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OYS 3/26/19 Stats: 6’3”, 234#, 42” waist, Married 7 yrs (together 12), 2yo daughter Follow Up on Actions From Last Time (2 weeks ago): Don’t smoke weed - success, and nearing the two month mark, though this is inexplicably getting more difficult vs less. 2800 cals/day or less - total failure, averaged about 3200/day each of past two weeks. Idk why I’m failing so badly here. Have continued experimenting with IF on and off but I am done with it for good now. Last week did it for 5-6 days in a row …
/r/MarriedRedPill26/03/19 04:15 PM
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OYS 3/12/19 Stats: 6’3”, 235#, 43” waist, Married 7 yrs (together 12), 2yo daughter Recent lifts (since previous OYS): Squat 315x5, Bench 225x7, Press 135x8, Deadlift 325x5 Reading: NMMNGx3 (incl activities), WISNIFGx2, MMSLPx3, MAPx2, SLSM, TRM, Book of Pook, Models x2, Bang, Day Bang, SGM, PFP, WOTSM. Just finished listening to TRM audiobook, had read all year one posts a couple years ago. Found it to be a good review and well sequenced, though I’ve been reading here for long enough that I did…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/03/19 03:39 PM
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Similar but not exactly, which gives me some additional things to explore to determine whether it’s the timing or the nutrients that affect it. Thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/02/19 06:22 PM
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Makes sense. How long have you been on one meal a day? Excluding the past couple months, I have done 16:8 since November 2014. It was easy from the start, and I dropped 25 lbs right away just by that. Then plateaued and had to start counting calories as well, but the 16:8 made it really easy to hit my target numbers. That got me down another 25-30 lbs. For the last three years I’ve hovered between 225-240, doing 16:8 fasting most of that time. I’ve attempted to go to either 20:4 or one meal a da…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/02/19 05:06 PM
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I’ve tried 24 hour fasts several times... they work like magic for controlling calorie intake and dropping fat, and is practically effortless for the first few days. But every time within a week or two my sex drive drops to zero and start to experience erratic and severe mood swings and have extreme difficulty with mental focus in the later parts of the fast. And when I try to go back to a more normal feeding pattern, my concept of what size a meal should be is even more skewed than when I start…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/02/19 03:15 PM
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OYS 2/26/19 6’3”/240/37/married 6 years/2yo daughter I’ve got some shit I need to own, that I haven’t fully disclosed in my handful of sporadic prior posts: The Bad I’ve been a dancing monkey for over three years. Found MRP in January 2016, and have read a ton (most sidebar sources multiple times and nearly everything posted on MRP and askMRP since then), but not acted nearly enough (and where I have acted it’s been largely focused on further improving my strengths rather than addressing my weak…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/02/19 02:45 PM
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This one? https://www.reddit.com/r/askMRP/comments/80adtt/what_worked_for_me/
/r/askMRP13/11/18 02:02 AM
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That book is magic. I saw it recommended on here, was skeptical, but read it and my lower back pain went away practically overnight. This after a year and a half of spinning my wheels, trying everything I could think of, chiropractor, physical therapy, at one point didn’t squat or deadlift over 135 for nine months straight (and when I did finally start working up to heavy weights again the pain cane back). One read of the book fixed everything practically instantly. Less than two months later I …
/r/MarriedRedPill19/09/18 02:16 AM
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Thank you for this post. Been reading MRP since January 2016, and this set of posts is one of the top ten most instantly enlightening things I’ve read on here.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/05/18 12:30 PM
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“it’s pervy for an unattractive guy to pull his wife’s blouse down, it’s fun for a hawt guy to do the same thing.” Yes, but this is treating it like an either/or black and white case and it’s really more fluid. There is probably a baseline level of attractiveness below which calling you pervy means, literally, “I find you so repulsively unattractive that anything that even hints at sex with you makes me incredibly uncomfortable and not want to be around you,” but I really believe this is an extr…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/05/18 12:44 PM
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I followed the responses to your anger thread with great interest —actually I’ve followed your whole MRP journey thus far with great interest— as I see more similarities to myself and my own path than I’ve seen in any other poster since I found this place over two years ago (personality type, strengths, weaknesses, politically, basically across the board, general state of marriage, etc). I noticed that you never directly addressed the accusation from /u/Reach180 that you simply are not doing DL1…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/02/18 03:08 PM
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Thank you for that J10 link... I’ve read it several times in the past, but also not been able to find it when I needed it, ie in the immediate aftermath of a clear shitty comfort test — I get a lot of these — that I recognized but failed because in the moment I couldn’t remember or think of any way to handle other than nuke it or go too beta. Post is saved now, will be referencing again and again.
/r/askMRP21/12/17 12:59 PM
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This is great and illustrates the biggest thing I’m struggling with currently. I know that 99% of the time I want sex it’s mode B, but unsure how to fix this. Honestly, I can’t even tell when I’m legitimately horny vs when it’s validation seeking. But when it is mode B, I struggle with strong initiations, which leads to rejection, which leads to extreme anger (I’ve learned to not express my anger, but I still have no OI, it’s more faking it). Conversely, in the rare situations where I’m in mode …
/r/askMRP14/12/17 07:43 PM
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And the other corollary, just in general, is until you are legit failing at the lifts, there’s no need to eat a calorie surplus. The same friend who never failed on a squat, keeps telling me I should be eating 4000 calories a day, because I’m working my way back to being strong after nearly a year off due to lower back injury. (He is 1000% a rippetoe disciple at this point.) Even though I’m already too fat. Why the fuck would I up my calories when I’m easily completing my workouts and increasing…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/12/17 02:52 PM
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+1 on this. Find a linear progression program, I like GSLP best but SS or SL work too, and stick with it UNTIL YOU HAVE LEGITIMATELY RESET EVERY LIFT 3 TIMES. And reset means FAILED at the same weight twice in a row. Not “I barely got the second rep of the last set so I know I can’t get five so I’m gonna rack it and reset the weight because it’s hard and I don’t want to get injured and my body feels beat up and hamster hamster hamster.” I see this all the time. And I get it. I’ve been there. I s…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/12/17 02:43 PM
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This is actually the most valuable part of this post for me, as it’s exactly the mindset I need to better cultivate right now. Putting the lingerie part into practice is probably a ways off in my current situation, and is not that high a priority to me right now anyway, but the fuckbeast concept is brilliant for a career beta whose natural tendency is to double down on owning my shit around the house. Even though it is absolutely choreplay in my case (never expected it to get me laid, did used t…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/12/17 01:31 PM
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Any reading/watching/listening recommendations to learn techniques for initiation that aren’t passive/creepy/beta? Pretty much all I’ve got is grab and kiss forcefully, which 1) only really works when standing and 2) resulted in wife basically never wanting to kiss because she associated it with me always pushing to turn it into sex and then getting super butthurt when shit down. Have had a hell of a time trying to implement ten second kids because of this, and even now never sure when to pull a…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/12/17 04:35 PM
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The Bad: Made it three days with no weed then was basically stoned all weekend. Not coincidentally, diet was good thru workweek then went totally off the rails over weekend. Shitty food, way too much beer. Ended up averaging about 3150 cals per day, 216g protein. Goals are <2800, >216g. Did not make a ton of progress with NMMNG, though I am getting value from the exercises. Interesting that my knee-jerk reaction every time I come to one is “this doesn’t apply to me, I can skip it,” but often end…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/12/17 03:41 PM
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OYS 11/28/17 Posted here a few times long ago, but with way too much detail and never enough action. Will probably eventually delete those posts as they give more personal detail than I’m comfortable with (someone who knows me well could def figure out it’s me), and most of it doesn’t really fucking matter. Leaving them up for now for reference. Bottom line, found MRP almost two years ago, read most sidebar books several times, spent thousands of hours reading MRP/TRP and thinking about this stu…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/11/17 04:38 PM
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Makes sense and fully agree with everything you said. I've defaulted to mostly chicken breast because of volume, and because my grocery store always has it for under $2/lb so it's cost effective as well. I've also found IF to be immensely useful in lowering calorie intake without starving myself. Increasingly been playing around with one meal a day, though I go back and forth about whether that's preferable to two or takes the concept too far.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/09/17 05:36 PM
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Got it. So leaning out on ground beef means literally just eating ground beef. Makes sense and I guess I should've figured that out based on the numbers. That sounds like such a small amount of food for a day, no wonder I'm a fat fuck.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/09/17 04:38 PM
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For reference, I've always used one pound of grilled b/s chicken breast = 500 calories, roughly 100g protein vs 80/20 ground beef = 1100ish calories, 80g protein.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/09/17 02:56 PM
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Trying to understand how such a high calorie food could be effective for leaning out? I mean, I'm basically drooling on my desk over here thinking about eating a pound of ground beef right now but don't see how I could possibly fit the calories in and not go well over 3000 for the day? Even with only eating 1-2 meals and no snacks (aside from one beer most night while cooking dinner), and mostly home cooked food, it's often a struggle to go much under 3000 (which seems to be roughly my maintenan…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/09/17 02:51 PM
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Appreciate the write up and tons of value in there for me. I'm pretty similar to you in terms of body type and having a number of years of trial and error experience and interest in this stuff. Been way too susceptible to fuckarounditis recently because I don't care all that much about being strong (i.e. It's way less important to me than aesthetics and performance in surfing/mountain biking, neither of which benefit much from increasing strength beyond a certain point), but getting strong is th…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/08/17 06:42 PM
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I'm very interested in this as well, as someone who used to be fat and strong (6'3" 280, 200/300/400 and... got injured before attempting 500 DL but pulled 460x5 so I know I was close) and is now slightly less fat but still by no means ripped (weak at the moment due to a lower back injury and some fuckarounditis but I know the strength will come back quick when I'm healed). I've slowly worked my way down to 225ish over past 2.5 years but seems like I've been largely spinning my wheels, 3 steps f…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/08/17 12:13 PM
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Man, I miss jackten posts. I read that one when it was posted, shortly after I discovered MRP, and I thought I got it at the time, but it hits a lot harder now after realizing I've spent a year mostly taking the second approach he outlined, with occasional beta pussy regressions to the third (which pre RP was the only one I could think of), and all of a sudden it clicks what my wife means when she says I'm a selfish asshole who's incapable of empathy. That whole thing pretty much just spoke dire…
/r/askMRP01/02/17 03:12 PM
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OYS 1/31/17 Lifting/fitness: very much on track. Lifted 5 days, surfed one, mountain biked one. Also biked to work 4/5 days (3-4 miles each way but pretty flat and non taxing) and walked for 30-40 min at lunch twice. Lower back issue that I was having all summer and fall seems to finally be improving. Turns out my squat form was shit, wife pointed this out first a month or so ago and I've been videoing every set since then. Bar path was not at all straight down and up... the bar was coming forwa…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/01/17 09:44 PM
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Makes a lot of sense, in hindsight I suppose a lot of my problems come from trying to set boundaries without really figuring out what those boundaries are, therefore they are always changing, no wonder my wife likes me even less now than when I had no boundaries.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/01/17 05:31 PM
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The only part of this I struggle to fully internalize is the childcare implications. I 100% agree that I don't need my wife's permission to take a trip, but by doing so unannounced I am effectively assigning her all childcare duties for the weekend... i suppose in an emergency I could make other arrangements, but the likely outcome is she will end up taking care of 100% of child care for the entire time I'm away. Is it that unreasonable to at least inquire if she has any firm plans for the weeke…
/r/askMRP27/01/17 05:29 PM
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This is really helpful, thanks. So at this point, it's less about calibrating the optimal balance of alpha and beta and more about finding A balance that's in line with my mission and goals and remaining congruent/consistent with that? At least that's how I'm interpreting this, and can see how that would be a major step toward establishing a solid frame versus the misguided bullshit I've been doing.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/01/17 03:09 PM
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What do you mean by this? I think I've some idea, but not sure I'm fully following. I'm guessing this means finding middle ground between beta and Rambo by knowing and being consistent with boundaries, what I will and won't tolerate, etc? Or is this totally off the mark?
/r/MarriedRedPill27/01/17 11:43 AM
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Forgive me MRP for I have sinned. It's been over a month since my last OYS. In the meantime I completely fucked up and deleted my entire post history (which was a handful of OYS posts and responses). I had been keeping a running list on my phone every day of displays of low value etc. Wife found the list a few weeks ago and completely freaked out, I somehow panicked and thought she would find my account and posts and deleted everything. Basically it reignited the ongoing shitty comfort test that…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/01/17 10:06 PM
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Thanks for the feedback. Some good points/suggestions here. Fully agree about smoking and impact on frame. Hamster tries to convince me it's not that bad because I am typical high functioning stoner... Not sitting on couch eating but rather getting shit done around the house, working out, practicing guitar or reading... But the problem is I'm basically incapable of holding frame, being assertive, passing shit tests, making decisions/leading, initiating or trying to game wife in a non-beta way, e…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/09/16 03:01 PM
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Thanks, needed to hear this. Didn't realize how much my ego was still getting in the way.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/09/16 02:29 PM
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First post after months of lurking. 34yo, married 4 years, dated for 5 before that, 4 month old daughter. Found mrp in January 2016, but have been half-assed about implementing, partly due to erring on side of caution with pregnant wife, but largely because I'm a fucking pussy. Have been lifting, reading, stfu more than I used to but not enough, and trying to establish a strong and positive frame as a masculine man leading his family. Nowhere near where I need to be but improvements in a lot of …
/r/MarriedRedPill20/09/16 08:19 PM
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