Lost_on_my_quest Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
-2	I was almost framed for rape in 2019 Sigh. Tell me how’s it factual to say it’s common? I’m saying it’s not factual to claim.	/r/MensRights	17/07/26 01:49 AM
-14	I was almost framed for rape in 2019 That is actually not true. The legal system is not designed to convict just on a victims statement, that is so incredibly challenging that most law enforcement agencies inactivate cases if there’s not corroborating We can’t look at anecdotes and Reddit stories to say “it’s common. “ This is why people ignore men’s rights. If you tell them false allegations are common, they’re going to dismiss everything you say because that is not backed by legitimate research or studies.	/r/MensRights	16/07/26 09:57 PM
-18	I was almost framed for rape in 2019 Studies that show 30-40% are as bogus as the studies that show 2%. The truth is, the data will never be exact in this but it’s important to be as factual as possible. Saying it’s not common is not feminism. You can say it’s not common and it’s awful when it happens and should be punished.	/r/MensRights	16/07/26 06:57 PM
-41	I was almost framed for rape in 2019 It’s actually very low and not common. It should be charged very harshly when it does happen but inflating the frequency doesn’t help anyone.	/r/MensRights	16/07/26 03:31 PM
1	Echo chambers As a feminist (who believe in men’s right too) I don’t engage with comments anymore because I’ve experienced exactly what you post. “All women or all feminist” and being indirectly told what I must believe or thinks from others because of those labels.	/r/MensRights	16/04/26 08:16 PM
2	Yes, it's all of them I don’t want to fall into “whataboutism” but white feminism left everyone behind (BIPOC, men, etc). I think more are willing to help that we think BUT we’re elbowing each other in these gender rules over who has it worse, acting like it’s a zero sum game. We are as weak as a our weakest, we are as poor as our poorest. Everyone benefits when we all have a voice at the table. I’m not going to bother replying to most of the others- thank you for being kind and respectful.	/r/MensRights	30/03/26 02:55 AM
-1	Yes, it's all of them Feminist here! Men are victims of sexual violence and rape and men have very real issues. I believe male victims are underreported and we should do more as a society to normalize and remove the stigma of male victims. I think we are failing men. I don’t believe men have it harder than woman, both have hardships in different ways. Our unique experiences are impossible to compare and everyone loses when you start arguing who has it worst.	/r/MensRights	27/03/26 11:26 PM
1	Women strong..... boyfriends better stay in line! I appreciate a nuanced conversation about this!	/r/MensRights	25/03/26 10:39 PM
-8	Women strong..... boyfriends better stay in line! It lands as a joke (not everyone will find it funny, especially male victims) because the “shared reality” is that many people (not all) perceive violence from men toward women as more common and more threatening, so jokes that flip that dynamic. When a joke flips that pattern, some people read it as irony. But for people whose experiences don’t match that ‘shared reality,’ it doesn’t land as a joke at all. I don’t think it helps to slap it as hypocritical or misandric, that pushes people away f…	/r/MensRights	25/03/26 10:23 PM
-12	Women strong..... boyfriends better stay in line! It’s not hypocritical. You’re mixing up intent, impact and context. Violence is violence and is always wrong. Misandry would be believing violence against men is okay. “Same rule for everyone” ignores context and shared reality.	/r/MensRights	25/03/26 10:03 PM
1	Uber and Lyft sued over gender preference programs For most of history, women couldn’t leave dangerous situations even when they wanted to. Not because they were weaker, but because the system literally blocked exits: If you couldn’t open a bank account, rent housing, or get credit without a man, you were financially trapped If marital rape wasn’t a crime, the law didn’t even define your home as a place you could be unsafe If police were told domestic violence was “a family matter,” reporting changed nothing If shelters turn you away for having …	/r/MensRights	08/11/25 03:53 PM
-2	Uber and Lyft sued over gender preference programs The parallel fails because one comes from historical exclusion and one comes from historical violence risk. “Whites-only” was about preventing access to power and safety for Black people. “Women-only” spaces exist because access to safety has repeatedly been denied to women. One is gatekeeping power. The other is harm reduction.	/r/MensRights	07/11/25 05:27 PM
1	The vicious cycle I feel sorry you see things like that. Most women aren’t out to harm anyone, and accountability applies to individuals, not an entire gender. Seeing the world as everyone against you only keeps you stuck in frustration.	/r/MensRights	07/11/25 05:14 PM
1	The vicious cycle Wanting change and support for men is valid. Building it by turning women into the enemy is self-sabotage. If you genuinely want men to heal and thrive, the movement can’t run on the belief that most women are harmful. Nothing improves from that starting point	/r/MensRights	07/11/25 04:36 PM
-9	Uber and Lyft sued over gender preference programs The parallel fails because one comes from historical exclusion and one comes from historical violence risk. “Whites-only” was about preventing access to power and safety for Black people. “Women-only” spaces exist because access to safety has repeatedly been denied to women. One is gatekeeping power. The other is harm reduction. That’s not cognitive dissonance, that’s context.	/r/MensRights	07/11/25 04:06 PM
-4	Zohran Mamdani’s all-female transition team features familiar names Shifting the inbalance.	/r/MensRights	07/11/25 04:05 PM
1	The vicious cycle You’re right that men absolutely can be harmed by women, and that those experiences deserve space without immediate shutdown. Empathy for hurt men isn’t the issue. The issue is turning personal trauma into a universal rule where women are treated as a threat class, a hive mind, or people holding collective “weapons.” Pain explains anger, but it doesn’t prove a system, strategy, or intention. And I don’t agree that anyone challenging claims about all women means they don’t show up for men elsewhe…	/r/MensRights	07/11/25 04:02 PM
-17	Uber and Lyft sued over gender preference programs False equivalence is a logical fallacy where two things are presented as being equivalent or comparable, even though they are fundamentally different in some important way. It's an argument that makes a comparison between two situations, groups, or actions that are not actually similar, and thus the comparison is misleading.	/r/MensRights	07/11/25 05:09 AM
-25	Uber and Lyft sued over gender preference programs We call this “false equivalency”	/r/MensRights	07/11/25 04:36 AM
-17	Zohran Mamdani’s all-female transition team features familiar names No one would comment if it was an all men team.	/r/MensRights	07/11/25 04:36 AM
-7	The vicious cycle Wanting to step back from dating is fine, but painting all women as toxic or “special just for having a uterus” isn’t reality. A bad ex or personal experience isn’t evidence about half the population. Therapy isn’t a weapon against men, men underuse it because of stigma, not because female therapists are out to get them. Criticism isn’t oppression, and trauma, poor communication, and unmet expectations affect everyone, not just one gender. Acting like women are villains and men are victims just …	/r/MensRights	06/11/25 05:44 AM
1	"Only 4% of accusations are false" gives the same vibes as "There are more gays now than 50 years ago" No, the studies are not limited to court-proven perjury. Most measure confirmed false reports in investigations, which include cases closed as fabricated, recanted, or proven false by evidence, not only those that resulted in a courtroom perjury conviction. Court convictions for false reporting are always rarer because prosecutors overwhelmingly choose not to charge, but that’s not how these studies calculate false report rates. There is also zero credible research showing that “the real number …	/r/MensRights	06/11/25 05:07 AM
1	"Only 4% of accusations are false" gives the same vibes as "There are more gays now than 50 years ago" Eyewitness confidence is not a reliable indicator of accuracy. That’s not opinion, it’s established science. The American Psychological Association has stated that factors like stress, weapon focus, lighting, race‐effect, lineup design, and suggestion can lead to high-confidence but factually incorrect identifications. People can genuinely believe they’re right and still be wrong. Legally, a witness being mistaken is not the same as perjury. Perjury requires intent to deceive, not just being inc…	/r/MensRights	06/11/25 05:06 AM
1	"Only 4% of accusations are false" gives the same vibes as "There are more gays now than 50 years ago" Multiple studies you cited report confirmed false allegations in the 2–8% range, most commonly around 5% (Ferguson 2016; Lisak 2010; EVAW; NSVRC). That means 92–98% are not confirmed false. Importantly, “false” often includes unsubstantiated, withdrawn, or lacking evidence, not proven intentional lies (Saunders 2016). None of these sources support the claim that accusations are frequently fabricated or weaponized against men. They show the opposite: false reporting rates for sexual assault are s…	/r/MensRights	06/11/25 05:03 AM
1	"Only 4% of accusations are false" gives the same vibes as "There are more gays now than 50 years ago" I don’t disagree with that. There needs to be harsh consequences for false allegations.	/r/MensRights	05/11/25 08:57 PM
2	"Only 4% of accusations are false" gives the same vibes as "There are more gays now than 50 years ago" Here’s some more sources for you: Ferguson, C.E. & Malouff, J.M. (2016). Assessing Police Classifications of Sexual Assault Reports: A Meta-Analysis of False Reporting Rates. Found about 5.2% false reports across seven police-based studies. PubMed: https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/26679304/ University study: Lisak, D., Gardinier, L., Nicksa, S.C., & Cote, A.M. (2010). False Allegations of Sexual Assault: An Analysis of Ten Years of Reported Cases. Looked at 136 campus reports; 8 cases (≈5.9%) wer…	/r/MensRights	05/11/25 05:23 PM
1	"Only 4% of accusations are false" gives the same vibes as "There are more gays now than 50 years ago" That 25% stat from the FBI isn’t saying that 1 in 4 rape allegations were false. It’s saying that in about 25% of cases sent for DNA testing, the main suspect was excluded as the source of the DNA. That’s a huge and important number for wrongful convictions, but it’s not the same as “the accuser lied.” In many of those cases, the assault still happened, it just wasn’t committed by the person who was originally charged. False allegations (as in, cases proven to be deliberately fabricated) are a d…	/r/MensRights	05/11/25 05:20 PM
0	"Only 4% of accusations are false" gives the same vibes as "There are more gays now than 50 years ago" It’s not about what I want to admit or not. I also work with police who run and conduct these investigations and civilians who are trained to be forensic interviewers. It’s an whole field I suggest you look into. False allegations are rare. True, no one knows the exact number just like no one knows the exact number of actual assaults that occur.	/r/MensRights	04/11/25 04:04 PM
1	"Only 4% of accusations are false" gives the same vibes as "There are more gays now than 50 years ago" I bet that fun as a kid. Because it’s exhausting having to argue this in 2025. And no one changes their mind anyways.	/r/MensRights	04/11/25 03:44 PM
0	"Only 4% of accusations are false" gives the same vibes as "There are more gays now than 50 years ago" I haven’t posted any feelings. I work in this field, I study this field. I see this every day. Interviews of children, women and men. False allegations are rare. There’s zero statistic or study that proves they are common. There are tons of evidence and studies to show they are rare.	/r/MensRights	04/11/25 03:43 PM
1	"Only 4% of accusations are false" gives the same vibes as "There are more gays now than 50 years ago" I feel sorry for you if you think court is the end all be all on the truth. The legal system is garbage.	/r/MensRights	04/11/25 03:41 PM
0	"Only 4% of accusations are false" gives the same vibes as "There are more gays now than 50 years ago" I’m not saying false allegation don’t happen. I’m saying it’s rare. I’m saying I work in field that interviews victims (children, women and men) and what you are saying doesn’t happen- that’s not why victims recant.	/r/MensRights	04/11/25 03:39 PM
1	"Only 4% of accusations are false" gives the same vibes as "There are more gays now than 50 years ago" Nope. Sorry that facts don’t like your feelings. Woman have way more reasons to not come forward than to come forward. False allegations are rare.	/r/MensRights	04/11/25 04:44 AM
-2	"Only 4% of accusations are false" gives the same vibes as "There are more gays now than 50 years ago" Again that isn’t true. This is my field. That doesn’t happen.	/r/MensRights	04/11/25 04:42 AM
-4	"Only 4% of accusations are false" gives the same vibes as "There are more gays now than 50 years ago" That isn’t true. Most cases don’t even get to court. Forensic interviews happen all the time and most cases never go to court. In fact, the fact that sexual assault is normally based on the testimony of the victim is why most victims don’t come forward.	/r/MensRights	03/11/25 10:12 PM
-4	"Only 4% of accusations are false" gives the same vibes as "There are more gays now than 50 years ago" It’s not. I work in this field.	/r/MensRights	03/11/25 08:43 PM
-6	"Only 4% of accusations are false" gives the same vibes as "There are more gays now than 50 years ago" I think you’re ignoring the fact that the majority of women still don’t come forward as victims. The rate of false allegations is low. Yes it should be taken very seriously but it’s low. Yes, men are even more unlikely to come forward which also needs to change. All these things can be true at once.	/r/MensRights	03/11/25 08:09 PM