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Im sure these questions will vary based on the individual but im just curious. When reading this sub I kind of lose hope in humanity. I personally really want love to be real. But everything I read on here seems so odd and calculated to me. Some people on this sub seem to really preach one side of things and its actually worrying. Aww. I was like 18 or 19 when I found this sub years ago, around the time of the start of my first LTR. I never tried to apply RP "wisdom" to that relationship, but it…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/23 08:25 AM
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Nah. Love and romance (and yes, heartbreak and rejection) have inspired some of the greatest works of art through the ages. Poems, novels, songs, paintings, movies... It's a deeply human experience. I don't mind being human.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/23 09:15 AM
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I wouldn't say I'm "against" it, but hook-ups aren't something I want for myself. I don't think anything "made" me that way, I just was. As a teen I was writing love stories in the margins of my notebooks and mooning over my crush wishing he'd love me, not dreaming of hooking up with guys, and that just never changed. Casual sex just never appealed to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/23 09:01 AM
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Depends what he wants the prenup to say, and what his reasons are.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/23 05:03 PM
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College, work, hobbyist classes, hobbyist meetups, volunteer activities, library, clubs, large social parties, small friend-group parties, cafés, bars, concerts, on a hiking trail, online communities, malls, public transport, coed sports, online gaming, school, singles speed dating. Speed dating sounds like a nightmare to me, I don't game, I'm not one for sports, and school is in the past. The rest would all be pretty fine. I met all my relationships in college classes, at college events/parties…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/23 07:16 AM
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1) I wasn't in love and broke up with him 2) I wasn't in love and he sensed it and broke up with me 3) Following a rather traumatic event and suicide threats from her ex, she broke up with me 4) We were in love but severely incompatible. It was the first multi-year relationship for both of us and we had a lot of growing to do and just couldn't do it together, I think. Couldn't agree on plans for the future and had a big dramatic ugly breakup.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/23 07:10 AM
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It's just so normal to me I don't think he would even have to bring it up. I can't even remember how the conversation about rent went when we moved in; he certainly didn't have to go out of his way to let me know. We both expected to split the rent, and we do, and neither of us feels anything about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/23 01:47 PM
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We live together and do 50/50 because we have similar enough incomes. We've discussed that if that changed, we'd consider splitting proportionally, and if one of us lost their income, the other would cover for them. It's not exactly an expectation though; I'd say we are lucky enough to have similar mindsets -- when the topic comes up, each of us always says "If that happens I could live off my savings for a while, I'd pay my half" and the other says "Nah I'd cover you." We do joke that if that h…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/23 08:18 AM
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26, no, zeroish.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/22 06:03 PM
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Nah. It sounds weird and boring. And I don't think "teaching people the correct view of love" in a classroom context would fix anything lol. Sounds even less effective than "Teach men not to rape."
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/22 07:31 AM
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Pride and Prejudice isn't the right example to illustrate your point.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/22 10:18 AM
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She's objectively more attractive than the average man and the average woman in the West at least.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/22 07:42 AM
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Honestly I've just never known someone and thought, "Wow, she and Isaac would make a great couple!" I guess that's just not how my brain works. So nah.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/22 06:04 PM
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Probably not because we met at work, and some coworker immediately flirting with me in the workplace would have put me off, I think. If we'd met somewhere else I don't think it would have been an issue though.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/22 07:29 AM
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This place wasn't originally designed for people to bitch about their dating life; it was about debating what red pill theory says about intersexual dynamics. And those don't cease to exist when you get married. A lot of people are here because they're interested in relationship dynamics or because they find the discussion here entertaining, not because they struggle.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/22 07:24 AM
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We met at work and have been together over two years now. We live together so we do see each other every day (which is pretty normal...), but we don't have to see each other at work every day. Most of the time we're in different buildings. Since we have similar jobs though, it's been extremely convenient to be able ask each other things without worrying about getting annoying. There are several married couples that work for our company. Meeting at work and, in your case, at school, strikes me as…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 04:27 AM
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We'd have a joint account, not me paying him. And the courts would handle the divorce.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/22 12:39 PM
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No, it's normal.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/22 11:22 AM
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I'm not married, but my boyfriend is the first person I've dated whose family has been so warm and welcoming, and whose relationship with his family is close and positive in the first place. It's so nice and makes such a difference that I don't know if I'd ever be able to date someone without that again, let alone marry into that family. I love my family and they love me, and they adore him too. And his family really likes me too. It just feels so pleasant and natural when things are mirrored li…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/22 05:42 PM
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That's a turn-off to many women yeah.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/22 03:58 PM
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They don't want to be teachers. If the 24 year old successfully acts like he "gets it" now, she's not going to notice or care he didn't get laid in high school. I don't know how she would find out, but I doubt she'd care if she did -- unless she was literally the first woman he ever got anywhere with.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/22 03:14 PM
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I was told he didn't speak English. They were wrong about that but yeah, that was what had me look twice, before we actually met.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/22 07:59 PM
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He walks loudly and prefers to wear shoes inside. We live in an old apartment building and I'm hyper-aware of his footsteps; for some reason it stresses me out.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/22 11:08 AM
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I live with my boyfriend and we don't own one so...
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 01:55 PM
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I was 24. I had a doctor ask me if I wanted to be on the pill when I was 15. I said no thank you. In college I decided on a copper IUD because I preferred to avoid hormones. After a few years the side effects became intolerable so I had it removed. In my next LTR I felt a bit meh about relying on condoms only with my boyfriend, so I decided to finally try the pill. Why? Because I don't want to get pregnant. Well, it sucked for me so after 6 months we decided to stop. I was bleeding non-stop on i…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 01:38 PM
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Yeah I'm a woman. Are you rich and dating poor women? Then I suppose you have a point. For most people that really doesn't apply.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/22 11:52 AM
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That would just be so weird to me we'd have a conversation about why he felt the need to have that... and then depending on how strongly he felt about it we would probably also argue until we broke off the engagement.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/22 11:50 AM
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lol
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/22 11:43 AM
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Because I don't see a reason to hide it. Is it supposed to be some sort of shameful secret? There's nothing crazy or embarrassing or impressive about my salary or my savings. At the time, he insinuated I probably made more than him; I shrugged and told him my salary. Then he immediately told me his. And the world didn't end and we're very happy together two years later.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/22 11:42 AM
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I told my boyfriend my salary early on, I think before a month was up. Maybe before 2 weeks lol. Savings amount didn't come up for a few months, but we both knew we had savings. It would be really weird to me to not bring up either until engagement. I feel like we would have to intentionally avoid the topic.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/22 11:35 AM
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Argue until we broke off the engagement, probably. I work and don't intend to stop working; I wouldn't even receive alimony here if we did divorce. I don't even know if that clause would be valid. But I wouldn't want to marry him anymore after the request. Both of us come from families with a SAHM and both of us strongly believe our mothers gave up a lot for us and wouldn't deserve to live in poverty after a divorce.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/22 11:28 AM
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No strong feelings about changing my name. I would probably do it if he felt strongly about it and his name wasn't horrible. If it was entirely up to me I'd probably double-barrel or keep mine. I would want to share a last name with my kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/22 07:40 AM
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In what ways do you still feel like a kid? But I would say it's not just you. Watching 20, 30 year olds complaining how hard "adulting" is, I'd say it's a pretty common sentiment.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/22 07:32 AM
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I don't find watching gross close-ups of gross people having gross sex hot. I'm more likely to be aroused by a long romantic movie with a single fade-to-black scene after a kiss. Sex is more mental than visual for me, so I enjoy a written story where I can learn a bit about the characters and really believe in their desire for each other because I saw it build up.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/22 05:01 PM
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Divorce? Financial and health problems can put a crazy strain on a marriage. Also people who married really young can change to become incompatible. And a lot of people just become complacent and stop putting in effort and the relationship starts to suck; "love" isn't enough. Breaking up? Any number of things... Moving for college or for a job, financial incompatibility, disagreement on whether or not to get married, kids...
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 06:31 AM
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That was a question, so adding it to your post doesn't help clarify things. You were supposed to answer it by explaining your idea more explicitly.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/22 07:32 AM
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What do yall think of this situation? The two most interesting things about this situation is (a) they never married but had 2 kids and (b) Olivia Wilde still cheated on Jason Sudeikis who in all respects is a very high value man, in spite of their very long term relationship which by all accounts seemed healthy, and the fact they had 2 kids. This situation is interesting when looked through the Red Pill lense, as many red pillers believe men shouldnt be married and that women are always looking…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/22 10:10 AM
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I've always said I'd date myself. I'm something of a loner; there are few people I can stand for long periods of time and I happen to be one of them. I find my jokes funny, I want the same amount of physical touch as myself, and I think I'm attractive. My boyfriend and I met at work and make the same salary anyway so that's cool too. I think I'd be best off with someone who complements me in some areas rather than matching my personality exactly, but I'd certainly try to date myself.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/22 09:08 AM
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No. At my age, those kids would still be minors for at least another decade. I simply don't want to raise someone else's kids, regardless of how alive the other parent is or isn't. That's a lot of time, money, and energy drained for little reward. Being a stepparent can be pretty thankless. If I were older and had a kid of my own I'd probably feel differently.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/22 06:47 PM
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Nah.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/22 07:33 AM
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In other words, he will begin the dating process by seeking to find things in common and have conversation. This connection will in turn lead to deep, meaningful sex. Hahahahaha
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/22 03:55 PM
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So?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/22 02:29 PM
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Women are very aware of it. A lot of people waffle for ages before breaking up. A lot of people stay too long. I tried to break up with my ex half a dozen times lol. We dated for 4 years and for some reason I was really worried I wouldn't find someone who wanted the same things from life as me after him. Your friend's other options were probably to stay with a guy who wasn't into marrying her or wasn't compatible with her. It's a shame it was a financial hit, and it's a shame her boyfriends in h…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/22 07:34 PM
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I couldn't give an actual number because when I tried, it took me far less than a month to hide my profile from men and only chat to women. Men just send "hey" or swipe yes to everyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/22 02:12 PM
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I'm dating someone from work and I dated people living in the same building and taking the same classes as me in college. I've had friends date flatmates and hook up with neighbors. I guess I don't see why it's some intolerable risk.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/22 08:32 PM
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It would gross me out either way. Having sex with another woman isn't the same as telling her he loves her, but both would suck.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/22 11:25 AM
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I would be grossed out. It doesn't have to matter beyond that. Like following a porn actress with your normal Facebook account, or commenting "so sexy, I'd bang you" on someone's photo. It's classless and I wouldn't want to date someone who does that. All theoretical; I doubt I'd ever see anything like this in my feed.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/22 11:18 AM
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Suuuure. Same answer.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/22 11:11 AM
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Publicly liking those pictures or any other thirst trap in a way that I and anyone online can see? Gross and embarrassing, bye. If it's a one-off I probably wouldn't notice, so if I do notice, I'm not the only one.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/22 11:03 AM
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I used to not think about it much. My exes had quite meh relationships with their parents -- neutral to terrible, really. It didn't affect our life together that much because we lived far from family, so I didn't linger on it. My parents welcomed them all the same. My boyfriend has a fantastic relationship with absolutely lovely parents who make me feel so welcome, and it's so nice. So while I wouldn't call a bad relationship with family a total dealbreaker, it's certainly a negative.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/22 07:02 AM
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Can't we? Watch us. That linked post is literally about "mental health issues." Yeah, when some woman asks a man to be more expressive, she doesn't mean "please vomit all your trauma and explain your 3 mental disorders in graphic detail." She means stress or excitement, not clinical depression and panic attacks. I've had partners cry in my arms and be open about their emotions, and I've had a guy friend tell me if I didn't love him he didn't see the point in living any longer -- they're differen…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/22 10:04 AM
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I've never struggled to get sex because I've never tried to get sex. It has literally never occured to me to me to try to "get sex," and I don't walk around longing for sex. I imagine if I were to try I'd find it very easy.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/22 10:31 AM
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We met at work, just chatting a bit more every day, taking our time at the coffee machine. I'm 25. Before him I met exes in class or at parties, yeah.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/22 09:01 AM
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Suppose a young woman in a relationship demands of her boyfriend an "open relationship," and she gets her way because the boyfriend knows he is dating in the shadow of Tinder and is replaceable. Are we really claiming this power of the man wouldn't moderate the narcissism of the young women insisting on "open relationships"? Okay, that seems like a really specific scenario. Most people aren't in open relationships so I don't really see how this is relevant. Doesn't sound like your example couple…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/22 09:47 AM
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Maybe if I was a mother already before meeting the guy. Otherwise nah.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/22 09:10 PM
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Just follow the norm of wherever you live. Personal opinion doesn't matter much for this one. You want to come across as professional.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/22 10:11 AM
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Forever, if we were married and it was a general issue he was honest about and couldn't help (injury ok, lack of desire for me specifically uhhh). And I wouldn't open the marriage. Boyfriend would depend on the relationship and situation, I think.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/22 12:01 PM
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Book covers are marketing and branding. They're not what gets women hot. They are what says, "This is what this book is about. It's the same kind of book you liked last time. So buy it." Women don't fantasize about the cover. I only read romance online or in eBook format anyway; I don't spend any time on the cover. As for dialogue and general writing quality -- of course some of it sucks. Some of it is fantastic, though. And yeah, romance has its tropes. That's what makes it romance. They're tro…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/22 11:43 AM
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Shouldn't there be something else? I mean, for a lot of people, there is (eventually). Not everyone is hooking up for years without a relationship in sight. A lot have have a few hookups when they're young and drunk and it's new and fun, then they settle down. You can too.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/22 11:36 AM
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No? I don't know if I understand your question. Is it do I say no, or just am I not in the mood?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 09:23 AM
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I don't care enough to think any other women should, but I'm aware of how damaging it could be to our relationship if I just said nah all the time. So sure, we have more sex than I would spontaneously want.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/22 07:32 PM
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Am at work, thinking about what to write on his card. We won't be doing much; I leave at 4AM for a work trip. Maybe a drink.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/22 07:52 AM
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Female
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/22 01:40 PM
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Masculinity 100 Femininity 102 I feel like I failed.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/22 11:43 AM
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My ex and I reached that crossroads when I was about to graduate, and jobs for me in his city were nonexistent. Our agreed-upon plan had always been to go where we could both be gainfully employed after I got my degree. I got a job offer abroad and discussed it with him. He was strongly against it, so I turned down the offer even though I was very interested. I then suggested a city 90 miles from where he worked, because I knew we would both easily find stable employment there. He said no, becau…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/22 01:09 PM
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SEK 1823 converts to 1276.64 USD I'd love to see the math for that.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/22 04:40 PM
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My parents are married and started dating in high school. My boyfriend's parents are married and started dating in high school. We are pretty blue and believe in marriage. It's anecdotal, but for sure our views and goals were shaped at least in part by this. My last LTR had a stepmom and wasn't very close to his family, and it does make a world of difference.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/21 05:40 PM
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you find out pictures of him with his ex on vacation in Paris with the sappiest romantic caption you can imagine. I'd be annoyed because since we started dating we've had an inside joke about Paris and going on the most over the top romantic trip there together someday. Any other city, eh, kinda normal. When you ask him about it, he tells you about how expensive and boring that stupid trip was Bit of a red flag, I love traveling. he tells you how she used to live in his house rent free Sounds fi…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/21 07:25 AM
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Yep, you're right. We did get the exact same example before. I remember it because my boyfriend and I frequently joke about going to Paris.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/21 07:14 AM
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So... why is she your friend?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/21 01:22 PM
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I met my boyfriend a couple weeks before the first lockdown, and we just never lived apart again after our first sleepover. This of course made us neglect our social life even more, but we had the benefit of using all restrictions as an excuse to cuddle at home daydreaming about our future plans and bake a million cakes.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/21 08:38 PM
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If you're a woman on a bike you'll be drowning in dick... well, provided you're hot enough. If you're a dude with a bike you'll be surrounded by dudes with bikes and 99% of the attention and compliments you get will be from other riders... who are mostly men. If you're a slim dude with long hair on a bike you will be catcalled by men assuming you are a woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/21 09:20 AM
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My boyfriend and I have watched all 3 seasons together. We find it fun.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/21 02:03 PM
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I'm willing to get to know a guy a bit before getting in bed, but I can't imagine a guy wanting to wait long enough that I'd notice and get impatient. That'd be a long while and I'd suspect low T or having a lot or sex elsewhere.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/21 01:20 PM
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I met my boyfriend at work so I'm obviously biased. There are 2 other couples in my company that I know of, not counting the owners and founders who are a married couple. I can't really see it becoming a problem, but we don't work in the same department.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/21 09:56 PM
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When I was in college I met all my SOs in class or at parties. Last year that college went remote for almost the entire school year... that would have had a big effect on my dating life for sure.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/21 09:15 PM
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It doesn't unless they don't speak your native language.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/21 07:50 PM
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Grossed out if I stop to think about it, but I try not to. being settled for Nah. Sex and commitment are different things. grateful Hahahahahahahahahaha... no. guilty I don't buy that it comes from low self-esteem and even if it did, why should I feel guilty?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/21 07:48 PM
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It would certainly be at best a yellow flag to me. I'd rather date someone who doesn't have a good reason to think they need therapy. It's a no-brainer to me. If my long-term partner was going through some stressor I would encourage him to get therapy. But in the context of getting to know some guy? Therapy would go on the cons list.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/21 10:44 AM
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Works out for me in the end It really doesn't work out for you. Those 200 bucks and everything else you two are spending on a freeloader would be better spent elsewhere, investing in your future. but the fact that nothing the roommate does bothers him makes me look pretty bad. Actually makes your partner look pretty bad. You both need to grow a spine.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/21 11:47 AM
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I've had the opposite experience. I go no-contact with all my exes and the only one who never tried to contact me again is also the only woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/21 11:25 AM
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I guess there's no working myself up to it? I don't see sex with a loving partner as something I have to always want to do when I do it. Sometimes we are equally into it, often not. My approach is "just do it" really. I mean, I'm no gymnast or anything; our sex isn't that difficult on me physically. It wouldn't work if he was pushy and he made me feel like a sex object though. He's a very selfless and appreciative partner so I don't have any negative feelings about him. I don't think I could giv…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/21 08:55 PM
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25 and 27, no exercise to speak of except I bike or walk everywhere. We're both at a healthy BMI. I think 3-7x a week is pretty reasonable for a couple in their 20s who are in the honeymoon phase. We've only been together for a year and a half. I don't expect to maintain this exact rhythm for decades.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/21 07:36 PM
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I mean no libido means you are not feeling up to it. Sure, that was included in my statement too. No idea about my friends' sex lives or attitudes towards initiating sex honestly. He knows it's mostly for him but I usually try to give us a better experience than just lying there waiting. you actually enjoying the sex or is it just the pleasure of seeing him happy that sustains you? It's irrelevant. Nothing is sustaining me in that sense. I love him and I know he likes sex so we have sex, like we…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/21 03:09 PM
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I have more sex than I spontaneously want to and he has less sex than he would ideally want to. I don't see a lack of libido as a reason not to have sex with my SO. He's understanding about fatigue and stress when those are applicable. He's also not pushy at all, nor am I frigid and frequently turning him down. I make an effort to initiate, and he appreciates it. I would never consider opening the relationship. If he wanted it multiple times daily and couldn't compromise we would break up.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/21 01:52 PM
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I've had an IUD and been on the pill, but we agreed the side effects were not worth it. It was his idea to go back to condoms and there is zero conflict over it.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/21 04:24 PM
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Condoms. We're not sure we never want kids so no thanks to surgery.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/21 10:51 AM
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My ex and I probably broke up like half a dozen times but almost never for over 24 hours so I never considered he might have. That said, it would have mattered to me very much and he knew it. When we finally broke up for good he almost immediately slept with someone else because he knew that was a surefire way to ensure I'd never want him back (he didn't trust his own resolve lol).
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/21 10:12 AM
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It's okay really. They do it a lot so it's far more awkward for you than for them. Mine have always maintained a light-hearted conversation so you can think of something else. It stings though. Ouch.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/21 10:09 AM
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