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Look into prenup at the very least and protect every asset of yours. Don't shy away because you feel awkward bringing it up. If she makes a big deal about it I'd prob take a step back and reevaluate. Also if you have kids, you will have child support to deal with regardless.
/r/Divorce_Men27/12/22 12:26 AM
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I have in the nicest way possible 🤣
/r/Divorce_Men11/12/22 06:38 PM
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Yes i mean what's the point? It's prob only to fill her own insecurities. Maybe knowing that i am still going through and suffering through the process would make her feel better about herself.
/r/Divorce_Men11/12/22 06:37 PM
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Man I'm sorry you went through this but happy you were able to get your life back. Like me, extremely lucky no kids in the mix since that just complicates things 1000% although part of me is saddened since I'm 40 now and dunno if I'll ever have kids at this point. I have been going no contact, removed her, her friends and family from social and simply trying to move on. Every couple of weeks I'll get message like this, it's the second one about wanting to be besties. She actually had me as her s…
/r/Divorce_Men11/12/22 04:51 PM
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Yes she did this once before, i was sweet and told her to move on in the most loving way possible after a divorce. She responded back a few weeks later obviously mad about taking the dog. Prob upset I'm not helping her anymore with her stuff which i was until a few months ago.
/r/Divorce_Men11/12/22 04:42 PM
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I don't think she has a man tbh, at least not in the traditional way. Possibly had some other attention and simply lost her head (or the true person came out). She's just an extremely selfish person. literally made me go to Sephora and spend $400 bucks on makeup for her a week before she left me, makes it worse to think she had been planning this.
/r/Divorce_Men11/12/22 04:30 PM
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Thank you and i agree with you 100 percent. I even told her no multiple times no more contact for both our mental health and she keeps coming back with "we have 10 year history together, i care for you, etc". Where was all this love when we were married?
/r/Divorce_Men11/12/22 04:25 PM
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Thanks, we're pretty much done with all attorney stuff at this point and part of the agreement was she takes the pup. Last minute before she left she decided to leave her behind with me based on a mutually verbal agreement outside the scope of the separation agreement on how the dog would travel. When she attempted to change our terms i responded back to her attorney with emails. Luckily I kept receipts.
/r/Divorce_Men11/12/22 03:48 PM
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That is what she asked for so i agreed to the pup. The only good thing she did was not push alimony.
/r/Divorce_Men11/12/22 03:43 PM
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Yes agree nothing good will come out of answering. It'll be the same thing again and again.
/r/Divorce_Men11/12/22 03:28 PM
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Sure thing, i don't see posts made under this account since its prob a throw away but I'd be happy to take a look and give you my opinion.
/r/Divorce_Men11/12/22 03:28 PM
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I found it very helpful, allowed me to vent and it's nice to know you're not alone and that others are going through it with you as well. Also giving advice to others for me was therapeutic and made me think of my own situation. TBH was hoping i didn't have to come back after divorce was finalized though but she keeps wanting to maintain contact and be besties. Like literally never worked and took half of everything i made and i burner thousands on thousands even after shit blew up bc i cared fo…
/r/Divorce_Men11/12/22 07:32 AM
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Agree. I wouldn't want her social account regardless. Like why would I want to keep tabs on her, possibly eventually seeing her with someone else? Makes no sense to me at all.
/r/Divorce_Men11/12/22 07:19 AM
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Joint. Part of the settlement was she takes the dog. Only way she agreed to no alimony so didn't have much choice or else it was $5k monthly for 5 years. Regardless, she left and decided not to take the dog on a plane since she knew it wasn't crate trained (she lied to the vet to get the health certificate). Had a last minute change of heart not sure if it was for the dogs health or purely selfish.
/r/Divorce_Men11/12/22 07:18 AM
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Time. That's what you need. It will get better just keep busy and focus on your well being. It would have happened regardless so no point to continue to dwell. I know it's easier said than done but you need to just focus on you now. Good luck.
/r/Divorce_Men11/12/22 07:13 AM
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Thanks for the response. Yes i know, it's hard since i did love her. Not sure why she keeps this up and just not moving on. Second time she writes about wanting to be friends.
/r/Divorce_Men11/12/22 06:14 AM
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Dude really? That's baggage lit on fire lol stay away
/r/Divorce_Men29/10/22 08:55 AM
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If the foundation of a relationship is already weak, which in this case it is based on what OP is saying, a child will only cause the relationship to collapse. It will only make things better if both partners have a strong bond to begin with. Working through it requires both partners to want to be in it together and this is not the case here. It is not fair to OPs partner seeing they are not aware on how OP felt about their relationship. Regardless of how much having a child is the greatest gift…
/r/Divorce_Men29/10/22 08:40 AM
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Do you work and she's in school? How long have you been married?
/r/Divorce_Men29/10/22 01:38 AM
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Thanks so much for the comment. Means a lot. i get sad thinking about it sometimes but nothing good came out of having daily talks. Just prolongs the pain. Not saying it's easy and you will be tempted to pick up the phone, but the cons out weigh the pros. Be strong and if you need someone to vent or chat, hit me up via DM.
/r/Divorce_Men26/10/22 02:38 PM
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I did respond back and told her that i will always care for her and would always have a place in my heart for what we had but it was time we both move on to truly begin the healing process for now and i was doing better that we haven't spoke. She responded back with someone like ok this is what you want etc. Haven't talked for a few weeks now.
/r/Divorce_Men24/10/22 01:26 AM
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I mean you may want to discuss your case with another lawyer if this one isn't representjng you like they should be.
/r/Divorce_Men12/10/22 12:35 AM
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You need to discuss your case with a lawyer like yesterday and have them advise you.
/r/Divorce_Men12/10/22 12:32 AM
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Get a new lawyer asap. Interview a few and see which ones reflect the support and guidance you are looking for. Even if you pay a bit more, you will save money in the long run.
/r/Divorce_Men11/10/22 06:00 AM
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Funny enough, after all the bullshit, she left the dog behind. Too much responsibility for someone who never had it or wanted it. She wrote me last week and doesn't know why we aren't still talking since we have a long history together lol
/r/Divorce_Men10/10/22 12:31 PM
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It's not healthy for you, her family, her and your future new relationship. Suggest you be friendly like you are if you see them but that's it. Once she has someone new, it will change regardless.
/r/Divorce_Men25/07/22 04:03 AM
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Stop and go talk to a lawyer. Today. You don't make money, you're a SAHD so you're owed alimony + retirement funds. Take it and don't be that guy trying to play nice. Take it from everyone here, being nice doesn't get you anywhere and most of us have paid the price. You might change your tune when she's with another man/woman because it will happen if it hasn't already.
/r/Divorce_Men22/07/22 01:58 PM
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You're 100% right...
/r/Divorce_Men22/07/22 03:25 AM
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Words i needed to hear. Got notice today as well and divorce finalized. She got half my life's savings and my dog. She barely even worked while i worked more than full time. Calls me like we're BFFs. Anyways congrats my man. To the next chapter.
/r/Divorce_Men22/07/22 12:42 AM
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This
/r/Divorce_Men18/07/22 01:41 AM
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Gonna cut this short, do NOT move out and get a lawyer like yesterday.
/r/Divorce_Men17/07/22 06:47 PM
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Tbh you shouldn't wait. At the very least go talk to a few others until you find one you're comfortable with and keep it in your back pocket. I personally think that if you and your lawyer don't see eye to eye, it's best to make the changes asap.
/r/Divorce_Men15/07/22 04:39 AM
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I know it's hard and will dent your wallet but if your lawyer isn't representing you like you want, it's time to find a new one. It will cost you more if you don't.
/r/Divorce_Men15/07/22 04:28 AM
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My own experience is that the process is heavily weighted against a man and it's not exactly equally balanced. That said, and I'm simply not trying to cop out of answering but believe that she should decide what she wishes to do.
/r/Divorce_Men11/07/22 08:00 PM
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Never.
/r/Divorce_Men10/07/22 01:12 AM
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I've never gone through this and I feel for you. Personally my wife sending nudes to someone would mean it's over for me, regardless of what's going on. I would still want to make sure she's ok, support her getting better and be there to help her through but the trust is broken. Staying "friends" would be my personal only option. You don't stay in a marriage because you're scared what the person may or may not do. That's emotionally manipulating someone and not a healthy relationship. That being…
/r/Divorce_Men08/04/22 07:20 AM
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This. Also consult a lawyer before doing anything.
/r/Divorce_Men13/03/22 09:19 AM
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Ok so stop communicating directly unless it's necessary. Just let your lawyer handle this and focus on your job and anything that will keep you distracted. If you need to communicate document everything in writing, don't talk over the phone. Start living your life as a free person away from all the toxicity.
/r/Divorce_Men01/03/22 05:50 PM
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Are you both living in the same house? Considering this sounds a bit toxic with all the fighting, you need to let your lawyer handle this and not engage unless you really have to (which you don't, hence the lawyer). Stop communicating directly and take on a hobby or anything that distracts you. Good luck.
/r/Divorce_Men01/03/22 05:45 PM
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You need to talk to your lawyer and keep them in the loop about what's going on. There are things such as marital abandonment but generally requires a spouse to be gone for a year. Your lawyer can advise you on your rights. Unfortunately you can't chase or force your STBXW to participate in your daughter's life. It's their decision and all you can do is stay positive for daughter.
/r/Divorce_Men12/02/22 05:02 PM
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Got the same feedback, didn't fight hard enough, you could have saved so much more. At the end of the day, it's about my mental health and i chose that over some money. I can make it back and tbh have enough white hairs as is lol . Fist bump homie and good luck with everything!
/r/Divorce_Men10/02/22 04:25 AM
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Just want to say congrats my man! Not all come out of a divorce with as much positive outlook as you. Thanks for the advice and best luck to you!
/r/Divorce_Men10/02/22 04:03 AM
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I'm sorry you're going through with this and i feel for you. You put your life and soul into your marriage only for it to end in divorce. What I can say is time will heal. Also consider that living in nightmarish conditions is not only awful for you, but your children suffer as well. While hard right now, believe me, it's for the best. Don't think about what you lost, think about the joy and happiness you will gain in the future for you and your children. Good luck OP.
/r/Divorce_Men05/02/22 07:29 AM
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This.
/r/Divorce_Men31/01/22 07:10 PM
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No once a judge signs off, that's it. They can't come and be like o i forgot the other $50k i really wanted. Once seperation agreement is finalized and judge signs that's it.
/r/Divorce_Men04/01/22 05:53 PM
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That's exactly what he's attempting to negotiate.
/r/Divorce_Men04/01/22 05:48 PM
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Still in the process, trying to negotiate but didn't look good. Also has child support so he's getting hit hard.
/r/Divorce_Men04/01/22 04:13 PM
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Agree, had this happen to a friend. Came out of left field and was a day after the 10 year mark. Get a lawyer stat.
/r/Divorce_Men04/01/22 02:21 PM
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Couples therapy and Self therapy. Divorce mediation if you can both work something out peacefully and if it gets to that point. In the meantime, get a consultation with a lawyer to see your options and consult you on your current situation. Good luck.
/r/Divorce_Men10/10/21 01:23 PM
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From experience, they say they don't want to screw you financially. Don't believe it. Going through issues now.
/r/Divorce_Men22/09/21 01:06 PM
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No they are not. But you wanted to get in a relationship with her and when she shot that down you pivoted to your mutual friend. Doesn't take a rocket scientist to see why she was uncomfortable. She's just not into with what you are into to and that's it.
/r/Divorce_Men20/09/21 06:05 PM
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Nothing wrong with it if that's your thing. It obviously wasn't hers.
/r/Divorce_Men20/09/21 05:44 PM
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Ok, the reason for her reaction is probably because you come off as a scumbag who is just looking to get laid. Not saying you are but all signs point to this.
/r/Divorce_Men20/09/21 05:32 PM
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Your post stated you told her you wanted a polyamory or open relationship and then you asked her if she was in a monogamous relationship with her bf. She said she wouldn't do it or feel right. At that point she probably felt uncomfortable and then you asked about her/your friend which to her made it more ackward. Look, You seem to made up your mind you did nothing wrong so not sure what else to say. I personally wouldn't have brought up the friend.
/r/Divorce_Men20/09/21 05:29 AM
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You literally asked a woman to have a relationship with you while she has a bf and when she said she wasn't interested you shifted gears and basically said "what about your friend, would she be game?" Come on, man.
/r/Divorce_Men20/09/21 05:01 AM
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Honestly dude that's a quick way too turn someone off. She possibly was considering on hooking up but mentioning a person she knows put a damper on the mood. Regardless if you think you were being straight forward, some thoughts are best left to ourselves especially when you are discussing intimate details about each other's lives.
/r/Divorce_Men20/09/21 02:02 AM
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No problem and a lawyer will be able to guide you better than any internet forum 🙂 good luck
/r/Divorce_Men18/09/21 01:54 PM
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Not a lawyer but certain places have residency restrictions on when you can officially file for a divorce so not sure if that's what is in play here. No one can read you wife's mind but i suggest you lawyer up regardless. At the very least for an initial consultation which won't cost you anything.
/r/Divorce_Men18/09/21 08:20 AM
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Let's say you don't get a prenup and you make more money than your spouse who works part-time. You then share in all the expenses but because you make more money, you are paying for more (vacations, home rent/mortgage). Then one day you get told they want a divorce. Not only did you take care of things in the marriage, now you owe the other person half of your stuff and alimony. So now you invested time and money in a marriage that ended in divorce and the other person (weaker half) walks away w…
/r/Divorce_Men10/09/21 10:30 PM
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Thank you and you made some really great points. I know them a bit more than just my bosses and they know my situation intimately. I am sure they'll be a bit upset but i don't think I could function regardless which may make it worse. I believe I am just gonna let them know saying i need to take a step back and that wanting to step forward may have been premature on my end and i realized i need to still focus on me a bit more. Thank you.
/r/Divorce_Men08/08/21 02:55 PM
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Thank you, I have the opportunity to open a restaurant which was my dream since I come from a food background but was going back to tech (I'm a frontend engineer)to appease my wife. I'm wondering if I should go back and invest my time in my dream project now.
/r/Divorce_Men06/08/21 09:48 PM
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