Lost-in-Ct Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
2	It gets tough this time of year Stop worrying about your cheating ex-wife, who you have no control over and focus on trying to see your children (who you’re legally entitled to see) more.	/r/Divorce_Men	20/12/19 11:28 PM
2	Child support, salaries, commission, and a business owner If you agree on the kids and neither of you want to fight on the complicated finances more power to you. I’d look into getting a mediator or an attorney who does collaborative divorces (whatever they have in your state) to help put something together. As a general rule spousal support can be waived and assets can be split however you chose. Moreover, the court doesn’t want to waste their time and make you waste time and money to do complicated evaluations of two different businesses. The courts …	/r/Divorce_Men	20/10/19 01:52 PM
2	Wife convinced me to refi so she could get half the house Even in a community property state that’s not entirely how that works. Who’s on the mortgage and the deed doesn’t actually matter all that much. If you bought the house prior to the marriage you might be solely entitled to the equity from prior to the marriage. If you refinanced and took money out that probably becomes a more complicated question and if you took money out of the re-fi and spent it on something else that money is gone. The details matter. Talk to an attorney yesterday.	/r/Divorce_Men	05/10/19 02:00 PM
2	Joint Custody w/ Visitation? Any experience? My wife and I separated and she moved out nearly 7 months ago. Since then, I haven’t had a day that I haven’t seen my kids (5 and 7) and I wouldn’t want it any other way. If you’re both well off and agree on money that’s a good start. If you can get along well enough to parent together that’s even better. It’s better to let your love of your kids lead the way rather than your hate your ex. Ask yourself, can you coordinate and communicate with your ex multiple times per week? Can you see your ex …	/r/Divorce_Men	15/09/19 01:53 PM
1	Confused about how a settlement is actually paid in a divorce Definitely talk to your accountant. The short of it is, if you owe X you can structure your payment of X in any way you want. The complicated part is the tax piece for your business and I wouldn’t want to fuck that up.	/r/Divorce_Men	15/09/19 01:14 AM
1	Confused about how a settlement is actually paid in a divorce Is it a sole proprietorship or llc or is it incorporated or an S-Corp? Are there partners or is it just you?	/r/Divorce_Men	14/09/19 11:30 PM
1	Some post divorce BS, EX trying to force me to change my health insurance policy, after loosing her coverage for the kids No she can’t make you change plans. Look at it this way, she just happens to have “inside information.” As a general rule, your ex spouse can’t call up your employer to find out what your healthcare options are. None of her business. Of course, she still could try to make your life difficult over the doctor issue.	/r/Divorce_Men	14/09/19 11:22 PM
2	So I'm getting screwed for being financially responsible? Don’t take this the wrong way, but you’re getting screwed because you didn’t realize the legal ramifications of marriage going in. The legal side of marriage presumes shared finances. Period.	/r/Divorce_Men	14/09/19 08:19 PM
2	Child support advice. Most of the commenters hit on it, but the short of it is that child support is never final and can always be re-visited. Two parents who agree can do what they want, but child support disagreements always go back to court.	/r/Divorce_Men	01/08/19 02:10 PM