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Social IssuesLonewolf_087/r/MensRights21/01/24 05:05 PM
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ProgressLonewolf_087/r/MensRights13/04/23 03:22 PM
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Social IssuesLonewolf_087/r/MensRights09/02/23 04:58 AM
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Social IssuesLonewolf_087/r/MensRights22/07/23 08:31 AM
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Reddit is where all the internet trash people hide. People who are normal aren’t on Reddit. Just a fact. People literally know Reddit is a joke.
/r/MensRights17/02/25 03:49 AM
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Whaaat? Freaking wild.
/r/MensRights15/02/25 03:42 AM
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Half these female teachers are so off the rails bat shit crazy, they take the cake as being a special kind of toxic.
/r/MensRights14/02/25 08:28 PM
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Dangerous and predatory
/r/MensRights14/02/25 08:26 PM
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Reddit is the worst place to get help or advice when you are at rock bottom. That’s when you gotta call in actual people like psychologists, therapists, or doctors that can give you real help and support, not some BS internet strangers that have no idea how to help someone who is at rock bottom. The people who are professionals at this, they know exactly where these people are and how to help them. They see it all the time and know the kinds of pain people have and how it’s very real and very ha…
/r/MensRights12/02/25 05:21 AM
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Sounds pretty good 👍🏻
/r/MensRights04/02/25 11:08 PM
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We are going back to being apes. Apes holding devices with 19 billion transistors. What the hell is this shit.
/r/MensRights04/02/25 10:54 PM
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It’s like the old TV ads you couldn’t avoid them. You’d be eating dinner and mf 877 CASH NOW in your face
/r/MensRights04/02/25 10:53 PM
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Dude Facebook has been pushing ads for that one blonde chick who did over 1000 guys and I’m like are you serious rn? Why is this shit even happening.
/r/MensRights04/02/25 10:52 PM
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Always the workout stuff. I watched the yoga pants get tighter and tighter until the tops started getting cropped and now the yoga pants are literally just like underwear almost basically like yoga pants without legs lol. You can go back in time on Youtube and look at how outfits changed how the usual baggy workout clothes got changed out for things so tight you can see her entire kitty. It’s insane. And I think we hit a new low with what’s her face and Kanye she was literally nude. Literally nu…
/r/MensRights04/02/25 10:48 PM
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I go to the bar and watch sports and have some beer. I socialize with people and have a good meal. To me this is peak living single. The gram will suck all goodness right out of you.
/r/MensRights04/02/25 10:46 PM
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Yeah it becomes almost abusive in the sense that it warps your mind in a bad way makes you start to crave intimacy even if you didn’t care about it before. Makes a person who was fine by themselves suddenly want sex. I’m telling you all the lonely and over thirst it’s caused by this crap. It’s literally everywhere
/r/MensRights04/02/25 10:44 PM
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I’ve cried when I’ve been lonely but usually I gotta do it at home alone in my bedroom. It’s so bad if a guy gets seen crying like that’s the worst looking thing and I can’t have that. I don’t really cry as much I think I’m starting to lean into the situation I have with dating having kicked my ass and I’m in a hard reset mode where I closed all of that out. I’m adjusting. It’s hard a lot of people are probably going through this same kind of thing. Trying to figure out how to do life not thinki…
/r/MensRights03/02/25 04:44 AM
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Your story matters and you matter. Don’t believe for a second people don’t hear you. You have a lot of people here who understand.
/r/MensRights03/02/25 04:29 AM
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Yes. God it’s hard as a man I gotta say we really have to bite bullets pretty hard. I think we get good at it over time but it takes a toll. Just remember we have it in us to be the force to change the world even if we feel lonely we have it. And we will do great things.
/r/MensRights03/02/25 04:27 AM
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Thing is as a person on the spectrum it changes nothing about the initial stages of dating which is to say we literally have the same challenges as anyone else. My sister is dating an autistic Chad and people find his awkwardness fascinating. He’s just a good looking dude so he pulls it off. Dating is unbelievably superficial.
/r/MensRights28/01/25 06:44 AM
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I’m autistic as well. Social things suck but I’m good at other things like my job and hobbies. Everyone gets dinged something but provided with something else. You just gotta find out what that is. Social anxiety is very common with people on the spectrum and it’s really caused by it being so strange how others are and how we aren’t. A lot of it is learning how to let yourself be yourself and not care as much. As an adult it is a little easier withh respect to how people can deal with you being …
/r/MensRights28/01/25 06:40 AM
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I’ve just noticed women in general are shutting down completely like no contact, nothing. They are heavily restricting their social activities to an elite few men and their female friends only.
/r/MensRights23/01/25 05:37 AM
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So what does the average guy do in order to get become more desirable? Work on yourself. Get fit. Get hobbies. Get a good job that pays the bills well. Get a life that in no way needs a woman to be complete. Because that’s the life that a woman wants to be a part of. Well sometimes that helps but other times you still run into the problem of choice and if people are even emotionally available to you. If everyone got in decent shape and many are then what is the lowest common denominator? Your ge…
/r/MensRights23/01/25 05:35 AM
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It’s not easy to fix it involves other people’s perceptions of you and people have very tight expectations. Not everyone will make the grade. Learning how to manage without trying desperately to have a relationship or even have sex has been more helpful than anything. You have to realize you can try and try until you are blue in the face but in many ways it’s not up to you it’s up to them. Unless they change and want to consider a wider range of men well then you will struggle being “good enough…
/r/MensRights23/01/25 05:22 AM
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Yeah pretty much lol. You know me being single and out of the dating scene isn’t half bad at least I don’t have to worry about this nonsense. All the unwritten rules and mind reading I’m obligated to do…
/r/MensRights08/01/25 12:33 AM
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I’m like tier 2.5
/r/MensRights03/01/25 06:08 AM
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Yeah I only avoid them in relationship capacities that’s where it gets very dark these days. So much sleeping around, unfaithfulness, and arrogance when it comes to that.
/r/MensRights03/01/25 06:06 AM
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Yes because democrats show signs they will side with feminists and won’t side with traditional male roles. They dug the ditch they are in now.
/r/MensRights03/01/25 06:02 AM
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It will happen only if the simps stop. And it’s pretty well known that when they do everything will crash down and suddenly things will reverse.
/r/MensRights03/01/25 06:02 AM
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Abandonment due to declining health. A lot of men the end is when they get sick and the woman leaves. And he’s left with basically nobody.
/r/MensRights31/12/24 05:05 AM
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Because women are “oppressed” duh 🙄/s
/r/MensRights22/12/24 03:02 AM
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They don’t know how because they don’t have a lot of practice. So many men say yes they don’t even know lol. By the way that’s a clue guys. Calm your thirst, please. All these mfs liking random Instagram pics like GTFOH.
/r/MensRights21/12/24 05:32 AM
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He will inevitably be Chad. With his mom and likely who his dad was he’s gonna have it easy. Except he will probably be another one of those kids with no parents in the picture.
/r/MensRights21/12/24 04:21 AM
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That is sad to see. Shocking actually.
/r/MensRights20/12/24 03:51 PM
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The craziest thing is when you realize that they can get tired of Chad #1 and need a Chad #2. It’s like some kind of crazy virus trying to spread itself everywhere to the best possible host. It literally feels that disgusting yet that’s how primal we’ve become in a sexually unhinged and brainwashed society. I get sick thinking about this. I am disgusted. There is a part of us once you see it you will see how we are no better than the viruses. Replicate. Advance. Survive. Evolve. Replicate. Roman…
/r/MensRights20/12/24 04:21 AM
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It’s true the issue though is with people who are raised in good values this can be offset by a person who brings more than just good looks and mojo to a relationship. The issue is that our society is in a free fall towards going back to being primates and not evolved species so of course it’s back to whichever monkey hot
/r/MensRights20/12/24 04:18 AM
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I’ve been with women who know how to have good sex. They will freaking change how you see it. When they do the right things anyone can get them off literally anyone. But laziness is what stops good sex. It’s why half of them want a dude with a giant pipe because they literally don’t know how to give the vag right. There again, easy and acceptable by society to blame the man when just a fucking pillow and a few more degrees of leg movement and it’s all done.
/r/MensRights20/12/24 04:14 AM
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I’m betting a hundred dollars she was a starfish too. That’s the biggest slap in the face. When you do all that and they won’t even try when they let you. Closing the legs up hunching over so you can barely get in. You just get pissed like fuck that go in the other room and service yourself and get on the phone with the attorney. It’s possible for someone to create a dead bedroom because they literally don’t know how to freaking position themselves lol. It’s like oh he’s not getting me there wel…
/r/MensRights20/12/24 04:03 AM
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I don’t think I’ll end up married. May I say that is not a complaint not even close.
/r/MensRights20/12/24 04:02 AM
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Dude listen ugly guys have it harder in life but here’s the thing, they usually have bigger hearts because they’ve been through a lot. And a lot of us we just excel at other things. So people can be cold or whatever it doesn’t have to matter. Being happy being single is wonderful. Just wanted to say that. People do like the friendly guy. Shrek makes people laugh. Can’t forget that. People appreciate him and his vibe. It’s a unique kind of charm honestly.
/r/MensRights14/12/24 10:32 PM
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The clumps of toxic people in this world are growing. I’m sorry this happened to you and it certainly indicates the underlying frustration of many here - toxic individuals leveraging hate against people by weaponizing some sort of preconceived bias. That whole “oh she’s one of those” or “all men bad” or “you must be gay then”. What did we really learn about hate growing up? Seems like nothing. We talked about it were raised progressively yet here it is more than ever.
/r/MensRights14/12/24 06:18 PM
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Women lose when women do this. Literally everyone loses. They kill their own kind.
/r/MensRights07/12/24 04:00 AM
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Celebrate taking your country down the tubes, what a great flex that is 🤡
/r/MensRights07/12/24 03:59 AM
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Moderates and conservatives have always cared more for me and listened to what I had to say. You know they actually wanted to help me feel better they weren’t so self consumed. They realized there was something to being good to people. And they were never afraid to sympathize with me and understand how things aren’t logically right. That’s the thing I feel that when I tell someone things were better 20 years ago most conservatives agree fully with me. But people on the other side call me old fas…
/r/MensRights07/12/24 01:35 AM
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A guy has to say no and be happy with no, even if it means no girlfriend. It’s recognizing there is a right way to be treated.
/r/MensRights23/11/24 07:09 AM
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I always find it funny men get stuck in the “f boy” or “friend boy” by people why can’t they just be a little of both? I’m in the friend boy it’s like ok fine I like friends that’s really wonderful but omg I just want a freaking girlfriend why is it so hard! And you have the opposite issue you can get the quick and dirty but then people don’t wanna hang around. Dude people are so polarized these days for real.
/r/MensRights23/11/24 06:18 AM
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It’s like that point right before an alcoholic breaks down and realizes they are the reason behind their own pain. That’s where they are at right now. It gets worse right before it gets better. You are at the screaming and fighting phase. Next comes the complete breakdown followed by the cleaning and realignment of life.
/r/MensRights23/11/24 12:44 AM
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That seems really creepy ngl
/r/MensRights22/11/24 03:49 AM
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I think it’s warped to think that all men who should be sexually active need to be attractive. Realistically any man should be able to be sexually active. Our society shames men for how they look and constantly says they have to be so good to have sex. Well you know there are plenty of ugly women getting sex all the time and they aren’t being excluded. So, just saying if men feel as humans they want sex and society keeps pushing them down well that’s just sad. People will hate me for saying this…
/r/MensRights21/11/24 11:00 PM
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For mental health with men who have had a bad time with dating being an old man who is single is actually very acceptable. If I was in that line of work I would seriously tell my patients that relationships are really optional things and to not try so hard to find one especially if doing so erodes other parts of your life then you lose more than you gain. Yes I think people can feel better if they can get into one but if you keep running into a wall trying and making your self esteem approach ze…
/r/MensRights21/11/24 10:57 PM
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Online dating, social media, and radical feminism.
/r/MensRights19/11/24 02:20 AM
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I spent like 2 grand on dates and effort etc to try and make something stick. A few hundred bucks later with a pro we both came and laughed and had fun. 20 years ago I’d have said you are crazy that you’d think that you would have a better time doing it that way and also how desperate are you? Holy cow times have changed. The dating landscape has changed and it genuinely sucks.
/r/MensRights17/11/24 10:38 AM
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I think that’s an interesting point you are right for a convo between two guys it has a lot to do with what you say the content has to be there and it is less emotional in that respect. The emotions tend to be driven more by what is said versus how it was said. And women I tend to agree my experience has shown how you present the conversation to be a much bigger factor than the conversation itself. That’s a very astute observation.
/r/MensRights16/11/24 03:15 AM
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Imagine sitting in a woman’s clinic getting rejected for treatment while the woman next to you who jumped the fence with five anchor babies gets treated on a federal plan. There’s your women voting for Trump. Those women.
/r/MensRights08/11/24 05:55 AM
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You misspelled “federal funding for sanctuary cities that destroy schools, women’s healthcare rights, and programs for the homeless”. You’ll start to agree with me in time if you look at what’s happening under Merkels Germany. When the BWB gets pushed aside for the import on a Bona fide free ride that’s when you eat your words. Where do you think the votes from women came from for Trump? Exactly.
/r/MensRights08/11/24 05:48 AM
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It was entirely gender based. And would have been no different if it was a man on the Democrat side I’m pretty sure they would say “he’s with the women he’s with us” without thinking about anything else. I felt like last election there was enough of that plus all the Gen Z peeps that was their first time to vote. And boy did they regret.
/r/MensRights08/11/24 05:43 AM
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No. You stop saying that. You belong here. Fuck other people who say you don’t or made it hard for you,
/r/MensRights06/11/24 05:51 AM
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But even though he might be toxic he was still in the right for this one. A crime against a criminal is still punishable in court of law. Never forget that nobody is freed of getting justice if the system is working the way it should. Ask the sex workers who have been assaulted after saying no. Do we dismiss them for being criminals and not hear their case? Hell no. That’s not how it works.
/r/MensRights05/11/24 08:54 PM
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Hey now don’t bring ma gal Caitlin into this she doesn’t have nothing with this other than kicking ass!
/r/MensRights04/11/24 07:55 AM
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Ah ok. So it’s just people getting bitter because the hookups don’t go anywhere that they thought they would or that they were “owed” after the act. Got it. It explains a lot of the bitterness I see. You know what’s funny about that is it ain’t got a thing to do with me because I didn’t do it. I was never hot enough to be doing that crap in the first place.. Comes down to how good do you look. People chase that kind of thing and they find out that these people, men or women, have better options …
/r/MensRights03/11/24 07:51 PM
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Idk maybe I don’t want the answer this is too funny! u/gmnotyet care to give a clue?
/r/MensRights03/11/24 07:46 PM
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There is this really weird power trip women get by pretending they have dominance over us. It’s shit like this where it comes out full send. And you have to bury it. You literally have to alpha yourself and basically squash it and OP basically did that. More often than not they get scared and back off. They don’t know what it means to actually stand there with what is natural dominance you have from birth. They short circuit. If someone wants to square off bring the gloves.🧤Else they can piss of…
/r/MensRights02/11/24 01:06 AM
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Oh she showed you! 😂😂. Umma unfriend him dumb man 😂
/r/MensRights02/11/24 01:03 AM
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Covid crisis? C#ad C0ck?
/r/MensRights02/11/24 01:01 AM
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Boundaries. That’s a nice way of saying “wall”. “I’m putting you behind a wall. You don’t get to have me. I get the power, understand? You are nothing”. It’s the attitude many have. Let it go be a better person. It’s like 7/10 are this way. Even old female friends I had they have gotten so fucked up. It’s petty power trips that are making men go their own way.
/r/MensRights02/11/24 12:58 AM
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Sometimes I just check out and just sit in the park watch the trees move.
/r/MensRights31/10/24 05:00 AM
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That whole thing started by the politicians. They want a gender war it’s good for business..
/r/MensRights29/10/24 01:36 AM
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Imagine a society where the birth of a woman is celebrated but the birth of a boy isn’t. Kings of England, rulers of nations are rolling in their graves.
/r/MensRights28/10/24 04:00 AM
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She gets money off the views. As I understand she is not like the person she portrays i.e. it’s not authentic.
/r/MensRights23/10/24 08:29 AM
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The whole concept of “incel” has become this god awful label for men who people don’t find attractive enough to date or men who try hard and get nowhere and they become frustrated. It’s this bad label because it undermines the fact that such an experience is not relevant to how toxic a person is. In fact many compassionate warm hearted and caring men cannot get anywhere with dating. And we call them “incel assholes”. Why are we failing these men by calling them something they arent? They are ser…
/r/MensRights19/10/24 12:33 AM
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I swear the worst of the worst become teachers these days. The worst most toxic indoctrinated feminazi creatures. I always quote Lenin “Give me four years to teach the children and the seed I have sown will never be uprooted”. It’s the kind of shit that’s happening in real time.
/r/MensRights18/10/24 04:27 AM
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I’m happy I graduated in Engineering never has something we all joked about as being a major sausage fest actually been the thing that saved my life from this kinda shit. Business majors sitting at the cubicle farm office gossip and fem wars and gender and attractiveness based in group behavior so so glad I dodged that. I’ll gladly talk about nerdy shit all day versus get into all that water cooler garbage. I swear the business and law grads they pump out and end up working at some outfit like w…
/r/MensRights18/10/24 04:15 AM
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Tough times. I feel this. Lots of lonely people trying to connect but “no reception” on the other end. Best thing to do is try to find self positivity. Stay busy with other things in life as much as you can. Connect with those who are receptive and give them space at the same time. Sometimes we get so thirsty we drink the water too fast and we get sick.
/r/MensRights11/10/24 03:39 AM
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I’d say this is generally true yes. But it really is crazy the lengths to which men subscribe to women who are above average. It gives me a major headache because I’m not even sure what is happening. Like where is the control?
/r/MensRights10/10/24 04:59 AM
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Hey while you are at it let’s go ahead and shoot at a former president. Twice. Looking real good aren’t we? If I was ever going to vote blue that ended it. Right there that’s all I needed to know.
/r/MensRights10/10/24 01:23 AM
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What’s the original story missing context here
/r/MensRights09/10/24 05:22 PM
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Mods can elect to do this yes
/r/MensRights06/10/24 06:44 AM
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There are literally men in this sub who have slept with many women had many things in the past and suddenly are stonewalled. Are those men incels, or victims of a society that is changing and leaving them by the side of the road unable to have the happy lives they used to?
/r/MensRights06/10/24 12:17 AM
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Yes and there are people who aren’t active in these communities at all but they share the viewpoints and the concern. I have friends that don’t go on the internet at all in nearly the same capacities as many of us here and they are wondering what is going on with dating and how they suddenly seem disposable and I just tell them “bro it is a thing this isn’t just you. If you knew how many millions of men like you are talking about it, it would blow your mind.”
/r/MensRights06/10/24 12:09 AM
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Well if it’s any help these communities like ours are getting harder to ignore as they are growing fast because of the sheer volume of negative experiences certainly no longer a coincidence but a legitimate problem rearing its head. And no not with our opinions but with the sheer volume of how many have been talking about it. Hard to deny a pattern with such volume of people from all walks of life sharing it. There are groups of us “outcasts” that are getting really noticeable and honestly it ha…
/r/MensRights06/10/24 12:02 AM
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lol whatever. You know everyone wants to invalidate your real experiences and try and delete you it doesn’t matter what happened to you happened to you. It’s almost like the 1980s when women were getting abused and then the cops sided with men who would say “I’ve never seen this woman before in my life” and now the shoes on the other foot. Now people stomp on you and act like you should just shut up.
/r/MensRights05/10/24 11:55 PM
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Depends on what you mean by “anything”. Just general conversation and being flirty? Sure.
/r/MensRights04/10/24 11:56 PM
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Yes. Giving out things for free is good in certain contexts. Like donating to a food bank for example. Perfectly fine to expect nothing back. But relationships are different.
/r/MensRights04/10/24 11:40 PM
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Yeah it’s a myth to think that a persons body size and type has anything to do with their level of toxicity. I’ve met some nasty self entitled pieces of shit who were over 200lbs. And I’ve met some unbelievably sweet women who are in excellent physical condition and look very nice.
/r/MensRights04/10/24 11:37 PM
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You don’t want to be that guy because it’s no different they still treat you as disposable. They just fixate on surface level things and pretend it’s amusing enough. Don’t believe the hype.
/r/MensRights04/10/24 11:36 PM
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Totally correct.
/r/MensRights04/10/24 11:35 PM
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It only makes sense to do what you do if she’s giving it back then I will not argue with what you are doing.
/r/MensRights04/10/24 03:14 AM
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Also, I feel like this entitlement that you’re talking about transcends into just about every environment you see a mixture of men and women in. I’ve even seen couples where the woman acts like the man has to do everything for her while she sits there and either approves or disapproves with her arm sort of folded it’s not a very good look. I’ll just put it that way. It makes her look like she’s looking constantly for superficial things for him to provide and is very detached from himin a romanti…
/r/MensRights04/10/24 02:14 AM
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“Spare a pretty girl a drink” my dear you need to let me drink about half my own bottle before I’ll give you that.
/r/MensRights04/10/24 02:00 AM
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Well I got my money on men so I guess it’s not terrible lol. But it is yet another double standard in a supposedly “equality” driven world.
/r/MensRights03/10/24 08:49 AM
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It’s accurate. The gender wars are real and cascade into politics. Dating apps all the women are like “Trump voter, swipe left on me”. It’s where we are at.
/r/MensRights02/10/24 04:01 AM
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I’d like to think less attractive women can still get sex fairly easily where less attractive men absolutely must pay for play or date way down. Mainly true in the west.
/r/MensRights29/09/24 05:11 AM
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I get it and I think it would be nice if men either: 1. Dated and made it clear they are looking to hook up only 2. Escort This takes these men and puts them into a smaller market where the expectations are better known and men are doing what they say they want not just trying to use any woman for sex without being honest they only want the sex. Our society shames men who do this. Why? Why not let them do exactly what they want and leave the relationships for people who want that.
/r/MensRights28/09/24 12:13 AM
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The world you speak of is the one I live in. I have friends, family, and pay for play. And I work a lot, travel, pay for everything. It’s there I think men forget that it’s available. You have to bend the “rules” a bit but you’ll get all parts you need to a happy life.
/r/MensRights28/09/24 12:07 AM
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I don’t necessarily have an issue with relationships where it involves a bit of exchange of effort or money but they really need to provide in equal parts what you put in. It’s the only way it’s ever fair I mean a man could be paying for his wife but if she isn’t giving back what good does that do? That’s the thing honestly I think in the past yeah men made the money and the woman gave back in a different way. But they followed through on that. Now you will just see people get greedier and greed…
/r/MensRights22/09/24 06:53 PM
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The 80% of men living as strong single men accomplishing their goals and realizing how messed up and biased it is. That’s the back pill. Surface things holding you back from one thing where there are thousands of other important things to do that don’t involve dating.
/r/MensRights21/09/24 06:51 PM
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I think you have to be willing as a man to know when people are just playing you and recognize you are probably better off without all that. I’ve been single my whole life dated on the short term. The more I look into what’s transpired in my attempts and who I am as a man the more I realize that it’s not this terrible reality to live strong being single.
/r/MensRights21/09/24 06:48 PM
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You adapt to the real reality and not the fake one.
/r/MensRights21/09/24 05:26 PM
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It’s icky when you realize these things
/r/MensRights21/09/24 05:47 AM
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Exactly
/r/MensRights17/09/24 06:17 AM
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I don’t wanna be fat fam
/r/MensRights17/09/24 03:45 AM
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I just want women to have some respect and not be so self absorbed that’s not asking for much and the young guys who are speaking up that’s what it’s about. Respect is earned not given. Humble is strength.
/r/MensRights17/09/24 03:43 AM
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Agreed but make sure you take a piece of that pie with you. As men we are workers and we can and will have the ability to take a bigger chunk. It’s just in our nature there are some things they will try and strong arm us but they won’t have the strength. They can “cock block” you all day but out on the job site? Hell no. They don’t have the power to do it and it’s our job to stay ahead. She can go home to her kids and Chad #5 im staying doing the OT, sorry, not sorry. Biology and evolution will …
/r/MensRights17/09/24 12:26 AM
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Men are finally giving the finger to people who say this kind of shit and good for them. I’m happy to see a shift in the rigidity of the young male spine. I’ve watched the stunned faces on women who want to play games only to find the men they were playing games with had the board figured out before it even started. They can’t believe the fact that not only are they anti simping but also anti white knighting. These guys are literally calling out their own. It makes me smile makes me feel we have…
/r/MensRights17/09/24 12:22 AM
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I think one thing about being a man is we can be the ones to defy. To do things nobody thought were possible yet time and time again we do them. We don’t always need to do these things for women we can do them for ourselves and other men too.
/r/MensRights17/09/24 12:21 AM
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My advice is find men who are facing similar struggles like those here. Stay in touch with them and talk about issues. Helps a lot.
/r/MensRights17/09/24 12:19 AM
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I think I’d be getting out of UK it’s really getting bad there for men even worse than US. UK seems to be the worst of the worst countries that are pushing extreme feminism and subverting males. Jumping ship over to another nearby country like Germany, Spain, Portugal etc is probably a smart move.
/r/MensRights17/09/24 12:16 AM
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I agree I’m working on overcoming severe social anxiety and it’s been really tough. Especially around intercourse and I’m working with a few escorts just trying to actually get comfortable in my mind being with a woman as crazy as that sounds it needs to happen because this anxiety I have I need to defeat it. If I can’t feel comfortable around a woman and able to perform in that capacity it’s never gonna work. So I have my battles. I’m amazed a lot of this is so natural for people it blows my mi…
/r/MensRights13/09/24 05:01 PM
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I agree I also find myself putting so much pressure on myself and it’s crippling. Learning to let myself let things go from time to time has been very necessary. I’m amazed at how much tension is always in my body it’s kind of disgusting. I’m on a handful of anti anxiety meds.
/r/MensRights13/09/24 02:24 PM
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These are great thank you so much I love all of this! What’s been helping me is being aware of the issues and understanding my position as a less attractive man is driven a lot by society. I’m learning to accept myself even though it has been a “chew” for so many.
/r/MensRights13/09/24 02:16 PM
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tell them there is nothing wrong with them that society has let them down and they are fine the way they are with the issues they have. Men do not hear this enough but it’s true. How many young men do you see breaking their backs to fit in? All that pressure to be something people like. They need to find self. To find that they are good enough.
/r/MensRights13/09/24 02:14 PM
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Most of the time if it’s a serious face to face conversation they just lock up when you tell them exactly what’s going on. They can’t deal with the first man ever in their life to tell them they are wrong.
/r/MensRights12/09/24 05:55 AM
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Dude if you can’t vent to your girl she doesn’t care enough about you and these days shit they actually really care only about a handful of men. Stay single build your life without women. It’s not worth it anymore. You don’t feel good about yourself? You are allowed to not feel good. Having a bad day? Be real, it’s ok. You can’t live boxing up your feelings because it might scare off a woman. Really bad idea for your long term health.. I’m watching my friends go down a dark path. “She won’t text…
/r/MensRights31/08/24 11:22 PM
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Sounds like you need to get out of NYC and go to some other place like Chicago. NYC has become really bad.
/r/MensRights31/08/24 01:48 AM
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It’s because they have psychological tendencies towards sadism, to inflict pain in others or exert control over them for their own self pleasure. Psychologists and doctors of psychiatry are well aware of the correlation between these tendencies. Also associated with bipolar disorder, hypersexual disorder, and psychopathic disorders. In essence it leans towards basically being a female Ted Bundy.
/r/MensRights27/08/24 10:30 PM
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There are tons of stories of older women preying on young men and it’s getting worse as our culture moves towards hyper sexualization. The number of female on male rape cases are going up. The crazy part is the people who are hyper sexualized tend to fall into the feminist mindset as it is a perfect scapegoat for power and control MO for them. It’s sick.
/r/MensRights27/08/24 10:26 PM
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Woah what?
/r/MensRights25/08/24 02:05 AM
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Precisely. It’s nothing real it’s no different from a guy watching porn on a computer.
/r/MensRights25/08/24 02:02 AM
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They like the thrill of it but that’s it. It’s usually lacking any kind of real substance though when you get down to it. To them it’s like “oh yeah that thing we did that was just a fun thing I wasn’t really serious serious..”. So be aware of that..
/r/MensRights25/08/24 02:01 AM
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It doesn’t I’m adding to your list of concern about what’s coming and war is one element all the other things I listed are in addition to things that men should be thinking about as we brace for the curveballs that are constantly being thrown at us. Men we need our space our ability to live life on fair terms and in many ways that’s being compromised. When we talk about war and who gets to go and who doesn’t it is very biased when you look at it. So it is with many other things.
/r/MensRights22/08/24 07:04 PM
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We need to do it the same way that women did. Basically by: -Denial of their advances which are based in opportunistic instincts -Showing extra support for people who have our side. -Establishing firm boundaries that outline proper conduct between men and women and not deviating. -Establishing a stronger social media presence -Taking an active role in youth development of young men -Voting in people who will support men and will not continue to degrade us. All of these things are happening and w…
/r/MensRights22/08/24 07:30 AM
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It literally doesn’t matter they literally made it about biological gender and that is the problem here. Why throw my ass into war because I want federal aid versus Lynn who is female gets the loan doesn’t have to sign up. Is that right? Is that just that I have to put my ass on the line for the money but she gets to stay here? They can’t ask her to go to war because they never required it. But they can ask me any time they please or make me serve time. Women want to wear the pants, so fucking w…
/r/MensRights22/08/24 07:18 AM
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Fight weakness with strength
/r/MensRights22/08/24 04:00 AM
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Join or die. It’s where we are at yet again.
/r/MensRights22/08/24 03:59 AM
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Be strong live free fight your fight
/r/MensRights22/08/24 03:58 AM
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Ignore the hate and keep going. Truth is truth only you know what you know. They can try to silence us but they won’t be able to. Strength in numbers. Lots of us here. Change is coming.
/r/MensRights22/08/24 03:54 AM
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Well for now sure. I’d love to see it equal. Make people think twice about what they signing up for. That whole student loan forgiveness. Fuck that shit i ain’t paying unless they go to war too. Men outta be the most outraged by it. They get fucked over the women don’t even have to fight and your money gets to pay them off Scott free.
/r/MensRights22/08/24 03:18 AM
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/r/MensRights22/08/24 03:03 AM
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The guys that do this are going to hang themselves they think that someone’s coming to save them because they agreed with a woman, that’s literally not how attraction works at all. They would be better served by being honest and being rational that being accepted by woman isn’t so much about what you say and do but rather how you make them feel like it’s a game for them to play with you.
/r/MensRights20/08/24 10:15 PM
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Oh that and “oh the black guy he’s wonderful in bed but I’d never marry a n.. I mean I’d never marry him”
/r/MensRights16/08/24 06:00 AM
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The last part is pretty dark. I just try to stay out of trouble lol all the dating stuff anymore what a mess. Being single and working a decent job has its merits.
/r/MensRights14/08/24 04:06 AM
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I think it’s a mix honestly I don’t think it’s a requirement to be attractive for people to be drawn to each other in a kinky way. It’s more of in group out group behavior like just how you fit in to the vibe. People who are really like that it starts to lose some importance how you look because they are always so turned on as it is. Biggest thing is if you are clean and take care of your body like you smell good and keep yourself looking like you put work in.
/r/MensRights13/08/24 10:42 PM
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It would be kind of daunting to me honestly and I’d be concerned because a lot of those places everyone there is bisexual and you would have men hitting on me which I am not ok with no disrespect to them but it’s not my preference.
/r/MensRights13/08/24 05:11 PM
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For real when I see videos of men with dog collars on and the women pulling them around on a leash in public I just think m what the fuck. And no it is not a BDSM thing it’s waaaay more fucked up than that. Or these videos of men bending down to a woman in worship. Just absolutely trash. These men disgust me.
/r/MensRights13/08/24 07:41 AM
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Sex is very different from porn. Whatever fix you get from porn you may not get from sex. In porn you are isolated in your own bedroom and they are not there. There is zero to be anxious about and you have to do very little work to actually get off. When you have sex you gotta move your ass and make sure you do it right. And it’s never the same sometimes it’s like your peen is in a bucket of warm water and that’s the only thing it feels like lol. It’s just depends but sex often can’t repeat the …
/r/MensRights13/08/24 07:38 AM
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It’s funny how much I spent on dating apps until I realized I had better nights with escorts lmao. It was telling to me that either I’m just not attractive enough or people aren’t into me, or I’m just very unlucky. The number of single sexless men is piling up like crazy even though gym memberships are at an all time high. Go figure. The guys who are looksmaxxing are actually breaking it. They are causing the market to tighten up more and more. It’s just dumb.
/r/MensRights13/08/24 07:33 AM
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There are good men and bad men. Good women and bad women. That’s all it is. Everyone is different.
/r/MensRights10/08/24 07:31 PM
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The funny thing people don’t realize is that it’s entirely possible for a person who got paid to enjoy the sex. It is entirely possible. But what this person was doing was really evil like about as garbage as you could do using her position of being a sex worker to leverage her actual boyfriend which is absolutely shit. To be completely honest the only man who should ever consider dating an escort is one who is totally fine with the relationship being open to literally anything. Because that’s w…
/r/MensRights10/08/24 05:48 AM
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Well said
/r/MensRights10/08/24 04:07 AM
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I know strippers who actually enjoy it. They say why the hell would I be doing this I could make serious bank on OF. They like the thrill. They like sex. It’s not like every performer or escort is like ohh god I have to pork another man idk if I can do this anymore lol.
/r/MensRights10/08/24 02:33 AM
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lol so she uses her body as a power piece, got it. Yeah so much good energy from that so brave! I’ll bet her father is so proud of his little angel!
/r/MensRights10/08/24 02:30 AM
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I don’t think I’ve ever said “I hate women” like ever. I think I’ve said “I hate how women X,y,z” but I have never expressed generalized hate for all women in all cases, which when you say “I hate men” that is exactly what you are doing to men.
/r/MensRights09/08/24 11:30 PM
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How to be more chill and not worry and enjoy life and be at peace it’s a lost thing but it’s what a lot of men need. Just go for the good vibe. Bob Marley things just don’t worry. I think we have all this static all this pressure we just need to turn it off enjoy the sunshine.
/r/MensRights27/07/24 02:45 AM
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You offset it with other things and basically cope. That’s it. I’ve been single my whole life just recently lost my v-card at 36. I’m not unhappy just am missing an element of being with people. Somehow I manage. If your health is bad get a home health care worker or someone to watch out for you. Making friends helps a bunch. There isn’t an easy fix to it it’s more about developing other aspects of your life to make them strong enough where you don’t feel the immediate need as much. Women aren’t…
/r/MensRights09/07/24 01:47 AM
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Unless there was a medical reason and it had to go if I had a boy I would insist on leaving it. Like most medical practices these days you leave things until they are an issue. The old days you removed things because they could become an issue. Times have changed.
/r/MensRights03/07/24 07:18 PM
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I’m literally just trying to look better for myself like I get what’s going on anymore the 7s and 8s of yesterday are now 4s look at how the ratings have changed on the rate me forums or whatever I see dudes on there who 5 years ago they would have been rated well above average. Now it’s like half the guys get no ratings which really means ‘unattractive’. If the goalposts keep moving then we are never going to keep up my advice for men is find value in yourself and ignore what the internet and p…
/r/MensRights01/07/24 04:56 AM
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I support all of it and don’t want one to downplay the other.
/r/MensRights01/07/24 03:54 AM
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We have those and people go to them. And groups such as this sub. I think it’s more of trying to figure how to slide into the dating world better or at least adapting to being single due to the mountain of difficulties that one can face. And that doesn’t mean quit it just means you are gonna have a rough time so learning how to be absent a person in your life while sometimes painful is only way to keep going. It can be scary too like when you get sick you always want someone to just even show th…
/r/MensRights29/06/24 07:48 PM
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True but it’s never going to happen there will be too many idiots who give in and give them what they want while they keep chasing Chad around and getting their hearts broken. You can’t recover from this.
/r/MensRights29/06/24 07:30 AM
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I mean I’m at the point where it is what it is and it ain’t great so I’ve stopped looking around or even caring to date. You can only be invisible to other people for so long to wake up every day and see yourself in true color. People can hate on us down vote whatever idc but so many have been let down trying to hit some silly moving target. We aren’t models. We can’t do that we can’t be this crazy 5 percent mentality it’s nuts. I feel like it’s tightening up more and more to the point where you…
/r/MensRights29/06/24 07:25 AM
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We want more concise solutions. We need sone kind of plan and road map not just feelings.
/r/MensRights28/06/24 11:55 PM
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I love that!! I like to hang out in the water too
/r/MensRights28/06/24 01:48 PM
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It’s also bad because say that something in your life turns around or you get lucky with someone you literally gotta cold turkey that shit or you won’t be able to have an orgasm with her. It’s a dopamine drug that some guys get so messed up on they cannot orgasm without seeing it on a screen. It’s such a hard time we live in. I’m seeing someone next week and I go dark on the porn and the jerking off for the rest of the week so it will help me when I see her to be responsive. It’s bad when they s…
/r/MensRights25/06/24 07:48 PM
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Agreed also by stepping back and looking at yourself deeper than the surface things people get fixated on. Most of us men we are good people even if people get bad first impressions. Not always on you I mean you can improve but it still comes down to the other persons opinion which usually doesn’t say much about you honestly. Having self worth and not even worrying about finding someone can be very freeing if you can get there. It can be tough for some guys because innately we have this drive to…
/r/MensRights25/06/24 07:19 PM
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It’s entertainment it’s not really a substitution. Yeah escorts or something like that is closer. A lot of people really want the bonding with the person though that’s the missing link. Hard to bond with people when everyone’s getting rejected left and right though that is the issue. And it’s a toss up with escorts some of them have fun and enjoy the company others just want it over with and want to get out.
/r/MensRights25/06/24 07:07 PM
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Guys get rejected and where else are they gonna get the release they need people like to say it’s because guys are not doing well enough well that’s a shit load of guys lol
/r/MensRights25/06/24 09:55 AM
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I want eddy hall to show up and and start doing WWE moves on these little dudes
/r/MensRights17/06/24 05:46 PM
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You have to ignore the whole downplay thing or find other people to talk to. You can’t downplay real things they are absolutes. Even if they just listen that’s helpful.
/r/MensRights08/06/24 09:51 PM
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83 wow that’s actually pretty cool I hope I am using modern tech at 83. I’m an engineer so new tech it’s likely an itch I’ll scratch no matter what. I like messing around with things
/r/MensRights08/06/24 07:16 PM
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Not from me lol. I’ve met plenty of 35 year old “girls.”
/r/MensRights08/06/24 07:11 PM
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Yeah but in my mind only by a few years once everyone is done with puberty they are adults.
/r/MensRights08/06/24 07:09 PM
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Agree we are all valuable. Actually in my faith that’s what it says literally that we are all children of god.
/r/MensRights08/06/24 07:08 PM
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It depends on the person more than anything I don’t think it is gender related more experience related so I agree.
/r/MensRights08/06/24 07:08 PM
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I guess it worked out for them? Everyone’s different and has different things going on in their life. I have my own challenges. But it’s good I just hope the relationship works out.
/r/MensRights08/06/24 07:01 PM
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Everyone in here feels it we know it we get it. That’s the thing you know the only ones who understand struggle are the ones who lived it
/r/MensRights08/06/24 12:15 AM
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You are an old and wise man what people say really is irrelevant you’ve lived in all the situations and you’ve been molded by what happened so the only person who is likely to know you is you.
/r/MensRights08/06/24 12:14 AM
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Sometimes the worst is when they ignore you or say nothing and pretend you don’t exist.
/r/MensRights08/06/24 12:12 AM
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No that’s not true men will talk to other men about their struggles here we are after all. Women don’t like to listen to it they are hard wired to not hear us unless they are very empathetic and a lot of women just are not empathetic towards men. Don’t let people tell you you can’t have problems or feel bad because yes you can and you will and you will get through it. It’s good to talk about it.
/r/MensRights08/06/24 12:11 AM
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Only because he’s an attractive movie star so yeah he gets to do whatever he wants meanwhile the rest of men are creeps.
/r/MensRights06/06/24 05:30 AM
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Tired of being told we need to be raised screw that. That’s a cop out for someone not satisfied in general. It’s a de facto gut punch to men for women with uncompromising standards.
/r/MensRights06/06/24 05:26 AM
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Loneliness in men is so common these days it needs to be talked about more. Even if people don’t like it I’m sorry but we hear no from so many people and we aren’t all lunatics.
/r/MensRights04/06/24 01:21 AM
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Dogs and I don’t even need to share they just know. Dogs will go to good people they just know. They will avoid toxic people. They just sense energy and even people who are hurt. I’ve watched dogs get angry at women and actually be nicer to the boyfriend. It’s like they can sense bad energy.
/r/MensRights02/06/24 08:49 PM
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Sometimes it’s not winning an argument but planting a thought. Women will absolutely think about what you said even if they disagree in the moment.
/r/MensRights01/06/24 06:53 AM
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Same but I know when it’s time to let it go. It’s a balancing point you still need to stand up and say something if you don’t agree.
/r/MensRights01/06/24 06:52 AM
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You were still heard even though people argue back they can still hear what you said. Boundaries are good. Having your own opinion is good. You have a right to that. Don’t be afraid of the bs.
/r/MensRights01/06/24 06:50 AM
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I have no issue disagreeing with a woman. They are just humans. I don’t consider them special or privileged.
/r/MensRights01/06/24 06:48 AM
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Even if you never date anyone they are still important. Your sex life doesn’t need another person. It’s taking something away that everyone should have a right to be intimate.
/r/MensRights01/06/24 02:16 AM
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I think this is fairly recent like within the last month. I used to post there regularly it was a fun group but idk the mods got so power hungry they had to censor lol.
/r/MensRights28/05/24 04:22 PM
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I had the same thing it’s ridiculous.
/r/MensRights28/05/24 04:19 PM
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Women love to say “I’m not your mom” which is fantastic, don’t expect you to be lol. The only thing that I want you to have in common with my mom is that you love me as unconditionally as possible that you appreciate the man that I am. If that’s too hard for you to do then I have no time for you. I’m sorry but your lazy and arrogant excuses not to reciprocate my affection and dedication to you are not tolerable. A smart man would not date this woman because of her entitlement issues. And honestl…
/r/MensRights16/05/24 04:11 PM
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I believe it about men though most of my life I’ve done things that were primarily male. Like auto racing and going to engineering school. These were very man based things and especially at my engineering school it was 90% male. So literally I’ve been surrounded by mostly men from my teens all the way to present. Honestly it may have been good for me in more ways than I realize. The only side effect is that I never had a relationship and I stayed close to my packs of people I knew. But I think I…
/r/MensRights12/05/24 07:26 AM
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Well except for the men in the grandstands going nuts over Manchester United or the Packers, etc. You’ll never find a group of guys supporting guys so hardcore and it’s obvious that these men get a lot of respect and it’s the kind of thing we need in our society. We need more chatter about men doing important things.
/r/MensRights12/05/24 07:16 AM
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If you pick a clump I’d say 100 men women would say only ten are decent men (some diversity right?). If you pick a clump of 100 men at least 80 of them guys would be cool with, generally speaking. Guys are way more accepting than women I just know that. Idk it just feels like when I need to vent or discuss matters of interest men listen. Every time I’ve been at my lowest points the only people other than my mother who have ever got my head on straight were men. The only ones and I’ve had a lot o…
/r/MensRights12/05/24 07:06 AM
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We need the boys clubs. Closest thing is a cigar lounge I suppose?
/r/MensRights12/05/24 07:03 AM
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Yes, it really did Many of my friends got married off of apps, but they don’t work anymore. I was actually getting a bunch of traction with them last year and now it’s completely died so I think they’re basically done. I was shocked. I would’ve never thought it would come down to that but just the way things played out with the generation shows and how the apps try to throttle people it’s gotten really out of hand. I still have a few people that I know that are friends that I met, but it wasn’t …
/r/MensRights09/05/24 11:00 PM
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Haha well how about neither because I have common sense unlike some people haha. Only if I trust human her otherwise hell no on the bear lol
/r/MensRights08/05/24 01:47 PM
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A maths teacher with a luxury apartment tell me she does OF without telling me she does OF or tell me she has a sugar daddy without telling me she has a sugar daddy
/r/MensRights08/05/24 03:39 AM
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I want to make a meme of I’m out in the woods camping and I’m looking around and she’s on her phone. Bear comes out of the woods, eats her then the bear and I give each other a high five. LOL
/r/MensRights07/05/24 05:57 PM
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Women hate the idea a man can walk out that he doesn’t have to be desperate. It takes power away from her. You know why women get so upset about guys using escorts? Because it gives a man an out. And that terrifies them. Good women they don’t care (unless you are dating them, but that’s very different set of circumstances than if you are single and ask them what they think). I have friends that are women they’ve said to me “if you’re struggling and you need intimacy I get it dude it’s ok. Taking…
/r/MensRights06/05/24 12:48 AM
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Some people are just nasty
/r/MensRights06/05/24 12:46 AM
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You’ll find out pretty quickly aside from hiring an escort you don’t really get to decide to lose your virginity. It’s not up to you, ever it’s if she allows you to even go that far. So don’t say I’m going to lose it when I’m X or Y years old you have no control over if or when that happens to you. You have no power over that part of your life. The sooner men start to realize this and make peace with it, the better. It’s all up to the woman if she likes you enough then you can go with it. Otherw…
/r/MensRights06/05/24 12:31 AM
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When I started dating people last year. And it’s not even just feminists it’s the attitude some women have towards men. They objectify us and almost pit us against each other for their own sake. When I found out how many men attractive women keep “in the queue” it disgusted me. It made me see them as opportunistic, selfish, and arrogant. And the culture of attractive men also angered me at how they enable this behavior. They have the ability to stop it yet they do no such thing. They continue to…
/r/MensRights01/05/24 12:32 AM
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I’ll tell you something about me if I can do it anyone can. I’m 36 years old, I’ve never had sex never had a long term relationship. Dated a string of 12 different people nothing came of it and I discovered a lot about myself and relationships I knew nothing about and couldn’t have known unless I had gone through the motions. What I discovered was the following: The reason why I never tried for the first day 20 years of my dating life was because I felt it was too artificial. I felt that I would…
/r/MensRights27/04/24 09:48 PM
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That’s the thing it’s just how people have eroded over time. I think going back many years people were more authentic and love was a lot more meaningful. But these days it all feels so fake. Like they like you for artificial reasons. Or they choose to not like you because you don’t meet those said artificial reasons; looks, status, money and if you are always entertaining them. It’s like having another full time job 😅
/r/MensRights27/04/24 07:09 PM
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I’m sort of walking myself away from people to a certain extent mainly because I don’t want to partake in this whole popularity business that seems to be the norm these days. Like this whole influencer culture it’s sort of getting into everyone’s minds that you gotta be in top shape, have all kinds of toys, etc. I’m also just sort of repulsed by how I’ve been treated by women I’ve dated to the point where I don’t really want to interact with women on anything more than a professional level. You …
/r/MensRights27/04/24 06:30 PM
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Imagine being me 36 male virgin. Fucking escorts reject me. Lmao.
/r/MensRights26/04/24 06:10 PM
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Not me and it’s an issue for me. Idk it makes a problem for you if you aren’t attractive but you crave attractive people. It’s not a fun situation to be in honestly.
/r/MensRights26/04/24 06:07 PM
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I think in general we have all become really shallow and cold like I’m even seeing it in myself a bit. A time out from dating and just relaxing seems to be the ticket.
/r/MensRights26/04/24 04:22 AM
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There is some degree of positive change occurring im seeing it. Also people are rebounding from COVID and recognizing the old ways were better. It’s changing. Young men are actually driving change. They are establishing standards and boundaries and it’s a welcoming sight.
/r/MensRights21/04/24 07:32 PM
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Yep and it’s sad
/r/MensRights21/04/24 07:30 PM
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There is so much bias too like if you are an attractive man they will let you talk about whatever hell even get really sexually nasty with them but if you aren’t they just scream at you its nuts. It’s mental illness.
/r/MensRights21/04/24 07:29 PM
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You aren’t going to win with these ppl they are always right. Always will have the last word.
/r/MensRights21/04/24 07:27 PM
7

It’s false they still have sex with men. They still get hookups etc. It’s a lie. If anything more men are having to figure out wtf to do because either no women are interested in them or they are done with it.
/r/MensRights20/04/24 12:42 AM
26

Also same with guys who are attractive / Chads they are like “a good one will come along all you gotta do is let it happen”. That’s never ever true for 70% of men. They have to be putting work in to get anywhere and even still it might just be down to luck. Huge split in have and have nots it’s on a scale never before seen when it comes to men who can get into relationships. Some guys are really not only struggling but suffering due to lack of success or reciprocated feelings.
/r/MensRights17/04/24 04:29 AM
8

It’s a very different kind of lonely one of no friends looking for friends versus no friends / some friends / lots of friends looking for a relationship. The fact that people compare the two is pretty silly. They are very different things. A guy can have a bunch of friends but no relationship and still be lonely because he’s missing on a deeper relationship with a woman.
/r/MensRights17/04/24 04:26 AM
6

What makes their mind melt is when you go on a forum or sub and a guy talks about how he had sex with an escort and all of the sudden OMG INCEL and I’m like “please tell me you’ve never gone on a tinder date where he didn’t buy you a drink or an expensive meal beforehand and what would have happened if he asked you to pay.” Funny when the shoes on the other foot.
/r/MensRights17/04/24 02:23 AM
4

Yes. That and “you must be gay“ if you reject them.
/r/MensRights17/04/24 02:15 AM
1

I think there is a big split like anything between left and right I’m just right of center. I’m not on the Trump bandwagon at all but I’m not satisfied with Biden either.
/r/MensRights14/04/24 04:17 PM
3

I think so and I also think conservative viewpoints hold people accountable for their actions in general which is a hard pill to swallow for anyone who makes poor choices in life. Most men we want the news straight doesn’t matter if it’s good bad or ugly. We don’t like filters.
/r/MensRights14/04/24 04:14 PM
2

I don’t think it will be normal I think more men will be intact in the future here.
/r/MensRights13/04/24 01:01 AM
7

Idk why you wrote all that lol it’s pretty simple. People love to hate.
/r/MensRights12/04/24 02:20 AM
20

It was never incel music it was always real. The craziest part about the whole deal? The women who scream incel, they freaking went to their concerts in high school. You see peoples opinions changed. It all changed from a guy craving a woman loving her “thank god for girls” “el scorcho” all of these talking about the nerdy guy who finds love and passion in a woman. This is peak Rivers Cuomo, a Harvard grad at that. He’s as sharp as it gets from many perspectives. To shame his music is a slap in …
/r/MensRights11/04/24 11:56 PM
8

If I ever have a son I’ll insist on leaving it. It’s a protective layer if skin over the glans. It’s to keep it soft and supple and sensitive to touch or friction which is healthy. As long as a guy cleans regularly underneath just gently with water and mild soap it should be no issue. I’m thankful my doctor when they did mine didn’t cut too much off. I can still run my foreskin over my glans and I don’t believe my sensitivity was impacted to as great of an extent as others who got “pulled tight”
/r/MensRights11/04/24 10:17 PM
6

Normally when I see a guy get hit in his nuts im like OOOOOO OH SHIT. It’s not funny it’s just like Gld damn!
/r/MensRights10/04/24 10:07 PM
3

Well I think more people are becoming aware of the issue definitely my friends are and they’ve tapped out. Just to give you a makeup, one of my friends was an attractive hookup type guy he stopped. Another he had a wife, now divorced with a kid. Still a few more divorced with kids and they aren’t doing it again. And then there is me and a sizable clump of friends who tried but never had a LTR despite going on a fair share of dates. Funny thing about a third of those people I was ready to get ser…
/r/MensRights09/04/24 07:03 AM
2

Jesus that’s hard man. That’s really hard. I swear I went for 20 years without someone thinking all that hard work engineering school etc would make a difference and I’d settle down. I dated 12 people last year. Nothing to show for it. I made a decision years ago to stop chasing women and chase a career. I always thought getting the career would be harder and getting women would be easier. I was so wrong. I’ve never felt so lost with all of this hell I don’t reckon I’ve ever been this lost. But …
/r/MensRights09/04/24 06:06 AM
2

Not in my world my company rewards work ethic. But it’s not like that everywhere for sure. Trying to meet quotas that’s kind of cringe when it’s like we need women for x,y,z.
/r/MensRights09/04/24 04:48 AM
1

That’s generally what I’ve noticed. Interestingly enough the people I’ve dated who were like top of the scale they were surprisingly good women. But they didn’t feel it. I was like damn they had it all and they were genuinely nice. They were like how come nobody ever talks to me and I’m like “because people get scared because you are breathtaking like you are a beautiful person.” They had a hard time buying it but they always said “my friends keep saying this”. Actually the fact that a lot of gu…
/r/MensRights09/04/24 12:53 AM
1

It’s good if you can keep that mentality but shit always comes back you look around at people with families and partners for years and you question where you went wrong you can’t avoid it. I mean case in point I didn’t mention sex or porn but you brought it up. So it’s still there in your mind you can never turn it off.
/r/MensRights09/04/24 12:24 AM
7

Well I was more referring to the fact that most men have a degree of thirst and they try to act on it but when people are so nasty and sometimes just not faithful it kind of kills itself. Guys keep doing this to ourselves at some point it’s like “what’s going to change”. Some men have done or are enough to stand out and be good enough for women to cross over into a zone of “i love and respect you and will go the distance” but you know if you aren’t that attractive or fit all the bullet points yo…
/r/MensRights09/04/24 12:08 AM
27

Hard but there is a lot of truth to this. If you can pull it off you’ll find a peace few have.
/r/MensRights08/04/24 10:53 PM
8

Yeah I think there is a difference between women who approach band members and good women for sure.
/r/MensRights08/04/24 10:52 PM
8

I like this but I’d add I’ve taken this approach my whole life and nobody ever really approached or seemed interested. But I think the point of over investing yourself trying to find someone is possibly more damaging than just letting it be. It’s funny because yeah I started trying hard and I got places but still I got ghosted, friend zoned,etc and nothing came of it. So I’m back to the way i was more or less the only real difference is I’m taking better care of my body because I like how I look…
/r/MensRights08/04/24 10:42 PM
16

And how is that any different from say 30 years ago? Men have always chased women. Women seem to have lost manners and also lost the ability to cope with men pursuing them. Women used to be tougher, more honest, and empathetic even. They respected men as much as themselves.
/r/MensRights06/04/24 08:36 AM
11

That’s shit you don’t need to pay attention to people like that.
/r/MensRights06/04/24 08:34 AM
3

Thanks. Yea it is people being curel that is the problem. And for whatever reason probably 60% of the time in public men are nicer to me than women. Yesterday I tried to help a woman out who dropped a pizza box, I said oh you dropped this. She said oh, thank you. I tried to hand her the box she just sat there didn’t even move just watched me. So I tried to set it down and I said “there’s a lot of food here just trying to find a place for it” and she just said “wow”. Can you believe that? You kno…
/r/MensRights06/04/24 12:22 AM
3

It’s because men are getting cut out of the picture even the guys who are “simping” they are finding that it doesn’t matter they could send all the money they have and not change a damn thing in her mind she’s still courting the top 10% and he’s loose goods.
/r/MensRights06/04/24 12:14 AM
2

Fair enough. Idk what the hell happened to people recently everyone acts special. I was at a pizza joint and walking out the door this woman was sitting with her BF he got up to go to the restroom and I was on my way out there was a pizza box behind her on the chair and I said “you dropped this” and she said oh thank you and I tried to hand it to her, she just sat there and so then I tried to slide it on the table and she goes “it’s ok it’s ok” and I said there’s a lot of food here trying to fin…
/r/MensRights05/04/24 05:53 AM
2

Moses was a man he sinned like everyone else.
/r/MensRights05/04/24 05:31 AM
1

I think my biggest hiccup is social anxiety and autism I already know what my issues are. I’d like to think men have undiagnosed issues like this or they just have trauma etc that really gets in the way like people can be really cruel to men but step back where are people helping men heal and become better? I just see people shouting at guys and it’s not the right approach. I know women can be very bad yes anyone can but sometimes it’s just we have our own hiccups or we keep running into people …
/r/MensRights05/04/24 01:55 AM
1

I see that statistic put up all over the place where does that come from? And what is its basis are talking just initial attraction like first glance attraction? Because I think attraction for most men is a drawn out thing that develops I don’t think it’s immediate thing. There are a lot of ugly guys who are married I believe they got in with things other than their looks.
/r/MensRights05/04/24 01:32 AM
1

It’s true man I had to learn late in life but I understand the difficulties now better than I used to.
/r/MensRights05/04/24 01:29 AM
3

This is all 100% true but every man will have a wildly different experience imagine your s/o giving birth to an extremely attractive young man his experience may be nothing like ours. Sometimes DNA skips generations believe it my father had a much easier time than me. It was also the 80s so very different time.
/r/MensRights05/04/24 01:26 AM
2

He’s OG funny as hell I love him
/r/MensRights05/04/24 01:09 AM
19

Ken will always be enough 🤟💪. And he can be “just Ken” all day long
/r/MensRights05/04/24 01:06 AM
1

It’s kind of representative of our society in a tongue in cheek way it actually represents what’s wrong and not what’s right. In that regard it’s kind of a funny take to me it’s obvious one could say hey look it’s the world we live in lol
/r/MensRights05/04/24 01:05 AM
10

Yeah it’s really become quite toxic. You know when a minority has to call out another minority for bad behavior that it has reached critical mass
/r/MensRights03/04/24 03:58 AM
2

There is no real man it’s a fictional thing
/r/MensRights01/04/24 06:14 PM
8

These guys they are dating or trying to date so they honestly think all of them can’t cook, clean, or run their own household? Shit what choice have we had? “We don’t owe you”. Yeah, we know lmao.
/r/MensRights31/03/24 05:10 PM
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Not if you unionize. Nothing screams knock it off better than 2/3 of the workers not showing up.
/r/MensRights28/03/24 04:52 AM
1

Guys it’s ok to say no to a woman. It’s ok to say she’s not performing as well as other people. It’s ok to say she’s not pulling her end of the relationship, etc. They have zero issues calling us out. If it ain’t working, speak up. And that also goes for underperforming men. Tell them to do better or they are out.
/r/MensRights28/03/24 02:46 AM
7

Arousal doesn’t always mean interest females who are raped can still experience arousal. It’s a bodily response like a cough or a sneeze. Doesn’t mean anything about consent or even attraction.
/r/MensRights26/03/24 06:50 PM
13

The amount of men women will give attention to in a romantic and sexual fashion with no strings attached those numbers are in the teens of percentages. It’s really skewed social media hoeflation is real
/r/MensRights26/03/24 04:09 AM
3

Yeah because men simp out and give them free attention. It’s like a validation drug. STOP SIMPING. STOP LIKING STOP FOLLOWING. They don’t give a flying f**k about you
/r/MensRights26/03/24 01:48 AM
3

So hard to find my man so so hard to find these people there is a lot of truth behind why so many men make these comments. Feels like the good of a woman has been sucked out leaving this cold and lifeless thing that we want to love but no love can be had. It’s just tough.
/r/MensRights25/03/24 10:42 PM
9

The issue is equating bad experiences with all people and I see that happening with how men think of women as well but I think there is a difference one is of frustration the other is of hatred and hatred and frustration are very different things. Many men are frustrated but not hateful.
/r/MensRights24/03/24 07:41 PM
29

I’m sorry all that happened to you that’s horrible. I hope you are ok.
/r/MensRights24/03/24 04:58 PM
15

Things have changed
/r/MensRights24/03/24 04:57 PM
12

I disagree but that’s fine not everyone believes in it or is religious. It’s not even about following it word for word it’s recognizing when drifting too far away from traditions can be bad and when change is a good thing.
/r/MensRights24/03/24 06:58 AM
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The deteriorating empathy of society is largely to blame people don’t give a shit about others unless it benefits them in some way. And many women are engulfed by this mentality it’s even sold to them by feminists and boss babe mentalities. It strips them of empathy and a level of compassion and replaces it with a snarky, arrogant, two faced, and cold sense of existence. It’s no wonder why so many men have no chance. I’m not super religious but in a strange way I think this was inevitable and wh…
/r/MensRights24/03/24 04:02 AM
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Well the internet is messed up yeah many of these things exist in real it’s just a healthier demographic of people. With that being said I’ve interacted with people out in the wild and there still is a boss babe mentality going on. I’ll listen to conversations between women and their friends and it’s always so snarky. This is actually an attitude problem that people have and I don’t think people have it innately but our culture seems to reward people with edgy hot takes rather than holistic and …
/r/MensRights24/03/24 03:54 AM
3

They are out of touch
/r/MensRights23/03/24 02:16 AM
6

Anyone who equates success or net worth as to if a man is married, unmarried, childless, or a virgin, needs to seek therapy immediately.
/r/MensRights23/03/24 02:14 AM
1

I know my way around pussy
/r/MensRights22/03/24 07:29 PM
1

I might be crazy cat daddy who the heck knows lol
/r/MensRights22/03/24 05:40 PM
2

I think the thing I find the most fascinating about this video is he is the last guy you would ever think is married yet he is it just adds to the mystery of it all. He lucked out and found someone he loves not all of us despite our best efforts will. Either way if you are going to be single be a complete and well rounded individual. Be good to yourself and others. I think there will be a lot of single men in the future but I think the key is how well they get on with life truthfully single peop…
/r/MensRights22/03/24 07:04 AM
1

It’s true and it seems like it’s not even verbal for some reason the minute I was dating someone seriously it was like everyone started getting interested. They didn’t even known I was dating someone they just started talking to me more seriously. It’s just weird it’s like your body emits a different scent or something. Anyways that was last year everything stalled and I’m back to being a single loser again lol. I’m dissatisfied with myself and the dating world being as challenging as it is :(
/r/MensRights18/03/24 06:09 PM
2

It’s really rough now I’m 36 trying to jump into the dating market but as an outsider you really are fucked. Every woman asks where’s your experience and immediately gets the ick and automatically red flags. Never mind I tell them I wasn’t ready to date and I was too busy working on my six figure career. But that’s not a valid answer for them! I can’t fix what people won’t let me fix. I’m still a virgin for gods sake. Done it all except sex. Highly considering losing it to a pro soon. You are co…
/r/MensRights12/03/24 05:57 AM
3

Agreed social media has also painted men in a bad light. It’s made all men seem like they must be tall, dark, handsome where there aren’t that many people like that in reality men are all sorts of things. One of the draws of the PPB movement is that people overseas tend to be more disconnected from social media, at least to a greater extent where it hasn’t infiltrated the front of mind so much.
/r/MensRights12/03/24 05:54 AM
1

The bl*k pill meaning we are living in difficult times acknowledge that and don’t dismiss it, the issues may be external to you or may be things you do not have direct control over ? If that’s the case I can agree. I think I’m a person who believes in the black pill but also knows there are ways to beat the black pill though the black pill itself should remind you to not worry if things don’t work out because.. you are not alone and it doesn’t mean you are wrong or directly at fault . It’s accep…
/r/MensRights12/03/24 05:46 AM
5

This is well said it’s a lot of double talk.
/r/MensRights12/03/24 01:21 AM
7

Sex can be had there are many ways to have sex so it’s not really something that can be removed lol. Many men have little to no sex. They are fine. People need to recognize men aren’t the pigs MSM women think they are. Those men online that you are sorting through on dating sites? Most of those guys are losers. Stop basing your presumptions on that.
/r/MensRights12/03/24 01:19 AM
2

That’s way more than I ever got on that lol. Anyways it doesn’t matter the apps are trash. You need to be physically attractive enough to date and that’s sometimes just a big hurdle that you may not get to. I’m a big and tall redheaded dude. They want tall dark (blonde or black hair) skinny guys with shaped bodies and tight jawlines. I look nothing like that. I’m a read head with fair skin, I’m 270lbs and a big unit. I have a huge chest cavity and I’m just a giant. Women don’t like that kinda ma…
/r/MensRights06/03/24 05:36 AM
1

I think most of Europe except for the UK has been a better place for women having a better attitude about life, men, and being feminine, as compared with US and Canada.
/r/MensRights06/03/24 03:39 AM
3

I wish people could have the capacity to appreciate both a softer kinda side and a masculine af dude. Just appreciate men for once stop making us into the fall humans for everything. I’ve seen honest nice guys with big hearts getting ripped to shreds. What about them? These guys wouldn’t harm a fly and yet they aren’t toxic enough or whatever gets half the crazy population off lol. And then yeah on the other hand you got your hard edged dude easy rider type at the pool hall and he’s considered f…
/r/MensRights05/03/24 01:24 AM
3

Neutral on that issue. I wouldn’t call it alpha or beta or any of that I’d say it’s only concerned with ensuring men are heard and meaning all men. It doesn’t support feminism though that is pretty clear.
/r/MensRights05/03/24 01:21 AM
8

Autism yes I believe it but autism has been around for ages is it just now women have decided to throw people on the spectrum out because they aren’t measuring up? My single #1 biggest belief as to why incel things are on the rise is that women, particularly younger aged women, selectively treat a smaller percentage of the male population with a degree of interest and are willing to spend time interacting with those men. Those who are outside of that are ignored or brushed away. It’s the same is…
/r/MensRights05/03/24 12:36 AM
1

Yeah for sure and it can be anything really maybe height or how attractive you are, maybe you don’t have a lot of anxiety or a job that prevents you from being a red flag idk all I can say is that there are so many things that will get you excluded these days before you even get going..
/r/MensRights04/03/24 04:58 PM
9

There is a big split in the haves and have nots. Some of the haves will call you an incel but they have other privileges and things that they are unaware of that naturally make them more marketable in the dating scene. They will gaslight you into believing that it’s all on you when the reality is you only have so much control over who you are naturally and they will think that women aren’t necessarily to blame because they have had opportunities that others haven’t had. Unfortunately I’m in the …
/r/MensRights04/03/24 02:50 PM
72

And reality says “here is a frustrated man who is trying to figure out how to be accepted by others in seemingly unfavorable conditions ”. Society instead calls him “Incel”, “Creep” , “Neckbeard” “Mouth breather”. The more you speak the more you are ignored so it seems. “You want the truth? You can’t handle the truth”
/r/MensRights03/03/24 06:43 AM
3

True but I don’t think I have a choice I’ve definitely tried and still am trying to find someone. I never was even looking around most of my life and nobody ever approached me or anything noting ever happened to me at all so I decided last year I would go the other way and start making the moves but I just discovered how picky people are and how I wasn’t measuring up and it started to just frustrate me to no end to the point where after going out with like 12 different people over the course of …
/r/MensRights02/03/24 08:23 AM
5

All statistics in western countries regarding dating and relationships are all going to crap and way more so for men than women but both are definitely looking bad. We live in a culture of cold bitter and narcissistic individualism that basically erodes any need to have empathy. You can’t have a relationship if you do not have any love for someone other than yourself and most kids today all they know how to do is love themselves it’s all selfishness. Nobody is saying “hey I think I should be nic…
/r/MensRights02/03/24 01:38 AM
11

I’m probably in that 33% and it’s not bad that 33% of people have more opportunity that the other 2/3 of you ask me. For them they got all the time in the world and nothing to distract them in the same way. I mean hell I’m even still a virgin wish I wasn’t but it’s somewhat the same. You think about all the bs you have to go through if you are an average guy just to even get a casual thing it’s a nightmare right now lol. If I ever had a son or daughter I’d honestly tell them don’t even worry if …
/r/MensRights02/03/24 01:33 AM
3

Horrifying!
/r/MensRights02/03/24 01:23 AM
2

Yep fair
/r/MensRights24/02/24 08:39 PM
3

Yep we agree I’m just pointing out people there are appropriate places to do this and inappropriate places and people seem to kind of not understand that lol.
/r/MensRights24/02/24 08:37 PM
4

I think when harambe died it all went to shit. Then the pandemic flushed the toilet
/r/MensRights24/02/24 08:35 PM
8

Even if he did he’s not wrong it’s not the place to do it tbh
/r/MensRights24/02/24 08:33 PM
1

I’m circumcised but they didn’t cut a lot off it seems like I still have a decent amount there so I’m thankful for that. I can still use it to masturbate. But if I had boys I’d leave it on them unless there was a medical issue i see no reason to remove it. You said it earlier I’m a Christian and honestly I don’t see a need to touch anything on a persons body that isn’t unholy in another words the body or part of the body is not sinning against you then don’t touch it. If you are ill it is my bel…
/r/MensRights23/02/24 02:35 AM
13

What’s really messed up from what I have heard is western white men can go over there and the girls like us a lot. That’s so messed up like it’s biased beyond belief. Like that shit shouldn’t be happening. If you gotta lust lust for your countrymen lol too lol. I hate that traveler / passport bias it’s so messed up. Just stupid media blowing up things as usual and people consume it and get wild ideas. Wanna talk about men’s rights how about start with women cherry picking on race or preconceived…
/r/MensRights14/02/24 04:48 AM
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Yeah the 5% of men or whatever this happens to lol. But it’s still really messed up.
/r/MensRights13/02/24 03:41 PM
2

And here’s the best part - it don’t even matter if you’re good looking you got the cash and the life you want!
/r/MensRights12/02/24 07:36 AM
5

This is the only place I’ve ever been on Reddit where you can safely talk about your issues. Everywhere else a reasonable question you get blacklisted.
/r/MensRights12/02/24 01:20 AM
1

Your mindset is correct listen to your mind it is right I’ve done it I know! Anyone who doesn’t or can’t appreciate you at face value is worth zero of your time.
/r/MensRights11/02/24 06:16 AM
1

I agree fully with you! Everything you had was single sided. So do single sided the right way. By being single. Being single is liberating and you are seeing the light of it and how you can reclaim your life. You’ll find yourself and how you can love who you are. You’ll never need another person if you can love yourself so highly.
/r/MensRights11/02/24 06:14 AM
3

Yeah it’s hard to know what the right answer is I’m just not happy what the current administration I know that much.
/r/MensRights10/02/24 06:27 PM
6

Wow well that’s no good! Some super toxic people out there. It’s messed up man that’s what I’m saying. I think people who are like that honestly are unhinged because they think they can do whatever they want but then say others cannot.
/r/MensRights10/02/24 06:05 PM
-10

Yeah honestly I tend to hate the left more than the right at this point I’m just not a Trump fan. I don’t even know how tf to vote in this election I’m praying Trump gets disqualified so I can vote for someone else who can win. But who knows. I can’t vote for Trump I just can’t. And I won’t vote for Biden so I guess i vote independent in that case which is like abstaining without abstaining. I’m secretly rooting for. Nikki Haley I would love to have a conservative woman president I think that wo…
/r/MensRights10/02/24 06:18 AM
14

Maybe it’s good that most average guys don’t have to deal with this. These comments specific to the most attractive men and let me tell you from friends I know this happens. They actually get annoyed because women actually get really forceful. It’s just a wild reality we live in where the top get everything and most other people are invisible. And the toxicity towards both is staggering.
/r/MensRights10/02/24 05:58 AM
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It isn’t even that it’s that when men try hundreds and maybe thousands of times and they keep hearing “no” they realize that unless you are magic man nobody is going to give you the time of day so hey you just stop asking lol. Why would a man continue to pursue women when they don’t care? It’s not even about incel mentality it’s about the fact that they aren’t giving most people any kind of chance. They will argue they don’t owe anything but unless you owe something how tf can a relationship be …
/r/MensRights10/02/24 05:20 AM
4

It really went the wrong way I.e. it was progress then became indoctrination. We as a western society afford women a chance and rightfully so but when they take that and use it as leverage is where I draw the line. We have real problems with extremes and taking things to the next level. The interpretation of these phrases has thrown people way out of wack. It says believe women. Not worship them and there are many women who take it to mean “worship”. Again you gotta draw a line somewhere. At som…
/r/MensRights09/02/24 04:41 AM
-3

I believe men and women. Start by listening, analyze the facts and what happened and make a conclusion. You know, critical thinking. It’s not about picking sides. Never was. And the language thing yeah that is really sideways. It’s almost like lawyer speak. How to answer a question without being accountable. It’s dodgy. I like being concise with words and if it takes more words to do so, so be it.
/r/MensRights09/02/24 04:34 AM
3

Omg this is off the hinges batshit crazy!
/r/MensRights07/02/24 05:27 PM
2

Men can be used sexually at ransom basically don’t do this or I’ll share a deep secret and blow your cover.
/r/MensRights06/02/24 08:49 PM
3

The herd mentality on the left is really bad and most all feminists vote left but you know if you vote right you get backlash everyone comes crawling out calling you a bigot, baby killer, and all kinds of other really lovely things and women say these things ten fold over men. You cannot win..
/r/MensRights27/01/24 07:21 AM
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They are waking up. Need to make sure these young men become strong and they certainly will be going through all this.
/r/MensRights27/01/24 07:19 AM
3

I know my vote will support men
/r/MensRights27/01/24 07:18 AM
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Men are feeling uncomfortable engaging either women or others. Many are feeling an identity crisis. Women and the small percentage popular young men are causing a lot of tension in more average men. I feel like when I was in school there was a better distribution of women for each kind of man. People paired up ok generally speaking and outsiders were very rare. You would find a fit. But what I see happening now is large scale herd mentality. We had several herds not one big herd. It depended on …
/r/MensRights27/01/24 07:14 AM
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My mom was a stay at home mom and so I grew up with it. I think one parent should stay home and the other works and it doesn’t need to be the wife staying at home either. It’s just better for the children to have an actual parent there for them. This system of nanny’s and overpriced child care is a joke. I’m fortunate my father did well enough to support the whole family on his income. I’m blessed in that regard. I think these days both parents are worked to death and it leaves little room for t…
/r/MensRights26/01/24 06:34 PM
8

I know right?
/r/MensRights26/01/24 06:30 PM
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20% 40% who really knows I just know that women are extremely selective and there are a decent chunk of men who despite their best efforts they can’t get into that chunk of regular sex havers. I think there are women like this too but a very small percentage competitively speaking. A lot of it falls under perceived attractiveness. I feel I’m on the lower end I’m still a virgin at 36 despite interacting frequently with women and having been on a number of dates. Hard market to be in at my age.
/r/MensRights26/01/24 06:18 PM
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I think what women want from sex is very different I don’t think men and women really get off in the same way seems like it’s more mechanical and visual for men and more emotional for women.
/r/MensRights26/01/24 06:14 PM
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See the thing is I think men and society undervalue themselves and women overvalue the truth is everyone is important but there isn’t a good balance of fairness when it comes to that we really want a nice 50/50 balance like men pick up things where women lack and women pick up a few things the men struggle with and everyone is happy.
/r/MensRights25/01/24 12:00 AM
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I just tell myself to work on what I can and not to get too discouraged if I keep coming up short it’s not really a game of fair when it comes to dating a small percentage of men have the upper hand when you talk about looking on an open market. I haven’t even lost my virginity yet but I’ve dated a number of women nothing really escalated to that point and I wasn’t in a particular rush ever in my life though I do feel I missed out a bit. I think I’d have done better dating wise 10-15 years ago. …
/r/MensRights24/01/24 11:57 PM
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I didn’t see the movie yet but I always thought he was pretty cool and yeah he’s gigachad hah. The ladies love him. Great guy, great actor.
/r/MensRights24/01/24 11:53 PM
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Ryan is a very good actor and handsome and he fit the part perfectly. Good for him! Nobody should complain about that. I think taking the focus away from him isn’t fair to how he did.
/r/MensRights24/01/24 11:50 PM
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The men never get attention back how many times you see a guy make a post in favor of a woman and he gets no likes or upvotes for it but say anything controversial and holy crap they can’t hit the downvote fast enough. They don’t care if dudes are trying to be some kind of justice warrior they literally do not care. They just don’t want you blowing up their little island. Most women literally don’t care and if you are maybe really handsome or something and you act toxic enough to get their juice…
/r/MensRights24/01/24 05:34 AM
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I was dating someone who always played the victim card over and over it was so toxic she acted always like I was bothering her because I send her one text a day and it’s too much she then sends me a huge collection of messages about how she’s been sick and how I’m pressuring her too much and how she doesn’t like me like that we were supposed to be friends, on and on it was just unreal. Before I could reply she blocked me again for a second time and I’m fine with her assuming I threw her out the …
/r/MensRights24/01/24 05:30 AM
1

All good things
/r/MensRights24/01/24 05:26 AM
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The way I see it there are two kinds of men, men who for whatever reason feel the only way they can quench their thirst is to give in to what women want of them and hope (yeah hope) that they somehow make the grade and someone will actually take them in. Those guys they either end up with someone and live their lives on someone else’s terms and basically they don’t have a lot of bargaining chips or they get ignored constantly but maybe treated in a slightly better light because they do the whole…
/r/MensRights24/01/24 05:16 AM
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Some are some aren’t. The women who do it no matter if they are real or not they get so much backlash from other women it’s crazy it’s like women do not want anyone to allow them to lose the control they think they have. It’s always what it’s about, control. Women try to control men.
/r/MensRights24/01/24 05:05 AM
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Needs to require equal effort by men and women. We also need need need to not create soft women. We need actual strong women not this inflated crap. If they work hard they get it. It’s only fair. A lot of this is because women got soft in the wrong way. My mother and grandmother worked their asses off to keep our home in pristine shape and they did all while working a 9-5. You don’t see that anymore.
/r/MensRights22/01/24 08:53 PM
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I know you are joking but I’m proud to be a man. Even with all this crap history is all I need. There are some things that you literally do not need other peoples opinions on but are readily observable.
/r/MensRights22/01/24 08:50 PM
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I’m ashamed she has my surname. Insulted actually lol.
/r/MensRights22/01/24 08:47 PM
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It’s pretty sick yeah some kind of manipulation like we are in the camp and the doctors wanna see how far they can push us or how much gold they can take from our teeth. Yes, exactly like that. It’s getting on that level some kind of fucked up social experiment done by people who are unhinged. Textbook.
/r/MensRights21/01/24 11:12 PM
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It’s more so recently idk I’ve seen a shift maybe 10 years ago and the biggest after the pandemic. I look at probably 70% of women in my age group out and about and kind of watch what they do just to see how people act and I’m just like I’m so freaking happy I’m single omg. The husbands or boyfriends too omg I feel horrible for them so many times I wanted to go up to them and say “bro what are you doing? Why?” Guys are being used! I wanted a marriage like my parents had but you don’t get that th…
/r/MensRights21/01/24 11:06 PM
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Yeah it’s poisoned a lot of people. I’m not ever denying that. It’s really concerning how far it’s gone. I have to look at myself every day in the mirror and tell myself I’m not ugly I’m a good looking man they are wrong. I have to tell myself that over and over. I have to remind myself all the time in ways I never thought I would have needed. I was a tall strong man I got attention 20 years ago. Things have changed.
/r/MensRights21/01/24 06:37 PM
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Your post mirrors my personal understanding of how things are. Solid things are tangible things to me hobbies, career success, self goals. It’s a strange time nothing like it ever before in history when it comes to being a man. Social pressure coming from places it never did. Difficult to adjust hard pill to swallow a life without a partner.
/r/MensRights21/01/24 06:25 PM
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😂😂
/r/MensRights21/01/24 12:45 AM
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I got it 😂
/r/MensRights21/01/24 12:45 AM
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I’m 36 so I got a lot of life to live. I won’t settle for a toxic woman and I can smell it right away. I have way too many irons in the fire with a senior level position, steady income, and good life work balance that does not contain a woman. This isn’t the bad thing it used to be in fact people see it as a good thing that I’ve stepped up and taken the reigns of my life.
/r/MensRights20/01/24 04:14 PM
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Do things for you enjoy your life forget toxic people. Do things that you like nothing else matters. I’m sorry to hear your story but I think you took a path of strength because while it is t easy going alone it can solve many problems. Find a few friends you can keep close and maybe some family. We don’t need wives or girlfriends those days are done. It isn’t 1970, she’s not going to come running to help you when you are sick or something broke. A modern woman is cold and dead. They’ve all been…
/r/MensRights20/01/24 03:47 PM
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I’m not opting out of society just kind of soft quitting on dating. I don’t see many redeeming qualities in being in a romantic relationship. I don’t want to be someone’s checkbook or another set of hands for them to use I refuse for it to become that. I refuse to be looking over my shoulder every 10 minutes wondering who else is in her little dm inbox. I’m not going to fall ill of health then get yelled at for not doing the laundry or dishes. It’s not how it was supposed to be. Relationships we…
/r/MensRights20/01/24 03:43 PM
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Online people get really nasty I even prefer to just call texting does weird things psychologically half the things people say on here they wouldn’t dare say to your face. It’s like if I have a coworker mouthing off over teams I call them and they straighten up. Cowards hide behind keyboards.
/r/MensRights17/01/24 06:41 PM
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Depends on who it is I don’t feel uncomfortable in a general sense no.
/r/MensRights17/01/24 06:40 PM
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Men dying out puts a dent in society that can’t be repaired. It’s a fact we can’t be replaced. I attribute the increase in male suicide rates directly to female perception of them. The notion of blacklisting men as ugly, incels, or undatable while putting shallow characteristics such as physical appearance, endowment, height, and a million other things on full display amongst each other leaving only the finest up for grabs is actually abuse and pits men against each other while they (women) laug…
/r/MensRights17/01/24 03:39 AM
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It won’t be here this is a safe space. Speak freely. While this sub is titled men’s rights it tends to be a better place to discuss anything related to being a man than just about anything else I’ve encountered, including your own rants.
/r/MensRights17/01/24 03:36 AM
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I’m not even short myself I’m 6’-2 but it’s still a parallel thought pattern with a myriad of other biased physical traits that basically belittle men. Like my personal fav was when Billie Eilish said “You give an ugly guy a chance and he thinks he rules the world.” It’s stuff like that which is creating a bad space for men.
/r/MensRights17/01/24 01:45 AM
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A lot of times they want to have the last word and that’s fine because more often than not they make themselves look more foolish and I keep my mouth shut and let it soak in because I know it does despite the bickering back. A strong argument only needs one reply and then anything else blossoming from them it just sounds like whining. State things simply and leave it at that. Men don’t like games.
/r/MensRights17/01/24 01:37 AM
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Childish that’s all that is.
/r/MensRights17/01/24 01:35 AM
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Reddit is a cross section of the population that’s the thing. It does tend to represent the most vocal in the population but that’s just it the most vocal. People tend to agree but not say anything those that go in Reddit say it out right. It’s not everyone but seriously to actually willingly hit that like button on messages like these hundreds of thousands of times that is very troubling. Hypocrisy is bad but the worst kind of Hypocrites are those who have zero empathy and are self serving and …
/r/MensRights16/01/24 08:54 PM
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Look at the thousands of likes that’s insane that’s probably more troubling.. Also as we all know the tolerance band for male partners is shrinking and consequently men are having a more difficult time adapting to life without sex and without a partner which is driving the suicide rates up.
/r/MensRights16/01/24 04:33 PM
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I just want to live as a human I don’t like the us versus them thing going on. I think female stars try to send a message but often it aligns with whatever is popular versus what is good. I just want a famous woman to start taking about how there are good men out there and women shouldn’t give up on love. There are a lot of lonely guys out there and not a lot being done. I picture a group like when I was young in the church groups I was the weird kid but I was accepted nobody cared about me bein…
/r/MensRights16/01/24 02:58 AM
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Well, I think it’s important for men to realize that they’re competing against a lot of superficial things in order to try and get women interested and it’s just a never ending stairway to nowhere for some people. Sometimes the best thing you can do is just work on yourself and not worry too much about if people like you or not. I agree with you that some people are taking measures way too far and they end up putting themselves in the dumpster. That’s never a good thing.
/r/MensRights15/01/24 09:30 PM
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I fear that you are correct so in a lot of this I’m seeking to build myself in different ways to separate myself from needing a relationship to the best of my abilities call it a cope or whatever you will I just know I’ve been dragged around too much and I get no attention from women other than friendzoned. Which is fine but it’s not what I’m after so I gotta deal.
/r/MensRights15/01/24 10:07 AM
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I’ve paused all dating for a while I just felt so used and not worthy for all the different people I tried things have really gotten bad for the average or under looking guy. It’s just not a great time things are very messed up. We don’t have a lot of options even when you do peoples behavior is just nauseating. I hope guys are doing ok this is hard on the mental health.
/r/MensRights15/01/24 05:40 AM
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It’s up to us to stop it we can take a stand by not allowing women the leverage they insist on having over us. This is the time to start. No more games. Accept women who will play fair and will hold you in value. Reject anyone else who treats you unfairly or tries to use you.
/r/MensRights14/01/24 08:29 AM
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Sort of, I think it’s one of those things that we talk here but most of the action is in our personal choices and how we respond to situations in our lives. Turning down people who are toxic or lack any sort of empathy or care is a great first step. Turn down every woman who doesn’t reciprocate effort or calls you out. You don’t deserve to be snubbed and treated as second class.
/r/MensRights14/01/24 08:26 AM
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I’ve read some of your posts nothing you said was unhinged I’m just shocked at the responses to you and it looks like you were on a break for a while, have you noticed things have become worse over time that the empathy level for men has dropped? It seems like when it comes to dating standards and expectations the target keeps moving into more and more unrealistic areas where the lions share of men have a smaller chance of making something work. It’s become very wild what most women want from me…
/r/MensRights14/01/24 08:24 AM
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It’s trending worse. It’s a good time to just focus on yourself that’s what I’m feeling.
/r/MensRights14/01/24 02:53 AM
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And not many men have that! That’s the thing pretty privilege for men is fewer and far between. Lots of men are invisible and no redeeming qualities are observed because women are rejecting straight off on appearance.
/r/MensRights14/01/24 02:52 AM
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And it’s smart for those guys to turn the focus back on themselves it’s more important to save yourself when you are down.
/r/MensRights14/01/24 02:50 AM
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It’s different these days you generally aren’t seeing women supporting men like they used to (and I mean that in the sense of equal effort) and even getting something going is difficult unless you meet the crazy standards people have for you. Keep in mind a lot of men have jobs and other responsibilities so trying to impress someone and check all the boxes is an enormous challenge that in some cases is too much. I’ve really struggled with dating and I’m starting to lose the idea that something i…
/r/MensRights14/01/24 02:47 AM
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Yes it does and we are nature it lives in every cell.
/r/MensRights13/01/24 06:12 AM
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It will backfire. Nature is self correcting. Men will become monsters if they are denied. It’s already happening. Men will literally work themselves to their grave if they have to. The weak ones yes they may take their lives but the strong ones will take up arms.
/r/MensRights13/01/24 06:04 AM
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Ignore them. Your opinion matters. If they like it or not it still does.
/r/MensRights13/01/24 06:02 AM
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You accept who you are and by doing that you have risen above. You believe in nature and why nature made you the way you are. You see no reason to defy it. That’s the ultimate version of self awareness.
/r/MensRights13/01/24 06:00 AM
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Oh the jargon 😂😂
/r/MensRights11/01/24 06:11 AM
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Passport bros yeah. I’ll bet the locals hate it but nope we didn’t start this
/r/MensRights11/01/24 06:10 AM
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“If you tell me no I’m going to walk away and respect your wishes. Your greatest mistake is thinking all men are the same. But men have to make an attempt this is how it works if we do not at least try we have zero chance of forming a relationship with anyone.”
/r/MensRights11/01/24 05:18 AM
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My view is like “I’m not getting enough sex what do I do”. go masturbate. “Should I get another partner?” No you are married. Go masturbate. “You’re unhinged!!” Im STD free and I only am intimate with one person at a time. Sorry this does not make any sense to you but I value other people’s feelings and I consider my actions to have a direct impact on others feelings.
/r/MensRights11/01/24 01:25 AM
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The TL:DR is it’s entirely one sided and lacks empathy for the man. My personal and highly opinionated takeaway : take care of your sexual needs on your own or hire a professional.
/r/MensRights11/01/24 01:21 AM
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I want to add that modern dating evaluated on a statistical basis is horrifying. And it’s why men should not be alarmed if they are struggling. If a number is unfavorable and you struggle should you be so angry? Not really, you fell within the probability.
/r/MensRights11/01/24 01:18 AM
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That’s the thing apps are a way for people to express themselves it doesn’t mean the people are different it’s like me yelling about a paper someone wrote and expecting them to have different views in a physical conversation. That’s not how it works lol. And especially when you look at how many people feel this way it’s all about statistics. If a sample (social media for example) consists of a wide variety of those people say 30% feel a certain way if they are a representative sample, then the p…
/r/MensRights11/01/24 01:14 AM
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No it’s all over but Reddit is where you hear it en mass
/r/MensRights11/01/24 01:10 AM
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The level of unhinged people on Reddit is disturbing as hell lol.
/r/MensRights11/01/24 01:10 AM
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Those women are invisible to me.
/r/MensRights10/01/24 11:18 PM
2

Trying not to be socially awkward, more of a me thing but it is what it is. Also trying to be appealing? I don’t understand why my life needs to be chocked full of fun and adventure, I work a lot to provide for myself. I’m not doing world tours and rock climbing while holding a dog and talking about how I believe in human rights etc that everyone’s stupid dating profiles want.
/r/MensRights10/01/24 06:01 PM
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Yes honestly that’s the issue a lot of men face they become sort of “invisible” or friendship material only. I hate to put numbers but idk people say I’m a 5 or 6 looks wise but that’s not cutting it anymore most women want 7s and above. If you are a 5 or 6 you really only get to pick from 1-3. I’ve dated 7s and 8s but you know that story I end up in the friend zone probably because they don’t feel physically attracted enough. It’s pretty unreal honestly. I’m in the gym 3-4 days per week, I spen…
/r/MensRights10/01/24 12:36 AM
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The men they pick are way more physically attractive and they have had a number of partners so they have way more experience with all due respect I don’t have a chance against the guys they are picking. You put me side by side with other guys and they pick them. I’ve been rejected so many times and I was doing better on dating apps I dated 12 people last year but they all went off to find better options. Like I said it’s a gigantic hamster wheel. You can try to approach people in public and make…
/r/MensRights09/01/24 09:01 PM
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I just don’t like the situation I’m in and I’ve tried everything to be more attractive. I’m on a giant hamster wheel of self improvement that leads to nowhere. I’m still invisible as hell..
/r/MensRights09/01/24 08:09 PM
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I’m used to it by now but yeah. I think for me the most annoying part is how women have to do very little and pick all the guys they want they really have the initial part of dating easier not going to say dating overall easier but for me just getting a date is virtually impossible anymore. That part feels very unfair.
/r/MensRights09/01/24 07:48 PM
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Athleisure wear is very comfortable and looks great. That with nice pair of new tennis shoes is perfectly fine. They are making more clothing that is comfortable and looks good these days so no need to get super dressed up unless they like to.
/r/MensRights08/01/24 08:18 PM
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I don’t mind women who wear no makeup and tennis shoes lol. Lots of men don’t care as much as they think.
/r/MensRights08/01/24 07:03 PM
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You may have some psychological things going on where you feel a bit numb it might be helpful to discuss with a therapist. On one hand it could just be how your personality is on the other hand it might be something you have psychological that you can work on. Sometimes it’s hard to to know unless you talk to someone. You may have social anxiety a lot of people have that. I think you can get help and work it out. But I can understand people can be frustrating as well so sometimes it’s just figur…
/r/MensRights07/01/24 07:35 PM
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Sometimes the burden another person puts on you makes you feel even more isolated because you owe them something.
/r/MensRights07/01/24 12:28 AM
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Family, video games, cafe hopping, doing engineering research for my job, working, spending time in restaurants/bars, talking to old friends, Reddit, Facebook, cleaning and cooking, TV series. Just existing is a full time job. People forget this that putting a relationship is going to be adding to what you are already so busy with and no relationship ever took away any of the other living responsibilities from me. I still had to do everything for myself. So it just becomes a few moments of cuddl…
/r/MensRights07/01/24 12:24 AM
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The USA is a pretty sad place for men to come to if they have nothing I’m not going to lie. I miss the days of old where migrants from other countries had a chance but our economy is so over commercialized that to get into line it’s just absurd. I’m blessed I was born here sometimes I forget how much I am really blessed because my god it’s bad for outsiders. I’m not happy with the current administration at the state and federal levels all has been very disappointing and I think this next elect i…
/r/MensRights06/01/24 08:06 AM
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Idk what happened to Australia but it seems like the women there got real nasty in the past say 15 years or so. It seems like a terrible place to be a man. I’d put the UK up there too it’s just brutal. Probably even worse than USA. Seems like there are just heaps and heaps of loud mouth Karens in UK and Australia. I actually tried to google it and it kept feeing me results about misogyny in Australia which felt like my search was being filtered lol.
/r/MensRights06/01/24 01:55 AM
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“Human rights” literally means women and minorities only when people say it these days in my mind.
/r/MensRights06/01/24 01:54 AM
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I just want to see men encouraged the same way that would be really nice you know?
/r/MensRights02/01/24 03:31 PM
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Yeah I agree actually makes sense what you said. Kind of a big mess no matter what people are lucky when things work out and are fairly normal. For me putting stock into myself and not getting overly concerned about finding a person seems to be the only correct answer. As I go on in my life I just realize how messy things are when you get into a relationship and how you can end up losing so much or putting other parts of your life at risk. These are different times compared to my parents, me and…
/r/MensRights02/01/24 02:26 PM
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Same my parents don’t care anymore they just say do what makes you feel good. They were shocked to find out how many women I dated and none stuck around. They were like hell in my day you would have had success with at least one of them having so many dates. But when people want to play games and try and do what they are doing I wanted no part of it after a while I told them what was going on and they get it. I have a few good friends and colleagues in my line of work. It turns out that was suff…
/r/MensRights02/01/24 06:07 AM
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I’m sorry that young man looked great she’s out of her mind. All she had to do was go up to him and fix it a bit and say now you look the man. You know how many small little interactions like that change literally the whole freaking dynamic? That MF would do everything for her at that moment you bet your ass on it. But instead she’s just pissed because everyone owes her everything and she owes nothing. Ridiculous.
/r/MensRights02/01/24 04:53 AM
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Dude so many people are like that if they had some dose of humble pie they would stop being assholes and be decent people. They got all the simps and fellow boss women to make them feel real great 👌
/r/MensRights02/01/24 04:50 AM
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It’s all that Starbucks she can’t calm tf down and enjoy a pleasant walk.
/r/MensRights02/01/24 04:47 AM
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shits on young man for bad swimming form. Proceeds to show her adult archery featuring a perfect 10/10 constipated bullseye shot. I can’t make this shit up if I tried.
/r/MensRights02/01/24 04:42 AM
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That’s exactly right when you see how many there are like that you just realize man we are doomed and destined to stay single.
/r/MensRights02/01/24 04:39 AM
1

That’s not even real that’s prostitution. I’m talking about men who just get laid without paying a cent. Those guys are literally absorbing all of the women on the market and leaving them damaged.
/r/MensRights02/01/24 03:52 AM
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Yeah but the sad truth is the guys who are getting laid are the ones with the opportunity the guys who are not getting there with women (think like 60%) they have zero options. If you can’t go to bed with a woman you ain’t getting married. And like the vast majority of the guys good enough to be hooking up, they are the ones getting married. So this smaller batch of men are indeed controlling the market. I have never been attractive enough to get anywhere with women while I watch my other better…
/r/MensRights02/01/24 03:47 AM
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Chad can control what access to men these women have. It’s actually deeper than OnlyFans. OnlyFans is income and validation when you cut off their ability to have attractive men in their sex lives is when you really make an impact. Then they have to sit there and wonder if any man will ever love them. That’s what opens the door my friend. Rejection cuts way deeper to women than it does men. They get straight really fast. When you feed them handfuls of Prince Charming is when they start saying sh…
/r/MensRights02/01/24 02:46 AM
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Dude Chads are fuckjng everyone let’s not ignore that and pretend it’s all the simps fault. Men learn to use the word NO more often.
/r/MensRights02/01/24 02:43 AM
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The problem is the Chads will keep giving women what they want and they get power from it. If more of these good looking guys would only settle for good looking women it would humble the shit out of women and they wound not be acting arrogant and treating average men like invisible pieces of crap.
/r/MensRights02/01/24 02:42 AM
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This is like the moment when Jesus was about to die and they just shouted at him “if he is the son of god why doesn’t he just save himself” and everyone in the gallery erupted in laughter scoffing at him . And on his last moments he muttered “forgive them my father for they know not what they do”.
/r/MensRights02/01/24 02:22 AM
1

The IRS once sent Chick Norris a W2. After Chuck returned it, the IRS now owes Chuck exactly three trillion dollars excluding accumulated interest of 1000% and three round house kicks as penalty for deferment.
/r/MensRights01/01/24 09:35 PM
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Yeah that’s the thing the best guys are the ones who none of this really impacts so they don’t really care but the rest of us yeah we get the short end.
/r/MensRights01/01/24 09:06 PM
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Yeah and guess what if it isn’t the man’s then he’s gone anyways lol. Maybe that’s what really scares them!
/r/MensRights01/01/24 04:09 AM
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A baby is half hers half his not 100% hers lol. I honestly have only concern for the child both parents need to stfu it’s no longer about them it’s about the child. Selfish people should not breed.
/r/MensRights01/01/24 04:05 AM
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I just try to avoid women who think like this I make a deal that neither one of us acts toxic towards each other and we treat each other as humans, then it’s good if we mistreat each other or see each other like this it’s over.
/r/MensRights31/12/23 09:16 PM
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Idk her views are all over the place which doesn’t leave anyone feeling real certain. The book title is so cringe imagine if we said all women are cats and need to be trained like cats. It’s just so wrong to label humans as animals, full stop.
/r/MensRights31/12/23 06:22 AM
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Scary that this is mainstream
/r/MensRights31/12/23 06:07 AM
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Honestly that doesn't sound like a very good relationship. I think if he was doing it right there would be some compromise like he can do some things but then he needs to also do some things that she likes. That seems completely fair to me The fact that he's having to give up so much makes me question if he's made the right decision. I feel like my friends that are in good marriages their wife did not come in and tell them they have to stop doing the things that they enjoy that they just need to…
/r/MensRights28/12/23 07:35 PM
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The fact that people call it a bare minimum is sad. People work incredibly hard to get an education, to risk their finances on a good education, to work long hours often without being thanked, no it's not a bare minimum. It's pushing yourself to achieve a life you want. And nobody just gets that as a "bare minimum". I gave up so much to be in the career I am now and the sad part is many women see that as a bare minimum but they don't know what I gave up to get there and yes, I gave up dating to …
/r/MensRights28/12/23 07:16 PM
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Yeah and I understand that I think you are right and honestly I have had many of those same thoughts like it just doesn't feel sustainable. I want to exist as a flawed and imperfect person that's realistic and who I am but it just seems like you can't be that at all and be in any sort of a relationship. That also bothers me greatly like when are men going to always have all this energy and motivation to go out and do all these things it's really hard for me to wrap my head around. I don't know m…
/r/MensRights28/12/23 07:01 PM
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I spent my 20s and most of my 30s as being the unavailable guy. I was the one working hard in my career and studies so I had no time to have a girlfriend. I do wish I would have tried a bit more, 10 years ago the landscape was entirely different and people were more open minded to date and try things with people. The hypergamy hadn't reached the heights it has now and I would have had a much better shot. But I don't regret my decisions either. I have made myself a very comfortable life it is lon…
/r/MensRights28/12/23 05:41 PM
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You shouldn't lose who you are just because some cold, narcissistic, and irrational people want you to be something. Don't make an identity crisis for yourself. Self improvement needs to be focused around yourself don't concern yourself with improving yourself for others. That's something you can't win at. People will always move the target but you can always know what you want and get there without any static from others. Men shouldn't have to feel like they need to be drastically different to …
/r/MensRights28/12/23 05:35 PM
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Yes exactly. I think there is this huge difference between good looking men and men who aren't and how much our world has become so hyper focused on how someone looks it's just really not healthy. Some of us we aren't beautiful on the outside and we work hard to change that but still just don't meet up with what people want. I never really imagined men as people who are supposed to look good many of us were just there to be in battle and fight and do all the hard things it wasn't about being goo…
/r/MensRights28/12/23 05:24 PM
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Most of the millennial women I know got married and they aren't in this situation. I'm a millennial male who waited till last year to start dating. God damn if I knew what a giant mistake that was I'm clotheslined at this point. It's so freaking bad I basically don't exist.
/r/MensRights28/12/23 04:42 AM
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Other men care about other men my buddy and I we are tighter than ever we are both struggling with the dating. If anyone gets it it's other men. Trauma bonding is a very strong thing these days and it's a man to man thing. Pretty much everyone on here is actually interested in what you have to say.
/r/MensRights28/12/23 04:39 AM
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The male loneliness is still skyrocketing the standards are still getting worse it's unbelievable. I pray every day to the Lord that he will save someone up there for us please we need her when we die.
/r/MensRights28/12/23 04:35 AM
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I'm seriously thinking I need to see an escort. I'm 36 and never had sex and I've dated 12 women. It's an absolute nightmare. And I make six figs, six pack, I take very good care of myself, well endowed, everything someone could ever wish for yet they all find a better guy somehow. And I'm the guy you talk about I'm making the damn plans for the buildings!! You know how many freaking times I had to take a half day because I was so depressed after learning I was dumped for a ONS with Chad? Shits …
/r/MensRights28/12/23 04:29 AM
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Y'all are making me smile because I don't feel alone that what I'm going through is way more common than I realized. I'm actually shocked and sad for so many guys like us. It's just a really hard time for many of us. And I know y'all are putting in the work it's not for lack of effort.
/r/MensRights28/12/23 04:26 AM
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I've never cried as much as an adult man until I started dating in 2022. It's unbelievable how crazy it is and how easily dismissed most men are. I'm 36 I'm a virgin and I don't know what's going to happen. There are posts all over the place about guys far younger having the same issue. It's really getting very bad. My father met my mom at a bar in 1979. She was the third girlfriend he had and they got married still have been for 40 years. I've had 12 different girlfriends or people I've dated. …
/r/MensRights28/12/23 04:11 AM
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Apps, yeah you can bring in a lot of women but in many cases they are no good. I think the height factor may be better outside apps. Just ignore people that do that they don't matter they are dumb. You have to filter a lot of bs. It sounds like you must be fairly attractive having had some success on apps so that means you have a good platform to work from.
/r/MensRights22/12/23 02:24 AM
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There will be gigantic age gaps in people dating, many men will be older and dating younger women who come from a different generation of people with different thought patterns and a fresher perspective on life and are inherently more attractive. Older women will be dating younger men for the same reasons. Basically you will have a flip flop where people in the same generation don't date each other due to the issues they caused each other plus a generation that is so heavily focused on looks tha…
/r/MensRights19/12/23 06:25 AM
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Masculinity is not toxic. Toxic persons are toxic.
/r/MensRights19/12/23 06:16 AM
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Misandry and misunderstanding, just lots of misses all around
/r/MensRights13/12/23 11:13 PM
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She might be flirting with you a bit honestly sometimes when women just kind of hang around you they may be low key flirting. Idk why but gyms have become this place where people actually hit on each other like don't believe it when people say it's not supposed to be like that because I'm telling you I've had women place themselves like right there. They are watching too many tic toks where the gym girl hits on random dude or hot gym guy watches her sets. Its like mating season in the damn woods…
/r/MensRights13/12/23 01:36 AM
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People who are passionate about it will participate in things like FOSS. It's a good indicator of self driven people. They enjoy doing it so money isn't the only reason for doing it. I'm an Electrical Engineer. I absolutely love what I do and I'm the idiot who stays late in the office. Me and a few other dudes. Just dudes.
/r/MensRights12/12/23 04:16 AM
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I secretly don't want more unless they are quality. I don't like freebie jobs for group _____ insert special interest group here. Not only that but the arrogance, my god.
/r/MensRights12/12/23 04:07 AM
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It's not he posted this on another sub and it's staggering how people are being shamed into thinking it's not ok. I wish it was a joke but this indicates the state of things that people are feeling the need to ask! Not good...
/r/MensRights12/12/23 02:28 AM
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Yeah I'm familiar with a lot of these things It just really just depends on how they feel about me and it's difficult because I don't get too many people interested in me even if I try my best to be friendly/flirty. Having little relationship experience at 36 is also a serious issue for many people so it's just difficult. I can get people interested in me but then carrying the conversation and keeping them interested it's difficult because they sense that lack of experience that I have and it tu…
/r/MensRights11/12/23 03:27 PM
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Yeah you are a rare kind an attractive guy who opts out. Most guys in your case are more than happy to mess around with things but I think you look long term and you've asked the hard questions like "what are you bringing to the table" and you've sort of decided "I'm not really seeing it there with most women sadly". I'm definitely not a model and I'm far from being all that attractive and nobody has ever chased after me. Guys like me well it's even worse because it's already difficult enough ju…
/r/MensRights11/12/23 08:14 AM
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Well the issue I have is people ask me if I've had any long-term relationships and I tell them I haven't and then they'll ask me why not and I say because I was working on my career and education and I didn't have time to invest in another person and they still seem to think like there's something wrong with me and honestly I don't want to tell them this but the truth is I had a lot of social anxiety and being busy with work and school was going to be too much for me to try to add a person into …
/r/MensRights09/12/23 08:56 PM
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It's more than that unfortunately people are looking at facial geometry, complexion, body type. You can't really just change your body shape I have a massive rib cage and upper body and people are going for the skinny guys. Being a redhead is also a death sentence. People do not like the vast majority of redhead guys it's just how it is.
/r/MensRights09/12/23 08:30 AM
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I don't know if that is really a lower standard or not the people who are hot enough to do hookups are few and far between. You ever try dating as a guy who may be below average looking? It's ridiculous. There is a cutoff where guys like me don't have a chance. I've heard it all too, lose weight, get new clothes, get out more, done all those things. I'm just beginning to think that it's not me honestly. I've put in so much work. The number of men who are not ending up in relationships is growing…
/r/MensRights09/12/23 07:51 AM
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I don't follow that at all lol. Women reject tons of men and very few men are chosen but the men who are chosen tend to fit within a set of characteristics that the particular woman likes. So yes women are the selectors but they reject a lot of men. So many in fact that there are a number of men who will never have a long term relationship or even sex, lol. The amount of women who do not have ready access to long term relationships or sex is few and far between. The last part of your post is kin…
/r/MensRights09/12/23 05:44 AM
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The internet which most of us in here don't care about except for, well, the comrades here.
/r/MensRights05/12/23 04:49 AM
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If I ever had a daughter I would try to teach her to be tough but righteous to hold the golden rule as a life requirement. To be compassionate, to understand that she isn't the only one in this world that other people and their thoughts and feelings matter just as much as hers. That compassion is given and received and not just received. That she doesn't need to be afraid of men, that there are terrible men in the world but do not ever let that allow her to think that no man is deserving of her …
/r/MensRights04/12/23 10:40 PM
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It's why people are becoming increasingly closed off and lonely. When you live a cold and bitter life locking yourself away from people you're all alone in this world. People seem to think this is good, it's not. Men and women are more and more becoming lonely and isolated because they don't believe in taking chances. Everything in life is a chance. Somewhere between "I need to avoid toxic people" and "I need to be completely open to new things" is where people need to be and they are thinking 9…
/r/MensRights30/11/23 03:17 AM
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I've found that people I've dated will move heaven and earth to be with their friends but might throw me a half day on the weekend if I'm lucky. I suppose super attractive men don't face this issue but I'm just not attractive, lol.
/r/MensRights30/11/23 02:18 AM
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Thanks yeah they turned my life around. Finding the right person is difficult but so crucial.
/r/MensRights29/11/23 02:21 AM
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I agree lots of really good points here. I was in therapy for a while and stopped going. I see a psychiatrist who has done more to help me than any therapist. He only briefly touches on the psychological issues and gives me some helpful pointers but in just those quick tidbits plus being on the right meds it actually helped me way more than any therapist. I think you make a good point though that there seems to be a lacking of understanding of men's issues in general. One psychologist I like to …
/r/MensRights29/11/23 02:13 AM
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It's funny because you can look at old pornos and movies and like it was portrayed that fat men were definitely getting laid. Ron Jeremy was an ugly fat guy and he got laid all the time. I know it's different but still you could bring other things to the table and still do ok. Nowadays it's getting to the point where if you have seven figures and are fat, you are not getting laid lmao. I know there are some guys out there who are heavyset and they have wives and girlfriends but a lot of those pe…
/r/MensRights28/11/23 10:51 PM
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Fat men used to get lucky a lot more. If you are a millennial or gen z and are fat, nobody is gonna give you a chance unless you are going way under your value honestly.
/r/MensRights28/11/23 09:47 PM
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I know I don't think we are being out of line here. This is a group to talk about struggles, rights, and issues surrounding men and I believe we are doing so respectfully.
/r/MensRights28/11/23 08:35 PM
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Honestly when people ask me questions like that or they treat me differently just because I have slightly different mannerisms or the way that I talk It just makes me lose a lot of faith in people like there's so many people out there they are unbelievably judgmental and just unfair to men and people always want to try to put the blame back on me but the honest to God truth is I haven't done anything bad to them or anything that might be hurtful It's just they have this perception of me that's s…
/r/MensRights28/11/23 08:20 PM
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I'm so mildly on the spectrum though but it's just enough where I can get dates then they get the ick and they leave. It's tiny things like maybe my posture, the way I look at them, or how I communicate, and the biggest one is I have zero long term relationship experience at 36. It's very difficult to change it and make it seem natural. It's really all I can think of. I think it drives my social anxiety up a lot. I consider myself successful in all elements of life except relationships. So I jus…
/r/MensRights28/11/23 07:55 PM
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Thing is a really good relationship it will have Basket 1 and 2 because you are regularly intimate and yet you have all the little life goals. There are guys who are married and their wives are absolutely crazy about them, full on basket one and two. It's rare but they exist.
/r/MensRights28/11/23 05:35 AM
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Yeah. It's losing value to me honestly like it's starting to feel like something that not all men will have. Like the notion that you can self work your way into a relationship I'm not even buying that anymore. It's not really like that at all most people who are in good relationships did not do shit lol. People just liked them enough "as is" to go the distance and you can't fake your way into a relationship. I'm so far away from having one as a guy on the autism spectrum it's a disaster. I'm in…
/r/MensRights28/11/23 04:15 AM
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Eeh I think some people might do this but it's super risky.
/r/MensRights28/11/23 12:33 AM
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I always joke with my buddies and they say yeah I'm single and I say "that means you're probably a good man haha". Yeah I think every woman varies and there aren't always hard and fast rules but you can see some of these points you mentioned in some individuals, yes. I think the bigger issue is when you get into a relationship and you see how long the list of things is you need to be and do. It really starts to become more apparent the further you go. You start to believe that it may be difficul…
/r/MensRights27/11/23 08:12 PM
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That's an interesting perspective and seems to highlight the main issue is that men really want to be both basket (1) and (2) but they get stuck in one or the other. Realistically healthy relationships consist of both 1 and 2.
/r/MensRights27/11/23 07:24 PM
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Yeah, I think so. The film wasn't accurate at all it was very fictional. I remember Napoleon as a blood thirsty killer. Almost like Genghis Khan.
/r/MensRights26/11/23 02:08 AM
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AI can't replace real humans. What we see occuring is the walls closing in on men who feel hopeless and are sexless. So they are doing OnlyFans, simping, etc. Ironically the men trying to find an oasis of sexual interaction with women are driving the pride of that up more and more and making it even more elusive. As men continue to lose market value as women expect more and more men will need to find a way to cope and get back the human and sexual interaction that they realistically need as huma…
/r/MensRights25/11/23 05:47 AM
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It seemed kind of neutral to me. The film felt a little like a modern guy struggling with modern issues of his own making and also of others. It was relatable. They painted him in the light of a man with a lot of internal struggles. I don't really see it as anti men I kind of thought it was more pro men or neutral than anything. They documented his state of mind and how he longed for affection that seemed elusive. He had a lot of self esteem issues and the people around him weren't making it muc…
/r/MensRights25/11/23 01:16 AM
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Same lol. Mine was maybe even a 9. She was a really nice woman too but she just wanted to friendly date basically. I honestly don't understand what I'm missing and I think it's like that for a fair number of men. I've put lots of effort into myself and being more social, etc. Sometimes we are just different and put into a difficult dating environment.
/r/MensRights21/11/23 02:51 AM
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It impacts men the same way honestly when they decide I'm certain things men lose potential partners. Even if men try to level up it's just a fact that what they want and what men can provide are miles apart.
/r/MensRights21/11/23 02:48 AM
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It's just a simple breakdown of values. If that was corrected then this would not happen but if you give women the strings they will be promiscuous. I think women by default are promiscuous. The only thing keeping the lid on is values and religion and other things that ground people in a lifestyle of working things out. My mom said she went on hundreds of dates with different men over her life and I've been on maybe 25? I think women date a lot of men so many bodies over the years. But she found…
/r/MensRights21/11/23 12:39 AM
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Because you are that top 20% to some women not all. That's really what it comes down to.
/r/MensRights21/11/23 12:33 AM
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I was going to say something along those lines but reinforcing the age old concept of men being self reliant and not really depending on a woman to have a complete life. It's a reminder that sometimes you have exactly what you need and the alternative is not as attractive as you think.
/r/MensRights20/11/23 08:04 PM
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I think it would be filled with different problems honestly I think being a man isn't so bad until you get into the complexities of dating and relationships then it starts to become difficult because you aren't the one really pulling the strings (at least most men can't). And that's just from my perspective it's different for every man no question. I have a good life just never been able to sustain a long term relationship, sadly, everything has fallen apart for me because women have a lot of op…
/r/MensRights20/11/23 05:03 PM
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I find her somewhat attractive physically but her personality is so so bad and hideous. No amount of beauty can redeem that.
/r/MensRights19/11/23 05:22 AM
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My opinion is men who cope and are able to live full lives without needing sex, a girlfriend, or any of that, are actually beating the matrix. Society wants to label these men as incels but maybe they understand exactly what's required to have a relationship, sex, and the whole thing, and they chose to invest their lives in a healthier and more predictable way where they can get return on their time investment. Pivot the thinking as you say and men find a lot of peace. Maybe it's a bit lonelier …
/r/MensRights19/11/23 01:58 AM
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-"You give an ugly guy a chance he thinks he rules the world" -Billie Eilish
/r/MensRights18/11/23 03:24 PM
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You are a good man I can tell. I'm sorry things have been so difficult for us there is a greater purpose for men like us I know it.
/r/MensRights15/11/23 06:48 PM
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Wow this is really enlightening and I agree with you so much. I think the issue is people have been told a lot of bad things and people's patience has been worn thin. The odd thing is I spent the first half of my life getting myself into a great career and my education. I'm incredibly thankful for all that I did then. But in trying to find someone it's been arguably the most disappointing thing I've ever done and it's just unbelievable how much and how many different people I've been with only f…
/r/MensRights15/11/23 03:56 PM
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Yeah I'm trying to stay positive I've really tried very hard with dating in many ways and I've come up short. I'm kind of feeling like I'm trying to make something work and it just isn't so I have to find a different way to do my life and just try and ignore everyone else having relationships and just recognize I've done my best with the time and resources I have and it's just not there. At least not now. For some of us we can't catch a break. I think when it comes to dating we are expected to b…
/r/MensRights15/11/23 02:36 PM
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I'm not so sure about that "it just happens" thing. Nothing has ever happened from me not caring or trying to engage with other people. It really is up to me if I want to do this and I'm either going to have to deal with a lot of pain trying to find a fit with someone or close myself off which is what I did for the first half of my life. I never understood the passive approach. Perhaps people are just better looking more charismatic, more easily socialable and things happen for them. None of the…
/r/MensRights14/11/23 11:11 PM
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Definitely not trying to berate you I've just heard this advice a lot and I've definitely given it some thought and I see drawbacks that's all. And I've considered everything and I'm shocked at how sometimes we zig and life zags right in front of us. It feels like you try to go through these loopholes that always shut. And honestly my biggest gripe is how easily women get scared off. That's something I can't really fix and none of us can. But the thing they seem to hate is the thing everyone tal…
/r/MensRights14/11/23 10:46 PM
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I feel like I'm somewhere in the middle honestly but I align a lot more with traditional masculine roles being the provider. But it doesn't fit so well for what women want so I am single and made my own life. I should have done more dating earlier in my life now it's just more difficult. So I guess I've got most of my life figured out except I'm hopelessly single and I've been working to change that but facing many challenges in that department and I believe honestly that's probably the biggest …
/r/MensRights14/11/23 10:11 PM
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Probably a lot of truth to this. I think you've been fortunate to have the experience you had though because honestly in the limited time I've tried to meet people in the wild many are taken or don't seem interested. I feel like this issue is a deeper issue than just how you meet them online or organically it seems to be somewhat of a mentality carried in all aspects of dating. There is an awful lot of luck and being in the right place at the right time as well. I also have such a busy life I wo…
/r/MensRights14/11/23 04:41 PM
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It's hard yes but I think I've experienced that once you can gain trust they are more loyal. But breaking that barrier is really hard and a lot of guys (including me) struggle to get there. We have the same life story as millennials. That's a big big difference maker honestly people forget that generational gaps are a thing. When we can talk about when The Killers were cool and all their old layered outfits and silver jewelry and studded belts, flip phones, lol. It's one of those things you had …
/r/MensRights14/11/23 07:33 AM
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I have a lot of things going for me and my height and car aren't issues (I'm 6'-2 and drive a brand new Subaru Impreza). It's about a fit, me and them, nothing more or less. That's the key. I haven't found it yet and I've tried with many people.
/r/MensRights14/11/23 05:40 AM
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Good for you! That's a fantastic accomplishment. My education is one thing I am extremely proud of and I wouldn't change anything to have what I have from my university. Even if it meant having a girlfriend or wife, still wouldn't be worth it to me, I would not substitute..
/r/MensRights14/11/23 05:36 AM
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Ah the age old get a passport or date younger. Younger women want to date guys who look their age. I don't look under 25. And passports? Like I really want to gamble on bringing someone thousands of miles from here, plant them in this environment and watch them slow fade on me? Not a chance. You plant someone here you got about 5 years before the culture starts to infect them and they become the same as everyone else. They start seeing red flags because everyone tells them what a red flag is (no…
/r/MensRights14/11/23 05:22 AM
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Yeah oops ! I profited from your proofread.
/r/MensRights13/11/23 06:52 PM
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The good men are single. Like the prophets. It's how it is these days. We don't play tricks we are face value. Like the prophets nobody wants to hear truth.
/r/MensRights13/11/23 05:12 PM
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What's sad is I've spent the last year working on myself, lost 35lbs, new clothes, got contacts, started going out more, started exercising and being active walking around parks, started showing how I take care of my sister's dog, all the things yet when I finally sit down with them at dinner the question always comes up "how come you haven't had a long term relationship" and I tell them "because I prioritized my job and other things ahead of it in my 20s" and they just look at me weird and thei…
/r/MensRights13/11/23 05:06 PM
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Well I think the invisible sky man has roles for everyone sometimes it doesn't involve being married, having kids, or even a relationship. I see him as a more accepting entity than most people I suppose.
/r/MensRights10/11/23 12:10 AM
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A lot of what we know is based on what we grew up with, preconceived notions, etc. Things are changing so fast nobody can keep up. It might be best to stick together and talk over what's going on because a lot of people are out of the loop. One thing I value about Reddit in all of its crazy mess is that it has been a place where I have witnessed recurring themes and how things have changed. It's been really enlightening to me because I read the same struggles as so many people and I realize how …
/r/MensRights09/11/23 07:01 AM
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Things are different now and it's healthy to acknowledge that rather than beat oneself up thinking thoughts of inadequacy. There's so many guys doing this and it's really bad. They shouldn't be going there in their minds honestly. There have been significant cultural changes recently that have drastically changed the landscape of dating, attraction, etc. Men shouldn't be made to be the cause but rather unfortunate victims who never really asked to be cold shouldered so hard by women.
/r/MensRights09/11/23 06:54 AM
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Well sometimes you want something that isn't good but you want it because everyone says you need it. I feel this to be the case where lots of people keep insisting we need to settle down, find a wife, get married, etc. I think we need to stop following that "advice" and just realize times have changed and that good people are in short supply. Have you ever considered that sometimes we chase after something and we never get it and then we don't realize that when we have it we didn't like it anywa…
/r/MensRights09/11/23 06:29 AM
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I feel like women are just pickier and don't have to settle for less which means as an average guy you have to work so hard to get a partner. Meeting people organically is always best and especially when you are young but some of us are past that and so we are trying to find ways to get into a market that is almost unfairly competitive as outsiders..
/r/MensRights08/11/23 01:56 AM
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Well interestingly enough I've had better luck with Bumble than any of the match sites. All of the match.com owned sites I've done very poorly at. I think match harvests way more money off of people.
/r/MensRights08/11/23 01:53 AM
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If you get cold shouldered all the time then how can anyone fault you? There are three hundred pound women getting dates and here average men are struggling hard. And women want to turn the knife and say "oh because you're ugly". Like I'm sorry but when did your average face suddenly start to become so hot, maybe when you shut off men in real life and started selling it on OnlyFans. It's so brave, so so brave of them.
/r/MensRights02/11/23 06:58 AM
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But they all have boyfriends, right? Do you see why they do? Maybe it's not because their boyfriends are so good but the fact that they are the few non toxic western women who are so exceptionally rare.
/r/MensRights02/11/23 06:48 AM
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They could change a few things in my opinion and open up so many more options. They close off so much anymore it's like they dig their own graves. Yeah I get it that there are bad men but seriously does that mean fence yourself off? I don't understand.
/r/MensRights02/11/23 06:45 AM
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It's best to stay away from these subs. They are nothing but bad. Or if you want to compare notes you can do that. It's shocking how my experience mirrors the things they write. Just the behavior, it matches up almost too well. It's kind of eye opening. I literally joined Reddit to see what was going on and I was literally shocked (I still am) to see how many men are having such a terrible time with dating. I was over there thinking something was wrong with me. I was only partially right, most o…
/r/MensRights02/11/23 06:39 AM
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Dating yes. I've made friends with women and I have no problem doing that but when it comes to dating the rules all change. It's smart as a guy to do everything in your power to work on feeling good without needing a partner.
/r/MensRights01/11/23 05:45 PM
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All dating is difficult right now. All of it any way you try it's a people problem. Best to learn how to enjoy your own company at least for me it puts my mind at peace. My buddy went to the club and he's a good looking dude and he was pushed aside so many times it was rough to see. The dude is really getting depressed. He's been stood up so many times ghosted etc. I've been in the same boat. I'm telling him he's not alone at all.
/r/MensRights01/11/23 05:44 PM
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I appreciate the question being asked of all people fairly it is important. Also people should be asked if they are feeling ok and need help. Mental health issues and suicide are skyrocketing. Keep an eye out for each other.
/r/MensRights29/10/23 04:36 AM
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I've only known one woman who would escalate that fast with me lol but I know what you mean. It is a thing. And it's an on off switch like you are either there or you aren't and for me hell I'm not there most of the time. Best you can do is feel good about yourself.
/r/MensRights28/10/23 04:35 AM
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There are always some exceptions no doubt. I'm just speaking from my own experience with various people who I've dated, their histories, body counts, etc. My last girlfriend she said he was bad even though he could "knock it out" and that she "kicked him out of the house". How much you wanna bet she was still seeing him? We never had sex never even kissed. 7 straight dates, nothing. Just a good looking asshole (well supposedly by her admission) who knew where to hit it. I asked her if we were ex…
/r/MensRights27/10/23 10:33 PM
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More so because they don't get with a woman and settle down they just keep going through women like dishtowels. So it puts average women on a rotation. It's ridiculous.
/r/MensRights27/10/23 06:48 PM
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Yeah and if you are an average ordinary guy she's not going to pick you she will keep bunking with hot guy #65 wondering why he doesn't like her or want to settle down.
/r/MensRights27/10/23 06:33 PM
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They hook up with people who are way way above average in terms of attractiveness. For must men you aren't going to enjoy these "privileges". I've seen really unattractive women with super hot dudes. It's really weird. These guys will do anything.
/r/MensRights27/10/23 06:32 PM
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Listen I'm over 30 and everyone goes turtle slow these days. One year ago I was making out with people on second dates. Now it's like "well I kind of see you as a potential right now but I want to go slow". Eventually I just give up. If it's too much to ask to be in an actual relationship then I don't need another friend. I have way too many female friends lol. My buddy is in the dating circles he's experiencing the same thing. Seems like 2/3 of the profiles are "looking to start out slow" and I…
/r/MensRights27/10/23 06:31 PM
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Responding to OP: If you need therapy seek a male therapist. Female therapists won't understand the specifics of your struggle enough to be helpful. As you said they will often be dismissive or off put. You do not want this. You want a supporter not a person who is gonna back away and just gaslight you. Male therapists will identify with these issues far far better. Pretty much every man has had some kind of struggle with relationships now it will certainly vary a lot from man to man but it's fa…
/r/MensRights25/10/23 01:35 AM
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You sound a lot like me honestly I haven't been able to get anything romantic going in my life aside from a handful of dates and I think being on the autism spectrum does that to some of us. It's also a really unfavorable climate right now for people who are a bit socially awkward. You've noticed how people have become very cold and distant. I've noticed the same thing. I think it's better to pivot your thoughts process away from you being broken to the fact that when you get down to it it's rea…
/r/MensRights25/10/23 01:20 AM
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A lot of these women don't understand how to do a relationship at all. They figured out how to have sex and pop kids with a random man who doesn't really care much but that's about it. They still feel owed for everything. It's bonkers. No man is bad for wanting nothing to do with any of it, including casual. You can live a clean well grounded life on your own nobody should convince you otherwise. No posts or instagram stories show the real truth.
/r/MensRights24/10/23 02:53 AM
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Anything that is habit forming or hard on the mind. Anyone who doesn't respect your time and boundaries. Jobs which do not fairly compensate for your efforts. Women who think they own you and you'll do whatever they want. Things that are overpriced or unreliable.
/r/MensRights24/10/23 02:49 AM
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Second to the last one is the answer. Find out who you are and be that person. Society be damned you need an identity. No more cross talking over men.
/r/MensRights22/10/23 03:36 AM
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More of a joke but seriously it's gotten out of hand
/r/MensRights06/10/23 03:27 AM
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I believe women are valuable when they believe they are valuable but only that. When they believe they are invincible now that's where you gotta draw a line. Arrogance is toxic.
/r/MensRights30/09/23 09:51 PM
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Gender morals are very strange. I actually believe it lies in the parts of each gender that have been actually let free by more free thinking agendas and everyone being sex positive what that has done is reversed the roles now men are the sluts. Literally we are the sluts for pleasure (and what that really means, unlike the flipped version, a small handful of men get to be the chosen ones versus the inverse where nearly all women could be chosen in a male dominated society). The funny thing is t…
/r/MensRights30/09/23 07:01 AM
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We are in perhaps the strangest time in history where leggings are designed to lift butts (and women buy them like candy) but men are supposed to be designed to mind their business. People really love being hypocritical. Some days I just wake up and I think about all this and I just laugh really hard because it is that fucking stupid. People on here for the most part are actually speaking facts and logic where the world is "I don't know, just do what I said"
/r/MensRights30/09/23 06:49 AM
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Nobody is immune to this. Exhibit A: Amber Heard v Johnny Depp.
/r/MensRights30/09/23 06:47 AM
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Start tape recording conversations. Lol.
/r/MensRights30/09/23 06:46 AM
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We need to find John Connor
/r/MensRights30/09/23 06:45 AM
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Insanity. You have a duty to ignore this nonsense and be human. Please kindly ask for numbers, make appropriate advances, act interested when you are. Anyone who takes issue with this takes issue with you being a human man, full stop. Because someone cannot deal with being liked and wanted and would like to cascade their tragic past events onto you doesn't need to become your issue as a person who is doing so in a gentlemanlike fashion. I am obviously suggesting you do this tastefully as it shou…
/r/MensRights30/09/23 06:38 AM
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I definitely see it more though. There are low credentialed women getting promoted questionably in a number of professions. It's certainly the inverse glass ceiling. It changed very quickly from heavily biased against women to heavily push women through the glass ceiling by any means. That's actually worse for women in the long run. False credentials and success. Women should be breaking glass ceilings by their own force.
/r/MensRights24/09/23 03:36 AM
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Whatever recognition you get now know with certainty it was earned and not given.
/r/MensRights22/09/23 02:09 AM
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Unfortunately they have to be because it's very toxic I hate for guys to take up an eye for an eye but defense is required and it's unbearably ruthless young men need each other.
/r/MensRights22/09/23 02:06 AM
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My bottom line is for a young man is to be who he wants and stick to it. Don't be talked down to or shamed or belittled stand firm. Don't buy into the hype of the heavily one sided agendas being pushed do what you want and what feels right not what people push if I ever have a boy I will tell him he is his own light that can shine brighter than anything he needs to believe in that light and if I ever have a daughter I want her to understand how her struggles aren't unique and how men have simila…
/r/MensRights22/09/23 02:01 AM
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I don't hate ya a lot of guys here know your struggle and you won't be hated for who you are I can say that.
/r/MensRights22/09/23 01:58 AM
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Yup
/r/MensRights08/08/23 12:39 AM
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Reality is women are many things and pretending all of them are magic is like saying Dahmer is magic because he's a man. Toxic doesn't care about gender...
/r/MensRights05/08/23 01:39 AM
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I'm more neo-con right of center and yeah a lot of us in that camp we absolutely have come back to focusing on helping men find a place. Really just trying to help men be strong and independent and discourage hate.
/r/MensRights05/08/23 01:36 AM
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There are so many shallow platitudes and cliches being thrown around but the bottom line is some men aren't dating because they are not or have not received favorable treatment from women and that goes anywhere from being treated as invisible in society to them (i.e. not being good enough and worthy of their attention) to messing up a dudes life over custody battles. I've been trying to date for the past year. I've been out with 10 different women. Two of them I wanted to keep going with but the…
/r/MensRights04/08/23 03:28 PM
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The most difficult part of dating these days is attracting people honestly who are willing to give attention back. I'd gamble to say a lot of men are sort of invisible that they are in the background of a woman's mind and not the foreground. Her friends, pets, and social media seem to be foreground objects. I've noticed that. Been called handsome, attractive, a good man and then it just dies. Attention spans, very short.. Then of course there is the whole self improvement thing which I will say …
/r/MensRights04/08/23 01:09 AM
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Thing id love to see is a third shift union tradesman happily married to a woman who is the head physician. That's what we need to see. It's more feasible than people want to imagine but standards and what not prevent it. It should be about love and care and not petty things.
/r/MensRights04/08/23 01:04 AM
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There is a lot of talk on this and it's good. It's a big social issue right now. I hope it will add perspective that we aren't these weirdos who never take the right measures as everyone thinks..
/r/MensRights04/08/23 12:54 AM
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Dude I literally did a complete 180 in how much more attractive I got, lost 35 lbs, I'm in the gym all the time, got new clothes, new hair style, I talk to a lot more people and listen I'm still fucking invisible. It's always this toxic dark stereotypical bad guy with the chiseled body he gets like all the women then the rest of us are basically ignored. And femmesplained how we must be incels or we aren't trying enough or we are low effort dudes, etc. It's ridiculous. The standards are just abs…
/r/MensRights03/08/23 02:20 AM
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Exactly that's what I said. Honestly political bias should be thrown out and need to stick to the facts of the case, period.
/r/MensRights02/08/23 07:13 PM
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The courts can make some wacky verdicts either way and so much of it has to do with who is on the bench and what their political affiliations are.
/r/MensRights02/08/23 07:12 PM
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Legalize prostitution. If the state seems to profit from the sale of drugs (cannabis) as a tongue in cheek affair of tax, why stop there. Why penalize men who want access to sex and similarly women who want to earn money. It would level the playing field, believe it. When he can go and pay for it she better shape up, and she will. Sex can no longer be weaponized. I'm telling you this is what will be fought for in the future when the simps start to figure it out that they are missing out by a lon…
/r/MensRights02/08/23 08:04 AM
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Like anything there are varying degrees of disgust. But I think part of it is some men have been bad to them and it propagates this self feeding machine where other women start to talk about what happens to each other and over time it develops into this sort of monster. It's like the gossip wheel just makes unpleasant experiences seem like the norm rather than the exception. Then it starts spreading around and suddenly a few bad men made an entire gender look like villains. I'll tell you one thi…
/r/MensRights02/08/23 07:43 AM
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Wonderful a racist misandrist. Hilarious how she says how the literary canon is "racist" then single handedly includes "white men" in her rant. You can't make this shit up if you tried.
/r/MensRights29/07/23 06:48 PM
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Misandry causes depression. Depression causes suicide. You know honestly what one of the biggest causes depression is? Issues relating to relationships.
/r/MensRights28/07/23 10:34 PM
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Possibly but it depends on a number of things. Trauma and mental health are always going to be issues as a LEO especially if you work in big cities or in precincts with heavy crime. It would not surprise me if some officers need anti anxiety treatment. There is always a breaking point though for sure when they can't do it anymore because it's too much. In that regard I agree. Everything within reason.
/r/MensRights26/07/23 12:35 AM
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I'm worried about how western men will hold up when war happens. I know there are a handful of good men fighting the good fight but man I wonder..
/r/MensRights26/07/23 12:22 AM
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Lol I'm not gonna knock anti depressants they've saved my life. But you wanna talk about something like standards and perception of men I'll hear you out. That's something that isn't directly influenced by mental health but more so by culture and upbringing.
/r/MensRights26/07/23 12:14 AM
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People who are old enough would tell you that yes women would return the favor back in the day. Now people think they are being too nice. No. The difference is back in the day respect was earned not given. And men didn't have to give a thing they earned it. Now men just have to give and give and give and they still earn nothing.
/r/MensRights26/07/23 12:10 AM
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Don't know definitely kids first but for me my impact and future human making is very questionable. I've never found any woman who both of us felt it with each other and I'm not sure if that will change. I'm a different kind of man, very independent, picky about who and what I like. I don't participate heavily in social activities although I do for hobbies. I don't get a level of excitement or am compelled to be with other people that much where it means I'll end up easily finding someone. But w…
/r/MensRights25/07/23 10:16 PM
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You know what? I like this. I honestly think I'm chasing after something that isn't worth it. Something that's actually tearing down my well being, my sense of self-worth. Every other aspects of my life is suffering because I'm diligently working to get women interested in me. I'm asking them out, going places, internet dating, all this for nothing. 10 different people in the last year and nothing went anywhere. I'm exhausted I've lost a lot of self respect. I don't take care of myself the same …
/r/MensRights23/07/23 12:30 AM
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It's harder though I think men have pretty serious cravings for sustained relationships.
/r/MensRights22/07/23 11:58 PM
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I'm also simultaneously enjoying man's innovations so there is that. I'm also a direct part of the innovation being an engineer.
/r/MensRights22/07/23 07:18 PM
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Pretty sure the Japanese have a term for everything they are a wise group!
/r/MensRights22/07/23 07:15 PM
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I know I feel like they show me to their friends and then it dies. Like a woman should just like me and not give a shit what her friends say it's about me and her and not a god damn other person.
/r/MensRights22/07/23 07:12 PM
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It's just a small amount to remove this grumpy looking wrinkle at my nose. /. It's working but it's taking some time.
/r/MensRights22/07/23 07:11 PM
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I know it worries me that as time goes on it's going to get worse for me 💀. I already have lines showing up on my face and I'm nervous about it.
/r/MensRights22/07/23 07:07 PM
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Yeah this is true it's also just a shift in expectations I honestly think social media destroyed people's perception of what works and what doesn't. I think people want the wrong things myself included to a degree but you can't unring that bell...
/r/MensRights22/07/23 07:03 PM
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Well I guess that was a bit harsh what I wanted to say is that it's been a struggle for me and I feel the people I'm attracting aren't like me at all.
/r/MensRights22/07/23 06:41 PM
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6 figures is in the top 18th percentile in my country. Either way I'm not ashamed of that. That means there are a lot making a lot less.
/r/MensRights22/07/23 06:37 PM
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I believe it. So many uncalled for conclusions and automatic bias from people just looking at you. I can't and will never be able to compare my struggle to yours but I'm getting very small tastes of what discrimination is like in society as feminism takes hold even white men are starting to see how culture can make up its mind about you and kill you off. Or unattractive men and how they are treated differently from someone who is attractive. Pretty privilege, etc. These perspectives changed my m…
/r/MensRights22/07/23 02:47 AM
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Yeah you aren't kidding and dude it's worse after COVID. Women are shutting themselves inside. Like you could have a wonderful conversation and then you ask them out and they won't do it. They won't go to a place with thousands of people around just to have coffee. They are too scared. It's ridiculous. What happened to society? Nobody has any balls anymore. Its sad. Also apparently guys can't ask women out outside of if dating apps or some pre-planned thing? It's absurd. Like what kind of coddle…
/r/MensRights22/07/23 02:33 AM
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I always love the footers of these articles. "Stacy (her/it) Stacy is an independent journalist with 5 years of experience. She graduated from national ratass university with a degree in artsy fartsy shit. She frequently attends cultural and civic events with an emphasis on equality and socioeconomic justice. She is divorced and loves spending time with her two exotic cats. She enjoys taking smug slanty smiled selfies in her free time."
/r/MensRights20/07/23 05:53 AM
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Gender equality by canceling men. Excellent.
/r/MensRights20/07/23 05:49 AM
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That and successful men don't need a person with shit for brains lol.
/r/MensRights20/07/23 05:48 AM
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Don't do it. If she liked you she'd probably not care if you did or did not subscribe lol.
/r/MensRights19/07/23 06:48 PM
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So logic doesn't really play into this in case you've already noticed. Because now she's going off and doing more and more promiscuous things and people on her side are just giving her more and more praise and men are just simping more and more for her so it's just absolutely ridiculous it's a self-fulfilling prophecy all of this. I always thought it was so hilarious that the same people that are pushing women in power and women equality and things of that sword are also the same people who have…
/r/MensRights19/07/23 12:51 AM
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At 17 I had very similar thoughts but it was a different time. We are talking about 2006, no smart phones and you went to a bar or club to meet women. I'd get asked out just going to bars lol. But when I turned 18 I joined an engineering academy that was mostly male. Had a few panic attacks from the stress and had to get therapy and medication. Needless to say I stopped giving a shit about dating all I cared about during that time was figuring out how to get my diploma. So I graduated, went off …
/r/MensRights16/07/23 08:02 AM
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Strength in solitude is a good thing. A man who can be ok on his own is a very strong man.
/r/MensRights15/07/23 07:21 PM
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Yeah. Same here. It's why I don't put my **** in stupid
/r/MensRights12/07/23 04:55 AM
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Damn that's cold
/r/MensRights12/07/23 04:53 AM
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There is a way to fix this it's more of getting people out of the post pandemic cocoon. It starts with people doing less with phones more with face to face. The phone and IoT has created an ego centric society. Your phone is like having a personal pocket mirror always handy. It's funny but a lot of us millennials are actually starting to believe the boomers lol..
/r/MensRights12/07/23 04:11 AM
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Damn this is a good read and feels really on point with respect to people I have dated. Seems like an apparent trend, at least from my experience and the terms seem to be well defined. This seems like a problem. Perhaps we need to change things so people are more inclusive rather than exclusive. I think the ego-centered nature of today's youth presents a serious problem. I think by pushing people out and forcing them to integrate horizontally with society rather than remain wrapped up in the pan…
/r/MensRights12/07/23 04:07 AM
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Here's what's interesting. My job pays me as if I have a wife and kids. I'm getting pretty darn close to that two seater I've been eyeing up. Listen if you can't live large with a wife and kids find another way to live, like, for example, all the single unmarried 50 something women with cats, box wine, and designer handbags. I'll take my vacations and that Porsche, thank you very much. If you can't join them, well don't! My coworker spend tens of thousands of dollars on pre k day care. I'm just …
/r/MensRights09/07/23 03:26 AM
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This is written in such a politically correct manner as well that the objections to it expose the vile nature of people, that a man who has boundaries and has expressed them in a respectable fashion, is being seen as the enemy. Our founding fathers were right. Sometimes the truth is self evident.
/r/MensRights09/07/23 03:08 AM
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A woman willing to understand a man's struggle is a woman worth keeping. Many times they want us to be their pillow but rarely can that be a mutual understanding.
/r/MensRights09/07/23 03:04 AM
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Well what you are saying just further reinforces what I said. Pivot away from people who treat you poorly, anyone who does that and I don't care how many people it may be you deserve better. You have to find people with compassion. They are out there but you are seeing the nasty parts of the world. Don't let that define you.
/r/MensRights08/07/23 11:53 PM
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As long as you know what you're up against because it's a hard struggle, at least it has been for me. I'm glad I didn't know it was as bad as it has been or I'd never have tried. However with that being said knowing the difficulties going in and how to stay in the right mindset is huge. The hardest part, perhaps, is reminding yourself that you're not other people and whatever success they have has nothing to do with you. But you sit and watch them do their lives with their loved one as you try a…
/r/MensRights08/07/23 11:29 PM
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Well dump or ghost I had one person basically dumped me after a date because she said she found someone else and then most everyone else either ghosted or I didn't find compatibility with them so I moved on. But I just went through a whole bunch of different people. I'm definitely not a 10 out of 10 I'm probably like a six on a good day. But a six is really tough even today you got to be in the 7 or above category to keep people interested in you and not go flaking out looking for other better l…
/r/MensRights08/07/23 07:46 PM
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I've had a similar experience. And it's not like I can't attract women, I've had my fair share. I've been on 10 dates in the past year and nothing stuck. Met people in various ways most from online dating, some from friend referrals. Dates seem to go well then poof they just lose interest or find someone else. It's like being on a never ending cycle of dating, getting ghosted, trying to resurrect your well being, over and over and it's harmful to the mind. Yeah I was happier when I didn't care b…
/r/MensRights08/07/23 04:35 PM
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Yeah that's been my experience, I've been on lots of dates like 10 in the past year. Things seem to go well then they just dump you. It's pretty bad actually and it starts to weigh on you. My parents are like "you'll find someone eventually" and I'm like yeah maybe? But you get the same things happening a lot. You realize it's just a people problem and not necessarily you under delivering. My psychiatrist says he's got lots of patients going through the same thing with dating and that it's reall…
/r/MensRights08/07/23 04:27 PM
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Bro step back and realize the world cares about the wrong things and you'll be a changed man. That's all I'm going to say. A penis. Yeah, what a really stupid thing to care about. And as time goes on the amount of shit people claim to care about gets more and more messed up. We're going back into some neanderthal existence with jaw lines dick sizes, BMI, body fat percentages and all the other surface garbage, etc. It's just really stupid. How many people honestly are going into the gym just for …
/r/MensRights08/07/23 07:13 AM
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He has rockstar hair or hockey hair. He man hair doesn't sound right haha. I had longer hair more of a shag haircut in high school. The privilege thing wait till he starts dating then he will see it even more. As he gets older and his body changes the hair won't do the same thing. He will look like a rock star type more and the vibe towards him will change. But yeah people tend to be nicer towards women. Don't know why because dudes are cool too? Anyways teach him how to be strong and proud and …
/r/MensRights08/07/23 06:19 AM
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You tell that person they can keep drinking their dog shit in a lot coffee while you enjoy a drink of a gentleman who has actual taste and class. You think Ricardo the Italian dude doing her is drinking cheap ass coffee. Yeah didn't think so.. 🤌🖕
/r/MensRights07/07/23 12:08 AM
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Because I've never had a long term relationship
/r/MensRights07/07/23 12:06 AM
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I'll add a specific example that just happened to me. Someone who was divorced asked me if I have had any long term relationships before. I've never had any long term relationships because I spent my youth in school and working up the career ladder. To my surprise she stopped talking to me. It's really unbelievable and unfair how people are measuring men up when it comes to dating.
/r/MensRights06/07/23 06:33 PM
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I'll add a specific example that just happened to me. Someone who was divorced asked me if I have had any long term relationships before. I've never had any long term relationships because I spent my youth in school and working up the career ladder. To my surprise she stopped talking to me. It's really unbelievable and unfair how people are measuring men up when it comes to dating.
/r/MensRights06/07/23 06:33 PM
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It's not even the fact that it's a fairy tale it's one that warps minds in a really bad direction. It creates a very unstable society where power struggle is pronounced. Hell more pronounced than it already is. Lord knows many of us are already competing with men now we gotta compete against women that's more bs to bear.
/r/MensRights06/07/23 04:36 AM
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I think things are different now I think there was more male privilege in the past but right now it's really swinging the other way. It's been an evolving process. I think perhaps in the 90s and early 2000s things were more equal but where things really went off the rails was when social media and smart phones took off. They've been the most damaging thing.
/r/MensRights06/07/23 04:33 AM
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Well it definitely is but I think some things will get better as you get older the only one that is really difficult is dating, relationships, and marriage. Apart from that just generally being social it isn't as bad as school once people grow up. But the privilege thing it continues to rear it's head throughout adulthood when it comes to dating. Women have so many options these days that a handful of men are off to the side with nothing, no dates, no advances, constant rejection, as if they are…
/r/MensRights05/07/23 08:37 PM
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I've heard the UK is very bad and honestly I'm not surprised for years it has been a highly gossipy culture with tightly knit groups of women. So these concepts of entitlement and feminism brew in the perfect storm.
/r/MensRights04/07/23 06:53 AM
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If you are talking about everything except for dating I agree. Dating/relationships is a very different animal. Because, in theory, they are optional, the balancing rules you speak of do not apply in the same fashion. Still your last about men not needing to do anything is valid. Men choosing to not partake is not a bad option. Inevitably there will be lots of single men and single women. And there will be men who have lots of sex and men who have little. This is just what happens with this. The…
/r/MensRights04/07/23 06:35 AM
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Nope because then by the time the woman realizes it she's all burned up and over it.
/r/MensRights04/07/23 06:32 AM
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Yes. Empathy or ability to consider small setbacks is non-existent. Boils down to one thing: selfishness. This is the most selfish generation of people IN HUMAN HISTORY.
/r/MensRights04/07/23 06:28 AM
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Men ARE leveling up. Look at how much gym attendance has gone up. Look at how many men are going out and getting better haircuts, change of wardrobe, visiting events, spending more time with people in public, etc. Not working because it's not the issue! The issue is women want something that is in incredibly short supply. They are looking to hit some kind of genetic and socioeconomical jackpot.
/r/MensRights04/07/23 06:25 AM
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This is exactly correct I could not have said it better. Imagine if the odds were even 10-15% higher for most men how different it would be but they just aren't! The amount of effort I've put into dating is like having a second job. And I watch how little I get back for my effort and I feel robbed. I'm dating my 9th person this year. I have had a total of 15 dates, two kisses/makeouts and zero sexual intercourse. None! And I have spent thousands on dates, dating events, online dating, car and ho…
/r/MensRights04/07/23 06:16 AM
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Honestly it's no longer a cope but an adaptation to circumstances. If women are truly going to continuously date up into outer space there will be few men who can actually reach those heights. The bottom line will always be, from a man's perspective, is the one the man determines is reasonable for him. In this case deciding not to participate in this contest he loses one thing but gains much more. He gets his mind back. His freedom. His comfort. The people who claim it's all in the man haven't l…
/r/MensRights04/07/23 06:10 AM
1

I don't think so as much as they dislike a fair percentage of men at the end of the day they still have cravings for Chad.
/r/MensRights30/06/23 10:53 PM
1

Haha no way dude I'm 35
/r/MensRights21/06/23 10:44 PM
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My dude, You are a life trooper, like you should get an award for being tough. Your mind has hurt you in many ways and you definitely need to find yourself. Your mind let a terrible person walk all over you and that was so unfair. I'm glad to hear you are back in your meds and doing everything you can to just enjoy the hell out of life. You gained perspective. The hookups or halfway nuts women you run into for easy sex is not worth the hassle, know when your shit counts first and it always count…
/r/MensRights20/06/23 05:37 PM
3

Incel that's the new buzz word isn't it? What a terrible thing to label people. It's this new drastically reaching term describing men who haven't had success in their love life. It's gone from toxic level men to now including men who don't agree with mainstream female viewpoints. Secretly there is a part of me that has inner peace in not trying so hard recently to find a partner it's just hard to see past all this. It's everywhere. There is this overpowering sense of entitlement I'm seeing and …
/r/MensRights17/06/23 07:34 AM
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Humor yeah but pretty privilege is a toxic thing in men and women especially those who don't have it it's actually become a really bad thing for both genders. I think it's worse in many ways for men they are less likely to have intimacy.
/r/MensRights17/06/23 03:42 AM
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I hate when people use that term because it's extended to include a lot of men and has been seen as this really bad condition. The truth is that as a man dating has never been easy and these days men have to bring a lot more than income and personality to the table. They have to be good looking, in great shape, and many other things. So think of it this way the number of men who could be categorically "incels" is on the rise just because the competition to be in the playing field for dating is t…
/r/MensRights15/06/23 06:16 PM
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I wanted to leave this here it's a reflection of my faith, disregard if you disagree but I think it serves a purpose here "But the LORD said to Samuel, "Do not consider his appearance or his height, for I have rejected him. The LORD does not look at the things man looks at. Man looks at the outward appearance, but the LORD looks at the heart." 1 Samuel 16 May he lie in heaven where he is seen and loved for his heart. May all the men who have struggled to be accepted by their potential suitors be…
/r/MensRights31/05/23 01:17 AM
1

I'll just respond to what you said, it is an issue that people are constantly sexually seeking physically attractive men and that unattractive men have very slim odds. I will add I think it's very important for men to recognize the shallowness in this and realize that it's not really a great thing. Men shouldn't put any value in how many partners they've had, if they have ever lost their virginity, or in how they are viewed as attractive or unattractive. Things have certainly shifted where it's …
/r/MensRights30/05/23 01:11 AM
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Right I was just pointing out my own stumbling blocks
/r/MensRights25/05/23 09:22 PM
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We know there are good women out there we are not talking about you. Mostly certain western women who have really gone off the rails in what they expect from men. Don't feel bad for being different perhaps you are a reasonable person in a world that lacks reason. Women are not disgusting creatures. They are amazing in every way. What is disgusting is what they have been taught and how western society has sculpted them.
/r/MensRights25/05/23 08:58 PM
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To a certain extent yes. If you are talking about dating they can pick. They don't have to make the advance. That's s privilege. But on the flip side they get too much thirst sometimes. I think the current trends have given women a lot more safe spaces and leverage / opportunity for advancement. So generally I'd say yes there is some privilege.
/r/MensRights25/05/23 08:55 PM
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Possibly. It will be difficult for a number of men they will need to answer some difficult questions on how to deal with this. It does take an emotional toll.
/r/MensRights24/05/23 04:50 PM
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I was thinking brothel route in that case I think it's more or less an agreed upon price. But idk I have time hypothetically you can do that when you please. I consider it a last resort and honestly I'm not necessarily compelled to do it any time immediately.
/r/MensRights24/05/23 04:49 PM
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Exactly, I like women it's just how I naturally feel. I'm not really sure what's going to happen I'm still finding my way through the dating scene but it is definitely a nightmare and at the end of the day it is nice to shrug and say "well I'm trying". There is definitely some peace in saying it's fine if it's not working for me.
/r/MensRights24/05/23 02:39 PM
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Maybe.. I do think there is something a bit different though. Some of my buddies are not attractive at all yet it worked out for them. But that could just be halo effect. To be fair my whole life I've tried hard to become more attractive and to date but it's been awful. I'm still a virgin at 35 like I'm seriously thinking about going to Vegas and getting a pro. It's not even that just how many failed attempts I've had and I'm trying to figure it all out. It's been a mess for me. I don't even kno…
/r/MensRights24/05/23 05:49 AM
5

You mean the male to female distributions?
/r/MensRights24/05/23 05:10 AM
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It's true but one of the more predominant ways people in the 2010s met their significant other. Half of my friends met their wife or long term girlfriend using these apps. Now in the 20s it is collapsing and isn't the same as it once was. The female user base is leaving and men are still circling the platforms. In addition post pandemic behavioral habits for going out and interacting in public are vastly different.
/r/MensRights24/05/23 03:51 AM
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And I'll add straight men are unbelievably lonely and having a terrible time connecting with female counterparts despite their best efforts. I'm willing to believe the male suicide rate will continue to climb as more men find they cannot even enter into a healthy relationship with a woman. We have to remember men do have needs for intimacy and yes it is extremely bad for some men to lack a counterpart to have a deep intimate connection with. Why the hell is OnlyFans so successful? Well because t…
/r/MensRights24/05/23 02:54 AM
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I'm a Christian man and if I ever had a boy I would leave it. There is no need to use it as an identifying mark that was the only reason Christians and Jews did it. And I seriously doubt God cares in fact I'd argue we are his design so leave what he made. I'm circumcized but wish I wasn't. I'm thankful though the doctor only took a little bit off so I still have a decent amount of foreskin.
/r/MensRights18/05/23 05:05 AM
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I just read this as whatever was convenient in the moment. Honestly she could ask you to not wrap it up because it feels better then abort the baby later because it's inconvenient or decide nah I like the kid.. I just read this whole thing as people making irresponsible decisions and keeping a get out of jail free card. I think people honestly need to heavily reconsider what sex means. We live in a society having sex all the time but nobody ever really thinks about what it does. 5 minutes to a f…
/r/MensRights14/05/23 08:04 PM
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If you buy into this they have already gotten to you sir. You've been infected. A man needs to heal for himself and nobody else, no woman, absolutely nobody. And if you believe in this garbage they will walk over your self worth and laugh at you while doing it.
/r/MensRights12/05/23 04:21 AM
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Just hold your ground everyone wants to pretend they can take things away from us until they realize we men have been taking things since the beginning of time. We were the real fighters and we still are.
/r/MensRights12/05/23 04:17 AM
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Being actual humans, what a crisis!
/r/MensRights12/05/23 04:14 AM
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Also men are allowed to be unhappy. Unhappy is ok, unhappy is a human emotion. You don't need to be happy all the time, and, other people can help other unhappy people be happy. What a novel idea! The amount of toxicity in the air these days my god.
/r/MensRights12/05/23 04:09 AM
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It sounds like you wrote about the internet in it's early days, when those who were skilled enough at a computer were on it. The late 90s instant message sessions filled my childhood. It was an incredible place. I feel like an old man telling a sad story about what happened to his old neighborhood that got run over by drug Lords. Shit you might as well call me Clint Eastwood and buy me a Gran Torino.
/r/MensRights05/05/23 04:26 AM
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You mean it gets run into the ground? I like the platform lol. I honestly think Elon bought it just to kill it. He literally didn't even give a shit lol.
/r/MensRights05/05/23 04:23 AM
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As a moderate who borrows his personal ideologies from both conservative and liberal ideas (I consider myself socially liberal, conservative in terms of business, economics, and government practice), I'm considered a threat to them lol. People in politics etc are rapidly swarming to the left. The right wing is dying. It's not great even if you hate the right it's still a balancing quantity. If the right gets too weak everything will go so heavily one direction that our founding fathers will roll…
/r/MensRights05/05/23 04:15 AM
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Short answer is that's why we are here and actually we are one way that the platform can be helpful.
/r/MensRights05/05/23 04:11 AM
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Sad state of affairs yeah. I think you did the right thing though it pains me to say this.
/r/MensRights20/04/23 05:54 PM
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I'm so tired of chasing people being the odd one out never having a bite at the apple, feeling excluded, etc. It's endless disappointment. I just want to know what it's like to be loved. I'll never understand why it's easy for some men and so hard for others. I've put in a lot of effort asked lots of people out, online dating apps, gym, nothing. Zip zilch. Everything I've ever had in life came from hard work. It sucks dating never works like that.
/r/MensRights17/04/23 09:43 PM
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I'm shocked to find something like this it just shows me how messed up some people are. Yeah I feel there are a certain percentage of women out there like this not all but just be careful guys.
/r/MensRights17/04/23 04:32 PM
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I'm looking for quality women. If I smell any chance that they will be unfaithful or cruel or have no empathy towards people then I'm out. It's another form of going your own way. It's basically don't settle for broken. Lots of broken people out there best to be true to yourself.
/r/MensRights17/04/23 04:20 PM
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It's not how it was. Things have changed but men can still be as strong as they ever have as long as they choose to. Men are gathering together we are supporting each other. Society can try to silence us but we have always been needed. People who refuse to recognize that are part of the problem, not the solution. Men have a duty to be self respecting. To seek QUALITY partners not users. To invest in their well being. To be the strength that we were born with.
/r/MensRights15/04/23 09:25 PM
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Show them what men were. Show them the people who built this country. Tell them the real truth about men. Tell them about the guys overseas fighting for freedom. Tell them about the guys up at 3am fixing the pipes under the streets. Tell them about the men who devoted their dreams to going to the moon, to take one small step and a giant leap. Don't let them forget history. As much as people try to smear it it is an absolute truth.
/r/MensRights15/04/23 05:34 AM
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The right window is the correct advice for both genders. Period.
/r/MensRights15/04/23 05:31 AM
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This is a common theme though like how many relationships are like this because it's all one sided. It's kind of why you have to recognize being single isn't a terrible thing.
/r/MensRights14/04/23 05:58 PM
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Ok I've been on Reddit for like 8 months roughly and this is the most beautifully written post I have ever read. Like I never once had to reread what you wrote it made perfect sense and it's so real. Your insight is appreciated so much. I'm likely on the right path but just need to stay grounded in what I know. Everything that has happened so far has taught me so much about exactly what I was oblivious to. Only when I started taking this as seriously as I do now do I fully recognize the true com…
/r/MensRights14/04/23 04:35 AM
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Weird. If it was I have no notification of this being the case.
/r/MensRights14/04/23 03:02 AM
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If she thinks raising a son is gross wait till she tries raising a daughter. She has literally no idea. Unfit to be a parent.
/r/MensRights14/04/23 02:39 AM
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We get it, you hate men. Her father shouldn't have existed based on her logic. Some gross little monster it's his fault clearly
/r/MensRights14/04/23 02:38 AM
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I still see it?
/r/MensRights14/04/23 02:33 AM
2

I always say the best kind of manager is the kind of manager who would sign the checks while gladly pushing the mop without one complaint.
/r/MensRights14/04/23 01:11 AM
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Sometimes though I just want the routine part because I get tired of chasing things around so boring is sometimes worth it.
/r/MensRights14/04/23 12:51 AM
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Yeah I agree with you actually and the bot made my day as corny as it is ha
/r/MensRights14/04/23 12:40 AM
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Good bot
/r/MensRights14/04/23 12:39 AM
2

Not all of us are the problem sometimes it's just other people being difficult. Easy to cast blame on yourself when you look at people and realize they are also a part.
/r/MensRights13/04/23 10:23 PM
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Oh for sure
/r/MensRights13/04/23 10:20 PM
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Incels (I hate this term more and more) are lonely depressed men who likely have a lot of trauma with regards to dating or companionship. Many incels have struggled with Social Anxiety Have been bullied in the past have been considered unfit or unattractive Have been unexpected dumped or cheated on Have been ridiculed by women either verbally or physically Have never heard yes, only no Have been strung along Have been taken advantage of Have had crippling issues which people cannot get past Are …
/r/MensRights13/04/23 08:55 PM
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It's yet another issue becoming more common and instead of support or a tiny bit of empathy that people are struggling we get force fed the same bullshit about "you need to do better, or more confidence, etc.". For some of us it's a really difficult situation that requires an intense pivot in our lives and or learning how to adapt and deal with the struggle. The amount of oversimplification and lack of thought as to why we struggle is nauseating. There are a lot of really sad dudes out there get…
/r/MensRights13/04/23 08:47 PM
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Agreed but in his defense sometimes there are no easy answers to anything and being able to cope in a healthy way is actually a good answer. Try to solve whatever it is but realistically doing things to change your state of mind is very important.
/r/MensRights13/04/23 08:39 PM
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I haven't had a particularly great time I can say that. But for many reasons and I've been unbelievably close to having something stick so many times only for them to either have found greener pastures or just leave me strung out.
/r/MensRights13/04/23 08:36 PM
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It's strange because it's selective. The hot guy can say whatever he wants but the unattractive dude is a creep for being friendly. Lol.
/r/MensRights13/04/23 07:44 PM
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Wouldn't it be nice if she said something like "I like to look nice and guys like it so it's fun. Some guys are creepy and I avoid them but I enjoy lighting up the room and being friendly with people. I've met some really interesting people in my work. If I can make someone smile then it's a win." There is no sense of entitlement whatsoever in that but it's someone genuinely being friendly.
/r/MensRights13/04/23 07:41 PM
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Working is important to your self worth, it's one thing being a man has always been known for and honestly it's in the DNA. Working is good.
/r/MensRights13/04/23 07:35 PM
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I've been working on myself this whole time I've been trying to date but getting rid of OF was stripping away something that was just making me bitter. Bitter because I kept asking myself two things (controversial opinion here but best with me,) Why do I feel I need to pay for attention from hot women? This does nothing to change their opinion of me which is exactly what I wish to change. Money can't make them actually like me for who I am including whatever flaws I have Why am I feeding the sam…
/r/MensRights13/04/23 07:08 PM
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It's the interaction part that draws people in. It's not good though that's why I got rid of it because it's not genuine it's just people looking for money. I thought maybe there would be more to that but then it's just constant messages like buy this, buy that, on and on and it felt really shitty. If anything just finding a better place to talk to attractive people without this constant nagging would be desirable. But it's a deeper thing I have I don't know. I've always thought highly of myself…
/r/MensRights13/04/23 05:56 PM
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Haha you guys are awesome this is making me laugh, I needed this. I think such a thing exists it's called Discord and I'm in a few gaming ones for sim racing and motorsports. It's my Monday night binge.
/r/MensRights13/04/23 05:31 PM
2

Haha that's funny yes but I'm left handed and I work out 😜
/r/MensRights13/04/23 03:41 PM
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I don't like leaving my work on "read" haha
/r/MensRights13/04/23 02:46 AM
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I think what it means is that clump of 5% or 10% men are going to be making all of the kids, particularly of modern westernists those who were born and raised through their whole existence by being brought up in it from birth. It's the "queen bee" thing she picks the top, the rest just are there to be there, to live out their lives serving a different purpose. It's very primal, not very admirable for an evolved species that humans are supposed to be. But there could be a drastic shift in the fut…
/r/MensRights11/04/23 05:54 AM
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It's more of dating people at older ages. What I have noticed is that women who are single at older ages have had failed previous relationships (for any number of reasons) or they have been far too selective. So what that means as a man is they are going to be extra picky. It's better to take a chance when you are younger. By the time you are in your 30s few good options are left, at least it seems that way. That's my take on it. In general, yes pickiness is on the rise. Best to take care of you…
/r/MensRights09/04/23 07:34 AM
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I applaud you for your attitude I think that will help you be attractive by not being needy and just overall confident with your life.
/r/MensRights03/04/23 05:41 PM
1

It's pretty crazy actually how men are actually switching teams and dating men because it's been bad for them. I do not recommend this unless you absolutely have feelings for men. But you are right about that. So many choices in men few in women. I'm 100% straight I have zero interest in men so I just have to be patient.
/r/MensRights03/04/23 04:04 PM
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Yeah I didn't want to post on the forum stuff because it's kind of private but you are right and what's really remarkable to me is actually how women much actually really like you but they need a little bit more to actually come out and say it
/r/MensRights02/04/23 10:21 PM
1

Check your DM's
/r/MensRights02/04/23 10:20 PM
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Thanks you to!. Lots of people who have put in effort to be better people and to be available and willing to commit they really do in my mind almost deserve partners or at least need to find ways to show that to people who really are looking for that so they can see each other and be together. There are a lot of people who I think are looking for that.
/r/MensRights02/04/23 07:49 PM
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I'm sort of in the same boat due to being unsuccessful. But I really desire to have someone else in my life it's a part of life I've never experienced and I think it's important for me to do so for them and me.
/r/MensRights02/04/23 07:42 PM
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Yeah understandable. Imagine a dude in my position struggling for different reasons like I've redone my profile several times and it's been unbelievably slow. You just sit there like a few women a night and it just sits there empty with nothing in it. And you'll engage with someone and it just gradually fizzles out even before the date. People who are online maybe only a third of them are actually ready to date. Which is the other problem, getting an actual date set up where they show up. Just s…
/r/MensRights02/04/23 07:32 PM
3

That and a really sharp profile which is really difficult to get right.
/r/MensRights02/04/23 07:23 PM
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That's really shitty to hear like I don't know why guys do that but just block them. There are better guys on the platform but unfortunately it's going to take a lot of sorting on your end. I've never ever said anything even remotely close to what that man said I cannot even imagine. Keep at it, we all are. Guys often get too little matches women get too many.
/r/MensRights02/04/23 07:22 PM
1

Yep and guys are afraid to interact with women, I kind of know why lol.
/r/MensRights02/04/23 07:14 PM
3

Doesn't that drive you nuts that a few bucks suddenly changes everything?: Like I have actually made people on there laugh and joke around with me they gave me lots of free shit even like why is there this barrier that surrounds decent dudes from finding women? Why are they barricading themselves with walls built of feminism and only fans? Why do we live in this world where pretty privilege offsets a man from having a decent shot I just don't get it anymore. Are we all living behind a fucking pa…
/r/MensRights01/04/23 04:54 AM
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Ignore it, be strong, approach her, do not be afraid to be a man. Even if people don't like it you need to play your role. Every woman deep down beyond the depths of the feminism and all that, still wants a man. Just don't be fooled. They are all hopping on top of Chad while shaming you, don't ignore the truth. They want a man and this Chad dude he's probably a man at his core he just looks really good and his pretty privilege is the only thing that melts the shell of feminism off of women. But …
/r/MensRights31/03/23 11:48 PM
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It's everywhere though. Like literally everyone who is available at my age of 35, believes in that nonsense. So I'm probably indefinitely single until I can find someone who values me enough to do her part. It may never happen. Hell I think part of the problem is this mentality is rampant in the cities I wonder if out in the country women value work and effort over petty nonsense. But that's like running marathons between farm fields looking for a needle in a haystack.
/r/MensRights31/03/23 04:29 AM
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Anyone who thinks that is wrong. The truth is they don't owe a man anything if they are not in a relationship with that man! If he puts up effort and she doesn't match it then she doesn't deserve to have a relationship with him. Period, end of story. No entitlement is allowed either way both people have to pull weight. It's how it was with our parents, and their parents, and their parents etc. This half assed shit isn't going to fly.
/r/MensRights31/03/23 04:26 AM
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Also true in context men often give up a lot just to make it work. The relationships that do work don't do that. It's more of two people just thinking they are cool together and they work it out. That's how my parents were. It looks nothing like any relationship I've had even though mine have been very short. Everything was or was going to being one sided. I'm hoping that will change but I don't count on it.
/r/MensRights30/03/23 04:18 AM
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Agreed we do have choice still you can call it off at any point, even before it starts. Thank god for that.
/r/MensRights30/03/23 04:08 AM
2

Never heard of her.
/r/MensRights29/03/23 05:01 PM
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Not the last I'm sure of it. Kids have so much peer pressure and hardship these days I feel bad for them. A toxic culture of who is prettier and who has the best Instagram. The public humiliation shaming with videos and behind the scenes internet bullying. They are lashing out because they feel hopeless and lost. It's really bad.
/r/MensRights28/03/23 01:30 PM
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Honestly it's like one of like 2 or 3 things I'm looking for. I really don't expect that much honestly
/r/MensRights27/03/23 08:00 PM
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What are men doing about this I mean I'm starting to see that the window of opportunity is kind of closing in if dating is realistic or not for me. I'm not super attractive, people definitely want someone handsome, and convincing someone you have what it takes to be a good partner, good grief. My fear is for men who are going to fall out of this window of acceptance how will that impact how they live without having much if any connections with women on a romantic level? How will men adapt to thi…
/r/MensRights26/03/23 08:35 AM
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Med equipment is what's insane they charge so much. My dad is a dentist and he keeps having to raise his prices because of equipment overhead it's insane.
/r/MensRights26/03/23 05:23 AM
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I am a Christian it was not how it was in my case. We never pushed any agendas we tried to embrace and help people who needed help. I worked nights at soup kitchens. These people, many of them men had nothing That's why I'm appauled at the generalizations being made here I really am. Don't you dare generalize.
/r/MensRights26/03/23 02:02 AM
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I'm amazed at all the hate. Christian groups have been some of the best advocates of men. The fact that I'm getting so many downvotes is striking to me considering this is a men's rights group.
/r/MensRights26/03/23 01:19 AM
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Tolerance is important, this is a rather hateful approach. Nobody is a saint but generalizing people because of their religion, that's the definition of hate.
/r/MensRights25/03/23 11:48 PM
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I can't stand him he also shits on Christianity. I don't mind people being atheists or agnostic but the fact that he mocks and belittles that's where I draw the line. It's like our version of anti semitism or the generalized hate of people of Muslim faith. It's toxic.
/r/MensRights25/03/23 11:36 PM
2

And shit look at all of us second guessing ourselves we're being pulled into this mess.
/r/MensRights24/03/23 07:00 AM
3

Realize this same lack of self worth is driving narcissistism. If everyone believes they are unattractive then they will move heaven and earth to be more attractive which also means they begin to feel privileged which means that men have to be as stunning as they are. It's all one big problem feeding another.
/r/MensRights24/03/23 06:57 AM
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I'll tell you how bad this is my mom is not on social media all she does is watch TV (she's a moderately liberal 71 year old woman!) and she keeps saying "why are girls going so crazy over these guys that look like drug addicts and treat them like shit back in my time these dudes would never ever be dating the caliber of girls they are dating" and I said it's scary you notice that because you aren't even connected in the internet loop. She also even knew about women who are now sleeping with eac…
/r/MensRights24/03/23 06:42 AM
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So they are now going bi with each other? My god. I don't have anything against bi people but wives doing this to each other you have to be kidding me.
/r/MensRights24/03/23 06:35 AM
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If there was something other than the obvious things like praying for peace and health of people in the world the one thing I pray for the most is empathy. It's dying and it's making people unaccepting. The general lack of empathy is brewing all of these issues more than any single thing. You ever heard the song "don't worry baby" by the beach boys? That's how it used to be in the 1960s. That type of thinking is dead and gone. You aren't allowed to have flaws.
/r/MensRights24/03/23 06:21 AM
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Yeah you are right about that. I think the argument is always "you need to do better" in the same sense as if I walked up to a stranger on the street and proclaimed "you're not a real woman, you're an incel. You need to do better like Gal Gadot does then you will be a successful dater.". It's really fucked up. I don't really know what happened but things are very messy folks. Take all measures to preserve your mental well being it matters more now than ever. This is no longer a game of the man w…
/r/MensRights24/03/23 06:06 AM
2

Like it or not but guys brains are just wired different the way we think we need to be attractive often isn't. Sometimes it's the opposite.
/r/MensRights24/03/23 04:08 AM
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All good points and I have taken these points into my life. It's a struggle still. Being good being single is generally a good look actually. The needy thing never really works. Fine line between I'm considering you and I need you.
/r/MensRights24/03/23 03:02 AM
14

Even better, that was phase one of the shit storm. Phase II was 2019. Well thinking about it probably around maybe 2012 just after you met is when things started getting dark.
/r/MensRights24/03/23 02:44 AM
5

So here's the way I see it. There exists two separate containers full of men, by default and like it or not this is the truth. There are containers with men who are attractive and have the time and patience to be "good enough" to partner and then there are containers where men miss even to the slightest degree any one thing of the first container. This is the reality of today. There used to be like five or six containers and often women would be open to picking from the other containers but righ…
/r/MensRights24/03/23 02:41 AM
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If you met on eHarmony that means you met your wife before the internet and society decided to take a massive shit circa 2019.
/r/MensRights24/03/23 02:36 AM
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I call it crucifixion by means of internet. It's the same as time of Christ, same exact thing.
/r/MensRights18/03/23 07:43 PM
3

I agree, honestly it's one thing I look at with dating and I realize just how cold things have become. Lawsuits are a tough one especially if it's against an internet company but I totally get what you are doing and why you are doing it. Stay strong brother I'm with you on this and I get how things are.
/r/MensRights18/03/23 07:39 PM
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Either that or they feel empowered by ganging up on men. It's toxic behavior.
/r/MensRights18/03/23 07:36 PM
4

Body positivity= men and women get in the best shape you can and stop encouraging each other that unhealthy is ok. That's body positivity, how it needs to be. The weak die. Don't be weak.
/r/MensRights11/03/23 10:31 PM
4

I think it depends on why he did it more than if he did or did not. I approve of kindness in any way but if he was hoping to get the women's attention by doing that I'm not sure that's a great approach. I'm definitely not going to ask a person to get up who is on crutches I know that and I'm going to make space for them regardless if it's a man or a woman.
/r/MensRights11/03/23 11:17 AM
2

Haha well you don't need to tell me that. I gave up my 20s to land myself in the job I'm in right now. I'm a Senior level engineer with a six figure salary, no debt, I work out 3 days per week, I am active with hobbies and interests, but guess what? I'm not close enough to being Brad Pitt so I'm overlooked. All that nonsense about working hard, getting a good career, etc and you'll have no problem getting a wife if you put yourself out there. All of it is now completely false and doesn't mean an…
/r/MensRights10/03/23 08:59 PM
2

Oh my God that is so bad thank you for at least giving me another reason to not sweat being single. I can't even imagine that's so terrible. If there is a heaven your BIL is going there I'm sure of it. So many good men out there who have found toxic relationships.
/r/MensRights10/03/23 08:44 PM
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Depends, if the guy looks good he can get a lot more without money. When you mean average you have to extend that to average looking dudes.
/r/MensRights10/03/23 08:41 PM
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Men aren't stupid, some struggle with attraction and that's what causes desperation. These guys "simping" are in the desperation phase. Some of these guys that's all they have either figure out some way to keep interest or go without a relationship at all. Women are inevitably the gate keepers and sometimes those gates won't open even as much as some guys try.
/r/MensRights10/03/23 08:37 PM
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Yeah Reddit and the internet in general seem to be places that have very strong feminist and radical left agendas. I think it might be helpful honestly to only go to certain places like this forum for advice and try to avoid the internet in general because it is becoming very toxic. I don't even see this as radical right or whatever labels people want to apply I just see it as neutral zone for guys issues. And people have been the most respectful on here than anywhere else it's actually refreshi…
/r/MensRights10/03/23 06:21 AM
4

Stroke of Genius
/r/MensRights09/03/23 05:06 AM
1

I will say although there has been a great deal of toxicity lately in our culture with regards to women and men I am however thankful for the contributions women have made to society and that they have been afforded privileges that all humans should have. Yes there are some things that I disagree with especially in more of the present social culture but I know some good women in my life and I am thankful for them and the things they do. I do believe in the past women were treated especially unfa…
/r/MensRights09/03/23 12:28 AM
1

He probably isn't but thank god he's busy enough where he doesn't have to think about that too much.
/r/MensRights08/03/23 05:19 AM
1

I think before you do that you need to just become the best single version of yourself. I think you'll find dating right now for a hetero man is really rough. You will be trying to hit insanely high standards. I'm not discouraging you from doing it but I think accepting failure will be a major deciding factor. Like if you can try and deal with failure over and over and over again then you probably are cut out for it. But it might be too much and I think right now you aren't quite ready for it ye…
/r/MensRights07/03/23 09:25 PM
1

Yep you said it before I did and I agree.
/r/MensRights06/03/23 07:46 PM
1

It's a heated topic I can say that. Even the definition of single is up for discussion although I think PEW made it fairly broad. Most have already mentioned the main points I think it's possible people are hooking up with the same men and hookups are considered in a different light between men and women which changes their definition of single. The clump of guys sort of rotating through different women doesn't seem terribly outlandish but many women challenge it.
/r/MensRights06/03/23 07:45 PM
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I've always known the difficulties you speak of to be true. But I'm stubborn enough to try I suppose. There is usually something you give up or sometimes a few things. Question is a balance of worth. Did you get what you wanted and was it worth what you gave up? For you it sounds like you gave up way too much for it to be of benefit for you and that's a perfectly valid consensus to make.
/r/MensRights06/03/23 12:32 AM
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I don't think either of us has had real love but I know it's out there. Finding it is tremendously difficult. I know there are women who can love a man for who he is. I know it seems like a needle in a haystack. But I know it can happen. Being older in the dating market you are sifting through a sea of people who remain single due to uncompromising and somewhat unrealistic standards. I am looking for a person who isn't single because they couldn't figure out who the right person was but more so …
/r/MensRights05/03/23 11:42 PM
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Haha I'm in the construction business and I'll tell you when the apprentice shows up oh there is drama 😆😆. 6:30 means 6:30 kid!!!
/r/MensRights05/03/23 07:23 PM
2

Yeah that's the unfortunate thing it's this weird double standard thing.
/r/MensRights05/03/23 07:19 PM
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It's kinda funny though I'm not going to be upset over it.
/r/MensRights05/03/23 07:18 PM
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Points 6&8 are also contributing to point 5, or at least they will be, just thought I'd say that. Working a lot of hours for guys means they are less available to sustain a relationship, even a strictly sexual one involves personal investment. I think in general I agree there is a troubling pattern. I think it's super important though that men understand and do not forget the value of an education. A well rounded man is a man with a sharp mind and tech school or university shouldn't be ignored.
/r/MensRights05/03/23 01:19 AM
1

Well I feel suicide is a horrible thing regardless of gender and can indicate a number of things but many times stemming from grief a person has faced being too much for them and they have no way to deal with it and I think it's maybe a bit more understood why women have done it but for men it seems less understood. And the reasons men suffer sometimes get swept under the rug. I think men are given this sort of invincibility that isn't always so true. Guys can really hit rock bottom hard and fal…
/r/MensRights04/03/23 10:19 PM
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My god there are still empathetic women left in the world I'm so jaded and your post really warmed my heart. It's so nasty right now everything you said means so much to me. I'm not sure what happened but things got pretty cold and us versus them thing and you just crush that with your words saying, no, we're not going to do that here. Why aren't there more women like you?
/r/MensRights04/03/23 06:19 AM
1

I think it's a very recent shift this has happened like I remember learning about glass ceilings in high school I do not see that anymore not in the slightest.
/r/MensRights04/03/23 06:14 AM
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There's some guys who are chill, honestly I've met lots of dudes who are not into competing and they are so in control of their life it's not even beta, it's actually super alpha and independent. Like they don't want to compete they just want to love life and enjoy. They run the show and don't let other people take the vibe.
/r/MensRights04/03/23 06:11 AM
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Dating or just having strictly sexual relationships.
/r/MensRights04/03/23 05:07 AM
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Well I agree but if you find a woman who likes the kinda freedom you enjoy, more power to you I guess. Hard to do though! These days guys have to give up quite a bit for most women to consider them. But this quote is very very true.
/r/MensRights04/03/23 03:14 AM
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I believe this to be true and honestly I think it's important for guys to be comfortable doing the deed just like women are. To think it's this cancerous thing is ridiculous. Your body needs to orgasm every now and then, there's a shit load of energy that gets built up and bearing all of that without a partner is bad. It also can scare people off because you come on too strong. But moderation is key, yes. Your body will tell you and when you struggle you'll know. For years and years women were t…
/r/MensRights04/03/23 02:17 AM
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Just staying in shape I mean biologically speaking we were made to work there is no question. It's important for the CEO to be fit as the guy digging the trench in my eyes. Nobody in the military gets a free pass on PT. If you want to be a well rounded man, you have to do your share of elbow grease. It's only fair.
/r/MensRights03/03/23 05:54 AM
1

It's happening here too just more slowly. Don't lose your voice nobody wants to see it but men are still holding things together we've just been told more often to keep quiet about it.
/r/MensRights03/03/23 05:51 AM
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For all the people sitting at home watching Netflix and doing "chill" there is a nerd sitting on the other end of that cable who is literally making sure our country is not attacked by terrorists with intent to disable our comms. That dude probably works tirelessly but he probably gets little love in his life. But that "ugly fucker" is literally keeping your TV on and your house from being bombed to shit. May these men have a voice.
/r/MensRights03/03/23 04:28 AM
1

Does anyone realize that sex isn't this thing that guys can have whenever they want? I realize there are ways a guy can have sex whenever but that doesn't even count. Everyone talks like guys can have sex whenever m. No, we can't and we rarely do. Unless you are in a committed relationship or you happen to be a 5 percenter, you just aren't going to have much sex.
/r/MensRights03/03/23 04:08 AM
1

Approaching chores with a strike force mentality, it's what you do when you are single. You go in and you eliminate Tango as fast as you can.
/r/MensRights03/03/23 03:41 AM
1

I've heard the UK is really bad like worse than US
/r/MensRights03/03/23 03:34 AM
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That's me unfortunately in the 30+ zone and honestly I won't settle. If I get bad or overtly judgemental energy from a potential partner then I'm not going to follow through. It's not worth it I'm willing to be patient and caring I think they should equally.
/r/MensRights03/03/23 02:36 AM
1

The pass/fail criteria is so tight that a lot of men don't pass. And usually it's like if you have a certain subset of things, even minor things, you are categorically a failure, incel, loser, etc. And the hottest dudes they walk through walls. It's so skewed. It's why I don't let it get to me because once you see it you understand perspective is what counts. You are just trying to find someone who hasn't consumed the kool aid. It's driven so much by social media it's driving people to expect pe…
/r/MensRights03/03/23 02:07 AM
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Too much choice that's the issue. Close off the choice and people end up finding someone. Online dating ruined everything.
/r/MensRights03/03/23 02:03 AM
1

Biggest ask I have - communicate and be up front, don't ghost. Being honest even if brutally honest is a good thing. Guys we hate guessing. Other thing is never rule a dude out; a few minutes sometimes that is all it takes to see how someone is or at least know if it's possible or not. Other than that strictly relating more to feminism guys have difficulties that are different from girls. They are difficulties nonetheless. To understand the struggle of a man is just as important for a woman as i…
/r/MensRights02/03/23 05:29 AM
2

It used to be "anywhere" you could meet people as long as you presented yourself well but the places these days where such advances are socially acceptable are very limited. Social clubs, groups, etc are still options but you have more limited reach and opportunities there before it dries out. Plus you can't really do those kinds of things without at least enjoying the activity or it's just a time waste. I'm not sure what the future holds to be honest. I guess I keep on trying and see where thin…
/r/MensRights28/02/23 05:43 AM
1

I open my Bible a lot more than I used to. And when I read the descriptions of Roman life and compare them to things like this my jaw hits the floor. We are living in those times. My personal struggle with relationships has actually brought me back to my faith more than ever because it's the only thing that makes any sense out of this entanglement of problems with our society. The Bible actually talks about how a lot of these things are dangerous (hypocrites, stories of grandeur and lust, greed,…
/r/MensRights28/02/23 05:34 AM
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Hookup culture needs to die. As does this belief that all men are inherently toxic and that men are accessories to their life, and that men don't "deserve" relationships or to be loved. Every person on this planet deserves to be loved in some way the fact that people want to bury that fact and go on with life is catastrophic. I don't know when everything got so god damned bitter and entitled but I see a huge huge lack of empathy and that kills off any kind of love and the only thing left then is…
/r/MensRights28/02/23 05:23 AM
1

Not me, I love my job, my independence, my ability to mold and shape the country I live in. Wouldn't change a thing.
/r/MensRights25/02/23 02:02 AM
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To be fair the honest to God answer is young men and women need to get some balls. Seriously, take some chances, get your heart trampled on, try guys you think you might not like, find guys you love, etc. Stop hiding and pretending the best way to go through life is to shelter yourself from harm and only go with sure bets. No guts no glory. And it only works if both men and women agree to take some chances. We are so risk averse as a society that people are avoidant instead of tolerant. Fear is …
/r/MensRights25/02/23 12:19 AM
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I think it's more difficult for us because it's already uncomfortable pushing boundaries and we have even more to be up against with a lot of the social issues of today. One thing because of my condition I've always been paranoid of hurting people to the point that it made me clam up, I've actually worked on getting better with understanding it's ok if you say something that might cross a boundary, likely it's ok and you need to speak up so they know how you feel rather than try to hide it. It t…
/r/MensRights23/02/23 01:42 AM
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As messed up as our modern culture here is I still do prefer choice. I think putting somewhere in the 80s or 90s US culture was nice because there was a more even blend of men and women deciding things it didn't feel so skewed towards women and not so skewed towards men.
/r/MensRights23/02/23 01:22 AM
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Fair but it's still a decent number to indicate that yeah nobody is alone in the struggle no matter how you slice it I still see it as a good chunk.
/r/MensRights23/02/23 01:19 AM
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It's actually made me a great worker and I'm excellent at communicating work related things but the relationship part I'm a bit sketchy. Like limits and boundaries sometimes I'm too over or too under. Like the "dude she wants a kiss" thing versus "no don't do that now". Very close to understanding it and my instincts are a lot better than before but I'm always a bit more on the fence than average dudes and that can really be a surprising turn off. People are so receptive to that. I usually ask n…
/r/MensRights23/02/23 01:05 AM
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I don't fit in the stats being on the spectrum plus the current environment like yeah 95% is probably an accurate number for my kind lmao it sucks. I'm so mildly on it though it's annoying because people see little things and they are like huh that's a bit off but it's not like oh yeah he's definitely out there lol. I have a chance but it's difficult.
/r/MensRights23/02/23 12:49 AM
5

Shifting standards really are the issue. I have a good job and pay but it's not as meaningful as it used to be.
/r/MensRights22/02/23 11:31 PM
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Well it is only if you find a person of value. That's the difficult part. There were opportunities I had, I could have taken them further. But I did not because the value wasn't there. And the people who I think are higher valued are just not available. So in some ways accepting being single is a kind of coping mechanism for not running into the right person in life who expressed mutual interest. You can definitely get around the need to have a partner if you put a lot of effort into other eleme…
/r/MensRights22/02/23 08:39 PM
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This is also true. Double edged sword.
/r/MensRights22/02/23 07:30 PM
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I think it's crazy that's just a lot of likely lonely dudes.
/r/MensRights22/02/23 07:28 PM
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Well what do you say about the old days where the dude worked 60-70 hours in the coal mine and was married his whole life? He was never there hardly had any time at all for a woman. You have a coal mine and you have a dude playing games. What these two things have in common is not much time available yet in the past men got married for life. This is so much deeper than men becoming better. Hell at least the dude playing the games is actually in the house lol.
/r/MensRights22/02/23 07:24 PM
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Both, think about having to measure up in all of this while your career takes a shit because you spend all your time in the gym, buying different clothes, trying to get 8+ hours of sleep so you look good, and being out there at places to meet people just because the scarcity of finding someone who will agree to date you. At some point, you step back and say, hey, I cannot leave the rest of my life to the side just to make this dating thing work. It's not reasonable to spend even 1/3 of your time…
/r/MensRights22/02/23 07:17 PM
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Think about that for a second. On average, in the place where this was taken (USA), about 1/4 men are single. Folks that is a lot. That is actually a sign of things being difficult and people choosing other avenues to live their life. And the kids at almost 2/3. That's insanity! I know these numbers can be debated for sure but I'm not genuinely surprised either.
/r/MensRights22/02/23 07:13 PM
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I would say that it's healthy for a guy who has struggled in the dating environment to turn attention elsewhere rather than looking to find love just be the best single version of yourself. I'm never going to shame people who do this it's not a terrible thing. I kind of see how complex things are these days and I'm not opposed to it. A part of me thought I was broken but I see that it's just very complicated in general and it's not all me, though I'll admit, I can improve. Thank god relationship…
/r/MensRights22/02/23 03:10 AM
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Realize that sex and relationships are joined at the hip and so if sexual practices are changing so are the dynamics of relationships. I don't give a crap about what anyone says about hook ups you cannot separate a relationship from a hook up it's one in the same to me except one might be quicker/shorter term.
/r/MensRights21/02/23 10:36 PM
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It's not surprising to me honestly. I think the rate of most guys getting "yes he's attractive and I want to see where this goes" is declining rapidly while the top guys are doing all the women. This is a top guy problem as much as it is a selectivity problem in women. Top guys must be more selective and not go to bed with everyone. And women need to filter better and not constantly seek the top top guys. Pro tip for average guys - figure out how to be the best you with or without someone else, …
/r/MensRights21/02/23 10:33 PM
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I find it difficult for women to move on they take things to heart very strongly and it takes a lot of positivity to help them get over things I'm not sure exactly why that is maybe it's kind of an old "protector" part of how they are but sometimes it takes a great effort to make amends that actually stick and mean what they mean. I think guys can be more forgiving. I really hate making these kind of generalizations but it's just my own experience. We all make mistakes but sometimes for some peo…
/r/MensRights21/02/23 10:25 PM
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The funny thing i'm seeing as well is the more attractive dudes I know want long term relationships and they aren't being seen that way in certain cases. In a weird way they are sort of feeling like they aren't seen for who they are but just an object. It's a very different kind of problem but one that creates a lot of tension when they want to just settle down.
/r/MensRights21/02/23 05:23 PM
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I'm pretty convinced it's infiltrated millennials as well because make no mistake we are also glued to our phones we just closet it more than the Zees. Single millennials are having a tough go at it for similar reasons the standards are pushed up higher for what men need to be no doubt.
/r/MensRights21/02/23 05:16 PM
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I think women generally have always been a bit pickier but the social media culture and abundance of easy to get men has changed the dynamic.
/r/MensRights21/02/23 05:08 PM
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Everything written here is not gender specific! Can be an issue with men, women, or non binary people. It's super important for people to realize that yes, men can be victims of abuse.
/r/MensRights21/02/23 05:16 AM
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I'm not surprised actually. The school fights that were girl on girl I'm fairly certain an opponent dying was a perfectly valid resolution. The dudes knew if you got him good in the face it was over and you won but the girls they wouldn't stop.
/r/MensRights21/02/23 05:13 AM
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I'll be honest I try not to look at women in gyms or talk to them because I understand they are in the middle of a workout and I usually don't like being bothered myself. But a quick glance isn't hurting things. If someone stares, sure, fine, that's different, but I doubt this dude was actually staring. I think if you want to talk to someone there is a more appropriate place to do it at the gym like when they are on their way out or after finishing a class, something like that. In the middle of …
/r/MensRights18/02/23 05:52 AM
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Agreed by accepting that we are inherently different than the mainstream views makes us independent and actually strong. People falling into the "take it or leave it" mentality offered up by feminists and many (not all) women is degrading for men. Same with simping, IG stalking etc that men do, it's shameful and defeats their own worth and value. Guys should stop feeding the monster, take control of your own life and make the world a better place for everyone. Make it so women don't need constan…
/r/MensRights16/02/23 11:19 PM
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I think the whole earth stopped somewhere around 2012. Everything after that point went straight downhill. Then COVID was the dagger. Nothing makes sense to me anymore except for close friends and my two cents between my ears.
/r/MensRights12/02/23 07:50 AM
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I would add Foo Fighters to this list. Seems like about half of Dave Grohl's songs are about his struggles with people in his life, losing Kurt, and so much else. It's deep. His song "I'll stick around" from their debut album was written about how toxic of a person Courtney Love was. "I've been around all the pawns you've gagged and bound, they'll come back, knock you down, and I'll be free" ... I've taken all and I've endured. One day it all will fade I'm sure. "I don't owe you you anything. I …
/r/MensRights12/02/23 07:36 AM
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Omg you beat me to it lol. I didn't look down and see you said this.
/r/MensRights12/02/23 07:33 AM
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Ever listen to country music? Might change what you think haha
/r/MensRights12/02/23 07:32 AM
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I agree I think guys should cut ties with simp culture. Give women a chance to be women again and seek out men for different reasons other than extra cash. Hell I'd even say the same for anyone doing adult work, prostitution, etc. It builds a bad culture of pay to play. That's not helping anyone. It's making men weaker instead of stronger and self sufficient.
/r/MensRights12/02/23 04:54 AM
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When I run into these profiles I put the phone down and smile and say thank god I'm single. It does help put my lack of success into perspective that a lack of success can actually be fine, especially considering you could get mixed up with someone like that.
/r/MensRights12/02/23 04:51 AM
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Dating eats loads of time. I consider myself unfortunate. Some people like to say oh you gotta work on you, etc. Well I am hah and it hasn't made anything stick anyways. I think some people get lucky and they run into the right person. People are picky, I'm busy with my career, and it keeps me away from social things. I'd love to give up my job and go out looking for people but you just can't do that. It's all a giant mystery to me. I mean I understand what it takes because I've been close enoug…
/r/MensRights10/02/23 03:37 AM
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Possibly
/r/MensRights10/02/23 01:47 AM
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Ok so it's incredibly dated and I can only agree with parts of it. Most of it is way too far towards men are everything women are nothing. I absolutely do not see it this way. I'd almost like to write a book called the tale of two modern men. It would consist of two men, one who is well educated, self sufficient, motivated yet unattractive. The second would be less educated, working in an average job but far better looking than the first. The first man works long hours but makes excellent money.…
/r/MensRights09/02/23 11:49 PM
1

I'm in my 30s. It has not changed. You can't outwit your appearance.
/r/MensRights09/02/23 07:32 PM
1

I get lonely but I like the peace.
/r/MensRights09/02/23 07:19 PM
1

I have everything above except physical attractiveness and it causes people to never give me a chance. I hate it because people are so quick to judge. It makes me upset. There is only so much I can do about it. A guy like me has to not feel sorry for how he looks but sorry for the fact that he is dismissed so easily before he had a fair chance to show worth.
/r/MensRights09/02/23 05:06 PM
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There seems to be a lot of profiling of men based on how they look which is crazy that less attractive men are bullied by women and more attractive men are chased. It's weird and wrong. Nobody should be bullied. You can not like a man but to stab him with your words because you think he's ugly is childish and pretty disrespectful. It's like the whole gym TikTok thing. Profiling to the nth degree.
/r/MensRights09/02/23 05:01 PM
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It can be I'm still searching but I'm doing so with the mentality that it's ok if it doesn't work out and I can be ok. I think that's the main thing so don't count on it happening because it's not easy. You can work on yourself and all that but it depends on other people a lot.
/r/MensRights09/02/23 02:41 PM
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It is, unless you are top 10% attractiveness and even my attractive friends are struggling now. As time goes on it gets worse. Even dating in public is bad because people are very closed off it seems. Activity events often are swarmed by men which pushes away women because women feel targeted (and they are because the same dudes who are struggling are there), lol. It's as if the internet broke dating altogether.
/r/MensRights09/02/23 06:53 AM
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It's a growing issue yeah. Social media has fostered really negative views of men and has lumped all men into this one monolith of being dirty pigs. It's one reason I joined this sub because I'm seeing it first hand.
/r/MensRights09/02/23 05:01 AM
3

Oddly accurate, for satire it's actually kinda sad because there is truth to it.
/r/MensRights09/02/23 04:46 AM
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I'm amazed at how nice and understanding some of these young ladies are and you can see that there are a multitude of opinions on it from everyone. To see younger people feeling ok with this is kind of refreshing. I do have to wonder how much of it was they were enamored by the interview and not a genuine thought. I feel there was some attraction between some of the individuals and the interviewer which might have skewed things a bit. Just my casual observations watching their body language. But…
/r/MensRights08/02/23 04:51 AM
4

Men are fragile and insecure because many are ignored or placed in the background. Their issues are seen as unimportant. Society seems to owe men nothing yet in the past men built everything. There are still billions of men shaping the way we live but it's not important to mainstream media. It's too easy to pass blame on men for the issues the world has but there is so much more to it. Men are struggling more than ever to find an identity. They often feel disposable, unwanted, and a nuisance by …
/r/MensRights08/02/23 01:56 AM
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Agreed don't feed into what's broken. Solve your own problems by yourself so that sex and relationships can be special again.
/r/MensRights08/02/23 12:26 AM
1

You too. I like who I am even if it's hard for others to see it. I think that's more important than anything.
/r/MensRights07/02/23 02:42 PM
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I think as a man it helps no doubt about it. You can have more selection and it becomes a lot easier to gather interest. I've always considered myself so so in terms of being attractive. Everything I've ever had to get a relationship was just a lot of hard work and disappointment. And right now I'm on shakey ground with someone I've been dating. Honestly just considering not really carrying on trying with dating right now it's kind of been a nightmare for me and not sure that's healthy for my mi…
/r/MensRights06/02/23 02:28 PM
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I don't consider it strange for guys to want to date younger women, obviously they need to be adults but I think it's fine. I think it's harder though especially now because the people who are young have pretty lofty standards to a certain extent. I don't think dating younger or older women is a bad thing it's more about compatibility and how you feel about each other.
/r/MensRights28/01/23 12:35 AM
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No not really it's just the mindset behind it has changed. Instead of it being a nice thing it's become a "pay to play thing". That's all I'm saying. You definitely missed my point by a mile.
/r/MensRights27/01/23 03:15 AM
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I think that's so wrong personally. Changing your sexual preferences just because you can't get it from your original natural preference towards heterosexuality? That's just absurd. If I was gay I'd be insulted that hetero people were doing this, like the ultimate definition of being used.
/r/MensRights26/01/23 04:29 AM
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"Simping" back in the old days meant you were a provider and it was seen as being a gentleman and a person of high calibre. These days it's seen as compensation and a bare minimum requirement for the possibility of some attention. YouTube isn't breaking it anymore TikTok and IG have that more than covered my man.
/r/MensRights26/01/23 04:23 AM
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Height isn't an issue for me thankfully being 6'-2. I'm just overweight.
/r/MensRights24/01/23 05:02 PM
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I have been going I just think I need to keep it up and put more into it. It's all been good progress, not going to lie I've had way more success online dating after I lost the 20 lbs I'm just trying to find the right person and it takes time.
/r/MensRights24/01/23 04:39 PM
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As a successful engineer I can say I do well for myself, but that's where it ends. I'm lonely and don't have much time to seek out a potential partner and generally speaking when I do, it's been difficult and it feels like I've never met some fabricated standard. The standards that a man has to reach these days are very high and in some ways my career prohibits me from being able to address these standards of being in super good shape, lean, etc. In many ways it feels like women want a guy who s…
/r/MensRights24/01/23 02:21 PM
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Accepting someone's flaws is healthy and good. People seeking no flaws are not good. Being honest and helping each other out is what relationships really are about. I am not an "accessory to your life", I am a person just the same as you. Every time I see this written on a woman's dating profile I get so angry. How many men want to be accessories here? We are not tools of pleasure.
/r/MensRights23/01/23 09:28 PM
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The times where I've been at my strongest were times when I cried the most. It is because I had to be strong through the pain. People mistake pain and sadness for weakness. It's quite the opposite. Sad people wear thick armor, they have built up a tolerance for pain. Ask anyone who has done military service on the front lines, they know.
/r/MensRights23/01/23 08:40 PM
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As a man living with anxiety and depression I can confirm that it turns women off and it's unfortunate because I go in peaks and valleys. The good me is always there but sometimes he doesn't shine as bright. Recognize your own well being is more important than a partner's perception of your well being. I'd rather be honest and single than lie and be in a relationship.
/r/MensRights23/01/23 08:38 PM
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Same here. I'm sort of learning that many, not all women, are looking for something which to me is a bit unrealistic or one sided, i.e. something that only select certain men can actually provide. So I've kind of made peace with who I am and realize trying to fit myself into some kind of mold is probably unhealthy. I put myself out there, I get a lot of rejection. It's been tough but the bottom line is at least I know who I am and all the things I worked hard for in my life matter to me such as …
/r/MensRights23/01/23 07:56 PM
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They don't like husky big dudes any more they want these slim dudes with "tone" instead of strength. It went out of vogue just about as soon as the movement started. As a bigger dude I get very little attention anymore. 10-15 years ago it was all different the skinny dudes were unattractive. Football players were the studs.
/r/MensRights23/01/23 05:23 AM
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Those men are weak. They are so numbed by the notion of trying to get a woman's love that they would turn their back on who they are as people. It's sad. Men need to stop this and recognize that their value and self worth is far more important than trying to obtain or please a woman, especially someone with such petty and condescending beliefs.
/r/MensRights22/01/23 10:35 PM
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You aren't wrong women can be abusive and the torture and belittling that they can do can break a man to pieces. But that's when you have to build your steel that you were born with. They don't owe you anything. If more men would say "I disagree men have feelings and a woman can be just as big of a dagger as any punch from a man" perhaps people would stop seeing us as these toxic things. We are human and deserve to be seen as such. We're not going anywhere, in fact, we're going to keep changing …
/r/MensRights22/01/23 10:28 PM
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Even so the thing was in these earlier shows was the acceptance of flaws. Even though Jackie Gleason played the character of a bumbling fool, Alice still loved him for being there for her and being supportive. And so they worked each other's differences out and lived a fulfilling life. That is so different to how men are portrayed as these perfect people in movies and TV which undermines what men really are. It gives little room to the female psychological state of mind to accept anything except…
/r/MensRights22/01/23 09:35 PM
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It's why guys shouldn't beat themselves up over it; accept things are just tough and not always your fault. Something my mom learned from AA "God give me the strength to accept the things I cannot change" very true and relevant to many men these days. Being a single, hard working, and independent man carries no shame. You are playing the system to the fullest based on how the cards fell for you. Ironically picking up the bible one can find there are a lot of passages about the lonely men and how…
/r/MensRights22/01/23 09:22 PM
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There's going to be a lot of single men because the standards are shifting people are less likely to give average men a chance everyone seems to be shooting higher than their own value these days. There is a general entitlement happening in the world of dating where women are dating way up and men are having to date way down. I think traditional values like your job and ability to be independent aren't really relevant anymore it's shifted to things like how big is your six pack and do you have a…
/r/MensRights22/01/23 09:10 PM
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I would say this happens a lot with younger women they constantly are in search of a higher looking guy even if it means he is not a quality person. Looks unfortunately drive a lot of decisions in people but they also cause these kinds of issues in the middle of relationships.
/r/MensRights22/01/23 04:55 AM
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Raising women up is a good thing, but the pushing down of men is what is dangerous. I have no issue whatsoever with women who seek success and I think that's positive progress. But where I draw the line is in a sense of entitlement which is to your point the pushing down of men. The number of times I see women saying something like "we don't owe you anything" is shocking. Like don't we owe it to each other to be compassionate and to take care of each other? To give and take? That shouldn't be a …
/r/MensRights22/01/23 04:44 AM
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The biggest disparity these days lies in the acceptance of men as partners has gone from acceptance of men as partners to acceptance of men as "pseudo objects of pleasure." That's where I feel it the most. Men are to be without flaws, perfect, and non-binding to the woman instead of men providing for women and women providing for men which in my mind is the healthiest way. It's become so one sided skewed in favor of the woman expecting everything from the man in a relationship and expected to gi…
/r/MensRights22/01/23 04:30 AM
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All true but initiating and taking the lead makes a big difference. It's the most important step in the whole process.
/r/seduction22/09/22 09:22 PM
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Nothing serious yet but I've made 2 really awesome female friends. Versus having none. I talk to way more people in public and I feel better about myself. So I'd say it's progressing. Every positive post is encouragement and there are a lot of people here cheering each other on.
/r/seduction22/09/22 09:19 PM
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Still counts to me, he could have turned away.
/r/seduction22/09/22 12:36 AM
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Nice dude! The more you do it the easier it gets. Keep trying different places, don't stalk!
/r/seduction22/09/22 12:25 AM
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Meeting friends. I know that sounds dumb if you are going after dates but starting as friends can be helpful. You could always say I'm looking to meet new friends in the area or something like that. Particularly helpful if cold approaching in an apartment community with neighbors, for example.
/r/seduction21/09/22 03:09 AM
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It's remarkable how complex this all is when you sit back. You kind of have to realize some have it easier than others and some have it really really hard. I guess it's sorta like many other things in life but the most difficult thing being you can't control the other person. I think it's good to keep approaching and I don't think there is a magic cook book. I think it's just meeting someone who is actually available and who likes what you have to say. And looks do matter. I think you can overco…
/r/seduction21/09/22 02:51 AM
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It isn't old. It's a sign that you value conversation. Video chat is the same way. Look, if people are too afraid to crawl out of their shell, why should I? You have to remember if you are uncomfortable speaking to a person how in God's great name are you going to live with that person every day? I mean, get real. My comment was specific to initial conversation. At some point you must speak to them. It's people who don't take online dating or dating in general seriously that make my blood boil. …
/r/seduction21/09/22 01:34 AM
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People are socially shy. Texting is an easy way to bypass that. Just my take. Also talking on the phone requires privacy.
/r/seduction20/09/22 08:27 PM
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Everyone likes to hear different things too. Imagine if you accidentally ask a vegetarian how they like their burger cooked as a conversation starter? Ouch!
/r/seduction20/09/22 08:25 PM
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I don't think it's best to join any group with the sole purpose of meeting women. If you join a church group you have to do it to both meet people and become engaged in the topic. Connecting with faith can actually be really refreshing. I've struggled with dating. As strange as it sounds when I've had the biggest challenges in my life I crawl back to my faith. I'd say try it but keep an open mind about the lessons. You might find some meaning you were missing as much as possibly finding someone …
/r/seduction18/09/22 11:36 PM
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The "friend zone" thing isn't always necessarily a friend zone forever. Some people remain friends for many years and then develop attraction later. But just know that when you are in the friend zone treat it that way and respect her. Women value your level of respect highly. If anything can make a friend turn into more it's trust. Keep your female friends and stay on the hunt. They can even lead you to someone else, especially if they are strongly in the friend zone with you.
/r/seduction18/09/22 12:36 AM
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This is me. HFA but I'm mildly on the spectrum. I think there is hope for me but it's really tough. The anti-social anxiety is the most difficult part. That and coming off as a little bit off socially. I think the only thing you can really do is just put yourself out there. Do not expect miracles. Expect lots of failure but with the failure you will improve. Just do not beat yourself up over the failure. People do not understand our struggle but we can get past it. Everyone sucked at dating at o…
/r/seduction16/09/22 08:23 PM
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Social Anxiety disorder is a thing. It is very strong in some and it can take an awful lot of work to break it. But to break it you have to fail many times and forgive yourself for failing and also know it's not entirely you. Maybe that person is married? Maybe they have a boyfriend already? Maybe they've had a shit day? So many good, valid reasons to not beat yourself up.
/r/seduction15/09/22 09:01 PM
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I got 9mm rounds and health packs. I got you. Just watch that camper we need to get his ass.
/r/seduction15/09/22 08:38 PM
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I think for some they got lucky, yeah. For others like me you have to just try and talk to people. Like just talking. It doesn't have to be rocket science just talk and be confident. If they like what you have to say and you seem like a solid person then you have higher chances. You can't be a rock sitting there. Way I think of it chance of not trying dating percentage is zero. If you try at least it's not zero! Can't say what percentage but it's definitely not zero.
/r/seduction15/09/22 08:35 PM
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This and also over thinking and running into endless thought circles of "I'm a failure." Doesn't help one bit! One has to get good at suppressing the self destruction.
/r/seduction15/09/22 08:32 PM
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Funny thing but I swear that probably the most long term quality people out there are anti-social. I feel like there are a lot of super social people who are the exact opposite. It's kind of strange how that works. The 50 year people can be really reserved versus the people who go through dates and people a lot. Maybe it's because people who are anti-social are cautious and cautious can be really good when you want someone to be reliable and steady. Anti-social people have a tendency to be dedic…
/r/seduction13/09/22 08:51 PM
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Shit I started counting my money at the table, I'm doomed.
/r/seduction13/09/22 08:47 PM
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Oh I guess lol I totally misunderstood your comment. It must be a US English versus UK English thing.
/r/seduction13/09/22 04:51 PM
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That's next level immature if they did damn that's cold!
/r/seduction13/09/22 04:47 PM
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I'm sure there are about a million of us who are thinking "so many rules". It's all true I think but you know if you really have someone sold on you I think the rules can be more relaxed i.e. more natural. If you feel like you're forcing it she probably sees what you think of yourself times ten. Women are incredibly sensitive which for us can be both a blessing and a curse. "Read the room.". Closing words: The line between LMR and rape is pretty thin!! Don't make a decision you regret. You shoul…
/r/seduction10/09/22 12:09 AM
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That is a very toxic and shameful person unless you seriously did something wrong; I don't know the background, but that is horrible. Most women aren't like that. That person has some real issues and issues probably way way bigger than your dating issue. If she needs to use your bad experience as a way to boost herself up she is a far more pathetic loser than you will ever be. I'm with you on this whole thing. I see a lot of guys like you having problems and it really hits in the feels. Dating i…
/r/seduction07/09/22 12:36 AM
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Exercise is great. You can burn off that frustration while at the same time making yourself more attractive. At the end of the day you'll be pretty worn out and those feelings will be more manageable.
/r/seduction06/09/22 10:06 PM
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I agree. It's like do you want maybe an hour or two of pleasure or a lifetime of great feelings? There are other ways to get pleasure (and yeah some of them don't even require another person) but deep down what all of us want is someone who we can really connect with. If it was only about sex and filling specifically that physical need only I'd argue one could find ways to fill that need without a person. As a virgin I can say I've done that for over 25 years. But the sex with a person is as muc…
/r/seduction05/09/22 03:33 AM
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Long term relationship any day of the week. I can just imagine getting attached to someone after sex which is super toxic so no way hookup crap is worth it. Kinda hard to separate the two things which is a wtf moment to me for people who think that is possible. Everyone gets attached romantically is what I'd like to believe. Besides who wants some bitter dude married to her coming after you lol. It's bad news. Some things are like yeah it would be better to just not get all mixed up in for pleas…
/r/seduction05/09/22 01:01 AM
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Sidebar I think it's crazy how different people's experiences are and like there are a million different factors. How good looking are you? How often do you engage? How often do you go out? What things do you talk about? Availability of women who want to hook up? I'm definitely not ever going to the hookup level but I'm amazed at how some have it fairly easy and others strike out hardcore. I think dating, relationships, hook ups, etc there is a lot of shit you can't control. Just how it is. Nobo…
/r/seduction05/09/22 12:15 AM
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I find it fascinating how different people's experiences can be. Count your blessings that you've been able to find women and get engaged in dates/sex. Some of us drew a short stick in the looks and social skills. I'm sure those of us have other things that we are good at but dating and getting dates may not be it. But kudos I guess and thanks for offering a perspective that few actually get to live out, if what you say is true that is. It is a little hard to believe because it sounds a little c…
/r/seduction01/09/22 06:54 PM
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