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Cheating is not victimless. Multiple instances of cheating shows a pattern of being willing to victimize someone who trusts you on a regular basis. Multiple sex partners (with no cheating alleged) is not only victimless, but is also not yet proven to actually be a negative thing to many people at all. All this shows is a pattern of being both attracted to a wide variety of people, and BEING attractive to a wide variety of people. I'm not sure how that is a bad thing.
/r/MensRights08/03/15 02:38 PM
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I just added an edit to my comment... You opened my eyes a bit. I couldn't see the forest for the trees as it were.
/r/MensRights07/03/15 07:19 PM
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I want to thank you for your support on the comment. And honestly, I think it's time for me to leave the sub too. So many of the loudest advocates honestly seem to think women are inherently evil and that does no one any good. These guys are hurting their own 'cause' either by accident or inaction, and I fought it long enough.
/r/MensRights07/03/15 07:15 PM
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I don't think anyone here disagrees with that.
/r/MensRights07/03/15 03:06 AM
1

I don't disagree... however, surely you agree there are words that can make the situation a hell of a lot worse. Some people have suggested going out of your way to make her feel terrible. That's the only problem I have with the situation.
/r/MensRights07/03/15 12:42 AM
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Um. What? That is exactly what I said.
/r/MensRights06/03/15 09:44 PM
0

lol, Redpill is a joke. And I've tried pipes, but not a fan. Maybe I should give it another shot.
/r/MensRights06/03/15 08:03 PM
1

Literally every categorization you mentioned up there was a crime. Every single one. Except the one with no victim and with no criminal consequence. Being sexually active. Believe it or not, there is no such thing as a morality crime in the US. And if you can show me an example of something that is pertinent to the issue at hand, and is also not something you would get thrown in fucking jail for, my point stands.
/r/MensRights06/03/15 08:03 PM
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I couldn't agree more with the semantics. I just agree with him to shut him up and get on to the more interesting discussions. Doubt I need much in the way of manliness saving subs though. I'm on /r/wicked_edge, /r/bourbon, and /r/cigars ... so I'm good :)
/r/MensRights06/03/15 07:50 PM
1

I stand corrected!
/r/MensRights06/03/15 07:23 PM
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Ah, well you guys define 'confident' your way, and I'll define it my way. A large part of my definition of confident is: Does not deliberately belittle and shame those around him.
/r/MensRights06/03/15 06:52 PM
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Oh I agree wholeheartedly. I don't personally have a problem with the number of people a woman has slept with, as long as she wants me right now.. that seems to be the important part.
/r/MensRights06/03/15 06:51 PM
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I don't understand... are you just taking issue with my definition of 'confident'?
/r/MensRights06/03/15 06:31 PM
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I need to edit that comment... Everything you've written I agree with, though the murder thing is a bit ludicrous. Punishment for crime is different than trying to impose your moral code on someone else who's done you no harm. If you are not intentionally causing shame or trying to make it about her slutty ways, then you are just being honest. As I've said a hundred times, I AM NOT SUGGESTING THAT ENDING THE RELATIONSHIP AUTOMATICALLY SHAMES THE OTHER PERSON I'm just saying if you tell her, "You…
/r/MensRights06/03/15 06:30 PM
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This is fair... agreed the past should possibly inform your judgement, but I think we can all agree it shouldn't be the sole basis of judgement. The idea of make life-choices that won't haunt you is valid. But the fact is many, many, many people have done just that whether it was drugs, or a misspent youth. After the fact there is nothing to say that a person can't grow out of that. Of course, if they are saying they had multiple partners not ten years ago, but last week.. then perhaps it deserv…
/r/MensRights06/03/15 05:45 PM
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Not Sure If Srs... http://i.imgur.com/JGyYlqa.gif
/r/MensRights06/03/15 05:38 PM
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I didn't realize that was the point of your comment. My apologies. I should have used my gender neutral terms. Please read as 'a truly confident person'
/r/MensRights06/03/15 05:24 PM
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I think if you'll read any of my other comments on this thread you'll see that's not where I was going. I said there were ways out of situation without using shame... he said (paraphrased) "why sugar coat it?"... I wrote the above saying that if you choose to shame someone while at the same time breaking up with them, then be prepared to be judged as an asshole... (again, paraphrased) Basically, I said declining a relationship does not have to be, in any way, shaming of the other party.
/r/MensRights06/03/15 05:13 PM
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shape, yes... but does it wholly define them?
/r/MensRights06/03/15 05:10 PM
1

Just how old to I have to be to reach this revelation of yours? Mid-forties?
/r/MensRights06/03/15 05:10 PM
0

Maybe it's right for you, if you want to come off as an ass who trades his reputation for a quick laugh at someone else's expense, then that is the RIGHT way to approach it. :)
/r/MensRights06/03/15 04:44 PM
1

Exactly. And likewise, who hasn't prejudged someone as an asshole, only to realize maybe they're an okay guy after all? All in all, this conversation has gone better than expected :)
/r/MensRights06/03/15 04:15 PM
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Yikes. We're going to have to agree to disagree here. She's being honest and upfront with him, and if he's willing to toss away what "could have been the perfect woman for him" because of her past... then I think perhaps that's something HE's going to have to live with. He can't blame her for his decision. Just like the guy who threw the first punch can't blame anyone but himself for throwing the punch. It was his decision to throw the punch, regardless of circumstances, no one else's.
/r/MensRights06/03/15 03:59 PM
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No, but they do change over time. All of our morals have changed over time, I'm sure yours have too at least a little. Either more or less strict, but different surely than when you were 18. And I think this is where we find common ground perhaps. I just prefer to judge people on how they treat me, you prefer to judge people on how they have proven themselves to act in the past. My way works for me, your way works for you. I think that's reasonable.
/r/MensRights06/03/15 03:52 PM
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That's your prerogative. But not everyone is going to judge people that way. But for the sake of argument... what if one woman who participated in that when she was 18, and who is now 36 and otherwise led a conventional and even charmed life with a family and kids. And by all accounts deeply regrets her mistake when she was younger and has never let it happen again... is she still a horrible person?
/r/MensRights06/03/15 03:43 PM
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But she did nothing to him. How did she inflict herself on him or otherwise actively antagonize him? I don't understand how throwing a drink and having slept with a dozen people in years past are even slightly related.
/r/MensRights06/03/15 03:39 PM
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I see your point, but just because someone misuses the logic, doesn't mean the logic can't be sound if used properly.
/r/MensRights06/03/15 03:19 PM
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Degrees matter here. If you compare having multiple sex partners to child rape, then perhaps you are overstating your point. One is illegal, without consent, and agreed upon by every right-thinking person on earth as one of the most horrible things you can do. The other... is not.
/r/MensRights06/03/15 03:17 PM
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Only a truly stupid person would suggest that anyone on this thread says the past doesn't define a person. Try to not let your blind rage completely take over your brain. I never said that the past couldn't affect the present. In fact, it specifically DOES affect the present by keeping this guy from having a relationship with her. That is a consequence. The point is: NONE of this situation is about HER or her past, this whole post is about HIM and how he reacts to the unchangeable past. You'll n…
/r/MensRights06/03/15 03:12 PM
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I'm not suggesting he change his views or honest expression to suit her, in fact, if you'll look at a comment I made further down, I suggested the exact opposite. There is a difference in going out of your way to make someone feel shame when it is about their past and it cannot be changed. Shame is only good as a social deterrent when used damn near immediately. Telling a person why you feel the way you do, and taking RESPONSIBILITY for your own feelings (all people are responsible for their own…
/r/MensRights06/03/15 02:24 PM
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Honestly this is currently a worry in China as well apparently due to the selective abortions of girl children there, there is a huge glut of men with no chance to settle down with family, and nothing to do with their sexual frustration but to join the army. This could be indicative of some serious worldwide problems before too long.
/r/MensRights06/03/15 01:17 PM
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I'd be interested to read those sources when you find them. The idea is intriguing.
/r/MensRights06/03/15 12:26 PM
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There is actually a lot of merit to this point. Perhaps when the question comes up, "Why don't you find me attractive?" ... there is no reason to answer at all. A simple, "I just don't," should be sufficient... it certainly is when the genders are reversed. A man doesn't owe an explanation to a woman any more than a woman owes an explanation to a man.
/r/MensRights06/03/15 12:25 PM
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I'm interested in the argument against, "no harm-no foul"
/r/MensRights06/03/15 12:09 PM
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The right answer is different for everyone. And if you are certain of your own motivations, and one is honestly not TRYING to shame someone, if she feels slut-shamed, that is her problem, not yours. You can only control how you react, and can only be sure of your own motivations. As long as you can stand behind those, whether she feels shamed or not, well, that's her doing that to herself.
/r/MensRights06/03/15 12:08 PM
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That's fair, but there is a matter of degree. I can't change the fact I took a piece of candy from the store without paying as a child. Should I continue to be judged and condemned for that? I think we all agree that I should not. Everyone has mistakes in their past they have learned from. And some people probably wouldn't consider multiple sexual partners to be a mistake.
/r/MensRights06/03/15 11:48 AM
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The important part to remember about 'slut-shaming' is the 'shaming' part. Don't tell her she's a horrible slut who should be ashamed and no one will ever love. Simply tell her that you have your own issues, and your own way you want to live your life. THe problem comes when you blame her for her past and make her feel shame for something she cannot change (since time machines don't exist). A truly confident man can accept that a person's past may not define them, but can be honest with his feel…
/r/MensRights06/03/15 11:42 AM
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Did you seriously just compare having sex with more than one or two people to murder? Well, I'm done here.
/r/MensRights06/03/15 11:40 AM
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By not making statements that even OTHER MRAs can take (by accident or error) as an attack themselves, perhaps I am not the one giving the feminists the fodder for attacking our movement.
/r/MensRights27/02/15 04:41 PM
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I believe I said aggressive... and if this quote So why the fuck are you a feminist? Isn't the opening salvo of an attack I don't know what is. Until someone invents a machine to stab people through their phones, this is a verbal attack on who she is. Regardless, being pedantic about the wording is beside the point. The fact is, if he has put his wonderful information out there without the aggression it would have been much better received andwouldn't have given those who are looking for ANY rea…
/r/MensRights27/02/15 04:14 PM
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The Nazis instigated the genocide of an entire population, and started the largest single war on earth. The KKK, murdered, lynched, and raped it way with impunity across the south in a multi decade period of terror. Feminists may be cruel, they may be hateful, they may be even be evil in some people's eyes... but to compare them to ACTUAL genocidal maniacs and lynch mobs who ACTUALLY murdered living people is to do yourself a disservice. I am not ignoring your other points. You make great points…
/r/MensRights27/02/15 11:27 AM
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Comparing feminists to nazis (as DavidByron2 did) or to the KKK, does not seem to be helpful at all.
/r/MensRights27/02/15 03:07 AM
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Wow.. yeah, I concede. I'm done engaging with you.
/r/MensRights26/02/15 11:04 PM
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You went back and edited your comment, all those specifics weren't there when I commented.
/r/MensRights26/02/15 10:48 PM
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You are very angry, and I think taking this kind of action proves the are NOT a bigot. And that's assuming no other shoe drops ever. But it will. You seem to already know this person a lot more that the rest of us do. Have any other predictions? Some lottery numbers or something I can play?
/r/MensRights26/02/15 10:47 PM
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I said that as a way of saying I understood where you were coming from. My problem wasn't with your message, it was with your delivery. With how aggressive it came off. People won't look past the delivery to see the message, regardless of the truth.
/r/MensRights26/02/15 10:43 PM
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lol I'm pretty sure that wasn't my point.
/r/MensRights26/02/15 10:13 PM
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Attacking this person for admitting what they have been their whole life when they are obviously trying to help a man in a bad situation is EXACTLY the sort of reaction that militant feminists will latch onto and publicize instead of the much larger percentage of comments on here expressing support and sympathy for the situation. What you are saying may well be the truth as you know it, but by being so aggressive you are giving fodder to those who would bash this movement and all the people of b…
/r/MensRights26/02/15 09:53 PM
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Just what I was looking for. Thank you.
/r/MensRights11/02/15 05:36 PM
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Does anyone have links to any further information online about this? I can't seem to find an article or paper describing the situation of a boy being held responsible for child support after being raped. I have absolutely no doubt that it happened. I'd just like to be able to link to something other than a video if I want to share the story.
/r/MensRights11/02/15 02:14 PM
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Is this sort of thing not the same as saying Feminists who claim their radical fringe doesn't define them are guilty because they don't reject them and their hateful rhetoric? Or peaceful Muslims who do not denounce Islamic terrorists?
/r/MensRights04/02/15 02:30 AM
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As far as MRA's doing anything...many argue that men should have the choice to a paternal abortion, i.e. tell the woman whether or not he is willing to support the child and then the ball is in her court. Is this not exactly what happened when she offered to let him renounce his parental rights in lieu of any child support? The fact that he both promised to be a terrible father, and then refused to pay child support without making her 'beg' turns this from simply protecting his lifestyle, to out…
/r/MensRights04/02/15 12:07 AM
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Well, yes, actually with the rather accelerated death rate of men in ALL countries for various reasons, there almost has to be more men born than women in China and India for it to even out.
/r/MensRights27/01/15 09:36 PM
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Her response shows that if anything, this may be a catfishing attempt just to get MRAs to leap to conclusions and start saying things that others can use against them. Don't take the bait.
/r/MensRights27/01/15 05:19 PM
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I'm with some others here.. no way this is real. If this is real, then this woman is completely insane. Nope. Not real.
/r/MensRights27/01/15 05:17 PM
2

Couldn't agree more. There are bigger fish to fry.
/r/MensRights21/01/15 05:57 PM
1

These are excellent points.
/r/MensRights18/12/14 05:03 PM
1

Holy crap. That is definitely a tough issue. I'm going to have to try to wrap my head around it and figure out my own opinion. This is almost impossible to legislate on first glance though.
/r/MensRights11/12/14 05:01 PM
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Minor children I can understand.... that seems reasonable. But forcing mentally handicapped people to remain celibate all their lives? That seems disturbingly close to eugenics or forced sterilization if you ask me. Not quite, but incredibly close.
/r/MensRights11/12/14 04:11 PM
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Wait, so does this mean anyone who suffers dementia, or gets drunk should be completely celibate? I don't understand. If consent is impossible, non-rape sex is impossible, right?
/r/MensRights10/12/14 07:17 PM
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1 in 262,365 women are eaten by sharks? So assuming women are not targeted by sharks (hint: they arent) That means that over 73 years or so, over 13,000 women have been EATEN by sharks, not just attacked. That seems... dubious at best and in no way backed up by the facts. Now, if we take the stats above, and notice that %90 of all shark attacks are on men (and our reckless, shark provoking ways), that would mean over 130,000 men have been killed an eaten by sharks. If you take into account the n…
/r/MensRights08/12/14 02:33 PM
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Wow, you and /u/Implodicus up there have explained this very well. Thanks. upvotes to the both of you.
/r/MensRights24/09/14 06:22 PM
0

Now this. This is an interesting argument. There is very little gender wage difference, because if there were, pure business interests would be hiring the cheaper workers disporportionally. I'll be damned, I really can't think of a reason that's not the case.
/r/MensRights24/09/14 06:18 PM
1

I doubt that's Econ 101, maybe Econ 401. But I'm not sure that's the case. There is a trend now that new workers get hired with fewer benefits, less retirement (if any) and lower starting pay than new employees did years ago. What this does is that these employees work for years at these lower rates, and as the higher compensated employees retire and move on, the lower wage becomes the standard. In the long run, lower wages become the norm, and in the future, new employees can expect even FEWER …
/r/MensRights24/09/14 03:18 PM
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Umm, if he said blacks will do more work for cheaper than whites, so hire more blacks, would that be racist? Or migrant workers. If he said migrant workers are in no position to demand more money and therefore can be paid half what a non-migrant can be paid for the same work, so hire more migrant workers, would that be wrong? I'm of the opinion those things are both probably wrong. If women do not have the same bargaining power as men, and a businessman is both taking advantage of that system, a…
/r/MensRights24/09/14 02:33 PM
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I don't disagree that it's a low bar. So, I'll leave it there.
/r/MensRights09/09/14 04:11 PM
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Holy crap, that's the best explanation of that phrase I've ever seen! The places we learn things....
/r/MensRights09/09/14 03:38 PM
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The idea is that if we reinforce that these things are acceptable, they may happen more often.
/r/MensRights09/09/14 03:36 PM
2

Maybe I don't know how Reddit works, but this is the only post in your history. How can we see where you have posted anywhere else?
/r/MensRights29/08/14 12:42 PM
6

This is an extremely interesting point, and one I'd not considered. Thank you.
/r/MensRights20/08/14 06:50 PM
1

To each their own.
/r/MensRights29/07/14 02:14 AM
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That seems like a bad reason to act like they do. We're better than that.
/r/MensRights29/07/14 02:13 AM
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I'm not saying you can't use it, I just don't think faggot is the only word that the PC police tsk at us for using. I also don't think you have to be a "woman or effeminate man" to not appreciate the intention behind calling someone a faggot.
/r/MensRights28/07/14 11:25 PM
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So, it's sort of like nigger. Gay guys (or any man trying to emasculate another man, which is apparently acceptable) can call each other faggots, but others can't? Or you'd be pretty cool with a woman calling you a faggot if you were 'being one'...?
/r/MensRights28/07/14 11:24 PM
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So? Let them have 'em. There are Men's Only Clubs still in existence. Live and let live.
/r/MensRights28/07/14 07:44 PM
1

Couldn't agree more.
/r/MensRights28/07/14 07:44 PM
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Are you an idiot? You realize that words have connotations right? And faggot is not the only word that is socially unacceptable to say in mixed company.... right?
/r/MensRights28/07/14 07:07 PM
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Honestly, this is understandable when you consider what they see in almost 100% of the media. A man who doesn't want sex? Just about the only character i could think of was Al Bundy, and even then it was played for comic effect. This is all women have to base their views on. People often complain about the unrealistic standards of beauty in women shown on television and in movies. There is a similarly skewed portrayal of male virility. If a man doesn't want sex, it is only because he is a eunuch…
/r/MensRights22/07/14 03:59 PM
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Your serious answer is what I was hoping to see here. Sex is a two way street, and there is nothing wrong with having to give a little to get a little. Some women may need more than others. But the fact is, most women love sex a lot. Spending half an hour kissing and loving on your SO will pay off more times than not. And sometimes she will simply not be in the mood. However, she has to understand if you aren't in the mood. The sexism against men comes into play when the woman believes the man i…
/r/MensRights22/07/14 02:14 PM
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As an aside did you know being a pussy actually means being a scaredy cat and has nothing to do with women?... ...The same can't be said for being a dick. That phrase is misandrist because it has no other meaning than to associate bad behavior with penis as opposed to being in reference to some animal exhibiting some behavior. I apologize, but I can't tell if you are being sarcastic here or not with these two statements.
/r/MensRights18/07/14 01:03 PM
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You know, I am usually the guy to brush off things like that unless they are obviously meant as belittling or insulting statements. But you make a very good point that this area should be inclusive to men of all stripes, and it should feel safe. I agree with you, upvotes all around.
/r/MensRights18/07/14 01:00 PM
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What? Did you read the comment I replied to? I was giving the guy kudos for explaining himself.
/r/MensRights07/07/14 04:36 PM
4

Came here to wag my finger for this not being men's rights.. but a PSA about skin cancer is not a bad thing. Carry on with my upvote sir.
/r/MensRights07/07/14 03:22 PM
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/r/MensRights10/06/14 05:09 PM
1

Any link for definitions of the various abbreviations in this thread?
/r/MensRights02/04/14 08:37 PM
2

Upvotes for you and all the posts in reply. This would have been funny in sixth grade. What grown man actually thinks this is funny?
/r/MensRights02/04/14 08:20 PM
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Good comment here bud. This is the right attitude to have. Simply being a good example is often all there needs to be done.
/r/MensRights12/03/14 03:38 PM
1

I know. That's what I said.
/r/MensRights08/01/14 06:13 PM
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I agree the language is stupid and sexist. But what she probably meant was that "these are the qualities of a man I find attractive". Men do that all the time to women and other men because it is a straightforward description of personal opinion. But saying it like if you don't meet her expectations you aren't a "real man" is pathetic.
/r/MensRights08/01/14 03:48 PM
1

I have to agree getting pregnant isn't going to make him stay.
/r/MensRights17/10/13 03:45 PM
1

Very interesting responses everyone. I'm enjoying the conversation.
/r/MensRights15/10/13 09:58 PM
1

Wow... after having been on reddit all this time, I literally have never heard of this until today. My mistake I'll take it down.
/r/MensRights26/09/13 06:24 PM
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Because men are used to, and strong enough to handle, rejection in most cases. Women, when rejected, tend to blame the rejector simply because there is no way possible every single man on Earth wouldn't want her. It is unreasonable and completely illogical and perpetuates the concept that women are weak but at the same time blameless. A concept which is faulty.
/r/MensRights25/09/13 04:08 PM
4

That sucks for your uncle. Seriously. But why wouldn't she have this discussion with her sons? Why have it with these girls and worse, the world? It seems that it smacks of "My boys can do no wrong" syndrome. And that sort of attitude really hurts boys in the long run.
/r/MensRights13/09/13 01:27 PM
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She is acting in her son's best interests? How so? By taking away any lesson of responsibility from him? If he chases down a girl, or sleeps with a girl and regrets it later, is that not just making it so he doesn't have to accept the consequences of his actions? How is that any different than absolving all girls of their responsibilities?
/r/MensRights13/09/13 01:05 PM
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Um. Wat? Congratulations?
/r/MensRights06/09/13 02:15 PM
1

This is a very interesting point. I never looked at it from quite that direction before.
/r/MensRights10/08/13 07:54 PM
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Am I the only one who notices that this is a post on MensRights about a screenshot of two other posts on Mensrights?
/r/MensRights10/08/13 07:34 PM
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I can't believe I had to go so far down to find someone calling this guy out for what he is.
/r/MensRights30/07/13 12:53 PM
2

You are giving some great advice here. The part about telling him to let his kids know he loves them as often as he can is spot on and will eventually lead them to realize that at least one of their parents has their best interests at heart. Upvotes all around.
/r/MensRights25/07/13 12:15 PM
2

She abandoned him? Like.. she stopped paying the rent/mortgage, she stopped providing food, shelter, and affection? She refuses to speak to him maybe? Perhaps she forces him to provide for himself? I think this is just a difference of opinion, and an opportunity to educate.
/r/MensRights24/07/13 08:12 PM
1

That seems like jumping to conclusions. I'd honestly be interested if the OP would answer if he has a single mom or not. I'd really expect this to be more of an attitude of a divorced mom than a single mom. Single moms usually feel like their sons put the sun in the sky by my experience.
/r/MensRights24/07/13 06:06 PM
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Yeah, just take off. She said one sentence that he disagrees with. So abandon his family. That's rational.
/r/MensRights24/07/13 04:07 PM
3

I'll admit, i lol'd at the thought of him going to his mother and saying this.
/r/MensRights24/07/13 04:06 PM
1

Why do you believe that?
/r/MensRights24/07/13 04:06 PM
1

I absolutely couldn't agree more.
/r/MensRights08/07/13 05:09 PM
0

There is nothing your lawyer can do about this? The 2K was predicated on certain parental rights.... if you are disallowed those rights, she is disallowed the money. I don't understand how a lawyer can't help you with this.
/r/MensRights25/06/13 09:09 PM
2

Just wanted to say this whole bit here is pretty damn offensive.
/r/MensRights14/06/13 03:15 PM
-1

I'm not sure advising this guy to lie to his girlfriend's therapist is the best course of action. Unless, I suppose, he is acting from 'frustrated love'.
/r/MensRights28/05/13 05:27 PM
1

Wouldn't telling her therapist force the therapist to go to police and tell them this guy is living with/having sex with a 17 year old girl with a Personality Disorder? If you ask me, just disappearing one day may be the best thing in this case. Leave her a month's rent behind if you must. That might make her wait a while before coming to look for you.
/r/MensRights28/05/13 05:25 PM
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Been set to private.
/r/MensRights13/05/13 06:47 PM
3

Wow. That's just amazing. Thanks for the story though, and i'm glad it's worked out in this case.
/r/MensRights13/05/13 02:36 PM
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One thing I've never understood in these situations: Does the Child Services department take children away if the mother dies? If she had died in that drunk driving accident, would he have lost his child? I can't understand what sort of reasoning follows that. If he is obviously good enough to take care of a child with a dead mother, why is he considered unfit by default if the mother is around but horribly maladjusted and abusive? That boggles my mind.
/r/MensRights13/05/13 02:07 PM
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Absolutely. T sounds like a true stand up guy who handles what needs to be handled. It is a damn shame that he was so close to losing his child when he is obviously the better parent.
/r/MensRights13/05/13 02:05 PM
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whoa whoa whoa. I'm not saying that I have any 'theories' at all. I'm just saying that if you lower the age of consent, you get fewer cases of child sexual abuse by the sheer fact that what people once did before that was illegal, is not legal.
/r/MensRights09/05/13 09:31 PM
1

If there were no increase in the number of 14 year olds having sex with 20+ year old adults once the age of consent is dropped to 13, then that throws the entire idea of laws as a deterrent out the window. I have to believe that at least SOME pedophiles stopped themselves because of the law and the societal consequences implied by that law. With that law gone, that gives implicit permission by society that sleeping with children of a certain age is alright and collectively society is alright wit…
/r/MensRights09/05/13 07:42 PM
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I agree. I don't see this as an equality issue. Women don't have any more right to sleep with a 13 year old boy than men have to sleep with a 13 year old girl. In fact wasn't the boy in the Mary Kay Letourneu (sp?) case 13 when she went to prison?
/r/MensRights09/05/13 01:17 PM
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From the commenter "Larner" on the article: Japan has an age of consent at 13… And it’s not some 3rd world country filled with child abuse, it has one of the lowest child abuse and sex crime rates… Surprised that such a sex filled culture has such a low crime rate. Just wanted to point out that yes, if you lower the age at which sex with children is legal, you have a much lower rate of child abuse crimes. Similarly, I'm not sure if anyone has noticed, but the number of arrests for marijuana poss…
/r/MensRights09/05/13 01:14 PM
0

You realize I'm a guy, right? If you honestly don't see how forcing a woman to take a paternity test is a sign of mistrust in a relationship, then I am not going to convince you otherwise. The HIV comment was a joke to demonstrate that if you don't trust her to not get pregnant by some other guy, why do you trust her not to get an STD by some other guy? That's the exact same thing. I have no doubt your girlfriend is honest and trustworthy. I have no reason to doubt her.
/r/MensRights01/05/13 02:59 PM
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lol, I've been feeding the trolls. Well done sir. I concede all further points. You win by accusing me of trying to 'retain my pussy pass' in a Men's Rights forum. Because that's where I'd go to get pussy of course. Well done at winning.
/r/MensRights01/05/13 02:55 PM
1

I think we're going to have to agree to disagree here. Perhaps I've not been burned like you and some others have. But in my view, a wife shouldn't HAVE to ask for money. Once a marriage contract is signed and legalized, each party has the right to all property from both parties. If that is not going to be the case, sign a pre-nup. If you can't get a pre-nup signed and you still don't want this to be the case, then don't get married. I can't help but think you agree with me on this. After all, y…
/r/MensRights01/05/13 02:44 PM
1

Fair enough.
/r/MensRights01/05/13 01:29 PM
1

We've been going back and forth on this a lot. Quick question: Do you believe it is possible for there to be any community property in a marriage?
/r/MensRights01/05/13 12:27 PM
1

You said: That is completely up to them. In this case if the husband doesn't want to share his finances then that's his call and if the wife isn't satisfied with that then she can leave. I said: If this is worked out before the marriage, and all parties agree to each of them having their own money regardless of circumstance, more power to them. And if later on they find themselves unhappy with the arrangement and cannot come to a compromise, then yes, I agree, LEAVE. Looks like we totally agree …
/r/MensRights01/05/13 12:24 PM
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I trust her implicitly, but because the stakes are so high for men in that situation and because I believe that paternity testing should be mandatory at birth for everyone. You really need to look up the definition of 'trust'. But just so I can clarify your point in my head: You mean to suggest that ALL births should be treated as if they were the result of dishonesty and/or adultery, regardless of circumstance or condition? If that is what you are saying, that is incredibly insulting to both me…
/r/MensRights01/05/13 12:21 PM
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First, I can't 'abuse' a word. Secondly, you should look up the definition of 'trust'.
/r/MensRights01/05/13 11:25 AM
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As I've defended my position about twenty times throughout this post, I'll just give it a quick shot here. If they both are happy, more power to them. But if one side is obviously unbalanced, and that causes a person to start to resent the other, then that's a problem in the marriage. I'm not going to claim I know these people or what is best, I'm just saying there's obviously no trust in the relationship. Perhaps you can answer a question no one else has been able to so far. If she wins the lot…
/r/MensRights01/05/13 01:56 AM
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That's a very good reason not to marry your friend.
/r/MensRights01/05/13 01:48 AM
1

I will admit I don't get that.
/r/MensRights01/05/13 01:39 AM
1

True, but it was for reasons other than purely sex too I'm sure.
/r/MensRights30/04/13 09:43 PM
1

I don't have any proof for that statement. Sorry. I was just imagining a Real Housewives sort of situation where the husband doesn't want to be married to a who looks homeless in moth eaten clothes.
/r/MensRights30/04/13 08:34 PM
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Not necessarily. For example it would be difficult to have children with a slot machine.
/r/MensRights30/04/13 08:32 PM
1

That is a very good point. If she has proven herself untrustworthy with money, but he doesn't consider that to be a good reason to get a divorce then this seems like it would be a very good compromise. And if that is the case, and this woman still wrote into an advice columnist complaining about the situation, well, that's just petty on her part.
/r/MensRights30/04/13 08:31 PM
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I would totally agree with you if they were living together or roommates, or just dating. But marriage is a big step. And if one half of that marriage isn't ready to share, then they aren't ready for marriage in my opinion. If this is worked out before the marriage, and all parties agree to each of them having their own money regardless of circumstance, more power to them. And if later on they find themselves unhappy with the arrangement and cannot come to a compromise, then yes, I agree, LEAVE.…
/r/MensRights30/04/13 08:08 PM
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I daresay you are the one abusing the word trust. If she gets pregnant while married to you, and you have no other reason to suspect she's cheating, but you still demand a paternity test. By the very definition of the word, you do NOT trust your wife to not cheat on you.
/r/MensRights30/04/13 08:04 PM
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To me personally, yes. I, again personally, can't see going through with all the marriage stuff unless I'm committed 100%. If I do otherwise and the marriage falls apart, then who is to say that missing few percent wouldn't have made the difference. If the marriage fails anyway, then at least I gave it my all. I don't claim to speak for other people, though looking back on my posts I can see how one may think that. If a man can find a partner who has no problem with not being trusted in their ma…
/r/MensRights30/04/13 08:02 PM
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Well then, for what it's worth I completely agree. And in this case it appears that the wife is emotionally unsatisfied.
/r/MensRights30/04/13 07:56 PM
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I'm guessing love occasionally had something to do with it. As cynical as the world is today, love actually is an emotion people feel. That and raising a family has always been a large portion of the reason to get married. If a man just wanted to pay someone for sex, prostitution is both cheaper and less expensive.
/r/MensRights30/04/13 07:55 PM
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I have a feeling there is little chance of me convincing you otherwise, so I will simply agree to disagree.
/r/MensRights30/04/13 07:53 PM
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I see that you are technically correct. That would be a simple definition of sharing. But is it really unfair in this situation? In this ostensibly lifelong partnership based on love and mutual trust which may even result in children and grandchildren, is it truly inequitable for all finances to be evenly distributed to both members? If she wins the lottery, would it be unfair for her to share with her husband? Would he be satisfied with an allowance? Were he to be paying the mortgage, would it …
/r/MensRights30/04/13 07:21 PM
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Tell him you married him because you trust him and expect the same in return.
/r/MensRights30/04/13 07:13 PM
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I have to agree here. He's either trying to control her with money, or planning on leaving and taking as much with him as he can.
/r/MensRights30/04/13 07:11 PM
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I agree wholeheartedly.
/r/MensRights30/04/13 07:06 PM
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Hopefully you don't mind if I agree with you a lot here. I'm not exactly popular 'round these parts, but damned if your comments don't make a lot of sense.
/r/MensRights30/04/13 07:05 PM
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Out of curiosity, if they threw all their money together, and shopped at the same stores together, would that be considered less than equitable to the higher earner? And again, this is a marriage, not a room-mate situation.
/r/MensRights30/04/13 07:03 PM
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...I shouldn't be paying her for access to her vagina. She should be giving me access to her so that she has access to me. I'm not sure I follow. Are you saying that historically (and I'm guessing you mean the last 100 years or so, prior to that women had VERY little access to the family funds) men shared their wealth with their wives because they allowed men to have sex with them? And that has changed in recent history because now you are allowing them to have sex with you? I have a feeling I'm…
/r/MensRights30/04/13 07:01 PM
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If you married someone you don't trust, it is. But then, there are several foolish things about marrying someone you don't trust.
/r/MensRights30/04/13 06:57 PM
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I think we mostly agree here. And yes, if that's the way they want to do it, more power to them. There seems to be a path of lesser resistance available, but again, it's not my fight so I'll concede that point. She could get another job. And in fact if it was a one off thing like a car or a very expensive luxury item or something, that might even be the best way to do it in order to have a greater appreciation for the money involved. However, this seems to be shopping at different stores for bas…
/r/MensRights30/04/13 06:56 PM
1

He gives her a fucking allowance! You don't call that sharing his money with her? No, no I don't. Would you call it sharing her money if she was the primary breadwinner and gave him a couple of bills a week to go play with his buddies? If it isn't acceptable one way, it isn't acceptable the other.
/r/MensRights30/04/13 06:47 PM
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You have a big bucket that you put all your money in, and you trust your spouse not to tip it over.
/r/MensRights30/04/13 03:22 PM
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Well, I certainly don't have the authority to tell them what they can do. I can say what I believe. I will admit I stated it like a fact. But they are free to ignore me, as I'm sure they will. I just can't understand why they bother with the whole 'marriage' thing if they don't share their finances. In this situation especially it puts one partner at an extreme disadvantage compared to the other partner to the point they can't even shop at the same stores. The point about the mortgage is possibl…
/r/MensRights30/04/13 03:12 PM
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Well, a few things here. First the things I disagree with: He doesn't want to share HIS money that HE worked for. He must be on a power trip like the rest of the horrible men. If you can't share your money with your wife, then you shouldn't be married. If she can't share her money with you, she shouldn't be married. People like this need roommates they can have sex with, not a spouse. Also, it is very possible a mortgage costs easily as much as the rest of the bills put together. However, I do a…
/r/MensRights30/04/13 02:46 PM
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If a man had done this to his ex-wife, there would be strident, shrill cries of patriarchy and rape culture unending. In the feminist circles, yes there would be. But since we aren't like that, we are going to avoid strident shrill cries of matriarchy and male repression, aren't we?
/r/MensRights26/04/13 01:09 PM
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http://wiki.answers.com/Q/Who_said_when_the_fall_is_all_that's_left_it_matters_a_great_deal
/r/MensRights28/03/13 06:02 PM
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Fair enough. We may just have to agree to disagree here. I didn't say sit down to a cup of tea. I said to tell her unequivocally why he was leaving. Then turn around and go. He wouldn't have had to lie. He would have been out. And if he had the urgency to flee, he should have had the urgency to say what he wanted to say and leave. If he didn't want a scene. He could have put up with it for a short while, made an excuse to leave, and left without looking back. It would have taken so little for hi…
/r/MensRights28/03/13 04:49 PM
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Then I guess we'll just have to agree to disagree. Upvote for you.
/r/MensRights28/03/13 03:23 PM
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That's a fair point. I'm sure she got the idea, although apparently OP got her to get the abortion by promising to stick around after, so she may still be confused. Her confusion really isn't my or OPs concern though. I think you and I are pretty close here, so I don't want you to think I'm being too pedantic about this. But my main concern was for OP's own well-being. This is generally, a terrible way to deal with conflict in any situation, and he really should learn soon that fleeing in terror…
/r/MensRights28/03/13 03:23 PM
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That has got to be the most pathetic thing I've ever seen written. EDIT: unless you are trolling me, in which case, well done sir!
/r/MensRights28/03/13 03:15 PM
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Holy crap man.. that is freaking insane. I'm going to have to digest that one for a while.
/r/MensRights28/03/13 01:56 PM
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I am happy for you my friend. I'm in a similar situation (although I'm the one who WANTS kids right now and she doesn't). And if that works for you, amen, wash your hands, you're done. I'm in the same boat and I'm very happy. But the ones who are dealing with people they may not know as well, or women who have previously mentioned how much they want a baby or how a baby would solve their problems, or even guys who have a much higher level of paranoia (not that I would ever suggest guys on this s…
/r/MensRights28/03/13 01:52 PM
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What the actual fuck?? How in Christ's name is that legal? Is this in the US?
/r/MensRights28/03/13 12:51 PM
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For what it's worth, though I obviously disapprove of how you handled yourself. The fact that you recognize that you did something wrong speaks well for you. You are a human being after all. You should take her next call and explain why you did it. Then delete and block her number and never speak to her again.
/r/MensRights28/03/13 12:49 PM
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I think you are misreading our concerns with his behavior. We don't believe he should have 'comforted' this woman. He had already 'comforted' her by waiting four hours in the waiting room, driving her home, and making sure she made it inside alright. We simply believe he should have acted like a grown adult human being. He should have explained his issues, told her that he was leaving, and then calmly walked to his car. Does he have brittle bone disease or something? Do we expect that a woman wh…
/r/MensRights28/03/13 12:47 PM
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Look, I'm all for that. I think that's great that all relationships are based on trust. For what it's worth, I agree with you. But you have to know that this sub is filled to the brim with people calling out women for doing this exact thing. Lying to get pregnant and 'catch' a man. I'm sure it's been done since birth control was created. Wearing a condom is not only protection from pregnancy, but protection from STDs as well. Now if someone is in a situation where STDs aren't necessarily a conce…
/r/MensRights28/03/13 12:42 PM
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You are suggesting that justifies his own lying and fleeing in his car?
/r/MensRights28/03/13 02:39 AM
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who is defending her? I'm saying if he wears a condom he's protected. Full stop, the woman is not a concern. She can be responsible for her own protection. If you wear a condom, her desire for a child need not be a thought in your head as a male. She lied and she's a liar. She's a horrible person and, frankly, got herself into one HELL of a terrible situation through no one's fault but her own. But if he's worn a condom, she'd have to have done it to some other poor schmuck.
/r/MensRights28/03/13 02:38 AM
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She lied, but the point is that he should have been wearing a condom even if she was telling the truth. People get pregnant while on the pill. It is not common, but it isn't unheard of.
/r/MensRights27/03/13 10:22 PM
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For what it's worth I completely agree with you. Though my comment saying so has been downvoted to obscurity. Still, upvote for you.
/r/MensRights27/03/13 10:20 PM
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Sorry, didn't realize that not fleeing like a goddamn 12 year old from a woman fresh out of surgery was what passed as chivalrous today. Thanks for the lesson. You've taught me so much in just a few short minutes.
/r/MensRights27/03/13 10:16 PM
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Not sure what SJW is, but since you told me to shut the fuck up earlier, I shouldn't even be asking. Sorry. I keep forgetting that you are very angry, and therefore right about what you are talking about.
/r/MensRights27/03/13 10:15 PM
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That is an interesting suggestion. But I'm of the opinion that she is still actually the bad guy. I don't think he should fall on his sword for her, but I'm pretty sure that isn't why he did it. I think she should feel terrible. She did a horrible thing and had to suffer emotionally and physically for it. I just think the adult thing would be to do something than flee like a coward and hide from her phone calls.
/r/MensRights27/03/13 10:13 PM
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Right. Got it. Shutting the fuck up, you've proven to me the error of my ways. Well done.
/r/MensRights27/03/13 10:11 PM
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What? I compared it favorably to punching his gf. I said if he'd punched her, that would have been worse.
/r/MensRights27/03/13 04:27 PM
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I agree. But the fact is, he owes the rest of us. We all look bad when this sort of thing happens.
/r/MensRights27/03/13 04:26 PM
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It is hard to believe that this girl was in any condition to 'abuse' this man as she needed assistance to make it home. Hell, she needed help getting into the house. I don't care if it was three sentences long, "Girl, I want you to know I think you did the right thing today. But I can't stay with someone who lies and manipulates me like this. Goodbye." Then turn around and leave.
/r/MensRights27/03/13 03:58 PM
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His feelings are more important than her feelings. So we're leaving the whole "Men's Rights is concerned with the equality of the sexes" thing behind then? And judged for what... simply leaving? He did not simply leave. He stuck around in the waiting room for four hours. He drove her home. He walked her inside. He lied and fled like a coward. Yes, I judge him for that, and I would judge a woman equally harshly. Why is it so important to morally judge him for how he responded to being put in a co…
/r/MensRights27/03/13 03:22 PM
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The minute the first thing is thrown or the first slap is hurled, take off. That's as good an excuse for leaving without another word as anyone will ever give him. I'm guessing he isn't worried about her coming at him with a knife or gun, or he would have gotten out long ago. If violence ensues, then you leave. If you make your point and she wants to argue, then you leave. If you drop her off at her door and lie to her to get something out of your car, you do NOT leave.
/r/MensRights27/03/13 03:14 PM
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I've been called on the 'manly' thing a couple of times, and I agree, it was a stupid choice of words. But I do appreciate your measured response. Yes, this situation was her doing, and yes he was the one taken advantage of and lied to. I totally agree with all that. I think we both agree on most points here. In pretty much all this situation, he is the victim (although he did learn a VERY important lesson to not trust a woman who says she's on birth control). But he had a chance here to take th…
/r/MensRights27/03/13 03:12 PM
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Well, that last part was meant to be a bit tongue in cheek. But my main point remains. Addressing the issue like an adult and ending it face to face is a much better way to handle this.
/r/MensRights27/03/13 02:49 PM
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upvoted because that's a better argument than any other I've received today.
/r/MensRights27/03/13 02:48 PM
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What? Victim? Since when are MensRights supporters in the business of victimization? You are honestly suggesting.. in all seriousness.. that this was NOT a shitty thing to do to someone who just went through an invasive surgery on his behalf (admittedly in a situation she got herself into). It occurs to me: How old is this couple?
/r/MensRights27/03/13 01:42 PM
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By having an adult conversation. Saying something like... I dunno.. "I appreciate what you've done. But I can't be with you anymore. Do you want me to call someone to come over and take care of you after your 4-hour surgery?" Saying you forgot something in the car and then speeding off like it was a Loony Tunes cartoon just reeks of cowardice, thoughtlessness, and complete immaturity.
/r/MensRights27/03/13 01:39 PM
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Holy. Fucking. Shit. That is about the shittiest thing in the world to have done. Seriously, short of punching her in her surgery scar and THEN running off... good lord man. She got a fucking abortion for you. She did what you wanted. Christ on a cracker, is this considered what men's rights is? There are some people calling you out for being a shitty, shitty person. But then they says 'she deserved it' or some bullshit. You are telling me, that the most mature, manly, and adult thing to do was …
/r/MensRights27/03/13 12:59 PM
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You have yet to say how the word "Hero" applies to the guy in the picture. What 'heroic' thing did he do, say, or accomplish?
/r/MensRights26/03/13 06:39 PM
3

Well done. Honestly, people who think men can be raped should read this and consider their position.
/r/MensRights23/03/13 10:08 AM
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I'm not sure I understand. Put myself in the girl's situation? Like if I was reading this list as someone looking for a date? I will admit, I don't usually look up my dates on online shit-lists. If I did, I'm sure I would be considered an asshole.
/r/MensRights09/03/13 01:52 PM
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That may well be the case. And if it is, I'm sure some guy somewhere will sue. More power to them. However, I still can't seem to muster up much outrage over this.
/r/MensRights09/03/13 01:51 PM
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Meh, we're giving this more publicity on Reddit than it would ever have otherwise. Sure it's shitty, and it presumes guilt... ...but... Honestly, if you are thinking of dating a girl, and that girl turns you down because she read your name on some random radio station's list of 'douchebags' is she really a girl you want to spend time with anyway? Seems like a self-correcting problem.
/r/MensRights08/03/13 10:38 PM
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I came to say the same thing. MensRights is definitely and issue.. but it is a 1st world problem. Gender equality in the 2nd and 3rd world is pretty much synonymous with women's equality.
/r/MensRights03/03/13 05:53 AM
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For what its worth, I see where you're coming from. However, I really think this is a big step forward in rectifying a situation that most people don't even recognize exists. Sure, we don't wanna take the attitude of a victim. But other than a text message issue, all of these other points are very good signs of an abusive relationship.
/r/MensRights22/02/13 02:27 PM
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As blueoak9 suggested, it was very clumsy. She could easily have made her point more succinctly and with greater effect if she took several specific attacks on men from feminism and shot those down one by one. Instead she just said how men don't want to pay child support and alimony and the government wharrgarbl. It was poorly done.
/r/MensRights21/02/13 06:40 PM
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That was my point. The genders were highly mixed in all sorts of roles throughout history. Men were not solely 'responsible' for pulling society up out of the mud and out of the caves.
/r/MensRights21/02/13 06:37 PM
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Ummm... "Western" Men are responsible for all the great things that have happened since the caveman days (3:10 or so). I find it very hard to take this girl seriously. To suggest women have had no responsibilities other than raising children literally since caveman days shows she has absolutely no respect for her own gender. Hell, women are responsible for the fucking agricultural revolution if you want to go back to 'tribes and predators roaming the forests'. Men were out hunting mastodons and …
/r/MensRights21/02/13 04:30 PM
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I apologize. I now realize since you said probably, you only believe more than half of all suicide victims had shitty (ie: not even 'decent') mothers. Not all of them, I stand corrected.
/r/MensRights19/02/13 02:17 AM
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By the way, you are a shit fucker. Just putting that out there. Christ, the man's son just died.
/r/MensRights18/02/13 07:23 PM
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Seriously? Who are you that can say that? Every person who committed suicide had a shitty mother?
/r/MensRights18/02/13 07:15 PM
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Absolutely. It's important guys realize these are still actors with a script. But very interesting indeed. Notice how the guys who are having a blast and driving around having fun are NOT the same guys who are getting chewed out by their wives? Young fit guys having fun. Older, bigger guys getting reamed.
/r/MensRights18/02/13 02:25 PM
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And yet you continue to not tell me. You don't seem to get it; I stopped caring about your opinion when it isn't supported by anything.
/r/MensRights18/02/13 01:50 PM
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I'm not sure why that is. If you want to have sex with someone that you can't be CERTAIN is tellingyou the truth, then why take the chance? Is wearing a condom seriously that far out of the mainstream that it's unreasonable?
/r/MensRights18/02/13 01:44 AM
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I had an entire argument ready to go when I realized you have a very good point. Why exactly should a man be forced to pay for pregnancy you never wanted in the first place? A woman has the option for abortion, why can't a man absolve himself from the responsibility in the same sort of fashion? Obviously he can't force an abortion, but neither can he stop one. I'll be damned, I've had my opinion changed by someone on the internet.
/r/MensRights17/02/13 11:57 PM
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Actually, yes I would. She should insist on protection herself. Birth control or insist on him using a condom. She shouldn't trust him any more than he should trust her.
/r/MensRights17/02/13 11:41 PM
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Are we just ignoring the fact the guy did this without a condom? This guy made his choice, and he got burned. This is what men's rights has become? A way to help men avoid legitimate responsibility? Sure she was a manipulative liar. But a simple condom would have fixed ALL this. If this is what the MensRights movement has become, there is no surprise that men have the reputation they do in modern society.
/r/MensRights17/02/13 06:07 PM
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You people are fucking sociopaths.
/r/MensRights17/02/13 06:04 PM
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Christ, here goes, who needs upvotes anyway? You tried to dismiss the 'You should have worn a condom' argument in your post. But the sad fact is: You should have. Men should always assume they could get a woman pregnant when they are having sex. Of course, I understand you trusted her when she told you she was on birth control. I understand she was super hot that night and there were no condoms around at hand. I understand she lied and manipulated you. But the lesson we should all take from this…
/r/MensRights17/02/13 06:02 PM
1

Scammed? Is there a scam here I'm missing? Not to be dismissive, it's very likely I've missed something. But also, you say society views women as worth more than men. There have to be several caveats to that statement. "Western" society (obviously not middle or far eastern societies), Society in the last fifty years or so (obviously not before mid-twentieth century even in western society), "Society views women as worth more than men in social situations (because obviously not in fiscal or caree…
/r/MensRights14/02/13 02:06 PM
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The thing with that is, either way, it doesn't justify making exemptions to basic principles such as equality under the law. This is a fair point. Equality is equality, although no laws are being broken in this particular case, I can agree with your point. Now, as for women being whiny about being able to find a man. I'm afraid that last couple of paragraphs really strikes me as bitterness more than logic or reason. Men don't have to be ripped to get the ladies. It helps, but being completely bu…
/r/MensRights14/02/13 01:53 PM
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I see where you are coming from, but I wonder how much of this is society, and how much of it is just the way of the world. Women have to work just as hard as guys to find a mate. But they do it in different ways. Clothes, make up, hair, the constant worry about weight and height and muscle/flab. Don't get me wrong, I'm not saying they are having to do that because men make them. But I'll say this in a heartbeat. If all I have to do is pay two bucks more to get into a bar, and I DON'T have to wo…
/r/MensRights13/02/13 08:57 PM
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I stand duly informed. Thank you sir.
/r/MensRights13/02/13 05:03 PM
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How exactly is this measured? I would need to see some evidence before I accept that.
/r/MensRights13/02/13 02:51 PM
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Maybe I'm showing my lack of Reddit-ness here. But how exactly can you control if your comment becomes a 'Top' comment? Isn't that a function of other users upvoting you? And isn't that a function of (basically) how much people in that community would agree with your post? You posted things on that board that too many people agree with so you got banned? What in the world am I missing here?
/r/MensRights13/02/13 01:59 PM
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As soon as men are less desperate to meet women than women are to meet men.
/r/MensRights13/02/13 01:24 PM
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It is anecdotal. But there is a problem with trying to test something like this. Even this very same woman might not be like this on a different day. But just using personal experience, how many women do you know personally in your own life who would react this way? More than half?
/r/MensRights13/02/13 01:19 PM
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Well, for what it's worth, I'm a guy. And my point is, you are picking one very specific strawman to attack this article. You hate mommy bloggers? Fine, but does that mean that no good at all can come of them? Or that every child of every mommy blogger is doomed to a life of ridicule and humiliation? It just sounded like you were making things up to be mad about, because you wanted to be mad.
/r/MensRights08/02/13 09:16 PM
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Where is the fault of this? It might be poorly worded. But any husband and father worth his salt is going to tell his wife that the son called. I think that's what she's referring to.
/r/MensRights07/02/13 09:57 PM
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/r/MensRights07/02/13 09:53 PM
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I get the feeling we might be going in circles here, so forgive me if I'm belaboring the point. But if the girl gets asked by someone else, is that the girl's fault?
/r/MensRights01/02/13 05:19 PM
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But that's my point. I'm not sure this is a gender inequality issue. Both genders suffer the same consequences for similar actions. If a girl wants to date a guy, she should ask him. If a guy wants to date a girl, he should ask her. If either is too shy, they lose out. Or am I missing something?
/r/MensRights01/02/13 04:37 PM
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I am this close to agreeing with you. But I'm not sure if this is a societal thing or not. That's not to say women shouldn't be ALLOWED to initiate. In fact, that's super awesome when they do. But if a girl misses out because she keeps her mouth shut isn't that a personal problem, not a gender issue? Same thing if a guy is too shy and misses out on the girl of his dreams. These are personal failings, right?
/r/MensRights01/02/13 03:49 PM
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Girls who want to say yes but are too scared? That is some shaky, dangerous ice there pops. If they are too scared to say yes, they should say no, loudly if necessary. I'm pretty sure wanting sex and being afraid of sex are damn close to mutually exclusive for anyone out of puberty.
/r/MensRights01/02/13 03:45 PM
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For what it's worth, this teacher should be given some modicum of credit here. She didn't realize that what she was saying was even the slightest bit sexist. But once she was called out on it (1000 kudos to OP) she backtracked and realized her mistake. It is situations just like this that will eventually change the landscape. People questioning accepted truths, and open minded people willing to change their beliefs. I will bet money that teacher thinks twice from now on about making assumptions …
/r/MensRights01/02/13 03:42 PM
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I would be surprised if anyone here disagrees with that assessment. This is the 'Archetype'. This, THIS is what needs to change. I've always seen the Men's Rights movement not as the 'Fuck Women' movement, but the movement for men to get back to a position of mutual respect to women. Hell, maybe to get to that position of mutual respect for the first time in history.
/r/MensRights26/01/13 03:57 PM
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Well, 2/3 of injuries sustained by women means those injuries outnumber male injuries 2:1. Admittedly that's a smaller ratio than I had expected. But I suppose that's my own fault for just swallowing the line without question.
/r/MensRights25/01/13 09:08 PM
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Oh hell, I'm going to catch it for this... but factually isn't that true? Isn't the vast majority of physical violence in heterosexual relationships that results in injury is actually male on female violence. Maybe I'm not militant enough to be here, and yes, that person in the article is ridiculously shrill and obviously unbalanced. But the fact referred to in the headline there seems to be valid.
/r/MensRights25/01/13 07:54 PM
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