Lodekim Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

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1	[FR] The strategies here work, but how do I get over ex nice guy guilt? I kinda know that feeling. Really it might just take some time to realize that everyone is responsible for their own actions and girls aren't that different from guys in what they want. Respect is caring about what someone else wants, not assuming you know what's best for them.	/r/seduction	29/01/14 06:59 AM
1	SEDUCTION: Narcissism, Sociopathy, and my own personal realization regarding PUA as a general field of thought So first, arguing internet feminism vs the red pill is just a bad idea 99% or the time. It's taking 2 uncompromising extremes that have gone past the reasonable ideas into a really bad circle jerk and trying to use reason. And that's where the problem is anyway. It's fine to acknowledge that there are social perspectives that are created that are detrimental to both sexes. Taking TRP r feminism on the internet too seriously leads to a stubbornness and refusal to accept that not everything is bui…	/r/seduction	08/10/13 02:21 AM
2	Met an incredible girl, proceeded to get wasted and make a fool of myself. Is it completely blown up? Not everyone cares about people getting too drunk. If she cares you're probably SOL. If she doesn't, you're fine. If she added you on FB I'd guess she doesn't care.	/r/seduction	19/09/13 04:29 AM
1	Fellow introverts, how long did it take you to get success? I'm feeling like just giving up 4 years don't approach strangers I try but it doesn't work Your post and replies read like you just want someone to tell you to give up. Reality is you don't get to only do inner game, and just feeling confident in yourself isn't enough. You don't get to make no changes to your behavior and magically have success because you read about how to be successful. So, you can actually try, or give up. Your choice.	/r/seduction	19/09/13 04:27 AM
3	Can PUAs and seduction be feminist? (article) Alright, the truth is that it depends on how you define each. You can certainly use certain aspects of the PUA community in a way that is in line with a certain feminist perspective. You can also have radical clashes. I only read the teaser, but basically it's picking sections of each. There are certainly people who treat it as adversarial, and there are plenty who don't. Edit: read the rest. The choices of "what PUA is about" is bad. It's like picking stuff that almost everyone agrees is sketch…	/r/seduction	04/06/13 04:22 AM
3	Gaming as a passion/hobby? As a hobby it's generally fine. So many people play something that few people even blink if you call it a hobby. As a passion, that depends. If you find someone with a similarly geeky passion, maybe. Outside of that it is gonna depend on how you can present it. If you're one of those guys who gets paid to play, or makes money from youtube videos you might be able to swing it. If you just really like playing games and aren't competitive, well: imagine a girl tells you movies are her passion. What…	/r/seduction	27/05/13 01:53 AM
2	[Q] Help! Innergame shit probably. Deemed creepy by some maneating fat girl, why am I letting it bother me so much? Context inside. Don't ask why it was creepy. If she went around telling other people you're creepy her advice is going to be useless at best. If the girl really had a BF maybe you came off as creepy by not backing down, but who cares, live and learn. Maybe your calibration was off, I didn't see the interaction, but it's in the past now. Think of any awkward moments and try to avoid those situations. That's what you should learn. As for why you're still thinking about it, you were embarrassed in front of friends…	/r/seduction	16/05/13 12:28 AM
20	[xMODx] Seddit Simple Questions Thread 10/22/2012 I think he means not by default. Every interaction should be calibrated for who you're talking with. You don't change for 9's and 10's, you change for people who are putting up a shield.	/r/seduction	22/10/12 11:42 PM
3	The simple way to be confident clubs even if alone. I like this, because it sets you up to get going right away. My problem with going to clubs alone is that I like to settle in, scope the place out, say a thing or two to a friend, then get moving. This mindset might help with entering and immediately getting to meet people.	/r/seduction	19/10/12 06:02 AM
5	8 Honest (and Somewhat Harsh) Criticisms from a Dude who Gives Dating Advice Personal take, not escalating, not making things sexual, playing it safe. Women don't tend to get stuck on a guy just because he's fun as often as men do. When you are social but not pushing forward you're just making friends.	/r/seduction	16/10/12 11:46 PM
1	So.. girl goes hot for a week or two, then she goes cold. More inside. It's possible. Going a week or two from number to actually planning something is honestly just tough sometimes. Some people will respond well to texting back and forth, some won't.	/r/seduction	13/10/12 03:46 AM
1	So.. girl goes hot for a week or two, then she goes cold. More inside. I mean, I'm no expert here, but the short of it is if you leave significant time where you're not either hooking up with her or at least doing something interesting (fun dates) she'll almost 100% lose interest. Yes, sometimes you'll run into the girl who will keep interest across a period of time, but the basic rule is: if you aren't taking her home, you'd better have a fun date planned, if neither of those things happen, she'll lose interest. It sounds like you've got a great start, but you're …	/r/seduction	12/10/12 08:27 PM
2	So.. girl goes hot for a week or two, then she goes cold. More inside. People in general and women in particular can lose interest quickly. If you were just talking and didn't do anything fun and exciting within that week or two then of course she's going to grow cold. What have you done that would make her still want to pursue you? Once you're fairly serious with someone it can change, but while you're flirting with them, time spent texting is pretty much gonna be a bad thing, not a good thing. That said, you haven't said what you were doing before. Do you mean th…	/r/seduction	12/10/12 10:34 AM
5	Paying for drink on a first few dates Yeah, no. I don't disagree with respecting her, but why does buying drinks make you a gentleman. We're past that as a society. You don't owe her any more than she owes you and paying her to spend time with you is stupid. If you want to buy her a drink 'cause you're up anyway go for it, but paying for everything because you're a gentleman is silly.	/r/seduction	12/10/12 06:24 AM