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LogisticsLooooong_Man/r/seduction26/01/25 06:39 PM
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Escalation & CalibrationLooooong_Man/r/seduction14/12/24 11:05 PM
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Damn dude, nailed it. This 1000%
/r/seduction08/10/25 05:08 AM
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Stop focusing so much on the outcome
/r/seduction01/10/25 09:50 PM
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If she has a dog say "Wow what a cutie!" as though you're talking about the dog but then say "What's your name?" in the tone you would have if you were asking about the dog's name. Make sure to have a big grin on your face so she knows you're being playful and not taking the whole interaction too seriously. She'll probably laugh and/or tease you ("wow, GOOD one lol") but it still works to open the conversation on a light, playful note. Then play it by ear. Easiest is to pivot to actually asking …
/r/seduction17/09/25 04:25 AM
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Want some company?
/r/seduction10/09/25 02:05 PM
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THIS. Seriously. And don't just leave it at "Hey this is fun, let's do it again". Try to plan something more or less specific. Like if you talked about ice cream, "Hey this is fun, we should go grab that ice cream sometime." Future you will thank you (whoever reads this).
/r/seduction03/09/25 01:54 PM
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Dude you gotta learn to not care
/r/seduction24/08/25 05:21 AM
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That makes sense, and I agree.
/r/seduction19/08/25 07:44 PM
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Whatever dude it works for me! Edit: To add to this, I'm saying that light-heartedly. I agree that women will definitely throw you those leads and a guy needs to be keen to pick up on them. And I also like your "What are you doing after this" approach. But like I said, my method worked well for me. At the end of the day what really matters is everything that leads up to the ask. If you've got that air-tight the rest is pretty hard to screw up.
/r/seduction19/08/25 07:27 PM
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While women almost never directly invite me back to their place, I've successfully suggested going back to their place many times. My mom stayed in the living room of my 1 bedroom apartment for like 6 months. She was waiting for a hip surgery and sleeping in a recliner chair. When dates would go well I'd just tell them "Hey this is going really great and I'd love to have you come over and meet my cat (my go-to invitation), but with my situation I'm assuming you'd rather not come to my place. (I'…
/r/seduction19/08/25 05:59 AM
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Like u/Prestigious_Water336 said, "seed the pull". Here's my personal example of this: I have a cat. He usually comes up in conversation. Most chicks love cats. I show them some pictures, they tell me he's adorable, I tell them his name is Roy, they say "oh that's such a cute name", yada yada yada. End of the night comes and I just ask them if they want to meet my cat. "Well, I think it's about time to get outta here. Wanna come meet Roy?" Works pretty damn well. Not because my cat is so cute th…
/r/seduction12/08/25 04:45 AM
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Ahhhhhh gotcha.
/r/seduction10/08/25 02:35 AM
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But that won't stop a guy from smashing. Personality is what may or may not keep him around after.
/r/seduction09/08/25 12:26 PM
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I have been. It was her boyfriend though.
/r/seduction18/07/25 02:42 PM
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Underrated
/r/seduction24/06/25 05:35 AM
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This is where I'm at rn. Meeting a bunch of great women but none of them have been 'the one'. I usually end things in the 6 - 12 week range before too much attachment forms. And that includes my own growing attachment to them. Hard to let good women go... but when they're not it, its just what you've gotta do. I dont try to continue sleeping with them though. I just end things and move on.
/r/seduction12/06/25 03:57 PM
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This is a good point. But I think OP's point is to just OPEN them like you would anyone else you find interesting. Then apply game principles as the conversation unfolds and get better with repetition and continuing to learn game.
/r/seduction07/06/25 05:42 PM
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It's still gonna vary from woman to woman. You just gotta start the convo, rizz'em up and feel'em out. If you know how to escalate and can calibrate your escalation accordingly based on how they respond, you should be able to figure out what they're comfortable with
/r/seduction07/06/25 03:27 AM
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I started writing a response, then realized its not worth it to argue with people on reddit. So I'll just leave you with this: you people are fucking idiots. Good luck out there.
/r/seduction02/06/25 10:37 PM
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Whats the point of your comment? Are you suggesting this is bad advice because it doesn't work for you? And you're projecting that this won't work for most people? Thats a stretch. This works for me. I live within walking distance of a bunch of good bars and restaurants in my city. So even if this advice only works for a subset of people, it doesn't make it worthless. Just doesn't work for you. Bummer. Sorry dude. Hope you take a better attitude with you on dates!
/r/seduction02/06/25 10:04 PM
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I usually do drinks for first date. And then activity (ie - mini golf or weird art exhibit or axe throwing) for second date. This seems to keep the momentum going for me whether sex happened on the first date or not.
/r/seduction16/05/25 12:20 AM
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Can you elaborate? Is love to know more
/r/seduction08/05/25 03:50 PM
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The chances of getting herpes from someone who isn't having a flare up is only like 8% per year if having UNPROTECTED sex. That means if you dated this person and had regular unprotected sex for a year theres only an 8% chance you would contract it, assuming you are not actively having sex during an outbreak. Condoms cut this risk in half. Take that fwiw. If you only plan to smash a few times and wear a rubber the chances of you contracting the herp are super super low. Also if she's taking supp…
/r/seduction30/04/25 03:56 AM
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Thanks for the insight man I really appreciate it. Seems like 1-2 months is the tipping point before feelings start to get too strong for either party if its not a good fit. Final question if you dont mind... any tips on how to end things? Texting always seemed a little impersonal. In person always feels like they are at a high excited to hang out then I have to break their heart and send them to the lowest of lows. And phone calls... I dont know. If im not calling these women regularly it seems…
/r/seduction08/04/25 09:23 PM
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I'd love to know what your turnover is like? Like how long do you date each one on average before you end things? A few dates? A few months? Longer? Do they know about each other or the fact that you're dating other women at least? How do you communicate this with them? I'm just now at the point where I can pretty easily date 2+ women at once and I've been struggling to figure out how to approach all these things.
/r/seduction08/04/25 05:35 AM
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I totally agree with the first paragraph. I do things a little differently after that. Dates aren't usually in walking distance but a short drive (<15 minutes). If we've bounced to at least one new location, kissed and/or made out. And the vibes and sexual tension are good, I just ask if that want to come over and meet my cat. Obviously this comes after having told them about my cat, shown pictures, they think he's cute/handsome, etc. It gives them a "reason" to come over thats not "yes I will c…
/r/seduction02/03/25 10:18 PM
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Oh yeah, I'm a 36m and I usually date women in the 28 - 40 age range. So ymmv depending on your age and the ages you date
/r/seduction28/02/25 10:55 PM
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Ahh I see. I think my "give every woman a shot" mindset derails that one way or another. Its not like I tell them that, but maybe I subtly communicate that one way or another because I've internalized it.
/r/seduction28/02/25 10:54 PM
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Hmmm... might be you need to work on how you escalate and build attraction during a date. And thats not a shot at you, just my objective thought. Like if they think you're a maybe, then give them a reason to not think that. They should be thinking you're a yes until they find a reason for you to not be. I think that's what works for me. I sometimes hook up on the first date, almost always on the second date, and often when it doesnt happen on the first date it's because they give me the "i don't…
/r/seduction28/02/25 10:48 PM
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This is tough. For me, I have the mindset that I'm open to giving a shot to win me over to every woman I'm willing to take out. But I'm also very selective of who I become exclusive with. So after a few dates I'll make the decision whether or not to end things as to not lead them on. At the end of the day I'd love to settle down and marry, but because that's (supposed to be) a lifelong commitment, I usually end things sooner rather than later. But in the mean time we both get some fun dates and …
/r/seduction28/02/25 10:28 PM
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Not too shabby! Care to share your llm script? I use llm's a lot to bounce ideas off of and I've been meaning to create a standardized pre-prompt, would love to see how you're approaching it
/r/seduction24/02/25 06:45 PM
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What this guy said. And I'd like to add my own addition... They say 7% of communication is words, 38% is tone of voice, 55% is non verbal. So sometimes if a girl doesn't ask for your name or ask a follow up question, she might still be interested. BUT you need to be damn sure you can read tone of voice and nonverbal cues before you proceed (don't want to make anyone uncomfortable). Some girls are shy and/or socially awkward. They may still like you and want to keep interacting but may not know h…
/r/seduction23/02/25 09:15 PM
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Nah bro, you should at least text once in between. I left a comment with some advice. Works great for me.
/r/seduction20/02/25 06:07 PM
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I usually text a day or two before the date in this situation. Something like, "Can't wait to see your taste in coffee. You seem like a mocha frapp kind of person..." or "Better bring your A-game to putt putt tomorrow. My competitive juices are flowing already". Something dumb like that to break the silence. Those might not be the best examples, but the idea is to break up the silence and be flirty/tease/challenge etc. This might lead to a little back and forth but keep it brief. Then day of the…
/r/seduction20/02/25 06:05 PM
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Well it was about that time that I realized those 2 girls I was dating were about 8 stories tall and were a crustacean from the proterozoic era
/r/seduction20/02/25 06:49 AM
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Hell yeah I appreciate the feedback!
/r/seduction12/02/25 07:10 AM
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As a web dev myself, kudos to you good sir
/r/seduction11/02/25 06:23 AM
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I'd love you to elaborate or offer some tips. I do pretty well for myself, but find one of my weakpoints is being too playful and friendly and not building tension well. It's not like I completely lack tension, but I feel like I land on the playful and friendly side more often than not.
/r/seduction10/02/25 05:15 PM
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Looking at some of the comments, wanted to add some insight from my experience. KINO being the difference between the friendzone and attraction is debatable, but it definitely helps there, and it is definitely the difference between an ok date and an amazing date, whatever that may look like for you. It is absolutely imperative that you touch during a date. Find any excuse to touch on the date. Obviously not creepy touch, but the right kind of touch given the context. And find any way to sit clo…
/r/seduction10/02/25 05:12 PM
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Damn dude. My heart just grew 3 sizes like the grinch after all the who's came together to celebrate Christmas after he stole all their shit
/r/seduction06/02/25 04:59 AM
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This guy dates.
/r/seduction05/02/25 06:20 PM
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THIS. Always be looking ahead. Try to find things in your conversation to which you can say "we should go do that sometime"
/r/seduction05/02/25 05:44 PM
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Lol good point
/r/seduction05/02/25 05:19 PM
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This is the key right here. Always try to pick a date spot where you can sit 90° from each other or in a corner booth where you can sit next to each other. When the moment is right go in for the kiss. Escalate. And if it keeps escalating, it's only natural. Throw out a line like "Wanna come meet my cat?" and you're in. I mentioned that line in another comment on this thread. Key is must have cat. They must like cats. Cat must be brought up in conversation prior to asking. And obviously you can j…
/r/seduction05/02/25 02:17 AM
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"Wanna come meet my cat?" Always worked for me. Obviously the cat had to have been brought up at some point in the conversation. And they have to actually like cats. But this has worked 100% of the time for me.
/r/seduction05/02/25 02:12 AM
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Just ask her if she wants to be your valentine in a tongue-in-cheek juvenile kind of way and then take her out on a second date+. Like a normal 2nd date but a little nicer. And just have fun with it. Say it'd be a great chance to see her in a dress and you in a suit or something like that. Go have dinner or grab a drink at a fancy-feeling bar or restaurant. Doesn't have to actually be fancy, just somewhere with a good vibe.
/r/seduction03/02/25 02:18 AM
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Dude your flair 🤣
/r/seduction03/02/25 02:14 AM
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Love this mindset. And you might really like that store and really wish they had what you want, and be disappointed they didn't have it. But you just go to another store.
/r/seduction01/02/25 09:07 AM
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Appreciate the insight, but this ain't my first rodeo. More of a logistics question.
/r/seduction26/01/25 09:14 PM
0

Nah we've both been in the neighborhood for a while now. We've definitely seen each other a few times before over the last... year. Just never really ran into each other. Like she'd be out running or driving by or something, or vice versa. I'd be driving by or riding my bike. And I wasn't single until about 4 months ago so was never really looking to engage until recently
/r/seduction26/01/25 07:04 PM
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Molly
/r/seduction24/01/25 05:21 AM
110

Heard a great quote the other day... "Online dating for men is like looking for water in the desert. Online dating for women is like looking for water in a swamp"
/r/seduction19/01/25 02:58 AM
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Yeah but it's a start. And that's the whole point. Being a random interesting stranger starts the interaction and gives you the opportunity to build a connection. It doesn't build the connection by itself. It gets your foot in the door. And then you take it from there with charm, humor, asking questions, etc, and start building a connection and attraction. And if you're good at it and there's a connection she'll start to see you as someone she wants to sleep with.
/r/seduction16/01/25 05:57 AM
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Have you never met a random interesting stranger before?
/r/seduction16/01/25 04:56 AM
2

Or go the opposite route and just say ridiculous stuff and try to standout
/r/seduction15/01/25 02:38 AM
2

Great question. I too would like to hear the community's insights. My text game is ok at best, but I feel I've had more success with assumptions/cold reads than asking questions. I try to do it in a way that IMPLIES a response, without actually asking a question. Kind of like your example, instead of 'how did you feel when you first moved here', saying something like, 'you moved here all on your own... youre either crazy or brave but i cant tell which'. Probably not the best example, but again, …
/r/seduction14/01/25 10:37 PM
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Make jokes, tease gently, playful banter, inside jokes. Maybe some very light touch, like a tap on the shoulder or arm from time to time. Eventually you'll have to ask her out once the tension is there. Just keep it chill and casual.
/r/seduction03/01/25 05:46 AM
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Only flirt with women at work if you have the intention of dating them seriously. Obviously you won't know how serious the potential relationship might get when youre just entering the flirting stage, but you should approach the situation as though you would expect a serious relationship if you both click. Everybody says not to date people you work with, but here's the thing, work and school and hobbies are where most people meet their partners. The thing is you don't want to just fuck people yo…
/r/seduction03/01/25 04:57 AM
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Agreed.
/r/seduction18/12/24 06:56 AM
4

Gym and beard. If you can't have hair you gotta maximize what you've got left
/r/seduction16/12/24 06:19 AM
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Gotta learn to flirt and escalate big dog
/r/seduction15/12/24 10:48 PM
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Don't listen to these jokers. What you need to do is flirt. Start simple and light early. Teasing, humor, touch. Remember simple and light early. Then begin to escalate, escalate, escalate. Cooking together time would be ideal time for escalation to peak into making a move. Then go from there. Feel the vibe. If she's ready to get steamy you'll know. And if she's not the ice is broken and you can continue to flirt hard and escalate with more touching and kissing. Dinner will build the tension to …
/r/seduction15/12/24 05:45 AM
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Bro I'm pretty sure her coming to your place to watch a movie is relationship stuff.
/r/seduction03/12/24 08:42 PM
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