| Upvotes | Title | Category | Author | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
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| 82 | Love. This. Sub. | Lizard301 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/20 03:37 AM |
| Upvotes | Comment on | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
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| 67 | OP gets gaslit for an appropriate response to a gendered slurA. Degree. In. Computer. Science. I am learning CS on my own on breaks at work and evenings/weekends. This dude is just.... I don't have words. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/22 07:50 PM |
| 2 | Thought you Queens could do with a laugh ❤️2 days later and the upvotes, which have grown considerably, are still going up, down, up, down, up, down LOL. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/22 05:07 PM |
| 44 | Thought you Queens could do with a laugh ❤️I'm just sitting here refreshing this post and watching the upvotes go up, then down, then up, then down. Poor whiny scrotes. 🤣🤣🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/22 03:51 PM |
| 20 | Never go camping alone with a man. This woman could have died. (Reposted because pictures are broken)I read this post earlier today, and I'm just shook. She had to fight off raccoons with a stick on fire! Who does that to somebody? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/21 05:47 PM |
| 1 | What abusers believeOh, awesome! I have this book already! I should probably read it. 🤔🤫 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/21 10:01 PM |
| 3 | What abusers believeWhere can I find this? Is this an article or an ebook that I can purchase to save? Thank you so much. :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/21 07:01 PM |
| 1 | Thoughts on family therapy between an emotionally unavailable, LV father and adult daughtersMy dad is an NVM. It took me decades to realize and accept that about him. I would never even attempt therapy, because he won't even attempt to change unless he wants to. And he would have gone into therapy himself if he did. My $0.02. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/21 02:14 AM |
| 17 | Gabby's Friend Speaks paints a different picture of Brian- the controlling behavior and abuse started early!If you watch any of her IG and YT posts, she's always the one reaching towards him, leaning in for a kiss. It's never him. Like, it almost doesn't even occur to him to be physically affectionate, and she needs to constantly remind him. My heart just aches for the whole sad situation. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/21 01:17 AM |
| 3 | So we all know that men can’t stop talking about themselves, so I wanted to ask you ladies.."I may have done so we things I wasn't proud about..." Yeah, dude. You TOTALLY cheated. Like I accused you of. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/21 01:31 AM |
| 217 | Women need to stop pathologizing themselves and start listening to their intuition with menI'm wrecked. Mean, I knew he'd killed her either directly or by abandoning her. (Likely the former.) But the heavy media coverage kept me having a sliver of hope. WHY EVEN ARE MEN?!?! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/21 12:12 AM |
| 49 | Bad... But not unexpected... 💔😭😭😭 I knew she was dead, but that sliver of hope was still there. Oh, my GAWD I hope he ... not gonna say. Fuck! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/09/21 11:57 PM |
| 433 | All Women Should Watch This: How a LV, Violent Scrote Can Gaslight People (and You) into Believing He's the Victim(Anytime you have to deal with police, no matter how hard it is, try as much as possible to not be emotional. Many men will instantly seize upon that to delegitimize what you're saying and stigmatize you) Sadly, this can also work against you, too. "Obviously it can't be that serious because you'd be more upset if it were." Basically, they get you coming AND going. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/21 04:39 PM |
| 8 | NEVER 👏 STOP 👏 VETTING 👏*waves* Yep. This smells like murder. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/21 01:03 PM |
| 17 | I highly recommend this book for those of you who struggle with infatuation, codependency or feeling ‘addicted’ to someone. It goes into the neuroscience of limerence (romantic obsession) and how to get rid of it.Oh, wow! Kindle version is only $3.49 in the US! Purchased. :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/09/21 02:16 PM |
| 47 | i don’t know who james fell is, but i appreciate him (shared via The Female Lead) on instaJames Fell is a goddamned delight. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/21 03:45 PM |
| 25 | Eye-Openening49 and found this place just last year. Love all these ladies! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/07/21 01:08 PM |
| 13 | Queen Spitting Facts Once Again😂🤩Y'all done made me get a TikTok and follow her, lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/06/21 09:32 PM |
| 22 | If he still uses Snapchat, lovebombs you in the talking stage, and/or attempts to triangulate you against his ex/gf while seeing you or otherwise uses EtHiCaL nOnMoNoGaMy to justify why he needs multiple women, DISCARD HIM. Do not be the unwitting participant in any scrote’s harem 🤮Oh, I have never wished I had gold so hard until this comment! Huzzah! 🥇 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/06/21 05:57 PM |
| 62 | It’s lowkey empowering to embarrass old scrotes that try to approach you lol.this is my new fetish; don’t kink-shame me 💁🏾♀️ GURL! YAAAAAAASSSSSSSS!!!!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/05/21 02:36 PM |
| 325 | I appreciate FDS for being one of the few places to actually be FEMALE ONLYI find it hilarious how often we're accused of doing literally anything "for attention" and who's really trying to be the center of it all? I've learned so much about projection in my old age. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/21 01:25 PM |
| 8 | Relationships may take work and effort at times, but you should not be working and sacrificing just to get the BASICS (love, respect, consideration, etc). Know your line and what it will take for you to fold and walk away, and stick to it.Can we just say, I needed this info so, so many years ago. I was raised fundamentalist Christian. My mother perpetuated the whole "submissive wife" BS my entire life. As a result, after my father divorced her for his affair partner, my stepfather moved in on that snacky snack. Only to be a That Dude who never apologized, even when he was clearly wrong. My mother got shafted by the patriarchy. And half of my life, as well. My sister is enmeshed in an abusive relationship with 2 young kids. The cy… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/21 02:03 AM |
| 33 | It’s meant to be a joke but..."I don't know if she likes cake or bread flours." LVM, probably. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/21 12:43 AM |
| 22 | W/ a side of big purple and I’m set!I do this for my daughter. I have my own Netflix, Amazon Prime, Acorn TV, HBO Max, Starz, etc. My husband, bless him 🙄will forget to pay a bill once in a while and cancel ALL the premium TV just because. (Yes, I know I need to leave. Work in progress.) But my daughter will never again have to worry about losing her TV in the middle of Outlander. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/21 12:42 AM |
| 13 | What’s the most important thing you’ve learned since discovering FDS?This one is still tough for me. Admittedly, I'm Gen X, so I've been smothered by the patriarchy for a LONG time. Yes, I wasted a lot of time and emotional energy on stupid scrotes. But I'm now leveling up. I've switched up my diet, which will (hopefully) get me off all of these drugs I'm on, and I joined a gym. I will continue to get better, faster, stronger, smarter, and I've already become someone who deserves more and better. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/21 10:29 PM |
| 1 | Woman fully supports boyfriend for two years, paying all his bills, including his schooling, all so he can cheat on her with a classmate in the car his girlfriend gave him. Wait until you hear what he says at the end.Thank you!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/21 12:37 AM |
| 1 | Woman fully supports boyfriend for two years, paying all his bills, including his schooling, all so he can cheat on her with a classmate in the car his girlfriend gave him. Wait until you hear what he says at the end.What is this show? Does anyone know? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/01/21 10:54 PM |
| 27 | Promising Young Woman coming out this Christmas. The movie's about a woman's revenge on rapists and a reckoning of the social structures that perpetuate rape culture .Damn. Now I feel like my puppy just died. I was really looking forward to this, too. Hnngh. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/12/20 08:53 PM |
| 1 | I got an A in my graduate level accounting class so I decided to reward myself. Ft. my cat.TORTIE!! She's divine! Congrats, OP!! Flowers are bomb! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/20 05:54 PM |
| 7 | WHERE’S THE LIE?Girl, YAAAASSSSSS! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/20 01:20 AM |
| 2 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered November 1 2020Wow. I really needed this quote! Thank you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/11/20 12:37 AM |
| 90 | Why do men think their opinions are always wanted?And they complaining about women "not listening." Bitch, who asked you? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/11/20 10:25 PM |
| 3 | I accept.Girl, we've all been there, in varying degrees. We're here for you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/11/20 09:51 PM |
| 19 | Joining FDS, I found it a bit weird that men couldn't comment. Joining r/TwoXChromosomes, I realised how fucking good the rule isAlso, women made EVERY SINGLE MALE IN EXISTENCE. But, you know. 🤦♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/11/20 09:21 PM |
| 28 | Joining FDS, I found it a bit weird that men couldn't comment. Joining r/TwoXChromosomes, I realised how fucking good the rule isI belong to both subs as well. And I agree. With the TwoX sub, I never read more than the first few (up to ten at most) of the comments, whereas FDS I will usually read ALL the comments. I like that we have spaces now. But yes. The male commenters is tiresome and add nothing to the conversation anyway. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/11/20 09:14 PM |
| 1 | The movie trailer for Promising Young Women is what LVM think this sub is about, and I am there for it!!My hubs (HVM!) Saw the trailers and said, "This looks awesome!" If it ends stupid, I'mma be PISSED! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/10/20 01:38 AM |
| 7 | YesI love this, and I lean into it now. Before it was SO much cringe, but then I realized something. I realized that if you look back over your life and you have no regrets, you haven't grown as a person. I don't blast it from the rooftops, but I don't hide my embarrassment either. Lean into it and be amazed at how far you've come! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/10/20 04:11 PM |
| 10 | If you haven’t already, I urge you to watch the movie “The Glorias” about feminist icon Gloria Steinem. Kween shit all the way through 👏🏼Ooooh, thank you for this!! I'm watching it tonight! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/20 08:25 PM |
| 1 | PSA to all the young Queens on here: a man wanting to have sex with you is not a compliment, nor does it mean he cares about you as a person!I mean, there's an entire movie franchise about some dude fucking a pie, so..... But lord, do I wish I'd had this knowledge 30 years ago. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/20 05:05 PM |
| 3 | Women don’t cheat on HVMThis so much. Both Husband #1 & #2. Oh, to go back and do it all over again. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/20 05:10 PM |
| 1 | Something I got from The FDS Instagram page. How true is this? I’ve just realised why sex was so good with my NVM! because he had starved me for affection otherwise- literally! No hugs or kisses only in the bedroom and that’s exactly why it felt good.*raised-hand emoji* | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/20 04:47 PM |
| 5 | Lovely ladies- Do not EVER, EVER fall in love with ‘POTENTIAL’OMG how much I wish someone would've told me this ages ago. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/20 08:18 PM |
| 7 | One smart Grandma! I came across this post on LinkedIn, and the comments were full of PickMes and men saying that this is “misandrist and dishonest”. Ladies, looking out for yourself is in YOUR BEST INTEREST.I'm not advocating being dishonest. I was just trying to think of a way to keep that money from controlling hubby. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/05/20 01:38 AM |
| 4 | One smart Grandma! I came across this post on LinkedIn, and the comments were full of PickMes and men saying that this is “misandrist and dishonest”. Ladies, looking out for yourself is in YOUR BEST INTEREST.Don't claim that additional income. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/05/20 12:22 AM |
| 2 | Something I just randomly remembered made me smileHad me in the first half, NGL. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/05/20 12:37 AM |
| 11 | Rose Ditches Ed! | 90 Day Fiancé: Before The 90 DaysPiss off, frogface! She's so much better off without him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/05/20 10:50 PM |
| 30 | Rose Ditches Ed! | 90 Day Fiancé: Before The 90 DaysIsn't this the same frogface who was disgusted by her body hair?? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/05/20 09:45 PM |
| 5 | Had to share this one from HalseyThis is glorious. I've never heard of her, but this hit the spot. Thank you!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/05/20 11:22 PM |
| 1 | Notice how if someone calls a woman crazy, no one bats an eye. But call a man crazy, and it’s suddenly controversial.. A rant...OMG Queen!! Teach me your ways!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/05/20 12:25 AM |
| 1 | Ladies, what does FDS think of men who are into gaming?There are those who use gaming to escape reality instead of working on themselves. Then there are those who game to unwind and use it as any other hobby. My entire family games with the exception of me. (I get too frustrated when I can't make the things do what I want with the controllers.) I enjoy watching it, however. Collaborative play is loads of fun. It's about them and rather than the game. Is he using gaming to lose sleep so he can't go to work the next day, or to avoid the responsibility… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/05/20 12:16 AM |
| 9 | are these doubts normal?Another reason why I'd consider therapy for yourself to u Ravel why you felt chemistry with these "bad boys." It's not uncommon, because a whole lot of us had LVM fathers. And that spark felt familiar. I'd also suggest that he might be on the autism spectrum, and the thing is you're implying by his reciprocal conversations might just be a communication disparity. Now, I hate the "you need to communicate better" trope, because 99% of the time the guys are playing head games. But it might actually… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/05/20 12:05 AM |
| 16 | are these doubts normal?1, you're not a narcissist. If you were, you either wouldn't be asking or wouldn't care if you were. 2, We want to have that back and forth engagement with our partners, in and out of the bedroom. He is clearly not on your level, and you're missing that. There's nothing wrong with that. Your relationship lacks spark. I think if counseling doesn't work, it's quite possible that you two have grown apart and are just two different people now. It happens. You did nothing wrong. The question is, are … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/05/20 10:45 PM |
| 5 | Why is it so wrong for a woman to admit she’s good at something?+1 for The Power! I read it in around the same amount of time. It's fantastic. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/05/20 01:11 AM |
| 9 | Only a year, he' already an abusive NVM and she blames herselfSTOP DATING BOYS WHO ARE MEAN TO YOU!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/04/20 05:19 PM |
| 78 | Since joining FDS, I will no longer tolerate “rough sex”I wish I'd come to this conclusion in my 20s. I had all the shitty sex, for occasionally something that felt okay. I wound up with an HVM and it turned out to be the best sex of my life. I really wish I'd put my foot down a heck of a lot sooner. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/04/20 02:29 AM |
| 3 | Kristen Bell's husband says "America's sweetheart has some character defects" in a live interview with her... thoughts?OMG I couldn't make it past 3 minutes of this. He sounds JUST like my brother-in-law and I got nauseous. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/04/20 05:34 PM |
| 2 | Anyone else feel shame for not being traditionally “feminine” due to your assertiveness, courage and leader qualities?I am autistic, so I've always been blunt and speak concisely. There are plenty of men who appreciate not having to Wade through the fluff of "woman talk." I don't wear makeup except on extreme special circumstances. My husband looks toward me for my excitement and interaction when he wants to tell me about his day. Nothing about you is un-feminine. You are 100% woman, through and through. The right man will appreciate all of you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/20 01:35 AM |
| 3 | Who are some of the HVM in your life?I was just bragging on my husband to some people at work last week. He periodically buys me apples, as he does the grocery shopping. That has both good and bad attributes, but I digress. Recently, I'd mentioned how much of a pain it was to peel off the sticker on each one. I barely remember saying it, honestly. This last shop, he bought me apples and peeled the sticker off of each one. It really is both the big AND little things. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/20 12:41 AM |
| 36 | To men, even without sexual/romantic benefits, you are just accessory for their egoNope. I mean that he’s “friending” you because he wants to fuck you. Kind of the opposite of friendzone. You’re on,y fuckzoned if you’re NOT sleeping with them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/20 01:41 AM |
| 52 | To men, even without sexual/romantic benefits, you are just accessory for their egoHoney, you e been fuckzoned. I’m so, so sorry. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/20 12:47 AM |
| 4 | Are HVM always the most attractive men in the dating pool?I met my husband after 22 years when we knew each other in high school. We dated in HS for about 6 months, which was like marriage back when we were 15/16. We did not have sex. But we got relatively close. If he’d been someone I’d fucked in HS, I wouldn’t have given him the time of day when we connected again decades later. One of the major things that contributed to my attraction was his voice, sense of humor, and the fact that he’s So Fucking Good at everything. Need your computer fixed? = Hub… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/20 01:00 AM |
| 3 | Any HVW daughters of Pick me mothers?I would ask her the next time she mentions these things if she’d say them to you if you were a man. And also ask her why you’re not enough on your own. A lot of it might have to do with internalized misogyny, and she doesn’t even realize she’s perpetuating this myth. Don’t disagree with her outright, but ask questions. Just to clarify. You may wind up changing her mind and her Pick Me beliefs as well. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/20 11:16 PM |
| 1 | So strange seeing it from the LVM perspective. He literally doesn't care about her at all.Oh, dear god. This poor girl. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/20 10:33 PM |
| 7 | If You Can’t Find a Spouse Who Supports Your Career, Stay Single - HBRThis was a fantastic article. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/20 05:50 PM |
| 3 | [Advice] How to keep cool around a guy I likeSo. Not sure if this method works for everyone... but I would first masturbate. Get that shit squared. And then... Imagine all the hidden things that would turn you off, and apply them to him. Chronic halitosis. (My girls and I have a saying. All Hotties Have Halitosis!) Toenail fungus. He picks his nose and eats it. Skid marks in his knickers. Whatever would give you pause to learn about someone after you’ve formed this Holier Than Thou opinion about him. And by all means, invest in a good vibr… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/20 02:43 AM |
| 17 | Queens. Help me not relapse.It also helps to remember that 100% of attraction is chemical. It is a very strong chemical. And now you understand why drug addicts have such an awful time getting clean. But it’s not your fault. It’s your stupid brain doing what it does. You can see the feelings, be like, “Oh, that’s interesting,” and let them dissipate. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/20 12:03 AM |
| 4 | Should I lose the weight before I start dating again?So, 26yo and only 12 lbs. overweight? Seriously? Girl. Own your awesome! Trust me, you’ve already put in WAY more effort and energy for some faceless, nameless male than 90% of them do. Ever. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/20 12:00 AM |
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