MBTHVSK Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

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–	How do women know what about personality turns them on? Care to attempt to explain what "vibes" means besides a modern catch-all for things about people you can't articulate at all? Is it like passive aggression, but good? Is it like being a jerk, but not quite? Is it like imposing yourself, but also hating yourself for doing so? Can you....try? Can you really blame men for sucking at it if you can't?	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/07/26 10:08 PM
0	Negative experiences can make it easy to assume the worst about an entire group, even when those experiences don't represent everyone. Even if men made all the changes you wish they would, you would probably see male sexuality and desire, and even male hobbies and general socialization, as fundamentally more childish, goofy, desperate, and tasteless. Men, knowing that's how you see us, adapt according to that to build their egos back up, and basically all straight men become some kind of fucked up in order to tolerate to imbalance of attraction and desire. Some just do it in ways that are more blatantly harmful than others, but…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/06/26 04:40 PM
–	Male sexuality just seems borderline antisocial to me Well you're right about one thing: male sexuality is a lot more about escape from/catharsis against complicated social situations/the complex expectations from other people, and female sexuality/attraction is about testing other people's ability to tolerate those things/ensnaring them in social traps.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/02/26 03:28 PM
1	Women are not as toxic as men Women are more easily bored/driven insane/irritated by innocuous behavior and push men to do tons of these fucking things.	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/01/25 05:01 AM
2	What’s a good way to bridge the gap between men and women? Male sexuality is waiting for a bus that never ever fucking comes, female sexuality is having to pick up miserable passengers, and when the two types converge it's a horror show. We should admit we'd all be better off gay and try to cry over it together.	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/12/24 02:16 AM
1	A Lot of the Things Making Men Miserable are things Men Could Fix OP I don't think you know how fucking boring male friendships can be. From the lack of physical beauty to the general tendency to only talk about hobbies, it's so fucking dry. It's good not to give up on them, but FFS they don't remotely satisfy.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/11/24 04:42 AM
1	Men are turned off by women approaching them CMV Men are only turned off by being approached because it feels sneaky and manipulative and ironic, even if it's sincere. It can feel insulting if the part of dating they are responsible for is just taken from them. It doesn't make the woman gross or creepy, it just means their personality feels too weird to want to go further with. It can mean the woman likes the idea of being the initiator more than actually being one, like she has a complex about dating she wants to validate. You can't blame men…	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/08/24 12:03 AM
1	Q4W: For those that care - What do you think of Bumble allowing men to send the first message? maybe women just get a bad vibe from allowing a man to have a positive potential romantic interaction without working his dick off for it? I think the sense of giving the man that advantage just inherently disgusts women. Y'all crave a certain back and forth of human will and effort and it just hurts you to do it backwards. Asking a woman to make the first move is like asking a performer to give out passes to his concert rather than have people pay for it. They might do it if they're desperate, …	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/05/24 02:38 PM
1	Can you explain why complaints from both gender are so similar ? Straight male sexual frustration is like waiting for a bus that never fucking comes, straight female sexuality is like watching a movie that never gets good. One is based on the rage of not triggering something obviously wonderful and content inducing, the other is based on agitation and disgust for other people not fulfilling their behavioral standards to make life magical. We have the same emotions but they do not manifest the same way. Different parts of you are connected to your sexuality de…	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/05/24 10:06 PM
1	“Double standards suck!”. . .unless. . . Women see men as scary even when they know they're not. They just hate us for being us.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/05/24 09:56 PM
1	MEN: Would you rather a woman with feminine presentation but masculine temperament, or masculine presentation but feminine temperament. Vice versa for women? Both Lady A and B sound horrible but I respect people who would find otherwise.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/04/24 11:35 PM
–	Is it fair to say that being a genuinely nice guy WITH the ability to be not so nice when needed is the most attractive thing a man can be? Women want a man who is going to fight people, but doesn't actually fight people, and that is why they are fucking trapped.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/04/24 11:29 PM
1	What is your solution to the issues in dating? Masturbation parties with low lighting and strictly enforced rules, and snacks.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/03/24 06:22 AM
1	Why do so many gay men get along with straight women? Gay men don't have to deal with getting women to like them. Their happiness comes from not having to work around women's emotional motives just to satisfy rudimentary sexual motives. They can have all the sweet tender interactions with women while also never getting entangled in them.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/03/24 06:13 AM
1	What do you think will be the next big paradigm shift in dating and relationships after OLD? one lone philosopher will deconstruct female sexuality so thoroughly that women will no longer manipulate so fucking proudly, and make sexuality so thoroughly that men will learn to back the fuck off without feeling shame	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/02/24 03:08 AM
–	Men have "fetishes", women merely have "preferences" fetish is when something makes you hornier than normal, preference is when everything else disgusts you	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/02/24 02:52 AM
1	The reason that having SWAGGER works with women is that most of them will fall for the same sales pitch you have to skirt the line between awkward and not just perfectly and it's a bit vile how they don't find it agitating to make others play the game	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/02/24 02:35 AM
1	Women will reject or lose interest in a guy for the most frivolous reasons, and then completely rule him out no matter what he does to redeem himself IDK about the cute and sweet thing. I think most guys who give off that energy are in reality easier to swindle and worse at conflict with other people, and only acquire "strong" traits after decades of wading through bullshit their own way. They could even be worse at reading their partner's emotions or supporting them during tough times. I think the men and people who are more likely to take what they want unapologetically and even harass and exploit everyone they know are often far more compe…	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/02/24 07:01 PM
0	How are average looking men in this day and age supposed to meet women? karaoke bar	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/02/24 05:59 PM
1	Women will reject or lose interest in a guy for the most frivolous reasons, and then completely rule him out no matter what he does to redeem himself No, that isn't really how it works unless you're actually some kind of ultra pussy hunter. The "wow, she's pretty, I want to be near her and talk to her and do things with her" feeling happens first. Then, there's a lack of a filter/a lack of selectivity preventing you from feeling "I don't want to fuck her until she matches my vibe over the course of 5 months to 3 years." No, seriously, if men were exactly what you thought we were, we wouldn't be remotely capable of acting civilized at school o…	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/02/24 01:17 PM
1	Women will reject or lose interest in a guy for the most frivolous reasons, and then completely rule him out no matter what he does to redeem himself Women see the emotional interactions with men as enchanting, but disposable and replaceable. At least compared to men, who glow with sunshine like idiots when someone is being sweet to them that they find pretty. There are things people love that they are still very eager to throw away. Like I said, it's like Magic the Gathering and shit. Men have the appeal of a fresh new deck, not of a franchise worthy of following. There's that aura of "yeah I like it but I can always change it".	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/01/24 09:43 PM
3	[STUDY] There exists a positive correlation between being a bully and success in dating and sexual relationships If women were slightly different, they could turn the world into a PBS Kids cartoon, but they are bored to tears with "normal, nice" behavior. Of course men are too, though not when it comes to wanting a mate and the mate's behavior.	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/01/24 09:07 PM
2	Women will reject or lose interest in a guy for the most frivolous reasons, and then completely rule him out no matter what he does to redeem himself This is the part of the male brain only stimulated by things like video games. The urge to throw away cards/decks/warriors/objects in a game and gather new, better things to play with is literally what runs through a woman's heart when interested in a man. They are attracted to you the way you are attracted to disposable things.	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/01/24 09:00 PM
–	Men have already lost the gender war and it's bound to get worse It's not as euphoric when you know you can elicit it if you really try the way a man does day in and day out. For a man, having someone interested in you isn't simply enticing or comforting, it's justice and catharsis. It's not as euphoric for us in some ways since we don't feel the runoff of the lust of people we never liked when we get a good vibe from the person we do like. That's your euphoria- wow, he's so different from the others. Our euphoria is wow, this is way better than not getting t…	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/01/24 08:51 PM
1	Why I believe Men are unsympathetic towards Women's grievances in dating. Treating somebody well is baby shit. There has to be something else to it or you're bored out of your mind. That is what men are always trying to figure out how to be. How we become immune to giving a fuck- because some lady actually liked what we did because it was confident or some shit. The guy who treats you well is deep down the same as the men you dislike. He'd trade away all that good behavior nonsense for a teeny fraction of a pull on the opposite sex's sexual cravings. He wound up the w…	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/01/24 04:10 AM
0	Why I believe Men are unsympathetic towards Women's grievances in dating. Except it's not scary when gay men want random dick, is it? Because you're not involved? Straight men are gay men who feel like they can't be themselves. Knowing that the sex you're attracted to is generally NOT attracted to your sex at all except for a few bizarre exceptions is not happiness inducing. We're just supposed to be like "hooray, I am mostly a nonerotic husk, yayyyy". The problem isn't men being scary, the problem is when people know the other party in a situation has completely diff…	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/01/24 04:01 AM
1	Why do women love testing men Because women can only get the energy men get from football and league of legends when somebody in their vicinity is struggling over what to do to them.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/01/24 02:02 AM
–	Females are way creepier towards males than vice versa, but society mostly looks the other way How many levels of irony is a person wrapped in when making a lewd comment? Women get ecstasy from the sheer irony of not not not not etc....being perverted, while men are usually just being perverted but get the same sense of irony as well even if they are totally horny. While the few actually perverted women can be most creepy of all because they identify as not being the horny ones.	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/12/23 05:35 PM
–	The “male loneliness epidemic” is a non issue Straight men don't hate being sexualized unless they have an emotional disorder or a truly crazy woman in their past. Gay male misery is more comparable to straight female misery- not being wanted the right way, while being wanted is on the table unless you are next level hideous.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/12/23 08:45 PM
–	The “male loneliness epidemic” is a non issue You can't delete fucking from the equation and expect that outcome. This is why gay men are a lot more chill a lot of the time. Even if their lives aren't going great, they can fuck.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/12/23 06:57 PM
–	Why do men and women feel like we need to rely on some generalizations of the sex we are attracted to? Individuals don't like being treated like they are predictable, but treating them that way usually results better than assuming nothing of anyone. The same goes for groups of people. The individual does not want to feel like a stereotype of themselves even if they are. The group wants not to be a stereotype of a group even if they are.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/12/23 06:55 PM
–	Even the genders' more "wholesome" side of attraction is generally different. best post I've ever seen on here Ultimately most women loathe men not for being horny and controlling, but for seeming like a weirdly childlike and easily impressed version of themselves. And men tend to loathe women not just for being hard to attract, but for seeming like they've got this weird gambler-sports coach-politician vibe stuck in the romantic part of their personalities that should really be a lot more innocent. At the core, we both feel like the more sane ones, like just kids who bec…	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/12/23 02:10 PM
3	Loneliness has nothing to do with gender men can inject themselves with anti-loneliness euphoria from getting touched by any decent girl (usually) and women can't really and that's where the divide comes	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/11/23 03:25 AM
2	Men are not more volent for not getting sex. Most volence against women come from men they are partnered with, not from virgins men women like a man who seems ready to fuck someone up for acting out of line, and then get shocked when they actually fuck someone up, and that person is the person they spend most time with And the sad truth is that such guys are often literally better at being protective or charismatic or competent sexually. So there isn't really a way out.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/11/23 01:19 AM
-1	When Rhode Island accidentally legalized prostitution, rape decreased sharply Sexual assault is about power- power over your own horininess and the desire to fuck other people. It's where biological urges and the will to make somebody else feel weak converge. It is, unfortunately, as we say, "a good vibe" to them, a "take that" to daydreams of unfulfilled lust, not just to another person.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/08/23 08:09 PM
6	Impact of aspergers/high functioning autism on males I think the hardest challenge for us males inside of this spectrum of being is that we're always screaming YES YES YES inside for some sort of romantic and/or physical relationship regardless of our mood or life situation or even how much attraction and desire we're feeling. Everything builds upon satisfying that part of ourselves no matter what. We wander resolutely toward what makes our hearts feel warm and fuzzy, what makes us feel like we're "in a romantic situation" without much of an appre…	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/06/23 05:35 PM
1	CMV: “Men and women are different” is just an excuse to rationalize hypocrisy. The same way we find ourselves attached to fictional characters despite not being exemplary of who we want to be, people will find themselves endeared by negative stereotypes despite knowing they are not always applicable. There's a fucking aesop-like whimsy behind it all. It's all about feeling a slight step above everything you see as shitty behavior. It's the banality of evil. It's so boring to be like "this is what annoying unhelpful people are like". It's more more interesting and flavorful…	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/06/23 05:10 PM
1	CMV: “Men and women are different” is just an excuse to rationalize hypocrisy. People will come up with ideas about how other people are, and then employ them, and actually reap quite a few rewards. The trick is not getting to proud to do that in any and all situations. Don't you get that? If you have ideas about what (group of people) are or should be, those ideas will certainly lead you to good places more often than not. And other people may suffer along the way, but it's hard to defy yourself when you've crafted experiences created out of those feelings other people ca…	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/06/23 08:03 PM
–	Q4M - How many average women have you had serious crushes on? probably like 40 or 50 I guess	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/06/23 01:12 AM
1	Who's more aesthetic: men or women? So do you see boobs as just boring lumps? And prefer flat ass over curvy, shapely ass? Seems bizarre to me to see women as at least not close in terms of appeal.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/06/23 12:50 AM
2	Who's more aesthetic: men or women? on the other hand, women in art have well-defined chins	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/06/23 12:48 AM
–	Everyone should respect other people’s lived experiences That is a good take. But I think when you are born with a dick you get really really used to your body deciding for you whether are not you want to get your dick touched. It becomes such a non maybe, such a non elusive thing, to just be horny because your flesh wants it, and it becomes such a given, that you will say yes if given a chance. If you were to pester a guy about not getting a boner, he would be bothered, maybe even hate you and leave, but he'd still masturbate furiously to the thought…	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/06/23 11:57 PM
2	Women what was some ways that you were hit on that you enjoyed I love your hair has more potential to be far, far creepier because of how roundabout the compliment is. Imagine if a guy you emphatically disliked said I love your hair. It would be a lot more infuriating than nice tits. Men get cynical about giving good compliments because they know they can easily end up more despised trying to be civil if obviously a horny simp.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/06/23 11:42 PM
–	Everyone should respect other people’s lived experiences It all boils down to men and women generally experiencing a certain type of heated emotion when it comes to being sexually frustrated. Because male sexual frustration is more similar to the agitation one gets when deprived of decent tasting food: having a straightforward goal and musing thousands of hours of how to fucking get it fucks with your ego and makes you cranky in a certain way that women actually feel just as much. We all feel the same when the neighbor's dog won't shut the fuck up and…	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/06/23 11:25 PM
–	Dating for a women is like shopping on Amazon where as a mans experience resembles building a niche small bussiness from the ground up they wallow in weird complexes about appearance and refuse to realize their dating agency is still much stronger than your average unappealing dude, and that much of their loneliness comes from being uncomfortable with themselves, like incels without the occasional girlfriend hunt	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/02/23 05:22 PM
2	Men are worse people morally than women men are more comfortable making other people upset with doing things other people really, really don´t like them doing, to satisfy their goals and sense of value, women are more comfortable doing things they know other people will find kind of fucking annoying, to satisfy their sense of having good social skills and a good presence around others	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/02/23 05:06 PM
10	The RP needs to accept that often horrible men are great at hiding their red flags. The BP needs to accept that often these men make these red flags painfully obvious. women can sense who's fucking boring, not who's good to people	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/02/23 05:03 PM
0	if dating is so dangerous for women why do they do it at all? I am currently watching Big Brother Australia. There is a woman on it who got really upset that she couldn't have tea. Even though tea has nearly no nutrition value or significant effect on the body. I view this woman as having bad taste and being kind of childish. Because I can take or leave tea for the most part and only like it when I'm in a certain mood or with certain food. I feel like the person who gets the purpose and function of tea a lot more. I feel like I can see the shades of enjoym…	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/01/23 12:44 AM
0	if dating is so dangerous for women why do they do it at all? What do you think about the fact that many guys look at gay male sex parties and think, wouldn't it be great if I could live like that for one day? And the people I desired felt the same type of desire I felt for them? I know a lot of women say that gay men aren't relevant to these discussions, but I think they are. The lack of a huge bar for entry for an active consensual sexual lifestyle makes things very different for gay guys. I'm not an expert but you can damn well bet it affects your ego a…	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/01/23 05:20 AM
-1	if dating is so dangerous for women why do they do it at all? Do you think it's fair for men to be upset at all at the fact that we have to meet so many abstract requirements to get a woman to like us? That we have to roll the dice that fucking often, searching over and over and over to fit somebody's tastes? Is it something you feel sympathy for but have trouble saying it or admitting it because of male behavior and cultural institutions? It always seems to me like just under the surface, women are actually creeped out by the notion of having to fight tha…	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/01/23 12:47 AM
14	Women Are Significantly More Likely To Lose Interest In Sex In Long Time Relationships In Spite Of Age, Relationship Satisfaction, Sexual Satisfaction, and Child Rearing Status. Women literally do not understand the chemicals that flow through a man's brain that make sex feel slightly new and exciting every time and having to always fulfill that need. Women feel superior because they suffer a different problem: have trouble reaching and maintaining that state where sex feels like a need to begin with. Neither makes you a bad person but don't act superior for it.	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/01/23 12:35 AM
0	Women Are Significantly More Likely To Lose Interest In Sex In Long Time Relationships In Spite Of Age, Relationship Satisfaction, Sexual Satisfaction, and Child Rearing Status. It makes more sense to say that men in general want to be fucking or jerking off all the time, and can be generally bored and unfulfilled sexually. While still needing that base level of stimulation and togetherness to feel happy.	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/01/23 12:30 AM
1	Are there men in your life who are good overall but fail at dating? What does this say about modern dating? It all boils down to men wanting women who are "nice" and "pleasant" and "cool" and women wanting men who have some ability to project their abstract capability and self-worth into the universe while being able to create social tension but manage it properly and being able to take charge with somebody while not offending somebody else's tastes. Men have to be the equivalent of a well-written book to a picky reader to be seen as anything more than dull and uninteresting.	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/01/23 01:37 AM
0	You’d be pretty guarded and picky too if everyone from the opposite sex who approached you was trying to penetrate you Are you sure you're not guarded and picky because you're guarded and picky regardless of how men act? You sure you're just not selective and reluctant by nature? Gay subs who want to get rammed are less guarded and picky than straight women, not because there aren't that many gay men, but because they're men and more comfortable with simply fucking people as a hobby with less weird emotional requirements. Straight men react terribly to women being guarded and picky and make the conclusion that y…	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/01/23 01:16 AM
1	Besides sex, do you even like women? I think women are relentless hungry to be around the "good presence" they imagine exists in other people, and will spare nobody else's feelings on the quest to feel like they're experiencing a "good vibe" from themselves are someone else. So I admire their tenacity in longing for that goal and have often found solace in it, but I know that people should be careful when a woman says she likes somebody or wants somebody, because deep down she could still have many other unresolved issues and desir…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/01/23 05:21 PM
2	No, most men DON'T overestimate their own attractiveness I don't know how to explain it, but when guys make each other feel like shit, it's like trying to make somebody feel like a wimpy idiot, not like they're stupid or selfish for having romantic desires and ambitions. We can even tell each other we'll never get laid, but there's like, a weird aura of sympathy and sorrow beneath it that women don't feel when they say the same things.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/01/23 05:20 AM
1	No, most men DON'T overestimate their own attractiveness Men bring each other down in some really shitty ways, but we generally don't try to make each other feel undateable or creepy. And yes there is a lot of validation we can't give each other because we crave female attention way too much, even if we act like perfect bros.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/01/23 04:10 AM
2	Unrealistic beauty standards are created and fostered by women, not men. You think maybe they act upon those women not because they are more beautiful, but because they seem receptive to being complimented? Nearly no women are invisible to straight men. Even if they don't get approached they're still being gazed at longingly by somebody somewhere. Perhaps it's time to start thinking like a guy and start making moves yourself just a tiny bit and see what happens. Perhaps a good attitude and self-respect can make up for lacking more obvious and blatant types of feminin…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/01/23 05:05 AM
3	With the current state of modern women, more men than ever are taking the asianpill. I'll meet you halfway and go out with the rainbow armpit girl with no bra.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/01/23 01:56 PM
1	Could you be with a man who paid for sex with women in the past? You´re treating people like infants by saying they can´t make something like prostitution work for them. All work involves unpleasant experiences. People are allowed to subject themselves to certain kind of strife for their own financial gain, and try to find a way to make it something close to happiness. There are more than a few women who at least claim to be glad they´re involved in this kind of work, and apply a similar type of vibe to it as people do to other kinds of jobs. Some say they ev…	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/12/22 07:47 PM
2	Could you be with a man who paid for sex with women in the past? I think you're off the mark when it comes to what counts as truly harmful behavior in this world. If somebody wants to get paid to help somebody have an orgasm, and has the mental fortitude to genuinely not hate doing it, and all the clients involved to their best not to be a bastard while it's happening, that's not something inherently demeaning or toxic. At least not on a level higher than the discomfort and strife involved in other forms of work. A lot of people like to toss around the word "…	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/12/22 09:19 AM
5	Could you be with a man who paid for sex with women in the past? Do you think it's fair to say that paying for sex is only a thing men do because women almost never have a reason to ever do it, and that men aren't really grosser (at least not totally), just put in a situation where the gross choice actually presents itself? Resisting the temptation to resort to paying for sex is a thing women won't really have to face. So as much as you dislike us for it, can you at least admit women don't have the experience of resisting it? They don't have that immorality o…	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/12/22 08:36 AM
4	Could you be with a man who paid for sex with women in the past? I think gay men have everything to do with it. Straight men wish straight women liked them the way they liked them, and want to feel like they're living that, even if they aren't. Gay men, well many at least, can live the sex life they feel they want to have deep down inside without crafting magical emotional moments in others. They are immune to being called gross for having random casual sex (at least by most modern women) because there's nothing antagonistic about it. They could even pay a ho…	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/12/22 07:14 AM
3	Could you be with a man who paid for sex with women in the past? You do realize that whatever it is that makes gay men have sex rather readily and frequently without paying for it is exactly what makes makes straight men want to pay for it? Do you find gay men less gross, when their desire levels are more or less the same as straight men's? You don't think having a massive disconnect between your sexual desire and the desire of the opposite sex isn't a certain kind of painful fucking vibe to carry? What would you think of somebody who went to a paid sex club …	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/12/22 06:33 AM
0	The last posts about intimacy and standards show how disconnected women is from the average men reality and how discussion is mainly a pointless effort I thank you for comment, but I relate to women since forming good friendships can very, very difficult for someone like me and I know what it's like to hang out with strangers and get very very little out of it. Forcing yourself to go out and interact with people when it doesn't give you good energy can be insurmountably difficult. But I think women need to realize that a huge chunk of their romantic struggles are because of not putting the time in to finding how to satisfy themselves. Granted, …	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/11/22 11:54 PM
3	The last posts about intimacy and standards show how disconnected women is from the average men reality and how discussion is mainly a pointless effort From my male perspective, a woman being single usually seems like a powerful lack of focus and motivation, the solution being finding enough willpower to to go on dates with strangers with one tenth the resolve of your average guy. Almost like it happens when a woman knows what she wants but is too easily discouraged by a lack of satisfying experiences. I also think a guy being single and unloved is usually an example of someone being so overloaded and burdened by unfiltered, unhinged desire and…	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/11/22 07:26 PM
1	Men are projecting when they try and scare women by the "cat lady" and "die alone" trope probably true, since I think there are more old women for which romantic and sexual longing becomes a desire so dull it becomes easy to carry it with you like a skin growth and not a plague upon your very soul. It's got to be easier for them to find substitutes that really satisify them, while a lonely old fellow will almost certainly combine his hobbies with some kind of sexual adventures/sincere attempts at finding a new love.	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/10/22 04:26 PM
5	Unless a girl tells you expressly that she's looking for a relationship its fair to be coy about whether or not you are because that's the exact same thing she's doing. People are probably ready to claim that positively using "strategic ambiguity" is a wildly sexist theory to propose, when it's something that works on men as well, just in different contexts. Look at the world of marketing. Companies spend trillions trying to find out how to make people feel like they're not being really being marketed to in order to foster fondness for a brand. It's almost like mature adult human beings have a "picky, good-taste side" that manifests in different contexts. The p…	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/10/22 04:06 PM
0	CMV: Dating for hetrosexual men isn't about getting a girl it's about finding someone who you are compatible it For most of us, going without a girlfriend is less debilitating than having no sex life, and having a sex life keeps our spirits high enough to feel like suffering through looking for a girlfriend. The motivation for sex remains undeterred.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/10/22 09:16 PM
0	Women feel entitled to men liking them I'll explain it for you. Basically, men lose their shit sometimes (a lot) when no woman wants him physically. And gets good vibes from his anger and frustration regardless and what anyone says. Changing their behavior in some troublesome ways to say the least. When a woman fails to find any guy who finds her emotionally engaging and validating, to her, it feels a lot less repulsive and a lot more innocent than her perception of male sexual deprivation. It feels more like "I want a human connecti…	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/09/22 09:04 PM
1	Do you women go through similar struggles like men go through? From my perspective, guys are more likely to actively seek companionship no matter what the hell is happening in their life. While women are more likely to be "closed off" from those opportunities when it's hard to be in the mood to look for love. And that we tend to discredit women because men are barely even capable of feeling like we are ever closed off from sex and love. To us, it seems like a relief to even be capable of not pursuing our lustfulness. I am sure you are not in a state of reli…	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/09/22 12:56 AM
3	Do you women go through similar struggles like men go through? What kind of efforts have you put in toward being more desirable or creating a real romantic experience? Most guys who can't get a girlfriend complain about putting lots of effort into attempting to become more attractive (changing presentation, improving conversational style, getting cooler hobbies) and still failing. Would you say your efforts are similar, or is it harder just to even find motivation?	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/09/22 12:04 AM
1	Is there a married man that doesn't masturbate or watch porn? Are people not allowed to use their sense of sight when masturbating? Recreating the visual experience of sex, to have pleasure by yourself, will never be objectively strange. It's like telling someone not to watch sports if they like sports but can't currently play them. Obviously there are much more complex things going on when watching a real naked person have sex. But to put it in a similar league to recreating the physical sensations of sex through realistic toys isn't that fucked up. It ju…	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/09/22 10:52 PM
1	"NOT ALL WOMEN"! is justified Welcome to the tug of war as ancient as civilization. It's called generalizations of a group versus accusations against an individual. Everyone is always trying to do both in just the right way. You can't really win at either. You can throw as much "nuance" into the pile as much as you possibly can, but the fact remains. You have to criticize people who aren't involved with you and that you don't know if you want the world to change. Everyone's criticism of anyone always reaches further and is m…	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/09/22 03:11 PM
2	CMV Either sex is presumptively inherently degrading to women OR pumping and dumping a woman is just fine/not immoral Not a fan of your take, just because something is hard to like doesn't mean somebody doesn't want it. Not to say us men aren't like 25x more resolute about acquiring it at any cost, but I would say most would be generally not glad about not having a good sex life. I believe it's more hobby ish than need ish to women but it's a very fond hobby. Sex is the thing beyond kissing to women and most don't look down on it or detest it, it's just very very open to being a "meh" kind of pursuit. It's easy…	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/09/22 09:25 PM
6	'Toxic masculinity' is only half of the equation toxic masculinity is what happens when a boy who has crushes on girls but never gets any back decides to change himself and does it so well he actively hates the kind sweet vibes he had when younger and much worse at dating, because women kind of invalidated the fuck out of it. So you replace socially unskilled innocence with socially skilled rage.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/09/22 09:12 PM
6	The Red Pill’s biggest shortcoming and why men need to actually work on understanding women (and how to do it) I would rather have people watch/read Tatami Galaxy, as a representation of what it's like being a colossally horny young dude with no intent on actually hurting anyone nor being shallow either. It is a story about the pits you fall into trying to find a spectacular way out of your deprivation of intimacy. There is a very human side to being desperate.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/09/22 03:42 PM
2	Cant get an erection You are letting someone in a very private space, and have to see it as a social situation with various intimidating qualities. You are very used to not having a person do things with you in that way. Remember you are starting something new and there are sensual parts of you that will be revealed in ways jerking off will not.	/r/seduction	05/09/22 07:08 AM
3	Why do you think gay men and lesbians don't need to use red pill, fds and debate on subs like this? All you're doing is highlighting the inherent unfairness of generalizing people. But if you're not generalizing anyone, you can't paint a picture of how things fucking are. Everyone retreats into "not all x" mode as often as they flip out over nobody having the right amount of criticism of others. When was the last time you felt you saw things as they really were, knowing full well you were generalizing? On the whole, gay people are less likely to fall deep into the pits of differences in sexual…	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/08/22 06:11 PM
43	Oof don't really belong here at all	/r/PussyPassDenied	19/08/22 08:00 PM
1	Any quick tips on attracting women? you probably need to join some kind of group activity and work on being a good partner in some form for anything, even if it's like, painting a wall or whatever. become a good person to have around even with strangers. as men our nature makes us ache to be romantically desired even if we are very technical and not very dramatic people. Maybe trying to be enjoyable to be with around new people is where to start. If you have no idea where to begin, forcing yourself to be immersed with strangers as…	/r/seduction	19/08/22 03:40 AM
2	For the people who learned mystery method he mentions female attraction mechanism, what is it that activates it I think the best counter argument to that is admitting there are lots of guys who treat flirting as just like talking to friends but with a little bit of that romantic desire dashed into it. And when it has basically no strong effect or does not lead to anything, even if the girl does kind of like you a bit, there are probably good reasons for that. There are ways to make an interaction go from bland and childlike to interesting and enticing. Nearly everyone is susceptible to it, but women crave…	/r/seduction	19/08/22 03:25 AM
1	What is it about erotica that makes you gravitate towards it vs other kinds of porn? I've got a nifty answer for you. A lot of spend hours of the day imagining sexual experiences and romantic encounters that lead to them. Picking up an erotic novel feels like an extension of the social fantasies you already have, making it feel tremendously redundant. A lot like watching paint dry or eating oatmeal without sugar. Porn, with its real actual imagery and actual body parts and actual space and place, and actual people experiencing actual orgasms, feels closer to the culmination of t…	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/08/22 03:08 PM
1	What is it about erotica that makes you gravitate towards it vs other kinds of porn? see him fuck dot com	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/08/22 02:57 PM
0	What is it about erotica that makes you gravitate towards it vs other kinds of porn? A lot of porn is just one person in a quiet room with good lighting who clearly (probably) isn't being pressured by anyone to actually do it. It could even have role play or something very atmospheric. You could potentially have artistic or very emotional porn with enough talent and budget. Is it weird to say that being turned off by that for having a bad vibe is really just a matter of preference and instinct, rather than any moral sort of feeling? It seems to me that a lot of people, women mos…	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/08/22 02:38 PM
1	Women LOVE to throw out the classic “it’s not your ____ it’s because you’re a misogynistic asshole” yet misogynistic assholes are consistently the ones getting laid. This alone proves that women are unable to have an honest conversation about dating and discredits anything else they have to say. Most men are far in the fucking middle with that shit, far, far in the fucking middle. Women should admit it's possible at least some of the time to be both ethically sound and rather unattractive at the same time. It's possible to do something unethical which a woman might easily be enchanted by. If you're not willing to admit that self-control and restraint aren't necessarily charming, then men aren't going to want to do that. They will become ultra misogynists and just stop caring. Morality a…	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/06/22 03:29 AM
2	How to make a guy understand I’m interested in him You're going to have to try something really terrible and have it not work, you're going to have to taste self-loathing and rejection like a man does, while hopefully not turning into a bastard because of it. Wake up and smell the valley of disgust for your own actions you need to tolerate. Or um...try bringing up his attractiveness in conversation at one point in a very un-forward way, then at some point touch his shoulder or something in a rather more forward way. That will probably be enough.…	/r/seduction	08/06/22 03:21 AM
2	Women seem to really love femboys. culture currently has femboys feeling endearing and defiant of male standards.....i bet 25 years ago you'd be failing more no really, women come together to agree on what a "cool guy" is and it colors their lust also being a femboy isn't really viable if you don't have the face and body for it, that just makes you 10 times more undesirable	/r/seduction	31/05/22 08:10 PM
3	As a virgin, it hurts me to see teenagers younger than me make out and hold hands. Seeing sex ed for teens sadens me. I have so much sorrow and regret from missing out on teenage expereinces and I would really like some words of encouragment 19 is pretty late because you lack a romantic past but you're still kind of fresh. 25 is potentially endearingly late because people know that twenties can be really problematic. 30 is very possibly maybe not completely disgustingly late because that's typical marriage age. After that it becomes really fucking dark and requires extremely careful playing with the cards of your life to get a girl to like you. But it can be done. You are not deep into pit of this. There are plenty of 20 year old gi…	/r/seduction	06/05/22 04:49 AM
4	I tend to attract black girls. Does this mean anything? you probably just look at them as as beautiful as everyone else and that does something	/r/seduction	08/04/22 03:15 PM
1	Men and Women are not nearly as evil towards each other as you people insinuate Most people who hate on other people are just overblowing it because they think that the least bad of the people they hate are just mysteriously shitty and immune to positive change. The people you think you can change being so close but so far turns you into a crusader of rage.	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/11/21 09:53 PM
2	Do Men Appreciate Physical Differences in Women More Than Vice Versa? Women seem to be capable of appreciating a variety of male faces but have no real passion for more than one generic body type. Not that they can't be flexible, but I seriously doubt most women have fantasized about guys with highly divergent physiques. I'd saya bara/femboy art is as far as they'd go. Not that I can blame them, we don't even have major differences in ass shape or chest shape compared to ladies. When you're 5'8'' and not fit and not overweight either, barely even having a "body ty…	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/11/21 09:45 PM
5	Daily Community Chat Megathread "Women just wanted to be treated normally" breaks my heart because I wish that in public and professional settings, and in relationships too, people would just try to treat nobody as childish pieces of trash. But it's still a wall banger. It's a wall banger to say that men just want to be treated normally. In order to fall in love with someone, they have to treat you in a way other than normal. They have to be excessive in the right way. They have to be detached in the right way. They need to do…	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/11/21 09:26 PM
2	How does Russell Brand flirt so successfully? This is a great explanation but it also kind of explains why some men do really really bad things and feel no guilt. It all feels like an extension of the paradoxes of inflating your own value while also not really doing that, and making unfair expectations out of people while also feeling hesitant. I would say then when straight men and people in general are at their absolute most disgusting behavior, they seem to have the radiant energy of experienced flirting, aware they are being excessive a…	/r/seduction	13/10/21 04:48 AM
1	“we don’t really care what you say when you’re flirting with us, it’s about how attractive and confident you are” basically be good at seeing the cracks where you are allowed to shoot a little confidence into rather than trying to be generally confident so you don't get completely drained	/r/seduction	30/01/21 03:34 AM
1	“we don’t really care what you say when you’re flirting with us, it’s about how attractive and confident you are” The word confidence is a half-retarded concoction created by people who can't see the greater depth in humans interacting. Confidence works for some, but for others, you must know how to be unconfident in a way that comes across as worth chasing by a woman. It is better to just present yourself as lacking in social skills but very happy to try and become part of someone else's desire to utilize their own in fascinating ways. Focus on being the prey who can notice when and how someone is hunting …	/r/seduction	29/01/21 05:40 AM