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LookingForMySelf/r/seduction13/04/14 06:04 PM
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Is there any way for you to default? Find good lady friends first before you search for your man.
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/20 10:03 PM
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When you have children will your husband also invite this guy?
/r/RedPillWomen23/06/20 10:51 AM
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Good question. Any history of cheating in your family?
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/20 10:33 AM
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He is obviously then questioning his attitude at all times and looking to constantly improve himself. Right? Becase if he found that society is wrong about one thing and decided that that he is now special enough to be an asshole to everyone then he is kind of low key redpilled.
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/19 04:29 PM
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I have been finding, however, that I’m increasingly stressed out in our relationship. He demands respect and is very harsh when I am disrespectful, even if it is unintentional. For example, if I am rude about setting boundaries with time, or have a disrespectful expression, he will ignore me for days at a time and withhold affection. No. I understand this is very very painful to you. I am sure he is also suffering and that why he reacts in this sadistic manner. You both need to learn some commun…
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/19 04:09 PM
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Have you tried professional help? This shit doesn't goes on it's own. So start doing your research look into different schools of thought and test few good shrinks from them. There is nothing a bunch of redditors can help you if you have a PTSD. I am really sorry. This PTSD will be making choices for you. Don't fight alone.
/r/RedPillWomen24/09/19 04:21 AM
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Where you got this definition of alpha male?
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/19 06:18 AM
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Tell her she can be socially awkward somewhere else. It doesn't look like you a good person but like you can't say no to people. You need to work on your boundaries. Why would you even continue talking with a woman who offers a threesom with your husband while she has children. Every part of is a completely obvious train wreck. How can't you see it?
/r/RedPillWomen04/09/19 05:22 AM
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It is only liability if the guy is a complete moron. A short visit to a sex therapist will fix any issues with that.
/r/RedPillWomen02/09/19 05:03 AM
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Suzanne Venker gives online couching for this sort of issues. You might as well get a consultant if you want to go fast.
/r/RedPillWomen02/09/19 05:01 AM
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You can search NVC and active listening. This will give you a new perspective on personal communication. Did you already talk with him about the relationship? What is your plan?
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/19 02:17 PM
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You know if you just declare out a sudden this is very weird. What does he know about you? He probably thinks about 1001 things right now dawning in his insecurity. Try and get longer conversations with him on regular basis. You need to know each other. Does he have childhood trauma that he can't deal with? What are his plans for the future? Does he do drugs? This is where red flags are. So far he only tried to reach out to you and got insecure. You declaring yourself to him all of a sudden and …
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/19 07:37 AM
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TL;DR: nor your future children will benefit for their mother to be constantly ashaimed. Work on this issue so that you are able to find a good mate. Perseverance and courage! You are half way there. The only reason you don't date right now is because you don't trust yourself to find a good man. For a good reason. If you want a great husband and a happy family you have to prove to you future man that you worked on your issues. This will also allow you to filter away all scumbugs so that the issu…
/r/RedPillWomen04/03/19 10:16 AM
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I am having trouble following your thought process here. Not exactly sure what you are trying to say or ask or claim here. If a guy is searching for a one night stand than a woman who is accustomed to different man is exactly what he is searching for because she be immediately giving him what he wants. There is no personal investment in this type of sex it is the same as John buying a prostitute. Only the sexual gratification is paid in kind. When one is having a relationship, especially going f…
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/19 04:03 PM
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I wonder what wrong is with a man who demands that a woman he is going to marry fucks at least one other man before him. If anything this is taken as sad part of reality. If sex life is important then it is worked on the same as all other parts of relationships. The only reason to want a woman with n count higher then 0 is because you don't want to work on the relationship. An example would be a 1 night stand.
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/19 11:10 AM
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What is your diet? Whenever I eat anything with with high glycemic load I get really slow and sleepy. It doesn't look like you lack ski or dedication but rather energy.
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/19 03:33 PM
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Do you plan to marry and have kids? Try some active listening with the offenders. It doesn't occur to me anything more graceful in such cases. Engaging in such manner is better than just laughing it off. Once they get that their message is understood people usually calm down. Then provide your view of situation.
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/19 03:20 PM
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Please look into alternatives for university. I know you got enough on your plate but you might be earning more adter a trade school and what is more important sooner.
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/18 10:56 AM
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If you can not love him you will grow bitter and resentful. Anna Karenina did't have a happy life.
/r/RedPillWomen27/11/18 06:35 PM
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We can now understand why societies have harshly punished female infidelity since time immemorial, while turning a blind eye to male infidelity. I am not sure this is true. I know that among Vikings both they would kill both cheater and the man/woman they cheated with. Same in Middle East. In opinion if society turns blind eye on any type of infidelity it is doomed.
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/18 06:35 AM
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You can also go to /r/zerocarb if you want some guaranteed results. This is normal, but definitely not good. You guys should talk honestly about, maybe get some counsel. If you think your SO isn't being direct with you about your appearance than this is also an important issue. I think your SO is not being completely honest/direct.
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/18 05:53 AM
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Try /r/zerocarb. You will shed weight like water.
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/18 07:18 AM
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Hope it helps. Will be waiting for your next post.
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/18 07:17 AM
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I know there's actual BDSM, but I'm more looking for light submission, just mindsets and ways of life I can do myself, kind of like a 1950s housewife. What about the old boring teamwork? If you are the one that wants to be submissive the first thing you can do is start being obedient. Why do you need to be submissive? Can't he convince you? Leadership should be earned.
/r/RedPillWomen08/09/18 06:43 PM
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Basically, you can love a person and it still not be enough. You know a tree by it's fruits. Cheer up because this wasn't love. Love requires a sort of will power and comittment same way lifting weights requires mussle. He can love the same way an anorexic can lift 200 pounds.
/r/RedPillWomen08/09/18 06:39 PM
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Telling me he misses and loves me, how he’ll move back as soon as I “give him the ok”. He is a little bitch who doesn't clean his room. Also because he can.
/r/RedPillWomen08/09/18 06:37 PM
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It seems like some communication techniques will improve the communications. Try nonviolent communication or real-time relationships. In any case, here are few tips that will quickly lower the tension: if you don't like something it's your issue. So if you there is something you don't like it's your issue. Remove blame from other people, remove them from under the fire. "You left the coffee stain on the couch again, you are driving me crazy" should become "when I see the coffee stains on the cou…
/r/RedPillWomen08/09/18 06:33 PM
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Location: State capital (big city) Could be because of your particular location.
/r/RedPillWomen08/09/18 05:52 PM
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While searching for the correct answer to your depression and ADD, here here is an interview talking about the elimination diet, which allows you to find types of food that may lower your defences to feeling low and ADD. According to this article 90% of serotonin is produced in the digestive track. I heard a more modest number of 75% before.
/r/RedPillWomen02/09/18 12:56 PM
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The kind that commands every room he walks into and has women cheating on their boyfriends/husbands for him without hesitation. That description doesn't promise to bode well. If he doesn't keep the fly closed he will basically "never be yours", as in other women may decided to get pregnant by him. Being an alpha usually doesn't help in this situations. Here are two statements that you make: Other guys don’t even exist to me and haven’t since I’ve met him. He’s mentioned wanting a relationship wi…
/r/RedPillWomen01/09/18 01:54 PM
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My husband was my world, the most important person in my life, and he hurt me again. Okay, so he knew that you cared about him so much but cheated anyway. This is not a great chemistry and complementation... one way to avoid cheating is to avoid places that lead to it like a bachelor party. I am not sure you are able to properly judge yourself, him or your situation. Invest some money in a good shrink. Will take a while to find one. In general, your statements seem to be disconnected from each o…
/r/RedPillWomen31/08/18 11:06 AM
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I politely disagree that I have problems being submissive I'd completely messed the sentence structure. I meant that being submissive is not totally comfortable for you, as in "you don't feel all that well doing that." That's why SJW got to you in the first place, blaming others and rejecting responsibility is certainly what alleviates some existential pain. so I think the trouble lay in not understanding there's a difference between being confident and being aggressive That makes a lot of sense…
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/17 09:42 PM
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So the moral of the story is improve yourself but STFU about it and look on the positive side, I suppose. Yes to the first and no to the second. The thing that I understood so far is that people are okay with talking I am sure your boyfriend would talk to you all night and all day. The thing is whining is NOT talking, it's avoidance of communication. Whining is like giving your man blue balls. Because if you could talk with him right on the matter he would give you what you need, but you probabl…
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/17 07:59 AM
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if I pass out drunk and someone decided to take advantage of me that isn't someone with whom I have expressed permission to do so. What does take advantage mean? She is drunk, he is drunk. She starts provoking him, then sex happens. And because of the latter, it's why I refuse to get myself to do that unless I have a hubby to sweep me home if I get to that point. Then he does whatever he wants to me. Drinking is a conscious giving up of control. It's okay to do it when you trust people like your…
/r/RedPillWomen04/03/17 08:40 AM
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change the laws What about telling people that they are responsible for their actions. You don't need a drink to have fun, you need it to loosen the control over yourself. She could have fallen over a freaking bridge or crashed her car to death and the law won't save her from that. Like a law that forbids that sugar gives people diabetes if they don't consent to it. That's my take on it.
/r/RedPillWomen04/03/17 08:31 AM
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I think it's my own problem/insecurity/moodiness It's almost always is our own state sadly. I think I'm just being a princess and I want someone to worship me (like even more than he does currently) but if I think carefully if he worships me to a disgusting degree, I know I'll be turned off because then he'll be a beta. You are very conscious about it like a RedPillWoman should be. I think it's just my lack of maturity and lack of control on emotions. He never complains to me about me and always…
/r/RedPillWomen04/03/17 08:26 AM
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You basically need reassurance and confidence and bigger brests seem like a tool not the end. Right? I do realize in the long run - when he's dealing with people not paying him thousands of dollars vs me being self-conscious because I have small boobs and he comes from a culture that has big breasted women - his problems are definitely the bigger ones. But you have to do something about your problems because if you just repress them you will become resentful and bitter. But I can't help feeling …
/r/RedPillWomen03/03/17 04:26 PM
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But since that 6 months he doesn't go out of my mind. What should I do? What about finding a good counselor or coach? 6 month is a long time of missed opportunities. Get serious about it.
/r/RedPillWomen03/03/17 04:16 PM
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Some body give him an oscar... This is the speech I needed.
/r/seduction14/04/14 04:32 PM
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Problem is she is no where near me... yet.
/r/seduction14/04/14 04:05 PM
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Because I need to keep my cool and I am becoming nervous... Sorry... Where shoudl I have posted it?
/r/seduction13/04/14 06:25 PM
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