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A man and a woman will hook up and the man will get blamed for "objectifying" and "sexualizing" the woman, and that same woman is a queen for sleeping with whoever she wants
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 11:57 PM
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Here's the thing: if you're trying to be nice, you're also trying to make sure you're not overstepping someone's boundaries or making them uncomfortable, which is unconfident behavoir, and a major turn off to women. Being confident when flirting with a girl requires you to basically just make a leap of faith and hope you're not coming off as an asshole. One woman's "being swept of my feet" would come off as "sexual harassment" to another woman, and men can't read minds. Also, assholes ALWAYS hav…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 08:04 AM
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A lot of women think there's something wrong with it because they think men should have to be nice to women by default.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/24 06:19 PM
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You have baggage, I have baggage, we all have baggage. And most of it originates in our formative years and then we just keep carrying it and adding to it. No. Some people have more baggage than others, a LOT more. Some people have spent a lot more time working on themselves during their formative years, while others have spent them partying and sleeping around. These two kinds of people are simply not equal. Your choices build who you are. People can change, but rarely actually do, and I'd stil…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/24 08:33 PM
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Here's the way I see it: Blue Pill: "There is no psychological difference between the sexes and any disparity between the two is because of the patriarchy or puritanism or whatever our boogeyman of the month is" Red Pill: "There are massive differences between the sexes due to evolutionary psychology and you should manipulate the opposite sexes' psychology as much as possible, while adhering to yours." Purple Pill: "We acknowledge the differences between the sexes but don't have to adhere to the…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 09:50 PM
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People will say "just don't go on social media then" and completely ignore how it influences your family, coworkers, potential partners and society at large. It's good to be aware of women's behavoir and attitudes, although you should be consuming outrage content.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/24 08:56 PM
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/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/24 08:40 PM
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That's because men don't gain comfort from sympathy or affirmation or anything like that. We need to improve ourselves to feel better. Women feel better after watching those kind of cliches because they feel sympathized with. A man isn't going to feel better after watching a scene where a heartbroken guy goes to the gym, he's going to feel better if he actually goes to the gym. This is why women's mental help advice uses phrases like "you matter, you deserve this, you're perfect the way you are"…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/24 04:58 AM
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I love women. I do not love women's attitudes towards men.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/24 05:25 AM
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Actually they're crawling around in secret tunnels
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/24 10:15 PM
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Mostly true, but there are some older single women who are genuinely happy, and they're never online constantly trying to convince people how happy they are.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/24 09:04 PM
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I'm starting to think that guy actually did have Uno
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/24 09:01 PM
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Source?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/24 11:01 PM
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This is just me speaking from my experience. I don't see any men going around saying "where have all the good women gone?" after he spend his younger years whoring around
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/24 05:57 AM
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Speaking purely from my own perspective as a male, I don't think this is true. I think the "whores" you're referring to can definitely be motherly, and the "madonnas" can definitely be insanely hot. They're not mutually exclusive Most women I don't categorize, if I get to know her more I'll notice certain traits. From my interactions with other men, several then have met their current GFs (or even wives) from hooking up, so maybe they saw her as a "whore" but then realized he liked her personali…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/24 05:52 AM
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Men sometimes have their own dual mating strategy, but don't do it as often as women do. In my experience more men know very early on if they want to be sleeping around, or if they want to find a wife. Some change their minds, most don't. But women more often want to "explore" and "be free" and then settle down with husband material later.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/24 05:44 AM
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Don't ask, don't tell works for me. This is an awful idea if you're looking for a long term relationship. There shouldn't be anything you'd want to hide from your partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/24 05:13 AM
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It sounds like you're the insecure one if you don't even want to share that with someone you're interested it. Why do you feel the need to hide it?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/24 05:08 AM
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Whenever the topic of "this gender is more emotional" everyone always has a single example. That's it. There's just 1 person that's been pissing them off recently and they're like "look at this, this is the perfect example of everyone of the same gender!"
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/24 08:27 PM
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Why ?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/24 08:24 PM
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Options consisting of guys that weren't able to get into relationships in high school or university due to being some combination of socially awkward, overweight, poor career prospects, etc. How many women haven't been able to get into relationships in high school/university because of these reasons? Besides being overweight, there's very little that hurts a woman's dating prospects. Do you see what I'm getting at here ?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/24 07:56 PM
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Yeah, somewhat. I used to see red pill vs blue pill as a spectrum, but this sub has me seeing it as a horseshoe. The way sigma grindset redpillers and bluepill feminists see the world is actually insanely similar.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/24 10:24 PM
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Holy shit that sucks
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/24 08:24 PM
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Holy shit this is actual insanity. What's even more concerning is the amount of people who agree with this. If she's that paranoid for a first date, imagine how she'd treat her children. My mom was 1/10th as paranoid and my childhood sucked because of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/24 08:12 PM
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Where can we find girls like this
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/24 08:04 PM
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If you can't come up with your own interpretation of an ending you have low IQ to be honest. But I enjoy seeing "ending explained" videos to see other people's take on some genuinely ambivalent movies, like Enemy and Whiplash
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/24 08:02 PM
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Yes, but they also probably had to drop a lot of societal beauty standards, or didn't have them in the first place
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/24 07:59 PM
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This isn't gaslighting, better looking people (of both genders) have an easier time getting away with shitty behavior.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/24 07:48 PM
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A guy does get to tell a woman her standards are ridiculous, it's not illegal for him to say that. Don't be surprised when it takes months or years to find a guy that meets extremely high beauty standards, and don't be surprised when he turns out to be a shitty boyfriend.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/24 07:36 PM
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A guy does get to tell a woman her standards are ridiculous, it's not illegal for him to say that. Don't be surprised when it takes months or years to find a guy that meets extremely high beauty standards, and don't be surprised when he turns out to be a shitty boyfriend.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/24 07:36 PM
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Some women are like that. It's up to you to avoid them. If you're constantly looking for extremely conventionally attractive women then don't be surprised when they turn out to have the mentality of a child because they've never had to work for anything in their life.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/24 07:21 PM
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It really depends on what your standards are. It's totally fine to not want to date/have sex with someone you're repulsed by. Especially if it's something they can control like weight and grooming. But also, some people have ridiculous physical standards and if they weren't constantly thinking about them, they'd be attracted to a lot more people in an insant. Physical attraction towards other people is something you can control to a degree, I know this from experience. Some of these girls expect…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/24 07:05 PM
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Not at all. Assuming the worst of a potential partner is never good. Understanding that they might not have your best interests at heart is fine. I can't come up with a perfect dating strategy, no one can. All I'm saying is that you're less likely to come across people who only want you for sex if you don't have sex with them right away. It sounds like you're in an incredibly small minority of people who are DTF fairly early on in a relationship but aren't trying to hook up. Finding people who a…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/23 04:41 AM
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It's everyone's responsibility to vet potential partners, not unique to you or your dating strategy. I wouldn't call waiting for an emotional connection before having sex a "game". And if you feel like withholding pleasure is that bad, are you sure you aren't just interested in hooking up? Plenty of people have to withhold pleasure. Sorry that you don't have a magical ability to tell when people are lying, none of us do, that's just the reality of life.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/23 04:12 AM
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I'm allowed to find the fact men want sex without an emotional connection gross and creepy. So I'm assuming you've never hooked up or had a one night stand? And you know when I have known a man really was into me for a lot more than sex and even probably would have gone without sex potentially until marriage? Go ahead, guess: he was trying to sweep me off my feet with romantic gestures, was well willing to wait about the sex topic, and did not seem to feel sexual compatibility was important to e…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/23 03:28 AM
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I’ve had conversations with red pill guys here who have waited for months for the chance that eventually a girl would sleep with him. It really wouldn't be surprising if those guys were lying, but yeah it's possible they weren't either. But most guys who are only in it for sex aren't gonna wait nearly that long. The longer you wait, the better. No one but the most talented of actors can feign emotional interest for very long.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/23 03:24 AM
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Unfortunately there's no surefire way to tell the difference between 1. Someone who is only interested in sex, and 2. Someone who's okay to have sex early on in a relationship but still wants a long term emotional connection. But the latter is always going to be more willing to wait longer, so the longer you're willing to wait, the better.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/23 02:47 AM
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If you don't want to wait at all then you shouldn't be surprised when someone else doesn't want to wait at all
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/23 02:30 AM
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3 months
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/23 02:25 AM
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I suppose it's not possible to accurately to predict when you're ready to have sex in a relationship, but most people have a rough idea of what they want out of a relationship, whether they need to feel secure, or feel a connection, etc.. It should be okay to ask about this without being accused of only wanting someone for sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/23 02:06 AM
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Wait 6 months
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/23 01:53 AM
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From my experience, there's a lot of women out there who only want dates or friendship. Maybe not a ton, but enough to make dating an extreme pain. My friend's sister straight up admitted that she's only on Hinge for male friends. She dated a guy for nearly a year, he made some furniture for her (he was a woodworker) and when he wanted to make the relationship more serious she said she liked him more as a friend. IDK how common this is, it's not like you can make a poll about it and expect to ge…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/23 01:31 AM
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However we also know that many men will fake emotional interest for the sake of sex. Precisely. Women would be able to weed these men out by making clear boundaries from the beginning, i.e. "I don't have sex until I'm at least a year in to a relationship"
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/23 01:27 AM
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What do you mean "men nuke their friendships"? If a guy doesn't want to remain friends with a woman he was romantically interested in, he doesn't have to. It's painful to stay friends with someone you wanted a relationship with. It's not because the guy only ever wanted sex, but the emotional connection will rot if you're sexually frustrated. There are only potential upsides for the man if the woman chooses to have sex with him. There aren't many potential upsides for the woman if she chooses to…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/23 12:59 AM
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I must have forgotten to type it. anyone in the dating scene who doesn’t just want hookups has to be on guard for the people who “choose the latter” and have sex despite the lack of emotional connection. I agree with this, but conversely, anyone in the dating scene who doesn't just want platonic dates has to be on guard for people who don't want sex even if there is an emotional connection
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/23 12:23 AM
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I feel like if you asked both men and women how they felt about communicating sexual desires early on in a relationship, men would overwhelmingly be more okay with it. But I have no data to back up this statement.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/23 12:00 AM
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I said some men. And I said most men want both. It isn't always an either/or scenario. Again, they aren't mutually exclusive.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/23 11:56 PM
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The "friend zone" means a woman doesn't see a guy as sexually compatible with her. And it's difficult to stay friends with someone you wanted a deeper connection with. Men are in a hurry to get sex because we want to know if we're sexually compatible or not. If women were more upfront about sex, or at least okay with men wanting to discus it, they wouldn't feel like rushing it. We DO care about the journey, the "getting to know each other" stage, but sex is often on our minds. We can wait for se…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/23 11:55 PM
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so even if a guy is great and treats me really well, i'll never really believe that isn't how he sees me This sounds like a you problem TBH. This is about how you see yourself, not about how men see you.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/23 06:29 PM
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Sunlight is free, long distance running is free, and so are violent thoughts. Those work like therapy for me
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/23 09:28 PM
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I'm not rich
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/23 09:25 PM
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I've been saying the same thing for years. I think of different types of relationships (familial, plantonic, romantic, etc) as food groups. Any one can keep you from starving (going insane from loneliness) but you need them all to be healthy.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/23 09:24 PM
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Men don't love rom coms because they're designed for women
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/23 09:21 PM
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It's called Goodwill
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/23 08:42 AM
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That's something that could be discussed ahead of time
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/23 01:56 AM
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Low libido could be a deal breaker for me depending on how low.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/23 01:46 AM
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Some financial security, not enough so that she didn't have to work unfortunately (but few man can offer that in this economy ). Good cooking skills on top the typical husband duties. Solid 6/10 looks. IDK, the rest is subjective, would totally depend on the type of guy she'd like and what her interests are
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/23 01:45 AM
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Bluepill women: "all dudes care about is a woman's attractiveness and will ditch their GF for a more attractive/younger one given the chance!" Also bluepill women: get into relationships with nearly any guy they want, solely on the basis of their looks/youth and bring nothing else to the relationship It's like if a guy signed up for a job where he has to flip pancakes, and then gets mad when his employer fires him for a guy who flips pancakes faster.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/23 12:15 AM
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I honestly don't understand femcels at all. Like, there's a lot of batshit people who I vehemently disagree with but I understand where theyre coming from (self proclaimed incels, feminists, manosphere dudes, OP, "just be yourself" bluepillers) But femcels are clinically insane.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/23 12:06 AM
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I'd rather date a 5/10 woman who is saving her virginity until marriage than a 10/10 who has had sex before. I'm not even religious. I want to only ever have sex with 1 woman and the thought of a potential spouse not doing the same for me disgusts me. A woman who saves intimacy for someone who she wants to spend the rest of her life with is instantly attractive to me and it's a sign of commitment and emotional maturity.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/23 12:02 AM
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most will drop the average looking woman for the hot woman if the opportunity arises or if he was absolutely certain the hot woman wanted him. Source ?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/23 11:56 PM
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Because healthy masculinity includes leadership and force, both of which threaten the status quo. Call me a conspiracy theorist but the government and the media have made being helpless "hip" and "cool" so that men don't rise up.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/23 07:06 PM
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Maybe men just don't like you?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/23 06:40 PM
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You use the term "us" as if women are some sort of hive mind. Maybe a man doesn't love you that way? Not saying it's because of how you are personally, maybe you're just unlucky or haven't met someone like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/23 06:37 PM
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Because we don't post about it online. If you want to show your wife and kids you love them, it's pretty easy, you live in the same house.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/23 06:34 PM
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Source?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/23 06:02 AM
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If shitty attitudes didn't help men get laid, we wouldn't hear from women complaining about the shitty attitudes of the dudes they sleep with
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/23 02:18 AM
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First
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/23 02:00 AM
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We're going to need a source on this statistic
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/23 04:31 PM
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What do you think of the movie Blade Runner 2049?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/23 02:14 AM
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Amen brother
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/23 01:51 AM
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Because if your family has a treasure trove of VHS tapes you're going to watch them. Upgrading them all to DVDs is too expensive and pointless. I was born in '96 and was still using VHS tapes well into the 2010's simply because my mom had so many of them
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/23 01:41 AM
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Sounds like that person's mother had a shitty time with men and instead of actually thinking about relationships she just wants to use her daughter to take out her frustration towards men
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/23 01:32 AM
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Have a low/no body count is an indicator of self-control and emotional maturity. People with higher body counts are more likely to divorce later in life. Sex isn't just a pleasurable act but is essential in forging strong bonds with a lifelong romantic partner. I want to find a woman who sees sex and relationships the same way.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/23 10:39 PM
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Experiment, communicate each other's turn ons, etc. Also discussing each other's libidos and expectations of sex beforehand
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/23 10:31 PM
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Guys get mad at women who only like the top 1% of hot men, the type of women who don't even view less attractive men as human
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/23 10:29 PM
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I've been seeing a lot of social media posts from girls saying they want quiet guys with dark circles under their eyes, who have scruffy hair and are tired, etc. Are these women lying because I don't see these kinds of men getting dates or having girlfriends.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/23 10:06 PM
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I've been seeing a lot of social media posts from girls saying they want quiet guys with dark circles under their eyes, who have scruffy hair and are tired, etc. Are these women lying because I don't see these kinds of men getting dates or having girlfriends. EDIT: and how would a guy matching this description find girls who like guys like him?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/23 09:30 PM
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Four
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/23 09:05 PM
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Plenty of guys would love to "wife up" a woman like this. She's acting like she's single because of her hobbies, interests, and looks, but I guarantee you it's because picky or she's just a shitty girlfriend. That video is clearly just begging for male attention, I bet she probably had a flood of DMs from guys saying they'd wife her up, and she is interested in 0% of those guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/23 08:06 PM
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Love
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/23 07:57 PM
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Not trying to pry but it's pertinent to this conversation, are you on birth control?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/23 07:43 PM
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Fetterman is proof that physiognomy is real
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/23 07:42 PM
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His analogy is really weird but I get his point. Most guys aren't attracted to old women but if they grew old with that woman, they'd see her as the most beautiful thing in the world.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/23 04:28 AM
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You dont lose value as you age if you stay with the same guy you got with at age 18-24. If he's serious about being "traditional" or "redpilled" he's gonna treat her like a queen well into her old age. Women 25+ are only "used up" if they have a body count and/or baggage. A woman who is somehow still a virgin at 26 is still going to be much more coveted than a woman who is 18 but has multiple bodies. And people are having kids older because of societal factors, especially a shitty economy and ex…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/23 04:13 AM
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Baste
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/23 04:11 AM
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There's a specific kind of loneliness you get from not having a romantic partner when you desperately want one. I have a pretty good relationship with my family and even my extended family. I play online games with my friends almost daily and physically hang out with friends nearly every weekend. But I still long for a romantic relationship, I hate sleeping by myself every night and not having a GF to say good morning to, and I get jealous every time I see a couple holding hands I'm public. No m…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/23 09:32 PM
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If we ever met an alien species (peacefully) would there be a lot of passport bros going to smash alien puss?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/23 09:11 PM
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i don't see how not seeing someone again means i hate them or view them as an object, but i guess thats what you are saying you do. That's not what I'm saying at all. But hookups aren't a good way to meet new people in the way you're describing.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/23 06:26 AM
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What exactly does a guy have to do in order to not get blamed for seeing women as a sex object? No guy has ever gone home after a one-night stand and said "wow, she has such an incredible taste in art, music and philosophy, and I learned so much from spending time with her!" How are these men supposed to "value a woman as a whole person" when sex was the only thing that was ever offered? Furthermore, why is it solely on the man for "objectification" when these women are choosing to sleep with th…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/23 05:00 AM
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Absolutely not. Women who don't take dating apps seriously are the reason why they suck. She was just looking for the top 1% of handsome dudes and is now changing her mind after she didn't get any matches. A woman like this WILL use that same dating app to cheat on you, or at the very least line up a backup plan.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/23 12:22 AM
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SSRI's only prevent suicides in the same way that suicide nets prevent suicides.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/23 12:09 AM
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It should be noted that women, especially divorced women, use antidepressants much more than men do. Men who were never married use fewer antidepressants than any other group. Source: https://www.cdc.gov/mmwr/volumes/69/wr/mm6942a8.htm#:~:text=During%202015%E2%80%932018%2C%2013.6%25,never%20married%20(10.8%25)%20adults. Single women aren't happy, just sedated.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/23 08:25 PM
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The fact that they don't do this suggests that it is, in fact, not what they want. Most can't because the economy is so bad, most households need 2 incomes. This wasn't always the case.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/23 06:27 PM
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Why do you believe when a woman has a job, she is a corporate wage slave, but this doesn’t apply to a man? I still believe this can apply to a man, but often men are working hard so they can have a wife and kids. I've never once heard a woman say "I want to work my way up the corporate ladder so I can get a stay at home husband and be able to spoil my kids!". It really depends on if you're doing it for your family.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/23 01:10 AM
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The fact that you immediately equate traditional gender norms into basically slavery is proof just how far the propaganda has gotten. They want women to be obedient worker drones for lifeless corporations and not raise children right, so that those children will in turn be raised into mindless consumers and worker drones. Virtually none of the men who want traditional gender roles want women to have fewer rights than women do. We just want monogamous relationships where we get to provide for our…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/23 11:44 PM
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Everyone who opposes paternity testing will bring up "insecurity" like clockwork. Maybe you're the insecure one?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/23 07:33 PM
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Because when I started noticing the ridiculous double standards coming from women and the outright lies coming from feminists, and how seemingly the whole internet doesn't think either exist, I needed reassurance to know I'm not going insane. But I also don't want to go into an echo chamber, which actually would drive me insane, and seeing opposing viewpoints thay I don't agree with but are not completely batshit, is refreshing.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/23 07:14 PM
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Because we might lose our jobs
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/23 08:11 PM
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We would probably be seeing female Elliot Rodgers style shootings by the end of the week
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/23 08:06 PM
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It wouldn't turn me off - I'd love the attention, actually - but it would make me question the longevity of the relationship. In the rare instances that a woman puts a man on a pedestal, it's ususally because she was recently in an abusive relationship, or because she's coping with some sort of loss, or has some self-esteem issues. None of these problems would make me less attracted to her, but I'd want to help her fix them in a healthy way. I'd reassure her that she doesn't need to do all those…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/23 11:48 PM
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One of the most reliable predictors of a divorce is if a woman makes more than her husband (and these divorces are almost always initiated by the woman). I personally wouldn't mind dating a woman who makes much more than me, but statistically, she's eventually going to see me as disposable. Women already shot themselves in the foot in this regard by constantly divorcing men who are poorer than them. It's going to take decades for them to build up trust. Until then, it's going to take a LOT of af…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/23 06:45 PM
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Its incredibly hypocritical because these are the same women who then turn around and get mad at their partner for liking pictures of girls dressed in a vulgar way. This is a double standard that I've noticed a lot, yes. Whenever a woman says it's "controlling" for her man to say she can't go out to bars in skimpy clothing, I always pose her this question: would you be okay with your BF going to bars specifically to look at women who dress the way she does ?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/23 06:35 PM
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You know, I wouldn't mind women like this avoiding men, its definitely a win for us. If a woman doesn't want to be around men that's fine, even if she has batshit insane reasons for doing so. But if a man were to say the exact same thing about women, these people would literally start frothing at the mouth.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/23 06:30 PM
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How many of them are single? Because men and women can totally be friends if they're already satisfied romantically and sexually. It's hard to see a friend of the opposite gender as just a friend if you want a GF/BF badly.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/23 06:26 PM
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Why wouldn't they like it? This doesn't really prove anything. Fathers might be settling out of court because they know they're going to lose, or because they'll be broke afterwards even if they win.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/23 06:18 PM
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It seems like every time a man expresses he wants something, it immediately gets seen as him saying he is entitled to it.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/23 07:21 PM
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Thats the thing, a lot of us want to provide for a woman and feel wanted and needed. A half a morning is a small price for that
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/23 10:47 PM
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They will get emotional if you ghost them anyway. And if they argue you don't have to argue back. Just a single text along the lines of "I do not want to continue this relationship" is better than ghosting in every case. You don't even have to look at the response to said text.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/23 06:25 PM
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I don't understand how ghosting is a survival technique. If a woman feels like a date is a potential stalker/abuser/etc then her best bet at "survival" is owning a gun. If he isn't, then giving a respectful "I dont feel a spark" or something along those lines is the best way to not continue dating. I think these women perfectly understand that ghosting is inappropriate and only do it to get back at men for perceived injustices.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/23 06:02 PM
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Premarital sex
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/23 04:27 PM
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If you're a woman and making a decent sum of money you're totally entitled to ask for your partner to make a similar amount of money (assuming you'll split housing costs) Men get angry at the women who make very little or straight up don't wish to work, who are demanding a man make 6 figures. When you ask for these requirements do you mention how much you're making?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/23 10:56 PM
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Because women have so much power in dating that if they're still single by 30 it's often because they're picky. It a man is single by his 30s it's typically because he hasn't been picked yet.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/23 01:42 AM
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So a single man in his 30s is a blameless victim but his single female counterpart is a wanton tart with a bad attitude? Not always, but a lot of the time, yeah
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/23 01:31 AM
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It seems as though you’re skipping the part where the man is also in their thirties Men being single in their 30s isn't remotely the same as women being single in their 30s. We have so much more to work on to be considered dateable, it may take us until our 30s. Besides, women are more often attracted to men who are older than them.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/23 01:29 AM
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Paid jack shit, barely enough to live
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/23 08:26 PM
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Only the first paragraph
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/23 07:47 PM
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You need men to build the house you live in and the streets you drive on. Maybe you're doing home repairs and maintenance yourself, but if you aren't, it's almost entirely men who do that. Unless you literally live off grid, on a house your built yourself and get food from a farm you maintain yourself, you are relying on men.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/23 04:09 PM
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Probably the biggest red flag you can see in other men is addiction to alcohol/drugs. Almost every POS boyfriend I've known or heard about was an alcoholic to some degree. If he has to drink every weekend to have fun, that's a major red flag. The second is temperament. If he gets unreasonably pissed off at small things - getting stuck in traffic, losing in a video game, etc., there's a good chance he will be angry with you later on in the relationship. I don't date men but from hanging out with …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/23 04:39 PM
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Yeah, but honestly my standards for someone not being boring are pretty low. She'd have to be watching TV/youtube/social media all day to be considered boring and not have any interests beyond that whatsoever. If a girl has any hobbies beyond consumption entertainment, she's already not boring to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/23 04:27 PM
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Do you think women can still be hot in their early 30s? Absolutely, as long as she actually has a personality and hobbies. If she thinks she's valuable solely because she's a woman, then yeah, she loses desirability. "The wall" is real, but it only exists for women who have built it themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/23 07:27 PM
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I used to, but I hardly feel angry anymore. I still harbor a lot of bitterness towards feminists, but I still see them as people who just got duped into a really bizarre way of looking at things. In another life, a lot of them could have been my friends. Maybe we can even still be friends in this one. The problem is, a lot of people WANT to be angry. They enjoy being angry and go on social media to read and watch stuff that will make them angry. I used to browse r/whereareallthegoodmen and r/pus…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/23 05:51 PM
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Sometimes abusers are good at hiding it, but the majority you can see coming from a mile away. The fact that women discuss "icks" about something as innocuous as how a guy puts on his shoes, while ignoring whether or not he's a violent felon or drug/alcohol addict, is testament to how poorly a lot of women's choices in partners are. Any and all of men's advice to women on how to pick partners is going to be twisted unto "victim blaming" anyway, so it's not like we can help.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/23 05:12 PM
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Feminism operates under a lot of principles and premises but the one we're concerned with here is the fact that men are a privileged group in society Idk who said this quote but "Feminists see themselves as perpetually oppressed because they only compare themselves to high status men and don't see low status men as human" The manosphere is low status men's response to not being seen as human.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/23 05:47 PM
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https://theconversation.com/we-studied-what-happens-when-guys-add-their-cats-to-their-dating-app-profiles-144999#:~:text=Most%20of%20the%20women%20found,more%20neurotic%2C%20agreeable%20and%20open.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/23 12:45 AM
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Yeah I saw some sort of dating advice a while back (I forgot which subreddit, it wasn't this one) that women like it when men smile more in their dating app pictures, but an actual survey showed that women overwhelmingly prefer a more firm facial expression. I had seen another post of women saying they love guys with cats but another survey showed that, of course, women overwhelmingly don't see guys with cats as dateable
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/23 11:45 PM
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bought into to propaganda that being with a man was going to give them love, security and happiness. Lmao what propaganda? Virtually no advertisements or entertainment try to tell women they'd be better off with men, not for decades woke from the clarity of the SSRI's I've never heard of SSRIs making anyone smarter
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/23 11:28 PM
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I'd hardly call taking antidepressants "taking care of themselves". It's a band-aid solution that's better than offing yourself, sure, but antidepressant use has a deluge of harmful side-effects in the long run.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/23 07:14 PM
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The "scaremongering" is really only a pushback to the propaganda being fed to young women about how being single, young, and "independent" is some ideal new lifestyle and that having a family is some sort of horrible fate worse than death. A woman who is single and genuinely enjoys being single and doesn't have to shout about it consantly is doing great and I wish her the best. A woman who is single and drowning herself with SSRI's and wine and constantly has to tweet about how being single and …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/23 07:11 PM
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That would make sense why women don't want to give honest feedback IRL, but women still don't give honest feedback in anonymous spaces like Reddit or anywhere else. So much BS dating advice and outright lies about women's preferences are even in places where they don't have to worry about being attacked
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/23 06:12 AM
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It highly depends on how she uses it. If she's using social media often to just talk to friends or participate in interests she cares about (like a subreddit regarding her hobbies) then it's totally fine. If she's constantly posting about herself and/or trying to get likes and followers, that's a huge red flag IMO. Personally I'm on social media somewhat often but I'm always discussing things, posting funny stuff, etc. I never make posts about myself or try to gain attention. I'd want a partner …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/23 07:36 PM
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Which means women aren't actively repelled by them and want their friendship Nah, they want a sexually frustrated orbiter half the time. I'd rather actively repell someone than be wanted as an emotional slave.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 03:24 PM
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I don't think women are repelled by genuinely kind men, they just don't care, or they only like it as a secondary trait after they're initially attracted to assertiveness and confidence and physical attractiveness. From what I've seen, women aren't attracted to mean behavior from men, but they ignore it if he is good looking.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 03:22 PM
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Goyslop check. What have you eaten in the past 24 hours?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/23 01:58 AM
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Absolutely not
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/23 01:57 AM
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Sex shouldn't be a reward women dole out, and it would ideally be something they want to participate in too, but that's not the reality for most relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/23 01:54 AM
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You don't ask a fish how to catch fish. You ask a fisherman.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/23 01:20 AM
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Okay im assuming this is bait but on the off chance it isn't, you should never lie or "lead someone on" about sex. It's manipulative and even men who are totally patient and respectful about when/how you want to have sex are going to be offput by this kind of behavior. If men and women were more honest about how they feel about sex then the genders wouldn't have so much of a disconnect between each other and dating wouldn't be nearly as frustrating.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/23 03:05 AM
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All of this is just anecdotal evidence on a point that it seems you've already made up your mind on, so it's useless for discussion. We do know that women use antidpress about twice as much as men do: https://www.cdc.gov/nchs/products/databriefs/db377.htm This can mean a variety of things. Are women more emotionally fragile because they need antidepressants more often? Or are men more emotionally fragile because they aren't as willing to take antidepressants to deal with emotional issues?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/23 02:37 AM
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Favorite: turtles Least favorite: green heron
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/23 11:05 PM
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Men have to work on a lot of things to be dateable: having hobbies, a career, a house, confidence, being funny etc. Naturally you get better at these things over time. Women typically don't have to do anything to be dateable. As a consequence, younger women are picked more often for their youth. Men don't inherently age better than women, but we absolutely have to if we are looking for a partner. Women could age as well as men do, they just choose not to.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/23 10:31 PM
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Is it over? It's never over
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/23 02:14 AM
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Is there a market for plain looking girls? Absolutely. I can't speak for all men, but me and most of my friends prefer more plain looking girls. I still find conventionally pretty women to be attractive, but I just don't fall head over heels for them the way I do when I see a plain looking woman and imagine a life with her.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/23 08:15 PM
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Thats interesting, I haven't heard of a woman feeling that way before
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/23 08:08 PM
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You're definitely an outlier (that still sounds hot tho).
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/23 08:03 PM
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Its difficult to describe. I want a muse to inspire me to become a better and more creative person. I want someone to cook great meals for, and someone who will take care of me when I'm sick. I want someone to build a home with, maybe not in the literal sense, but in the sense that we take a space and make it our own. I want someone to bond with sexually and are able to excite each other with just a touch. I want someone to grow as a person with, someone who is fun to do nothing with, but also w…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/23 07:47 PM
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Personally, I want a romantic partner. No amount of friends, or a good relationship with my family, will satisfy that. A lot of women assume that if we just surround ourselves with friends, we won't want or need romantic attraction anymore. I genuinely believe that men and women are better off with each other and society prospers when men and women work together, but modern society has sown so much distrust between men and women that we think we are better off alone. The reason female loneliness…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/23 06:54 PM
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Lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/23 06:44 PM
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Because of the economy, men still have to work just as hard as they used to in previous generations, even if their wives are working. If their wives aren't working you have to have an insanely well paying job. The only difference is that their wives also have to work in order to deal with the skyrocketing prices of food and housing.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/23 10:17 PM
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Women are more willing to have sex with guys premaritally This still only applies to the top 10% of men (aka the patriarchy). The bottom 90% is still SOL now they can rely on their woman to work and make money. Relationships where the man relies on the woman for housing/money are incredibly rare
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/23 09:31 PM
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Women are to sassy as to what men are to alphas
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/23 09:25 PM
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What has feminism done for men? You hear all the time that "feminism is for men too" and "the patriarchy hurts men too"
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/23 09:02 PM
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I'd question your premise in the first place. I don't think women are taking care of their sick spouses any more often than men are. And the "red pill" means different things for different people, there's no consensus as to what it really means, but to me it means that if I'm willing to take care of a sick wife, I deserve a women who would also be willing to take care of me when I'm sick.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/23 03:33 PM
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Deadass I swear something is wrong with me Honestly yeah
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/23 12:35 AM
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Same, and I'd also like to add "toxic" to the list
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/23 08:53 PM
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Would you be okay if it was similarly illegal to imply (either directly or indirectly) that you'll reward someone with sex if they do something for you, and then not have sex with them?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/23 07:37 PM
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Those shows and movies were created by men as fantasies for men A lot of these are from romantic comedies which have always been tailored towards women
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/23 03:10 AM
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I think the problem is that whenever a male kills a female, a bunch of women use it to get pity from men without actually having a serious discussion on how to prevent these sorts of killings.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/23 02:55 AM
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Q4M: How many times have you raped and murdered a woman in a fit of rage because you got rejected in a very polite way? Idk I lost count tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/23 02:41 AM
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I've been having the same problems. Excersizing helps quite a bit, I like to go on super long runs/walks which help me sleep better. Getting sunlight helps immensely too, and if you live in a place that's super cloudy (or is cloudy for certain seasons), take Vitamin D supplements. Also, the most important thing I've learned about sleep is that doing the right things doesn't immediately kick in. You can have a perfect day of healthy habits (no caffeine, little screen time, lots of sunlight and ex…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/23 02:38 AM
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Yes, it either does that or puts me in this weird state where I'm not actually fully conscious but I'm having hyperactive random thoughts... idk it's difficult to explain but melatonin does NOT work for me. It's like it makes me extremely tired without allowing me to completely fall unconscious
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/23 02:29 AM
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Even shy/nerdy/goofy girls want ambitious, driven, and assertive guys. They might be a little more tolerant of awkward behavoir, but it's not what gets them interested in men in the first place.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/23 01:29 AM
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That women like shy/nerdy/goofy guys. Countless shows and movies have the awkward male main character meet a woman and she finds his awkwardness endearing. And my mom and aunts told me that women like that too. Nope, in real life it is a turn off to 99.9% of women.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/23 12:45 AM
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I rarely if ever hear of men expecting women to enjoy these things
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/23 06:57 PM
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No, but they're related. One is an urge, the other is the decision to act on said urge. Similarly, a woman might be attracted to a 6'3 violent felon, which is an urge she can't control. But dating him and having a kid with him when he clearly won't make a good dad is a decision she can control.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 06:20 AM
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Let me pose you this question, why be angry at men over their attraction to other women? Why get angry at men who cheat on their partners or catcall women on the street, it's just biology right? It's because we have the choice to act on our attraction, and to temper it to some degree. I'm not asking anyone to rewire their biology, obviously if someone disgusts you, there's no way to force yourself to be attracted to them. But you can easily get yourself to overlook small imperfections instead of…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 05:55 AM
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Meanwhile women do a thousand things in their monthly routine to look nicer and more presentable. I thought women do this because they enjoy it, not to attract men?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 12:34 AM
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I've noticed they only post about things they consume, not about any accomplishments they've made. Also, single women use far more antidepressants than any other demographic. Not hating on this lifestyle, but I am just pointing out what I see
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/23 09:42 PM
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You’re literally arguing that women shouldn’t have a vote in another sub I also told a dude to buy a hammer to hit his own balls with in another subreddit. What I say in other posts isn't pertinent here. Also, if no one is dragging out invading men in the women's only train, then that isn't going to last very long when the type of men who grope women on trains realize they won't be punished.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 08:29 PM
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Why are certain men only interested in equality when it’s to stop women taking measures to protect themselves? Because in this scenario we are being expected to pay for it. Women aren't taking measures to protect themselves here, they're expecting men to handle their protection. Who do you think built the train cars? Who do you think is going to drag a man out for invading a women-only train? I'm fine if women have their own spaces, glad, actually. But if I'm being denied a similar space, I'm no…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 08:02 PM
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The women haven’t done anything that the men need protecting from. And the vast, vast majority of men haven't done anything that women need protecting from. Equality is never unproductive.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 07:17 PM
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Because more men are already adhering to this.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 06:52 PM
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I doubt that having a single train cart for women is going to cost any extra. Then it's not going to cost any extra to have a single train cart for men only. would you really beseech paying an extra £1 to stop a kid being molested? I would gladly pay an extra £2 for that, and equal treatment. I'd also gladly pay as much or more for any other security measure that isn't discriminatory. Also I'm lmaoing at everyone using the word "feelings" as if it will magically change my kind.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 06:43 PM
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And I turn I’m fine with men’s only spaces if that’s how the negotiations work. That's why this is this is the ideal solution. And I don't have beef with women I have beef with inequality.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 06:16 PM
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It's not about "men's feelings" it's about equality. And if I have to pay for an extra train (either through taxes or higher ticket prices) that I can't even use, yes it is still a punishment. What if someone suggest a "whites only" train cart because black people statistically commit more thefts? It would be shot down immediately because you can't exclude a certain group from anything just because more criminals happen to be from that group.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 06:04 PM
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At some point you’ll be a father and understand what I’m saying I'm not a father but I have a niece and nephew that I babysit sometimes and I would never limit my nephews' freedoms just so that I don't have to hold myself accountable for my nieces' safety. Becoming an uncle has only made me more angry about this kind of stuff and I would never ask anyone to limit their freedoms for anyone else's safety.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 05:43 PM
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Men don't get male only spaces because they consistently get protested, harassed, or invaded by feminists. Earl Silverman founded a domestic abuse shelter for men but it was shut down. The Boy Scouts of America also starting letting girls join even though there's an entirely separate organization for Girl Scouts. Of course, there's a history of sexual abuse in the Boy Scouts so it's not a great organization anyway but the fact that boys won't have their own program anymore is still fucked.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 05:39 PM
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It's getting vitriol because it's collective punishment. Why should I have to miss a train to work because the regular ones are full, but there's a non-full train I can't go in because I'm a male? Hold the predatory men accountable, obviously, but don't collectively punish the men who have done nothing wrong (ie the vast majority of men). Offering men-only trains would be the perfect solution for this.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 05:29 PM
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Offering women only transport without offering men only transport is the definition of discrimination. Yes I find it offensive.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 05:23 PM
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Women would actually have to get along with men instead of voting for policies that keep them reliant on the government
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 01:50 AM
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I don't think deadbeat dads and domestic abusers have friends
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 01:48 AM
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Yes, that already happens
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 01:39 AM
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Absolutely, there was this tiny hole in the wall bar and grill in this town that was about half of the way of the drive from my family's home to our cabin. We would eat there nearly every single time we went up there. The ownership changed hands at some point and it steadily went down from there. It's still in business because I'm guessing it made most of its money from the bar but it's depressing that the food has gone downhill so much.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 01:36 AM
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Yes, but women should also hold each other accountable
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 01:32 AM
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Repealing the 19th amendment would be a good start
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 01:32 AM
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I think it really depends on exactly where she's going, and if she's with her man or not. A lot of times when this is brought up, the girl is going out to bars and clubs in this kind of clothing without her BF, which is very strange. Like other people have said, revealing clothes are a "mating call" and are meant to get attraction from other men.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/23 05:30 AM
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Any variation of "you'll never get a woman/you'll never get laid" is used by women who believe that they're inherently more valuable by being a woman, and that men who don't sleep with lots of women are somehow missing out on life. Sex is the only unit of value they understand.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/23 03:15 AM
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Then why would men ever agree to marriage if they know their wife might leave them just because she's bored? What motivation to men have to seek partners if even being a great person isn't enough?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/23 03:07 AM
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Now, after having many female friends and seeing their struggles, I am blue pilled 100%. For me it was the opposite. Listening to female friends about their struggles is what made me red-pilled.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/23 12:49 AM
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Honestly, women can become bitter hags by the time they're 20 so it's not like age has much to do with it, more so personality. But I'm also wondering what you mean by "use up your youth" because it's not like being with any sort of person makes you age any faster or slower?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/23 05:34 PM
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Honestly, women can become bitter hags by the time they're 20 so it's not like age has much to do with it, more so personality. But I'm also wondering what you mean by "use up your youth" because it's not like being with any sort of person makes you age any faster or slower?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/23 05:34 PM
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Cheating is always just as bad no matter who does it. While it does operate differently for the sexes(for woman it's much easier to cheat because it's easier to find someone interested in you) it's still just as bad. Paternal Uncertainty is a very real and primal driver of men’s feelings of betrayal. Tricking a man into raising another man's kids is horrible and one of the worst things a woman can do to a man, but it's a separate thing from cheating. A man is roundly derided as a piece of shit b…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/23 09:21 PM
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That choice is massively influenced by societal factors trying to get women to have fewer kids. News outlets, TV shows, and journalists are trying to paint have kids as some sort of hell that strips you of your identity, and this movement is not organic.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/23 01:27 AM
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Jesse what are you talking about
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/23 04:13 PM
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I think the average guy would just be more than happy to be with the average girl that he wouldn't even think of leaving. And a 10/10 girl would literally never show interest in an average man. She'd only show interest in 10/10 men. Of course, it goes down to each individual's loyalty, and below average dudes can still be pieces of shit, but the idea that average dudes are somehow more likely to leave their GF is baffling.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/23 04:04 PM
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One of the standards I see lied about most often is when a woman is looking for a "sensitive man who isn't afraid to show his feelings", but the moment he shows any sort of vulnerability, she catches the "ick" and no longer sees him as a man.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/23 05:59 AM
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There's not that much resentment for the standards themselves, as there is for the double standards, inconsistent standards, or women straight up lying about what they want in a man. Also, women's standards for men are far, far higher than men's standards for women. I'm not saying it's necessarily a pro blem, but it is something to acknowledge.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/23 10:06 PM
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Women (and men) can have any standard they want when it comes to a partner. My problem is when they don't hold themselves to the same standard, or when they get upset that very few people meet their standards.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/23 04:02 PM
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Okay so I'm not the only one then
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/23 03:59 PM
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In terms of dressing well and having a nice haircut, a lot of guys (me included) just don't like spending money on that kind of stuff. I despise consumerism with a passion, and if a girl doesn't like that I don't spend a lot of money on clothes and haircuts, we were never a good match anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/23 08:59 PM
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A lot of us aren't
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/23 07:30 PM
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If often see/hear arguments - both online and IRL - about a guy being upset this his girlfriend/wife is going out in a revealing outfit. The responses are usually overwhelmingly about how he's insecure and doesn't have a say in what his GF/wife wears. The question I always pose is this: would she be okay if her BF/husband went to similar venues specifically to see other woman dressed the way she wants to dress? Does this seem like a fair standard?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/23 03:55 PM
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There's a movie called Gattaca that's exactly about this. I'd say both are unethical
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/23 03:49 PM
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These "well adjusted men" probably go on forums or groupchats like this
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/23 03:44 PM
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It's hard to determine which came first, the chicken or the egg. I'd argue that a lot of men turn to pornography after failing to get girlfriends.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/23 05:36 AM
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Lots of people have vastly differing opinions on what the "redpill" even means. For some people, they just think it means someone is fat, misogynistic, unemployed, incel, etc. They're so focused on insulting the ideology that they don't even think about what the ideology even means anymore and just think that redpill means you hate women. For other people, the "redpill" literally just means you shouldn't hate yourself for being a male. Thats it.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/23 05:13 AM
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What do you even mean by "pill content"
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/23 04:43 AM
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It absolutely matters. As a guy who is a virgin, I'd like to find a woman who has the same views on relationships I do. I want to find a life partner, and I have no interest in sleeping around because it does long term damage to your ability to bond with someone. Sex isn't just about pleasure, it's about bonding and commitment. Virginity does matter. It's not like I'd turn down a woman who was a non-virgin but is otherwise perfect for me - but I'd always be asking myself, "what if I met her soon…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/23 07:20 AM
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I'm very calm, patient, and easygoing. I'm very low maintenence, and all I would need in a relationship is regularly spending some time together doing anything, even if it's watching TV or going on a walk. I'm someone that people can relax around, and seek help from. But I also don't just make people dependent on me, I instead try to give people the strength to fix my their own problems.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/23 07:13 AM
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There is no such thing as meeting the right person at the wrong time. If you need to make excuses as to why it's the wrong time, they simply arent the right person - or you're not the right person. Humans aren't dentist appointments that you get to schedule whenever it's convenient for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/23 06:56 PM
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It's actually insane how often I hear woman say or imply: "if he's nervous around women, that means he's a creep/sexist"
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/23 05:47 AM
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I remember being desperate to get a GF, l looked up and asked for advice, stuff like "be funny, have several hobbies, go traveling, be physically fit and muscular, have a good job, be a little assertive but not to much, be able to read her mind, etc." I worked on these for a few years and had little luck. One day I randomly wondered "is the woman I meet going to do any of this stuff to attract a man?"
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/23 05:40 AM
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I think the reason some men are so averse to it is because it's been so fetishized recently by antinatalists. Have you ever seen one of those posts about a couple throwing a "vasectomy party" and other stuff like that? I've even seen videos of wives trying to "surprise" their husbands by giving them a card saying they have to get a vasectomy, and of course taking a video of their reaction. I think some men's averse-ness towards getting a vasectomy isn't about the procedure itself, but the humili…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/23 05:05 AM
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I think the reason some men are so averse to it is because it's been so fetishized recently by antinatalists. Have you ever seen one of those posts about a couple throwing a "vasectomy party" and other stuff like that? I've even seen videos of wives trying to "surprise" their husbands by giving them a card saying they have to get a vasectomy, and of course taking a video of their reaction. I think some men's averse-ness towards getting a vasectomy isn't about the procedure itself, but the humili…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/23 05:05 AM
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A lot of women are NOT pleasant around each other in my experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/23 07:16 PM
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You directly implied it.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/23 07:11 PM
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This is the biggest "pill" both men and women need to take regarding modern gender dynamics TBH. To be fair, there's still a lot of men who feel entitled to sex, but it's being recognized as a problem and has been trending downward IMO. But women feeling entitled to friendship is rarely acknowledged and its been getting worse from what I've seen. The best anyone can do is be honest about what you're seeking in a relationship (whether it's a romantic, sexual, or platonic one) and be honest about …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/23 07:00 PM
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It''s not that men aren't treating you as human beings, they just don't want anything to do with you. Just because someone wants sex with someone doesn't mean they hate them. You're still operating under the entitlement that OP described. Being treated as a human being by someone doesn't mean they have to be friends with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/23 06:52 PM
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It''s not that men aren't treating you as human beings, they just don't want anything to do with you. Just because someone wants sex with someone doesn't mean they hate them. You're still operating under the entitlement that OP described. Being treated as a human being by someone doesn't mean they have to be friends with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/23 06:51 PM
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If your best friend was gay and suddenly ghosted you because you didn’t want to have sex with him would you not feel a bit offended? Not at all, and I imagine most other straight men would also be fine with this.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/23 06:40 PM
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Exactly. Maybe if they were friendly or pleasant to be around, men would have another reason to talk to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/23 06:38 PM
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There's a decent amount you can do to improve your looks, but a large part of it is just how you're born as - height, facial shape, etc. A lot of guys can look better by working out and by getting a good haircut, but you need to be in the top 10% of looks to even be considered by most women, and better habits simply won't cut it for most men.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/23 11:06 PM
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Idk if I'm supposed to reply in this thread because I'm a guy, but I wanted to respond to this part: I assume men are capable of the same thing, seeing a woman who is pretty, but not their cup of tea. As a single guy, I'm not really capable of the same thing. If I think a woman is awesome, I'd catch feelings for her. The only exceptions are women that are significantly out of my age range or women who are in a relationship. And I can't speak for all men, but I'd guess that most of us feel the sa…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/23 06:00 PM
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Virtually nothing. She'd have to basically be an axe murderer or be extremely, insanely mean.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/23 05:42 PM
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There is no unlearning this. It's instinct and common sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/23 04:05 PM
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Then this: “women are designed to get emotionally attached. How else can they pour love and abundance into raising a family? I find it hilarious when they play the "raising a family" card whenever it suits them, after decades of campaigning against it relentlessly.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/23 03:58 PM
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Men don't inherently age better than women do. But men often age better because we have a lot more work to do in order to get any kind of relationship - whether it's become more physically fit, sociable, having hobbies, or just having more money. Naturally, you get better at these things over time. Meanwhile, any young woman who isn't overweight already is playing the dating game on easy mode. Women who just go through their 20s purely on looks are naturally not going to age well when they're in…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/23 07:09 PM
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