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14

Go on the date and ask if she wants to come over at some point. If she’s attracted to you, she wants it too.
/r/seduction20/09/25 05:15 PM
3

Casual drinks at a cocktail lounge or brewery
/r/seduction07/09/25 06:27 PM
24

Match her energy. If she’s replying, don’t wait a day or two. She’s gonna lose interest and hook up with another dude.
/r/seduction08/07/25 06:13 PM
2

Estoy interesado, mándamelo
/r/seduction03/07/25 05:34 AM
9

Bruh 4 days, she’s gonna assume you lost interest and go fuck some other dude 💀
/r/seduction19/06/25 10:25 PM
2

Why do you care? This sort of insecurity does not bode well for your confidence around women Free is good enough, but paid is worth it if you’re very good looking or have a highly optimized profile I’ve had luck using Hinge, I can say it’s better than bumble. Can’t compare to tinder though since I’m not on it.
/r/seduction15/06/25 05:11 PM
0

I know plenty of people who met on apps and ended up in committed relationships. Plenty of bad fish on there, yes, but not all of them. If you see red flags, then move on of course.
/r/seduction09/06/25 07:32 PM
14

Amen heard so many first hand stories from girls about tinder/hinge dates pulling up and just trying to smash in the car on the first date. The bar is very low.
/r/seduction09/06/25 01:52 AM
2

Drinks then, happy middle ground
/r/seduction24/05/25 06:59 PM
1

No don’t do that, they can detect vpns and will flag your account. You need a new ip address.
/r/seduction20/05/25 06:39 AM
2

I got around the ban. They track everything from your precise location, to hardware id, to ip. You’re fucked if you get banned. You can’t used the same phone, number, email, photos - all of it needs to change. Once you have changed all of those, create the new account in a different location. I created mine in a different country.
/r/seduction20/05/25 03:37 AM
4

Until she gives you the “what are we” talk (and make damn sure it’s her asking to be official, not you), you can date as many other women as you want. You owe her absolutely nothing until she shows commitment, because there are too many girls out there who are just looking for short term flings or also casually dating multiple guys. Either listen to me, or learn it on your skin the hard way.
/r/seduction28/04/25 08:22 PM
8

I wish I could upvote this twice. Not denying being in shape helps, but it’s absolutely useless if you can’t meet girls or can’t talk to them if you do.
/r/seduction13/04/25 07:51 PM
1

I like the idea of a pre-date phone call or video call. It can build a little more investment from her side, especially if you’re decently attractive yourself. Otherwise you’re just a profile on the internet to her. Definitely move off the app after establishing you both want to go on a date. The day of you should be talking via text or ig. Not clear if you did this. Realistically, it’s largely out of your control though. I was talking about this with a girl and she said she will flake even if s…
/r/seduction13/04/25 06:17 PM
15

Yeah well a good job has 1000 candidates within minutes of posting, do they hire all of them? Interview all of them even?
/r/seduction08/04/25 03:51 AM
3

Pregonte
/r/seduction17/03/25 01:37 AM
1

You can still game even if you can’t bring her back to your place…the way I see it, you can everything up to that point and then when you do move out you’ll be ready to go
/r/seduction03/03/25 04:56 PM
1

💀 I mean it sounds cool, but I can see it evolving to this like Bumble Friends
/r/seduction28/02/25 06:08 PM
1

Tell us about yourself. Are you shy, insecure, unconfident? Introverted? You mentioned snapping and cold approaching girls…not saying it’s wrong but brother warm approach is never easier than in high school…don’t go for pussy right away either, get to know these girls. Join clubs, volunteer, frisbee, whatever. High school and uni are the easiest times in your life where you see the same girls every day take advantage, and let personality do the work. Be a good listener, be patient. Hang out with…
/r/seduction25/02/25 07:18 AM
5

I did it exactly once and I was shitfaced so can’t claim any skill on my part
/r/seduction21/02/25 01:19 AM
1

Heh check my last post, I described it. It was two girls at a bar and it was like they didn’t really understand why I was talking to them and were slightly uncomfortable…I stumbled through some awkward questions to which they replied unenthusiastically and then bailed even more awkwardly. Not my first cold approach but I got caught by surprise by how bad it was received.
/r/seduction20/02/25 06:26 AM
8

One thing to be aware is despite the success stories you may see, when you cold approach the likeliest reaction is “why the fuck are you talking to me” lol. Not verbally, but the vibe. The onus is on you to lead the convo in a competent and interesting way for the first few minutes. Don’t expect the girl to be overjoyed you approached. I relearned this the hard way recently lol.
/r/seduction20/02/25 03:24 AM
20

Like Hinge but for wing men 😂 Would be interesting tbh. Could have something like an Uber rating, to weed out the bad ones. Maybe with a time trend too, so one shitty night out doesn’t ruin a guy’s score forever.
/r/seduction20/02/25 02:19 AM
22

Get a relationship I’m not here to be a fuckboy, I just want to be able to put myself out there with the best skillset so I have a chance to meet someone I want rather than settle for whatever comes my way
/r/seduction19/02/25 09:48 PM
4

The level of commitment attractive girls on dating have is just ridiculously low. I can match with 8-9’s fairly regularly, by asking something about their profile or sending a funny reply to their prompt. I shoot the shit for a bit, she’s replying. I steer the conversation towards a date, she stops replying or agrees and then flakes. This is how it goes 95% of the time. Less attractive will agree to meet up more frequently.
/r/seduction18/02/25 08:13 PM
9

Did you go solo, or with a wing?
/r/seduction18/02/25 01:00 AM
5

maybe try to jerking one out before you go out, get some of that post nut clarity going
/r/seduction17/02/25 09:06 PM
2

Why would you sabotage your chances with the 10 for a 4 in the same venue? You need a bonk and stint in horny jail dude
/r/seduction17/02/25 08:51 PM
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Man I’ll be honest, I don’t meet women in situations I can easily approach in my day to day life. And I just can’t bring myself to cold approach in situations where I do see them, like grocery shopping, at the mall, getting coffee. I feel like I have to though, I have no choice here other than dying alone.
/r/seduction12/02/25 06:33 AM
1

Bro where do you approach to get those kinda numbers
/r/seduction12/02/25 05:24 AM
1

What would those be
/r/seduction11/02/25 05:44 AM
11

The types of girls who will go for you because you own a house are not the kind you want to date. Unless you do, then by all means.
/r/seduction07/02/25 07:15 AM
2

Happens to all of us, next time chill and match her energy or put in even less ideally
/r/seduction04/02/25 06:55 AM
4

What a great comment, I need some to bitch slap me in the face and read this to me every time I go out
/r/seduction31/01/25 02:43 AM
3

Night game means in a social environment, like a club or bar where talking to strangers is very common. Day game means approaching strangers in public in places like grocery stores, malls, the street, the beach, etc. It’s usually less welcomed/accepted I feel like, which is where my hesitation comes from.
/r/seduction29/01/25 08:28 PM
2

It’s not necessarily about me, if anything my concern is they would be thinking about the girls I approach…anyway I’m clearly overthinking this from the replies and need to just chill
/r/seduction29/01/25 07:32 PM
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You’re right, this is the single biggest thing holding me back from approaching…at a club or bar? No problem I’ll approach, but a stranger on the street or at the mall? It’s like I feel everybody is watching me.
/r/seduction29/01/25 07:10 PM
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I think I’ve seen you comment on this before, that’s fucked up sorry that happened to you dude.
/r/seduction29/01/25 07:51 AM
4

I generally agree with you, but there is a reason why Seattle is often mentioned on this topic. It’s a well documented phenomenon that geographically Northern areas are anti-social. The PNW falls into that category, it only gets worse the further North you go. You won’t understand unless you’ve lived in these places. People do not like strangers approaching for any reason. The default reaction is “get the fuck away from me”. This applies to day game, night game is more welcoming of course.
/r/seduction29/01/25 06:34 AM
2

I like yo energy dude
/r/seduction28/01/25 09:29 AM
4

The only L’s I take are from myself, from being such a pathetic pussy who can’t work up the courage to approach girls because I’m scared of what others might think I think I might actually have some success if I ever grow a fucking pair, that’s what keeps me going I guess
/r/seduction28/01/25 02:14 AM
1

They won’t reach out…very very small chance. But I agree, it’s not healthy to cut people out of your life because they romantically rejected you.
/r/seduction26/01/25 03:03 AM
1

Lol that opening sentence took me out
/r/seduction26/01/25 02:59 AM
1

Yeah other advice I’ve seen says women dont want to see pro photos because it’s not authentic
/r/seduction23/01/25 02:26 AM
2

Yup, I’ve been going to the gym for 10 years, not once has it helped with women…the only thing that does is talking to them, and being bold. Preferably outside of dating apps.
/r/seduction19/01/25 07:07 PM
1

What country are you from? I’m from Canada, and it also feels strange to talk to strangers here…in the same situation as you, always pussying out and continuing to be a slave to dating apps. So sick of it, fuck it, I’m gonna just do it this weekend. You should too.
/r/seduction17/01/25 08:53 AM
5

Gotta get a girl to nurture and protect a family first tho don’t you
/r/seduction15/01/25 06:12 PM
1

I’ve had so many flakes and rejections I’m just getting numb at this point. I don’t care if even a hot girl rejects me anymore, it’s just another one in a long, long line. I’m just exhausted, and I can’t care anymore. Maybe this is good though, I am no longer clingy. You just gotta get used to it dude.
/r/seduction12/01/25 09:05 AM
78

Unc needs to chill with that 💀
/r/seduction12/01/25 12:50 AM
15

You’ve been rejected in the past, and getting “revenge” feels good. Also you may have problems with intimacy/vulnerability that cause you to avoid attachment.
/r/seduction09/01/25 05:58 PM
1

There’s no right answer, to some girls it is, to some it isn’t
/r/seduction08/01/25 05:45 AM
1

Amen, in my (not very extensive) experience, cold approaches that have gone anywhere, the girl became receptive and engaged within the first few exchanges. As for this guy in particular not only was it weird to keep pushing when he wasn’t getting any positive energy back, but also the escalation was uncalibrated too. Going from “hey whatsup” to “are you free later” within seconds and without positive feedback is just bad skills.
/r/seduction07/01/25 09:05 AM
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I get why you’re saying this, it seems like it could be offensive. But i find in real life, people really don’t get offended over race like on twitter. They like talking about their ethnicity and nationality, also because it’s talking about themselves.
/r/seduction05/01/25 12:50 AM
5

You mean career wise?
/r/seduction28/12/24 10:37 AM
1

They only help if the girl is already attracted to you. If you personally enjoy a scent, by all means go for it, but it won’t make any difference to your game (too much or a bad scent will actually harm your success).
/r/seduction26/12/24 10:45 PM
1

This. I think 95% of women go out to clubs to have fun with their friends. They’re not uncalibrated testosterone machines like us. Sure there’s a minority of divorcees or whatever actively tryna fuck, but they’re not your first choice by a mile anyway. Unless you are very attractive or stand out in some other way, you’re fighting a losing battle already.
/r/seduction23/12/24 02:50 AM
3

Man online girls are there for fun and attention, meet a real girl
/r/seduction20/12/24 09:24 AM
1

Well yeah, hence why it’s extremely hard to have success on there if you’re not exceptionally good looking
/r/seduction17/12/24 12:03 AM
9

Because it’s a competition and you’re being outcompeted by other men. Just like in the real world really. Other reasons: 1. She is busy or has notifications paused 2. It’s a bot (i’m certain a large percentage of profiles are fake/bots) 3. She uses matches for attention/seeing what she can get, but has no intention to actually date guys on then Tbh, these are all unlikely if the trend is that you can’t get success on the app. Then it’s pretty clear you’re just not coming in first.
/r/seduction16/12/24 10:24 PM
1

Exact same experience in Vancouver tbh, if Seattle is even worse that’s just brutal.
/r/seduction14/12/24 06:58 AM
1

There’s no secret to it…you just have to leave the house and try social activities. Things where you talk or do activities with others, and most importantly where you have repeated contact with the same people. This is key to building a connection. One and done meetups are nearly useless. This is not easy, especially as an adult. You come home exhausted from work? You gotta force yourself to leave the house. You like sleeping in on weekends? Get up early and join that running club. Hermits end u…
/r/seduction06/12/24 06:08 PM
1

Specifically for physical attractiveness, people also can’t rate themselves or others honestly. We use a condensed scale from 5-10, where 5 is you’re fucked, 7 is average, and 9-10 are dimes. My brother, average is 5. Most of us are 4-6’s, 8’s are hot as fuck and 10s are supermodels.
/r/seduction03/12/24 06:30 PM
8

Because my instagram sucks ass and has few followers, whereas it’s much easier to put together a dating app profile
/r/seduction30/11/24 02:14 AM
4

No, you have to realize just how low priority you are for a woman on a dating app. She has hundreds of options. Expect 99% of matches to go nowhere. Even if you make plans the flake rate is high. Until she is sitting in front of you, don’t consider her a real opportunity.
/r/seduction29/11/24 05:38 PM
5

I didn’t know how to dance for the longest time, and i still danced and made out with plenty of girls in clubs. You’re not supposed to do anything crazy, it’s not dancing with the stars. Just make eye contact or get her attention. Reach your hand towards her. If she takes it, raise her hand over her head and give her a spin. Then grab hands and step or groove on the spot to the 4 beat rhythm (99% of club music has a 1-2-3-4 beat). Then spin her around again as before, but only halfway, stopping …
/r/seduction28/11/24 06:07 AM
3

Hahahaha this is one of those moments you look back on 10 years later and ask yourself “how the fuck was i so blind” She’s down 100% Can i ask tho how did you broach this topic of her sex life? Idk how to start convos around that
/r/seduction27/11/24 10:39 PM
5

That sounds nice, but how do you make such a girl chase you then
/r/seduction27/11/24 04:08 AM
3

This seems like the best reply. You don’t need to comment on her being younger. Just maintain your masculine frame and smirk while you say that. This will make it clear you don’t give a fuck about the age difference, and also be flirty in a non-creepy way whereas commenting on her age can seem that way.
/r/seduction25/11/24 05:28 PM
1

Salsa (and social dancing in general) doesn’t count for much, girls will say yes because they want to dance not because they think anything of you. Ime they only say no if you’ve shown them your dance skills are well below their expectations. The real goal/challenge is to create a vibe while you dance. I’ve seen it in action, where a (very skilled) dancer ropes in a girl and hogs her the whole night, teacher her new moves, pulling impressive ones. It’s clear they are flirting, and she is into it…
/r/seduction24/11/24 11:27 PM
7

Past relationships? Isn’t bringing her exes to mind the last thing you wanna do
/r/seduction24/11/24 11:17 PM
2

As the wise saying goes, he who hesitates masturbates. But it’s all good, we also need yo learn to resist feelings of scarcity/jealousy. Plenty of other women out there. But ideally, make your move quickly so you don’t have to worry about this.
/r/seduction24/11/24 02:34 AM
3

Depends. If you are vibing flirtatiously, the time is now. Because you must realize, you are in a competition with other men. She could be swept away by someone else tomorrow. Happened to me just the other day, in fact, in a matter of minutes.
/r/seduction24/11/24 12:21 AM
1

Ah okay, yeah that’s unfortunate. I had the same experience, total mismatch, with a Hinge date. On to the next, and good for you for the cold approach.
/r/seduction23/11/24 04:18 PM
1

Why do you say you weren’t compatible? Is that sentiment from her side or yours?
/r/seduction23/11/24 10:25 AM
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Don’t even need to read, wrong. Having been in a relationship even after a fallout is infinitely better than the soul crushing desolation of never having been in one. It’s like telling a blind person sight isn’t all that great because you saw a dumpster today. Or money isn’t that great when you’re starving in the gutter. You’ve experienced ups and downs of a relationship. Disappointment and pain, yes, but also beauty and ecstasy. Knowing someone else cared for you. Having someone to have dinner …
/r/seduction21/11/24 09:13 AM
1

Depends. In a serious committed relationship where it comes out of the blue? No way, she going to hell for that. Things are on the rocks and I’ve already checked out? I’d be more understanding for sure but only because inside i already don’t care
/r/seduction20/11/24 05:52 PM
2

Go out at 4am? No it’s not worth it, it’s way past socializing hours. Everyone still out is either drunk/high out of their minds, and tired as hell too. Honestly, where I live night game hours are up until 1 am, after that everyone has either already paired off or is too drunk.
/r/seduction17/11/24 03:46 AM
1

There is a correlation, yes. Although there is an important exception. The important caveat is that your profile might not be representative of you. It’s not you on there, it’s a collection of pictures, an avatar, a brand. If your pictures are not flattering to you (and let’s be honest many guys have awful pictures), you’re not gonna get likes or an accurate feel. And a picture needs to be more than looks for a man, it needs to show you have a life and an interesting one at that. You can’t just …
/r/seduction16/11/24 04:50 AM
1

One thing that is frustrating about dating apps is that it’s hard to know if you’ll really vibe romantically until you meet. So you waste so much time getting a match that agrees and you meet her in person and you just do not gel at all. It’s a necessary evil to be on these apps, but if I had a way to meet women regularly in real life, i’d never set eyes on them again.
/r/seduction14/11/24 07:59 AM
1

How about 6 years
/r/seduction14/11/24 07:55 AM
3

Anything less than a total 100% in yes from a girl is a goodbye from her side. I mean think about it from your perspective too: if you want to hang out with a girl would you put her on delivered for days and make it seem you don’t give a flying fuck. The only thing you can do in these cases is give her distance, maybe she will come back maybe not. That aside, you had a chance on the dates, and clearly something didn’t stick. You must improve your execution. What did you guys do? Where did you ta…
/r/seduction12/11/24 06:40 AM
2

Don’t be so hard on yourself, clubs can be an easy environment, where you grab a girl’s hand and make out with her all night. But if you don’t fit the bill of the guy they’re looking for, or you’re not in the right headspace, it can be incredibly tough. It’s very much an animalistic and unforgiving environment, where looks and daring matter a lot. If you lack looks, you can make up for it with confidence and daring, but expect rejection. Like I said, it’s not a forgiving environment, it’s an env…
/r/seduction11/11/24 06:46 PM
76

100% women avoid us like the plague when we behave like that.
/r/seduction09/11/24 10:31 AM
1

Gothenburg sweden?
/r/seduction06/11/24 07:15 PM
2

Can’t say I’ve been catfished but my god the flakiness of women online is next level. I’m pretty sure most of them are just there for attention. 10/10 times i’ve made better connections with better looking women in person.
/r/seduction05/11/24 04:02 PM
12

Because the simping decreases sharply
/r/seduction30/10/24 11:50 PM
44

That’s a better analogy but you underestimate how down bad us men are…50 for a bj is a steal 9/10 would take And that’s the difference between men and women, women can afford to be picky. They are evolutionarily conditioned to do so. Men are not.
/r/seduction30/10/24 05:59 PM
3

6’5 lol bro could ask them their favourite toaster model and girls would be into it
/r/seduction28/10/24 07:58 AM
3

I don’t ask when I do it. I usually walk up say hi or whatever, and then just extend my hand or take hers and giver her a spin and then we’re dancing.
/r/seduction28/10/24 04:28 AM
1

Hold up you had her do what 😂😂
/r/seduction25/10/24 04:33 PM
3

Lmao that’s the whole point of this subreddit
/r/seduction25/10/24 02:12 AM
1

That’s unfair wtf, unless you did something really fucked up or committed a crime. Did they fire her too?
/r/seduction22/10/24 08:18 PM
49

My brother, i only want to learn seduction so i can get a girlfriend. I’m not in this to be a manslut.
/r/seduction22/10/24 06:54 AM
2

Dancing where, just at a club or bar, or actual dance like salsa, swing, etc?
/r/seduction20/10/24 05:05 PM
1

If there is a concrete plan to meet up and be together permanently in the near future, that changes the story. I would continue to keep in contact, just make sure you don’t get in too deep in case things don’t work out.
/r/seduction16/10/24 08:26 PM
1

Log distance sucks. Sustaining attraction and emotional investment without physical presence in someone’s life is near impossible. At least for me, I refuse to get invested in someone who isn’t there for me, whether by choice or not. I suggest you learn to let go, you’ll both be happier.
/r/seduction16/10/24 05:11 AM
5

That sounds like good advice thanks
/r/seduction15/10/24 05:12 AM
5

6ft, athletic build (built but not steroidal), white My type is attractive lol, to use the scale it’s usually 8-9’s. 10’s give me too much anxiety though. In the past though i’ve had the most success with asian women.
/r/seduction15/10/24 03:39 AM
5

The second part is true, but don’t count on meeting any “beautiful” women at dance. Ime it’s mostly middle aged divorcees.
/r/seduction14/10/24 03:17 AM
2

The issue with pro photos is they look like pro photos. Girls want an authentic look into your life, not a manufactured polished version of you. One good pro photos of you up close is a good idea, and like you say will work if your other pictures suck ass. A portfolio of them is not. Honestly, i wish photographers would learn to take more natural shots. It needs to look like a friend with a good phone camera happened to take a pic of you out and about. Not super low f-stop so the bokeh is insane…
/r/seduction12/10/24 10:06 PM
7

Yeah it’s funny girls saying they want 6ft or taller, like a 5’10 guy won’t be fucking towering over them anyway
/r/seduction10/10/24 04:49 AM
1

Yes go on Hinge, if you want to see which league you’re in (based 95% on looks only). If you don’t get 10s of likes a day as a man, you’re not in the same league as the 9s/10s you see on there. If you get a few likes a week from lower than 7’s, maybe a rare 8, you’re average. That being said online dating takes away personality from a man, removing a major factor in his attractiveness. Yeah you can have cool pics showing hobbies or whatever but women (and men) predominantly swipe based on looks …
/r/seduction09/10/24 04:54 PM
1

Like what, comment on her style, jewelry, vibe?
/r/seduction09/10/24 03:44 PM
3

Well i am an npc
/r/seduction08/10/24 06:47 PM
3

Yeah don’t have high expectations even if she does it’s gonna be a generic low effort “hey”. Bumble markets itself as empowering because women make the “first move” but it’s bs lol, the man still has to reply to the low effort “hey” with something interesting or nothing comes of it.
/r/seduction08/10/24 03:13 PM
14

What kind of opener have you used most successfully? Direct (i.e. i thought you looked cute), indirect (i.e. comment on the environment around you), or sneaky (i.e. asking if she can take a picture of you)?
/r/seduction08/10/24 01:58 PM
14

Don’t feel bad, the amount of effort girls put into dating apps is even lower than texting
/r/seduction08/10/24 01:46 PM
2

Everything worth it in life takes struggle and pain, learn this while you’re young
/r/seduction08/10/24 07:26 AM
3

Ok so do you want to change that or are you content
/r/seduction08/10/24 01:54 AM
4

You’re right it won’t solve big problems in your life like depression, hating your career, self-esteem issues. But you’re also so wrong, it will make you happy. Unless you’ve been passed over by women your entire life like some of us, you have no idea what kind of hurt that is. To be judged as not being worthy of affection and having someone to care about. To be alone constantly in everything you do, everywhere you go. To be there on Saturday night eating your sad fucking dinner alone. To ultima…
/r/seduction08/10/24 01:52 AM
9

Well they do lay pipe for a living
/r/seduction05/10/24 06:48 PM
1

How about saying she’s cute?
/r/seduction29/09/24 09:01 PM
51

If you hate money do it. Just be clear though, they want free drinks, not you.
/r/seduction28/09/24 07:45 PM
10

Which goes to show it’s a 50/50, some girls welcome it some absolutely hate it lol
/r/seduction26/09/24 06:09 PM
36

Hobby groups are very hit and miss. You spend a lot of time and money potentially for the off chance there may be one attractive girl your age. From my experience not good odds. Online dating works tbh, even if you’re averagely attractive and have great photos. Has to be the right app tho. I get zero matches on bumble. Switched to hinge, boom 6 matches in a day. Cold approach is the best option. I see attractive girls all the time while shopping or doing errands. It’s the least costly in terms o…
/r/seduction25/09/24 04:30 PM
0

I don’t leave the house
/r/seduction25/09/24 04:16 PM
8

No lol, first the classes in my area are middle-aged 40+ ladies. Good if you like cougars i guess. Second nowhere plays bachata except bachata events. You can’t dance it at a random bar or club. No girls know it anyway. Where it has helped is bringing it up on dates, girls always want me to teach them it after. And once you’re dancing at one of each other’s place, well the rest is smooth sailing from there.
/r/seduction25/09/24 12:41 AM
47

I’m still not sure if i’m attractive lmao. I’ve had girls i’ve connected with tell me i’m handsome, even guy friends have said i stand a good chance with attractive girls and they’re surprised at my lack of success. But then i’ve never had women openly thirst over me, or approach me, and i get zero success on dating apps. So i really don’t know wtf is going on.
/r/seduction23/09/24 01:14 AM
1

How do you use that? Dm random girls??
/r/seduction22/09/24 07:08 PM
1

It’s not weird, especially these days. But if you do want to, it’s probably time to start doing something about it, or you’re gonna blink and wake up at 25 in the same situation.
/r/seduction19/09/24 09:19 PM
2

Nah dude, i don’t personally do this but i can see the appeal if just going to a bar to hang out after work and maybe strike up a friendly convo with someone it ain’t even gotta be sexual. Or if you just need to get out of the house on a friday night.
/r/seduction19/09/24 05:49 AM
8

🤣
/r/seduction11/09/24 12:41 PM
22

I’ve done it at a museum, but i started with totally non-sexual normal human being conversation about the surroundings. Got a date from it.
/r/seduction08/09/24 10:04 AM
7

Be bold, dominant. You got her number? Make a plan and invite her to join. You’re crossing the street with her? Take her hand. Don’t let go. You’re having a romantic walk at sunset after dinner? Stop, place your hand on her chin, turn her head toward you and go for the kiss. You’re making out heavily, suggest going somewhere private. And so on. Women want you to do these kind of assertive/bold things, they will never be the ones to initiate it. Hesitate or show lack of confidence in these situat…
/r/seduction08/09/24 10:00 AM
1

Seduction is the door to relationships. The advice here tells you how to learn to attract. How you choose to use it is up to you. You can choose to be a manslut, or you can choose to use it to find a partner. For your second point, yeah some people have a higher hill to climb due to the cards they start with. No question it’s more difficult. Getting over your fear of rejection is the most important prerequisite you have to fulfill in order to be able to seduce. That alone will open whole new wor…
/r/seduction07/09/24 09:59 AM
2

That last part is so true. My opener was a comment on the weather lmao. We vibed right away, even went on a date.
/r/seduction06/09/24 07:22 PM
73

Did she wear the harely quinn costume
/r/seduction06/09/24 11:36 AM
1

I did my dude…maybe it’s just my city idk but the crowd is not ideal if in your 20s
/r/seduction28/08/24 07:35 AM
1

Except the women are 50
/r/seduction28/08/24 04:08 AM
2

Nothing, ever. On god, a woman has never approached me, i must be cooked 💀
/r/seduction20/08/24 01:33 AM
3

Listen, good for you dude, but she cold approached you not the other way around. The average experience will not be so easy.
/r/seduction05/08/24 08:40 PM
37

Brings to mind a quote: “a lack of suffering is a form of suffering”
/r/seduction04/08/24 06:45 PM
10

Ok but are you having any luck with these 10s
/r/seduction27/07/24 08:08 AM
8

No they will not Unless you’re Hercules
/r/seduction24/07/24 01:34 AM
3

Ehh I feel like you do gotta focus on sexuality and escalation. Not right away, but if you do gay best friend the whole time, you’re gonna end up in the gay best friend zone.
/r/seduction22/07/24 08:57 PM
7

I don’t know if i live in the same reality as you guys sometimes, when i try shit like this i just mildly annoyed looks and she will turn to face the other away
/r/seduction12/07/24 04:49 AM
0

Alcohol can do it, my one and only ONS I was shitfaced and not able to finish lmao, and she was my age and hot
/r/seduction11/07/24 02:41 PM
6

“It’s not cheating if it’s a bro” - Socrates
/r/seduction08/07/24 08:54 PM
5

🤝
/r/seduction28/06/24 05:18 PM
10

Can confirm i was the hobo
/r/seduction28/06/24 04:27 PM
16

If you don’t go out of your way to leave the house and meet new people, you will never escape your situation.
/r/seduction18/06/24 04:23 PM
1

LJBF? Long John Boyfriend?
/r/seduction11/06/24 08:33 PM
2

Thank you for the advice. I’m a software engineer. I struggle to find meaning in my work, and I’m not really passionate about computers or tech tbh. I came for the money and wlb (didn’t get the money though but that’s another story).
/r/seduction08/06/24 08:16 AM
13

It was the avatar bro 😂😂
/r/seduction27/05/24 03:07 AM
60

Im assuming you’re a girl? Basically, we don’t want to appear creepy. It’s a very fine line, if you execute escalation in a timid or uncertain way, you creep the girl out. If you do it perfectly but she’s not comfortable for whatever reason, you’re creepy. I’ll put it more bluntly than you’ve perhaps heard it. Most of us younger guys grew up at a time where sexual assault and rape accusations flew around like never before. I’m not making a social commentary here on those things. I just want to s…
/r/seduction27/05/24 02:30 AM
1

I personally haven’t tried, but I know people that met that way so it must be possible
/r/seduction26/05/24 10:18 AM
16

I’ve heard tennis/badminton meetups can work too
/r/seduction26/05/24 05:57 AM
20

You should’ve approached while waiting at the station, that was your chance: you’re both sitting around, doing nothing. Easy to make an innocuous comment and not come across weird in that situation. Instead, approaching while leaving the station meant: you approached from behind, she realized you must have been watching her on the train probably, her mind was on going somewhere/leaving and you interrupted. You see what I’m saying? The stakes feel much lower in the first case.
/r/seduction19/05/24 08:04 PM
3

Uh how about “hey pal we’re on a date here, take a hike”
/r/seduction18/05/24 01:11 AM
2

If we fucked and were past the 3rd date, sure. Otherwise no. It’s on her completely too, totally not cool to ask someone you don’t know well for money.
/r/seduction17/05/24 06:24 PM
19

If she asks to go to your bedroom to see your Bionicle collection, she probably doesn’t want to see your Bionicle collection 😢
/r/seduction17/05/24 08:35 AM
1

In your context specifically, it can only help since it’s the local language and it shows you respect the culture. In other contexts, learning a language to impress women is stupid as hell. It’s something you should only do for a long term gf or wife. Why? Because it’s hard as fuck, and is a mildly interesting novelty to other women who speak the language at best. In fact I’ve found showing interest in her background/language is a bad move and a vibe killer. Spanish skills won’t get her into bed…
/r/seduction14/05/24 05:20 AM
19

Hey at least he’s no 2 pump chump
/r/seduction11/05/24 05:25 PM
6

You either relegate her to the streets where she belongs or go along with her plan to use you for a free meal
/r/seduction08/05/24 09:10 AM
5

Forgot to say no homo, fucked a dude, what do i do now
/r/seduction07/05/24 04:11 PM
3

When i feel i’ve made up for the complete absence of affection and adventure of the past 8 years of my life
/r/seduction07/05/24 01:15 AM
1

No, being a decent person is neither required nor enough to attract women. Confidence, assertiveness, the ability to flirt and make her life more interesting, these matter more in my experience.
/r/seduction02/05/24 03:38 PM
1

It’s a good book but i’ll be honest it didn’t change anything for me. I tried being less needy and more vulnerable, the main advice of the book, women still aren’t interested.
/r/seduction30/04/24 09:03 AM
5

Tell me how to get one like this
/r/seduction26/04/24 07:06 AM
13

Because i’m down extremely bad
/r/seduction26/04/24 12:54 AM
18

You’re right 😞 But would still be cool to fuck them
/r/seduction25/04/24 09:22 PM
7

Man fuck it im starting the solo clubbing this weekend, tired of my lame ass friends who never wanna go out with their 70 year old stay in a saturday ahhh
/r/seduction25/04/24 08:50 PM
6

Got it, wearing Winnie the Pooh costume to the club
/r/seduction24/04/24 04:43 PM
3

May this be the year we all reset those counters to 0
/r/seduction19/04/24 05:23 PM
2

Nope still no luck
/r/seduction19/04/24 05:22 PM
42

Yeah didn’t get laid in the 4 hours since i posted that
/r/seduction19/04/24 08:05 AM
49

Try 5 years man. All i can say is take action or years easily go by with no change.
/r/seduction19/04/24 03:12 AM
3

A minority from my experience. Even if they say they don’t at some level most will judge you on it.
/r/seduction15/04/24 04:21 AM
5

Most young women probably do care. Doesn’t mean you need a bumping instagram, but having one won’t hurt whereas not having one has a high chance of hurting.
/r/seduction15/04/24 02:24 AM
1

Man i feel like all of these are pointless as long as i don’t have the last one. Owning/renting your own place is impossible in my city unless you got parents paying for you. Is living with a roommate better than at home though when it comes to this?
/r/seduction14/04/24 08:43 PM
8

Every man must find the answer to that on their own journey through life
/r/seduction14/04/24 07:44 AM
7

Look if she’s not making out with them then either they’re friendzoned or too pussy to make a move on her. In either case the prize is there for your taking. As for the group physically closing her off yeah that’s tricky to navigate. I would try to strike up a conversation with someone on the outside of the circle again to build rapport and leapfrog to the girl you like later. If the vibe is right at the club, if you’re just dancing near them and having a blast you can draw them in to join your …
/r/seduction13/04/24 08:33 AM
53

The guys in her group are friendzoned to the tits, don’t let that phase you. Strike up convos with the guys actually, bro out with them. Build rapport with them, the bro sentiment is powerful once activated and they will make you part of the group. Then talk to the girls and eventually your target.
/r/seduction13/04/24 06:24 AM
15

That’s actually scary how 520 weekends sounds like so little
/r/seduction12/04/24 05:45 PM
4

If you don’t mind having 7 fingered hands
/r/seduction06/04/24 01:49 AM
5

Well it’s not cool of her for sure, but as a man you gotta learn to take it in stride. Rejections, even nasty ones happen, we just gotta let it go man and move on.
/r/seduction03/04/24 04:03 PM
12

Doesn’t exactly like the type of girl you’d wanna invest any effort or time in anyway
/r/seduction03/04/24 07:18 AM
30

Why is it brutal? You should expect and get used to rejection, otherwise you will forever be dominated by fear of it.
/r/seduction25/03/24 01:32 AM
3

Yeah achieving success with women also would help a lot, to prove first hand to our minds that yes, we can be desirable.
/r/seduction22/03/24 10:16 PM
8

No you’re not alone, I have these thoughts too. I hate it. It comes from two things I think: Having failed with girls I want and been rejected by them my whole life in favour of other guys. So subconsciously I believe I’m not worthy of the girls of I like, and therefore someone else deserves her. Porn. Seeing women get jackhammered by these dudes with huge members, and then looking at my own very average shi, makes me feel like less of a man. So subconsciously i think i am unable to please a wom…
/r/seduction22/03/24 10:09 PM
1

Well did you resolve your medical issue? If yes, then keep up your hygiene, shower in the morning. Consider some (lightly applied) cologne too if you want to leave an even bugger impact with your smell (if done right it makes your smell more memorable in a good way). If no, you need a solution for that first, otherwise the bad smell will continue.
/r/seduction06/03/24 10:23 PM
1

Everywhere??? Even under my bed??
/r/seduction02/03/24 09:26 PM
37

Enable the “Big Tiddy Goth gf” filter in Tinder
/r/seduction01/03/24 02:43 AM
0

I’m not???
/r/seduction24/02/24 09:40 PM
42

Dude at this point i’d hook up with a fucking tree
/r/seduction18/02/24 08:15 AM
0

You handled that about as smoothly as a pile of rocks…gloating was not the move
/r/seduction17/02/24 06:56 PM
6

Mysterious, standoffish, quiet. Recipe for disaster if you’re not Ryan Gosling.
/r/seduction14/02/24 08:08 AM
2

Not sure i can offer you any tips but how tf did you pull that off
/r/seduction12/02/24 02:08 AM
0

I’ve been through that situation with a “friend” before too. It’s not a healthy environment for you to practice game in, if you’re getting laughed at for even trying
/r/seduction11/02/24 03:22 AM
18

Lol especially considering that engineers, developers, etc all likely make 6 figures. And they ain’t exactly the getting laid crowd.
/r/seduction09/02/24 10:34 PM
4

No one genuinely falls in love anymore How do you know it wasn’t always like this? Reminds me of when people say “not in this economy”, like a shitty economy is something new. Go back to any decade almost and you’ll find a similar sentiment! I think you’ve fallen for a romanticized view of love, created by movies and stories. No shame in it, I sure as shit did too. I was always a “romantic” looking for girl to fall in love with, saying I would treat her so specially, and it would be everything I…
/r/seduction09/02/24 05:58 PM
3

Don’t make emotional decisions dude, if you feel pressure to ask her out because “it’s Valentines and it’s romantic”, no dude. If you haven’t established sexual interest and received reciprocated affection yet, this is a recipe for disaster. I would know. Springing interest out if nowhere on a girl on Valentine’s ain’t the way to go. But shir, i might be wrong. You do what you feel is necessary l. Js test the waters a bit before. Get flirty see if she reciprocates.
/r/seduction03/02/24 08:39 PM
1

Huh how can i be like you
/r/seduction30/01/24 05:12 AM
1

Probably because it’s much rarer to encounter those online Chads in real life, so they have to settle for what men are actually out there. Whereas online they have an infinite supply of top quality men fighting over her. Also your personality, game, way you carry yourself also play a much bigger role irl. You’re more than just an avatar on a screen. And tbh, most of us guys look better irl than online, simply because we don’t have nice pictures, so you’re better off in the looks department too.
/r/seduction12/12/23 06:10 PM
2

Online dating, no exaggeration, it’s hopeless unless you have a personal photographer with you 24/7. In real life it’s better, women’s standards are much lower (not to say it’s easy but you actually stand a chance). That said, meeting women in real life is also a problem for me, because my social life is dead. I have a few male friends, who I see once every 3 months maybe. This is the biggest factor to my loneliness and failed love life, not having a good and healthy social life.
/r/seduction12/12/23 05:16 PM
22

I mean not saying I encourage this, but if you’re just in it for the sex this doesn’t matter
/r/seduction18/11/23 02:32 AM
2

Oh man there’s more to unpack here than just a single factor I think people just got bored with apps like Tinder. The novelty wore off, people got jaded or bored; the end result is people don’t take the apps as seriously as before. 2019 me was much more appealing to 2019 society than in 2023. I was in college, had a good social life, my fashion was in style. But the profile I had then probably looks outdated and out of style now. Understandably, after 4 years, the girls my age want something dif…
/r/seduction16/11/23 07:16 AM
1

Lol aside from it sounding like Tinder is on easy mode for you, yes it has gotten harder. The same pictures that would get me like 2-3 matches a month in 2019 now get me absolutely 0 matches. I cannot get a match, period.
/r/seduction15/11/23 06:40 PM
2

This reads like women’s dating advice from a parallel universe, like everything’s been flipped upside down
/r/seduction02/11/23 08:29 PM
3

Which shouldn’t bother you at all because women tend do the exact opposite of what they preach, why you think it’s so common for them to go for older guys
/r/seduction14/09/23 05:49 PM
30

Okay so you’re acting like a dick, and you’re aware of it? So stop acting like a dick lol, what you want us to tell you. Chill out and have fun rather than argue.
/r/seduction06/09/23 02:13 AM
1

People want what others are buying eh
/r/seduction11/08/23 08:02 PM
0

Great read thanks for that
/r/seduction11/08/23 02:53 PM
34

You telling me you wouldn’t drink Lizzo’s bathwater like you’re tryna put a damn fire out
/r/seduction11/08/23 11:38 AM
523

Word man, story of my life Being a pussy == zero pussy
/r/seduction11/08/23 10:46 AM
3

Okay but only one time
/r/seduction04/08/23 08:48 AM
3

Yeah man, I’m like 7 looks wise and just under 6ft, and I have some friends who are ~6ft 3 and about the same attractiveness, okay maybe 8. We go out to a bar, and I try to talk to a girl, 50% will give me the cold shoulder (like straight up say “no thanks” or turn away), 25% engage but seem uncomfortable and like they want the convo to end asap, and of the rest only like 5% actually seem genuinely interested non platonically. I suppose those other 20% could be sitting on the fence so that’s whe…
/r/seduction02/08/23 03:10 AM
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