Loose_Tea444 Archive

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1	How could I have approached these situations differently? I love that you're interested in checking yourself. In the first scenario, the question she asked was, "What grocery store do you think she shops at most?" And it seems only logical to help her by giving her more information, so she gives the right kind of gift. Right? Unfortunately, no. By telling her, "She doesn't really want money or gift cards but needs emotional support." you poo pooed all over her gift as she had already decided in her mind what she was willing and able to give. At this po…	/r/RedPillWives	15/08/24 02:27 PM
3	My husband is emotionally draining It sounds like he may be feeling disrespected. I would encourage you First, to pull out your self care list and do something fun. Walking on eggshells indicates you are trying to control his mood, which you are not responsible for. In my experience, when I focus on my mood (which i have total control of), H tends to follow and even if he doesn't why should I wait to be happy Second, rewind your last few interactions and check to see if you have inadvertently tried to teach, improve, or correct h…	/r/RedPillWives	05/08/24 04:19 PM
5	What would the “Surrendered Wife” approach be to husband’s excessive porn use? This sound so painful and disappointing. What would it feel like to shower yourself with affection, pamper yourself, do something super fun with a girls night. Shower him with gratitude, I hear you's, and whatever you think, have you considered an SFP?Hiw about expressing a desire for coaching or even to become a coach. Your doing great.	/r/RedPillWives	04/08/23 11:23 PM
2	What books could help a man and husband to grow? The Empowered wife is an amazing book, not sure where I messed up or if I messed up at all ? my marriage did get much better but I found out about a secret addiction. Now I'm having major trust issues. I'm doing my best to get back to the skills. Nice to meet another Empowered wife Vegetable.	/r/RedPillWives	11/07/23 10:45 PM
1	Looking for advice on managing taking offense. Your welcome	/r/RedPillWives	10/07/23 08:24 PM
6	Looking for advice on managing taking offense. I love that you want to dictate your own free time. Frivolous fun is part of what makes a woman a woman. Another option for direct criticism. ie. "Your hobbies aren't productive they serve no purpose." could be responded to by simply saying "OUCH" and calmly leaving the room, here you are leading with your hurt not anger or defensiveness, ouch neither shames or blames and let's the other person know they hurt you without explaining why (which is disrespectful). He may not like this because his c…	/r/RedPillWives	10/07/23 07:01 PM
3	Looking for advice on managing taking offense. In my experience, as long as I affirm his thinking, stick to expressing my feelings and what I want/like or what I don't want/like. A resolution forms naturally. Take video games, for example, hypothetically Him: ya know playing video games is a waste of time money, and it's not healthy for your mind. (Stating his thoughts) Me: I hear you, I'll quit if you think that's best and I feel comfortable with the amount of time and money I spend playing. (Me acknowledging him and stating my feelings) Hi…	/r/RedPillWives	10/07/23 04:59 PM
1	Looking for advice on managing taking offense. I'm curious: Is it possible that he feels in competition with this hobby for your time and attention?	/r/RedPillWives	10/07/23 02:08 PM