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I remember them being mostly alt types with lots of tattoos. Whether that is "average" depends on your location.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/22 12:51 AM
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Yeah this is a textbook case of the kinds of women who are into dysfunctional men and men drawn to dysfunctional women he can rescue from her crazy exes. It's all the same savior complex people hooking up and setting up a row of dominoes that will be knocked over sooner or later.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/22 11:19 AM
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The fact that he could hit but still wouldn't be relationship material in her eyes is the interesting part for me
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/22 08:10 AM
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I sure hope not. Not only am I a very ticklish person but I also giggle a lot when I'm nervous. When I actually get around to having sex I think I'll be an absolute giggle factory.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/22 07:01 AM
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She says she'd fuck him under the right conditions but not see him as relationship material. Shorty fucks/tall guy bucks?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/22 06:57 AM
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I do believe that calling it pedophilia is extreme, but I understand the ick factor people get. It is genuinely crazy to me how far ahead my parents were in life as late teens vs. where the typical college student is today. Hell they even looked older. I always felt that with every year the freshman class looked/acted younger and younger.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/22 11:45 PM
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I get the strongest nostalgia factor from the 80's, 90's, and more recently Y2K (I'm 23)
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/22 08:59 PM
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There are mascaras that at least claim to add length but I have never needed or tried them
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/22 08:00 PM
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And humanity was a mistake.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/22 04:24 AM
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Depends on when it started
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/22 03:02 AM
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Upscale sushi restaurants for one example that's not steak. There's a solid chance you won't even leave full either, that's not really the point.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/22 02:20 AM
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My heart would be racing and I'd feel ready to throw up. Dinners are seriously the most nerve-wracking first date for me. I'd think about going back to the same restaurant with my family sometime so I could actually enjoy the food and the atmosphere.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/22 02:08 AM
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Fair, I don't think I've ever seen you either.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/22 12:23 AM
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Are people mistaking me for Asian again?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/22 12:19 AM
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Another user just explained "tensing" to me. That's probably what I was feeling.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/22 09:43 PM
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Oh my gosh. Thank you for informing me. I had no idea that that's what could be happening if a muscular guy feels super hard all the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/22 08:32 PM
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So motherfucker was flexing the entire time. Do you have any idea why a guy would do that? Are there women who are just really into it and don't want to feel a dude's fluff ever?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/22 08:23 PM
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Wait, get out. Is that really what was happening all along?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/22 08:12 PM
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Ah. Well, I hope the next 50 years or so of your existence on earth get better?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/22 07:10 PM
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"Let's have a talk kiddo" "Okay!" "Here's a tiny box." "Okay!" "Get inside the box." "Done!" "Okay so...never leave that box." "What?" "Don't leave. Or else...people will think you're gay." "Wait why-" "Not that there's anything wrong with that! I mean, are you gay?" "I don't think so-" "Cool! So as I was saying, never leave that box. Haha wouldn't want to give people the wrong idea, right?"
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/22 07:01 PM
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I agree that if a guy wants to get in shape the opinions of random women shouldn't stop him. I like my BF the way he is now, but I wouldn't be like "no baby stay fluffy for me 😭" if he did decide to start hitting the gym. That said, you fall into that same trap of thinking that any woman who just doesn't like aesthetic bodies must have some kind of insecurity or misunderstanding about fit guys. That's just wrong. In my case, it's a tradeoff between look and feel. Going from a fluffy BF to a gym …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/22 06:23 PM
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Does she seem high to anybody else
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/22 08:39 PM
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I'm with the "you got catfished" camp in the comments. The profile pic looks like it could've been stolen from a mid-tier Instagram account or something. He never actually saw "her", she conveniently ran off before he could lay eyes on her. All of it's really sus.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/22 08:17 PM
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I feel like 90% of her appeal is being a former child actor/Disney star who hasn't gone completely off the rails. Depressingly enough we're so used to seeing them fail or hit rough patches it's a miracle Zendaya has been relatively scandal-free so far.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/22 12:07 AM
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In terms of the classical four loves I think you're basically getting at philia vs. eros. Eros explicitly involves sexual desire while philia is more like affection between good friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/22 11:48 PM
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Putting this here because it more addresses an element OP missed than challenging outright. There is a noted phenomenon of sexual assault committed by women against other women being fetishized in media. Combine that with OP being bisexual, which can already comes with its own gross misconceptions from uneducated people, and there you have it. Humanity was a mistake.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/22 09:25 PM
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"Sexism" encompasses so many attitudes and behaviors it's not really useful to talk about it as an aggregate like this imo. I think it's easier if you pinpoint specific areas. For example, it's entirely possible that a man doesn't display sexist attitudes toward colleagues but still has those ideas about his wife, or his kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/22 05:37 PM
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Over a year ago I think. And it was absolutely scummy considering the fact that OP conveniently left out those major details and he didn't elaborate until someone pressed him on it.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/22 04:08 PM
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What is your idea of the perfect or near perfect relationship? Open and honest communication; mutual love and respect What is it that initially drew you to your partner? A combination of having just enough confidence to start up a conversation, but also just enough shyness/vulnerability that he didn't come across as some arrogant asshat. What is it about your partner that you love or simply find irresistible? You don't come across guys as gentle and sincere as he is everyday. On top of everythin…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/22 05:40 AM
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Remember that dude who made a post on here about how his GF dumped him for "opening up" and it turned out he repeatedly told her he wanted to kill himself and blow up the entire world?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/22 02:32 AM
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The argument isn't "nothing from the past matters and we have a completely different mind than we did in the stone age". Can you quote where I said anything remotely like this?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/22 02:55 AM
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I feel like I know what you're talking about but I don't believe this is the kind of sub where a mature conversation about that would happen lol
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/22 02:37 AM
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Oh for sure. Within my own family we have black people who are extremely dark and others who look almost white with anywhere from 30 to closer to 50% European ancestry according to DNA sites. It's interesting because actually marrying interracially is a recent thing; the lighter people in my family are basically from generations of white-passing black people who married each other and are almost visually indistinguishable from white people now. Blips can still happen though, like two light skin …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/22 02:28 AM
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This is actually a common misconception about evolution Excerpt: The view that “our modern skulls house a Stone Age mind” gets things wrong on the contemporary end of our evolutionary history as well. The idea that we are stuck with a Pleistocene-adapted psychology greatly underestimates the rate at which natural and sexual selection can drive evolutionary change. Recent studies have demonstrated that selection can radically alter the life-history traits of a population in as few as 18 generatio…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/22 02:04 AM
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Genetic drift is an ongoing process that is literally happening as we speak. Beauty standards did not magically freeze in the Stone Ages.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/22 01:56 AM
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Yeah I think this is a problem that doesn't get talked about enough. A lot of guys take it for granted that hanging out with a guy who's attractive to girls will give them the same success by association. In general when introverts first start going out there's a tendency to cling to our most extroverted friend(s) for dear life. It also often happens that this friend is hotter than you, and better than you at...pretty much everything. You need this friend's approval because without them, you are…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/22 01:44 AM
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Be wary of the reverse wingman effect. So many guys on here talk about their exceptionally hot friends who do oh so well with women while they get nothing. I've seen guys struggle with this irl too. Being so far up another guy's ass that the girls wonder if she's competing with you for him or vice versa is not attractive. Please branch out and hang out with other people, or better yet, learn to talk to girls solo.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/22 01:21 AM
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Damn and I thought I was late getting diagnosed at 18. I think it is very easy for kids who perform well academically and are (mostly) well-behaved to fly under the ADHD radar.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/22 07:22 PM
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Reminds me of a huge scandal that happened when a j-pop star was caught leaving a guy's apartment. Fans have been having these weird one-sided fantasy relationships long before vtubers and OF. It's one of the many difficulties of dating/being married to a hot famous person: harassment from crazy people who expect them to stay single forever apparently.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/22 07:24 PM
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Yep, thankfully we're on the same page about that. But I am wary still. He doesn't have much experience with relationships, so for him upholding chastity in relationships is largely an idea and not something he has had to put into practice.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/22 03:29 PM
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Hey, I take offense to that! I had to get off adderall actually. Made me feel like I was running on a battery from hell.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/22 10:37 AM
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Can't blame em tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/22 02:44 AM
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If you're talking about the way he makes me lose my mind, you're 100% correct
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/22 02:27 AM
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Current BF approached me first, but "pursue" isn't quite the right word for it. He was kinda hovering, came up to me and tried to start small talk, but he was also clearly awkward and uncertain. My instinct in situations like that is to reassure and put the other person at ease. Guess I succeeded, we haven't gone a day without talking since then.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/22 01:53 AM
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Very good. Then I think you should be fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/22 06:08 PM
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Also dating a guy around that age with no relationship experience (I'm a bit older than you though, 23). That works really well for me. I'm not super experienced either so when guys try to take over or control things too much it makes me feel anxious and unhappy. He lets me set the pace, and while many women may find that unattractive for me it's absolutely necessary. The one thing that gives me pause is the difference in life stages between you two. You're still in undergrad, he's already beyon…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/22 03:20 PM
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Awkward geeks with dark hair and dark eyes
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/22 10:41 AM
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The OP is making the assertation that youth and looks are what substantiate a high value woman, not her income. Yes that is what OP is saying. A woman who wants to be a SAHM can aim for wealthier men, but when you consider that only about 20% of men make six figures, 10% make $150k, and 5% make $200k, she's going to have pretty slim pickings. This is like saying that "pickings are slim" to find an 18 to 24 year old because we only make up 12% of the adult population. Random stats like this are u…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/22 10:10 AM
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This is what OP said: in this scenario, the man actually has a higher SMV than her. aka he can attract more high-value women aka attractive young women than she can attract high-value men around her age who earn a lot or have high status. He is not talking about appealing to a 30-year-old woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/22 09:49 AM
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Goodness I hope it's creative writing. Though unfortunately there's a very real possibility that stuff like this is actually happening even if it is. The pregnancy test is what really made me skeptical. Are there still really women who believe that you would get a positive result that early?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/22 09:45 AM
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Right, so I didn't say it was easy. I said that it does not make you cream of the crop in terms of SMV.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/22 09:33 AM
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I'm just gonna take a second to point out that it's still not socially acceptable for a woman to feed her own kid without a cover in many places because "ew tiddies." Meanwhile, it's hot outside and a man wants to jog? We good.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/22 09:25 AM
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Cool cool, I was directly inspired to pursue this lifestyle by the examples of women I know in my field who are happily married and my BF is 100% supportive of my aspirations.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/22 09:12 AM
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I redirect you to the OP, who is claiming that the "match" for a dude who makes 100k a year is high value attractive young woman rather than a woman of the same age who matches his salary. When both partners make 100k that is very comfortable for a household. Raising a family with one partner making 100k at 30 while the extent of the other's qualifications is "young and hot" is not realistic. Those kinds of women (the ones who want to settle down early and be SAHM in current year) aim for wealth…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/22 09:08 AM
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Please quote where I claimed 100k is easy to make. Some people will bust their asses all their lives, and that will be their ceiling. Or somewhere near it. Or somewhere below it. Capitalism doesn't hand out consolation prizes simply for busting your ass. If a family cannot survive comfortably off 100k at the standard of living they seek, that's just a fact. You can believe that this is unjust. We can criticize or question the futility of the system we live in. But then, you have to choose if you…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/22 08:53 AM
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🎵 Somewhere in the stratosphere 🎵
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/22 08:45 AM
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I'm sorry we're talking about high SMV right? Not "respectable" SMV. Lol millionaire Chad? Why not just cut out the middle man, make the money myself, and make sure my sweetheart and my kids are comfortable.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/22 08:41 AM
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I've always wanted to visit parts of Alabama at least for the historical significance, like Birmingham. If I had to live there though, I'd probably try to stick closer to Tuscaloosa. But not like right in the middle of the rowdy college kids lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/22 08:33 AM
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I mean there are very nice colleges where a family's expected contribution will be very low at that income, if anything at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/22 08:25 AM
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Hey I'm all about equality. I said that the woman also needs to sit down.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/22 08:22 AM
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Tbf both of my parents make 200k and younger people starting in my mom's field are pretty much guaranteed 6 figures now. It'll be acceptable if I match them, but they want me to do better. In undergrad my family's economic status was solidly middle of the pack.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/22 08:14 AM
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Ehh Idk about that. I do in fact have friends who had the best 4 years of their life at University of Alabama. Solid college town. But then they all got the fuck out of there.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/22 08:07 AM
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Basically anywhere in the U.S. with decent schools, opportunities, and a high QOL. Or, let me know in what state you're getting both that and living comfortably off 50k a year. Usually it's a tradeoff.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/22 07:57 AM
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Yes I get that its a valuable asset. 100k may have been considered a lot to make at that age in the past, but especially taking location into consideration it's really not that much, especially if you're talking about having a SAH spouse and kids. It is not at all uncommon to literally start at that salary nowadays fresh out of undergrad, if you majored in a lucrative field and choose to go right into the workforce.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/22 07:50 AM
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Lol at two 30-year-olds thinking that making exactly 100k a year makes them hot shit. They both need to sit down somewhere.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/22 07:37 AM
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No I can definitely believe it when keeping the demographics of Reddit in mind. It's incredibly understated how depressingly common abuse can be in "nerd" communities. It doesn't help that quite a lot of these relationships start in online spaces at a young age which already selects for people who are extremely awkward and inexperienced in relationships, or have distorted ideas of how relationships work. Not so much physical (but this does happen too). Shit like threatening suicide or self-harm …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/22 12:32 PM
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It's basically the difference between love as feel-good brain chemical and love as commitment to action. The feel-good brain chemical is not enough to prevent people from cheating. A commitment to the individual and the vows made with them will.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/22 03:22 AM
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I don't think my BF would like that lol
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/22 08:16 PM
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The deal breakers can basically be summed up as DBAD- don't be a dick. I prefer to date virgins.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/22 08:13 PM
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Stargazing. Like actual stargazing, not just an excuse to fuck in an empty field somewhere.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/22 04:45 AM
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It's the logic of people who want to just world fallacy their way into believing that rape only happens to drunk liberal party chicks passed out in a frat basement somewhere, not "good girls"
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/22 01:50 AM
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Okay cool. I was responding to a user who wanted to talk about conservative women.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/22 11:19 PM
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Would squirt some anecdata packets but I have a crazy feeling you won't consider that valid.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/22 08:59 PM
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No we have "less sexual assault" because so many are taught to blame themselves and make excuses for men, particularly ones their families like.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/22 08:50 PM
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Classic case: being assaulted when you were doing something you technically should not have been. A lot of more liberal parents preemptively deal with this by saying that even if rules were being broken, the kid should feel safe to come forward about that kind of thing. They've already suffered enough without being further victimized by their own parents. An unfortunate number of conservative parents do not it see that way.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/22 08:37 PM
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Conservatives of both sexes have greater incentive to not come forward about sexual misconduct, or to self-blame for what happened.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/22 08:24 PM
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Are we talking from a pragmatic standpoint or a "fairness" standpoint. Changing rules surrounding drafts isn't something you should start fucking around with when the conflict starts imo. It's the kind of thing that has to be normalized and culturally embedded over generations for both a. women to feel capable of contributing to war effort and b. men agreeing that we are capable of it. And no not in some performative feminist or tit for tat meninist bullshit way, actually fostering confidence an…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/22 05:22 PM
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No need to blame anyone tbh. 9 times out 10 people will just sit there awkwardly and try to pretend it didn't happen.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/22 03:02 PM
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No that one is weird. My go-to is slow release or leave the room. Plus avoiding foods that make me gassy.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/22 02:58 PM
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Real pros master the art of tactical farting
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/22 02:56 PM
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Np
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/22 02:48 PM
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Isn't posting Q4X for your own gender against the rules?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/22 02:46 PM
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Aquarium was the best of all worlds tbh. Air-conditioned, no weird smells, pretty fishies.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/22 02:42 PM
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Now you all know my greatest shame. I am in fact...a lecherous hand harlot.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/22 10:55 AM
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Oh no worries, it was. I'm not that crazy.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/22 10:03 AM
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Oh for sure. Wait til you hear about the time I held hands with a man unprotected. No gloves or anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/22 07:27 AM
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100% incompatible values
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/22 02:23 AM
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I'm still trying to get over the fact that Gwen Stefani is older than Blake Shelton. I would've guessed she was like a decade younger than him at least.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/22 11:47 PM
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The funny part about Leo is that he's an exception even among celebrities. Without fail it seems like almost every other actor his age or older are dating women in their late 20's at the youngest, usually with high-profile careers of their own. The exceptions like him get more coverage precisely because it's scandalous these days. "50-something celebrity X is now seeing a 30-year-old who looks like a teenager because botox" doesn't draw attention the same way.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/22 11:35 PM
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Nah. One of the perks of being female is that you can adopt quite a few aspects of both sexes without being shamed for it. Like, I grew up playing with my brother's Transformers but he couldn't do the same with my Fairytopia dolls without getting weird looks. Looking back I think this is a major source of some of my more masculine interests.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/22 11:29 PM
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Believe it or not some of us have parents who grew up in the 80s and picked up the lingo from them lol
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/22 11:16 PM
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Ah, then I'm guessing you're the one I was replying to? Or you were involved somewhere in that conversation. Yeh that wasn't my intention. Admittedly this topic is hitting close to home rn so I feel for the guy. It's still pretty early for us in my current relationship and some relatives are already starting to get weird and scrutinizing my dating history again. 🤷🏾‍♀️ Well opinions are like assholes.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/22 11:11 PM
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I'm still confused about where you're getting a "cosign" from. Was it the part about him having a "type"? I was just pointing out that even if that were the case, there are environmental factors that can influence those preferences. So many people try to make it out to be some kind of malicious thing, or about self-hatred or something. The other user seemed to be one of those types so I decided to push back on it.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/22 10:55 PM
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I have no idea what you're talking about. Can you quote the exchange you're referring to by any chance?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/22 10:44 PM
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He chilled out as virtually everything I guessed about him turned out to be totally true lol. He misunderstood what I meant by "square."
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/22 10:41 PM
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Correct. What "accusation" are you referring to? It's a very common lived experience among upper class/educated people in my demographic. The people who get irrationally mad about this aren't my kind of crowd.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/22 10:39 PM
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Dating interracially
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/22 09:47 PM
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I had a lot of friends in college who were and they dragged me on those types of trips occasionally. I'm more of a city girl so it was both fun and mildly traumatic. I personally can't imagine doing that shit more than once or twice a year but for some that's just a typical weekend. That is the type of woman he's probably most compatible with. For people really into that, there entire life is that, not the guys entire life. Outsdoorsy people tend to get with outdoorsy people so Idk what you mean…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/22 09:03 PM
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I mean, it's basically implied? He's the kind of dude who would take you whitewater rafting, hiking, canoeing, camping, etc. For people who are really into that adventure lifestyle sort of thing, it's basically their entire life. It just so happens that he is (maybe unknowingly) competing for a subset of women that is very much in demand by dudes all over the shade spectrum.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/22 08:47 PM
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Correct, it is. Are you referring to the pre-selection piece?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/22 07:55 PM
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He has a profile that would in fact be entertaining for a subset of smart and nerdy but physically fit outdoorsy-type women. Like a geologist or something. Given all that you cannot deny that his shade is 100% relevant here. The world of swirling is a weird, complicated place.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/22 07:46 PM
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I actually talked to him for a bit yesterday when he responded to a comment I made on here! He seems like a nice dude, albeit a bit prickly. But I guess most would be when strangers are picking apart their OLD profile.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/22 07:38 PM
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Checks out. Based on my ancestry results I could have Viking DNA mixed in somewhere.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/22 01:32 PM
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We are not doing get help
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/22 12:55 PM
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Not easily. It helps that I actually dated a fitness junkie who used to post his workouts on social media for the whole world to see. It wasn’t exactly a secret.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/22 12:43 PM
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Ehh not necessarily the case anymore. One of the most promiscuous guys I have ever met was really into anime and I heard he has ahegao art tattooed on his back.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/22 04:55 AM
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No I'm worried you'd try to stick your dick in it or something
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/22 04:20 AM
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If this is the case I'll be pleasantly surprised. I'm personally bracing myself for the first few times to be...meh at best. I'm still trying to get over the fact that apparently the magical glue of fate isn't fully absorbed and has to come out one way or another.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/22 04:13 AM
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I'm gonna need you to pass me the vomit bucket
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/22 04:06 AM
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You must live in a pretty rough place for people to be getting the shit kicked out of them left and right.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/22 12:54 AM
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The fact that it involves an MMA match is not the weird internet bullshit part.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/22 12:41 AM
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Good to know. So maybe I should be thanking Hollywood unironically.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/22 12:32 AM
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It's a scene in a lot of things
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/22 12:24 AM
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Oh my gosh I should've known this prompt was sparked by some weird internet bullshit.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/22 12:08 AM
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I think the people who are most obsessed over the "like a man" stuff are men. In this scenario the one I love is hurt, body and pride. The details of how that happened are secondary. He would need me more than ever.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/22 11:15 PM
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Tending to, comforting, and then fucking a wounded man is actually one of my fantasies. Yes I know it's unrealistic. He would probably be screaming in pain the entire time. Thank you Hollywood.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/22 11:07 PM
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Had to migrate because post is now CMV: There are men who definitely overhype themselves as the "rational," or less emotional sex. If one more dude tells me about the time he punched a hole in the wall like it was just another day in paradise and that shit is 100% free to have repaired, I'm gonna scream.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/22 08:55 PM
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I'm guessing military kid, or child of missionaries.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/22 08:39 PM
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Sheltered has a very narrow definition for the purposes of this sub, which does not always line up with what the average person would consider sheltered. So in that sense you're right, the internet is a weird place. You never had the experience of staying up all night studying while your friends were out getting wasted somewhere?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/22 08:28 PM
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Cmon dude. You went to Duke, you don't get in there by being just another regular basic bro. Own it.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/22 08:09 PM
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Virgin
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/22 08:00 PM
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Huh. Interesting.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/22 07:58 PM
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Loll I wish
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/22 07:46 PM
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Let me offer a nuanced take on this. The guy's profile literally says he spent a large chunk of his childhood in Japan. It is not outside the realm of possibility that he has a physical preference for women outside our race. I believe that there are sensitive periods in childhood that can impact the kinds of people you'll be sexually interested in later. I say this as someone who is currently dating interracially.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/22 07:42 PM
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Takes one to spot one lol. I had a similar experience growing up.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/22 07:36 PM
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Feminism doesn't cure racism and stereotyping dude
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/22 07:27 PM
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Okay here's my theory. There's an element to this I'm gonna have to tread carefully because of sub rules. It's just a reality. Guy's in two worlds. On the one hand, he's clearly an educated sheltered square. His main appeal would normally be with educated sheltered square women. Here's the wrinkle. Because of his looks there are stereotypes that would definitely benefit him if he had more of an edge or was clearly just seeking out casual sex, but not so much for serious relationships. So he's ba…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/22 04:35 PM
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Oh for sure. Part of the reason they like it though is because it's so rare outside of Hollywood and YA novels.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/22 01:37 AM
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Oh wait a sec I think you dropped this 👑
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/22 01:13 AM
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Because I don't have any issue with my body count lol. Well, in my case a lack thereof.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/22 01:09 AM
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Indeed, getting laid might not be priority number one for a girl living in torment. For a guy who already has problems of his own with fitting in whiteknighting for a girl who's found herself on the wrong side of some clique is understandably not appealing for him either. The rest goes back to what I like to call "satisfaction starting point." If a man's starting point is "interest from some woman" then yeah, he could very well see being a bully as the most viable strategy. If he has any standar…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/22 04:32 PM
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I'm talking about male abusers and the type of women who are drawn to them. Did you read my full comment?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/22 03:42 PM
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Believe it or not, those bullies tend to have female targets as well. The kind of women who are just standing around admiring what he does are women he's decided not to torment for whatever reason. Maybe he finds them attractive, they're into watching people suffer, they know better than to snitch on him, they give him something in return for not being a target themselves. Maybe there are other bullies so from it's better to ingratiate yourself to one who sucks less than to be open season for so…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/22 03:37 PM
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This is just as illogical as using this one document as "evidence" that all men are assholes and liars with bad intentions and men who claim they aren't like that are full of shit
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/22 03:03 PM
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I'm still stuck on the fact that they're obsessed with this vague idea of "six figures." No Kevin. Making exactly $100,000 does not make you the next Hugh Hefner.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/22 01:12 AM
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Pfft this is PPD. When in doubt the answer to that question is no.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/22 06:22 PM
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My favorite example is how the only guy I've ever met irl who blamed his dating problems on being too "nice" also told people I was probably a slut because I went to Catholic school 🙃
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/22 05:17 PM
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Basically, if he were to decide to go back to grad school or something for whatever reason, I feel that it would be hypocritical of me to be like "stop it, stay in the kitchen male wife 😡" after he's been so encouraging and supportive of me doing the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/22 04:09 PM
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Could this actually lead to a reverse in Hypergamy? Would such an action be applied in the west where successful women be forced to marry the unemployed men? In my anecdotal experience this is already gradually happening; it's causing tension as older generations are the ones pushing back on their daughters/granddaughters for marrying men who are less educated or make less money than them. When said older people are basically financing your education going against them on topics like this can pu…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/22 03:10 PM
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Please. This is a tinklepost at best.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/22 12:49 PM
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Full offense. Treating people with anything less than human dignity and failing to see Christ in each and every one of them is denial of our faith. A woman (or man's) sexual history does not make them any less worthy of love. Defining a woman's worth by her sexual history makes a person just as guilty as the society that seeks to commodify her.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/22 12:48 PM
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Ooh fun. Japanese lit about the love lives of prostitutes and suiciding with your courtesan GF is always a fun read.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/22 07:38 AM
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It's funny because there is evidence of men buying out the contracts of literal known harlots and marrying them before contact with Christianity. Though tbf there is a consistent delineation between high class courtesans/escorts and streetwalker-types in this area.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/22 07:02 AM
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No, you're good. This is fascinating. Catholicism wasn't really taught to me that way. If you were waiting for God to say things directly to you, like in Morgan Freeman voice or something, you are probably going to be disappointed. The closest thing for us was entering states of prayer or meditation, and feeling God's presence or influence on a spiritual level. It's like, if I meditate on words from the Bible (e.g. the Lord is my shepherd) and allow my conscious to drift, I feel something very p…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/22 06:55 AM
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Fine, the ones we do have surviving records of.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/22 06:36 AM
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Thanks for the recs! What do you mean by "whispers of God"?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/22 06:33 AM
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The funny part is that I'm actually Catholic myself, I just do not believe in this magical "sluts r gross" gene that certain people love to tout on this sub.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/22 06:28 AM
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I'm Christian myself, so I'm too biased to weigh in on that. That said, it's wild when people act like the majority of cultures have any record of giving a shit about chastity/virginity before contact with one of the above happened.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/22 06:23 AM
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Did purge start early or am I missing something? This is like the 3rd shitpost I'm seeing in a row.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/22 06:19 AM
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Gather around, kids! It's time to talk about colonization and the spread of Abrahamic religions
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/22 06:17 AM
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Well, here goes. I personally consider myself average at best. But I have been told my scale is broken because I grew up with a model-tier sister who came close to dancing for a major NFL team until my parents shut that down. It depends on location and who I'm with. When I'm with family, particularly my brother, low frequency. When I'm out with other women, medium frequency. Alone, I have to brace myself for a guy to come up to me at least once, if not more. Luckily the most recent one wasn't so…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/22 05:58 PM
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Admittedly, this is very true. It also depends on what the culture of a team is like at any given college. Like there are colleges where baseball team is known for being massive players while football are more likely to have serious monogamous relationships with Stacy, or vice versa. Every rugby player I've ever known personally has been a sweet goofy dork. Idk what that's about. Power lifters are also very wholesome people in my experience. Swim/dive had some of the nicest guys on campus and al…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/22 03:02 AM
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This starts getting into the question of what the "average" guy in that area looks like as well. At a college with a decent reputation for athletics there will will be way more than 5-10 Chads. This creates complications, especially when you factor in guys who are willing to go long distance and/or date women from other schools.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/22 01:46 AM
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Ohh I see what you're getting at now. I was looking at OP more from the perspective of accurate reporting of data. After all, women on this sub are constantly told we're lying about our preferences on the basis of data that is often misunderstood/misreported. But yes, the issue of realistic/attainable male beauty standards in dating is a concerning one. One of my exes was an option 3 with a fairly popular fitness Instagram. On the one hand, I can't forgive the things he did. On the other, I can'…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 10:35 PM
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Gotcha. Honestly half his body is cut off so I wasn't really thinking about him. I was using the pics provided in the article (the ones they showed the women). The athletic one looks natty to me, built looks juiced.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 10:14 PM
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Oh okay, thank you. So now can you explain how anything I have said in this thread discounts the amount of work it takes to have an athletic look?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 10:06 PM
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It depends on how common "Stacy" is in a given place. If you live in a college town where Stacy is literally a dime a dozen, it doesn't mean very much. You're hot, but also interchangeable with the 50 other girls in your sorority who look and behave exactly like you.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 10:02 PM
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So to be clear, we are talking about option 3 (athletic) and option 4 (built) from the article right?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 09:44 PM
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Ah, I see! You must be confusing me with someone else.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 09:30 PM
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As someone who is not easily impressed, I would tend to agree with you. Nonetheless, I also acknowledge that there are men on this sub who seem to consider us attractive for whatever reason. The people have spoken, QED.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 09:22 PM
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I've seen women being vague or coy about it, but if you guess the right dude they generally won't deny it
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 09:05 PM
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In my family the single/childless women that age are generally happy (same with the men), but I think the way our family is structured helps. Those without kids of their own tend to have a special affinity for their nieces, nephews, and/or godchildren. It basically lets them fulfill a kind of parent role when they want to, and withdraw to do their own thing when they don't. Older relatives occasionally had "friends" who would come around to family events and stuff. As a kid you just kind of acce…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 08:57 PM
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Trust me, I didn't do it intentionally. It happens over years.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 08:13 PM
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Didn't dispute that (I'm actually considered "young" by the survey's standard). Even within our group the data isn't what OP said it was.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 07:56 PM
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It's even worse because she's older than she looks. Some people think she was just being an edgy teenager. Homegirl is pushing 30.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 07:39 PM
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Are you talking about athlete or built/brawny?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 07:34 PM
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There are exactly 2 regular/long-time female users I can think of who haven't posted pics or shown themselves on Discord.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 07:33 PM
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How many purge photo dumps do we have to burn through before this same tired argument gets tossed into the sun
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 07:24 PM
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No. The problem is that the data is kind of confusingly presented. The term "built" is used in a very specific way for the purpose of this study. It's like they didn't want to mention roids specifically so they picked a hazy euphemism. They then go on to lump "built" and "fit" into one category as "women prefer muscular", which makes it even worse. OP incorrectly stated that "built" was the preferred look for young women, but it is not. "Preferred" and "less of a dealbreaker than this other extr…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 07:18 PM
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This is not at all how interpreting data works.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 06:58 PM
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Why would you invest more money/time to be attractive to the second highest number of young women tho? I get if a man likes the bulky aesthetic because it's what makes him feel good, and the question of what women are attracted to is secondary. If female attention is primary though, that makes no sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 06:47 PM
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Seems the younger generation prefers really built guys The study literally shows a strong preference for athletic over built for young women. Based on the pics "athletic" is a guy who clearly works out but doesn't have the overly muscular roided look.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 06:38 PM
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Oo I gotcha. Thanks Smurf!
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 06:46 AM
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I haven't felt these kinds of butterflies since high school, no need to lose sleep on my account.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 06:05 AM
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Aww you too! ❤
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 05:51 AM
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100% agree with you on boundaries and standards. I think we just approach it differently. For me it's not a matter of asking, but telling him what I believe. "These are my beliefs on topic X. What are yours?" If the answer is what I'm looking for in a partner, we can continue. If his answer changes, or his actions give a different answer, then I will not stay with him. It's not a debate or a fight or asking, it just is. The prevalence of violence in porn is what is scaring me from dating men. I …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 05:49 AM
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First of all, this is brilliant. Thank you. Second of all, if you encounter a kid out in the world named "Guitarsback" congrats, this method worked and we named our firstborn after you.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 05:00 AM
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Eh for me it starts to fall into policing territory when you're dictating to your partner what they can or can't do. My philosophy is that he can do whatever he wants, the question is whether I'm the right girl for him/he's the right guy for me. If we're not on the same page about this, probably not.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 04:56 AM
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Because the minimum age for House is 25 it's entirely possible for someone under 35 to be objectively more experienced/qualified than a candidate over 35 who just happens to be rich and recognizable enough to win. Your rationale fits a context in which military or political experience was at least an unwritten requirement. Literally the only argument that can be made for keeping the age limit at this point is societal perception of "maturity."
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 03:53 AM
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Ugh that's the kind of finesse my sister can pull off with ease, I am but a novice.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 03:23 AM
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Thank you, good to know! I can imagine how that would be frustrating.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 02:59 AM
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Gotcha! Thank you for the advice. ❤
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 02:53 AM
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I wish 😮‍💨
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 02:50 AM
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Duly noted. Thank you so much!
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 02:49 AM
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Hmm fair enough. Reading it again I can see why it would be interpreted that way.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 02:45 AM
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Okay I'm no expert but I don't think you can mask erectile dysfunction. I thought people would narrow it down to stutter or autism.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 02:32 AM
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Makes sense. I was just unsure about whether I should initiate the conversation or let him talk about it when he's ready.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 02:21 AM
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😑
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 02:16 AM
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Yeah. If the subreddit is any indication a noticeable stutter can apparently be a death sentence with guys when it comes to dating because it can affect their confidence with approaching, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 02:13 AM
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This is the route I'm leaning toward right now. He has a stutter.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 02:08 AM
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Edited the OP
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 02:06 AM
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It's weird because I'm usually candid about other things. I've read stories about couples going years without acknowledging/addressing this quirk and I definitely don't want it to get to that point.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 01:58 AM
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Let's say, hypothetically speaking, you met a guy who might be the love of your life. He has a quirk that can cause deep insecurities in...well, people in general, but it seems to be even more the case for men when it comes to dating? And I'm getting the vibe he hasn't dated anyone seriously before me. He hasn't brought it up, but I'm 95% sure he knows that I've noticed. I just want him to know that I don't care, and I like, love(?) him as he is. I don't want to bring up a topic that could stres…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 01:51 AM
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Bruh you're on Reddit, guy 1 is going to get a disproportionate advantage. And yes, I'm a guy 1 girl.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 01:40 AM
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It's your body, who gives a shit. Also, is it people or is it women? Hey at least you're consistent. Yep, it's people. Though while the female perspective is more "what if you're not physically compatible with him" the male side is more along the lines of "why would a guy with options wait that long." Is having a dick in you a more complicated decision than your health insurance plan, a mortgage, college classes etc.? You seem to think it is. Hilariously enough I can't think of a single person m…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 01:30 AM
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Who are you talking about? We have 3 steps of grown people decision making: I am grown I get to make grown people choices within the scope of what is legal Someone, somewhere will take issue with my grown people choice, no matter what it is There's an uncanny tendency to stop at 2. Not sure what that's about. A lot of users here have made their concern known about my decision, as a 23-year-old adult, to wait until marriage to have sex. I get why they think that way. I do not think that anyone wh…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 01:06 AM
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I disagree with you on that as well then. Sound very schoolmarmy to me. Okay. Choosing who you want to have sex with is a very simple decision. If you can't handle that at 22, you're an idiot. I mean I'd say they're doing pretty well compared to the 30+ crowd that still gets weirdly upset when faced witn anything outside of unanimous validation for their decisions/preferences.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 12:43 AM
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That's people who aren't 35 can't run for president. That's a consistent standard between men and women, you want a double standard for men and women. Where did I say that I believe it's totally cool for older women to date young men? Fucking a 40 year old is equivalent to taking over a company? Nope, I'm pointing out how people suddenly like to act obtuse about levels of maturity among adults specifically when age gaps are brought up but understand it perfectly in other situations. Hmm.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 12:34 AM
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I do agree that people get so caught up in the weeds of age specifically that other forms of power/coercion between people who are the same age get ignored. My parents specifically checked me as a kid about putting my high school best friend (who came from a working class family) in weird situations. Like, if they wanted to treat us to lunch they made sure I let my friend have equal say so that I wouldn't think having the money meant I got to ignore what she wanted. That sort of thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 12:29 AM
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Men who aren't 35 can't even run for president in the U.S. Agreeing with that requirement doesn't mean that you magically believe that men under 35 aren't adults or should be barred from the privileges/responsibilities of being an adult in other areas. You are allowed to think that 20-year-olds are adults while also not thinking that a 20-year-old is old enough to take over a Fortune 500 company.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 12:16 AM
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For starters: money Your fellow broke bitch college student cannot manipulate you financially or make you financially dependent on them. That said, there are young people who do use the financial status of their family and access to money to manipulate others. This gets called out as well though, or at least it was at my college. There was a dude known for giving predatory loans to his "friends" for sports equipment.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 12:11 AM
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In my personal opinion, trying to police a man's sexuality on the basis of "muh feelings" is a fruitless effort. My moral opposition to it is based in religious values. I make my beliefs clear from the start, and any man who isn't down for it can walk at any time. That said, I place more value in the striving than the success, in accordance with my faith. If he is trying to avoid porn but slips up or struggles with an actual addiction, I think there is room for grace and understanding. Going col…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 12:04 AM
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If older men going for younger women is a This is not what people say. Get it right. People see older men going for younger women below mid 20's as a red flag. I have never seen anyone claim a 30-year-old was being "manipulated" by her geriatric boyfriend. Hell in that situation they're more likely to see her as the opportunistic golddigger. There is no magic "after x number of relationships you are now emotionally mature enough to succeed in relationships" number. There is a not-so-magic age nu…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/22 11:44 PM
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The image of a desolate battlefield covered in bait actually fits this sub really well when you think about it
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/22 05:25 PM
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The existence of this post conclusively supports the medical diagnosis of ligma
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/22 05:20 PM
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Plenty, because I partially self-select into some religious/conservative circles. It's like a feedback loop, not a one-sided exchange. We had a men's group and a women's group in one of these communities at my college. For example, we baked sweets for them as a surprise for one of their retreats. They wrote us thank you notes back, one of the guys walked me back to my dorm because he wanted to make sure I was safe going back at night. Yes there was quite a bit of dating between our respective gr…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/22 08:05 PM
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Tbf likes and matches aren't the same tho. Unless a woman is just literally swiping right on everybody.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/22 04:44 PM
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Keep in mind that I am dating in a religious context, as I have expressed more than once. The approach you're referring to sounds more along the lines of being a secular or non-practicing tradcon, where discussions about sex are completely dictated by the comfort of the individuals involved rather than specific concerns regarding sexual morality/aversion of scandal. You are completely entitled to your opinions concerning the unfairness or realism of it. For me this works because I date men of my…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/22 07:41 PM
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Thank you!!
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/22 03:01 PM
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How early is too early? Within the context of my faith this kind of question is usually restricted to a committed relationship, particularly one where the individuals involved are considering marriage. Depending on the couple that can be anywhere from several months to a year. Wouldn't a virgin guy who wants a virgin partner for non-fetish reasons, also want to know early on? He may want to know, but won't ask. Men with conservative sexual histories generally aren't discussing that sort of topic…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/22 11:03 AM
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How do you make sure that you can trust him? Is it just based on compatibility of values, or do you have any particular "tests" that you put him through? Or red flags that you look for? Introducing him to my family is a major one. They have a tendency to pick up on things that I might miss if my own judgment is clouded by feelings. As for red flags, the biggest one in this area is asking about my sexual history early on. Guys who are around primarily for that reason generally won't really wait; …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/22 08:58 AM
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How do you differentiate between the two, if you don't mind sharing? I don't disclose that I'm a virgin until I'm 100% certain I can trust him. I simply let my values speak for themselves and focus on compatibility on that basis first. And what exactly is it about the latter that you don't like? Is it just that you're afraid someone like that is more likely to leave you afterwards, after they've scratched the itch? Or is it something else? They could leave, or worse, stick around but still ultim…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/22 06:58 AM
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I don't dislike them as people but the strategy itself is just...depressing. Pick mes know what they want and are taking the steps to get it. My older sister was basically in a love triangle that involved a "pick me" once. She was the safe place to land when my sister would cheat on him or dump him again. He also told her straight-up that he'd leave the pick-me girl in a heartbeat for her, and he did more than once. When my sister officially ended things with him the other girl took him back onc…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/22 05:48 AM
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Why did you lose it late? Waiting for religious/emotional reasons. What do you think of hookup culture? Not my thing. Do you see sex as something special? Very much so. Ideally I'll only do it with one person in my entire life. Do you want to lose it with another virgin or someone more experienced? Virgin. What has been your experience dating as a virgin? Learning to sort between guys who genuinely respect my values and fetishists who are just drawn to the idea of being a woman's first.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/22 05:38 AM
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No problem, and thank you!
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/22 02:28 AM
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He could do far worse. But he could also do way better than me lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/22 02:03 AM
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No complaints here. I'm basically at an age (23) where a pretty large crop of guys just a few years older are looking to settle down. I'm starting to get past my own fears of anxiety and inadequacy about being a wife and starting a family. There's actually a guy who's been on my mind lately. We haven't gone a day without talking since we met. He's just so sweet and sincere and I can't stop thinking about him. It's still early so I'm trying to keep my expectations in check. But I dunno, I just fe…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/22 02:01 AM
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Found out about pillosphere after a bad heartbreak 4 years ago, from there found PPD, outside of random breaks and account resets here and there, never left. My endgame is to leave forever next time, but we'll see if/when that happens.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/22 08:10 PM
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There's a very good chance the guy I'm seeing is a virgin. It's not a dealbreaker, but I kinda hope he is. We're both religious, which might be an important bit of context.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/22 08:29 PM
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Because I'm a tradcon-lite from a religious background who went to an all-girl high school and spent about 10% of my adolescence with guys up until college
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/22 05:41 AM
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I see! Thank you so much for clearing these questions up for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/22 04:15 AM
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This just in, random dude gives "American women" bad Yelp review
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/22 10:36 PM
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I mean even that could be a topic for an actual discussion post. This is just a straight-up diary post.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/22 10:32 PM
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So uh...what is there to discuss here?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/22 10:28 PM
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I have a strict policy of not assuming that any particular guy is 100% TRP. This is a controversial take but short of searching his browser history I don't think it's truly possible to know, particularly if a guy is good at masking it. That said, I have avoided/ghosted guys who operated in ways eerily similar to RP strategies. For example I used the classic "bracelet" story once as a reference for a confusing situation I was in with a guy. It's the one where an RP contributor bought a woman's br…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/22 10:21 PM
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Would be going on a date on Monday if grad profs decided not to cock block with major projects all week 😔
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/22 09:48 PM
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Ngl it really got to me at first. Didn't help that the first post I ran into was an askTRP thread about getting a religious/virgin GF to agree to sex. After the initial disgust phase, I read as much about the way they operated as I could stomach. Shit tests, comfort tests, agree and amplify, dread levels, kino escalation, LMR, watch what they do not what they say, oldest teenager in the house, WAW, taking pussy off the pedestal, blah blah blah. You can sit around and be mad. Or learn, and protec…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/22 09:44 PM
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I'm going to leave you a link to RAINN resources just in case they may be relevant/helpful to you for processing what happened: https://www.rainn.org/articles/sexual-assault-men-and-boys
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/22 07:14 PM
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Personally not a fan Are you basically saying that you were possibly groomed by your aunt?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/22 06:34 PM
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Oh for sure. Armchair diagnosis bullshit is a time-honored tradition, OCD is another one that gets thrown around for basically no reason at this point.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/22 05:42 PM
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Do you get horny? Oh yeah Also, are you afraid that you may end in a deadbedroom after finding a husband? Sometimes. I'm more afraid that he could become sick or die and a part of me, maybe even half would die along with him.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/22 03:26 PM
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So your weird passive aggressive question for women got removed so now we get part 2: electric boogaloo?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/22 10:28 AM
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For a while the default explanation for women who were annoyed by and unresponsive to TRP methods was armchair diagnosing them with a personality disorder. I still remember a post where a user field reported on hitting on an attractive woman at a gym and got shot down mercilessly (including getting "crazy eyes" from her). You had the ones with some semblance of sanity left who said maybe the gym isn't a great place to pick up women, and the ones who decided she must have BPD or something.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/22 10:17 AM
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Thank you so much for contributing your experience. There's only so much people from the outside looking in can say about it after all. Would you mind answering a few questions for me? How did you decide on a particular character? Have you/do you ever consider changing to a different one? Do you ever consider living with a roommate with a similar lifestyle to yours or do you prefer your own space with your partner?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/22 09:17 AM
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Oh jk maybe not him. Sydsnap and Aki are definitely attractive in my opinion though. Edit: And thank you!
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/22 06:07 AM
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So there are two types that get incorrectly conflated. There are guys who claim to be in love with an anime character, or say that's there "wife", but don't actually mean that. It's more like a fictional crush played up by the "best girl" meme. Many of them actually date or have girlfriends, hell there are anime YouTubers who constantly talk about "best girl" and stuff like that but are actually married/dating attractive women irl (Gigguk, Joey the "Anime Man", Glass Reflection, etc.) Those wome…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/22 06:01 AM
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Religion. Interestingly enough I was raised Catholic (still am) but my family was more lax on sex in particular and considered it normal for a woman to lose her virginity before marriage. In my family an early pregnancy is considered a major detriment to a woman's opportunities in life so there was actually pressure from other relatives for my parents to persuade me to start birth control. That was...a mess. Ultimately my parents stressed that it was my choice, so I didn't. Edit: I'm 23 btw, sti…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/22 03:33 AM
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Well that's enough Reddit for one day
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/22 06:31 PM
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If someone has ruminated on the benefits of temperance, eliciting deeper moral and rational motivations than those solely of religious expectations and personal proclivity, why would they not hold others to the same standard, beyond relationships? What way does an individual have to convey disapprobation besides social sanctions? I can only speak for myself on this. But to put it simply, I acknowledge that we live in a fallen world. There are two ends on the spectrum for navigating this: to with…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/22 03:51 PM
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I mean there's a bit of a selection effect going on here. Reds who think they're 100% correct and aren't open to debate are...not here. Why would they be?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/22 02:05 PM
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Certainly, I'll leave a note for her.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/22 09:36 AM
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I understand when the man is a virgin or low-n himself, with the important distinction being that he doesn’t trash talk higher n women or treat them as less than human. Guys are quick to forget that even though a woman may be virgin/low-n there's still a solid chance she has friends and loved ones who aren't. High-n men who think they're somehow better than high-n women due to key/lock nonsense are a different story. I'm personally not a fan but like...so what? "Oh no, time to call the hypocrisy…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/22 09:05 AM
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I'm so sorry, but I'm afraid the CEO of Modern Women, Inc. isn't available today. May I take a message?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/22 08:51 AM
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Ohhh I get what you're saying now. Sounds like she has some stuff on her profile she doesn't want a romantic prospect to see. I was raised in a somewhat conservative family with the "once it's on the internet it's there forever" mentality and only post G-rated stuff. So admittedly I can't relate to that sort of thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/22 05:10 AM
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As in, a woman wants to see you on social media but doesn't have it herself? I...have never seen that before.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/22 04:46 AM
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That's a completely valid personal preference. Some people are more private than others. I rarely post anything, and I'm paranoid about sharing my location and never post travel pics until after I'm home. Some of my friends are comfortable with people knowing when/where they're on vacation, for better or worse. It's a customizable experience. I think it's certainly hypocritical if say a woman doesn't want a guy who's interested in her checking out her social media but she wants to check his. Usu…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/22 03:05 AM
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That's the thing, he doesn't have to be. If people are tagging you your page will have activity and potential vetting material whether you post anything or not. Some people find being tagged by grandma or whatever embarrassing, I personally find it sweet and a sign that he's connected to his family. Though I am a very family-oriented person, so that might be a me thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/22 02:54 AM
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Wouldn't call it an outright red flag, but I don't think it's something that can be disregarded entirely. Consistently, I find that the most wholesome guys are the type who don't actually post much but are constantly tagged by family and friends who don't look like a bunch of assholes.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/22 02:49 AM
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I say this as a virgin: the vast majority of men who care about this whatsoever are either religious or come from conservative backgrounds
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/22 12:47 AM
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I think I'm a 5 who gets overrated by dudes with very specific tastes
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/22 10:25 PM
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"Thank you so much for everything! Goodbye." No contact
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/22 08:45 PM
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For me the two are directly connected. My own want and desire make me receptive to his.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/22 07:43 PM
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In religious circles there are plenty of them ime. Outside of that it starts getting dicey.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/22 05:00 PM
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Ime it's only accurate when he's attracted to you. If he's not nothing short of screaming "I love you" from the rooftop of the tallest skyscraper will give him that impression.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/22 04:59 PM
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For me, no. Once I'm truly head over heels for a guy (I never enter a relationship if I'm just lukewarm) the attractiveness of other men is irrelevant to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/22 10:11 AM
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Indeed, the nerve believed to produce one's unhelpful smartass reflex!
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/22 06:25 PM
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When a person has reached a level of pessimism which dictates that any individual who claims not to be a self-centered asshole must be lying
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/22 11:52 AM
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already addressed this in another comment Notice that in my very first post, I said that I would prefer a male virgin for a spouse. Why? Because sex is sacred to me, and I want to share that experience with someone I trust and love. Someone who holds sex in the same regard that I do. Turning sex into a mere transaction is the polar opposite. Even if a woman is happy to be a sex worker, the individual act of sex probably isn't pleasing or fulfilling to her. That is what makes it work, as opposed …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/22 11:14 PM
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Honey I wouldn't have picked this username if I were shy about that
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/22 08:51 PM
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Lion King, because I've been high on Disney crack from a susceptible young age. I do love Shrek tho. If you ever mention it and hear somebody screaming "someBODY" in the distance it's probably me.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/22 08:49 PM
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Fuck she could've at least picked Dylan. He's the twin now voicing this guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/22 08:46 PM
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Except from one of my favorite pieces about this topic, "You're Right, I Didn't Eat That": I am not especially bothered by men who desire thin women. They are just as susceptible to messages that these are the women that they should find most attractive as women are to messages that they should look like them. The more troubling kind of man has a caveat about a woman’s thinness. She must not be “obsessed” or “overly concerned” with it. Or at least not visibly so. She mustn’t always order salads …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/22 08:35 PM
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Don't worry, you'll only be hated if you're the type who likes that look but also bitches about how "basic" and "boring" her diet is
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/22 08:14 PM
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She explains at the bottom that she knowingly slept with a Christian dude who now feels guilty and like she led him astray. So, when are we going to stop ignoring the truth that men can be just as lacking in the agency department as women? That's all I'm taking away from this.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/22 08:02 PM
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Perhaps. I just don't see the point of getting lost in the weeds of "is this man redpill." What if he's RP? What if he's just another douche? Same outcome.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/22 01:44 PM
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You can't. Plenty of dudes learn RP-esque behaviors from places that aren't the internet. The specific label, where he got it from, etc. isn't the point. Is he treating you the way you want to be treated? What are your dealbreakers? What do you want in a man?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/22 12:29 PM
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Damn, how'd you know about the jar of salsa con queso I keep on my person at all times
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/22 09:05 AM
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I can't decide if it's me being cowardly or protective honestly. If the love of my life died protecting me, I wouldn't be able to live with myself. Just dying there would be more merciful, so why not protect him instead? But then he would have to live with that pain instead of me. So maybe I wouldn't really be helping anything after all.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/22 02:25 AM
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There is no "exclusion" taking place. I've already talked about the difference between wanting to be defined by one's past and having tough experiences that do affect you in some way. Your "call out" is nonsensical. You believe that a woman's past should in fact define her, and you're trying to force that concession by taking basic expectations of decency/empathy hostage.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/22 11:43 PM
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Either the past matters, or it doesn't. False dilemma But what won't be allowed is women who try to disallow some things in their past from being used against them while saying other things are allowed when it is to their benefit to allow them. I mean...you're more than welcome to conduct your relationships as you please? And others are welcome to see this mindset as a product of bitterness rather than logic.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/22 11:34 PM
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So you seem to be treating "define" and "affect" as synonymous. An incident/experience can certainly affect how you perceive reality, but that doesn't necessarily mean you are now defined as a person by that incident, or that you have to want others to see you that way. It would certainly be a bummer if everyone decided to define my worth by my negative experience with seasickness on a cruise. Will I ever be going on a cruise again, though? Probably not.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/22 11:24 PM
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So let's break down your premise. Individual X feels that Y aspect of their past does not define them as a person. Therefore, individual X should not be allowed to use their own past experience to set boundaries and recognize potential red flags in dating. I am trying to figure out how the second statement logically follows from the first. It seems non sequitur.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/22 11:05 PM
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My post was not in response to why you'd rather have virgin who holds sex sacredly. It was specifically in response to the part where you appear to paint clients of prostitution as immoral. Nowhere in here did I claim that I am the sole arbiter of what is moral or immoral. I was asked to defend a personal preference, and that is what I did. I am going to answer on the basis of my worldview accordingly. But if we want to address your preference, have you considered why somebody may consider payin…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/22 07:15 AM
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Help, another dark-eyed dark-haired dork has shot an arrow through my heart
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/22 06:50 AM
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Your entire post fundamentally misunderstands my worldview. Notice that in my very first post, I said that I would prefer a male virgin for a spouse. Why? Because sex is sacred to me, and I want to share that experience with someone I trust and love. Someone who holds sex in the same regard that I do. Turning sex into a mere transaction is the polar opposite. Even if a woman is happy to be a sex worker, the individual act of sex probably isn't pleasing or fulfilling to her. That is what makes it…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/22 06:30 AM
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But doesn't your perspective add to the stigma of sex work? I think you have me confused with sex positive liberal Reddit women.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/22 05:55 AM
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Any man who feels perfectly happy to potentially exploit desperation for sex can feel free to date women who aren't me.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/22 05:53 AM
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Very perceptive
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/22 03:16 AM
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My worst kept secret on Reddit lol. Why do you ask?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/22 03:02 AM
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Lol. I'm admittedly not entirely sure about the talk:action ratio that's supposed to happen.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/22 02:38 AM
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Well, yes. Don't they still tend to feel a craving for something that hasn't happened yet?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/22 02:33 AM
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It's cute though! Also, I got through about 30 seconds of the video you posted. I would like it if a guy checks in that often, at least the first time we do it. I can see it being cringey/too much for experienced people, especially a couple that's already familiar with each other's likes and dislikes.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/22 02:31 AM
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Well...yes? Don't virgin men feel the same way?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/22 02:25 AM
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So, when I first went there the top posts were punchy Twitter posts about not letting men mistreat you. Now it's well...different. More angry/combative? So much negativity. Even adopted femcel language (that is literally where "scrotes" came from, it was an ironic counterpart to roastie that got adopted by actual misandrists).
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/22 02:16 AM
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If it's not "Tea and Consent" I don't want it
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/22 02:09 AM
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That is entirely the point, actually. The uncertainty (what exactly made this woman get to this point) is a risk he was totally okay with. I don't want to date much less marry someone like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/22 01:56 AM
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Wow, you feel very strongly about this topic. Thank you for all of your insights.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/22 01:53 AM
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As much as I hate to bring in a fictional TV show, Squid Game lays out this problem nicely. The individuals put their lives on the line for the sake of some rich dudes' entertainment because they're out of options. If the games didn't happen, they'd be fucked. This does not give any moral justification to the games themselves, as much as the homicidal assholes who run it want to believe otherwise. The fact that individuals are put in that situation is an indictment of the society, taking advanta…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/22 01:32 AM
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Oh did he ask her before they fucked to make sure? How considerate.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/22 01:25 AM
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If he did lose his job, it's pure ass coverage on the part of the company. I highly doubt "oh no, he did mean stuff to women on Hinge!" is a reason a company would fire a good employee. They simply do not want the press associated with one of their employees going viral for negative reasons.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/22 01:21 AM
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As a man I just look at those instincts and understand that they are there to protect me and my biological interests, and they wouldn't even exist if there was no threat to defend against. You are definitely entitled to feel that. You are not entitled to the approval of anyone, male or female. Across history people have adopted destructive ideologies for the sake of some kind of "threat", real or imagined. Does having some kind of basis in our lizard brain make those perspectives admirable or ju…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/22 01:18 AM
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If a man can't even have sex with his wife without feeling like he's "defiling" her he'll be lucky if there's any paternity to dispute in the first place.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/22 12:47 AM
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That could be the case for some. For me beards, mustaches, etc. are just never attractive, even in person.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/22 12:36 AM
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It's both actually. I am indeed disgusted by the types of reproductive interests that lift up some women as "wife material" and others as damaged goods or used cars. Closer to the actual definition, and arguably the opposite side of the same coin, I also hate when men pigeonhole me as pure, untouchable, or innocent. I know what sex is, and I know that will be part of my role as a wife. I can speak frankly about it, and I have ideas of what I might desire in bed. I've struggled with desire and te…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/22 12:30 AM
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Question for women who don't find WEC attractive: how much of it is the mustache? For me that's the #1 reason I don't find him attractive whatsoever. I'm wondering if women with more of a liking for facial hair rate him more highly.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/22 12:20 AM
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No, though ideally he'd be a virgin I'd take a guy with a history of sex with fully willing, consenting women over a guy who paid a woman who may or may have not any other choice to feed her kids
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/22 11:06 PM
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Lol for me it would've gone more like this. "Actually I'm going to have a steak and you can bring us separate checks, thank you :-)." Then tell him I'll be entertaining myself with an ebook on Kindle for the rest of the evening, and he's more than welcome to head out early if he'd prefer not to dine together.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/22 09:39 PM
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Used to. Now if the frustration exceeds my amusement I just leave.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/22 08:15 PM
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That depends on several factors. Do I know him well? Do I know the girl he's interested in well? If so let's not beat around the bush. I can try to gauge her interest in him directly, report if he has the green light to ask her on a date. Problem solved.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/22 05:59 PM
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Madonna/whore complex. Arguably NAMALT but I've definitely seen signs of it, particularly as someone who tends to get sorted on the "madonna" side of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/22 04:24 PM
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I think the time of wanting unattractive friends to make yourself look better has passed. Now it's more like "everybody I associate with must be hot or else I'll look less attractive."
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/22 12:35 AM
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No because my dating pool (religious/family-oriented men) isn't really impacted by this
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/22 10:47 PM
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I think people are just becoming more superficial and obsessed with looks in general. My college has an anonymous forum that can be even wilder than Reddit sometimes, likely because there aren't even usernames or histories linked to anyone. For example, a guy admitted he didn't want to bring a girl around his friends because she's "cute but not hot", a girl said she doesn't like to be friends with overweight girls because they wouldn't look good on her social media.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/22 10:45 PM
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Unpleasant experience with an ex whose actions aligned pretty close to stuff I found on the TRP sub after we fell out. I don't want to make the same mistake again.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/22 10:39 PM
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Looks: dark hair and dark eyes, bit of softness on the stomach, no facial hair Situation: Feeling safe and respected, gentleness, maybe a little shyness. Once I know I can trust him, soft touches especially on my hands, arms, or legs. Aggressive approaches from men basically make me feel like a deer in headlights and shut me down completely.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/22 09:01 PM
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Situation 1, it's the one I grew up with until my dad became a SAHD in my teens after my mom made it to comfortable six figures. Not everyone has this option though. It worked for my parents because we lived close to where their families are. My relatives who moved further away had to hire nannies. Content edit
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/22 03:50 PM
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Not a fan, personally. Staying friendly is ideal, but successfully maintaining a full-on friendship after a breakup with no drama or hurt feelings as people start to inevitably move on and date others is just rough.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/22 09:29 PM
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TRP straddles that weird "enjoy the decline" line: take full advantage of the circumstances, but referring to it as a decline means, well, you're critical of the culture. You believe it's lost something it had previously. By that same token they can enjoy certain women while also bitching about them endlessly.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/22 08:24 PM
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Understood
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/22 08:24 PM
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Lol my "True Crime" is listening to my dad talk about his childhood. I think women who are more unfamiliar/unaffected by that sort of thing are the most morbidly entertained by it.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/22 08:17 PM
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Q4W. Would you marry that Bezos guy? He's kind a fool. But he sure is loaded. Imagine all the things you could do with all that money. I can't enjoy that kind of thing unless a. I earned the money myself or b. my family wanted me to have it. Marrying someone I feel no attraction or affection for sounds awful. You are stranded on an deserted island for 20 years. Only one other person there: Bezos, Bill Gates, or Mark Zuckerberg. Which want do you want? Gates. He's the only one who doesn't have cr…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/22 06:22 PM
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Lovebombing, serial cheating, explosive outbursts like jumping out of a car on a highway if she doesn't get her way. And that only scratches the surface. The thing is, you wouldn't guess all this when you first meet her. She's attractive, funny, charming, loves to cook, and can make a guy feel like he's the only one in the room when she wants.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/22 05:48 PM
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Nah there are workarounds if women want to make a non-conventionally attractive or average man look good for Instagram. Having the dude always conveniently standing on stairs is one I've noticed. Gushing over the vacation he took her on but conveniently leaving out the sketchy motel they had to stay in. That's what social media is all about, peddling the best version of reality possible.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/22 07:56 AM
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Ah okay gotcha
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/22 04:06 AM
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Wait are blues allowed to comment on posts flaired both discussion and question for RP
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/22 03:43 AM
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That's a big "if" dude. Growing up with a BPD sister that men can't seem to resist no matter what she puts them through, nothing surprises me at this point. Hell FDS is child's play compared to her.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/22 03:12 AM
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I can't help but cringe whenever people unironically gas themselves up like this. As someone who finds a way to awkwardly self-deprecate every time I get a compliment on this sub, smh.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/22 02:58 AM
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Well guess I'll devil's advocate here. Keep in mind that FDS's main concern is vetting for specific traits. It's not a "do X to make men more attracted to you." It's more like "do X so that you can sort Y type of men out of your dating pool." Their idea of HVM isn't just about status or wealth, they specifically look to be treated/valued a certain way. Do I agree with them? No. I just think this oft-repeated "but why should I be attracted to a woman like this?" question is misguided and misunder…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/22 02:49 AM
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Brings out the worst in everybody imo. The longest I've ever made it on OLD was like a week before I got sick of the mechanical nature of it all. Feels more like shopping or ordering off a menu than building a connection with anyone. It's easy to forget these are actual people with actual feelings on the line and not just NPC's in a video game or something.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/22 11:15 PM
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No because that would indicate incompatible religious values. If anything I have to be more cautious of becoming an overnight wife just so we can bang sooner.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/22 10:09 PM
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Comes and goes. When I first started here years ago a dude called me fat after I disagreed with him and I responded by calling him something like "whiny bitch baby." He took it very personally and the mods didn't do anything lol. Nowadays they're way more strict.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/22 08:10 PM
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The majority of BP people don't give a single shit about any of this terminology, RP sets the parameters of it. If RP says "X is bluepilled", people who fit those traits will say "Well guess I'm bluepilled." And RP calls a lot of common behaviors and conventions bluepilled. That's it.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/22 07:57 PM
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This is getting out of hand
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/22 03:30 PM
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This is the way
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/22 03:26 PM
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A dude who doesn't even know you and could be a larping woman for all you know isn't much better. Call me old-fashioned but I take everything randoms say on the internet with a massive grain of salt.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/22 03:20 PM
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The real pro gamer move is not taking advice on anything from anyone online
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/22 02:34 PM
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It made me burst out laughing at that part of The Boys where Butcher is referencing the Matrix but mixes up the pills, Hughie corrects him, and Butcher is just like "doesn't matter, the point is, stop being a cunt"
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/22 01:53 AM
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Cool
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/22 05:07 PM
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How other women react to softness and vulnerability in men is irrelevant to me. I do think that I have a masculine streak in me, but more in the form of a desire to provide/protect than "boss" anyone around.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/22 03:49 PM
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For some reason all of the STEM guys I know have either never dated before in their lives or have been in a happy, wholesome LTR since like high school, there's no in-between
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/22 01:58 PM
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u need the guy to be capable of violence and assertiveness No
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/22 01:45 PM
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Nah for me it goes beyond rhetoric. I'm actually drawn to sensitivity/softness in men. According to RP, women like that don't exist because AWALT.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/22 06:14 AM
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Is buying a DVD just about watching a movie? No. There are literally more ways than ever to watch movies. For some a particular movie is so meaningful/valuable none of that will ever beat owning their own copy. The person you love is your special edition. With a second disc. That has trivia on it or something. Disclaimer: Any pessimistic interpretations you draw from this analogy are probably 100% correct, sorry.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/22 10:16 PM
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No. What I look for in men is fundamentally incomptible with TRP. This is the part where people say "we don't go around advertising it in public, you wouldn't know." Correct, I wouldn't necessarily know for certain. There are plenty of men who aren't my type who also aren't TRP, but no TRP man would fit my type unless he literally ignored everything in the sidebar.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/22 08:33 PM
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At that point of realism and accessibility I don't think you it would even specifically be marketed as a "sexbot" anymore. It would officially be a companion robot that can do chores around the house, serve therapeutic functions, give fashion/life advice, pretty much anything a person could want. Being able to have sex would be just another feature, like an app on a phone. Will that particular "feature" be used? Yes. Will normal people talk about it openly and want to hear about your sexual expl…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/22 03:27 PM
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The wisdom of Reddit. A: If a guy friend does X, Y, and Z for you he definitely wants to smash, and if you pretend otherwise you're just leading him on B: Actually I've done that stuff for friends I didn't like that way all the time, including other men- A: No
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/22 01:05 PM
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Ngl kinda wish somebody would block me just so I can see how this feature work Edit: Shoot somebody was nice enough to help me out but I can't give them an award 😭
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/22 02:15 AM
7

Me not being able to hear over the music: "You want your what back?"
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/22 02:10 AM
2

Caleb's time will come, you can't rush these things
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/22 11:30 PM
0

In this case the question isn't so much "why not" and more like "why"
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/22 11:29 PM
4

It's official, the new term for Chad is "Joe Burrow"
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/22 11:21 PM
1

But the makeup doesn't turn her into a prettier girl? I said she looks basically the same:/ her bones are still bad. That's my point. She's average-looking to me, but knows the type of look/makeup that's appealing on social media and paints her face accordingly. That's all it takes to be an "influencer." I haven't looked her up but I'd say she's above average in comparison to average American woman because she's thin and her face isn't too ugly. Average women are fat. Yeh this might be the diffe…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/22 11:18 PM
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Right? And she has 1.7 million followers on Instagram and 4.32 million subscribers on Youtube for her trouble. Modest by influencer standards, but not something to scoff at either. Bam, the glam makeup effect.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/22 10:03 PM
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Just out of curiosity. How would you rate Christen Dominique with vs. without makeup? Here's one of her tutotials
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/22 09:31 PM
1

Wait so the asshole symbiote Peter Parker was just his actual personality all along?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/22 09:03 PM
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Ah, you actually just reminded me about a part I forgot: cosmetic surgery. I was just watching a dating show the other day and the sheer amount of obvious botox was out of this world. It's crazy because when I was growing up those kinds of procedures were stereotyped as an "old lady" thing. It floors me that there are women my age or younger already getting that sort of stuff done.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/22 08:48 PM
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I know a chick who was like that after losing her virginity, started modeling nude for art classes and everything. Idk what it is, for some people having sex gives them this massive confidence boost and for others not much changes.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/22 08:26 PM
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Nope 9 times out of 10 they're average women in glam makeup. Though tbf my idea of attractiveness may be harsher than most people's.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/22 08:09 PM
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"Hot influencer girls" are average women who know how to use makeup and market themselves. Many of these women post makeup tutorials that explicitly show how they go from average to their Instagram look. The money they get from promoting those products outweighs their need to keep up the "I woke up like this" fantasy these days.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/22 07:10 PM
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Implying that sexual affirmation is the only type of female affirmation that matters isn't the high ground ya'll think it is lol
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/22 06:50 PM
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Oh I know that it's rare, but remember that RP teaches AWALT (all women are like that).
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/22 05:35 PM
2

Why are you like this 😭
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/22 05:33 PM
4

Well that was one wild ride of a post
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/22 06:50 AM
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Religious dating apps are kind of like this already, minus debt and background checks. Like on Catholic Match you are given a list of the 7 most crucial Catholic teachings and list the ones you agree with in your profile, like waiting until marriage. You're also assessed on temperament iirc (i.e. sanguine, choleric, phlegmatic, and melancholic).
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/22 03:54 AM
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Not actively into it because I'm waiting until marriage. Buut I am very open to exploring that sort of thing if my future husband wants to. Both the idea of being a dom and a sub are appealing to me, but for different reasons. The fact that I'm not repulsed by the idea of a man being submissive in bed seems to contradict RP ideas, so that fits my BP flair. Though it's not the primary reason I'm BP.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/22 12:46 AM
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I consider myself lucky that I've only had one major one in my actual dating life, the second one was more of an unrequited thing. I was like 14 and fell for a teacher basically twice my age. I know what you're thinking. Just a silly crush, right? Told myself as much for the longest time. And then I found out he was dating someone, I think maybe my sophomore or junior year. Another teacher at my school. It hit me like a ton of bricks when I overheard girls gossiping about them. I remember my hea…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/22 12:14 AM
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It is extremely rare, but not unheard of. In the cases I do know the marriage was basically an irreconcilable rock bottom though. As in actual rock bottom, not the man making his wife look like a harpy bitch by complaining to the side chick all the time when in reality he's actually pretty okay with her.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/22 09:38 PM
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Once a man is dead-set on sleeping with you he can twist a handshake and a nun's habit into "leading him on."
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/22 06:17 PM
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Clearly we're talking about gamers here
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/22 05:33 PM
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Lol not that far. It's a game that heavily incentivizes lying/deception so she would cover for me a lot. I was like "aww how sweet" and started doing the same for her. We also wouldn't attack each other under any circumstances, but everybody else was fair game. It was to the point where people thought we actually knew each other irl and then I basically had to explain "nope...we met here."
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/22 05:23 PM
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Not sure if this counts, but I'll shoot. Basically I was using a gender-neutral/kinda masculine throwaway name on an online game and this (supposed) girl came under the impression I was a guy, had a crush on me, and I didn't have the heart to correct her. The rest of the group also started assuming I was a guy, so I didn't correct them either. Eventually I had enough, left, and maybe broke her heart, whoops.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/22 05:06 PM
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Man I would feel so sorry for the mods on that sub
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/22 04:53 PM
2

Not important. That's what separates a preference from a requirement.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/22 10:58 AM
1

Yeah and the sentences aren't this eloquent. It would be more like "BRO F*** WOMEN!" Insert some lame ass joke clarifying that he's referring to sex. Hahaha how funny.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/22 05:21 AM
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I'm trying to give the benefit of the doubt and assume that OP is giving a very loose account of what was actually said by everyone involved. Because right now I'm trying to imagine humans talking like this in real life and it's just not happening. Hell if these were lines from a movie people would laugh and say "nobody talks like this."
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/22 05:02 AM
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Hot but my family wouldn't like it
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/22 02:58 AM
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No. Unfortunately(?) I find that guys are so used to getting that they come on really strong when they come across an exception. I had a guy start talking about moving in together after about two weeks of my signature paragraph-long texts answered in the format of assignment discussion prompts. It's funny because when I was a teen people considered it a weird quirk of mine. Now guys are like "marry me."
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/22 02:34 AM
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Yes, hence toss once things are back in order
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/22 02:08 AM
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Nah, I was talking about when the shirt raises up and you can see the muffin top
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/22 09:22 PM
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Replying to someone else...?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/22 08:45 PM
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Outside of the obvious, I think an important one is wearing clothes that fit. Okay. Shit happens. You were busy, exercise routine fell off a cliff, maybe your diet's been out of wack. Please for the love of all that is sacred do not try to keep squeezing in to the same t-shirts you wore when you were in shape. Just don't. Buy some temporary shit from Good Will you can wear, fit in, and toss once things are back in order. 1000 times better than everybody seeing all your business every time you li…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/22 08:30 PM
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Kind of, but for me it's a bit more complicated. I mostly date interracially. If a guy may be into me but I'm not entirely sure if he swirls I look him up on social media. If there are a lot of black people in his social circle, he's done service/volunteer work in black communities, or he has a black ex, those are pretty solid predictors lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/22 06:15 PM
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Pressuring me into sex and angry, destructive outbursts are my biggest ones.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/22 05:59 PM
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You wish you had this many subscribers
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/22 01:53 PM
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Yeah so if your company has a choice between getting its workers laid and avoiding massive legal liability, they're gonna go with the second one
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/22 03:21 AM
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Mmmm you get me
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/22 03:04 AM
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Oh I see what you mean. Thankfully I don't believe that's the case. Aiming to "prove" yourself in that sense is a double-edged sword. For every man it impresses others might see you as insufferable, or a know-it-all. So in my view, it's best not to build your identity around what men find attractive, or what you think they'll find impressive. Instead I do what feels right, and allow things to fall into place (or not) from there.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/22 08:46 PM
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I think it's because of my first "love." Geeky, brilliant teacher from high school who was kind, basically a side job while he worked on post grad degreees. He always supported and believed in me. Though at the end of the day I was just a child to him of course. If he caught on to what I felt he didn't say anything, just continued treating me as he always did. Since then I've always been drawn to guys who are smart, driven, and kind of awkward.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/22 08:02 PM
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If nobody bats an eyes when the word rape is constantly throw around for men who got screwed over in a divorce then I don't think it's particularly shocking that predator gets similar treatment
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/22 07:02 PM
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Basically the former. I have a thing for clueless/oblivious types. Not the same as actively shutting me down, more like a guy who has his mind on other things besides women.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/22 06:58 PM
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What can I say, gotta know your audience
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/22 03:24 PM
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Fires up Google survey Name: required field Would you hit it: required field
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/22 09:59 AM
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Of course I do Jim. And you know I'm gonna say I'm the special snowflake who's NAWALT.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/22 09:56 AM
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We exist but the supply doesn't meet the demand unfortunately
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/22 09:33 AM
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"I mean I also wouldn't eat Rocky Road ice cream but somebody's doing it bruh."
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/22 09:32 AM
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Ngl when I first read it I thought "kids from previous relationships" was referring to the man's own kids and the women in question were his exes. I was like...what?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/22 05:30 AM
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The DMs are kinda cringe but sweet most of the time, thankfully. The inbox flood I'm talking about is Reddit letting me know every time a user responds to my comment.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/22 05:12 AM
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I don't exactly agree with you, but thank you for the condolences. I love my mother more than anything, and the pain she feels whenever she talks about my uncle breaks my heart.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/22 05:09 AM
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I was pretty sheltered growing up, particularly in terms of who I was allowed to spend time with, and have a family that cares very much about appearances. I was expected to act and dress a certain way in public, so I basically missed out on the kind of experimental phase a lot of people go through with their style choices in high school. I can also relate to being snarky, and jaded at times. I think growing up observing other people more than actually doing can create that personality type. I a…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/22 04:56 AM
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Major difference there is that the 18-year-old in that case is also young, immature, and hopefully has the potential to learn from her mistakes and get her shit together. A 30-something? Knew exactly what she was doing, enjoyed every minute of it, and very likely learned absolutely nothing.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/22 04:34 AM
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Yue on the outside but more like Mai internally
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/22 04:20 AM
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If we're talking about an 18-year-old who also happens to be able to afford fancy vacations, pricy gifts, and making the other 18-year-old financially reliant on them then there is a potential for a power imbalance there as well. It just happens that age gap relationships are more likely to involve this imbalance.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/22 04:10 AM
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Definitely real. We're gonna see the rest of this man's biography on Wattpad next week.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/22 04:01 AM
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Okay, I've officially decided. The best place for your comment to finish in a thread on this sub is somewhere in the middle. Perfect for farming modest imaginary internet points without having your inbox drowned in totally original counterarguments that have already been said 1000 times.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/22 03:50 AM
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Oh shit that's what caused the drama? I saw that the interview happened but I didn't know about the mess that ensued.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/22 03:42 AM
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Ah yes, "look it up." The resounding cry of anybody who doesn't know how the burden of proof works. 10/10, good talk.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/22 03:21 AM
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That sub always has continuous drama going on. Did something new happen?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/22 03:10 AM
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Ronald Reagan is the last man I want to associate sex with
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/22 03:08 AM
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Dudes on this sub severely overestimate how many simps the average woman has. The average woman is not Belle Delphine. In before "all of your guy friends want to bang you." Unfalsifiable, moving on.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/22 03:06 AM
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Ah then it's been recommended to me before, but I haven't seen it yet. No teenagers involved so maybe I'll actually like this one.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/22 03:01 AM
1

Is that the one with Scarjo?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/22 02:53 AM
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I have a crazy feeling that if this were backed by as many studies as you claim you would have posted them by now.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/22 02:50 AM
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Inappropriate, Oedipus-complexy. It's a shame because the animation is gorgeous and I think it could have been one of my favorites if it were more of a straight mentor relationship without the weird romantic undertones. If you're curious the whole thing is free on YouTube. No copyright strikes so I guess it's allowed to be up?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/22 02:48 AM
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You realize that men have simped for prostitutes/ courtesans across history right? Many would zero in on a favorite and keep going back to her. It was a big deal when a younger woman would come in and "steal" an established courtesan's regulars. There were actually conditions for buying out a courtesan's contract if a client became so attached he didn't want her in the profession anymore. In any case, prostitution does not eliminate simping. If anything legalizing might change it back into a soc…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/22 02:11 AM
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An opinion not backed by anything in particular besides "trust me bro" is not an objective truth no matter how much one might want it to be so
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/22 01:59 AM
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They complained precisely because they thought she was manipulative and too old for him. I think you misunderstood me.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/22 01:49 AM
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I disagree completely
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/22 01:45 AM
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That's one opinion/interpretation. Mine is that the age gap and power imbalance contributed significantly to the abuse. She was loaded, took him on expensive vacations, bought nice gifts, etc. It was hella weird finding out that this gorgeous purebred dog my grandparents raised throughout my childhood was actually a gift she gave him and was left behind after he died. He loved him despite all the shit she put him through so my grandparents decided not to give him up.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/22 01:43 AM
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Yes, that she actively encouraged because she thought he was funnier/more interesting when he wasn't sober
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/22 01:37 AM
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You have acknowledged that age-based laws can be arbitrary and do not necessarily reflect reality. I totally agree with that.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/22 01:34 AM
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Haven't seen this movie in particular, but there is a famous anime movie (Garden of Words) that centers on an implied but not explicitly romantic relationship between a 15-year-old male student and a 27-year-old teacher. It's uncomfortable to watch for me. I think a lot of people give it a pass because the director is very big on the themes of longing and unrequited relationships of all kinds, and their feelings don't actually amount to anything. I think depicting one-sided crushes on older/auth…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/22 11:58 PM
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Anecdata are weak science in general. I'm not going to pretend that my family's experience is universal, or that laws should change to reflect it, or something like that. I'm just speaking for my own personal experience with the matter, and that every person who knew him agrees that he was a temperamental but overall happy kid until he met that woman. Encouraging his alcoholism, lying about pregnancy, and saying the kid could be his, or his best friend's are great ways to drag a guy as low as it…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/22 11:20 PM
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its an arbitrary law not reality Ironically enough plenty of people use this logic to critique relationships that technically have legal age gaps
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/22 09:51 PM
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And basically everywhere else lol. That's why I put in the eagle disclaimer.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/22 08:35 PM
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Old-fashioned but often necessary because you know, parents are old, and you don't want her dad to hate you
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/22 08:33 PM
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Oh man I actually wish I were suspicious of age gaps just to "flex." It's a family taboo caused by the death of my uncle. He was 18 in an emotionally abusive relationship with a 30-something woman at the time he committed suicide. The men laughed it off and praised him for being able to snag an attractive older woman, and when the women complained they said "it's fine, he's an adult."
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/22 08:28 PM
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Lol yeah, an adult who can't even legally buy their own drinks in the U.S.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/22 08:22 PM
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You say that like it's a bad thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/22 04:17 PM
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My mate dies immediately after coitus and in the event of survival is promptly ejected from the hive anyway
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/22 04:01 PM
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Because people on here forget the equally effective yet still perfectly valid method for blocking: just stop talking to them. That said I've definitely had dudes on here at least claim they were gonna block me, so it's not just female users.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/22 03:55 PM
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It's actually kinda weird when you consider the fact that objectively worse behavior on OLD (slurs, slut-shaming, overt misogyny, etc.) has been called out on social media for all of like a day and then completely forgotten while a guy who ghosted of all things is the one drawing long-term, widespread attention
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/22 07:39 AM
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You are not the first dude on this sub who's found her attractive. I don't get the appeal.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/22 07:30 AM
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Oh of course I'm naive. That's precisely why I look to the older people I trust in my life for wisdom instead of older dudes on the internet who think grandma existed to be a bangmaid.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/22 06:19 AM
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So your dad and grandpa have told you that the only thing that your mom and grandma are good for are cooking, cleaning, and sex? Sure okay. How long have you been married for (that you are such an expert)? Considering the fact that I only hit the age of consent for my home state about 5-6 years ago I wouldn't have much to tell you even if I were married.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/22 05:57 AM
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Have you been married for over 2 decades?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/22 05:32 AM
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Oh of course. Those of us on Reddit would know all about that.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/22 01:28 AM
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Oh? I wasn't aware that "women are human" was a controversial sentiment.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/22 01:20 AM
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I want everybody to realize that OLD is a toxic cesspit and it's better to connect with people irl. A girl can dream.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/22 01:06 AM
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You don't see a problem with that? All of that is very ridiculous and petty of them, why are we pretending that ridiculous and petty people are a new phenomenon? None of y'all watched John Tucker Must Die? If that's the case, it's even more reason not to trust women. Oh noo not being trusted, my worst fear.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/22 12:53 AM
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I'm this close to making dummy thicc gorgon GF my new flair
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/22 12:32 AM
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There are definitely genuine cases, but that's precisely why guys take them at face value even when they're not the actual reason. For example, I have a friend who gave the "graduation" reason when the actual reasons were a. she heard he put a lot of time into foreplay so she gave him a shot despite not being attracted to him and b. the rumors turned out to be true, the sex itself was enjoyable but she still wasn't attracted to him and felt zero emotional connection. She's 100% open to long dist…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/22 09:09 PM
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Oh good I definitely won't have to worry then. Perseus caries my head around in case he needs to paralyze a sea monster or some shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/22 08:48 PM
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Okay and? Let's say this is all true. Hell, let's say my guy friends have fantasized about putting me through a meat grinder. Why does it matter whatsoever as long as it doesn't become my problem? Oh yeah it doesn't.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/22 08:43 PM
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A long term relationship will materialize or fail simply based on logistics. Is she from out of state? Spring break hook up? Graduating soon? Perfect examples of all of the excuses I have seen made up to let a guy down gently
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/22 08:38 PM
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I still don't get why people are treating "guy pisses off multiple girls, girls get together and realize they're all being played" as some kind of brand new phenomenon. This is basic high school shit, the only difference is that it's playing out on social media instead of in the lunch room.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/22 08:17 PM
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Commonly mistaken for a preppy Candace Owens-esque conservative black chick. In reality I am religious, and I like taking care of myself and dressing up. But I'm actually more moderate/left-leaning and many of my interests are geeky or goth. I usually don't express the latter two irl unless I'm around people who are explicitly into that sort of thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/22 07:44 PM
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For a non-confrontational example of this, for the longest time I used to be shy about the idea of a guy lifting me up, catching me, carrying me, etc. I would think "there's no way I'm light enough, how could a normal dude lift over 120 pounds of weight like it's nothing?" Literally every single time I've let it happen they've done it with zero effort lol. It's scary in some ways but also really nice/comforting when it's a guy you trust.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/22 03:46 PM
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Most women will not have sex with a man they would not consider for a relationship. I think this happens way more frequently than men realize but women are more likely to be indirect about it to avoid conflict. I heard many a story in college about girls sneaking out of the dude's dorm after a hookup and just avoiding him after. Or communicating with him but sugarcoating the reasons why she doesn't want to see him again. Guys are usually more blunt/direct about setting boundaries with women who …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/22 03:14 PM
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Whenever I feel guilty about something like that I think to myself "Is somebody paying me to do this? No?" and then I roll over and go back to sleep.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/22 12:35 PM
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Nah there are definitely truths that withstand the test of time/technology. The effect that internet anonymity has on human behavior was essentially predicted by the Ring of Gyges millenia ago.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/22 07:19 AM
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"Comfort and familiarity" doesn't kill attraction. Becoming unattractive as a result of those things kills attraction. My parents have been comfortable and familiar with each other for going on 25+ years now, they stay in shape and continue to actively charm/game each other because in their view that is essential for maintaining a long, happy marriage. I believe them.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/22 06:26 AM
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I feel like the only things Netflix is good for at this point are anime, shows about angsty teenagers, and K-drama. Or some combination of the above. If you are not interested in any of those, good luck. For better or worse I'm interested in all of the above, so it's a worthwhile investment.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/22 02:53 AM
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Any intense distraction works for me honestly. It can be a new celebrity crush, a fictional character, a new hobby, an old hobby I had to put aside for my relationship, anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/22 02:40 AM
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Did you just shit on my glorified birthday calendar?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/22 01:29 AM
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Don't
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/22 01:29 AM
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Imo number of previous partners isn't really an appropriate topic for the early stages of dating. Or anything related to sex honestly. Yes I'm conservative and a virgin.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/22 01:28 AM
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I'm Gen Z and I'd say that successfully finding long-term relationships solely through OLD is still the exception, not the norm. OLD is mostly for hooking up or last resort if absolutely nothing irl is working. That said social media does probably play a larger role in our dating processes than it did for previous generations. Let's say you meet a guy in passing at a party in real life. He gives you his social media handles, or you look him up later. You find his profile and think "huh, maybe th…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/22 09:17 PM
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I'm still bitter that Disney Cinemagic never came to the U.S., that actually looked really neat. Instead we got XD. -_-
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/22 03:47 AM
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Tbh if you didn't watch Disney Channel growing up there's a very good chance you don't know like half of the big celebrities rn
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/22 03:29 AM
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No worries everyone, I just interviewed my Gen X mom to put this issue to bed once and for all. Basically she does feel a bit lonely sometimes. She's an extrovert, and one of her favorite things to do with us was go on spontaneous outings and travel. Doing those things has become way more complicated in the past few years, so we don't go out quite as much. We also don't have relatives over to visit as often, especially since covid is more dangerous for seniors. She's very close with her mother s…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/22 04:07 AM
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I wouldn't call what you're doing being stoic so much as just being chill and giving the guy space. And honestly yeah, I find that it's really attractive for guys who value their space.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/22 09:36 PM
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Genetics are such a weird, complicated thing in general. Honestly this is one of the pros of automatic paternity testing at birth imo. A lot of drama starts over "there's no way our kid could be this tall, this short, have this skin/eye color", whatever. Just go ahead and nip that in the bud early.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/22 08:54 PM
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Isn't the height of her male relatives more important for determining height of a potential son? For most of the insanely tall guys I know their mom isn't that tall, it's "great-grandpa on mom's side was 6'5" or some random shit like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/22 08:37 PM
3

This isn't about West Elm Caleb is it
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/22 08:29 PM
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Many conservative women care about n-count as an indicator of similar values on sex/relationships. This is most relevant for a dude who wants to marry a virgin or low-n woman. A guy who doesn't really care about his partner's N-count doesn't really have to worry about any of this.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/22 08:25 PM
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Shit that women can handle, I just go ahead and move it myself. The guys come into the picture when we're talking about heavy lifting, like my mini-fridge for example. Really handy, still a pain in the ass when it's time to move.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/22 04:35 PM
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No, it's more like they do something for me (like helping me move), I try to pay them for it, they're like "nah"
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/22 07:46 PM
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No, but you could let them know they won't be rewarded for doing the opposite of what you ask, and then not reward them. This is precisely what I do, and they still do stuff for me anyways and refuse to accept anything in return.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/22 07:43 PM
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Not much more I can do at this point. There's only so much you can do to wield D cups responsibly. I dress modestly, I don't post thirst traps on social media, I pretty much go out of my way to not let dudes do me favors for free (but you can't force them to take the money out of your hands). If my feminine powers are still having that much of an effect on a dude in spite of all this, that's on him tbh.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/22 07:06 PM
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What do you propose to me? To seduce a young girl, who has seen nothing, knows nothing, and would in a manner give herself up without making the least defence, intoxicated with the first homage paid to her charms, and perhaps incited rather by curiosity than love; there twenty others may be as successful as I. That one's from Dangerous Liaisons. Have had quite a few guys make those kinds of assumptions about me after piecing together that I'm religious and a virgin.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/22 04:21 AM
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I've said it before and I'll say it again: secular tradcons are wild
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/22 08:40 PM
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Welcome to Reddit. People will come on here openly criticizing the 100% legal, freely made choices of others literally all of the time. What they eat, how much they exercise, what they wear, what they post on social media, the media they consume, who they date, the list goes on and on and on. This does not mean that people are actively trying to restrict those choices. I do not understand why people treat age gap relationships as some kind of sacred thing that gets to be out of bounds of critiqu…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/22 04:32 PM
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Dude we can't even sell people on being terrified about climate change, the dystopian sex bot scenario is pretty far down the list.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/22 03:16 AM
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So you're basically asking about the "dark alley" problem. You repeatedly warned your friend not to go down that dark alley, they went, got hurt, and now they're coming to you for support. I have a relative who does this all the time. I think that distancing yourself completely is kinda overkill. It's better to just set up boundaries (i.e. I am not going to talk to you about this anymore) on that particular topic, and if they insist on bringing it up anyway then you are 100% justified in distanc…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/22 03:03 AM
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S to the T to the D, pregnancy In before but what if they do it 💫 safely💫. There are "safe" ways to play with fire, that doesn't change the fact that you are playing with fire. If someone else is at risk of getting burned you have to give them the option to walk away.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/22 07:08 PM
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The same reason women can tear down very obviously attractive women and call them ugly/fat. Many women use comments on looks to convey an overall like/dislike for people. The more strongly a woman feels about you (whether positive ot negative) the less likely you are to get an honest assessment of your attractiveness from her. Ime guys are more likely to separate "I like you as a person" from "I find you physically attractive."
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/22 05:24 PM
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Oh don't get me wrong. I appreciate them aesthetically, in the same way I can appreciate tattoos. I just wouldn't find them attractive in a potential partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/22 02:35 PM
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I'm a square who dates other squares. For reference I don't have any tattoos and the only piercings I have are in my ears, one each.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/22 02:28 PM
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Younger women, do you agree with the pretty boy aesthetic being attractive to women at all? Definitely. It's both a personal preference (minus the chains and rings) and something I've noticed with women my age. I think location and SES are major variables though. I'm originally from the southern U.S. and most of the guys my friends back home are dating are stocky with hella facial hair. In the part of the northeast where I went to college there was more of a preference for skinny guys with prett…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/22 02:23 PM
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strums the lute in the background
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/22 05:21 AM
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First? Edit: Fuck me
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/22 04:00 AM
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I mean, yeah. Calling women "females" unironically is seen as more of an urban working class thing. TO THE WINDOWS. TO THE WALLS.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/22 03:28 AM
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Yourself, first and foremost. I find that making it solely about other people increases the risk of complacency. "I've started eating healthy and working out 5 days a week...Oh, I've managed to attract a decent-looking partner who likes the way I look currently? Fuck this shit, why change anything."
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/22 03:23 AM
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Yeh all that makes sense in theory. In practice, very few guys who are experiencing life and leveling up are going to wait until the arbitrary age of 30 to even try to date seriously. More often than not it's dudes who don't feel desirable today wanting to believe that things will be better 5-10 years from now.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/22 01:48 AM
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Not a good idea imo. A lot of single men in my religious community tried this method and are now having existential crises because they can't find young energetic twenty-somethings falling over themselves to be housewives to socially awkward 30-somethings. Of course there's also a selection effect at play. Guys who know full well they don't have much to bring to the table jump into relationships all the time, when given the opportunity to do so. When guys successfully make it to 30 without a sin…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/22 12:32 AM
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A Promising Young Woman
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/22 06:46 PM
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Eh not a fan of tests of this nature in general. More often than not it comes off as a way to get around the work of tough, honest conversations and actually taking time to get to know someone. Plus, many people can see right through them and will just give the answer they think you want to hear. Like I remember an RA post where a girl was getting her dates to watch a certain movie and then judged his views on women based on his thoughts. Then after they were together for a long time she found o…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/22 01:57 PM
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I love how in that show almost everybody looks way too old for their age or way too young, there is no in-between
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/22 02:48 AM
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100%. It's weird, I'm 23 and I feel like I'm just starting to become what elementary school me thought I would look like by the end of high school. Thanks Hollywood.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/22 02:21 AM
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Tokyo Story is one of my favorite movies (1953). The movie is about a family drifting apart in light of post- WW2 urbanization in Japan. Therefore none of the issues you describe are in it. One of the major plot points is the mother and father-in-law of a war widow convincing her it's okay to move on, remarry, and live her life, which is pretty progressive for its time.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/22 02:01 AM
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Probably related to the fact that abusers often escalate once they feel the other party is trapped/reliant on them. Once a child is in the picture people who would have otherwise gotten the hell out of dodge feel an obligation to stay. It's why abusive/toxic women will often claim pregnancy if a guy is finally done with their shit, and one of the first pieces of advice people will give a woman who's in a toxic relationship is to make sure her birth control pills aren't being tampered with.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/22 09:35 PM
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I feel like this isn't so much an issue of attraction and loyalty as straight-up codependency. This is a common issue amongst people with partners who struggle with addiction or psychiatric issues. It's not a male or female exclusive phenomenon. For more info, see here. I feel like codependent relationships aren't discussed enough on this sub. Yes, loyalty in relationships and willingness to weather challenges is admirable. In the context of a healthy relationship between two healthy, level-head…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/22 04:30 PM
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Have you ever been in a situation where you might not be inclined in the beginning to have a relationship with a man but you start catching feelings for him the more you get to know him and admire his other aspects beyond his looks and/or assets? Yes, but it didn't really have anything to do with looks or assets. Most of the time it was more an issue of setting/atmosphere. If I'm meeting a guy for the first time at a doctor's office with the harsh lighting, white walls, and smell of hand sanitiz…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/22 03:15 AM
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Beats me dude. I deadass passed by that ad in stores several times and thought "hey that model looks kinda like Adam Driver." And well, supposedly it's him. Maybe they edited out the tattoos or put makeup on them or something?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/22 11:43 PM
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He can call me Ishmael any day
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/22 11:34 PM
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If it's a guy she knows personally the best thing she can do is call in a wellness check or something. I don't think pity sex is listed as a cure for anything in the DSM-5.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/22 11:32 PM
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Uhhhhh
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/22 11:13 PM
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Academic probation
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/22 08:04 PM
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51% is technically a majority, still leaves a lot of decent women out there.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/22 06:50 PM
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We are massively dishonest about female behavior and gaslit by women/men who take advantage of it. Huh, can't relate. My family has an expression for women who seem like good girls but actually aren't: You think she can't crack an egg, she's cracking them by the dozen.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/22 06:30 PM
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Loll I saw that one when it was first posted. I'm usually pretty skeptical of RA posts but this one genuinely has me conflicted. It sounds more like the kind of misunderstanding a freshman in college would have, not a 26-year-old. But you can't put it past some people tbh.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/22 06:27 PM
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9 times out of 10 attraction combined with halo effect/wishful thinking is what makes guys turn the red flag incarnate into "like any other girl." If you ask the women who know her if any if them are surprised by what she did they'd probably say no. Take this girl I knew in high school. Yeah she's sweet and cute but also flighty, inconsistent, and quick to fall in love (and presumably out of it). I was not at all surprised when a mutual friend told me she had cheated on her first serious boyfrie…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/22 06:14 PM
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Fun fact: accepting an invitation for dinner on Valentine's Day and not realizing that the other party had romantic intentions is part of what led to a good friend's autism diagnosis
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/22 02:46 AM
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Troll in the dungeon!
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/22 12:37 AM
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Gotcha. I don't think there's a straightforward answer to it tbh. Atheletic wear has changed in style over time and will continue to do so, sometimes for weird/arbitrary reasons (like how men went from wearing those short basketball shorts to the longer, baggier style today).
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/22 10:33 PM
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Your original premise: these uniforms are a thirst trap Your response to a situation where there is virtually no thirst to capitalize on: the demographics of attendees doesn't matter Which is it? Is your question now a more open-ended "why"?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/22 09:23 PM
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I went to an all-girl high school, like 95% of the attendees to our volleyball games were girls and the other 5% were mostly dads there to support their daughters. They still wore the standard short shorts.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/22 09:00 PM
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Siri, what is Asia?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/22 08:17 PM
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Yeah you gotta love the people who seem to think that astrology was invented by basic chicks in the 2010's and not literally ingrained in male-led societies for centuries
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/22 06:06 PM
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Nope, growing up with the alternative (father who does not/cannot cry thanks to rough childhood) has made me very appreciative of men who do
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/22 02:29 PM
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Most people don't wear prejudices on their sleeve. Some people will display it outwardly (like outright ignoring or avoiding people with trait X), most are pretty good at keeping a mask on that slips under particular circumstances. The "slips" create confusion. Was he just joking? Having a bad day? Tone deaf? Am I just being overly sensitive? When people say misogynistic/sexist people don't get laid they are almost always referring to the former case. They're talking about basement dwellers who …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/22 12:23 AM
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If you're feeling adventurous, try animedoro. It doesn't even have to be anime, any tv show that can fit into a 20-minute slot works tbh.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/22 07:36 PM
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Sounds like imposter syndrome. One hell of a drug.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/22 06:50 PM
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Your Zuko impression's pretty good, but your scar's on the wrong side
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/22 04:51 PM
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My cat emoji? Pretty sure all smart phones have that pre-installed.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/22 02:07 AM
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It's usually not portrayed in the scene itself, though. The entire encounter is scripted, so in reality no one will be surprised by anything that happens (supposedly), though they may act as if it's all 100% spontaneous and no communication was necessary. Springing stuff like choking a partner with no prior discussion or consent is a possible byproduct of taking porn at face value. Learning to ask and respect your partner's wishes if they aren't comfortable with choking is learned elsewhere. Tho…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/22 09:23 PM
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Now I can finally check the "someone read my comment in Azula's voice" box on my Reddit bucket list
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/22 08:47 PM
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Congrats, you get an award just for being the first person to call out the reference
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/22 08:42 PM
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Asking for consent, proper prep, and setting rules and safewords is the difference between porn sex and just liking it rough imo.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/22 08:34 PM
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Not sure. She had a wild phase after leaving a conservative household for college and I guess she learned it somewhere along the way. It's a method that avoids injury but still gives a rush apparently.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/22 07:47 PM
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I had a friend who was into bring choked but only after the guy let her choke him first. Apparently part of the reason is to show them how to do it correctly, because a lot of guys who have never done it will just guess and fuck it up.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/22 07:35 PM
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That depends on how one defines "success." I mean there were plenty of kids in my Catholic community whose parents were ostensibly still married but couldn't stand to be in the same room together. A woman with her own career/finances/life outside of her husband probably wouldn't hesitate to leave a situation like that unless something else is keeping her, like religious or cultural values.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/22 07:18 PM
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Called me weird and mentally ill for wanting to wait until marriage after months of me expressing that from the start and him being fine/outright admiring me for it. He was right of course, but it still hurt.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/22 04:04 PM
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Huh, you believe that women can be cucked. Progressive.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/22 03:12 PM
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Idk if this is how it works everywhere, but at my college knowing your model is pretty common because the people who volunteer to spend hours sitting naked for art students are either art students themselves or friends of art students. I wouldn't be surprised at all if OP's GF found out about the opportunity from his friend. Which potentially opens up another can of worms lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/22 02:08 AM
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"My friend's GF has willingly consented and is being paid to be our model for this class but he doesn't like it. Can we please restructure our plans for the first 4 weeks of this course for the sake of a person who is neither taking it nor modeling for it?"
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/22 01:55 AM
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This can't be real, right? How do you casually ask someone, much less a friend, to miss 4 classes in a row? And presumably just not submit anything for the professor to grade? So basically jeopardize his GPA over OP and his GF's relationship problems? Nah he should've been an adult, set a boundary, end it if she can't agree to respect his boundaries.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/22 01:17 AM
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Constantly falling for girls who chase after assholes says just as much about the dude as the girl who chases assholes
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/22 12:57 AM
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Sorry you all had that experience. That sounds horrible. Where I grew up single sex private schools were known for greater discipline. If students were caught misbehaving in public, particularly while wearing the uniform, it would reflect poorly on the school. People aren't shy about calling in complaints ("I saw boys/girls in your uniform doing X") and the schools are quick to address it because they don't want to take the hit to their local reputation.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/22 04:07 PM
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Ah, you're one of the users who led me to address this exact counterargument right in the post. Thank you.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/22 03:57 PM
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Best: Almost everything Worst: The epidermis that covers everything needs moisturizer several times a day to keep the shine and not look ashy, gg if I have to kneel on carpet for any reason
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/22 04:51 AM
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I think they're awesome, especially around the time the weird complicated puberty phase hits. Sending me to an all-girl high school (and my brother to an all-boy one) is one of the best things my parents ever did for us imo. I didn't necessarily think so at the time, but in retrospect it was great.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/22 04:25 AM
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Iirc aren't educated, upper/middle class people still getting married and staying married at the highest rates? The biggest decline has taken place among the working class. As for the declining numbers in men going to college, I do think that could have a larger impact in the future, at least on the female mate choice side.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/22 02:37 AM
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I was just watching a Tik Tok video called "why you should date an engineer" or something like that. The guy was tall and conventionally attractive so I have no doubt he had plenty of options. Turns out his GF (who made the video) also majored in engineering, went on to graduate from a competitive MA program in engineering, and now works in engineering consulting. She is also conventionally attractive. It's just one example of the assortative mating that I find to be the general trend. All thing…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/22 01:51 AM
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I gaslight myself into thinking it's absolutely delicious because sending stuff back to the kitchen makes me feel bad
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/22 12:57 AM
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For me, it would be a portrait picture of me sparring at a fencing match as the 3rd photo, and a deadlift hold as my 4th. Lemme guess, epee guy?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/22 10:33 PM
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You forgot to mention that homeboy doesn't have a college degree either. So is he looking for a "skinny, nerdy" girl who didn't go to college?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/22 04:13 AM
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From watching a few of my single aunts date it seems like a recurring theme is conflict over existing children from previous relationships/ wanting future children. On the 30+ dating market it starts becoming less and less common that people are going to get all their boxes checked in that area. You have people who have kids already, but don't want anymore. You have people who have kids already, and want more. People who have never had kids, and don't want any. And of course people who think the…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/22 10:02 PM
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Nah it definitely happens. When a guy is a. attracted to you and b. suspects that you are either more intelligent than him, or might think you are more intelligent than him, it is unfortunately common for them to try to "put you in your place," so to speak. So he can keep you while also not feeling inferior to you. This is the kind of guy who tries to neg you over being a college graduate, or is super interested in X topic until it turns out that you know more about it than he does. Then it's bo…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/22 11:22 PM
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100% agree. It's basically up to the individual believer to examine their own conscience and consider how the Pope's words may apply to their life. It's not up to us to look at random one-child couples and cast judgment on them. For all we know they struggled to conceive throughout their entire marriage until a miracle finally happened.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/22 06:15 PM
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Oh no not the roleplay italics
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/22 06:02 PM
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I mean, their answer is very simple. "idk that sounds like a you problem"
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/22 04:09 PM
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You'd be surprised. Anecdotal evidence is anecdotal of course. But in religion class we talked openly about the reasons why people had a ton of kids in the past vs. today. Helping out on farms, infant mortality rates, lower QOL expectations for people in general vs. today where saving up to send your kids to college is considered a bare minimum. There isn't an easy answer to it, outside of following the church's teachings on openness to life to the best of our ability. We say "to whom much is gi…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/22 03:57 PM
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I assume he's mostly speaking to Catholics, mainly ones who are inconsistent in this area of Church teaching. We believe that many will be called to the single life and not having children, such as priests, or even laypeople who have taken vows of chastity. However, for people who do marry in the Church, it's made clear that we should be open to life (to the best of our ability to provide for them). At best, many Catholics are confused about this teaching and take the "anything goes once we're m…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/22 03:33 PM
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Considering the fact that pretty much all of my relationships thus far would have been taboo/illegal in any other era, I think I'm good
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/22 04:36 AM
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Oof gotta love it when PPD hates on [redacted] men except when it's time to claim our comedians as proof that women aren't funny
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/22 04:13 AM
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Pfft he was an amateur. The real PPD move is assuming somebody's fat with zero evidence outside of "attractive people don't exist on Reddit except for me."
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/22 04:06 AM
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I'll let you know if I can find it.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/22 04:41 PM
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Weird. My mom has tried to tip fast food employees (when we had an unusually complicated or large order) but most who work for big national chains say they can't accept it under any circumstances.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/22 09:36 AM
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HVM is commonly used to describe a guy who is the conventional "complete package": wealthy, attractive, charming, confident, etc. On a more personalized level, that definition is going to vary between individuals for many reasons. For example, a woman who comes from a wealthy background and already knows she's set for life may not really care about the wealth of the men she dates. There was even a post on here about a study that analyzed the changes in women's preferences based on the amount of …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/22 05:51 AM
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Dude if you're bored and need someone to talk to you can just come out and say it. How was your day? Highlights? Lowlights?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/22 03:25 AM
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I feel like Critical Role is basically made for a prompt like this
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/22 02:39 AM
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Have you ever noticed guys who look just okay in their pictures on their own social media profiles but always look really good on their girlfriend’s page? It's all about the marketing. She's choosing the pictures of him that look the best to her, and likely other women. He doesn't have that kind of awareness on his own page. It's the same principle with OLD profiles.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/22 04:56 PM
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Nope. Your original comment: Don't just link to other people. I expounded on my own with my own knowledge. So, I expect the same from you rather than just rehashing what others have said. All of this, you added after reading fact: Think for yourself. Don't be one of those church members who doesn't know for herself. You're just using an appeal to authority which is a fallacious argument. What do you call your priest? Never Mind, you just repeat what others say. You haven't done your own research…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/22 04:34 PM
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Yep, someone who edits their posts without even bothering to mark them as such isn't worth debating with. Have a good day.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/22 04:28 PM
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I expounded on my own with my own knowledge. The church of Christ is now divided into countless sects precisely because of this. One man reads the Bible, decides that his interpretation of it is the correct one, potentially seeks a following, gains it, splits off. No. We are bound by an authority, the successors of Peter, the rock on which the Church was built. Linking to the teachings of the Church directly is sufficient. "What others have said" is sufficient when you are unified.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/22 04:23 PM
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Cool, this is a debate that has been hashed out and addressed by the Catholic Church ad infinitum. Here are the basics.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/22 03:56 PM
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Good bot
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/22 01:20 PM
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Incorrect)
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/22 01:17 PM
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Ah I see. Did they tend to have very large families as well? There were a handful of well-known 6+ kid households in our community, but they were rare for the most part. Most of us had no more than 2 or 3 siblings.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/22 05:24 AM
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It's becoming increasingly common, I think in part because a lot of Catholic men are feeling called to play a more hands-on role in raising the next generations instead of maybe seeing them after 5. Pretty much all of the men who taught or worked as administrators at the Catholic schools I went to growing up had wives in high-powered careers, at least one took a few years off to be a SAHD before going back.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/22 04:48 AM
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Aww he does sound like a great guy. Minus the heartbreak. Tbf I know good Catholic guys who have broken some hearts. Mainly because they were thinking about becoming a priest or Brother and didn't want to string a girl along while considering a vow of celibacy.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/22 04:41 AM
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Fair. I get kinda lazy since I've answered this question on here a couple times. I really need to save a template or something. I'd strongly prefer to marry another Catholic, would be nice if he's a virgin as well. Colleg-educated. Fluffy, but in shape enough to keep up with me without getting winded. Dark hair, dark eyes. Wants children. Willing to be a SAHD is a massive plus in my book. Kind, respectful, gets along with my family. Would also be nice if he's into "geek" stuff like anime, gaming…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/22 03:17 AM
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Nope, on account of incompatible religious values
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/22 01:59 AM
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All of it can basically be summed up as mutual attraction, compatible interests, compatible values
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/22 01:58 AM
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Wait is he a regular posting under an alt or a purge tourist
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/22 12:34 PM
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Men on this sub: why do women have such big egos Also men on this sub: blows very common thing that plenty of women manage to do out of proportion thereby inflating the egos of those who do it
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/22 12:26 PM
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I have a type. To be my type he needs hoodies and a fluffier stomach. I think it's admirable to cut body fat but I'm personally turned on by more cushion. ~20% is my favorite
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/22 12:17 PM
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Jason, but give him hoodies and a fluffier stomach
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/22 11:38 AM
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"You're stuck in the past." "No I'm not. I'm enjoying the decline!" "What have we declined from?" "...The past."
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/22 11:27 AM
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u/OneAngryBlutBad That was an extra special crossover where PPD users were allowed to go over to TRP and actually challenge/debate their ideas directly without getting mod sniped. Iirc PPD's resident swinger had some entertaining conversations on there. Some other fun stuff happened until drama broke out and it ended early.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/22 02:52 AM
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Sorry that's paywalled; subscribers to my Super Sandwich club only
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/22 08:51 PM
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Def agree on the mixed messages, at least. It certainly doesn't help that in the Hollywood narrative, the good guy gets rewarded with not just any special girl who "isn't like other girls", but [insert up and coming Hollywood actress but with glasses on as a half-assed attempt to sell her as a homely nerd].
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/22 08:36 PM
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Ahh I guess you're referring to the purge posts? Yeah the sub usually isn't like this. Newcomers coming in during purge week is like your parents walking in on your movie right in time for the sex scene.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/22 07:40 PM
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If this were true the actual RP crossover event wouldn't have gone up in flames the way it did
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/22 07:32 PM
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My sandwich-making skills are deeply offended by this
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/22 07:28 PM
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You've got this backwards, my guy. It's not bloops who unironically insist that "society" lied and/or is currently lying to them. I've literally tried to give RP guys examples like Money in the Grave and Don't Trust Me by 3OH!3 as examples of the fact that this supposed "hidden narrative" is not hidden whatsoever unless you grew up on classical music and 80's love ballads
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/22 07:04 PM
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Pretty much anyone from the Pirates of the Caribbean franchise who isn't Will Turner
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/22 06:51 PM
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It's not even just porn tbh. Just look at mainstream movies casting mid 20 to 30-somethings as "high school students."
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/22 06:45 PM
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Personal attacks aren't even allowed outside of purge so either you're full of shit, or you think you have a good idea of how this sub operates after reading like 2 days of shitposts
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/22 06:35 PM
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Hit up the old friend who suddenly felt the random urge to wish me a merry Christmas and remind me what his phone number is
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/22 05:46 AM
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Depends on the kind of women you surround yourself with. As I've mentioned quite a lot on this sub I went to an all-girl high school. I'm glad that I did. I think going through the "joys" of puberty was genuinely easier just being around girls most of the time. Period stuff was nbd, not so much drama over boys (but it did happen sometimes). For college (co-ed) I had to learn how to vet for friendships where the addition of those...extracurriculars didn't add too much drama. And I'd say it worked…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/22 10:07 PM
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There is no amount of money in this universe you could pay me to be a mod anywhere on this website
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/22 05:01 PM
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Yeah, well somebody thought so. Tough titties.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/22 04:52 PM
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Imo there are 2 possibilities Nobody's reporting it, just complaining about it Falls outside the bare minimum ass coverage needed to keep this sub from running afoul of admin If it's any non-consolation Reddit just told me that blatantly homophobic hate speech against a guy posting in a makeup sub didn't violate policy. This site is so fucked.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/22 04:49 PM
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Rule breaking of class 4 and lower have been authorized for use during the Purge. Breaking the side-wide reddit rules counts as shit posting of class 5! This is also reiterated in the automod for literally every post. I see that you're already having the definitely productive "but what is hate speech" talk with others in the thread so I'm not going to waste time with that.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/22 04:23 PM
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And apparently you don't know how to read, because this was already covered in the purge announcement
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/22 04:11 PM
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Basically, Catholics distinguish between being loved by God and being in God's grace. It's like family in that sense. You can love a relative while also distancing yourself from them, or accepting that they want to keep their distance from you. That's kind of how I am with my sister at the moment. That does bring about the topic of unconditional love vs. unconditional relationships, which is a complicated one in and of itself.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/22 01:33 PM
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Man if it weren't Christmas and I weren't Catholic I could have had so much fun with this. Story of my life, tbh.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/22 01:16 PM
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Came up short, forgot to mention my vagina 😔
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/22 01:07 PM
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Growing up, I was taught to expect unconditional love from 2 places: my family and Jesus. Everybody else has their conditions for relationships, from friends to your spouse. There are reasonable conditions, and then stupid, shallow, or outright harmful ones. Simply existing, while adding nothing to the lives of the people around you, isn't going to fly with most people. Whether that be men or women.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/22 01:05 PM
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You're wrong, my friend. HAHA checkmate!
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/22 12:37 PM
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Rules of the internet, kids: Nobody asked, and nobody cares. Be pleasantly surprised in the rare event that they do. You're better off seeking sympathy/understanding from irl connections.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/22 12:32 PM
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Thank you ❤
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/22 02:56 AM
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Lol. I am but a learner.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/22 12:58 AM
1

Ohhh I gotcha! I thought you meant free admission.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/21 11:21 PM
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No, but the price of admission is well worth it imo. This particular one was at the Musée Rhodin. There are other versions though, apparently one is at the National Gallery of Art in D.C. Have yet to see that one in person though. 😟
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/21 11:00 PM
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Oh, thank you!
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/21 10:39 PM
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Get out 😭
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/21 10:25 PM
2

Nah dude, the answer is masochism and you can't convince me otherwise
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/21 09:36 PM
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Idk something about a country where abortion remains a hotly contested topic somehow adopting legal/widespread prostitution sounds a. very unlikely and b. a shit show waiting to happen
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/21 01:44 PM
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Love- an abstract idea, a feeling, not easily defined "what they provide" - an incredibly vague, empty term that can serve as a stand-in for any contribution to the family/society a man feels he deserves credit/appreciation for "who they are"- a similarly vague, empty term to serve for any inherent value a man sees in a woman that (in his view) she has done nothing to earn Break it down like that, and you quickly realize why that term holds absolutely no meaning. You can define the conditions of…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/21 01:15 PM
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Absolutely nothing imo
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/21 05:26 PM
1

I think this is why a lot of guys in that situation just go by a nickname or First Initial Middle Initial and let the girl figure out his actual name later
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/21 10:31 AM
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Okay.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/21 04:25 AM
4

What indeed
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/21 03:55 AM
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Eh it was kinda shocking and unsettling at first, since it hit home and explained some guy trouble I had gone through. Now I just think it's kind of sad. Like genuinely believing that a woman could never love you the way you love her, "just your turn", and that sort of stuff. But alas, those kinds of issues are way above my pay grade and I am not a trained therapist. So, best to leave the grown adults to sort out their own baggage.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/21 02:48 AM
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Unless those nerds are dark triad. Is that even possible? Some of you never went to school with cutthroat hypercompetitive nerds and it shows
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/21 11:45 PM
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The Boys of Summer. I have yet to find a version of it that I don't like, Don Henley will always be the OG though. Zayde Wolf's version is pretty great.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/21 08:29 PM
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Idk for me it's weird to define a person by that one thing. If all I know about a woman is the number of people she's had sex with, I don't know her. Is she a kind person? A good friend? Funny? Insightful? Loyal? I might be kinda biased since I met girls in college who I clicked with in many ways, even if our values on sex were completely opposite.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/21 08:21 PM
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Np
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/21 11:05 AM
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Signal it in a "if you know, you know" kind of way. For example I've noticed a lot of people incorporating Demonslayer patterns or U.A. in their outfits. People who don't know what that is will have no idea and won't take issue with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/21 10:50 AM
2

Oh thank goodness
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/21 03:33 AM
2

Nothing of value is lost, block him
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/21 02:45 AM
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How long have you been...friends. I'm using the term very liberally in this case.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/21 02:13 AM
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Almost always wrong but I also recognize that I'm an outlier in many senses
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/21 02:12 AM
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People reinforce passive aggression by giving it power. If X isn't "talking" to me, then we won't talk. It's very simple.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/21 02:01 AM
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This is the type of belief that makes TRP fundamentally incompatible with Christianity.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/21 05:55 PM
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and men are to Iove his woman as Jesus loves his church (and we all know what Jesus did). This is where the problem lies. The kind of pure, self-sacrificial love that Christ has for His church is not encouraged by TRP. It's "beta" and unattractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/21 04:59 PM
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What can I say, I don't make the rules. I just keep coming back year after year because I'm enough of a masochist to do so.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/21 06:16 AM
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It's nonsensical if you're new or have somehow never noticed this sub's hate boner for non-STEM academia
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/21 05:48 AM
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I see. I think I have trouble relating to this since these "rare women" make up such a large part of my social circle.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/21 05:15 AM
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What she said checked out with everything I had learned about the culture in my time accidentally double majoring with a concentration in it (including lecturers/professors from that same culture). The latter would get dismissed as lies or agenda-driven feminist bullshit so I went with the real life example.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/21 05:04 AM
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Yeah, culture will do it. Or maybe cause its just common sense that if you want a guy to marry you, you don't give him the thing that most men biologically want the most BEFORE the marriage. Some guys function the opposite way (the "test drive" philosophy) so from a purely pragmatic/strategic standpoint waiting until marriage can be a crapshoot.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/21 04:57 AM
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Ah. Do you know why she wanted to wait until marriage?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/21 04:48 AM
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An "atheistic cuck"? What does that even mean
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/21 04:43 AM
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Do you people even try to look for tradcon women addressing these kinds of topics or do you go to the most liberal/secular subreddits expecting these women to sing the praises of sexually inexperienced men? Edit: Also, where on earth are you getting the idea that virginity is still a big deal in modern day Japan. I opened up to my homestay mom about the fact that I'm waiting and she basically saw it as a cute American old-school Christian thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/21 04:35 AM
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Ah I see. I think the dynamics at play is part of what made for good conversation in our case. Some people in my group basically grew up doing that sort of thing, others (like me) grew up in or near cities and had no prior experience with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/21 04:18 AM
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That's so sad. I hope that even you can discover the joys of apple picking someday.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/21 12:27 AM
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I can't imagine having sex or showing my body to someone I haven't pledged my entire life to.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/21 12:23 AM
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2 sounds like a dream. Hell take out paying for dates, nice house, and car if you want, the other stuff is what makes him perfect.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/21 12:17 AM
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Wait til you hear about the time we sat around a fire pit, toasted marshmallows, and talked about our feelings 👀
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/21 11:52 PM
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Aww did she bake you pie after?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/21 09:52 PM
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Ah, I was like you once. I grew up in a place where apple picking isn't really a thing, so I thought it sounded really boring at first. Then I gave it a shot because everyone in my group was so hyped about it, and I am so glad I did. It makes for such a lovely fall day.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/21 09:45 PM
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It's good for the soul. 🍎
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/21 09:37 PM
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You wanna go hiking together? Yes. Apple picking and then hang out and bake some pies after? Yes. Canoeing? Yes. Karaoke? Yes. Go to a theme park? Hell yes. Just chill in the common room and play video games? Yes. These are just a few things my mixed gender friend groups have happily done together. Y'all need better friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/21 09:15 PM
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Wait so now we are defining orbiting as "having friends you find sexually attractive"? I thought it was hanging around someone because you find them attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/21 09:09 PM
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Ime cold approaching is kinda rare, but guys are still asking out/sending IOIs to women in their social circle like always. I also don't go to clubs or bars or any social scene that involves alcohol, so I can't speak to that so much.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/21 12:53 AM
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Yes, thanks for the catch. In my time lurking TRP I read plenty of posts where a woman saying she wasn't down for sex was treated as a shit test or "anti-slut defense."
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/21 02:58 AM
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"Watch what they do not what they say" is often used as an excuse to ignore a woman's stated boundaries in favor of some perceived contradiction with the way she's acting. Content edit
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/21 01:58 AM
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Yep, gave me a massive wakeup call. I was incredibly naive and way too quick to trust guys who hadn't earned it. Reading the sub gave me plenty of red flags to look for. A big one is how a guy reacts when I express my boundaries. Does he actually respect and affirm them? Or does he reply with some vague, flimsy bullshit.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/21 11:55 PM
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Have none of the men on this subreddit ever met skinny bean pole assholes or muscular sweethearts? Or you know, morally gray people who come in all shapes and sizes.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/21 11:35 PM
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Where to even start. I think the most egregious incompatibility is the obsession with the alpha/beta dichotomy. Consider our Beatitudes. Much of it is along the lines of what TRP would call weak, unattractive beta traits.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/21 11:24 PM
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I would definitely prefer to marry a virgin. I wouldn't call it an absolute dealbreaker, though. And yes, many religious guys are willing to wait at least. I date within the Catholic faith.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/21 10:31 PM
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It was an all-girl high school so I think the admin did a very good job of vetting for male faculty who wouldn't do stuff like that, or at least acting on any red flags very quickly. There were definitely students who had painfully obvious crushes though. Hell even I fell for one of my teachers as a freshman. I was completely lost during my first week of class and he came looking for me. I think I saw him like a Disney prince or something. I could barely talk to him sometimes because I was so ne…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/21 04:48 PM
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So I guess I'll offer my two cents as someone who is waiting until marriage. My parents are living proof for me that even if you don't wait until marriage, it can still work, you can still be devoted to each other. They're been married over 25 years now, and there are plenty of aspects of their marriage I hope to emulate in my own. I'm still waiting anyway. I feel like getting caught up in the weeds of statistics and paranoia isn't sufficient for making a choice like this. I reflected on it for …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/21 04:11 PM
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23F, liberal-ish black Catholic family. Divorce is exceedingly rare in my family, but waiting until marriage is also rare. NSA sex is frowned upon, but sex is generally considered a normal part of a committed relationship, especially if the couple is thinking about marriage. Safe sex is strongly encouraged. Most of the men are charming/popular with women, the women are rather "high maintenance", work in STEM and other power careers, and live by girl game, particularly on my mom's side. I went to…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/21 07:36 PM
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Yeah okay sure. I'm gonna leave you with this. They might be able to speak your language a bit better than I can: https://historyforatheists.com/2020/12/pagan-christmas/
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/21 07:07 PM
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Here's the annual bad history subreddit post debunking these claims
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/21 06:05 PM
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For me it's an issue of compatible religious values. I don't think it's on the same level as cheating. But I do expect him to make a conscious effort to avoid it, just as I do. If he stumbles and falls sometimes, so be it. I'm not perfect either.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/21 03:02 AM
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Why do so many RP guys insist that I'm wrong when I say this
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/21 02:56 AM
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I am religious, tradcon, and agree with the basics of feminism. RP is literally the opposite of an ideal partner for a traditional marriage. Christianity, at its root, requires submission. There are religious guys who try to hamster RP philosophy as compatible with those beliefs, but imo they are inherently at odds.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/21 02:54 AM
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You just reminded me of how we were advised to lock our doors during homecoming because of stories of drunk alums wandering in to reminisce about their old dorms.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/21 10:21 PM
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Feeling an earthquake for the first time was so surreal. It happened a couple of times while I was studying in Japan. I didn't realize that smaller ones just feel like a vibration in the floor, I thought they all make stuff sway and fall over like in movies.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/21 10:17 PM
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In what universe is "90% of RA posts are made-up bullshit with an agenda" some kind of unpopular or enlightening take?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/21 03:24 AM
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Yeah. My brother has been my closest friend my whole life, so I think I subconsciously seek out friendships with guys who remind me of him. If I hadn't gone to an all-girl high school I would probably have way fewer female friends than I do now.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/21 02:55 AM
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It was kind of adorable actually. When he's happy, you notice a difference in my mom right away. They say "happy wife, happy life", but she can't be happy unless my dad is too. The work she does doesn't drain her, if anything it just gives her more energy. For my dad it became the opposite, and she picked up on that. It was actually her idea for him to stay at home after she got her big promotion. He said he'd try it out, and it ended up being a great fit for all of us.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/21 02:44 AM
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It's not really a thing. I chose the flair as a play on madonna-whore complex and the plant belladonna.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/21 02:47 PM
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Well, I haven't been living under a rock so much as I've lived on top of one. A sturdy foundation that proved to me what real love is. Must suck to not have something like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/21 06:42 AM
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"Suffering from success"
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/21 03:18 AM
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Here's my personal rule of thumb: if it would be a red flag for friendship it should be an even bigger red flag for a relationship. Would you want to be friends with a dude who ignored you up to finding out about what you own?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/21 03:08 AM
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Men who provide seem to have plenty of experience with "losing attraction and respect" from their wives so that makes zero sense lol. And ah yes, the "last person who responded to me must be the downvoter." Your detective skills need work, dude.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/21 02:48 AM
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That's my goal. Well, not the bag of $100 bills necessarily. I don't want my husband to have to work. The SAHD years were the happiest I'd ever seen my dad.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/21 01:27 AM
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Yeah sorry dude the concept of a woman who loves and values her husband outside of his ability to provide financially is a bit too revolutionary for this sub
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/21 01:01 AM
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Bringing home the bacon =/= respect. That's the entire idea behind beta bucks. Perhaps it's just my community but there were plenty of scandals involving SAHMs who went wild after empty nest syndrome hit. There is no gender dynamic silver bullet that eliminates the possibility of cheating.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/21 12:35 AM
2

The correct answer is the Sith
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/21 04:14 PM
6

Wow. That sounds like a lot of debauchery.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/21 11:09 PM
6

I am sorry to inform you that "lemme jot this guy's name down in case Jim from PPD needs to help his friend get laid!" is not a thought that has ever crossed my mind
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/21 11:03 PM
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Well of course I have a name. Everybody does.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/21 10:30 PM
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That entirely depends on the content creator. If he is watching content from a dude who claims that women are horses in your stable and you let them out to greener pastures when she asks "what are we" then uh (checks notes) yeah we have a problem on our hands.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/21 10:02 PM
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Voice actors tend to have the sexiest voices, you don't have to be a weeb to recognize that. A lot of live action actors are attractive, but their voices are just okay, and a lot of them can't voice act to save their souls. Voice actors are the opposite case, many are 100% average-looking with ridiculously hot voices. I'm looking at you Matt Mercer.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/21 02:41 AM
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I feel like this exact question has been posted before almost word for word, even down to using Paris as an example. I remember because even then I said that Paris is overrated and I'd 100% agree with him. There are way nicer tourist destinations in France imo. In any case, I don't stay in relationships I'm not satisfied with. What he did for other women is irrelevant.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/21 10:31 PM
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Seeing life that way is for people who are insecure, enjoy drama, or both. Best of luck to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/21 04:59 PM
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Sex belongs within marriage, don't objectify your body for the entertainment of others
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/21 04:49 PM
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What do you think "competing" for attention is? You know the old saying "stay in your lane." That's the best way to go about it imo. Don't worry about what she's doing, or her, or the other one. Getting hung up on all of that is what makes it a game or competition. Your interest is between you and him. Focus on whether the two of you are even a good fit. I have seen way too many people compete just for the sake of it and then realize that they were never really into the guy, they just wanted the…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/21 04:38 PM
7

The difference in values would make us 100% incompatible
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/21 03:40 PM
2

Nah the most reliable way to lose is playing petty high school games for a guy's attention
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/21 03:37 PM
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As an example, back in high school while my gf was gone for a week another girl started getting touchy feely with me. I was pretty oblivious (and uninterested) because I hung out with a lot of other girls. When my gf got back she picked up on it immediately, and politely but sternly told her off. I appreciated the minor boost to my pride and overall we both felt more secure. All right so different things work for different people in relationships. I would have handled this very differently. Issu…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/21 07:42 PM
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What you're describing is jealousy/insecurity within an established relationship. "Dissociate and distance" is an extreme and unproductive way to cope with that. However, seeing every single woman who looks at your SO as "competition" isn't healthy either imo.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/21 07:02 PM
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It's a weird paradox, but refusing to compete is the most reliable way to win lol. Guys who are used to girls falling all over themselves like this have a weird tendency to reward women who don't play by their rules more than the ones who actually do. It's like the male version of a shit test.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/21 06:25 PM
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Spend more time on Tik Tok and you will find an e-boy subculture with legions of crazy fangirls. Feel free to look into Danny Phantom exe and Brandon the lover, rip your recommended feed if you do though.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/21 05:55 PM
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Women on PPD claim constantly that women would never date older men Women on PPD claim that younger women aren't interested in older men; age gaps matter less and less with age. Even men on this sub who brag about dating "younger women" are usually talking about women around 25 if not older. To me that is not young, and it's practically ancient by late teen standards.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/21 03:59 AM
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23, 4 years older is my absolute max but I prefer no more than 2 years
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/21 02:41 AM
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The most common thread I have noticed about fit guys who are into thicker women is that older women in his family (including his mother) are often on the heavier side. In other words, he knows what's going to happen from firsthand experience, and he is okay with it lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/21 02:19 AM
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No. Imo one of the most destructive side effects of cheating is the psychological effect on children. Even if it were found that it is somehow more damaging to men than women, it's not just about the adults involved. Your violence comparison has a similar problem. Even if a violent woman is generally less harmful to a man than vice versa (this isn't even taking weapons and firearms into account) she still has the capacity to hurt people who are weaker/smaller than her.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/21 01:45 AM
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If all of the participants in this study were 100% sober then it already doesn't reflect reality
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/21 12:41 AM
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I am one of the biggest prudes on this subreddit and I have never understood this hang-up
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/21 08:51 PM
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The "king" is not off the hook yet. OP says they were trying for a baby.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/21 08:25 PM
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Yeah that definitely checks out.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/21 05:16 PM
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Generational difference? My parents are Gen X Catholics and they were pretty surprised when I told them I actually plan to wait until marriage. For them that sort of thing was not a big deal at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/21 04:17 PM
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This is why I don't speak in absolutes lol. Guys who are very obviously being facetious about it would be one of the exceptions.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/21 04:11 PM
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Religious family and/or a religious social circle. As a practicing Catholic many of the guys I know have both.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/21 04:10 PM
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If a guy says that he is a virgin people will usually believe him, no questions asked. Depending on the circle he will be respected, pitied, or ridiculed, but he will be believed. If a woman says it we have all the questions and caveats. Are you actually a virgin or technically one? Have you done everything short of PIV? Backdoor loophole? It's kind of exhausting to have to answer the same questions over and over.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/21 02:59 PM
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Honestly if I had the answer to the "everybody around me sucks" dilemma I would be monetizing the hell out of it
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/21 05:26 AM
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If you are choosing to be in a relationship with a woman who's like that the suicide mission has already begun.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/21 03:59 AM
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"Interesting. Can you tell me why you feel that way?" "Thank you for sharing. I disagree with you but still appreciate hearing your perspective. I think that..." See? No slapping, no hours long pissing contest that must have a "winner" and "loser." This is what challenging can look like between mature adults who know how to talk to each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/21 02:40 AM
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Challenge =/= "intellectual debate", it's just someone who isn't afraid to voice opinions contrary to your own. I know this is a debate sub but damn, don't forget that people can peacefully coexist while not being ideological clones of one another.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/21 01:06 AM
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You seem to be equating "challenging" with "leading." You can want to date someone who isn't afraid to challenge your perspective without wanting to be led around like a dog on a leash.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/21 09:46 PM
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The title and opening are very confusing/awkwardly written but what I'm gathering is that they are referring to the woman's parents not the man's.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/21 04:43 AM
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Yes they do come in different sizes, I'm gonna assume the rest is facetious. I'm a virgin who needs Ultra tampons just because my flow is that heavy. :-(
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/21 04:46 PM
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The person you were replying to was explicitly talking about marriage so my point is 100% relevant. No applause necessary, however.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/21 12:27 AM
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Yeah that's definitely not what's happening, sorry
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/21 10:12 PM
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IT should have closed up shop after the main incel subreddits were banned. After that happened most of the genuinely well-intentioned people attached to it left because the entire purpose of the sub (reporting TOS-violating content on Incel subs) was done. The people still holding onto this years later desperately need a hobby.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/21 07:30 PM
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Tradcon virgin women =/= virgin women who just need a dude to be their starter fuck to get it out of the way
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/21 05:02 PM
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That's the plan!
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/21 04:37 PM
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Sure okay
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/21 08:40 AM
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Lol that's a massive "if"
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/21 08:15 AM
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Heyyy that's my favorite city pop song! Tbf I'm just really into retro-sounding shit in general. I can listen to this channel for hours.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/21 05:01 AM
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Apparently the PS5 crisis has taught these people nothing
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/21 01:51 AM
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That's not the only thing that they love exaggerating. Notice that OP is claiming that legalizing prostitution will guarantee 24/7 access to "giga-Stacy."
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/21 01:45 AM
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In my personal opinion, no. I draw my own line at kissing.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/21 07:23 PM
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I have never met a virgin who felt this way, only non-virgins who assumed I felt this way or told me I should feel this way. In any case, I do find the idea of laying the burden of performance at the man's feet (hence wanting him to have "experience") to be extremely hypocritical. If I'm not gonna know what the fuck I'm doing why is it his job to know?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/21 07:12 PM
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As in it'll probably be thrown out in court if one of the parties didn't have their own lawyer to consult with at the time, right? I understand that much, which is why I'm not entirely opposed to prenups anymore. But I also understand why one might dislike them outside of simply wanting money, in the same way I was upset when my parents first told us what to do (in terms of property and insurance policies and everything) if anything were to happen to them. You're essentially preparing for a futu…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/21 06:56 PM
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It is very common for tradcon people (both men and women) to dislike prenups because they see it as preparation for a divorce while the couple should be focused on preparing to spend the rest of their lives together no matter what. I'm personally more ambivalent about them now. I understand how they can protect both parties assuming each brings their own legal representation in the process.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/21 06:19 PM
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According to women's health quizzes I've taken, HL
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/21 04:23 PM
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23F, 0 partners, I would prefer my partner to also have 0 but I wouldn't call it a dealbreaker
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/21 05:16 AM
4

Ben 10 was pretty good but Generator Rex is CRIMINALLY underrated
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/21 03:00 AM
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Witty Jack is closer than you think 👀
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/21 11:47 PM
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Tbf I knew a lot of boys who took interest in Disney growing up, often because they kind of had to with sisters in the house. However, most of them were interested in the villains or more masculine and/or anti-hero characters like the Beast or Jack Sparrow. I can't think of a single boy who would name Eric, Prince Charming, and co. as their favorite characters, in fact they tended to aggressively dislike those types of characters.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/21 11:43 PM
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Did your wife never see this cover at book stores? To this day I have no idea what it's actually about, it just crosses my mind whenever I hear about squirrels and chipmunks.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/21 07:58 PM
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When is the last time you've seen anybody under 40 reading People magazine? They know who their audience is, they select accordingly.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/21 04:29 AM
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"Sympathize with this shitty thing because the main character is doing it" syndrome is one of the fastest ways to turn me off from a piece of media.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/21 01:52 PM
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For guys who are into that older, classier look I can see her being a baddie. Like a femme fatale vibe. Edit: Oh, I forgot to give my own example! A lot of younger people would think of Bella Poarch (Tiktok star). I also thought of Hwasa, she's a kpop star known for not having the traditional look associated with the industry.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/21 10:47 PM
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"Baddie" was the popular term at one point, Idk what it is now
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/21 10:32 PM
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My family's policy is that kids live with parents rent-free as long as we're in school. Once you decide not to go back it's time to get a full-time job and start paying rent, or move out.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/21 12:05 AM
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They have copious amounts of sex before marriage, even religious women have attempted to shift focus away from virginity and towards Chasity so that they can deprive their current boyfriend of having sex with them until marriage despite having her fun with numerous other men. This is not how it works. Yes, a similar shift has taken place in my faith, but women didn't make that call. Our leadership is practically 100% male. First of all, how one defines virginity is controversial. A famous philos…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/21 04:35 PM
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When you are conditioned to believe your misery is just you being sad, weak, under attack from Satan, or some combination of those linking it to "mental health" isn't intuitive. I didn't really experience regular, open conversations about mental health until I went to a very liberal college in a different state. This is why many surveys don't rely on self-reporting for this. Instead it's common to list a series of statements used to assess psychological well-being and have the respondent rank ho…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/21 05:30 AM
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Not necessarily. I grew up in a wealthy conservative community where there were quite a few sudden, supposedly inexplicable suici- I mean passings with no foul play involved.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/21 03:53 AM
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Ah yes, self-reported mental health. Because we all know that the most emotionally unstable people are 100% self-aware about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/21 03:45 AM
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I would but I highly doubt this post is staying up for long
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/21 12:04 AM
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TIL half of PPD discussions are completely made-up exchanges that never happened
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/21 11:59 PM
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And he did not submit to God, leading to his downfall. Using Solomon as an example of what Christianity teaches men should be is not a good idea whatsoever. I cannot think of a single recognized Christian sect that promotes polygamy.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/21 09:23 PM
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You do realize that King Solomon's downfall is directly attributed to those wives, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/21 06:43 PM
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Oh yeah. Iirc his urges to dominate are directly driven by a mommy complex.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/21 07:14 AM
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It was like, "this is the stuff that drives women nuts in romance movies, the idea the kiss before the ending credits might not ever happen, keeps their attention if they're getting bored." The OP literally uses 50 Shades as an example. 50 Shades is about obsession. There is next to no ambiguity about how invested he is. He literally buys up all the portraits the female lead has on sale at one point because he doesn't want other men to have images of her or something. So in this context of compa…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/21 07:08 AM
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Cool. In the last trashy romance novel I read (sue me) they're literally ride-or-die high school sweethearts and the tension comes in because he's trying to outrun his connections to a crime syndicate. In case you're wondering this came out like a year before Shang-Chi, I had to do a double take in the theater because of some of the similarities.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/21 06:38 AM
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Ah okay gotcha. I guess I could see it being used in the hyperbolic sense, as there's a lot of that to go around in TRP.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/21 06:31 AM
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Yes, this is what women want. That is not what RP says women want. See: dread No it doesn't. RP teaches men who want to marry how to get this if they want it. Tons of guys do. Not this debate again. RP says that marriage is a shit deal for men, MRP is for men who were married before they found RP and believe it's cheaper to adapt than divorce. Yeah, women are fickle. This reveals their desire. That a man will change to be what she wants. The RP doesn't say to do it. Just that women want it. Acco…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/21 06:18 AM
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I disagree. Rebecca is more about ghosts from the past/inferiority complex. Rebecca isn't coming back from the dead to potentially fuck the narrator's husband (spoilers for people who haven't read it, sorry).
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/21 05:34 AM
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You just focused on some random shit. TIL basic tenets of RP are random shit. That's literally what the red pill says. Women will spend their best years trying to get the best possible man who has infinite options to fall in love with them and change his 'toxic masculine' behaviours and adopt some beta characteristics and become a faithful loving husband and a father. Some beta characteristics? The elements I listed are defining examples of what RP calls beta. They say that if a man gives in lik…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/21 05:31 AM
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Yeah I have never seen that in a romance novel, except in a case where he feels like he has to break her heart and see another woman in order to distance himself from her because she'll be in physical danger if they stay together. And generally, it works, and it's devastating. She doesn't think "oh wow it's so hot that he's out banging somebody else."
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/21 05:24 AM
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How on earth do you people gloss over the parts of these novels that directly counter RP: There is practically zero dread. He's obsessed with her, and only her. He's willing to sacrifice everything to be with her They end up married, which in and of itself goes against RP He's willing to change for her He opens up and becomes vulnerable around her Shit ton of mate guarding And that's just a short list. I am genuinely convinced that half the people who like to talk about what these books supposed…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/21 04:56 AM
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You gotta wait until he opens up his mouth
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/21 12:35 AM
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Definitely not. Many Reds consider religion (particularly Christianity) fundamentally incompatible with being RP.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/21 12:31 AM
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Definitely
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/21 06:09 PM
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Why's it off putting? Multiple reasons. I have a sister who's in her 30s. It's made me very conscious of the difference in life stages a decade can make (I was just starting pre-k when my sister was starting high school). Also, my uncle was lost to suicide as a teen after having a relationship with a woman in her 30s. Yes, everything she did was technically legal. He's still dead. I find it off putting when a woman has an N count in the double digits. I didn't ask, but okay.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/21 05:35 PM
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As a 23-year-old who finds it just as off-putting as 30-year-old women supposedly do I can't help you there
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/21 05:01 PM
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Social norms also impact the supply, so it's not that simple. We recently talked about how a lot of men in their 50's seeking younger women often end up with women in their 30's. They would possibly go younger if they could, but women in their 30's are more consistently willing to date men in their 50's unless we're talking about straight-up sugar situations. So in other words, you can be up for defying " social norms" all you want, it takes two to tango and statistically speaking the odds of fi…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/21 04:16 PM
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Yeah this is the exact line of thinking I don't understand. I have seen a 1000 different attempts to create an equivalent situation where a woman would be reasonably upset and it just doesn't work for me. Though tbf the kinds of things I find romantic are so specific to me maybe that's why I don't get it.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/21 02:25 AM
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The way she worded it makes it sound like he initiated the conversation, but this is also possibly true. Even then, I don't see "how and where I proposed to my ex" as a natural conclusion to that conversation. I don't think that's any of her business, and if she pushed for those details I would see that as shady on her part.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/21 02:11 AM
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The fact that she'd settle for a lackluster proposal like that as long as he did the same for his exes is just as weird to me as men who feel like they don't have permission to have expectations unless she's done it for an ex ETA, I missed this part of the OP: know it was dumb puppy love and didn’t mean much because they were in high school still lol but the fact that he took her to where his dad proposed to his mom, did the whole romantic gesture, one knee, words spoken (I know this bc he broug…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/21 10:21 PM
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My parents' assets are somewhere in that ballpark, presently I'm just a broke ass grad student who happens to live with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/21 08:40 PM
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Wait what happened to the last chick you were with? Weren't you saying you finally found a unicorn or was that somebody else?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/21 08:31 PM
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Sticking this here because Idk if it counts as challenging OP's view. Did you ever ask your parents growing up how they felt about someone you were dating, and they said "he's a good kid" or "she's a nice girl." Almost never were they exclusively talking about "goodness" or "niceness." How can you even tell those kinds of things from a one-hour interaction before prom? Usually that was a proxy for other things like being well-spoken, being involved at school, in my context that also often referr…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/21 07:46 PM
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Ah okay. Then 2 for sure. He sounds like a great dude who's not cut out for the work he does. Assuming he'd be willing to be a SAHD he's pretty much perfect.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/21 07:08 PM
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Missing info for the men: did either of them finish college?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/21 06:03 PM
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I mean most of the women in my family tick those boxes and are married to men with similar traits. The happily married women in my family are also known for being warm, outgoing, and loving. My mom has her career, and she's exceptionally talented at what she does, but first and foremost I know her as the best mother a girl could ask for, and my dad always talks about how lucky he is to have her as his wife.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/21 06:24 AM
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hardcore religious tradcon stepmother Is your bio mom deceased?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/21 06:13 AM
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Sure why not. I have zero investment in the "who's better off without who" dance.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/21 01:44 AM
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So I feel like the "correct" answer here is that BF is an asshole not only for lacking empathy but especially for rubbing salt in the wound. That said, who on earth wants to watch their SO shed tears for an old flame? Practically nobody. This is one of the hardest strains a relationship could face. I don't see them getting through this tbh, she'd be better off breaking up with him, going to grief counseling, and sorting through her feelings before trying to date again.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/21 01:22 AM
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I used to see "field reports" like this all the time on TRP. "Well this girl told me she hates my guts and she'd run me over with a tractor if she could and feed my body to her cats. So anyway, after we had sex..." Why do some men see being intimate with women who treat them like dirt as some kind of accomplishment? I don't get it.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/21 12:14 AM
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Well I'm Catholic as are the men I normally date so I guess it's important to provide that context first. I am waiting until marriage. I do not date men I could not see myself marrying. I do not expect men to pay for dates, but if he insists on it (as is usually the case) I won't stop him. I believe that communication is exceedingly important, being clear and direct is the best move for everyone involved. What is the Blue Pill to you? Many Reds consider Christianity to be BP because it imposes l…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/21 09:34 PM
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I was pretty into a guy before the lockdowns started. After our school decided to cancel in-person classes and went remote we stayed in our respective home states. I have never liked long distance and neither does he so we decided to just be friends. Once we were allowed back on campus I started dating again. So about a year-long blip. I was in a dance group before covid that also strongly encouraged working out in our personal time, so I had to be mindful of making up for that lost exercise. I …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/21 08:56 PM
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Gotcha, just making sure. If you're looking for help with getting back into prayer the Laudate app is really nice. Completely free too.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/21 06:20 AM
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Were you raised in the Catholic faith or in a different Christian denomination?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/21 05:54 AM
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We're out there. As a matter of fact one of my best friends from college just got engaged to her BF. He was her first BF ever and she was his first too. All three of us are tradcon/religious though, Idk what your circumstances are.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/21 05:21 AM
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If this is true my grandma and mom married top 20% men. It's really hard for me to tell since the grooming and styles that were popular when they were young look ridiculous now.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/21 01:19 AM
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This one, I like it
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/21 12:43 AM
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A key that abstains from opening many locks until the lock of his dreams agrees to be his wife and lets him in is a master key. The end.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/21 12:37 AM
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My guess is that they're just more likely to get caught. "Something came up at work." "Something came up while I was...buying milk. Or something."
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/21 05:59 PM
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So let me great this straight. Your V is that the institutions put in place to deal with sexual harassment should not be used because, in your opinion, they don't work. Ime, you are very rarely going to get someone suspended or expelled through Title IX unless something extremely egregious happened. However, that doesn't mean no action will be taken at all. For example I know someone whose harasser was required to move to a different floor of the dormitory. I mean it's not much, but it's somethi…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/21 05:07 PM
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Title IX. Do you know what that is?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/21 04:57 PM
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can’t wrap my mind around the fact that so many girls are willing to turn establishments into punishing forces Just wondering: do you feel the same about people who report academic dishonesty?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/21 04:57 PM
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Your university has the bare minimum obligation to investigate the issue and then decide what action should be taken.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/21 04:50 PM
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For me the answer is simple: men and women conceptualize intimidation differently. One of the most intimidating people I met in high school was this pretty ice cold girl from a loaded family who made virtually every person she talked to feel either invisible or like an idiot. There are guys who could probably squish me like a pancake and I still don't find them as intimidating as she was.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/21 04:40 AM
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Wait is this a new new GF or the same one you've been going with for a while
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/21 02:48 AM
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Maybe something about how you dress? I absolutely love knee to thigh boots but I've definitely gotten some interesting comments because of them, particularly the black ones.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/21 11:57 PM
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Yep. I did am AMA about it a few purges ago. Fun times!
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/21 10:08 PM
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I've only had one truly bad breakup and I cut all contact with him. Blocked his number plus all social media while he was at work. He also wasn't a part of any of my social circles so it's not like he could ask around to get in touch with me. It hurt at the time but in retrospect it's one of the best calls I've ever made.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/21 09:50 PM
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How long do you make him wait? Until marriage Is the guy expected to plan , pay for and initiate dates and get togethers etc? I've never understood this weird mechanical approach to dating. It sounds more like clearing objectives in a video game than forming a genuine connection. Ime while chatting about our hobbies and interests ideas for dates just kind of naturally pop up. Who pays, when we go, etc. are more like afterthoughts. What ways do these men invest in you? His time, first and foremos…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/21 09:39 PM
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Not at all, but I'm also not married to a multi-millionaire so I don't think my opinion is relevant
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/21 09:08 PM
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Okay now I'm genuinely curious because I see it so often. When people post comments on CMVs that very blatantly agree with the OP's view, is it because they don't know how CMVs work or they don't care?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/21 04:38 PM
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"Reddit as a whole" isn't anything. It's a collection of many different subreddits with vastly different cultures. I do think that the nature of Reddit allows quite a few GIFT-infested shitholes to pop up. You get some misogyny, misandry, some equal opportunity misanthrope, etc. For more on GIFT, see here!
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/21 07:17 AM
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"This site is bluepilled as long as you ignore all of the parts of it that aren't!"
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/21 06:59 AM
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Yeah the ones with 100 comments bitching about the 10k upvotes and 10 awards
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/21 06:53 AM
1

That poster seems to be male actually
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/21 06:49 AM
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Have you looked at the comments on literally any art post where a woman has the audacity to show her face in the picture
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/21 06:45 AM
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25-year-olds seemed ancient when I was 18. Those are entirely different ballparks.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/21 06:41 AM
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As much I would like Josh Groban to give me orgasms I'm afraid that's not the case
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/21 01:41 AM
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I think it's common to get along best with people outside your immediate age range (either lower or younger) because the stakes and pressure are lower. Like so what if a 14-year-old doesn't think you're cool? They aren't cool either. If they do happen to like you it's a nice bonus.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/21 01:07 AM
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This isn't a thought or an opinion, this is the result of surveying men of various ages and showing them photos of women at various ages. Iirc in the same or similar study older men were still found to be most interested in women their own age for a serious relationship. As in, even if they acknowledge younger women as more physically attractive on average they don't necessarily want to date one.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/21 01:04 AM
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I think people underrate Pete Davidson because he doesn't have traditional celebrity looks. He seems more like the kind of dude you'd run into at CVS or something. Most of the guys on SNL (and comedians in general) are like that tbh. Also TIL the dark circle under his eyes are caused by an autoimmune disease. I never understood what was up with that.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/21 08:42 PM
1

Because when women talk about what "we" want the default is to assume the man is interested in women we like or at least approve of. Men do a similar thing when they talk about what "men" want and any man who disagrees doesn't count because he's a weak soy boy femininst or something.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/21 08:28 PM
1

lol. God help me. Too late for that it seems 😉
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/21 05:42 PM
1

So you aren't well-versed enough in that particular show to have a meaningful conversation about it. It's okay to just say it bro.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/21 05:15 PM
1

Well fans of the franchise have told me not to because apparently both are inferior to the original. Do you think they're worth a watch?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/21 03:02 AM
2

I mean if you just want to be left with feelings of depression at the decay of family and society in general check out Citizen Kane and Tokyo Story. It's also weirdly comforting to see that people felt that way even in the 1940s/1950s.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/21 03:00 AM
1

Neo happens to be a different take of the chosen one since his purpose isn't to save humanity or the good guys but simply to make the hell they are living more bearable. At the end of the whole thing, humanity is still being farmed by an I.A.. This has also been done, usually as a segue to future entries in a franchise. If the chosen one was able to resolve everything in a single movie basically no franchise would ever take off. Rey literally defeated the main antagonist during their first confr…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/21 02:52 AM
1

Death Note is not comparable to the original MSG. If that's your idea of the most anime has to offer no wonder you say it's "irrelevant." Gundam is a "war is hell" type of sci-fi series. Generally, there are terrible people and innocent civilians dying on both sides. That is why it is not fair to compare Amuro to Luke. MSG is not a "light vs dark" conflict, characters often have to deal with atrocities committed by both the "villains" and their own side. Innocent people die either way. They are …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/21 02:15 AM
1

Second, weeb shit is irrelevant. I like anime but Have you watched the original Mobile Suit Gundam or no?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/21 01:28 AM
2

Because you know so many movies where the main character lives in a virtual simulation that was created to better farm humanity bioelectricity after humans were stomped by an I.A.? The Matrix's worldbuilding is unique, yes. Main Character whose sole purpose is to balance an equation and make that virtual simulation actually working? I hate to break to you, but this story line has been done 1000x over ever since humans could even tell stories. It's the "chosen one." Is that trope inherently bad? …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/21 01:25 AM
2

The Matrix isn't about Neo's personal journey. The dude is the seventh iteration of something greater. Funny because all of this can just as easily apply to female characters who have been bitched about to hell and back supposedly for the reasons I stated above. You didn't get The Matrix like so many people. "Rey's a great character everybody! Like so many people, you just didn't get the new trilogy!"
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/21 12:36 AM
1

All right, time to be controversial. It bugs the hell out of me when people use Ripley as the end-all be-all for how female protagonists "should" be written as if they all sat down and watched the same YouTube commentary together. Rey has problems obviously, using Ripley as proof of that is weird. If anything it makes more sense to compare her to Ahsoka or Mara Jade or something. You cannot compare a movie like Star Wars to a movie like Aliens. There is grounded, hard sci-fi. And then there's st…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/21 12:26 AM
1

Oh wow I haven't met anyone with that level of serious devotion to a fictional character since middle school. Even he grew out of it and went on to date actual women. A lot of my friends have at least one character they have a bit of a crush on (Zero Two is especially common for guys for some reason). They don't take it this far though, most have had actual girlfriends or boyfriends in real life.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/21 11:59 PM
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To be entirely fair I think characters like Luke and Anakin have been done a lot more justice through expanded universe stuff, plus the Clone Wars series. I 100% agree that they aren't the most compelling heroes in the main movies though.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/21 09:24 PM
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My perspective is that for the most part, the baseline for action movie character writing isn't great in general. The female characters are just one, inevitable part of that. I don't mean to sound like a movie snob, but once I started watching stuff like Citizen Kane and Tokyo Story and Ladybird I realized that action movies are just generally weak in that department. Am I saying that I don't like action movie heroes? No. I like them for what they are, fantasy and escapism. So when people specif…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/21 09:18 PM
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Watching The Matrix for the first time after years of people insisting that female leads are bad because they don't earn anything, are generic, instantly good at everything, the chosen one for no reason, blah blah blah is the biggest mistake I ever made
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/21 09:00 PM
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The deeper problem is that you can’t make a relatable woman because it isn’t socially acceptable for female characters to have flaws; flaws in female characters get universalized and treated like an assault on women’s character more broadly. This idea is one of the biggest giveaways that a person is only watching mainstream punchy punch blockbusters. You know those esoteric unknown film festival movies that everyone gets upset about winning the Oscar when they know full well they haven't seen it…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/21 08:56 PM
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Do not spend the entire work overhyping her ability only to make her worthless and incompetent whenever you need an excuse for the male lead to accomplish something
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/21 08:42 PM
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Called out, so now all you got is ad hominem. Well, at least I had some fun here.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/21 07:28 PM
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Ahh so you're a "oh shit I'm wrong, time to awkwardly change the subject" kind of guy
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/21 07:15 PM
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Congrats on apparently not knowing what the word "edit" means. Better luck next time.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/21 06:55 PM
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I lack the amount of time investment in Twitter necessary to understand what the fuck any of that means
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/21 05:58 PM
3

Gotta love that big "Eagle Scout troop visits nursing home" energy
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/21 05:42 PM
1

Most Chad would definitely be Love Drunk by All Time Low
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/21 04:00 PM
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The dude who said he'd respond to finding out about paternity fraud by fucking his own not-daughter to get back at her mom and actual dad and then ghost her
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/21 03:54 PM
1

Around 25/26
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/21 03:48 PM
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He backed it up with data after getting called out by yours truly. You're welcome.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/21 03:46 PM
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Can we also take a second to register the fact that there are men on this sub constantly bitching about women pulling the "respond to data with personal anecdote" maneuver but when a male user does it's "wisdom" and "experience"
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/21 02:12 AM
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Thanks to 4 years at an all-girl high school I built up some pretty idealized notions about guys in my head. I looked forward to going back to co-ed for college, classes would be so much fun, less drama, less gossip, no more walking on eggshells. It would be like hanging out with our guy friends, but instead of just on weekends and holidays it would be 24/7. AHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA. That is all.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/21 09:36 PM
4

Dating is amoral
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/21 06:38 PM
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9, "happiness" is a notoriously unreliable and difficult thing to survey so I don't put much stake in it. If you don't take happiness research with a grain of salt you will start to believe stuff like it is in fact better to be poor in a third world nation than middle class in a first world country.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/21 03:37 PM
5

So your nephew's mom wasn't just magically forgiven by everybody right? If the entire family blew up over it I'm guessing that at least a significant number of your relatives are not cool with what she did.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/21 05:29 AM
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"All politicians are the same, they just yell at each other and nothing changes teehee." I don't automatically assume those types of guys are conservatives. But the odds of us being compatible are like a snowball's chance in hell anyway so it doesn't really matter tbh.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/21 05:00 AM
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Got an actual experience you'd like to share with the class or is this 100% conjecture on your part
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/21 04:42 AM
1

Swim/dive
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/21 02:16 AM
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Okay I think there's a valley worth of middle ground between "it's kind of a dick move to abandon this kid who has seen you as his/her one and only dad for their entire life" and "cuckolding is great." I think we can all agree that the mom sucks no matter what, it's the kid people feel sympathy for.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/21 09:40 PM
3

For education/career, not to the same extent. Being 20-something in a relationship with another 20-something who's applying for postgrad opportunities all over the country, isn't married to any particular place, and is in no hurry to have kids is not the same as being in a relationship with a 30-something whose career limits their options for changing locations, wants to maintain the social circle they've built, and is in a hurry to have kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/21 09:33 PM
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What conflict of interest, may I ask? The part where you are romantically involved with them. Depending on the age we're talking about the younger person may be in the process of making moves in their career and education that could potentially have consequences for the entire course of their lives. Making those decisions based on "advice" from an SO with every incentive to want those developments to go a certain way is conflict of interest central.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/21 09:02 PM
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Because of the massive conflict of interest that would be involved in determining what is "constructive" vs. "destructive" in that case. Love/attraction can very much blind people on what's actually best for the other person, you see this a lot in toxic codependent relationships. Loving someone, and realizing that being in a romantic relationship with you is the last thing they need right now, is very difficult to reconcile.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/21 08:17 PM
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Some people are just like that. He had a pickup truck and one of his favorite things was to help people pack and move. For free. If you tried to give him money or any kind of payment for it he'd respond with memes.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/21 11:50 PM
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Ironically the one guy I know who was like this did that sort of stuff for all of his friends regardless of gender, there were at least 5 girls I knew personally who wanted to date him, and he friendzoned all of them except one.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/21 10:18 PM
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It 100% plays a role in the kind of women who will be attracted to you. Ironically enough the idea that the women who are getting swept up by the asshole Chads are upstanding characters themselves is in itself evidence of halo effect.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/21 01:16 AM
1

May I ask how y'all met and how that worked out
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/21 03:34 AM
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I'm afraid I don't understand what you're saying.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/21 01:06 AM
2

My grandpa is in his 70's. He got into nerd stuff because of his own sons. Now that he's retired he plays more than any of us. They say cross word puzzles and shit help senior citizens hang onto their faculties? Nevermind that. Seems like gaming is where it's at.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/21 01:02 AM
3

Someone didn't watch Into the Spiderverse
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/21 11:22 PM
2

Yes I'm aware that intelligence is not defined by education. That's still a dealbreaker for me regardless. That said, I wouldn't date a complete moron just because he has a college degree either.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/21 11:20 PM
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Most women aren't that chill about having a gun pointed at them. I can almost guarantee she's the type who drives the getaway car, not the type the absolute squares of PPD would have anything in common with.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/21 10:54 PM
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Financial aid runs out eventually so most people can't afford to take longer unless they have some kind of extenuating circumstances (e.g. a learning disability) or alternative means to fund their education. That would make sense. Let's assume financial aid is a non-issue. It's one thing to take a long time to finish a Master's or PhD and another to be perpetually in undergrad.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/21 10:51 PM
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Well, the men in my life are generally very down to earth and level-headed. And they helped make me who I am today in various ways. My grandfather taught me how to game and introduced us to fantasy/sci-fi action movies, like Star Wars and Lord of the Rings. My dad taught me how to make schedules and be responsible. My older brother helped me learn to appreciate reading and fine arts.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/21 10:28 PM
2

Is he in college? Is education a priority for him? Those are the #1 questions for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/21 10:03 PM
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I prefer men who are virgins like me. Obviously, guys who qualify tend to take that very well. Guys who aren't (at least on this sub) will either try to brosplain how "men and women are different" and act like I shouldn't have that preference, or consider me a weirdo right along with men who have that preference.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/21 12:46 PM
1

Ah, okay
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/21 05:08 AM
1

Yes. Which denomination of Christianity?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/21 04:55 AM
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I can't believe there are people who actually talk like this. I feel like most people who did feel something even remotely like this would just call him fake or a tool or something. No ime most people do not care if their BF was "born" hot. What does that even mean? All I feel when I look back at older pictures of myself and other people I've known since middle school is "HA look at these dorks."
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/21 04:27 AM
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The "but if the genders were reversed" obsession on Reddit is getting kind of ridiculous. It's even funnier when someone complains about that in the comments when people gave a woman (or man) the same response less than a week ago.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/21 04:10 AM
1

What denomination are you in?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/21 11:04 PM
2

I feel like he'd be top tier for girls his age. He looks young to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/21 09:27 PM
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Lol you would think that therapy would be a green flag for them. Regular therapy isn't free, meaning he has money or at least decent insurance coverage. For me personally, it's a green flag because that means he takes responsibility for his mental health. And if any of our potential children struggled with mental health issues and needed treatment he would be more likely to be understanding and empathetic about it. I would hope.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/21 09:15 PM
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I'm talking about here on PPD. That's your first problem. A bunch of untrained randoms are not who you go to figure out how/why DV happens or how to deal with it. To this day I am eternally grateful that I called a national hotline for a friend in an abusive relationship because a lot of what the experts actually say on this issue is counterintuitive to what an untrained person might think.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/21 04:01 PM
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Well, you can always hope. I know a couple of people (both men and women) who were victims of DV at some point in their lives. The common thread between all of them was they left when they realized enough was enough. No amount of begging and pleading from other people is going to keep them from going back. Of course there's a massive survivorship bias there for obvious reasons.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/21 03:52 PM
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It takes a cursory glance on the website of any domestic violence agency to know what "feminists" say and it sure as hell ain't that.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/21 03:41 PM
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The way she just talks to him from under the TV like this isn't their first rodeo is the most disturbing part to me. I truly hope that she gets whatever counseling she needs to avoid going back to him, or another relationship like this.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/21 03:09 PM
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CMV if you're on this subreddit something is wrong with you in the head
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/21 03:04 AM
2

I had an ex who was like that and he was actually the worst tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/21 03:02 AM
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Reading the total dysfunction on this sub has made me all the more appreciative of my parents.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/21 11:28 PM
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My dad has always carried his weight and then some. He is legit better at some of the traditional "wife" stuff than my mom, and you would never guess it because he just looks like this strong silent stoic black dude. The one thing he's weaker at is cooking/baking, so that was always on my mom. She also edged him out a bit on doing my hair when I was little; if my mom wasn't available he could get it eventually but it took a lot more time and bobby pins. Once a giant hole ripped open in one of my…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/21 10:04 PM
2

My favorite is the one asking how to make her life look not boring. Putting aside the question of how one even gets into that dilemma, fucking Reddit is the last place you should ever ask that question. Go find inspiration on Pinterest, Instagram, Youtube, literally anywhere but here.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/21 08:00 PM
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Nah you'll probably just get banned and told that you deserve/d to be cheated on or something. That isn't even a joke, their mods are absolutely batshit. I've seen screenshots of the bans they've sent people on other subs.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/21 05:05 PM
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Very strong narcissist prayer vibes going on there
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/21 04:50 PM
2

All of my male mentors came after the movement started and one even outright said he wants to mentor women in order to help chip away at the boys' club mentality that enables sexual harassment
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/21 03:09 PM
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This is usually how it goes Me: I don't agree with TRP Them: You're just saying that because you don't know what it is Me: [describes exactly what it is] Them: Oh you so want a weak doormat huh? Sounds abusive! That last part isn't even an exaggeration, I have in fact been called abusive for not wanting to date a guy who withdraws attention when I don't behave the way he wants.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/21 01:09 AM
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A lot of women say "you're husband material" in the same sense we'd call an outfit cute but not when we're wearing it.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/21 08:00 PM
2

So you're basically me, but a dude
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/21 06:50 PM
1

Fantastic. Please quote which of my replies fit the criteria.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/21 05:32 PM
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You're forgetting the ones who have actually had zero of those experiences of themselves and are instead letting the negative experiences of others influence their worldview. It reminds me of the time I went down the "theme park ride disasters" rabbit hole on YouTube and was very afraid of theme park rides for quite some time. When in reality those kinds of incidents are extremely rare, especially if you're going to established/well-known theme parks.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/21 04:23 PM
1

My problem with age gaps is a direct result of a male relative who committed suicide thanks to being preyed on by an older woman. And I believe it could have been stopped if people took predatory behavior from women seriously.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/21 01:58 PM
2

Please quote where any of that is happening
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/21 01:51 PM
1

Very interesting. The day the SPLC recognizes "DILF" as an oppressed group I will be 100% on board with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/21 03:33 AM
2

Within my faith one of the primary purposes of marriage is to learn to truly love and sacrifice for another. Being married, having children, and experiencing the hardships that go along with it is like forging yourself in fire, or creating a diamond under pressure. It's not meant to be sunshines and rainbows all the time. I think that expectation is what causes a lot of people to wind up unhappy. One of my role models from high school was a teacher who's so incredibly fun and loving and absolute…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/21 03:26 AM
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You can probably blame that on the number of dudes who insist that he's making an exception for a younger girl this once because "she's so mature for her age!"
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/21 02:38 AM
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Holy straw man Batman. I have a morbidly obese cousin (over 300 lbs) who's GF is skinny and actually kind of cute. I also have more than one relative who thinks she is either mentally ill or using him somehow. It's not about what he "should" have, it's about not wanting him to get burned.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/21 01:14 AM
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People who specifically seek out partners who are less well off than them, less attractive than them, or with lesser social status are in fact seen as having suspicious ulterior motives all the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/21 12:48 AM
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Beats because I used them all throughout my childhood and they get a comfort/nostalgia factor. $200, there are objectively better brands, don't do it.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/21 07:37 PM
2

There you are Perry
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/21 02:52 PM
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Yeah as much as we love my grandma's cooking she's not getting any younger and we aren't going to have her slaving away over the stove for the holidays until the day she dies. It's nice to see her just relax and have fun with everyone else.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/21 02:00 PM
2

Is your pfp Nanoha or a character who looks a lot like her?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/21 06:57 AM
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My experience is mostly with educated middle to upper class actually. Pressure to marry within the culture is not restricted to lower classes by any means. The only difference is the means of applying pressure, with wealthier conservative families it's often the implied or outright threat of being cut off financially.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/21 06:35 AM
2

The pound puppy sketch lives rent-free inside my head
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/21 12:44 AM
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Unfortunately there's definitely some of that. However, what I see more of is trying to correct stereotypes of non-western women as magically having none of the issues that western women supposedly have. There also seems to be a strange tendency to not understand that tradcon women from those cultures generally opt to marry men from said culture. Women who marry out tend to be independent or westernized to some extent. Not inherently a bad thing, though for a man who believes that western women …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/21 12:32 AM
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Ime guys mention their girlfriends quite a lot unless they have a specific reason for not doing so
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/21 11:26 PM
5

That is actually a very good way to sum up unfalsifiable arguments.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/21 01:11 AM
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Before even beginning to interact with this thread everyone should take a moment to refresh their memory on what an unfalsifiable argument is
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/21 12:52 AM
3

I like video games, but mostly single player or in-person multiplayer. I don't get the appeal of playing online with total strangers, which is extremely popular for whatever reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/21 12:07 AM
3

I was in the "just a pet" camp when my one point of reference was a betta fish we had as kids. My dog on the other hand is basically a treasured member of our family. She's the first pet we've had since the betta fish and I would be devastated if anything happened to her. With the fish I just noticed he was gone one day, asked what happened, mom told me he died and I was just like "oh ok."
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/21 09:06 PM
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You can't honestly. There are even irreconcilable disagreements between people within those groups. For example, it surprises me when a man who doesn't believe in marriage, is an atheist, has a live-in GF, and doesn't want kids, considers himself trad because his GF cooks and cleans and doesn't like feminism.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/21 05:32 PM
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Have fun with it. The only question a blunt, awkward coversation-starter like that deserves is something ironic. "I can count backwards from 10." "I make a mean grilled cheese." "I can identify 100 cloud animals in the sky in less than a minute." Ask if we can take a break from the job interview roleplay and actually get to know each other. Honestly what do you have to lose? Never seeing him again? Oh the humanity.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/21 05:08 PM
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My favorite part is when they exclusively use big budget blockbusters as examples like that is the only type of movie that exists. Is anybody stopping them from watching Greta Gerwig movies? Not enough punchy punchy, too much talky talky?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/21 03:57 PM
1

Lol please don't jinx that
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/21 10:51 PM
2

Different people have gotten fed up and left for various reasons. I miss Hiso Hiso the most. Jammerly was cool I think, thought OG Jammies was her alt but that wasn't true. Still, I wouldn't say that the quality of discourse has gone down or anything, just seems more or less the same to me. It probably helps that I've never been invested in the sub itself, just individual users. Plus the drama, that's fun too.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/21 10:50 PM
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Eh I've been on this sub for going on 4 years now and I find that the quality of posts on this sub has been pretty consistent. Consistently awful, but still.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/21 10:35 PM
2

For us Ender's Game was optional reading the summer before we took an English AP course (Language and Composition I think?). Iirc College Board had a massive list of books students should be reading in order to prepare for their essay prompts and Ender's Game was definitely one of them. Like Lord of the Flies it's a pretty easy read, it was considered an essential book because of the themes about human nature.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/21 08:47 PM
1

Reading Brave New World as required reading at a Catholic school was such an entertaining experience. "Orgy porgy" indeed.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/21 08:31 PM
2

Sounds like a man with no kids and absolutely nothing to lose in a divorce
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/21 05:07 PM
2

I thought people would move on after we had an entire week-long mega thread devoted to that topic. Boy was that wishful thinking.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/21 06:11 AM
1

Didn't you post a photo during purge once? You are not a chonker!
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/21 10:29 PM
2

Oh damn that makes a lot of sense actually
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/21 10:25 PM
2

Would that be counted as a suicide for statistical purposes? Afaik they generally aren't trying to die, it's just very easy to mess up and end up dying.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/21 10:08 PM
2

Aww thanks, I thought you forgot about that!
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/21 10:04 PM
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I have a relative who worked in law enforcement and he had to go to a surprising number of scenes where men died from autoerotic asphyxiation.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/21 09:55 PM
2

Religious, waiting until marriage, college-educated, politically moderate, modest and kind
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/21 01:43 PM
3

I'm a virgin and I don't even believe that
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 10:44 PM
2

Most women probably don't want a stay at home husband, yet here I am.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 10:21 PM
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Some guys at 22 want to start settling down, so I assume you wouldn't be compatible with them. It's not the settling down itself so much as the path to get there. For example, I know people from my college who got engaged right after graduation. The difference? Exactly how and where they would settle down was more of a joint decision. A pair of 22-year-olds who want to settle down but don't really have much of a foundation yet are more likely to build one together. With an older person who is al…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 10:11 PM
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Yes all of that will be a part of the discussion when the time comes. The question is is he open to being a SAHD? Like is he fundamentally opposed to the idea of the man staying at home provided his wife makes enough to comfortably support the household? Some men absolutely will be whether or not we have the means for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 09:47 PM
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I think the most accurate way to put it would be that I'm a college-educated virgin because of my relationship with my family. My parents wanted the best for me, and they brought me up in the Catholic faith, but they've always given me room to be my own person and ultimately make my own choices.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 08:20 PM
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The experiences and knowledge that came with the degree do not magically disappear once you exit the work force.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 07:42 PM
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"Could be used against you in court in some fashion" =/= what is or isn't socially acceptable. If it comes out that a perpetrator was totally obsessed with Squid Game do you really think that the prosecution wouldn't try to use it as evidence? I believe there was also a case where a rapper's lyrics were used against him in a murder trial.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 07:31 PM
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I mean I'll just speak for myself here. The last guy I dated was about 4 and 1/2 years older. I was 22 at the time and he was 26. There was already a pretty significant difference between us in terms of interests and life goals. He was definitely pushing toward settling down and starting a family asap, which I understand, he wasn't getting any younger. He had a steady job, knew where he wanted to lay down roots and exactly where his life was going. Yeah I was nowhere close to any of that. To mak…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 07:18 PM
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That is correct
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 06:56 PM
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23F, BP Standards similar religious beliefs, morals, and values college education kind, respectful gets along with my family Preferences virgin good relationship with his family dark hair, dark eyes open to being a SAHD likes to travel, even better if he can appreciate art and history museums similar hobbies
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 05:17 PM
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Is she trying get rid of the cream or diet?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 04:32 PM
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40-year-old millionaires are more likely to be married and already off the market though.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 01:31 PM
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Pretty much any that aren't a direct result of impulsive/poor decision-making on his part. Like you say "stuff out of his control" but then mention a couple things that individuals may have a degree of control over depending. What is the source of his financial troubles? There's a major difference between student loans and a gambling addiction. How did the "getting beat up by thugs" come about? Did he start the fight, or was he just in the wrong place at the wrong time? For depression/suicidal t…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 01:27 PM
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At the end of the day, I'm just another redditor with too much time on her hands.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 04:59 AM
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Just like the number of rich single 40-somethings to fall back on, it all depends on the location
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 02:36 AM
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Trust fund kids have entered the chat
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 02:20 AM
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let’s define it as 22-30 in this case More plausible on the closer to 30 end
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 02:02 AM
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Greater trust and honesty, I think. My parents are like best friends who are also in love, they never travel or go out without the other. They're very blunt with each other and they don't have to sugar coat things. They also have similar tastes in entertainment so it's easy for them to agree on dates and trips they'll both actually enjoy instead of having to compromise all the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/21 11:25 PM
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Hello there
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/21 09:35 PM
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It's a preference, but not a complete deal breaker. My other standards (compatible values and morals) tend to select for virgin men. But shit happens, people fall away from the faith, some come back more devout than ever but will never be able to erase what happened in the past. So I personally think it's important to allow some grace for cases like that. Besides, I don't think it's appropriate to ask details about someone else's sexual past early on in the relationship. The main thing I'll have…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/21 08:23 PM
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Clearly, that's why I respect men who tell me that's not going to work from the start so we can go our separate ways. Not a man who says "yeah sure" and then tries manipulate me to get what he wants.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/21 01:07 PM
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so you want a man who's going to chase you like a puppy dog when you pull away... I want a man who can communicate like an adult. Yes I realize that that is very difficult for some. why would you reward someone's bad behaviour with attention.... Why would you reward someone's "bad behavior" by sticking around? Know when it's not working and you aren't compatible, not try to train them like a dog. also whats wrong with letting someones actions speak louder than their words... A. Shouldn't apply t…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/21 01:06 PM
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Unfortunately quite a few Reds believe that those people, particularly women, are liars or will be convinced by the right guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/21 11:53 PM
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Talk is cheap. Not when the talk is sex. Anyone who doesn't take others at their first word on that is asking for trouble imo. Yes I am well aware that some women act coy, want to be "convinced" blah blah. That has nothing to do with me or how I operate, and I don't want anything to do with guys who operate like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/21 11:48 PM
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A guy who believes AWALT, and approaches women as having some kind of automatic "defense" to keep up appearances, will likely assume that I'm more or less the same way. I've had experiences with guys who told me waiting wasn't going to work, it was fine, we went our separate ways. Going "yeah sure" and waiting for me to slip up is more like what an RP guy does. I respect the guy who's honest from the start way more than one who treats me like a puzzle to solve to get laid.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/21 11:25 PM
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Mmmm that's a first
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/21 11:09 PM
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Are you familiar with AWALT?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/21 11:05 PM
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I want him to believe in me, what I stand for and in my words. If he can't do either of those, he's not worth it.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/21 10:52 PM
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No worries, I was quite clear.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/21 10:51 PM
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Pray tell, what happens from there? He respects my decision 100% and decides that he'll wait for marriage right along with me and alter his lifestyle accordingly? Yeah that doesn't fit with the other warning signs I mentioned already.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/21 10:50 PM
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Wonderful, I don't care what it sounds like to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/21 10:41 PM
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The "why" doesn't magically make the "what" a non-dealbreaker
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/21 10:40 PM
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Wonderful, that has nothing to do with me.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/21 10:09 PM
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Lifting is neutral to me, provided he doesn't act like a douche or make his entire life about his muscles. The rest are non-negotiable red flags. For example, why would I date a man who doesn't believe I'm waiting for marriage and looks for every reason to believe I'm not instead of trusting my words? Who goes silent on me instead of being honest and talking things out?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/21 08:58 PM
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Some of the recurring themes I picked up while lurking RP subs -LIFT -They don't believe what women say. They supposedly "watch" what we do. -They believe if she's not having sex with you she's having it with someone else. -If if works, it works. Dating is amoral. -Agree and amplify. -Important to keep a strong "frame", don't mold yourself to fit hers. -Withdraw attention if she doesn't behave the way you want. -Don't put women on a pedestal. "Oldest teenager in the house" When I experienced som…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/21 08:29 PM
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I would ask why he didn't just use ancestry.com or something. Instead of wasting resources on the obvious we could've actually gotten some interesting information.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/21 06:19 PM
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My absolute favorite holiday. It's hard for me to pick just a single song but Hark the Herald Angels Sing, God Rest Ye Merry Gentlemen, and Believe by Josh Groban are my top three.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/21 12:51 PM
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I AM YOUR SWORD AND YOUR SHIELD
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/21 11:45 PM
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Ah so I'd show up every couple of years and then disappear for no explicable reason until I finally resurface in a mediocre spinoff that nobody asked for
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/21 11:44 PM
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Nah I prefer to be the NPC follower that gives you a heart attack when you realize that I've moved into your new house without your permission
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/21 11:16 PM
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Uh oh, guess I have to tell all of my male mentors who came along both before and after metoo that they officially don't exist
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/21 11:11 PM
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I mean a lot of that stuff was paid for with our tuition fees, nobody was interested in letting randos in for free.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/21 10:58 PM
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Yes I'm aware. Student-only events are great when you want a chance to get away from the weird old dudes who inevitably creep at said bars and clubs.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/21 10:36 PM
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I was at a pretty decent while I was studying in Japan/ immediately after but I'm rusty now sadly. Hiragana is super easy to read so that's why I got the reference lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/21 10:28 PM
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Not until I'm at least pretty fluent in Japanese. After that I think I want to go for Mandarin or Korean.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/21 10:09 PM
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Not only this but events for students often require student ID
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/21 09:54 PM
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I haven't been screwed over by an asshole who thought he could wear me down and get me to fuck him before marriage again, so something's going right. 🤷🏾‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/21 09:24 PM
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Great material for learning what kinds of men to avoid
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/21 06:25 PM
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Lol secular tradcons are wild
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/21 06:23 PM
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No way in hell
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/21 06:22 PM
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I feel so left out when people passive aggressively talk about their beef with other users and a few threads down I just see [deleted][deleted][deleted] be civil
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/21 05:16 AM
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Assuming hypothetical dude me is religious, yes. I don't know as much about why secular men get married.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/21 05:13 PM
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OP says But I knew I wanted nothing more than to leave the room and escape and it was really strange as there were two gorgeous women in front of me, i should have been rock hard, right? I should have been thanking my stars like any man should be doing So yeah I hate to break it to you but there's more than "wokeness" and "feminism" going on here. Sounds an awful lot like a certain toxic expectation that that having a threesome with two attractive women should be every straight man's dream.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/21 04:55 PM
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Sometimes it's the other way around! My grandma was pretty surprised when I told her I'm going to start wearing a chapel veil to Mass soon. It's making a comeback with young women in my faith.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/21 02:49 PM
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Well yeah. If we're going to be spending the rest of our lives together (in theory) we kind of have to be on the same page about certain things, or at least able to find a compromise.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/21 12:04 AM
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Why isn't it working 😥
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/21 03:03 AM
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This is the way
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/21 03:02 AM
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Of course. I'm not waiting for marriage just because, if a guy is on the same page with me morally he'll be waiting until marriage as well. Preferably, he made that choice before he even met me.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/21 02:24 AM
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I'm kind of in a weird transitional place since I'm 23 now and out of college. To put it in perspective, I'm only on first name basis with 2 men over 30, and both of those happened within the past year.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/21 07:23 PM
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The vast majority of older men I have known personally have treated me more like a daughter or younger sister than someone they'd fuck. The outliers do in fact come across as creepy/abnormal.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/21 06:53 PM
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That is so weird to me. Maybe a lot of the stuff my family likes to do when we travel just happens to have a more balanced gender ratio than other tourist attractions. Art and history museums are a big thing for us.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/21 05:22 PM
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TIL. Guess most of the guys in my social circles are jet setter unicorns. 🤷🏾‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/21 05:18 PM
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Travelling is not a gendered hobby. Seriously what social circle is this where all of the women love travelling but guys don't. Instagram? OLD?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/21 12:48 PM
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Yeah there's a ton of gray area between "nice guy" and "bad boy" that I can think of from college alone. Some examples: -The Stoners: really mellow, chill guys who are also very comfortable with doing stuff that is technically illegal -The "Meh"thletes: athletes that are charismatic, likable people overall but give off vaguely egotistical vibes -The Ethical Heartbreaker: I mean he technically warned her he didn't want anything serious from the start -4.0 GPA: he's a square, but he still won't ha…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/21 03:06 AM
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Is it purge week again already
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/21 11:35 PM
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It was in an interview with GQ that came out fairly recently, this is Buzzfeed's coverage of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/21 06:54 PM
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Easy, there is more than one way to gain an inflated ego. It could be looks, it could be an unbalanced gender ratio, it could be finally getting a girlfriend for the first time in his life and thinking that basically makes him the next Hugh Hefner. This is why the correct move is for women to set boundaries and standards that apply no matter what, whether you're dating nerds, hot guys, whatever.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/21 06:12 PM
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Didn't he outright come out and say they've been in an open relationship for a while? Given that Will was still acting in family movies on and off it's not like they could just go public with that.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/21 04:29 PM
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Gotcha. Like I said, in person is preferred. But if none of the guys in your proximity clicked with you or wanted the same things it was very common to just check out guys from other schools. It sounds like yours was a case of proximity plus the girls more or less wanting the same thing as you. OP is about women who claim they can't find relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/21 03:46 PM
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Out of curiosity, was OLD around yet when you were in college?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/21 03:11 PM
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Yep, though to be fair avoiding pregnancy out of wedlock is only a part of the reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/21 02:49 PM
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That's the first choice of course. If that doesn't work out for whatever reason, off campus it is. 🤷🏾‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/21 02:46 PM
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If people are serious enough, they find a way. A guy I dated drove about an hour to see me. I would've offered to at least meet him halfway or something but I didn't have a car. 🥲
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/21 02:43 PM
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This assumes that all schools have identical dating markets. They don't. Gender ratios differ. Some campus cultures are more hook-up oriented like mine was, others are more conducive for relationships. A major factor in this seemed to be whether a student body was mostly local or from out of state. Guys who stayed closer to home for university were more likely to go for serious relationships. So your chances for a serious relationship were better if you went with guys from those kinds of schools…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/21 02:26 PM
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Abstinence
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/21 01:05 PM
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I may have missed it, but it's kinda weird how the idea of dating guys from other universities never occurred to these people. What did girls at my college do if the guys weren't doing it for them? Fire up OLD and date guys from other schools. It wasn't that hard.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/21 01:03 PM
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Ohh yes they do. Similar to virgin shaming it generally doesn't come out of nowhere, it's usually a symptom of bad blood that was already there for some other reason. Ime guys are most likely to slut shame girls who have rejected them, exes, or just girls they straight up don't like for whatever reason. Hell I'm a virgin and I've been slut shamed, it was a fundie Protestant guy who's weird about Catholic girls.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/21 02:29 AM
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Based on what I have heard from women who did it that entirely depends on your expectations going in. If you expect everything to magically click and be perfect the first time, you are going to be disappointed.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/21 08:33 PM
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Within Catholicism at least presumption (basically going through with a sin because you know that it will be forgiven) is a sin in and of itself
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/21 02:34 PM
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Nope. I would much rather date a guy who has a formal diagnosis and is under the care of a professional than a guy who's undiagnosed and self-medicates.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/21 02:27 PM
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Lol that too. And the other one: "women lie on surveys. Except for the surveys with results that fit my narrative, they were definitely telling the truth on that one."
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/21 02:09 AM
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Whenever women list facts, stats, and articles that support their points dudes who have already made up their minds on the issue just write it off as the liberal/pro-woman bias of academia or whatever organization published it
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/21 02:02 AM
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Why do people act like 9-1-1 doesn't exist. 9 times out of 10 that is the best thing a bystander can do, not step into a potentially dangerous situation with zero training.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/21 10:34 PM
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Men on this sub: why aren't female perpetrators of domestic violence taken seriously Also men on this sub:
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/21 07:25 PM
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Lol some of the biggest complaints I've seen are that the "woke" characters don't get enough screentime
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/21 06:54 PM
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Converted his office into a home gym
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/21 02:37 PM
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Correct, my crap is wanting to be loved and respected and mild femdom fantasies
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/21 11:21 PM
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nephews This is exactly why I get to trick or treat tomorrow 😎
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/21 11:19 PM
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Ah gotcha. Ahem. In conclusion: everybody on this sub be trippin.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/21 11:05 PM
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In conclusion: men on this sub be trippin
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/21 10:59 PM
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My dad was a SAHD for years. My mom loved it and they were both extremely happy with that choice. I think it might have everything to do with the fact that my dad has always been good with household stuff (he kinda had to raise himself and his siblings at times). Cleaned the house, cleaned the pool, paid the bills. You would just see him walking around with his Beats on whistling and washing clothes or something. Converted his office into a home gym, dropped off our stuff at school if we forgot …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/21 10:42 PM
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I mean it helps to not date sexist men. I want to marry and have children with someone who respects me and doesn't take pregnancy and childbirth for granted. Someone who sees children as an equal responsibility shared between both parents and not just something to pawn off to the woman while the man makes a living.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/21 08:33 PM
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Or both 😍
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/21 07:40 PM
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I mean I'd like to marry a virgin. But lol even a literal priest told me that for practical reasons it's better to not rule out non-virgins entirely, both for men and women.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/21 06:51 PM
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Just here for the drama
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/21 05:51 PM
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Sounds more like he's overdosed on Game of Thrones. "Should I give her away or let her choose her own partner"? The fuck?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/21 05:11 PM
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Gotcha. When I think of "lack of ambition" I tend to picture guys who aren't motivated by much of anything at all, not selfish or selfless goals.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/21 04:41 AM
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It's kind of embarrassing but I've always felt a weird admiration towards men who works with kids, like in education for example. It obviously doesn't pay the best but the work they do is important and I think it's good for kids to have male role models. Within our society though that kind of work isn't really valued as much as it should be, so a guy who is chasing mostly after money and power wouldn't go for it. Someone who genuinely cares about his students and wants to do his best so they can…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/21 12:28 AM
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My parents were extremely lax about encouraging our faith's teachings on sex. The great irony is that I think that very freedom is why I'm still a virgin and I have normal urges that I would really like to act on once I'm married. Forcing it seems to more often than not result in hatred of the parents or hatred of sex. Hell it can lead to both.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/21 11:59 PM
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He can just leave that to me. SAHD's are underrated.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/21 11:43 PM
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Depends on the kind of ambition. Ambition for money/power? No thanks. Ambition to excel in the work that brings genuine meaning and fulfillment to his life? Yes please.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/21 10:49 PM
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Iirc the app is still called Facebook, it's the parent company that has a new name.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/21 09:29 AM
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For me yes. It just comes across as an unhealthy coping mechanism to explain why a woman would leave when a man is doing everything right or stay when he's doing everything wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/21 02:27 AM
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Is Reddit just where Facebook posts come to die at this point? I'm 90% sure I saw this exact post on FB like a month ago.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/21 02:20 AM
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Haven't felt strongly enough to act on it, though I have had small crushes on users from this sub over time. My main one was metrosexual80sfan/gaydeath(?). He was just so neurotic and cute. Not active anymore afaik.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/21 02:11 AM
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That's one aspect of it, yes. Then what’s your take on guys saying that doesn’t work in the real world? Baggage and trauma from failed relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/21 10:47 PM
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The super soldier serum magnifies the already existing traits in an individual. If a person has a dark side or is an arrogant douche or something it'll only make them even worse, but with super powers. Steve was a good guy from the start, so he wasn't corrupted by the serum. He's basically the same humble, self-sacrificial person but with the strength he needs to carry out his ideals. His devotion to Peggy and choosing to stay in the past with her seals the deal for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/21 10:32 PM
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It's coarse and it's rough and it gets everywhere!
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/21 08:26 PM
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