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There are FAR better role models in this world. Aim higher for yourself please.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/21 04:16 PM
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He's an LVM. Congratulations me, I now have a stock template of what NOT to look for in a man. If a guy has familiar attitudes and behaviors, time to evaluate- if he reminds me of my godfather or grandfather, green flags. If any other male family member, do not pass go, ghost immediately. This is not to say he's a terrible person; he's always been gainfully employed, he's done well making sure he and my mother will be comfortable in retirement. He loves me in his own way. But he doesn't contribu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 01:11 AM
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I've done both- my exhusband and I never lived together before we married, I've lived with my long term partner for several years and I have to say, living together before getting legally involved would have been a very good idea for me before marriage. We lived a few hundred miles apart, and we both worked and were in university so we rarely spent more than a week (once two) in the same space. Had I any idea of what a chaos breeding trash monster that boy was I would have absolutely never marri…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 10:43 PM
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I spend more time on r/Asianbeauty than SCA because someone will always find issue with any given product. Skincare is so YMMV I've chosen experimentation and data collection on myself vs. reading endless reviews. As it's still better than any of my American sunscreens, I'm sticking with it for now. I haven't read the mixed reviews; is the disagreement stemming from it being a chemical vs. a physical sunscreen?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/20 04:02 AM
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I used to love Biore Watery Essence until the reformulation a few years ago. My skin leans oily and is super reactive and this is my current favorite- https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07V31W954/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_i_rRe3Eb9T62JAC
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/20 02:04 AM
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Whoa girlfriend, deep breath. Bras are not going to have any effect on your breast tissue staying bouncy- there's even evidence that wearing a bra regularly causes some of the underlying stabilizing muscles to weaken. We ALL have different natural shapes, and gravity affects all boobs equally. If you want the underlying muscle to be firmer, grab some dumbbells and start a beginner lifting routine. Do some pushups and ab work, be more mindful of your posture. Losing or gaining weight does change …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/20 05:17 PM
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Does it get better after the first book? I tried to get into the story, but it never really engaged me. One of the few audio books I've returned before finishing, but if it gets more fun I might give it another go.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 04:49 PM
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Sorry, but having watched one of my dearest friends struggle to make ends meet while working 3 jobs for over a decade because her LVM couch creature wouldn't hold down a job that's a plan I absolutely can't support. He managed to destroy her financially on his own- LVMs absolutely do not need the government aiding them in helping themselves to women's paychecks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/20 12:19 AM
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Why on earth would I want a man who wanted to hit up a strip club? If he wants to go so bad, he should know to not darken my door again afterwards.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 06:13 AM
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Thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 04:00 PM
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Hey, not to be a pain, but the sub those screenshots are from has a specific rule to not talk about the sub in other parts of Reddit. Could we respect those boundaries and would you please edit out the sub name and repost the images? I think they would appreciate not having our LV lurker trash bugging them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 04:56 AM
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Effort.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 12:14 AM
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Very few teachers actually have anything approaching a decent work/life balance. Taking home grading, lesson planning on weekends, evening meetings, compulsory attendance at sporting events, after school tutoring, and legally required professional development classes add up to 80 hours/week quickly. Accountants have their busy season, which is terrible, but teachers have a busy year.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 08:37 AM
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You know he's bad for you. Maybe not an all around bad person in all aspects of existence, but bad FOR YOU. Why would you want to waste even more time on this person? Cut him off, block across the board, and invest your time in things and people that enrich your life, not waste it running his errands and trying to negotiate low effort sex. You know better than that. Now go out and do better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 06:36 AM
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The thing that struck me most about this post is how you talk about yourself. How would you respond if your best friend described herself as having "the sex appeal of a slug" or "being generally socially inept"? Let's clarify a few things, beginning with this touchstone: You are the best friend you are ever going to have. You are the person who will pick you up when you faceplant on the road of life. And it's your responsibility to be good to yourself, not only through actions like managing your…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 05:10 AM
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I'm so glad you got out of there and found a place that is good to you! I guess I'm fortunate that she actually left about two months after me so by the time I was job searching again no one was interested in a reference that old! Thanks for helping me find that perspective.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 03:08 AM
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Having lived through the "only living together after marriage" parade thanks to my parents' religious mania, NEVER AGAIN. My wasband is by all accounts a decent man and now years later we're on amiable terms- but we should have NEVER married. Our cleanliness standards, willingness to plan, even how we liked to spend leisure time were so opposed that if we had been able to spend even two full weeks living together before tying the knot I'd have never accepted his proposal. Less than a month into …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 03:01 AM
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Damn queen, that is a mood! May I subscribe to your newsletter?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 02:47 AM
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This actually touches on an experience I had as a younger woman that I still have not figured out how I could have potentially avoided. Early in my career I had a job where I was fortunate enough (I thought) to a) have a female boss and b) live within walking distance. Two years in, I was taking out my trash late one night and happened to see my boss and our married IT director pull into the parking lot, share a passionate kiss, then part ways. I never brought it up, never implied anything to ei…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 02:41 AM
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Met up with an old friend from high school who introduced me to some of his coworkers, including a cute nerdy type. Went to a few events with their team, and after an especially challenging day nerd boy falls down the stairs and faceplants in the gravel below. Cleaned him up, literally kissed his boo boo, and three days later he called asking to take me out as a thank you. I accepted on the condition that no dates were happening cause I'm not trying to get involved with some Nightengale syndrome…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/20 06:25 PM
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I've been on both sides of this, and I know it sucks. It's lonely and isolating and there will be times when you have to search hard for a connection with him. This is a good time to work on expanding your circle of supportive female friends, maybe join a book club, volunteer for a cause you're interested in, or take up a new hobby. If you're into fitness, consider something the two of you could potentially do together like jogging before work- I suspect you'll both need an outlet before the cur…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/20 05:10 AM
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Oh darling no! Couch creatures might become overtly unappealing at 30 due to weight gain and early onset balding from pornsickness, but that's not actually a thing for people who take care of themselves! Care for yourself enough to avoid that toxicity and stay hydrated, you've got a glorious adventure ahead. I'm not going to pretend there's any age at which dating is all fun, but there is a whole lot more to life than relationship drama clown induced anxiety. Feel free to explore your passions, …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/20 07:54 PM
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The weed really is concerning because the cannabinoids get passed along to baby in the fat content of the breast milk, and it lingers well beyond what would be normal pump and dump timing due to alcohol. But it's definitely not OP's job to police her stepmother.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/20 06:50 PM
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Nothing wrong with being in progress- we all are! That's a condition of growing. What do you think your life could look like if you took all that time and effort spent on others and instead spent it on future you? Your future self deserves your consideration so much more than those clowns. Why not use this time to consider what you want to add to her life instead of stressing about what you give others? You know you can't pour water from an empty cup. Go get a refill sis!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/20 06:42 PM
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Accurate. He's still making excuses. But not actively spewing hatred is a step in the right direction and shows potential for growth. Considering how far dude needs to travel, positive reinforcement can help keep him on the path. It's not how I'd spend my time, but power to OP and her kindness.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/20 04:04 AM
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I've gotta come down on the other side of this. As much as our brains like putting things in neat organized boxes, sexuality is a spectrum. I'm happy to give kitty a tongue bath, I'm also happy to give head, but hell no I absolutely do not want anyone's mouth near my genitals at any time for any purpose absolute iron wall with machine gun turrets not gonna fucking happen. I have actually balked and walked out of a dude's house not wearing pants when he pushed that boundary. The human mouth is bl…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/20 05:46 AM
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Be prepared for them to be constantly near broke if you get involved with a teacher. Many districts are no longer paying for ongoing training required to remain certified and I've found that there's a pervasive saviour complex among men who work in education that results in them spending a lot out of pocket on their students. Combine that with administrations that only pay 9 months a year and it's a bleak financial outlook at best.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/20 03:32 AM
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Dating 5 years in May, exclusive for the last 4, living together for 2. I don't want kids and was married once before (adding another vote to both the military and finance industry being a huge red flag for dating prospects) and he's totally understanding that I'm in absolutely zero rush to leap back into married life, especially when factoring in paying for school.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/20 07:51 PM
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Bartenders are about 50/50 in my experience. Gonna admit some bias because my current partner is a bartender, but he's never given me reason to worry, knows how to listen, and has been generous about supporting our household while I persue my MPH. He's been a big supporter and vocal advocate of my nonprofit work and while yes he does need to learn to clean without me project managing, having my weekends and a few nights a week to do my own thing has been really good for our relationship because …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/20 03:33 PM
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Why are you jumping through hoops to justify spending your valuable time with someone who has no drive to put in the work? Free dinners aren't free, they're the result of wasting your time instead of investing it in yourself. I'm not interested in breadcrumbing some schmuck along when I can make my own damn martinis and spend the evening with better company than some wishy washy directionless schlub.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 05:08 PM
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This is some weapons grade Jocasta lunacy. This woman (and her poor child) need some BIG therapy. Shoving children into adult roles is wrong. Imagine the genders were reversed and a little girl's couch creature LVM baby daddy were in charge. Not acceptable behavior and not a healthy way to model a healthy relationship for anyone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/19 06:53 PM
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