LoggerheadedDoctor Archive

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1	Women do not have high standards. They just look for someone who is better than themselves and a lot of women are doing better nowadays than men. That only leaves a small amount of men for them to choose from. Knowing that my partner will protect me doesn't relate to submission for me, though. I protect and take care of him, too. But I still don't think that you described what submission looks like. What does a submissive woman do differently? I get that you believe she will submit if she feels her man can and will take care of you but what is she doing? What are the submissive behaviors?	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/10/24 10:06 PM
1	Women do not have high standards. They just look for someone who is better than themselves and a lot of women are doing better nowadays than men. That only leaves a small amount of men for them to choose from. Posts about submission drive me batty because the concept is never defined. Wtf does a submissive women look like according to you, OP?	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/10/24 11:45 PM
2	Submissive women are outbreeding independent women. Big boss babes will be bred out of the system. So I will be transparent: I grew up around the Amish and Mennonite so I had a decent view into how it functions. And second, I am a therapist who specializes in trauma. Trauma can play a part in maintaining order in those societies. Some of us have tried to make the argument that it's not submission that makes people remain in those communities but more insidious methods of control and abuse. Intermittent reinforcement/trauma bonding is strong and so are the mechanisms of authoritarianism in fun…	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/10/24 08:00 PM
3	Submissive women are outbreeding independent women. Big boss babes will be bred out of the system. What function do you believe trauma plays in these communities? And regarding my impression that you like weak women: just the vibe of your post. You seem to think it's a good thing that there will be an increase in submissive women and decrease in feminist boss babes.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/10/24 06:05 PM
6	Submissive women are outbreeding independent women. Big boss babes will be bred out of the system. Yep, totally aware. I actually grew up in an area with a high population of Amish and Mennonite and that's really how I know that OP is not understanding the culture and therefore it's a terrible example. Had a handful of classmates who were allowed to attend the public school but forced to drop out after 8th grade.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/10/24 12:33 PM
20	Submissive women are outbreeding independent women. Big boss babes will be bred out of the system. Today I learned that people who give into religious control and coercion are weak.../s Why are you into weak women?	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/10/24 02:44 AM
23	Submissive women are outbreeding independent women. Big boss babes will be bred out of the system. It's not a breeding mechanism if people are programmed to fear leaving. It's coercion and control. Don't put words in my mouth. It's not weakness to be afraid to leave everyone and everything you know and attempt to make it on your own alone in the world with the "English." Your example isn't good. Find a new one.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/10/24 02:36 AM
37	Submissive women are outbreeding independent women. Big boss babes will be bred out of the system. Amish and Mennonite stay in the community despite experiencing life outside their religion via Rumspringa because they are otherwise shunned by everyone they have ever known. Just excommunicated by their community and family. It's a very powerful mechanism of control and not because they are inheriting submission... Also you are greatly underestimating the negative impact this relationship dynamic has upon daughters. Many women disliked watching their mothers submit to their fathers and vow to c…	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/10/24 02:24 AM
2	Women want trad for thee but not for me So, let's play a wild hypothetical and assume she could actually help. Maybe she can fight, is really strong, carries a machete, has a good kick, idk. You would reject her help and risk injury because that isn't as bad as being emasculated? I cannot wrap my head around that. A long time ago, when my mother was pregnant with my brother, three dudes followed my parents into a gas station parking lot because they think my father cut them off. My father got out. Two of the dudes held him down and th…	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/02/24 05:46 PM
1	Daily Community Chat Megathread Be amused by how clueless my husband is.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/02/24 05:37 PM
2	Women want trad for thee but not for me It's hard to believe that you wouldn't feel hurt at all if your girl stood by and watched bad crap happen to you. I don't buy it.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/02/24 04:03 PM
5	Women want trad for thee but not for me You wouldn't want a woman to protect you? Seriously. My husband and I are far from conservative but I'd throw down for him if I had to. I wouldn't stand by and watch if he was in a fight or physical danger.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/02/24 03:45 PM
–	Debate: It is a logical fact that if a Father „helps“ his daughter to find a man, that she will pick better and in fact it is sad that we dismissed that concept. So, let's say the father can determine if a guy is a decent dude and would be a respectful and loving partner. But that says nothing about compatibility, chemistry, genuine connectedness, attraction, etc. How can you vet for chemistry or attraction? I accept that some fathers are able to identify a good man but that doesn't mean they can identify a man that is a good match for their daughter. Many others are providing anecdotal rebuttals in here. Women who have fathers who were absent or just tr…	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/12/23 04:34 AM
2	Question for women: What profession, if any, do you find most attractive in a man? Confirmed. My husband is an engineer and whew... That critical thinking skill set is mega attractive.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/12/23 01:44 AM
5	Once a woman stops being attracted to her husband, and the bedroom is dead, there is no reviving it. We each had to work on our individual stuff and that in turn helped the relationship. And yes, a fair amount of communication and largely understanding and patience from my husband who was able to be receptive to what I had to say on why I had been turned off.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/11/23 04:55 PM
7	Once a woman stops being attracted to her husband, and the bedroom is dead, there is no reviving it. I went through a period of lost attraction to my husband but regained my desire. But it wasn't regained from this: a woman who doesn't want to fuck a man can't have her mind changed with household chores or dates. It is soooo often deeper than that and is incredibly reductive about women's sexuality and desire.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/11/23 12:49 PM
10	Once a woman stops being attracted to her husband, and the bedroom is dead, there is no reviving it. As opposed to putting on a performance to pretend to enjoy it? If anyone is starfishing during sex, you should stop sex.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/11/23 10:43 AM
1	Why do you think (some) men are becoming attracted to this? This doesn't feel new? I look very feminine but I'm pretty rough around the edges, forward, the opposite of meek and prior to marriage received consistent feedback from interested dudes that they are attracted to those traits. I am formerly religious (fundie) and my husband has sometimes marveled at any culture preferring a submissive woman. He thinks it seems boring. He likes some spice, always has, and I don't think this is a new trend. He jokes if we are ever mugged his biggest challenge woul…	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/05/23 01:10 PM
3	Women claiming to be 'Sapiosexual' often do so either inaccurately or as code for something else. 100%. My husband is an engineer and whenever I witness his critical thinking, problem solving skills... It's on. Intelligence greatly, greatly enhances how attractive someone is in my eyes. I've been saying that I'm into nerds since I was a teenager.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/05/23 03:06 PM
36	It's unfair for people to say it's important for a man with a small penis to go into a sexual encounter with confidence, but then make it impossible build or maintain that confidence by constantly dragging small penises down, mocking and ridiculing them as immoral, inferior and unmasculine. And the dumb and lazy men in commercials or tv shows still had the sexy and competent wife and was usually successful. It's a shitty trope for men and women.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/08/22 07:37 PM
4	Do you think lifestyle differences are overlooked as a deal-breaker within relationships? Subreddits like this have enabled me to understand RP language in case my clients start speaking that way. So, despite the trolls, it has still been useful.	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/07/22 08:44 PM
6	Do you think lifestyle differences are overlooked as a deal-breaker within relationships? I try really hard to pay attention to spaces or demographics or groups that I can't really relate to nor am a part of, just so I won't be a trash therapist simply because I am working with a client who isn't exactly like me. I also would like to avoid being totally clueless.	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/07/22 07:19 PM
16	Do you think lifestyle differences are overlooked as a deal-breaker within relationships? I am a therapist and I talk about this type of compatibility often with my clients. It's really fascinating how resistant people can be when considering the important of compatibility. Many people seem to know the important of compatible values but lifestyle stuff? Not so much.	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/07/22 04:32 PM
1	Women who have a height standard - at what point does it become marginally insignificant & what can possibly make you drop it? You are making me want to look those dudes up! I am in my mid 30s so curious to see if their joints aged well....	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/07/22 04:23 PM
1	Women who have a height standard - at what point does it become marginally insignificant & what can possibly make you drop it? I went to a college with a good basketball team so tall dudes everywhere.	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/07/22 04:20 PM
1	Women who have a height standard - at what point does it become marginally insignificant & what can possibly make you drop it? The one dude was not honest about having herpes and told me after we became sexually active. I got lucky, not contracting it. And the other guy I was really confused, after a few months of dating, on why I wasn't super into him or looking forward to hanging out with him. Other than looks, he had a lot of great qualities other women would be into (all my girlfriends went a little crazy about him, actually). Super nice dude, bought his first house around 22, fixed up old cars, same sense of humor,…	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/07/22 12:35 PM
3	Women who have a height standard - at what point does it become marginally insignificant & what can possibly make you drop it? Wishful thinking on your part. But no. I initiated those break ups with the very tall dudes. But you're just likely going to say I'm a liar, I can't prove it, blah, blah, blah. All in an effort to tell a woman you don't know that she's not attractive basically.	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/07/22 12:11 PM
13	Women who have a height standard - at what point does it become marginally insignificant & what can possibly make you drop it? I'm 5'8. Shortest I dated was 5'6. Dated two other dudes who were same height as me, one was a pretty seriously relationship. My husband is 5'11. I used to say my ideal was a lot taller than me. Dated two dudes were around 6'8. Sort of been all over the place. The shorter dudes I just liked and was attracted to so height didn't matter.	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/07/22 11:33 PM
0	What are your standards in a partner? Married for 9 years but, if I were single: Childfree Decent job-- enough where we would not have to struggle with combined incomes Curious about the world and always seeking to learn or understand more Progressive and liberal perspective Laid back. I am hyper and high strung so a laid back person is a much better match for me Sexual compatibility Physically--I like slim dudes with dark hair. Runner or soccer player build. Glasses Dark sense of humor Compassionate Well adjusted/emotionally well, …	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/12/21 07:18 PM
12	What are your standards in a partner? she needs to disclose every detail of her sexual past and also offer me just as good sex as, or better sex than, her previous partners. This is suuuuuuuper interesting. You mentioned quality as opposed to the actual sex acts. How does one determine if the sex is as good as she had with past partners? And how do you determine the sex you're offering is as good as or better than her past partners?	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/12/21 07:16 PM
4	Men, what do you think women gain from being in a relationship? Women, what do you think men gain from being in a relationship? My husband and I are super compatible in many ways, so it basically feels like he is a best friend that I have sex with. So, I think he gains compatible and fun companionship. A partner who can read his mood and stress levels and will inquire on how he is feeling, someone who cares and notices him. He gains support and encouragement for his career and education goals, for his hobbies and interests. I do most of the cooking and cleaning, having a more flexible work schedule than him, so that enab…	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/11/21 06:48 PM
9	There is a power dynamic in heterosexual intercourse. Sex for women requires more physical AND EMOTIONAL vulnerability. I know there is a significant minority of women who feel this way (I even have a few friends like this), and honestly I've come to the conclusion that they are either having issues with their sexuality (are lesbian/asexual and haven't realised it), have histories of legitimate abuse/trauma that has been left unaddressed, have started viewing sex as extremely dirty/shameful due to conditioning of some sort, or simply have no attraction to their partners. Or, how about, they have had a lot of bad …	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/05/21 02:54 PM
20	If your man watches porn because he has limited to no access to sex with you, there is a 0% chance that you can pity yourself for the situation you got into. r/badwomensanatomy?	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/04/21 09:37 PM
4	If relationships are more valuable than wealth, then women have the most privilege Another example is feeling respected. I value respect more than love. If I had to choose between the two in a a relationship, hands down I would choose respect, because that feels like safety.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/04/21 07:11 PM
2	Question for Men: how do you feel about marriage? You mention you have children- do you have any daughters?	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/03/20 03:42 PM