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YES. It's not just to "lock-down" sexual access. It's deeper than that for the romantic male. It's exactly as you say; "I could do this for the rest of my life" It's truly a knockout combo;. We're conditioned to believe that this is just something that "you're supposed to do." Life is this way. "That's how it works right?" We solipsistically imbue our feelings onto them, we think they "love us like we love them." When really, it's just us declaring to ourselves, "I chose this one! Forever!" And …
/r/MarriedRedPill16/10/15 07:55 PM
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Well hey man you and your writing were certainly a pivotal piece in getting me to get this. You're doing God's work IM.
/r/TheRedPill14/10/15 12:13 AM
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Here's the mind-shift I went through of "doing things for me." Pre TRP: If I found out my wife was cheating on me, it would have crushed me. It would have been the end of my entire world. Now: Even if I actually walked in on the act, I swear to Christ, I'd laugh heartily; say "sucks for you!" turn around and walk out into the next chapter of my life. What's more, is I give zero thought to this on a day to day basis, and would never allow it to interrupt even my thoughts, let alone my activities.…
/r/TheRedPill13/10/15 07:16 PM
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Yes. When others know more, I keep my mouth shut and listen. But open up a money/business category and I feel like there would be a specific spot for me to make contributions back to our community.
/r/TheRedPill12/10/15 07:07 PM
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"We don't have any family rituals" Maybe something to work on no? Even if the divorce goes through; still something that even a fractured family should have. You're right MRP does work, but only when we do. Best of luck on everything.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/10/15 02:59 AM
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I almost can't bear to be in christian churches any longer. Last time I took my family there was a 50-60 year old couple sitting in front of me. He had poofy eighties hair, hands raised high in praise, singing his lungs out in a high falsetto. I could tell he was a good, genuine "salt of the earth" type guy. I could also tell his wife fucking hated his guts. And neither understood why. She was almost comically leaned away from him the entire service, he was continually rubbing her back, holding …
/r/MarriedRedPill10/10/15 10:15 PM
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It still upsets me when I think of the years I wasted not living in the real world. You can ignore reality, but you can't ignore the consequences of ignoring reality... But on the larger scale, it used to trouble me even more, how could God allow so many of us to be needlessly living outside reality? Content to allow us to suffer in our blindness and stupor. But as you say it's just a "version" that's been peddled for a handful of decades. Looking at it from God's timeline, there has got to be y…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/10/15 09:57 PM
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Lots of wisdom here. Hope you keep posting. Especially liked this part; Study nature and use it. You can't stop the river, so learn to make a bridge. Then you later learn to build a dam. Use natural occurring phenomenon to your advantage. Going to make this a personal mantra. Don't bang your head against these naturally occurring forces, go with it, harness it to your advantage.
/r/TheRedPill10/10/15 08:45 PM
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It's ego protection. It's the same reason why some guys claim to "have a thing" for fatties. It's the higher-likelihood bias. Easier than the potential crash and burn with the perky-tit 19 year old blonde. But put that cougar and the 19 year old side by side, with a guaranteed lay from one or the other, and odds are your preferences would change very quickly.
/r/TheRedPill07/10/15 08:54 PM
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It's all been calculated, every time, every guy. You are just a willing participant of either good game or annoyed by bad.
/r/TheRedPill05/10/15 04:58 PM
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Thank you for this post. Cleared up many misconceptions (especially like the truck/color analogy.) Do you recommend any books/further reading on the subject? I just finished reading through a lot of Tom Wheelright's stuff as well as Garret Suttons "Own your own corporation" which were both good, but didn't make it nearly as clear as you've just done.
/r/TheRedPill04/10/15 06:30 PM
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According to the creator of the red pill, we're a 'misogyny' sub that happens to self improve. Deal with it, blue pill. Right, Blue pill is delusional and so therefore not dangerous. The Purple Pill is the true poison. A little toning down, a little watching our words, a little appeasement... The beauty of this place is that it's a male space, full of irreverent language and content that just smacks of masculine right sense.
/r/TheRedPill01/09/15 04:50 PM
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Great! You gonna lock this unicorn down? Cause odds are, if you ain't about to, no one else is likely to either. Because sure as shit, 10 years will go by, and all her masculine achievements you seem so enamored by will seem far less cute to her. "I'm tired of all this competition! Where can I find a good man to finally support me?" Fair or not women need a man. They all do. Not hundreds of men over a decade of dinner dates and fuckin. Sure she can get one for a night or two, but the problem is …
/r/TheRedPill01/09/15 03:24 PM
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Nice man, good luck. I like your point of view. Reminds me of that quote, "You can try and carpet the whole world; or you can just put on slippers." Get into politics, push those "family values" and change your piece of planet.
/r/TheRedPill24/08/15 06:29 PM
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It's not even the Nigerian prince that's the worst part, it's that this was all done through text. A few tingles through text is enough to toss him aside like the last 50 years never happened. There's no such thing as relational equity.
/r/TheRedPill16/07/15 06:18 PM
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Keep reading. Your life will change. Or don't. Life itself will bring you back one day to eventually learn the lessons you'll find here.
/r/TheRedPill13/07/15 05:33 AM
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you don't see many old CTs. Right. And when Chad does find the right girl and believes he's starting to mature and settle down with the one; years of abundance and AF mentality melt away into BB mode for his "special" bride. He starts becoming a "real" man, a BB, and so go the tingles. "God you were so hawt back in the day! Now that you married me, all you want to do is make me happy. Fucking loser."
/r/TheRedPill07/07/15 08:58 PM
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You are wrong. Yes all women were ALWAYS like that but grandma didn't have no facebook, twitter, whore friends normalizing shitty behavior. Just because Grams and Gramps were married, does not mean she was happy. Talk to some of those happily married couples that made it work all those years. Shit just barely hung together because of the huge trigger she had to pull to get out of it; total societal ostracization, immortal damnation, financial ruin, loss of kids, no cash and prizes. The things yo…
/r/TheRedPill07/07/15 08:35 PM
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This is true. A rock doesn't get to be soft, not even once. otherwise nobody is using it as a foundation. And she sure as shit will use any moment of softness you show against you at a later date.
/r/TheRedPill07/07/15 07:40 PM
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Have you personally experienced women outside your own culture? You're right; AWALT. But different flavors to be sure.
/r/TheRedPill06/07/15 05:35 PM
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American women EXPLORE their sexuality. It's a journey of personal, self involved discovery. Amazing insight. TRP is showing blue pill betas that they are delusional. Showing them what women and alphas already know. Western women are fun for Alphas but are the "provider-mans" worst nightmare (he just doesn't know it yet.) Sure other culture's women have problems just like all women do. But it's almost endearing once you see it for what it is. Western women are poison. Broken beyond repair and to…
/r/TheRedPill06/07/15 05:27 PM
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So focus on breaths? Always feel like I'm wasting time. Want the benefits now...probably the problem right there.
/r/TheRedPill06/07/15 05:19 AM
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Right. Easy online or in books. In person not so much...Hey bro what protein powder you use?
/r/askTRP06/07/15 03:36 AM
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What to say? Some of these dudes look like they've got cool stories to tell, but also pretty fucking intimidating as well.
/r/askTRP06/07/15 02:48 AM
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Bros, when have you ever chased an abstraction(such as love or empathy) and recieved it in true form? Wow. Started reading this post...geared up for the "bro-isms." Found some serious depth. Good job. Good post.
/r/TheRedPill06/07/15 02:19 AM
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This is the hardest fucking part. Husband: Are you happy with your life? Our beautiful, healthy children? Our big home, and all your nice things? Wife: Yes, Yes, Yes But behind the smile, she's booored and actually resenting it all and seeking thrills and tingles again. It's brutal.
/r/TheRedPill30/06/15 05:29 PM
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Awesome write-up, thanks for sharing. Just imagine very similar scenarios playing out with millions of other men but that don't have the red pill understanding of events. Men with a utter lack of comprehension. To most blue pill men the cognitive dissonance would be too great to see the true cause of the problem (women are psychologically fucked up.) They would instead chalk it up as all the blame laying squarely on their own shoulders. We didn't know that AWALT. We (I) just thought we were poor…
/r/TheRedPill30/06/15 05:23 PM
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Yeah I'm curious how this would go down too.
/r/TheRedPill29/06/15 06:12 PM
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I see it like this; Problems are other people. I used to be happy go lucky and so easy going. I got married and had kids and tons more people introduced into my previously controlled and somewhat-secluded life. And then the problems came. I had no control over my life. But what I learned with RP is that I had no control over other people. I couldn't control/change them or fix them and stop all the harm they were bringing into our lives. From that happy go lucky kid to a beaten down dejected man …
/r/TheRedPill29/06/15 05:25 PM
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They have no idea of what they are doing That will change when they attempt to articulate a social media/national dialogue response to some of the charges being leveled here. The day it gets into mainstream; when you see random click-bait articles on yahoo like: "Are women really crabs in a bucket?" "Do women really want to be part of an Alpha-harem?" That's the day when their "subconscious deniability" shifts from a "teh-heh, We didn't know what we were doing!" to a "shit we've gotta try and de…
/r/TheRedPill28/06/15 03:07 AM
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Outstanding post. I've always been of the mind...that if you point me in the right direction... then that's the way I'll go. May take 10 years, but at the top of this route it will all work out as being worth the slog up. Where is this "hypergamy at its most satisfied" zone? Strive towards a career in politics? Move to LA, learn to sing and dance? Where is the game-on-easy mode apex? As you say with phone in hand and instant orbiter validation from a variety of sources it is certainly contextual…
/r/TheRedPill28/06/15 02:46 AM
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I hate these fucking stories. Imagine the B-bucks point of view - Did my wife just make eyes at the neighbor guy? Nah, probably just seeing things... Little did he know they were fucking behind his back, he spunked in her gut, she maliciously macheveli-ed his ass, his daughter isn't his, all to keep the b-bucks train rolling. She must get a real kick everyday looking at him with "his" daughter and knowing he's a goddamn fool. Either that or she fooled herself into forgetting she even did it. Sic…
/r/TheRedPill27/06/15 08:19 PM
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I keep a word document on all the best bits of TRP, MRP I find so I can go back over it all later in one place. I just realized I have copy/pasted a ton of your stuff abdada. Just wanted to say thanks, your overarching theme of..."you get your dopamine in seconds, while I work for mine with years of hard work" is golden.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/06/15 03:55 PM
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Yeah I do feel it too. Scatterbrained, in a state of flux. My only other alternative I can think is to get on Paxil or something, which I'm told changes your personality and makes you way more open to other people and interactions. But who knows the "cons" on that one. The cure may be worse than the disease.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/15 05:22 PM
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Thanks Professor. It's very likely that this may all just be backlash from the reaction I got. It's like when I grew a beard, shed some pounds and then looked at other women, and Wow!, they actually smiled, and looked back, and wanted me to approach them! Who knew?
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/15 05:15 PM
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Wife's SMV is high and only getting higher as we/she get older. Not a knockout body (thin), but very fashionable and really growing into her femininity. I swear to god so many heads are always turning, and spiking that ol' validation meter of hers, that it's exhausting. I lift and look good. I am a different person, post trp, but even moreso internally and frame-wise. The things I read were 100% hidden to me before. It opened a whole new world for me. I devoured this new body of knowledge, power…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/04/15 11:12 PM
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This is a great story. Love the letter idea. How's it going in Walden phase with your captain/first mate dynamic? Did she take the ultimatum as that? That she must change to tag along with this new life you are forging?
/r/MarriedRedPill25/04/15 08:52 PM
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I've lurked waaay too much. I went deep and read and read and then read some more. I have theoritical knowledge on all this and now its time for practical implementation. The bad attempt with the burger girl is an example. Anything is possible. It's just a question of direction and motivations. But there is only so much focus of will a person can sustain. So I am thinking to go towards financial success in hopes that cures our problems. I think it's better than going the other direction, making …
/r/MarriedRedPill25/04/15 08:41 PM
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Yes. This is some wonderful advice. Do this exactly. Wished I'd done as solid of a "frame-reset" in my own case.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/04/15 07:00 AM
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this post was VERY helpful to a newb to this sub(s) like me. It was very helpful to me also, and I've been reading/lurking here every single day for over a year and a half. One of my favorite things to do is to read the post history of contributors here who Just Get It. It's like a canon in clear thought reading these guys.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/15 04:33 AM
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If I look at my life and what worked, it's reading. I must have read a hundred books on relationships. And another hundred books on Christian marriages. It wasn't until book #201 that I found the truth. (Well stumbled on a TRP post, which lead to many new books) So another way to look at this is that; at book #199 I was still as lost, angry and stupid as I was on day one about what was wrong with my relationship. It wasn't until I searched, and had read broadly enough, that I eventually found th…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/15 04:25 AM
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Yes, phrase it as part of the collected wisdom of evolutionary and scientific thought and it's accepted without a second thought. But say "this is what I've experienced", and you're a misogynistic prick.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/04/15 07:29 AM
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I've had the most success in helping BP-skewed women to see the light. Mom, grandma, sister, they all see it much quicker in my opinion. They have an inside track to the truth after all. The BP man has his identity and pride too tied up in it, so you must strip away layer after layer to get to him to wake up.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/04/15 03:03 AM
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Your frame gets stronger you can internally disregard and notice her mood improves even with non-engagement, I agree. This is the next level I've been looking for; Mood Independence. I hate how it's a "she does this...so I must do that" type dynamic in our house. I look stoic on the outside but inside I'm being thrashed around with her emotions.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/15 08:00 PM
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Good point. Maybe.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/04/15 11:46 PM
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You are boring because of what you do not who you are. Just to be clear. I don't think I'm boring. I think I'm interesting as shit. She and society say I'm boring. I don't want to smash some pads or sink some beers.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/04/15 09:42 PM
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Great idea! Go walk around. Dread of "where were you?" Also the confidence and outcome independence by leaving her alone with them. Hamster overload! Thanks!
/r/MarriedRedPill15/04/15 07:37 PM
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I'm not insecure. Who told you I'm insecure? You're insecure!
/r/MarriedRedPill15/04/15 07:33 PM
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Good on you brother. We need more men/dads that set the example like you are.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/04/15 01:05 PM
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We went camping once with another group of families. We brought along a telescope. They looked at us like we had 3 eyeballs. Turns out they already had all the essentials. Generator, flood lights, karaoke machines. It was a very long weekend.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/04/15 12:41 PM
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Its killing you inside but on the surface you act like its hilarious. God I want to vomit. I wish I was born 50-60 years ago. This is spot on advice by the way. I'll use that line next time. Thanks
/r/MarriedRedPill15/04/15 12:24 PM
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Holy shit I hear you on the sex thing... For me it went from; "I am making love to my wife. We are strengthening our bond" To a particularly weird phase mid TRP awakening of "what's the point?" an almost disembodied sense of self; "Here I am procreating. It's all base instincts and animals urges anyway, species must go on!" To what it is now. Which is a (more healthy I hope), sense of work and responsibility, laying that "D", and doing my husbandly duty to keep the wife from getting cranky. But …
/r/MarriedRedPill15/04/15 10:55 AM
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Yes! That's it exactly. You've articulated this perfectly. Blue pill reality is the provider-mans wet dream. It's such a nicely packaged narrative. But she didn't care or know about my delusions. How could she? She slapped me across the face with reality until I had to wake up. I was angry. I didn't know AWALT. That it wasn't me. I thought I was just a shitty excuse for a man who couldn't even hold down a wife. Now it's pining for the way it was. It stripped me of pretense.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/04/15 10:21 AM
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And if you all think divulging this is some kind of BP beta trap or a bad decision -I don't fucking care. RP isn't a cookie cutter formula. I agree. I did something similar...laid it all out on the line when I thought it was over anyway. Explained to her that these new jarring changes she was seeing were my final attempts at saving our marriage. I told her that if this doesn't work, the new stoic RP me, then I don't know what else to do. It helped to shift my seemingly selfish activities into a …
/r/MarriedRedPill15/04/15 06:53 AM
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Yes, then I can truly bet without bluffing. This stronger frame would allow me to fully brush aside her outside validation seeking behaviors as the foolishness they are.... But true only if I work to actually posses that better frame of my own.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/04/15 04:54 AM
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I know of what I speak. I know where this guy is coming from. I was a virgin until meeting my wife. She says she was too but I have mentally blocked that and don't really care any longer. But if you read his post there is a lot of what I have also felt, a missing out, and a crushed narrative of "I've only been with my wife" that it means something and is special. It's harder for guys who've been with even one other woman to understand these emotions. It's a very extreme form of oneitis all tied …
/r/MarriedRedPill13/04/15 08:26 PM
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You need to Beta it up for a moment. She doesn't sound too jaded and distant to be honest. "I think it's time we be done..." "I love you but..." If she were really done it would be seething hatred, silence, plotting, planning and out. I know there's underlying emotions on both sides, but she's looking to you to set the stage. What's currently happening and what it means. With my wife when it got to this level here's what I did; I told her about the red pill. I sat down and laid it all out. I'm a…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/04/15 07:39 PM
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I'm pulling back from church going. Could I ask you some advice? Do you think the benefits outweigh the problems? I don't want to expose my son, or myself to this anymore either. I loved it (church going), till my life and old views started crumbling around me and now I see sermons in a different lense. But after long funk we need to meet people and returning to church seems to be a great place for that. Do you think it's overall healthier? Like secular single mom friends vs. church women, telli…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/04/15 08:53 AM
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This is so nice to read. Especially the faith stuff. Good to hear others who've dealt with same issues and made it work for them. Great job! Good luck and continued success.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/04/15 08:41 AM
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Yep for me too. I went to a massage parlor when I thought she was leaving me, and to be honest I was shaking I was so nervous, (had my mental and cultural hangups as well.) But it ended up just being a very nice sensual massage from a woman other than my wife. No handjob. But I could tell that option would be available should I ever desire it or if the wife started becoming extremely distant again.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/04/15 08:21 AM
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I would not be butthurt if I used the opportunities and made memories Ahh I see. You need to go get a hand job from other woman (if you could psychologically be up for it, I wasn't for a long time) and then it's even. (This is all for your well being and state of mind, not hers, to her just never bring it up and don't show that any of this affects you in the least.) It sucks that this is the way of the modern world. It is not all purity and ideals and storybook narratives. This is what it means …
/r/MarriedRedPill13/04/15 07:52 AM
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First. Don't let anyone say you aren't hurting. You are. The scales of the way things were and the way things are in your marriage have been stripped from your eyes. All you aspired to was a happy marriage and family. You prayed to God that he save you from temptation. You then say you "threw away" and abstained from opportunities you may have taken as a high SMV man with easy options in order to stay true to what you were truly seeking. That sucks and it's not fair. The middle part of your text…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/04/15 07:46 AM
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Lots of good stuff to unpack here. Thank you! I'm headed to the gym, but skimming over, looks really helpful, will get back later.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/04/15 12:58 AM
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Changing the pinto metaphor a bit, If it were truly left entirely up to me, I'd have found value in getting the motor in that pinto purring. I'd have left that sucker primered. I thought I knew where my value lied. My own internal metrics. The mind, the morals, the drive, the direction, the intention. She saw, and only finally respected and appreciated, the externals. The show. The paint. The fluff. Your suggestion that I "work on my own frame" is my take away here and it's great advice. Become …
/r/MarriedRedPill13/04/15 12:12 AM
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I don't think that is how it works....She is not gaming you...She is genuinely attracted to you I see. This is a very nuanced point I think. It's about coming to terms with the new dynamic. She does love new lean, hard, aloof me. Maybe what I'm going through now is only the grieving process of the old "nice" me? And all this mental diarrhea in OP is just an attempt to justify it to myself that the beta was not enough? Just a general case of "butt-hurtness." It's been hard on her too I can imagin…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/04/15 11:41 PM
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Or do I let that do it on its own Yes. Remember dread is not overt. It is covert. It's like salt. Just a dash and it will change her entire behavior towards you. You are way ahead of the curve here. For many of us we started planted firmly behind the 8 ball. For example my wife would have never asked directly "that I never cheat on her" cause she knew I didn't really have the options and she really didn't care. The game for us in those situations is in painting a picture that we are men with opt…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/04/15 07:10 AM
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men don't make final decisions based on short term emotions. This right here. This is something to latch on to and repeat to myslef every morning. Thanks
/r/MarriedRedPill12/04/15 06:38 AM
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My strategy thus far has been one of non-engagement and calm instruction. Unfortunately it took me a long time to get to that level of operating. For those who can see the logic in the trp approach right away and not chock on the pill, there is zero need to go through all the messy levels I went through. Just start from day one with this mind-frame and keep chugging along with it day in and day out. This cool, level headed, masculine, self directed "I want x, I am doing x" is the way to go. Brea…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/04/15 06:27 AM
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the red pill is not merely a sexual strategy...it is a way of life that offers a vocabulary and framework for men to take back their power. Wow. This is a very good, broader, way of looking at this.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/04/15 01:53 AM
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However, I'm the captain in very few aspects of our life. Definitely keep plugging away on that. It's the SMV equivalent for men as getting a boob job is for women. Women aren't attracted to men. They are attracted to the way that he makes them feel. It will feel weird, unnatural and "put-on" at first but it's this non-stop "captaining" in every aspect of your lives that will breed more confidence and deeper attraction. Found TRP and MRP about a month ago. Keep coming back daily. First month is …
/r/MarriedRedPill12/04/15 01:41 AM
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I kept my cool and left to the gym. Love it. Good job. I talked to her like everything was peachy. This is also very good. Rinse, Cycle, Repeat. Hardest part is the first few months of this new you. Stay strong things will get exponentially better from here on out and you won't even remember these old bad times of uncertainty and unhappiness.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/04/15 01:27 AM
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Thanks brother, I'd appreciate it. I look put together on the outside but I'm still broken. I know it. What is most crazy to me, even after all this time from finding trp, is that up is down and black is white. The one activity that made my marriage most pleasant was me getting "hawter" Not my job, not good standing in the community etc. Nothing inside, all exterior has made my (our) life so much better. I was slowly suffocating as a blue and had no control (knowledge) how to fix the situation. …
/r/MarriedRedPill11/04/15 11:32 PM
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It's amazing how fluid a man's scale can be. I swear I jumped .5 points overnight just by making an effort of standing up straighter and looking people in the eye no longer hiding and trying to blend in and be invisible amongst the mass of us betas. In what other areas could I be pedestaling do you think? I feel like the biggest hurdle was internal, not caring anymore or being romantic and accepting her and our relationship as it actually is in reality. But maybe in practical matters I still am?…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/04/15 11:21 PM
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So the only problem is that you now realize what motivates women and you're scared you can't satisfy that? Yes very likely true. Outside packaging can change all it wants, but inside, I'm still beta at heart, just pretending to be part of this alpha's/woman's world. What they wouldn't understand over at TRP is that "dude get over your oneites", plenty of fish in the sea, does not apply here. When for decades you believe that much of your very worth or value is found in "staying true" being a goo…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/04/15 11:19 PM
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I know I can't do it, get the ball rolling, make the hard decision of moving on and being full on selfish. So divorce, separation, moving on. I just couldn't. Vestiges of my old self remain and I couldn't make that selfish of a decision. Not fair to my kids or their mother (I see her as another "kid" in the house now and additional responsibility) I can't suffer in silence for 40 years though. I could try a "on the side" thing maybe but that would be a huge journey. I have almost zero game (all …
/r/MarriedRedPill11/04/15 09:11 PM
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