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MRP5248/r/MarriedRedPill08/05/20 09:13 PM
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MRP5248/r/MarriedRedPill08/05/20 07:52 PM
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MRP5248/r/askMRP05/02/20 01:25 PM
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Age - 35 Weight - 144lb Height - 5'10" Lifts 1 Rep Max - Squat 195, Deadlift 235, Bench Press 155. Relationship - Married 10 years, together 15. Family - 6 year old, 2 year old. OYS - It's been 10 months since I last posted. I thought "I got this" and put on cruise control. That was bullshit and I failed to make progress. Lifting / Diet - I'm still a skinny fuck. I've consistently lifted these months, but I stall and change programs between 531 / PHUL / etc. I tell myself it is the lifting progr…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/09/21 12:49 PM
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OYS #29 Age - 34 Weight - 152lb Height - 5'10" Lifts 5 Rep Max - Squat 205, Deadlift 260, Row 145, Bench Press 160. Reading - NMMNG, MMSLP, WISNIFG, Pook, MAP, WOTSM, SGM. Relationship - Married 9 years, together 14 years. Family - 6 year old son, 2 year old son. Mission - To be a man I respect. To enjoy life. Lifting / Diet - I'm back after deload week. Lifts are 5 lbs under 5RM. Weight is at 152lb, same as before deload. Continuing with PHUL 4 days per week. At 2,900 kcal per day. Social - It …
/r/MarriedRedPill27/10/20 12:13 PM
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Roger that.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/10/20 01:00 PM
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Damn it. The mental models are much harder than the lifting aspect. I must become the prize to see myself as the prize. To do that, I must put in the work, otherwise it's just LARPing. Why do I not see myself as the prize? First, I know I'm a skinny faggot. I know attractive women do not find me physically attractive. Hell, I don't take off my shirt in my own backyard out of being embarrassed. I don't like how I look. I don't like being skinny. That mental model is holding me back on seeing myse…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/10/20 07:56 PM
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OYS #29 Age - 34 Weight - 152lb Height - 5'10" Lifts 5 Rep Max - Squat 205, Deadlift 260, Row 145, Bench Press 160. Reading - NMMNG, MMSLP, WISNIFG, Pook, MAP, WOTSM, SGM. Relationship - Married 9 years, together 14 years. Family - 6 year old son, 2 year old son. Mission - To be a man I respect. To enjoy life. Lifting - PHUL 4 days per week. Lifts progressed by reps or weight last week. Invested more in my home gym. While it lacks the equipment of a commercial gym and feedback from other lifters…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/10/20 12:17 PM
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OYS #28 (7 Months) Age - 34 Weight - 152lb Height - 5'10" Lifts 5 Rep Max - Squat 205, Deadlift 250, Row 140, Bench Press 160. Reading - NMMNG, MMSLP, WISNIFG, Pook, MAP, WOTSM, SGM. Relationship - Married 9 years, together 14 years. Family - 6 year old son, 2 year old son. Mission - To be a man I respect. To enjoy life. Last week, I got valuable feedback on my mission / goal. I will take time to reflect on the feedback I got. For now, I am staying with this mission. There are aspects of myself …
/r/MarriedRedPill06/10/20 02:37 PM
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Thanks Johney for your time. I appreciate your perspective. When you cannot wake up in the morning and respect the dude looking back at you in the mirror, it tarnishes everything. Exactly. Worth exploring more. I can't imagine resenting my kids. I am good now. Love my kids. Love my time with them. Just took some time to adjust to life with kids. Your priorities change. What is missing for you to be able to say the same thing? I am going to spend time reflecting on this. There are aspects I love …
/r/MarriedRedPill05/10/20 12:58 PM
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That girl put me to shame. /r/weakandsensitive and /r/hornsofapathy, thank you for your time in highlighting my OYS last night.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/10/20 12:47 PM
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I do not have a scheduled deload week. I will reread the 7th week protocol from 531 Forever and look at implementing that. It gave a good structure for a deload week. After I felt that knee pain, I did do a deload week the next week. I decreased the weight by 10% and decreased # of sets. Then, worked back up. However, it was reactive to the injury, instead of proactive before getting injured. Thanks for finding this blind spot in my lifting.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/09/20 05:21 PM
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If you do post on the Starting Strength forum, be sure to read how to record your video. The good part on this forum is you get feedback from a SS coach, so some credibility there.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/09/20 01:34 PM
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Was a shitty week in this department. I only went to the gym one day. By far the worst in the last three months. I’m disappointed but I had a lot of things come up. But, but, but! You write a whole paragraph of excuses. Do not make excuses to yourself. Instead, make a plan. What are you going to do differently next time? What's your plan? Read the OYS post at the top. It says "The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the differenc…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/09/20 01:05 PM
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I ran a few errands for her this week. More recently, I would have felt bad about this - like I was her delivery boy - but I actually offered to do them because she was busy, and it felt like the right thing to do. I have liked her attitude and behavior the last few weeks; I felt like I wanted to reward that. This seems like a give to get situation from NMMNG. You give her help so you can get the attitude and behavior you want. Isn't that a problem? What if she does not act or behave how you wan…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/09/20 12:52 PM
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I knew it would be a big deal and a fight. So I said "no," no DEERing or even explanation; just said no....I came down in the morning expecting some argument, and I was ready for it. I acted normally, said good morning in a cheery voice and kissed her good morning; my usual routine. I see some positives here. You knew what your decision was going to upset her and you did not avoid the conflict just to keep things smooth. Then, you were able to reset the next day.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/09/20 12:43 PM
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. Why? I wasn’t needed for anything at home. That I’m this far into MRP and still feel guilty about taking time and doing something exclusively for my own enjoyment, really pisses me off. At least you recognize your own thoughts of feeling guilty and want to reject that mindset. That's better than not even being aware of how your thinking. What has helped me is when I recognize these Nice Guy thoughts, I tell myself a statement that represents the mindset I want. I say to myself, "I put my own n…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/09/20 12:29 PM
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Squatting has been the most problematic lift for me since the very start Record yourself on video doing heavy sets of squats. Watch the video and compare your form to good lifters. Also, post the video in /r/formcheck and Starting Strength forum. Don't blindly trust the feedback, but use it to analyze your form. It's very helpful to get other perspectives on your lifts, but that's hard to do without someone actually seeing you lift.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/09/20 12:21 PM
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OYS #27 (7 Months) Age - 34 Weight - 153lb Height - 5'10" Lifts 5 Rep Max - Squat 205, Deadlift 250, Row 145, Bench Press 160. Reading - NMMNG, MMSLP, WISNIFG, Pook, MAP, WOTSM, SGM. Relationship - Married 9 years, together 14 years. Family - 6 year old son, 2 year old son. Mission - To be a man I respect. To enjoy life. That's my mission for now. The Unchained Man says a mission is "...your overarching, meaningful objective for your entire life." I reflect and I do not find a core objective or …
/r/MarriedRedPill29/09/20 12:35 PM
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Questions can be posted in /r/askMRP. This is not for the main MRP subreddit.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/09/20 07:46 PM
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Thx i will look into these books. I never lifted before, just cardio. But really starting to like it. If you are going to read books and watch YouTube videos to learn how to lift, then I highly recommend you record yourself lifting and post your videos for feedback. There is the subreddit formcheck and Starting Strength forum. The SS forum is great because you know the feedback is from a reputable source. You don't know who you're getting feedback from the formcheck subreddit.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/09/20 06:31 PM
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Roger that.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/09/20 05:46 PM
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You're trying to gain 0.5lb a week and your calc has it projected that way. Yes, I set that spreadsheet to gain .5 per week. This spreadsheet should increase the calories as my weight goes up. I could set this spreadsheet to .75 or 1lb per week. That's more aggressive. You aren't accounting for your noob gains of muscle and diminishing returns as this shit gets harder. Thanks for this heads up. I will monitor this by tracking my weekly weight gain. If I gain less than .5lb per week, I will incre…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/09/20 05:20 PM
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OYS #25 Age - 34 Weight - 151lb Height - 5'10" Lifts 5RM - Squat 200, Deadlift 245, Row 140, Bench Press 155. Reading - NMMNG, MMSLP, WISNIFG, Book of Pook, MAP, WOTSM, SGM. Relationship - Married 9 years, 6 year old son, 2 year old son. Current Goals Eat 2,850 calories -6 / 7 Days Eat 200g protein - 5 / 7 Days No Porn / Jerk Off - 5 / 7 Days Removed No Video Games as a goal. I have not played video games in 2 months. I will focus on the above 3 goals for September. Mission - To be a man I respe…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/09/20 12:59 PM
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That's good advice. I've been with my wife for about 14-15 years. I was her first. So, I trained her to like the sex we have had for over a decade.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/09/20 12:10 PM
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Yes, I very much could be. Yesterday my wife started an overt talk about how I just do what I want, how I give her commands, etc. I'm not going through an angry phase. It's just feels good to do what I want after years of holding back what I want in fear of offending her, upsetting her, etc.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/09/20 02:03 AM
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If she's a brat, just make sure that's what you want. I'm having fun so far. Have the conversation for real ASAP. I will look at having this conversation soon when we're calm, alone, and kids are asleep. I'll introduce the stoplight system and suggest red and yellow. Thank you for advice Horns.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/09/20 06:02 PM
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She is practically begging you to dominate her obviously. It's only obvious after MRP. Before this year, I would have never have pushed this far and seen this side of her. I am reading up on "brats" in BDSM and I'm thinking that's what I have in my wife. I need to explore this. I might have fucked up on the safeword. A few weeks ago, I introduced the safe word concept during flirting. She has a safe word and has used it to give a hard no to initiations. Like I'll pull her into the bathroom while…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/09/20 03:25 PM
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You're about to figure out that the lines you've drawn around her sexuality were just figments of your imagination rooted in your own fears. Well, u/hornsofapathy, last night I saw the lines I drew blur. I initiate and she says, "It's my turn tonight" and almost immediately gets on top, already wet. Basically no foreplay. Mind you, this is two days after that scenario in my OYS. I tell her to take off her shirt and she says "No" with a smile. I go to do it and she pushes my arms down and tries t…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/09/20 12:44 PM
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Got it. I'll watch her actions closely, adjust, and trust my instinct. I don't know what the fuck I like and neither does she. That's what I want to explore. I had to look up struggle fucking just to write this reply. For this scenario in my OYS, I was just pissed that she wouldn't let me play with her tits when I wanted to, so I forcefully moved her hands. 5 minutes later, she's more turned on, and rubbing them on me while she's on top. Watch what she does, not what she says, right? At this sta…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/09/20 05:00 PM
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The sidebar has a few guides specific to divorce if you have not seen them already. With no kids, it is an easier decision to make for you.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/09/20 04:34 PM
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Roger that. What actions should I be looking for here that would signal a problem? I'd imagine it would be covering herself, refusing physical contact from me, avoiding eye contact with me, crying, etc. Those would be actions that tell me I pushed too far and need to work on using safe words, aftercare, etc.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/09/20 04:25 PM
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"...I'm drunk and I hate drunk sex [with you], etc." ... I can't get into the mood [for you] with them in the other room ..." It is helpful for me to frame it like this. Like you said, it is that she is not attracted enough to you. Just keep lifting and building your attractiveness. Enjoy the sex you do get and work on OI for the hard no's. Recently, I initiated in a studio cabin. We were in the bathroom while our kids were in the other room eating lunch. I got a hard no and "I'm not that risky.…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/09/20 12:55 PM
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It is one of the goals I have. To stop looking at porn and stop jerking off. So, I track every day that I do not look at porn or jerk off.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/09/20 12:22 PM
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OYS #24 Age - 34 Weight - 150lb Height - 5'10" Lifts 5RM - Squat 200, Deadlift 245, Row 135, Bench Press 155. Reading - NMMNG, MMSLP, WISNIFG, Book of Pook, WotSM, MAP. Relationship - Married 9 years, 6 year old son, 2 year old son. Mission - To be a man I respect. To enjoy life. Reading - Sex for validation is a core issue, so I am rereading WISNIFG and NMMNG. Current Goals Eat 2,800 calories - 5 / 7 Days. 2735 kcal daily average Eat 200g protein - 5 / 7 Days No Porn / Jerk Off - 6 / 7 Days No …
/r/MarriedRedPill01/09/20 12:18 PM
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As for disassembling shit, you do not have to fully commit, just do some work but not all of it. Set aside 1-2 hours to help with it and it will give you and edge, because she won't be able to say that you didn't help. I don't agree. Don't change your action to appease her. You want to help clean up? Then help clean up. Do it for yourself. Do it because you want to. Don't help because you are trying to change her behavior. That's how you're reply reads to me. Fuck, this woman is going to say shi…
/r/askMRP27/08/20 04:09 PM
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It was helpful to read the other replies here. OP, I did the same thing and tried to imagine using WISNIFG in my responses. It felt too scripted and I realized I didn't internalize the concepts yet. Still working on it. Example 1 MIL: Why did you only come today? We have booked the room for you from yesterday! You are crashing our planning! Me: I understand you feel that way but we wanted to stay at XYZ a bit longer. DEER - You are explaining your actions. You have the right to give no explanati…
/r/askMRP27/08/20 03:47 PM
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Roger that. I shared it in my OYS, because before MRP, I'm pretty sure I would have chickened out of this idea. I wouldn't have had the confidence in my own abilities, I'd be afraid of the risk of failure, etc. It's a powerful feeling to tell yourself, "I can handle it. I can handle anything" and start to believe it. I have been telling my son to tell himself "I got this." when he's afraid of something like climbing. Recently, I could hear him whispering to himself, "I can do this." Felt proud. …
/r/MarriedRedPill26/08/20 04:07 PM
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Many of the dread levels are about becoming a better man and have value. However, as you said, the guide is not about becoming a better man for yourself. It's about getting her to respond to your actions. As much as you tell people to not focus on sex when they start off their MAP, it's hard to accept. That's the reason most people, including me, arrive at MRP. It's the hope that drives people to engage in this hard mode. It takes time to find something greater than that initial goal of more / b…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/08/20 03:00 PM
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This post is late because of my vacation, but it's for me anyway. Age - 34. Weight - 149.8 Height - 5'10" Lifts 5RM - Squat 200, Deadlift 245, Row 135, Bench Press 155. Reading - NMMNG, MMSLP, WISNIFG, Book of Pook, WotSM, MAP. Relationship - Married 9 years, 5 year old son, 2 year old son. Mission - To be a man I respect. To enjoy life. Current Goals Eat 2,800 calories - 5 / 7 days - 2712k daily average Eat 200g protein - 4 / 7 days No Porn / Jerk Off - 5 / 7 days No Video Games - 7 / 7 days Ph…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/08/20 01:12 PM
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What are you asking MRP? This should be a OYS post. From what you wrote, you know what you need to do. Put in the work.
/r/askMRP21/08/20 07:47 PM
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Welcome brother. Now post your OYS every week for the next 6 months. Every week you'll get advice, swap notes, and get called a faggot. It's like fight club. You get your ass kicked verbally, but it'll toughen you mentally. Listen, reflect, and adjust course. I like that you took 3 habits to focus on for 2 months. Now, track them daily. Make a spreadsheet, track it, and hold yourself accountable. Here's mine.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/08/20 03:11 PM
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Roger that. It's like oxygen. When you aren't getting air, your thoughts are focused on it. Your actions are focused on it. When you have an abundance of it, suddenly it's not important. It's something you just have. You breath and it's there. Your thoughts and actions move to something else. Something more important.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/08/20 03:05 PM
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I'll continue to focus on improving me. With my wife's depression, I'll do the following: Support her in solving her own problem. Listen, but don't try to fix. Don't mirror her mood. Just because she feels down, doesn't mean I need feel that way. Stay fun and enjoy life. This is about living in my frame. Focus on my own problems like becoming physically attractive, leading my household, and creating an interesting life. Yes, I am still measuring my progress on her actions, especially sexual. I s…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/08/20 02:32 PM
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Yes, I also understand that it is my fault. I am reading /u/HornsofApathy posts on depression as well. Basically, I need to keep working on unfucking myself.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/08/20 12:37 PM
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Yes, I agree. However, I am working on not fixing her problems. When I read AskMRP posts about wife depression, that was the consistent advice. Continue working on myself, stay fun, and support her in solving her own problems. Usually when she shares a problem, I immediately try to analyze it and solve it. This time, I empathized, encouraged her to get help, and resisted giving suggestions / advice / probable causes. She took action, went to the doctor, and that led to Wellbutrin for 4 weeks. If…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/08/20 12:18 PM
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Age - 34. Weight - 149.2 Height - 5'10" Lifts 5RM - Squat 200, Deadlift 245, Row 135, Bench Press 155. Reading - NMMNG, MMSLP, WISNIFG, Book of Pook, WotSM, MAP. Relationship - Married 9 years, 5 year old son, 2 year old son. Mission - To be the leader of myself and my family. To be a role model to my sons. To be fit and strong. To value experiences over things. To be really damn good at the work I do. Current Goals Eat 2,800 calories - 4 / 7 days - 2767k daily average Eat 200g protein - 4 / 7 d…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/08/20 10:46 AM
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I'd suggest to post weekly in the OYS thread and each week do one of the Breaking Free Exercises as part of your OYS post. The next OYS is posted tomorrow morning, Tuesday August 18th.
/r/askMRP17/08/20 01:47 PM
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Roger that.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/08/20 12:14 PM
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Thanks /u/SBIII for your time and advice. I used the spreadsheet and put in 2.5 weeks of data, see here. I set my goal weight of 160 and weight gain at .5 per week. That's 2lb per month. Based on this, I need to eat 2,850kcal, which is pretty close to the 2,800kcal goal I currently have. I will set my new goal as 2,850kcal and proceed. I'm also tracking protein at 200g per day. Here's one day of a food log [Edit - Removed Link]. Any advice is appreciated. Thanks again.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/08/20 12:46 PM
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Yes, at this point, I am just going to work on having fun during sex. Having sex for pleasure and intimacy. No agenda. No mental list of sexual acts I want. No validation.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/08/20 12:21 AM
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This morning my wife is out and having the time to properly write my OYS, groom, sort out my clothing some more, take progress selfies, calculate my body fat and other things I need to do without fear of questions or interruptions has been great. I got questions too when I started tracking every calorie, weighing myself daily, working out 4 days a week, replacing worn clothes, planning time with friends, etc. When questioned, I said, " I want to be the best version of me. I want to be better." a…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/08/20 07:38 PM
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I'm a newbie at MRP. I read that when she focuses on "I" statements, it's a comfort test. When she focuses on "You" statements, it's a shit test. You said, "She went off again, calling me a retard and a bunch of other shit." She was saying you are a retard, you are blah blah. So, that is a shit test. Perhaps she's crying that she's upset her old tactics aren't working. You held strong with fogging, but then you comforted her. It wasn't a comfort test. As /u/Vegasman20002 is, I'm trying to learn …
/r/MarriedRedPill11/08/20 07:33 PM
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Thanks /u/Tyred_Biggums for time and advice. Yep, I need to keep working on sex as validation. As Horns pointed out, I had these same issues 5 months ago. I still need to change how I view myself. My self image. I need to see myself as the prize, to see myself as a man, to build confidence in myself. Then, I won't need sex to validate my worth. New plan - Just focus on having fun during sex. Relax, have fun. Stop caring so much about it.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/08/20 06:14 PM
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Damn it. I'm gaining muscle, having more sex, cutting bad habits, etc. However, I still have mental models I need to work through. Sex as validation is at the top of this list. /u/SteelSharpensSteel said "So many men need to be "told" that they are a man, either verbally, through their covert contract of sex, or otherwise. So much validation seeking." That's me. If I do these sexual acts, I'm the man I envision. I'm getting the thing that I always longed for. The thing I saw my brother and other…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/08/20 05:56 PM
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I'm not sure how saying "This weekend, let's do X, then Y" is asking for permission. In my mind, I'm the captain and I set the course for the weekend, "Let's go to this museum on Saturday. Then let's make a campfire and s'mores." I'm consulting my first officer on the course. If she disagrees and gives valid reasons why, I'd be open to changing course. We talk together about plans. I agree, that I could give her something specific to do, but I rarely need to. Once I set the course and we agreed …
/r/MarriedRedPill11/08/20 05:31 PM
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I thought about your post. I thought about my mental list of sexual acts I want to do and haven't yet. I asked myself, "Why do I want to do ___ in bed? Why do I have this todo list?" Partly, it's because these sound like fun things to do. Another part of me wants to be the type of man that does these sexual acts. If I'm doing this stuff in the bedroom, then I'm a man. I'm a masculine alpha man getting this type of sex. That's the validation. Five months ago, in reply to my OYS, you said "Obvious…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/08/20 05:20 PM
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Age - 34. Weight - 148.5 Height - 5'10" Lifts 5RM - Squat 200, Deadlift 245, Row 135, Bench Press 155. Reading - NMMNG, MMSLP, WISNIFG, Book of Pook, WotSM, MAP. Relationship - Married 9 years, 5 year old son, 2 year old son. Mission - To be the leader of myself and my family. To be a role model to my sons. To be fit and strong. To value experiences over things. To be really damn good at the work I do. Reading - Rereading Book of Pook. On section about how failure is essential and reading MRP is…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/08/20 12:10 PM
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Yes, you are right. I want to increase my SMV to avoid / lesson the failure and rejection that will come. My game is lame. I will add Bang and Day Band to my reading list. Thanks for recommendation. Yes, I am going wait a few months for this, I will add catch n release to my future goals list. Already have 4 goals I'm tracking weekly for August / September. That's my focus right now.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/08/20 12:09 PM
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Today I want you to order a large pizza from a chain. Get everything on it. Don't like peppers or anchovies? Fine don't get those. But everything else? Put it on there. Then I want you to sit down with that fucker on the table and open it up. Soak that fucker down with olive oil. All over. Classic Date Tate story, "I want you to understand that that pizza right there is keeping you from your goals. And if you can't finish it, don't you ever come back to me and tell me you can't gain weight. 'Cau…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/08/20 05:07 PM
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Good to see a veteran post on OYS. We all got shit we need to own, from now to death. Keep your foot on the gas.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/08/20 04:59 PM
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Can you see the positive correlation in your actions between these things? Roger that. Since I couldn't turn to jacking off, I had to go to my wife to meet my needs. I had to flirt, game, sex. I couldn't avoid the work / risk. It also increased my desire, making dominance easier. I'm sensing the beginnings of outcome independence here away from a scarcity mindset. Right now, I know that my wife is the only person I can / will fuck right now. That's still limiting me. I need to increase my SMV by…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/08/20 03:48 PM
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The few times I have really fucked my wife (years in between), I would always get curiosity or comments about how rough I was being. I saw the same thing this week, it's in my OYS post. I got comments too, "Wow, you're moving fast tonight!" "You are really horny tonight" and she even physically resisted me when I tried to hold her arms down. Follow her actions, not words. She didn't say no, she didn't ask me to stop. She didn't physically remove herself from sex. Hell, the two days later, I hear…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/08/20 01:59 PM
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ESPECIALLY when you have so damn many goals. Yes, so many goals, I'm not sure how you remember them. Pick three goals. The three things that will make the biggest impact on your life, now. Make a spreadsheet to track everyday compliance with your goal. Track it. What gets measured, gets done. I had to do the same thing for myself, here's mine.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/08/20 01:53 PM
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Thanks for replying and prompting me. Yes, I need to take action on those reflections. Sex The small thing I can do is to flirt and game daily. Embrace being sexual. I'm trying to flirt / game every day with my wife, but often it feels forced to me and to her for sure. I'm trying to hard still, following a plan / strategies. Not natural yet. Need more testosterone from lifting! The other thing I could do is actually flirt with women that aren't my wife. I got enough goals right now though. So, I…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/08/20 12:46 PM
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Age - 34. Weight - 147.2 Height - 5'10" Lifts 5RM - Squat 200, Deadlift 245, Row 135, Bench Press 155. Reading - NMMNG, MMSLP, WISNIFG, Book of Pook, WotSM, MAP. Relationship - Married 9 years, 5 year old son, 2 year old son. Mission - To be the leader of myself and my family. To be a role model to my sons. To be fit and strong. To value experiences over things. To be really damn good at the work I do. Reading - Reading Book of Pook again. So much of the concepts fits with what I learned in MRP.…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/08/20 12:07 PM
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Thanks for your advice and time, Horns. I appreciate you replying. I will watch her body language and recognize what is getting her turned on during sex. What words, what actions, etc. Although, as I progress in MRP, more of me just wants to do whatever I feel like and not spend so much energy making sure she is turned on, enjoying herself, orgasming, etc. One question, how do I deal with the physical or verbal resistance that comes up when I introduce new things during sex? Is this another plac…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/08/20 02:26 PM
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A few basic things I've learned from MRP that apply here: Texting is only for logistics. You should stop that conversation and tell her you'll talk in person. Stop trying to fix her and focus on yourself. Stop calling her out or explain how you want her to change. Focus on what you can control, which is your own behavior, actions, emotions etc.
/r/askMRP30/07/20 06:00 PM
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Roger that, I'm the prize and I need to act like it. You're right, I'm not a faggot that jacks off. I fuck women. First, STFU and never talk about them. Jesus. No, I don't talk about sexual acts outside of sex. Not what I meant. I meant I'm going to get her aroused first, then introduce new things. No talking about it, just doing it during sex. Oh, because you're scared. Yes, I need to man up and fuck her how I want. Get out of her head and don't worry about how she's going to react. If she give…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/07/20 08:00 PM
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Yep. I'm working on it.
/r/askMRP28/07/20 06:08 PM
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Roger that, you're right. Need to stop trying to analyze her emotions, reactions, feelings. Just focus on my own actions.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/07/20 05:33 PM
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not lifting yet (hurt my arm + gyms closed due to Covid) but cycling 3 times a week, doing stomach crunches and I'm not much overweight. Trying to be more assertive. Excuses. Gym closed? Buy equipment. Do bodyweight exercises. Hurt your arm? Work other areas. Cycling is not lifting. Lifting is lifting. You think a woman would want to fuck this or this? This morning she came to me saying that she needs more emotional connection ie talking without sex on the agenda. She's not sexually attracted to…
/r/askMRP28/07/20 01:54 PM
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Age - 34. Weight - 148. Height - 5'10" Lifts 5RM - Squat 205, Deadlift 245, Row 135, Bench Press 155. Reading - NMMNG, MMSLP, WISNIFG, Book of Pook, WotSM, MAP. Relationship - Married 9 years, 5 year old son, 2 year old son. Mission - To be the leader of myself and my family. To be a role model to my sons. To be fit and strong. To value experiences over things. To be really damn good at the work I do. Physical - Started PHUL after finishing my recent cycle of 531 BBB. Used TDEE to recalculate bu…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/07/20 01:23 PM
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Yes, I've read through Starting Strength. Good stuff, very detailed. I've also posted form check videos on their forum, that's helpful for getting feedback during COVID. Hard to find a coach near me. I'll do another form check and get feedback on my stance. I'll also pull out my Starting Strength book and Alan Thrall videos to look for stance cues. Thanks!
/r/MarriedRedPill28/07/20 12:07 PM
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Roger that. I've finished reading SGM now and I'm working on implementing those strategies and more importantly the mindset.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/07/20 12:32 PM
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Thanks for advice. Yes, my knees were buckling inward on that heavy squat set. I knew it and tried to resist. I'm betting that's what did it. Luckily, it was a very minor pain and I don't feel it a week later. I'm focusing on pushing my knees out as my cue to keep my knees aligned with my feet. This video helped.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/07/20 12:25 PM
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Roger that. I need to keep putting the work in. Some initial success like this is motivating, but I'm just starting out. Have fun with it. All she cares about is that you don't care. Yes, just have fun with life and sex. Reminds me of the section in SGM about humor and not taking yourself too seriously.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/07/20 12:31 PM
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Roger that on caution with DNGAF attitude. I am over-correcting from where I started, for sure. I like the Captain / First Officer analogy from MMSLP. I will listen to others, but I ultimately decide my course of action. Also, there are things I do GAF about. Difference is now I'm more careful and purposeful on what I care about.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/07/20 12:18 PM
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Thanks, I'll take a look.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/07/20 07:24 PM
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I put a lot of work in this week learning about game. I also need to work on initiating weakly, gaming wife daily, etc. Already read MMSLP and currently reading SGM. What resources did you find most useful? Can you link videos or list books? I found this post and going to look at TRP subreddit as well.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/07/20 07:14 PM
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What I start to worry about is when she starts dating, my kids being around whoever she brings around, etc. You can't control her actions. You can't control who she would date. Focus on your own actions and what you can control. I also know how my mom shit talked my dad, and how much it impacted my childhood, so of course I don't want that for my kids. It sounds like this is happening right now. You even said your son noticed the argument and her upset. Wouldn't he notice the shit talking? You a…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/07/20 04:01 PM
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I had flashbacks to some shit we went through in 2013, and felt like she'd really leave cause stubborn and cold doesn't even begin to describe 7 years ago. That's telling. It seems like you're afraid that she would leave. Your statements of "okay, good luck, draw up papers" isn't how you actually feel. This post on being willing to nuke your family could help. You have to know that you and your relationship with your kids would be fine, probably even better. Then, you really would say "okay, goo…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/07/20 03:23 PM
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I need to internalize that rejections are not something that I need to be bothered by. This is easier said than done. Same here. I understand outcome independence, but easier said than done in the moment. When my SMV is high enough that I can pull lots of women, I'm sure OI will be easier. What's helped me is to have a plan for what happens when I get a hard "no". I'd like to have sex now, but if that's not going to happen, I'm going to go outside and work on my mountain bike, I'm going to do th…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/07/20 02:54 PM
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Age - 34. Weight - 150. Height - 5'10" Lifts 5RM - Squat 205, Deadlift 255, Row 135, Bench Press 155. Reading - NMMNG, MMSLP, WISNIFG, Book of Pook, WotSM, MAP. Relationship - Married 9 years, 5 year old son, 2 year old son. Mission - To be the leader of myself and my family. To be a role model to my sons. To be fit and strong. To value experiences over things. To be really damn good at the work I do. Goals - Tracking three goals. Lift - 4 / 4 days Eat 150g protein - 5 / 7 days Eat 2,800 calorie…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/07/20 01:58 PM
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Yes, it's my problem and I am still weak at game / initiating. She often wants to take a few minutes to finish the task she's doing - "Let me finish folding this laundry." "Let me finish reading this page." "Okay, just give me a minute for XYZ." Then, once we're upstairs, I like the sex we have. It's not an issue of that leading up to starfish. Next time, I will try initiating more strongly. I'll take the laundry basket and set it aside, then initiate. I'll close the computer, etc. Also, I will …
/r/MarriedRedPill14/07/20 02:32 PM
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Age - 34. Weight - 150. Height - 5'10" Lifts 5RM - Squat 205, Deadlift 255, Row 135, Bench Press 155. Reading - NMMNG, MMSLP, WISNIFG, Book of Pook, WotSM, MAP. Relationship - Married 9 years, 5 year old son, 2 year old son. Mission - To be the leader of myself and my family. To be a role model to my sons. To be fit and strong. To value experiences over things. To be really damn good at the work I do. Physical - Following 531 Forever BBB routine. Lifts are increasing and injury free. Tracking ca…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/07/20 12:59 PM
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Roger that. I'm going to aim for getting 200g consistently for a few months, then look at increasing it. When you say more, how much more? What formula are you using? Or have just have a target number in mind?
/r/MarriedRedPill13/07/20 12:24 PM
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Yes, those goes with my mission - value experiences over things. I should see this as paying / providing a memorable experience, not the just the ice cream product.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/07/20 02:53 PM
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Roger that. I'll keep putting in the work on my MAP.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/07/20 11:56 PM
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Hmm, good question. I'll think about where I want to go in my sex life and what I want to try. I already know I want to try introducing toys, blindfold, new positions, new locations, etc. That tells me where I go next. Perhaps SGM will tell me how to get there.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/07/20 07:10 PM
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Hmm, good point...shit. If I'm enjoying it, does it matter? I'd like to think she was prompting me to be dominant. Like, hey idiot, I want you to dominate me and it's clear I need to tell you because you're too stupid to do it without my overt communication. In SGM it talks about how sometimes I should let her lead. However, there's a difference between giving her the lead and just being led. Also, I'm working on my dominance. So, I need to take the lead here most of the time.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/07/20 06:59 PM
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In fact, I learned that it’s my role to keep escalating, to be the catalyst. I used to try to figure out the “right time” to make a move on a woman. I used to think about what my next step should be in flirting - fuck all that. My objective now is to keep escalating until she says No, or Until her pussy is on my beard, whichever comes first. This is true and something I had to learn as well. I'd wait for my wife to initiate, thinking why isn't she trying to have sex with me? She knows I want to …
/r/MarriedRedPill07/07/20 05:23 PM
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Right before bed she admitted she was a little drunk and wanted to stay up for a bit to clear her head. I again suggested sex which was met with a “no” followed about 10 seconds later by an “alright let’s do it”. Congrats on progress. Keep your foot on the gas and keep lifting, sidebar, STFU. Don't make the mistake of thinking that this one success will change everything. Don't make it a big deal with her. You're going to continue to get rejected on a regular basis. Practice OI, work on game, et…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/07/20 04:57 PM
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That’s why we are so focused on upping the alpha in every possible manner in every interaction, and eventually building the frame and masculine identity that makes the behavior automatic and authentic. That is a good summary and resonates. For many of us, these alpha / masculine behaviors don't come naturally. The sidebar makes them explicit, something that I can understand and do. Eventually, it just becomes you and it's automatic as you said. My half brother was naturally dominant, alpha, masc…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/07/20 04:53 PM
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Yes, she is pushing for more dominance. Hell, she is explicitly asking for it. Well, I like it too, it's fun. I'll just keep putting in the work and I'll read SGM on dominance in bed.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/07/20 04:46 PM
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Great question, that's what I need to figure out and build on. This time, I told her to get on top and ride me, and she said "Before I ride you, I want you to bend me over and spank me." I talked dirty about spanking her hard and leaving a red mark. She asked for harder. Based on that, I'd say it's a general desire to be dominated and the pleasure / pain aspect. I'll try to increase the dominance and see if that's fun for both of us. I'll try increasing the pain / pleasure with hair pulling, man…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/07/20 04:15 PM
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Age - 34. Weight - 150. Height - 5'10" Lifts 5RM - Squat 205, Deadlift 255, Row 135, Bench Press 155. Reading - NMMNG, MMSLP, WISNIFG, Book of Pook, WotSM, MAP. Relationship - Married 9 years, 5 year old son, 2 year old son. Mission - To be the leader of myself and my family. To be a role model to my sons. To be fit and strong. To value experiences over things. To be really damn good at the work I do. Physical - Took week off for vacation and now I'm back to lifting. Following 531 Forever BBB ro…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/07/20 01:00 PM
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Yes, it was her that said "Let's talk tonight." I agreed because I was in the middle of a home repair project. It's a work in progress.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/06/20 12:24 PM
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Age - 34. Weight - 150. Height - 5'10" Lifts 5RM - Squat 205, Deadlift 255, Row 135, Bench Press 155. Reading - NMMNG, MMSLP, WISNIFG, Book of Pook, WotSM, MAP. Relationship - Married 9 years, 5 year old son, 2 year old son. Mission - To be the leader of myself and my family. To be a role model to my sons. To be fit and strong. To value experiences over things. To be really damn good at the work I do. Physical - I was having difficulty doing the # of sets and weight increases on PHAT. Felt beat …
/r/MarriedRedPill23/06/20 12:51 PM
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Age - 34. Weight - 150. Height - 5'10" Lifts 5RM - Squat 200, Deadlift 250, Row 135, Bench Press 150. Reading - NMMNG, MMSLP, WISNIFG, Book of Pook, WotSM, MAP. Relationship - Married 9 years, 5 year old son, 2 year old son. Mission - To be the leader of myself and my family. To be a role model to my sons. To be fit and strong. To value experiences over things. To be really damn good at the work I do. Physical - Doing PHUL 4 days per week. Lifts are still going up. I am weak and did not track ca…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/06/20 12:46 PM
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Thanks for advice. I'll work on revising meals to include items like this. Targeting my lunch first.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/06/20 12:12 PM
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Thanks for taking the time to read / reply /u/HornsOfApathy. I'll try adding more milk to meals.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/06/20 12:09 PM
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Age - 34. Weight - 150. Height - 5'10" Lifts 5RM - Squat 195, Deadlift 250, Row 135, Bench Press 150. Reading - NMMNG, MMSLP, WISNIFG, Book of Pook, WotSM, MAP. Relationship - Married 9 years, 5 year old son, 2 year old son. Mission - To be the leader of myself and my family. To be a role model to my sons. To be fit and strong. To value experiences over things. To be really damn good at the work I do. Physical - Doing PHUL 4 days per week. Lifts are still going up. I'm counting calories and stil…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/06/20 01:05 PM
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Roger that. I'll need to seriously revise my diet to hit 200g protein. There is no way I am hitting that with the amount of meat / eggs / nuts / protein shakes I am currently eating. A while back, you listed a few posts you were considering making. I would like to see that post on MRP guide for the skinny faggot (like me). Although, I know the answer - Eat more, lift more, sleep more.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/05/20 06:32 PM
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Bought a food scale last week to better track quantities. Previously I was aiming for 1g protein per 1lb bodyweight. So, 150g per day. Based on the Reddit Fitness Wiki, I should be at 160g at least, so I will aim for that now.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/05/20 04:48 PM
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Age - 34. Weight - 150. Height - 5'10" Lifts 5RM - Squat 190, Deadlift 250, Row 135, Bench Press 145. Reading - NMMNG, MMSLP, WISNIFG, Book of Pook, WotSM, MAP. Relationship - Married 9 years, 5 year old son, 2 year old son. Mission - To be the leader of myself and my family. To be a role model to my sons. To be fit and strong. To value experiences over things. To be really damn good at the work I do. Physical - Doing PHUL 4 days per week. Lifts are good. My lifts are still going up either by we…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/05/20 01:16 PM
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I agree with this. There is some equipment worth spending money on like the barbell and power rack. I bought Rogue bar, #230 Rogue bumper plates, etc. about 8 years ago and they are still in great condition. Quality product worth the price. Also, you might not need bumper plates unless you are doing Olympic lifts. Iron is cheaper. If you aren't dropping weights, why bumper plates? Also, set alerts on craigslist or other used forums. I got small Olympic plates (#10, #5, #2.5), kettlebells, squat …
/r/askMRP19/05/20 01:26 PM
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Age - 34. Weight - 150. Height - 5'10" Lifts 5RM - Squat 190, Deadlift 250, Row 135, Bench Press 145. Reading - NMMNG, MMSLP, WISNIFG, Book of Pook, MAP. Rereading WISNIFG. Relationship - Married 9 years, 5 year old son, 2 year old son. Mission - To be the leader of myself and my family. To be a role model to my sons. To be fit and strong. To value experiences over things. To be really damn good at the work I do. Physical - My chest pain is gone and I'm back to PHUL. Did upper body power day yes…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/05/20 12:58 PM
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Roger that. It's the progression of asking → telling → doing. I am telling and I could move to just doing it. I've started to hit some resistance and working on new ways to respond. I will also work on spontaneity and just doing what I feel at the moment, not having a pre-conceived plan for that night. Otherwise, I'm the emotionless robot / bedroom technician from SGM.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/05/20 04:31 PM
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It's a mindset to lead and be active in social conversations and situations. You're right, post crap online != real life. I will focus my social goal on real life conversations.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/05/20 02:57 PM
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OYS #9 Age - 34. Weight - 150. Height - 5'10" Lifts 5RM - Squat 190, Deadlift 250, Row 135, Bench Press 145. Reading - NMMNG, MMSLP, WISNIFG, Book of Pook, MAP. Rereading WISNIFG. Relationship - Married 9 years, 5 year old son, 2 year old son. Mission - To be the leader of myself and my family. To be a role model to my sons. To be fit and strong. To value experiences over things. To be really damn good at the work I do. Physical - Woke up after chest day and my ribs on my left side were tender. …
/r/MarriedRedPill12/05/20 02:06 PM
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Thanks, got it. Your right, I just list the activity I'm doing, not the end result. Better to list the end result and check if I met it.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/05/20 01:51 AM
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Yes, that's an important point, be specific when time boxing. That section called "work" on my typical day is broken into 1/2 hour tasks. Every morning when I get to work, I timebox my work day in a notebook. This image shows my plan for a random work day from 8-4 with specific things like Korea Meeting, template feature review, website, etc. Hopefully those examples help others in creating their own daily time boxed schedule. The concept of a keystone habits goes well with the idea of only taki…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/05/20 01:34 AM
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Yes, I am working on the mindset that my MAP is about me, my actions, and only I determine if it was successful. It's not dependent on how my wife responds. I originally came to MRP to increase my sex life with my wife, but that's really a side effect of being a high value man, like you said.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/05/20 06:51 PM
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Wanted to read this post and figured I'd link it for others - Go here.
/r/askMRP05/05/20 02:22 PM
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OYS #8 Age - 34. Weight - 149. Height - 5'10" Lifts 5RM - Squat 190, Deadlift 250, Row 135, Bench Press 145. Reading - NMMNG, MMSLP, WISNIFG, Book of Pook, MAP. Rereading WISNIFG. Relationship - Married 9 years, 5 year old son, 2 year old son. Mission - To be the leader of myself and my family. To be a role model to my sons. To be fit and strong. To value experiences over things. To be really damn good at the work I do. Physical - I moved to PHUL 4 days per week based on /u/HornsOfApathy advice.…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/05/20 02:03 PM
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Yes, I have read and reread that post. I have attraction validation and special sex act validation. On reflection, that's why my previous OYS showed satisfaction that I got BJ's., it was a special act that I wanted. Now, I'm working on how I can stop this validation behavior. How I can internalize the mindset that only I approve / validate my actions. I've considered journaling at the end of the day with the question "Do I approve of my actions today?" to focus on that mindset. I will continue b…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/04/20 06:03 PM
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OYS #7 Age - 34. Weight - 149. Height - 5'10" Lifts 5RM - Squat 190, Deadlift 250, Press 95, Bench Press 145. Reading - NMMNG, MMSLP, WISNIFG, Book of Pook, MAP. Just finished rereading NMMNG. Going to reread WISNIFG. Relationship - Married 9 years, 5 year old son, 2 year old son. Mission - To be the leader of myself and my family. To be a role model to my sons. To be fit and strong. To value experiences over things. To be really damn good at the work I do. Physical - I am doing a 5 day PHAT rou…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/04/20 03:17 PM
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OYS #6 Age - 34. Weight - 147. Height - 5'10" Lifts - Squat 190, Deadlift 250, Press 95, Bench Press 145. Reading - NMMNG, MMSLP, WISNIFG, Book of Pook, MAP. Currently reading SGM. Relationship - Married 9 years, 5 year old son, 2 year old son. Mission - To be the leader of myself and my family. To be a role model to my sons. To be fit and strong. To value experiences over things. To be really damn good at the work I do. Physical - During COVID, I am working out at home. Luckily I have plates, s…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/04/20 12:39 PM
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OYS #6 Age - 34. Weight - 146. Height - 5'10" Lifts - Squat 190, Deadlift 250, Press 95, Bench Press 145. Reading - NMMNG, MMSLP, WISNIFG, Book of Pook, MAP, RP Handbook. Currently creating notes for previously read books. Relationship - Married 9 years, 5 year old son, 1 year old son. Mission - To be the leader of myself and my family. To be a role model to my sons. To be fit and strong. To value experiences over things. To be really damn good at the work I do. Physical - Gym is closed due to C…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/03/20 01:16 PM
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Hi Tyred, thanks for taking the time to read / comment. I took your last post last week and internalized it. I am working on using dirty talk with phrases like this. Any resources you'd suggest for what to do during sex like this dirty talk / praising? I know of MMSLP and SGM. Before RP, I was that guy who would say nothing the entire time, even if I was really enjoying it.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/03/20 12:17 PM
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OYS #5 Age - 34. Weight - 146. Height - 5'10" Lifts - Squat 190, Deadlift 250, Press 95, Bench Press 145. Reading - NMMNG, MMSLP, WISNIFG, Book of Pook, MAP. Currently reading RP Handbook. Relationship - Married 9 years, 5 year old son, 1 year old son. Mission - To be the leader of myself and my family. To be a role model to my sons. To be fit and strong. To value experiences over things. To be really damn good at the work I do. Physical - Back in gym after minor surgery. 531 BBB is going good. …
/r/MarriedRedPill10/03/20 12:24 PM
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Good point, MRP has almost made me all business. I am getting shit done, but too seriously. Law 30 - Make your accomplishments seem effortless. I need to get shit done and have fun at the same time. I do take a swig, it helps with my gains. Who needs cows milk when you have...
/r/MarriedRedPill04/03/20 01:23 AM
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Thanks for the clarification. She is absolutely capable, suited, and not failing at them. Instead, I was just looking for tasks I could take over and lead. I was not looking at it this way and that makes sense. A captain delegates to his first officer, but still makes it gets done. Trust, but verify.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/03/20 01:19 AM
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OYS #4 Age - 34. Weight - 145. Height - 5'10" Lifts - Squat 190, Deadlift 250, Press 95, Bench Press 145. Reading - NMMNG, MMSLP, WISNIFG, Book of Pook, MAP. Currently reading SGM. Relationship - Married 9 years, 5 year old son, 1 year old son. Physical - I have to take this week off due to minor surgery. I'm in a cycle of 531 BBB and will pick it up next week. I hit every set and rep. 531 main lift, 5x10 supplemental lift, and 5x10 accessory lifts in supersets. Example day is 531 Press, 5x10 Be…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/03/20 06:25 PM
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What are you trying to accomplish? I am using OYS to reflect on my MAP, identify weaknesses, and brainstorm actions to take. I identified glaring weak areas, but I still want to reflect on the strong areas each week. yes, you do have glaring weaknesses in those areas... they are just a bit deeper in the onion and you haven't peeled them back yet. Roger that.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/02/20 05:15 PM
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The weaknesses I'm focused on are my habits of video games, porn, initiating, daily flirting, and OI. Looking back at my post, I need to post how I'm going to change these things, not just state the weaknesses. Should I not post the other sections if I don't see a glaring weakness I'm focused on improving right now?
/r/MarriedRedPill25/02/20 03:17 PM
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OYS #3 Age - 34. Weight - 145. Height - 5'10" Lifts - Squat 190, Deadlift 250, Press 95, Bench Press 145. Reading - NMMNG, MMSLP, WISNIFG, Book of Pook. Rereading NMMNG. Relationship - Married 9 years, 5 year old son, 1 year old son. Physical - I just started my 4th cycle of 531 BBB. I'm hitting all the AMRAP sets and weights are still going up. Following 531 Forever and adding 5/10lb every cycle. My bodyweight is pretty much the same as 6 months ago, so I just need to eat more consistently. Min…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/02/20 01:32 PM
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Yes, I agree, I don't want to gain fat. I'm willing to have a slow bulk, but need to see measurable progress. I am at 500 above my TDEE for my weight, height, and activity level. First, I am going to hit 2800kcal every day, instead of 80% of the time. If that has no affect, I will increase to 2900kcal and then 3000kcal.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/02/20 01:40 PM
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Lessons Learned: Live an interesting life and invite her to join it. Flirt and be playful. Plan the logistics of seduction.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/02/20 08:51 PM
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Yes, got it. Will show progress by next OYS.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/02/20 08:39 PM
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Thank you for taking the time to reply. I am at 2800kcal and hitting that about 80% of my days. I based my 2800kcal on online calculators that put my TDEE at ~2300 and I added 500 calories for bulking. Looking at your 3,300kcal, I need to increase my calories. Yes, eating enough is my problem. I rarely have an appetite and have no problem skipping meals. I eat clean as well, which makes it difficult. I don't eat much sugar, don't smoke, don't drink, lift 4x per week with 531 BBB. My problem is e…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/02/20 08:22 PM
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How did you gain that much muscle in that time? I am weighing in around 145lb doing 531 BBB 4 days per week. I have gained maybe 3-5 pounds in 6 months. All my lifts are the highest they have ever been, but I don't see my physical size getting noticeably bigger. What do you use to determine how many calories? Do you track calories? Track protein?
/r/MarriedRedPill18/02/20 07:00 PM
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OYS #2 Age - 34. Weight - 145. Height - 5'10" Lifts - Squat 180, Deadlift 240, Press 90, Bench Press 140. Reading - NMMNG, MMSLP, WISNIFG, Book of Pook. Rereading NNMNG. Relationship - Married 9 years, 5 year old son, 1 year old son. Physical - I am still in my 3rd cycle of 531 BBB. I'm hitting all the AMRAP sets and weights are still going up. My bodyweight is not going up that fast and the feedback I got in last OYS was I need to eat more. So, for now, I am working on eating bigger portions at…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/02/20 06:37 PM
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Exactly. I am not initiating enough. Perhaps 2-3 times per week. I need to work on OI so I am confident that I can initiate often and handle rejection without butthurt. I am not doing daily kino / flirt to build up to initiating and I am not initiating enough because I am afraid of the rejection and my butthurt reaction.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/20 07:03 PM
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Thank you. I'll add it to the backlog.
/r/askMRP05/02/20 05:28 PM
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Hitting about 1g - 1.2 protein per lb with a protein shake each day. I'm trying to add that 30lb of muscle, just slow gains so far.
/r/askMRP05/02/20 05:25 PM
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Thank you.
/r/askMRP05/02/20 05:23 PM
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Yes, I did read those books. I will reread them and try to internalize them better. You're right, I'm looking for short responses I can memorize and use, instead of internalizing it. Good call. I have read advice like the 10 second kiss from MMSLP and solid tactics like that are helpful as I learn. For my lifts, I am about 6 months into lifting 4 days per week and 1 day of yoga. I am in my 3rd cycle of 531 BBB and did PPLPPL routine before that. My lifts keep going up, but my bodyweight is not i…
/r/askMRP05/02/20 05:23 PM
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I'll work on it, thanks.
/r/askMRP05/02/20 05:19 PM
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Yes, almost all dinners are cooked at home. Lunch is left overs or meal prep. I am eating clean, but I would rather eat clean and have a slow gain, than a dirty bulk and fast gain. Already read 16 commandments and I have SGM downloaded in a Google folder, just waiting until I finish the essential readings and RP 101.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/20 01:14 PM
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Thanks for the advice.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/20 01:03 PM
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OYS #1 Age - 34. Weight - 145. Height - 5'10" Lifts - Squat 180, Deadlift 240, Press 90, Bench Press 140. Reading - NMMNG, MMSLP, WISNIFG, Book of Pook. Rereading NNMNG. Relationship - Married 9 years, 5 year old son, 1 year old son. Physical - I am about 6 months into lifting 4 days per week and 1 day of yoga. I am in my 3rd cycle of 531 BBB and did PPLPPL routine before that. My lifts keep going up, but my weight is not increasing. I want to gain weight, because I am a skinny fucker. I must no…
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