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Yes, this is so true! Most women would 1000 times rather have an average looking guy with an average income who is kind, funny, hardworking, and treats them well, than a rich 6'5" douchebag who treats them like dirt. (Sure, there may be exceptions… But they aren't the women that anyone should WANT to date)
/r/ExRedPill26/07/26 03:09 AM
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That's obviously a scenario where both parties have decided that that is the best option for their family. Not the same as a dude who's sleeping at his friend's couch.
/r/ExRedPill01/07/26 06:55 AM
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But there's a difference between being wealthy and being financially stable. The average woman is not looking for a dude who is loaded. She's looking for a dude who isn't going to end up sponging off of her.
/r/ExRedPill01/07/26 04:57 AM
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So, why do you fear this? Is it because you've seen it in your family? Because it's happened to someone you know? Or to you? My ex-husband left me after a decade, with three very young kids, because he fell in love with a coworker and wanted to be with her. And my trust felt absolutely, permanently broken. Because once your husband and the father of your children cheats, it's VERY hard to trust that anyone else won't. I really struggled with this in several relationships after my divorce. I went…
/r/ExRedPill01/07/26 04:55 AM
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I think we are more selective in a LOT of ways, because we don't HAVE to have a man survive. In the past, if a woman wasn't married, she had very few options: She could live with family, if they were alive and nearby and amenable, she could join a religious order (depending on her faith) or she could eke out a living in one of the few jobs available to women -- teacher, maid, laundress, etc. Choosing to remain single but still having your own home and being financially independent was an option …
/r/ExRedPill30/06/26 05:41 PM
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In your family? Or in the world? Some families just kind of suck. But if the men in your family were that way (or are), I assume you wouldn't think that ALL men were like that.
/r/ExRedPill30/06/26 05:36 PM
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I agree with the others that it's not just men. However, I do think that men frequently don't have the same support network that women do – although I don't think this is a very new phenomenon. I also think that men can face a lot more judgment when they struggle. (Brene Brown talks about this some here: https://www.ted.com/talks/brene\_brown\_listening\_to\_shame)
/r/ExRedPill30/06/26 05:19 PM
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These are all great points. As for No. 3, I believe life begins at conception. I've never had an abortion, and I always felt that I never would unless the circumstances were truly horrific. But as a mom of three, I don't think I could ever tell someone else that they HAD to carry and/or parent a child. Pregnancy and labor are so difficult for many women, and every child deserves to have a parent who wants them, not one who was forced to have them.
/r/ExRedPill30/06/26 05:15 PM
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What kind of mistrust?
/r/ExRedPill30/06/26 05:11 PM
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I like romance ... but I don't care for dark romance with brooding, obsessive heroes, and I don't know a ton of women who do. I honestly can't explain the popularity of this genre ... but I also haven't ready many of the current bestsellers in it, so I can't say if the characterization is accurate or not. I think one of the reasons the "Outlander" books were so massively popular (and among my personal favorite in the romance genre) is because Jamie Fraser was an atypical hero. He wasn't some bro…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 04:00 PM
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The hardest part is the part you've already done… Challenging your beliefs and deciding you want to do things differently. Is therapy an option? Because that will be the best place to start if it's possible. A good therapist can really help you work on changing your mindset. If not, I am sure the folks here can provide some great links for books, videos, etc. Next, start taking care of yourself. If good hygiene hasn't been a top priority for you, start there. Dental care and regular medical chec…
/r/ExRedPill06/06/26 06:19 PM
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I'm so sorry ... I do hope you talk to someone about this, because I can feel your pain in your posts and it breaks my heart. My mom and my biological father broke up when I was 6 months old. She later met my stepdad, and they were married when I was 4. They were 23 or so when they met, 26 when they got married. I'm so glad that he's been in my life. He is my "real dad" in all ways except biological. He's the one who put food on the table and took me put-putting and watched my T-ball games. His …
/r/ExRedPill04/06/26 04:53 PM
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The happiest people I know have never been the hottest, fittest, richest people I know.
/r/ExRedPill04/06/26 04:42 PM
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You know how people who believe in astrology will read a description of their sign and only pay attention to the things that fit them, then ignore the things that don't? My mom would always tell me, "Oh, you like/do/think X because you're a Leo" ... And if I pointed that out that a good half of the descriptions of a Leo don't apply to me, she'd say, "Well, that's because your moon is in Gemini" or "that's because you have Mercury in Virgo." Red pill content is JUST like that. When a video says t…
/r/ExRedPill04/06/26 04:28 PM
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My fiancé can't talk about his late grandpa without tearing up i'm saying how much he wishes I could have met him. It doesn't mean I can't respect him ... it means he's a man who loved and respected his grandfather and misses him tremendously.
/r/ExRedPill18/04/26 08:34 PM
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I believe that was the point.
/r/ExRedPill26/11/25 03:39 AM
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What do you want, for me to conduct a study?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/25 04:17 PM
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And there's more than outside of your own particular POV as well, which is why I shared that I know multiple men who disagree with you
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/25 06:00 PM
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Hmm. My fiancé disagrees, as do most of my guy friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/25 04:28 PM
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A very few women with unusual privilege, money, or support have been educated. The vast majority were not
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/25 04:27 PM
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Ding ding ding!
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/25 02:48 AM
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I think this is sort of a divide between men and women. For most women I know, a man can become attractive to them once they know and like him well enough, even if they didn't initially find him good looking. It's absolutely happened to me. But I don't know of any men who change their opinions on a woman's attractiveness as they get to know them.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/25 02:45 AM
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Yes, it's crazy how if you don't allow women to get an education for centuries, they frequently are less able to contribute to various disciplines. But you should consider googling Ada Lovelace. Or Hedy Lamar.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/25 02:25 AM
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I don't think you're accurately portraying the blue pill whatsoever, or that it says women can do no wrong. But you seem pretty convinced that the red pill is the way to go.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/25 12:10 PM
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Because nobody IS guaranteed anything. There is no method that is going to ensure every single person on earth ends up with fulfilling companionship. Some people are geographically challenged in terms of odds of finding a partner. Some are jerks. Some have terrible hygiene. I'm sure there are 1000 different reasons that some people do not end up with a partner; some of those may be fixable, and some may not. If there was a solution for this that worked for everyone, we would have discovered it c…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/25 09:44 PM
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It was a brutal life. I am an amateur genealogist and the de facto "family historian," and life was really. Freaking. Hard. Since I get the feeling that most people here are interested in how this would affect men, imagine being a man 100 or 150 years ago, being sick or injured, or just aware of your own mortality, and knowing this was what awaited your family: Your oldest son would drop out of school as soon as he could, so he could help out his mother while the family struggled along in dire p…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 03:34 PM
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I don't know any women who think or say that. But there are tons of guys in the manosphere who seek to want a woman to be utterly dependent on them and yet never need a cent of their money.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 03:09 PM
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100% accurate. And men want us to be like our grandmothers (or great grandmothers, depending on your age), but they don't want to be men like our grandfathers were. If you want me to stay home and cook and clean and raise babies, cool -- first go fight Nazis, then come home and build me a house with your own two hands, and we'll talk.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 03:07 PM
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Exactly. All of the dudes who are mad about women dating around when they were young did the same themselves, or would have if they could.
/r/ExRedPill27/10/25 03:18 PM
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I was divorced over a decade ago, at 37 (when the "safe geek" I'd been married to for a decade decided to screw his coworker). These incidents both happened after that, so very much in "the new age." Both of these guys were around the same age as me, and none of us were looking to have more kids. So you're making a lot of assumptions that are completely unwarranted.
/r/ExRedPill27/10/25 03:17 PM
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Oh dear God no. My grandma is Croatian and even in her 90s is a forced to be reckoned with!
/r/ExRedPill27/10/25 03:00 PM
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It seems like a lot of these guys prefer Asian and Latina women. As someone with a Latina SIL (from Mexico) and several friends with Asian moms (from Thailand and Vietnam), anyone who thinks these ladies are gonna be meek and submissive is smoking crack.
/r/ExRedPill27/10/25 04:47 AM
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Because these guys don't see women as people, just as NPC's who get them off. So they love the idea of a "woman" who provides sex without all those pesky things like feelings. An AI girlfriend or robotic girlfriend doesn't have needs. She doesn't have wants. She doesn't have preferences or demands or expectations. She's never sick or not in the mood. She's never busy or exhausted. She never says no to a particular kind of sex or a certain kink. Of course, anyone who has seen Westworld knows how …
/r/ExRedPill26/10/25 12:02 AM
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I would 1000% rather be single than in a miserable relationship or marriage. But I am fortunate to be happily engaged to a wonderful guy who doesn't try to dictate what I can or can't do, and vice versa. We both love and respect the other and would never do anything to cause them pain or anxiety.
/r/ExRedPill25/10/25 11:47 PM
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I don't think you could say "many feminists" love that book or movie. I thought the book was downright disturbing, and I know a lot of other women who felt the same way. Never saw the movie because I hated the book so much.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/25 03:22 PM
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There are shallow women who only want to date guys with massive incomes, just like there are shallow dudes who only want to date perfect 10s with long blonde hair and blue eyes. For both sexes, that may be what a lot of people would LIKE, but it's far from a requirement for the vast majority of them. (There are plenty of guys who are unemployed or broke or have low wage jobs who are in relationships.) I think for the majority of women, they don't necessarily need you to be bringing in six figure…
/r/ExRedPill25/10/25 05:09 AM
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Are you there to make them feel like crap? Or to have fun and see if you want to spend more time together? If you want to keep being single, keep doing what you're doing. But if you can't manage to summon a smile or find a single nice thing to say to someone you're taking out on a date, you're going to be posting here forever.
/r/ExRedPill24/10/25 10:26 PM
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Do you want to date every single woman that you like? You don't know a single woman that you think is a good person and that you enjoy spending time with but don't have a romantic interest in? And if you aren't smiling at people on dates or complimenting them in any way, I can see why they aren't interested in a second date. That is truly bizarre behavior. You don't have to say she's the most ravishing creature who walked the Earth. You could say that color looks nice on her or her perfume smell…
/r/ExRedPill24/10/25 09:54 PM
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First off, I can tell you barely read the post, because it wasn't my grandpa, it was my fiancé's grandpa. Second, someone not picking you on a dating app doesn't mean that you're unlovable. Just like, to respond to your comments elsewhere, someone saying after a date that they don't see you guys dating doesn't mean you're worthless. It could mean that that person didn't feel a lot of chemistry with you or that you aren't particularly what they're looking for. I went on first dates with lots of g…
/r/ExRedPill24/10/25 02:03 PM
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No, it tells them to improve themselves so they can get laid, not so that they are better humans. It's self improvement motivated by selfishness. In another comment, I mentioned my fiancé's grandpa, who lovingly cared for his wife who was in a wheelchair most of her adult life. Does that sound like something the red pill would say was super manly? (Btw, he was a WWII vet who was in the 101st Airborne, and undoubtedly more of a badass than any red pill influencer.) Does the red pill suggest you s…
/r/ExRedPill23/10/25 03:06 AM
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I think sometimes when a someone seems like "the total package", potential partners think it's suspicious that they're single. Like, "What am I missing that's wrong with him/her?"
/r/ExRedPill23/10/25 02:39 AM
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This is the key. My fiancé is the kindest, most loving, most considerate man I've ever met. His grandma suffered from a form of spinal muscular atrophy that severely limited her mobility for most of her adult life, and he's always described how lovingly his grandpa cared for her and how much he admired him. My sons are still just in high school, but neither of them so far has any interest whatsoever in red pill ... they think it's gross. Of course, we've always talked about equality and treating…
/r/ExRedPill23/10/25 02:37 AM
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Also a woman who's been "friendzoned," more than once. (And I'm generally considered quite attractive, for any lurking red pillars who are going to say this only happens if the woman is Quasimodo or something.) One was a longtime online friend who lived in my state that I had a massive crush on. It was not reciprocated .... but we stayed friends and I got over it, because I did not see him just as a potential partner but as a human that I liked. The other was way worse. I'd met this guy on a dat…
/r/ExRedPill23/10/25 02:26 AM
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Because it’s an easy way to: 1) deflect blame from themselves when their relationships fail (“she didn’t leave me because I was a bad partner, she did it because [insert alleged evolutionary reason here]”) and avoid accountability 2) justify why they’re single when they don’t want to be (“it’s not that there’s anything wrong with me or that I treat women like dirt, I just can’t meet a good woman because [insert alleged evolutionary reason here]”) 3) dehumanize and degrade women (“no matter how g…
/r/ExRedPill11/10/25 05:00 PM
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If they were someone I liked well enough to date if they were 6 feet tall, I'd have gone out with them if they were 5'5".
/r/ExRedPill20/09/25 08:53 PM
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If I liked everything else about them and I wasn't like a whole foot taller, absolutely.
/r/ExRedPill20/09/25 08:02 PM
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None, because nobody under 5 foot 6 has ever asked me out.
/r/ExRedPill20/09/25 07:45 PM
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I'm 5 foot 10, so "short" is relative here, but I have absolutely been in multiple relationships with men who are shorter than I am. Ironically, the guys are usually the ones who have an issue with me being taller, not me.
/r/ExRedPill18/09/25 02:18 PM
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Are you living on campus or at home still? I would highly encourage you to live on campus if you're not, because it will make it 1000 times easier to both meet new people and to assert some independence from your parents. I'm guessing from your post that you are in the US now or another western country, so I'm going to proceed as if you are, but I apologize if I'm wrong. First off, yes, there is a lot of Islamophobia and racism here still, sadly. Hopefully there is less of it on campuses than in…
/r/ExRedPill11/09/25 05:01 PM
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I used to date a guy who was just super genetically predisposed to putting on muscle. He said in multiple relationships where women asked him to work out less because they just really didn't find that attractive.
/r/ExRedPill04/09/25 04:19 PM
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I don't generally ask my colleagues how much their significant others earn, because I'm not insane. And it may be an anecdote, but you've presented zero evidence, so ....
/r/ExRedPill22/08/25 04:13 PM
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I don't know any millionaires. But I work with a great attorney who's very happily dating a dude who works in a factory, because he adores her and treats her really well.
/r/ExRedPill22/08/25 02:32 PM
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As a woman, I promise you that almost any woman over age 20 would much prefer Aragorn to James Bond. I'm sorry that you had a rough go in your last relationship. Being left for someone else is devastating, but ALL it means is that that particular woman made a poor decision. It doesn't mean that all women prefer a certain type or act a certain way. My ex-husband left me for a coworker bc she more fun and exciting -- unlike me, she did not have three children under six (all my his, and all planned…
/r/ExRedPill21/08/25 10:53 PM
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And I have yet to meet a man who presented me with the gift wrapped body of his rival the way autumn spiders do.
/r/ExRedPill20/08/25 08:01 PM
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You can't say that everyone who had children "couldn't control their breeding instincts" though -- many, many people had kids because they wanted and planned for them. With the availability of birth control, I would argue that more children than ever before are born because they are wanted, rather than because people like sex. And of course we're chained by biology to an extent, because we can't violate the laws of nature. But it's certainly not to the same extent as animals. As the most obvious…
/r/ExRedPill20/08/25 07:56 PM
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The red pill is FULL of bad science. Witness the obsession over height, specific facial features, hypergamy, etc.
/r/ExRedPill20/08/25 05:16 PM
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First, not everyone pursues a mate -- there have been people who were voluntarily single all throughout recorded history. Second, if you're interpreting "territory" as "resources," of course people are going to pursue those, along with food. The alternative is essentially suicide. Some people might acquire more resources than they could ever use in a lifetime, but that's another key difference between us and animals. Animals don't generally kill more food than they can reasonably eat. They can't…
/r/ExRedPill20/08/25 05:01 PM
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We are animals, but not "wild animals." "Domesticated" means "adapted from a wild or natural state (as by selective breeding) to live in close association with humans," and while I hope no one is selectively breeding people, we clearly are raised to live in close association with other humans. That said, we obviously also have far more agency than animals, so the comparison is fairly useless whether we're talking wild or domestic animals. We have instincts, but we also have the ability to ignore…
/r/ExRedPill20/08/25 03:19 PM
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My own divorce attorney told me the same thing when I was in the middle of my divorce. My ex was the one who had an affair and no longer wanted to be married, but like many men, didn't want to bother with the paperwork. I've since met multiple other women the same thing happened to.
/r/ExRedPill15/08/25 05:14 AM
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I'm a woman and can confirm the previous poster is correct. Penises are just funny when they're not hard. I had an ex with a foreskin – one of the only uncircumcised guys I've ever dated – and I used to make it "talk" I found this absolutely hysterical. (He found out somewhat less entertaining) And for the record, he had a fantastic penis and we had an insane amount of really great sex. So enjoying sex with a guy and finding his penis hilarious are definitely not mutually exclusive. Also, kudos …
/r/ExRedPill06/08/25 11:52 PM
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My fiancé is a pretty quiet and reserved guy. I spent most of our first date wondering if he was into me, when he later admitted he had been immediately smitten… he's just not the kind of guy to show it. So don't assume just because you aren't picking up super obvious signs of interest from someone. Also, many dudes are notoriously bad at noticing this sort of stuff. I think r/AskReddit has had about 8 million threads on "Which super obvious sign did you miss that a girl was into you?" The other…
/r/ExRedPill06/08/25 11:43 PM
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As a white woman, I've met numerous Indian men that I thought were very attractive. They also have all been very well-mannered, friendly and family oriented. (My ex husband worked in IT and had tons of Indian coworkers.) I think that a lot of American women would love a guy with those qualities.
/r/ExRedPill04/08/25 04:29 PM
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It's totally not wrong to want that! Most people do. But the ideal is that you should lead a fulfilling life with or without one. You're not a boxed cake mix that can't be baked until someone comes along with the eggs and the oil. You're ALREADY the cake, and the relationship is just frosting. For a long time, after my divorce, I felt like I would have to get remarried to be a "whole" person. And I focused way too much on my time and energy on trying to find the right person and be someone who w…
/r/ExRedPill04/06/25 05:23 PM
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I saw a great video the other day about how many men don't really have emotional connections with many (or sometimes any) people outside of their partner. So I'm wondering if it is that emotional connection that you're really looking for when you feel like you are centering your life too much around women. What are your other relationships like? Do you have close friendships? Are you close with your family? If not, I would work on starting by expanding your network of friends and spending time w…
/r/ExRedPill04/06/25 03:29 PM
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I was actually thinking of that but wasn't sure if that was something he was into! One of my teenage son is really into Bolt Action lately, so we went to a local store to get some stuff for him. The shop owner was telling me about all the different game nights they have there, and even while we were there, they had a ton of different games going on at various tables
/r/ExRedPill21/05/25 06:01 PM
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These are all great points. I remember reading the book "The Game" many years ago by Neil Strauss and thinking that it might work for sleeping with women… But not for attracting a woman you actually want to be in a relationship with. Which sounds like what OP wants.
/r/ExRedPill21/05/25 05:59 PM
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Absolutely. And even if a woman is interested, if she finds out that you've been approaching every other woman in the vicinity, it's a real letdown.
/r/ExRedPill21/05/25 05:57 PM
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I know, it can be hard at times. I would suggest classes, local community activities, volunteering, clubs. .... of course this is all highly dependent on what you like to do! If you're at all religious, try church or synagogue or what have you. Check the meet up app or local Facebook groups for activities that sound interesting. And also be open to making new friends who aren't potential dates – older people, guys, couples. Those people have friends, coworkers, family members, that they may deci…
/r/ExRedPill20/05/25 11:20 PM
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As a woman, I would advise you to start participating in activities where you can get to know women as people before asking them out. That way you can see who seems interested before you approach, or at least who is available. I have never enjoyed being approached by men out of the blue because they know one thing about me – what I look like. (that's also why my fiancé's initial message to me when we met online stood up to me, because he was one of the very few guys who actually referenced somet…
/r/ExRedPill20/05/25 12:47 PM
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Your body and face are going to change SO much in the coming years. I was a weird, tall, awkward teenage girl with a square jaw and chubby cheeks ... but I discovered in college that 1) I was no longer that odd looking and 2) a lot of guys thought I was super attractive. Now I'm 48 and look a lot different than I did 20 years ago, but I still get checked out sometimes ... and I'm WAY more comfortable in my skin. There isn't much you can do now except learn what haircuts and makeup looks flatter …
/r/ExRedPill07/05/25 10:45 PM
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I was married -- I thought happily -- for a decade. Life was a little stressful because we had three (planned) kids under five, but he never said he was unhappy or there were issues with our relationship. Till the day he announced he was leaving me for a coworker. Honestly, everyone was flabbergasted, up to an including his parents. I don't know what I could've done differently.
/r/ExRedPill24/03/25 03:58 PM
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The vast majority of people aren't looking for a wealthy partner, they're just looking for somebody who's financially stable and not going to sponge off them. Yeah, the economy doesn't seem to be doing great right now. It doesn't mean I'm going to ditch my solidly middle class fiancé, who is a wonderful person and treats me like a queen, for a rich guy.
/r/ExRedPill13/03/25 10:15 PM
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If you date people who only care about money, then yes, the people you date may make this choice. Luckily, the vast majority of people care more about being with someone that they enjoy being around and who treats them well.
/r/ExRedPill13/03/25 03:26 PM
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Even in my best-looking days (which, at 48, are firmly in the past), I never judged bigger people in the gym. my main thought was "Wow, they are really working hard to change their lives. I bet it was hard for them to come here. They're doing awesome." If being at the gym is too tough, maybe try talking to your therapist about other ways to work out or just how to handle those thoughts when they come up. But for now, just put on some headphones, listen to the music, and focus on your workout. Th…
/r/ExRedPill22/02/25 08:18 PM
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Here's the thing that really helped me when I was in a low place and didn't ever think I would be in a relationship with someone that made me happy… I let go of the idea of being in one. I looked at people I knew who were older and single and still had happy, fulfilling lives. I let myself get comfortable with the idea that I could live happily like that too if that's the direction my life took. I lived my life as if that's how it might always be… I filled my time with things I liked to do and p…
/r/ExRedPill29/01/25 03:48 AM
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Same here lol. I am a woman and was considered quite pretty in my college days, but even at my thinnest I carried a little extra weight around my middle. Just how I'm built. Anyway, a couple times back then I went out with the guy who had this total six pack -- absolutely ripped -- and it was honestly really intimidating and made me really self-conscious.
/r/ExRedPill29/01/25 03:31 AM
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Let me ask you something… would you ONLY want to be with a woman that has a perfect body and is stereotypically feminine in every way? Or does it also matter that she's kind and funny and intelligent and has some interests and values in common with you? If those things matter to you, and I imagine at least some of them do, then if she had those qualities, would a body that it is not 100% perfect be OK? Would it be OK if she didn't, say, like cooking or wear skirts all the time? We're never going…
/r/ExRedPill29/01/25 03:13 AM
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So when I first met my now ex-husband, he did nothing for me. I thought he was honestly kind of homely. But my best friend worked for his dad, by total coincidence, and she pressured me to give him a chance. I discovered that we had a ton in common, and that he was a very intelligent and funny guy. The more I got to know him, the more attractive he grew to me. I think that this seems to happen more often with women… I have known multiple women who ended up with guys that they did not originally …
/r/ExRedPill25/01/25 01:55 AM
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I wouldn't even say handsome. I'd rather date an average to cute guy, as they don't tend to have the massive ego that really handsome men do
/r/ExRedPill18/12/24 04:09 AM
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Kinda sounds like there's one common denominator there.
/r/ExRedPill18/12/24 04:06 AM
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More women may FILE for divorce, but I've been told by multiple people who work in family law that often, men are the ones who WANT the divorce but then refuse to file. This happened to me, and multiple other women I know.
/r/ExRedPill10/12/24 04:24 PM
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More women may FILE for divorce, but I've been told by multiple people who work in family law that often, men are the ones who WANT the divorce but then refuse to file. This happened to me, and multiple other women I know.
/r/ExRedPill10/12/24 04:23 PM
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If it makes you feel better, as a woman, I have always adored men who love pets. One of the things I love so much about my fiancé is that he is an absolute magnet for our two dogs, and when his kitty was alive, he was a very loving owner to her. Also, my dad is a blue-collar guy – an autoworker who can build or make just about anything you could think of. Nobody would ever meet him and think he's a weak or feminine man. He LOVES animals, especially cats. My mom told me one of the few times she e…
/r/ExRedPill24/11/24 06:32 PM
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DNA testing to establish or contest paternity is NOT illegal in France. All private DNA testing (even for genealogy purposes) is illegal there.
/r/MensRights04/07/24 09:06 PM
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It's because she took a plea deal and he went to trial.
/r/MensRights04/07/24 08:53 PM
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At least in my state, judges' pay and retirement are determined by the state, which has a set salary range based on experience and years worked. I'd imagine most other states are the same. Don't get your information about this stuff from TikTok. Also, 50-50 custody is a just starting point. Every state has provisions for one parent to request custody if they can demonstrate good reason.
/r/MensRights04/07/24 08:50 PM
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I mean this in the kindest possible way: Have you ... have you considered spending the money on therapy instead?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/24 12:04 PM
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Pearl strikes me as kind of tragic. I would feel sad for her if she wasn't so awful. For some reason, she has made herself a mouthpiece for an ideology that considers women valuable only if they are beautiful. And Pearl is… not beautiful. So she stays single, because she lacks the one trait the wannabe alpha males that she associates with care about.
/r/ExRedPill02/12/23 05:41 AM
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And you can tell how much they genuinely hate women based on the way that women in TRP try to differentiate themselves from all other women. They're the ultimate "I'm not like other girls" girls.
/r/ExRedPill02/12/23 05:32 AM
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All of this. That stuff might get guys laid (if the women they're targeting are naïve enough), but it's not going to get anyone into a happy, stable relationship.
/r/ExRedPill02/12/23 05:25 AM
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So, I have a bit more lived experience than the average Redditor, as I am 47. And I can tell you that I know far, far more women who were cheated on than I know women who cheated. And frankly, I think women tend to have a more flexible definition of attractive than men do. For a lot of us, a person's attractiveness can increase or decrease based on their personality. An average looking guy becomes much handsomer to most women when we know he is a kind, funny, caring person. And a handsome one be…
/r/ExRedPill02/12/23 05:16 AM
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First off, stop thinking of people in terms of "value." All people have intrinsic value, regardless of their attractiveness or earning ability or whatever. "High value" and "low value" are just terms that the red pill community uses to label people who have a certain set of criteria that that community has deemed ideal. And I can tell you that they are not correct with those definitions. As a woman, I would 1000 times rather be with an average looking man with an average salary and an average bo…
/r/ExRedPill22/11/23 12:46 PM
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I am curious about what drew you into it as a woman
/r/ExRedPill31/08/23 12:02 AM
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He may have some wonderful traits … but you don’t have to be a radical feminist to think there’s something deeply wrong with a man who is THIS committed to TRP. He not only wants to push it on his dad, he wants to be an evangelist for it with a podcast. There are plenty of guys who want a more traditional marriage but aren’t RP. Do you want to marry a man who inherently thinks women are fickle, selfish, shallow creatures who only want guys for their money and status? That a woman’s only worth is…
/r/ExRedPill29/08/23 12:26 PM
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Here’s the thing… women are very rarely judged just on our personality. So why would you expect men to be? Also, most men don’t realize the massive amount of effort that most of us put into our hair care, skin care, makeup, fitness, wardrobe, etc., every single day.
/r/ExRedPill03/08/23 06:15 AM
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I promise you do not have to be an asshole to get women to like you. And women who like men who treat them like crap are not women you want to date anyway, because they are not emotionally healthy people. Be kind. Be honest. Be a good conversationalist. Practice good hygiene. (I have never personally dated a guy with this issue, but from friends and from Reddit, I’m surprised how come it is.) If there’s something you struggle with, whether it’s anger or depression or whatever, work on that.
/r/ExRedPill03/08/23 06:05 AM
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I don’t know a single woman who lives in “constant fear” of men, but almost all of them are at least somewhat wary, at least when in an unfamiliar place, at night, alone and isolated building or area, etc. Because the vast majority of people who are going to assault us in some way are men, and they don’t wear a sign indicating which ones are the bad guys. And furthermore, if we aren’t super cautious and something does happen, we are told, “you should’ve been smarter, why were you running at nigh…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/23 05:33 PM
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Because they don’t see women as people, at least not in the way they see men. They see women as sex objects, scapegoats, whores, trophies, etc. … but not as humans.
/r/ExRedPill24/04/23 03:21 PM
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Agreed. Frankly, I don’t think the red flags are terribly different for men and women — love bombing, controlling behavior, excessive jealousy, lack of accountability for their own actions, manipulative or secretive behavior, etc.
/r/ExRedPill21/11/22 07:49 PM
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I promise you, you are not broken. I’m so sorry that you were exposed to this kind of content at an age where you’re learning so much about life, but you can do this. It’s in your favor that you’re still so young, too — our brains are still so plastic even in our 20s. I agree w other posters that a professional therapist would be a huge help as you process all of this and learn to rewire your thought processes.
/r/ExRedPill21/11/22 12:45 PM
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But each person would only be descended from one of those wives, not all of them. Unless it’s a highly endogamous ethnic group.
/r/ExRedPill21/11/22 12:39 PM
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You said you love her and would never hurt her by cheating. If she loves you and you believe she would never hurt you by cheating … then trust that. My ex-husband had an affair, which is why we are divorced. And it was incredibly difficult to establish trust again in anyone after that. But while I was never involved afterward with anyone who did cheat on me (to my knowledge), I did destroy more than one relationship with my massive fear of being cheated on again. At one point my therapist recomm…
/r/ExRedPill21/11/22 06:13 AM
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How are two-thirds of our ancestors women? Are you saying that if you go back far enough, we find the same women in our tree more often than the same men? As a hard-core genealogy nerd, I would say that the opposite could be true as well. I’ve seen many male ancestors married multiple times because their wives kept dying, usually in birth.
/r/ExRedPill21/11/22 05:59 AM
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I see your point… but I think you’re way over simplifying the way humans work. First off, most of the women I know who are divorced, myself included, did not have our children with some sort of alpha male. My ex is a regular guy. He’s not particularly great looking, he’s smart but not Stephen Hawking, And he’s very successful now, but he was not when we met and was only moderately successful when we divorced. Second, many people do not plan on having children with their second partner. I am 46 a…
/r/ExRedPill21/11/22 05:55 AM
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I thinj the big difference is that feminism doesn’t inherently include the idea that men are bad or stupid or evil. There may be some branches of feminism, or some individual women, who think that, but it is not a core part of feminism.
/r/ExRedPill21/11/22 05:43 AM
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Sigh … I’m so over the “women want a caveman who’s gonna drag them off by their hair” and “women only want a HIGH-STATUS man.” Sure, it can be flattering when a man who is really good-looking and/or well-off is interested. But I don’t really care if you are gorgeous and rich if you are a jerk, if you’re not very bright or interesting, if we don’t have interests in common, if you’re not well-adjusted, and if your goals are different from mine. I would a MILLION times rather be with an average-loo…
/r/ExRedPill21/11/22 05:41 AM
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Oh, it’s completely okay! I get it. In fact, I had a lot of the same issues. but the great news is that you are recognizing this so much younger than I did, and the sooner you realize it, the sooner you can work on it and change
/r/ExRedPill23/10/22 04:39 AM
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I think therapy would be a wonderful idea. So much of the stuff that happens to us in childhood is reflected in our lives in ways we would never begin to guess. But once you begin to see where some of your problems are routed, you can start the work of digging them up.
/r/ExRedPill23/10/22 04:28 AM
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How are you defining success? By finding someone to hook up with immediately, or by meeting someone you’re genuinely interested in dating?
/r/ExRedPill19/09/22 12:36 PM
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I think you’re overthinking it a bit. Talk as long as feels comfortable for both of you. If you both seem to enjoy it, and if you have had positive interactions in the past, then I would ask her to do something you think she would enjoy, so you guys can get to know each other better. Of course, it’s a little hard to determine what to do right now when everything is closed, but you could even lead with that. Maybe “I would ask you out for a coffee or something, but I’m not sure if that’s an optio…
/r/seduction04/07/20 01:28 AM
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Yup. I would say for a lot of women, attractiveness is a lot more fluid than it is for men. A guy can grow a lot more attractive to us as we get to know him, if we find his personality and the way he treats us enjoyable. I would say what you do after some small talk really depends on the situation and how likely you are to see her again. If she is someone you see occasionally, make an effort to chat her up again the next time you see her. Remember stuff she tells you… Not in a creepy way but in …
/r/seduction03/07/20 11:56 PM
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I’d say the classic example is my ex-husband. When I met him, I did not find him physically attractive, and had zero interest in going out with him. My best friend convinced me to, mostly because she worked with his dad. We went out on our first date, and I found he was kind, funny, thoughtful, and that we had a lot of similar interests. So he went from a guy who I would’ve definitely swiped left on — had this been in the online dating era — to a guy I very quickly became smitten with and engage…
/r/seduction03/07/20 11:24 PM
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I feel like it’s something that is best learned in person. A therapist would probably be the best place to start
/r/seduction02/07/20 02:03 PM
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If you’re doing it to get laid, it isn’t going to work, because women can tell when someone is only feigning interest to try to get us naked. But if a guy seems like a kind, caring person who is genuinely interested in me as a human being, even if he is not my typical “type,” I may start finding him a lot more interesting and attractive than I may have otherwise.
/r/seduction02/07/20 01:50 PM
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A little late to this discussion, but as a woman, I'd like to think that I have value now that I'm done giving birth and breastfeeding babies.
/r/ExRedPill18/11/16 04:28 PM
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