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FIELD REPORTLizalotte/r/RedPillWives14/03/19 04:55 PM
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I can't give you advice on how to find a councellor to help you (talk to your pastor first), but you should approach this gently with her. As I said, she probably already feels horrible about it. Do you know if she has seeked any help to overcome her past? I remember that I got some help from a Christian organisation (not in USA) that specialized in helping those who had sexual wounds. My husband and I have also participated in some Christian marriage work, and the group discussions have been ey…
/r/RPChristians03/04/19 04:09 PM
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Ok, I dare to chip in here. I was the girlfriend with a past once, although I had not had had sex for about ten years prior meeting my husband. If she is anything like me twelve years ago, she feels horrible about her past. She is absolutely torn apart by it, and she will understand if you break up with her because of it. If you decide to stay, you have to confront her about this, tell her how you feel, and go through full reconciliation process to put this behind you. I advise you to find a spi…
/r/RPChristians03/04/19 03:21 PM
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Don't YOU come telling ME what I am like!!!! ;D
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/19 11:29 AM
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I'm 7w8. (Edit: and ENTJ-A, whatever that means - I'm more familiar with enneagram.) Eight is the most masculine type (four is the most feminine). Do you feel out of place here sometimes? Like, "if that's how women are, what am I?"Because I do.
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/19 10:04 AM
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Lol, take my upvote you COW!!!
/r/RedPillWomen29/03/19 11:24 PM
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Hey, you should read Dale Carnegies How to Win Friends and Influence People! It's all in there, and can be applied in every situation in life. I read the book in high school, and it made a huge impact in the way I communicate.
/r/RedPillWomen29/03/19 08:15 AM
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This is only partly applicable in early dating. Why buy a cow when the milk is free? Admire him, sure, but only if he is worth it (if he is not, why are you with him?) More important: be interesting, humble, joyful, sensible, trustworthy, honest. Brutally honest, to yourself and to him. Do not lie. I repeat: do not lie. If he can't handle the truth, if you can't discuss difficult issues, then he's not for you.
/r/RedPillWomen28/03/19 11:57 PM
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Oh yeah, Margaery makes a great role model, as does her grandmother. And Dany! Think of her marriage, how it started, and how she was able to turn it around!
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/19 06:51 PM
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I have. GoT is also full of strong women. Some of them sure make great role models, but... I spent a decade or so trying to play this "just as strong as men" game. Military, hard core STEM field, rough working places. It was, to be honest, exhausting, but I received so much praise! How I miss it as a SAHM - bringing up my profession in conversation, the "WOW" reaction... And all it was based on was the idea that I had broken the gender roles. But it has been a relief to let go. To decide that I …
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/19 01:33 AM
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Check out Jamie Oliver's 15 minute meals. Also one pot pasta can be great. And/or prepare everyhing beforehand. You will get better and better in it with experience!
/r/RedPillWomen22/03/19 04:32 PM
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Hey thanks for this. I've been a Laura Doyle fan for almost twenty years, that is what brought me here in the first place. But now I think I should read more about the Red Pill theory. Any resources you specifically suggest for a woman to start with?
/r/RedPillWives15/03/19 09:30 PM
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Sure. It's just... I've always seen RedPill more as an interesting but overly simplified collection of theories that gather together a crowd of likeminded people - people that I have a lot in common with. I think this was the first time I thought I should apply it from inside out. Not so that I see what fits into my idea of how the world works and disregard the rest, but instead really think that in some things, I might be all wrong to start with. Yes, I know, it's not super deep, but at my age …
/r/RedPillWives15/03/19 04:42 PM
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Good advise here already, but have you had your hemoglobin checked? My hemoglobin usually goes down around those weeks, and it can go very low - and it makes you really, really tired.
/r/RedPillWives14/03/19 04:17 PM
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I'm going to print this out! Thank you!
/r/RPChristians14/03/19 12:52 AM
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My husband is very similar. I would just start asking for offers. Invite contractors over to see it and give estimates. This way you would have something on the table to start the decision-making process. I'm not saying it will be painless. We had a similar thing with the roof - until it started to leak. Luckily I had already asked for offers, so I knew which company to choose. At the moment we have a corner on porch that needs a few new shingles - I have asked him to bring a bagful (I'll do the…
/r/RedPillWives13/03/19 06:57 PM
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Well, let's say that when I noticed the sex life fading I tried to establish a rule that once a week is the minimum, just to keep it going. I was the only one endorsing that rule. Although sometimes sex can nowadays happen two, even three times a week (very, very exeptional), if I'm not initiating, we can go for a couple of months without. Normal rythm is probably 1-2 times a month.
/r/RedPillWomen13/03/19 12:58 AM
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Couldn't agree more. Also, after a few rejections it feels almost humiliating to take up that corset-stockings game. Like, this is how desperate I am, can you please please please, just something, anything...
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/19 08:53 PM
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Sucks. I can usually seduce him with fancy lingerie and a blowjob (he doesn't necessarily even show that "not again" face), but I just sometimes would like to be taken, you know.
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/19 08:44 PM
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I don't think so.
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/19 08:34 PM
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We didn't. I'm the one with higher libido. It's frustrating to the point of despair at times. Really. So, waiting for answers and tips from those who have made it work. Please.
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/19 08:14 PM
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I think you should try her ear instead.
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/19 04:01 PM
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I have no idea what facefucking is. Like, when yoy say "Fuck you" at her face?
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/19 03:57 PM
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Yes, a fitted sweater with tight jeans can be very feminine! Maybe sometimes try a scarf combined with open neckline instead of turtleneck. And large ruanas or throws can be extremely feminine! Also experiment with materials. You are so small you can wear very furry, soft sweaters without looking like an overweight cat. Or choose loosely knitted, fragile looking sweaters instead of thick ones. Also remember that some colors are more feminine than others, don't be shy!
/r/RedPillWomen11/03/19 05:34 PM
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Ikea has many ideas for small kitchens. Shelves, hangers, baskets, space dividers... I would start there.
/r/RedPillWomen11/03/19 05:23 PM
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Lol.
/r/RedPillWomen09/03/19 05:03 PM
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Stay strong! You have done the right thing! Absolutely do not go back to him, this would be a very bad start for a relationship, and you are already getting over the worst bit - don't destroy your progress! (Think, really think about his wife, put yourself in her position. Is this your goal in life?)
/r/RedPillWomen09/03/19 04:59 PM
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Well you know... Life is an adventure! When you are old you can say that at least you dared to live! Fear of change is a stupid reason for not doing things that otherwise seem right. I really wish you all the best! I'm sure all will be well in the end :)
/r/RedPillWomen09/03/19 04:08 PM
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I'm a Finn. And yes, I do miss home, but more than the country I miss the familiarity of things, and I also suck at keeping in touch with friends and family... But my husband didn't particularly like Finland, and the culture here is much more welcoming. I also love it that I can be (at least for now) a SAHM. So, overall, we are happy here. But it's not impossible that we would once move back to Europe, although probably not to Finland.
/r/RedPillWomen09/03/19 03:44 PM
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We were in this situation about ten years ago. We moved to my home country, and it is one whose language is nearly impossible for a foreigner to master within any reasonable time without putting massive time and effort into it - which my husband didn't have. So, I handled much more of our common finances and other things than I would have wanted to. I didn't like it. And it did cause some stress on our relationship. I only have a few pieces of advise to give, no magic wand. You should actively a…
/r/RedPillWomen09/03/19 03:31 PM
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:D You are lovely! You know, I was this height already when I was in Uni. Woman should gain a kilo or two per decade to look her best. You can check the BMI, but use the corrected one - the normal one gives short people values that are too low. I'm not saying she is overweight.
/r/RedPillWives02/03/19 07:13 PM
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I'm about the same height. If I weigh about the same and do not have a good core or muscle mass, I am a bit plump. On the other hand, if I pull myself together and hit the gym, I can weigh the same but look just right.
/r/RedPillWives02/03/19 12:42 PM
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Don't take losing weight your target. You are not overweight, but you might be a bit... plump. Focus on getting fit and eating healthy. If you are not used to excercising, I suggest you find a fitness group or personal trainer first. And you have to start some dance lessons! This is important! Dance teaches you how to carry yourself, it gives you self confidence, you learn to move in a sensual manner and you can even learn to flirt. Choose a sensual, feminine dance style. - Oriental, Flamenco, S…
/r/RedPillWives01/03/19 05:00 PM
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Yeah... I had about ten minute talk with my man yesterday. He actually faced me, listened, didn't look at his computer. I don't even remember what we talked about. It was just a nice chat. Funny how much better I feel today. So that's all it takes... sometimes :) I've been thinking about this - us - wives like you and me. I find myself thinking on times like this: he is carrying more than he can bear, now I have to carry more too. But maybe instead I should think: he is carrying a lot, but he ca…
/r/RedPillWives27/02/19 07:08 PM
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Integrity (ready to suffer inconvenience and discomfort for his values), intelligence, purpose (goals, mission in life) and passion (eagerness and energy to pursue goals). Most underrated by RPT: ability to admit mistakes (self-reflection) and apologise.
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/19 06:52 PM
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🙋Guilty as charged! Why doesn't he praise me for getting up early and making breakfast? He doesn't notice the sparkling bathrooms that I spent the whole morning scrubbing, but complains that the toys are scattered around - and it takes three minutes to pick them up! (Note to self: unexpressed gratitude translates into ingratitude. Remember to say thank you.)
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/19 01:23 PM
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Hi there. I think I just wrote this post :D Seriously, you are me. You are inside my head! How did you get there???? At the moment: I let the time pass, try to do self care, which I always forget, and aim not to break anything that can't be fixed. This is how my slide starts: husband overloaded with work-> I try to carry bigger load at home, and provide all kind of extra treats from chocolate cakes to blowjobs to help him relax -> he is too stressed out to notice, and instead gets snappy and com…
/r/RedPillWives25/02/19 01:32 AM
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No. I just want a better marriage than what my parents have
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/19 11:07 AM
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Think carefully before you do nudes. Consider not showing your face.
/r/RedPillWives24/02/19 11:04 AM
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I agree. Move slowly, and carefully consider if he is the right one. You are still young. Marriage is a very cheap and clear legal contract that in a long relationship does protect both parties quite well, and if he is not willing to enter into one, you maybe should consult a lawyer before starting a family with him.
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/19 01:36 AM
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Intelligence Squared has great debates about interesting issues. High level speakers.
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/19 09:24 PM
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Christina Hoff Sommers is so great!
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/19 09:22 PM
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"Disgusting"? Non-Asian women are part of the men's "heritage"? Let me guess: your guy left you for an Asian girl. Go cry me a river.
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/19 09:11 PM
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I agree. I have had a crush on a colleague twice. Both times I told my husband about it. Three reasons why I chose to tell: The crush might just pass the moment you tell. It will sound so silly and stupid. At least it is likely to subside. It is significantly more difficult to act on it if your SO might any time ask if anything has happened with him It builds trust, if your SO is at all sensible and understands that you could also not have told.
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/19 08:45 PM
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I agree that it is useful to read books about very different parenting styles, but if you notice that it makes you confused or too unsure about yourself, then take a break for a while. I had to do it with my first baby.
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/19 08:38 PM
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I've only read Attachment-Focused Parenting: Effective Strategies to Care for Children. It is one of the best, most sensible parenting books I know.
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/19 08:34 PM
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Baby Whisperer is great if you want a book that really starts from the basics! For bigger children (but you definitely can start reading them right away) I recommend Daniel A Hughes' PACE method, which stands for Platfulness, Acceptance, Curiosity and Empathy. It is attachment parenting, but in a realistic way, without putting child on a pedestal, and applying clear boundaries. I have a friend who achieved unbelivable results with a very, very problematic foster child who was already considered …
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/19 04:17 PM
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Thank you♥! Looks really interesting!
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/19 02:18 AM
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I had to go and examine the pockets of my apron: three pencils kids' nail scissors a lip balm small notebook two nail files a handkerchief two lego blocks garlic peelings (???) Rosary I always wear an apron in the kitchen. Meaning I wear it almost all the time. Mine are mostly from Marimekko, but it's just because I'm a Finn.
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/19 01:41 AM
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These were my thoughts exactly. So true.
/r/RedPillWomen20/02/19 05:31 PM
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He has a need to have sex with other women. You have a need to have a faithful partner. Something's gotta give here. He wants to have his cake and eat it, too. And you are making it possible. Have some backbone girl! You are not ok with this! If he is not ready to quit this adventure for your sake, he's just not that into you. Don't waste your time, be a good friend to yourself and leave.
/r/RedPillWomen20/02/19 02:50 AM
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Stop obsessing about it. Do you trust him? Does he have integrity? What are his values like? This would be a really stupid reason to break up. I'm 42 and married to a man six years younger than me. He is a university professor and very handsome. I fully trust him, and regularly tease him about his hot brazilian TA... Maybe you should dig deeper and think were your insecurity stems from?
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/19 10:38 PM
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Are you familiar with subreddits r/marriedredpill, r/askMRP and r/RPChristians? There is some good advise for guys like you.
/r/RedPillWomen18/02/19 02:47 PM
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Why are you with him?
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/19 04:51 PM
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Yes. This defined the boundaries of your "dating pool" (the term might have been first introduced in Friends...) What would be the equvivalent to the other direction, what do you think? I'm married to a man six years younger than me. Nobody ever seems to give it any thought or even notice. How big an age gap would be ok to this direction?
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/19 03:25 PM
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My mom said that in a marriage, twenty first years are a bit difficult, after that it gets much easier. This has definitely helped me to put things into perspective :D
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/19 04:31 PM
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I love giving BJs and yes, they are great for after birth recovery time. Usually combined with me masturbating at the same time. We have four kids (within five years), and I must admit that we were less active after the births of our younger children. We were just too tired... EDIT: You say that "you can't get off". Normally, you can, unless something extraordinary has happened in birth. The heaviest bleeding is usually over by the time you get back from hospital, and within a week or two it wil…
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/19 04:14 PM
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Sounds great! I'm also very happy I did it. I always wanted to travel, and now I can really concentrate on my kids and family, I don't feel like I'm missing out on something. I really feel like I've "had it all", wild years, studies, high value husband, children... And we have lived in five different countries with my husband, too !
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/19 01:52 PM
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I also find the hypergamy a bit confusing, especially the deep rooted mistrust it seems to create in RP men. I have had two crushes on other men during my 10-year marriage (I told my husband about both) and both of them were much more beta than my alfaesque husband, but they were interested in me, listened and - I felt - understood and respected me, while my HB during that time was extremely busy and stressed out.
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/19 01:43 PM
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You're me! I went to university at 24 after years of travelling, mostly hitchhiking. Got a MSc., and married at 33, and now I'm a mother or four :D
/r/RedPillWomen14/02/19 11:26 AM
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Oh I remember you, you got thrown out of that thread in r/askMRP... You were right, but obviously in a wrong place :D Yes, you never know how life goes, no matter how well you vet your man or how perfect wife you manage to be.
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/19 09:23 PM
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Actually... no. Life is a struggle, always, even when married to a "perfect" man. I'm in my forties, and I've seen people's fate change overnight and roles flipped over the years so many times that I'm only grateful for what I have now, and who knows who is the happy one in five years time. But I do feel sorry for men whose perfect girlfriends turned into bitch wives. Really.
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/19 06:08 PM
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Sports. Gym and boot camp for self confidence, dancing (preferably something sensual, oriental or Bollywood or similar) to tap into your femininity.
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/19 04:07 PM
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Teeth. Always direct your money first to your teeth if there's any improvement needed there. My teeth are ok (I had braces for years) but considering whitening them at some point (I'm 42 and teeth are surprisingly essential if you want to shed some years off your looks). Otherwise personal trainer can be very useful. It's important to learn healthy habits when you are young.
/r/RedPillWomen12/02/19 06:09 PM
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Makeupalley is also great!
/r/RedPillWomen11/02/19 07:46 PM
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My favourite beauty author Sali Hughes says that if you don't have much money, you should spend it with those who have. Big companies like L'Oreal or Maybelline can invest in research and product development that really give the consumer bang for their buck. Most of my skincare is from The Ordinary. I find that it's easy to save in products like lipstick, blush or eye shadow if I choose good quality primers to use under them. And it makes absolutely no sense to invest big money in lip- or eyelin…
/r/RedPillWomen11/02/19 02:35 PM
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Also you tend to get compared to other women your age socially. So if you look great for someone early 30s, it's nice to hear it and the competition is small. This is true. I'm 42 now, and many mothers of my age don't want, or don't have time to make much of an effort. So just staying fit, wearing decent clothes and makeup, visiting a hairdresser regularly, and taking care of your skin lifts you pretty high in the ranking. Nobody cares any more if your nose is big or jaw nonexistent :D
/r/RedPillWomen09/02/19 10:18 PM
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I'm 42. I notice that your looks do reflect your character more when you get older. I've never been a nine or ten, just a cute, normal, rather fit girl. I had a really beautiful, tall, blonde roommate in Uni, guys were crazy about her. But she was a very, very complicated person, and after a couple of not very major incidents in her life she allowed herself to become bitter and bitchy. I saw her last time when we were both about thirty, and the roles had totally changed. Now she wore a permanent…
/r/RedPillWomen09/02/19 09:48 PM
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I would go for the ancient description. Agape + eros + filia + storge. All should be present in a good marriage, but in different stages their order of significance varies. In the beginning, eros rules, in older couples, filia. Agape is needed especially during hard times.
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