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Yeah, so suspicious. Glad for you not getting roped into it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/22 01:53 PM
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I'm glad you shone a spotlight on this literary queen! I'm actually making it a 2022 resolution goal to read all her stand alone novels. She writes with such brilliant clarity and unflinching honesty about relationships and society. I finished House of Mirth and it was a great cautionary tale about letting society dictate what you should want, rather than doing the deep soul searching required to come to terms with what you actually want and whether what you want is reasonable or good for you. L…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/22 01:52 AM
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Also important to know that a significant portion of trafficked women consider their pimps to be their boyfriends. Grooming can take place on a much longer timeframe than a brief encounter or date. And you do not have to be kidnapped to be trafficked. This is why FDS is so essential to protect women from these predators. More info: https://www.worldwithoutexploitation.org/stats
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 03:47 AM
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All those trolls have mouths as big as those beaks, but no bite. At least the pelican knew when to quit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/22 04:35 AM
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Wow really wasn't aware because the press coverage of them was overwhelmingly positive, especially compared to the British royals. After considerable digging, found some online forums discussing rumors and reported sightings of him with other women. Not in a position to verify, but will err on the side of caution here. I ended up making edits to include couples who may be better examples of the point I was trying to make without as much controversy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/22 01:50 AM
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Yeah, there's a lot of nuance to having healthy bonds where you're not taken for granted. When I wrote "invaluable presence", I was trying to convey that people are bonding to a woman because of who she is rather than what she does for them. As in her personality, her dignity, her level of depth, the ambiance she creates, etc. Something kinda similar to charisma, but it hits people more deeply than that. But yeah, I get how people can twist it to mean women being in service in some way to others…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/22 02:01 PM
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The mindset is the first thing to cultivate. After that, it's the usual leveling up advice. You need financial independence, so you can't be bought. You need to build up your standards and boundaries so you can't be compromised. And cultivate your unique interests rather than appealing to the masses of men. I also think you need to learn to be an invaluable presence in other people's lives before you can be one for a lover. Meaning being a wonderful friend, sister, colleague, etc. Because it tea…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/22 03:44 AM
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Now I have a good excuse to splurge on an American Girl doll I never had as a child but wished I did. 😂 Really great tip OP!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/22 05:01 PM
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Yeah, pick-mes from all races suck. Sorry you had to deal with Asian women who were going at you for dating Asian men. Just as Asian women dating out have had to deal with white women passive-aggressively hinting we're dating yellow-fever losers, calling us "Lu's" (a slur against Asian women invented by Asian men), and saying we're "never part of the competition". Yes, I saw your comment on aznidentity. I really don't care if you're dating an Asian man if he treats you well and you can be respec…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/21 04:20 PM
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For sure Asian men fetishize us. The entire Japanese porn industry perpetuate the image of submissive Asian women and Japanese men were the ones who set up comfort stations all over the continent in WWII. The Chinese started the trafficking of Asian women from other countries such as Vietnam, and they're still the largest consumers of mail-order brides. Historically, white men were just picking up where the other left off. So I would argue Asian men were just as responsible for our fetishization…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/21 07:07 AM
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Thanks for this post! Really wish I read something like this when I started trying to date. Also want to share other things I've noticed as I date more guys. Because there are instances where normal FDS rules don't seem to apply. Non-asians often try to flex their money, job, or socioeconomic status more. Even if you're dating in a western country like the US, and it's not a weird expat situation. I definitely think it's because East Asian women are stereotyped as more materialistic and hypergam…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/21 06:29 AM
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Yup, those were exactly the communities I frequented. Looking back now, I do think the men there were honest about how bad yellow fever could be in other races. But their solutions devolve into a dick measuring contest with other races, instead of anything helpful or beneficial for Asian women. It wasn't until I jumped on FDS that I realized other races like black women are dealing with similar vitriol and accusations from their community of men. And I'm sure white women get their share from the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/21 07:25 PM
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Sharing my experience as an Asian dating multiple races, I've actually found the white men I've dated to be the more polite, successful, and stable than men of other races I've dated including Asian, non-white Latino, and Black. Is it because white men are inherently better? Absolutely not. It's because I was a lot more on-guard when vetting them, than other races. A couple of years ago, I got obsessed over certain online Asian male communities spewing vitriol over Asian women who date white men…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/21 02:58 PM
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Dario Nardi has written a book "The Neuroscience of Personality" that compares EEG scans of people who've tested for different MBTI types, and came up with some interesting patterns. So I wouldn't think of it as non-scientific either. I think there's something to the idea that people are "wired" differently whether it's by nature or nurture. Of course, people shouldn't take every online description as definitive of who they are. And agree that people can also just have fun with it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/21 10:51 PM
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I suspected this community would be mainly Gamma Quadrant types (xNTJs and xSFPs) because Ni is more known as the "strategic"/future-oriented function and Fi is the more individualist one. But I'm fairly surprised there's also a huge portion of NFs too. What drew some of you NFs here?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/21 02:40 PM
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Just watched the first episode on YouTube and it was a lot more entertaining than I expected it to be. I definitely think CJ could be an FDS girl playing dumb fox. She's weeding out the fboys from the get-go and looking out for her girl friends. It's hilarious looking at the comments saying she's "slow" and "toxic", when her in-game strategy is pretty effective. And she can be pretty articulate when she wants to be, like when she was dressing down the guys she's about to eliminate. It's also goo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/21 10:23 PM
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Some men pay escorts just to go on dates with them for "practice". And these 🤡 need all the practice they can get before they meet a woman who wants to be serious with them. They're lucky that there are women who're willing to give them a chance in exchange for just dinner. Decent men I've dated, they know and accept that they have to put in some sort of effort like paying for a nice restaurant. They have pride in being generous and providing for a woman, even if she can pay her own way. Rejecti…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 10:13 PM
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Unfortunately the libfems will miss the point when Ben Shapiro type conservatives come out saying prostitution is gross and immoral. We need an additional sticker underneath it: "To right wing men, we are private property. To left wing men, we are public property. - Andrea Dworkin"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 04:50 PM
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I really hope she's being sarcastic...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 02:15 AM
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Thanks! Yeah, watching this movie made me realize how little we see of the woman's side in "no fault" divorce cases involving children and the man isn't obviously abusive, neglectful, nor unfaithful. At least on the internet, there seems to be a generation of kids who've been traumatized by living in split families because they never understood what went wrong and unfortunately they tend to blame their mother. It's really nice to have a movie like this that speaks out against the prevalent narra…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 12:33 AM
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Totally. Daniel has so much problematic behaviour underneath Robin Williams' charisma and talented acting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 12:08 AM
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I love how they handled the fallout of the marriage too, instead of sticking with some cliche ending. The ending sets a positive example for parents also going through a similar situation, given that both parents genuinely love their kids and want the best for them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 12:04 AM
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Amen! One of my friends told me she wants a man who loves her the way Jesus loves the church. Which obviously doesn't mean dominating, owning and controlling like what these extreme trad-con want to do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/21 02:41 PM
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I don't know how canon this is, but didn't Lilith also get with an archangel named Samuel and sired a race of "demons" with him? And she basically stayed immortal? If that's true to source, that's some major leveling up. It goes to show that even in religion, bad girls get the best while good girl Eve gets the scrotes who'd throw her under the bus on the first mistake she ever made. I would not be surprised if Lilith is now sitting on her throne laughing at all the salt men have given her over t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/21 02:27 PM
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It's probably the dad who the rat here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/21 03:39 AM
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Awww...there's something really beautiful about true academians who believe in things like love when they could easily rationalize it away as some evolutionary fluke or cocktail of hormones.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/21 02:41 AM
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And on top of that, Redpill keeps crying "alpha fucks beta bucks" claiming that women would sleep with hotter guys to get better sperm while living off their husbands' income. All according to their "men are polygamous, women are hypergamous" theory. The truth is that our closest relatives are the apes which have polygamous males, and the bonobos which have polygamous females. Both genders have a monkey brain telling us to screw around. But women at least have the self-accountabily to not blame …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/21 02:10 AM
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Male friends should be like work friends: they're purely there for networking purposes. You go to them when you need non-personal advice or help. Or someone to vouch for you for a new job or social circle. Or someone you can rely on for small favors. I would never share anything personal with them that can be used against me, after seeing how catty and gossipy they can be in college and the workplace. If they perceive any form of "encouragement" from a woman, their private chat room will be fill…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/21 01:50 PM
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I think it comes from the society negging women that their fertility is a ticking time bomb once they hit 30 and it'd be a miracle if they can conceive or even find a guy at that point. But the science says fertility peaks around 28, and by 35 we still have around 50% fertility with not as much significant increased risk of birth defects. By 40, that's when fertility really tapers off for us and birth defects rates rise. Apparently it's more convenient for society to pressure women to have kids …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/21 01:53 AM
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Now I would just like to know if there's a reliable way to figure this out ASAP so I don't waste years on a NVM con artist. I know redpill sites peddle strategies to get around "shit tests", but does anyone here actually tests guys? Like do things that would force a NVM to break character?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 11:06 PM
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Focus on himself? Full story, the psycho broke into the house and attacked this man with a knife while he was napping. He wasn't even trying to play hero here, scrote. But yes, he's more king than this scrote will ever be for getting this psycho into a headlock and telling him GTFO. Defending himself and others from invaders is literally the primary function of kings. But this scrote here believes a king does what? Beg for his life and tell psychos to take his friend instead? Avoid having female…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 12:18 PM
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I think the key is to understand what's the underlying insecurity or motive she has to be in this finance-wise and age-wise inappropriate relationship. Is she insecure about being "post-wall", because 30+ single women often get negged at that point? Is she worried she's running out of time to start her own family? Does she believe this guy is "more mature" than the men around her age? Have past guys failed to show her love , so she has an insecurity about being lovable which makes her more susce…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 02:31 AM
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Which is why Asian(-American?) women are rated as the "pickiest" in online dating studies. Having the stereotypical super judgmental Asian family turned out to be a blessing in disguise,at least for me. Because even in my pickmeisha days, the one thing that kept me from settling with a LVM is knowing I'll get never-ending shame from my family. They would not hold back from telling me if a partner was too fat, rude, poor, or stupid. And there's no shade about "gold-digging". Still a lot of proble…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 11:19 PM
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Usually they got their 1st CS job shortly after finishing a bootcamp, or their 1st CS employer was willing to train anyone with a bachelors degree because of the demand. Probably not working for a FAANG OR TAANG company, but have a solid position at a Fortune 500 after some years of experience. Any man in CS with a grad degree is more likely to either be that extreme nerd with more ego and women issues, or they're Chinese/Indian (no comment on those cultures, this is just an impersonal observati…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 07:12 PM
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Just want to add that a possible exception for CS guys are the ones who switch into it (usually from STEM or business background) purely because they want to have a higher potential salary. I've met a ton of guys who are like this, and they tend to be family men or planning to start a family. So they're mostly not nerds, just normal guys who are following market incentives.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 03:21 PM
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Want to add that in my experience, the last employer I applied with asked me to sign a form authorizing the IRS to release my tax info to them. I was applying as a software engineer to a Fortune 500 company, and they wanted to verify my past employers. So yes, it's highly likely a corporate employer will find it out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 04:25 PM
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Another useful tactic is having friends and family vet him as you're introducing him and including him in social functions. It's a lot easier to be blinded by your emotions and hormones in early-stage relationships, especially with an abuser love-bombing you. But anything off is more easily detected by people outside the relationship with more experience and your best interests in mind. This is why abusers try to isolate their targets from their social circles. It's incredibly hard to manipulate…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 12:56 AM
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Only if your pride comes from the fetishizing scrotes and similarly desperate pickmes upvoting this trashy post. Seriously hate how women are pitted against each other by ethnicity on top of everything else. Barbie beauty standards push a lot of WOC to over compensate by bashing white women on petty things and take a LVM white man. This pickme should realize she didn't "win" the scrote over from 4 white women. More likely, she's getting the reject who messed up 4 chances with women that are his …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 05:25 PM
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The guys I tried to talk about toxic masculinity to told me that "this is what women want" and claim to actually have more camaraderie with other men because "women don't want to see vulnerability". I'm pretty sure these guys are also the type who clocks out when women in their lives could use some emotional support because it has nothing to do with them. How else could they misunderstand us that badly?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 04:19 AM
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Yes! All I'm looking for is a suave gentleman like Henry Tilney from Northanger Abbey.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 02:19 AM
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It's so true what you've said about beauty standards elevating white women due to what scrotes call their " neoteny". As an Asian-American, I've seen neoteny get enforced on East-Asians as strictly if not more so than white women. Kelly Marie Tran from Star Wars got a lot of harassment from white fan boys for not being thin. They even made memes comparing her to thinner asian women in sci-fi. Beauty standards and male preferences operate on the Goldilocks rule. White women are neotenous enough t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 01:40 PM
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Whether it's victim blaming should be judged from the perspective of the battered woman. The 1st friend I mentioned in the post (who made an absolute recovery and now happily married) absolutely hates being labeled a "victim" and insists on being called a "target" of abuse instead. The reason being that she resented people shifting responsibility for leaving the relationship away from her. She willingly and repeatedly returned to her abuser in spite of having family support and resources from wo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 09:13 PM
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Hope all goes well! That's a good idea, and I'll need to talk to my therapist about this as well. Particularly because my family does have a history of addiction.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 02:22 PM
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Totally! Definitely something I've experienced before when a guy tried to negg me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 11:38 AM
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That look on his face says it all! 🤣 Like, "A grown ass man like me has to wave a sign on the streets just for you man children to get the point?"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 05:04 PM
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Yup, and there's also a significant overlap with people who are anti-contraceptives. I wish these people would get their head out of their dogma and see how their regressive policies are impacting entire communities. Like the high teenage pregnancy rates in Bible belt states.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 04:55 PM
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Age difference less than 5 years, younger or older. I don't care how old I get, I am sticking to this for life. There is absolutely no reason to date a man near a decade older and even in a completely different generation. Age doesn't make them more mature, wealthier, more faithful, or sexier. I'm probably going to outlive a guy my age anyways, and no way I want to be a middle age unpaid nurse to some geriatric.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 02:29 PM
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This! Beards are just a way for many men to hide a lack of jawline. And it makes them look way less professional than their clean shaven counterparts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 02:16 PM
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This list matches up with a lot of what I noticed as well. And fashmeshias is a great word to describe them. I've also noticed that when these fashmeishas talk about their fear of minority men around alt-right guys, it's their version of "virtue signaling". Like that woman in "To Kill a Mockingbird", they do it to boost their men's ego and get treated like they're worth protecting. Another sign I noticed is how they drag whatever doesn't fit the alt-right masculinity stereotype. He's an ethical …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 04:43 AM
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1000x this and sometimes creating adversity for yourself is the best way of vetting. Senior year as a CS major and juggling 2 research projects, I tried seeing a guy for a month. First date, he gives me flowery words about how he'd support me reach my full potential. I told him I could only drop everything to see him once during spring break, but I can't when school starts back up again. He goes on a rant about how it's just as tough for him as a college student to see me and he never complains …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 05:33 PM
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Wow, that's actually pretty fascinating and sounds a lot like other belief systems like Hermeticism. I have pretty conflicted views of Christianity myself , growing up around it. Do you still follow a Christian belief system, but I guess more based on the Koine Greek interpretation?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/20 04:05 PM
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Yeah from what I've seen guys are never straight-up or honest about how they feel to the girl they're dating. Even a HVM is going to try to play it cool and downplay how excited he is about you. A guy that's actually intimidated would never actually admit it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/20 12:23 AM
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Wow, good point about the groups of women. It's a shame pop culture likes to dismantle that by portraying girls as backstabbing and catty over some popular guy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/20 12:08 AM
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I mean I've had a 70 year old professor tell me he thought my male college classmates were scared of me. And there have been guys that act figity around me and if I stare at them long enough they start apologizing. I do think if you have cold mannerisms and resting bitch face (which is me), guys think you're more judgemental and it's pretty well-known that men get crushed when they fail to get female approval. God, how many movies have we already seen of how intimidating it is for a guy to ask t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/20 11:48 PM
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I want someone who can build an amazing life with me. I want it all: the money, good sex, and love. That means I'm going to read up on personal finances so I can manage it well and make good investment choices. I'm going to keep myself fit and style myself, so I do feel attractive. I'll put my all into other relationships (friends and family), so I'm an emotionally mature person. Any guy who does less than that or just wants one of the three is setting the bar too low. Going for a guy I'm not at…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/20 06:12 PM
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Just wow. So glad she got out with a great support network of friends to back her. And it shows that vetting men is freaking difficult. It took him around 3 months and a job loss to start showing some controlling tendencies that escalated into abuse within 2-3 years. I'm taking her warning very seriously. Don't get commited to a man in less than 6 months, and run like your life depends on it the minute he shows any controlling behaviour.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/20 05:44 PM
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So absolutely thankful my landlord is a woman. If I ever have to find another place, I need to remember this story. Maybe even insist on background checks with male landlords.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/20 05:03 PM
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The School of Affluence is a channel I stumbled upon and kind of dismissed during my recovering pickmeisha days. Her channel focuses mainly on attracting affluent men, but she is also very adamant about only being with a guy who treats you with dignity regardless of social status. Also, the comment section is a gold mine. Hope this could be a valuable resource for everyone here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 09:44 PM
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Hard nope! I'm asian open to dating all races and I've managed to find guys who don't treat me any differently for being asian. The ones with a fetish make it pretty obvious early on. And they'll expect you to act more "feminine". Had one Hispanic labmate watch me while I was sweeping the lab and made some offhand comments about it. He's made moves on me before even when he had a girlfriend at the time. When I later acted cold and distant to him, he had the nerve to tell me I was being "scary". …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 04:56 PM
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This also belongs in r/murderedbywords
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 04:45 AM
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There was this debacle where Kayne tried to get Taylor Swift to make it look like they were a thing in his song "Famous". Taylor tentatively agreed because he played the "I want to respect you as a friend" card. He then sang "I made that b***ch famous". Taylor fought back and cut him out of her circle, Kim slanders Taylor and defends her husband blantantly sexually demeaning this other woman. https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.biography.com/.amp/news/kanye-west-taylor-swift-feud-timeline
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 06:43 PM
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There was this debacle where Kayne tried to get Taylor Swift to make it look like they were a thing in his song "Famous". Taylor tentatively agreed because he played the "I want to respect you as a friend" card. He then sang "I made that b***ch famous". Taylor fought back and cut him out of her circle, Kim slanders Taylor and defends her husband blantantly sexually demeaning this other woman. https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.biography.com/.amp/news/kanye-west-taylor-swift-feud-timeline
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 06:41 PM
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There was this debacle where Kayne tried to get Taylor Swift to make it look like they were a thing in his song "Famous". Taylor tentatively agreed because he played the "I want to respect you as a friend" card. He then sang "I made that b***ch famous". Taylor fought back and cut him out of her circle, Kim slanders Taylor and defends her husband blantantly sexually demeaning this other woman. https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.biography.com/.amp/news/kanye-west-taylor-swift-feud-timeline
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 06:40 PM
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There was this debacle where Kayne tried to get Taylor Swift to make it look like they were a thing in his song "Famous". Taylor tentatively agreed because he played the "I want to respect you as a friend" card. He then sang "I made that b***ch famous". Taylor fought back and cut him out of her circle, Kim slanders Taylor and defends her husband blantantly sexually demeaning this other woman. https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.biography.com/.amp/news/kanye-west-taylor-swift-feud-timeline
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 06:40 PM
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I've had three female friends and one old flame with childhood trauma. They all had a history of being preyed upon by abusers who pretended to understand them. What helped them was seeing a therapist who are experts on human psychology and have the most experience working with people like them. Saying psychologists don't care is like saying doctors don't care. Many of them enter their profession because they want to help people, and you can shop around until you find one who is genuine to you. A…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 01:39 AM
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I'm with everything except the "heal childhood trauma" part. That really needs to be resolved with a good therapist, not a romantic partner. Goes for both men and women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 04:58 PM
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Yes! With Vietnam's economy and standards of living rising, it's so good to see the women acting on their options.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 04:46 PM
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