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I’m so sorry for their experiences, that’s awful. Why not report? Where do you live, what do you do that puts you and you close friends in such dangerous area / situations?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/25 08:58 PM
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OPs 3 unhinged responses make me feel like they don’t actually want to hear any answers. Shame 🫤
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/25 05:53 PM
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Women are 100% correct in prioritizing their safety. I’ll die on the hill that the consequences are too severe to compromise, or question it. I would like for women to take a beat, and think about how much they are the targets of media fear mongering.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/25 05:47 PM
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You had me until “father’s don’t play a role in child development”. They do, there are a lot of studies that show the importance of fathers in all stages of human development, from psychological to Biochemical. And the biggest factor in why single fathers have better outcomes in child rearing is hypothesized to be higher average income. Not off loading the child care.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/25 02:31 PM
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Right?! I’m baffled when I come to this sub and see posts that forget relationships are with while ass humans.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/25 02:07 PM
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In the case of the “niche” types being discussed, personally I don’t think it’s ok. But like you said, the viewers are more likely informed of the abuse so I don’t think they have any moral objections. It’s not really a “suspension of disbelief” issue, this violent type of porn is what they are seeking, if they did find out it was real, they are probably more likely to be excited than disgusted.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/25 04:05 AM
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“atistically, if you watch porn regularly, there’s a good chance you’ve already masturbated to someone who was drugged, threatened, or trafficked” Is what my comment was meant for.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/25 03:43 AM
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Do you own, or have you ever bought a pair of Nikes, or Eaten strawberries in the US? Most human trafficking is done for labor, not sex. Is it terrible, yes. Is it totally valid to abstain from giving companies your business, as a form of protest, absolutely. Should you be ostracized, or demonized for buying a product, or indirectly paying for a service that comes from forced labor when you’re ignorant to it. I don’t think so.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/25 02:02 AM
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DM me the rest, your opinion in fascinating.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/25 07:40 PM
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Women taking their personal safety into account. I don’t question it, and I understand the consequences can be so severe that it’s not worth the risk for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/25 07:28 PM
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I’m not dodging it. That the point I’m making about accountability.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/25 01:38 AM
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They aren’t mutually exclusive, but making and admitting to the choice means you/they can be held personally accountable. Your example of lifting weights… if you feel pressure, but still enjoy and choose to do it, allows your opponent to claim the pressure “must not be that bad”. The stupid ass post is a 3 lose gotcha.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/25 12:24 AM
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It’s a combination of Schrödinger’s Feminism, and multiple voices from the same group.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/25 12:18 AM
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The major issue with cheating isn’t just the betrayal. It show that any effort or future planning you’ve done with the person in mind has evaporated. Why should I or anyone continue building a life with someone who is more likely to leave for someone else? They become a bad investment.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/25 08:16 PM
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Exactly
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/25 07:19 PM
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This reminds me of the line from “My big fat Greek wedding”
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/25 05:22 PM
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This is the only reasonable answer
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/25 05:11 PM
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It’s pretty commonly used when describing men as a possible romantic partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/25 03:12 PM
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Are you aware that “rough around the edges” is a turn of phrase? It’s meant to highlight the value of something, even though it’s not necessarily the “prettiest”.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/25 02:44 PM
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I couldn’t agree more
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/25 04:01 AM
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Hell yeah! She’s feels the music!
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/25 08:56 PM
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I think a lot of people don’t really know what healthy friendships look like, I’ve certainly lost a lot of friends that weren’t worth keeping. I’ve also probably been the friend not worth keeping too. So more education I think. For everyone
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/25 07:00 PM
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This is the type of friendship all guys need. You’re a good friend. Sorry for your loss.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/25 03:51 PM
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This is complete bullshit. My male friends, and my father are the only people I’m vulnerable with. If your closest male friend wouldn’t be there for you, you need new ones. You should surround yourself with people who want good things for you. - Dr. Jordan Peterson
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/25 03:49 PM
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Totally agree. One of the things I think men should be working on (as a whole) is maintaining a healthy social network.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/25 03:46 PM
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If you live close the cool “uncle” is always a great job, and influence in a kids life. It definitely not the norm, but when I was growing up, my parents were the first in their friend group to have kids. So they had their single friends over a lot for dinner, or just a glass of wine all the time. When I was school aged, they would take me and my sister out every now and again to give my parents some alone time, and give us some cool experiences. Don’t sleep on Cool uncle, we all need a tribe.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/25 03:43 PM
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Although I disagree with your analogy. I totally agree with not referring to people as “goods”, and doing so is a red flag.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/25 11:39 PM
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You literally have poly in your flair and you want to simplify paternity to trust in a monogamous relationship?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/25 11:37 PM
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I don’t think high N count affects child attractiveness, but sure I guess. 🤷🏾‍♂️
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/25 11:33 PM
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I agree with both your scenarios. I would be far more devastated if I found out about my partner in a public forum, truly mortifying.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/25 02:20 PM
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True but hook up culture can’t exist on an island with a small population. Hookup culture is dependent on a massive selection pool, or a constantly renewing one. It works with OLD, large college campuses, and metro areas. Small towns and high schools can’t support it, because of reputation and repeat partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/25 05:10 AM
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I Googled it. 🤷🏾‍♂️
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/25 12:14 AM
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True but the next step to that is a majority of the top 20% of both groups pair up. The remainders begin to pair up, with a few outliers who cheat. And a few outliers who don’t find pairs.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 10:20 PM
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No notes. I totally agree with your post OP. It’s very reflective of my personal experience, and observations. Thanks for the breakdown.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 10:16 PM
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That’s not what the “Blue Pill” views always were. The Blue Pill called for traditional courtship rituals, and generally naive approach to dating. It emphasized social dating norms, and romantic idealism. The nuances of attraction you’re talking about sound more like Purple middle ground IMO
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 10:00 PM
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I’m glad you made a post after our exchange earlier. Hopefully It sheds some light on the subject. My 2 cents, Chad is the Red Pill boogie man. He’s whatever manifestation of a man that could get any woman you can’t based on your own insecurities. You’re short so he’s tall. You’re an engineer and have money, so he’s in a band and charismatic. And so on.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 09:48 PM
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Any reason is a good one, buts that’s a great one. Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 07:31 PM
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Yeah, that’s the real worst case scenario. I’ve seen more than 1 of my friends have complete breakdowns over kids that weren’t theirs. So painful
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 07:29 PM
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No, but there is a higher representation on Reddit than irl. For men too imo.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 07:27 PM
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So you read what I stated, and still decided to ask that? How silly. Look folks, my flair says Purple not Red. Just because I answered with a reasonable sentiment, doesn’t mean I’m the expert you’re all looking to debate.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 06:34 PM
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Simultaneously both and neither. This is a common problem that happens to all movements as they grow. My suggestion is argue the point that has been put forth, and ask a follow-up question in good faith if you don’t understand.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 04:43 PM
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Both and neither. That’s the issue with Chad, he’s a figment of the imagination.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 03:42 PM
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Different branches of the same group. Just because one person says one thing while identifying as a member of a group, doesn’t mean it’s the stance of the whole group. Ie. There’s a group of feminists who think getting married is slavery, but not all feminists think this way. It’s disingenuous for me to argue that the feminist stance on marriage is slavery.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 03:40 PM
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Totally agree
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/25 02:28 PM
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No, there’s a difference between her intentions. If a man makes more and is relationship, and spends more because he can doesn’t mean she’s only interested in him for his money. Whether she’s a gold digger is dependent on whether or not she’s into him as a whole.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/25 02:28 PM
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This is the point of the post. Both men and women don’t want to feel used in a relationship. But the other side is unsympathetic/empathetic to their issues being brought up. It’s not about which problem you think is worse, it’s whether you can accept that the other person’s problem is valid to them. FFS.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/25 02:22 PM
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That’s a great takeaway. What I got out of it, is that neither side wants to be used, and is vocal about it without seeing the other side’s perspective.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/25 02:10 PM
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It’s a 1 in 1234 chance, .08% without a condom. That stat is for vaginal intercourse.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/25 02:03 PM
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I’m the same age, and holy shit was it a time. New tech coming out all the time with little to no supervision or regulation. Being a teen then was wild.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/25 01:49 PM
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If you were a Satanist, wouldn’t that be a religious affiliation, and therefore not atheist?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/25 01:23 PM
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Who said that an obsession is a personality? Just being part of a group doesn’t mean you have a personality. Both things are a matter of degree.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/25 04:09 AM
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No, I was trying to show that humans are worth connecting with, and we just need to listen and respect each other’s differences. You’re just not interested, pardon the pun.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/25 09:07 PM
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Ok, so I think we’re on the same page here. It’s about the effort put in. Most men who are into sports for instance, watch games on a consistent basis, follow their favorite team, track player stats, and engage in either playing the sport itself, or participate in fantasy leagues. That’s a lot of effort. A lot of gamers get into the games they play, study speed run strats, watch stat break downs, and follow META trends. Again, putting in effort. Same goes for gambling, etc etc. Like you said, ju…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/25 08:56 PM
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I don’t know whether or not women would be more successful, and I have certainly been in the position when talking to women that you describe. Personally, I’ve found that most people I talk to have something they “nerd out” on, both men and women. You just have to figure out what it is. Unfortunately, I think there’s a large amount of men who just aren’t interested in what a lot women are interested in.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/25 08:15 PM
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Agreed, but that doesn’t disprove the post. Your examples are some of the most popular male interests, but the fact that they put energy and effort into them is what the post is talking about, not what they are.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/25 08:12 PM
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That’s doesn’t prove depth, or personality, just that they get along.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/25 08:10 PM
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Sure they are. Where you fit in is where you land. So shoot for the highest and work your way down over time. One of the problems with this is most people don’t have a goal in mind.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/25 06:58 PM
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Well yeah, that’s how a free market works.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/25 06:55 PM
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IDK, maybe because I’m older, I don’t think Sydney is a sexy symbol. But she’s not my generation.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/25 05:16 PM
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When I look at the Sid by side, it makes me think the poll results are more about feeling and initial reaction. Sydney- looks like the stereotypical 20s western thot, and most likely the participants voted off how they felt about their interactions with women in similar positions. Saori- fetishism aside, looks like the “cute quirky girl”, and they probably voted on feeling like they see her as a long term partner. Or. I could completely wrong, and porn brain and Asian fetishism is stronger than …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/25 04:36 PM
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What’s the rate of porn addiction in the group of men you’re referring to in your post?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/25 04:28 PM
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Of course it’s not the same. Men and women are different fundamentally, so they treat similar situations differently. Just because it’s not a 1 for 1 equivalence doesn’t mean the similarities shouldn’t be taken into account.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/25 04:24 PM
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This is the part that a lot of dudes on this sub get confused about. If a man treats women with the respect and consideration as anyone else, then he’s good (a feminist). Online, they think guys have to be a caricature, “Soy Boy”, this that and a third to be supportive of women. Which kills the argument, and makes posts like these silly.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/25 06:26 PM
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Definitely gonna be on a subscription/ payment plan. It wouldn’t surprise me if people sacrificed on transportation to get one. Ride a bike to work, so you can have a sexbot at home.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/25 06:06 PM
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A common side effect of women who add T is higher sex drive. Reports have even said to be shockingly high increases.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/25 02:18 PM
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What do you classify as harm? Mental and emotional health have become more centered in western life. Reputation has always been an important part of communal living, damaging it can cause all sorts of negative effects. I’d say that how “Chad” gets punished mostly, if a dude is Toxic people spread the news.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/25 02:02 PM
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Thank you. A relationship in of itself is a contract, a promise, a vow. I will blank, and you will blank, because we’re exclusive, married, co-parents, friends. This is the second post about transactional relationships this morning, and I just want to respond “Grow Up”
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 03:42 PM
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Wonderful!
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 03:31 PM
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I agree. That’s not a lot to ask.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 01:56 AM
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I can’t speak for all Men, and it’s not all on the man in a relationship. But it’s something an LTR or marriage will face, and is a large part of what most people look for in a partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/25 07:28 PM
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My feelings exactly. There’s so much less need for physical protection in western, or developed countries. The more apt way to “protect”, is against hardships like car repairs and medical bills. So money, and as you said, emotional intelligence and support are the way. IMO
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/25 03:34 PM
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When I hear women say they want to be protected, which I can’t remember ever hearing a woman say that phrase, but along those lines. I feel they mean feeling secure, or less anxious about life. More comfortable/ confident because they have a reliable and trustworthy partner. So yes to the potential mugger, but not really because it doesn’t happen often. But can be learned on in a crisis, and can act in an emergency. Capable of violence, but not violent. Yes to tariffs, but really in the form of …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/25 03:24 PM
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Of the 23% of the total number?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/25 11:47 PM
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Your stats are wrong. 77% of human trafficking in the US is forced labor, and 57% of all victims are men and boys. Human Trafficking is deplorable, and sex trafficking is worse. But let’s use the truth. https://www.dhs.gov/human-trafficking-quick-facts
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/25 10:38 PM
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Glad you’re killing it now. I agree shyness can be improved and overcome through exposure and practice.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/25 04:04 PM
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Seriously? If this the most stressful thing in a man’s life then there’s something wrong. Trying to meet the deadline on a final paper and you’re running behind. Job interview for you first “big boy” job, first car accident, being stranded away from home and having to figure out how to get back. These are but a few normal experiences. If approaching women is really the most stressful thing in your life, then I suggest you regress and really start working on some things.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/25 04:02 PM
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100%
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/25 11:12 PM
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Absolutely, and I have to say it’s a beautiful thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/25 03:40 PM
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See the part where it says “from a red pill perspective” did I say I was red pilled? My flair says purple.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/25 03:38 PM
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I couldn’t agree more. My whole life took a turn for the better when I lived for me. One of those side effects was becoming a better pick for women, so they showed more interest. Crazy thought
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/25 03:19 PM
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I personally don’t condone how aggressive he was. And you can moralize his behavior all you want. Unfortunately these traits are attractive to some women, and this type of behavior has been successful for a lot of men. “Bad boy” stereotype. I can’t speak for the Sub, but in my experience it’s the opposite. Most of the sub say not to pick this type of guy, and give the “nice guy” a shot. No one’s gaslighting you.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/25 03:12 PM
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This is the way. It’s unfortunately rare.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/25 02:58 PM
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The only red flag that video shows is that he was overly aggressive in popping her balloon. This triggered a cascade of balloon pops from the women out of solidarity, to show group support. “Because he wasn’t fair”, or “he didn’t have to be so mean”. But lag in between, was the rest thinking, I must be a better pick than her. You can tell by the subtle way they all look at the girls who didn’t pop their balloons. From a red pill perspective he did great, showed personal power immediately, establ…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/25 02:45 PM
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Most adults don’t “pick up a litany of felonies”
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/25 02:36 PM
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I totally agree. Wish I knew how to change my flair to Sword Pilled
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/25 02:27 PM
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lol. I felt the same when I read that 3rd P, but thought maybe adoption/step parents? I digress, I agree with you on your points. All the guys that fit the bill, that I know want to get married. I’m in the “3E” group and I do. Maybe she’s referring to Fuck Boys?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/25 02:22 PM
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Absolutely true, but the violence wasn’t aimed at women. Which is the point you were making. Nothing to say about the all male homeless shelter though?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/25 02:36 AM
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I think that dude fall in your bleak category. 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/25 09:50 PM
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Golf clubs, and the Boy Scouts? The all male homeless/ domestic abuse shelter in Canada?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/25 05:24 PM
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Thank you! Finally rational take, this thread was getting bleak. The whole damn point is to make a good team.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/25 02:08 PM
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While I agree that there are some Male only spaces left, and I hope there a new one forming. It’s not entirely true to say it a boogeyman. There have been actual cases of male only space being shut down, blocked, cancelled, or defunded.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/25 01:52 PM
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100%
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/25 11:11 PM
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Because it shows that you understand where your partner is coming from. That you put in the effort to hear their thought process, and how they got to that place. You know, human interaction.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/25 03:28 PM
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Because whether or not a man is the top 20, or bottom 80 has little to do with weather or not they are good people. The “percentages” are determined by a combination of physical attractiveness and earning power. Leaving the criteria of assholes, liars, cheaters, or just inattentive out. The landscape would look entirely different if they were the top 20% of kind, emotionally intelligent, and mentally stable men. I don’t know about “right”, but vetting your potential partners, then getting the op…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/25 02:54 PM
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I’m sure there’s some men that did that too. But I doubt it’s the majority.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/25 01:04 AM
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Thanks for clarifying. I believe the disconnect comes for a combination of things. The messaging around approaching women in general. This shook a lot of men in different ways, some fearing reputation damage, some simply not wanting to annoy or be impolite. The Handkerchief theory, where women aren’t adjusted their signals to approach accordingly. A surprising number of men are oblivious to signs of interest from women. A lot of men really have bowed out of the dating scene.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/25 01:01 AM
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At the present, no. I don’t believe technology can replace pair bonds between humans. That being said, there are things that trick our nervous systems, to stimulate parts of pair bonds. These incomplete sensations are also one of the main drivers for unhappiness. Ie. Gambling, digital, video game, and porn addictions Current technology in the realm of dating/ companionship replacement is really just a combination of unearned validation, and dopamine spiking. This lacks stimulation of key parts o…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/25 12:37 AM
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It’s the handkerchief theory. If she’s not getting the approaches she wants, she should adjust her signaling. Some guys really are oblivious to women’s signals. Her not getting any approaches, tells me she mutually didn’t find anyone particularly attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/25 12:29 AM
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That’s not the definition for harassment. It has nothing to do with how one approaches, or what is said. It all falls to the interpretation of the recipient. Which has an en numerous amount of variables, because they are just living their life. Which is why, when women started saying it’s not cool to approach in XYZ space and times, some men pretty much gave up, and some men became more risk averse, and some men became anxious about the social repercussions.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/25 12:25 AM
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Fuck yeah. You don’t get a Shinoda every day, thank you sir.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/25 12:17 AM
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What’s the contract you’re referencing? And how did men drop the ball?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/25 12:02 AM
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At the moment, yes. I’m sure tech will eventually come up with a way to illicit the same biological responses in child development. Psychologically it would just be different, development could be better or worse depending on the care a robot nanny would be programmed to give. For adults I don’t think technology will ever be able to fully replace pair bonding. Because an AI/Bot will never be fully autonomous. Because it will ultimately be beholden to its owner. Not that people won’t feel compani…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/25 11:22 PM
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I remember the thread. I disagree with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/25 10:25 PM
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Zero, I’m in a committed relationship, so I probably don’t count. But when I was single I didn’t ascribe to cold approaches, I found “planting seeds” to be far more successful.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/25 10:13 PM
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I don’t really have a position on this matter. If I think about it, I’m mixed. I believe in large families, and know the benefits they bring. There are more and more studies coming out showing the biological and psychological benefits and importances of both male and female partners, as well as extended family. Studies on happiness show human connection is key. But I’m also a supporter of individual freedom, and technological innovation. So I’m for people having the option. I didn’t mean it to b…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/25 09:35 PM
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Ok I’ll bite. I don’t understand your response of “avoidance”.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/25 05:35 PM
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Huh?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/25 05:12 PM
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Presentation
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/25 04:37 PM
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Governments will at first, then it will replace the carrot for productivity. Like, if a guy in the future decides he wants an Ai/bot Waifu, that cooks, cleans, has sex, and validates him. He’ll have to pay for it. The trend in economics currently makes be believe it will most likely be financed, and then on some sort of subscription based plan. Ie. Warranty or Licensing. This will force a minimal level of productivity/ work for the man.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/25 02:32 PM
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Word. First hour is free, but after that we have a few subscription plans you may be interested in.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/25 02:24 PM
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🤣🤣🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/25 02:19 PM
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Although this is very true. It’s extremely hard to prove, and also doesn’t mean that Cis White Men under 40 are a protected class. It’s just discrimination, same realm, but not the same thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/25 10:51 PM
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It is “handing over”, because it’s funded by everyone through taxes, and if given to specific groups. It wasn’t handing over before, because the programs weren’t in place. White men at the time had a large advantage, now anyone with wealth has a large advantage.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/25 08:11 PM
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Yep. Being Pussy Whipped, and Dickmatized are a hell of a thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/25 06:15 PM
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Not cis white men under 40
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/25 05:35 PM
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They definitely exist in the US. The fact that one sex can be born a “protected class” and the other can’t legally is proof of inequality.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/25 03:34 PM
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There are a lot of women only, and women centered government programs (in the US). Affirmative Action and DEI through job and college placement, scholarships and grants, business loans, business tax incentives, hell even more resources for the homeless. The government has done/ does a lot of the equalizating for women in the US.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/25 03:28 PM
1

That’s not entirely true is it though? There’s been a mainstream social movement for women that done just that. It’s become common place for “society” to change the way women are raised. It’s not that they take an active stance, society does it for them / has a large group to join that does it for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/25 03:16 PM
1

For sure. It’s a common rejection when you will most likely continue sharing a space afterward.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/25 03:03 PM
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I disagree OP. I believe they both can be great in different ways, but over all sex in a relationship has a higher cap. Sex outside a relationship (ONS, or early in a situationship) can be great because it’s filled with lust. There’s an element of both parties being their inner pornstar, and willing to do things outside their norm. And the level of desire and enthusiasm can be amazing. But it’s really fucking rare. Sex inside a relationship (exclusive/committed or a long running situationship) h…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/25 02:59 PM
2

He didn’t say that they became friends. Just that she considered him a friend, and not a romantic candidate.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/25 02:44 PM
2

I agree, I’ve had a lot of success with this method. I’ve also had success with cold approaching, and escalating quickly too. They are different skill sets, and should be applied appropriately. Men should cultivate all of them.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/25 02:40 PM
2

Different sub groups of men.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/25 02:32 PM
3

The consciousness is the difference maker. It implies a higher level of agency, leaving a door open to assign blame. Add to that, that eugenics is associated with Natzis, and you get an inflammatory argument. So the differentiation keeps good faith.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/25 09:31 PM
5

I used the house to compare a relationship. You can freely not like the way I phrased it, but you understood just fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/25 04:57 PM
2

There are always the “what if” circumstances. And I’m sure somewhere in the multiverse all the variables could be just right, for me to marry this person. But most likely not. If a relationship is a house, sex is like the bathroom. It’s not a major part of the house, as time goes by and the relationship/house grows it becomes less of a feature. But I still wouldn’t buy a house without a bathroom.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/25 03:36 PM
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I believe OP is confusing Eugenics with Natural selection. Eugenics is actually a form of artificial selection, other examples include dog and horse breeding.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/25 03:30 PM
5

For what I heard m, yes that’s my conclusion. But in my opinion, if he’s happy good for him.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/25 10:38 PM
50

I had a coworker that was in this position. He’s unattractive and socially awkward (weird AF), and decided to take a vacation to Mexico. I work in hotels, so we get great travel perks. He goes to Tulum solo, has a great time and “falls in love”. With in a month this guy, a low level salaried manager, starts driving Uber as a second job to send this woman money for her and her kid. His Team tired to tell him this was bad idea, but he was in love. Poor fool
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/25 04:55 PM
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Unfortunately daycare has proven to be worse. A nany, or 3rd family member (grandparent), are far better, but still not nearly as good as a parent. This goes for ages 1-3, after that socialization is heavily encouraged.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/25 07:53 PM
10

Agreed. I’ve also found great value in therapy. There’s a powerful benefit to being able to speak freely with someone who has no personal investment/ relation to your personal life.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/25 02:03 PM
8

Haha. That’s hilarious, thanks for fact checking.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/25 07:26 PM
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Great quote!
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/25 06:50 PM
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That sounds nuts.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/25 01:27 AM
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I never said it was a hack. I was responding to what you said was “easy” and the parameters you set for the definition. I know that most men fall under the decent category. Where most men fail isn’t hygiene. But putting themselves out there and practicing their social skills. The average man (people all around), are becoming less social in general. They aren’t making and maintaining friendships, let alone being exposed to women in social settings. Any man who wants to be in a relationship needs …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/25 08:45 PM
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Thank you for helping to define the terms. What I described as easy isn’t much more effort than what you described. If men have an issue with socially acceptable hygiene, and basic social skills, then they are failing to meet basic professional adulting standards. That’s a legitimate development problem. If they don’t want to put more effort in than that, then they deserve the results. Having a simple fitness routine can range from a hobby 3 times a week, to being a hardcore Gym Bro. Not eating …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/25 08:02 PM
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Wait, what’s the expectation you’re putting forth? 0 effort is what you would accept as “easy”. That would entail women knocking on your door and asking for dates. Just ridiculous. If 0 effort is the expectation any man has, then I have to say that level of entitlement deserves the loneliness it gets.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/25 06:49 PM
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Did you read this before linking it? It doesn’t disprove what I’m posing as advice at all. It’s saying that the majority of Americans in their 20s aren’t interested in relationships. It doesn’t seem to say anything about why young men are struggling.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/25 04:54 PM
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lol. You just summed up what took me 10 minutes to try to explain. Lol. Thank you
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/25 04:49 PM
2

Who said it was a hack?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/25 04:48 PM
1

Ok. I understand your frustration, and you’re venting that. Trust me I get it, I’ve been there. TRP is fractured into a lot of different groups, it originally was PUA, then just the realization that women are also driven by looks. This sub is not a reflection of the world at large, and most of the men in it aren’t the norm. I should have been more specific when saying treat women like humans. What I meant is, treat women with the same casual respect you do with men, and women you aren’t pursuing…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/25 04:46 PM
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Ok. I understand your frustration, and you’re venting that. Trust me I get it, I’ve been there. TRP is fractured into a lot of different groups, it originally was PUA, then just the realization that women are also driven by looks. This sub is not a reflection of the world at large, and most of the men in it aren’t the norm. I should have been more specific when saying treat women like humans. What I meant is, treat women with the same casual respect you do with men, and women you aren’t pursuing…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/25 04:44 PM
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I don’t know what you mean by “getting” women, are you looking for a relationship? Hookup? Dates? I’m reading your post, and think you’re talking about dates, so I’ll comment on that. It’s not hard. Women aren’t nearly as difficult to interact with as most men think. Just treat them like humans. Work on yourself, be in decent shape, have some style, good hygiene. Then talk to women with the same respect and attitude you would with anyone else. Practicing your social skills will help you pick up …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/25 02:04 PM
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💯
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/25 02:57 PM
2

You’re preaching to the choir. The entry standard definitely isn’t as high as the Internet would lead you to believe
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/25 03:07 AM
2

I totally agree. Looks are most important for starting a relationship, not maintaining it. Rules 1 and 2 refer to a movie line. Rule 1: be attractive Rule 2: don’t be unattractive
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/25 02:19 AM
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Gotta say, I think this is fake. With the mean OP supposedly has, Plastic surgery would have been in his mind for years, even if he decided not to do it, it most likely would have been mentioned. And why not get supermodel level escorts? It won’t fill the relationship, and companionship void by any means, but he would have some sexual experience. Or try being a passport bro, he has the means to to it at the highest level. Post fake AF
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/25 12:32 AM
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These 2 points, are why I think this post is fake. And I think ChatGPT had a hand in it too
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/25 12:29 AM
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Rules 1, and 2 always apply for everyone. Personality is secondary, but a big plus.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/25 07:16 PM
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Let’s not generalize. Some men are emotionally intelligent, and probably not the majority, and some women are emotionally unstable. I’m more in favor of praising the good, and shaming the bad.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/25 06:58 PM
1

You sound Purple Pilled my friend. Join us.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/25 03:56 PM
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It depends on what he’s “changed”. There’s a lot of nuance to this. Behaviorally, it’s most likely not actually happening. If a guy was abusive, a liar, or cheater. Then definitely no. If it’s a financial situation, then maybe. He could be trying for a promotion, getting a business off the ground, or changing fields. Depending on his character, then it can certainly be worth staying. It’s not 100%, but being together through the struggles is what makes a strong foundation in a relationship. I be…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/25 03:51 PM
1

Thanks for sharing.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/25 03:41 PM
1

I’m glad you and your wife have good trust built, so you can laugh about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/25 03:39 PM
3

Agreed
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/25 03:29 PM
2

I feel like that works anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/25 03:28 PM
1

That in my opinion is where the whole disconnect lies.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/25 03:16 PM
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5’10”
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/25 03:14 PM
1

Haha. Good for him, I was trying to imagine it while reading your comment.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/25 03:12 PM
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Those are all good points, and I totally agree generalization is never a good idea. But from my live experience, when I was in great shape, the amount of female coworkers that pinched my ass and felt up my arms was very surprising
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/25 01:07 AM
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Women already do sexualize, and objectify men. It’s just that there aren’t that many men attractive enough to inspire that reaction.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/25 12:22 AM
1

Yes, both are due to the Market
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/25 10:53 PM
2

Been there, I don’t recommend it. With strangers? That’s appalling
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/25 10:44 PM
5

Right?! Where’s the spider man meme
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/25 07:05 PM
6

Thank you for this. I feel it’s a very realistic take, and some men could really use it.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/25 05:07 PM
1

Agreed. And thanks
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/25 04:51 PM
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Personally, my female friends at the time. They were just trying to be nice, and not hurt my feelings. But what I needed them to say was “MC_Purp, you’re pudgy, have bad hair, and need a style upgrade.” Lol. The summer between junior and senior year I turned it around.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/25 03:39 PM
2

Do I? Where did I say that?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/25 09:19 PM
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You can keep disguising it with hilarious descriptions all you want. Lol. But there’s no replacement for true desire from your partner, if you’re not feeling it, and you know someone else got it. It can be heartbreaking
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/25 07:51 PM
0

You don’t want to feel special in your relationship?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/25 07:36 PM
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Me too. But we’re rare
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/25 07:33 PM
10

Prolonged eye contact, playful touch, kissing, touching more intimate areas, making out, foreplay, sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/25 07:31 PM
1

I wasn’t answering his question. I was stating why he was asking feminists. I know you didn’t ask, but I believe it’s a false equivalence. Not all work/production is equally valuable, and therefore shouldn’t be treated with the same views, standards, or regulations.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/25 08:46 PM
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Easy Guy, most women aren’t aggrieved, or even offended by men approaching them. Annoyed sometimes perhaps, but most women aren’t like the vocal minority TikTok would have you believe.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/25 06:02 PM
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Not it doesn’t, but it makes a far higher probability.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/25 05:50 PM
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I want to start a family, with kids & pets, in a house full of love and respect. I want a partner for life, that I can build a future with, filled with great memories and experiences
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/25 04:41 PM
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Money doesn’t equal time. I’ve never seen or heard effort equals power. Can you explain?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/25 03:32 PM
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I agree we need to stop the porn, but I think that would increase the instances of fantasizing about strangers/friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/25 01:44 PM
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Sounds like a great dynamic you’ve formed for your relationship. I’m glad it works for your team. If my girlfriend pulled out an OwO, I’d die laughing. Great playful way to way to make your partner feel needed.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/25 08:39 PM
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You’re looking at this from the wrong angle. If the government wants to invest money in the mail loneliness epidemic he should invest in things to improve men. I.e. tutoring, job training, outreach programs, physical fitness, better nutrition education, social and emotional support groups, hell even dating courses. The answer is not to push man further away from societal participation
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/25 04:36 PM
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He thinks he’s smart. Trying to use a communist labor principle to equate all work/production as the same. Then of course twisting it in an attempt at a “gotcha” to sex-positive/ liberal feminism. And it’s Sad.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/25 03:33 AM
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Haha, right!
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/25 08:50 PM
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Im going off the part where when other students asked him why he’s quiet, he’s response was to ignore the or tell them to fuck off. Not the norm, but Nothing wrong with not wanting to make friends with an individual. But harsh or aggressive responses isn’t good. But all I know is what you posted, so I don’t know if he was polite or not. He was probably a normal angst filled teen boy.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/25 08:03 PM
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Not being able to articulate why you do / decide something in a non aggressive way is a lack of social skills. Even if it’s by design, the fact that you don’t see the need to communicate in a socially acceptable manner, is a lack of social skills.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/25 07:50 PM
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Bingo! His asocial, and let be real, borderline antisocial behavior, added to his attractiveness. Also, op didn’t give any evidence that he wasn’t a loser, just that women found him attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/25 07:46 PM
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I agree that personality is important, and can turn a maybe into a yes. But the issue as I see it, is that a lot of men don’t want that. They want to be the attractive one, that gets a one night stand. They want to be the hot guy that gets away with toxic bullshit.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/25 03:32 PM
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Agreed. And as a man with ADHD, it can get hard with a partner in some ways. The guilt you feel about them being more organized/tidy and cleaning after you. The little teases they may say about you forgetting things. But it can definitely be done! Something’s that really helped me were non-medication based strategies. You can YouTube a bunch of them. Try some out, keep ones you like. Finding a system that works for you, is what matters. My kitchen is very oddly organized, but it’s more tidy. lol
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/25 02:57 PM
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It’s been a long time since I was in The RP space, do they talk about traditional values? I thought it was about self improvement until you have sexual options, then never committing.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/25 02:19 PM
0

And not that hard lol
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/25 05:27 PM
5

Thank you for the sensible comment.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/25 02:45 PM
1

I’ve known a guy that fits every one of your examples.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/25 11:45 PM
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Do 4B women hate their sons?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/25 10:16 PM
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Right?! Had me until the last one. Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/25 02:14 PM
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lol. I agree, and I find that the 5yo argument is way too common on this sub. I think the truth of this is, that both Men and women can be boring. Not least of which is the fact that people way different interests, and thus value other’s interests differently. The only wrong I see here, is actually calling someone boring. To me that means you didn’t get to know them.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/25 01:47 PM
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I see what you mean OP. Some of the folks do seem miserable.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/25 03:51 AM
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What childish logic is that? I never stated that I am or am not proud, which in fact I am not. I’m a little bit embarrassed to say that I agree with you, I also only live off my own accomplishments, which are many. One of them that we obviously don’t share is respect and kindness.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/25 02:33 AM
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Agreed. That’s evolution
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/25 02:23 AM
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Where did I say anything like that? Why are you coming at me? I stated a fact. Why are you so damn angry?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/25 02:20 AM
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The current landscape, is that the majority of women want a partner that makes more money than them. Have a great time at college, I bet you’re killing it 🤙🏾
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/25 02:15 AM
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I mean the last part is true. It’s the logical progression of women having more personal power and independence. If they get to choose, why wouldn’t they want the best partner they could get?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/25 02:03 AM
0

I agree that there’s some stolen valor being buoyed around. But that doesn’t take from the fact that over 90% over infrastructural labor is done by men.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/25 01:59 AM
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I agree about everything except women having it harder in dating. There’s just been too much data reported that counters that idea. The rest is spot on🤙🏾
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/25 01:55 AM
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I think, just like it’s useless for men to tell women to go for the “nice guy”, it’s silly for women to tell men who to go for. See rules 1&2 Attraction can’t be negotiated, physical or otherwise.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/25 07:44 PM
1

That’s a different conversation.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/25 05:55 PM
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You forgot rule number one and rule number two
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/25 04:50 PM
2

Women make the first move all the time, it’s just so subtle that most men don’t see it.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/25 04:49 PM
1

When the risks you describe are intimate, vulnerable, and potentially severe including death. But taken for someone who they don’t know, or haven’t vetted. Versus someone who’s supposedly thought to be more trustworthy, seems like bad decision making. The argument is that it shouldn’t be cheap and easy, and the inconsistency of it is sometimes.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/25 02:24 PM
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Grow up. Sex is one of the reasons the man asked you out and initiated dating you, if not the biggest reason. Is pussy the only value a woman has in a relationship, no, but it’s certainly part of it. Just like dick is for a man in a relationship. Sex a big part of a new relationship, and gets smaller over time. This doesn’t mean that anyone should have sex before they are comfortable, but let’s not be naive.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/25 02:09 PM
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This is low level thinking, with a total lack of empathy. It’s not a command, it’s an ultimatum.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/25 01:46 PM
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Sure don’t, but that’s their choice.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/25 11:38 PM
1

Most people don’t plan for a baby
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/25 10:55 PM
1

I agree, no one should be seeking an LTR with anyone who doesn’t have those qualities. Men, or women.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/25 10:44 PM
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Well put.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/25 10:38 PM
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Yeah, that’s how I feel about it. Back when it came out, I remember thinking it was weird. Then it became normalized and folded into “just taking care of yourself”
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/25 07:30 PM
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Ok, thanks for clarifying, I see your point. I disagree, and you’re clearly not open to another point of view.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/25 05:49 PM
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I’m sorry, I’m unclear. Are you saying that “no” men aren’t economically disadvantaged, like in the comment I was replying to, or are you agreeing yes they are, but it’s their own fault? Because I certainly agree, it’s on the individual. I was responding to you denying that they are.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/25 04:57 PM
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I can appreciate not going to the abuse statistics. So not the worst. Lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/25 03:25 PM
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What are you talking about? Cost of living (in the US and UK) has risen, wages haven’t kept up with inflation, which effects everyone. Add to that, less men are entering higher education. Why do you think it’s so difficult to buy a house? Women in the UK ages 16-30 just officially started out earning their male counterparts. On average. Then cross reference, that women now have a higher standard due to more economic, social, and political freedom (All good things BTW). Which means that their pot…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/25 03:22 PM
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Ok. If you’re set on doom and gloom, and can’t see the value of working on yourself to be a good presentable romantic candidate, then I can’t help you. Women aren’t as daunting as the internet would have you believe, but you seem to have already defeated yourself. 🤷🏾‍♂️
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/25 01:39 PM
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Let’s not forget that the majority of men are also at the lowest point of economic power (for men) they’ve ever been in, while negotiating the new higher standard.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/25 01:35 PM
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It didn’t. The idea of single income families is relatively new for humans, definitely not thousands of years old. And even when we did have the ability to do so, it wasn’t 100% of families.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/25 01:28 PM
2

I’m surprised it’s that low. Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/25 01:24 PM
1

I’m in LA, so for a middle class lifestyle we’re probably looking at 200k+, if the kids are going to private school then closer to 300.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/25 01:22 PM
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I see where you’re coming from, but you put all your breakdowns in the absolute worst possible light. Lol. No wonder women don’t want to get married.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/25 01:20 PM
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Thank you. I was looking for the reality comment. All this providing nonsense is a fucking fantasy. Most people in the west will have to work, and most couples will both have to work.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/25 01:12 PM
1

Most career oriented women delay having children so they can focus on their careers. It doesn’t physically stop them, although most take preventative measures.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/25 12:59 PM
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You and your relationship are a rarity. But genuinely, good for you and your partner. I wish you and your Short King all the best.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/25 12:54 PM
1

It’s not even mostly.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/25 12:45 PM
0

Whoops. I missed it like a CHUD. 😅
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/25 10:12 PM
1

Almost? That’s the entire point. RP is a counter “ism”.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/25 10:04 PM
2

Not true. Check out Hoe Math’s sword pill video, it’s a really good breakdown on this, and give good advice. Just because some men didn’t win the 🧬 lottery doesn’t mean you can’t do well with women.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/25 09:27 PM
1

Congrats on your health and fitness journey.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/25 07:40 PM
1

Gaslit you how?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/25 01:46 PM
0

And the unfortunate truth is, ugly dudes and be shit too. Sorry you gave them a shot and they fumbled.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/25 01:45 PM
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Whining is unattractive to women because it comes off as not confident, and insecure. OP wasn’t specific about when / how “men” are complaining. If it’s in a 1 on 1 setting, like begging for a date, or pleading for sex. I agree. But I think this forum tends to deal with larger issues, and the discussion of men’s greater issues isn’t the same as mere complaints. But what do I know
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/25 01:43 PM
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Why are you speaking for a group of men, or anyone for that matter?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/24 01:23 AM
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I feel feminism I a good thing in general, there is absolutely no reason women shouldn’t have the same rights as men. Although, it definitely has its own problems.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/24 01:13 AM
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I couldn’t agree with this post more. Most men who fantasize about a traditional wife and family, don’t realize that they simply can afford it and it’s very difficult to make enough money to provide a middle class lifestyle on a sole income.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 10:05 PM
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Or, women have the ability to change their personal standards at any given moment, and choose to let their high standards go for a limited amount of time (how phase, girls night), or for an individual candidate (“chad”), just because she feels like it. Which is totally her right as an individual. But by doing this it does allow men to hold both of these opinions simultaneously.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 09:45 PM
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It would have made a better post. After reading what you put forth as evidence of your claim, it seems like a reach. And the article you shared would be better for a different post. To me it looks like you shoehorned it in. Also, pop culture isn’t even on the top 10 world wide searches. Any of those would be better to use in an argument. Especially since it doesn’t give any of the numbers.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/24 10:08 PM
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No, your making a leap with your claim. Harley as a search was still second to Star Wars, in the pop culture category. The pop culture category didn’t have sufficient numbers to hit the top 10 worldwide. You’re asserting a claim that men are attracted to a toxic female archetype, where it clearly shows that the majority aren’t. You could have made a far better case of male infantilism, siting the milf category searches. Or making some sort of fantasy control claim about how there been a massive …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/24 09:51 PM
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Your article says the top search is hentai, and Harley isn’t mentioned in any of the top searches. Im surprised that interracial isn’t in the top 3 anymore.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/24 03:17 PM
4

Some silly shit
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/24 03:17 PM
2

You just split social skills in different categories and shit on the ones you don’t have. All your examples + charm is the whole skill set. You seem mad that you’re not getting credit for partial answers.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/24 12:57 AM
1

They don’t. Top male porn performers make less than half as much, same with OF creators.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/24 12:54 AM
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Cheating is defined by what a couple agrees is cheating. So if a couple agrees porn is cheating, then it is. If a couple agrees that they can hook up with 1 person a month outside of the relationship, as long as they are under 4’11” and red headed. Then it’s not cheating. If someone has an issue with porn use then they need to speak up.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/24 09:33 PM
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And that’s why it’s dumb AF
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/24 09:30 PM
3

So the anime girl that’s the best friend?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/24 09:29 PM
8

Graceful movement.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/24 09:28 PM
0

I don’t understand the question you’re asking. This thread is filled with the difference in earning potential of men vs women as SWs. So you should already know the answer to your question, and that women have the advantage. I never said they couldn’t try.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/24 09:27 PM
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Who said they can’t?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/24 02:22 AM
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I wouldn’t quite agree, but I see where you’re coming from. I don’t think most people (women) can make a lot of money as a SW. Personally I do agree that the repercussions are too much for my taste, but that doesn’t mean an attractive 18 women can’t make a million dollars in 5 years with an OF page. And if she invests it wisely by 30 she won’t have to work. Yes, there’s a lot of moral and social fallout, but it’s up to her if she’s ok with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/24 11:39 PM
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That’s a great point. But it doesn’t invalidate the option, nor does it mean you can’t do both at the same time.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/24 10:43 PM
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As I said to commenter below. The bottom line is that every choice comes with consequences, and sacrifices. The real question is if the individual feels they’re worth it. Most people don’t in this instance, so they don’t make that choice. But that doesn’t mean that the advantage isn’t there. The ability to make quick substantial capital, by any means, is an advantage in a capitalist society. Whether or not an individual is ok with the consequences, is a different topic.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/24 10:41 PM
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Ask them. Any choice comes with consequences, and sacrifices. The real question is if you think it’s worth those. I imagine most don’t, because most don’t. Now quit trolling, I’m done feeding you.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/24 08:47 PM
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I don’t know about masculine or feminine, but it would be nice if they had better manners. But I feel that way about everyone
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/24 08:44 PM
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You know how silly you sound right? First, how many people have financial literacy? Not a lot. Second, just because you can make a choice, doesn’t mean you make that specific choice. As you know. Third, the poor and struggling have less opportunities. Which you definitely know, that’s why you made a feelings aimed comment. Just because I’m talented at violence doesn’t mean I commit it for my personal gain, for many reasons. Some people certainly do, but that doesn’t mean I can’t. And just like y…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/24 08:40 PM
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This is inaccurate. It actually fits every definition of consent found on google. Voluntary, informed, revocable, clear, and not implied. This assumes that the SW isn’t trafficked.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/24 07:57 PM
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It is. But they don’t choose that path, for many reasons, and the one you put forth is a good one.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/24 07:51 PM
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Yes. Because in a capitalist society, your best option is to generate capital, then take that capital and invest it in the market so it can grow. The hard part of capitalist existence, is being able to generate enough capital to invest, while still having enough time for it to grow. So if women have the opportunity to generate a large amount of capital in a shorter amount of time, it’s a massive advantage.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/24 07:48 PM
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In the film business shoot days are 14-16 hours. So it’s probably closer than you think.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/24 07:44 PM
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There’s 2 large groups that aren’t taken into account by the old played out view. Asshole “bad boys” lie. It’s one of the biggest reasons the women I know that have wasted time on them. A lot of people (especially when younger) stay in unhealthy relationships too long. The “bad boy” look is considered attractive, and cool. There’s actually a large overlap of normal/ decent guys who look like a “bad boy” because of the style. So at first glance a “nice guy” could make an incorrect snap judgment.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/24 06:16 PM
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Well, it’s not like you know what a woman’s tits looks like until your pretty much already about to have sex. 2. Just because she doesn’t have your ideal pair of tots doesn’t necessarily make it a deal breaker. She can be beautiful physically in all other aspects. 3. Ruining the moment, and rejecting someone at this juncture is so heart breaking it might be better to go through with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/24 02:05 PM
3

Great answer. Thanks for sharing
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/24 02:00 PM
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It is true. The problem, is that most don’t realize, that they aren’t supposed to be. Courts are supposed to be neutral, and society is supposed to be about everyone. SMH 🤦🏾‍♂️
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/24 02:25 PM
2

Yup, it just take 1 hitler to galvanize the disenfranchised. Then we’ll all have a headache.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 10:51 PM
1

Sounds like you have the perfect standards then. Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 10:49 PM
2

Yeah no. You make a good example, but but trading power and status for beauty is more in effect now then ever. It’s just been rebranded as Clout.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 10:33 PM
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The Dems/SS still refer to him as the big dog when they cart him out.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 10:32 PM
4

Exactly
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 10:29 PM
6

Damn shame really, that’s why it’s so important for every group to police its wackos. If you don’t, then the movement get discredited.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 10:26 PM
22

Ahhh, a sensible answer. I was looking for this.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 10:23 PM
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I’d say most of the misdirected anger was by the dudes. The negative fallout from Me Too, out of paranoia was pretty bad.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 10:21 PM
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I’m not really against your point, but I’ll throw out… the wide spread social acceptance, and validation of women’s feelings. No matter what those feelings are in the moment, or the consequences of the actions they may take due to those feelings.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 10:18 PM
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We started coddling cowards with the advent of the “participation trophy” so like 1998.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 10:13 PM
1

Well as the commenter above said, few do want those women. As far as pursuing women who would associate with these “bad men”, it’s not like people walk around in T-shirts that bullet point their personalities and preferences.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 07:20 PM
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Is it because he’s “black and left leaning” lol
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 09:37 PM
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It’s not hypothetical. Just like you can have sex with someone but not want to date them. You can not want to date someone for whatever reason you want, it doesn’t make you a hypocrite to be attracted enough to want sex from them.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 09:14 PM
2

Fair enough. So the lying is a crucial element? Well that’s gross
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 07:56 PM
2

Men hate sluts?! Since when? Men love sluts, they just don’t like when a slut doesn’t sleep with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 06:24 PM
1

You wouldn’t try to intervene in the best interest of a family member? That’s some fuck shit
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 06:22 PM
2

💯
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 06:19 PM
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Not always. When I was an asshole, and trying to have lots of sex, I never lied or manipulated the women I was with. I was, honest and nonchalant, “I’m here to have fun, you wanna come too?” Then again, this was before the emotional fuckboi roller coaster became popular.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 06:16 PM
0

Really? That’s awful, most of my married friends are Happy AF
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/24 04:36 AM
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Women also benefit financially from marriage. The net wealth of both people goes up like 60-70% over time.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/24 04:34 AM
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/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/24 05:39 PM
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/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/24 05:35 PM
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/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/24 05:29 PM
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/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/24 05:20 PM
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/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/24 05:19 PM
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For being disruptive. Which unfortunately feed into the cycle of missing class, and hating schools. No one is saying that girls should suffer. This thread is highlighting that boys, and young men need help. Not that girls and women should have anything taken from them. Both can happen
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/24 12:06 AM
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Where did she say anything like that?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/24 11:26 PM
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Sure. Start on the women’s side, and we can meet in the middle. Like a bunch of adults lol To answer your question. Never! And that’s the fucking problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/24 08:02 PM
1

That’s seems like good logic for women to approach more often because they’re more selective. There’s also an argument to be made, that if women were to approach then men would basically not bother/ harass them as much, because the norm would be to wait until a women would approach you.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/24 05:44 PM
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I agree with your point. But I’m curious as to why you don’t think women shouldn’t have to carry the burden?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/24 02:58 PM
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Exactly. People aren’t one dimensional, not to say that he wasn’t a monster. Just that it isn’t that simple.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/24 03:29 AM
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Your view is very black and white. Most people don’t, and won’t fit in it. Not just mobsters.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/24 09:39 PM
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Ok. There’s a lot here. I do believe that the person you delt with is a total piece of shit. Your relationship was probably never healthy, and this person just fed off you like and emotional vampire. Unfortunately, this is land of a normal experience for guys in their late teens and early twenties. ( I can’t speak for women, but I’m sure there’s an equivalent) I’m sorry for experience, but there are a lot of good people out there, who will treat you better.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/24 11:07 PM
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As someone who’s has been the dumper most of my life, having moved on both quickly (rarely), and slowly. Your take just ain’t it. It can hurt like hell to leave someone, but you’re doing it because you feel that it’s a better choice than to continue. For whatever reasons you have. People move on in their own time, it seems like they didn’t care, because they were moving away during the end of the relationship. They probably stayed longer than they should have. This doesn’t mean they didn’t, or n…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/24 07:54 PM
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This is Lame AF. Everyone wants expectational, but most people aren’t themselves. Just another post about how mid people are in order to reinforce the idea of never settling, even though it’s a better survival strategy for the majority of people.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/24 03:47 PM
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Me too. I never understood it myself.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/24 08:53 PM
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That’s odd to assume. Most people don’t own their own home.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/24 08:49 PM
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Haha. 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/24 08:47 PM
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Me too, specifically having gotten to 3rd grade bait being able to. Because my female teachers either couldn’t tell, or didn’t care that I was faking it.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/24 08:46 PM
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Different cultures, right? 🤷🏾‍♂️ I hear Korean courtship is also extremely expensive
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/24 11:34 PM
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I couldn’t agree more
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/24 09:05 PM
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We do see it in primates. The females are “nicer”, more compliant and less combative with the alpha male.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/24 09:04 PM
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I totally agree. Pretty much anything can happen in a relationship, so long as the people involved are informed, and in agreement.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/24 08:06 PM
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To them, it is better than nothing.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/24 07:55 PM
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Me too
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/24 07:53 PM
3

Have fun! I fucking loved MTG
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/24 07:52 PM
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Or too stupid.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/24 12:33 AM
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Thanks
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/24 09:07 PM
10

I totally agree. To each their own, but definitely not for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/24 04:06 PM
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Source please? I don’t know much about matriarchal societies In practice.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/24 01:12 AM
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The equalization of pay is a net positive for society. If men are struggling, then they need to improve and become more. The salary you make is only one part of being a human, work on the others. Women have entered the competition in this facet of life, so you have to out compete them, no different than other men. This smacks of losers wanting nepotism, if it weren’t women, it would be minority men, or foreign men. I’m not saying it’s easy, but the only answer is to try harder.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/24 03:11 PM
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Sounds like a great plan to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/24 02:56 PM
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Cultivate happiness. Nothing wrong with wanting a great little life.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/24 02:54 PM
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If I’m not mistaken the Natzis got close, but it involved killing them all. Which of course isn’t the best option, at least IMO.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/24 08:13 PM
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I disagree that it’s moral. I also don’t think it’s the majority, which is the original point I disagreed with you on. I ask you do the same as far as looking at this sub, as much as the men are jumping through hoops, so are the ladies. This whole issue is about poor communication, and it’s unfortunately devolved into finger pointing about who’s responsible for a message getting across. It’s fucking both.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/24 12:03 AM
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I don’t think it’s men specific. I think anyone being shown something new by someone with experience, patience, and willingness to teach is good for pretty much everything.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/24 09:25 PM
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There was some case where a man filed for divorce based on this and won.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/24 01:44 PM
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Get him! 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/24 01:43 PM
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Why should they? She’s fulfilling her end of the relationship agreement. If he knew this would be a problem, he should have negotiated a provision/ suggested opening the marriage/ not married her.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/24 01:42 PM
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I have to disagree with you. First off, you’re not talking about relationships, you’re talking about dating and courtship phase. During the opening phase women are more passive, because deciding on potential dudes. You’re the more active party. In the scenario you put forward, the ball is definitely in his court. It’s rare a women suggests you spend time together, they usually wait for you to ask. Essentially, she asked him out. And that’s about as easy as it gets. Should he make plans and get h…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/24 03:02 AM
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Yeah, it’s not great. Haha
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/24 12:35 AM
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Mostly I just miss the people. The superficial, garbage in LA is infuriating
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/24 12:28 AM
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God I miss the south. You’re to right on that, and it a shame. Women shouldn’t have to be scared / on edge.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/24 12:23 AM
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Oof, why not? It’s the easiest way to find out what gets you wet. Seems like a communication issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/24 11:48 PM
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That was passionate of you, lol. I’ve definitely heard the real ish from women in my life. But the discussion of the thread is about the common response of women. Which as you just said, isn’t what they say. Because men can’t handle it. To answer some of that though. I would love it if women were totally honest, it would save me a lot of time and energy. But I can only speak for myself.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/24 11:47 PM
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If the subject never comes up, then it never becomes communicated. IME the guys I’ve known who strung women along, just never talked about the relationship for as long as possible. When the women finally couldn’t stand the holding pattern/grey area/ vague fuckery anymore, he was honest and said he didn’t want anything more. At total face value.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/24 10:56 PM
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When have you ever asked, while in a safe nonjudgmental environment?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/24 09:18 PM
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I’d disagree. How many women are directly asking where they stand in a relationship?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/24 09:09 PM
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IMO, the misunderstanding from men is because we think differently. When asked a question, we tend to answer completely, as if the person asking has no baseline of information. Example: if you were to ask a man what he’s looking for in a partner, he will mention something that indicates attractiveness. It may vary, from “a 7.5” to being extremely detailed, or a certain body type, then they will remark on desired personality. So, no. Men often don’t assume that women mean that attractiveness is a…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/24 09:02 PM
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100% agree
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/24 08:11 PM
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I think his social media presence has moved to far away from the middle. He was always in the more conservative side, but I saw him as a moderate. Not so much now.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/24 06:10 PM
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I liked Peterson’s books, “12 rules for life” really helped me personally. I feel like he’s seriously gone off the deep end since then, but I digress. The thing is, the principles Peterson teaches will take you toward success. If you feel that the success it takes you toward isn’t what you want then there’s nothing further to discuss. When it comes to women, the basic thing to know, is you will have more success in attracting mates if you are a functioning adult, and attractive. Peterson’s teach…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/24 03:21 PM
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Yup. In some places, once upon a time a false accusation could get you dragged behind a truck on a rocky road.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/24 03:22 PM
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What is the matrix?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/24 08:08 PM
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By consuming more mainstream media you can become more inline with the zeitgeist. You can pick up what styles of comedy are effective on certain demographics, be knowledgeable on topics and current events so you can add interesting points in conversations.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/24 08:07 PM
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Yeah, but they don’t. Dancing is the only free thing at a club, and they often don’t pay at the gate.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/24 03:26 PM
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Interesting. I have few friends in tech, can you tell me about it?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/24 03:24 PM
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I live on the west coast, I haven’t heard anything like this. Yes commitment and monogamy aren’t high among the “flashy folk” but actual poly isn’t talked about, that I’ve heard of.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/24 03:02 PM
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No, they fail because men bring in the money.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/24 02:57 PM
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Did you have a good time at least?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/24 02:56 PM
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Yeah, I got that driver set too in my teen years. Turns out if you listen to it you never get a chance at romance, I had to get a toxicity injection in my early 20s to balance it out.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/24 02:51 PM
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I used to think the exact same thing you did. Then my ex shared her experiences at doctors offices, where she was constantly dismissed and disregarded. And there are many disorders that only women suffer from that didn’t get nearly as much research as they should have, like Perimenopause, endometriosis, and other hormone related issues.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/24 12:58 AM
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I can’t speak for the Manosphere types. I think I didn’t express the my point clearly. I’m not saying men take their personal safety as seriously as women, we don’t. The point I was trying to make, is that most of us are raised, that we are the only ones responsible for our safety. Is we get hurt by accident, we shouldn’t have been doing something stupid. If we get hurt while failing an attempt at something, it’s because we suck. If we get attacked, we are expected to be able to defend ourselves…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/24 12:08 AM
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Me too. It’s sad but fascinating.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/24 12:03 AM
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I understand, i don’t know about their specific claim, I interpreted it as overall minority oppression. But I’m not in that commenter’s head 🤷🏾‍♂️. That’s weird, there were some interesting reports on it.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/24 11:52 PM
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Wait, what! You’re basing a theory of what male upbringing in regard to personal safety, on a garbage article reporting the differences on what college students focus on while walking alone at night! You can’t be serious. LMFAO, GTFO! The article was mildly interesting, and can be easily broken down by the difference between men and women’s life experiences based on physical development. Especially when walking alone. To use that as a basis to argue that men don’t think their personal safety is …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/24 11:48 PM
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As a minority, male, California native I couldn’t second this enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/24 11:33 PM
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And the years of medical research that dismissed women.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/24 11:32 PM
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Wow, this is a very poor view of men. I’m sorry for whatever (because it’s a whole lot of things) that have lead you to this conclusion.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/24 11:31 PM
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Google it. Affirmation action policies mostly benefited white women. (at least in the US) Proving America was more racist than sexist. Go figure 🤷🏾‍♂️
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/24 11:26 PM
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Ok, just no. Men are actually raised to think their personal safety is Only their responsibility. From risk taking thrills, to picking fights and having to defend themselves. Yes, we have the biological advantage of being on average larger and stronger, but we are also more likely to be victims of violence. I’m not saying this to invalidate that women are at risk. But your perspective is entirely uninformed.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/24 11:20 PM
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Great advice, thanks for sharing
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/24 12:26 AM
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I think you maybe a bit purple my friend
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/24 12:25 AM
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There the tricky part. I’ve been in relationships where my partner had similar views. I’m cool with her wanting to be my soul sexual outlet. The problem was, she wasn’t ready for the responsibility, and wanted it to be on her terms.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/24 07:03 PM
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Easy. I didn’t mean to anger you. I don’t appreciate the point jab at the end. I’ve treated rape victims in ERs, and military installations, I’ve done investigations for SA that have lead to multiple firings and arrests. Not to mention committing violence against men you were out of line, and in the act. What you describe is absolutely true, and a total shame. When we face reality, it’s not common. It’s absolutely deplorable, the actions of these men is monstrous. But the overwhelming majority o…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/24 02:36 AM
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Yeah, i feel like these are universal “turn the fuck around” signs. Man or woman, if someone is all of these they probably need help.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/24 11:32 PM
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Like the person above said, they started in good faith and then stopped in the face of no acceptance, in a stagnant conversation. Good for you supporting the BLM movement, (personally I don’t) but both issues come down to a personal choice. They differ from you I guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/24 08:11 PM
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I don’t disagree that men in the past were too accepting of bad behavior. I like to think it’s getting better, but still has a long way to go. The social situations you’re describing are the trickiest of grey area. Are the people involved actually witnessing the act of rape? Is an inebriated women calling for help? Or would it appear to an intoxicated on looker that 2 drunk people are talking, connecting, hooking up. It’s simply not always easy to spot at a glance. People make bad decisions when…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/24 08:04 PM
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They are, but they don’t see a reason not to be. See above. ☝🏾
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/24 07:55 PM
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My family is really open, and involved In each other’s lives. Definitely can get annoying lol
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/24 07:11 PM
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Because we were teenagers, and our relationship at the time was very close. We were one of each others best friends at the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/24 06:17 PM
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What the fuck? For someone with reality in their flair, you sure went to some dark TV melodrama quick.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/24 06:14 PM
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Yup. We’re close, and I asked her questions about dating, sex, women in general, style, music, what’s cool. She’s 2 years older and Bi, had a lot of good advice.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/24 06:13 PM
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She heard from a girl I hooked up with a school.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/24 06:10 PM
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Yeah, I never understood that. I was lucky, when my sister found out I was big, she told me oral was important to help facilitate size. Stuck with me. Anecdotal, but ever truly awful player/fuck boy I’ve heard of through women in my life. I’m talking about the kind of guy that women put up for years, was both great at oral and had a big dick.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/24 02:40 PM
2

Haha 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/24 02:36 PM
1

See the Pug corollary
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/24 02:35 PM
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Learn to pay attention to your partner, so you can adjust what you’re doing accordingly. There was a post yesterday saying that foreplay isn’t important, no matter what the stats said it was wrong. Get good at oral, just to have more tools in your bag. Loosen up, sex can get gross, sweaty, and sticky, get over it. Listen to your partner, and not be judgmental. Physically, work core (I hate that this helps, I hate core work) and build up your cardio. Flexibility helps.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/24 02:33 PM
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We’d have to have a long conversation about it. I’m open to my partner having kinks, but I’d need some details so this fantasy could be realized.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/24 08:33 PM
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Great practice, I ascribe to the same. I think everyone is more comfortable when there’s a friend stage.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/24 03:54 PM
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To be fair, even if a man know he wants a relationship, he’s still trying to get to know you before he decides. Unfortunately, most guys are impatient about the sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/24 02:32 PM
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Agreed. I think that was the spirt of the idea.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/24 01:38 AM
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How to pay bills, set a budget, save money, and basic investment strategies. How to prioritize spending
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/24 12:08 AM
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I couldn’t say. I wasn’t there, and I’m not them. It could be a bad attempt at a passionate gaze, it could be cannibalist hunger. If it gave you the ick, or made you want to run, that’s the important thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/24 10:57 PM
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I read a great book once called “the gift of fear”. It doesn’t matter what the look is, or why it inspires fear from you. What matters is that you act it and GTFO.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/24 10:33 PM
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Or simple disagreement, whether it based in logic, fact, or feeling. Which of course, men’s feelings aren’t as important.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/24 10:28 PM
1

I believe the term is toxic compassion. But I’m not sure
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/24 10:26 PM
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They’re a rare find.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/24 10:23 PM
1

While I see the value in psyc as a mandatory class, I feel personal finance would be far more beneficial.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/24 10:20 PM
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I’m sorry for your experiences.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/24 10:18 PM
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That sucks on both sides of the coin. I don’t think anyone should feel they have to lie about who they are, and I don’t think it ok to give a false impression of yourself. Kind of sad
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/24 09:57 PM
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Yes, it was very much the second one.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/24 09:54 PM
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Yeah, I’ll never make the mistake of saying that one out loud to a woman again. Ruined a whole friend group for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/24 09:45 PM
2

Do Bi men lie about their sexuality often?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/24 09:36 PM
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Ahhh, early 2000s equality. (Maybe 90s) Back when they tried to teach us all that nobody is special, because we’re all equally special. That no one is better than anyone else, and to only judge people based on their actions. Even though it’s been decried, and fallen out of fashion, I can’t tell you enough how well it’s served me.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/24 09:32 PM
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I totally agree. It’s fucking sad
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/24 09:07 PM
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Not to mention, the fetishization of the women.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/24 02:47 PM
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To be fair, at least here in the US, people won’t try and stop 2 men fighting, or 2 women. (Just pull out their phones SMH). We’ve very much become a not my problem society.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/24 02:36 PM
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I think the general truth is that most men aren’t satisfying sexual partners. This fact leads to 1. Women aren’t particularly interested in “trying something new”, 2. The bad boy ex nonsense (alpha widow I think it’s called), 3. Inaccurate belief in women’s sexuality, and libido.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/24 03:50 PM
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Unfortunately that’s the question that’s never asked in that sub. It was also kind of rare to see if anyone ever asked what was happening in the husbands life out side of the bedroom.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/24 03:45 PM
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Mass media has done serious damage to the male image as well. Gym membership is at an all time high, anabolic steroid usage has been trending up for years, and let’s not get started on the whole height situation.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/24 03:38 PM
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I know right. We could all do with a dose of empathy and desire for better understanding.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/24 03:33 PM
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I’d like to hear more about why they are more innocent than men?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/24 03:32 PM
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Haha. It definitely seems like it on that sub.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/24 03:28 PM
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Unfortunately, I disagree. In my experience most women do consistently try to push responsibility away. I find they do this mostly through using plausible deniability on everything.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/24 03:27 PM
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I’d like to add, That men aren’t always in the mood.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/24 03:24 PM
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Yeah, one of my best buds is big into that. Great guy, gets so many girls. Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/24 03:21 PM
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I totally agree. I wish both sides would just try to be empathetic, and attempt some understanding of one another.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/24 03:15 PM
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Hell yeah! Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/24 03:12 PM
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For the same reason I can make the same example, but set it in a trailer park using white people. It just an example, you choose to virtue signal instead of addressing the point.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/24 02:35 AM
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This is the root of it, right here. OP is just frustrated that women have a sense of blind solidarity. It can definitely get annoying, but in my experience when you talk to a woman 1 on 1, they have a lot of criticism. if you’ve gained a woman’s , or group of women’s trust they usually aren’t so supportive.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/24 01:34 AM
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I’m black, and I’m more offended by you making this a race issue, and not following the point.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/24 01:23 AM
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Stop feeding the troll.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/24 01:21 AM
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It’s both. But my personal experience makes me think more on the older men side. Since I turned 30, and have gained more success/ confidence dating got easier, and dating younger wasn’t ever an issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/24 08:04 PM
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Totally agree. It’s a ridiculous take.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/24 07:57 PM
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Sorry Typo, I meant tolerance. Tolerance also means being able to coexist in common space interaction. It’s not cuddling someone to not attempt to take advantage of them.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/24 03:04 PM
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No, her choice is her choice. Her action in mocking him was the rude part, making a face is immature and uncalled for. We don’t have the details of the interaction, but with the information we do have, she handled it like an asshole.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/24 02:42 PM
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This is a very real take, and I ascribe to this kind of pragmatism. That being said, the western world has made a very large effort in the last 10-15 years to be more tolerant than this, on more than neurodivergence, but all minorities. More importantly, the basic lesson of not being a manipulative, dishonest, in intolerant person would get more bang for the societal buck.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/24 02:34 PM
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No it’s not. The women in question chose to be Rude AF when rejecting him.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/24 02:09 PM
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Sorry for your experiences.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/24 02:08 PM
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Sorry for experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/24 06:29 AM
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Why not? Where do you draw your line? When is it ok to be manipulated, and not shown empathy?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/24 06:25 AM
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Manipulation is horrible.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/24 06:23 AM
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Your first sentence is victim blaming. People should be taught not to be manipulative.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/24 06:21 AM
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My personal experience talking to the women I’m close to says differently. It seems more like a mood and context kind of thing to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/24 12:37 AM
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Wow. My comment did not go as planned. I used the term boogeyman for humor. Mostly I hear of the Lazy spouse from women who are, single as an excuse to not commit, or part of a men are trash rant. I know for a fact that they do exist, and unfortunately are more common than they should be. I definitely don’t have men are wonderful goggles. I try to be a realist, which is why I started with productive communication, and boiled down to the difficult question. Good communication is harder than most …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/24 01:33 PM
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Good point
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/24 01:26 PM
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The information I gave you was on a specific scene in a movie. The person above commented on a slew of negative qualities, and didn’t connect them to being feminine. He connected them to be a loser. I agree that femininity is undervalued. But is mostly been devalued by feminists, in recent history. Since you went personal exp. I will too. I’ve done the most masculine things that you’re talking about. I’ve been to war, twice. It’s awful. I personally support you in living the life you want. But i…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/24 04:28 AM
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Huh? Prince Charming slays the dragon, defeats the evil villain or what ever. Definitely capable of violence, just controlled and less aggressive. He’s the All American quarterback / valedictorian/ class president. Hyper successful Mr perfect.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/24 04:10 AM
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You didn’t see the movie. Physical weakness isn’t feminine. You’re equating gender dimorphism with personality traits. Physically weak men exist, and they can be very masculine. Just like women can be physically strong. Just because you don’t see the value of femininity, does mean it should be spoken of like it’s the less good option between 2 things.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/24 01:18 AM
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I disagree. Women want Prince Charming, but there’s very few available, and he’s usually with the princess. The “Bad Boy” is less rare, and has some of the same attractive qualities of the prince. Most importantly, the “Bad Boy” pursues her. Because he pursues everybody
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/24 01:14 AM
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Seriously? Younger women like the “Bad Boy” because it shows false high status “alpha” traits. Men like “Slutty girls” because they display hyper sexual characteristics. Pretty simple, and most people grow out of both.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/24 01:08 AM
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I think given the context of the video, it would be horribly inappropriate to tell him to “Man Up”. This clearly needs to be a vent session, followed by gently/ humorously accepting reality type situation. Definitely needs a drink involved.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/24 01:05 AM
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I would say healthy communication is probably to right path, gender doesn’t matter when respectfully addressing your partner. I think what you’re driving at, is the husband in your scenario is the stereotypical doesn’t pull his domestic weight boogie man that women tend to fear getting in a relationship with. To answer that question, how do I get my husband to be better? The jury is still out.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/24 01:02 AM
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Would “tits up” be better. The phrase in the show Mrs. Maisel, uses it as the exact same.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/24 12:51 AM
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What part of being feminine is weakness? And why isn’t the awesome parts of femininity ever used in these discussions? One of the most feminine things I’ve ever seen was the birth scene in Apocalypto. That women was a fucking beast.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/24 12:35 AM
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Women are supposed to be picky, if you believe in it, it’s by evolutionary design. The issue is the majority of men aren’t hitting the standard, but instead of trying harder they complain. BTW, isn’t women being pickier one of the number 1 complaints of RP/Manoshpere dude?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/24 12:21 AM
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It’s entirely subjective. Some people love the Fake look, some women want that look. Everyone’s personal aesthetic is up to them. It’s one of the best parts of this life.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/24 08:12 PM
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Sure. That’s why I googled the procedure, I hadn’t heard of it before your comment. Still couldn’t find any numbers to support your claim. I found out that it’s pretty affordable, that theres information on a specific cohort over a 7 year period. That it’s in the rise in Canada. But no numbers to back your claim that it happing enough to say that body count is a huge thing. Mind sending in some numbers? What I did find was that most women who got it done were already past the courting phase of a…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/24 03:41 PM
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I agree. I should have also said that it’s probably a very rare occurrence.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/24 03:35 PM
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How many women? Because it’s mostly done in turkey just before a wedding. Are these western women? Are they mostly apart of conservative cultures?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/24 04:43 AM
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I mean, depending on the timing, it could have been right before they got together. In which case it would make total sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/24 01:13 AM
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That is an interesting thought, but it runs direct counter to a woman wanting to see a man be responsible and independent. So he can assist in caring, and providing for a family. I guess one side has to win though. 🤷🏾‍♂️
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/24 12:52 AM
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You know, I didn’t believe this for the longest time. But recently I really started seeing it. Damn shame.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/24 12:50 AM
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The body count thing isn’t nearly as big a deal IRL as the internet portrays.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/24 12:48 AM
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Most people, mostly complain about money. Then the other big common things come to mind, Job, Family, Politics. There’s 4 things commonly complained about by most adults, without getting more specific about those 4 topics. Hell, even though men and women complain about their different perspectives on dating, they’re still complaining about dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/24 12:45 AM
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Fair. What’s your plan?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 10:04 PM
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Haha. Thanks.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 10:01 PM
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Yup, sometimes it’s hilarious, and sometimes it sucks.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 10:01 PM
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Me too. What up Xenllenial
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 10:00 PM
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Shhhh, you’ll glitch him.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 09:51 PM
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I’m a millennial, feel free to disregard the following. When I was a teen and in my 20s, I thought the same as you when it came to my dad giving me advice. The truth is, he was right. There are a few universal truths that will always be successful advice in dating. Get your shit together. Good hygiene, be in shape, job, car (if not in a public transit city), move out of your parents place ASAP, get some style. Get resilient when it comes to rejection, It’s going to happen a lot. The mental stabi…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 08:50 PM
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Both men and women value is relative to the goals of who ever is evaluating them. If a women in her 20s places a lot of value on financial stability, then an older guy would have a higher chance, than a guy in his 20. If a man in his 30s wants kids and a family, then a women in her 20 is a better pick, than a women in her 40s.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 05:31 PM
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Hell of a guy to have around.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 07:22 PM
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Yes. I have always had female friends, they’re great if you actually enjoy women. My female friends have taught me a lot over the years, and given me some amazing advice and perspective.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 07:17 PM
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I feel like the biggest differences are the ratios you show interest in. Like the other comment said, asking and showing interest in her hobbies or details. With a guy, a conversation can totally be about the thing that is currently happening, without branching further. Also women tend to approach things from a more emotional standpoint, so more questions to ask for clarification, and more empathy practice. IME women tend to be more vague. No. If I become closer to a woman I stay pretty much the…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/24 12:10 PM
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Considering they a military aged males (roughly 13-50), I imagine it has more to do with crime rates, and violence. My personal views are similar in some cases. When the US left Afghanistan, we should have loaded up as many women, girls, and boys under 10 as we could. I think the same for women in states where where reproductive rights are oppressed. Welcome any women who wants to come, to Cali.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/24 11:14 PM
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Best Hitler reference I’ve seen in a long time. Thanks for the laugh.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/24 09:55 PM
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You just said only online, and I was a little shocked. So I had to ask.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/24 09:35 PM
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I totally agree, but it’s what some young men experience. I was in the same boat at that age and I’m a millennial. I didn’t get past it until I joined the army, and got injected with a dose of toxic masculinity.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/24 09:28 PM
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This is fantastic comment, thank you for sharing your experience. It gets better, and easier BTW.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/24 09:26 PM
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I feel like that is definitely part of the problem. I also feel like a lot of people in general don’t talk to strangers, which would means to not approaching.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/24 09:20 PM
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That thread mostly explained that women don’t see men as attractive enough to immediately want to have sex with upon first site. It also explained that more men can be considered “fuckable” than you’d think. Most women don’t want to have sex with someone they don’t know, which makes sense. That is different than female sex drive, with in a safe trusting relationship where the couple has satisfying sex women can be ramped up to 11.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/24 09:17 PM
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Only online? None of the women in your life have ever shared their varying levels of annoyance being approached by random men? Some of the stories can be hilarious.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/24 09:13 PM
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What risks does it pose? I don’t see how it’s has any more risk than giving a male approach time and attention. I’m genuinely interested.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/24 09:10 PM
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That’s a really good video. He has a lot of good stuff
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/24 09:06 PM
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Great answer
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/24 10:36 PM
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I’m glad, what you described sounds rough NGL.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/24 08:27 PM
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I’m not arguing your original point. But no, 18-29 isn’t that big a range. If you look on the other end 30-79 is more than double.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/24 08:10 PM
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I’m sorry for your experience, good luck friendo.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/24 08:05 PM
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I’m sorry you feel so much stress around this.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/24 08:05 PM
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Self awareness and honesty are alway respected. It doesn’t mean you you have an excuse to not pay attention to the conversation, or be present in the social situation though. Just participate when you’re comfortable.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/24 01:58 PM
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Start Looks Maxing, and practice kind honest responses that let people know your shy, or don’t know what to say. If you can also make those responses funny, you’re golden. And remember non-verbal responses can go a long way, the appropriate smile, lifted eyebrow, or wink can convey a lot.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/24 01:50 PM
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If you’re good looking being an introvert is actually plus in most cases.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/24 01:38 PM
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You can worry all you want. But I assure you that I’m quite a good partner, and my partners all grew as people, were well cared for, and satisfied in our relationships. Did you skip the part of my comment where it says women also hunt? They just use a different method?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/24 01:31 PM
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I appreciate that, and I respect your feelings. But it’s the unfortunate reality of modern dating. How would you change it?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/24 10:54 PM
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You make a very good point. If some can learn for this discussion, then there’s value. What ever the baseline of consent is in a particular relationship, that’s a dynamic between those 2 people. If that includes 1st base, the what ever. Consent isn’t nearly as easy as it gets portrayed. The basic a clear yes, is the only yes is a good thing. But it also leads to being the number 1 killer of romance. And a good number of women want their partner to initiate, not ask directly. In order to persever…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/24 10:51 PM
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I agree, and love your sentiment and analogy. A relationship is building a team. I think you take the hunting aspect very literally. I don’t think most people have some much contempt for others, as to view them as animals.(although some certainly do) More like Job hunting. You prepare, look, find something you want, and go for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/24 10:40 PM
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Frankly I think this whole scenario is dumb AF, but I’ll go with it for the sake of discussion. In reality, 2 people in a relationship are sitting on a couch. One gets horny and makes a move, if the other is down, the they progress. If they’re not cool with it, then they say no in one form or another. I read neutral as nothing has happened yet, then the decision has to be made after initiation, yes/no. This Thread talking about consent, as if you have to submit a request for sex with an email, a…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/24 10:33 PM
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I see and understand your point, but not all men.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/24 10:26 PM
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Great comment, thank you for sharing. And I whole heartedly agree.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/24 10:23 PM
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It’s fair that you don’t like the idea. But the reality is, that it is in fact hunting. Men hunt from a “stalk and shoot”method (hunting term), where women are pretty traditional “trappers” (hunting term). The methods and behaviors very easily translated. Especially the women’s perspective.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/24 10:19 PM
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I mean, then she should express the no. No?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/24 10:04 PM
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Not a damn thing
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/24 09:33 PM
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You got it.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/24 09:32 PM
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Anal sex for men offers a different sensation than vaginal sex. Some men prefer it, personally I’m not a fan. I suppose there’s an element of “would she do it for me”, but whatever portion of those motivates him is case by case. And no, women can and do enjoy anal sex. I don’t know the biology to site what stimulates them, but anal sex can be very enjoyable and even induce orgasims in women. TLDR: Anal is a different flavor for men, and Assgasims are a thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/24 06:15 PM
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Great comment. Thanks for sharing.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/24 01:26 AM
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Interesting take.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/24 01:12 AM
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I think he’s trying to say now that women don’t need men to survive their standards are higher, and thus less attracted. Which just makes logical sense, women can now have full lives, you have to be able to add value to it.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/24 01:11 AM
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And to quote Sam Jackson “we’d have to to talking about one charming mother fucking pig”. Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/24 11:19 PM
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OMG the fucking Squishmellows 🤦🏾‍♂️. I had my nephew (11) living with me for the last few months and he loved them. He had like 8, by the time he moved out. Now most are still in my condo. PS. They make the best travel pillow ever.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/24 10:05 PM
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Yes, poorer nations and cultures have more tight nit families. But those family structures aren’t nuclear, they’re multigenerational. Most of the middle class certainly has not moved up, it’s moved down. And the upper class has moved way higher up. (In America, I can’t speak for the West as a whole) Yes, the lower class has the highest birth rates, which is do to a lot of factors. One of the biggest being single parent homes.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/24 10:02 PM
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I totally agree. I think people have either forgotten, or are scared of it. Maybe it’s getting confused with codependence?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/24 09:39 PM
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It only takes 1 conversation to end a relationship. It sucks, but sometimes you learn something that just can’t be forgiven.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/24 09:36 PM
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This ain’t it man. The destruction of the “Traditional Family” can more be blamed on the economy. (I speak for America) Than female education, or feminism. The erosion of the middle class, through inflation and lack of wages is what killed single income families. If it were still common for 1 person to be able to afford a middle class lifestyle for a family of 4, STH wives and mothers would be more prevalent because it would be a viable option.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/24 09:33 PM
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Not to mention how difficult it is to make enough money on a single income to even rationally consider that fantasy.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/24 09:25 PM
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The old difference between Wisdom and Intelligence. Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/24 09:15 PM
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Like a party piñata
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/24 09:07 PM
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TBH. The men who’d rather be in an abusive relationship camp, haven’t been in one. I have, it was Toxic AF, and went on and off for years. When I was finally done the feeling I most remember was relief, not anger (that came later). Far better to be single, but I guess some people have to learn the hard way.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/24 09:03 PM
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Bears? Or plush toys in general?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/24 08:59 PM
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Definitely not. The fact women have to bear the brunt of human reproduction, is why they should be very selective, and in control of if/when/how/who.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/24 08:56 PM
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Never mind. I just looked it up, to fact check myself. It’s not true. Women are like 7% behind, sorry to take you down a nonsensical rabbit whole.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/24 09:34 PM
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Because the majority of people under 30 don’t have STEM jobs. Less than 40% of Americans have bachelors degrees between 25-30 and less than 10% have masters, (which are most high earning Stem jobs). A lot of people in there 20s are in service industries, gratuity jobs favor hiring young women, and they generally get tipped more than men. More importantly, gratuity based jobs have a higher earning potential then most entry level positions with less hours worked. The report that formed my opinion,…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/24 09:18 PM
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Oof. Fucking monstrous
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/24 06:42 PM
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Or we could apply a more accurate data set to the people we’re comparing.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/24 06:36 PM
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Oh shit, guess I was wrong on that. Lol. Learned something new
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/24 06:35 PM
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Sure I can. There’s definitely misogyny, but it’s no where near the scale your point was describing. SA is a completely different topic. Why would you think they are so linked?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/24 05:01 PM
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I did. I’m sorry to hear about your medical issues. I disagree that there’s no advantages, they’re just different. Just like being more physically capable, comes with problems.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/24 04:58 PM
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Totally this. Also, I work for a large corporation, if anything they restrict makeup.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/24 04:53 PM
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I think they mean, people start to care less at 25.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/24 04:52 PM
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Actually, it means put up with everyone’s bullshit.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/24 04:51 PM
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Sounds like you have a great partner that had a good upbringing. Do your best to keep her
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/24 04:50 PM
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In which demographics? Women out earn men under 30, because of gratuity based jobs. If you don’t include women leaving the workforce in early motherhood, they earn the same as their male counterparts. If you discount the top earning people (men and women) who horde a disproportionate amount of over all wealth, then women are no par, if not slightly ahead.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/24 04:29 PM
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I couldn’t agree more.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/24 04:19 PM
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Stuck like what? We develop differently because we’re 2 sides of a species. Do you not like being a woman from a physical standpoint?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/24 04:14 PM
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Neither do you.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/24 04:08 PM
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I was in the military. Your first point is totally off base, women have been serving in the military, and only aloud to be in support roles for years. They do a fine job (as in, they perform as well as men), and the general attitude is that they just do their job like everyone else. To your second point, yes. SA in the military is way too common, and the issue needs serious fucking help.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/24 04:06 PM
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And it always will. Feels bad
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/24 03:58 PM
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I totally agree with these ideas. Yeah, we have the Big Brother/ Bug Sister organization but it’s not as popular as it probably should be. There’s a not uncommon fear men have about being accused of inappropriate behavior. And an overall issue with Americans not doing a volunteer work.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/24 03:53 PM
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Great comment. These are great ideas.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/24 03:49 PM
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How so? Women are mostly, quiet and to themselves. More often than the opposite, women can be entitled, rude, and generally apathetic. I’ve personally never been offered help from a woman, that I didn’t already know. And in general women seem to be less well mannered in a day to day context.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/24 03:20 AM
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Never be fooled. Women are humans, nothing more. They can be vicious, and violent.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/24 03:12 AM
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I’m pretty sure most people got the point the analogy was making. It wasn’t subtle, and it wasn’t the first. The men who were offended, had the right to be. For a long time men who are decent, have had to deal with ever rising fear mongering, and being lumped into a group they themselves hate. The greater issue the stupid post brought up, is the lack of empathy of both sides. A lot of men don’t understand how terrible SA is for women, and aren’t particularly interested in learning. And women are…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/24 02:39 AM
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Touché
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/24 09:26 PM
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To answer your question, No. There are extreme cases of people who simply can’t coexist with others, for various reasons. There is also a general rise in selfish behavior (at least here in the US), that makes it very difficult to be in a healthy relationship. There comes a certain point when people are living independently, that their tolerance for others / adjusting their lifestyle to fit another person is very difficult and not particularly desirable. The current economy is harsh, and where it…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/24 09:15 PM
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I disagree that men shouldn’t ask for advice. If someone wants to work towards a goal, and asking for advice may help them then by all means. I agree that a lot of the stuff online isn’t particularly helpful, has definitely been monetized, and some (if not most) is better avoided. I wouldn’t say that all or even most men asking women for dating advice are looking to be coddled. I can only speak for myself, but I remember asking female friends when I was younger. I wanted to get more perspective …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/24 07:48 PM
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You make a good point, but I disagree that women don’t understand the negative feedback back loop. They experience them as well. Not necessarily in the same place, but a negative feedback loop can happen in any part of your life.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/24 07:06 PM
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This has been a great piece of advice. The type that men usually give other men, when they have positive relationships. It’s also not what a mother would tell her son, which is pert of the big disconnect. Also, when you said “Or rather why would men expect women to facilitate dating them” This is the reason why men shouldn’t ask women for dating advice. Most women aren’t trying to actually be helpful in a man achieving his goal. Nor should they.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/24 07:03 PM
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I disagree. In my experience “Independent” women have a lower tolerance for vulnerability, and forms of incompetence. (Basically not having you shit together)
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/24 06:54 PM
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Move eat a lot of things. I’ve caught more of them with a combination of peanut butter and dog kibble more than anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/24 01:57 AM
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It always has been. Feminism strived for equality, and past that goal a while ago.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/24 01:53 AM
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That’s a great analogy
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/24 12:30 AM
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He totally gave you an answer as to why men aren’t interested in the things you listed. You just don’t like the answer. Yes, sex is part of why people look for relationships, and yes it’s a significant part of a relationship to the point of complaint, and with enough dissatisfaction can end one. That doesn’t mean it’s all men, or anyone for that matter, are looking for.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/24 07:58 PM
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Ok, you can believe what you want. But as far as developing pro social behavior. Media of all forms, not just video games and porn. Have a major impact on motivation. On this subject, of building community involved social skills, there’s a major lack. Form both genders TBF.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/24 03:14 AM
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It’s not just a lack of avenues, it’s desire. Why sign up for the school beach clean up on Saturday, when I can play CoD with the squad, and eat Cheeto.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/24 01:42 AM
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Me either. But to each their own, people are free to not like me for whatever reason they want. I would prefer that if we are to share space they talk it out with me, but Eeh.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/24 10:04 PM
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Yeah, I’ve learned that I’m a libra man. And I’ve gotten a few hilarious negative comments. I just appreciate the early bullet to dodge.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/24 08:35 PM
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Hahaha 😂. I’m dying, thanks for this. ROFL.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/24 08:28 PM
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I didn’t pick up on that. I read it as, do you have intention in dating, or are you taking a more care free approach. Although, I don’t appreciate that it associated failure with a more relaxed approach. Cuz, maybe that’s the goal.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/24 08:21 PM
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That’s a bit much. Capitalism as a whole isn’t responsible for this, nor is every aspect toxic.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/24 07:35 PM
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Ummmm, he wouldn’t be invisible. Just not the kind of attention we’re talking about lol
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/24 02:41 PM
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Much appreciated. I was a medic, I used to dream of being a trauma nurse.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/24 01:03 AM
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💯
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/24 09:58 PM
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Great point, I agree that more life experience in this situation. I asked because I joined the army instead of going to college, and my experience with college students at the time was… they weren’t great examples of mature functioning humans at the time. But I understand where you’re coming from.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/24 09:57 PM
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If that’s a deciding criteria it’s bleak. Isn’t there a huge amount of Americans living at home into their mid to late 20s?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/24 09:53 PM
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Totally agree with the Israel model. I don’t have stats, but all the people I’ve met from countries with “mandatory service” have been high functioning and considerate.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/24 09:51 PM
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I agree that 18 & 30 is too big a gap for my comfort. But to say that alcohol consumption can’t change your life trajectory at that age is just not true. Nor is it that a 30 y/o is guaranteed to “destroy” an 18y/o life.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/24 09:48 PM
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Curious, why is college the milestone? And not just 22-24?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/24 09:44 PM
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They certainly are where I’m from. The women melt over the accident. The men think all Irish women are redheads. 🤦🏾‍♂️
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/24 12:25 AM
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Enjoy! I love goat cheese.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/24 12:17 AM
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Silly I know, but a good cheese board game kills.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/24 12:16 AM
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This is the part not talked about. I’ve know more than one women who became instant stepmom as soon as she became exclusive with a single dad. And in the case of my ex, she was the most responsible parent between the 3 adults in the child’s life. But she was young and in love with the guy’s daughter.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/24 11:36 PM
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Yeah, that part put OP in whako territory for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/24 08:27 PM
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Unfortunately there’s actually a lot of “bad guys”. I haven’t seen any RP folks mention it, but I think it’s really an age group thing. A lot of guys between 17-25 are very interested in casual sex, and a lot of them are willing to lie their ass off to get it. Then after 25, I’ve noticed a shift, some dude clam the F down and look for a relationship, and others grow into being more attractive and start wanting to be Players. And at any point, if dude get a surge of attention from women, most don…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/24 02:39 PM
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Unfortunate, and very true.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/24 02:33 PM
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I’m sorry for your experience, it’s shitty. Dudes can dumb AF, and a lot of people lack self awareness. That being said, a lot of men do want their partners to enjoy sex, and orgasim. I hope you find your person, and I’m sure they’ll be that type.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/24 02:29 PM
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Capitalism in general, or specific aspects?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/24 11:19 PM
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Men who wear makeup aren’t generally attractive to women. Kidding aside, i agree, men could definitely stand to put more effort into their appearance.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/24 10:28 PM
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Being a soldier isn’t a job? The men and women I served with would beg to differ.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/24 10:03 PM
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Sounds like it. Lol. Measuring bats is an activity? Was it fun?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/24 08:52 PM
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So you were focused at work, and performing your job well?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/24 08:30 PM
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Word, my girl is 10 years younger
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/24 02:27 PM
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Yeah, I blame marvel movies. Male perception took the idea to the Nth degree
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/24 02:25 PM
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Totally agree. Most 9s are 7s with makeup and a better outfit
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/24 02:24 PM
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I 100% agree. It’s never been easier for a man to beat the competition.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/24 02:22 PM
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That’s fair, thank you your opinion.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/24 11:35 PM
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I see what you’re saying. I disagree, but I get your logic.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/24 11:05 PM
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Seems to me like he wanted to continue painting the guy in question a scumbag for trying to engage a sex worker while married.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/24 11:03 PM
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Super Alpha!
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/24 10:58 PM
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Agreed
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/24 10:57 PM
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Interesting take. Why does engaging with a sex worker, make a man not high value?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/24 10:55 PM
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Not necessarily. Maybe they just wanted to try something new.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/24 10:54 PM
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Or there’s more to the situation.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/24 10:52 PM
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They aren’t making a point, they were trying to dive you to a moral admission, by narrowing your view. But they were bad at it.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/24 10:52 PM
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Probably a combination of both. It’s more complicated than this sub like to admit.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/24 10:45 PM
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Nice. I look into it. Much appreciated
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/24 10:33 PM
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At no point did I ever say anyone should be forced, or do anything they weren’t comfortable with. I can understand if you’re opposed on a philosophical level. Or you just disagree that trying new things with people you love and trust aren’t ok with you. How did you discover what you like? Did you ever express sexual interest in something with your partner?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/24 10:32 PM
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I agree, as I had a similar experience. I’m into bouldering too, it’s my favorite activity. Is fencing fun?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/24 10:24 PM
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Yes, actually it’s what would prevent it in a healthy manner. Why are you so staunch, on the narrative that trying something new with your partner = victim? If a person doesn’t want to do something sexually, and they discuss that with their partner it should be respected. And I haven’t said anything to the contrary.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/24 08:28 PM
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Did you miss the hobbies, and special interests part? That could be anything from a massive art project, to robotics club.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/24 08:10 PM
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So a regressed class or two. Thant makes sense, so long as the goal is to eventually move upward.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/24 08:08 PM
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If you’re uncomfortable with them yes, but it also means being open to communicating with your partner on what please them sexually. For both parties.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/24 07:38 PM
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I think you need to communicate your desires better OP. I know, and have been one of them, some men are afraid to talk about sex with their partner. Tom Sugura has a great joke about it. TBF, most women I’ve dated were far more open to trying new things, and willing to make concessions to please me, just like I was for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/24 07:35 PM
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You make a very pointed question, the answer is logically no. But you knew that, because they had less exposure. A better question is would they if they did have access? Just like my grandmother didn’t really have any inclination or desire for higher education either. You can’t rave against the past when it suits you.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/24 06:00 PM
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So you don’t care to have a healthy sex life in your relationships?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/24 05:41 PM
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OMG that’s insane.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/24 05:16 AM
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Sorry for your experience. That sucks.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/24 08:40 PM
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Thanks for the link. I guess masturbation would do as a substitute. I still think pairing up this the best overall strategy. Maybe sex workers are suitable for some people.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/24 07:20 PM
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Thank for linking this. I appreciate the refresh.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/24 07:18 PM
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Woah. I didn’t mean to offend, but you’re the one who suggested data.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/24 07:13 PM
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That’s a to each their own thing IMO. I’m talking about, and I’m sure I’m misquoting, the full sexual experience from a biochemical standpoint. There are hormones released after sex with a partner that aren’t found with masturbation. Or not in the same quantities, I believe the big one was oxytocin, but I’m not sure. Also Serotonin vs dopamine levels are different.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/24 07:10 PM
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I understand, I’ll wait for you to provide the data supporting your claim that women are doing the sucking. Since you put that forth first. I’m interested to see the ratios, and who would actually spend their time conducting a glory hole study.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/24 07:04 PM
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Thank you for your sensible comment. I totally agree.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/24 07:01 PM
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Biologically it’s not the same. Because of the companionship aspects, like you mention in another comment. We should all try to pair up in relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/24 06:58 PM
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Actually most glory hole freaks are guys. It’s one of the reasons you’re not supposed to see who it is. Source: one of my best buds managed multiple sex shops. He used to laugh at the guys who would come in, they genuinely thought some super horny teen girl was in the booth.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/24 06:54 PM
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That’s awful. Why are they more at risk? Is it family disowning them?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/24 06:45 PM
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Why choose the bear again? I didn’t really understand the up roar. Is it just general risk?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/24 06:43 PM
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Do they say weather or not they filtered out instances I’d DV? It’s been published that Same sex female couples are more likely to to have instances of DV, which counts as a crime in most countries which could inflate the stats.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/24 06:40 PM
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In an egalitarian socialist democracy? How marginalized can they be to use impoverished desperation as an argument. We’re not talking about 2 single mothers trying to make a blended family work in Detroit.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/24 06:35 PM
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I appreciate that news though. It’s fascinating that you got that result.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/24 06:33 PM
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I don’t know about all women. I could agree with on average women are more emotionally intelligent, and empathetic than most men. But definitely not all, and not all the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/24 01:29 PM
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That’s just not true, a lot of women do consistently gas each other up, and throw out a blanket minimum level of support for each other, pretty blindly IMO. I don’t understand the sexuality angle OP is taking with it though, I’ve never thought this kind of general support was sexual in nature. But to each their own.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/24 01:24 PM
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I see, then if I’m gonna throw one in I’d say. “ Reign of Terror”
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/24 02:33 PM
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Fair enough, I think she’s worth a date and a conversation.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/24 01:40 AM
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Why not long term? Nobody really know anything about her, she could be fun and kind.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/24 01:33 AM
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100% agree
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/24 12:18 AM
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Yeah, this is the first I’ve heard of it being a wide spread thing. I means it’s true in a lot of cases, but IDK about the ridicule and weaponization part.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/24 11:55 PM
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I like Hoe Phase, it really has everything you need to understand exactly what it is. Why does it have to be gendered.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/24 09:25 PM
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Age or number of children? Cuz, dear god!
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/24 01:09 AM
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Why? As I said in another reply to you. I believe nuance is a thing. I understand that you’ve decided for yourself to be black and white, and choose not to analyze individual situations. Do you, it’s just a closed minded way to live.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/24 12:51 AM
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Spot on take. Thanks for sharing
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/24 10:49 PM
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He said some pretty RP shit, about how to compete IRL. Not BP at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/24 10:40 PM
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Agreed, that’s just ridiculous.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/24 10:32 PM
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I agree that vetting your partner is important for both men and women. Weather a women is abused, or a man is cheated on is the fault of the offending party, and in most cases (the first time it happens) they are completely the victim. Sure, if they continually get involved with people that have the same red flags, there should be an element of personal responsibility. Where the difference lies in your example, is that there are resources and protections for women in an abusive relationship. Ie.…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/24 10:29 PM
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I agree that vetting your partner is important for both men and women. Weather a women is abused, or a man is cheated on is the fault of the offending party, and in most cases (the first time it happens) they are completely the victim. Sure, if they continually get involved with people that have the same red flags, there should be an element of personal responsibility. Where the difference lies in your example, is that there are resources and protections for women in an abusive relationship. Ie.…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/24 10:28 PM
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Shit, I thought you were better than such a closed minded answer.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/24 09:47 PM
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Yes in the first half, no on the second. Where it takes 2 to tango in both scenarios. The difference comes in the consequences, and the resources available to the victims.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/24 09:45 PM
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Great comment. FYI there are also higher rates of assault in female prisons.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/24 09:37 PM
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Do you really not see the difference in the 2 situations?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/24 09:23 PM
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I called you out for being a bigot yesterday on your ridiculous “Pick Me” post.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/24 09:18 PM
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Ugh, another one of your rants. Be well Lilith, I hope you find peace and happiness.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/24 09:09 PM
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Yeah, most people don’t have Pro level self awareness. Also, there isn’t anything so straight forward as game tape to review.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/24 06:58 PM
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100%
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/24 06:23 PM
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Absolutely agree, respectful acceptance is the only acceptable response. Yes a man may wonder why, but it’s inappropriate to ask.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/24 06:23 PM
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Great comment. Thank you for sharing.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/24 06:16 PM
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Oh, but as you pointed out. What support are they giving to men issues without using it to Bash women? What organizations from the Manosphere are helping men and not monetizing it? RP started as pick up artistry, then it grew into a male centric self help movement, that bashes women as a way to cultivate more followers. I don’t believe it’s out to really help men, when it comes to the actual big issues, like suicide rates, addiction issues, under education, general depression. Because these majo…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/24 12:09 AM
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I absolutely agree
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/24 11:51 PM
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Oh the hypocrisy. 🤦🏾‍♂️
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/24 11:49 PM
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This is totally doable for you. And you should definitely continue your education. If you’re good with a dynamic where you’re the bread winner, just make sure to be upfront about it when you’re dating. You don’t have anything to be worried about, sub like this cause more anxiety than provide good information. The real world is completely different, just make sure to build your relationships on trust and respect.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/24 11:46 PM
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I’m no longer a RP guy, I found it much like others when I was in a vulnerable point in my life. Some of the stuff they preach made sense at the time, and I certainly improved my life with some of RPs advice. But the big benefits I gained were brought on by following the same basic self help techniques that have been out there for decades. To the point… The Manosphere isn’t now, never was, and won’t be for men’s rights. Full stop. It’s a grouping of forums and content put out to capture attentio…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/24 09:18 PM
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Yeah, you’re doing it now. Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/24 12:54 AM
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Take a step back. Do you see how you’re the bigot for bashing a group of women based on their personal life choices, that don’t affect you? Because, that’s what bigots do.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/24 12:41 AM
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Find some selfawareness
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/24 12:22 AM
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As a guy from both “Camps”, it really comes down to what I have access to currently/ mostly. When I was with a my ex (curvy baddie type) I looked at skinny girls. When I’m with a skinny girl, I look at fit girls. When I’m with a fit girl, I look at curvy girls. And around and around we go. Fuck your limiting “Camp” theory, enjoy cool people.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/24 12:04 AM
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Yep. Being a beautiful woman, is almost a totally different life experience than other humans.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/24 11:57 PM
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You do know you’re the Bigot on this one right? Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/24 11:38 PM
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I obviously disagree, but fair enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/24 10:24 PM
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I’m pretty sure this is a troll, but I’ll bite. You pretty much just said that boys don’t deserve a public education. There’s been multiple movements in the last 10-20 years, specifically targeted at making education more accessible, from special needs to race. You think boys should be included?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/24 08:12 PM
3

He didn’t say anything about murder. You did.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 08:01 PM
0

That definitely needs to happen. But it would be better solved, if worked on by both sides of the issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 07:59 PM
0

That’s only partially correct. In theory, the victim self reflects to learn from their mistakes. It can be a long hard process, that in some cases needs professional help. Conversely, if you don’t analyze the steps the victim took, or worse encourage a narrative that they have no impact in the situation. Then they never fully heal, or grow. This isn’t always the case, obviously, but it needs to be looked at with more intention than most people give.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 07:56 PM
3

Yes, and no, GLP-1 Drugs aren’t magic. Yes they have proven to be very effective at weight loss, but they have shown to have side effects that set the body up for issues down the line. They haven’t been around long enough to study the long term effects yet, but some data shows that when you stop taking it you’re in for a Bad Time. And with the way the economy is going in the US, I don’t for see the majority of the population being able to afford it long term. My prediction, is it will be another…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 07:54 PM
1

Not at all. Despite with this sub, and what the Internet might say, a lot of men IRL don’t care
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 02:23 AM
2

Those all sound like fantastic reasons to me. I’m feel for you BTW, addiction runs very strong in my family too.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 01:39 AM
1

Do you suggest the alternative, if someone invites you to “drinks”?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 01:27 AM
0

I’m glad you had a fantastic experience. I could last more than 8.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 01:01 AM
2

I thought that was Sith 🧐
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 12:08 AM
8

I’m really happy for you! I’ve since had some amazing relationships, but if I could go back in time… I truly believe we should all be good to each other, and pair up. Best survival strategy.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 08:50 PM
6

I can say it does get better. But you have to make conscious decisions, and put in work. Better, but definitely not the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 08:01 PM
37

I unfortunately have had the same experience as you OP. I got the chance to live perverted fantasy, of have sex as much as, and how I wanted to. It’ got old and lonely. I don’t recommend it.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 06:39 PM
3

Good luck, and welcome to America.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/24 04:50 AM
3

Why are they all short? And how come only one of them has a job?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/24 04:25 AM
2

It’s just easier that way IMO. I’ve had to many debates that ruined the vibe. I’m on a date to get to know her, and have fun. Better not to even worry about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 11:42 PM
1

You sound like a great date.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 11:37 PM
2

lol. I pay the server before the bill hits the table just to avoid this nonsense.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 11:34 PM
3

Wait, what? That’s just nuts
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 11:11 PM
1

No one said that isn’t part of dating (definitely the largest). It was originally said that these qualities aren’t the whole puzzle, and if a woman isn’t physically attracted to a minimum level. then they don’t come into play. Why would we be? How is it privileged? Dating is an activity for 2 people to try to find a romantic connection, and possibly move towards a committed relationship. Sex is a part of that. You’ve ascribed Mal-intent to men, and implied that their upbringing shouldn’t give th…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 08:45 PM
1

isn’t sex part of dating? Isn’t rejection/ or lack of success one of the dangers?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 08:16 PM
1

No, I didn’t have all that information. I apologize, and thanks for passing the information.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 07:27 PM
0

And during this training, is it not also expected to be raised how to properly socialize? One of the facets of socialization, is romantic relationships. Your parents are the first place, possibly the most important place, you lean about dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 07:17 PM
3

That’s great advice. I appreciate you posting this.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 06:58 PM
5

What did you think mommy’s job was? Or any parents for that matter? Since you’re quick to judge other people lives, and their mothers.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 06:48 PM
5

There’s a lot of generalization to unpack here. Starting with the person you’re replying to, stating his personal feelings on his individual experience with therapy. Which, he stated in a healthy manner, according to therapy. Then you decided to invalidate his experience, and use it as a springboard into general male mental health. Which you then generalized. Kick rocks
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 06:42 PM
2

Whether or not an individual decides to engage a sex worker, because he doesn’t want to go through the hassle of dating, or because originally it was available and accessible to him is on that individual. Your view, which I believe is reflective of most women, is entirely respectable and justified. TLDR: I don’t like dating, so I’ll try a prostitute. Versus oh look there’s a prostitute, maybe I’ll try that
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 05:37 PM
1

That’s a chicken or egg argument, on an individual level
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 05:24 PM
3

I agree with your point, but what you’re describing is proper financial management. Which heavily includes the ideal accumulation and management of personal debt. You still need to have good credit to get a favorable rate for you mortgage, which is still a form of debt ( even though positive). What you are referring to is toxic debt, to which I absolutely agree.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 04:12 PM
5

That’s definitely not a single mom thing, that’s a people thing. And frankly user error
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 04:06 PM
2

Even if this is your mindset, which is a great one BTW, you still have to take on debt in order to do anything big. Like buy a house, or start most businesses.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 04:00 PM
2

He’s referring to indirect cost. Nothing is free. Ever heard of TINSTAFL?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 03:58 PM
0

And hence the Sex worker.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 03:55 PM
9

Because it’s more complicated than that. Maybe it’s a kink that he can’t get fulfilled, or is ashamed of. Maybe it’s a novelty that he has a taste for, maybe he just doesn’t want to put forth the effort. There’s lots of reasons.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 03:53 PM
1

Your question is answered in his first comment. A widow doesn’t have the child’s father attached to their lives. The RP also says that widow’s aren’t as bad, because then the mother didn’t fail/chase the baby daddy away. Which is dumb AF.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 03:43 PM
3

That’s an individual person thing. The single moms I’ve had FWB relationships with, were great. In my experience, single moms really appreciate some time to be with other adults, have some fun. Did you take any of them on a “real” date?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 03:39 PM
3

Not only that, but here in the US the financial system is so built on debt, that you have to take it on if you plan to do anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 03:36 PM
3

That’s just flat out inaccurate.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 03:32 PM
7

Porn hub stats would argue. MILF has been one of the top searches for years, and was number 2 in 2023
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 03:30 PM
1

Thank you for the link. What you said there makes total sense. This thread getting caught up on that one line is ridiculous, especially when the posts literally opens by saying it’s a copy and paste, because of the pros. The fact that this 1 line has become the thread, out of the entire post is sad. Men aren’t boiling pots of rage waiting to explode. Men can, and due from great long term friendships that can be great for emotional support. It just doesn’t take the same form, as women. The bigges…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 02:50 PM
0

I see your point. Unfortunately this is also proving the OP point too.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 02:11 AM
2

It’s actually really normal for men between about 15-23. High testosterone levels, combined with not learning how to properly analyze and process their emotions. Anger naturally follows confusion. Irrational anger, and propensity for violence (not necessarily aimed at other people) are common in adolescence males.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 02:10 AM
4

I totally agree and second this. I haven’t done martial arts in years, but made really lasting friendships when I was. I had a close friend really turn his whole life around after he started BJJ. He absolutely loves the sport, and his friend group.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 01:45 AM
1

No reason to change. If folks want different results, then it will require different tactics. I’m not personally bothered either way. I’m doing fine on the dating front. 🤷🏾‍♂️
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/24 10:20 PM
3

Well said.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/24 01:22 AM
2

I’m waiting for dating profiles to demand a 23 and me pic. Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/24 01:20 AM
0

That’s really not true, And I’m firmly in the camp that men in generally need to do better. Most people have a lot more to offer than most other people think. The issue in my opinion, is social media has given rise to narcissistic behavior traits. It’s not that someone doesn’t have anything to offer, it’s that you (who ever is looking) wants to order a human like a pizza, and if it’s not really close to what you envisioned, you don’t want anything to do with it. Both men and women are guilty of …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/24 01:17 AM
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I don’t know if it’s the Incel behavior you’re thinking of, but I personally call out the Male doom and gloom posts about not trying to elevate themselves, to become a more attractive dating option.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/24 01:00 AM
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I know you’re being sarcastic, but that really is the truth of it. Some of all people are guilty of one thing, some are guilty of another. It’s not really gendered.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/24 12:53 AM
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Why is that funny? I wasn’t the one who claimed that the group of women we’re talking about were damaged.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/24 12:22 AM
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I totally see your logic.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/24 08:25 PM
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Aren’t we all damaged in some way though? It’s also kind of insulting to assume that in the first place.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/24 08:22 PM
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I want to agree, the stats that people show, comments that I’ve heard women make total line up with what your, and this post are saying. But my personal experience has been different, I’ve dated and hooked up with women up to 10 years younger than me. As well as have gotten the attention / attraction of more, and didn’t act on it. So my jury is still out on this one. TBH
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/24 03:13 PM
2

Maybe some women, but definitely not all. Preselection is definitely a thing, for both men and women. It just expresses differently. Just like hypergamy
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/24 11:59 PM
1

It’s not the Players, it’s the Fuckbois. Yes there’s a difference.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/24 11:51 PM
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No, I wouldn’t go that far. Although an interesting point, a lot of the BP folks on the sub make good points and argue in good faith. Her… not so much.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/24 11:28 PM
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Purple is the middle, your thinking is spot on. She’s a loon, and frankly gives the blue team a bad name.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/24 11:19 PM
5

I really hope so. I lost a lot of time, and who knows what damage I did to my personal relationships while I was in the rage phase. Manosphere shit takes an awful toll
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/24 11:14 PM
1

Maybe intimacy isn’t the word. The feeling of being desired, and a familiar/ mutually enjoyed relationship. Not to say that it can’t be obtained with a sex worker, just that it isn’t common.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/24 02:59 AM
1

Personally I think, it’s a multi fold problem. Sex as a need can be treated with your idea, but it’s actually never been put to scale. Not even in places where it’s legal, has sex been so available that it would change social behavior, to affect All women in the area. More over, when the need for sex is met intimacy is the craved. Men who engage sex workers don’t get this, so their underlying mental state doesn’t improve. It’s one of the biggest reasons Onlyfans has been proven to be addictive. …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/24 02:47 AM
0

I couldn’t agree more.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/24 05:33 PM
4

It’s a joke about cherry-picking. 🤦🏾‍♂️
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/24 09:09 PM
1

In sorry for you experience. I can say that once you hit the point where a woman wants to invest in you, you can open up more.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/24 03:46 PM
0

We weren’t talking about if the current dating scene is terrible, it’s well known that it is. We were discussing the reason why it got big. I’ll reassert that it was because it offered a new level of convenience, once the technology evolved to phone App + geo location. And restaurant patronage is down most do to the economy. Not Covid cautious people.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/24 03:42 PM
1

Covid hasn’t been something to keep people form going out in 2 years now. If Food delivery apps vanished, people would go back to restaurants. OLD hit its height in 2012 with Tinder, Gen X was still dating but definitely not the key demographic involved, it was Millennials by far. And its popularity was do to convince because of the location feature. Not that it was a better alternative to a terrible dating scene.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/24 06:10 AM
1

Ohhhhhhhh
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/24 06:02 AM
1

Next time make a joke, try to start the conversation. She might be funny
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/24 01:08 AM
3

Is there a study you can site? You could make it part of the the point you still haven’t made? If you think me closed minded, I don’t blame you given the forum, but I really am interested to know your opinion and experiences.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/24 01:06 AM
2

Then please share. The conversations I’ve had with the women in my life have had me think differently. I’m open to your perspective.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/24 12:59 AM
1

I can only offer my personal experience. Plausible deniability is a priority survival tool for women.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/24 12:58 AM
2

Absolutely true, but the examples this post is about, and what OP is talking about are direct approaches.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/24 12:52 AM
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So women don’t approach because they’re afraid to face the possibility of imperfection? Ya no. I’m sure the anxiety of this possibility is present, but theirs no way it out weighs the fact that women sit in an advantageous position in dating. I think you’re over thinking the simplest answer, which is they don’t have to.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/24 12:45 AM
2

Your example is flawed AF. Men comfort men in rejection, presumably their friends. Why would men comfort women who are rejected? Shouldn’t it be other women, presumably her friends. You use an example of common suffering ( the men). Then use an example that is incongruent (the women) What do women say to each other after rejection? That’s where you’d make your point. This post is just false rhetoric, so you can vent your personal feelings.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/24 12:40 AM
2

Haha. And yet that can be hard to find. Fucking sad
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/24 10:22 PM
5

Congratulations, well deserved.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/24 10:18 PM
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I was hoping to see a comment like this. Thank you. The hard truth is that the bar IS on the ground, women for the most part haven’t been treated with a lot of effort, so those who put in a modicum, seem like heros. It’s just sad.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/24 10:17 PM
1

Great points.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/24 09:45 PM
3

The method of thinking behind it is because complaining is an unattractive quality in a man. Congratulations on your success with women this year BTW, but I’m pretty sure while you were out hunting for those 20 dimes you weren’t complaining to them. To round it back to my point… when you complain here, the women who hear said complaints equate that with unattractive behavior, then are turned off, then assume other women would be too. Thus “no bitches”. It’s just normal human brain seeing things …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/24 08:38 PM
3

Yes, thank you.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/24 07:56 PM
13

What are you talking about? OLD rose to its level of popularity out of convenience, not because the dating landscape was bad. That’s like saying if Uber eats went away, people would dread eating restaurants food.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/24 07:54 PM
6

Actually yes. Most car accidents are totally preventable, and are the fault of driver errors. And we would get more mileage out of no phone usage.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/24 07:35 PM
0

I didn’t get that interpretation at all from what OP said.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/24 07:32 PM
0

Cool. I’ll happily spend time with cool women who would like to go out with someone who tries at his life. I’ll scoop up the promotions they don’t want to work for, and the money they leave on the table too.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/24 08:25 PM
1

Congratulations on your success. You’re actually more of a catch than you think. I don’t know what you’re looking for as romance goes, so I don’t have any advice ATM. But I’d say you’re probably to hung up on your perceived imperfections, in my experience women in real life are less picky than you think.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/24 08:23 PM
0

I support your decision, and hope you find joy and peace. My frustration is at those who won’t try, then complain about not winning. I respect if you simply don’t want to play.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/24 08:19 PM
5

I’m tired of hearing all this fatalist bullshit from guys on this sub. You can make yourself more attractive, in all aspects of your life. If you need to be more physically fit, then workout, and eat right. If you need to make more money, then start finding options and opportunities. Need to be more social, then start talking to people. You will stumble, fail, be in pain, and stressed out. But FFS along the way it will get better, you’ll probably not end up the ultimate ladies man, or a billiona…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/24 05:05 AM
3

I respect your view. But you are in the minority
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/24 01:25 AM
2

No. It’s definitely both genders
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/24 01:22 AM
2

Less effort
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/24 01:21 AM
5

Yeah one of the guys in my friend group in high school had a girl that literally beat the shit out of him, on a regular basis. She was his first girlfriend, and he didn’t think he could get another one.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/24 01:20 AM
4

Scott Galloway makes an interesting point. Whereby uplifting men economically, and emotionally. It would greatly benefit women
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/24 12:55 AM
-2

Because you can improve your chances, if you want to.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/24 12:46 AM
3

That’s really interesting. Maybe that’s why their social media presence and TV show allowed them to spin their clout into a billion dollar empire.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/24 12:35 AM
7

Objectively speaking, It’s a pretty big demographic.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/24 08:08 PM
4

TBH you make it sounds so much worse than it is. If a guy put in all the work exampled, and becomes successful in all these aspects he’ll be desired by many. Missing out on one specific woman shouldn’t rattle him, or anyone. There is no play, or amount of work that will net 100% success with women. FFS
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/24 06:09 PM
8

I’m right there with you. This was grim.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/24 02:36 PM
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No. He’s saying a common reaction to SA, is that men beat the shit out of the scum bag.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/24 08:42 PM
1

How did you come to the conclusion youre a 6/7? Poll data? An app? I’m seriously confused as to how / why people are so tied to an imaginary scale.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/24 06:50 PM
1

How are people rating themselves? Seriously, I’m confused at this.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/24 06:48 PM
2

Wow those stats for men are abysmal. No wonder everyone is looking for above average and higher.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/24 06:48 PM
2

And some men have lost their jobs for looking at a woman wrong too. The cases and outcomes vary wildly.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/24 05:50 PM
1

Well that’s up to individuals how they view and speak about things. Unfortunately we do live in an atmosphere where men can be destroyed by false accusations, so a grain of salt is to be expected when it comes to a woman you don’t personally know and have established trust with. Not to say that isn’t dark AF, but it’s the truth. Edit: And I agree, any reasonable person would leave room for doubt, and possibility of their view to be wrong
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/24 05:46 PM
1

Yes, some men do that, and it’s certainly happens. But men are well aware that other men can be dangerous and violent. The majority of men aren’t, although have the capacity, and look out for the wellbeing of their loved ones. Men coach their sisters, daughters, and friends to avoid creepers, and fuck boys pretty commonly. Do you really have no experience with men looking out for their group at all?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/24 05:40 PM
7

Yep, and frankly it’s sad. I’m my experience, women’s standards actually aren’t very high. Most young men just want to do nothing. The truth is, people are still dating just fine, the internet just paints a gloomy picture.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/24 02:07 AM
3

Wait, are men generally denying this? It’s my experience, that not only do men acknowledge their existence, they warn their loved ones, and take action to intervene for their friends and family.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/24 12:56 AM
5

Just thought it was comically similar
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/24 02:47 AM
4

Yeah, that’s the one
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/24 01:54 AM
10

What’s that Marilyn Monroe quote that got memed and spread around again 🤔
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/24 12:10 AM
2

Number 2 isn’t sited enough. Most men have a really high threshold for “clingy-ness”
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/24 12:03 AM
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You’re definitely not speaking for all women on that one. I had conversations with Exs, friends, and family members about how a man like butt play would immediately turn them off. Further more, these women and more are drawn to masculine men, and get the ick when they see him behaving otherwise.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/24 10:25 PM
0

I never said the women aren’t attacked for disagreeing, in fact I stated that attacking people who disagree has become common. I only answered the question you posed, without getting off topic. Which is why I commented in the first place, you were getting off topic on the first argument. The first male spaces to be dismantled were actually luxury social clubs. And good riddance, they were bastions of racism. But it wasn’t about racism, it was about sexism, and the movement did stop there. Now a …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/24 07:49 PM
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That’s not the point of the argument. Although, to answer your question, feminism for decades fought against men’s ability to do just that. First by abolishing male only spaces, then sensationalizing any type of women joins (insert male dominated anything), and lastly attacking and shaming any man that didn’t agree with or support (insert feminist topic of the time), by making allyship black and white. To be fair though, the Same tactics were used by pretty much all the social movements in the l…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/24 07:01 PM
1

This is absolutely key, for anyone in a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/24 12:48 PM
12

I don’t remember Kevin Samuels saying women shouldn’t purse education, and a career. I mostly remember him trashing women’s standards with math. RIP
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/24 02:40 PM
1

I don’t see how any of your points are unpopular/ controversial. They all seem like reasonable things to ask and give.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/24 10:43 PM
1

Why educated?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/24 10:40 PM
1

I’ve personally had the complete opposite experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/24 10:36 PM
3

Unfortunately, it’s both. 😩
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/24 07:43 PM
5

I disagree. Society is trying to push the to genders together through their respective ostracizing. For men: being seen as less for not getting attention from women is to pressure them into doing things that will gain female attention, working/ being productive, living a healthy lifestyle, being driven toward a goal, and being socially apt. For women: being slut shamed is a shitty way of policing personal discipline. Women have many opportunities for frivolous/ meaningless sex, that can come wit…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/24 07:40 PM
2

I totally agree with your post. I wish your second point was spoken about more, and that I had accepted it earlier.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/24 07:17 PM
1

I wholeheartedly agree with number five. Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/24 06:41 PM
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Although I definitely disagree that everything men do is for sex, Im a firm believer in the 80/20 rule. I don’t think it’s unfair at all. Women shouldn’t sleep with anyone they don’t want to. If men don’t want to deal with that level of competition, and I don’t blame them, there are alternatives available.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/24 02:19 AM
2

Yeah, with you addendum this has been my experience as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/24 01:33 AM
13

Exactly this. Attractive women get a lot of attention, which means she’s most likely less affected by it. 🤦🏾‍♂️
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/24 10:12 PM
1

Yep, I’m still confident. I know my girl, I know and have seen what kinds of guys she’s had access too, and left flat. (This includes pro athletes) I’m still sure she wouldn’t throw out relationship away over a drunken bar hookup. There a higher chance she’d hook up with a girl, thinking I might be ok with it. And even if she did, my life would still be wonderful.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/24 10:09 PM
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Cameras in the toilet? that’s wild. Here in the US that doesn’t fly.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/24 08:07 PM
2

I see your point, I’ve been the bouncer in the bathrooms. Not every club has the staff for that though. I’ve definitely seen people fuck in a club bathroom, I’ve fucked in a club bathroom. And I’ve walked in on SA in club bathrooms. It definitely happens.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/24 08:04 PM
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To be fair, a lot of that is just a socially acceptable out let for men to be violent. There’s nothing more justifiable socially than “protecting” a women from abuse. So at least some of those guys just wanted to beat the shit out of someone, and didn’t give a flying fuck about the women.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/24 07:57 PM
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How much is much 🤷🏾‍♂️
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/24 07:52 PM
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No, that’s not an approach. It’s just a compliment, and a genuine one at that. If the guy doesn’t try to get you contact information, or set up a meeting then it’s not an approach.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/24 07:51 PM
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Are the homeless men at least nice?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/24 12:51 AM
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What are you talking about? Of course anxiety plays a large role in the decline in inperson interactions. Fear of Rejection is literally an issue in the mental health field. Social anxiety is at an all time high, and interpersonal skills are at an all time low. It’s flat out hard for young men to approach women in public, social anxiety and fear of rejection is a big part of that on the men’s side. It’s certainly not the only reason, women have given major reasons to be anxious. But denial over …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/24 12:48 AM
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Ever heard of confrontation therapy? It’s basically facing what or you fear, or is causing you anxiety. Studies show great results.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/24 12:42 AM
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100% this right here. Well said sir
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/24 12:31 AM
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Your second paragraph is inaccurate. Women’s standards for who they have sex with, doesn’t directly reflect why men would complain about it from a logical standpoint. Men’s complaints stem from a distribution standpoint, not bar for entry. Which isn’t even the point the person you’re responding to was making anyway. Secondly I dated a woman who was a virgin in her 30s, waiting for marriage but not religious. She thought about, wanted, and craved sex / sexual activity constantly. So you aren’t sp…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 10:29 PM
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Me too
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 06:54 PM
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Small world. I hope you enjoyed your time here.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/24 04:49 AM
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Well said.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/24 07:06 PM
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In my experience it’s very similar in the US. I’ve always taken it as a pleasant surprise as well. And in the few cases I’ve rejected a woman, I tried to be as nice as possible, like you said. But in all honesty, women have always been nice when rejecting me too. I’ve never seen a “nuclear” rejection, it’s usually a pretty polite interaction between people. I don’t really understand either side of this issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/24 02:11 PM
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How so? It should actually increase the likelihood that women would be physically attacked to their potential partners, because they choose the men. And nothing about it says it selects for passive men, women would just approach the appropriately out going guy. Same for what her preferred masculine traits are. It only points toward female unhappiness because she would assume the upfront risk of rejection. Personally, I don’t have any issue with the way things are currently, but to not acknowledg…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/24 05:28 AM
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No, that was rude as hell. What he said about women is 100% true, that’s what I thought you were referring to.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 03:25 AM
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Ahh, the more hipster and emo crowd. A man of taste I see.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 10:29 PM
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I’ve spent a lot of time all over Texas. The women are gorgeous. But here’s the deal, I didn’t put this comment down to have a pissing contest. I replied with the most affluent areas in LA, and SoCal. There are beautiful women of all shapes, colors, and sizes all over the world.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 10:28 PM
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LA specifically: Santa Monica, Beverly Hills, West Hollywood, Hollywood, Venice Beach, Marina Del Rey, Playa Del Rey, Manhattan Beach, Redondo Beach, Hermosa Beach, Rancho Palos Verdes. SoCal but not LA: Dana Point, New Port Beach, Huntington Beach, and parts of San Diego.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 09:49 PM
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I live on the West side of LA. Yes, I know what you mean in terms of how attractive people here and where I work are. (I work in Beverly Hills) it definitely desensitizes you, and can lead to some really shitty behavior. Personally it’s lead me to be a lot less thirsty, I only shoot my shots when I’m pretty sure a woman is interested in me too. I’m older now, and not into ONS, so I try to develop more of a friendship before asking people out.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 09:39 PM
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Fair enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 09:32 PM
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What’s “much older”? What if he’s attractive? What if you can’t tell his age? What if he’s genuinely the best pick of all the other guys in the room?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 09:19 PM
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You good? Your comments seem kinda jaded. Why all the negativity?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 09:15 PM
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Because you like him?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 09:11 PM
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A lot of attractive women in there mid 30s - early 40s are out doing fun shit. Yoga classes, gym, hiking groups, and never underestimate a cross the room brunch flirt. It doesn’t matter if they are with there friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 09:09 PM
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Shhhh. You’ll give away the secret. It’s better to let everyone believe that we give younger women the ick. I
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 08:34 PM
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That’s just not true.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 08:29 PM
5

Huh? What?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 08:17 PM
1

100% percent agree!
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 07:09 PM
3

What is “brutally mogged”?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 06:48 PM
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IMO the answer the dudes won’t say is actually Power. Less mature women tend to be more impressed by the older guy. She’s easy to be around because her boundaries are less firm, she looks up to them with more respect, and sure she is “hot” (which isn’t necessarily true), but more over the sexual experience is more enjoyable for him, because she’s in a more experimental phase of life / more likely to be seeking his approval. Short answer: it’s easier
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 06:43 PM
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You paint a great picture, and personally I agree with you. IMO the answer the dudes won’t say is actually Power. Less mature women tend to be more impressed by the older guy. She’s easy to be around because her boundaries are less firm, she looks up to them with more respect, and sure she is “hot” (which isn’t necessarily true), but more over the sexual experience is more enjoyable for him, because she’s in a more experimental phase of life / more likely to be seeking his approval. Thats the re…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 06:41 PM
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Totally agree, and yet the pajamafaction of America continues.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 06:32 PM
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I agree it’s disrespectful. But you shouldn’t be flattered, presenting yourself well for a date is the bare minimum, for all parties involved.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 06:30 PM
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Objective reality is white knighting now?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 06:27 PM
3

I disagree, the 7/11 pizza slice is just a Pass.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 06:25 PM
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I think this is the best solution to the issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/24 08:00 PM
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Absolutely! And especially back in those days.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/24 07:51 PM
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No, that was/is a disaster for families. Having your daughter have to move back home with a child, after her relationship with their father failed (for whatever reason), is a big misfortune to the family as a whole. Let’s not act like it’s not a big deal, because it is. I agree with you otherwise, the subjugation of women was shit economic decision. We’ve thankfully gotten past. I guess society is still adjusting, even though it’s taking a bit longer than it should IMO.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/24 07:48 PM
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Oh cmon, there were so many good answers to that question. You went low effort lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/24 07:43 PM
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That’s a pretty disrespectful response to efforts taken, time sacrificed, and energy used by someone else.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/24 09:26 PM
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It’ll be a nice alternative for the dudes who want that. I foresee it being an expensive, life long car payment kind of thing. But hey, to each their own.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/24 09:24 PM
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Restricted how?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/24 12:26 AM
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I agree with equal treatment, I appreciate and do my best to have good manners as I interact with the world. That being said, I don’t think you’re painting an accurate picture. in my experience women, most women don’t flow through the world with a “I treat people with kindness, they treat me with kindness” attitude. I’ve observed a general indifference to everyone, and light suspicion, and that’s all good, there are reasons for it. But what you described about the attitude of men non gendered, a…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/24 06:27 PM
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I’m missing the logic in this one. The guy who’s mad is coming off desperate because he’s mad, and expressing it (that makes total sense). But this implies a man who’s single by choice, or has options is happy not being in a relationship, and that’s definitely not 100%. It definitely doesn’t equate to them being more attractive either, that’s subjective, and has a ton of variables. It just means they aren’t mad (or displaying signs of desperate behavior). The second group also doesn’t consistent…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/24 12:33 AM
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As you said it’s a complex issue, but only because it’s multifaceted. The first problem as I see it, is social media instigating a war of the sexs. Try to realize that the numbers just don’t match up. Depending on where you live, it’s most likely that a man can’t provide a middle class life on a single income for himself, let alone a family of 3-4. Women are humans and they are trying to figure out what they want out of life just as much as you are, and are just as susceptible to changing what t…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/24 06:41 PM
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This has been the most well thought out answer. Thank you for sharing
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/24 07:53 PM
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Men in the west have actually been doing this for a long time. Rape has been seen socially as one of if not the worst behavior a man can participate in for generations. No, it’s not been lowered to 0%, and I truly hope one day it can be. But that doesn’t mean, as you imply, that rape is seen by men and society as acceptable.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/24 07:40 PM
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I’m in total agreement, I prefer some one who actually “works out”. But I’ve had a lot of relationship issues, when it comes to what I personally consider exercising, so I’ve had to readjust my standard. Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/24 02:32 PM
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No form of physical activity. It doesn’t have to be much, but something on a regular basis. Like walking daily, yoga, dance, Zumba, just something.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/24 12:07 AM
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I find this take wildly inaccurate. In my experience, women can be very insecure in themselves, and often have to rally / or get a pump up from their squad. On all kinds of things and situations. Conversely, my interactions with young men over the last few years has given rise to more and more false self confidence (fake it till you make it / holding frame bullshit) with little to no substance. My personal observations, have me thinking self awareness in general is in recession.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/24 09:29 PM
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You were totally spot on. That guy just gonna miss the boat
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/24 11:43 PM
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Yeah, and it’s a very high percentage. I still thought it would be higher.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/24 09:35 PM
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Only 87? I figured it would be higher than that, huh, learning something new everyday.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/24 07:59 PM
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IDK anything about this specific case, but it doesn’t matter how rich or attractive you are. If your partner feels unhappy, or neglected in the relationship they are susceptible to being picked up on. Man, or woman doesn’t matter. I’ve seen this with friends, from every side of the equation. You have to take care of your partner, and they have to take care of you. It’s an oversimplification, but that’s the long and short of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 09:31 PM
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Can’t agree more
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 03:55 AM
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I don’t know about prostitutes specifically. But ugly dudes are just as likely to be disloyal as anyone else. Shitty people come in all shapes, sizes, colors, and attractiveness levels. Everyone should always go for people they are attracted to, it’s the one thing that can’t really be improved on. (With out extreme measures)
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 06:41 PM
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The same way you show empathy towards anyone. Actively listen, don’t judge, benefit of the doubt, don’t invalidate their feelings. Etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/24 01:47 AM
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You made 2 great comments, that were well thought out. I appreciated you sharing them. Unfortunately, it doesn’t seem like the other person was actually open to different ideas, or perspectives. Shame
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/24 01:43 AM
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ROFL
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/24 09:35 PM
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Congratulations, dose your wife know that you view your marriage as simply a Pair Bond, and that any form of friendship is totally secondary to procreation? I’m not arguing the point you made, that hormones are the driving factor. That’s proven biology. What I was commenting on is the contempt you seem to have for human relationships. And I apologize for the rage phase comment, I’m glad you aren’t angry.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/24 07:28 PM
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The hormones are what make it magic. Ease up on the analysis of the whole thing, talk and listen to women you respect. I hope you get out of the rage phase soon my friend. Life is so good on the other side of the red pill, but you have to find your own way to purple.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/24 04:09 PM
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Yeah, that was really bad. Who would want a relationship where you weren’t friends as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/24 04:06 PM
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OP you’re ridiculous. You need more social experience, and to be less judgmental. There’s nothing wrong with you not finding younger women interesting, but this post comes off as “I lived hard, now I’m better than those you haven’t”. You’ve accomplished something truly great, accept that others won’t have to and try to connect with them. Men and women, because it sounds like you wouldn’t want younger male friends either. Your accomplishments are great, but not so amazing that you should excuse y…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/24 04:01 PM
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It truly is.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/24 04:07 AM
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What if the exact thing I say not do do will save everyone from their brain’s melting.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/24 04:03 AM
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Dishonesty in general is a bad thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/24 07:59 PM
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I agree that this forum is full of terrible examples of humans. Please, I beg you, don’t let this be the thing that you use to judge Men as a whole. None of the views, rhetoric, or groups this sub represents is even close to normal. Most people, men and women are very similar, capable of chill and shit behavior. Don’t let the shit you see on Reddit give you second thoughts on humanity.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/24 08:49 PM
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Oh no. Lol. More like friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 03:15 AM
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I agree. I think that’s what I’m trying to describe, I just chilled out about talking to women. This made more interactions, then grew from there.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 03:14 AM
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I think, it was more of a confidence thing. I became more relaxed around women, and listened more. It would depend on what we’re defining as “successful”
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 03:12 AM
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I can only speak from my own experience. But yeah, when I stopped putting women on a pedestal, and started treating them like just people, things vastly improved for me. More friends, girlfriends, and fun hook ups.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 02:20 AM
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You make a good point. Where I’m coming from is more the “Put on a pedestal” effect.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/24 09:59 PM
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I can only speak anecdotally. But my gay friends here in LA are finding the dating community pretty toxic. Sure you can hook up, but the superficial pressures in their community seem awful. And as others have said, actual relationships are far and few between.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/24 04:51 PM
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I totally agree with your sentiment. I feel the biggest issue for dudes is not treating women like other humans.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/24 04:46 PM
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Haha. First date Starbucks, second date U-Haul.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/24 11:23 PM
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It’s not the same, but I’m not the same either. I’m older now, and not as good looking. So I couldn’t say whether or not younger women do the same, if I had to guess, it’s probably similar. The base principle, of when someone is attracted to you they will find ways to get your attention, want to see you, are still the same. How it manifests now may change a bit, but people use the tools they have at their disposal, so I’d bet it wouldn’t be too different.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/24 04:35 PM
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I’ve had attractive friends, and I’ve been the “the hot guy” before. It’s a night and day difference how both men and women treat you. My career is in hotels. Some of the crazy things I experienced from women were… 2 different women that worked in the culinary departments, brought cookies and other baked goods to my office multiple times a week. Free food at any of the 7 restaurants in the hotel when I walked into the kitchens, from female cooks and chefs. Yes this would have gotten them in trou…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/24 06:59 PM
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Not being in an LTR by the time you’re in your thirties is definitely a red flag, if if the person is looking for an LTR. Man, or woman. If I was asked for advice by this person, I would tell them to take some time to really think about if they actually want a relationship. If they need some help combing through the nuances, to ask a therapist for guidance. If this were a friend of mine, I’d try to help them break down what they want, versus what they don’t, and iterate that a relationship comes…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/24 06:44 PM
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Sorry, if I spoke out of turn.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/24 04:49 PM
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Sorry to check out your profile, I usually don’t bother. But I think one of your issues is that your a single mother with 2 small children. Even if you’re attractive, even if you “have your shit together”. It’s difficult to find a man to commit to a long term monogamous relationship, when that means he’s committing to your children too. I’m not saying that’s right morally, but it’s an unfortunate reality.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/24 03:15 AM
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Was taking a trip you could both afford not an option, while he saved for Hawaii? Was there any attempt at compromise? There’s a a lot of factors to this. My first thought is if she’d be safe alone, and not at least with friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 06:24 PM
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Just beginning to suspect it? IMO it’s to push women into the workforce harder and faster, in order to take advantage of their spending habits.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 06:21 PM
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I think the point they were trying to make is that the main stream thinking falsely says different than the stats you linked. Not that the stats are incorrect. But I may have misunderstood you both 🤷🏾‍♂️
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/24 04:00 PM
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I fully support this. I’d like to add a test for parenting as well please.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/24 03:56 PM
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Men are partially held to that standard, the caliber of people you surround yourself with will always be judged as a reflection of you. The difference comes from the initial role men are perceived to have in the dating game. Men as the primary actor in dating, will always be viewed as successful (to some degree) by the amount of success, or “wins” they have. It shows, on some level, that as the initiator he is good at his part game. This, in relation to women being selective, not giving her time…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 03:45 PM
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That’s not where the idea comes from. It’s never been about how much “work” a women put in. It’s about self control, and whether she waited to find out that a guy was of good character, of if he was a POS. It’s not about a woman perusing men she wants, it’s about if shes selective about who she entertains.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 03:05 AM
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I have a few close friends that poly has worked for, but it’s certainly not for most (including myself). That being said, I doubt poly is on the rise. Even though the easy logic would have it flow towards that, as more “high value men” refuse to participate in monogamous relationships, suggesting Poly makes since. I guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/24 07:57 PM
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What? A SAHM that is actively managing a household and children is definitely up early to start the kids off, every day. Managing children and a home requires a lot of attention, if you want it done well. Even if you’re outsourcing things like housework, or gardening. Which still requires some form of coordination and supervision.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/24 07:28 PM
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Totally agree.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/24 07:24 PM
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Well, there’s a lot it tells you about someone’s personality, as the previous poster described. Also, it gives women a good sorting criterion, so they want to learn more about his personality.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/24 05:07 PM
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I think you’re way over thinking it bud.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/24 04:51 PM
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Is that your line? Sex = organ sales?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 09:48 PM
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I am a veteran with PTSD. I’m literally reading all this thread’s non scene while waiting for my video Therapy session to start. Lol. Please don’t speak for me. It’s not been difficult at all to receive help from the VA.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 09:38 PM
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There a plenty of women who will sleep with a guy because he has money, without directly paying her. He can afford fancier dates, better restaurants etc. There are women in the party scene who will sleep with a guy because he pays for bottle service at popular clubs. There’s women who are genuinely attracted to a guy because he wears a Rolex, and Drives a Bentley. Affluence is attractive to people. If the goal is to just hookup money can definitely do that. If what you’re talking about is primal…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/24 07:37 AM
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It can be very effective. Thank you for sharing your experience, and thoughts on the subject.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/24 02:45 AM
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There’s also a lot of truth to it. OP just isn’t bringing up the advantages of have money.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/24 02:42 AM
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I’d like to add Los Angeles to that list.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/24 02:41 AM
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So what’s your suggestion? I agree with your points, you’re spot on. Introverted men have a daunting challenge when it comes to women, and it’s well known. What should they do about it?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/24 07:16 PM
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That’s really not true. And human behavior is more complex than that.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/24 07:22 PM
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I think that certainly a part of it. It may even be a large part. But there are other examples in male dominated spaces that are also good arguments. Team sports, and military service both come to mind. I think that humans in general are conformist, as an extension of basically being pack animals.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/24 12:57 AM
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That’s fair. I admit, when I read the post title, I was hoping to see some more interesting points. But dudes are simple creatures lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/24 07:51 PM
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Yeah, did I disagree?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/24 07:47 PM
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OP almost everything you listed as male conformity are examples of things men do in order to increase their chances of attracting women. Ie. Hair style, and clothing trends for men are far more effected by the amount of women who would hook up with the rapper, than the rapper’s actual style. Same goes with where men are going, “hunters follow the herd”. As for Redpill stuff, that has gained genuine popularity among men, but not nearly on the scale you’re saying.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/24 07:34 PM
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Being ridiculed for being ugly goes both ways.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/24 03:42 AM
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How Yennifer was treated like shit when she was a fugly hunchback
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/24 03:35 AM
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The Witcher season 1, yennifer’s story arch
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/24 02:59 AM
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Because sometimes she wants to get laid, and she’ll let you slide on social skills, or intelligence, or being broke.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/24 02:57 AM
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lol. My Ex girlfriend used everyone of these. Damn, wish I had seen this play book back then.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/23 01:31 AM
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Well YMMV. I wish you luck
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/23 10:09 PM
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Who says you have to sit in the sidelines? Have fun doing the things you love. Get in amazing shape, what ever that looks like for you, build a life that is both high functioning, and low stress. Women will come as you become more confident and happy. Confidence is built from achievement, go do the things you love. It’s like a magnet for female attention. And don’t be surprised if you catch interest from older women as well. Be well, you’re killing it my guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/23 09:57 PM
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As you age those tings will become increasingly important. The women you’re describing aren’t necessarily in the head space to be looking for partners, who’s worth, stability, and financial potential. That will definitely change as they grow, and want different things out of life
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/23 09:44 PM
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I have, my career is in security actually, and drunk women are far worse than drunk men. More common to cause problems, and cause worse problems when they do. That being said all drunk people are awful to deal with.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/23 09:04 PM
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I feel like that’s more of a porn “script”
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/23 02:54 AM
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Ok, as someone who has a decent to high body count, has engaged the services of sex works, and has had multiple short and long term relationships. I’m tired of this argument, and it’s becoming more clear that the notion of replacing female intimacy, with escorts is just ludicrous. OP have you ever actually been with a sex worker before? Have you been in an romantic relationship with a woman? I ask because the 2 experiences are so wildly different that it’s almost laughable to think they are inte…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/23 11:16 PM
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Sex workers do that now. If they are able to choose they express their right too.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/23 11:05 PM
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None of the comments I’ve read so far argue with your point. And women having their standards is all well and fine, we all do. Your question was what’s the “hard work” that men put in, and these are the answers. It does take active work to be a well rounded person, and they’re in short supply. Most of the western world is obese, most men and women don’t share the same hobbies, and ambition is subjective / doesn’t necessarily equal happiness. We all love the idea of a well rounded person, but it’…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/23 02:43 AM
6

All cheating is bad, it’s a betrayal of trust. Whether or not a person, or their immediate support group, rationalize it to make it seem acceptable. It’s also disrespectful to women for you to paint them in such a reactive, and victimized light. Women are capable of the full spectrum of human emotions and urges. To portray them as only passive entities that are acted upon is awful. Women (just like men) are capable of losing self control, falling prey to lust and desire, or chasing catharsis. Pe…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/23 03:26 PM
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That’s dumb AF. Cheating is bad, equally bad.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/23 04:49 AM
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There certainly are. I didn’t think it was appropriate to add that to my comment. Didn’t want to take anything away from yours. I guess all we can do is try to be good humans, and spread that mentality to whoever will listen.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/23 08:15 PM
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I’m sorry for your experiences. What you shared is exactly why OP is making this post, why there are a lot of women with the same thinking. Because it’s true, and definitely happens.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/23 08:11 PM
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100% agree
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/23 08:08 PM
3

It comes from the pretty common trope of young women being attracted to band boys, then settling down later on with more “normal” guys. What actually explains this is that a woman grows as a person, and her life experiences lead to a change in her dating habits as she matures. Pretty common adult stuff IMO. Dudes go through similar changes, TRP just doesn’t talk about them in the same way.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/23 06:19 PM
1

I disagree. Obviously it’s opinion, but I think she’s a lot prettier than most American women around that age
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 07:30 PM
1

Can confirm. I’m black, and when I was stationed in Italy I took the train to Germany when I wanted to party. Scandinavian countries too.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 07:26 PM
2

This made me spit my coffee. Thanks for the laugh
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/23 10:49 PM
2

IKR 🤣🤣🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/23 10:48 PM
1

I’m sorry to hear about your medical issues. Hopefully you’ll be able to recover, and get back to doing the things you love.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/23 03:24 AM
1

I agree. Your exact point, is the number problem in my current LTR. It’s driving me crazy, and I don’t know what to do.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/23 03:20 AM
2

Haha. Population just hit zero 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/23 11:42 PM
4

I’d definitely pay for that. I’m not particularly concerned about most of the things you stated women lie about, but it would give me a huge boost. I’m pretty proud of where my life is right now, and being pre vetted would make the whole thing easier.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/23 11:39 PM
3

I’m no stranger to long hours, so I can sympathize. But like the person above said, this is a personal issue. I’m glad you have it figured out though
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/23 10:31 PM
6

Most people can’t afford an Au Pair. Or know what it is, for that matter.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/23 03:08 AM
1

Why would you feel guilty/ bad? If you don’t act on it then you’re your fine. I can definitely suck having to suffer those feelings, but it’s your decision.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 05:01 PM
2

That’s a fair opinion, but the point your making is for nuance. Where do you feel, personally, is an area where you’re ok giving up your rights / pay / treatment, out of a sense of femininity? Or where do you think equality is unobtainable? No sarcasm BTW, I’m genuinely curious. I have my own thoughts on it as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/23 07:52 PM
1

Well, the basis of Feminism is equality. What women wouldn’t innately believe/ want that?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/23 07:38 PM
23

Or she can call AAA, or change her own tire, or call somebody else. he altered their relationship when he put her in the position where she had to reject him, the relationship is no longer the same. Why would he be on the list of people she would call in an emergency?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/23 01:14 AM
17

That seems weird and unnecessary
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/23 01:11 AM
5

Yes. She definitely wasn’t unreasonable. Which I why personally I don’t care about B count, or if someone else does. I just judge hypocrites.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/23 06:17 PM
6

Yep. She was as nice as she could be about it, and we’ve stayed friends. But she made it very clear, that anything more was off the table. Hurt like hell, I saw real potential.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/23 06:12 PM
4

Interesting, personally I’ve found it to be the opposite. That most people (both men and women) actually have a long lit of standards. But don’t express most of them, because they think they’re just how things are “supposed” to go.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/23 01:47 PM
9

You’re not alone. I once was rejected by a women a I really liked over my number. Feels bad man.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/23 01:40 PM
2

Then why are the arguments about possible danger so common? And I agree, men probably had better social skills.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/23 04:30 AM
3

My father definitely had it easier than the 20 something’s now. Not because of convenience mind you, you made a great point. But, IMO, because there was a more general trust between people, women were less afraid of being approached by someone they didn’t know. And people in general were more social.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/23 12:47 AM
3

I’m sorry if you’re experience would draw you to believe this. But it’s not true. There are a lot of generally good people.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/23 12:42 AM
1

Assault? How so?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/23 11:22 PM
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Great comment. I feel your explanation reflects actual reality.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/23 07:20 PM
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They become incompatible because at some point they decide to stop growing together. shame really
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/23 07:17 PM
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I used to think like you. But I’ve seen counseling work really well for friends and family, they say having a professional guide the conversation, and act as a referee really helps.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/23 07:15 PM
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Wait what? He tagged his mom in?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/23 04:39 PM
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100% agree. My friends called me crazy for suggesting this, but I’m in by far the healthiest relationship I’ve ever been in. Haha
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/23 04:38 PM
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Although I see you point OP, and agree that women can exaggerate. The statistics you’re using as an example are specifically highlighting a time period when children are small and require more time and attention. This is also a common time for maternity leave, and couples to rearrange their lives. The usual sacrifice made, so one parent can be present for the kids, is that the mother scale back work. This means that the man has to work more in an attempt to maintain their level of comfort, usual…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/23 04:33 PM
2

Yes. I genuinely like my partner, and respect her. She’s become one of my best friends. I’ve liked every woman I’ve ever been in a relationship with, I wouldn’t commit to someone I didn’t actually enjoy spending time with.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/23 08:09 PM
1

100
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/23 08:40 PM
7

Very cool. My fiancé had a similar view, and sent a link to ethical sapphires that came from Montana. Pretty affordable too
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/23 08:39 PM
1

Pretty much. I think the post is upset that women have an opinion about it? Maybe 🤷🏾‍♂️
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/23 11:21 PM
2

You want men to wake up, and step up? Your OP doesn’t read like that at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/23 07:58 PM
1

OP your post is silly. And as some of the more intelligent comments have said, men and women need each other for many reasons. Your view points are extreme, and don’t really reflect real life. A quick look at the average income, average cost of living, and average cost of raising a child with some money put away for their college will show you that pairing up is a wise strategy. Most people in western society will need a dual income, to buy a house. Let alone raise a child. If you aren’t making …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/23 07:49 PM
3

Thanks you for this well put, sane comment.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/23 07:38 PM
3

Just saw that YT Clip, pure gold.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/23 07:32 PM
3

Word
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/23 11:02 PM
1

Lol. 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/23 06:16 PM
2

Very true, unfortunately, the low socioeconomic class is getting bigger.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 01:30 AM
1

Yes, but that’s not a new concept, and the tenets of self improvement it gives have been around for a long long time, and put out by amazing people. The most valuable parts of TRP were put out by guy like Tony Robins decades prior.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/23 05:47 PM
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I think you missed my point. Anyone, can whine about anything. And it’s totally valid, not giving a shit about their whining, equally valid.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/23 12:02 AM
2

Gotcha. I saw you say the same in a comment further down.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/23 11:44 PM
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That’s inaccurate. They care about all those things, what they don’t say is that they want to be attracted to you before those things are taken into account.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/23 10:34 PM
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Perspective. 🤷🏾‍♂️ American citizens are all born in the .1% of all human affluence, of all of human existence. Doesn’t stop any of us, from complaining about what could be better to our own experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/23 10:28 PM
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A quick google search show that rain.org reported 14.8% of women have been the victims of rape with another 2.8% having rape be attempted on them. And the NSRV reported 24.8% of women have been or an attempted rape 1/4. Considering the the damage, I think women’s level of caution is warranted. They didn’t say anything specific about how many out of those numbers were Murdered, and they didn’t say anything about non-sexual assaults.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/23 10:14 PM
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Welp 🤷🏾‍♂️
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/23 05:27 PM
1

I have all of those relationships, except for nieces. Mr. True we sounds like a real piece of shit, and I agree we’re too lenient on a lot of the SA cases I’ve heard about. But I also haven’t heard about them all, so I ask, I hopes of being better informed. Thank you for sharing.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/23 05:27 PM
2

Love the coordination
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/23 05:16 PM
1

That got pretty specific at then end. What’s up with Ohio?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/23 05:14 PM
1

How so?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/23 05:08 PM
1

What are you implying?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/23 05:08 PM
1

That’s the part I was looking for too. Anecdotal, but personally I’ve always lost interest before my GFs did. 🤷🏾‍♂️
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/23 07:05 PM
2

I’m thankful for it too.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/23 10:52 PM
2

That sucks. I hope the repeal doesn’t go through.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/23 10:50 PM
0

You couldn’t do it at 16 then either, because it would be entry level. But there are skilled labor jobs that can support a family on a single income, that don’t require formal education. Like I said it’s hard as hell, but it can be done.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/23 05:23 AM
1

I’d argue it’s more apt in the harder times
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/23 12:53 AM
0

Fun fact, you can still do that. It’s hard as hell, but still possible.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/23 12:52 AM
1

Hard No
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/23 08:12 PM
1

💯
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/23 07:31 PM
1

Women in their 30s are great. It’s hard to find a good person that takes care of themselves at any age.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/23 07:30 PM
6

I agree that it’s a great post. And maybe my opinion on the question you posed will have some value. The nuance in the 2 conflicting ideas is what matters. The initial confusion of a man being pursued is off putting, but it didn’t say that it would lead to failure. Also, that Fantasy of being loved for who he is comes after he’s earned the love / affection/ loyalty, after he’s put in the work. It’s the reward for a job well done aspect that makes all the difference. At least that’s what I think.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/23 07:13 PM
3

Yup, sure sounds like the dude is a victim. Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/23 07:01 PM
6

That is the best explanation, I think. It’s very much “be yourself, ie keeping your opinions, values, and viewpoints. But you still need to put in the work to make yourself worthy”
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/23 06:59 PM
1

Lol,Nah. She liked sex, and she had a lot of fit guys at her disposal 🤷🏾‍♂️
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/23 03:19 PM
3

Was in the army, knew and was friendly with our unit’s version.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/23 06:29 PM
8

Can confirm. I’m in Hotel Security, Hospitality is a circus
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/23 06:16 PM
5

Sorry man. I hope things have gotten better.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/23 02:35 PM
2

We were a few months in, and the topic of EXs had come up. It unfortunately turned into body count, and I could see the disgust on her face when I told her my number, the whole vibe of the relationship took a turn at that point. I asked her about it a while later, and she confessed to being insecure about her own experience. It didn’t last long after that, I don’t think she could find a comfortable place around me anymore. I once physically fainted during an argument, can’t even remember what it…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/23 02:32 PM
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Yep, I’ve seen it too. If they never said anything, it’s on them. Within reason. But dudes are just as guilty, feeling a since of ownership over a women who only hooked up with them once while they were drunk. I was originally marking the point of no double standards in action. If she does, she’s a POS. If a guy does, he’s a POS. That simple
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/23 03:29 AM
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No one said you were born with a silver spoon. And I agree with you, agreeing with me. You, nor her are to be held accountable to each other unless you agree. There for your just as free to never commit. So what was your original bitching about?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/23 02:57 AM
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Do you only eat top ramen because others can only afford to eat it? Or live in a cardboard box, because others a homeless? No you don’t, nor would you because the less fortunate complained. But I imagine you don’t claim you should either. I believe people aren’t accountable to each other romantically, until they agree to be. If you think once you’re in the Talking Phase, you and the other person shouldn’t talk to anyone else, that’s cool, but communicate that. And hopefully they agree.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/23 02:27 AM
1

💯
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/23 09:00 PM
7

This is the way
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/23 08:58 PM
5

Do you communicate how you feel in this early on? For the record, I think the way you feel is great, I’m just wondering if you make it known.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/23 08:55 PM
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By communicating openly and honestly.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/23 08:53 PM
1

I believe alls fair until the “exclusivity” conversation happens. That being said, whatever someone’s stance on this issue, I hope they hold the same standard for both parties involved.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/23 08:51 PM
1

Oh I totally agree. Personally speaking a 5 pound difference completely changes my jawline. Whereas I feel women can have a 5 to 10 pound swing either way and not loose attractiveness. That’s one of the things that’s really cool about women. Edit: typos, Damn talk to type!
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 03:53 PM
1

I totally agree with your point. But my theory is less about fairytales, and more just the attention women get in general for men.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 03:47 PM
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No, it’s not fair to answer the question. But dudes are just as guilty of letting themselves go during a relationship
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 03:45 PM
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Why does your post sound so angry?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 03:58 AM
6

It’s a loud minority.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/23 10:54 PM
1

Actually a lot of mental health professionals suggest their patients get into a routine of healthy habits such as sleeping regularly, eating a balanced diet, and exercising, before prescribing medication. Because a lot of one’s mental health is corollary to their physical well being.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/23 01:24 AM
0

Insi, insin maybe? Either way Involuntarily single.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/23 01:06 AM
6

This is the best break down I’ve read. Thank you
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/23 01:47 AM
1

Another one of these? Stop trying to get women to relate to the feeling of “she let Chad do anal, but not me”. It won’t work, because it’s constantly reframed and something it’s not nearly as visceral. You have a better chance by breaking it down to its core components, and maybe, asking the question in good faith.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/23 02:44 AM
2

It sounds like the issues that arose from the 1950s, that are sited as cautionary tales for feminism. More over, those women were also told to support their higher earning husbands too. They stated the same be benefits you use too. Just sayin 🤷🏾‍♂️ Seems like the real issue is being a genuine team player in your relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/23 02:02 AM
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The boomers have already done their damages for Social Security. It’s the millennials who are gonna put the last nail in the coffin.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/23 08:18 PM
1

🤣🤣🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/23 01:42 AM
3

You’re totally right, but if you don’t try it, you’ll never get any where. Just take the damn risk.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/23 01:01 AM
1

Unfortunately the overlap is large. Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/23 03:20 AM
1

This pretty much sums up my 00-2010s. What a time to be alive.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/23 12:52 AM
1

Why wouldn’t a guy want your attention?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/23 12:50 AM
1

Your friend wanted to fuck you.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/23 12:41 AM
2

I’ve had the complete opposite experience. When I was single, most of my female friends tried to set me up with their single friends. I’ve had my sis and cousins invite me to things, with the specific goal of fucking one of their friends. We used to joke that they would pimp me out lol. Guess YMMV
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/23 12:03 AM
2

Lol, I thought you were just a machine my man. I was like damn, 5000 cold approaches! The balls on this guys haha
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/23 04:00 PM
2

I counted the cold approaches, not every shot I took. Then it’s probably in the thousands.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/23 03:36 PM
3

That’s the first time I’ve actually seen someone put down stats. They’re very respectable. If you need those to give my argument credibility then sure. I’ll go toe toe with you. I’ve had way less approaches, probably less than 300. My body count (before I stopped counting) was over 100, probably less than 110. Dated models, and strippers. Currently engaged to a former model/ ballet dancer. I hope my clout is good enough. Thant being said. 🙄 To answer your questions. 1. Make friends in your male …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/23 04:49 AM
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They’re called social skills, You have to practice them. When you get good, then you’ll have a high chance at knowing whether or not you’re the Creeper or AH. What’s the upside to using this approach, instead of brute forcing through all your options? Reputation. Your reputation in a small population matters, it can even do some of the work for you when it comes to women. Most women aren’t open to being cold approached in any setting, being vouched for by mutual friends or having a good reputati…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/23 02:15 AM
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TBF dudes are just as bad. We get upset when a women we are close to / interested in likes things about a guy we hate, or don’t possess. It is what it is. 🤷🏾‍♂️
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/23 01:59 AM
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It means they’re taking offense to you having preference for characteristics they either don’t have, or don’t respect.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/23 01:55 AM
2

Uh, a 5’5” guy can still seriously injure, or kill the average women with his bare hands.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/23 01:51 AM
3

RIP. However controversial, the world is poorer for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/23 01:43 AM
2

Your not wrong OP, it’s a contradictory set of views. Stats say that children from 2 parent homes to better in all categories. Boys who grow up with fathers (for the most part) do better than boys who don’t by a large margin. But at the same time, getting involved with a single parent, weather a single mother or father, is a flat out bad investment of your time and energy. For all the reasons stated in the comments above. Step parents should never be shamed, but it should also never be your firs…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/23 01:42 AM
2

KS died? Woah. He had a harsh slant, but his logic was sound. That sucks
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/23 01:36 AM
2

👍🏾
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/23 10:24 PM
2

You make a great point, and I’m pretty sure that a troll
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/23 06:24 PM
1

Because that comment reads like a troll.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/23 06:18 PM
2

I agree with both your points. Although I thinks it’s a bit weird to put a psychological term in a OLD blurb. Then again I haven’t used OLD in a decade, so I don’t really know. In my experience with (hobbyist level psych) usually when agreeableness is talked about it’s almost immediately followed by warnings of the politeness pitfall you mentioned.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/23 06:05 PM
1

Or whey could want someone that’s empathetic. According to the definition the person above ☝🏾said.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/23 05:47 PM
1

Lol. What is that excerpt quoted from, it’s hilarious.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/23 09:46 PM
2

I understand your point, and it’s definitely true that women aren’t always dressing / getting cute for male attention. That being said, some self awareness please, the argument you’re making is tired. Yes, men need show self control and be respectful, and on the other side women need to take it with a grain of salt. And before we go there, no this isn’t the same as blaming the victim, and no dress “provocatively” in no way excuses harassment, ever.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/23 09:38 PM
1

Ahh, gotcha.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/23 09:32 PM
5

I imagine it’s either because he’s hurt not being seen as a potential sexual partner, or because she was drunk and it came out wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/23 07:35 PM
2

I really didn’t get that from the post. What makes you go there?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/23 07:25 PM
1

I live in California, the amount of women who declare conservatism an instant deal breaker is nuts. I feel everyone has the right to want what they want, but it’s bordering on blatant intolerance.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/23 06:07 PM
4

It less about the box, and more about how she uses it.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/23 06:11 AM
1

I mean, I’ve def ghosted cuz she was bad. So I think it goes both ways on that one. Hell, I’ve hooked up with a woman, and on the drive home wished I stayed home and ordered pizza.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/23 06:10 AM
2

Areuoustillup is still going? No way
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/23 01:41 AM
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Same
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/23 06:01 PM
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