LooksSafeFromFarAway Archive

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1	Is my incel boyfriend hopeless or can he change? Why is he your best friend? Of all the people around you why did you gravitate toward all that and what it represents? Yes I think you should ditch him, run like your hair is on fire. Then get hobbies. If you have hobbies, get new hobbies. Anything to put you around more stable people with an actual enjoyment of something from life. I don't know your age, but you sound young. Don't let this toxic person damage you further, at this point you know what to expect from him and have a responsibility …	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/09/18 09:46 PM
1	Is my incel boyfriend hopeless or can he change? Is it really my job to fix him? No ...mentally and emotionally He’s all fucked up. I told him that I believe one of the reasons he is this way is because everything comes naturally to him, he always excels in everything , but when it comes to relationships and dynamics with people, he just always fails and ends up alone and bitter. I'm struggling to find what you think is attractive about this pattern to consider staying, let alone the lovely personalized online degradation and disrespect.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/09/18 09:31 PM
0	So apparently around 27% of women actually reach climax during encounters Could this be part of why bedrooms die so fast? Yes If the man’s good at it... There's a lot to be said for skill, but it's generally agreed upon that women have a heavy mental component to sex being good or not. To that end women often have a lot of conflicting societal, parental, religious, slut shaming/prude shaming messages to reconcile at least in the early years of being sexually active. That doesn't excuse someone whose totally selfish, but having sexual hangups of her own to sort out at …	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/08/18 09:01 PM
1	Q4RP - Whose Pleasure Is More Important? Hers or Yours? I'd say my husband is light pink on the pill spectrum. I know he'd eventually flip out and leave over a lack of sex. There would be no slow decline into a DB here, that's for sure. He wouldn't be good with fucking minus enthusiasm, getting me off is a big part of getting him off. If I'm stressed or butthurt about something unrelated to sex enough that I think I won't and I tell him as much, it's a toss up between him suddenly wondering what's on Netflix, taking it as a challenge to overcome what…	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/08/18 05:39 PM
2	Equivalent of DeadBeadrooming for Women. What would you say about the following situation? Word, and I'm sure our husbands feel the same way at times lol! To me this is a given, it's obvious. A temporary blip doesn't mean a permanent change in attitude or feels about the person or marriage as a whole. So it's easy to not let small stuff affect sex unless you're looking to be dramatic. I hope the issue is that we have inexperienced people talking in the hypothetical to people who are actually experiencing the day to day of marriage. I hope so too, but some of the responses at the time …	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/08/18 11:33 PM
5	Equivalent of DeadBeadrooming for Women. What would you say about the following situation? I remember agreeing with you on that and all the bizarre responses it got from men of all people. Like ignoring and avoiding their wives if they're annoyed. Not angry, not depressed, not so tired they just want to avoid conflict: fucking annoyed They take their ball and go home in a giant huff. I have no idea how people make it through years of marriage while looking down their noses at sex as a way to bond and connect.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/08/18 09:40 PM
3	Deadbedroom w/o other symptoms It's not just "guy fucking well" that makes it into a woman's head for the sole purpose of casting him as a sex God. It's just as huge a part of making her not interested if she's not hooked on the D. Or if she feels like mom. Even worse if he's hand wringing and delivering lack of sex monologues like a kid negotiating his curfew with a "mean" parent; when her only crime is handling her business for the family around the house. If he goes another route and is suddenly "big strong talk-man, liste…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/08/18 09:02 PM
0	Deadbedroom w/o other symptoms IME huge part of "guy fucking well" is in the womans head and has nothing to do with his skills or effort. What if in her head he's the guy that likes to talk a lot about the sex he wishes he was having while waiting on her to finish his laundry and make his work lunch when he should be fucking her against the nearest wall? Does she literally have to do everything?	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/08/18 04:30 PM
10	Men and Birth Woe to the medical staff who thinks my husband is there for strictly moral support or disregards me in front of him, they're gonna learn. With our daughter my epidural fell out, so I got a surprise natural child birth. Had he not been there our plan wouldn't have been followed, because I wasn't in a position to advocate for myself. I learned later that not following the plan was a casual thing to them if something would be easier, let alone medically necessary. So again, I'd never go into a deli…	/r/RedPillWomen	21/08/18 03:10 PM
2	CMV: Despite what any sexual strategy says, men search for an intellectual equal in their partner Words are hard right now. Just had a minor surgery and I'm high af on a post op pain pill. Considering the nature of the post I didn't want to ignore it because I'll probably forget about it once I pass out. I see the limited time as a reason to make everything count. I don't feel like a prisoner of circumstance, so while I can I'll shape my world to something pleasing for as long as possible. I'm not sure how to convince you to be something other than depressed about the thought of making the m…	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/08/18 09:49 PM
2	CMV: Despite what any sexual strategy says, men search for an intellectual equal in their partner Why does this sub look at things this way? As if conversation between two intelligent people is necessarily some nightmarish game of one-upmanship? Surely two intelligent people hanging out/talking doesn't somehow preclude laughter or making good memories? Obviously not all intelligent people are contrarian cunts, but that's usually when they're talking about an interest they're enthusiastic about which is a whole different vibe. Collaborative, curious, insightful. Not some robotic judgment of f…	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/08/18 09:32 PM
5	CMV: Despite what any sexual strategy says, men search for an intellectual equal in their partner If the RP goal is to get with 18yr olds for LTR's or marriage and the guy is successful at it, no amount of book smarts is going to make up for lack of life experience. And really, people can dry hump the theory or process, but what does anyone do this for? To find a partner that will "challenge" them right into a relationship of mundane work, a job you get to come home to and maybe have a laugh or sex if the planets align? Even if it makes me a simple bitch that isn't using her degree, I'm happ…	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/08/18 02:24 PM
3	What do you do when you see a husband shouting at his wife? Same, it's totally okay to say something when they involve you in a public place. I don't even see how this, from a friend's perspective, is about dissecting relationship behavior. It's being trapped at a table with a couple who don't know how to act in public. The 'right' reaction is dealing with how you feel as a surprise bystander to trashy.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/08/18 12:33 PM
2	Q4all: sexually fantasizing your SO is healthy for your relationship I agree totally, and there's a cringe element to it because this made me immediately think of when me and my husband broke up when we were dating. I went full scorched earth and probably would've banged anyone and everyone because I was just that salty...but I couldn't do it. Not even close to it, a guy would say something I could never picture him saying and it was like a shamwow right to the vagina. Didn't make me happy either, I was pissed to still think of him. Really pissed. The fantasy not…	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/08/18 09:01 AM
1	Question about The Wall The idea of being with one? If that's what you mean I can see that.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/08/18 01:30 AM
1	Question about The Wall Agreed, and even then there's such a thing as aging gracefully beyond that. We all get older but that doesn't mean a sudden and swift descent into decrepitude.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/08/18 01:20 AM
1	Question about The Wall You misunderstand, I don't argue against the wall because a back and forth with the believers isn't a valuable use of time. My post history bears this out, Jesus I've written paragraphs about Retin-A and anti aging science being a real thing rather than witchcraft pushed by evil feminists but ok. Edit: I think the wall is valid, if crass, in terms of declining fertility with age. Sure there are exceptions but the older eggs and sperm get generally speaking the higher the reproductive risk.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/08/18 12:16 AM
1	Question about The Wall Ahh okay, from that perspective it makes sense, and I guess that's where all the bitterness of settling sets in when it does. Not necessarily a response to you, but not worth a separate post: I asked my husband what he thinks about this (remarrying past 30) since we were in the car and got a surprisingly brutally honest answer. If we split up, he wouldn't remarry because he doesn't want more kids. But mostly if he got with someone it would be minus commitment because he didn't work his whole lif…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/08/18 10:50 PM
0	Question about The Wall How hard is it exactly to get married after 30 for women? Are there stats on this, because this is one RP thing that I've never seen confirmed in life. Hell I've seen multiple marriages after 30 for women, both with and without kids from the prior marriage and kids in the subsequent one. I'm not disagreeing with looks inevitably fading with age, I just am not seeing age as the handicap it's so often described as here.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/08/18 09:41 PM
1	Why isn't the most common pairing 18yo females and 50yo males? Oh God, even a seven year age difference when I was 19 was like threading a needle. I can't imagine 18 and 50 as more than the obvious sugar daddy scenario. The biggest thing is how at that age you still consider your friends family. Someone in their 50's isn't going to lure an 18 year old away from her life for feels reasons. Even if all of Pinterest and Instagram agrees back braces are a must for quality fucking and orange metamucil mimosas with Dad the morning after is the new enduring hotnes…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/08/18 06:58 PM
2	Q4Women: Do you expect your man to live up to your higher standards? It makes me laugh too now that I take ownership of it. They used to fully cook in the kitchen and stuff if I wasn't home and I'd find my beautiful chef's knives in the dishwasher after I'd run it asdfasdfasdf	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/08/18 01:55 AM
3	Q4Women: Do you expect your man to live up to your higher standards? Nah. If I care about something more than my husband I take ownership of it so it's done the way I want. He probably thinks I'm "leik teh best hostess EvAr" when his friends come over. The reality is I can't stand my dishes being left all over the house, so for example when I ask if they want something to drink, I'm really finding out if I can put the thing in the dishwasher or not. But another drink is fine too. When he does it or they try to be helpful, my dishwasher is looks like drunk toddler…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/08/18 01:22 AM
2	CMV: Women just pick who their mothers picked (Chad does not exist) I feel the same way. I grew up around people like my Mom and Dad and their kids, so I thought that's what was available. It aligned well with what women are told to want so I didn't question it. It's worth noting though that it also didn't make me happy to date them, it kinda messed me up. I found them to be spoiled, reserved, and boring. Looks didn't make up for that, no tingles to be had. On the sex front, I didn't have particularly bad sex, but I thought it wasn't the mind blowing thing every…	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/08/18 09:25 PM
1	Off-Topic Discussion of the Week: Pets (18 August 2018) I was one of those kids parents had in too many activities, so while we had dogs I never really interacted with them. The first thing I did when I moved out was find out I was extremely allergic to cats. That crushed me, I wanted one so badly! Got a chinchilla instead, Butterball was fun but obviously so very different than a cat. A few years, marriage, a dog and a house later I was still salty about not having cats. I have boisterous kids, didn't want a shy animal that would probably be stresse…	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/08/18 05:50 PM
3	Q4all: How disruptive should having and raising children be to your sex life? Followed by their mission including maintaining their house because it's theirs beats chest	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/08/18 12:15 AM
4	Q4all: How disruptive should having and raising children be to your sex life? I gotta believe we have different definitions of annoyed, ignoring or avoiding over the minor bs of life seems extreme. To each their own, but turning "annoyed" into "let's fuck" is practically a sporting event here.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/08/18 10:19 PM
2	Q4all: How disruptive should having and raising children be to your sex life? Where do you live that you're never annoyed by anyone in relationships? Or do you just take your ball and go home when you're annoyed? Seriously though there a lot more to sex than 100% happiness or procreation. It's a viable outlet for a lot of things.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/08/18 09:47 PM
1	Q4all: How disruptive should having and raising children be to your sex life? Nah, you'll annoy the shit out of each other some days because that's how people work. Sex as a tool to connect bridges that gap.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/08/18 08:52 PM
3	Q4all: How disruptive should having and raising children be to your sex life? He is! I better not hit "the wall" anytime soon, I'm not done with him yet /s	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/08/18 08:23 PM
2	Q4all: How disruptive should having and raising children be to your sex life? For sure do what you gotta do! Ours were in our room for 4 or 5 months, just because diaper changing is a thing even if they sleep through the night. In our bed the first 3, but moved to a crib later. Sometimes I slept with them in another room if they were extremely loud because my husband gets up early for work. It's very changeable and up in the air, but there's always a point where they don't "need" you through the night, so reclaiming our space went a long way in our overall sleep and sex l…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/08/18 07:53 PM
3	Q4all: How disruptive should having and raising children be to your sex life? Ohhh, he's got a deeply sardonic sense of humor about most things in the relationship problems realm. Pregnancy as it pertains to married people he's almost worse about, because he's sentimental about it. He notices pregnant women, when I asked him why he said it's because that's an exciting time in your life and he hopes she's happy. His head would explode at the thought of addressing a lack of sex in a way that diminished the memory of the time.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/08/18 07:35 PM
2	Q4all: How disruptive should having and raising children be to your sex life? Discovered it by accident when I knocked over a wedding picture in the room and broke the glass. It was in there because "that's what people do" or whatever. So when I put the photo away and noticed how much I liked it being gone I got rid of all of them lol. Best thing ever, if you're up to more than missionary then you're talking, and I don't want to be making picture eye contact with kids or my mom when discussing the particulars of fisting or what have you. Absolutely a quality of life boost…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/08/18 07:16 PM
4	Q4all: How disruptive should having and raising children be to your sex life? You're not alone in this, my husband is rarely on Reddit, but r/relationships is his Jerry Springer. The husbands being lukewarm and cheating on pregnant wives triggers him in a big way. Not enough to post, because all he wants to know is if that guy was born a bitch or made one somehow and nobody answers that one honestly.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/08/18 06:41 PM
18	Q4all: How disruptive should having and raising children be to your sex life? Am married, 2 kids. This really depends on the couple, and postpartum issues are unpredictable. The best way to deal with postpartum is to acknowledge it as a potential issue and form a plan to deal with it before having the baby. A lot of this will be on the spouse because in many cases the woman will insist she's fine, so a working knowledge of the signs to look out for will go a long way towards not having to convince her it's happening. Mommy-moo depends heavily on genetics, but a determined…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/08/18 05:51 PM
2	[Q4m] men in your 30’s how has dating changed for you? I was 19 when I met my husband and 21 when I married him. He was 28, but if he'd been 30-ish at the time it wouldn't have mattered as long as he was financially stable and not an asshole. Not an asshole in this case specifically meant not holding the fact that I was 19-early 20's against me. I think a lot of men assume it's "easy" to be with a woman that age once you've attracted her and it's really not. We're mid college (ideally), have jobs, and are not trying to be with a condescending dad fi…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/08/18 12:58 AM
1	Q4men: how would you feel if a woman told you she is dating you because she followed advice on the internet to stop dating Chad and to lower her standards? This. Manosphere commentary aside women often do the entitled side-eye at each other too when a friend breaks up with someone who is otherwise awesome but they feel no attraction towards. Like your duty is to try and force it because he's "such a great guy!" He can be great and also not for the woman who broke up with him.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/08/18 12:32 AM
4	CMV: Men Can't Love 1) men love women the way women love children (because they feel the need to protect them) I don't see a problem with this as an aspect of male nature rather than the entirety of TRUE ROMANCE. My perspective is being married almost 16 years, and off the top of my head I can think of 3 times when the outcome would've been death, destruction, or possible brain damage had my husband not been around. Me hemorrhaging massively, a kitchen fire, and our 2yr old son having a fever that went from 102 to …	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/08/18 03:43 PM
1	Do you agree that a relationship were the man has multiple women and the woman one man is the best relationship for a man? I don't know where this got confused and my phone won't c/p for clarity because my fingers are pruny from showering, so nm.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/08/18 03:15 AM
1	Do you agree that a relationship were the man has multiple women and the woman one man is the best relationship for a man? I'm saying in that specific situation, wouldn't stay even for money if there's no prenup. Especially if there were kids to bring up in that misery.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/08/18 02:28 AM
1	Do you agree that a relationship were the man has multiple women and the woman one man is the best relationship for a man? Agreed, but there's probably a prenup. I hope so anyway for a staying despite cheating situation. Money + cheating and no prenup = the perfect most righteous divorce rape scenario in her favor.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/08/18 02:20 AM
3	Q4 Red Pill: if a woman’s career doesn’t matter, why do men with good, professional jobs marry mostly women with good, professional jobs? Totally agree here. On this note, from a rpw persepctive, I don't understand why their strategy begins with the guy they want to attract in mind when it comes to how to present yourself as high value. Start with these men as fathers, and understand they don't breed lil kitty cat gurls who want to cook and clean and smile at everyone. These are dads that expect straight A's, and will provide the resources for it to happen. If you go into a sport or hobby, again you'll have everything you need, yo…	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/08/18 05:35 PM
1	CMV: Baldness will eventually be cured, and this will change the SMP considerably, since baldness is the main threat to a men's looks as they age. I'll have to try the Face Shop masks! I'll link my favorite Tony Moly one. I got some on a whim taking my daughter to their shop. Ended up really liking this one despite the snail aspect sounding weird! It's legit on the hydration though. I usually do my nails on Sundays with a sheet masks or clay one on, skip Retin-A that night and just hydrate like a mofo. https://tonymoly.us/products/intense-care-snail-gold-24k-hydrogel-mask	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/08/18 06:07 AM
2	Were age difference relationships (20s women/men over 30) more socially acceptable in prior generations or not? Ahhhhh...my darling dad...they were probably afraid to say anything. I have no doubt he loves my mom, but he's an ominous sob. They're still together, he's turning 80 next month. My Aunt stayed with her husband until he died and they were very happy. So the financial judgement is easy, but not accurate for all the reasons you say. It's not a prediction of happiness or potential. It just makes things easier to start.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/08/18 05:58 AM
2	CMV: Baldness will eventually be cured, and this will change the SMP considerably, since baldness is the main threat to a men's looks as they age. Retin-A will likely help a ton if it's only been a few months and you see improvement! If after a year you feel they are deep, filler doesn't just hide the wrinkle, it slows how deep it gets because it's filled out again and can't wrinkle as hard. I have the same thing, I'm 37 so it's on watch. I Botox my forehead because I'm a world class scowler, the woman who does that does fillers and I told her to tell me when I need to start filling the Grand canyons! Fwiw I started Retin-A around your age…	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/08/18 05:51 AM
2	CMV: Baldness will eventually be cured, and this will change the SMP considerably, since baldness is the main threat to a men's looks as they age. Yes it's totally worth it! I peeled and peeled foooreveeerrr it felt like. Had to customize the routine with the Dermatologist to back off the bad while not starting over. I think that happens to all of us lol! Then one day you wake up and have radiant amazing skin. Cerave night moisturizer worked really well for my gross phase. I had some expensive moisturizer from a line they sold at the dermatologist, but they said super gentle is the best route and recommended that as a general very gentle o…	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/08/18 05:42 AM
8	Were age difference relationships (20s women/men over 30) more socially acceptable in prior generations or not? Honestly it sucks but I think the perception depended on money back in the day and even now. My dad is 13 years older than my mom and he was loaded, nobody said anything. Her sister married a mechanic 10 years older and everyone had something to say about it being weird. Today a huge age difference is likely to get lol-gold digger side eye, but it seems like more of an eye roll than actual condemnation. If it's just a feels match people's reaction is more heated from what I've seen. The assumpti…	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/08/18 05:30 AM
2	CMV: Baldness will eventually be cured, and this will change the SMP considerably, since baldness is the main threat to a men's looks as they age. I say brag :) it helps spread the skincare gospel! My husband used to let me put sunscreen and retin-a on him, but now he's a believer that does it himself. He was asking what I've been posting about and when I gave him the quick and dirty version he was like "oh, carry on" 😂	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/08/18 05:14 AM
2	CMV: Baldness will eventually be cured, and this will change the SMP considerably, since baldness is the main threat to a men's looks as they age. Word. People hear Botox and freak out, but wrinkles are partially caused/worsened by repetitive muscle movements beneath the skin. Smile lines, crows feet from squinting, etc. Botox paralyzes the muscles to stop it. It can be done lightly, it doesn't have to freeze your face. Everything depends on the skill of the injector. Fillers can keep them from setting in deeply too, but I've only tried Botox personally. Age comes for all of us but it definitely can be done gracefully. Bring on the needles…	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/08/18 03:30 AM
1	CMV: Baldness will eventually be cured, and this will change the SMP considerably, since baldness is the main threat to a men's looks as they age. I honestly don't know, as soon as they described the healing process and the whole leaving raw and bloody thing I noped out hard. I'm not in the need a new face level of skincare...yet. Maybe it's just a ymmv disclaimer 🤷	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/08/18 12:24 AM
2	CMV: Baldness will eventually be cured, and this will change the SMP considerably, since baldness is the main threat to a men's looks as they age. On the dirt cheap point: new stuff is covered by insurance all the time. It's hard to keep up, so having doctors who do is a huge help. I'm straight with them. Tell me every ridiculous slave to vanity treatment there is. I may not do it, but I want to know about it. Also if the doctor knows how your insurance works they can navigate the stupid stuff in your favor. Retin-A for people over 35 often isn't covered because it's an anti aging thing. My dermatologist just documented I have "moderate ac…	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/08/18 12:16 AM
2	CMV: Baldness will eventually be cured, and this will change the SMP considerably, since baldness is the main threat to a men's looks as they age. I know about it because I have a Dermatologist who speaks clearly about what's available. If they laser far enough into your face, your pores are obliterated along with the rest of the skin surface. They can get far enough down that you take around 4-6 weeks to heal, and as I said it's considered surgery. You leave raw and bloody, no I haven't done it. I made the distinction between men and women because I'm pretty sure you did in talking about women's skin issues, but I'm on mobile so not doubl…	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/08/18 11:58 PM
5	CMV: Baldness will eventually be cured, and this will change the SMP considerably, since baldness is the main threat to a men's looks as they age. They can literally laser your face off and it heals minus the majority or even all wrinkles and giant pores (depending on how bad you were to start with) at the Dermatologist. It's extreme and considered surgery but it's a laser. It's cost prohibitive though. Retin-A is a miracle too. Much of women's skin issues are due to slow skin cell turnover and collagen loss. Retin-A does tons for both. Beauty brands will try to hype retinol, but it's way less effective and incredibly expensive at %'s that…	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/08/18 10:01 PM
8	What is considered “High Standards” when it comes to physical appearance for women? PREACH! I was a fast metabolism even after kids person, but our bodies betray us in our 30's. Nearly every woman I know is on some kinda thyroid/estrogen/testosterone HRT. Myself included. Even with optimized hormones and HIIT + cardio I'll never look "skinnyyy" without an extreme diet, which I refuse to do. I keep it clean and mostly avoid carbs, but I won't go extreme. I only workout because I like to eat and I have no shame there. As long as my clothes fit at the size I like I don't worry bey…	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/08/18 04:30 PM
1	Question for RPW: Why are you against feminism? We agree there are destructive elements to feminism. I point out mine in particular, that they think women can have it all and that SAHM's are holding them back, and my response to it. Which is to carry on and do my best anyway because I see the long term value in what I do regardless of what a zero life experience band wagon buzzword woman thinks of my life. I can do this while also recognizing predatory, toxic, abusive male behavior is no good for anyone because humans are nuanced like that. W…	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/08/18 05:42 PM
3	Question for RPW: Why are you against feminism? With someone like him you need to seperate class from gender. As someone like him got away with what he did because he not only in a position of power but had money as well. Its extremely difficult to combat and fight someone with money and power. Especially someone like him where he can kill your career by blacklisting you. Oh I think it's totally fair to use him as an example, because the "ideal" is what trickles down to the influenced masses. Obligatory #notallmen here, I'm aware and glad tha…	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/08/18 12:55 AM
1	Question for RPW: Why are you against feminism? I hope so too. Finding an actual partner is the goal so looking for a "man" as if they're all the same, or the ones who don't fit the traditional mold being seen as "defective" in some way probably robs a lot of people of happiness or sets marriages up to fail. I don't see why it wouldn't happen that way though, I'm very optimistic on this.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/08/18 11:55 PM
3	Women age better than (especially most white) men and have much higher SMV and RMV. Guys peak in our early 20s A man's vanity has a lot to do with how he ages as well. This day and age they do not have to rely solely on genetics. I'm shallow enough that looks mattered to me before marrying and he came pre loaded with skincare and sunscreen habits. A man that takes care of himself can be hot AF for a very long time, but so can women. Looks are highly changeable even without cosmetic surgery and awesome genetics if you have the money and inclination. Gym, eating habits, the 567875 lasers that grant perfect…	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/08/18 08:19 PM
3	Prude-shaming Yeah it's a thing. In high school if you aren't giving Bobby Varsity Jock ass when all your friends treat hand jobs like a hand shake, they will ask you wtf your deal is with the implication you think you're too good to touch a dick. As if that's a legitimate thing, they just don't want to feel like "sluts" even if you aren't judging them. It's a preemptive "don't judge me" strike combined with trying to find out if/who you're sexually active with so they can store that info as girl drama ammo i…	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/08/18 07:20 PM
3	Question for RPW: Why are you against feminism? Men today are trying to cling to the old male identity nut that identity is viewed as evil/bad/etc. And no one is offering a new one. I agree with you here; but have to take an honest look at why that identity is viewed as evil/bad/etc and assign blame according to reality. You have your "pillars" of that pussy grabbing, entitled, everything I see is MINE toxic male identity. And I mean toxic to everyone, not just women. Someone Like Harvey Weinstein for example. He's disgusting morally and fran…	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/08/18 05:06 PM
4	Question for RPW: Why are you against feminism? Yeah I see a lot of "stfu because you're a housewife" and "being a sahm means you're holding us back!" on the internet. It's a new and different feeling to be lectured by a 20-something whose post history is being confused by the basics of skincare and wondering why she's been ghosted so much. I feel like many mothers have failed tbh, that's on me and mine, I don't necessarily blame them. I do agree with you though that women should become what makes them happy and have the tools to do so. I cou…	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/08/18 03:20 AM
8	Question for RPW: Why are you against feminism? I totally agree with this. I don't believe you can "have it all" at a high level without sacrificing your sanity and/or happiness. You make choices about what matters and commit. Feminism!(?) The funny thing about this is that my lady boss corporate executive friends get this. The stereotypical sjw/modern feminists who've scratched the barest surface of women's studies in college think I'm anti-feminist because I'm a stay at home mom. I just want to scream at them. Which group of people do they …	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/08/18 09:11 PM
1	Field Report: BUILD HIM UP IN PUBLIC! I had his buddy complementing me to him! It's fantastic fun, though sadly learned by necessity in my 20's. Not every woman was harpy/mean obviously but the ones that are turn social events into awful minefields where a false step has consequences. The food drink thing is great because it's such a basic courtesy it never looks calculated. Just be sure to play it very casual to emphasize anybody could do it. It drives home the "anybody could, so why didn't you?" subtext without a hitch.	/r/RedPillWomen	07/08/18 08:37 PM
1	Field Report: BUILD HIM UP IN PUBLIC! I had his buddy complementing me to him! I totally agree. I used to feel very awkward about it when I first got married at 22; but that specific type of woman was not above enjoying that and trying to make me feel like shit about myself as if they heralded the future all of us should expect. After all, their own husbands get the worst of them so I was just bitterness fodder. I'm 37 now though, harpies are a guilty pleasure. My favorite is bringing their husbands food or refill their drink (because you were doing it for your husband any…	/r/RedPillWomen	07/08/18 04:53 AM
1	Field Report: BUILD HIM UP IN PUBLIC! I had his buddy complementing me to him! Married women could learn from this. The most lol yet cringe inducing thing I ever saw at a party was a small group of women loudly complaining about their husbands, then trying to call them over. Their husbands were talking far away and ignoring them, so they started shrieking their names from across the room and telling each other they aren't surprised that their husbands are horrible at responding since they suck at so much else. I'd ignore a shrieking harpy too 😣	/r/RedPillWomen	06/08/18 06:42 PM
1	Engaged but feeling some doubts... is this the hamster in action or something else? No judgement, and I don't want to come off as lecturing so please read with that in mind; but not "in love" and minus tingles is a big red flag to me. If you go foward you better know yourself down to your bones and even then marriage will still surprise you. Ask yourself if you're settling, or proceeding because of how much time you've already put into this man. On the topic of knowing yourself, can you stay happy, actually truly happy, with someone you aren't crazy about very long term? Or wil…	/r/RedPillWomen	06/08/18 01:28 AM
1	A letter to young women This is all very good and I agree, but my first reaction is shame. As a 37yr old mom whose been married very happily for over 15 years it makes me wonder: have moms checked out? What are we teaching our daughters and sons that this level of confusion, aversion to self evaluation, low expectations of self and others is okay? Are we just tossing them out of the house and hoping they get it right accidentally? Sorry if this is random, but the age of the OP sticks out to me, and maybe it's because I…	/r/RedPillWomen	31/07/18 04:54 PM