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/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 01:04 AM
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Plot twist the people that make sex a religious sacred pact between two people that have to be married and bemoan anything they deem as “promiscuous” actually care and obsess about sex more than people that have sex with consenting partners when they feel like it
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/24 08:31 PM
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In “the eyes of Christ” it definitely doesn’t count. In fact “everything up to pnv” is biblically sodomy lmao CONGRATS ON 20 YEARS THOUGH ❤️❤️❤️❤️
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/24 08:02 PM
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Every couple I grew up with who “waited” got divorced or almost got divorced (3 of those were bc of affairs). Waiting til marriage to have sex doesn’t work in terms of guaranteeing a lasting union. You need to go through all of the honeymoon phases including the post coitus one and live together for a decent chunk of time and even then it might fall to shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/24 07:13 PM
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Lmao. Having a casual sex partner doesn’t mean you rely on that person. It’s literally the opposite. That’s why it’s casual. Been in an LTR for 2 years I don’t need partner. I love my partner. My partner doesn’t need me. He loves me. Forced dependency isn’t love. It’s transaction
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/24 02:20 PM
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“She finally chilled out and we don’t argue anymore” -someone who is going to be single in 6 weeks or less
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/24 02:15 PM
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Tbh if I’m ending it, it’s because I’m not attached anymore. I’m not a dude but in my experience a lot of guys think these little spats/ reoccurring arguments are just their partner “being annoying” but it’s actually much bigger to them than that. People lose feelings for their partner when that partner isn’t validating their feelings or taking them for granted. A lot of times girls will stick around to see if you change/if their feelings come back but it becomes apparent that the relationship i…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/24 02:13 PM
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You’re literally throwing a tantrum over freedoms women have won by feminism. Cry harder
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/24 01:58 PM
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Oh yeah. Literally met the love of my life a week later and 5 months later we made it official. I’ve never been happier. A week ago I realized that was probably his karma
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/24 01:57 PM
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When my ex did this we had a lengthy conversation. One of his friends called him out on it when we were all hanging out
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/24 01:54 PM
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I was also in school. The accommodations I was making to make his schooling easier he wasn’t returning. That’s where it got actually fucked up he’d go on and on about how “important” getting his Masters was and how he was “wasting it” but gave no regard or value towards the one I was pursuing and was a being disruptive during my classes and not changing his behavior after multiple conversations
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/24 07:25 PM
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I can actually for example; He needed me to get dressed in the living room bc I had to leave for work at 4 AM ✅ I somehow had to sneak those clothes back into our bedroom without waking him up bc he didn’t want clothes in the living room ✅ He needed me to mindful in case he needed the bathroom so didn’t want me to take baths bc those take a long time and use water ✅ He insisted on monopolizing the common area bc he was in grad school so when he had class I had to hide in the bedroom and only com…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/24 07:10 PM
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A lot of men think once they have a girlfriend they’ve checked a box and can stop trying. My ex didn’t go out with me, didn’t spend time with me, and was only concerned about his needs (that I accommodated) but scoffed and mocked mine. I felt like a fucking maid and not a partner, when I realized this was the dynamic he wanted I left that took a few months Previous relationship we got together and he ran hot when he was angry in a way I couldn’t tolerate (lot of yelling lot of mean things said) …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/24 06:46 PM
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YEP.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/24 06:13 PM
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We grieve while we’re still in the relationship that’s why the pattern looks like that
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/24 06:10 PM
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Self deprecation is such a lame form of humor that it’s frowned upon in comedian/comedy writing circles. Also self deprecate means “towards yourself” lmao he just said a mean thing about her body for no reason. That’s deprecating someone else. It’s just tactless I hope that dude learned his lesson
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/24 06:09 PM
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Lmao the way you described my “get over him immediately” strategy 😭 I feel seen
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/24 06:07 PM
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In my experience you have the same argument 30 times with no changed behavior. Wait around a bit longer to see if it’ll get better… it doesn’t. It gets worse. We stop arguing back/complaining bc we’ve accepted that you’re just like this. Sunken cost fallacy/we’ve been together so long let’s try to make it work. Eventually we check out completely. We realize we’re checked out and realize that this dude is a terrible partner and we don’t even like him anymore/the situation has become emotionally u…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/24 05:45 PM
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10/10
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/24 05:37 PM
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This is why being an active parent is vital tbh. He’s seeking bc he feels like his parents can’t or won’t help. It’s legit sad
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/24 04:51 PM
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What are these men actually doing to improve their prospects? Nothing. They’re mad that they don’t have the options their grandfathers did who (I’ll say it) were likely terrible partners 👍
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/24 02:25 PM
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Big eye roll. If you needed an oppressive societal structure to get married you weren’t supposed to get married.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/24 02:21 PM
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I agree but it starts at home. These kids probably had shit parents that weren’t monitoring their screens/giving them way to much freedom/ they’re seeking content that re-enforces the dynamics they’re seeing playing out in these homes. I know for a fact the suspension was the chosen method of discipline bc the parents weren’t hearing it/ picking up the phone/ were being incredibly dismissive of their kid’s behavior. Basically inconveniencing the parents so that maybe they’d actually idk hold the…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/24 01:55 PM
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Idk pretty sure if any woman dating you saw this post or posts like it on your phone you’d never hear from them again 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/24 08:12 PM
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Lmao I’m sorry women’s indifference toward you is giving you an existential crisis. Let’s go back to wiping our asses with leaves and dying of broken limbs bc then it’ll be easier for you to get laid
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/24 07:52 PM
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Don’t talk about my man Gomez like that
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/24 06:59 PM
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Genuinely. Half of these dudes just want a live in maid sex mommy. The temper tantrums are honestly funny at this point
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/24 06:57 PM
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Half the audience for those shows are literal middle schoolers. I was a teaching artist at a middle school for a while and we had a couple RP Tate kids. One of them was eventually suspended for calling a teacher a bottom bitch. The girls hated him. It’s sad to watch tbh these kids are ruining their prospects before they’ve even stepped into the real world. They’re making the next 5 years of their life miserable and all of the “fuck yous” probably re-enforces the misogyny.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/24 06:53 PM
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In many parts of the Middle East the Hijab is compulsory. Meaning they didn’t have a choice. Literally google is free
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/24 06:50 PM
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Hey fam do you know what an honor killing is?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/24 06:49 PM
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Teeeeeeeeeaaaaaaa
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/24 06:43 PM
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Lmao we don’t need them and they can’t handle it 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/24 06:41 PM
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Hi hey hi. So I’ve had my safety threatened by men more times than I can count. It’s been strangers and people I know. Granted I live in New York but this is like a monthly occurrence. Idk why men that aren’t violent struggle to acknowledge that we’re constantly being put in danger by the opposite sex and have to move through the world in a state of vigilance. Lmao sorry that makes approaching us “inconvenient”
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/24 06:20 PM
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I’m gonna answer the opposite bc this has low traction I grew up in one of those patriarchal “head of the household” Christian homes I’m a big fat heretic now. I go out of my way to avoid men that hold the same values and political beliefs as he did. My family sees me about once every two years because frankly outside of us “being related” we have nothing in common and there was a whole closet of skeletons I found out about after leaving home. Idk about swapped gender roles but the traditional m…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/24 06:07 PM
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When my grandma was on base she would go on a different date every night to avoid having to eat in the mess hall. She didn’t sleep with any of those men. They paid for her food. The entire time she was also chasing my grandpa. Y’all if anything it’s gotten better lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/24 04:14 PM
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I have never been slut shamed by someone I wanted to sleep with. People who have loud opinions about what consenting adults do with one another are unhappy with their own lives. You're welcome to wait, you're welcome to not date promiscuous people. It's weird to spend time loudly decrying people having safe sex with consenting adults lmao. It gives off big "I can't do this and am mad that other people can" energy.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/24 08:31 PM
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Love this. 10/10
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/24 08:09 PM
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It's all in how you communicate tbh. Even in the fifties women dated around until they were formally "pinned" to one dude. This idea that prior to feminism courting was easier/less transactional is a little naive (my grandma's army stories are INSANE lmao). When I was on dating apps I was looking for casual fun. If it turned into more, great, but I wasn't really banking on finding my boyfriend on an app lol. And most of the guys on apps aren't looking for girlfriends. So you have endless hookup …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/24 07:06 PM
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Did you have to look up how to spell that one?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/24 05:29 PM
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Bi woman here. Approaching women is intimidating. Women in general are easier partners than men are.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/24 05:26 PM
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Why are you interesting?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/24 03:39 PM
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Love how y'all romanticize your inability to come up with an actual joke that isn't rooted in harmful stereotypes. It's cute.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/24 02:32 PM
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You can believe that but you're going to fuck your life up if you make gross jokes about marginalized groups that you aren't a part of in front of the wrong people. I've seen people get fired over racist/sexist jokes. The dudes making them had already alienated their workplace .
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/24 01:23 PM
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All of the misogynists I've encountered are either conservative, Christian or both. Evangelicalism/Islam/certain sects of Judaism cast women as "less than" and call them to "submit to their husbands" while casting the blame for men's urges and actions onto women. A big phrase in the church I went to was "don't dress in a way that causes your brother to stumble" In action it becomes "Oh you were raped? Okay but were you dressed in a godly way, at a place where only godly things are happening" Bas…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/24 12:59 PM
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There aren't equivalent jokes to make. That's the difference. Men weren't lobotomized for being "hysterical" and there aren't places in the world where men are murdered for showing too much of their face. Punching up vs. punching down blah blah blah Rape jokes are gross regardless of gender.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/24 12:55 PM
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Every misandrist I've met is a rape or domestic violence survivor. Most misogynists usually give some story about getting cheated on /raised in a church/ had a terrible mother. But these dudes typically aren't as articulate about their experiences so I genuinely don't know (I'd be shocked if some of these dudes don't have legitimate trauma that they haven't processed).
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/24 08:56 PM
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It's probably all of the vaping.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/24 07:55 PM
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You can make whatever joke you want. But you can't control how they respond. You have freedom of speech not freedom of consequences. I personally stop talking to men who make sexist jokes. Fully have had conversations on dating apps. The dude dropped a rape joke. That dude never heard from me again.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/24 07:31 PM
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Im rude to people who are rude to me 👍 The rude women I have encountered across the board have been middle aged conservatives. It’s never been someone in a pussy hat yelling ra-ra “I’m a feminist”
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/24 03:05 PM
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Alternative hypothesis men lack self awareness and come off as rude constantly get deserved matched energy or confuse indifference for rudeness then come online and act like victims.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/24 10:10 PM
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Dude if that was me I’d rip this guy a new asshole and leave him with the check
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/24 10:05 PM
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I’m sorry lmao at this date did you tell her verbatim “I’m not romantically attracted to you?” Like a half hour in? Damn dude I’d leave too. Or was she the one who said that? Either way brutal.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/24 09:07 PM
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In what context are these women being mean to you? Like at your job as a customer service person? Is your girlfriend rude?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/24 09:03 PM
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I’m being so sincere men are so mean to eachother it makes me sad
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/24 02:46 PM
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Loneliness is on the rise because of the decimation of third places and an over saturation of technology that causes people to isolate. Romantic relationships are not the only type of interpersonal relationship you can have and the absence of one doesn't mean you're inherently lonely. A fear of being alone is an unfair reason to get into a relationship for both parties. Genuinely, "I'm not satisfied with my options" is enough of a reason to stay single. All you do when you settle is lose time yo…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/24 09:44 PM
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One of my friends on Grinder has shown me genuinely some of the meanest things I've ever read in my life that men who don't even have their face in their profile have sent them bc they weren't masc enough. The beauty standards in that community are unhinged
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/24 09:35 PM
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Bi-woman here, it's easier to date men, you literally no work, they come to you. Women are intimidating I get why y'all are stressed lol I have noticed that the women who do approach me are usually more masc presenting in how they dress.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/24 09:33 PM
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So we agree. Because most options are awful it's wise to decenter relationships and focus on other parts of your life rather than doom spiraling about dying alone. I've seen men's lives ruined for staying with women that were toxic bc they were scared of being single. Y'all aren't immune to this either. It is better to be single than to settle
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/24 09:27 PM
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Or just the general assumption that women are inherently terrible with money. All of the girls in my life that are high earners are legit STRUGGLING to find men in their income bracket, and apparently the ones who make less are weird about the fact that they earn more. Idk where they get this "women don't know how to set up a 401k/save and invest stuff "comes from.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/24 09:22 PM
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Peace and love but the payoff from dating most men is barely worth the risk. I was lucky enough to find the person I'm with now. I completely understand why more and more women are leaving men behind altogether. Sincerely it is better to be single than to settle.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/24 09:13 PM
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Alot of men who get bugged out by Me Too have done something that teeters into coercion or assault. And are realizing that they are not safe from getting canceled on smaller scale. I remember multiple dudes lowkey admitting that they'd pressured girls who repeatedly said no into sex and had no idea that this was coercion (which legally is a form of sexual assault). There's no other reason they'd be opposed to a movement that has benefited both men and women who have been negatively impacted by s…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/24 07:51 PM
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This is the actual pill they don't want to swallow lmao. Being single is exponentially better than settling.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/24 07:39 PM
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My partner and I have a friend from India who got an arranged marriage before he and his wife immigrated to the states. Fell apart about 2 years later and they got a divorce. They both weren't happy. They parted ways pretty amicably. They'd only done it to appease their families and once they had to actually sustain the marriage (in a different country no less) it didn't have legs. An arranged marriage doesn't magically eliminate marital problems and you can still end up divorced. If anything ma…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/24 05:08 PM
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College theatre isn't the real world.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/24 05:01 PM
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I vaguely knew the name, didn't know his team/position/prevalence within his community. I still often confuse him with Travis Scott (who I initially thought Taylor was dating) lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/24 04:59 PM
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Anecdotal but women who are abusive I've noticed aren't publicly disrespectful to men. Quite the opposite they're super controlling and are in it for validation. When the validation wears off they start yelling. The women I've encountered that were definitely abusive gave off more "obsessed with male validation" pick me energy. When the validation dried up they start picking the dude apart/being super controlling/cheating/being in general an unfaithful bad partner. My abuser's mother was a textb…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/24 08:09 PM
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Lmao I love how y'all immediately hop to debasing when you know you're big wrong. It's hysterical.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/24 08:00 PM
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Idk you tell me. Do you hate women? If so why? Some POC are wary around white people, some queer people are wary around straight people. Some women are wary around men. That wariness is a trauma response. Personally, I'm not a misandrist. But I am mean to men who behave and align with misogynistic views because ya know. I don't have to be nice to misogynists. Most men who loudly identify as misogynists that I've encountered, (peace and love) aren't victims of SA or DV. And overwhelmingly their b…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/24 07:54 PM
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The tea is there are plenty of kind, good, rational men out there. Many of whom are also struggling to date. It's terrifying the messaging that's being pushed on them.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/24 07:15 PM
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Loudly being misogynistic is indicative of a hatred of women. People who hate women are more likely to abuse them. Hope that clears it up.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/24 07:08 PM
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THIS is how you phrase the sentiment of "please be extra aware of warning signs when dating men" without sounding like a totally narcissistic sociopath moral posturing to abuse victims about how somehow their abuse is "their fault" actually and making someone's trauma about your inability to get laid. lmao THANK YOU for the tact
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/24 07:03 PM
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Women aren't neurotic weirdos who compare themselves to abusive women. We also don't rally around victim blaming men who fall victim to abuse. We don't center men's experience with domestic abuse around our inability to find companionship. Because doing that would be narcissistic. But I only ever hear about men's experience with DV when it's in the service of telling women to shut up about a man that abused them.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/24 06:57 PM
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You are putting words in my mouth. Men who show open disdain and malice for women by doing things such as : Blaming women victims of domestic abuse for things done to them by abusers (which this post does) are likely abusive. Treating and discussing DV like this in itself is indicative of a lack of empathy, lack of self awareness, lack of emotional intelligence, misplaced outrage, tendency to blame shift, self-centeredness, narcissism and in this instance misogyny. Truly the gall of a man that c…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/24 06:34 PM
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I did. Sounds like you should see one as well
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/24 04:15 PM
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Misandry is born out of bad experiences with men. Duh.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/24 04:15 PM
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People who blame victims of abuse for their abuse 9/10 are usually abusive themselves. Regardless it’s “does not deserve companionship behavior”
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/24 04:14 PM
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So two years is too soon? Lmao why are you defending abusers.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/24 03:36 PM
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I swear they keep up the facade for as long as they can then the mask slips. In their minds they probably think they're just being "what she wants" or "Putting their best foot forward". But you can't sustain a totally different persona and those habits eventually come out. Dudes forget that abusers don’t set out to be abusive/don’t intentionally get abusive. These are hella entitled dudes that are a little fucked in the head with no issues being malicious or vengeful and are able to find a way t…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/24 03:02 PM
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Blaming victims of either gender for abuse they suffered at the hands of someone else is indicative of abusive tendencies.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/24 02:55 PM
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See this is a good faith argument. I agree with some of it. But the things you’re describing don’t typically start happening until you’ve been in the relationship for a WHILE. Sunken cost fallacy fully kept one of my friends in a DV relationship for way longer than it should have. You don’t see the misogyny until you’re in too deep/until the dude can’t keep up the charade anymore and the mask slips. Genuinely peace and love to everyone but if you’ve never been in this relationship you have no id…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/24 02:53 PM
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Genuinely, if anything guys with abusive tendencies are now willingly self-identifying before you ever meet IRL. I used to screen out conservatives if I was back on these apps I’d probably have to screen for RP/Incel ish
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/24 02:41 PM
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So no. Cool you’re talking out your ass rn. Get a grip, learn some empathy and if you can’t even manage that don’t engage with topics you’re clearly clueless about
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/24 02:40 PM
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My duck was 5’6” abusers aren’t a specific height.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/24 03:57 AM
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I live in NY and worked in the arts for most of my adult life and I’m just convinced none of these guys have been exposed to any sex positive communities
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/24 03:56 AM
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I’m not ignoring the ones you’re putting up rn weirdo
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/24 03:51 AM
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I really think you don’t need to be concerned until like 24/25. Even then I don’t think you’re done for.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/24 03:09 AM
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It takes a special kind of stupid to go “I’m low value” and act like you don’t carry that energy into interactions lol. High value male Low value male Rhetoric created by men to rate each other 👍
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/24 02:52 AM
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You’re a misogynist bc you’re blaming victims of abuse for the abuse they endured. If this post was about men being abused by women you’d be maybe a misandrist but more likely just a POS ❤️
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/24 02:43 AM
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I’m directing it at you because I have encountered two female abusers in my life. Why is it I only hear about women abusers when we’re discussing men abusing women? Why aren’t men advocating against the abuse they suffer at the hands of women? Why aren’t you mobilizing the way women do? Why are you tolerating the pervasive issue of domestic abuse which affects every demographic not just women? WHY do I only ever hear about men’s experience with abuse in the context of diminishing women discussin…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/24 02:42 AM
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These are not good faith conversations. It’s bitching about “men who beat women get laid why can’t I??” 🥲🥲🥲🥲🥲🥲🥲🥲🥲🥲🥲🥲🥲🥲🥲🥲🥲 Followed quickly by “if you weren’t so fucking shallow” If I were to use physical attributes to determine if a man was abusive I’d have to avoid dad bod guys under 5’7” who are in grad school with minimum wage gigs. My abuser didn’t meet the “Chad” metric and wouldn’t you know it, those insecurities were part of the reason they were controlling and narcissistic. Abusers are m…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/24 02:33 AM
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Have you been in an abusive relationship? With a man or a woman? If you aren’t promoted at a job that isn’t appreciating you and in your rage you then you call the CEO a dumb bitch that needs to choose better you’ll get fired ❤️
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/24 02:24 AM
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“Low value” is a metric you’ve assigned yourselves. The fact that you can’t fathom why this post comes off as victim blaming condescension is all I need to hear. Don’t ask questions you don’t want the answer to 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/24 02:06 AM
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Do those “low value” men regard women as lesser than? Omg they do! I don’t care about their solitude then 👍
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/24 01:57 AM
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Women who openly disrespect men (usually but not always) have only had experiences with men who disrespect women But the cycle of abuse USUALLY goes you either get abused again or become an abuser. So jury is out either they’re abusive or they’re predisposed to fall into another abusive dynamic. Or they processed their trauma in a healthy way and are able to assess when a situation is going south
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/24 01:54 AM
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I’m saying that disrespecting women is an early indicator that you will be abusive.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/24 11:51 PM
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Those women were also Nazis and owned enslaved people. These examples are equal offenders.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/24 11:31 PM
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Are these socially awkward men using misogynistic rhetoric? They are! Omg then in addition to being socially awkward they're misogynists. THerefore, I don’t care
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/24 11:30 PM
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Misogyny is misogyny idc the root cause.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/24 10:22 PM
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Women shouldn’t either do this either. I’m not in their relationship I can say who is objectively the bigger deal by the fact that people who aren’t into sports know who Simone is bc of how prolific her accomplishments are. Idk what position Jonathan even plays lmao What Jonathan did is cringe bc he went out of his way to diminish and compare himself to her. That’s yikes no matter who you are. It’s cringe bc his wife is a celebrity with international fame and i didn’t know who Jonathan was until…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/24 09:34 PM
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Yes I do they’re Olympic athletes. But I know who Simone Biles is bc she’s one of the best in the world and definitely the best in the country. Idk who Jonathan is
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/24 09:27 PM
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Lmao *Kelsey my b. Where is this status gap trivialization happening? Give examples.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/24 09:26 PM
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Okay? I know who Simone Biles is I didn’t know Jonathan was an athlete until this post. It’s honestly cleared things up for me a lil bit I fully thought this random regular degular dude that was married to Biles got on a podcast and was all “I’m the prize not my Olympic medal winning wife” It makes him come off a little less delulu
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/24 09:15 PM
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Just stating that I do not know who Jonathan is I know who Simone is. Atleast with the Travis Scott I knew he was a football player that was a “big deal”. I have NO IDEA who Jonathan is
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/24 09:08 PM
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I mean I don’t think identifying who “the prize” is in your relationship is healthy or indicative of a good relationship. My partner is the prize to me in our relationship but if you ask him I’m the prize in our relationship. We both feel lucky to be with eachother we are both “the prize”. You can value yourself and think highly of yourself without diminishing your partner is what I’m saying. Who tf gets on air and acts like your partner who you presumably love and respect is “lucky” to be with …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/24 09:07 PM
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I mean genuinely they think it’s superficial shit but it’s their complete disdain for women. Abusers don’t think they’re abusive as displayed by men bemoaning loudly how lowly and worthless women are while simultaneously wondering why no one will sleep with them. Delusional
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/24 08:56 PM
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I am pretty anti sports. I know who Simone Biles is. I didn’t know she was married until that “scandal” I didn’t know her husband was an NFL player until this post. Jonathan (I’m not even bothering to scroll up to see his last name) shouldn’t be comparing who “the prize” is you should be eachother’s prizes and not comparing which partner is better. But let’s be so forreal rn acting like Simone Biles isn’t more beloved in the cultural consciousness is delulu.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/24 08:53 PM
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Jfc y’all have earned the loneliness predicament you’re in.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/24 08:40 PM
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Idk how to say this nicely but from the way some of y’all conduct yourselves and speak about women on this sub you also have no redeemable qualities and would probably be lowkey abusive if in a relationship. This feels v pot calling the kettle black accept atleast the pot is cute and was able to mask his abusive tendencies
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/24 08:31 PM
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They switch it up about a year in or when you move in together.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/24 08:29 PM
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I have no idea who Jonathan Owens is. I know who Simone Biles is.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/24 08:29 PM
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Bc typically the guys hurting the most are the ones who hate sex workers and don’t want to solicit them. Also idk don’t be a manipulative piece of shit. Men who do this get off to manipulating someone. It’s what gave y’all this rep with most women in the first place. You don’t need sex you don’t need to lie about your intentions to get sex. Someone who “needs” to do that probably shouldn’t be having sex
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/24 08:06 PM
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Yeah. I agree. That doesn’t “fix” dating though.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/24 07:47 PM
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I think sex work should be decriminalized but idk if it’s going to fix dating lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/24 04:06 PM
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There isn’t anything wrong with being honest about attraction. You’re fucked in the head if you’re body shaming your partner less than a year after giving birth. How are you not understanding that distinction? Are you this dense? How’s your love life going? Do they know about these views?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/24 04:05 PM
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Not all men are struggling to date. They are. They have to blame women otherwise they’d have to actually measure themselves up next to their counterparts who (shocker) are able to get laid despite not necessarily being 6 ft., uber wealthy or hyper jacked. The actual cause would take too much introspection for them and would leave them with some uncomfy truths that they aren’t willing to face.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/24 02:09 PM
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Cool don’t reproduce. I know for a fact your lazy ass isn’t helping with any of the actual child rearing.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/24 02:02 PM
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Don’t reproduce.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/24 12:20 PM
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Love NYC. Love it. Met the Love of my life here. If you have a falling out you never have to see that person again. There are infinitely more options for men and women. I've honestly not experienced what everyone else is complaining about but I'm a very "go with the flow, I'm focusing on my garden" type of person, I also really avoided the "finance bro" guys. I've had pretty marginal issues with dating men from NYC overall. *with a couple of fringe narcs from Jersey lol* If you can roll with the…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/24 09:48 PM
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Was this your whole argument? They’re spot on.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/24 09:12 PM
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Do you have virgins lining up to date you? Just curious. Bc everything in your post is indicative of being an inadequate partner. The massive leaps in logic and false equivalencies, reducing an entire gender to a monolith, making sexist generalizations left and right lmao. Any woman with a brain in her head would leave you and it would have to do with your shit worldview not your lack of self-improvement. All of this gives future absentee father disowned by his children energy.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/24 08:17 PM
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So don’t get married? You’re coming to the same conclusion feminists did like 4 decades ago lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/24 06:11 PM
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If you’re struggling to find companionship regardless of gender you probably should focus on self-improving so you don’t get caught in a “no one loves me” doom spiral and are actually using your energy and efforts in a constructive manner without obsessing over singledom. It’s all well and good to have preferences and you’re welcome to hold out for your ideal but if you have like 0 prospects, personally, I’d re-examine your preferences. (Or live a fulfilled life as a single person that’s also an…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/24 06:05 PM
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Be funny. Go to places where people traditionally go to meet and socialize with strangers (bars/clubs/parties). Approach immediately don’t leer. Don’t get attached to one woman especially if there are multiple at the venue. Be clear with your intentions and relaxed about the outcome. Use protection be comfortable with rejection🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/24 05:42 PM
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Lmao genuinely they don’t know what to do when the script is flipped it’s hysterical
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/24 05:01 PM
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I mean genuinely then they get in their feelings about it a month later and suddenly they’ve “never met anyone like you” lmao no they just aren’t used to the role reversal and are confused as to why you aren’t chasing them. Genuinely this idea that all women only want commitment is a myth.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/24 03:53 PM
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You will never catch me being kind to misogynists. They’ve built the reality they live in I don’t owe kindness to people like that ❤️
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/24 03:50 PM
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From Louisiana originally, this is TAME for Mardi Gras which is in itself a state nestled in the Bible Belt ( a portion of these women probably are conservative). Literally they cannot handle a party thrown in a rural part of a red state lmao that’s actually fucking hysterical. A question they should ask is “would these women want me?” Which the answer is honestly probably not. It provoked this reaction for the same reason those men bitch about everything. “woman having fun is bad bc no want fun…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/24 08:12 PM
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If that bad woman was abusive she deserves the hurt. Cheating is wrong but if you aren’t cherishing your partner someone else will plain and simple. I met my current partner a week earlier we didn’t DM eachother I don’t think we were even following eachother on social media. That’s how fast it happens. Firmly believe my situation shook out the way it did as a karmic punishment for my ex
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/24 05:35 PM
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Baby you should get yourself a sugar mama and call it a day 👍
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/24 03:57 PM
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Every time I was in this situation it was with someone I also didn’t want to date. I need y’all to internalize that sometimes women also want casual sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/24 03:43 PM
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I work in entertainment and am still a nightlife performer (with a day job). I went to a performing arts highschool and then a very liberal arts college. I’m also bisexual lol and I do think queer people kind of find eachother So even though I grew up in the Bible Belt I’ve kind of always been around queer people lol. Since moving to Brooklyn the majority of my friends are somewhere on the queer spectrum
/r/PurplePillDebate29/02/24 10:53 PM
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Honestly all of my friends are girls gay or my current partner lol. Try to make friends with bi women maybe?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/02/24 10:33 PM
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Hard agree. I’m always sus of the dude when they start doing the whole “she moved on immediately” My brain always goes to “what thing did you keep doing or not doing that you’d had numerous arguments about with no changed behavior” the weirdest part about my breakup was when he went “When did you stop loving me?” And genuinely with a straight face I had to tell him it was when he punched a hole in the door of our sublet after calling me a stupid bitch bc someone stole his package out of our lobb…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/02/24 10:31 PM
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I’m in NY and I’ve definitely heard that stereotype before
/r/PurplePillDebate29/02/24 09:44 PM
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Lol minus Australia we have incredibly similar backstories. I left my abuser and within a week hooked up with someone else to guarantee to myself I wouldn’t go back (this is a strategy many women use not just me lmao). I hooked up with my then roommate’s friend and it was supposed to be a casual one time thing that just kept happening and since he was a friend to the apartment he was always around and we pretty much were dating lol I didn’t mind he was super chill and we were super compatible. I…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/02/24 09:38 PM
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I have been intimate with men that had been intimate with men. Idk if you’re only pursuing conservative women or if that’s all who is in your circle but I don’t know anyone who has this as a dealbreaker. It’s legit never come up lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate29/02/24 09:09 PM
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😂
/r/PurplePillDebate29/02/24 04:24 PM
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This one got me 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate29/02/24 04:23 PM
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Many bisexual women end up with men because that’s who approaches us more frequently. Women have many of the same hangups and challenges with approaching other women as men do. Meanwhile men throw themselves at us lol. Many of the bi men in my life have girlfriends. I’ve literally dated bi men. Being bisexual for me wasn’t a healing process I was aware I was queer before I’d been with men I’ve always had a sexual attraction to both genders. Implying women biologically only end up with men and us…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/02/24 04:18 PM
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The study you’re referencing was on queer women’s experiences with domestic abuse. That isn’t exclusive to queer relationships that includes past heterosexual relationships, abusive family members as well as within queer relationships etc. etc. y’all tout this study out constantly and someone always comes in with that exact retort. Please link it bc if you’re referring to the study I’m thinking of you’re misrepresenting the data. Domestic abuse exists in any relationship spectrum including in qu…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/02/24 04:14 PM
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Lmao biphobic. You’re actually an example of the homophobic things I encountered while dating women. Weird pathetic crusty dudes that can’t find the clit and are mad that a woman they don’t know has found a partner who can. Still desire women also desire men. Expressing otherwise minimizes, objectifies and diminishes the women I’ve been with (most of whom were lovely it just didn’t work long term) Wild to deal with biphobic rhetoric from a bi dude❤️
/r/PurplePillDebate29/02/24 03:41 PM
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Bisexual here dated both genders, life partner will likely be the man I’m with now. Both dynamics come with their own cultural expectations and unique set of issues. I agree with you though. I’ve had some shitty girlfriends but they don’t begin to compare to how shitty the men I’ve dumped are. Atleast in queer relationships things feel egalitarian. Most of the issues I had while dating women were just homophobic people (and them trying to move in immediately lol) My current partner is the first …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/02/24 02:12 PM
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Wow that’s sad. Did you cry about it afterwards
/r/PurplePillDebate29/02/24 02:05 PM
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Why are you replying if you don’t care that I think jerking off to women in your life gives off worm energy?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/24 10:18 PM
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Look at you deciding to get offended again lmao. Go delete your browser history
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/24 09:12 PM
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Lmao I’m answering a question asked directly to women about what our beef is with this behavior. You’re getting triggered bc what I said struck a nerve. Do whatever you want dude idc but the behavior is repulsive 👍
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/24 09:06 PM
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It’d only be out of pity
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/24 09:04 PM
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Lmao “oh no my friend caught me jerking off to her Instagram and now she won’t talk to me I’m being abused”
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/24 09:03 PM
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THIS HAPPENED TO ME and it happened to me again a year later with a guidance counselor at my college. Both times I didn’t make a big stink (probably should’ve for that second dude but didn’t) I just was so disgusted by it that I just avoided them lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/24 08:59 PM
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They don’t understand it’s not a “how dare they” reaction It’s more of a “gross that’s so pathetic” lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/24 08:59 PM
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Exactly so rude by default. I’m in an LTR and I have no reason to be kind to men if this is how they spend their private time 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/24 08:58 PM
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So you’re choosing to be offended that I think men jerking off to women without their consent are pathetic and gross 🤷‍♀️ I’m not offended I’m repulsed there’s a difference lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/24 08:55 PM
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If you’re stupid enough to get caught you should probably be ostracized 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/24 08:34 PM
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I mean yeah that’s kind of what I’m saying. I think it’s disgusting. But I’m not a moron and know that men do it. If I find out specifically someone is doing that to me he’s p much dead to me. It’s not that I care it’s more of a “oh gross I’m going to avoid you from now on” This type of behavior to be frank is why some women are mean to men on-site now. Bc we know that y’all do this shit in your downtime and we aren’t into it and don’t want to deal with it lmao.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/24 08:32 PM
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Like you’re a pathetic loser that feels you deserve access to me. 🤷‍♀️ I’m not stupid I know how men behave with eachother and in private but that behavior is why I’m mean to men 👍
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/24 08:31 PM
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Cause some of you aren’t slick and we find out and then we have to contend with the reality that you want to fuck us directly. It’s uncomfortable
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/24 08:22 PM
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Honestly it’s so disgusting that they get off to the lack of consent part. There’s an entire industry of people willing to give you the green light. But being a creep is literally PART OF IT.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/24 07:57 PM
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Genuinely it’s pointless to curb any part of your appearance to either get or avoid attention from men. It literally makes no difference in how you’re treated if you try to curb it they find a way, if you aren’t on social media someone will take pics of you in public, in nations with modesty laws sexual violence is higher so 🤷‍♀️ I’m gonna walk around nipping under my tshirts lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/24 07:10 PM
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Genuinely pro this. Can’t remember the last time I’ve willingly worn a bra. Men cat call/approach regardless so 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/24 06:45 PM
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Genuinely pro this. Can’t remember the last time I’ve willingly worn a bra. Men cat call/approach regardless so 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/24 06:45 PM
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One time my guidance counselor from college liked a pic of me in a bikini from 3 years prior at 3 in the morning. Not certain why he was stalking my Facebook that far back but I can take a guess. I work in nightlife and have befriended a few OF girlies who across the board have said some version of “when I realized they were already jerking off to me I figured I might as well get paid”. I get that this is kind of inevitable and one of those things that most men who do it get away with bc they do…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/24 06:00 PM
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And that’s a more honest transaction lmao.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/24 02:51 AM
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I agree and I think that they would save EVERYONE a lot of time if they went that route but they typically hate sex workers. Lmao.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/24 01:30 AM
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They aren’t attractive enough to obtain casual sex so they try to buy it. Half the time they still won’t get it. That’s it that’s the whole reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/24 01:26 AM
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I completely agree. Girls who join at 18 have no idea what they’re getting themselves into. I’ve heard stories of producers showing up to parties and hanging around in places that high schoolers hang out with the intent of convincing high schoolers to enter porn. That’s why I’m an advocate for raising the age. I think there’s absolutely a way to ethically produce porn without victimizing girls barely out of high school and I think regulation is the move. These sets should honestly be treated lik…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/24 07:14 PM
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If you’re anti OF though you should also be anti-porn in general. OF content is more ethically produced than pornography that comes out of a production house in LA/Florida/ the Northeast. Like just so you’re aware the porn industry in its current form is exploitative in ways beyond just “young girls making a reckless decision and changing the trajectory of their lives”. Performers are often signed with managers that take advantage of them and push them into scenes and acts they said they wouldn’…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/24 05:52 PM
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You shouldn't be able to enter any facet of the adult film industry until you're atleast 21 (I'd even push for 25). It's creepy that grown men are trying to date girls still in high school.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/24 07:47 PM
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I have one of those ugly duckling origin stories lmao. My bullies backed off by the time I was in high school when they realized my insults were meaner.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/24 06:55 PM
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You’ll get divorced again if you don’t examine what happened. No one leaves just cause dude I’m sorry.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/24 06:21 PM
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Dated a guy like this and have a similar trauma response hyper vigilance is a bitch sorry you’re dealing with that.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/24 06:20 PM
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I have never compared myself to a partner in that way. My partner is a baddie. Great job (that he shines in), funny, smart, great chef, incredible writer, amazing mediator all in all the best person to have in most rooms. Love how he shines. That doesn’t make me insecure bc I’m also a baddie. And my partner loves how I shine. Why would I trade in my awesome partner for some mid person due to weird insecurities about “BuT WHo SeTtlEd FOr WhO” Comparison is the death of joy 💕 if you have a partner…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/24 06:13 PM
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OP was addressing women initiating divorce not men. The reason for leaving isn’t an “excuse” that’s dismissive. You’ll figure this out when you deal with divorce don’t worry ❤️
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/24 05:29 PM
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See you’re doing it now 💕 Anyone with this reaction is likely going to have a cycle of relationships that fail or fall apart for similar reasons while never realizing they’re the problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/24 04:55 PM
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9 times out of 10 the dude gets upset and claims it was for no reason. But if you talk to the exwife there was usually controlling behavior/ lack of emotional support/ lack of appreciation/addiction issues/misaligned long term goals/adultery etc. Truth is after marriage people change, life happens, sometimes you didn’t actually marry the person you thought you did Divorced for “no reason” is more of a rallying cry for people that can’t face accountability for their past behavior or look at their…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/24 04:25 PM
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And you don't care about women. See how that works? Men need to handle men's problems in terms of social change the same way women have. It is asinine to demand women care about a subset of men that openly hates and expresses contempt for them lmao.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/24 08:30 PM
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All of those podcasts where men bring on Only Fans models and berate them for hours are not run and produced by incels. Red pill influencers intentionally distance themselves from that community because they wouldn't make money if they let loose that they can't get laid.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/24 08:30 PM
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This post is not about incels. Most incels are black pill not red. Red pillers have typically not given up on dating all together and are not doing the whole Lie Down and Rot thing. Regardless of what "your opinion" on the red pill is the fact is that the abusive assholes amongst you taint the public perception of the movement. He isn't "not redpill" bc his behavior makes you uncomfortable he identifies and vocalizes that RP is his worldview he also is an abuser. If that makes you uncomfortable …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/24 08:27 PM
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If RP was just advocating for male suicide prevention and decentering relationships with women by focusing on their health, lifestyle and career I'd be into it. But it's tainted by misogyny and all of their frontmen are just rage baiting clowns profiting off of vulnerable people looking to improve their prospects/blame an entire group of people for their problems so bummer.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/24 08:19 PM
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Andrew Tate identifies with Red Pill. He's not an incel. Incels from my understanding typically identify with black pill with the aligning consensus being women=evil lmao. No sweat off my back either way. Most of these gripes are just Darwin Darwining. Y'all have fun though
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/24 08:13 PM
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My friend dated a guy into RP before it “blew up” in like 2019. One day he sat them down in front of A YouTube video about it and was deeply serious. She didn’t tell me til after bc she was embarrassed that she stayed with him. But guess what else I found out after they broke up??? He was physically abusive, dumped her, then scrambled to get back together her (presumably bc no one else would want to date someone this volatile) and started stalking her when she said no. I saw screenshots dude was…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/24 08:02 PM
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Birth rates are lower bc we can’t afford children stop touting that as a failure of modern dating. It’s a structural failure spearheaded by a skyrocketed cost of living/lack of paternity & maternity leave/ and stagnated wages. Technology has increased isolation Marriage isn’t a pass or fail not everyone wants to get married not everyone has to get married many women and men’s views on “what they want out of life” have changed and evolved most marriages we grew up around were miserable so people …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/24 02:01 PM
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I lost my v card at 20 that’s really not that far behind and had people tell me that was late. It’s not. 22 is fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/24 05:24 AM
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I mean not only this plenty of men are victims of SA/abuse and don’t realize bc it’s vocabulary only women are taught.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/24 12:02 AM
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We’d get raped more 👍 Next question
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/24 12:00 AM
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They also aren’t whiny and solve their own problems 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/24 08:36 PM
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I mean 🤷‍♀️ good for her.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/24 07:21 PM
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See my mid thirties boyfriend has all of the monetary success you’re describing and is also neurodivergent and doesn’t melt down like this when he doesn’t get his way. We aren’t talking about monetary gain we’re talking about getting a fucking grip lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/24 04:31 PM
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First photo dude was training to be a cop.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/24 04:24 PM
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Also true but in my experience there’s less “mothering” and in general less bullshit. I’m also in my late twenties so like it’s not as massive an age gap as it would be for say a 21 year old (which does make my eyebrows raise)
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/24 04:23 PM
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The real reason women tend to date older is bc younger guys display these behaviors enmasse tbh.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/24 02:21 PM
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I’m saying my friend is fat and has dated gym bros not hooked up with dated.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/24 02:14 PM
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Ew They’re plus size not slim thick thanks I know the difference Sorry that fat women aren’t perpetually alone idk what to tell you.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/24 01:34 PM
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I have dated 3 plus size men when I was at my thinnest. Those men (with the exception of 1 who ended up being a POS) were charming funny and thoughtful. I know plenty of women who date men that they’re objectively more attractive than so idk what to tell you lol you have to blame something else for your problems.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/24 01:33 PM
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Bet your ass I do. Under my clothes, guess what? I'm naked
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/24 03:53 AM
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Disagree. Women are still feminine when they age. Sexual experience isn't something you can sense. Guys that seek virgins are typically the ones that create the excess relationship baggage that y'all are complaining about. Speaking from experience
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/24 03:41 AM
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Idk I know people who've met their spouses on apps. it just varies from person to person.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/24 02:11 AM
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Hymen thing is accurate I tore mine in a dance class in highschool before I'd been kissed
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/24 01:09 AM
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In certain parts of the world having sex outside of marriage as a woman (whether rape or consensual) can result in literal jail time. Through out history women's worth has been predicated on whether or not a man has previously touched her and in fact her worth detracted whenever a man touched her. There were real world tangible consequences around having sex before marriage that went well beyond "dudes are weird about women having sex" that applied only to women and not men. Meanwhile losing you…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/24 12:58 AM
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I think it's legit attraction tbh. All of my plus size straight friends have dated gym bros some point so I've definitely seen what you're talking about. Idk what/why that is though different strokes for different folks I guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/24 12:51 AM
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If an ex did me dirty he becomes "an ugly dude I gave a chance" regardless of what he looks like lmao you have to save face in these streets. Men do the same. At the end of relationships particularly messy ones you talk shit about your ex. That's the only time I've ever heard the "I gave an ugly guy a chance" said outloud to a group of people. I've never heard that said when things are going well. Idk what about any of this is ground breaking lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/24 11:45 PM
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I am rooting for your success dude. Y'all sound like a lovely couple
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/24 06:56 PM
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Eh. I think we're reckoning with the death of old gender dynamics and not everyone is on board yet. My partner and I help eachother navigate the world. He pulls through for me in specific areas that he's more experienced in like negotiating for higher pay in my current role/ interviewing for corporate roles. He sends me his creative projects and asks for input because I used to be a paid theatre critic and when he had a panic attack I taught him the grounding techniques that got me through the p…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/24 06:48 PM
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Genuinely and if there is an immediate turn off to "being religious" but you still hold women to standards that were set and enforced by religious institutions, then you actually just want to control women and are mad that you can't. Atleast old Christian white men believe with conviction that premarital sex will send them to hell (though they still partake lmao).
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/24 06:10 PM
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That's bc the waiting til marriage model doesn't actually work. This reflects exactly what I grew up with where by the time I was 22 all of the "Christian Marriages" I was encouraged to emulate as a model for my own future marriage had ended in divorce. The commonality I noted was adultery, with a few cases of DV/incredibly controlling behavior. Genuinely half the reason I no longer hold sex as this "big powerful special thing" is because you don't actually know someone well enough to marry them…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/24 05:56 PM
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Because many men don't want to conform to the same ideals they want for their "ideal partners". Actual religious women however will turn their nose up at things like porn consumption, promiscuity or the encouraging of it, drug use, depending on the religion alcohol use, specific media that is or isn't in accordance to their beliefs (I was banned from reading Harry Potter and watching anything that alluded to other gods lmao) and many (atleast in the church I grew up in) are waiting or claim to b…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/24 05:41 PM
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The question was about the net positive or negative for Women not men. That's the question I answered lmao.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/24 05:32 PM
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The actual solution that they have a million excuses for everytime
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/24 04:30 PM
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When I used online dating I wasn't trying to find a boyfriend I was bored and trying to find a quick fling (if it turned into more than that cool but that wasn't my goal_. Overall no bad experiences pretty easy way to meet people.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/24 02:31 PM
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lmao my stance is always if you get a paternity test you better pray your partner was actually cheating. Bc I know I'd be out if some dude did this to me after I'd carried his kid for 9 months. I'd take the kid and take him for all he was worth tbh.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/24 08:36 PM
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Tbh if I wanted to bash men I could just tell you stories from my personal life lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/24 08:23 PM
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Women are happier in healthy relationships. Staying in a toxic dynamic just cause you're scared of being single is harmful. I'm in a healthy relationship now and I've never been happier. The closest I've ever been to suicide was when I was with my ex. My suicidality/SH pretty much evaporated the moment he was out of the picture. Never regretted a hookup, never regretted the 5 year relationship gap I had. Deeply regretted the relationship I had with my ex. I'd stay single forever before being wit…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/24 08:20 PM
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I say it actually. But my partner actually does make me a better person.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/24 06:09 PM
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No. Never. Not once. Not one time. Genuinely I would give out no's on default. I'm just not in that headspace when I'm on transit/in a store/at work etc. Some girls are into that but it's a little off-putting to me because I wasn't seeking out that type of interaction. It's no harm no foul but I'm personally not a huge fan. Bar, club, party, apps were where I gave out my number. There are social settings where strangers are encouraged to mingle. So I pretty much only mingle there.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/24 05:52 PM
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FYI a lot of women diagnosed with BPD go on to be diagnosed with autism (with BPD being a misdiagnosis). It's happened to a couple of women in my life. Autism looks different in women than it does in men.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/24 05:46 PM
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They're scattered across the country and just don't talk about it tbh. Throuple is in New York. I know a Polycule in California I know a married poly couple (as in they each have their own girlfriends/boyfriends in addition to eachother) that live in Louisiana. My childhood best friend is in a married couple while also being in a polycule (as in they are all dating the same people) with their husband also from Louisiana. One of my friends from college is in a polycule in Melbourne Australia. The…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/24 05:23 PM
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I’d rather not have children then give my children a lesser quality life than what I have now. We live in a country with privatized healthcare. There is no incentive to have children in the US. You can literally go bankrupt just from giving birth. Daycare costs as much as most mortgages. Cost of living has skyrocketed wages have stagnated. No most of us probably won’t have children. Having kids without a safety net endangers children, growing up in poverty can be traumatizing. Most people are no…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/24 08:39 PM
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Tbh I never know how to politely say “you aren’t owed a partner” to these dudes. Like I know that’s mean but that’s literally the situation.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/24 07:08 PM
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I judge women that date redpill dudes. I think they’re moronic and lack self-esteem. Or she’s going to leave him when she finds out 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/24 07:04 PM
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I know a throuple currently raising a baby. My best friends are poly. They’re doing fine. I’m monogamous and in a relationship but I’ve done a version of what you described when I was in school and in my first few years into my career. It’s great being self-sufficient and only calling men when you want sex/are bored was a mutually beneficial dynamic that kept me focused on building my life without any dusty dude drama and allowed the dude to do like idk whatever. Moralizing these dynamics is jus…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/24 06:36 PM
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Literally “we have kids regardless of whether or not we can feed, house and educate them” Okay? That’s not a flex my guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/24 06:35 PM
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We aren’t having kids unless we can pretty much guarantee a good quality life. We currently can not. Hope this helped ❤️
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/24 06:34 PM
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No he’s kinda cooking here. I’ve had v rich men try to date/hookup / whatever with me but they were so socially inept/ so lowkey disrespectful/ so just incompatible with me that I passed. Money is awesome integrity is everything though lmao Guys think they crush when they basically bought a hot girl. I’ve almost been that hot girl and tbh I was clowning this dude the whole time and never met up IRL after our initial meeting. I’m sure girls have but ya know probably just for the money. Idk just F…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/24 05:12 AM
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“Just because you didn’t make a hole in the wall doesn’t mean your expression of behavior is better” That’s literally exactly what it means. When I get angry the cops aren’t called. No one has to hire a repair man. My expression of anger isn’t categorized as a form of domestic violence. The fact that men justify this behavior lmao y’all have built and earned the reality you live in. No one should have to tolerate a grown man having a toddler tier meltdown . Who calls these women “spicy”? If you …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/24 04:53 PM
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Tea. I had boyfriend that kept complaining bc I dressed “masculinely” at my job. As a barista. At a coffee shop. Lmao genuinely pressed bc I was constantly in jeans and a button down
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/24 04:32 PM
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Have you considered that these are women that you’re simply not compatible with? I abhor the way many men behave/act/move through the world. Look at me just not giving those men my number or going on dates with them
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/24 04:31 PM
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Destroying things or injuring others is not an affective way to handle your emotions. That’s not a healthy way to express anger, it’s dangerous. Men who behave this way deserve to be left. Women who behave this way deserve to be left. I do not do those things. Most women do not. Men however do it with such frequency that it’s becomes a stereotype. quit punching dry wall. That’s not an expression of anger it’s a temper tantrum in which an emotionally immature man child attempts to scare those aro…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/24 04:23 PM
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Be scary in front of a squad car and see what happens.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/24 03:35 PM
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“Men express emotions in the right way” Fam there’s a hole in the apartment door of the sublet I shared with my ex that would like to have a word with you. The hole in the desk that my father kicked in in my childhood bedroom has some thoughts. The shattered coffee mug that my friend’s ex broke on the back of their head definitely disagrees. I’ve met several well composed men that don’t behave like morons the moment they don’t get their way. (They’re usually in their 30s) The majority however th…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/24 03:30 PM
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Men like this never have to worry about divorce bc no one would dream of marrying them. Frankly so beyond help that you might as well just let him stomp his feet and let Darwinism have its way with him
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/24 02:28 PM
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Most women that are “on guard” aren’t interested in associating with any men in a romantic context. What you’re describing sounds like someone that didn’t feel like having a conversation with that person. Her motives or reasons for why aren’t your business.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/24 02:25 PM
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So I’d need to ask for their resume and inquire about the three year gap like it’s a job interview
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/24 10:37 PM
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I agree it’s a shame that so many men are domestic abusers 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/24 10:36 PM
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So you’re an expert how do I spot an ex con in my local dive on a Saturday.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/24 10:27 PM
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You only addressed the convict one. But I'll bite How many criminals do you know? What were their crimes? How long were they in for? Describe the physical attributes I should be on the lookout for? I personally have never hooked up with an ex-con and don't have anyone in my life who has served time. And apparently you're an expert so I'm begging please enlighten me.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/24 10:22 PM
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Aight let's get into it. SO if you're a convict you don't identify as a convict right away. You don't divulge that info to someone off the bat. If you have a history of DV you aren't going to volunteer that to a stranger. If you're a cheater you aren't going to tell that to a stranger. You usually don't find these things out until you're a few months then and some people *shocker* are morons who will overlook these things or justify their partner's past with a "he'd never do that to me" (he prob…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/24 10:16 PM
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I think it's a case by case basis. I think someone who can't be alone in susceptible to giving time and energy to relationships and friendships that aren't good for them because they're desperate for companionship. An ex-friend of mine has been in three toxic situations in a row because whether they'll admit it or not they don't know how to be single and will accept any companionship regardless of whether or not it's good for them or they're actually happy together. That becomes genuinely danger…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/24 09:55 PM
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Every time a friend has developed feelings for me we stopped being friends shortly after. It was very apparent I was only wanted in a relationship capacity and not as anything else. Which did make me feel gross when those "friends" distanced. It gave me this whole complex about people only wanting me for sex and it's a huge reason why I avoid having cis/het male friends that aren't already wifed up That's why people get grossed out by stuff like this. It's not that it's morally bad necessarily i…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/24 09:21 PM
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Idk my abuser was kind of an uggo if we're comparing him to "Chad" metrics. Shitty men typically don't have hangups around approaching and getting rejected. They are typically very clear with their intentions (or atleast pretend to be well enough to trick someone into going home with them). Frustration is relevant but if you aren't putting yourself out there as much as the "bad guys" then yeah you probably won't get laid as often
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/24 09:16 PM
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I'm bi. It's great. Next question.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/24 05:56 PM
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Idk what this has to do with anything I just said but people who are judgmental of other people’s sex lives are fucking losers. So if I meet a dude that describes a girl as “run through” I think he’s a fucking loser that can’t get any and is mad. I meet someone who describes someone who is inexperienced as an incel that person sucks in their own way. Those guys don’t deserve sex. If they happen upon it regardless good for them. But plenty of fucking losers don’t have problems getting laid.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/24 02:57 PM
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And then when they go “but that doesn’t make girls want me” I’m like THE POINT IS TO FIGURE OUT HOW TO NOT ATTACH YOUR WORTH TO THAT
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/24 04:19 PM
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Low self-esteem ❤️ I’m in a happier relationship now but one of my day jobs involves a ton of waiting on other people to get back to me so I end up on Reddit in the interim lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/24 04:18 PM
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Idk what you’re asking. If you have sex with a woman you have no interest in dating, knowing that the woman isn’t interested in something casual and wants to date you you’re a piece of shit. There are plenty of women who want/pursue no strings attached hookups. Leading someone on who doesn’t just because you can’t attract the former is piece of shit behavior.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/24 03:38 PM
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That's what also floors me about the rhetoric, the moment they let it rip any girl with a brain in her head is out the door. But a guy that is just clear in his intent, who has his shit together and is relaxed about the outcome of his approach/pursuit is honestly ideal. I was floored by how similar the actual "advice" was to things I'd told women in my own life to do to stop stressing about being single. IT SUCKS that it has misogynistic roots I think the bullet points of build a career, pick up…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/24 09:55 PM
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I think it’ll result in a clearer sense of purpose and happier relationships. Genuinely yes king, stack that bread, hit the gym, never settle.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/24 09:23 PM
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Decent men don’t blame victims. Decent men don’t become misogynists bc they’re rejected by women. They don’t blame women for things their abuser did to them. Men also aren’t able to tell automatically a good woman from bad. So many men end up being awful, and many women are waking up to the reality that a less than ideal partner is more of a hinderance than an asset. I’d rather be alone at forty than in an unhappy marriage. Many women have come to that perspective. They don’t want to get married…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/24 08:07 PM
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I’m down with the self improvement aspects of RP and their goal of decentering women/relationships from their lives. They lose me with the beta bucks, starter gf, degradation and misogyny though 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/24 07:54 PM
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It’s a bad thing. It’s getting someone to fuck you under false pretenses. It’s not like illegal but it is fucking sketchy at best
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/24 07:50 PM
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Oh I think I misunderstood on the first read my b. Yeah that’s probably a factor too. It also explains why plenty of the loud male feminists are kind of just white knighting with nail polish
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/24 07:33 PM
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If we're talking a life partnership/ LTR with no kids or marriage that sounds cool but you need to be upfront with that otherwise you're wasting people who want a family's time.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/24 07:23 PM
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LMAO. You're still doing it. Violent, belligerent, throwing a literal temper tantrum bc a woman online said "it's hard to trust men with women's advocacy bc half the time they're using feminism as a front to get laid". Literally to a T exhibiting the exact behavior that alienates women and pushes them into swearing off dating altogether. Donald Trump is an inaffective leader and his supporters are social piranhas (and Trump has a chance of not being eligible) . Incels are going to continue to li…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/24 07:18 PM
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Yeah I was legit pulling up these subs in a different tab lmao ya caught me
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/24 07:06 PM
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TEA.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/24 07:05 PM
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lmao is this supposed to make me sad. You aren't witty or clever you're just proving my point.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/24 07:00 PM
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They can but again. They have more options and are putting up with less from men. And a lot of men conduct themselves in a way that make them incompatible for companionship. As do women.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/24 06:06 PM
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Oh so we should date men who get online and mock DV survivors. You aren’t a prize either your rhetoric/conduct around these topics is also a massive dealbreaker for most women.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/24 06:00 PM
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I’m actually in a relationship with a great guy. On the heels of an abusive one. I took note of the traits and flags my abuser displayed and now I kick anyone to the curb that exhibits the slightest similarity👍 I feel bad for men who are struggling but I’m not going to behave like men who’ve gone full misogynist deserve companionship. And I’m not going to pretend that anyone is owed sex/a family/ a wife.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/24 05:57 PM
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Bc most of the issues that impact women are caused by men. The men that don’t contribute to these issues have difficulty acclimating to feminist spaces bc of scrutiny from feminists and it’s hard to tell apart good faith actors from bad ❤️
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/24 05:53 PM
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What do men bring to the table?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/24 05:51 PM
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Exhibit A ⬆️
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/24 05:50 PM
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What’s funny is many historians do think that one of the contributing factors of Hitl*r’s antisemitism was being dumped by a Jewish women who left him for a Jewish man so do with that what you will It’s absolutely batshit that with your full chest you go “yeah I hate women” And then are upset that women don’t like you. I’m a rape victim and DV survivor individual men have irreparably affected my life in a negative way and I’m still not a misandrist. I don’t have empathy for misogynists who’s hat…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/24 05:01 PM
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Idk dude value is subjective. I pretty much only have deal breakers not set standards based on height/income. Just a list of things I won’t tolerate/don’t gel with regardless of what the dude looks like/ does career wise.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/24 04:54 PM
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I’m bisexual and if my current relationship falls through that’s the plan 👍
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/24 04:51 PM
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All of the beauty standards they put on themselves are only aggressively sought after in the queer community so I mean 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/24 04:51 PM
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Boo lame. Not getting laid doesn’t justify being a misogynist. And a man who struggles to get laid turning into one as a result has no substance (or style bummer) Furthermore being single is better than being with a partner that isn’t exactly what you want. decenter romantic relationships then maybe you’d actually date someone your compatible with instead of wasting everyone’s time by committing to the first person that expresses a molecule of interest or developing an inferiority complex bc you…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/24 04:48 PM
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Exhibit A ⬆️
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/24 02:43 PM
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Nah but he had to take the train home when I dumped his ass
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/24 12:19 AM
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Yup
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/24 10:08 PM
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I mean what's frightening is any counter to RP has to come from men. They will not listen to us lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/24 09:37 PM
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Controlling conservative man mad that women wear crop tops. Truly my heart aches for your plight
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/24 09:01 PM
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Yeah I think when RP men realize that their self help gurus only care about profiting off of them and not them improving their lives the tide will begin to turn. I think the issue is we’ve identified the masculine traits from previous generations that were harmful now but we haven’t replaced them with anything aspirational. I can name like 20 female role models off the top of my head. I struggle to think of any male role models that are masculine and non problematic (Idk maybe Travis Kelce/Jason…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/24 08:55 PM
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It’s genuinely disheartening and is a huge reason why men don’t receive a lot of empathy from women. It’s tit for tat back and forth with nothing getting better for either. Idk how to explain this it’s just hard to align yourself with people that genuinely don’t care and even benefit from your oppression. And most men have shown they only care if they can get laid. It sucks.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/24 08:49 PM
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Yeah genuinely I think that without oppressive structures that kept women from basic human rights it’s kind of revealed that a significant portion of men don’t have a shot with most women when the field is leveled lol And men are pissed. And regardless of what RP says many of the things that discount these men are not shallow and have more to do with conduct/ worldview. A significant portion of women have de centered relationships altogether. I think that’s the disconnect too
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/24 08:33 PM
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Lmao never tell me about your sex life again plz I’m glad you’re searching for someone who aligns with your worldview. I’d suggest a doll, you can always control what they wear
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/24 07:48 PM
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Tbh I just genuinely think that too large a percentage of women will always have more options and aren’t opposed to remaining alone. Things that people used to try to shame us with aren’t shameful anymore. We aren’t tolerating what we watched our parents put up with. Good dudes are still out there, they’re harder to come by so women aren’t committing as much as they used to. It’s going to be a lot of stomping and a lot of lonely people. But I don’t think most women are going to budge tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/24 07:46 PM
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Yeah if I became single again I’d pack it in tbh. Too many nightmare dudes to Wade through now.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/24 07:43 PM
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Thank you ❤️❤️❤️
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/24 07:20 PM
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Pretty sure it’s a user from another day under a different account also trying to imply I’m fat. I work in entertainment so it’s hard not to compare yourself/get in your head about appearance but I “graduated” I still try to avoid scales to play it safe though
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/24 07:06 PM
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I didn’t assign virtue to either role. Being approached is annoying. Approaching people is annoying. But there’s limited dating strategies. If the shoe was on the other foot I genuinely believe less men would get approached and there would be less cold approaches in general.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/24 07:03 PM
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That’s honestly bc approaching in general more often times than not is an inconvenience not a compliment regardless of who is or isn’t doing the approaching. I think in general we just wouldn’t date around or sleep around as much bc most women don’t view dating as a numbers game the way many men do
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/24 06:31 PM
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Im recovering from an ED so I medically am happy and 💕not allowed to know💕 Did I strike a nerve? I’ll break protocol if you tell me how much your girlfriend weighs
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/24 06:26 PM
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The “scantily clad” women they’re upset at wouldnt glance their way if they lit themselves on fire so they place moral failings on people they can’t have. Have you noticed half the men making these posts immediately concede that they’re currently single lmao.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/24 05:58 PM
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Lmao. Listen to you? Are you her dad? Jesus dude
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/24 05:51 PM
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All of this for a hypothetical girlfriend. I dumped my last ex bc he had a constantly changing metric of how I “should be dressing”. Men are gross they come onto us no matter what. This is a guaranteed way to get dumped dude.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/24 05:43 PM
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Reread and try again lmao👍
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/24 05:22 PM
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They’re all over this sub lmao they aren’t proud of it they’ve sunk into victimhood and aren’t making active change bc they’ve tied their identity to this label.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/24 05:19 PM
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Incels gave themselves that label. I agree with you I think it’s largely self-inflicted and comes from a place of defeatist entitlement
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/24 05:13 PM
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Eh different strokes. I dumped my last boyfriend over controlling behavior when he started getting weird about me leaving the house in sleeveless tops. Being controlling over your hypothetical girlfriend bc of her perceived intentions of getting dressed up. Yikes my guy
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/24 05:12 PM
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It exists but it’s the failings of individual men not the entire gender.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/24 05:05 PM
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Hey fam so it’s context. Does she have headphones on? She probably doesn’t want to talk. Is this a social setting that welcomes interaction with strangers? Yes. Then fuck it go for it. Is she reading/working out/ mid task, probably not a good time to approach. The tea is if she isn’t attracted to you there’s little you can do in your approach to change her mind, if she doesn’t want to talk the conversation is going to feel dead or she’ll straight up reject you. Unless there’s a mutual attraction…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/24 05:03 PM
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So why do you care?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/24 04:31 PM
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Lmao this took me out
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/24 04:28 PM
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I agree if it shifted we’d only approach a small amount of men. When I was single I did approach men and women I was attracted to. We’d still have options by a large margin just more agency in when we choose to engage in these dynamics rather than constantly being thrown into them regardless of mood, desire or interest in whoever is initiating 👍
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/24 04:26 PM
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Idk why they care tbh. I never notice or care about what men are wearing. They can do everything but mind their own business than wonder why women are swearing them off in droves it’s embarrassing
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/24 04:12 PM
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Yeah when I worked in childcare it was a lot of leggings and sweaters
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/24 04:08 PM
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Tbh i just dress however I want to dress for whatever occasion without anyone in particular in mind. Again why do you care? Who are men dressing for?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/24 04:04 PM
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Tea it’s more of a “they sexualize everything we wear so I might as well wear what I want” than a “let me get sexy to attract men” thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/24 04:03 PM
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Yeah I completely agree.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/24 03:20 PM
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Bro I’m not from Korea I’m just telling you why Korea has a mass movement of women that would rather be alone than be with men. The way their society is structured caters to men at the cost of women and there’s not a ton of women as a result (literally many Korean parents aborted once they realized they were having a girls) so now there are less women for men to choose from. And the ones who are available don’t want to put up with the shit their moms did. The USA will follow suit if nothing chan…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/24 03:18 PM
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I’m currently in a super happy relationship with a man but he’s definitely a cut above the rest in terms of emotional intelligence. It’s more that the men I’ve regretted being in relationships with misrepresented their interests and long term goals to string me along (whether intentionally or unintentionally) when it came down to it they didn’t know what they wanted beyond “a hot girlfriend” as a box to check and then the effort/kindness just stopped once we were committed. Literally wasted my t…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/24 02:52 PM
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Tea. Women are opting out of participating in traditionally patriarchal roles expected of them such as being a wife. In a nation with gender norms that would be considered misogynistic by our standards I think refusing to take part in those roles is a pretty apt response.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/24 02:14 PM
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I agree I think as long as misogyny exists there’s always going to be beef. I think the way we’ve done relationships/courtship in the past hasn’t worked. I truly cannot make any positive examples of het marriages that haven’t turned into an utter shitshow (and I grew up in a very traditional red state suburb). My parents didn’t have a happy marriage, neither did their parents. And almost every marriage I grew up witnessing ended in divorce for a multitude of reasons (adultery, DV etc.) the model…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/24 02:09 PM
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100% they’ll do just that that’s why we must flee to the woods. Lest she capture us and drain our 401ks
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/24 04:34 AM
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Who said I was opposed to hookups. It’s just wild to expect women to anticipate a stranger wanting an interaction with them and getting upset bc they aren’t initiating an interaction.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/24 02:10 AM
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I’m obvious. For men I want to approach me
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/24 10:59 PM
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It’s all projection these were men I dated who were aware they were big but for whatever reason thought I couldn’t be lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/24 10:51 PM
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I wouldn’t date a single father for the same reasons. It’s more the “this is entirely hypothetical and sounds like the set up for Knives Out” that had me rolling
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/24 09:53 PM
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Lmao I don’t have a gut and don’t assign value to people’s size.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/24 09:51 PM
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Many Asian countries did a eugenics to get rid of most of the girls (no one ever mentions that there's literally less women in these places). They have significantly more patriarchal structures than we do in the US and their sexual violence/harassment stats are no joke. Their schools are also (atleast in Korea) largely separated by gender which means there's little socialization between the sexes at all before they've reached adulthood. Women committing to not having children and being alone (es…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/24 09:45 PM
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The tea is I do genuinely believe that dating someone or marrying someone that isn't your ideal is wasting your time and you would genuinely be better off alone. I've not regretted any of my one-night stands. I've deeply regretted 2 of my LTR's.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/24 09:40 PM
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We better hide she could be lurking around the corner
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/24 09:17 PM
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In the middle of what we must stay vigilant one could be lurking around the corner. No time to argue bury the gold lest she emerge and ask you to pay for her daughter’s philosophy degree
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/24 09:16 PM
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https://sandrarose.com/2024/01/8-passport-bros-killed-in-the-past-3-months/ don’t go to Columbia
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/24 09:10 PM
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Why would you do that though if you’re scared that she’ll steal your inheritance and slaughter your young. I thought you were fearful of the pox she’d bring on your home
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/24 09:09 PM
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So no cool. I don’t think you need to worry about a single mom stealing your inheritance at this time but I’ll keep an eye out.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/24 09:07 PM
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Every man that has had something to say about my body has been fat. I was an actor, singer, dancer and model working professionally for the first half of my twenties and my body/weight has not fluctuated much since then. These comments were made when I was at my thinnest. They’re literally delusional and truly believe they deserve Heidi Klum while not meeting that metric. It’s embarrassing
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/24 09:05 PM
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Lmao. Is there a single mom trying to date you right now? No? Then why are you dedicating time and energy to justifying why you’d reject this hypothetical woman that has expressed no interest in you
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/24 08:59 PM
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Have you met a single mom that’s expressed interest in you?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/24 08:56 PM
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There’s nothing to debate this is a scenario you made up in your head that will never happen. Unless manifestation is real in which case you’re willing it to happen lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/24 08:55 PM
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Be careful they’re targeting Americans now bc of Passport bros
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/24 08:54 PM
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Literally when they try to shame you with the “that’s petty you’re shallow” Idgaf I wouldn’t date you either.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/24 08:52 PM
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I don’t understand why we’re talking about hypothetical women that have otherwise expressed no interest in you or your potential inheritance. Lmao. I wouldn’t date a single dad I’m not dedicating time and energy to justifying why. It is simply 🌸not my vibe🌸 What do you think is going to happen? Is she going to force you to pay for her kids college at gunpoint? I’m trying to get a good visual in my brain. I think she probably wears red lipstick and eats the hearts of men for breakfast. You’re des…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/24 08:49 PM
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Is the single mom with inheritance hungry kids that wants an LTR with you in the room with us?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/24 08:45 PM
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Then I think you have your answer
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/24 07:13 PM
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Tea.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/24 07:13 PM
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Drake is a groomer and everyone seemed to forget about it so idc (I haven't seen the video and this is the first place I've heard of it lol). But in general leaking nudes isn't cool doesn't matter the gender of the person, it's not okay. Girls and gays doing that are gross and should stop
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/24 07:11 PM
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It is and if you’re not one of those guys you gotta approach
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/24 06:51 PM
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Tbh I’ve never had to work at attracting partners. The only advice I can ever really give is “Here’s what typically won’t work if you’re hella normie in terms of status” But I’m bisexual so I do know a bit about picking up women, I doubt my methods would translate here though lol
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/24 06:39 PM
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I've been with someone for 2 years that goes above and beyond everything I could have ever imagined in terms of what I'm seeking in a partner. The men I dated before him misrepresented themselves and were revealed to be emotionally stunted losers with terrible work ethic who when a challenge crossed our path it ended up being something I had to handle on my own (even though we're talking like men I lived with and it was a problem affecting both of us). Personally I'm done dating people that only…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/24 06:19 PM
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I'm not afraid of rejection I came here to have fun not scout out dudes. If dudes appear great if not I'm still going to have fun. Women don't approach because they don't have to.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/24 06:05 PM
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Yeah but I have to literally leave him for any active change to occur so what good does that do me lmao.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/24 05:57 PM
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I mean tbh you've had luck with three women and now think that there's this mass populace of women that care about being approached by strangers and are willing to alter their behavior so you specifically will approach them. Most women go to venues for more reasons than just meeting men it's on the docket but it's not always a priority. 90% of the men that approach me appear out of the ether and I had no idea they existed until they said hi. My current partner of 2 years was one of these men. I'…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/24 05:56 PM
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Sounds like you need to learn what that looks like . 9 times out of 10 though if you can't tell it's cause they haven't noticed you or they don't want to be approached
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/24 05:39 PM
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THANK YOU. This is the actual answer. There are like 30+ people at any venue, we're usually there with other people and we genuinely don't register most men looking for weird hidden nonverbal communication signals that we likely weren't giving off. Idk why most guys on here don't understand, there's no universe where women care enough to approach strangers at bars and the men that are attractive enough to warrant that response we probably still wouldn't approach bc that dude would look like *ins…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/24 05:35 PM
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Genuinely if you can't tell if a woman wants to be approached it's cause she doesn't want to be approached
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/24 05:17 PM
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If you can't tell if they want to be approached it's because they probably don't want to be approached, that takes the guess work out of it altogether. There's also a plausible chance that they literally have not noticed you trying to get their attention most women show up to bars and clubs with friends or dates and aren't necessarily "on the prowl". That doesn't mean they're opposed to being approached it just means that's not the sole reason they went out and wouldn't be scouting the room for …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/24 04:47 PM
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No that’s v low actually
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/24 04:07 PM
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Tbh I'm not going to change/improve a man. They're fundamentally incapable of changing without deciding internally they want to and my influence isn't going to do anything (and if anything will make the situation worse). So I'm not investing in someone that doesn't already align with what I'm looking for in a partner. That way when the bad times do come I'm not saddled with someone completely incapable of meeting the situation with me. Everytime I've had a guy that's less than that I've ended up…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/24 03:32 PM
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Apparently not in OP's friend's case which is why I answered the question but go off king. I know plenty of people on the ASD and SPD spectrum that are able to maintain conversations with minimal issues around social cues/ they're charming in their own way so women look past whatever those issues might be. I dated someone on the spectrum for about 6 months in college when we both were BROKE. So yeah it's just a matter of dating people who aren't ableist The ones who struggle typically have frien…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/24 01:59 PM
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Lmao where did I say that. I know plenty of people on the spectrum that can hold a conversation
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/24 12:01 PM
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Be clear with your intention and relaxed about the outcome. Don’t change anything for her she’s already made her decision and altering your behavior won’t change the outcome anyway
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/24 06:25 PM
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Tbh I feel like a “high value man” that’s struggling to date either isn’t high value or the metrics RP uses to assign value to men aren’t guaranteed success if you still struggle to hold conversations and connect on non material grounds
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/24 04:23 PM
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Yeah I’ve just found that being in a relationship just cause rather than screening for things like aligned values/ shared vision for the future etc. it ends up being a massive waste of time. I’m in a position where I can screen so I do. Also 22 isn’t that old I didn’t lose my v card til I was 20.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/24 05:46 PM
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This was exactly what I was going to say lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/24 09:19 PM
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You can get the ick for your boyfriend usually about 3 months in. Icks can vary from having a goofy laugh to idolizing Hitler so it REALLY depends on context. In general though I've seen it over stupid stuff that if you applied that standard to women I'd want to tussle so my point stands. It's honestly a way to find out from the jump if your relationship has legs.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/24 11:27 PM
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In the US there's no incentive to have children and every incentive not too. Most work places offer only 3 weeks of maternity leave (which is psychologically bad for both mother and child) and no paternity leave at all for fathers. Childcare is exorbitantly expensive now. Our parents are working to older ages so they aren't able to help. But most households can no longer survive on a single income. If you're uninsured you will go bankrupt just delivering a child and even if you do have coverage …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/24 09:35 PM
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Omg just say you want to date a high schooler already jfc y’all are so creepy
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/24 09:04 PM
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My POV on this is always commonalities in life experience. I can buy a dude in his 30s maybe met a 25 year old at their workplace or through mutual friends or at a bar. I can buy that a guy in his 30s met a 21 year old in a bar. I think it’s weird that you’re dating a college age person and definitely think the older dude is wasting her time but it’s legal so 🤷‍♀️ . I don’t buy that a guy in his mid 30s met an 18 year old in a non sketchy way. Many 18 year olds are still in highschool. Across th…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/24 08:51 PM
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Honestly. HONESTLY. There is no way to engage with this topic without acknowledging violent crime stats broken down by gender and acknowledging which population routinely victimized women and who set up a society to strengthen existing power differentials built into our relationship dynamics in the first place But that always triggers y’all to meltdown so 🤷‍♀️ If you think there is a service that men currently don’t have access to. You should get together and advocate for that to elected officia…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/24 08:17 PM
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Honestly if they don't want to use apps and they don't want to go to bars or clubs I genuinely just don't know what else to say. Approaching someone in a place that isn't friendly towards socializing with strangers is already flirting on hard mode bc you have no idea what the person you're approaching wants to do at that particular day and moment or how they'll respond to being approached. I know guys who have had success doing that but even they admit that you have to be comfortable getting gla…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/24 06:38 PM
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We don’t want to date losers with a victim mentality that they try to make our problem
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/24 04:41 PM
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My suspicion is there was no eye fucking.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/24 03:32 PM
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And women are on the receiving end of men being volatile aggressive and pervy 24/7 PMS involves an influx of testosterone. Literally women who are PMSing are like that bc of the hormones we associate most broadly with masculinity. Meaning how we act with excess testosterone in our system is similar to how you behave all of the tome
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/24 01:14 PM
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Honestly it’s really similar to feminism in terms of “decentering relationships” They just lose me when they start talking about “pump n dumping”, rating women, and using terms like starter girlfriend it just gets very yikes. It sucks dude I’m on board with everything that doesn’t involve treating women like shit
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/24 07:53 PM
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RP’s self-improvement suggestion I do think is beneficial. I think encouraging men not to get hung up on one woman when there are 100s is healthy. Advising to get skills/a high paying job fuck yeah why not? Learning how to play a guitar is cool, disposable income keeps you secure and safe working out regularly promoted mental wellness . I don’t even care if they’re doing it in hopes of getting laid this is a clear path to some form of self-actualization that can open plenty of doors It’s a shame…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/24 07:26 PM
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I think 23 is when I actually start to buy that the two people in the relationship hit it off rather than it being creepy or weird. It’s very likely that you’d have similar social circles/work places. They can legally drink and it’s usually an age when you’re a year out from college. My only aversion is when there’s like no commonality in life experience due to age. I think that’s where it gets hairy
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/24 06:11 PM
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The women who have an issue with age gap relationships bc of the experiences they had when they were 18 dating older men. I’m in an age gap relationship we met when I was 26 and he was 34. We were in similar phases of life and are madly in love, our ages rarely come up anymore and I’ve never dealt with scrutiny from people in my life about our age difference. But I’m sorry a 30 year old dating an 18 year old is weird. I spent half of 18 in highschool. I directed multiple highschool theatre produ…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/24 06:00 PM
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Ah thank you 🙏
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/24 05:45 PM
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That’s kind of my stance too. It’s usually a joke, when it’s not it says more about them than you. Why would anyone want to be with a shallow person that doesn’t allow you a full range of expression
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/24 05:04 PM
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What’s the nonsensical shit that caused her to lose interest? That’s relevant
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/24 05:02 PM
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Exactly and it sucks that people lie about it. It really fucks stuff up for survivors trying to get help
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/24 04:22 PM
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I do generally believe a woman who comes forward but I did literally see a situation where someone lied and like definitively lied there were witnesses the door was opened she was super fuckedup (I think she might have genuinely been confused blacked out and woke up scared but idk) and what she said happened didn’t happen. The guy of course didn’t suffer any consequences/blowback it was dropped pretty immediately. So now I try to be wary of a situation not sounding right if you catch my drift
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/24 04:18 PM
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I mean honestly it’s one of those things where like you totally can just not encounter it and typically the people who don’t wouldn’t have been into it anyway. I’m not really into orgy scenes and only encountered them once I moved in with a burlesque performer that would get booked to perform at these parties where like after they performed shit went down. I met some of them outside of this context and they were totally normal nice people. It’s just weird to me that people have hard opinions on …
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/24 04:15 PM
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“Fucked up and neglected” for you lmao yeah it’s a circle jerk Plenty of people are in relationships. Plenty of people are actively choosing to remain single and play the field. Figure out which one you want to do or keep complaining on the internet about women having sex
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/24 04:11 PM
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I’m not cool with religious practices fixated on covering your body for “modesty” (men). Modesty in a biblical context is not being prideful and moving through life with humility. No actual suggestion of clothing/covering enters the frame until Paul. Anyone with a passing knowledge of the history of the Bible knows that all of those modest is hottest rules have more to do with men not being accountable for their lustful thoughts than the failings of the women. It’s just super fucking annoying an…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/24 03:50 PM
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I hope they are. Just be nice to them so they don’t overthrow us lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/24 02:18 PM
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Tbh it’s not your problem but a man made a post complaining about it. Which is so bizarre to me. OP brought it up, said a bunch of really minimizing inaccurate shit about an experience he himself doesn’t have to deal to …. What? Bitch about it? Honestly as much as half the men on here complain about their issues meeting women, it’s just abundantly clear that they just don’t like us.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/24 01:27 PM
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Lmao whatever my dude. Keep circlejerking ✌️
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/24 11:22 PM
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It varies by location and phase in your life. If you live in a small town with an absent nightlife yeah there’s going to be less sex. If you’re in a city/college town there will likely be a bigger hookup scene. Neither routes are bad. I work in nightlife and all of the girls in my circle that are single do hook up. Women do get as horny as men we just don’t make it an issue. Sex drive varies from person to person There are orgies happening behind the scenes but they’re private events that you’re…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/24 09:12 PM
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Lmao why should it what?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/24 06:14 PM
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It’s THE WORST.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/24 05:15 PM
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I cry at everything the week before my period. Full existential crisis and sometimes even dread, it can expedite existing anxiety or depressive episodes. It’s so crazy bc the moment I realize why I feel that way it becomes easier to manage lmao but if you haven’t put two and two together you don’t even realize you’re being bitchy or irrational. If you haven’t experienced it you don’t know what you’re talking about. It’s very real regardless of how well the person experiencing it is managing. It’…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/24 04:49 PM
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Depends on the situation. It’s usually whichever party isn’t making the other climax
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/24 04:40 PM
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Yeah I’d probably not be into a man from Grandpa’s day approaching me either
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/24 04:34 PM
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My “I’m probably a bad feminist” hallpass has always been if one woman comes forward the dude is sketchy if more than one woman comes forward (particularly if those women don’t already know eachother) he’s a rapist.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/24 02:24 PM
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Y’all I promise the dudes approaching aren’t like your grandpa you aren’t missing much
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/24 12:53 PM
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I still get approached. It’s chilled out a bit though since lockdown but it’s still a weekly thing. I think the pandemic kinda killed a lot of interactions like this. I don’t miss this one though If you want to meet dudes go to bars/clubs/parties. If you have a dude in mind and it won’t harsh the vibe approach yourself and it’ll skip a lot of bullshit. But if you’re trying to meet people at work/on your commutes that’s starting with obstacles in your way. Most people on set are trying to progres…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/24 12:46 PM
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My current partner saved me from being date raped at a club. Someone drugged my drink and he got me home safe when it became clear that I was way too fucked up for the amount Id had (a single cocktail on a full stomach). We’d only met once before that, he sat in my living room while I made sure I had my wallet and keys and then wished me good night. I was getting an MFA in Strategic Communications he at the time was a Marketing Consultant. We used to “talk shop” for hours When we finally did sta…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/24 06:35 PM
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I’m begging y’all to consider that many women participate in hookup culture for the same reasons men do and it’s not that deep. Jfc
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/24 06:19 PM
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It depends on where you are in life. When I was in college I had no interest in being in a LTR. I was pretty focused on aligning myself for the best situation possible possible. Boys in their early twenties across the board lacked emotional intelligence and realistic ambition, so I kept it very casual. My first few years out of school I wanted to make sure I actually knew what I was doing to before leaping into anything (I didn’t want to live on my own for the first time ever and then immediatel…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/24 06:17 PM
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An old mentor of mine had a sister in her 60s that was very religious and never married despite wanting to. She’s still saving it for her husband but has definitely seen the writing on the wall. She isn’t happy. It’s shaken her faith. I thank who ever is up there everyday that I got out of puritanical evangelical circles the moment I graduated college
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/24 05:48 PM
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The reason the majority of women are hostile towards strangers that are men is bc of their proclivity towards violent crime. Men that fall victim to violent crimes and sexual crimes are more likely to be victimized by men than women. Your beef is with violent men not women.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/24 06:58 PM
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If you aren’t good at foreplay you aren’t good in bed. Point blank period. It doesn’t matter how big you are.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/24 06:28 PM
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Better than it happening again 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/24 04:22 PM
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I mean Im white and I know how much I weigh. If a man was comparing me to Lizzo I know for a fact it’d be bc he’s trying to mock me. It wouldn’t work though bc I know what I look like and I don’t really view plus sized bodies as lesser than it says more about him than me. I work in entertainment and was in the commercial theatre industry for a few years so having an idea of what you actually look like is incredibly important bc it determines your cast type. I’ve quite literally been compared to …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/24 04:11 PM
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This does not change the fact that the majority of violent crime perpetrators are men. Hence most people are cautious around men who are strangers. A community where misandrists were in charge just wouldn’t have men. A world where misogynists were in charge would have the abuse rape and suffering of women.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/24 04:03 PM
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Nah survivor. Gave dudes a chance those dudes fucked up now I’m more careful which dudes I give chances to 🤷‍♀️ cut and dry took a lot of therapy. I know the rhetoric/ actions/ flags to look out for if they appear I’m out 👍 blaming women for the actions of men is one of them btw. Just fyi
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/24 03:55 PM
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Jack Black,Jonah hill, Kevin James, John Goodam, Zach Galifianakis, Seth Rogan, Ice Cube, Eric Stonestreet, Wayne Knight, Ricky Gervais 🤮for example are all plus sized male celebrities that have been in the public eye for years without a cultural discourse around “would I fuck them though” ever appearing in the cultural zeitgeist. Their weight has fluctuated overtime and has never been a particularly huge part of their brand. Women in the public eye are expected to be thin and attractive. A woma…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/24 03:47 PM
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Victimization of men is more likely to be perpetrated by men rather than women. You’re more likely to be mugged by a man than by a woman. The gender that perpetuates more violent crime (and by a large margin more sexual crime) is men. The issue is violent men that pose a threat to dudes like you and girls like me.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/24 03:19 PM
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Men qualify as victims but they’re more likely to be victimized by men when we’re discussing violent crimes.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/24 03:15 PM
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Who commits more violent crime?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/24 03:12 PM
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Thank you ❤️ it’s also worth noting that a lot of those stats are intentionally pushed and skewed to paint black people in a bad light. I honestly have never really seen similar studies on white crime. More violent crimes are perpetrated by men than women regardless of their racial, ethnic or financial background. It’s literally the one constant in that equation.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/24 02:51 PM
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Or we have fought and found peace by being very selective in which men we speak to and holding very firm boundaries on when they’re out the door because we’ve experienced escalation of violence in the past. Victimhood is continuing to find yourself in the same situation over and over again, not seeing the signs that you’ve seen before, and not changing your behavior.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/24 02:47 PM
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I mean honestly I don’t even like her but that Taylor Swift AI shit is a pretty apt example. Even if men aren’t committing sexual violence they’re going to make fantasize about it than actualize it into fake revenge porn of you as a means of degradation and humiliation and frankly to threaten you with real world sexual violence. And if a man isn’t a rapist or someone who would use potential sexual violence as a one-up on a successful woman he might also be in the hoards of men who go “it’s funny…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/24 02:39 PM
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Women do not statistically rape as much as men do. The data doesn’t represent that my guy men make up 99% of rapists women make up 1%. Men can fall victim to sexual violence the same way women do but statistically they are more likely to be raped by a man. The majority of adult male victims that are raped are raped in the prison system by other men (and this is horrific fucked up and needs to be stopped). There’s a slim margin of men who have been assaulted by women that do genuinely struggle to…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/24 02:32 PM
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Women also commit violent crimes. But I am more likely to be victimized by a man than a woman. After multiple close calls I’ve adjusted the way I move through the world to avoid men that are a potential threat. 🤷‍♀️ If you were victimized by women the way I have been by men I wouldn’t blame you for being reluctant about strange women approaching you/yelling at you/ expressing sexual interest in you. Especially if when you shared this experience with others women overwhelmingly told you you were …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/24 02:18 PM
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Bro I was raped with a purity ring on my finger and still got the old “what were you wearing”runaround and didn’t get justice either so genuinely 🤷‍♀️.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 11:43 PM
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Literally just stating tangible facts readily available for anyone to look up. The majority of violent offenders are men. Violent offenders pose a threat to women and men. The issue isn’t women avoiding men. It’s violent men. Violent men are fucking things up for both men and women. If your sole complaint is “women think I’m a threat” the fault lies at the men who were threatening them not the women who are taking necessary precautions to keep themselves safe after being threatened
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 11:28 PM
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I’m tired of men placing this issue at our feet. What you’re dealing with is violent men co-opting the perception of your gender through acts of violence that pose a danger to women and men. It’s now created an optics issue so massive that a large portion of women actively avoid associating with men they don’t know bc they feel inherently uneasy due to past experiences. My safety is more important than your feelings. You can argue with a wall for as long as you want but you’re screaming at the w…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 11:24 PM
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The majority of those resources were set up for women by women. If men want those same resources they should organize the way women did and set those up Rape kits typically only take into account the penetrated party so if you were anally raped you would be able to get a rape kit. Men get rape kits I’ve known men who were raped that had to get one
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 11:18 PM
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What victim did I blame? If you’re a man you’re more likely to be raped by a man. There are predators within every demographic but men outshine women on this front by a large portion. That doesn’t mean you’re a rapist or all men are rapists that doesn’t mean there are no women rapists or that all women are angels. But most rapists are men.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 11:09 PM
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Where did I say that. If we were discussing men actually being victimized that’d be a different story. But that’s not what this post is discussing. But if a man who was abused by a woman went onto avoid most women I wouldn’t pretend that’s an irrational response. But Ftr I only ever hear men bring up their own victimization when they want a woman discussing her experiences with violent men to shut up.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 11:03 PM
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Neither do women most rapists never see jail time.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 11:00 PM
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Honestly I think this gets to it. Men want to control and possess us we want to be left alone.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 10:00 PM
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How many men frame this issue like women are a problem for taking precautions after bad experiences rather than framing it as an issue of dangerous men creating an optics problem for your entire gender that’s preventing women from feeling safe around you regardless of your intentions.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 09:35 PM
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Totally agree and not to get dicey but even if we were to break this down violent crime stats through the lens of ethnicity the majority of violent offenders would STILL be men with women being an incredibly slim margin regardless of race or ethnicity. So idk what that comment was supposed to do.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 09:33 PM
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Never denied that. Women avoiding men isn’t victimizing them. Women having preferences isn’t victimizing them. Avoidance of men doesn’t victimize men. By your own admission in your initial post these things are not causing victimization, they aren’t violent acts. It’s just telling that this post sets women up as villains for having residual trauma responses around men due to violence they’ve experienced. But the anger is still directed towards the women and not the men who harmed them. And then …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 08:25 PM
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Nope again it’s common sense. I’ve had men attempt to follow me home, now I don’t let men walk behind me I step to the side and let them pass I cross the street or I duck into a store and see if they wait outside/follow me in. Men have been catcalling me since I was 12 now i wear headphones everywhere I go and I don’t humor conversations with men who approach me. I’ve been sexually assaulted and have had very close calls with sexual assault. Most women have. I have since then learned that I have…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 06:35 PM
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I wasn’t than I met an older man and we hit it off 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 06:30 PM
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It’s literally that simple. You can’t talk about woman “victimhood” without discussing male violence which LITERALLY affects both genders.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 06:25 PM
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I use makeup because I work in entertainment and nightlife (I’m literally a drag artist). Because of this combined with a career in theatre for the better part of 5 years, putting on makeup feels like work. I rarely wear it to my day job and in my day to day life. I found if you got in the habit of wearing it everyday the moment you skip some dude is gonna do the whole “Are you feeling okay? You look a little tired” I don’t mind how I look in or out of makeup. I’ve been hit on in both. I just ge…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 06:11 PM
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The root of your problems is probably the defeatist attitude but go off king
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 05:42 PM
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I read your post. Men being perceived as a threat is due to the actions of other men. Posts like yours don’t address the problem of other men, who pose a threat to you as well as me. Tying in dating preferences as if those are comparable is ridiculous. You aren’t oppressed bc women cross the street to avoid you when they’re walking home alone at night. You aren’t oppressed bc women have preferences that you don’t meet. And minimizing misogyny doesn’t elicit sympathy from me. Women aren’t big sca…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 05:39 PM
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Genuinely though. Men are more likely to be a physical threat to women and men. Men commit more violent crimes. It’s just cut and dry. If you’re a man there’s more of a chance another man is gonna rob/rape you than a woman will. It’s obviously not all men but I don’t get why totally normal dudes get so upset that women have to take precautions bc of the actions of shitty men. If it bugs them so much do something about these men but like omg quit bitching about us like we’re at fault because we d…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 05:28 PM
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Not all. Some of my fwb situations just happened bc we were working together on a creative project for school and we were both bored. These were clear cut FWB situations with very distinct, respected and shared boundaries. Some just stayed friends and it never progressed beyond that because that wasn’t the vibe.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 04:57 PM
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That’s cool keep doing you then 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 03:52 PM
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This is actually where I agree with RP ideologies. Don’t love the rhetoric and vitriol for women. Advising men to focus on improving their physical health, financial status/skills and not getting obsessed or attached to one potential girl when there are thousands and one of them is bound to like you is good advice. It’s advice that I have given to people in my life before. Forward motion is better than no motion. You can’t really successfully date unless you’ve achieved some level of self-actual…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 03:27 PM
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That’s cool if you’re not having luck though self improvement can get you further than you could have gotten otherwise.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 05:57 AM
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My partner is makes 100k and yeah I'm not gonna be a SAHM unless that changes
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/24 09:38 PM
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Idk what to tell you my dude I'm sorry that lovers don't fall out of trees.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/24 08:53 PM
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Yeah that's typically what happens when you make a perceived inadequacy/lack of relationship a massive part of your identity. That's why it's important to not tie your entire identity to societal ideals for what is and isn't right/stable/adult and to find outlets that improve yourself and make you happy regardless of what you have or don't have. That's why a lot of people's go to is "go to therapy". A relationship isn't going to magically solve any insecurities or existing issues. But being happ…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/24 08:38 PM
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Okay I guess you can just continue to do nothing and hope something changes 👍
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/24 08:32 PM
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Okay I guess you can just keep being sad about your prospects and halt all personal growth bc you can’t find a girlfriend.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/24 08:30 PM
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Cool but if you do things that better yourself even if you're still single you're single with new skills, a better bod, more money, and more confidence. Which is better than being single and sad without those things.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/24 07:46 PM
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Okay so back when I was Christian (lol) I actually got incredibly good advice from a youth pastor regarding dating (and threw the rest out bc it was puritanical nonsense). People focus a lot on finding "the one" and not "being the one". Focusing on other relationships in your life/other activities/ your career/your fitness etc. those things make you attractive (going to therapy for example is a way to get you on the path of self-improvement). Seeking out companionship super aggressively/saying y…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/24 07:09 PM
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I had this exact situation in college and it was the best thing for both of us tbh. Neither of us were ready/wanted a relationship we were super good friends but neither of us thought we’d last as an LTR. It’s such a weird dynamic to explain to people bc we did hang out a lot and we did hookup but we weren’t dating lol
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/24 12:26 PM
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Yeah it makes me go “nice I picked out a cute fit” and not “Jesus Christ”
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/24 12:04 PM
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Coffee it’s hard to talk and run
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/24 05:05 AM
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1.They don’t. Someone having difficulty participating in something doesn’t make it inherently bad.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/24 04:58 AM
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Been in the fuck it phase since 2012 then got hot in 2014 AND LET ME TELL YOU the fuck it phase is the best phase regardless of appearance.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/24 11:07 PM
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Resident bisexual. Women are more aesthetically pleasing (for me again this is subjective). Men are great but if we're going in terms of what floors me before anyone has said a word, it's women.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/24 11:05 PM
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The quiet part out loud is that they are not at peace with what someone with compatible interests/is in their league will actually look and present as. Chances are the average dude isn't going to marry a virginal woman that looks like Heidi Klum, and they don't want to do the work required to even have a shot.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/24 10:59 PM
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I had an ex like this. I was so sick of showing up to events alone, getting hit on all night, then having to deal with him being pressed about the fact that I went to an event we were both free for and both invited to alone. The wrong dude can literally drag you down.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/24 10:56 PM
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Private conversations amongst people you often don't know about things you did is not the same as demanding women be accountable for having "low value" in a dating market oversaturated with options for them. I'm going to keep my self-esteem moving and grooving regardless of how my perceived confidence affects others. Plenty of men shit talk women/describe what they want to do to them with their friends constantly. We had a whole "locker room talk" scandal where a bunch of men outed themselves as…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/24 10:54 PM
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Tbh it's just juvenile behavior. The moment a man asks me what I'd rate myself I'm making fun of them in my head. I refuse to answer. It tells me everything I need to know about them. I wouldn't assign myself a metric based on someone I wouldn't glance at if they lit themselves on fire's standards.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/24 10:44 PM
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Tbh the one time I got this question I refused to answer. I'm not assigning myself a metric based on someone I wouldn't date's standards. I'm not giving anyone an opportunity to fail at negging me.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/24 10:40 PM
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Okay but like my ideal woman is likely going to be different than yours both personality and looks wise. Same with dudes tbh. Y'all assign metrics to things that are pretty subjective. There are absolutely people who are objectively not rocking it in the looks department. Those people can still dress well/do their makeup/do their hair, I'm usually commenting on that (if I comment at all) regardless of gender.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/24 10:37 PM
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This is also how I prefer men to compliment me tbh. "I love your shirt" is a better opener than "you're beautiful" ever will be.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/24 10:35 PM
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Literally men who assign value to women based on metrics they don’t assign to themselves is always hilarious to me. Like who’s the delusional one here?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/24 10:11 PM
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Lmao literally they want us to care about their opinion so badly it’s cringe
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/24 10:09 PM
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Have you considered that women also create these dynamics for the same reason?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/24 08:49 PM
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It's a sure fire way to get them to dislike you though. I have dumped men that have called other women sluts. They weren't talking about me lol. It didn't matter. Now that dude is on my shit list. Y'all tell on yourselves with rhetoric like this
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/24 08:47 PM
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No this is the tea tbh. I have enough self-respect to not be with a dude that's overly judgmental of women who wouldn't glance their way if they lit themselves on fire. It's hater behavior.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/24 08:20 PM
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Tbh I aim to be kind to women regardless of how I feel about their physical appearance. I'm not a slutshamer and don't make a huge deal about sex (regardless of which gender is having sex). Y'all reduce things to phrases like "pump and dump" but that type of interaction is reciprocal. All of this "a man who sleeps with you on the first night doesn't respect you" stuff is kind of irrelevant to me bc TBH I probably don't particularly respect that guy either. But we're both on the same page so no h…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/24 06:50 PM
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Yeah I also work in nightlife and this was my first thought. She needs to ditch those friends and grab a bouncer or he needs to go with her.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/24 03:40 PM
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My boyfriend just goes clubbing with me. We did, however, meet in a club. I love it, I get to actually relax and cut loose and not worry about scary dudes like your girlfriend described. Could you have gone with her?/If y'all make it through this spat I'd try to go with her. Tbh I think an ultimatum was the wrong move I don't think anyone responds well to demands. It sounds like there's a values difference here and you might just not be compatible long term. But if she wanted to cheat she wouldn…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/24 06:29 AM
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Porn =fine Following and liking hot girls photos=fine My partner and I have almost had threesomes multiple times which we are open to but the timing hasn’t been right. The way to tell if you’re cheating is if you feel like you have to hide the behavior/messages/browser history (whatever it is) from your partner. That’ll vary from person to person though. I have friends who do sex work, some of them have incredible supportive partners that view it as work knew it was part of the deal coming in an…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/24 02:32 AM
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Hi you should say no whenever you feel like it. Idk where this question is coming from but this is how you get coerced into something you aren't into. Coercion is legally assault. Please say no to sex when you don't want it it's literally in everyone's best interest to be upfront.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/24 02:09 AM
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This election year I'm voting Full titty 2024
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/24 01:53 AM
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So the thing is, men sexualize us no matter what we wear. So I'm gonna dress however I want without thinking about how it affects the men around me. Someone else's thoughts aren't my concern. Context is key. I've been with the same person for 2 years now. We met at a nightclub I was dressed how you describe *and I looked and felt great*. I'm a cabaret performer/drag performer in nightlife, prior to that I was an actor and to be really frank, in that line of work you end up in a lot of leotards/t…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/24 01:48 AM
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Tbh self-improvement shouldn't be about getting laid. The reason I used to always hop to "well time to work on myself" whenever I feel inadequate (in any capacity) is because that's how you grow. RP pushing self-improvement is actually one of the few talking points we agree on, because even if on the other side of the fence you don't meet your wife, you're probably *now* more confident, more capable, and have a better grasp on your own sense of self-worth. Picking up a new skill, working out mor…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/24 09:21 PM
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A clear way to tell someone isn't trying to be bothered is to just look and see if they're open to interaction. Someone wearing headphones probably doesn't want to chat, someone scrolling on their phone probably doesn't want to chat, someone wearing sunglasses inside probably doesn't want to chat. If you were staring at someone and y'all made eye contact and they immediately looked away or made a face at you they don't want to chat. If you've thrown a compliment out and they're ignoring you they…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/24 12:00 AM
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My Red Pill Opinion: There are plenty of fish in the sea don't get upset if one girl dislikes you. Focus on self-improvement My Bluepill opinion: Personality is the most important component for me when selecting a partner
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/24 11:49 PM
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I think it’s good that you know that about yourself and there’s nothing wrong with that. Plenty of people I dated expected me to drop my career over some blocking, I think that’s where it gets gross bc like that was something they knew could happen when they started dating me.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 09:25 PM
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Honestly it was the era of false pretenses it makes sense
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 08:35 PM
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I know plenty of fat women that work out regularly/could out run me on a treadmill. Again it’s fine to have a preference it’s another thing to disclose it, try to defend and also not meet it. It’s red flag behavior bc it’s rude. Not bc the preference itself is bad. I also feel this way about the “no short dudes” girls. I just don’t love people bodyshaming for any reason. It’s asshole behavior
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 08:35 PM
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Lmao aight “oh she suffered abuse from men and now we’re gonna mock her for that” sounds like you and my ex have a lot in common. Behavior like this is actually shit bag behavior indicative of abusive tendencies and was one of the red flags that caused me to leave that piece of shit who I’ve posted about on this sub multiple times. Im open about my past I realized my worth and moved on. The universe rewarded me immediately with a better man, better home, better job and a better life. Social anxi…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 07:57 PM
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Do you think I’m pulling this out of my ass. This is a daily occurrence for me. Idk why it’s so hard for people to read social cues and mind their own business.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 07:48 PM
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Nah I’m the “please don’t make me take my headphones off just to give you an answer you won’t like” type. Just because I’m in public doesn’t mean I want to interact with strangers.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 07:46 PM
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I fully misread your “you’d be okay with your partner kissing and a groping another person” comment in your reply my b
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 07:43 PM
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Why else would a stranger ask me out on a date?/Ask for my number? If he wants to sell me something I’m not interested in that either lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 07:41 PM
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Eh if it’s in the context of theatre or film it’s not sexy. I’m speaking from experience. No sparks. All pretend half the time you have multiple modesty garments on underneath so unless you’re like stark naked, you can’t actually “grope” the way you would with a partner. The only thing that’s real is the kissing and even then if it’s onstage it’s considered a faux pas to use tongue. It feels more like choreography than anything tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 07:05 PM
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A lifetime of missed opportunities with someone that approaches dating the way Girl Scouts sell chocolate
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 06:50 PM
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Would you be shocked to know that omg gasp I’ve also dated fat men, coincidentally two of them had this preference and dumped them in part because of it bc lmao what delusion❤️❤️❤️ Projection is a bitch and not my issue. A good personality can get over any hurdle but that would require effort so “I guess all women are stuck up bitches”
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 06:45 PM
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I don’t have preferences so much as hard dealbreakers. I won’t date someone who’s RP I won’t date a conservative man I won’t date someone who is openly hateful of women bc insert benign standard they themselves don’t meet. I won’t date someone who has misogynistic views. I won’t date someone with a victim mentality I won’t date someone with a defeatist mindset I won’t date someone who only expresses emotions through aggression It doesn’t matter how hot you are if you have one of these three it’s…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 06:41 PM
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Would it shock you to learn that height is not a factor for me and I’ve dated men shorter than me 😱 Almost like women aren’t a monolith or something and our preferences aren’t universal lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 06:31 PM
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Thank you! This was really well put
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 05:50 PM
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I think it varies. I always ask if they want to split and let the guy take the lead. I don’t order anything I couldn’t pay for myself so it’s not a concern. Some guys like paying bc it makes them feel masculine. Some guys don’t. Idc either way it doesn’t make a difference to me
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 05:47 PM
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Listen I’m not calling bullshit bc I have no clue what you look like and for all I know you’re ripped, but every man I’ve met who has articulated this standard out loud was fat himself. Or frankly didn’t have much going for him in terms of desirability. And typically we immediately tell our friends this dude said that and none of us date him bc it’s asshole behavior. It’s fine to have a preference but yelling “no fatties” every chance you get when the person yelling has no prospects themselves i…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 05:42 PM
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I love how it always narrows down to “no fatties” every guy I’ve ever met with this preference was built like Jack Black.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 05:34 PM
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I just never get the logic that comes from “women don’t find me desirable But here’s my list of demands for a woman to have a chance with me.” True delusion, self-admitted mid dudes with nothing but audacity upset that no one cares or is willing to fit into their preferences. Why would their opinion matter to us? It’s not like they take ours into account? I don’t care if you don’t want to date fat girls or women who’ve had sex. Chances are those women wouldn’t look their way anyway it’s legit em…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 05:30 PM
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Honestly don’t love the verbiage, agree with the sentiment. If you don’t like marriage play the field and don’t get married. Times are different marriage isn’t the default. Plenty of people embrace that and are happier for it/ end up meeting someone they actually love instead of rushing to the alter due to sunken cost fallacy. You waste time in relationships with people you don’t see a future with. Time you could have spent meeting other people. That’s not gendered I met my partner when we both …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 05:21 PM
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Anytime a guy starts romanticizing the 50s I write them off tbh.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 05:10 PM
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If you’re a door to door salesman a lot of people are gonna slam the door in your face it’s p much the same situation in terms of response you’re likely to get. That doesn’t mean you won’t make a sale but you take rejection as part of the deal.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 03:44 PM
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10/10 that’s awesome I wish my grandmothers had this situation ❤️ they were p much trapped
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 02:42 PM
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Our grandmothers couldn’t open bank accounts until the 1960s and could only pursue divorce in cases of domestic abuse until 1977. Many housewives were hopped up on uppers to stay thin and dull the pain of being in situations where they couldn’t self-actualize and pursue their own ambitions with the same freedom their male counterparts could. Our grandfathers were free to behave and act pretty much however they wanted without consequence. My grandpa sucks. He’s a total chauvinist asshole, watchin…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 02:29 PM
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Lmao good ❤️ sounds like you actually know how to read body language and approach someone when they’re hoping to chat. Otherwise it gives off Jehovah’s Witness energy.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 12:39 PM
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Honestly I don’t agree. I don’t have to humor every stranger that wants to start a conversation. I don’t talk to dudes handing out fliers on the street. I don’t talk to jehovahs witnesses or street preachers. I don’t engage with buskers on trains at 7 in the morning . I don’t have to talk to every stranger that approaches me. I think men seriously underestimate how frequently we’re approached and how grating that gets particularly if you’re already in a bad mood. I live in a city I get approache…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 12:33 PM
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Tbh dude I’ve had men follow me, grab me, scream at me, start taking photos of me bc I’ve said no. I’ve had to duck into restaurants/grab the police/go hide somewhere for 10 minutes so this dude will stop following me So I now avoid even giving a no or speaking to them at all. I just ignore and hope they go away. I don’t have time to decipher if this dude I don’t want to talk to is safe, he probably is, but I don’t have interest or time in this interaction. It’s genuinely like when a Jehovah’s W…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 12:24 PM
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That’s p much exactly what I do. I wear headphones and pretend I can’t hear them. If they continue I say some variation of “no” and move on. I live in NY so I have interactions like this p much once or multiple times a day. So it does get grating and about 40% of the time they don’t take the no. It’s also victimizing yourself to take women’s lack of interest as an insult. You aren’t entitled to our attention.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 12:23 PM
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The women you’ve had success with are. I don’t want to be bothered during my day by strangers.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 12:18 PM
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Ftr I know men who have luck cold approaching but they got very used to rejection and didn’t take it personally. This type of stuff interests me so i ask about it. They pretty much just said that getting no’s is part of it but you get better at talking to girls as you go and it stops being an uphill battle every time. But I wasn’t there so like idk
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 03:31 AM
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Tbh bc at a grocery store I’m just trying to get groceries while listening to my podcast lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 03:28 AM
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I mean tbh we shouldn’t have to humor a stranger who wants to sleep with us if we don’t want to on the off chance he doesn’t have a large social circle. I feel for you that sucks but honestly I only have a finite amount of time to myself in my day and I don’t want to socialize ya know. Bar/club/party is different but if we’re talking like in the grocery store or on a train my mind is just not in “let’s flirt” mode
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 03:25 AM
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Did you read what I wrote? I literally gave you 5 different ways/locations I’ve met men. Through friends/apps/parties/clubs/bars. It’s not a missed opportunity my dude. If I’m not into it I’m not into it. There is no opportunity if one party isn’t interested bc they’re not trying to talk to strangers while they’re on their way to work
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 03:18 AM
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I met my current boyfriend at a nightclub. Our mutual friend was performing and we were put on their guest list. They introduced us and we really hit it off and started dating a few months later. I used apps to meet people prior to that and I liked it. I actually read bios lol would add them on social to make sure it was viable who are they voting for what are their interests, are they actually single etc. we’d chat for a bit get a vibe and meet up for a date and see how it went from there. Othe…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 03:10 AM
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Honestly atleast for me no.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 02:36 AM
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I personally don’t like cold approaches. Im nicer in about it in bars and clubs though bc that’s a place where I think it’s socially appropriate to approach strangers. I wear headphones to deter cold approaches and I go typically only go places to complete tasks whenever someone tries to get my attention I feel like I’m being interrupted, then the reason/conversation the guy wants to have is usually the exact opposite headspace that I’m in. I really can’t separate the whole “they’re approaching …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 02:31 AM
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Tea
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 02:22 AM
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Exactly being able to communicate openly is key. And tbh I’ll be real girls are super specific and it’s totally normal for it to take a while before the dude gets it. But some guys walk through life convinced they’re good in bed and will literally say things like “Well I went down on you so something’s wrong with you” LIKE INSANE they literally will tell you your body is broken because they like touched you for five seconds before sticking it in and you didn’t come.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 01:18 AM
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Tbh I’m just glad I’m not in a situation where I have to worry about it anymore. You’re right though how they receive that info does come down to effort and whether or not you care about the other person’s experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 01:15 AM
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I don’t really think these are strategies. I think masculinity and femininity are energies that people live/flow through that aren’t gendered. We obviously associate them with a gender but I know plenty of masculine women and feminine men. Everyone moves through either when they need to but they have a preference. I don’t think it’s a rigid as these examples present and I don’t think someone is right or wrong for not being the hyper gendered ideal of a masc or femme. It’s more of a spectrum. I t…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 12:50 AM
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Bc every time I’ve watched it play out that same dude is married to someone else a year later. I’m not going to continue to invest in someone who’s isn’t investing in me.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/24 11:53 PM
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Nah I just don’t waste time on people that don’t align with my vision for the future.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/24 11:51 PM
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It signals that we either have incredibly different ideas of what we want long term. Or he doesn’t love me. So I’m gonna bounce. Guys who pull this shit are using you as a place holder until they find someone better. Either way I’m out ❤️
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/24 11:50 PM
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He clearly doesn’t love me. So I’m gonna bounce. Guys who pull this shit are using you as a place holder until they find someone better. I won’t participate. My last ex pulled this shit so I left. I’ve been insurmountably happier since ❤️
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/24 11:43 PM
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It’s the only way.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/24 10:04 PM
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I completely agree. When you try to communicate most men get defensive, get more in their head and then the sex gets worse or stops bc they’re insecure. No matter how delicately you try to communicate your wants some guys take it as “OH SO YOU THINK I’M BAD IN BED” and that argument is the biggest turn off you’ll ever experience. You have a solid point. It’s literally easier to find a guy who can than try and communicate what you want.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/24 10:02 PM
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ITS NOT. And then they get defensive when you try to explain what you actually like lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/24 09:59 PM
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LITERALLY
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/24 09:59 PM
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Are we gonna say the mean thing out loud to him. Bc I might lol
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/24 09:56 PM
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I ghost men who don’t do foreplay.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/24 09:44 PM
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Read “Intimate Communion” by David Deida it tackles masculine and feminine polarity within relationships and how each can bring out the other.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/24 09:27 PM
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Yeah bc literally we can find another dude in minutes. If they don’t want to commit what incentive do I have to stick around lmao. These same guys always end up married to someone else a year later. If they don’t want to marry you and it’s been years they aren’t actually invested. There are exceptions sure but I’m not aiming to be an exception.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/24 09:06 PM
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They fully think we have a hive mind lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/24 08:53 PM
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Au revoir ❤️
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/24 08:49 PM
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Exactly they could just leave and then you have a kid that you’re raising alone on one income. Absolutely not.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/24 08:48 PM
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If I’m dating someone for more than three years and it hasn’t come up he’s wasting my time. Leaving. Out the door they will not hear from me again. I don’t waste my time on people who don’t know what they want.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/24 08:47 PM
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Well the person I’m discussing can hold a conversation with women without difficulty. The question had nothing to do with “getting women” and everything to do with sexual experiences. An inability to find someone to give head to has nothing to do with the conversation. The way y’all redirect every conversation to some variation of “women won’t give me a chance” is genuinely grating. There are 100s of posts on this subreddit about getting women go comment on those.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/24 08:39 PM
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From my experience in general, men in their thirties are typically better conversationalists, have more diverse interests, are more stable, are more emotionally intelligent and are in general better partners than their younger counterparts so I’m not really shocked that women in their 30s would follow suit. Most of the women I’ve developed flames for were in their early thirties so it checks out. Idk man age and experience makes you a more attractive partner doesn’t really shock me that this goe…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/24 06:12 PM
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I didn’t defend anything. That’s some people’s preference it’s not mine. There are women that want to be trad wives and clean house all day. I’m not one of them ergo I dumped my ex when I realized he expected that. If you don’t want a traditional relationship where the man is the provider don’t date women expecting that.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/24 06:08 PM
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Tea. Guaranteed way to keep a lady. Good head
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/24 05:33 PM
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The first time a grown man expressed sexual interest in me I was 12 so I buy it.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/24 05:18 PM
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Its pedo behavior and I hate it.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/24 05:16 PM
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Good dick is rare good head is rarer. I knew a guy that had a model on his roster bc his head was fire.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/24 05:16 PM
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I mean honestly the only guys getting upset by what I said are guys that are assuming all women want men’s wallets. Tbh I don’t like getting to know someone to feel transactional I’d never want a guy to pay bc he feels like he has to. I think giving an out is only fair.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/24 04:34 PM
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When women point out similar hypocrisies this is the response we get from men. We’re expected to accept the hypocrisy and move on. So many of us have unanimously gone “okay we just won’t date guys like that.” And turns out not all guys are like that so we just date those guys instead. Do the same ❤️
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/24 04:21 PM
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I pay for my partner on occasion. No one wants to pay for you bc you’re whiny ❤️
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/24 03:35 PM
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If you really think all women are like this then don’t date us? When women can’t find a dude to meet their standards they stay single. Do the same. An inability to find companionship isn’t the failing of an entire gender. Your choices are: bitch about paying for girls, violate your own boundaries and spend money you don’t have, or don’t participate and date girls with realistic expectations that like you for you and not your wallet. It’s that simple but it’s easier to circle jerk about how ALL w…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/24 03:19 PM
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That’s cool dude as long as there are men offering to pay they’ll always have an edge over you if the girl you’re pursuing is a “pay my way” girlie.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/24 01:18 PM
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Yeah I do I dumped a guy bc he expected me to do most of the housework while he did basically nothing. Don’t put up with bullshit y’all respect yourselves
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/24 01:16 PM
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I encourage being selective it’s genuinely how you regain control of your love life it’s gonna look different for men than it will for women but the alternative is bitching about it or complying.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/24 01:15 PM
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That sucks, but again acknowledging it sucks doesn’t change anything. I’m literally someone that doesn’t have that standard so you’re not exactly working to change my mind. The girls who hold this standard won’t even humor this dialogue they will literally just find someone else who will pay for their meal. So idk if this is a massive “absolutely not I will not date someone with these expectations” you have to make peace with a portion of women blowing you off over that. The same way I made peac…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/24 12:28 AM
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I know isn’t it great that it’s not 1950 anymore and you can literally approach dating however you want and do what works for you ❤️
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/24 12:22 AM
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It’s honestly the least toxic approach. We rarely talk about who covers what in our relationship. I just go “wanna split” and am chill with either answer
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/24 10:37 PM
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I don’t have empathy for men that make sweeping generalizations about a group they aren’t a part of that then discuss women as a problematic monolith.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/24 10:14 PM
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Women are not a monolith and we don’t all have this preference (again the first sentence of my comment) My original argument stated that Women have a plethora of options that doesn’t mean you have to do whatever they want you to do but you should probably make peace with the fact that you aren’t going to be compatible with girls who are insistent on you paying in the first place. And be aware that you probably won’t get them to drop this standard bc they can hold out for someone who will. Again …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/24 08:24 PM
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Bingo. That’s why all of these posts are reductive to me. It’s obvious who has more options I said that multiple times in my original post. That doesn’t change the fact that if this is a dealbreaker for you, you should hold out for a girl that’s not going to expect you to pay her way every time.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/24 08:05 PM
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I was okay with being permanently single and many women would say something similar. If you can’t find someone who meets your standards you should examine your standards measure them up to yourself and ask why you can’t find a partner that meets them and is also interested in you. This isn’t gendered, women experiencing this should do that to. Women have always had more options. That’s why it’s important to actually examine if these things y’all take issue with and ask yourselves if this is some…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/24 08:00 PM
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Oh my god if y’all are this concerned about unplanned pregnancy, wear condoms or be celibate.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/24 07:47 PM
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Oh okay I see what you’re saying now. Yeah I agree. I used to live in the Bible Belt, I hated dating bc I wasn’t conservative and that was the dating pool. Moved to NY was immediately surrounded by likeminded men and women, it became easier to date and build those communities
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/24 07:43 PM
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Tbh my guy I’m having a hard time understanding your comment bc of how these sentences are structured. But I’ll keep it to this. If you cannot find anyone who meets your standards you should re-examine your standards and consider why you can’t find someone who agrees/meets them. That’s not gendered btw
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/24 07:19 PM
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Tea honestly.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/24 06:14 PM
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Literally you’d think I was posting some “all men are rapists” shit instead of like “some girls are gonna be shallow maybe just stop pursuing a girl when she shows these traits”
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/24 06:08 PM
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Oh sorry my advice of “consider that women with sky high standards/beliefs that men are creepy aren’t gonna be a good match for you and won’t be fun to date so don’t get super upset when those girls don’t express interest” was offensive to y’all. This thread started bc I literally agreed with a man. But y’all only want to fight with me because you can’t stand when the same advice comes from a woman. That’s why I don’t engage after I’ve said my piece. Neither of us are gonna change eachother’s mi…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/24 05:30 PM
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Tbh I don’t disagree. That’s why I lead the interaction with “wanna split.” When I was single and let the guy take it from there. But you aren’t going to change someone’s mind on this if that’s their expectation. And if that is their expectation they probably aren’t gonna be an ideal girlfriend for you. edit Again y’all can downvote this if you want. It’s literally reality lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/24 05:19 PM
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I frankly have never had a productive conversation with a man that genuinely thinks all women are an issue that are constantly victimizing him for not sleeping with them. But are somehow expecting me to humor his POV. Lmao. Your entire comment was gendered insults. You don’t have an accurate worldview or a point. There’s nothing here to debate. You hate women and want an excuse to dunk on them. Embarrassing. Hope you figure your shit out my guy ❤️
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/24 05:12 PM
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That’s always what it’s actually about lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/24 05:01 PM
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If you think women are a monolith you have no business dating one. ❤️ I said explicitly that neither gender was a monolith and you only heard women, sad. I also could produce several real world examples of men behaving poorly and make a similar flawed analysis about men, but I didn’t bc that would be immature, inaccurate, reductive and idiotic. These TikTok’s y’all watch and then project onto an entire population are trapping you in cycles of toxicity. That are ultimately to your own detriment n…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/24 04:48 PM
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I don’t need to. I’m doing the thing I said in my previous comment “sounds rough my dude hope you figure that out”. I don’t argue with walls ❤️
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/24 04:22 PM
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Lmao okay king go off ❤️ sounds like your method of combatting this is working great
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/24 04:03 PM
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I was inundated with slut, whore, dirty, worthless before I ever had sex. I was being slutshamed before I was sexually active. While simultaneously began receiving unwanted sexual attention from grown men when I was 12. We can compare which is worse but it’s kinda pointless bc both come from different places of contempt. Both suck. I took that went “alright fuck you” and stopped tolerating disrespect even if that meant being alone. Even if that meant looking “emotional” or crazy. Good. Im repell…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/24 03:57 PM
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Exactly. A toxic relationship is worse than being single. There’s so much more to life than sex and there’s no reason to get hung up on girls that have shallow standards.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/24 03:43 PM
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I don’t agree with the rhetoric but I agree with the sentiment. If you don’t like girls who behave this way don’t pay attention to them. Aim for a girl who doesn’t act like that and quit getting hung up on girls that you weren’t compatible with to begin with.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/24 03:40 PM
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Women aren’t monoliths, neither are men. Preferences and standards vary from person to person. There are assholes in every demographic and they’re usually the loudest. I think a lot of y’all need to make peace with the fact that some women likely won’t be compatible with you if things like expecting their date to pay their way are dealbreakers. If a girl is insisting you pay their way (kinda tacky but whatever) and that’s a dealbreaker to you (and no judgment if it is) than it’s likely the girl …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/24 03:31 PM
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I don’t. When I was single it typically went We go round for round. Or he offers I say no he insists. If we don’t talk about it i roll up expecting to pay lmao I’ve never shown up to a date without money to pay my way.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/24 03:41 PM
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TEA
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/24 03:39 PM
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The backlash is bc men who won’t date fat women never shut up about how they won’t date fat women. You can have a preference, no one likes an asshole. Constantly dunking on fat people is asshole behavior thats not gendered. Having preferences and standards for your partner isn’t incel behavior. A hatred towards women because you’re struggling to get laid is incel behavior. ❤️ Furthermore having standards isn’t some mass movement. It’s an individual list of preferences my dude that many people sa…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/24 03:22 PM
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That is the standard ❤️ I have never demanded material anything from a partner. I demand emotional intelligence and respect. Everything else is confetti ❤️
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/24 05:14 PM
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Incorrect but once again you don’t have to date girls like me. I also have a good job lmao. So again this is never an expectation. Develop some standards that work for you and implement them. The only reason I found the love of my life is because I kicked people that weren’t my ideal to the curb. For you a girl who expects a dude to pay her way everytime wouldn’t be your ideal so you shouldn’t humor a date with her lmao There’s no shame in that game.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/24 05:12 PM
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Love free shit. Where did I deny that lmao I’ve been with someone for two years with a great job. He doesn’t pay my way everytime bc I don’t want that dynamic. We split grocery bills, bar tabs etc. pretty much anything that isn’t a special occasion we go Dutch. However Valentines Day our anniversary my birthday etc. he insists on footing the bill. His birthday, he gets a promotion, he has something to celebrate I’m buying him something nice. It’s a give and take my dude. And not something we rea…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/24 04:59 PM
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Sounds like you’ve found your first dealbreaker. Faux financial independence. I’d say it’s a good one. There’s a plethora of issues that could arise if someone is lying about their financial history.Don’t date women like this. (Or anyone like this tbh) Mine was “open about his mommy issues immediately” I noticed men with bad relationships with their moms were hella mean to me so if it came up on a first date there’s not a second one. You pick up on your yucks and narrow down what you want from t…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/24 03:24 PM
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Truly though this just isn’t our issue lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/24 03:08 PM
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I’m not a “pay for my shit” lady but I’ve heard too many horror stories about men leaning into full deadbeat and becoming another mouth to feed (in addition to the kids) with nothing else to offer. Picking up the tab every now and then signals to single women who are financially independent that you aren’t going to become another mouth to feed down the line. And is just a nice thing for both members of the couple to do now and again. But it should never be the norm or an expectation The only dif…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/24 03:06 PM
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Lmao. People who are concerned with other people’s sex lives don’t have a satisfying one of their own. But I’ll be meaner to men who approach me. Wouldn’t want some mid dude who can’t get it in thinking I’m a slut. ❤️
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/24 11:07 PM
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*nopillsgirlie* I'm just putting this one out there. Using online dating for its intended purpose is not "abusing online dating" lmao. I don't have an issue with porn as a concept versions of it have existed pretty much since we started making films. In its modern context, a lot of production companies have unethical practices that abuse the cast. Their casting processes are super predatory *I've read accounts of performers who met a producer while still in highschool at like 16 or 17 and essent…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/24 09:23 PM
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This is the response I was looking for tbh. Thank you. It's not so much that I'm like. "women are always right forever and incapable of wrong" I don't think that. I have plenty of dumbass friends that date fuckboy men that absolutely are stringing them along. I'm still, typically more frustrated with the guy for not communicating but I can acknowledge that my friend has some issues they need to work through and figure out. But what sends me is that these examples always include abusive dynamics …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/24 09:20 PM
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I will completely own that women get trapped in cycles of abuse, I've lost friends to it. But again all of these abusive dynamics don't show up until you're deep in the relationship, up until that point the signs look like blips/bad moments. They become routine when you're married and have a kid and then it's too late unless you divorce. It's the metaphor of a frog being boiled alive. No guy comes out the gates devaluing and discarding someone they're trying to entrap. It's a slow process of gra…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/24 09:03 PM
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Reply Because they only care when girls are having casual sex lmao.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/24 08:53 PM
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This took me out
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/24 08:52 PM
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I have been in a committed relationship for two years now with a guy that also played the field. We both had plenty of options and still picked eachother. We swap stories all the time. It in no way negatively impacted my life, I took necessary precautions and kept it light. There's more risk in committing than keeping it casual. A lot of people are crazy and put their best foot forward until they feel they don't have to anymore. Also lmao "this behavior" Humans have sex. Sex has many meanings at…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/24 08:43 PM
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*nopillsgirlie* Being in a relationship takes time and energy that I don't have for dead end dudes. There are more people I'd sleep with than settle down with. When I ventured into hookup culture I was incredibly career focused and didn't have much interest in the men around me outside of sex because everything else in my life was more important. It's fun.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/24 08:37 PM
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*nopillsgirlie* If we hold out long enough maybe they'll pay us lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/24 05:43 PM
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If anything a lot of women are going celibate tbh.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/24 05:19 PM
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*nopillsgirlie* I really want kids. I just want to preface with that. There's no incentive to get pregnant in America and every incentive not to. You can no longer survive on a single income, so regardless of what you want to do you have to go back to work typically within a few months of your child being born, if you're lucky. This is bad for the psyche of the child and the mother as recovery from pregnancy can take months and many labors are traumatic. There's no guarantee you won't lose your …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/24 05:16 PM
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*nopillsgirlie* "Psychopathic men have more kids"- Abusers have masks that they typically don't drop until they have their target isolated/trapped (getting them pregnant would be a way to achieve this). Were the flags there? Sure. But even in this example you've pointed out the man in question is psychopathic. So I'm unsure what you're upset about here. Are mad that people don't blame victims of that psychopathy? If one party is psychopathic and the other isn't the one with psychopathy is in the…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/24 04:10 PM
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I did. When we broke up I literally went “You are incapable of taking accountability for your actions at the expense of my own mental stability and wellbeing” then he tried to tell me I was mean for dumping him after he rolled around on the floor screaming that he hated me bc he thought he saw a bed bug (it wasn’t a bedbug lmao)
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/24 02:07 PM
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nopillsgirlie Completely agree tbh. If you compromise on things you’ll put up with/traits you desire in a partner, they turn into a hinderance down the line.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/24 07:57 PM
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nopillsgirlie I think a lot of it is lack of empathy and education. There’s a plethora of reasons someone would be bigger that go beyond eating bad and being lazy and they’re all none of our business tbh. The kicker about bodyshaming is that it ends up contributing to binge eating in individuals with binge eating disorders like bullemia. We should be striving to be healthy and happy, whatever that looks like for the individual. We aren’t all meant to be super thin but we’re all meant to be activ…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/24 05:30 PM
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nopillsgirlie I met my boyfriend of two years at a nightclub. Because I was at a nightclub looking to have fun and meet people. Bars/nightclubs/parties are more welcoming to interactions like this bc usually both parties are there with similar goals in mind for how they want their night to go. I don’t go to a library to talk to strangers. I don’t typically make friends with people I want to date. I don’t want to hook up with my coworkers because if things go awry I might have to find another job…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/24 05:05 PM
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The only advice I have on how to approach women (frankly) is just when to do it and when not to do it. In general I’ve never been a fan unless I was at a bar/party/club/on an app everywhere else I get a little peeved bc I’m usually in the middle of something and some rando interrupted me. It gets grating when it’s your day to day if I’m being fr. What you’ve said about lesbians having dead bedrooms in no way reflects my experience in relationships with women. lesbians typically are better at nav…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/24 04:36 PM
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I don’t concern myself with that bc I’ve never had to. Even in queer spaces I’m typically the one who gets approached and doesn’t do the approaching. Also in general unless I’m in a super specific setting I kinda don’t like or enjoy being approached I’m in a relationship so now I kinda just rebuff before they can get into their whole schtick. In general it’s not a skill that straight women need it’s like saying “you know most ballet dancers aren’t very knowledgeable about waterpolo” like k? I do…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/24 04:13 PM
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I’m fully convinced it’s lowkey fetish content. Like WHY WAS HER PREDOMINANTLY MALE AUDIENCE STILL SENDING MONEY?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/24 03:22 PM
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Yeah he knows exactly why we broke up. I disclosed that he was a narc p immediately. I said high maintenance because he was a narcissist who was also incredibly high maintenance. Most narcissists don’t realize they’re narcs. He probably is still deflecting and blaming everyone but himself and thinking that I’m a terrible person for breaking up with him after he punched a hole in our door bc someone stole his package out of our lobby. It’s why I’m such an advocate for “if it doesn’t work just lea…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/24 01:58 PM
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Girls typically don’t approach so obvi?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/24 01:12 PM
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nopillsgirlie Watched the video and I’m being so sincere are we sure this wasn’t a subliminal humiliation fetish stream? Idk this whole thing just felt very “YUCK I don’t want to kiss this average mid guy but I will for money wink wink”. A lot of people get off to that “It’d be so gross if I solid 10. Kissed a yucky incel boy gross. But I will for money” -idk this whole thing seems fetishy I’m not trolling I’m genuinely asking. I know twitch has a reputation for sketchy hidden fetish content/sof…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/24 09:56 PM
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Yeah I think we literally agree with eachother. If your standards are shallow the pool is gonna be shallow. If you’re only going for 10/10 knockout girls that you’re getting to flock to you with money idk what to say like the results you get are what you get. If you’re only going for guys with fuck you money you’re gonna get a guy with fuck you money and everything that entails (and usually a guy that’s leading with money is compensating for something)
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/24 09:33 PM
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nopillsgirlie This is super anecdotal but I’ve dated men my age and I’m currently dating a man 8 years older than me. Tbh there’s just less bullshit. He has his shit together and he doesn’t stress me out. He makes good on his promises and he doesn’t say things he doesn’t mean or isn’t going to follow through on. He has a job that he’s passionate about and loves. His friends are all fun to be around. He’s actually dependable and possesses a shit ton of emotional intelligence. He puts in a ton of …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/24 09:28 PM
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I disagree tbh. I think opportunistic women and men do that but I’m engaged to my ideal partner rn 🤷‍♀️ I only found him bc I refused to settle. My version of “settling” would have been staying single. C’est la vie I guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/24 08:40 PM
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That’s a bummer. 🤷‍♀️ if you’re leading with cash you’re going to get girls interested in cash.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/24 08:37 PM
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This is true. If you’re trying to attract women with money you’re going to attract girls with a materialistic streak that like your money not you. I get that there are guys down to settle for that but I honestly can’t help but roll my eyes when guys that are buying bottles at nightclubs to get girls come out of those relationships/hookups thinking that all girls are shallow and “gold diggers” when tbh idk what kind of girl they expected to attract when money was all they put forward lol
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/24 07:11 PM
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Oh dude that doesn’t shock me I was roommates with an Indian girl in college who tried to date within her community whenever possible and the STORIES she would tell me about rich Indian guys were insane
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/24 05:05 PM
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Tea. You’re right it’s because they’ve never had to learn game
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/24 04:17 PM
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Lol the term my therapist gave me was narcissistic abuser. But in general, incredibly entitled, incredibly volatile, lacked self-awareness, lacked any sense of accountability (everything was always everyone else’s fault), super possessive and controlling , never compromised on anything but always expected me to, constantly belittling and demeaning me and was incapable of admitting when he was wrong. He also had no survival skills, I’ve always prided myself on being self-sufficient but I didn’t s…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/24 04:13 PM
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nopillsgirlie I dated a mid guy than a month in found out his family (and by extension he) was loaded. I still dumped his ass when he became too high maintenance which a lot of rich dudes end up being 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/24 03:13 PM
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Lmao literally “men gain media literacy challenge”
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/24 12:33 PM
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I agree. They just are not for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/24 04:53 AM
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nopillsgirlie I’m so sorry this happened to you. That’s the thing too is she probably had no basis of comparison if this was the only man she’d been with which is a reality in a bunch of super fundie circles. It’s so wild bc even when you follow all of the “church’s” rules everything still fucks up. Nearly every Christian married couple my family was friends with growing up is divorced or separated now (both that I’m thinking about off the top of my head were instances of adultery) I know there …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/24 09:54 PM
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nopillwomen honestly I had the opposite of a “liberal feminist mother” and I still rejected their ideals. I work in nightlife and cross paths with a lot of burlesque dancers (love burlesque no shame in that game) but wouldn’t you know it? At every gig there are three that went to Catholic school/had a pastor father/at some point owned a purity ring. We end up shit talking our childhoods at every event. Legit the fastest way to guarantee your daughter screws into promiscuity is to tell her her en…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/24 09:38 PM
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“Special snowflake syndrome” is thinking that you know what’s best for women when you’re a man by advocating for an arbitrary 90 day rule that only applies to one group of people that you aren’t apart of lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/24 09:01 PM
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nopillsgirlie -I’m not for everyone and everyone is not for me. -if someone shows you who they are believe them -being in a shitty relationship is worse on every level than being single and playing the field. -Most men in general are not worth getting worked up over. Sexual compatibility does not mean a commitment or relationship is a good idea. -If you’re supposed to be with someone getting with them should feel easy. -people concerned with your personal life or sex life don’t have a satisfying…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/24 06:05 PM
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nopillsgirlie Proud “whore” now in a committed relationship with another proud “whore”. No regrets. We both had fun we both love eachother and even though we both had plenty of options we still committed to one another. I date seeking all components of a relationship. I’m not normally this shallow but I’m not waiting three months to find out that I don’t share sexual compatibility with someone because it’s a crucial aspect of a successful relationship. If other people want to wait for marriage t…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/24 05:41 PM
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nopillsgirlie TEA honestly I get trying to put your first foot forward like on a date and being supportive even if you’re not quite into whatever your partner is doing. But to completely misrepresent yourself borders on diabolical. It’s insane to go out of your way to pursue hot girls that party and dance and then get upset when they continue to want to do that once you’re together lmao. The crazy thing is in hindsight we would’ve been good FWBs and just left it there, we probably would still be…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/24 03:12 PM
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nopillsgirlie I dated one of these on accident and he fully pretended to be chill about how I dressed/acted until we lived together and suddenly he never wanted to go out but also would try to stop me from going out. Hate to be this guy but like DONT DO THAT. Literally if someone is interested and your lifestyles don’t align just have casual sex/establish FWB otherwise you get dumped down the line and wasted both parties’ time.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/24 03:05 PM
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He’s basically saying he doesn’t want a wife anymore 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/24 12:50 PM
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nopillsgirlie Settle for being alone if you can’t find someone who makes you happy. Being in an unhappy marriage is more of a trap than being alone forever is.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/24 09:26 PM
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nopillsgirlie I’m genuinely not opposed to paternity tests when the pregnancy was the result of a hookup/situationship/polyamorous situation where something like this might occur. But if my husband accused me of cheating and asked for a paternity test he wouldn’t be my husband anymore and would end up paying child support anyway ❤️
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/24 09:22 PM
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Nah my continually clean std record did ❤️ go get tested everytime you get a new body regardless of whether or not protection is used that’s 101 shit. But everytime I hooked up with a guy he used protection anything he did in his free time never affected me because of this. And again we both had rosters 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/24 08:37 PM
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nopillsgirlie This question kinda doesn’t make sense bc personality and looks are subjective and what’s attractive hass varied from century to century/culture to culture. Like idk what a 10/10 across the board would even look like for me but it wouldn’t be the stereotypical football player/artist that’s in a lot of mainstream media. What people are attracted to varies lol But in general I’d say most people’s standards adjust because of their experiences rather than preferences. Someone who dated…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/24 08:32 PM
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Lmao “there simply are not enough desirable men for every woman that wants a relationship” Is the most honest thing I’ve seen on this subreddit.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/24 07:52 PM
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nopillsgirlie Omg it’s literally not that serious. When I was casually dating and hooking up I had a roster of guys the guys I was with had a roster of girls everyone wore condoms and it wasn’t a big deal. This subreddit makes all of this stuff so complicated as long as everyone is on the same page about “what type of relationship this is” like who gives a shit. There are a ton of people I’d sleep with and not many I’d date it’s normal that this goes both ways I still respect and value the peopl…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/24 07:50 PM
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nopillsgirlie People grow but they don’t change. Ideally you end up with someone you’re compatible with from the jump then growth comes naturally. But if you’re trying to change for someone or try to change someone else you’re stifling your own growth potential. Also sorry but mutual growth is a byproduct of a healthy relationship. That’s not going to come naturally with a partner you aren’t compatible with and oftentimes you end up holding eachother back. Idk when I was at the crossroads of ent…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/24 07:24 PM
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Good luck with Austin!
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/24 07:11 PM
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I grew up in the Bible Belt and left because I didn’t like the people I lived around 10/10 best decision I’ve ever made genuinely go find people that align with your views. I’ve dealt with way too many “lowkey conservatives” hiding their beliefs and then they get offended when I reject/ghost but I’m honestly just cutting to the chase I’m someone who’s incredibly self-aware that my values/morals I hold to super strongly and aren’t necessarily for everyone and can be “a lot” for some. that’s why I…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/24 06:09 PM
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nopillsgirlie Foreplay + penetration. The former is more important to me than the latter tbh but I’m bi so that might be why I disagree🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/24 05:59 PM
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GENUINELY I wish conservative/Republican men would just be upfront about it. It saves both parties time
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/24 05:45 PM
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nopillsgirlie I think you should be as authentic as possible so women with these ideals will know to stay away from you ❤️
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/24 05:21 PM
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nopillsgirlie Fr I honestly think mocking men for crying/having a normal range of emotions directly contributes to men developing unhealthy ways of managing their emotions (ie screaming punching throwing shit). I hate RP I think it’s toxic but I think shaming emotionally vulnerable men is a legit societal issue that primarily affects cis het men and pushes them down the RP pipeline. And then the subsequent bottling up of those emotions only makes the inevitable outburst bigger You can’t complain…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/24 04:26 PM
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nopillsgirlie Oh that’s fucked dude I’m so sorry
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/24 04:22 PM
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nopillsgirlie Yeah like I’m so okay with my current partner’s “sad panda” moments bc he doesn’t get destructive and doesn’t say things that are genuinely disturbing. But I’ve dated guys that would punch walls and threaten suicide and that’s no bueno, I’ve also dated women that behave like this and that’s no bueno too. There’s a difference between being vulnerable and being emotionally manipulative or physically threatening. It’s honestly not as gendered as everyone wants to make it seem
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/24 04:21 PM
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nopillsgirlie I know for me yelling and throwing shit is a hard no for me. And that’s how I see a lot of men handling their emotions. From my POV it comes off as aggression not vulnerability. I think it’s cause (usually) the man is larger than me and if he’s angry and flying off the handle it’s genuinely frightening. Sulky or tearful is honestly my preferred.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/24 04:16 PM
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YUP
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/24 03:08 PM
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Dude absolutely. If you’re crisis modes aren’t compatible the relationship is dead on arrival tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/24 03:06 PM
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nopillsgirlie Honestly you meet people that were right for you at that moment but people change and grow (or more often don’t grow). The sunken cost-fallacy keeps people in toxic relationships with toxic people. I dated a guy for 3 years and for the first 2 it was great. When we moved in together I suddenly found out that all of our “common interests” were largely conflated by him and we actually didn’t have that much in common. It became super apparent that he was incredibly controlling and par…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/24 03:00 PM
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nopillsgirlie also average guys with riz don’t have problems finding partner just FTR
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/24 02:41 PM
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nopills girlie I think what everyone is dodging is that most women don’t climax from penetration (it’s possible but unlikely from a first time partner) because of this a lot of women primarily orgasm from clitoral stimulation. Intercourse is fun and can get most girls part of the way. But if you’re skipping foreplay it’s statistically probable that she’s not going to orgasm ie if you aren’t giving head get out of the bed ❤️
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/24 04:20 AM
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I should’ve explained better BDE is a metaphor it doesn’t refer to literal size it’s slang for “will fuck your brains out”
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/24 04:15 AM
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nopillsgirlie I’ve noticed most guys typically drop the obsession with purity once they’re able to get laid consistently. There needs to be more kindness around experience and lack of experience on both sides, it’s just reductive to make a “thing” out of it. Like if you view women who’ve had more than one partner as “less than” that’s probably contributing to your struggle to get experience. Simultaneously mocking less experienced men is fucking mean and gross.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/24 09:53 PM
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Teeeeeeeeaaaaaaaaa the age gap posts are always so dicey on here. Legit it all depends on individuals and compatibility. I’ve seen age gap relationships that were manipulative and shitty and I’ve seen others that resulted in happy marriages it just depends
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/24 09:40 PM
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nopillsgirlie Yeah you can kinda guess if a guy is gonna be good in bed. It’s a vibe they put out BDE is absolutely a real things
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/24 09:28 PM
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Eh even if you don’t get all the way there you still have a good time. 🤷‍♀️ not ideal but if you’re just going for a hookup or something casual it gets the job done
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/24 09:26 PM
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nopillsgirlie If I had a bad hookup that guy never heard from me again. I wouldn’t ghost but I’d always lie about why it wasn’t “working out” but to be totally fr I think the guys knew. It was honestly a huge reason why I started having sex earlier in the courtship there were too many times when push came to shove we just weren’t sexually compatible. Idk y’all it’s Brutal out there 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/24 09:26 PM
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nopillsgirlie we don’t need stranger men to help us. That’s what our family and actual friends and partners are for ❤️
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/24 09:16 PM
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nopillsgirlie We literally don’t lmao especially not a stranger that approached us at a bar bc he’s trying to sleep with us 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/24 09:04 PM
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nopillsgirlie Lmao okay when a girl is rude to you be mad about it 🤷‍♀️ idk what to tell you people who don’t want to talk to you don’t owe you kindness. You’re going to eventually get rejected when you’re approaching strangers that’s just how it is. As someone who has done the rejecting, no matter how you do it loser guys get offended so you might as well leave little room for interpretation. When I rejected politely they wouldn’t go away, now I make a scene so they actually fuck off.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/24 08:56 PM
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nopillsgirlie Not necessarily my boyfriend never used dating apps and did fine. He also is incredibly charming and grew up with two sisters so idk he just doesn’t have issues talking to women/wasn’t really offended when he’d get brushed off/rejected. I think learning how to approach is important, I think not focusing on trying to talk to one girl at the the bar is important (there are plenty of fish in the sea just take the no and move on), and just understand that more than likely any standoffi…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/24 07:14 PM
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nopillsgirlie When I was single I only went to bars/clubs with friends or dates and only really wanted to hang out with them. On the off chance I was at a bar alone it was normally bc I was grabbing a drink before going to my next appointment (I’d literally bring a book/work to broadcast “please don’t talk to me”). Small talk at these venues isn’t dead but there’s definitely less interest in it. It could be because normally if a guy is approaching you at a bar/club he wants to sleep with you. Wh…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/24 06:04 PM
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Yeah we actually can’t afford it. Healthcare is actually a huge component for us, even with coverage giving birth in a hospital can cost thousands. We’re obviously saving. But I’m not going to homeschool my kids and I’m not going to have a child unless I can confidently say I’d be able to uphold our current standard of living and provide my kids the same. That’s a hard line for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/23 09:19 PM
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nopillsgirlie I’ve been in dead bedroom relationships and now I’m in one where the sex is still bopping 3 years later. This is super anecdotal but might be relevant. In my previous situation the sex was fine but Straight up I wasn’t getting where I needed to go (if you catch my drift). Whenever I tried to communicate this he’d get super defensive/upset so I kinda just gave up. Around the 1 year mark he stopped FP altogether and it was pretty much a just penetration game again tried to communicat…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/23 08:55 PM
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nopillsgirlie In the states there’s no incentive to have kids and every incentive not to. We have no guaranteed paid maternity leave cost of living is higher than ever and wages haven’t matched that cost. Public schools are deteriorating and not everyone can afford privatized education or put their kids in a charter school. I want to be a mom badly, I can’t guarantee my kids a good quality of life with the way things are (I wouldn’t even be able to guarantee that I’d keep my job). That’s before …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/23 07:30 PM
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nopillsgirlie Exactly intention is key
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/23 04:43 PM
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nopillsgirlie I’m in an age gap relationship(ish) there’s an 8 year age difference between us. We met when I was 26 and he was 34. I definitely get stink eyes from older women bc he looks slightly older than he is and I look slightly younger than I am. I think most people view them the same way but I think the lack of animosity towards sugaring probably stems from the transparency that comes from it being a blatant transaction. There’s less of a “what if that 50 year old man is taking advantage …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/23 03:04 PM
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nopills girlie I didn’t give much thought to dating standards before and it almost ruined my life. Lmao being in the wrong relationship can stall your career, damage your health and trash your psyche. So now I simply don’t date below my standards, met a guy who meets them and some, if we break up I wouldn’t get into a relationship with anyone until I found that again. It’s so much easier being single than it is being in an unsatisfactory relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/23 03:08 PM
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nopillsgirlie Do you know any sex workers? Bc I had this view until I actually talked to people in that line of work
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/23 05:59 PM
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nopillsgirlie Literally all of the sex workers I know want to be sex workers. At that point who am I to be a dick about their line of work it’s literally none of my business. Not to mention the way these dynamics are portrayed in media are drastically different than what I’ve seen play out. None of my friends have pimps, none of them are out on the streets, half of their clients are ND well-off socially awkward men and they submit std screenings and background checks to my friends before meeting…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/23 05:57 PM
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nopillsgirlie Exactly it’s why I roll my eyes at these. Its only a question of “is this debasing the entire gender” when women do it. But men have sex for money too and it’s not as uncommon as people want to think it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/23 05:49 PM
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nopillsgirlie Men are escorts too.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/23 05:42 PM
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Nope dad bod funny dudes are my type lmao but some of those guys don’t like horror movies/don’t like going out/ don’t have similar interest so hookup buddy. Guys I connect with bc of compatible interests =partner
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/23 03:30 AM
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It varied but I tended to gravitate more towards dad bod funny dudes/ I’m bisexual so a lot of these dudes were also girls lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/23 03:29 AM
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Nah our intentions don’t align so why bother. I’ve also turned down sex from men seeking commitment when I wasn’t interested in a longterm relationship but would have been down to hookup.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/23 03:25 AM
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Yeah this was my experience they were the ones that would push it further
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/23 03:23 AM
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Because I don’t have a ton of hangups about casual sex 🤷‍♀️ idk I see the same behavior from men and I’d imagine it’s similar
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/23 03:21 AM
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I’ve had plenty of “husband material” fuck buddies but we weren’t compatible enough to go that distance and wanted to keep things light and fun while keeping our options open
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/23 03:17 AM
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Bc if I want something deeper I’m not going to put my emotional health in danger by sleeping with someone who’s intentions may not match mine. Like why would I set myself up to get my heart broken
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/23 03:14 AM
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I don’t dislike anyone I sleep with I’m not seeking commitment from everyone I sleep with. There’s a lot to having a functional relationship and that’s not the same criteria I have for a fuckbuddy/sneaky link/ situationship/ whatever you want to call it. Meanwhile I wouldn’t have sex with someone I want commitment from when it’s not clear what they want bc why would I hurt myself like that
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/23 03:06 AM
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Hey I hit post too soon it’s edited
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/23 03:05 AM
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The same way y’all do lmao I have sex with the men I do want commitment from or I could see myself dating when I’ve sussed out that we have compatible intentions it’s not that complicated. It’s not that I dislike the rest or I’m not attracted or we don’t click it’s that we wouldn’t make good romantic partners for whatever reason or at that period of my life I’m not seeking monogamy.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/23 03:00 AM
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nopillsgirlie Bc it’s not friends with benefits but it’s not a one-time hookup and the semantics don’t matter. Sometimes you just connect sexually but you could give a fuck about everything else.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/23 02:59 AM
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nopills girlie I have never slept with a guy immediately that I wanted commitment from. When I had “situationships” I also had similar arrangements with other people and was aware that they did as well. At that period of my life I wasn’t interested in a relationship. Y’all need to start considering that we are also looking for “no strings attached” sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/23 02:54 AM
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nopills girlie I have a couple of friends who escort/do OF and a ton who are exotic dancers. My friend who escorts background checks everyone they “work” with and makes them submit STD screenings and will turn down people they don’t want to meet up with. The majority of their clients are upper class men who are incredibly socially awkward. Being selective has kept them safe from SA on the clock. They’re in this line of work primarily bc of a physical disability that prevents them from working a …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/23 01:45 AM
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*nopillsgirlie* My man has a beard. Plenty of girls dig beards.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/23 06:27 PM
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*nopills girlie* Positive masculine traits are typically defined as protectiveness, level-headedness, ambition, drive, passion, and compassion amongst other similar traits. These can manifest in many different expressions of masculinity, you could be a jock/poet/father/custodian/president etc. and exhibit these traits. You do not need any type of status to embody these traits, you also don't have to embody these traits at all if you don't want to. Not grooming, being loudly horny, making rape jo…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/23 06:26 PM
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nopills girlie I don’t have an issue with this. My friend is an escort and from what they’ve told me as long as you’re very thorough in verifying/background checking your clients it’s a mutually beneficial arrangement. The majority of men that they work with are super rich and don’t have time to date/ don’t want to bother with it or super socially awkward guys that want company. Not really the seedy douchey guys you normally think of. I don’t think it’s a bad option for someone who is seeking se…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/23 04:56 PM
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nopillsgirlie I actually really agree with you on most of this and think that you were respectful of both genders. I think we keep getting our wires crossed bc we get agitated that the ways we experience attraction aren’t the same ways the opposite sex does. Like I get frustrated by the fact that I’m just sitting in public and someone wants to talk to me just cause (of looks/what I’m wearing etc.) I’d much rather someone be into me bc of my interests/job/accomplishments/talents and after being o…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/23 04:48 PM
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nopills girlie These are good!
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/23 04:34 PM
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Bro I’ve been raped thrice. I’ve been sexually harassed since I was 12 i harbored deep misandrist views for the about two years after recovering from sexual assault. I took a hiatus from men where I worked on myself and on altering my views before they me pushed down a path that left me bitter and angry. And now I don’t have problems with men. But that history left me disinterested and not that concerned with dating or being with one again. That’s what y’all are actually up against. It’s not us …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/23 12:33 AM
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I know this isn’t your world but most women exotic dancers where I live marry women lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/23 11:37 PM
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Idk what else there is to say dude. It sounds like you hate women. So yeah don’t participate until you work that shit out. That’s what anyone with a brain would tell you. That’s reality you aren’t owed anyone’s time or energy. And you’re certain not going to get the desired response if this is how you speak to women. If you have issues with women maybe you shouldn’t try to sleep with one til you figure that out. Most women are just vibing we aren’t gonna give time to someone that’s killing the v…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/23 11:36 PM
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No one is insisting you participate king ❤️
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/23 11:26 PM
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Yeah you kinda can’t talk about male exotic dancers without talking about gay men tbh. That’s why all of the “showtime showtime” pole dancers are in the subways and not in clubs they don’t want to perform for gay people but they won’t make as much just sticking to het bars so they have to busk
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/23 11:25 PM
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*nopills girlie* It's not that it's a red flag or that they're scared of "looking bad". It's that most people don't want the responsibility of taking someone's virginity. There's a lot of emotional baggage and intimacy that comes from your first time and I think it's totally rational that many people wouldn't want to take on that responsibility if they're dating casually. Most people aren't open to that level of intimacy early in a relationship but they also might not want to wait to have sex. P…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/23 09:24 PM
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Nah women would love to teach men. They get hella defensive and kill the vibe. But if you're one of these guys all of this information is online. You don't need experience you need a general idea of our anatomy and the willingness to put in the effort. I have absolutely met up with men again that didn't quite get me there but put in enough effort to communicate that we would get there eventually. It's harder for women to climax than it is for men, so if you want to have an equally satisfying exp…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/23 06:34 PM
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*nopills girlie* Hi I'm a drag artist in the nightlife scene that works with a ton of burlesque and exotic dancers. In burlesque/performance art/pole dancing spaces there's significantly more body diversity for both genders of performer. There are whole evenings and shows dedicated to plus-size exotic dancers and these are at a plethora of venues but higher-end and artists of all body-sizes are able to find work at exclusive venues the same way super fit performers can*ie Paradise Club/House of …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/23 06:25 PM
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nopillsgirlie I’m so glad you said it bc that’s the actual truth. So many men are like “we need sex” women are like “I want to cum if I’m having sex” a lot of guys can’t deliver, get defensive and totally kill the vibe or act like you’re being insane for wanting to climax during sex. If you’re skipping FP I don’t feel bad for you. Because the guys who make an effort aren’t treated this way. The guys who don’t 🤷‍♀️ Meanwhile every resource you need to figure out how to “be good in bed” is online …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/23 04:08 PM
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Hi there so it definitely WAS my roommate, they weren't full on BP or anything but they were definitely one of these people that wasn't willing to do anything to improve their prospects. I do think it's important to note that I used gender neutral pronouns in this post because at the time my then roommate (in addition to all of this) was having gender identity issues but for all intents and purposes still presented as a typical cis-male. I think this was part of why they ended up waiting so long…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/23 02:00 PM
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nopillsgirlie The thing is i always match energy I think a lot of these guys don’t know how they come across. Like if your approach was rude or you’re rude to me I’m gonna be rude back.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/23 12:43 PM
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nopillsgirlie Everyone needs to shaming eachother for if when and how they explore sexually (if they decide to at all) it’s asinine and does no one any favors. If you are uncomfortable with a sex act don’t do it. If you want to try something and can find a consenting partner go for it. As long as no one is doing their weird kink in your front yard like how does it affect you 🤷‍♀️ Use protection and chill out it’s legit not that serious
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/23 01:46 AM
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nopillsgirlie Kinda shocked at the amount of Pearl clutching from the guys on this sub lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/23 01:39 AM
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Be the guy I dated in highschool not the guy I dated in college and you can get whatever you want regardless ❤️❤️❤️❤️
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/23 11:00 PM
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I wish it wasn’t true 😩 I had a similar experience with an insecure guy.she’s not lying.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/23 10:54 PM
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EXACTLY they want you to be as miserable and insecure as they are 🤮
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/23 10:09 PM
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Literally they want a hot girl til they have one and realize that she is getting hit on constantly and isn't down to just hole up in their apartments indefinitely to avoid being seen by randos she isn't interested in anyway. Like I just remember feeling insane because he would legit leave our shared apartment to visit his parents for weeks at a time then come back and go "My shoes moved from the spot I left them in under our shared desk. Was someone here????" and.....like....did he think me invi…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/23 09:28 PM
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Yeah that was the heartbreaker was like the realization that this would be a lot easier if they just hired a SWer and got it out of the way (nothing wrong with SW not throwing shade) but obviously they’d rather it be with someone they care about. We assign a literal identity to not being sexually active so when you lose it it’s like you’re losing an identity(literally you’re not a virgin anymore) For a lot of women that’s “shameful” for men it’s like a Pat on the back. So women expect men to be …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/23 08:58 PM
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*nopillsgirlie* lmao don't listen to them, you're cooking. The hot guy wasn't constantly accusing me of cheating/policing what I was wearing/wasn't placing blame at my feet constantly/wasn't controlling/wasn't abusive/wasn't cutting me down in front of our friends/wasn't making jokes at my expense/wasn't punching holes in our walls and having level ten temper tantrums and was all in all better emotionally adjusted than the men you've described. That doesn't mean all guys that don't fit stereotyp…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/23 08:29 PM
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Even better may they find true love over there! Genuinely if there is a mutual love I'm not gonna get upset. I think it's only "immoral" when there are false intentions and false pretenses. As long as neither side is bullshitting the other. No one is being abusive and everyone is happy. Go have fun! I hope you both develop mutual appreciations and respect for eachothers cultures. I wish you the best lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/23 07:25 PM
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Yeah like honestly if things have gotten this dire for them that they are literally seeking out a green card marriage or considering relocating so they can find a wife 🤷‍♀️ idk as long as no one is hurting children or animals and everyone’s cards are on the table like 🤷‍♀️ sounds mutually beneficial for them and less guys bugging out about girls here go have fun be nice to eachother. As long as everyone is happy and no one is getting abused like why should I care. At least this is taking action …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/23 07:14 PM
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nopills girlie I'm not opposed to these arrangements (ironically enough bc I watched a season of 90 Day Fiance) but I'm also aware that these relationships are transactional in a real real way, and as long as both parties are aware of this (and frankly it usually seems like they are) I don't see the harm. Poverty sucks and I get doing whatever you can to better your circumstances. I just wouldn't be shocked if the person from the other country bounces once they're a citizen and has been in the r…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/23 06:32 PM
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nopills girlie The "don't count on a woman to teach you thing" is so real. Every time I've broached the "hey could you do this instead" the dude gets defensive and we don't want to hurt their feelings.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/23 06:06 PM
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It’s so dicey (I lost mine at 20 so not that much sooner than you) bc I honestly get it I’m not with the person I lost it too but bc we were both virgins it wasn’t a super hard goodbye. I think if I was a virgin and someone slept with me and then broke up With me a few months after I would genuinely feel kinda weird about that in a way I didn’t when we both had the same amount of experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/23 06:01 PM
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Yeah but again that’s a woman that’s dating you for your money. My partner pulls 6 figures and I didn’t know much about that until we’d been seeing eachother for a few weeks. He literally used to keep it from women bc he didn’t like feeling like that was why they were there (he described it as them immediately trying to get a commitment that they didn’t seem interested in before they found that out). I’m someone who makes their own money, obviously I want a partner who has a job but that’s more …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/23 05:48 PM
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It sucks for both genders honestly. I think it’s something about the responsibility of being someone’s “first”. I will say in your situation they could have done all of that a lot more tactfully. Like my friend was atleast either getting ghosted or they said a version of my previous paragraph
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/23 05:39 PM
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Lmao and think they’re slick like they haven’t been shouting about backhanded complimenting women since the 90s.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/23 05:36 PM
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Here ya. I was only sharing bc I lived with someone who had a similar experience on the different side of the binary and figured it was relevant.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/23 05:34 PM
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Nopills girlie Hi I've lost sleep over this stat and really appreciate this clarification.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/23 05:26 PM
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Where'd you get that stat. All of the guys I "gave a chance to" are still single years later. They had plenty of attractive traits outside of physical appearance (that's why we dated). Consider that no one is special lmao people leave relationships because the relationship isn't working.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/23 05:19 PM
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If a man wants a woman who's only interested in looks and money then yeah conversation won't be super important. But idk I fuck the guy that made me laugh harder everytime.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/23 05:18 PM
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Are these women in the room with us now? The tea is they probably prattled on bc they were just actually into you lmao. but if you're having to work this hard to strike up a conversation you should humor that she might just not be interested. Women aren't monoliths if someone doesn't like you, that doesn't mean the next girl won't. Idk I'm just disturbed by this weird headgame you're playing anytime you talk to women. Maybe consider it works on exactly the type of women that don't have alot of i…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/23 05:16 PM
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I did guys like you sit next to me at bars a lot lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/23 04:38 PM
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It kinda sounds like some of the women you’ve spoken with were intentionally short and vague with their responses bc they didn’t want to talk. Like if this is legit your worldview of women The “pay attention to me if I find you attractive” goes both ways. The conversation might feel dry and one sided bc she doesn’t want to chat. I’ve had plenty of meaningful conversations with strangers. But I’ve also given one word answers, been intentionally vague and have intentionally tried to make the conve…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/23 04:20 PM
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nopills girlie I love negging back it’s my fav thing to do. Uno reverse and they scramble
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/23 04:13 PM
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no pills just a girlie This really really isn’t a dig just an fyi bc I think if more men knew this we could dodge a lot of awkward encounters. If the interaction is taking place in person and you’re getting one word answers/no eye contact/no follow up questions she’s being dry on purpose bc she doesn’t want to chat. If it’s on a dating app idk why she swiped right maybe she’s just legit boring lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/23 04:10 PM
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eye roll I work with burlesque dancers and gogo dancers the works. The vast majority of them are in committed relationships a good portion are married some have kids. A lot of them are queer, in fact idk what type of outfit you’re picturing but in my experience the hot girls that wear the least are usually queer and aren’t interested in men anyway (so maybe this is like a covert biology working out moment). Their partners go to the shows, I know one couple that co-produces a burlesque/drag show …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/23 04:00 PM
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This is absolutely a thing. It doesn’t necessarily make you an “incel” but it legit dashes your dating prospects.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/23 03:52 PM
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no pills girlie Girls do it too when the roles are reversed from what I’ve observed (but the situation I witnessed was someone who was 27).
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/23 03:46 PM
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nopills girlie whose tag doesn’t work So general preamble there’s nothing wrong with waiting blah blah blah. Personally I lost mine in a relationship to someone I cared very deeply about who was also a virgin at 20 and that was great I wouldn’t change anything about it. I firmly think high schoolers have no reason to be having sex (they’re going to anyway though so still give them condoms). And think that in general your early to mid 20s is probably an ideal time to lose it. NOW I’m gonna be sup…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/23 03:41 PM
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I’m literally an atheist and I’m begging you to go to church
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/23 06:16 AM
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If you “smashed through enough sluts to know this is a lie” you’re also a slut lmao like what
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/23 09:59 PM
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no pills girl You get better at sex by having sex you can do this with many people or one person. Neither is better than the other and I wouldn’t make this like a major qualifier when you’re dating something. I know a ton of people who had hoe phases that remained loyal kind and lovely to the people in their life that they cared about. And I’ve met people immersed in hookup culture that are downright vile. I’ve also met people that are “waiting” who are super chill and kind and don’t make a thin…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/23 09:58 PM
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Tea. You’re absolutely right.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/23 08:32 PM
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Lmao me “monkey branching” 5 months after breaking up with a partner that regularly threw temper tantrums and punched holes in the wall. I never thought about it like this but it’s so true lmao. Anything but face accountability
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/23 07:49 PM
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This is the tea I’m 28 and was told I wouldn’t deal with men being annoying as much BUT ALAS
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/23 07:47 PM
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True
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/23 07:44 PM
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no pills a girl whose tag doesn’t work Honestly guys who tout this rhetoric always seem to be the ones the “scantily clad” girls have no interest in dating or hanging out with anyway. You guys should buy some dolls to play with if you want to control how women dress Lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/23 07:39 PM
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no pills my tag doesn’t work Y’all care way too much about what people think. Anyone slutshaming either gender in 2023 is bad in bed, cant get laid, or is part of a religion that they can’t keep to themselves. Anyone hyper concerned that you’re queer is probably queer themselves and projecting or has just revealed that they’d be awful to you if you were queer (which if that’s the case fuck em). Move through life in a way that’s authentic to you and as long as you aren’t hurting anyone your peopl…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/23 07:30 PM
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TEA I won’t date a conservative but they seem to be incredibly interested in dating me despite my open disdain for their worldview. Those are the ones that freak me out the most tbh.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/23 06:15 PM
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Nah someone says red pill and I hear “lost cause”.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/23 06:13 PM
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This is true ❤️
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/23 06:12 PM
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I agree they’re so high maintenance, rarely that good in bed and can rarely meet your emotional needs. The one I dated was constantly insisting on paying for my shit then bringing it up whenever he fucked up. The tea is all they know is “work out make money” They aren’t actually that interesting or funny or smart and they are only with you because your hot.I’m not cut out for that shit give me a smart, charming, funny guy with a solid friend group and some fun hobbies that I’m compatible with . …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/23 04:38 PM
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I live in NY and sexual harassment is kind of just part of the daily routine. Any time you walk past a group of guys they say something threatening or crass. I had to change my morning walking route bc a group of men I passed who didn’t know I spoke Spanish kept talking about how they wanted to “take turns with me”. I’ve caught men following me home more than once and have had to navigate out of that several times. I left customer service roles bc if the kitchen staff wasn’t constantly saying we…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/23 04:16 PM
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You can control being ugly if y’all cared about skincare or shelled out for botox. You see how that sounds fucking stupid. May you one day lose control of your weight due to one of the plethora of reasons one might gain weight that can affect literally anyone so you can truly understand how asinine you sound. “I don’t have standards of physical attractiveness but no fatties bc they can control their weight” lmao Jesus fucking Christ.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/23 03:53 PM
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Truuuuuue
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/23 12:55 AM
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Eh disagree when I was single sometimes I just wanted to have sex. It really doesn’t have to be that serious
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/23 10:46 PM
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No pills Girlie If a guy is upfront about the fact that he isn't interested in a commitment before you've slept together you can't get upset when he doesn't commit. Being approached by men is great but you can't bitch about being single if you haven't approached men you're interested in. Aspiring to be a "stay at home" girlfriend without a wedding ring is a recipe for unhealthy dependency (god forbid the guy paying all of your bills is abusive) It's unrealistic to expect your boyfriend to cover …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/23 10:00 PM
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No Pills Just a Girlie Boring is relative. I don't consider myself boring, but I'm definitely not for everyone. If someone doesn't like me I just move onto someone who will.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/23 09:52 PM
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Yeah i didn't even want to go here and it only happened once or twice, but I used to ghost if there was no foreplay. Like immediate no contact.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/23 07:47 PM
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Vapid people exist on all sides of the gender spectrum and none of us are exactly jazzed about them. Instead of taking offense the appropriate response would have been "Thank god I'm not hooking up with someone like her"
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/23 07:44 PM
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Lmao the way he immediately proved your point with that fatphobic shit too.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/23 07:44 PM
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I answered the question "where is it appropriate to approach women". The more generalized answer to this question is "anywhere where strangers typically socialize and interact with one another.". It's fine if you're not into those spaces but that's where it's going to be easiest to approach a stranger. If you're just approaching women on public transit, in grocery stores or at these less traditional spots where people are normally doing their own thing in their own world obviously you're going t…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/23 07:07 PM
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And women don’t get hassled when they don’t want to be 10/10
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/23 03:34 PM
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Be incredibly tactful or don’t drink in those spaces. I work in nightlife plenty of sober people and options. Most venues offer mocktails as for social media I’d genuinely recommend getting social media if you aren’t tactful (a lot of roles in the workforce require familiarity with SM platforms now)
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/23 03:31 PM
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I’m v onboard with that. I think it would cut through a lot of the bullshit and the frustration
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/23 06:36 AM
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Yeah I’m one of those women that is going to go “please don’t approach me” when I’m going from point A to point B or mid task. I meet men when I want to and will plan accordingly when that’s my goal. I get why that’s annoying but like 🤷‍♀️ I have my own independent thing going on and I don’t want that attention.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/23 06:35 AM
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Actually yeah if that’s your vibe that could work.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/23 12:01 AM
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Bar/club/party/dating app/ a park/if you’re really charming a bookstore. I firmly think that if I’m at a club or at a bar I don’t need to be an asshole to guys who approach that I’m not interested in bc like bars and clubs are where people go to socialize with strangers. That doesn’t mean I’m going to go home with that guy but I’m not going to be a bitch. But if I’m giving off every possible social cue that I don’t want to talk I’m probably gonna be really rude either intentionally or unintentio…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/23 11:44 PM
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Wow your lived experience of being hit on mid-set/mid commute/ mid study break/mid lunch break/ while on a date with someone else definitely informed this
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/23 06:40 PM
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My friend has horror stories of men approaching her mid-squat lmao the gym in general is such a weird place to wanna meet a potential partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/23 05:30 PM
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Literally this sub is full of men who do nothing but dish it out and can’t take the lack of self-awareness is astounding
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/23 05:28 PM
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I appreciate you not walking closely behind women at night dude. Seriously that's really considerate and I see you and appreciate you. None of this is about you specifically I'm pretty sure just from this comment you don't do this it just got me thinking. I think alot of the issue with "approaching women" is context. In my experience alot of men don't really give a lot of thought to time and place and what's happening in our lives. A lot of obvious social cues seem to go out the window for a lot…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/23 09:19 PM
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No pills woman Lmao I just don’t waste time with men who think this, not when I was under 25 and definitely not now. Nothing was a bigger turnoff (for me atleast) than a guy who was older than me repeatedly saying shit like “You’re so young.” Over and over again. Big pedo energy tbh. Age gap relationships are fine as long as everyone is actually an adult (these decade plus relationships only really work/feel healthy when both parties are over 25) but if you’re like in your 40s grifting after a 2…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/23 04:28 PM
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Something to keep in mind is that hot women are constantly accosted by men. Most of the men bold enough to approach them are a little sketchy or don’t treat them like a normal person bc they’re so caught up in not fucking up the interaction bc they’re hot. That kind of makes the dating pool seem like it just contains either total douchebags or these guys that can’t string together a sentence. Idk y’all develop so rizz it goes a long way.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/23 02:56 PM
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Yeah it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/23 02:32 PM
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Nah that’s what guys like you do ❤️❤️❤️❤️
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/23 02:44 AM
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Actually yes lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/23 02:41 AM
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Nopills Girl my tag doesn't work My partner is 36 I'm 28 every day he says he feels like he figured himself out at 30. I think men actually have an easier time dating past 30 if they spent their 20's productively.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/23 06:41 PM
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This was really succinctly put. Thank you.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/23 02:33 AM
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My abuser (again UNTIL WE LIVED TOGETHER) always texted me back,remembered birthdays the works. When I was isolated with him in a real way he flipped. And he wasn’t an alpha dude, he was a film bro that liked anime, Pokémon and starwars, he was tight with his family and had friends. This is what we mean abusive partners don’t look one way. It’s not as easy as “give the guy that texts you back a chance” those guys can be abusive too. He had more in common with “beta” males than he did with “alpha…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/23 01:55 AM
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My boyfriend literally said this too and you’re so right. Bad guys aren’t typically scared of girls so they approach, girl encounters enough of these guys and thinks all guys are bad. A lot of the “dating pool” are these sketchy guys that don’t have qualms about approaching women.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/23 01:54 PM
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Y’all can’t have it both ways. You can’t expect women to “choose better” and be vigilant that every man we speak to has the capacity to abuse us and then be upset that as a result our standards are sky high and we shoot down most men who approach us the moment we have a disagreement.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/23 12:05 AM
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Bc misogynists run their mouths and abusers typically don’t show their ass for a while
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/23 12:00 AM
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That’s what many women are doing lol and they’re mad about that too. There’s no winning with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/23 11:56 PM
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YUP. I literally gauge “how unbearable is associating with this person going to be” by whether or not they talk like this. Idk what’s not clicking for these guys. Saying shit like “she should’ve chosen better” or “she deserved it” has abuser written all over it. If the guy who says this happens to not be abusive he’s kinda SOL bc he’s coding himself like he is. A key way to “choose better” is to bring up these issues we deal with in our day to day and see how they respond. It’s hard to vet liars…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/23 11:55 PM
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Girl No pills sorry my tag doesn't work These responses are so disheartening. I've been in an abusive relationship it was fine for three years and then when we moved in together it was like he became a different person. I'd later found out this is a calling card of a lot of narcissistic abusers and the behavior isn't specific to men. Narcs literally have a mask they wear in public that swaps in private. We had met through mutual friends, he was from a good family and in grad school. It was genui…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/23 11:15 PM
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Single women have emotional intimacy with friends and family members. Many men are conditioned to only be emotionally intimate with romantic partners
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/23 06:07 PM
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The tea is women don’t have to settle and are statistically happier single than married or with a man. But the opposite is true for men. There are plenty of women filling our c-suites graduating from college and earning more than their male counterparts. We don’t need someone “useful” we need someone emotionally intelligent and available. Living for yourself should mean pursuing your ambitions and not letting anything stand in your way. But frankly if living for yourself means having no social c…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/23 04:36 PM
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I think this is the crux of the issue. Most women would rather be alone than settle for less than what they want. It's not men's job to live up to our standards, but it's also not our job to date someone or be with someone we aren't happy with. My partner meets all of my standards, and I meet his. We only met eachother because I broke up with a man that wasn't meeting mine. I was never lonely when I was single. I had friends, hobbies a career etc. but in the relationship I was in before I met my…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/23 08:43 PM
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To be totally fr you're right, women can get sex pretty much whenever they want (within reason) but whether or not the person they're with is a good lay, willing to commit and a good partner is another conversation entirely. It's easy for us to have sex but alot of us don't like being used for sex or having that be the only outcome for the relationship. Many of the single women I know aren't lonely. They have thriving careers and social lives, they foster their hobbies they invest in themselves …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/23 08:29 PM
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