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Yes: 1. No: 2, 3 and 4.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/26 08:23 AM
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I've noticed it with some folks in real life too, they think the talking stage, or having to get to know women Imo, the early flirting stages, from the very first eye contact, half smiles to those tentative first conversations, are super enjoyable. The tension, the subtlety, the plausible deniability, etc...
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/26 09:00 AM
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Incredibly well put and on point.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/26 08:19 AM
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We can tell.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/26 12:00 PM
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It shows. You clearly demonstrated in your post that you have no clue about gym socialization.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/26 11:57 AM
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And the rest of us keep enjoying socializing and having a good time in the gym in between our sets.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/26 11:46 AM
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This issue is specific to you. There's no reason to apply it to society at large.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/26 11:41 AM
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And yet, plenty of people enjoy respectful socializing and connection at university. One bad case doesn't justify such a bad-faith extrapolation, the hasty generalization fallacy still applies.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/26 11:33 AM
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That guy was out of line, but he's in the minority. Most gym interactions aren't like that. Writing off all gym flirting because of one creepy guy is a classic case of hasty generalization fallacy, especially since plenty of people enjoy socializing and making connections at the gym when it's done respectfully.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/26 11:29 AM
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Totally agree. A good pair of well-fitted linen shorts sitting just above the knee, combined with espadrilles, is a classic summer look that never fails, especially here in the Western Mediterranean, I don't know in other places. As you mentioned, choosing the style is the easiest part; the real heavy lifting is done by your physique. Being in shape is crucial for getting clothes to fit you well
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/26 08:33 AM
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I've never used online dating apps. I prefer (or preferred since I have a gf now) to meet people in my daily life, and if there's a mutual attraction, it just develops naturally from there.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/26 09:04 AM
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I am curious about the advice you follow from the red pill community and or advice from online that has worked to get sex, a relationship, or other attention from women. Personally, I take a passive approach, so basically I try to look good. I enjoy playing sports and eating healthy, so it doesn’t feel like a burden. I lift weights and swim quite often. Clothes fit much better when you are in shape, and, additionally, it also helps me sleep better at night, so it’s a win-win-win. From there, wat…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/26 06:16 PM
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There can be RPers that do that and RPers that don't. I don't care what other people do, especially if I don't know them and they are complaining and whining all day; it's not my problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/26 02:40 PM
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And I see RPers not doing any of that. not approaching, I don't approach either.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/26 02:28 PM
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But then it heavily leaned into simply hating women and using women as excuse for your failures. Hmm... why would I blame and hate women, exactly? For choosing to have flings and relationships with me? Blaming them makes no sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/26 02:15 PM
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I don't know... On a personal level, understanding intersexual dynamics hasn't negatively impacted my relationships, quite the opposite. I've never relied on control or exploitation, it's always been genuine desire or bust.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 12:51 PM
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Congratulations on your pregnancy.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 07:27 PM
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Men who can and do fuck around but are, for some reason, mass rejected by women for LTRs are extremely rare I agree, they generally would love to lock them down. It sounds like the fox and the grapes post-rationalization story.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 12:29 PM
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I agree with your comment and definition. It is the one I've always read.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 12:15 PM
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Why is therapy necessary to learn how to listen to women?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 01:32 PM
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This is the first time I am aware that there is a culture war over women's bodies in fitness studios, and that men are complaining about it. In my experience, gyms, at least the one I go to, have rules about clothing; everyone follows them, and there are absolutely no complaints or issues regarding who wears what.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 08:27 AM
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All of they want.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 08:16 AM
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(Title) Assuming your premise is correct: no, women cannot be blamed, because genuine attraction isn't negotiable. (Q1) Personally, I'm not angry. Why should I be? I've had girlfriends and flings. However, speaking for others, I understand the need to vent. It's frustrating to do everything "right" and get nowhere, while watching others do the opposite and succeed effortlessly, especially when you don't understand the rules of the game. (Q2) See Q1.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 08:05 AM
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If i had not made the effort to connect , sometimes going way out of character to how i usually am, What did you exactly do? Did you force yourself to talk to them or try to talk more? Did you already know those girls?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 11:02 AM
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I don't know for other but for me personally a platonic partnership wouldn't be an alternative.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 03:32 PM
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I guess this is an exclusively US phenomenon, because that hasn't been my experience. I'm from Western Europe, and girls have generally been nice to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 02:06 PM
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I agree. Maybe it is a cultural, environmental, or geographic thing, but I've rarely met any man who does this and I'd describe him as RP-aware.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 02:59 PM
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It's amazing how quickly they want to police certain concepts they find unflatering and don't want to be talked about.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 09:44 AM
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Out of curiosity, coming from someone who has never used OLD: is it possible to swipe 2M times? Are the swipes all different people, or do they repeat from time to time?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 12:50 PM
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I'd be told not to make promises I can't keep.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 06:16 PM
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If I told my gf I only wanted to have so-so sex once a month, she would be very pissed.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 06:06 PM
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I agree. Pointing out a phenomenon isn't necessarily complaining about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 03:17 PM
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I agree, complaining is pointless.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 02:24 PM
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I finally watched it a few days ago. I was impressed, I had high expectations, and yet the movie managed to exceed them. I usually end up disappointed in those cases.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 12:54 PM
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1-2% lmao, dating apps are crazy. Glad I only met my flings and gfs out there.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 06:53 PM
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My gf is quite into it. Her libido is slightly higher than mine.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 12:36 PM
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I agree with your comment. You put it very well.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/26 10:00 AM
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I wouldn't take any woman's right away nor I don't advocate for anything remotely similar. I'm also not lo sing against a vibrator xD
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/26 05:07 AM
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I'll stick with my gf, but thanks for the suggestion.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/26 10:40 AM
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I'm not responding to all because the text wall is too long. Many red pill online content I've seen details how to cold approach a woman, how to check and see if she's got red flags, going on dating apps and advice on how to curate a profile to pull the most women. Yeah. I don't cold approach nor use dating apps, though. Also, if things unfold at their own pace, at what point do you tell them about being red pill? I don't. Another important thing is that a relationship where she never actually l…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/26 05:57 PM
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When red pill men are attempting to gain a partner, rather than a relationship forming organically from mutual crushes or friendship, a foundation of appreciation, they are holding women to a rigid standard. Definitely not my experience. All my relationships started organically. I don't think understanding general relationship dynamics is incompatible with meeting people naturally and letting things unfold at their own pace.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/26 08:09 AM
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30s. None. I'm already in a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 06:09 PM
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Absolutely.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 07:59 AM
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every single redpillers including women all argue fir men to control women (they call it leading) because they believe women are incapable of looking after themselves I don't argue for men to control women and I don't believe women are incapable of looking for themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 07:47 AM
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I don't know, to be honest; I personality don't think about them.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/26 02:15 PM
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(Title) I don't think they're so bad. (Q1) My gf adds to my life, we understand each other very well, we think alike. (Q2) I don't believe that.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 08:00 AM
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I'm from (Western) Europe, so my experience may differ from others. What are the real challenges you personally face in dating? I wouldn't say dating has been challenging for me, yet this doesn't mean I slay left and right either. I've had gfs and flings. I'm currently in a serious relationship with my gf. What patterns have you personally noticed in your own experiences? Genuine attraction cannot be negotiated. Physical appearance matters and helps more than conventional wisdom admits. Revealed…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 08:03 AM
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(Title, Q1, Q2): No.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 07:41 AM
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Unfortunately, I've seen and heard of stuff like that all my life. I'm sorry if this has happened to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/26 05:03 PM
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(Title) No. (Q1) No, they owe them nothing. (Q2) His reasoning as you put it? Yes. (Q3) Maybe, it depends on the situation. At this point, I only put myself in potential danger to defend people I care about, not strangers. I've seen too many heroes ruining their lifes for nothing.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/26 04:27 PM
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I have seen RP specifically promoting not replying for even a day or more at a time deliberately. With the idea that this lack of reply will somehow magically make her more interested. I always replied when I was available and worked fine. I didn't pay attention at the tempos. I'm talking about for obtaining long term relationships and high quality women/hvw. This would make them less interested. I don't casually date if a want a long term relationship. I wasn't dating anyone when I met my gf an…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/26 01:10 PM
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acting flakey Not flakey but alofness and non-neediness worked fine. multidating multiple women As long as these relationships are casual, they don't care at all. Never had an issue with that. negging women Not negging but just keeping it cool and non reactive worked fine. dig for information on her sexual past There's no need to dig, eventually they tell you themselves one way or another.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/26 12:59 PM
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My ideal woman is different from the next RPer ideal woman. There is no ideal in the platonic sense. In my particular case: Inexperienced Submissive Be endlessly patient No. I don't want a doormat. Deferential Easy to lead My choice of words would be: not disrespectful, and easy to reach mutual decisions based on rational arguments. Inexperienced in relationships Inexperienced in life Free of the knowledge and expectations that come from experience No, I want a functional adult. Manage the house…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/26 12:44 PM
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So why aren’t you religious? I grew up in a non-religious family and as soon as I started reading, my parents gave me books about science stuff. I didn't need God since then. why not at least support or promote it? I could tolerate it at least, but I'd never join it or promote it. why not encourage it on those grounds alone? See point above + I can't encourage something I don't take part or believe in. do you think promoting something you don’t personally believe in is wrong? I wouldn't say it's…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/26 03:35 PM
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If you include other traits such physical attractiveness in the equation the answer is yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/26 12:55 PM
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And I'm telling you that the "attractive" part was not in the OPs premise.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/26 11:41 AM
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attractive This trait wasn't in the OP trait list, you're moving the goalposts.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/26 11:38 AM
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I don't know, the OP post doesn't say the majority of women value those traits and I said that women who value those traits don't necessarily would find any men with those traits attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/26 11:30 AM
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No, it's not weird at all. You can do whatever you like and want in a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/26 10:17 AM
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They made it work because they have similar morals, beliefs, ethics, and character, I already said that in my comment: "I do believe such women exist".
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/26 10:15 AM
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It isn't. I do believe such women exist. But I also believe that despite genuinely valuing morals, beliefs, ethics, and character, they won’t necessarily find every men with those values attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/26 06:38 AM
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Doing that worked for me, but I can understand it may not work for everybody.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/26 02:37 PM
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Not spouse but gf but we tend to go 50/50 in spending and housework.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/26 02:09 PM
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In my opinion, traditional-submissive tasks like cooking or cleaning (as suggested in OPs post) aren’t inherently arousing. However, femininity expressed through elegance, body language, playfulness, or confidence certainly can be.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/26 08:13 AM
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It looks like this guy had an existential faith crisis and tried to rationalize it as 'dread' after discovering the RP, which he was extremely invested in by that time.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/26 08:05 AM
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What exactly is hard to believe?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 05:58 PM
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'Use' wouldn't be the right word, that implies faking aloofness or not being overinvested, and I'm just like that. But otherwise, the ones I said, except I wasn't seeing anyone else when I met her.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 04:31 PM
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I'm currently in a relationship with my gf. We've been together for 5 years.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 04:20 PM
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acting flaky Never did that. By contrast, aloofness and not overinvesting worked fine. multidating multiple women In my experience, if done casually, they don't care. negging women Haven't used that. Witty teasing proved effective, though. dig for information on her sexual past No need to dig, those with a past eventually tell you themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 04:13 PM
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Your too-many-words comment says otherwise.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 02:51 PM
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I didn't want to adress it.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 12:48 PM
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From my European point of view it feels totally normal going Dutch. I've never paid for dates.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 07:51 AM
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Maybe it's an European thing but all the girls I've been with tolerated paying for themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 05:58 AM
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Women should obey or disobey whoever they want.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 05:50 AM
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Same. My parents still together and I was raised in a loving household too, I have fond memories of my childhood.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/26 01:25 PM
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No, to be honest, it doesn't resonate with what I've experienced.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/26 08:43 AM
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(1) We met at work. (2) I didn't court. We started talking, over time we realised we thought alike, understood each other’s way of thinking very well, one thing quietly led to another, and that's it. (3) At some point we simply accepted we were a couple. Funnily enough I met my last ex-gf in a very similar way.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/26 07:00 AM
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The myth exists because older guys tend to have money and a bit of status and they mistake women's interest for real arousal. But attraction isn't arousal. Women might like a man's confidence or resources, but their bodies still respond to a handsome, fit, healthy look in men. Is the myth that men age like fine wine just some sort of revenge fantasy? For some, yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 08:40 AM
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Mine are still happily married.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 08:26 PM
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So I'm responding. (1) No, enthusiasm is very important. (2) For me it means something. (3) I'm to vain, for lack of a better word, to have sex with a woman who's not into me. (4) No. (5) No.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 06:02 PM
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Agree. Some people find it hard to see that just because you point something out doesn't mean you're complaining about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 08:24 AM
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(1) Being liked in both ways, physically and as a person. In my experience, both have come hand in hand. (2) Yes. (3) I value it but I wouldn't say I value it more. It depends.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 05:29 AM
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It could be said I was RPed before discovering RP was a thing, I somewhat understood intersexual dynamics through an RP lens already. As for advice: I didn't take RP prescriptively, I simply drew my own conclusions from it and applied them as a kind of subroutine. I've had (and have) gfs, flings, never used OLD, etc...
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/26 02:18 PM
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Some people have a hard time understanding that pointing out a phenomenon doesn't necessarily mean complaining about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/26 08:16 AM
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I remember she was very vocal about "clothes have no gender" or "inclusive language" kind of stuff. I honestly didn't care about any of that.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/26 03:15 PM
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You're right. I had a fling with a cute feminist girl. I'm not exactly conservative, hell, I'm not even baptized, but a few of my opinions clashed hard with her worldview. She didn't care. At all.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/26 01:43 PM
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I agree.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/26 02:02 PM
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-What does your ideal woman (or man) dress like? I don't know, there are different ways people can dress with their pros and cons. -What values do you think she might communicate through her own clothing? I don't know. -What's the story you tell to yourself (or others) through your appearance? I take care of my body/health, I'm not a walking brand advertisement and 'less is more'. -Do you think your clothing and style matches your values? I guess. -Do like-minded people gravitate towards you? I'…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/26 09:21 AM
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I took the test. It says I'm 5w6. In what ways do you think knowing your enneagram type could help in relationships? Hmmm... It would explain the type of women I attract and get relationships with... I guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/26 07:35 AM
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I agree from personal experience. Genuine attraction can't be forced. Once you have what the other sex values, just putting yourself out there will eventually create opportunities to be seen and connect with people who like you.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/26 12:07 PM
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Same experience. Going 50/50 has never been an issue for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/26 01:04 PM
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(1) About men's content? Almost none. I also don't follow any 'influencer' of any kind. (2) Accurate in which sense? (3) Dating content: no. Fitness, money, political or general self improvement: occasionally I watch something but I don't follow any channel in particular. (4) For the point 3 stuff: YouTube. (5) I don't expect those videos will give me any answers. It's pure entertainment.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/26 09:17 AM
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(1) About men's content? None. I also don't follow any 'influencer' of any kind. (2) Accurate in which sense? (3) Dating content: no. Fitness, money, political or general self improvement: occasionally I watch something but I don't follow any channel in particular. (4) YouTube. (5) Nothing really, I don't expect those videos will give me any answers. It's pure entertainment.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/26 08:51 AM
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I agree. I’d feel revolted if my gf, or even a casual fling, were with me out of need rather than genuine desire.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/26 01:49 PM
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Virginity, no; sexual past, up to a point.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/26 07:31 AM
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No, it doesn't matter to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/26 07:20 AM
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Yes they are.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/26 01:25 PM
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Same. It was no revelation or discovery, just a label for something that was already there.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/26 07:54 AM
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I don't seek men's support; it's simple altruism.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/26 11:57 AM
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Personal experience to enrich the debate.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/26 11:49 AM
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You can't relate as you're not like that? This. You think that's an argument? Yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/26 11:43 AM
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I don't know, I can't relate.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/26 11:12 AM
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After woman's so called 'hoe phase' in the end you are just the option she choose to settle down with right? She will always pursue the best available option; however, there is often a vast difference between what she desires and what she can actually retain at this point. the man she choose to settle down with just has to accept her as she is because her choice and what happened was never her fault. No, you don't have to accept this. It feels like men always get the short end of the stick espec…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/26 07:37 AM
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Willingly? No.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/26 07:47 AM
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To be honest, if you check the RP links in thus sub jargon, the third one, from a 10 year old post it states the following: [80/20 Common errors:] The second mistake it to presume the inverse: that 20% of men actually get 80% of women. Usually this gets trotted out as an equal-for-equal argument that presumes, again, that desire should necessarily translate into consolidation. Betas and lower SMV men do get laid and pair off with women for any number of reasons, but the principle isn’t about who…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/26 09:05 AM
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They don't.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/26 05:02 PM
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That is not narcissism.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/26 01:00 PM
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Because if you are not narcissistic you gonna be a slave to females desires. This is not true. You don’t need a mental disorder for that, just some spine and self-awareness.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/26 12:53 PM
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The guy who fucks a lot is narcissistic. It’s not a sine qua non, you can fuck a lot without necessarily being a narcissist. The rest of your text, based on that false premise, is wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/26 12:47 PM
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Bro what, Most RP dudes agree to not be in a LTR. And many others agree the opposite. Matter in fact even the lifestyle of RP is to be attractive to many women as possible. False dichotomy. You can be that and still be in a monogamous relationship or alone. RP advice is never to be about being a good father, in fact its the opposite, its to be a alpha who indulges in various STRs This has absolutely nothing to do with the RP, you just made it up. Being a good or a bad father is irrelevant to bei…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/26 12:33 PM
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This is your personal opinion.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/26 12:22 PM
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As long as you understand how intersexual dynamics work you're RPed. The lifestyle you choose to live based on that understanding is totally independent and unrelated to being RPed.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/26 12:19 PM
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Well the RP lifestyle is for having short term / FWB type relationships. It isn't. It's perfectly possible to be RPed and be in a long, monogamous relationship, or to be single with no contact with women as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/26 12:11 PM
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It doesn't, I don't think that. I don't game her either.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/26 07:29 PM
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Companionship, genuine desire and mutual understanding.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/26 07:05 PM
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I met my current gf, and my last, at work. I never asked them out. We just started talking, one thing led to another, and that was it. I didn't expect to end up with them the first time I saw them; it just happened. Asking them out right away would have been awkward, artificial and forced.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/26 01:41 PM
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No.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/26 01:44 PM
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I don't idolize any of them.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/26 01:27 PM
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People here tend to struggle to understand that observing and describing a phenomenon doesn't necessarily mean you're complaining about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/26 08:33 AM
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Active ones? No. Passive ones? Yes: being in shape, having my shit together, having a spine, a bit aloof (I'm just like that, I don't force it, tbh)... That settled, I simply let things happen naturally.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/26 12:12 PM
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I don't follow the RP community or RP influencers, I'm not aware of what they're saying nowadays.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/26 08:29 AM
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Speaking only for myself: no, why shouldn't I? It's just mother nature doing its job. But of course, feeling something doesn’t mean I have to express it externally.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/26 08:24 AM
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Totally inexcusable and absolutely not less guilty.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/26 08:17 AM
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Red pill cuts through that and says stop pretending dating is random. Technically it's still random, but you rise the odds if you improve correctly. Nothing guarantees success, unfortunately. For some people, the starting point is so low that even improvement wouldn't make much difference.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/26 07:11 AM
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On a personal level, I don't think they should change. Whether they complain or not is not my problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/26 11:29 AM
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I agree with the last paragraph. Knowing the rules of the game doesn’t guarantee that you will be good at it.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/26 07:41 AM
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I wouldn't say I struggled, but if I had to choose one, it would be: -Lack of time Because when I've been out there, the opportunities appeared on their own. It's just that I didn't have time, nor was I ever eager to go out for the sake of doing it. For instance, I met my gf at work, like my prior one. We started talking, one thing lead to another and that's it. It was just as easy as that both times. Out of professional environment I only found flings or non-serious relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/26 08:43 AM
6

I don’t agree with any of the points.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/26 05:24 AM
3

Both can be true, yet since they were pretty eager into it I imagine they really liked it.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/26 11:34 AM
3

They only got sex and company.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/26 11:15 AM
5

People tend not to repeat bad experiences if they can avoid them.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/26 11:09 AM
5

Then they wouldn't have repeated it.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/26 11:05 AM
4

Why not?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/26 11:03 AM
6

They told me they liked it and they look happy when they see or text me.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/26 10:54 AM
3

Speaking for myself, I didn't respect them less nor treated them worse. They have good memories of me, and they show it when we cross paths.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/26 10:20 AM
2

I totally agree with your comment, I couldn't have put it better.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/26 07:17 AM
1

Indeed. Lifting weights feels amazing: during, shortly after, and when noticing the progress. My bf enjoys me hitting the gym too, ofc.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/26 05:36 PM
1

That's why I don't take advice from them. They don't know me or my circumstances. It's better to stick to the descriptive part and draw your own conclusions.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/26 07:23 PM
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Strictly speaking, RP is purely descriptive and not prescriptive. The reactive phase is left to the individual, as needs vary from person to person. Knowing the rules of the game helps but doesn't guarantee victory.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/26 09:47 AM
2

I agree. I've had flings and relationships with different kinds of women and, even though the liberal-conservative axis is somewhat different in Europe, as long as they genuinely like you, it is fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 08:56 PM
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Considering the different ways people interpret 'asshole' and 'nice guy,' I've found that I've been more successful with women who told me I was the first rather than the second. Of course this is only my experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/26 11:30 AM
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I would be disappointed if my gf viewed sex as merely an obligation in the relationship. On the other hand, she is quite into it and kind of jokingly treats it as my duty to her instead.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/26 09:47 AM
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This is one of the most redpilled posts I've seen in this subreddit. I totally agree with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 10:21 AM
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I totally agree. I would be disappointed to find out my gf's actions are motivated by a feeling that she owes me something, rather than genuine desire.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/26 02:22 PM
3

That's great to hear. Consideration and respect are always welcome.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/26 05:01 PM
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I do support equal rights and opportunities for everyone, regardless of gender. This is independent of my understanding of the inter-sex dynamics between men and women.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/26 04:30 PM
3

I assume you're talking about PUA stuff when you say 'manosphere.' I personally don't use those techniques. I'm more passive, letting things escalate naturally. It's worked for me, so why change? What RP gave me was validation for my own perceptions about how inter-sexual dynamics play out.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/26 08:33 AM
2

I'm from a country of those and on a personal level, I never pay for dates. However, I don't believe that means others shouldn't. It's a personal choice.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/26 02:54 PM
1

On a personal level, I never pay for dates. However, I don't believe that means others shouldn't. It's a personal choice.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/26 02:53 PM
2

I'd say I've always been myself from my perspective. I never felt I was playing a role. Other people's advice has always been more of a subconscious subroutine, in case I found it useful, than something I actively think about.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/26 01:30 PM
2

I totally agree. I've never used OLD or done a cold approach. My flings or gfs have always started as casual interactions that naturally developed into something more.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/26 08:46 AM
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Everything can be a date if you are getting to know each other and enjoying yourselves; unplanned dates are even better because they feel more authentic.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/26 08:28 PM
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I'm generally happy and a life I like to live.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/26 07:43 PM
1

Yes it does, it's something as clear as day.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/26 07:41 PM
2

Society is. So problem solved. Oh wow, so they actually dont believe the water isn't wet. That might be worst. Taking a rhetorical expression literally? Impressive.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/26 06:34 PM
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I like being a man, so no.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/26 05:09 PM
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Then why do the redpill keep pretending the water isn't wet, basically? It isn't pretending it. Because they encourage incel thinking. Then tell them to not incel-think.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/26 04:57 PM
2

Yes, water is wet, but who cares whose fault they think it is?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/26 04:54 PM
2

I've never did it. 1. There have been. 2. There have been. 3. I'm in a long/serious relationship. 4. No. 5. No. 6. No. Only face to face interactions, no texting, no social media, etc... 7. No. 8. No.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/26 08:11 AM
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While past behavior doesn't guarantee future actions, crossing the Rubicon once and getting away with it makes it easier to cross it again. I understand that attraction to others can happen unexpectedly, but I'd rather be with someone who values honesty. At least for a serious relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/26 08:52 AM
3

Yes, I agree.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/26 08:17 PM
8

"Bible lessons" clubs are such an exotic concept to a non-religious European, ngl.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/26 12:33 PM
4

On a personal level, I would feel incredibly uncomfortable if a woman slept with me for pity reasons rather than real and genuine desire.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/26 03:47 PM
2

When I improved my appearance at the gym, I noticed both better responses on dating apps as well as increased confidence in general. Clearly, you didn't embrace body positivity hard enough. You missed the chance to rewire those primitive lizard brains and get all the attention you wanted, minus the effort of actually getting in shape!
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/26 12:44 PM
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Your comment and personal experiences challenge their beliefs, which makes them feel uncomfortable.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/26 12:23 PM
2

That's rough. Sorry for your loss.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/26 09:08 AM
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I’m not sure if it's a European thing or just the type of women I attract, but I’ve never actually paid for a first date. I usually already know them beforehand, so it doesn't really feel like a 'date' anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/26 04:14 PM
2

No. I'm happy with my girlfriend and not seeking anything outside the relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/26 07:38 PM
2

Yes. Most relationships are just "be in the right place at the right time". But people call it bs and want a step by step guide or a manual. So then the people start to list things that worked for them and maybe it will work for you. I agree. However, I'd add that you need to be prepared for when that 'right place, right time' moment actually arrives. You have to have your life in order and embody the traits the other sex finds attractive. Otherwise, those random encounters will be opportunities…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/26 10:41 AM
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I'm from the West, in the West and I'm doing fine. I’m in a relationship. We just met casually, one thing let to another and that's it.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/26 07:27 PM
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This comment thread is insane. Not sure if the OP is trolling or if she's really serious.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/26 10:32 AM
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I agree with this answer. I'd like to remark though, that many here say 'self improvement' it's just a part of the RP but technically it isn't. It's more of a logical conclusion that people draw from it. As you said, a man who doesn’t want to put in the effort and simply comes to terms with his situation can be just as RPed as someone who actively works to improve his circumstances.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/26 11:14 AM
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no single mothers, no fat women, no sluts, no gold diggers Thanks to the OP I realized all my relationships and flings have been with "top percent of women".
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/26 01:48 PM
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This sub is for dating/relationships/sex, not workplace hazards. Not posting about it here doesn't mean I don't care about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/26 01:39 PM
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I agree. It’s really just a way of observing and making sense of intersexual dynamics. That doesn’t mean you need to talk about it, explain it, or try to convince anyone. I rarely bring it up in daily life. Why bother? Even when I see people I care about naively struggle with the opposite sex, I keep it to myself unless they explicitly ask for my perspective. And even then, I tend to frame it very lightly.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/26 12:13 PM
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I've found this to be true in my own experience. I'm consistently drawn to, and get along best with, people from a similar background.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/26 03:55 PM
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I have to agree. In my experience, most people, including the women I've met, are far kinder in person than they sometimes appear to be in online spaces like this one.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/26 07:48 PM
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Not that many years together but I do agree. My girlfriend always gets in the mood when she sees me without some clothing. It has never felt as a chore.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/26 07:33 PM
3

But obviously intersexual implies both men and women Yes. So what's special about the red pill? For me? Nothing really; it's just a knowledge like any other. I had already reached many of these conclusions myself, but it was satisfying to see them articulated by others.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/26 09:13 AM
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Self improvement is just a consequence of the RP, not the RP itself. RP is about understanding intersexual dynamics like others here said and also this very subreddit jargon states. You can be RPed and not self improving, it's perfectly possible.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/26 08:45 AM
1

Maybe, I don't know. Personally, I've never disliked being alone, I actually prefer it before being with a rando. I've had flings and relationships. My current girlfriend respects my need for independence and solo time. She also has her own, so it is a mutual thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/26 05:20 PM
1

Just do something for Valentine's day, bro.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/26 02:38 PM
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suggests that past that age, women are simply unappealing to men. It suggests that, generally and considering physical attraction only, men tend to find women between 20-25 more attractive than the ones older than that. This doesn't mean that women older than 25 are "simply unappealing to men".
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/26 01:30 PM
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Some distraction for when I need to kill some time. I have a gf so I don't seek any advice or anything like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/26 08:42 PM
2

Maybe it's because I never used OLD but I never had the feeling I had to jump through hoops. Things progressed naturally when the attraction became mutual.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/26 03:43 PM
0

I don't know, I personally never demanded empathy nor sympathy from women.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/26 01:06 PM
1

is bad FOR WOMEN implies that women are somehow damaged by sleeping with men. I wouldn't call it damaged but research suggests a statistical correlation between a higher number of premarital sexual partners and an increased likelihood of divorce later in life. why should women actively choose to be with a man who secretly thinks she’s ultimately damaged goods? She shouldn't. Nobody should force her to be with a man who thinks that. Do you think that somehow women sleeping with YOU aren’t damaged…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/26 08:49 AM
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The way you have written the title and the text assumes all RP men are like that. You even wrote "y'all" three times. On top of that, you didn't even read my initial comment since I nowhere I say I adapted.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/26 09:07 PM
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You didn't specify.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/26 08:50 PM
9

I'm not sure I follow your point. My relationship is healthy, and I’m not harboring any anger or resentment.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/26 06:34 PM
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Why do I need to change circumstances and adaptation? I have a LTR gf, a job I like, good health, friends... I'll do it when I need it.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/26 06:12 PM
6

1) Genuine attraction? Not a choice. Through conscious choice? No. Changing your mind over time with someone it didn't catch your attention at first? Yes, but it's not a conscious choice, it just happens. 2) No. 4) No.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/26 05:01 PM
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I've never been with economically predatory women. On the other hand, it's close to impossible to convince women who appreciate financial value to stop doing that the same way you cannot negotiate genuine desire.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/26 04:13 PM
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I don't understand the point of what you said. Women can do whatever they want. Some RPed men would like to pay, some others would like to split.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/26 08:48 PM
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Sure, that's one aspect of it but I wouldn't say that's the primary point of TRP Because it isn't. Self-improvement is just the (most likely logic) consequence men usually reach after understanding how inter-sexual dynamics work once they read/listen TRP. One can be RPed and not self-improve at all because he considers "the juice isn't worth the squeeze".
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/25 01:13 PM
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just talking to women and finding someone compatible I politely disagree. RP is understanding that other factors come into play for her to be attracted to you besides simply talking and being compatible. I met my gfs this way but I am not that disingenuous into thinking my personality alone did the heavy lifting.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/25 03:03 PM
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1) LTR with my gf. 2) Pretty much old-RP (or RP aware).
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/25 02:43 PM
1

What does the RP have to do with anything you wrote?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/25 03:21 PM
1

He's just strawmanning what TRP is. He thinks it is some kind of PUA method to pull modelesque women with some tricks.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/25 03:16 PM
5

My taste in women has shifted with time. Although women my age are more appealing to me now than they would have been ten years ago, the types I found attractive then are still attractive to me today.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/25 10:17 AM
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You asked about "Past what age you don't take [...] woman seriously", not "Past what age you stop finding them sexually attractive".
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/25 10:05 AM
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I'd say I don't pursue serious relationships with women older than me.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/25 09:09 AM
3

I agree with you. It's difficult to judge whether someone is specifically a 7 or an 8, but the difference between that level and a 4 or 5 is obvious. It's like shades of color: the further apart they are, the easier they are to discern.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/25 08:47 AM
1

what I want out of someone I date is an actual partner More or a less like you, then. I partner who genuinely loves me and understands me.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/25 08:41 AM
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Same experience. I wouldn't mention that to them. They can be totally cool for hanging out and stuff but that alone puts them in the 'no long-term potential' category for me. It's a dealbreaker, like smoking or tattoos, for instance.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/25 04:40 PM
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I'm not sure about current trends but what I remember from the RP was about describing intersexual dynamics among men and women. Knowing about that dynamics hasn't prevented me from having a healthy relationship with my girlfriend.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/25 02:49 PM
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I agree that education isn't a core component of primal and raw arousal for men. However, I just found it to be a reliable proxy of compatibility for me in the long run. My most meaningful relationships have consistently been with highly educated women in STEM fields. It doesn't mean I specifically look for that but it just happened the most compatible ones for me are like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/25 12:01 PM
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I think when people say 'women aren't into men,' they usually aren't speaking in absolutes but they’re likely making a broad generalization that women are not 'visceraly' attracted to a substantial proportion of men.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/25 10:15 AM
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I think the difference is that women are viscerally attracted to like 1% of guys Assuming, hypothetically, the figure you provide is true, it is a reasonable observation for some people to say that women, by and large, are not 'viscerally' into most men.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/25 10:00 AM
3

Self-improvement should be viewed as a subsequent effect of drawing conclusions after knowing about the RP, not a 'sine qua non' for the analysis itself.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/25 03:50 PM
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The only job for the RP is to explain the intersexual dynamics among men and women. It's not a social moviment or anything like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/25 01:33 PM
1

That is certainly a way of looking at it.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/25 09:42 AM
1

This is my left-leaning side, I can be very right-wing in other affairs that I'm not telling since I don't want to get insta-bаnnеd here.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/25 04:25 PM
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Genuine and mutual understanding. No need for materialistic stuff, especially at the beginning.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/25 09:39 AM
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I am non-religious and I support equal opportunities for all citizens to prosper. However, I understand that individuals have different capacities, meaning unequal outcomes are inevitable. I don't know if this is considered left-leaning somehow.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/25 08:40 AM
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I'm not religious at all if this counts as left-leaning somehow.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/25 08:36 AM
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No, I want a relationship with mutual financial contribution. Especially as she is clearly capable of supporting herself.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/25 08:31 AM
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No, I want genuine desire, not a robot.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/25 11:44 AM
1

No.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/25 11:09 AM
1

Lol, no.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/25 08:47 AM
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I am in a LTR and it didn't change it, I still realize how things work around me and not necessary in my relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/25 11:24 PM
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I have a gf. It would be inappropiate to approach other girls.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/25 01:58 PM
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Absolutely.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/25 12:52 PM
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I don't date because I already have a gf and I am in a LTR but the goal, if it can be defined as such, was finding someone who genuinely loved me and understood me.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/25 10:12 AM
1

Figure 3 does not show the category of females sending the message, it only shows which kind of men receive more messages vs their % of the total population in the app.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/25 08:31 PM
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Nothing, I just want to know where did you obtain this: The OKCupid survey. The vast majority of messages sent from women were to men with a mean attractiveness rating of average or lower. From the link you posted.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/25 08:13 PM
1

Figure 3 does not show the category of females sending the message, it only shows which kind of men receive more messages vs their % of the total population in the app.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/25 06:11 PM
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Which part of the article supports this? The vast majority of messages sent from women were to men with a mean attractiveness rating of average or lower.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/25 06:02 PM
1

What does this supose to debunk?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/25 05:30 PM
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OKCupid survey, bud. It's been posted hundred of times here. The vast majority of messages sent by women were to men with a mean attractiveness rating of average or lower. And other papers analyzing online dating stated the opposite.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/25 06:55 PM
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