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| Upvotes | Title | Category | Author | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
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| 26 | Post Divorce First Failed Relationship (Freaked out when she said ILY | Dating After Divorce | Low_Offer694 | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/09/25 03:14 AM |
| 18 | My Story and Some things I wish I knew Before Filing and During the Process | Low_Offer694 | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/04/25 02:22 PM |
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| 1 | Post Divorce First Failed Relationship (Freaked out when she said ILYYea. I actually did use the line, "it's not you, it's me". She just didn't believe it. Funny part to this story too and I swear to god our phones are listening. As I'm discussing with friends during the days after this happened if I should break up with her, EHarmony gives me a free membership and woman start matching with me, So naturally I login to try and delete the account, which btw you can't do with an active subscription and have to reach out to customer service. She logs in and sees me o… | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/09/25 10:41 PM |
| 1 | Post Divorce First Failed Relationship (Freaked out when she said ILYYea that accusation that I used her is probably what stung the most. I truly did not believe to be using her. I truly thought I was ready for a serious relationship. My reaction to her saying She loved me surprised me maybe even more than it did her. That really was the defining moment where I knew I got some recovering to do. | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/09/25 10:36 PM |
| 1 | Post Divorce First Failed Relationship (Freaked out when she said ILYThanks, Glad I'm seeing a lot of responses that I'm not a weirdo and this is pretty normal reaction. | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/09/25 10:34 PM |
| 1 | Post Divorce First Failed Relationship (Freaked out when she said ILYTotally agree. Marriage is not in the cards for me ever again. It's weird because I was up front about this with her. But I realized as we started really talking about what we wanted, she basically wanted everything that a marriage brings minus the ring. IE Living Together, and helping with each others kids. | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/09/25 10:30 PM |
| 1 | Post Divorce First Failed Relationship (Freaked out when she said ILYYea, I should have stood my ground on that one. It's tough balacing wanting to keep your partner happy. I think where I really went wrong was not having a conversation after that happened about what our expectations were. Even more terrifying, shortly after that happened, her 6 year old called me her Dad. My girlfriend apologized afterwards and said it was just an honest mistake. I knew meeting the kids too early was a really bad idea. Something I've learned post-divorce is leave the kids out of… | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/09/25 10:28 PM |
| 1 | Sign agreement, or lawyer?Like everyone else said here. Talk to a lawyer. See what your outcome may be if you fight this out, you will definitely fare better financially. Then weigh your outcomes and take your mental health into account. But the key is to know all your potential outcomes to weigh them against each other. | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/06/25 06:10 PM |
| 1 | A month in and its silence that kills me.Yes, please listen to this dude. The last thing you want to do right now is get a higher paying job right now my man. Do that after child support and maintenance has been calculated. If you haven’t spoken to an attorney, make that your first priority. If your attorney has not advised you to not get a higher paying job at this time, find a new one ASAP. | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/05/25 01:43 AM |
| 1 | Beat downExactly this. The longer the legal marriage continues the more you will owe her in alimony, retirement, and joint marital property accrued. It will also increase the duration of how long you have to provide alimony. I’m in the exact same boat. Over 14 months of living with the ex who won’t move out and I’m keeping the house. It’s mentally and emotionally exhausting and there has been months after month of delays. But stay the course man. In the long run you will be so much better off. Also you n… | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/05/25 07:11 PM |
| 1 | My Story and Some things I wish I knew Before Filing and During the ProcessAre you in a state where can effect the outcome of the divorce.? For example, in NY, it is a no fault state. So it has almost no bearing on divorce outcome. But if you are a state where it is a factor. You may want to wait on filing and potentially hire a private investigator to catch her. This will give you some greater leverage in your eventual outcome. | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/04/25 04:59 PM |
| 1 | My Story and Some things I wish I knew Before Filing and During the ProcessYes, great point. There are many nuances to divorce that are state specific and you should always check with an attorney. My experience is New York specific. | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/04/25 02:39 PM |
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