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| – | Most of the advice here just tells men to NOT be proactive in finding a girlfriendThey just give you platitudes or think that whatever they did to find love is a universal truth and you must follow their steps exactly. Speaking from experience just keep it to yourself. Your friends will feign concern and try to help but nobody gives a fuck. Trust me. It hurts but this is my experience. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/09/24 11:09 AM |
| – | Most of the advice here just tells men to NOT be proactive in finding a girlfriendMore like: Reddit Go to therapy, shower, wear nice clothes, be yourself, get hobbies and join meet up, go to the gym, cold approach Also Reddit Umm why are you doing that to find a girlfriend? I told you to do that for yourself because when you stop looking you’ll find love Normie platitudes trotted out by charlatans who overextend their understanding of modern dating | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/09/24 11:07 AM |
| – | Most of the advice here just tells men to NOT be proactive in finding a girlfriendThis is what I’ve thought for a very long time. Attractive men don’t have to follow any of the dating advice you see on Reddit. They don’t need a bunch of hobbies, therapy, meet ups or anything else for that matter. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/09/24 11:04 AM |
| – | Many redpill men are incapable of a lifelong healthy monogamous sexual relationship.I think you’ve taken my comment a little bit too literally. I just meant that men are angry and adopt the red pill because they can’t form romantic partnerships or have casual sex so it serves as a coping mechanism | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/09/24 08:13 AM |
| – | Many redpill men are incapable of a lifelong healthy monogamous sexual relationship.Said differently: they drop the angry red pill act once they get a taste of what they were missing. Women are only evil to them because they can’t get regular access to romantic or sexual partners so they internalise the anger | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/09/24 12:37 AM |
| 2 | The expectation for men to be completely self-actualized before even entering the dating market is absolutely ridiculous.monetised male loneliness That’s the most accurate way to describe what’s happening. Just scroll through any dating Reddit to see it play out. Guys will log on and explain they’ve done everything in the comments only to be told “bro we only told you to self improve for you. You’re an incel if you think this would’ve got you a girlfriend” | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/09/24 05:34 PM |
| 6 | The expectation for men to be completely self-actualized before even entering the dating market is absolutely ridiculous.Interesting response. If you actually read what’s posted in advice threads you’ll see it amounts to nothing but platitudes. Go to the gym bro, get a hobby bro, wear expensive clothes bro, go to bars bro, grow a beard bro etc. none of it works and all you’re doing is scamming guys into thinking they’ll find a partner if they fulfil this arbitrary list of tasks | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/09/24 08:23 AM |
| 20 | The expectation for men to be completely self-actualized before even entering the dating market is absolutely ridiculous.Hmm I’m not sure I agree. These platitudes are designed to terminate the conversation and don’t actually engage with the problem at hand | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/09/24 12:13 PM |
| 34 | The expectation for men to be completely self-actualized before even entering the dating market is absolutely ridiculous.The thing is rather than listening and engaging, people read what they think the OP is saying, not what the OP is actually saying so you end up with a disconnect punctuated by normie platitudes that only serve the top percentage of guys. E.g. “cruise bars bro, wear nice clothes bro, get some aftershave bro” and more. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/09/24 09:46 AM |
| 1 | Blue pillers and Red pillers agree on somethings, one of which is "The guy has to wait his turn"They’re both a load of bullshit that each respective side concocts to cope with the fact they can’t find a partner, dates or relationship. Dating sucks regardless of your age gender location or experience. Regardless of if they’re blue or red pilled, successful people don’t have to analyse, think or strategise their dating like you see on Reddit. Happy people don’t need to ask for advice on how to find a girlfriend for example | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/09/24 10:00 AM |
| 2 | Why do poor dating outcomes lead to hate for some people?Okay to use your basketball analogy: when you were actively dating you had tonnes of free throws. Sure not many of them would’ve landed but you still had shots. For guys were constantly up against strong defence and 9/10 of our shots are routinely blocked | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/09/24 01:54 PM |
| 3 | Why do poor dating outcomes lead to hate for some people?Because every time guys like me who are below average looks go on here and similar subreddits to discuss it we’re constantly hounded for not trying enough or failing to fulfil the seemingly arbitrary list of tasks and quests a guy is supposed to complete to get a girlfriend. Then whenever we try to push back and say we either tried all that and still had no success or that we’re neurodivergent and struggle socially we’re beaten back and called incels who don’t want to improve etc. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/09/24 01:52 PM |
| – | What do all of the "lonely men" actually want people to do as a solution?It would fix mine. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/09/24 09:17 PM |
| 6 | This Platform Coddles Women and Shames MenI love that sub | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/09/24 09:39 AM |
| 13 | This Platform Coddles Women and Shames MenApproach where exactly? Were told not to approach in public spaces | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/09/24 09:39 AM |
| – | Why aren't males attending singles events anymore?No | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/09/24 05:05 PM |
| – | Why aren't males attending singles events anymore?So you invent superficial reasons to hide the fact tho don’t find the guy physically attractive? I’d rather be told you aren’t attracted to me than “oh you need to level up your charisma stat, it’s not you it’s me”. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/09/24 12:47 PM |
| 1 | What advice would you give to a man looking meet/date people while avoiding dating apps?I was agreeing with you I just replied to the wrong guv | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/09/24 12:46 PM |
| 1 | Dating would be easier if most men stoped being thirsty.The solution is literally to date someone whose Ace instead of shaming non ace man into not wanting sex | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/09/24 08:50 AM |
| 1 | Dating would be easier if most men stoped being thirsty.Okay now I know this is whole argument is bs | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/09/24 08:49 AM |
| 1 | Dating would be easier if most men stoped being thirsty.“Shame top tier men”. Firstly that would just make you an incel and secondly when the tap to unlimited sex is wide open why would Chad want to stop because some horny virgin with his hog in his hand shames him about all the regular sex he had? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/09/24 08:44 AM |
| 0 | Dating would be easier if most men stoped being thirsty.If the men women find attractive stopped being thirsty Fixed it for you | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/09/24 08:43 AM |
| 1 | Dating would be easier if most men stoped being thirsty.Man bashing isn’t cool | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/09/24 08:42 AM |
| 2 | Men, what negative dating/relationship experiences have you personally had with women?Change that flair to red pill woman | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/09/24 08:30 AM |
| 3 | Men, what negative dating/relationship experiences have you personally had with women?Then I suggest you don’t read what they put in the comments or dating subs in response to guys | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/09/24 08:24 AM |
| 9 | Men, what negative dating/relationship experiences have you personally had with women?See this is the thing. I’m also autistic and this post pretty much mirrors my experiences here. It’s social and romantic because after all if you read the dating advice on reddit it always says to get yourself into social situations with women before asking them out. If you can’t do step one how can you do step 2? How can you convince people that you’re just as human as Chad across the bar but autism makes it harder to perceive and be perceived. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/09/24 08:21 AM |
| 7 | Men, what negative dating/relationship experiences have you personally had with women?Like that comic where a guy had his bike stolen and he says “the thief probably needed it more than me lol” or they’ll just throw ad hominems | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/09/24 08:16 AM |
| 2 | Men, what negative dating/relationship experiences have you personally had with women?Shit man that sucks | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/09/24 08:15 AM |
| 0 | What advice would you give to a man looking meet/date people while avoiding dating apps?So don’t shit where you eat but talk to women at work? Why mention work to begin with? Lmao | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/09/24 08:12 AM |
| – | Why aren't males attending singles events anymore?Lmao. So basically everyone to the left of the bell curve or attractiveness then? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/09/24 08:08 AM |
| – | Why aren't males attending singles events anymore?I reject that point too. I think what everyone is missing is below the top tiers of attractiveness, most men and women have very similar experiences when it comes to finding a partner. Not casual sex, a long term life partner | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/09/24 08:08 AM |
| – | Why aren't males attending singles events anymore?No because I don’t pay to go to clubs lol | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/09/24 08:07 AM |
| – | Why aren't males attending singles events anymore?What are you talking about bro, all you have to do is put yourself out there! /s | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/09/24 08:03 AM |
| – | It is worth sacrificing a marriage for a paternity test.This is the only rational way to process this take. If you don’t trust your partner implicitly then don’t have kids. Simple as. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/08/24 06:43 PM |
| – | It is worth sacrificing a marriage for a paternity test.If you think it’s “simple math” then walk up to the board and show the class, smartass. Whilst you’re at it, get therapy for those trust issues and make sure to sign the divorce papers properly. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/08/24 06:41 PM |
| – | It is worth sacrificing a marriage for a paternity test.one insecurity Which you conveniently understate. It’s actually one massive insecurity considering it involves bringing an entirely new human life into the world. If hubby doesn’t trust the wife to bear his child then he’s not the one for her. He needs therapy before having a child if he’s that insecure. Choices have consequences | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/08/24 06:34 PM |
| 1 | Dating apps are hard for womenWas replying to OP | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/08/24 11:16 PM |
| 6 | Dating apps are hard for womenThe fact that you don’t value or attempt to understand alternate perspectives is all I need to discount this post and your comments. Once again: All you've done is argue, criticise or otherwise insult every single opinion that isn't in support of yours. You don't want a debate you want a self congratulatory echo chamber that reinforces the immense privilege women have on dating apps. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/08/24 11:04 PM |
| 1 | Dating apps are hard for womenNice bait | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/08/24 02:43 PM |
| 11 | Dating apps are hard for womenAll you’ve done is argue, criticise or otherwise insult every single opinion that isn’t in support of yours. You don’t want a debate you want a self congratulatory echo chamber that reinforces the immense privilege women have on dating apps. Average male experience: spend weeks curating profile, swipe consistently on good potential matches. Get about 3 matches in 6 months and zero dates. Subreddits almost universally rip their profiles to bits Average female experience: spend a few hours editing… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/08/24 02:01 PM |
| 5 | Dating apps are hard for womenOP you’re just being outwardly aggressive. It’s clear this post wasn’t made in good faith and you’ve demonstrated a sustained lack of meaningful engagement with any counterpoints raised in this thread. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/08/24 01:54 PM |
| 17 | Dating apps are hard for womenOP calm down or you’ll run out of ad hominems to to throw | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/08/24 01:53 PM |
| 13 | The "nice guy" trope is a defense mechanism which women deploy to divert attention from the fact that they are rejecting a guy based on a lack of physical attractionYep this is the truth. Unless you’re an 8/10 or over guy she’s constantly weighing your physical attractiveness and appearance against everything else such as personality, your friends literally any leverage. If you’re an attractive guy that goes out the window and you’re the one who controls the dynamic | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/08/24 07:45 AM |
| 3 | "No" man fails to get into a relationship because of his personalityCan second this. I’m autistic and can’t read social cues very well. I’m also sub 6/10 which doesn’t help. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/08/24 09:59 AM |
| – | Some research or survey came out saying 45% of men aged 18-25 have never approached a women.Nothing to do with women broski. They only invent standards to stop guys under 6/10 approaching them. Attractive guys don’t even have to try. Their faceonality breaks the initial awkwardness barrier to an extend which is proportional to the guys perceived attractiveness | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/08/24 08:28 AM |
| – | Some research or survey came out saying 45% of men aged 18-25 have never approached a women.Only men who sit to the left of sigma = 0 on the bell curve of attractiveness have to do all that shit. Men who are > 1 standard deviation above mean attractiveness don’t have to follow any rules and regularly go on dates or secure relationships. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/08/24 08:26 AM |
| -1 | Why are women surprised that men ask mostly for physical intimacy only, when emotional vulnerability quite often results in judgement, ridiculing, or rejection?Nobody asked you | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/08/24 07:53 AM |
| -1 | Why are women surprised that men ask mostly for physical intimacy only, when emotional vulnerability quite often results in judgement, ridiculing, or rejection?I know you’re joking but OP that’s the last thing you should don | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/08/24 06:44 AM |
| – | Women have always found most men unattractive they just don't have to tolarate male sexuality anymore and it enrages men.Was just about to say this. Another man bashing post. It’s not even debate worthy. What does any of this post even mean in non internet lingo? Fuck knows | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/08/24 01:23 PM |
| 1 | Do you believe circumcision is harming males?Maybe dial it back a little bit champ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/07/24 08:09 AM |
| 0 | Do you believe circumcision is harming males?What did this add to the discussion? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/07/24 08:19 PM |
| 2 | Do you believe circumcision is harming males?I didn’t say they should be held as compatible acts but should be equally regarded as repulsive practices. Neither should be accepted in a normal society. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/07/24 06:58 PM |
| 6 | Do you believe circumcision is harming males?Get a load of this guy who googled “debate terms” and decided to sprinkle them in his reply | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/07/24 05:35 PM |
| 21 | Do you believe circumcision is harming males?I’m staunchly against it. The foreskin is one of the most important parts of male sex organs and protects the head of the penis. Even its successful removal can negatively impact sexual function and sensitivity. This is to say nothing of the scarring and infection risk as well as how self conscious it makes guys who’ve had the procedure. Totally barbaric and should be held to the same standards as FGM | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/07/24 03:36 PM |
| 1 | Most of what Andrew Tate says is spilled between the lines by women on this subSo you are trolling? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/07/24 05:10 PM |
| 0 | Most of what Andrew Tate says is spilled between the lines by women on this subWhat a load of bollocks that is | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/07/24 04:25 PM |
| 1 | There’s a reason why regular women do not want to date a man who has used the service of a lot of escorts, and no, it’s not just the possibility of STDI’m sorry I don’t have the time to sanction whatever this is. Peace ✌️ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/07/24 07:19 PM |
| 6 | There’s a reason why regular women do not want to date a man who has used the service of a lot of escorts, and no, it’s not just the possibility of STDI don’t understand this perspective. How can you hold the two to different standards? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/07/24 01:47 PM |
| 3 | There’s a reason why regular women do not want to date a man who has used the service of a lot of escorts, and no, it’s not just the possibility of STDBut you realise you can't have one without the other? Can you explain why you think this way? or you could just downvote me, that works too | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/07/24 01:43 PM |
| 2 | There’s a reason why regular women do not want to date a man who has used the service of a lot of escorts, and no, it’s not just the possibility of STDbombastic and wild as he has seen in porn Most well adjusted men realise this | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/07/24 01:39 PM |
| 2 | There’s a reason why regular women do not want to date a man who has used the service of a lot of escorts, and no, it’s not just the possibility of STDAlso not all sex workers are women who voluntarily chose the profession for some extra money or to afford a lifestyle they otherwise couldn't. It also involves human trafficking. This is very true | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/07/24 01:34 PM |
| 3 | There’s a reason why regular women do not want to date a man who has used the service of a lot of escorts, and no, it’s not just the possibility of STDBut would I date such a man whose sexual experience has been mostly escorts? Nope. Le't look at the other side of the coin. Would you date a man who's an adult virgin or very inexperienced but refrained from using escorts etc.? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/07/24 01:33 PM |
| 4 | There’s a reason why regular women do not want to date a man who has used the service of a lot of escorts, and no, it’s not just the possibility of STDWhat's your point here? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/07/24 01:32 PM |
| – | Do you think good parents should strive to "looksmax" their sons?Absolutely. I got braces and I also got accutane. Saved me losing my wisdom teeth, improved my oral health and the accutane stopped scarring | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/06/24 10:53 AM |
| 1 | “Getting off the apps” doesn’t help when the same mindsets are predominantAsk anyone on r/dating and they genuinely convinced themselves this is somehow the answer. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/06/24 07:34 PM |
| 10 | “Getting off the apps” doesn’t help when the same mindsets are predominantI mean yeah it is pretty hard. Add in autism and small social circle and yes even the trivial tasks become hard. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/06/24 01:09 PM |
| 12 | “Getting off the apps” doesn’t help when the same mindsets are predominantAll you have to do is goes on to list a very difficult task for most guys as if it's trivial | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/06/24 01:03 PM |
| 1 | The great "checklist" bait-and-switch (why most dating advice is useless)I agrée with you on everything except Getting a hobby MAY or MAY not put you in a favorable position to be a good dating choice for women. I don't know your life situation. But my point is, having a hobby should be a solitary or limited group activity for your own personal enjoyment and enrichment of self. The questions that this advice is posted as answers to are not about personal enrichment but how to meet women and get dates. This advice is especially unhelpful because some guys like me are … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/05/24 01:03 PM |
| 8 | The great "checklist" bait-and-switch (why most dating advice is useless)you shouldn't be having hobbies to get laid. So why is it a stock answer when people ask for specific advice on how to get laid or find a gf? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/05/24 10:32 AM |
| 3 | The great "checklist" bait-and-switch (why most dating advice is useless)Right but it’s not the go to response is it? Guys come on dating subreddits and explain they’re followed all the platitudes like getting a hobby, joining a club, working out, taking care of personal hygiene, going to therapy and the response isn’t “hmm maybe we need to evaluate why women don’t find you attractive” it’s almost always incel, it isn’t a checklist to guarantee you pussy Even though this advice is almost always universally given out to guys who are struggling regardless of their situ… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/05/24 10:26 AM |
| 7 | The great "checklist" bait-and-switch (why most dating advice is useless)Guys have to get their looks, fitness and money up by wearing nice clothes smell nice etc. Some people even state the obvious with “take a shower bro” regularly. All women generally get told to do is pick a nice man from the bunch. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/05/24 08:44 AM |
| 5 | The great "checklist" bait-and-switch (why most dating advice is useless)😂😂😂😂😂😂 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/05/24 08:39 AM |
| 3 | The great "checklist" bait-and-switch (why most dating advice is useless)This is shit advice bro. All the clubs and around me are oversubscribed and full of people trying to do this. They’re all sausage fests. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/05/24 08:39 AM |
| 3 | The great "checklist" bait-and-switch (why most dating advice is useless)It's true. Self-improvement isn't about getting a girlfriend, it's about raising the level of women you can get This is the thing. If as a baseline you aren’t successful with women or viewed as sexually attractive from the get go then all you’ll be is Johnny six pack with just your right hand for comfort. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/05/24 08:37 AM |
| 20 | The great "checklist" bait-and-switch (why most dating advice is useless)There’s absolutely a lot of truth in this. I’m autistic and have a very small friend group plus I’m not conventionally attractive so I pretty much gave up on the idea of it ever happening. My friend who just got married keeps hammering me for not trying and suggests this laundry list of advice for self improvement but he simply can’t accept that for most guys in my generation they can go on dates, have casual sex, marry or get into serious relationships as a matter of nature. It just happens for… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/05/24 08:36 AM |
| – | Why do men push for 50/50 relationship when women find most men unattractive?Wow you’ve convinced me. What a terrible and unsubstantiated argument. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/05/24 10:10 AM |
| – | Why do men push for 50/50 relationship when women find most men unattractive?Okay so can you substantiate it | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/05/24 10:06 AM |
| – | Why do men push for 50/50 relationship when women find most men unattractive?Huh. Any… evidence that men aren’t lonely? I’m just curious because that’s a big claim to level | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/05/24 10:02 AM |
| – | Why do men push for 50/50 relationship when women find most men unattractive?OP you seem fixated on sex but can you explain what “emotional labour” is? I’m not familiar with therapy speak. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/05/24 10:02 AM |
| – | Why do men push for 50/50 relationship when women find most men unattractive?Ehhhh idk about that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/05/24 10:01 AM |
| – | Why do men push for 50/50 relationship when women find most men unattractive?Yawn. Another men bashing post. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/05/24 10:00 AM |
| 7 | What is a common piece of dating advice that is worthless in your experience?Translation: my friend/colleague set me up and I reluctantly agreed but we ended up hitting it off. They always bury the lede and omit that they met through work or other formulaic environments | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/05/24 04:50 PM |
| 2 | Is male inexperience really the sexual and romantic death sentence that this sub makes it out to be?👍 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/05/24 05:24 PM |
| 2 | Is male inexperience really the sexual and romantic death sentence that this sub makes it out to be?How is what I said a personal attack? She’s arguing in bad faith. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/05/24 05:13 PM |
| 3 | Is male inexperience really the sexual and romantic death sentence that this sub makes it out to be?This is what I was trying to say. Sex requires 2 consenting adults whereas walking and talking are fundamental stages of human development. Telling how they haven’t replied to my comments. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/05/24 02:29 PM |
| – | Is male inexperience really the sexual and romantic death sentence that this sub makes it out to be?I’m not angry, I accepted years ago no women will ever find me sexually attractive. Seems like only one of us has any conscience and inner peace. You’re disgusting and failed to engage with the questions I posted. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/05/24 09:47 AM |
| 5 | Is male inexperience really the sexual and romantic death sentence that this sub makes it out to be?Shallow or not, i'm not in the market for a neurodivergent guy. Any reason? It raises an eyebrow because average people start having relationships and sex during highschool. At 22 for example, most even graduate college. Any stats for that? If you hear about a child not walking by the age of 3, would you think it's something wrong with that child? Learning to walk is part of biological development. Fucking a woman isn’t. If a child is not talking by the age of 6, would you think it's something w… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/05/24 08:25 AM |
| 8 | Is male inexperience really the sexual and romantic death sentence that this sub makes it out to be?Proves the point I’ve been saying to my friends. I’m M27 never had a GF and I’m autistic so yep. This will be my life. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/05/24 08:08 AM |
| 10 | Is male inexperience really the sexual and romantic death sentence that this sub makes it out to be?How shallow. You’d judge a guys entire character based on if they’d had sex before? Some guys like me just never made the cut thanks to being neurodivergent, slow to develop or other reasons. Can you give a well balanced answer why it would “raise an eyebrow” | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/05/24 08:07 AM |
| -1 | Men, why won't you commit?Idk what sort of 20 year olds you’re mixing with but the maturity gap is massive in my area. I teach at my local university and even though there’s only 7 ish years between me and them I wouldn’t dream of dating them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/05/24 07:55 AM |
| 12 | Men, why won't you commit?It’s getting tiring now scrolling this subreddit and seeing posts designed to bash men or women. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/05/24 07:54 AM |
| 1 | At this point, is being married and having a family just something that doesn’t happen anymore?Ok 👍 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/05/24 04:42 AM |
| 2 | At this point, is being married and having a family just something that doesn’t happen anymore?Ok 👍 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/05/24 10:48 PM |
| 13 | At this point, is being married and having a family just something that doesn’t happen anymore?Never gonna happen for me. I’m 27 and still haven’t had my first girlfriend. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/05/24 09:08 PM |
| 10 | If he/she makes a claim that all exes have some some trait you don't like, prepare the exit strategy.If the ex comes up as a frequent, lengthy topic of conversation then he/she/they clearly isn’t out of the picture. Deal accordingly. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/05/24 10:53 AM |
| 3 | If a woman can't handle your insecurities, run like you're one with the Speedforce*I never understood this position. I think there are of course limits to how far and what sort of "insecurities" we're discussing but to me a relationship means we share this stuff 50:50 and deal or learn to live with our past struggles. Otherwise one partner represses or is told to repress everything whilst the other (the woman) lambasts the man for being fragile. Women can turn things around on their head too. Like if you say "babe I'm not comfortable with you going out with a dress up your che… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/05/24 09:54 AM |
| 13 | If a woman can't handle your insecurities, run like you're one with the Speedforce*If your girl shows that kind of lack of empathy then you should dump her. 99.99% of the female gender has left the chat | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/05/24 09:53 AM |
| – | Do You Think Single Women Will Go 6+ Months Without Affection?Not in equal proportions or frequencies. Idk what you’re point is not why you’re arguing it so aggressively when you’re get to substantiate it with numbers or facts. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/05/24 05:48 PM |
| 1 | Do You Think Single Women Will Go 6+ Months Without Affection?Nobody said anything about sex. I just want companionship and closeness on a level a fellow man can't produce. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/05/24 05:37 PM |
| – | Do You Think Single Women Will Go 6+ Months Without Affection?For a woman to have sex with a man who wants her as much as she wants him, there is a man also getting sex from someone who wants him as much as he wants her. Okay you're going to have to explain that further. And hugging friends isn’t supposed to be a substitute for “better” affection. Men who like affection (like me!) consider hugs fun and rewarding. Men who say “IM STARVED FOR AFFECTION” but then turn up their nose at anything that isn’t “sexual affection” are just trying to say “I’m so horny… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/05/24 05:34 PM |
| – | Do You Think Single Women Will Go 6+ Months Without Affection?If men wanted more affection, they’d hug their friends. Sure, that’s definitely a substitute for the warmth and affection of cuddling a woman who loves you. What they want is sex from a woman who desires him as much as he desires her. Who’s “they”? What proportion of men have you surveyed to determine that? I don’t think mutual affection is a tall order to be fair. Of which men and women get roughly the same amount (with some less rewarding sex here or there throughout their lives.) Okay that’s … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/05/24 05:26 PM |
| 3 | Taking Care of yourself FIRST before other Attracts women as a manWe can’t control who we’re attracted to the same way we can’t control who is attracted to us. If dating sex and relationships be gamed this way people wouldn’t be stuck on the sidelines like me. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/05/24 10:59 PM |
| 2 | Taking Care of yourself FIRST before other Attracts women as a manJust take care of yourself first and put yourself first. Always have. I have nobody else by my side. Be attracted to women that like you and don't be with women solely for her physical appearance as she will most likely have a mean attitude and won't like you back. That would be nobody. In getting slight incel/redpill vibes from that last line. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/05/24 10:54 PM |
| 6 | Taking Care of yourself FIRST before other Attracts women as a manBrah you don’t get it! Go to the gym and be nonchalant. Chicks dig muscular narcissists | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/05/24 10:36 PM |
| 3 | Taking Care of yourself FIRST before other Attracts women as a manRight so like a hyper capitalist society you just keep growing infinitely at the cost of everything else? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/05/24 10:34 PM |
| 10 | Taking Care of yourself FIRST before other Attracts women as a manIt’s reflective of a lot of the advice you see on dating subs. A lot of advice directed at men requires them to be Johnny 6 pack who goes to therapy 3 times a week and gives 3/4 of his paycheck too the poor. I agree it’s not healthy to bring past baggage into new relationships but to suggest a man or indeed woman has to be absolutely perfect and in the best position of their lives before they start dating is frankly deluded. Life is chaotic and we all develop at our own paces, these are things w… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/05/24 10:30 PM |
| 3 | Taking Care of yourself FIRST before other Attracts women as a manThere’s nothing to debate. This is just a diluted version of just hit the gym bro Or be the best version of yourself bro | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/05/24 10:28 PM |
| 7 | CMV: Young people in general just don't want commitment, male or female, beautiful or ugly“Wah i picked my men on looks alone and it turns out they’re shallow and don’t meet my standards. I’m going to extrapolate and say this is representative of the entire pale population" This entire post just comes off as yet another installation of gender bashing. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/05/24 10:49 AM |
| – | Why do most people on average give such horrible dating advice for men?I know where I stand in life and I know the truth would confirm it but I just want some real advice from these people rather than meaningless platitudes. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/04/24 10:18 PM |
| – | Why do most people on average give such horrible dating advice for men?I’d kill for some real heart to heart advice over “just go to the gym bro”. Sure I might not take it well at the time but it’s mean something real to me. I want to hear advice that makes me reflect and think rather than a laundry list of vague platitudes distilled from infallible cook advice | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/04/24 10:02 PM |
| 2 | Its impossible to be high status and not completely dominate in terms off women. It beats looks, money, and status by a mile.When you’re attractive, high status, have opportunities to socialise, get laid and be part of the social fabric of your generation you soon find it takes considerably less effort to meet women versus e.g. a nerd or autistic man with hobbies perceived as antisocial. It’s common knowledge that high status men and women get the lions share of options socially romantically and sexually. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/04/24 03:08 PM |
| 1 | Dating apps and the over-abundance of options: why this illusion of choice is a bad thingIf you say so. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/04/24 01:16 PM |
| 1 | Dating apps and the over-abundance of options: why this illusion of choice is a bad thingAt least they can choose single life. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/04/24 10:38 AM |
| 1 | Dating apps and the over-abundance of options: why this illusion of choice is a bad thingLike a housing bubble and men are the subprime mortgages feeding it | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/04/24 10:38 AM |
| – | How Should Women Hold Themselves Accountable?Hey all I said was cool. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/04/24 08:36 PM |
| – | How Should Women Hold Themselves Accountable?Cool. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/04/24 08:20 PM |
| – | How Should Women Hold Themselves Accountable?Excuse me? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/04/24 07:59 PM |
| – | How Should Women Hold Themselves Accountable?I’m moving no goalposts. You say you approach women. Do you approach only conventionally attractive women? I don’t approach women because I have nobody to go out with and I’m told it’s creepy to approach women in normal settings. If I found any woman particularly attractive then sure. In fact I’d be more likely to approach a women who isn’t stunningly attractive because I know I don’t have a chance with the top 10% Also, several comments down you start talking about autism. Yeah dude- confidence… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/04/24 03:39 PM |
| – | How Should Women Hold Themselves Accountable?Moving the goal posts again! I’m sick of saying this but that’s what people seem to be doing here. oh so you followed my advice than that given to you by chad? Seems like you need to lower your standard bro Any guy who’s lonely and single is DESPERATE for the attention and wouldn’t think twice if a “non Stacey” asked them out. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/04/24 03:12 PM |
| – | How Should Women Hold Themselves Accountable?I’m sorry I don’t follow. Can you rephrase? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/04/24 02:21 PM |
| – | How Should Women Hold Themselves Accountable?Chad wasn't chad from the get-go. Maybe chad was more naturally inclined towards certain things that helped him get a date, but he still had to put the work in. Demonstrably false. When you’re attractive and have opportunities to socialise, get laid and be part of the social fabric of your generation you soon find it takes considerably less effort to meet women versus e.g. a nerd or autistic man with hobbies perceived as antisocial. An innate active man has to work orders of magnitude harder to … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/04/24 02:20 PM |
| 8 | What are men allowed to complain about today?This one thousand times over. I’ve seen people get downvoted to hell in dating subreddits for saying this but you’ve phrased it so well here. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/04/24 02:16 PM |
| – | How Should Women Hold Themselves Accountable?That’s just moving the goalposts again and refusing to admit the advice doesn’t work unless you’re chad. What the fuck does self assess even mean anyway | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/04/24 02:12 PM |
| – | How Should Women Hold Themselves Accountable?Okay then. What in your qualified experience will get these guys a date then? So far you’ve moved the goal post So let’s assume I’ve Gone to the gym, bought nice clothes, said yes to everything, gone to therapy, got my money up, approached women, developed my game Yet I’m still alone? See how the advice is just formulated to make the person giving it feel better and an easy way out? Don’t you see how it’s just crap that Chad posts out of survivorship bias? Chad correlates what he did to get laid… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/04/24 02:07 PM |
| – | How Should Women Hold Themselves Accountable?You shouldn't be looking at the exception when something works for the other 99.9% of people. There wouldn’t be an epidemic of lonely single men if “99.9%” of guys could get laid by following that tripe. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/04/24 02:03 PM |
| – | How Should Women Hold Themselves Accountable?You can deny the whole hypergamy and “she only fucks chad” arguments but it’s undeniable that online and in person women have a better choice of options. What’s often overlooked however is the overlap between attractive men and attractive women: their experiences are generally the same. Lots of options and lots of opportunities. It’s why you see people on dating subreddits giving advice to go to the gym, grow a beard, socialise, be yourself etc. Because when you’re attractive you already have a … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/04/24 02:01 PM |
| – | How Should Women Hold Themselves Accountable?Yes and no. I don’t strictly agree with this notion because you could be a single guy who follows what you’ve said and puts the work in to better themselves and improve their chances yet they still end up single. This happened to my closest friend. He’s handsome, wears nice clothes, talks nicely, is respectful and frankly I’d date him if I was gay or bisexual. I think there is definitely a selection bias problem | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/04/24 01:59 PM |
| 2 | Can the “Men peak at 35” delusion finally endWhat? You already did that brah? Sounds like you need to get your money up brah | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/04/24 01:11 PM |
| 2 | Can the “Men peak at 35” delusion finally endWhat you mean you tried going to the gym, approaching women, going to therapy, growing a beard and the pussy didn’t come flooding in? Idk bro maybe you were just too forward and arrogant. Women don’t owe you sex brah. All this worked for me brah /s | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/04/24 12:48 PM |
| 1 | Can the “Men peak at 35” delusion finally endExactly. It stops becoming advice and instead becomes self fulfilling normie platitudes on the same wavelength as “be yourself” “go to the gym bro” etc. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/04/24 12:37 PM |
| – | Can the “Men peak at 35” delusion finally endI’m tired of hearing this thing about men getting more attractive in their 30s because as many people have said it only applies to men who had regular, sustained dating, sex and success in their late teens and 20s. It does not apply to e.g., men on the spectrum or men who have immutable flaws in their appearance through eg. Bad genes or disabilities | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/04/24 12:02 PM |
| – | Can you empathize with the other side?Not reading all that. Have a nice weekend! 👍😎 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/04/24 05:23 PM |
| – | Can you empathize with the other side?Then why are you here if all you want to do is provoke, argue in bad faith and use reverse incel talking points about how evil men are | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/04/24 05:17 PM |
| – | Can you empathize with the other side?Why are you so bitter and vitriolic? You won’t win any support and it’ll only drive further animosity but you do you sister | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/04/24 05:11 PM |
| 4 | Can you empathize with the other side?See this snapping turtle style response to even the mildest provocation by jilted men is why we can never have a genuine discussion about things like this. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/04/24 03:01 PM |
| 1 | Can you empathize with the other side?Men create their own problems. Such as? Then they harass, threaten, kill and rape people Indeed but the vast majority of men are just trying to get by and find the energy to wake up in the morning. All I want in life is a woman by my side who loves me. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/04/24 03:00 PM |
| 4 | Can you empathize with the other side?I'd rather be paralysed by overwhelming options than stuck with no food or water in a sahara-scale dry spell | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/04/24 02:21 PM |
| 3 | Can you empathize with the other side?I do think they have an easier time having sex, of course. I feel like there are a lot of similarities between lonely, romantically unsuccessful men and women who are in the same boat. What differentiates the two and fuels the division is that women on the whole have an easier time finding someone to have sex with. The problem is guys tend to conflate sex with romantic partnerships. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/04/24 02:20 PM |
| – | A man's personality is not important and is way down on the list behind looks, status, money.If you are a sperg you are fucked. yep. Women can smell autism from a mile away, even if they're not autistic themselves. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/04/24 10:16 AM |
| – | A man's personality is not important and is way down on the list behind looks, status, money.Don't make me tap the sign: always follow rules 1 and 2 You could be Johnny 6 pack who goes to therapy 4 times a week and gives all his money to the poor but as soon as a >8/10 comes along you'll be a memory. Looks and status give you a major buffer zone to be awkward or boring as a man. Think of what works in advertising: it's the well written, sexily photographed products that always sell. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/04/24 10:15 AM |
| 2 | A more comprehensive post on why women handle being alone better than men, and why we need to find solutions to that.What do you mean? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/04/24 10:47 PM |
| 2 | A more comprehensive post on why women handle being alone better than men, and why we need to find solutions to that.What do you mean, what do I mean? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/04/24 10:07 PM |
| 3 | A more comprehensive post on why women handle being alone better than men, and why we need to find solutions to that.Bro what is your deal? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/04/24 09:30 PM |
| 2 | Actually, getting into a relationship DOES fix many problems for youNormalising doing stuff alone is good and I encourage it because we shouldn’t be dependent on people to do things/go to places that interest us. With that said sometimes it’s just nicer to share that experience with someone who loves and cares about you. It becomes less about the thing or destination you’re seeing/doing and more about bonding over shared experiences and making memories. People who are single like me are often fine on their own going to places and events without a partner but som… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/04/24 09:49 PM |
| – | Aren’t the “it’s because he’s attractive” posts getting boring?You could be the most vapid vacuous and hollow soul but if you have a big package, abs and an attractive face you’ll be swimming in puss | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/04/24 07:46 PM |
| – | Aren’t the “it’s because he’s attractive” posts getting boring?Beautifully said. Unless you’re >7 or 8/10 there’s no point even trying to play the game. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/04/24 07:45 PM |
| 2 | The only reason why men and women aren't understanding each other is cause both of them are in different phases in datingI think the underlying problem for men is not how to get a girlfriend since most guys already answered that when dating in their teens Heh. Yeah all that dating and 1/cos(x) I had as a teenager | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/04/24 10:22 AM |
| 5 | The only reason why men and women aren't understanding each other is cause both of them are in different phases in datingJust join clubs and wear nice clothes bro. Go to the gym as well bro. Chicks dig muscles bro. Sure you might be autistic with zero dating options but at least you’ll be shredded brah. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/04/24 10:21 AM |
| – | Women settle down with and seriously date lesser men, but still hold toxic men from their past in a higher regard.She’s not going to notice you bro. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/04/24 01:28 PM |
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