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Escalation & CalibrationLonely_Computer_2058/r/seduction11/11/24 06:00 PM
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I wouldn’t rely on dating apps and would prefer in person. I’ve also had many matches and have converted quite a few to dates. All these dates sucked vs women I met in person. It’s easy to curate a vibe on apps that doesn’t translate to in person. I felt like women on apps were mostly catfishing me. I’ve found more chemistry and better women in person. Dating apps may on average just be attracting attention seekers. I feel like we’ll connected, quality women who have close friends and family wil…
/r/seduction03/07/25 02:32 PM
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Agreed generally but you also have to accept that biology and chemistry exist. You don’t want to attract the majority of women and you want to filter. Filtering is good in the sense that both of you don’t end up with people you can’t stand.
/r/seduction02/07/25 02:17 PM
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I think this is thinking about it the wrong way. I’m you have to often lead with interest as a guy. If you keep waiting for signals a lot of women interpret that as rejection. But you can be bold and make your interest known and if they don’t object you’re good.
/r/seduction12/06/25 01:53 PM
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I think you’re either born with it or not. If you have it naturally, but it isn’t showing it’s likely you have anxiety or some authenticity block.
/r/seduction11/06/25 05:00 PM
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Just be yourself. There’s times where you guys just don’t click and you find out through conversation. It’s not that you’re doing something wrong if you’re being authentic and not anxious.
/r/seduction10/06/25 03:19 PM
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I agree with this for most cultures but all this advice flies out the door with more forward cultures like with Latinas. If you aren’t overly forward they’ll read it as disinterest. But generally being chill and slowly escalating like this works.
/r/seduction10/06/25 01:58 PM
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Another thing to note is even if you come off normal, getting rejected is still the norm, but it won’t be as rude as if you try those dumb pick up lines. I agree with the sentiment. You’ll inevitably get incels pushing back on this saying that you have to be good looking or rich. But in reality all the successful interactions I’ve had, I’ve just approached normally and fumbled through an awkward convo. If a girl likes you, she’ll make it work.
/r/seduction07/06/25 03:51 PM
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When someone says something like this people usually point to physical things. There are plenty of unattractive people getting laid. In my opinion this is all mental. There is some mental block you have that is shutting you out to meeting and connecting with people. You have to be more open to experience and get out there. People can sense when you’re in your own head and not making them feel seen.
/r/seduction01/06/25 08:41 PM
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Haven’t read this but I’ve been thinking about this lately. I’m a very introspective guy and I do things like read philosophy for fun. This wasn’t exactly good with women so I just acted lighter and masked this part of myself. It was easy to pick up girls but I feel like I destroyed a part of myself. Every once in a while I meet women who I don’t have to hide myself and it makes me realize this this is really what I want. Not completely related to what you’re saying, but exploring what I want in…
/r/seduction27/05/25 02:57 PM
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Paris 😉
/r/seduction11/05/25 08:02 PM
46

Whether a girl will ghost, even if you do everything right has little to do with you. Girls ghost because they get back with exes, find another guy, or just lose interest. Even if you spark intense interest, they might just not want that or have different life circumstances. Assuming you’re not doing anything out of the ordinary, ghosting should be expected from time to time in modern dating, especially on dating apps.
/r/seduction23/04/25 02:59 PM
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You’ll get goldiggers or shallow women. The best quality women you get with charisma.
/r/seduction21/04/25 08:55 PM
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These weirdos will always blame everything else but themselves. Good post OP.
/r/seduction17/04/25 03:23 PM
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Ask her if she wants to breed with you.
/r/seduction04/04/25 06:30 PM
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A majority of men that I’ve observed are just really bad with women. I think on the contrary it’s just a skill a few guys are born with.
/r/seduction26/03/25 02:00 AM
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Do you have a friend that already talks to women?
/r/seduction24/03/25 11:07 PM
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I’m thinking a couple of things may help you, but these are just guesses. If you’re attractive and magnetic, you’ll still get rejected frequently, it’s just the nature of going out. Now I’m sure you’ve spoken to women who are not rejecting you and you’re continuing forward. You may just not be as bold as you have to be when a girl shows interest. Sometimes you have to take risks like saying something flirty or asking a girl to dance. Girls could be getting insecure because you hesitate too long …
/r/seduction23/03/25 11:34 PM
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I used to give this boyfriend material vibe but now I’ve been told I give a “player” vibe even though I wasn’t consciously trying to. What changed is that when I started giving a player vibe I told myself I just wanted hook ups and I would be authentic about it and direct. Women can likely pick up on this and I got my intended result. You can try that maybe? For context I am overly flirty right off the bat and I don’t focus on deep convo too much.
/r/seduction22/03/25 01:12 PM
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Very easy once you get out of your own head. The struggle is really overcoming that overthinking. Maybe the only way you do that is continuing to talk to girls for a few months while you’re out and failing. It feels embarrassing, but it’s the only way forward if you want to get better. Then you’ll likely have a moment where everything clicks and you’ll start having success. You can fine tune at this stage and keep improving, but the point is you’ll be able to at least make out with someone every…
/r/seduction21/03/25 12:47 PM
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😂😂😂. Hilarious way to put it, but I agree. If you wait for the perfect woman, you’ll have no experience and likely fumble her. If you practice on 7-8s you’ll easily pull a 9-10 who you view as the ideal partner when the time comes.
/r/seduction18/03/25 01:50 PM
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I’ve seen enough good looking guys turned down only for the same girls to then be talking to worse looking guys. If you meet a certain standard in terms of attractiveness (the bar isn’t that high) then it’s all about your confidence and social skills. I’ve always advocated improving and focusing on this.
/r/seduction15/03/25 07:50 PM
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For real lol
/r/seduction13/03/25 03:50 PM
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Disagree. I know some women who are too intimidated to be with a man who is too above her league because she knows he won’t truly value her, will go outside the relationship, or will feel self conscious. I know a girl who broke it off with a guy because she felt insecure about how he would get too much attention from women and she was too insecure to compete. She also wanted to feel desired and pined over.
/r/seduction13/03/25 03:48 PM
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Totally understand how you feel and I resonate a lot with this. It is difficult because hookups are with women who are sometimes like roller coasters in terms of emotions. You have to have nerves of steel to deal with the whirlwinds they’ll put you through. I’ll get poems sent to me, trauma dumping, random cancelations, fear of STDs, etc. It seems like all my energy goes into this outside of work. There’s been weeks where I’ve had to just cut people off and have some peace and quiet. It’s unsust…
/r/seduction02/03/25 04:26 AM
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Everything ok bro?
/r/seduction23/02/25 10:23 PM
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Haha thanks for sharing. Love that. It illustrates the point that sometimes you just say anything.
/r/seduction23/02/25 10:22 PM
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This is so true. The norm for every man is rejection. You just have to expect it. There’s been times I didn’t feel like approaching because I was scared but i did it and fumbled through the convo and it led to more with the girl.
/r/seduction23/02/25 05:33 PM
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True
/r/seduction20/02/25 01:09 AM
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Main focus should be to have fun. If something comes from it great, if not, no worries.
/r/seduction19/02/25 10:08 PM
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If you push the envelope enough it’s easy to get it on the first date assuming both of you are interested. You should try to push early and if she soft rejects just keep little pushes. Maybe you’ll get it later and she just has that much willpower. I’ve had a girl tell me “I’m not easy” rejecting me for a kiss and then I had sex with her that same day.
/r/seduction18/02/25 08:53 PM
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Your uncle worked for Nintendo right?
/r/seduction04/02/25 05:25 PM
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So half of who you approach give you a phone number?? That’s just not statistically true. 2/3 of women in their 20-30s are in relationships. Let’s say even this wasn’t the case. You’re telling me that half the women you talk to think you’re their cup of tea enough to give you their phone number?
/r/seduction12/01/25 02:58 AM
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AMOG/dartagnan… sorry you lost me
/r/seduction11/01/25 02:10 PM
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Depends on what I feel about her. If she’s just trying to split because she doesn’t like me I’ll take her up on the offer. If she offers to split because she’s progressive, I’ll just pay.
/r/seduction09/01/25 04:49 PM
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This is pure vanity and delusion. If all your first dates are leading to second dates you’re doing something wrong and being too likable at the expense of your integrity.
/r/seduction08/01/25 06:08 PM
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I’ll pay because if you don’t that conveys a message that you’re cheap and probably don’t have money. Not saying this is true, but this is likely the mental shortcut women make. Like if the average man sees a girl with purple hair he’d assume she’s a bit unstable. I’ll usually do a coffee or walking date for first date. If I like her then I’ll spend more on a third date.
/r/seduction08/01/25 06:06 PM
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This is the idea I’ve been looking for. I’ve wanted to do this by myself anyway.
/r/seduction08/01/25 06:04 PM
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Fake. This would mean you were with a different girl more than once a week for all those years.
/r/seduction08/01/25 01:20 PM
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This would probably seem like you’re trying to test them and make them uncomfortable, wouldn’t it?
/r/seduction07/01/25 08:36 PM
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Who knows. Just move on. It could be an ex, she didn’t want to date, she self sabotaged. Whatever it is you just put your best foot forward and move on.
/r/seduction07/01/25 04:49 AM
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What motorcycle do you ride?
/r/seduction03/01/25 10:24 PM
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Depends on what you want. If this seems acceptable to you continue, if not, you’ve been with her for a few months and should bring it up to her. Accept that this may be an incompatibility and be willing to walk away.
/r/seduction18/12/24 02:27 PM
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What the fuck is a negative canthal tilt
/r/seduction18/12/24 01:07 PM
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This is so obvious, it’s just Darwinism at this point
/r/seduction18/12/24 01:05 PM
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Logically this is true, but most men are not emotionally strong enough to do this. They are either born with it, or have to get there by working on themselves. I fear that this is only reserved for a very small percentage of men. But then that also means men who are willing to work at this get a lot of benefit.
/r/seduction16/12/24 11:30 PM
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Don’t use tinder, but use other apps, it’s generally like that where most women don’t answer. Likely culprits are tons of other men messaging them, forgetting to answer, got back with ex, deleted app, found a guy to focus on etc. I have female friends show me their profiles and immediately I understand why girls don’t respond. Don’t take it personally, just keep trying and you might get lucky and get one that sticks. Also explore other options like meeting women in person and through friends. It…
/r/seduction16/12/24 11:26 PM
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I got out of a LTR recently and it helped me to start dating right after. It felt good to know that there were other people out there. I went to close to the sun though and got a bit burnt out. Be careful to be moderate about it. If I could go back and do it again I’d probably keep going out for the intention of just talking to people and making friends because emotionally I wasn’t ready to date. It did help in the sense of reestablishing game and getting over fear of rejection so net win anyway…
/r/seduction16/12/24 06:45 PM
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It’s tough because work is a situation that isn’t really conducive to sharing your true feelings. There’s always stress and feeling that there could be repercussions. I’ve always stayed away from meeting someone from work because I’ve heard horror stories about it. Recently though, I’m warming up to the idea and I’m in a similar situation as you. I’m just feeling it out and reaching out once in a while. I’m going to slowly increase communication and see what signals I get. If she likes you, she …
/r/seduction06/12/24 09:41 PM
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I totally get exactly what you’re saying. I’ve vibed with people and have known they’re interested for sure. I’ve slept with or kissed some women and then they’ll ghost the next day or it’ll just fizzle out. At this point I think it might just be how modern dating is and all we can do is just keep trying and ramping up the numbers.
/r/seduction29/11/24 11:52 PM
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Just curious, what little details did you learn that did this? Like what is it about autism that was causing you to be socially unaware? I have a cousin who is autistic and the only thing I notice is that he’ll talk to me obsessively to the point where I am obviously tired of the conversation.
/r/seduction29/11/24 06:19 PM
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That’s just the nature of dating apps and even general dating. A lot of men/women are just looking for validation and nothing serious. I wouldn’t waste my time trying to hit them up, just keep trying with new people. I know it can get tiring, but there’s really no other option.
/r/seduction29/11/24 03:23 PM
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It’s mostly about confidence and mindset assuming you’re solid in exercise, job, and fashion. Even with all these things, you still need charisma. I can’t say for each individual, but it takes a while to develop this and confidence for dealing with women based off of my own experience. Just keep learning and you’ll break through eventually. 3.5 months is not that long and I wouldn’t compare myself to your friend who seems like he’s already found what works for him. Just keep improving, it can ta…
/r/seduction23/11/24 03:02 AM
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Seduction is a tool for many different purposes. You could use it for fun, to get a partner, etc. I think your question is somewhat related to you thinking about what your greater purpose in life is. After a certain point, I feel like sleeping with women gets old and you want something more. I could be wrong, but this may be how you’re feeling. I think you need a greater purpose and to find things you enjoy. Women may just be a distraction from what is actually bothering you. I could be way off …
/r/seduction18/11/24 02:02 PM
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I know women who are audacious like this just to have guys buy them drinks, so good thing you didn’t fall for it. Most likely the type of girl to do this wouldn’t be serious.
/r/seduction16/11/24 03:54 PM
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Completely relate to this. I have friends who approach and get harsh rejections all the time, but nothing is worse than when a girl is going hard for you and then you say something and all of a sudden notice you fumbled… I feel like we all found similar guys because of my comment 😂.
/r/seduction16/11/24 02:45 AM
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You could also have depression or anxiety. Maybe be autistic or something like that. Or be insecure about money/social status. Not have inner confidence.
/r/seduction15/11/24 09:46 PM
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I feel like the better looking you are, the higher the expectations are on your social skills sometimes. If there is too much of a discrepancy, women will wonder if there’s something off with you emotionally or mentally.
/r/seduction15/11/24 06:13 PM
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This is just common and why dating is a numbers game. I wouldn’t worry about it and just keep moving on.
/r/seduction12/11/24 02:20 PM
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Yeah for sure. I’ve had this experience as well, but generally it’s gone south more times than not. It’s kind of like a statistical increase in the chance they won’t be receptive, but doesn’t mean it will happen all the time.
/r/seduction12/11/24 02:16 PM
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Same here, but unfortunately or fortunately, however you want to look at it, girls are not as attracted to looks as you’d think. Sure it does help when walking up to a girl. You’ll definitely get more girls who are receptive to be approached, but then it’s all about game. If you are attractive but have no game, you’ll flounder. I had the same attitude you had until I witnessed unattractive men pull and be more successful. It’s all about confidence, the emotion you make women feel. There’s so muc…
/r/seduction12/11/24 02:13 PM
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Good suggestions! I like the idea of childhood memories. Also going into her passions and interests. I sort of did this in my last interaction but there wasn’t really a targeted or concerted effort. Now that you guys mention it I’ll make it more of a focal point.
/r/seduction11/11/24 07:59 PM
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There’s banter and I mostly just keep the conversation on her. I ask most of the questions but I barely reveal anything about myself which may be an issue. I just get her talking about herself. The personality may not be there. But how do I do this while still maintaining the focus on her?
/r/seduction11/11/24 07:57 PM
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My style is being direct. Depends on what you feel more comfortable doing or what works for you. I’ll usually look for a type of girl I like. I like emo or alt girls so if I see a girl in a leather jacket, I’ll say “wow you look badass in that leather jacket”. I’ve also just done “I thought you were cute and I wanted to come say hi” and then go into other topics. If I really have nothing to go off of I’ll try “you have a very interesting vibe” and then comment something about what I observe. I h…
/r/seduction11/11/24 01:52 PM
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Try to read signals that girls give like looking at you or being close to you. If you can’t read that or are getting nothing, approach girls who have open body language and look like they’re willing to have an interaction. Like no crossed legs or arms, no scowls, and not in a closed off circle with their friends. Then, you’ll have to keep repeating this until you meet someone who’s receptive. Usually I’ll try to indicate I’m interested quickly to avoid wasting my time and hearing they have a boy…
/r/seduction09/11/24 04:50 PM
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What’s the move if you’re at the point of physical touching before making it too sexual, and she’s kind of neutral. Like not pulling back or disinterested but also not head over heels? I would think try to build more comfort and keep the convo focused on her. I feel like there are some girls who give clear signals and have high interest that this works perfectly with. But the biggest challenge are the majority of girls who you will have to win over. You can’t exactly proceed with all these steps…
/r/seduction09/11/24 04:45 PM
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I have a similar issue. I think I need to escalate more too, but I think a lot of women are flaky because they have plenty of options. I only go for women I consider 8-10 for dates so these women will naturally have more suitors. I think we can be more flirty and touchy early on as well as just work on our game and speaking skills.
/r/seduction06/11/24 02:06 AM
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Let’s assume you take care of the basics i.e. you have basic hygiene, dress well, have a decent job, and take care of your mental and physical health to a reasonable degree. If this happens to you, I would say it’s likely low confidence and how you come off to women. I think all these people in the comments saying it's just because other men are handsome or taller is just an easy scapegoat for them not to improve themselves. I’ve seen objectively short and unattractive men be successful in game.…
/r/seduction28/10/24 01:05 AM
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In terms of looks, I think so. You have to meet at least a minimum. I think it’s generally stricter for men than women. After that, chemistry or how well you both mesh together is also like this. Some people may be attracted to each other physically, but if there is no match in the way both of the people are, there’s not much potential. I think women are probably more attuned to this due to being more emotionally intelligent on average and being the ones who have to have more of a commitment in …
/r/seduction20/10/24 05:44 PM
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I’m in a similar situation. Been dating for a little while after a couple years long relationship. Something I’ve noticed is that people usually feel good when they talk about themselves. I’m a genuinely curious person so I usually let others talk and ask questions. But when I started dating I would talk more about myself because I was nervous. I noticed that when I spoke more about myself, I seemed to have the perception that a date went well because I had just spoken more. Then I started letti…
/r/seduction20/10/24 03:19 AM
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Agree with this. If you have positive energy most women will be receptive, even those with a boyfriend. Sometimes they entertain a conversation. It’s about being curious and wanting to meet new people. Your vibes are off if you just have an end goal of having sex or getting into a relationship because you’ll be bitter if anything else is the outcome.
/r/seduction18/10/24 02:20 PM
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Same here. I think women are just hardwired that way. They feel like they could do better if you’re pining after them. I also stumbled upon this solution randomly. Just digging into your passions, interests, and purpose. The problem now is that a lot of the time I drop women because I’d rather be single than be with them. So your standards go up and you’d prefer being alone than being with a dud.
/r/seduction18/10/24 01:10 PM
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If you are truly yourself, naturally you won’t connect with a lot of people even if you heavily curate your profile and who you’re talking to. Do you have any further tips on narrowing down the best types of women to go for?
/r/seduction10/10/24 04:14 PM
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Why would you pursue a woman that had that initial low interest? My take on it is that it is impossible to keep her interest sustained that high if initially it isn’t there at all. Maybe you can convince her for the short run, but why wouldn’t you want to target women that already like you better and are more willing to invest? You already put in a lot of effort pursing her and it’s probably affecting you emotionally the fact that she’s flakey with you and doesn’t initiate as much as you do. Tha…
/r/seduction08/10/24 12:59 PM
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Thanks for making me have to see that… you’re so right though. Everyone else, take RegretsNothing1’s word for it and don’t check.
/r/seduction06/10/24 08:56 PM
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Try asking someone close to you to be honest and tell you what’s wrong. I have an acquaintance who thinks he’s in the right about everything. When I hear his thought processes I think that he is delusional and not self aware. He talks more than he listens. Even his boss told him this. He seems to think everyone else is the problem and he knows everything. I’m not saying this is you, but it is worth exploring if it could be. Maybe you just talk about yourself and aren’t aware of how comfortable o…
/r/seduction16/09/24 03:11 AM
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I think this is a temporary “the grass is greener” type mentality. Everyone gets it from now and then. I’ve been in long term relationships (over 3 years) and I’ve been single. I get options when I’m dating but the hard part is finding someone compatible who fits into your lifestyle. I personally am not searching for a perfect Disney type love, but I think once you have an ok or decent relationship, it’s not worth it to shop around. Dating sucks and idk about you, but I have other interests and …
/r/seduction30/08/24 05:50 PM
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Because I’m not their type or we don’t have chemistry together and I just move on to someone I do have that with.
/r/seduction04/08/24 09:40 PM
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Could be a serial dater in addition to the other possibilities listed by others
/r/seduction02/08/24 11:38 PM
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