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Rant/VentingMaTArcher/r/TheRedPill04/09/21 05:27 PM
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Field ReportMaTArcher/r/TheRedPill05/12/19 10:40 PM
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You know they don't change when they leave blaming you for their decision to leave for someone else (of course that second part is kept hidden) Her relationship before me also finished in weird terms a big love bomb seems she was seeing someone before him and switched rather quick and then moved in with him then within a year she leaves back to her mom's.. hops on tinder and meets me. Then tries to make him jealous with selfies of us after one month of dating... should have listened to my gut. T…
/r/TheRedPill21/01/22 09:44 PM
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Confirmed by many who saw his picture or know him he's not very good looking. Posts his life on Facebook... He is taller though. Either way she's wasn't worth it and she probably felt that I felt that way so sought someone else out. Good for her if she's happier this way (for now).
/r/TheRedPill21/01/22 09:06 PM
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What baffled me the most was how much of a loser he was compared to where I am in life. He hasn't finished any studying he started, has been changing job to job for the last 5 years and spends his time modifying a 92 Honda civic...
/r/TheRedPill21/01/22 09:00 PM
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Even if it's a 99% thing, it doesn't change the nature of what it is. It's deceitful and disrespectful behavior and some may even argue it's betrayal/cheating but they rationalize it by saying things like "it didn't work anyway".
/r/TheRedPill21/01/22 08:52 PM
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I guess part of it could be true but then again I am currently dating different women and although of course if were seeing each other they will show interest, they still have their own interests too and don't necessarily abandon whatever they were up to to get into MY reality. Women that do this have nothing interesting going on in their lives so they live in other people's reality when switching from guy to guy.
/r/TheRedPill20/01/22 05:00 PM
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He probably understands to keep it civil it's going on youtube so. He is definitely not saying what he is thinking. This for sure. Looks like a genuiine good guy and besides, as soon as he started speaking his mind she threatened to edit it out.
/r/TheRedPill16/01/22 12:25 AM
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Even if I felt I was much more initiated to all this and was prepared for a lot of it, I was served the same kind of shit at 5:10 in my breakup a few months ago and I had the same reaction to it after the fact : "WTF? You waited 2 years to realize we differed on so many angles, yet you pushed to be in the LTR?" Even if I reacted well to it and saw a lot of bullshit through it, it just made her colder during the process. I replayed all the rationalization and bullshit in my mind for weeks it was …
/r/TheRedPill16/01/22 12:19 AM
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Good post. I like how instead of traditionally demonizing the whole "AWALT" we can agree to some extent that there are "better" women out there and that losing one "sheep" that "accidently on purpose" gobbled/fell onto another guy's dick ends up not being a big deal at all.
/r/TheRedPill03/01/22 12:00 AM
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Exactly what I was going to comment. Thank you. Its called love bombing, you're so special... no one has ever seen my BODY BEFORE... sssh please.
/r/seduction20/12/21 02:07 AM
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hahaha! Upvoted.
/r/seduction09/10/21 07:49 PM
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I do not know you but congratulate you on what you've accomplished so far and its interesting to see young guys do deep work on themselves in their twenties. I'm just entering my 30's and wish every day that I had understood, knew about this before as I would be even better than I am now.
/r/TheRedPill23/09/21 03:41 PM
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Golden from every angle. Thank you.
/r/TheRedPill20/09/21 03:27 PM
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That wouldn't help with self esteem now would it? :D
/r/seduction14/09/21 06:34 PM
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I'm pursuing this right now but there's something tough about this for me. I realize that once I cleansed myself from those people I'm stuck rebuilding my social circle completely with a new insight. Hard to start over I find.
/r/TheRedPill04/09/21 06:20 PM
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Not always easy to find the balance. Sometimes it feels like we want to make boring one's crazy and wished we could make the crazy one's a little more boring... ain't that funny eh.
/r/TheRedPill23/08/21 02:42 PM
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So from your response I'll elaborate let me know if this is what you meant : The feeling that you get "IN" the situation is the real one because you felt it. You may have also felt it "many times" so that also validates your feeling. The feeling you have AFTER the "thing" (person/relationship/possession) has left or is gone is an illusion constructed by a feeling of missing out in your brain. In parallel to your dopamine shock comment, I guess it also happens simultaneously to your FOMO. I guess…
/r/TheRedPill20/08/21 09:46 PM
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If you find a quality woman, hold her tight, be a gentleman and love her with all you have. And the determining factor of being able to identify her WHILE you have her is sometimes the issue. On the flipside, sometimes the fear of missing out can lead you down the rabbit hole of making you THINK you are missing out once she is gone but while you had her, you had the impression she needed to go sooner or later. Funny how the brain wants what it can't have, but doesn't appreciate that same thing w…
/r/TheRedPill20/08/21 04:36 PM
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Hahah I feel like taking a peak now.
/r/TheRedPill12/08/21 12:39 AM
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Chateau Heartiste wasnt it? I loved reading that stuff a few years ago.
/r/TheRedPill11/08/21 03:23 PM
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Loved this article because I was doing just that, : Reading the foundation, side bar, finished the first 2 years of Rollo, fell onto Chateau Heartiste, Woujo and found some high quality material within all this. From there I took notes on everything I read I'm not finished yet, but I've decided to go back and read my notes when I am. Recently all my "dates" I have noticed the "was that alpha or beta" type of question afterwards and I very quickly internalized one important thing to get rid of th…
/r/TheRedPill02/01/20 06:25 AM
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Makes sense of course everyone's advice will at some point be tainted with their personal experience but I think we need to remain on topic and know if our intervention is relevant to the OP in question. What I mean is that, if you are a daygamer and get a kick off bathroom sex at the coffee shop it might necessarily be interesting to an OP looking for advice on how to ask a girl out for something more serious. Had this discussion with our clown in another thread some users just want to vomit al…
/r/seduction02/01/20 05:56 AM
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What do you mean by "color".
/r/seduction31/12/19 10:10 PM
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The first paragraph is good advice though. Sometimes you can get lost in the connection that happens with a perfect few days and you overlook all the ways that the two of you don't fit. True.
/r/seduction31/12/19 10:07 PM
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I can understand why you would see it this way, but then I just sit here and feel entertained by it primarily and can also grasp a few items that give some food for thought without making any judgements on his person HERE or in his personal life and feel like I can win from that without being negative about it.
/r/TheRedPill31/12/19 01:10 AM
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I am not one for meaningless sex nor do I care for being a sexual partner with a woman during one of her "transitional phases." I find your comment particularly interesting for this specific passage only. I have to agree with this at least in majority because I think it depends how much importance one will associate with the fact of being sexually successful with a number of women. What I mean is that knowing the Transitional Phase is temporary and that it promotes facilitation to this possibili…
/r/TheRedPill31/12/19 01:06 AM
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Why put down in any response in the first place, if you have substantial arguments any form of put down denies a fair chance of someone analyzing it objectively.
/r/TheRedPill31/12/19 12:55 AM
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Always enjoy your posts GayLubeOil +1, Cheers!
/r/TheRedPill31/12/19 12:02 AM
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Negative feedback loops like that are a bitch. You need to try to break it. Maybe try dating a 'throwaway' girl. Go in knowing that that the two of you are going to break up in the near future. For the first part, exactly, the subconscious insecurity that breeds from negative thoughts is probably outwardly revealing itself unbeknownst to him, women can sense this without understanding it completely they can pick up on that vibe and lose interest / attraction. Although enticing, Dating a "throwaw…
/r/seduction30/12/19 08:17 PM
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You're probably trying for relationships with girls who you're better off just fucking casually because you don't actually have anything in common. When you get into a serious monogamous relationship with a girl who is really right for you, its easy and when you show weakness, instead of leaving you, she straps in tighter and does everything to help you through it or make you feel better. Although you state this is all bad advice, the first part isn't all that false. Lets leave out his behavior …
/r/seduction30/12/19 08:12 PM
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Never mind the Extremists on here saying you are insecure and all that bullshit. I don't believe in being stapled to theory with an attitude of non-flexibility. This is real life and we are dealing with human beings, there is some adaptation from what theory will propose. You may not necessarily have the Golden Rules, but they may work for you and the main idea remains valid : Gathering enough information to vet for a quality candidate that has potential for an LTR! Cheers !
/r/TheRedPill28/12/19 06:06 AM
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They absolutely are, visit their websites, they don't have books but online blogs.
/r/TheRedPill27/12/19 07:54 PM
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I've been collecting quotes too from here, rational male, chateau heartiste, woujo, other books and its really a good way to remember all the main points that hit home during your reading. Good collection!
/r/TheRedPill27/12/19 06:41 PM
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I see your point, but I'll give that some thought.
/r/TheRedPill27/12/19 06:36 PM
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I disagree, he's vetting for a potential LTR, you can't be 100% outcome independant when you are considering an LTR with someone. The decision to LTR the girl or not will necessarily OUTCOME from the result of vetting (based on his criteria). If the girl is not a match for an LTR you don't necessarily need to cut ties immediately, but it remains that the outcome has been altered in some way.
/r/TheRedPill27/12/19 07:09 AM
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Personally, I'll only LTR a girl if I'm her best/darkest sexual chapter. I think inherently, this is what we all want. If I'm not her darkest sexual chapter, I want to know who is, why he is, and an idea of how to beat him. I’m very competitive so it’ll be one of my goals to beat that guy Reading this touched home. We can have subconscious insecurities about their "best/darkest" chapter and your whole write-up makes me realize I was already vetting even some of my more interesting "plates" so to…
/r/TheRedPill27/12/19 07:05 AM
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Anything that becomes "granted" or taken for generates this attitude, human nature... :(
/r/TheRedPill19/12/19 09:34 PM
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The very foundation, discussed also in the Rational Male quite a bit, is that they lack any form of appreciation from the start. Of course being forced to another environment for a reality check would enforce their need for appreciation...
/r/TheRedPill19/12/19 07:56 PM
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5'8 - 175 pounds and I look almost muscular, I can't imagine myself at 115 holy shit !
/r/TheRedPill18/12/19 09:14 PM
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Very interesting post. Thanks!
/r/seduction12/12/19 05:01 PM
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Exactly, because attraction is not a choice but Rejection is.
/r/seduction12/12/19 02:17 AM
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Excellent write-up, from this and from all my recent reading; TRP is a set of tools to help you develop self-awareness and also get outter perspective. From this self-awareness you are able to apply the fundamentals to improve different aspects of your life. Not everyone begins the TRP journey at the same spot. Some already have some of these things figured out and others start from rock bottom. On the way through this journey you increase your SMV and overall value as a man. This value can be "…
/r/TheRedPill11/12/19 01:17 AM
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Haha! Thats a good quote but when you fuck a girl for the first 1 to 2 times I think its hard to reinvent the wheel and "show her" new stuff right off the bat.
/r/TheRedPill09/12/19 06:22 AM
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I can very clearly imagine how it can take you off guard. Its like in a split second your brain knows that the gesture doesn't come out of nowhere. On the other hand, whatever it may be, I guess the older you get the more you understand that many of the things women will do in bed have a good chance of being from past experience, whatever it is. With that in mind, I guess its you take it for what it is "experience" and keep your frame without letting it shut you down in any way.
/r/TheRedPill09/12/19 02:56 AM
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Or, she looked like a girl that was out to get "experience" and it felt like she "thought" she would be exciting if she repeated that experience. I think both our analogies somehow meet in the middle.
/r/TheRedPill09/12/19 02:17 AM
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In that regard I guess I did what "I wanted" and she followed. Apart from a request to hold her throat, she made no other attempts to manage it. It was almost like it was programmed by her past experiences and thats why it turned me off, not by the fact of what it was
/r/TheRedPill09/12/19 01:49 AM
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Oh no I did initiate, I'm a bit of a savage. They still had it rough, I should have specified hands near throat. My last LTR enjoyed the roughness about the act itself but nothing involving choking and slapping. She'd still get some but would get mad and I would laugh helk I don't consider myself a pussy at all in the bedroom, I get frequent compliments. What turned me off was that the FIRST thing this specific girl did before I had even started was reach for her throat with my hand. In my head …
/r/TheRedPill08/12/19 11:19 PM
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But after swallowing the redpill and working to get my life on track, I noticed something interesting. In becoming more assertive and self-respecting in my day-to-day life, the sexual dominance seemed to come with it. It's like they are attached or intertwined. I don't think a beta could "fake" being dominant in the bedroom any more convincingly than a loser could fake having game. This portion is "quote quality". Good job, I read this and realize the work I need to do. We talk about "our purpos…
/r/TheRedPill08/12/19 10:05 PM
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This was an eye opening moment for many, myself included. The first time it was a girl who said "choke me" on our first time fucking. So I gave her throat a nice squeeze. Went through this LAST WEEK. I was into the girl a lot and things progressed well in my game to the bedroom, then she pulled my hand onto her neck and I was a bit turned off. All of a sudden the good college girl she projected herself to be during out date was a bit of a shattered image. My mistake ? I just didn't know how the …
/r/TheRedPill08/12/19 09:58 PM
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Exactly.
/r/seduction08/12/19 05:42 PM
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Also on the quest of improving my "PERCEIVED" SMV. At some point, how fit do you really need to be and how much FITTER will actually change your "perceived" SMV? I lift 2-3 times a week, without being super jacked, you can see through my clothes that I'm in "shape". Would increasing my muscular size increase my SMV? How good do your finances really NEED to be for your "Perceived" SMV to increase? I'm making good numbers and have investments and consider myself very comfortable for a 29 year old …
/r/seduction08/12/19 06:14 AM
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Amazing Post Buddy! Wish I had read this before my most recent experience after being almost a year out of the dating game. In a nut-shell, first date with younger girl goes super well, she comes back to my place but she's emotionally damaged by something and doesn't want to mention what (probably got dumped). We have sex, her feminine energy wasn't there completely and it had a lot to do with what was on her mind that she wouldn't say. Woke up the next morning apologizing for being "In her head…
/r/seduction08/12/19 05:46 AM
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Impressed at how this finished, good job to both of you there's good info to learn from this conversation from an outsider standpoint.
/r/seduction08/12/19 05:29 AM
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Nicely put I just read this after writing a similar response in the opposite form. When you watch yourself failing because you have holes in the material you realize how important it is to know it on your fingers.
/r/seduction08/12/19 05:15 AM
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Ya there we go.
/r/seduction08/12/19 05:13 AM
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Read his book 2-3 times and I grasped a good portion of the material. Whats good is that when you read other good work by other authors you realize that the fundamentals spill over a lot. He keeps repeating over and over in his Youtube videos to read it 10-15 times and after you fuck up with a girl once or twice because you went back to your old behavior that doesn't work and then reread his material and realize had covered it you're left there banging your head.
/r/seduction08/12/19 05:13 AM
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Let the cat fulfill its instinct as a hunter- it needs to find and earn your attention. Cats and women need to feel like they chose and pursued you, or they lose interest. My recent failure. After sex had happened twice I become what I think was too available physically, and too affectionate. Her interest level went from super high to super low within' a week.
/r/seduction08/12/19 05:08 AM
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This response is golden. I don't know where you are coming from or how old you are but this is the reason I go on forums, to read comments like yours that display the exact type of mindset I wish to achieve completely as I work towards it.
/r/seduction08/12/19 04:55 AM
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At the end of the day, there's always those that master theory and those that master practice and unfortunately we can get those two mixed up when reading comments on a virtual forum.
/r/TheRedPill06/12/19 10:42 PM
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You know, its good that we get honest shares like that. When you do start reading and I'd add "comprehending" because that is the actual power shift, you re-enact some of your past mistakes, wake up on missed signals as you say and inevitably even though you did re-enact them, you still make the mistakes but you notice as you make them. Reprogramming your behaviors and way of thinking doesn't happen overnight.
/r/TheRedPill06/12/19 10:33 PM
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Well then, lets all take a mouthful of sour-grapes and move on.
/r/TheRedPill06/12/19 10:12 PM
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I don't know where you picked your sour-grapes from but thats not the message I'm getting from his post. I agree with him on most of it, in general I see no point when a women hardly makes 5ft 2" going all nuts for a 6 footer when a 5ft 8-9 fit guy has the looks, the fit body and everything else going on for him. Maybe that screens out the nut cases for us..
/r/TheRedPill06/12/19 07:06 PM
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I've been getting that lately. Women chatting me up at the bar "You are very good looking but you are short" I'm 5'9 as well. My ex LTR told me once mid-relationship "If you were taller I would have already lost you"... I sit back sometimes and tell myself, isn't it ridiculous to imagine how crazy they are to get all excited for an extra 2 inches or so?. Geez
/r/TheRedPill06/12/19 05:52 PM
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I agree, sucks how you can play all your cards right and make one single mistake and screw it all up like that. On the other hand - Her interest level must have been on the low side to start with if all it took was a few words to dissipate her interest.
/r/TheRedPill06/12/19 03:00 AM
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Thanks for your reply. The disappointment lies in the fact that she conveyed genuine interest at first and then disappeared like she didn't care. I didn't want to play games, I just made sure not to pursue too much when I felt she wasn't reciprocating.
/r/TheRedPill06/12/19 12:45 AM
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" But here we have an example of a man using RP tools for BP goals. " Yes thanks for summarizing it this way, I felt the same when analyzing my story. I'm 29, not 19 as mentioned in post. Thanks for your reply.
/r/TheRedPill06/12/19 12:44 AM
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No I developed genuine interest for her, I felt her unresponsive so I protected myself by hanging back and taking it easy until she started to really back off then I did too..
/r/TheRedPill06/12/19 12:43 AM
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Let me add that I adjusted when I noticed she was playing. I had no intention of "playing games".
/r/TheRedPill06/12/19 12:42 AM
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Just fucking edit the TLDR and say "If you feel in a similar situation Make the move", in general I don't see why anyone with a bit of common sense can't see this.
/r/TheRedPill05/12/19 07:39 PM
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Those taking it personally that he stated to break up. Think of it this way: He's addressing his post to those with similar situations. Those who feel trapped in a beta-type relationship where the power has shifted for too long, unhappy and uninterested in fixing things at this point. Of course if your situation is different this isn't a command to drop your LTR on the spot... Common fucking sense, right?
/r/TheRedPill05/12/19 06:31 PM
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Brought you back to 0 atleast ! ;)
/r/TheRedPill05/12/19 06:04 PM
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It only sinks in after you observe it.
/r/TheRedPill05/12/19 05:16 PM
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Well timed post. 29 years old just decided to take a one month vacation from my job. Been focusing on it for 3.5 years without taking any break whatsoever. It has set me back in my practice of game and cold approaching as I have been busy on construction sites away for months. Even if you lift, focus on your career/purpose, make good money, dress well, eat well and present yourself with confidence in life, women don't just fall on your lap you still have to initiate some situations for things to…
/r/TheRedPill05/12/19 04:22 AM
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there's still a ton of pedestalization going on that caught me off guard. LOL! Excellent reply in general dude, all you just wrote is True.
/r/TheRedPill05/12/19 04:16 AM
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Think the type of problem you have now, do you really need to solve it? Or is there a deeper issue there need to be fix? Perhaps your trouble just the tip of iceberg, that requires you to steer fucking clear to not sank your own Titanic. Yes. Lets paraphrase this and put it in practice : ONEitis.
/r/TheRedPill05/12/19 04:06 AM
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when they’re young are hot by accident. Maybe they play a sport that forces them to exercise, or maybe they have a lucky metabolism, or maybe their parents monitor their food quality/consumption, but for most young women: being hot is just something that happened to them. It’s not a conscious effort Nice one. Very true and if you see it that way when you approach them, it helps you ignore that aspect.
/r/TheRedPill05/12/19 04:00 AM
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I like how life sometimes times things in a certain way. I just got through something extremely similar. She was a 7 to me maybe an 8 to my friend. I held my frame during our first conversations and kept leading her all the way to a date to which she almost cancelled by maintaining my frame she finally went with it. Something was emotionally bothering her a lot but I was able to distract her mind enough to get her into the vibe. Brought her home, escalated rather quickly and then sex. She asked …
/r/TheRedPill05/12/19 03:20 AM
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"I'm hoping this post is motivation for those young guys like myself who are avoiding transitioning from theory into action. Theory honestly makes up about 10 percent of game, and that 10 percent comes after you take action and analyze what you did wrong. " Golden. Even at 29 starting to get into this about a year or so ago on and off I still find it challenging so good for you for starting young but also for having such a winner mindset from the start you'll be in good position in no time !
/r/TheRedPill24/11/19 09:29 PM
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Time for a REAL Whopper then !
/r/TheRedPill23/11/19 02:21 PM
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I'd like to add to point #8, Failure being inevitable members should not be shamed for posting a failure story to help others and maybe get others to point out, where and how the failure took place in certain situations. Such means promote improvement. Sometimes reading the sidebar isn't ace. Real life experience is always valuable.
/r/TheRedPill22/11/19 04:13 PM
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Without saying that I "begged" one thing I do regret is admitting how much it hurt to see how much of a betraying bitch she was. But then what a fool I was to believe that if she was ready to cheat on her past LTR with ME, why would I be any special after a couple of years when another interesting option shows up.
/r/TheRedPill17/04/18 03:59 PM
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Well that family is convinced the father is a good example of a good boyfriend. WhaT's really going on is he's a doormat and every girl in that household believes men need to be this way. So since I wasn't interested in sitting down to urinate and be tending to all her wants and needs I was a bad boyfriend. She can go and try to be happy with her beta male fuck her.
/r/TheRedPill21/12/17 01:21 PM
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The girl I used to date was like this deep inside she needs to use people to feel better. I was the first guy to stick up to her so she hid that behavior for a while but it got more and more present as she had her hook on me. I noticed her mom and sisters treated their boyfriends that way. It was like their boyfriend was an object of utility in their lives, the one that goes to fill up your car, take snow off your windshield in the morning and get you a treat when you go to the corner store for …
/r/TheRedPill20/12/17 12:43 PM
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Good question, thats something that needs a good response. I'd say cut your losses, whatever interest she's developped if you're already in the "usable" zone may be hard to shape into something genuine from there.
/r/TheRedPill20/12/17 12:29 AM
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Add to that if parents enforce it and continue to feed the entitlement even in adulthood.
/r/TheRedPill20/12/17 12:10 AM
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I wouldn't have cared if they had, because what she did, and both of them trying to justify it was bullshit. Yep, and that goes a long long way.
/r/TheRedPill20/12/17 12:10 AM
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Was just thinking about that, when an ex spreads a reputation of you to be the victim.
/r/TheRedPill20/12/17 12:06 AM
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I was about to say "ALL DOGS ARE LIKE THAT" until I read your next paragraph. Of course again given the consequences, all dogs could bite if they have the oppertunity :P same TRP shizzle. Thank you, real stuff right there. Expecting the worst outcomes and then therefore behaving in ways that will necessarily cause that outcome by believing in its fateful nature (law of attraction) you never open yourself up to things turning out differently, spinning plates with the idea that they all fall or yo…
/r/TheRedPill18/12/17 10:42 PM
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True. I guess whats said is said, but silence is now the only option and I hope you are right that it has the most impact.
/r/TheRedPill18/12/17 09:13 PM
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I guess even though I'm fairly new here, I appreciate someone that has the courage to lay out some ideas and his view of the world. I am able to understand that his view may not necessarily be refined with respect to TPR I also think that the comments below can actually help make it even better by adding or pointing out caveats in it. Thats the beauty of it, we can take the parts we consider to be true and point out the ones we believe to be either false or partially incorrect.
/r/TheRedPill18/12/17 08:37 PM
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GLO, what would you define as a "television prole" by association with the context I almost think that defines my parents.
/r/TheRedPill18/12/17 07:29 PM
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Let us not forget that it can take some time to rise up again, its not an instant process.
/r/TheRedPill18/12/17 06:11 PM
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There you go! And that's why its careful to reduce leaping to conclusions when familiar situations recall painful experience.
/r/TheRedPill18/12/17 04:13 AM
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Nice, I didn't see it that way. Then again, how would anybody else but yourself know if you are lying to yourself?...
/r/TheRedPill18/12/17 03:36 AM
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Many of you are too fast to conclusions. One of my exes completely lost her libido and a bunch of you would write that she's fucking someone else. That's a bit hard if you live on a farm in the middle of nowhere and you work together 24/7. I laughed this one out loud, Thank you for that. And why I laughed because that is so true, even though all this RP is clearly getting to people's head with prefabricated assumptions there is still "real life", and as my therapist once told me : "Even I, who i…
/r/TheRedPill18/12/17 01:03 AM
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Why does that trouble you? Hamstering in many cases, is trying to find a rational explanation for something that can often be determined as "irrational" or even worse something that just has no explanation and must be accepted as is. Controlling the narrative seems to focus more on an endgoal which is the return in some proportion of power over a situation without reviewing the outcome.
/r/TheRedPill18/12/17 12:52 AM
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The red pill, however, flips the script, is reminded of a woman's sexual strategy, chuckles at the matter and makes the woman he is no longer sleeping with part of his social circle. He shows her he is unaffected by her choices. He introduces her to his friends and she introduces him to hers. He does this again and again because he knows it will happen again and again, he lives in abundance and controls the narrative. So if this particular women is now seeing someone else officially and publicly…
/r/TheRedPill18/12/17 12:49 AM
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And I'll ask without shame : All these people claiming to "start redpilling themselves" or others even claiming to have reached that goal. I'll just question it this way ; When does one consider he has "started" and when does one consider he has "achieved" it? From my perspective of getting quite a good shape in the last months, keeping my diet clean with an occasional treat like anyone, focusing on my career and making progress within my company, getting compliments on my clothing when I go out…
/r/TheRedPill16/12/17 11:34 PM
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Thanks buddy, very constructive comment.
/r/TheRedPill15/12/17 03:46 PM
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Haha Good ones Thanks I get the idea, I guess I did go with too many standard form conversation openers that didn't make me stand out at all.
/r/TheRedPill15/12/17 03:45 PM
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That's how I was raised. She used that argument against me when she left "You spend your life being careful of everyone's intentions instead of giving them a fair chance at being good people", in reality they all have a fair chance at being good people, and being good is relative, but good to "ME" is my opinion and I'm entitled to it. She was raised to believe naively that every one is nice and well intentioned. Just like that guy she ended up being dumped by after 5 weeks, he was so perfect at …
/r/TheRedPill15/12/17 12:41 AM
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As to your daily need, yes, I kind of felt that. That's your ego. Get over it. No easy way to say that. Get more into your hobbies, lift (or whatever your sport is but it has to be some active, competitive sport), get more into your career. The whole build yourself up and learn from it. On going, first time in my life I see it as "something I need to do". Working on yourself objectively is something empowering, the small gains make you feel good about yourself and it becomes addicting because th…
/r/TheRedPill14/12/17 08:53 PM
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Good, were on the same track even if I've made those mistakes in the past we learn from them.
/r/TheRedPill14/12/17 08:50 PM
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Right, so basically assume as a starting point that AWALT, and decide based on field experience if she is an individual. The oneitis to me is still hard to describe its a pretty complex thing that was again generalized. Taking into account that sometimes it is true that a woman is unique but does that make the unique aspects a good thing, even more so for you specifically ? Often times not. When I look back on the "unique girls" I cried over losing thinking I failed at keeping her, I realize ya,…
/r/TheRedPill14/12/17 08:47 PM
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You're right, I've been questioned as to why I was so comfortable with not being jealous at all, it almost upset her, Don't you care enough? right? I felt that whenever I need to interfere for a girl to stay loyal, thats the beginning of the end. Its gotta end either way. So whether I find out as we go by "verifying" or I find out or not in time what's done is done and if a girl cheats, I never find out and we end up spending our lives together, whatever toss that in the "she needed that experie…
/r/TheRedPill14/12/17 08:40 PM
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Was just reading the intro on the sidebar again and here's a quote that enforces my disappointment to generalize too much by user "haywire" 2 yrs ago. 81 Upvotes. They too are capable of doing their own thing(women) - some don't even want kids, are asexual, bisexual, honest, dishonest, driven, manipulative, loving, caring, abused...whatever. Generalising is tricky - I understand that on one hand it's important to try and see patterns in human behaviour, however you have to remember that everyone…
/r/TheRedPill14/12/17 07:00 PM
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Where is it that you see a wrong turn? When you trust someone thats the beauty of it you don't spend your life with one eye open. I've been in relationships where girls do talk to other guys on their phones but I bring them to a comfort level where they can talk about it openly, when you get there they will just go out and say "Oh this guy inviting me for a drink again" and you can see how she reacts to it and make sure at that moment if she's turning him down. Other than that I've always let th…
/r/TheRedPill14/12/17 06:31 PM
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To me, it has an impact when you have the choice to stay or walk away. When someone replaces you and turns their back on you whatever you do has no impact on that specific situation. In my opinion, walking away becomes the ONLY way if you respect yourself on a basic level. What else could I do ? Stalk, harrass, text and call her? Write her emails and love letters? Drop by her house and get down on my knees and beg her to reconsider?
/r/TheRedPill14/12/17 06:27 PM
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Well once you've exposed a few weak moves like typical pleading to hear you out and thats done and has no impact, atleast even if I'm ashamed of doing that I walked away and haven't contacted her in 93 days the more time goes on the less I even would want to. You're right, before it was about her in the beginning, then it was about me and my own standards.
/r/TheRedPill14/12/17 06:24 PM
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Damn a pick from the litter doesn't sound like high quality stuff
/r/TheRedPill14/12/17 05:54 PM
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This is what I did, 2 months away from her had me learn about RP, and the notion of the alphamale, Corey Wayne's 3% man has also opened my eyes in similar ways. It also opened up what people here call "spinning plates" I hadn't recognized that as long as two people have not officialized a relationship, there is no obligation for being exclusive to a single person you are seeing. My natural instinct when two people are "interested in each other" is to focus on that person solely and not play game…
/r/TheRedPill14/12/17 03:52 PM
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For those "Starting the RP journey" where exactly have you "started"? And I'm serious. What ressources allow you to place yourself on the RP scale when you first start to see where you actually stand. We could agree that everyone starts a different levels, some are way BP and some are natural alphas to start with.
/r/TheRedPill14/12/17 02:32 PM
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Its disappointing to generalize a whole gender on their values.
/r/TheRedPill14/12/17 02:27 PM
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But there's always another Johnny Newnuts. I've been younger too, she was 4-5 years younger so I've made my share of mistakes in my late teens-early twenties and so I thought after all the convincing / rational things she said when she came back that it was a good base to start on now that she experienced the grass is greener syndrome. My mistake, a second chance to this woman had her right back into complacency within 4-5 months and after a year she found Johnny FreshBallz his far cousin. In al…
/r/TheRedPill14/12/17 02:25 PM
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Thanks. Any pointers on some working PUA openers I can read up on?
/r/TheRedPill14/12/17 01:42 PM
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I'm not looking actually, I mean its not to say I haven't been keeping an eye open at the bar or other social gathering but "Looking" wouldn't quite fit the frame. A good part of what you said is right, but now at 27, I've had 5-6 LTR (2-4 years) and I guess two of them turned to hypergamous "inclinations" which inevitably ended the relationship, in hindsight both those relationships were good sexually but the rest wasn't that great.. Funny thing is they both came back within 2-3 months after do…
/r/TheRedPill14/12/17 12:39 PM
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I've been lurking TRP and came accross Rollo's stuff I've taken note of his work in my "books to read" notepad. Thing is I've been accumulating over 20 books that people "recommend" at some point you wonder where to start lol! On my 100th day of NC, starting to feel "whole" again and will definitely be digging into these good reads. If Karma does exist, let it rip.
/r/TheRedPill14/12/17 12:34 PM
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For a complete newb that is skeptical as to what meditation really represents, where do you start, what do you first do to initiate yourself to trying it?
/r/TheRedPill14/12/17 03:43 AM
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Haha and this is why I read them all too.
/r/TheRedPill14/12/17 03:42 AM
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Lets stick to the point here, what draws my curiosity is : What can a valuable man say in form of text in the first few messages to stand out from the rest? I always wonder about that. Trying to be polite and opening up in a "normal" way seems to be something too common and now you need to stand out quickly or you get the no response act fast.
/r/TheRedPill14/12/17 03:22 AM
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Haha I need to stop overlooking meditation and try it.
/r/TheRedPill14/12/17 03:18 AM
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And she did it with me, and did it to me.
/r/TheRedPill14/12/17 03:05 AM
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I guess its a rhetorical question.
/r/TheRedPill14/12/17 02:58 AM
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Free use of their phone? When does the notion of trust come into play? I find that demanding access to someone else's phone a little insecure, wouldn't you ?
/r/TheRedPill14/12/17 02:32 AM
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Had dinner and gave the "Walk away" some thought and all I can say is "what else can you do"?! I mean walking away at this point doesn't even have any impact, its the only way.
/r/TheRedPill14/12/17 02:31 AM
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She played the victim almost like she was abused. I was completely shocked and at loss of words to even begin to argue with her. Her reality was completely adjusted to make her puzzle pieces fit that she was basically rescued by this man who is now an "Upgrade" after what she "endured with me". I think you're right the only person that needs to know the truth is me. Exposing her will open the door to further issues. I did learn from my mistakes but I keep thinking I was probably just with the wr…
/r/TheRedPill14/12/17 01:55 AM
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I guess once you become aware of this, like I am now and it makes perfect sense you can objectively look at your "feelings" understand they are biological and manage them accordingly. Without this level of consciousness you become slave to your primal desires that are basically controlling your brain chemicals. Kind of amazing when you think about it.
/r/TheRedPill14/12/17 01:16 AM
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I want to get to that point not only because its a higher level of consciousness and awareness but also because the sooner you catch on the less pain you go through and the more you have control over how you want to deal with it instead of just being the victim of a final move.
/r/TheRedPill14/12/17 01:14 AM
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You have it spot on, I'm starting to see how much personal growth I've done fueled by the pain but also fueled by "being alone" and offering myself "deserved me time" and I wouldn'T go back to where I was not to say I was that bad but the mental evolution this situation brought is a very strong awakening I think its like rebuilding on a more solid foundation. I guess I am hard on myself, funny how she mentioned that during the breakup "Stop being so hard on yourself, atleast your authentic, you'…
/r/TheRedPill14/12/17 01:11 AM
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That loop already cycled, we tried, I changed and bettered myself, she didn't. Her issues came back to the surface but I was too caught up with work to gtfo, she stayed for a year and she left for someone else a second time. I guess I've got only myself to blame for thinking if I can change, so can other people. Thanks for responding. Without knowing you were already right, I just hope she would never have the guts to reach out again if it fails with her new guy again lol!
/r/TheRedPill14/12/17 12:36 AM
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I'm new to this but why was it "Chad" that we chose to refer to "That guy" lol! My ex left for a new guy, I was blamed of being too alpha essentially. Not taking in her emotions which were excessive, not responding to her love bombing and from her perspective I wasn't sensitive to any of her anxiety and concerns. She felt I was too ahead of her in life with my new career, financials sorted out and felt I didn't "need her" to move on with my life so it made her feel she wasn'T enough. Her dad is …
/r/TheRedPill13/12/17 11:27 PM
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I'd like to ask an open question to all those who've experienced meeting the women in front of them either by getting into their Facebook or just finding out in other creative ways that they are hiding, lieing and playing other games behind your back. Realizing it quickly after the breakup that there is proof that something was going on, how do some of you react? I feel a daily need to confront or get back at her for being so two-faced. I wish she knew the depth of how I despise her for being so…
/r/TheRedPill13/12/17 09:42 PM
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I believed that she might have changed, that she might have learned out of her wrong doings, but boy was I wrong. I should have never dropped my plates. Fuck I went through something too similar that it hurts. The reality is you stepping in to her phone may seem bluepill but it gave you the clarity you needed in the end. In my case she basically got to the point where she met up with him, and developped some feels for him then she ended our "relationship". I let her do the fuck she wanted just l…
/r/TheRedPill13/12/17 09:37 PM
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I feel I've done that but its circumstantial.
/r/TheRedPill13/12/17 09:00 PM
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And how long is usually "dump them before letting them get too emotionally invested" is that factorable in a number of months or is it different with each?
/r/TheRedPill13/12/17 08:41 PM
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Things become priceless when they give the desired effect, true.
/r/TheRedPill12/12/17 04:32 PM
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I feel like oneitis is a very self-centered experience and doesn't actually have to do with any qualities you find in the girl. It hurts to admit most of that is true
/r/TheRedPill06/12/17 01:08 PM
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I went through this, never had oneitis until I met her, she wasn't that special, she wasn't that good looking, sex was a bit better than average but her skilled lies and the way she tried to broadcast herself as the ideal girl over the years it faded harshly and when I started shining light on what I was discovering she ran away to a new man, blamed me for her actions (leaving for another man) and disappeared. Insta-oneitis.
/r/TheRedPill06/12/17 01:05 PM
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Couldn't stop laughing because I was also thinking "Damn I can masturbate an hour before and I will not miss out on being full erect if she wants the D" anyways to each their own right?
/r/TheRedPill06/12/17 04:10 AM
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And seriously you really gotta go through it to understand your reply fully. It almost hurt.
/r/TheRedPill06/12/17 02:50 AM
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