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| 1 | Why women date upwards, its ties to the Greater Male Variability Hypothesis and evolutionThey sneak off and do it behind the alpha male's back. You know people have already studied this. Precisely because I know something about this topic, I know that the professionals who study chimpanzees don't even say they have "alpha males." They talk about higher-ranking males or dominant males, not alpha males. Not exactly. It's true that female chimpanzees can mate with several males during estrus, and they may even do so secretly, behind the highest-ranking male's back. But that doesn't mea… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/07/26 09:48 AM |
| 1 | women dont think about menThey only have sex when they are in heat. No, there are exceptions. Some species have sex for different reasons. Bonobos, for example, use sex for social purposes: to reduce tension, keep males calm, help females gain social status, and they also engage in homosexual sex frequently. They don’t think about it or want it unless they are in heat. The point is that you're actually admitting what I was saying. My argument was that men and women tend to become sexually aroused in different ways—not th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/07/26 09:28 AM |
| 1 | women dont think about menThey only have sex when they are in heat. No, there are exceptions. Some species have sex for different reasons. Bonobos, for example, use sex for social purposes: to reduce tension, keep males calm, help females gain social status, and they also engage in homosexual sex frequently. They don’t think about it or want it unless they are in heat. Whereas women can want sex every day and experience subtle elevations in their sex drive during their cycle. The point is that you're actually admitting w… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/07/26 09:16 AM |
| 1 | women dont think about menExactly, she didn't understand what I was trying to say. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/07/26 09:05 AM |
| 1 | women dont think about menI wasn't saying that women go into heat like animals. I was talking about estrus in female animals and how it can help explain, to some extent, how human sexuality works. I mentioned estrus because, in female animals, that's when they become sexually aroused and receptive. Males, on the other hand, become aroused in response to seeing a female in estrus. His argument was that something somewhat similar could apply to humans: that for women, sexual arousal may be driven more by an internal hormon… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/07/26 09:04 AM |
| – | Why women date upwards, its ties to the Greater Male Variability Hypothesis and evolutionNo, chimpanzees do not literally mate with just anyone. There are preferences, hierarchies, and competition among males. Higher-ranking males tend to have greater mating success. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/07/26 11:23 PM |
| 1 | how frequently you turned on about men you see in public ?No, many women even say that they don't get aroused by looking at men's bodies, even if they feel emotionally attracted to them. Their arousal tends to come more from a hormonal state that makes them feel sexually aroused, rather than from seeing someone's body—even if it's their partner's. They may have sex with him because they enjoy feeling desired, because they want to have an orgasm, because they're emotionally ready, to please their partner, for validation, or out of love. Whether there's … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/07/26 09:51 PM |
| 1 | women dont think about menHe was talking about estrus in female animals and how that may partly explain how it works in humans. He said that, for women, sexual arousal comes more from a hormonal state than as a response to seeing an attractive body. In other words, women don't usually get aroused just by looking at a man's body, nor do they imagine having sex with him solely because of that—especially if he's a stranger. And of course, as a woman, you can experience physical arousal every day. What I'm saying is that it … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/07/26 03:36 PM |
| – | how frequently you turned on about men you see in public ?But that would also be physical attraction for women, because they're attracted to how a man looks, but it doesn't sexually arouse them or make them wet. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/07/26 03:31 PM |
| 1 | women dont think about menYes, what I mean is that many women wouldn't agree with the way you phrase it. In other words, they wouldn't admit it because your title is misleading. For us men, it makes sense because if a woman's body doesn't arouse us, then we clearly aren't attracted to her. For women, it doesn't necessarily work that way. Everyone knows how male sexuality works because we're constantly exposed to it: OnlyFans, prostitution, strip clubs, pornography—basically all of these revolve around men being sexually … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/07/26 10:55 AM |
| 1 | women dont think about menNo, women know perfectly well when they're aroused if that arousal is strong. You must be talking about very mild arousal, not something like, "arousal running down their legs." Studies have shown women aren't even aware when they're sexually aroused or physically excited by a man—they need machines to confirm they are. A woman can be aroused because of ovulation or her hormonal state; that doesn't necessarily mean she's aroused by looking at a man's body. I assume that's the kind of arousal you… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/07/26 10:46 AM |
| 1 | women dont think about menNo, yesterday's post clearly showed that women don't experience the same kind of spontaneous sexual arousal from simply seeing a man's body that men often experience when looking at women. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/07/26 09:26 AM |
| 2 | women dont think about menWell, women aren't going to agree with the title because it's confusing to them. It needs to clearly say that women don't become sexually aroused just by looking at men. That should have been the title so they'd understand what you mean; otherwise, they won't agree. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/07/26 09:21 AM |
| – | women dont think about menI copied and pasted it. It's not that women can't be attracted to men. It's that men and women experience sexual arousal differently. Women simply don't feel that kind of sexual interest or get wet just from seeing random men. Women's arousal tends to come more from being in a hormonal state that can facilitate arousal, and then from a man they know and are attracted to because of his personality, the way he acts, and the way he looks touching or kissing them. I think that's what turns them on. … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/07/26 09:15 AM |
| 1 | women dont think about menIt's not that women can't be attracted to men. It's that men and women experience sexual arousal differently. Women simply don't feel that kind of sexual interest or get wet just from seeing random men. Women's arousal tends to come more from being in a hormonal state that can facilitate arousal, and then from a man they know and are attracted to because of his personality, the way he acts, and the way he looks touching or kissing them. I think that's what turns them on. They can also become aro… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/07/26 09:12 AM |
| – | women dont think about menIt's not that they don't think about men, but when they see random men on the street, they don't feel the kind of arousal, sexual interest, or imagine having sex with them the way we do with women. Based on yesterday's comments, many of them said that if a guy is handsome, they might find him attractive, but that doesn't make them imagine having sex with him or get wet. They don't think about what those men look like naked or imagine them in suggestive poses. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/07/26 09:05 AM |
| 3 | how frequently you turned on about men you see in public ?No, some of them here even said that they were attractive men, handsome, cute, and their type, but that they didn't trigger any arousal, and that that's simply not how female sexual arousal works. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/07/26 11:47 PM |
| 1 | "Research consistently finds that different-sex couples in which women have higher socioeconomic status than their partners are more likely to separate."I think you're conflating general arousal with sexual arousal. They're not the same thing. A man being dominant may make him more attractive as a mate, but that's different from directly causing sexual arousal. That's what I meant. By arousal, I'm referring specifically to genital sexual arousal. Also, I only speak Spanish and I'm translating this into English, so I may be mixing up terms that are clearer in Spanish. | /r/BlackPillScience | 17/07/26 03:48 PM |
| 1 | "Research consistently finds that different-sex couples in which women have higher socioeconomic status than their partners are more likely to separate."When I say the egg is more "expensive," I'm not saying that evolution gives it more value. I'm saying that it requires a greater biological investment: eggs are more costly to produce than sperm, and, in addition, in most mammals the female takes on gestation, lactation, and the care of the offspring. Females are more selective in part because of this. I'm talking about a biological fact, not that evolution has goals, preferences, or that it cares. Nor that it's something nature favors—just a fa… | /r/BlackPillScience | 17/07/26 03:40 PM |
| 1 | The reason men get "friendzoned" more than women is often because there's a Masculinity + "Does he say / do the right things to turn me on" component to women's sexuality that eliminates her male friends from contention.Testosteron. Biology itself is against us. In mammals, the female goes into heat, which makes the male become aroused and want sex with her. In contrast, there is no male "heat"; there isn't something the male has that makes the female become aroused like that. The female becomes aroused mainly because of her own heat, her own hormonal state, as a response to her menstrual cycle. And humans are mammals. So it makes sense that a man's body is aroused by a woman's body, while a woman is aroused wh… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/07/26 03:01 PM |
| 1 | "Research consistently finds that different-sex couples in which women have higher socioeconomic status than their partners are more likely to separate."No, it's not that that turns them on; they get aroused because of their hormonal state, not as a reaction to a man being strong. What you're talking about is selection and attraction (but not arousal; a woman isn't going to get wet just because a man is strong unless that man arouses her by touching or kissing her). In other words, they're attracted to those men and choose them because they demonstrate that they're strong and bold, which is good for protecting them. | /r/BlackPillScience | 17/07/26 02:48 PM |
| 1 | If you dont like women, don’t date them.I know women from this sub who say that if they find out their man paid for sex, they tell him that he has to pay them the same way he paid the prostitutes before even thinking about having sex. Otherwise, they say, "It's not attraction, and I'm worth less than a prostitute, and you're not as attracted to me as you were to her if you were willing to pay." Basically, they use the same logic people here use: "If a woman did these acts with another man before, she has to do them with me within the … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/07/26 01:51 PM |
| -1 | If you dont like women, don’t date them.I'm much further to the left. This old playbook of using sex as a weapon/tool? It's the ultimate form of self-objectification. It reduces women to that one variable. As a tool, though, it is very effective. Many women know that's what men value most about them. That's exactly why you're bringing it up—because it bothers you—and almost this entire subreddit is made up of men complaining about sex, which only proves the point. Women don't like this reality and it creates resentment, so they use se… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/07/26 01:05 PM |
| 1 | "Research consistently finds that different-sex couples in which women have higher socioeconomic status than their partners are more likely to separate."It has nothing to do with valuing eggs or sperm, because nature has no such concept. I'm not talking about one being valued more than the other in that sense. Rather, in most mammals, females invest more in each offspring (large eggs, gestation, lactation). In contrast, males invest less in the production of gametes. This difference in investment tends to make females more selective, while males compete more for access to them. As for the rest of what you've written, I think we're talking about … | /r/BlackPillScience | 17/07/26 12:30 PM |
| 2 | Women being sexually selective with their own partners makes almost no sense.I have had female friends who say there are things they would only do for men they are very attracted to or really like. This doesn't make sense, because why would you date someone you're not attracted to? I also have female friends who say they wouldn't even have sex with the man of their dreams unless he showed genuine interest in them (for example, by taking them to expensive restaurants or buying them things), because to them that is a sign that he truly cares about them. And we're talking a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/07/26 01:01 AM |
| 2 | Women being sexually selective with their own partners makes almost no sense.Men feel sexual attraction and arousal toward women just by seeing them; we imagine them naked. Women don't think about what you look like naked or imagine you holding your penis just from seeing you, even if you're their ideal type. And that's how it is biologically. In most mammals, females attract males through their state of estrus; there is no equivalent of this in males. Females become aroused by their own estrus, not by signals from males. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/07/26 12:24 AM |
| 1 | Women being sexually selective with their own partners makes almost no sense.Because you are man, and the other men aren't trying to impress you, they are who they are. Bros are bros. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/07/26 12:20 AM |
| 8 | "Research consistently finds that different-sex couples in which women have higher socioeconomic status than their partners are more likely to separate."It has nothing to do with simping. Women are hypergamous by nature. In the same way that we hate that they are hypergamous, they hate that we are polygamous and not very selective. From an evolutionary perspective, the egg is costly and requires more investment, while the sperm is cheap and does not require as much investment. So the male of the species has to compensate for that investment in some way. In most mammals, females display signs of estrus that make males become aroused and want sex.… | /r/BlackPillScience | 16/07/26 03:29 PM |
| 1 | "Research consistently finds that different-sex couples in which women have higher socioeconomic status than their partners are more likely to separate."It has nothing to do with simping; women are hypergamous by nature. In the same way that we wish they were hypergamous, they wish that we were promiscuous and polygamous. From an evolutionary perspective, the egg is costly and requires greater investment, while the sperm is cheap and does not require as much investment. So the male of the species has to compensate for that investment in some way. In most mammals, females display signs of estrus that make males become aroused and seek sex. There … | /r/BlackPillScience | 16/07/26 03:28 PM |
| 1 | I don't think women love men the way men love women and that's not a bad thingAlright dude, chill. I’ll admit it—I thought you were talking about something else until I read the page you sent me. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/07/26 05:14 PM |
| 1 | I don't think women love men the way men love women and that's not a bad thingThe point is that we're not talking about the same thing. It's not that you're denying that males and females select mates differently; you're saying that human romantic love (I'm talking about something more sexual) evolved from attachment and friendship, not only from sexual selection. But that still doesn't contradict the idea that sexual selection influences who we're initially attracted to. I'm talking more about sexual attraction and sexual selection. Sexual selection explains part of why … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/07/26 03:46 PM |
| 1 | I don't think women love men the way men love women and that's not a bad thingAgain, humans are animals. What do you want, sources showing that we evolved from them and that we have instincts like they do? Do you want sources that say humans are mammals and that we evolved from there and that we have animal instincts like any other? Do you want sources showing that love has neurobiological foundations? And that there are differences in how males and females select their mates? You have to be lying. I don't even know why I took you seriously. Darwin's theory of sexual sele… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/07/26 02:20 PM |
| – | I don't think women love men the way men love women and that's not a bad thingHumans are still animals. We are mammals, and we share much of our biology with other mammals. Our instincts did not appear out of nowhere; they evolved from the same biological mechanisms that exist in other mammals. In evolutionary biology, sexual selection is widely accepted, where males and females do not prioritize the same things. For millions of years, they faced different evolutionary pressures. Humans are no exception. That is why, generally speaking, many women tend to pay attention to… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/07/26 12:39 PM |
| 0 | Women control the grey areaWomen do that too. They pretend to reach for their wallet to split the bill 50/50, expecting him to insist. Deep down, their intention is not to pay. According to you, some men think, "I'll keep being caring and romantic as long as there's sex." But I also know that some women think, "I'll keep showing sexual interest as long as you keep investing money, time, and effort in me." In both cases, the other person finds out later that the affection or interest was conditioned on something that wasn'… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/07/26 10:24 PM |
| 1 | Women control the grey areaDating is the same. If a man doesn't pay, doesn't entertain you, and doesn't take you to nice places, it's the same. Let's not kid ourselves. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/07/26 06:58 PM |
| 0 | Women control the grey areaWomen do that too. They use sex and love as bait, and then, once they're in a relationship, they take them away when you stop spending money on them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/07/26 05:35 PM |
| 3 | Women control the grey areaWhether you express your intentions or not, it isn't going to make a woman want to sleep with you any sooner. In fact, pretending you don't have those intentions will probably just make her think you're looking for the same thing she is, which usually delays sex even more. Trust me, I'm a man, and that's exactly how I experienced it. It takes longer. Also, women know that, for us, the problem was never "expressing our intentions." The problem is that we only like that strategy if it gets us the … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/07/26 05:32 PM |
| – | I don't think women love men the way men love women and that's not a bad thingThe most of the animals is the evidence. Just look at them. Males desire females, become aroused, and want to have sex with them when the females are in heat. In contrast, females only have sex with males when they are in heat. It is not attraction to the male; rather, the hormonal changes in their bodies make them sexually aroused. The male, on the other hand, is aroused by the female herself. Furthermore, females evaluate many traits before mating with a male once they are in heat. They pay at… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/07/26 04:32 PM |
| 0 | Passport bros is the only real solution for average and below average men. And men and women should agree with itYou won't be desired wherever you go either. You'll only be valued for your usefulness by the other women too, not genuinely desired. If most women in your own country don't desire you, what makes you think women somewhere else suddenly will? It's not magic—it's simply about what you can provide. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/07/26 09:52 AM |
| 1 | I don't think women love men the way men love women and that's not a bad thingFrom a biological perspective, women's attraction and LOVE to men can depend on their achievements, among other factors. Thats why its not just a friendshep, and that's why, kn my viw, for us men, a relationship without sex is just a friendship, whereas for women it isn't, because factors such as protection, ambition, and others are still present. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/07/26 09:48 AM |
| 1 | If you have to use Money or Status to attract a Women she just doesnt like you that much.I don't think women would bother with men if it weren't for a fun personality and someone who makes them enjoy their time together, whether they're physically attracted to them or not, regardless of what they look like. I think most women date men mainly for the enjoyment, for someone who makes them have a good time and experience a passionate story, rather than simply for sex. Basically, without that fun personality, they wouldn't have many reasons to date them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/07/26 11:07 PM |
| 1 | How common is it for women to have higher sex drives than men?It doesn't necessarily have to be that way. I'm a man, and I don't feel the need to orgasm with a woman. I want to ejaculate, but it doesn't have to be with someone else. In that respect, my female partners have felt very comfortable with me and have told me that my sexuality is more similar to the female experience: even though they can become physically aroused, they don't necessarily feel a strong desire for sex itself—they'd often rather just masturbate, and they mainly have sex for the emot… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/07/26 02:26 PM |
| 1 | How common is it for women to have higher sex drives than men?There's quite a bit of evidence that, on average, women have a lower sex drive than men. Exceptions don't make the rule. Gay men tend to have the most sex, while lesbians tend to have the least. Gay men even have saunas and parties specifically for casual sex. Women are generally less interested in casual sex, desire it less, and are more likely to regret it afterward. If women had the same level of sexual desire as men, they would pursue casual sex much more, just as receptive gay men do—even t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/07/26 02:17 PM |
| 1 | If you have to use Money or Status to attract a Women she just doesnt like you that much.That's nonsense. Most men wouldn't be attractive to most women without a personality that makes them enjoyable to be around. If that weren't the case, women would just use a vibrator and watch romantic movies. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/07/26 02:04 PM |
| 1 | If you have to use Money or Status to attract a Women she just doesnt like you that much.This also makes sense when it comes to the women OP is talking about. If there are five wealthy men offering you money in exchange for dating them, you wouldn't just choose one—you'd spend some time with all of them to get more money and status. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/07/26 02:00 PM |
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