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But most women want children and being single provider and caretaker with kids is hard. Then it's easier to have two incomes and both do housework and caretaking (alt one is provider, one takes care of the rest). So what you're saying would only work for child free women.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/25 01:15 PM
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My partner also engaged with women online, not in person, and didnt give me much sexual attention. I 100% consider that cheating. I gave him an ultimatum, them or me and he chose me. I would have left otherwise as I don't want to compete for his attention with other women when we are in a relationship. But if you can accept that, I was thinking at least it could be equal so that you can feel sexually fulfilled with someone else while still staying with him.
/r/RedPillWomen04/04/25 12:47 PM
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Honestly if he can't be faithful and he can't give you sex, why don't you ask him for open marriage and get it from somebody else? Normally I would never suggest this but since you don't want to leave and he refuses to change, feels like it is either that or to be unsatisfied?
/r/RedPillWomen04/04/25 12:08 PM
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I feel like leading and directing can be seen from a more feminine point of view, like similar to raising kids and taking care of a household with many people in. You need some feminine leadership skills for that. So when I need it for my job, I go into that mindset, like more of a mother/teacher than boss babe, and it has worked quite well so far.
/r/RedPillWomen18/03/25 09:38 AM
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I would leave, or if he insisted we stay together I could if he was okay with us having a platonic relationship and I can have another romantic relationship. There is no way I could be intimate or loving with someone who cheats on me and I want a romantic relationship in my life. But yeah could possibly figure out a way where he pays the bills and I take care of kids and we both openly date others but it would not be ideal at all. Probably a temporary solution at best. Also remember that he disr…
/r/RedPillWomen11/03/25 01:19 PM
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Seem to be all sorts of men tbh regardless of social class.
/r/RedPillWomen02/03/25 10:58 PM
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Yeah but he might say he was cheated on, or I don't know, that she acted disrespectfully or something that can be used to guess that there was a kind of control. And could've said it ended because of an external reason such as he moved away for a job or that "she was crazy" 😅 But yeah we can never know for certain.
/r/RedPillWomen09/02/25 04:02 PM
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Do you know how they went, if he displayed controlling tendencies then? How they ended? Has he been cheated on in any of them?
/r/RedPillWomen09/02/25 02:56 PM
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How old is he? Has he been in any relationships before you? It is definitely about his own insecurity but hearing the answers for those questions can give a hint towards if it is possible to overcome or not likely.
/r/RedPillWomen09/02/25 02:54 PM
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It was quite frustrating since when we met, he acted like he was a regular student and I had a job so I assumed he wasn't well off and I actually paid more on the first dates. So he ought to have gotten reassurance then that I liked him for him and not for money. After some time he told me that I didn't know the full picture and that his family was actually very rich. But we've had some ups and downs during the relationship and he has come back to it a few times, like becoming unsure that perhap…
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/25 01:46 PM
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How long have you been together? I'm in the same situation and in the beginning I paid all my travel costs. After about 4-5 years of relationship when we had been introduced to each others' family and his family started calling me their "future daughter in law" he got more relaxed about it and started paying my tickets but said I'll pay him back in the future. When I told him it'll be very hard to pay him back he said he meant if we break up. If we instead get married then his money becomes my m…
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/25 10:04 AM
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My views are probably affected by knowing a whole lot of women with cheating men who do it for "variety" or porn addiction even though their wives are available 24/7. You might be right in most cases but I think there is a significant number of cases where this isn't the case also. I was most like wondering if he had made any comments about it that proves the point in this particular case but I understand what you mean now.
/r/RedPillWomen05/12/24 05:16 AM
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I guess I'm the odd one out here. My man is from a very wealthy family, he's a young lawyer and I'm well past my prime (in my 40s, single mom). It is kind of weird to me too but he seems happy. I've been waiting for him to break up for quite some time but it hasn't happened and he said he wants to get engaged this summer after he gets his next promotion at work.
/r/RedPillWomen04/12/24 12:32 PM
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If testosterone makes men more likely to cheat, should they not be less likely to cheat the older they get because testosterone goes down? So a man aged 40s should be less likely than a man aged 25?
/r/RedPillWomen04/12/24 12:27 PM
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How do you know she didn't want sex? Some men cheat even though their wives want it all the time.
/r/RedPillWomen04/12/24 12:19 PM
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I also think he doesn't feel the way about this as you would have in his situation. You've been raped so you associate it with that and really not wanting it and being forced. For him it's probably more like when you're not craving dessert but someone puts it on your plate so you might as well eat it, rather than the dessert being force-fed to you. If he really didn't want to, he would've said no because he says no sometimes, right? But that said, I totally understand if that's a turnoff for you…
/r/RedPillWomen01/12/24 12:02 PM
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I'm more liberal, I think. But I also think that it depends on which country you live in. I'm in Scandinavia and I think what we define as liberal and conservative in our country is different than in the US. I'm not religious and when I've voted it has sometimes been right-leaning and sometimes left-leaning. I'm very much for free choice in stuff so I don't like how they in my country are trying to force men to stay home with kids so that women can work, I think that is something every couple sh…
/r/RedPillWomen17/11/24 10:07 AM
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It sounds like maybe the problem is you not liking most guys rather than the opposite. Have you ever been in love? It doesn't sound like it from your description.
/r/RedPillWomen17/11/24 09:55 AM
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I love discussing and debating taboo topics too, feel free to reach out and be friends 😄
/r/RedPillWomen18/10/24 10:03 AM
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Being self aware is the first step so it's great that he is working on it! And I'm glad it turned out as a good evening 😊
/r/RedPillWomen14/10/24 02:17 PM
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What are the plans you have? I'm thinking if it is something like a show, I would probably go along but focus on enjoying the show as he said he doesn't want to engage with you. If it's a restaurant, maybe ask if it's okay to bring a friend also so you and her can socialise while he focuses on the food - or bring a book to read meanwhile. Something like that.
/r/RedPillWomen14/10/24 10:08 AM
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I think it depends on the reason why he didn't do the bathroom well. Was it because he honestly don't know how? Is he willing to learn? Does he not think it is important? Is it because he knows if he doesn't do it, then you will? I'm thinking the actions you should take depends on why, but criticising is probably not going to be helpful in either case. I have a partner who really really sucks at cleaning. We don't live together atm as he is working abroad but he both is unwilling to learn and do…
/r/RedPillWomen14/10/24 07:30 AM
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I'm glad you like it! Hopefully this will help with our problems! I can kind of understand that he doesn't want to the same thing at work and home (problem solving). When I was working with anxious people I found it very hard when anxious friends reached out for help, I wanted my mind to be different at work and home. But it sounds great with a list, and then we can slowly make it longer as we go. Heh when mine is being emotionally supportive he can at most ask me how I feel and then walk away w…
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/24 11:08 AM
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If he is similar in that he responds positively to small doses but negatively to larger like mine, then perhaps we can ease them into it. For example mine doesn't mind opening jars or taking lead when we are trying to find a place in an unknown environment or initiating intimacy, so perhaps I should show more appreciation for those things. And not (yet anyway) ask or hope for the things that are harder for him such as emotional support, help with figuring out more complicated problems or plannin…
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/24 10:18 AM
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I think this is interesting and I wonder if he is similar to my partner. He doesn't want me to need him and it seems he feels trapped if I show I need him too much, like he doesn't want so much responsibility, and he says he likes independent women, but at the same time he also responds positively to being needed sometimes. It's like he wants it but only in a very small dose. In my partner's case I think it is because he has been catered to a lot growing up (by his mom etc) and never had to take…
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/24 04:51 AM
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Feel free to pm if you want to talk more in the future :)
/r/RedPillWomen26/08/24 08:01 PM
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I did a similar thing. I chose a partner I was not compatible with and we split up when I was almost 40, also ASD child. We had also had dead bedroom for years and years. My ex is a wonderful human being and a wonderful father. Even now when I am in a new relationship since several years he is still my best friend and is like a brother to me. He will always be family to me. Hopefully that is how your situation will resolve as well.
/r/RedPillWomen26/08/24 07:52 PM
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If I'm supposed to be honest - single moms usually have their lives together and you don't have to be around while they figure out how to take care of home/kids/work/get organised. They're usually not selfish and instead very caring. You can also see what kind of mom they are so you don't need to be surprised in a negative way after having kids. They usually have lower expectations of men in general, some people will see that as a positive.
/r/RedPillWomen04/08/24 10:26 AM
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Im sorry to hear that. I hope your husband has a long and healthy life.
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/24 01:41 PM
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Yes I mean the chance is ofc way higher that everything is fine with the baby. It is like older women and chromosomal risks, except you can't test for it.
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/24 01:40 PM
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It matters as in it increases the risk for mental health issues for the baby, similar to how it increases chromosomal health risk for baby with an older mother. But chance is ofc much higher that the baby is healthy than not so I would not worry too much about it. Still, better the man is 50 than 60.
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/24 01:21 PM
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Yes. The risk for mental health problems for the child such as ADHD, autism etc increases if the man is old, but 50 vs 51 won't really make a big difference. 50 isn't that old when it comes to raising kids, statistically the kids will be over 30 when he dies and they have a young mom, so I wouldn't worry about that part if I was you.
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/24 12:19 PM
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In your case I'd probably spend a year to get ready for pregnancy, both mentally and physically and the same for him. There is a lot he can do to improve sperm quality at his age, maybe even get a test done etc. 50-51 is not much difference but 24-25 is. Then I'd start trying at 25. You'd probably give birth at 26 which sounds ideal to me.
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/24 11:14 AM
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How old is your husband?
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/24 10:48 AM
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I know of a guy who at 30 was living with his dad, no job, no uni degree, no previous relationships, no nothing. And at 35 he has a uni degree, he is doing a phD, he has his own company that is doing well, he is married to a woman from a well off family and he has two kids. Another guy I know was in a similar situation at 30, just moving out from the small city where he was working at mcD. At 35 he is a clinical psychologist, house, two kids, unmarried but live in-partner. Some people mature lat…
/r/RedPillWomen19/07/24 11:37 AM
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OP I'm in a similar relationship but opposite as I'm the older partner and the woman. My boyfriend said literally the exact same things in the beginning around the 1 year mark and I reacted like you. I thought I'll never bring up marriage again, I felt hurt and unappreciated as he thought I was putting pressure. But I could also understand that he was younger and wasn't ready to get married at that age. I didn't bring it up again. Now we are five years down the line and no marriage in sight alth…
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/24 03:49 PM
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My partner (M25) is the same. Once in a blue moon I can get a "I like your nose" or something but it is very rare. I have talked to him about it and he says that he sometimes thinks I look nice but doesn't feel the need to verbalise it for some reason. I used to give him a lot of physical compliments so I stopped to see what would happen and nothing happened. He still thinks I think he looks good. I think that he just doesn't get how it is important to keep saying it. He said "you are my girlfri…
/r/RedPillWomen27/06/24 06:07 PM
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If you break up with him and other men start courting you, you will instantly be much more valuable to him. They say older women have less value but that only makes sense if we talk about older, menopausal women. You are 28 and in your prime! You are 100% fertile and your brain and body is at its peak. You will have no problem attracting other men at all.
/r/RedPillWomen28/05/24 08:46 AM
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