypergamynopillsgirlie Omg it’s literally not that serious. When I was casually dating and hooking up I had a roster of guys the guys I was with had a roster of girls everyone wore condoms and it wasn’t a big deal. This subreddit makes all of this stuff so complicated as long as everyone is on the same page about “what type of relationship this is” like who gives a shit. There are a ton of people I’d sleep with and not many I’d date it’s normal that this goes both ways I still respect and value the peopl… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/01/24 07:50 PM |
| – | People nowdays just too rigid or arrogant to try and change for someone elsenopillsgirlie People grow but they don’t change. Ideally you end up with someone you’re compatible with from the jump then growth comes naturally. But if you’re trying to change for someone or try to change someone else you’re stifling your own growth potential. Also sorry but mutual growth is a byproduct of a healthy relationship. That’s not going to come naturally with a partner you aren’t compatible with and oftentimes you end up holding eachother back. Idk when I was at the crossroads of ent… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/01/24 07:24 PM |
| 2 | Performativity is your weaknessGood luck with Austin! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/01/24 07:11 PM |
| 1 | Make up and womenLmao someone sounds scared of wearing lip gloss | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/01/24 06:11 PM |
| 5 | Performativity is your weaknessI grew up in the Bible Belt and left because I didn’t like the people I lived around 10/10 best decision I’ve ever made genuinely go find people that align with your views. I’ve dealt with way too many “lowkey conservatives” hiding their beliefs and then they get offended when I reject/ghost but I’m honestly just cutting to the chase I’m someone who’s incredibly self-aware that my values/morals I hold to super strongly and aren’t necessarily for everyone and can be “a lot” for some. that’s why I… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/01/24 06:09 PM |
| 1 | Make up and womenThe only way to test this is for you to do those things with minimal makeup using setting powder and mascara. Be sure to update me with the results. ❤️ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/01/24 06:05 PM |
| 2 | Penetration is essential to most women's complete sexual satisfaction.nopillsgirlie Foreplay + penetration. The former is more important to me than the latter tbh but I’m bi so that might be why I disagree🤷♀️ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/01/24 05:59 PM |
| 2 | Make up and womenBut that’s still makeup. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/01/24 05:57 PM |
| 7 | Make up and womenLmao Jfc. I guarantee my foundation wouldn’t budge. In fact if I had setting powder and waterproof mascara I could do a whole face and be fine. I’ve done music videos that included underwater shots (as in diving to a pool with a full face of makeup) where we used pretty simple shit (setting powder & water proof mascara primarily) and that shit didn’t smudge. It’s witchcraft and also not worth getting worked up about 🤷♀️ And now we’re talking about sweat? Do you want a medal for smelling worse t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/01/24 05:56 PM |
| 8 | Performativity is your weaknessGENUINELY I wish conservative/Republican men would just be upfront about it. It saves both parties time | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/01/24 05:45 PM |
| 1 | Make up and womenfoundation doesn’t get “rubbed off” easily without makeup remover king | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/01/24 05:44 PM |
| 1 | Make up and womenI’d bet money they have foundation on ❤️ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/01/24 05:42 PM |
| 1 | Could be the uprise of men being bad or abusive partners be a result of men leaving the dating scene?nopillsgirlie I’ve talked about this on another post. The tea is a lot of toxic men represent themselves as something totally different until you’re isolated with them/living with them/married to them. I wasn’t dating “chads” I was dating regular Degular dad bod dudes that made me laugh, had similar values to me and pretended to like the things I liked and then as we got to know eachother more they start showing their ass. These guys are simply brave enough to talk to and potentially be rejected… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/01/24 05:40 PM |
| 7 | Performativity is your weaknessnopillsgirlie I think you should be as authentic as possible so women with these ideals will know to stay away from you ❤️ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/01/24 05:21 PM |
| 5 | Make up and womennopillsgirlie whenever these guys tout this shit I just know they’re about to point to a girl with like gold eyeshadow on and talk about how “natural” she looks lmao. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/01/24 05:16 PM |
| 7 | Make up and womennopillsgirlie Lmao half the time when men go “I don’t like girls with makeup” they mean heavy makeup. Most men I’ve encountered will point to a girl with a “natural look” and she has a layer of foundation on, blush, contour and mascara. Half the time you actually mean fake eyelashes, eyeliner, eyeshadow and lipstick. Y’all can have whatever preference you want but stop pretending you know what you’re talking about lmao. I’ve yet to meet a straight man that knows the difference and is able to acc… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/01/24 05:11 PM |
| 2 | Make up and womennopillsgirlie the 50/50 thing is spot on. I used to go round for round bc I didn’t want to feel like I owed the guy I was with anything. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/01/24 05:01 PM |
| 16 | Can men give some concrete examples of being emotionally vulnerable to women, and women reacting negatively?nopillsgirlie Fr I honestly think mocking men for crying/having a normal range of emotions directly contributes to men developing unhealthy ways of managing their emotions (ie screaming punching throwing shit). I hate RP I think it’s toxic but I think shaming emotionally vulnerable men is a legit societal issue that primarily affects cis het men and pushes them down the RP pipeline. And then the subsequent bottling up of those emotions only makes the inevitable outburst bigger You can’t complain… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/01/24 04:26 PM |
| 24 | Can men give some concrete examples of being emotionally vulnerable to women, and women reacting negatively?nopillsgirlie Oh that’s fucked dude I’m so sorry | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/01/24 04:22 PM |
| 1 | CMV, women have a low tolerance for male vulnerability which perpetuates men not expressing their thoughts and feelingsnopillsgirlie Yeah like I’m so okay with my current partner’s “sad panda” moments bc he doesn’t get destructive and doesn’t say things that are genuinely disturbing. But I’ve dated guys that would punch walls and threaten suicide and that’s no bueno, I’ve also dated women that behave like this and that’s no bueno too. There’s a difference between being vulnerable and being emotionally manipulative or physically threatening. It’s honestly not as gendered as everyone wants to make it seem | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/01/24 04:21 PM |
| 2 | CMV, women have a low tolerance for male vulnerability which perpetuates men not expressing their thoughts and feelingsnopillsgirlie I know for me yelling and throwing shit is a hard no for me. And that’s how I see a lot of men handling their emotions. From my POV it comes off as aggression not vulnerability. I think it’s cause (usually) the man is larger than me and if he’s angry and flying off the handle it’s genuinely frightening. Sulky or tearful is honestly my preferred. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/01/24 04:16 PM |
| 4 | Why are people so reluctant to accept serial monogamy?YUP | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/01/24 03:08 PM |
| 3 | Why are people so reluctant to accept serial monogamy?Dude absolutely. If you’re crisis modes aren’t compatible the relationship is dead on arrival tbh | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/01/24 03:06 PM |
| 7 | Why are people so reluctant to accept serial monogamy?nopillsgirlie Honestly you meet people that were right for you at that moment but people change and grow (or more often don’t grow). The sunken cost-fallacy keeps people in toxic relationships with toxic people. I dated a guy for 3 years and for the first 2 it was great. When we moved in together I suddenly found out that all of our “common interests” were largely conflated by him and we actually didn’t have that much in common. It became super apparent that he was incredibly controlling and par… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/01/24 03:00 PM |
| 1 | Debate : The Bluepill doesn‘t exist anymore since around 5-10 Years.nopillsgirlie also average guys with riz don’t have problems finding partner just FTR | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/01/24 02:41 PM |
| 2 | (fixed flair) It's easier for women to get laid, but they're much less likely to be satisfied with the experiencenopills girlie I think what everyone is dodging is that most women don’t climax from penetration (it’s possible but unlikely from a first time partner) because of this a lot of women primarily orgasm from clitoral stimulation. Intercourse is fun and can get most girls part of the way. But if you’re skipping foreplay it’s statistically probable that she’s not going to orgasm ie if you aren’t giving head get out of the bed ❤️ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/01/24 04:20 AM |
| 0 | (fixed flair) It's easier for women to get laid, but they're much less likely to be satisfied with the experienceI should’ve explained better BDE is a metaphor it doesn’t refer to literal size it’s slang for “will fuck your brains out” | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/01/24 04:15 AM |
| 1 | it is insane for inexperienced men to seek inexperienced womennopillsgirlie I’ve noticed most guys typically drop the obsession with purity once they’re able to get laid consistently. There needs to be more kindness around experience and lack of experience on both sides, it’s just reductive to make a “thing” out of it. Like if you view women who’ve had more than one partner as “less than” that’s probably contributing to your struggle to get experience. Simultaneously mocking less experienced men is fucking mean and gross. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/01/24 09:53 PM |
| 2 | Is it wrong for an inexperienced older man to prefer younger women due to them also being inexperienced?Teeeeeeeeaaaaaaaaa the age gap posts are always so dicey on here. Legit it all depends on individuals and compatibility. I’ve seen age gap relationships that were manipulative and shitty and I’ve seen others that resulted in happy marriages it just depends | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/01/24 09:40 PM |
| 2 | (fixed flair) It's easier for women to get laid, but they're much less likely to be satisfied with the experiencenopillsgirlie Yeah you can kinda guess if a guy is gonna be good in bed. It’s a vibe they put out BDE is absolutely a real things | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/01/24 09:28 PM |
| 1 | (fixed flair) It's easier for women to get laid, but they're much less likely to be satisfied with the experienceEh even if you don’t get all the way there you still have a good time. 🤷♀️ not ideal but if you’re just going for a hookup or something casual it gets the job done | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/01/24 09:26 PM |
| 1 | (fixed flair) It's easier for women to get laid, but they're much less likely to be satisfied with the experiencenopillsgirlie If I had a bad hookup that guy never heard from me again. I wouldn’t ghost but I’d always lie about why it wasn’t “working out” but to be totally fr I think the guys knew. It was honestly a huge reason why I started having sex earlier in the courtship there were too many times when push came to shove we just weren’t sexually compatible. Idk y’all it’s Brutal out there 🤷♀️ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/01/24 09:26 PM |
| 2 | So, is talking to women at bars just… over?Bc most men won’t actually fight you and are just talking a big game. And again they get triggered no matter what. If you start out decent and politely say no 9 times out of 10 they won’t fuck off. So you have to be more assertive In instances when I was being followed/someone wouldn’t leave me alone frankly being loud and raising your voice in public typically gets the job done better than a weapon anyway. You get attention from passersbys and they run. I’ve only had to use it once because bein… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/01/24 10:05 PM |
| 3 | So, is talking to women at bars just… over?Sad world where I have to carry a tazor bc so many men are a threat to our safety and the rest of them talk a big game but are too chickenshit to actually step in and do anything. Every time I’ve been harassed in public none of the “men” in the room have done shit, but plenty of times women have. The only man I’d ever rely on to protect me is my current partner. And even then, I’m not getting rid of the tazor 😘 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/01/24 09:29 PM |
| 2 | So, is talking to women at bars just… over?*might I own a tazor I’m good ❤️ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/01/24 09:21 PM |
| 0 | So, is talking to women at bars just… over?nopillsgirlie we don’t need stranger men to help us. That’s what our family and actual friends and partners are for ❤️ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/01/24 09:16 PM |
| 3 | So, is talking to women at bars just… over?nopillsgirlie We literally don’t lmao especially not a stranger that approached us at a bar bc he’s trying to sleep with us 🤷♀️ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/01/24 09:04 PM |
| 4 | So, is talking to women at bars just… over?nopillsgirlie Lmao okay when a girl is rude to you be mad about it 🤷♀️ idk what to tell you people who don’t want to talk to you don’t owe you kindness. You’re going to eventually get rejected when you’re approaching strangers that’s just how it is. As someone who has done the rejecting, no matter how you do it loser guys get offended so you might as well leave little room for interpretation. When I rejected politely they wouldn’t go away, now I make a scene so they actually fuck off. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/01/24 08:56 PM |
| 6 | So, is talking to women at bars just… over?nopillsgirlie Not necessarily my boyfriend never used dating apps and did fine. He also is incredibly charming and grew up with two sisters so idk he just doesn’t have issues talking to women/wasn’t really offended when he’d get brushed off/rejected. I think learning how to approach is important, I think not focusing on trying to talk to one girl at the the bar is important (there are plenty of fish in the sea just take the no and move on), and just understand that more than likely any standoffi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/01/24 07:14 PM |
| 7 | So, is talking to women at bars just… over?nopillsgirlie When I was single I only went to bars/clubs with friends or dates and only really wanted to hang out with them. On the off chance I was at a bar alone it was normally bc I was grabbing a drink before going to my next appointment (I’d literally bring a book/work to broadcast “please don’t talk to me”). Small talk at these venues isn’t dead but there’s definitely less interest in it. It could be because normally if a guy is approaching you at a bar/club he wants to sleep with you. Wh… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/01/24 06:04 PM |
| 1 | Why do women pick the worst partners?nopillsgirlie When I found myself in an abusive situation I did use the “power feminist imbued” to leave them. A lot of men have abusive tendencies that don’t come out until you’re isolated or until you’ve been together for long enough for the mask to drop. By that point you think it was just a rough spat, you think those little jokes he makes in front of people about you aren’t that big of a deal, you think it’s not that abnormal that he gets a little possessive when you have to travel for work… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/12/23 06:44 PM |
| 13 | Avoiding the Coming Demographic CollapseYeah we actually can’t afford it. Healthcare is actually a huge component for us, even with coverage giving birth in a hospital can cost thousands. We’re obviously saving. But I’m not going to homeschool my kids and I’m not going to have a child unless I can confidently say I’d be able to uphold our current standard of living and provide my kids the same. That’s a hard line for me. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/12/23 09:19 PM |
| – | Is it true that average looking couples almost always have dead bedrooms?nopillsgirlie I’ve been in dead bedroom relationships and now I’m in one where the sex is still bopping 3 years later. This is super anecdotal but might be relevant. In my previous situation the sex was fine but Straight up I wasn’t getting where I needed to go (if you catch my drift). Whenever I tried to communicate this he’d get super defensive/upset so I kinda just gave up. Around the 1 year mark he stopped FP altogether and it was pretty much a just penetration game again tried to communicat… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/12/23 08:55 PM |
| 17 | Avoiding the Coming Demographic Collapsenopillsgirlie In the states there’s no incentive to have kids and every incentive not to. We have no guaranteed paid maternity leave cost of living is higher than ever and wages haven’t matched that cost. Public schools are deteriorating and not everyone can afford privatized education or put their kids in a charter school. I want to be a mom badly, I can’t guarantee my kids a good quality of life with the way things are (I wouldn’t even be able to guarantee that I’d keep my job). That’s before … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/12/23 07:30 PM |
| 2 | Why do women generally view sugar daddies less creepily than older men dating and marrying younger womennopillsgirlie Exactly intention is key | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/12/23 04:43 PM |
| 3 | Why do women generally view sugar daddies less creepily than older men dating and marrying younger womennopillsgirlie I’m in an age gap relationship(ish) there’s an 8 year age difference between us. We met when I was 26 and he was 34. I definitely get stink eyes from older women bc he looks slightly older than he is and I look slightly younger than I am. I think most people view them the same way but I think the lack of animosity towards sugaring probably stems from the transparency that comes from it being a blatant transaction. There’s less of a “what if that 50 year old man is taking advantage … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/12/23 03:04 PM |
| 1 | Complaining about women’s standards while being afraid of being settled for is crazynopills girlie I didn’t give much thought to dating standards before and it almost ruined my life. Lmao being in the wrong relationship can stall your career, damage your health and trash your psyche. So now I simply don’t date below my standards, met a guy who meets them and some, if we break up I wouldn’t get into a relationship with anyone until I found that again. It’s so much easier being single than it is being in an unsatisfactory relationship. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/12/23 03:08 PM |
| 3 | Do you think that it should be illegal for people to charge money for sex?nopillsgirlie Do you know any sex workers? Bc I had this view until I actually talked to people in that line of work | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/12/23 05:59 PM |
| 4 | Do you think that it should be illegal for people to charge money for sex?nopillsgirlie Literally all of the sex workers I know want to be sex workers. At that point who am I to be a dick about their line of work it’s literally none of my business. Not to mention the way these dynamics are portrayed in media are drastically different than what I’ve seen play out. None of my friends have pimps, none of them are out on the streets, half of their clients are ND well-off socially awkward men and they submit std screenings and background checks to my friends before meeting… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/12/23 05:57 PM |
| 5 | Do you think that it should be illegal for people to charge money for sex?nopillsgirlie Exactly it’s why I roll my eyes at these. Its only a question of “is this debasing the entire gender” when women do it. But men have sex for money too and it’s not as uncommon as people want to think it is. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/12/23 05:49 PM |
| 7 | Do you think that it should be illegal for people to charge money for sex?nopillsgirlie Men are escorts too. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/12/23 05:42 PM |
| 0 | The term ‘Situationship’ is used almost exclusively by women when they are FwB-zoned by a guy above their leagueNope dad bod funny dudes are my type lmao but some of those guys don’t like horror movies/don’t like going out/ don’t have similar interest so hookup buddy. Guys I connect with bc of compatible interests =partner | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/12/23 03:30 AM |
| -1 | The term ‘Situationship’ is used almost exclusively by women when they are FwB-zoned by a guy above their leagueIt varied but I tended to gravitate more towards dad bod funny dudes/ I’m bisexual so a lot of these dudes were also girls lmao | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/12/23 03:29 AM |
| 1 | The term ‘Situationship’ is used almost exclusively by women when they are FwB-zoned by a guy above their leagueNah our intentions don’t align so why bother. I’ve also turned down sex from men seeking commitment when I wasn’t interested in a longterm relationship but would have been down to hookup. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/12/23 03:25 AM |
| 0 | The term ‘Situationship’ is used almost exclusively by women when they are FwB-zoned by a guy above their leagueYeah this was my experience they were the ones that would push it further | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/12/23 03:23 AM |
| 7 | The term ‘Situationship’ is used almost exclusively by women when they are FwB-zoned by a guy above their leagueBecause I don’t have a ton of hangups about casual sex 🤷♀️ idk I see the same behavior from men and I’d imagine it’s similar | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/12/23 03:21 AM |
| 1 | The term ‘Situationship’ is used almost exclusively by women when they are FwB-zoned by a guy above their leagueI’ve had plenty of “husband material” fuck buddies but we weren’t compatible enough to go that distance and wanted to keep things light and fun while keeping our options open | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/12/23 03:17 AM |
| 1 | The term ‘Situationship’ is used almost exclusively by women when they are FwB-zoned by a guy above their leagueBc if I want something deeper I’m not going to put my emotional health in danger by sleeping with someone who’s intentions may not match mine. Like why would I set myself up to get my heart broken | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/12/23 03:14 AM |
| 7 | The term ‘Situationship’ is used almost exclusively by women when they are FwB-zoned by a guy above their leagueI don’t dislike anyone I sleep with I’m not seeking commitment from everyone I sleep with. There’s a lot to having a functional relationship and that’s not the same criteria I have for a fuckbuddy/sneaky link/ situationship/ whatever you want to call it. Meanwhile I wouldn’t have sex with someone I want commitment from when it’s not clear what they want bc why would I hurt myself like that | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/12/23 03:06 AM |
| 1 | The term ‘Situationship’ is used almost exclusively by women when they are FwB-zoned by a guy above their leagueHey I hit post too soon it’s edited | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/12/23 03:05 AM |
| -1 | The term ‘Situationship’ is used almost exclusively by women when they are FwB-zoned by a guy above their leagueThe same way y’all do lmao I have sex with the men I do want commitment from or I could see myself dating when I’ve sussed out that we have compatible intentions it’s not that complicated. It’s not that I dislike the rest or I’m not attracted or we don’t click it’s that we wouldn’t make good romantic partners for whatever reason or at that period of my life I’m not seeking monogamy. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/12/23 03:00 AM |
| 0 | The term ‘Situationship’ is used almost exclusively by women when they are FwB-zoned by a guy above their leaguenopillsgirlie Bc it’s not friends with benefits but it’s not a one-time hookup and the semantics don’t matter. Sometimes you just connect sexually but you could give a fuck about everything else. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/12/23 02:59 AM |
| 6 | The term ‘Situationship’ is used almost exclusively by women when they are FwB-zoned by a guy above their leaguenopills girlie I have never slept with a guy immediately that I wanted commitment from. When I had “situationships” I also had similar arrangements with other people and was aware that they did as well. At that period of my life I wasn’t interested in a relationship. Y’all need to start considering that we are also looking for “no strings attached” sex. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/12/23 02:54 AM |
| 1 | Typical age gap relationship post reactions don't help anyonenopillsgirlie My current partner is 8 years older than me and it’s the healthiest relationship I’ve ever been in. We met when I was 26 and he was 34 at a nightclub to see my then roommate perform, he was friends with my roommate at the time (they were the same age) and we just hit it off. I think the only issue is when you’re in drastically different phases of life. I don’t think there’s any reason a man in his 40s should be dating college girls but I also am not gonna make a thing out of it whe… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/12/23 02:48 AM |
| 1 | Sex work is not empowering for women , its derogatory and benefits no onenopills girlie I have a couple of friends who escort/do OF and a ton who are exotic dancers. My friend who escorts background checks everyone they “work” with and makes them submit STD screenings and will turn down people they don’t want to meet up with. The majority of their clients are upper class men who are incredibly socially awkward. Being selective has kept them safe from SA on the clock. They’re in this line of work primarily bc of a physical disability that prevents them from working a … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/12/23 01:45 AM |
| 4 | Why is there a shame in expressing your masculinity?*nopillsgirlie* My man has a beard. Plenty of girls dig beards. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/12/23 06:27 PM |
| 12 | Why is there a shame in expressing your masculinity?*nopills girlie* Positive masculine traits are typically defined as protectiveness, level-headedness, ambition, drive, passion, and compassion amongst other similar traits. These can manifest in many different expressions of masculinity, you could be a jock/poet/father/custodian/president etc. and exhibit these traits. You do not need any type of status to embody these traits, you also don't have to embody these traits at all if you don't want to. Not grooming, being loudly horny, making rape jo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/12/23 06:26 PM |
| 6 | Women are inherently more selfish/self centered. This is evidenced by their lack of "hero worship" CMVnopills girlie Bc I hate sports and women’s sports are notoriously underrepresented in the media. On a broader scale I live in NY, work in entertainment, worked at a restaurant notorious for famous people Dining there as well and have inadvertently rubbed shoulders with a few celebrities half of these “heroes” are kinda just dudes lol. What the public sees is an incredibly curated image of what the artist/athlete/politician wants to put out put together by a team of people. But all of those cele… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/12/23 05:06 PM |
| 4 | 37% of Men have used prostitution: ramifications?nopills girlie I don’t have an issue with this. My friend is an escort and from what they’ve told me as long as you’re very thorough in verifying/background checking your clients it’s a mutually beneficial arrangement. The majority of men that they work with are super rich and don’t have time to date/ don’t want to bother with it or super socially awkward guys that want company. Not really the seedy douchey guys you normally think of. I don’t think it’s a bad option for someone who is seeking se… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/12/23 04:56 PM |
| 17 | Even the genders' more "wholesome" side of attraction is generally different.nopillsgirlie I actually really agree with you on most of this and think that you were respectful of both genders. I think we keep getting our wires crossed bc we get agitated that the ways we experience attraction aren’t the same ways the opposite sex does. Like I get frustrated by the fact that I’m just sitting in public and someone wants to talk to me just cause (of looks/what I’m wearing etc.) I’d much rather someone be into me bc of my interests/job/accomplishments/talents and after being o… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/12/23 04:48 PM |
| 2 | Men need to make these dating resolutions in 2024nopills girlie These are good! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/12/23 04:34 PM |
| – | If muscles dont matter for women why are strippers/exotic dancers muscularBro I’ve been raped thrice. I’ve been sexually harassed since I was 12 i harbored deep misandrist views for the about two years after recovering from sexual assault. I took a hiatus from men where I worked on myself and on altering my views before they me pushed down a path that left me bitter and angry. And now I don’t have problems with men. But that history left me disinterested and not that concerned with dating or being with one again. That’s what y’all are actually up against. It’s not us … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/12/23 12:33 AM |
| – | If muscles dont matter for women why are strippers/exotic dancers muscularI know this isn’t your world but most women exotic dancers where I live marry women lmao | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/12/23 11:37 PM |
| – | If muscles dont matter for women why are strippers/exotic dancers muscularIdk what else there is to say dude. It sounds like you hate women. So yeah don’t participate until you work that shit out. That’s what anyone with a brain would tell you. That’s reality you aren’t owed anyone’s time or energy. And you’re certain not going to get the desired response if this is how you speak to women. If you have issues with women maybe you shouldn’t try to sleep with one til you figure that out. Most women are just vibing we aren’t gonna give time to someone that’s killing the v… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/12/23 11:36 PM |
| – | If muscles dont matter for women why are strippers/exotic dancers muscularNo one is insisting you participate king ❤️ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/12/23 11:26 PM |
| – | If muscles dont matter for women why are strippers/exotic dancers muscularYeah you kinda can’t talk about male exotic dancers without talking about gay men tbh. That’s why all of the “showtime showtime” pole dancers are in the subways and not in clubs they don’t want to perform for gay people but they won’t make as much just sticking to het bars so they have to busk | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/12/23 11:25 PM |
| 1 | If muscles dont matter for women why are strippers/exotic dancers muscularWe don’t experience lust for men the way they do for us. We express sexuality differently. That’s why a lot of the stuff I see on here is pretty incorrect they’re trying to filter women’s sexual preferences and behaviors through the lens of men’s sexual behaviors and we’re just straight up express lust/sexual desire differently and what triggers those desires is different | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/12/23 11:21 PM |
| 7 | A man who's sexually inexperienced is not a "red flag"*nopills girlie* It's not that it's a red flag or that they're scared of "looking bad". It's that most people don't want the responsibility of taking someone's virginity. There's a lot of emotional baggage and intimacy that comes from your first time and I think it's totally rational that many people wouldn't want to take on that responsibility if they're dating casually. Most people aren't open to that level of intimacy early in a relationship but they also might not want to wait to have sex. P… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/12/23 09:24 PM |
| -1 | There's a night and day difference in how Reddit treats men's sex life issues vs. women's.Nah women would love to teach men. They get hella defensive and kill the vibe. But if you're one of these guys all of this information is online. You don't need experience you need a general idea of our anatomy and the willingness to put in the effort. I have absolutely met up with men again that didn't quite get me there but put in enough effort to communicate that we would get there eventually. It's harder for women to climax than it is for men, so if you want to have an equally satisfying exp… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/12/23 06:34 PM |
| – | If muscles dont matter for women why are strippers/exotic dancers muscular*nopills girlie* Hi I'm a drag artist in the nightlife scene that works with a ton of burlesque and exotic dancers. In burlesque/performance art/pole dancing spaces there's significantly more body diversity for both genders of performer. There are whole evenings and shows dedicated to plus-size exotic dancers and these are at a plethora of venues but higher-end and artists of all body-sizes are able to find work at exclusive venues the same way super fit performers can*ie Paradise Club/House of … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/12/23 06:25 PM |
| 6 | There's a night and day difference in how Reddit treats men's sex life issues vs. women's.nopillsgirlie I’m so glad you said it bc that’s the actual truth. So many men are like “we need sex” women are like “I want to cum if I’m having sex” a lot of guys can’t deliver, get defensive and totally kill the vibe or act like you’re being insane for wanting to climax during sex. If you’re skipping FP I don’t feel bad for you. Because the guys who make an effort aren’t treated this way. The guys who don’t 🤷♀️ Meanwhile every resource you need to figure out how to “be good in bed” is online … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/12/23 04:08 PM |
| 1 | Wh do some people feel so desperate to not be a virgin especially under 20Hi there so it definitely WAS my roommate, they weren't full on BP or anything but they were definitely one of these people that wasn't willing to do anything to improve their prospects. I do think it's important to note that I used gender neutral pronouns in this post because at the time my then roommate (in addition to all of this) was having gender identity issues but for all intents and purposes still presented as a typical cis-male. I think this was part of why they ended up waiting so long… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/12/23 02:00 PM |
| – | Its ok for men to have preferences, but its not ok to belittle someonenopillsgirlie The thing is i always match energy I think a lot of these guys don’t know how they come across. Like if your approach was rude or you’re rude to me I’m gonna be rude back. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/12/23 12:43 PM |
| 2 | Daily Community Chat Megathreadnopillsgirlie Nice dude congrats 🎂🎂🎂🎂 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/12/23 03:05 AM |
| 3 | Why do fathers react so differently to the idea of their daughters dating?nopillsgirlie Everyone needs to shaming eachother for if when and how they explore sexually (if they decide to at all) it’s asinine and does no one any favors. If you are uncomfortable with a sex act don’t do it. If you want to try something and can find a consenting partner go for it. As long as no one is doing their weird kink in your front yard like how does it affect you 🤷♀️ Use protection and chill out it’s legit not that serious | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/12/23 01:46 AM |
| 2 | Why do fathers react so differently to the idea of their daughters dating?nopillsgirlie Kinda shocked at the amount of Pearl clutching from the guys on this sub lmao | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/12/23 01:39 AM |
| – | Women Ages 25-30 that are still in the dating scene, has anything changed with how you approach dating?Be the guy I dated in highschool not the guy I dated in college and you can get whatever you want regardless ❤️❤️❤️❤️ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/12/23 11:00 PM |
| – | Women Ages 25-30 that are still in the dating scene, has anything changed with how you approach dating?I wish it wasn’t true 😩 I had a similar experience with an insecure guy.she’s not lying. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/12/23 10:54 PM |
| – | Women Ages 25-30 that are still in the dating scene, has anything changed with how you approach dating?EXACTLY they want you to be as miserable and insecure as they are 🤮 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/12/23 10:09 PM |
| – | Women Ages 25-30 that are still in the dating scene, has anything changed with how you approach dating?Literally they want a hot girl til they have one and realize that she is getting hit on constantly and isn't down to just hole up in their apartments indefinitely to avoid being seen by randos she isn't interested in anyway. Like I just remember feeling insane because he would legit leave our shared apartment to visit his parents for weeks at a time then come back and go "My shoes moved from the spot I left them in under our shared desk. Was someone here????" and.....like....did he think me invi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/12/23 09:28 PM |
| 2 | Wh do some people feel so desperate to not be a virgin especially under 20Yeah that was the heartbreaker was like the realization that this would be a lot easier if they just hired a SWer and got it out of the way (nothing wrong with SW not throwing shade) but obviously they’d rather it be with someone they care about. We assign a literal identity to not being sexually active so when you lose it it’s like you’re losing an identity(literally you’re not a virgin anymore) For a lot of women that’s “shameful” for men it’s like a Pat on the back. So women expect men to be … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/12/23 08:58 PM |
| – | Women Ages 25-30 that are still in the dating scene, has anything changed with how you approach dating?*nopillsgirlie* lmao don't listen to them, you're cooking. The hot guy wasn't constantly accusing me of cheating/policing what I was wearing/wasn't placing blame at my feet constantly/wasn't controlling/wasn't abusive/wasn't cutting me down in front of our friends/wasn't making jokes at my expense/wasn't punching holes in our walls and having level ten temper tantrums and was all in all better emotionally adjusted than the men you've described. That doesn't mean all guys that don't fit stereotyp… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/12/23 08:29 PM |
| 3 | International dating is generally good for men and a life changing positive event for the women they marry. Scholarly research - mostly by feminists -has repeatedly proved this. Lonely guys should consider it - particularly otherwise successful guys who are a bit socially awkward or shy with women.Even better may they find true love over there! Genuinely if there is a mutual love I'm not gonna get upset. I think it's only "immoral" when there are false intentions and false pretenses. As long as neither side is bullshitting the other. No one is being abusive and everyone is happy. Go have fun! I hope you both develop mutual appreciations and respect for eachothers cultures. I wish you the best lmao | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/12/23 07:25 PM |
| 1 | International dating is generally good for men and a life changing positive event for the women they marry. Scholarly research - mostly by feminists -has repeatedly proved this. Lonely guys should consider it - particularly otherwise successful guys who are a bit socially awkward or shy with women.Yeah like honestly if things have gotten this dire for them that they are literally seeking out a green card marriage or considering relocating so they can find a wife 🤷♀️ idk as long as no one is hurting children or animals and everyone’s cards are on the table like 🤷♀️ sounds mutually beneficial for them and less guys bugging out about girls here go have fun be nice to eachother. As long as everyone is happy and no one is getting abused like why should I care. At least this is taking action … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/12/23 07:14 PM |
| 1 | International dating is generally good for men and a life changing positive event for the women they marry. Scholarly research - mostly by feminists -has repeatedly proved this. Lonely guys should consider it - particularly otherwise successful guys who are a bit socially awkward or shy with women.nopills girlie I'm not opposed to these arrangements (ironically enough bc I watched a season of 90 Day Fiance) but I'm also aware that these relationships are transactional in a real real way, and as long as both parties are aware of this (and frankly it usually seems like they are) I don't see the harm. Poverty sucks and I get doing whatever you can to better your circumstances. I just wouldn't be shocked if the person from the other country bounces once they're a citizen and has been in the r… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/12/23 06:32 PM |
| – | In the west, there will be very minimal tolerance of bad sex for either gendernopills girlie The "don't count on a woman to teach you thing" is so real. Every time I've broached the "hey could you do this instead" the dude gets defensive and we don't want to hurt their feelings. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/12/23 06:06 PM |
| 2 | Wh do some people feel so desperate to not be a virgin especially under 20It’s so dicey (I lost mine at 20 so not that much sooner than you) bc I honestly get it I’m not with the person I lost it too but bc we were both virgins it wasn’t a super hard goodbye. I think if I was a virgin and someone slept with me and then broke up With me a few months after I would genuinely feel kinda weird about that in a way I didn’t when we both had the same amount of experience. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/12/23 06:01 PM |
| 1 | Why do so many men seem not to know how to hold a conversation? Has covid ruined men's ability to be able to stimulate a woman's mindYeah but again that’s a woman that’s dating you for your money. My partner pulls 6 figures and I didn’t know much about that until we’d been seeing eachother for a few weeks. He literally used to keep it from women bc he didn’t like feeling like that was why they were there (he described it as them immediately trying to get a commitment that they didn’t seem interested in before they found that out). I’m someone who makes their own money, obviously I want a partner who has a job but that’s more … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/12/23 05:48 PM |
| 3 | Wh do some people feel so desperate to not be a virgin especially under 20It sucks for both genders honestly. I think it’s something about the responsibility of being someone’s “first”. I will say in your situation they could have done all of that a lot more tactfully. Like my friend was atleast either getting ghosted or they said a version of my previous paragraph | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/12/23 05:39 PM |
| -2 | Why do so many men seem not to know how to hold a conversation? Has covid ruined men's ability to be able to stimulate a woman's mindLmao and think they’re slick like they haven’t been shouting about backhanded complimenting women since the 90s. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/12/23 05:36 PM |
| 3 | Wh do some people feel so desperate to not be a virgin especially under 20Here ya. I was only sharing bc I lived with someone who had a similar experience on the different side of the binary and figured it was relevant. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/12/23 05:34 PM |
| 7 | Why do men leave their sick wives?Nopills girlie Hi I've lost sleep over this stat and really appreciate this clarification. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/12/23 05:26 PM |
| 0 | Why do so many men seem not to know how to hold a conversation? Has covid ruined men's ability to be able to stimulate a woman's mindWhere'd you get that stat. All of the guys I "gave a chance to" are still single years later. They had plenty of attractive traits outside of physical appearance (that's why we dated). Consider that no one is special lmao people leave relationships because the relationship isn't working. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/12/23 05:19 PM |
| 0 | Why do so many men seem not to know how to hold a conversation? Has covid ruined men's ability to be able to stimulate a woman's mindIf a man wants a woman who's only interested in looks and money then yeah conversation won't be super important. But idk I fuck the guy that made me laugh harder everytime. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/12/23 05:18 PM |
| 1 | Why do so many men seem not to know how to hold a conversation? Has covid ruined men's ability to be able to stimulate a woman's mindAre these women in the room with us now? The tea is they probably prattled on bc they were just actually into you lmao. but if you're having to work this hard to strike up a conversation you should humor that she might just not be interested. Women aren't monoliths if someone doesn't like you, that doesn't mean the next girl won't. Idk I'm just disturbed by this weird headgame you're playing anytime you talk to women. Maybe consider it works on exactly the type of women that don't have alot of i… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/12/23 05:16 PM |
| 2 | Why do so many men seem not to know how to hold a conversation? Has covid ruined men's ability to be able to stimulate a woman's mindI did guys like you sit next to me at bars a lot lmao | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/12/23 04:38 PM |
| 0 | Why do so many men seem not to know how to hold a conversation? Has covid ruined men's ability to be able to stimulate a woman's mindIt kinda sounds like some of the women you’ve spoken with were intentionally short and vague with their responses bc they didn’t want to talk. Like if this is legit your worldview of women The “pay attention to me if I find you attractive” goes both ways. The conversation might feel dry and one sided bc she doesn’t want to chat. I’ve had plenty of meaningful conversations with strangers. But I’ve also given one word answers, been intentionally vague and have intentionally tried to make the conve… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/12/23 04:20 PM |
| 1 | Why do so many men seem not to know how to hold a conversation? Has covid ruined men's ability to be able to stimulate a woman's mindnopills girlie I love negging back it’s my fav thing to do. Uno reverse and they scramble | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/12/23 04:13 PM |
| 2 | Why do so many men seem not to know how to hold a conversation? Has covid ruined men's ability to be able to stimulate a woman's mindno pills just a girlie This really really isn’t a dig just an fyi bc I think if more men knew this we could dodge a lot of awkward encounters. If the interaction is taking place in person and you’re getting one word answers/no eye contact/no follow up questions she’s being dry on purpose bc she doesn’t want to chat. If it’s on a dating app idk why she swiped right maybe she’s just legit boring lmao | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/12/23 04:10 PM |
| 1 | Why men will judge your personality and character based on how you dress and act and why it makes complete rational sense to do so when choosing a 'wifey material' woman.eye roll I work with burlesque dancers and gogo dancers the works. The vast majority of them are in committed relationships a good portion are married some have kids. A lot of them are queer, in fact idk what type of outfit you’re picturing but in my experience the hot girls that wear the least are usually queer and aren’t interested in men anyway (so maybe this is like a covert biology working out moment). Their partners go to the shows, I know one couple that co-produces a burlesque/drag show … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/12/23 04:00 PM |
| 4 | Wh do some people feel so desperate to not be a virgin especially under 20This is absolutely a thing. It doesn’t necessarily make you an “incel” but it legit dashes your dating prospects. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/12/23 03:52 PM |
| 3 | Wh do some people feel so desperate to not be a virgin especially under 20no pills girlie Girls do it too when the roles are reversed from what I’ve observed (but the situation I witnessed was someone who was 27). | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/12/23 03:46 PM |
| 3 | Wh do some people feel so desperate to not be a virgin especially under 20nopills girlie whose tag doesn’t work So general preamble there’s nothing wrong with waiting blah blah blah. Personally I lost mine in a relationship to someone I cared very deeply about who was also a virgin at 20 and that was great I wouldn’t change anything about it. I firmly think high schoolers have no reason to be having sex (they’re going to anyway though so still give them condoms). And think that in general your early to mid 20s is probably an ideal time to lose it. NOW I’m gonna be sup… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/12/23 03:41 PM |
| – | Overweight Women are the True 10/10I’m literally an atheist and I’m begging you to go to church | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/12/23 06:16 AM |
| 2 | How do men and women do these chores?Yeah it’s legit not as pricey as people think my partner and I both have ADHD and are moving in together at the end of the year we plan on hiring a cleaning service for when our executive functioning stops functioning lmao | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/12/23 12:23 AM |
| 1 | Is it that bad for a virgin to have to practice?If you “smashed through enough sluts to know this is a lie” you’re also a slut lmao like what | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/12/23 09:59 PM |
| 1 | Is it that bad for a virgin to have to practice?no pills girl You get better at sex by having sex you can do this with many people or one person. Neither is better than the other and I wouldn’t make this like a major qualifier when you’re dating something. I know a ton of people who had hoe phases that remained loyal kind and lovely to the people in their life that they cared about. And I’ve met people immersed in hookup culture that are downright vile. I’ve also met people that are “waiting” who are super chill and kind and don’t make a thin… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/12/23 09:58 PM |
| 3 | Fundamentally the Red Pill is a yearning for control.Tea. You’re absolutely right. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/12/23 08:32 PM |
| 1 | Fundamentally the Red Pill is a yearning for control.no pills girlie Idk how to say this nicely but the ones yelling the loudest about “females” “promiscuity” and “wifey material” and “scantily clad women” aren’t getting any. Any dates, any sex any attention. It’s a lot of yelling about things they feel their owed or entitled to without doing any internal work on why those things aren’t coming as easily as they are to others. Bc as many guys under here that want to go “it’s bc I’m ugly” I guarantee 9 times out of 10 it’s more likely a behavior not… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/12/23 08:32 PM |
| 4 | To 35+F, what do you think of men 35+M who went on strike against you?Lmao me “monkey branching” 5 months after breaking up with a partner that regularly threw temper tantrums and punched holes in the wall. I never thought about it like this but it’s so true lmao. Anything but face accountability | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/12/23 07:49 PM |
| 0 | To 35+F, what do you think of men 35+M who went on strike against you?This is the tea I’m 28 and was told I wouldn’t deal with men being annoying as much BUT ALAS | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/12/23 07:47 PM |
| 1 | To 35+F, what do you think of men 35+M who went on strike against you?True | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/12/23 07:44 PM |
| 4 | Why men will judge your personality and character based on how you dress and act and why it makes complete rational sense to do so when choosing a 'wifey material' woman.no pills a girl whose tag doesn’t work Honestly guys who tout this rhetoric always seem to be the ones the “scantily clad” girls have no interest in dating or hanging out with anyway. You guys should buy some dolls to play with if you want to control how women dress Lmao | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/12/23 07:39 PM |
| 2 | How much do you think enforced sexual conduct affects men?no pills my tag doesn’t work Y’all care way too much about what people think. Anyone slutshaming either gender in 2023 is bad in bed, cant get laid, or is part of a religion that they can’t keep to themselves. Anyone hyper concerned that you’re queer is probably queer themselves and projecting or has just revealed that they’d be awful to you if you were queer (which if that’s the case fuck em). Move through life in a way that’s authentic to you and as long as you aren’t hurting anyone your peopl… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/12/23 07:30 PM |
| 4 | Why don't feminists just stick to dating male feminists?TEA I won’t date a conservative but they seem to be incredibly interested in dating me despite my open disdain for their worldview. Those are the ones that freak me out the most tbh. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/12/23 06:15 PM |
| 2 | Why don't feminists just stick to dating male feminists?Nah someone says red pill and I hear “lost cause”. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/12/23 06:13 PM |
| 3 | Why don't feminists just stick to dating male feminists?This is true ❤️ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/12/23 06:12 PM |
| 1 | this might be an unpopular opinion but dating the top 20% of men are overrated. Just get you an average man and live an average lifestyle. Dating the top 20% of men is not what its cracked up to beI think it’s fair to just point out that attraction varies but there is a media pushed “standard of attraction” for both genders. I think that’s what OP is referring to. My peak attraction for a guy is based more on how we vibe when we talk rather than physical appearance if I’m being totally real. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/12/23 04:43 PM |
| 1 | this might be an unpopular opinion but dating the top 20% of men are overrated. Just get you an average man and live an average lifestyle. Dating the top 20% of men is not what its cracked up to beI agree they’re so high maintenance, rarely that good in bed and can rarely meet your emotional needs. The one I dated was constantly insisting on paying for my shit then bringing it up whenever he fucked up. The tea is all they know is “work out make money” They aren’t actually that interesting or funny or smart and they are only with you because your hot.I’m not cut out for that shit give me a smart, charming, funny guy with a solid friend group and some fun hobbies that I’m compatible with . … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/12/23 04:38 PM |
| 3 | Is it the norm for woman to feel threatened by men in social settins in the US?I live in NY and sexual harassment is kind of just part of the daily routine. Any time you walk past a group of guys they say something threatening or crass. I had to change my morning walking route bc a group of men I passed who didn’t know I spoke Spanish kept talking about how they wanted to “take turns with me”. I’ve caught men following me home more than once and have had to navigate out of that several times. I left customer service roles bc if the kitchen staff wasn’t constantly saying we… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/12/23 04:16 PM |
| 1 | Is there a type of man that you would have fun with but not commit too?But we agree this is a standard based on physical appearance lmao. Which is wild for y’all to have if you’re openly copping to being “ugly” (I doubt you are but whatever) Idk it’s just fucking hysterical how y’all act like you aren’t more vapid when all I ever hear from red pillers are all of their ridiculous standards for weight/dress/appearance while OPENLY copping to not meeting those standards. Vapid | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/12/23 03:57 PM |
| 1 | Is there a type of man that you would have fun with but not commit too?You can control being ugly if y’all cared about skincare or shelled out for botox. You see how that sounds fucking stupid. May you one day lose control of your weight due to one of the plethora of reasons one might gain weight that can affect literally anyone so you can truly understand how asinine you sound. “I don’t have standards of physical attractiveness but no fatties bc they can control their weight” lmao Jesus fucking Christ. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/12/23 03:53 PM |
| 2 | What is an unpopular dating opinion you have about your gender?Truuuuuue | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/12/23 12:55 AM |
| 1 | What is an unpopular dating opinion you have about your gender?Eh disagree when I was single sometimes I just wanted to have sex. It really doesn’t have to be that serious | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/12/23 10:46 PM |
| 16 | What is an unpopular dating opinion you have about your gender?No pills Girlie If a guy is upfront about the fact that he isn't interested in a commitment before you've slept together you can't get upset when he doesn't commit. Being approached by men is great but you can't bitch about being single if you haven't approached men you're interested in. Aspiring to be a "stay at home" girlfriend without a wedding ring is a recipe for unhealthy dependency (god forbid the guy paying all of your bills is abusive) It's unrealistic to expect your boyfriend to cover … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/12/23 10:00 PM |
| 1 | Do you think people find you boring?No Pills Just a Girlie Boring is relative. I don't consider myself boring, but I'm definitely not for everyone. If someone doesn't like me I just move onto someone who will. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/12/23 09:52 PM |
| 1 | Is there a type of man that you would have fun with but not commit too?Lmao red pill exists because of vapid dating standards that Bc when men have dating requirements based solely on physical appearance that's because men are more "visual". Red pillers imply our "Peak" is solely based on physical appearance. When a handful of women that the majority of us roll our eyes at have similar standards for men there's always some guy in their replies yelling about how "OH BUT WE'RE MISOGYNIST?" while never copping to the fact that to the red pill values women solely for t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/12/23 08:20 PM |
| 8 | Is there a type of man that you would have fun with but not commit too?Yeah i didn't even want to go here and it only happened once or twice, but I used to ghost if there was no foreplay. Like immediate no contact. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/12/23 07:47 PM |
| 2 | Is there a type of man that you would have fun with but not commit too?Vapid people exist on all sides of the gender spectrum and none of us are exactly jazzed about them. Instead of taking offense the appropriate response would have been "Thank god I'm not hooking up with someone like her" | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/12/23 07:44 PM |
| 3 | Is there a type of man that you would have fun with but not commit too?Lmao the way he immediately proved your point with that fatphobic shit too. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/12/23 07:44 PM |
| 1 | Q4W: For those who have experienced this - why do males approach less nowadays?I answered the question "where is it appropriate to approach women". The more generalized answer to this question is "anywhere where strangers typically socialize and interact with one another.". It's fine if you're not into those spaces but that's where it's going to be easiest to approach a stranger. If you're just approaching women on public transit, in grocery stores or at these less traditional spots where people are normally doing their own thing in their own world obviously you're going t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/12/23 07:07 PM |
| 2 | Q4W: For those who have experienced this - why do males approach less nowadays?And women don’t get hassled when they don’t want to be 10/10 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/12/23 03:34 PM |
| 2 | Q4W: For those who have experienced this - why do males approach less nowadays?Be incredibly tactful or don’t drink in those spaces. I work in nightlife plenty of sober people and options. Most venues offer mocktails as for social media I’d genuinely recommend getting social media if you aren’t tactful (a lot of roles in the workforce require familiarity with SM platforms now) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/12/23 03:31 PM |
| 1 | Q4W: For those who have experienced this - why do males approach less nowadays?I’m v onboard with that. I think it would cut through a lot of the bullshit and the frustration | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/12/23 06:36 AM |
| 0 | Q4W: For those who have experienced this - why do males approach less nowadays?Yeah I’m one of those women that is going to go “please don’t approach me” when I’m going from point A to point B or mid task. I meet men when I want to and will plan accordingly when that’s my goal. I get why that’s annoying but like 🤷♀️ I have my own independent thing going on and I don’t want that attention. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/12/23 06:35 AM |
| 2 | Q4W: For those who have experienced this - why do males approach less nowadays?Actually yeah if that’s your vibe that could work. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/12/23 12:01 AM |
| 2 | Q4W: For those who have experienced this - why do males approach less nowadays?Bar/club/party/dating app/ a park/if you’re really charming a bookstore. I firmly think that if I’m at a club or at a bar I don’t need to be an asshole to guys who approach that I’m not interested in bc like bars and clubs are where people go to socialize with strangers. That doesn’t mean I’m going to go home with that guy but I’m not going to be a bitch. But if I’m giving off every possible social cue that I don’t want to talk I’m probably gonna be really rude either intentionally or unintentio… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/12/23 11:44 PM |
| 1 | Q4W: For those who have experienced this - why do males approach less nowadays?Wow your lived experience of being hit on mid-set/mid commute/ mid study break/mid lunch break/ while on a date with someone else definitely informed this | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/12/23 06:40 PM |
| 2 | Female Selectivity is Praised While Male Selectivity is ShamedIf more of y’all knew how to use your hands and mouths size wouldn’t be a concern but y’all aren’t ready for that one lmao 💁♀️ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/12/23 05:38 PM |
| 10 | Q4W: For those who have experienced this - why do males approach less nowadays?My friend has horror stories of men approaching her mid-squat lmao the gym in general is such a weird place to wanna meet a potential partner. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/12/23 05:30 PM |
| 2 | Female Selectivity is Praised While Male Selectivity is ShamedLiterally this sub is full of men who do nothing but dish it out and can’t take the lack of self-awareness is astounding | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/12/23 05:28 PM |
| 1 | what do women gain from being in a relationship with men if they’re seen as valueless after 25?Any 20 year old dating a 60 year old is conning the 60 year old or is about to realize how emotionally immature and pathetic a man (regardless of their wealth and status) can be. And that’s why all of this redpill shit is so goofy. Bc y’all legitimately think you’re holding all of the cards and that girl isn’t just smiling and nodding to get into your pockets. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/12/23 03:14 PM |
| 1 | what do women gain from being in a relationship with men if they’re seen as valueless after 25?Lmao that’s cool you have big pedo energy. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/12/23 03:10 PM |
| 5 | We cant expect women to care about the inequality in the sexual marketplace. Its just wishful thinking.I appreciate you not walking closely behind women at night dude. Seriously that's really considerate and I see you and appreciate you. None of this is about you specifically I'm pretty sure just from this comment you don't do this it just got me thinking. I think alot of the issue with "approaching women" is context. In my experience alot of men don't really give a lot of thought to time and place and what's happening in our lives. A lot of obvious social cues seem to go out the window for a lot… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/12/23 09:19 PM |
| 1 | We cant expect women to care about the inequality in the sexual marketplace. Its just wishful thinking.Nopills Just woman my tag doesn't work sorry y'all Idk how to say this nicely but the tea is half of you are trying to ball way out your league and aren't even good partners when you do get lucky because you only view us a means to sex. Women who only pursue money and looks get fucked over by douchebags with inflated egos who don't have any discernible personality beyond "hustle and bugatti" and discarded when they hit 25 or someone hotter comes along. Men who only pursue women younger than them… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/12/23 08:59 PM |
| 13 | what do women gain from being in a relationship with men if they’re seen as valueless after 25?No pills woman Lmao I just don’t waste time with men who think this, not when I was under 25 and definitely not now. Nothing was a bigger turnoff (for me atleast) than a guy who was older than me repeatedly saying shit like “You’re so young.” Over and over again. Big pedo energy tbh. Age gap relationships are fine as long as everyone is actually an adult (these decade plus relationships only really work/feel healthy when both parties are over 25) but if you’re like in your 40s grifting after a 2… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/12/23 04:28 PM |
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