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Wait so he made six figs at 23???
/r/RedPillWomen09/11/25 11:02 AM
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Girl I’ve been you. Leave this person and focus on you. Even if you end up with someone not as rich, it’ll be worth everything else (your values etc)
/r/RedPillWives29/10/25 08:00 AM
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True- sorry I think I just meant more from the side of stories I’ve read on subs about sahm’s. They’ll be like sure working wouldn’t give me tons of more money because of daycare costs but they express missing having their own money or budgeting their extra money etc.
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/25 06:28 AM
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I mean if you’d become SAHW then there probably be more limits on lifestyle due to budgeting
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/25 03:46 AM
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What’s your dating history? As in long term etc. seems like you met him when you were 29-30?
/r/RedPillWomen25/03/25 07:51 AM
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Men like this totally exist but I’d say they seem more rare than not… most older men I met during 18-25 age range (I’m 27 now, too old for some lol) would def say older women are crazy or they’re single for a reason, etc. and I’d be like… uh okay. Or that their ex was ‘crazy’ (plot twist, were not)
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/24 08:03 AM
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If he is in the medical field, we have a saying in my country that’s like girlfriend of the doctor is not the wife of the doctor. If you’re doing everything while he gets his MD and he is still complaining… imagine when he becomes a Dr and Can get anything he wants? Unless you become perfect he prob will have an issue too. I’d be cautious
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/24 08:06 AM
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Your view of masculinity is toxic. It’s not about being masculine is about listening to you, ew
/r/RedPillWomen12/12/23 04:05 AM
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The whole lying about age… I had that happen too. I was 18 and he said he was 26 then said 28 then found out he was actually 30 💀 Please, save yourself years and years of extra therapy and breakup
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/23 08:35 AM
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I just saw the age gap…. Babe, RUN. Don’t waste your youth being gaslighted please. I was in this exact situation from 18-23. If you want to DM for details you can but it’s not worth it
/r/RedPillWomen11/11/23 06:35 PM
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Eh… it’s almost like I’m reading a post by 18 yo me with my 29yo boyfriend… this happened for years He isn’t right, no matter how traditional you want to see this, he isn’t. I’m sorry. Honestly I never advice ‘think about breakup’ but in this case I do
/r/RedPillWomen11/11/23 06:27 PM
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Are you still w the huge age gap man….. uh
/r/RedPillWomen11/11/23 08:48 AM
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Im ngl- idk if it’s true or not but all my partners have shown up as like 0.0005% or similar crazy numbers and it gave me an internal ego boost lol like maybe I am doing something right 😅🫠 so I just believe in it because good
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/23 07:23 AM
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I don’t do them everyday! I guess that’s where having a good therapist does make a huge difference. Mine wasn’t like take all these pills daily. I take them when I need to. When I was close to graduating that did mean I prob was taking them 6/7 days or even daily for a week or two. But now that I’m sahw I take them when I really do need to focus or I have some side work going on, need to be more attention to detail, etc. If you take them daily for long periods of time your body also ‘gets used t…
/r/RedPillWomen15/10/23 04:40 PM
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Have you suggested he tried therapy? I have adhd and so does my husband and getting meds was truly life changing
/r/RedPillWomen15/10/23 03:59 PM
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I can’t tell if this is serious but alas… I’ll give you my two cents but we might agree to disagree. I think you have conflicting ideas or patterns of what certain things could mean/be for different people. I’ve met extremely masculine guys (like Henry Cavill style) that are conservative, straight, etc. and still enjoy getting prostrate orgasm or might partake in more grooming than usual because they enjoy those habits. To some, they’re not masculine even though they do look the part. Then you h…
/r/RedPillWomen15/10/23 05:03 AM
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If I’m honest even the post itself comes off as aggressive. You seem to get feedback and aggressively go black/white. For example- oh I’m materialistic? Fine, I’ll only wear jeans and flats. That doesn’t solve it… it’s an attitude thing. That’s pretty aggressive in itself. It’s how you carry yourself. You seem entitled because you think that just by ‘doing it’ and doing the opposite = good. When I’m reality it might be your personality…? I say this nicely. It seems you don’t really take feedback…
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/23 06:02 AM
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I’m glad! Just wanted to point out- he hasn’t asked me out of the blue, it’s mostly like ‘oh I really like that thing you did in your nails, will you get that again?’ Or ‘oh you had talked about extensions, did you ever go check it out?’ But I’ve said no plenty of times or I don’t like this etc and then it’s fine. I meant more as in I was feeling uncomfy because I was starting to wonder if I was just all fake and it was bade or made me less
/r/RedPillWomen31/08/23 05:45 PM
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Thank you! You reminded of something important confidence. I replied above how I was feeling self conscious due to others opinion etc (other women) but you’re right… it’s not about the thingC my husband also loves my confidence/personality so I’ll remember that when choosing what to do and what I like!
/r/RedPillWomen31/08/23 05:43 PM
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Thank you!! I feel like this is more so what I was wondering about. My husband also keeps up and he does things that I enjoy etc (clothing wise, facial hair, etc) but I feel like I had been consuming content (TikTok) or even on Reddit where it was like ‘yikes, you’re fake’ or ‘you’re not natural’ and it made me feel bad? Lol I’m not forced or loved any less if I don’t do any of those, they’re just fun! But it made me feel like was i less beautiful or something by doing so or ‘catering’ to my hus…
/r/RedPillWomen31/08/23 05:42 PM
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Yeah… I mean tbh it was gorgeous (we weren’t in LA, we were in OC) and life was pretty chill but he started investing in film industry and it was fun at first but then like the friend circles started bringing in some not great… values. He went from like ‘ok I want a wife that is trad and upkeeps herself’ to ‘I have a bunch of money, I deserve all the women because I’m at the top’ and I was like….. who tf is this guy. It became the typical red pill view we see on social media. Which sucked becaus…
/r/RedPillWomen23/08/23 06:56 PM
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Lol and another surgery + private training and all that. He was like this Texas oil heir so his circle was really cut throat in the sense that wife’s were def seen as like have to be traditional + look good etc. As long as he was helping I didn’t mind doing all those things. We moved to CA and that’s when things got sour (we were living in OR/ID first)
/r/RedPillWomen23/08/23 06:49 PM
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I appreciate everyone giving nuanced opinions. I’ll be honest- when it came to my first engagement (he def was HVM but later on fell into a more redpill style and we ended up breaking up due to that) I’d keep my shape top notch and all. I was missing those same 5-7kg but doing boxing twice a day on top of diet etc. it came to a point where he came forward and was like ‘would you be open to considering Lipo?’ I said sure. He paid for it etc and after we both were happy. I’m not saying this is ok …
/r/RedPillWomen23/08/23 06:10 PM
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As someone who was born and raised in Latin America.. that was not the ‘typical’ set up at all? Maybe Latin in the US standard?
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/23 09:38 PM
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So what type of dancer then?
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/23 04:40 PM
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I’m married! Feel free to send a dm (: I’m 26F also away from home (moved countries and family is all back home)
/r/RedPillWomen19/08/23 05:01 PM
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If that’s what men respond to… then you wouldn’t be single. No offense. Because according to your logic then yeah you’re doing everything. As Einstein said, insanity is doing the same thing and expecting diff results. Clearly, this hasn’t worked for you so you have to pivot. The idea of men you have is not up to date… sure there is some men like that but even HVM (real HVM, not Andrew Tate or role play RP) want a woman who knows herself. That’s femenine but had a brain. I’ve dated HVM all my lif…
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/23 10:04 AM
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Thank you!! Quick question… (I’m not from the US so I feel like what is each ‘class’ is unknown to me in a way) don’t worry, I don’t think we are upper class or anything in that regard. But I’m our state we end up bringing way above the median or 75%. Does this put us in upper middle? Or how are these things defined? Sorry now I’m just curious what that means in terms of salary and stuff like that
/r/RedPillWomen14/08/23 01:29 AM
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Just posted something similar (in a way😂) I feel like it also depends on personality… I have adhd/autism and if I spend too much time at home I can start way too many projects or isolate myself. Having a job or consistent hobby/meet up gives me a chance to socialize and not hyper focus on stuff. I love taking care of my home but I’ve talked with husband that if I was to become permanent stay at home wife then I’d probably pick up tutoring as a side gig or making YouTube tutorials. I really do lo…
/r/RedPillWomen13/08/23 11:51 PM
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Then ask? You can also start dating and chatting to other people!
/r/RedPillWomen11/08/23 07:02 PM
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I feel like maybe you want us to say ‘he doesn’t want to leave, be happy!’ But I want to make sure I’m realistic here. Sure, even if it’s cheap to do paperwork in your area…. Doing paperwork is a drag… so I can understand why he hasn’t done it especially if he isn’t planning on remarrying. Maybe he still pays the flat etc because he is a man of his word? These are all questions to ask him , not us. Or any other man online. Only he can tell you the truth
/r/RedPillWomen11/08/23 07:01 PM
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TIL husband is 0.3 lol where do we get this stats - felt kinda flattering 😂 it’s weird tho I feel like nowadays it’s more…?
/r/RedPillWomen10/08/23 03:06 PM
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I feel like ‘too old’ = ‘too late’ when you give up. I’m taking a barre class atm, I’m 26 and not in my best shape rn. I see girlies in their 30’s and even older woman who look flaaaawless. Today this woman in her 40’s probs was wearing a one piece set and I was just like…… It’s never too late as long as you’re taking care of yourself. And I don’t mean just body
/r/RedPillWomen29/07/23 07:24 PM
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Debt- I’ve met people who’ve dated men/women super in debt and I’m just like.. how(btw not debt because ‘life’ more so reckless debt like stupid expenses and reckless spending)
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/23 04:16 AM
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25 is still fine! Broke up at 25 then 6 months later I found my husband. Also many men are now looking in the 25-28 range so you’ve got perfect marriage ready years coming for you! I think big age gaps will always ‘be a thing’ but the men I met that were 29-35 expressed more interested in later 20’s than young 20’s
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/23 04:43 PM
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Especially nowadays… it’s savage out there. I feel like back in the day things weren’t as expensive and families were closer so potentially one could idk move back in easier and what not work in town and all that. But nowadays when rent is no lower than 900usd in many places +insurance + groceries etc etc. I’m now more of a sahw but worked as an engineer. For tthe past two years I’ve been taking some classe for a masters, or doing tutoring, I’m a summer camp teacher, etc. it’s important to keep …
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/23 04:36 PM
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Making such statements about race is in itself a red flag imo. Any men that I’ve dated that puts too much weight on me being Latina is a huge turn off. Maybe he just hadn’t met one he liked, however o say this because if you go out there to date and your selling point is ‘I’m Latina’ you’re only going to attract bad apples imo
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/23 04:25 PM
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I mean- you still could. It wouldn’t be easy but it’s not impossible. 2 yrs at community college and then you can transfer etc. I studied physics but ended up in engineering. I think it’s 100% more likely you could potentially find a man that wants to ‘provide’ if you turned your life around and worked hard for a great job in a high paying field. I’d say nursing but honestly I know some doctors and they typically don’t marry nurses just fool around. But there’s a bunch of engineer related fields…
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/23 04:22 PM
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as a 26yo Latina engineer myself who also married someone with an ex wife that sounded similar to you- one thing he really loved was how much I wanted to learn . He was in awe of my studies, what I knew and we bonded over our fields. He respected me. eventually he turned me into a sahw and i get all the things you said. but i still like having small jobs or making yojtube videos etc doing something…men dont like being an atm or feeling like theyre only good for 'being white and giving' ill be ho…
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/23 03:54 PM
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That’s awesome!! & yeah.. we are kinda at that crux where we know we should maybe but we also aren’t a 100% sure. We are both wondering if we’d enjoy the east coast so we’re actually doing some trips there during oct/Nov/dec to scout areas and see how we feel. It’s like we have an itch lol but funny enough we had a conversation tonight and both agreed our current location (this one area on our state) is the only place we would buy in so we’ll keep our eyes open on Zillow. No houses have opened u…
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/23 07:42 AM
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Yes we are on track for retirement and have good chunk of savings. We could put money down for a house, we just haven’t found one we like enough and haven’t decided we want to live here long term. We have given ourselves a 3 year max but we’ve already started narrowing stuff down in case we do find what we’re looking for. But it seems that due to our age those around us have started making more remarks/faces at us choosing to wait on home ownership
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/23 12:10 AM
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I knew he was my ‘dream’ but didn’t know we’d end up marrying! He says he knew the first time we talked. We met through Bumble and I was about to delete my account because honestly I’m not a huge fan of a bunch of chatting then meet ups etc. then I saw his profile and was like ‘woah’ this is my dream man. Nerdy Henry Cavill lookalike, in tech, and loves his caption was almost similar to mine. Swiped and nothing… I even went on a date that night! I was bummed ngl then as my date was ending I got …
/r/RedPillWomen06/07/23 10:44 PM
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Yup… this was my biggest fear. We only had some disagreements with his temper… and some financial stuff (he made 4-5 times more than I did but due to our age he said we should be 50/50 but I did 90% housework) I was looking for 60/40 in some areas due to pay discrepancy. But yeah at that point I had already supported him through the whole med school process and all so /: I feel like he just had to grow? It sucks because between this sub and I, his family was my ‘dream’ in laws. Loved his sister …
/r/RedPillWomen05/07/23 04:47 PM
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The only other person that isn’t my husband but I’d see myself marrying we basically broke up because of this. I was 25 and he was 27 starting med school. Promising future and all but…. I just didn’t want to bet on the whole process and not breaking up? Plus it’s a long long time…obviously in the end he wasn’t the one because I’m happily married now lol but it’s my one what if. I met my husband 7 months later and he proposed within… 3 months! My ex reached out after saying how lucky he had been …
/r/RedPillWomen05/07/23 04:26 PM
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Btw if it offers insight to anyone- this happened to me & my husband. A year and a half ago I started gaining about 1-2 lbs a week then it went to 3-4 and then I was 60lbs over. Around the 30lbs mark since we were both worried we got a new medical team etc and they discovered I had a slight tumor (I think that’s the correct name) and it was causing all sorts of irregularities. I’m tumor free now but working on losing the weight- it was a nasty road here due to the way I felt my weight restricted…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 04:19 PM
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Hello friend! I’m glad you felt comfortable with sharing your story here. I’ll be honest with you. I was SA’d as a child and have ASD so I have had many issues identifying ‘creepy’ behaviors throughout my lifetime due to my lack of social skills. I was groomed at 13 and then in college I was coerced by one of my uni professors. I’ve taken a full year of CPTSD focused therapy so I think I def have some insight on these topics. You mention PTSD and depression, I’m curious, wht type of emotions lea…
/r/RedPillWomen29/06/23 08:38 AM
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In my experience (I’m from Mexico) I think it’s because any time we see Americans in Mexico (W) they’re partying or hooking up etc and the clothes they wear. I’m not saying this is wrong btw I’m simply stating what has been said growing up and my experience
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/23 04:27 PM
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Wait you had a post saying your fiancé does… snow aka c*ke
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/23 07:02 PM
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Providing does not mean paying for a trip abroad… providing means basic necessities anything extra is well that. If you want someone who can afford abroad trips and paying off grad stuff then wrong guy my friend
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/23 06:38 PM
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Age gap isn’t great ):
/r/RedPillWomen01/06/23 03:12 AM
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I think (as someone who’s listened to several redpoll podcasts ranging from good to bad just for curiosity) that I’d be embarrassing for a true ‘intelligent’ woman to go to those podcasts. Imagine idk.. some female authority or ‘successful’ figure lets say AOC (regardless of what personal opinion is- she is educated and made it to congress etc so let’s go with that) if she went to let’s say fresh and fit just to be laughed at and be mocked for her points.. it doesn’t matter how smart she is, the…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/23 08:50 AM
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I’ll be very honest with you. I have friends who did psych and the salaries aren’t great. Even my therapist has said so. It can get to a great level along the road but it’s def not a huge money maker from my understanding. I did a physics degree and upon graduation had 60-70k entry level jobs. I didn’t start working since I got married. I’m now doing a masters and If I went to work salaries are def 90+k I’d also recommend a career sub rather than this one. I have nothing against career choices a…
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/23 07:31 AM
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Lol you made me laugh w the rant thing. I’m always like woooow really babe?! Even tho I have no idea what’s going on. I love science but finance literally puts me to sleep
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/23 07:01 AM
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Good luck on the tech venture! My husband is a dev and I met him when he was on a startup. Best wishes to you both!
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/23 06:56 AM
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Ok detailed as possible. Currently no kids. Annual income 200,000. (- taxes, I’d add how much specifically but tbh I don’t do the taxes so I’m not sure lol) I have my own credit & debit card (from his account) and I have a debit from a small account I have prior to marriage. Haven’t talked about merging but he knows my bank account info and all, I mean, it’s not like I’m hiding millions haha plus he can use if he wished. I get 600 usd a month (this is something I set more so myself) Husband is v…
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/23 06:54 AM
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I haven’t * but I have been supported. So disregard if this isn’t helpful. Talk about the long term plan, this includes rest time or reset time. For example my husband told me he was fine it I took 2-3 years (this changed for everyone btw it can be months etc) because his main goal was for me to take a break from work and help us get settled at home, finances, work on my immigration paperwork, etc. but his ‘condition’ was that I continue going to therapy biweekly (just so i have someone to also …
/r/RedPillWomen04/05/23 10:45 PM
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About 3 almost 4 months
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/23 12:02 AM
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You might be on to something lol I was indeed my husbands second wife. He had an annulment, it was crazy but yes - spot on on the second marriage. Oh uh haha
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/23 03:30 PM
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I won’t disagree with you but actually- a lot of my husband peers reaction to my age was ‘wow you’re young’ and even his brother(32) was like oh 25? I’m not saying it’s 9/10 men, I’d be lying BUT I’d say at least 4/10? I’m in PNW and feel like it’s a bit different here
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/23 02:16 PM
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Loved reading this! Felicidades hermana! 🥂
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/23 08:07 PM
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You’re in a great spot!! It takes patience. I’m 25 but my husband is 33 in tech and there are a looot of single men in their 30’s. Mind you It’ll take time but I’ve noticed that a lot of tech guys are leaning towards women more in their age range in my experience
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/23 08:06 PM
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Girl- take a deep breath with me- it’s all okay. I see you and any ‘women in stem’ (if anyone) looks down or you feel judged etc then they’re not being good ally’s imo. I graduated with a double bachelor in phy and Chem and I’m doing a PhD in physics. So yes- I went hard on the sciences but my best friend for example was an English major. My best conversations and experiences have been with her. Can you imagine how boring life would be if we all had the same thinking process? I’m on the spectrum…
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/23 08:04 PM
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I can agree with this. Even though I’m not ‘working’ full time I take classes to further education and tutor children or work for non profits. So technically I do have something to do- I think my husband would not want to keep me around if I genuinely just did domestic duties etc. there has to be something going on with your life so you don’t become an expensive light post. I’m not from the US but I’ve seen this a lot with influencers rising. Women want to be SAHW to sit around watching TikTok e…
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/23 07:57 AM
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Every man is different though. My husband has no desire for children and is happy to keep me home so I can upkeep the place, and ‘run the house’ while also letting me just enjoy life. I agree it’s a small percentage but not impossible
/r/RedPillWomen15/04/23 07:42 PM
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house keeping is def a thing. Keeping up with social events, family, etc. my husband is doing trying to get more into investments and owning property for us etc traveling and keeping a schedule. I’m a SAHW (I do take one lecture at uni because I like learning stuff) but other than that I just make sure to keep his stuff up to date, do research for him on all those things, plan stuff for us, for his family, plan trips etc. like an executive assistant lol so the job becomes being like a house exec…
/r/RedPillWomen15/04/23 07:40 PM
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If I ever have a late morning (I hate those) he will bring my favorite drink with a straw to my bedside table so I can wake up to it He will take the cat out of the room so he doesn’t wake me up if the car starts meowing so I wake up lol He always always brings all the heavy stuff in haha He orders backups for cat food and cat meds because he knows sometimes I can forget He always tells me he loves me after we have a miscommunication/argument because he always wants me to know despite the fight …
/r/RedPillWomen15/04/23 07:35 AM
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Because you have it wrong. Even IF you were ‘fat, with tattoos, etc’ if you were more friendly, positive, gracious even then maybe it’d be easier to find a husband. We’re talking about youre literally asking for the bare minimum Just for a height requirement. You’re NOT listening. And this is with us trying to help i cant imagine what a man must feel irl. You’re NOT listening youre REACTING. Someone says something and instead of processing it you attack and say how daré you want anything. Youre …
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/23 06:48 PM
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OP It’s obvious you don’t want help. You keep being defensive with EVERY answer and not truly taking in what people tell you…
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/23 06:44 PM
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Because bisexual women have been over sexualized and sold as a fantasy. I’m a bi woman and have no issue with dating a bi men- I have in the past. The way I see is, I legit know what it’s like to not have a ‘preference’ it just happens. So I just see it as yeah, if he looks at a guy and he gets aroused I mean… who am I to say no? It’s sad because I def have met a lot of men that are curious (not saying they’re bi per se) but have expressed feelings of doubts etc. it makes me sad because me as a …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/23 07:56 AM
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Have you thought of dating abroad? For example- I’m not from the US originally, i met my first relationship in my home country then moved here eventually. I’ve heard many men do that. Maybe… you can too? The average height for men if that really is the ONE thing changes in diff places
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/23 07:41 AM
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Literally no one said to date overweight men… they suggested age but nothing about weight The way you’re looking at yourself is wrong girl. One thing is being realistic and another one is being a nihilist/pessimist . If he can get a 26 yo then how can you be better than the 26 yo? Maybe learn how to cook, clean, take some therapy to learn to communicate effectively etc and they’ll love that
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/23 07:34 AM
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Nah it’s not to black and white IMO. Many RP forums will def be like ‘no, as a women you shall never have leisure time’ etc but I just don’t agree. My husband loves my hobbies! They keep me going and if I’m going then the house is too! I had a bit round of depression last year due to a medical issue and I really stopped doing much. I started slacking at home, his breakfasts, meals, etc. he was SO supportive but I’m like yikes lol He likes that I do things. I don’t think men like feeling like the…
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/23 07:27 AM
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I think one of OP issue is she said no one below 6ft and has to be white. OP even mentioned/alluded they’re fine w abuse if they at least met those two requirements. Which is worrisome. I feel like us saying it’s ‘too low’ without pointing out why it’s bad is detrimental. Like it IS too low but it is also because she won’t allow herself to be treated nicely by someone because of her hard cut off height and ethnicity wise.
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/23 07:20 AM
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Babe the thing is… look Red pill aside… confidence truly comes from within. I would’ve never thought I could get these guys. I thought I could get lucky but I got really lucky. The one compliment I always received was : you always look happy, you’re always smiling, you have a kind heart, etc. Just because a guy is HV doesn’t make him some sort of heartless droid. It’s not how the RP makes it seem. Plenty of valuable men want valuable wife’s. YOU need to feel worthy of a good man before trying to…
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/23 07:10 AM
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Right??? At this point I’m like don’t do the guy the disservice 💀 it sucks because we all deserve love and to close yourself off emotionally just to keeping up w the joneses is such a silly thing. I hope OP does some introspection. They deserve to be treated special and with love
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/23 07:06 AM
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I mean- idk you tell me I guess. You need to become aware that you say ‘ I don’t ask for much’ but you absolutely do for someone in your age range and history . You need to do some self love and maybe talk about this in therapy not Reddit
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/23 07:03 AM
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She just replied saying she would rather have verbal abuse w a 6ft than a short king . Kevin Samuels would be choooking rn fr
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/23 07:02 AM
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My standards started when I was 20. I have only dated HVM and have had LTR. I know what professions to look for as I’m a STEM major myself which allowed me close and quick access to the pool of men I wanted. Not only that but our main difference is our age. I got pretty serious about marriage at a young age Had 2 marriage proposals. Accepted one. Out of the 3 serious relationships these were stats 1 Business owner, executive director in film. 8 yr gap. His height : 5’11 built: normal not overwei…
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/23 07:00 AM
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But Kevin CLEARLY says do NOT expect a 6ft white man. That’s what you want. You’re basically saying I will be his booty call, his like- object/toy but he HAS to be 6ft. Girl…you should WANT better for yourself… I’m sorry but you have to come to terms you might not get a 6ft guy. They’re highly sought after by women 18+ . The ship sailed sorry
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/23 06:54 AM
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Her standards are pretty tight lol said that nothing matters as long as he is 6ft. It’s odd..
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/23 06:51 AM
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If you take away all those things tho… why would he have you as his gf? You essentially become a booty call . Men aren’t emotionless…
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/23 06:49 AM
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Yes you’re looking at less than 10% - try this website to see the % of men that fit your criteria https://igotstandardsbro.com/
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/23 06:45 AM
5

A lot of men don’t like plastic surgery and prefer a more natural look. Again, highly recommend Samuels.
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/23 06:44 AM
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I’d highly recommend listening to Kevin Samuels. He can be intense w delivery but bestie- you need some wake up call. Men over 6ft , white, making a living that can afford you 3 kids etc is veeeeery slim. You talk about how your family has all this education etc. honestly don’t date outside of what you want education wise because you’ll be doing THEM a favor. Having your SO’s family look down on you etc is crappy, sounds like appearances matter a lot to you It’s not about ‘giving up’ on boundari…
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/23 06:42 AM
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You say height is the only thing but follow with same ethnicity and hair and teeth so… it’s NOT only the height lol
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/23 06:39 AM
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At 25 you’re not late! I met my now husband at 25 - he proposed 4 months after and we married a year after (: he is a dream. I was also studying when we met. Some men might even find it nice that you’re working towards something
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/23 09:56 AM
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Currently Lego building & cooking lol
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/23 09:51 AM
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Yup and changing how we say it too- I just left a comment on top about my experience. I usually on the daily tell my husband how much I appreciate him etc but somehow he needed something different in that moment for that issue and rephrasing things or trying diff stuff can also help. If it’s the same message over and over sometimes it might become like background noise. Always nice to find new ways to show appreciation
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/23 09:49 AM
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Thissss- my husband was hating on his job (rightfully so) and he was genuinely thinking of quitting to find a new position. That wouldn’t put us at a financial risk thank god but it still made me uneasy since 2020 showed us how stuff changes + I’m a SAHW and we said I’d be starting grad school for funsies, getting new car, house savings etc so I got kinda worried and overwhelmed about him being genuine on quitting and having to rework our plan I told him how I understood him and couldn’t imagine…
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/23 09:46 AM
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Letting a man lead doesn’t mean not having a voice though. Maybe you’re being too passive,
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/23 09:35 AM
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I feel like OP (idk just getting this vibe) only wants a white guy. She mentions having gone out w other ethnicities but was also clear on what she wanted. I liv in an area with a lot of white Christian population who also seek other white Christian people etc and I find they’re very… picky like they just want within their group. Which is understandable like go off but I feel like OP might be truly limiting her options sadly. Worse- when she does go out w other ethnicities I’d be worried she’d b…
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/23 09:34 AM
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I’d also argue white men are not actually the most desired nowadays…
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/23 09:30 AM
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Hmm speaking in higher pitch when it’s not your normal might actually be more obvious imo like I’d ask- why is she faking her voice haha
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/23 09:28 AM
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Have you ever listened to Kevin Samuels? Now… he is really RP and I’m not always on his side with delivery etc BUT he does provide some insight. Check out the shows he did where women call in for advice
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/23 09:27 AM
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Hi! Fellow bi as well. In my experience, echoing what others suggest, I don’t ‘hide’ it but I also don’t make it my ice breaker ‘btw have I said I’m bi?’ Haha I did date a woman for about year and a half so if we mention ex’s or something related to that comes up I’ll say my ex girlfriend. If they ask etc I answer but you can tell when a guy is just creepy and weird about it. I’ve def stopped seeing people if I found their response to be like fetishized. My husband now - when I told him I could …
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/23 09:22 AM
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Def worth thinking ahead then. When you’re both done let’s say it’ll be… 300k debt together but then if you don’t work or if y’all have to buy a house etc that’s an easyyy 500k plus he has to pay child support and the girls will be teens by then etc needing more stuff. I grew up poor so finances have always been in my mind when planning for future. I’d honestly say you can prob find a better partner… if you’re like no he is 100% the one than just make sure to also work
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/23 09:19 AM
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No sorry - i should explain myself better, I didn’t mean to be rude. I’ve been listening to a podcast on YouTube and women call in and he talks with them etc (name escapes me atm… he is really RP and I always take what he says with a grain of salt lol) but anywho- there have been women in their 30’s who will ‘complain’ about not finding a partner etc or like not finding the one and then it’s like they had great opportunities for something but didn’t pursue. Then he asks them like wait who told y…
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/23 09:16 AM
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Wait… do you have 0 debt from med school? Graduating and becoming SAHM seems like….. a huge waste of time especially if you have debt and then his debt
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/23 09:04 AM
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I’m glad you found a great guy! I feel like RPW can be so ‘no single dads’ etc and I think that it’s a great alternative when the person is nice and if a woman has chosen to either not birth children or might be putting herself at risk.being a step mom can be truly fulfilling. Congrats on your blended fam!
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/23 09:03 AM
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I’ll be very honest w you- I took more a bit of a shock that at 30 yo you’d still ask your mom whether a trip is okay? Maybe I misunderstood but…. I’ll be honest. 30 is def in the upper range (I’m 26) even tho age might be diff when you’re in medical career (as everyone tends to be really busy and older as well) but.. do you want to be a step mom? Do you want your own kids?(not an issue at all if you don’t just asking in general) because let’s say you do want kids, that might be a later issue wi…
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/23 09:01 AM
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Kevin Samuels has good advice. Ignore the heavy takes
/r/RedPillWomen29/03/23 07:35 AM
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Umm… society has been telling this for ages… we know
/r/RedPillWomen22/03/23 06:52 AM
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I know patience is really hard (trust me… I’d know) before finding my now husband I stuck it out with someone around my age because he was in med school and like I thought ‘this is it’ and he kept being like no marriage etc. 3 months after cutting it off w him and just ‘being done w dating’ I found my husband. Never ever looked back again lol It’s still ok to date and look around but just be clear on your profile bio about what you’re looking for. Not like ‘looking for husband’ but adding things…
/r/RedPillWomen20/03/23 09:40 AM
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I’m an engineer and work with all men. I’m very much a bubbly and femenine person lol it’s been nice to receive compliments about it. I agree, totally achievable
/r/RedPillWomen20/03/23 09:22 AM
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Baby girl, RUN. That age gap is no bueno
/r/RedPillWomen20/03/23 09:15 AM
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I’d say first- stop comparing yourself to her. It’s not what she has that you don’t, you’re both different period. Might be a personality trait, interests or hobbies, etc. he simply might’ve not been your match. I’d suggest being mindful when dating (especially if dating online) always being clear about intent for a serious relationship. Since you’re 22, I’d recommend searching partners younger than 30 but older than 24. The in between are men who might already have a job or close to done with s…
/r/RedPillWomen20/03/23 09:14 AM
1

Currently watching it! I’ve almost run out of episodes. I’ve tried other cooking shows but they’re so over the top w the acting/hosting
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/23 02:23 AM
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Congrats wifey!! 💍
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/23 07:50 AM
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I’m trying to find more ‘trad’ workshops. Like baking, cooking, crocheting, etc. no luck yet but I’m trying lol
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/23 06:51 PM
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As in I realize guys my age were in a waaay different situation. Not a problem etc but I’ve had friends (at least two) that were in a similar situation and her and ex broke in really bad terms because she wanted him to pay 60/40 etc but he was in grad school or like a senior something like that and her old ex had a career already. In my case i just had to pull my own weight a lot, not a problem but I’m aware some people look for different types of stability etc so wanted to mention that
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/23 03:56 AM
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Im in a class rn so I’ll be short for the moment- my first relationship was 18me and 29 him. I stayed until I was 23 and honestly, once I tried dating people my age it made it really hard because it’s just two different worlds. Rn I have a 5 yrs age gap (I’m 26) and it’s amazing. Like we get each other but there are still some differences (I’m talking generation wise) so it still feels somewhat traditional. If I was you, I’d honestly wouldn’t recommend menú in their 30’s until youre at least 24
/r/RedPillWomen07/02/23 10:41 PM
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Dislike. More like nlog. She constantly interrupts plus I just heard her say school makes you dumber. I sort of know where she’s coming from but that’s a loaded statement. I’m RP and went to school, don’t matter, her saying that made me quit the pod right there
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/23 06:01 PM
1

Ariana Grande (some of her songs)
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/23 04:35 AM
1

This ^ when I started I bought so much stuff thinking I would need it… I’ve donated so much of it now… a huge thing for me was TikTok. Be careful of not buying too much sh|t just because
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/23 04:34 AM
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Omg are you me?! My husband is also in tech in west coast and ALSO loved me being in stem (not a grad but I have two degrees almost done and have done a lot of outside work) but now I’m just a SAHM mostly and I feel…. Like I’m not who he got with. Like I am… but I’m more simple? I’ll come back to this post- tbh I’m having some wine and it got me a bit tipsy and my native isn’t English so I don’t want to not make sense - So far I’ve picked up a class to keep my education going, I’m also reading a…
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/23 04:31 AM
1

Anthropologie!
/r/RedPillWomen15/01/23 01:19 AM
1

Have you noticed improvement with satin pillowcases? I’ve heard it can be great for acne but I don’t really have issues with that so I’m in the fence about the expense
/r/RedPillWomen15/01/23 12:18 AM
1

Congrats! I feel like sometimes it’s those small breaks that really clear the waters for them. Like, wait a second, I really love this woman 😂 had a friend with a similar situation. Once they ‘got back’ he proposed pretty quick lol Sending hugs!
/r/RedPillWomen15/01/23 12:11 AM
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I’m in Lake Oswego. Interesting to see OR people in here haha
/r/RedPillWomen14/01/23 11:27 PM
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Second this. My husband brought it up because he saw how sad I was getting and obsessed about my weight gain. Went to a Dr and was told my IUD caused my hormones to go crazy and developed some sort of crazy imbalance and issue. Now I’ve lost 10ths and still going. It did hurt to hear from husband but it also hurt to see myself that way. You gotta be able to be honest about needs/wants even if they seem ‘shallow’ to others
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 05:27 AM
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Ok I have a bigger conspiracy theory lol does anyone know if thyroid issues have been on the rise? My partner is now out of my league because I’m chubby now lol he adores me but … I mean I’m not blind. But I’ve met at least 4 women recently who were also diagnosed with a thyroid condition. All my life I had been 125-135lbs. At my worst I was 143. Then in a year I gained like 55lbs and got diagnosed with a disorder. I’m now on meds and with a Dr to help me lose weight and for my condition but I’v…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/22 08:18 AM
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Absolutely but I’m just offering general advice. I had some issues I couldn’t pinpoint in the bedroom in a past relationship and using that sort of labeling etc helped me understand what he wanted to put across and what not
/r/RedPillWomen23/09/22 03:43 AM
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I’d ask if he thinks of himself as a domme, switch or sub. My husband is very domme presenting but he is actually a switch lol and what really ‘spiced’ stuff up for us was me getting into that soft femdom role. It highlights my femininity while putting pressure off him and it’s diff for him so he likes it even more. Usually we assume and categorize men as all dominant but it’s fun to switch up, unless your partner strictly likes being the dominant one
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/22 10:25 PM
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Listen to Kevin Samuels it might give some insight. It’s helped me!
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/22 09:38 AM
1

You should listen to Kevin Samuels. As a single mom you’re talking a lot of game when you should really be happy he took you in with another man’s child
/r/RedPillWomen02/09/22 06:21 PM
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Try watching Kevin samuels
/r/RedPillWomen29/08/22 07:05 PM
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Honestly… the way you think is a problem too. It’s like well.. I want to know you so must tell me. The red pill version would be like no, trust him. If that makes him anxious then let it go, it’s not about you all the time. But you’ve turned this about you rather than soothing his feelings. I would honestly act the same way he did and I’m not even a guy lol it’s like I’ve already got my mobile, it’s good
/r/RedPillWomen29/08/22 06:49 PM
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Lol no. My husband is a bi autistic man and u adoooooore him.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 07:30 AM
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Also- not ALL conservative men want a 100% submissive woman… it’s good to switch it up. Keep it interesting. Many seek outside for ‘fun’ or different
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/22 08:45 AM
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Just because you’re in a more conservative relationship it doesn’t mean he gets to just ‘be a man’ and have you cross a personal boundary of yours… you seem set knowing you wouldn’t like that. Plenty of good conservative relationships were the guy isn’t wanting to fuck other women. If this is before the marriage imagine years into it
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/22 08:43 AM
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Those women are stupid… I’m a female and engineer and I KNOW the salaries in STEM fields lol so any time software engineer, engineer , doctor, etc pops I know a man has interesting shit to talk about, works hard and can commit to projects (not always but 8/10 this has been true) My fiancé is a software engineer and recounts same story of most women not caring about what he did so it might just be the area you’re in too
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/22 11:03 AM
1

I grew up bisexual and my first romantic partner was a woman, then a man. After that I tried dating woman again and holy shit- never again.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen13/04/22 10:08 AM
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The thing is she is a Pharmacist… I’d think she’d have a better job, at that point have gone to MD
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen13/04/22 09:57 AM
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Or gotten to med school
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen02/03/22 03:56 AM
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Question- as someone not from the U.S but a fan of RPW, RP, etc. Isn’t there a better word than feminist because…coming from a Latin American country were women are treated poorly and we don’t have much rights… feminism IS good in some ways. I don’t fear things I did back there. But I’m always shocked people here use it as a ‘bad thing’ I think there’s ‘woke feminists’ and yeah those suck lol but there is nothing wrong ? Actual question btw not trying to be disrespectful
/r/RedPillWomen09/02/22 05:43 PM
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Here’s my take, as a woman that comes from Latin America., again this is based on MY experience I have noticed that a lot of women here want to ‘just raise a kid and stay at home’ etc sort of like a trophy wife (in a good way though nothing bad) but don’t want to put in the same amount of work equivalent as a providing man would do. I’ve met plenty of men in the states who have often told me that’s what they want too (business guy, tech guy, doctor guy, etc.) but often felt like they got taken a…
/r/RedPillWomen09/02/22 05:40 PM
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every type of nurse is usually a single mom lol I teach Chem and physics workshops (I’m a grad student in both fields) and they are literally the most entitled students ever Can’t I just memorize this? Idk how it works, I only need to pass this class etc. They enrageeeee me
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen01/02/22 04:30 PM
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Im a chemical eng and physical chemist (both men dom) and literally still femenine even with having masculine traits (what some women here consider I’d say, not actual masculine) it’s about how YOU carry yourself
/r/RedPillWives23/01/22 02:16 AM
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I swear I never comment here but Damn. This one takes the cake for me. I’m 25. 2 degrees (Engineering + Physical Chemistry) Fitness instructor, born and raised in Latin America (so I come w all the housewive culture) and it TRULY baffles me to see women like this one in particular. My bf’s have ranged from 5’9 -6’3 but I’ve never had ‘rules’ . The fact that she is clearly below a 7/10 and has such has high demands are insane to me She , like many other women in America, will more than likely NOT…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen12/01/22 03:42 AM
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HUGE red flag for me is the marry me, babe, etc. Like NOOOO
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/21 11:06 AM
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Wait… 3 years… you were 19? Don’t get me wrong- I too did this once. I was 18 he was 35. We lasted 6 years and had very similar issues (again as mentioned above some things just come w an age gap…) and even tho he could provide and all.. be your age girl.. be YOUR age. Don’t waste your youth like this
/r/RedPillWomen23/12/21 12:40 AM
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I think it depends on your definition of submissive… my fiancée is a HVM in society’s standards (6’3, makes over 6 fig in tech field, health enthusiast, looks to which I am extremely happy and lucky for haha) and he can be ‘dominant’ in a lot of ways such as being and wanting to be the (main and only) provider of the household but that doesn’t mean he isn’t okay with me pursuing passions of mine. He doesn’t ask me to stay home all day if I don’t want to. I got a chemistry and physics bachelors a…
/r/RedPillWomen14/12/21 02:49 PM
1

I can totally see that! And a part of me (again giving benefit of doubt) hopes that perhaps OP just wrote a reckless thread. I don’t agree with the initial statement they put out but I wanted to reply to others who made it seem like having certain wants or needs was like… the most horrible thing haha I don’t think one should go into a relationship with oh how much does he make or I make what can he give me and just it all sounds horrible, right? But I hope OP can see that yes it’s bad to see men…
/r/RedPillWomen09/11/21 09:32 PM
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I want to play devils advocate here- they never said they would never provide anything? The reason I’m playing double here is because I too would want to date someone within my earning bracket so we can share and build an amazing relationship we’re we both nurture each other. I’m in STEM and have dated men who I’ve helped in the past because I believe and love them but have had them not reciprocate help back. Mind you- this is also my mistake and I’ve worked on definitely being more clear in my …
/r/RedPillWomen09/11/21 08:18 PM
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