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a couple more questions need a 'not applicable' answer, or something like it. the two that jumped out to me were the 1-5 sensitivity change one, and the one about partner preference. i was cut in infancy, so don't know my sensitivity before, and just answered 1. also, i've never had a sex partner before, so marked down that they have no preference. especially since you have an age option for under 14, it seems odd there's no explicit option for no sexual experience. i'm pretty sure both of those…
/r/Male_Studies20/07/24 01:59 AM
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asking an mra to not talk about feminism is like asking a feminist to not talk about patriarchy. we believe that the feminist conception of gender is the dominant one in our society, and, therefore, feminism is what we concern ourselves with critiquing. obviously, there's the whole 'stop critiquing so much and make change happen' line, which is both right and wrong. mras are doing stuff, like making men's groups and shelters, suing the government to try to get the draft declared unconstitutional…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates13/07/24 02:06 AM
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i wonder if she has a source (which includes a well-designed experiment) on that claim that women find it difficult to induce fear in men. that, and the claim of isolation are truly bizarre. all the claims are goofy, but those two are extraordinarily delusional. i don't like the whole 'you're only saying that because you're a member of x group', but it's hard to get around here. there's no way these conclusions can come from anything other than ideological bias.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates20/05/24 10:12 PM
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i think charles fourier is generally credited with having coined the term feminism. don't know how he defined it though. maybe reading some of his stuff would help you find an answer.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates18/05/24 12:36 AM
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i'm not familiar enough with crime stats to guess how that number was reached, but nisvs puts about 1/4 americans hit by their partners every year. unfortunately for the bear fans, that's the same for men and women. frankly, the oop is presenting their numbers terribly. it's unclear if their numbers are over the lifetime or a year or over 10 years or whatever. that makes it harder to pin down, find a source on, and argue against. bear fans really not beating the lying for attention allegations w…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates04/05/24 08:52 PM
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obviously, this line assumes that the only thing we should care about is deaths, like conservatives saying that people are overreacting to covid because 'only whatever% of people die', when there are other harms to be considered. but, even if we only consider deaths, the number of suicides is far greater than the number of murders. i don't see any particular reason to believe that hurt feelings cause less death than murder.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates02/05/24 10:53 PM
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i can relate to this. my big trauma was getting molested by an armed woman when i was eight. there've been a couple of other things, mostly 'smaller', for lack of a better word, sa's from women, but also my mom was in an abusive relationship with a man for a while when i was a kid. the difference in the way people react to the things women did, to the one a man did, is demoralizing. frankly, i just stopped seeking emotional support when i was twelve or so. it's come up in conversation before, an…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates25/04/24 10:59 PM
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not optimistic, personally. i think the left is perfectly willing to throw black men under the bus.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates30/03/24 04:36 AM
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copy pasting a comment a left in another sub. not about spending, but participation in medical trials, which is related enough, i think: ​ Edit: Should note, this comment is speaking about medical research broadly. I don't reject the possibility that some problems were wrongly assumed to be gendered or not gendered, just that there is a pattern of women uniquely being excluded from medical research. The other answers have been great, but I must question the premise a little. I'm not aware of man…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates08/03/24 06:57 AM
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it's really hard to give useful advice to someone who we know so little about. all we can do is generic stuff. i understand you don't want to go into detail. honestly, i don't even think going into detail for us would help; we're still strangers, and you understand the situation better than we ever could. ​ short term: lots of stuff that can cover whatever pain is causing this episode. sometimes a quick band-aid fix is what you need to get through an acute issue, even if you know it won't last. …
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates05/03/24 04:05 AM
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yeah, i get it, although i think mine is less extreme than yours. i feel uncertain of how i should express myself around women. i get the feeling that both friendliness and neutrality come off wrong to them, so i find it easier to just avoid them. ​ i'm not sure exactly where this feeling came from. i know i didn't have it when i was a kid. i did grow up around a couple misandrist women, the kind you would hope are just strawmen made up by anti-sjw pngtubers, who did often react negatively to no…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates29/02/24 06:58 PM
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i'm not going to command you to break up, but i think you should seriously imagine what would happen if you did. ​ how would your life change? what improves, what gets worse? how would you feel on an average day without her, vs how do you feel most days now? ​ i think doing this might make the answer more clear.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates25/02/24 04:57 PM
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i don't call myself anything. ​ all labels do (most of the time*) is encourage people to judge your ideas without actually knowing what they are. i'm even trying to avoid positive reactions, since i want to avoid people not challenging me on things they disagree with because they have me mentally marked as 'good'. ​ this goes doubly for folks who hold unpopular views and are misunderstood, since the judgments people form are more likely to be wrong. ​ someone starting a community, though, is spe…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates21/02/24 12:51 AM
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170 words expressing support for sex assault victims, 70 words preemptively apologizing. ​ i understand why one would feel the need, though; some folks can get upset at this topic.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates20/02/24 10:39 PM
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your article is well done, and i feel like this comment section shouldn't be empty, but i don't really know what needs to be said.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates18/02/24 10:32 AM
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also, 40% experienced 'attempted or completed forced vaginal/anal penetration'. ​ i know the classic joke is 'man, that's clunky; if only we had a one syllable word for it...', but i don't think we could get an honest answer if the authors called it rape; folks associate the word too strongly with m perp / f victim. ​ also, kinda wish the authors gathered age data, but that isn't a big knock.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates10/02/24 11:39 PM
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the others here are right, most guys who call themselves 'red-pill' are misanthropic and will not help you. their ideas about masculinity are very limited and exclusionary. they don't respect the wide variety of men that not only exist, but are necessary for a functional society. your feed shows you stuff like what you've watched before. my youtube feed is all fitness, gaming, and history stuff. it might take a while, but you can change what gets shown to you. i can't really say whether or not w…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates14/01/24 02:52 AM
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i have thought similarly. i don't want to assume what's going on in other people's head, but i have a hard time seeing this 'like their human' line as anything beside trying to belittle men by presenting them as incompetent and their issues as petty, born out of a lack of understanding of the situation. this advice is preposterously unhelpful, and can't even be confirmed as true or not, because, like you said, the human-ness with which someone is treated can't be measured. presumably, the folks …
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates11/01/24 08:15 AM
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largely agree. i have a hard time even imagining what productive conversation can come from this post.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates20/12/23 07:41 AM
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rates of iph used to be nearly equal, but killings of men declined hugely around the time that victim services for women proliferated. p. 8 & 9 have graphs displaying that. ~ providing victim services seems to reduce the rate at which victims kill their partners, not so much the rate at which victims are killed. ~ boys are more likely to be hit by their parents than girls are. 1 (one) 2 (two) 3 (three) that last one is relevant because kids who experience violence are more likely to commit it. o…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates19/12/23 06:50 PM
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legal parental surrender, presumably. i'm familiar with that phrase, but i've never seen it shortened before either.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates19/12/23 01:22 AM
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fbi hate crime report: of hate crimes against lgbtq individuals, ~60% are against gay men, ~10% against lesbians. gallup poll on lgbt identification: 1.4% of us adults identify as gay, 1.0% identify as lesbian. that gallup poll also allows respondents to pick more than one answer. some number of lesbian women likely also identify as gay. some number of gay men may also identify as lesbian, but i venture to say that this group is probably smaller than lesbians who identify as gay.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates04/12/23 01:00 AM
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almost, but traditional masculinity typically includes some amount of self-respect.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates03/12/23 07:20 AM
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i must have copied the wrong link, but i've updated my comment to be what i meant it to be. ​ anyway, yeah, that's a different paper.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates19/11/23 01:07 AM
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cho & tasca 2019 i spent ~15 minutes looking and this was the only study i found on parenthood affecting sentencing length. i looked up 'parenthood sentence length prison' and mainly got stuff examining how having a parent in prison affects kids. anyone with better google-fu than me have more fruitful search terms?
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates18/11/23 08:39 PM
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sci-hub has it.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates17/11/23 07:37 PM
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i'm right with you until that first comma. i think that feminists near-universally dislike it when a man judges a woman. it's pretty irrelevant whether that judgement is good or bad- men just shouldn't have opinions on women. ~ it has to be true that this is due to jealousy for some number of them, but i won't try to guess at what number, and i certainly won't say that it's most, let alone near all.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates01/10/23 04:40 AM
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i'm not sure we should even accept that bad relationships are more likely to be deadly to women than to men. suicides are ~2x as common as homicides in the us, and both loneliness and relationship problems are notable predictors of suicide. i only spent ~5 minutes searching, but i couldn't find any hard numbers, such as how much these factors increase one's risk of suicide, or what percent of suicides have these factors present. it is unclear to me if anyone can confidently claim that the majori…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates29/09/23 09:55 PM
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1. i don't deny that eq is measuring something; it's definitely not some junk measure that means nothing. it's just that there isn't much reason to use it. there are numerous facets that make up emotional competence, and bundling them into one thing loses a lot of fidelity. obviously, in my above comment i provided two general methods of empathizing, but that's not the end of it: both of those have constituent parts. facial expression, vocal tone, and body language are all different things, and …
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates28/08/23 11:44 PM
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1. i took 2 years of psychology in high school, and 1 year in college. eq was a footnote that got mentioned in passing a couple times. my first 'job' was volunteering at a dv shelter; some of the other folks there were therapists and psychiatrists. i don't think i ever heard any of them talk about eq. maybe i just have weird luck and managed to mr magoo my way into never learning about something important, but i don't care at all about eq. there are a couple things i think are relevant, though: …
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates27/08/23 11:01 PM
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same. i don't think i've ever heard someone say it 'unironically' out in the wild. in political discussions, though? probably a couple dozen times. people seem to care about it, which i really don't get.
/r/MensRights27/08/23 08:32 AM
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r/leftwingmaleadvocates is (i think) the second largest mra sub, and has consistently pretty high quality discussions. no hate to this sub, but the discussions here are more prone to devolving and becoming unproductive. obviously, the folks there are leftists, many open communists, but i promise they're male friendly. even if you're a conservative, you could fit in there. if you want other content, fitness stuff stays pretty free of any discussion on gender. r/fitness r/weightroom are two big on…
/r/MensRights26/08/23 09:14 AM
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i think that the only explanation you need is that hustle culture appeals to those who need money; the more you need money, the more hustle culture appeals to you. maybe there's some other cultural stuff, like you pointed out, but i don't think it's necessary to explain what we see. plus, those cultural factors may well be downstream from the material factors. simply, men and minorities have fewer opportunities to become successful. both of these groups are notably discriminated against in educa…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates16/08/23 09:03 PM
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edit: i didn't read the other commenter's citation before i posted this. the authors of that study claim the data presents a more complicated view of the matter than i have. i can't contribute much to the psychology conversation, but i think what i said about the headline still stands. ~~ i am honestly confused as to why they picked that title. all the data they present supports the idea that men tend to focus more intensely than women, and need stronger stimuli to draw their attention to a new …
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates11/08/23 09:26 PM
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your thoughts cannot hurt people. imagine there were someone out there who sexually fantasized about kidnapping and torturing kids. this person also has a normal amount of empathy, and is disgusted by these fantasies, so they never act on them. can we call this person harmful? i say no. in fact, i think it would be silly to call this person a potential kidnapper, since they know acting on their fantasies would be wrong, and they never do it. committing violent crime requires the criminal to not …
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates10/08/23 10:17 PM
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yeah, i don't really think objectification is a real thing for the overwhelming majority of men. the whole premise of the thing is that men are less sensitive to the feelings, and therefore boundaries, of women they're attracted to, which i've never seen any evidence for. in my experience, men tend to be more attentive to the moods and desires of the women they're attracted to than they are to basically anyone else. further, it is quite rare for a woman to take on the 'masculine' role in dating …
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates08/08/23 09:36 PM
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the servant line is really bizarre. ai girlfriends don't cook or do laundry or have sex or anything that can be considered anything close to servitude. many chatbots don't even sext; literally all they do is have pleasant conversations. guys who use chatbots as girlfriend simulators are probably the least demanding people on the planet.
/r/MensRights06/08/23 05:31 AM
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i'd also like to throw in this paper by de zutter, horselenberg, and van koppen, which also supports the same reasons as kanin, plus some additional ones, like regret and mental disturbance. also, kanin got their data from police, and these guys interviewed those who interviewed complainants who recanted their allegations. these three had direct acess to complainants, and kanin had access to those found false by investigation. i don't know if that is significant, but it might be. these folks sti…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates05/08/23 09:06 PM
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she's engaging in semantic and logical fuckery. women are seen have having less agency than men; i think this is pretty indisputably true, and the cause of the empathy gap, and therefore basically all of the issues we as mras care about. where she goes wrong is that she then applies the words 'objectification' and 'misogyny', and she believes that objectification and misogyny are oppressive. it's true that objects don't act, but they also don't feel. people are more sensitive to women's facial e…
/r/MensRights05/08/23 01:30 AM
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in terms of mra stuff, i recommend honey badger radio. i think their takes on gender stuff are consistently good. this is more of a masculine hobby thing, but i also really like the stronger by science podcast, which is about training and nutrition for strength and size. the hosts know their stuff in this field, and also occasionally discuss research in detail. listening to them definitely improved how well i can interpret research generally, which has helped me in coming to my current understan…
/r/MensRights29/07/23 06:45 AM
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i went looking for a bit to find some hard numbers on the belief of complainants, and didn't find anything as straightforward as 'x% of female and y% of male victims report being believed by the first person they told/by police/by healthcare workers', but i got some stuff that might be useful. here's a survey of a couple hundred women who reported sex assault, and whether they found various sources of support to be helpful. https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/abs/10.1002/1520-6629(198901)17:1%3C…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates26/07/23 11:44 PM
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men's issues and black issues are pretty linked. if you have to gender races, it's pretty clear that black is the masculine race. black people are associated with sport, crime, assertiveness and agression, sexuality. you could do the same with femininity, and i think the best match there is east asian. they're typically associated with academics, politeness, and timidity. it's not a perfect one to one, but it seems pretty clear to me that these stereotypes line up pretty well.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates25/07/23 10:06 PM
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i hope so to. i know a situation like that can be really hard to deal with (i myself was violently molested as a kid), and i'm glad that you feel safe opening up here, especially if you can't get anything similar in real life. i've found mras and mra adjacent folks to be helpful to me, too. a lot of people, including family and healthcare workers, were very dismissive, but mras were willing to listen, share similar experiences, and provide guidance. if you've experienced something similar, welco…
/r/MensRights17/07/23 10:57 PM
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sadly, the common perception of mras is not especially close to reality. most people think we are selfish, angry, 'straight, white, men.' you have already seen that we consider gay men to be part of our movement. we also all know that minority and disabled men experience even more violence than most men. we also all know that the pressure to provide hits disabled men especially hard. you could even consider anti-draft advocacy to also be anti-imperialist advocacy. things like world war 1, americ…
/r/MensRights05/07/23 10:07 PM
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seconding. i recall seeing a paper that said something similar to this getting passed around in feminist circles a year or two ago, but that one ended up getting retracted because the results were due to a math error. maybe this one is different? edit: found WaPo article on this. original paper claims what the above commenter claims, another team was unable to replicate, original team realised they made an error, and the effect almost completely disappeared. but, it still may be true for cardiac…
/r/MensRights20/06/23 08:38 PM
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i don't think this belongs in this sub, but i'll answer anyway, because this is a wacky question, and i'm a wackiness enjoyer. 'swamp ass' is definitely a thing. it's just having a really sweaty ass. balls can contribute to sweatiness in the whole pelvis area. balls do sweat more than most areas of the body, and the crevice where the scrote meets the thigh can hold sweat, same as the armpit. i'd imagine women get something similar, just less. 2.5 the outside work think definitely has some merit.…
/r/MensRights03/06/23 02:36 AM
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based. like the other comments here have said, this stems from demonisation of male sexuality, women not being able to take on the perspective of a man, and overconcern about male violence against women. these things make up a huge proportion of our political motivations.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates25/05/23 08:57 PM
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never thought i'd see a comment like this with a positive score on this sub. good stuff.
/r/MensRights15/05/23 09:07 PM
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same. unfortunately, i think this is something we all have to deal with as humans. despite my best efforts not to, i've become emotionally attached to supporting the mra party line, and rejecting the feminist party line, to the point that i've noticed myself reacting negatively to anything that suggests that women have problems. i say that malagency comes with ups and downs for men and women, but i really only focus on the ones that align with my mra narrative, and ignore or dispute the ones tha…
/r/MensRights11/05/23 08:54 AM
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*coverture, not coverage.
/r/MensRights09/05/23 07:28 AM
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thank you for your service, automod.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates09/05/23 01:06 AM
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in regards to the emotional violence, i'd like to drop this post by tinmen about deaths due to ipv.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates09/05/23 01:03 AM
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since a mod hasn't responded with a clear answer i'll take a guess. the 'standard practice' line, being said by automod, leads me to think that posts that have some trait that flags them as being potentially low effort, (low word count seems likely?) and hold them until they get human approval. since we're seeing and commenting on this post, it was probably approved by one of the mods here.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates07/05/23 09:41 PM
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just checked, they don't have this one.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates06/05/23 09:24 PM
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even ignoring external pressures that are opposed to men's movements, we also have to contend with the empathy gap and men's lack of in-group bias, which make our aims enormously more difficult than any women's movement's aims. i guess we can't expect a feminist to acknowledge those things though, so we're just going to have to continue deal with being called slacktivist manchildren. it's not the worst thing they call us, so i won't complain too much.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates04/05/23 03:38 AM
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i just looked up 'effect of parental status on sentence length' on google scholar, and found these two studies right at the top: one and two none of the other titles on page 1 seemed related, so i then tried '"parental status" sentence length decisions' and found this. i haven't read any of them all the way through, but all the abstracts state that being a parent reduces sentence length, especially for mothers.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates29/04/23 02:32 AM
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yeah, once in high school, during lunch. a girl asked me out and i rejected her. she got upset, started crying, and scampered off and told her boyfriend i sa'd her. she pulled him over to where me and my friends were, presumably to try to get him to fight us, but that ended up not happening. i'm pretty sure both of them were freshmen, while me and my three friends were seniors who were clearly more developed than him, so i don't really know what she expected him to do. thankfully, he wondered th…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates27/04/23 07:45 AM
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can you explain what you mean by male psych research being effectively banned, please?
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates23/04/23 05:36 AM
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some combination of these, i think. conformity - wikipedia i'm not pretending that this is, like, proof that assault isn't a real problem or anything, but take a peek at this page - i found the 'main experiments' section pretty well sums up much of what i learned in my brief stint in a psychology course as it relates to this subject i also won't pretend to have anything like a clear idea of how many stories are made up or exaggerates to include details beyond what actually happened, but... as u/…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates21/04/23 10:05 PM
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to make it a percent. that just puts it in a form that is more familiar to most people; the numbers are equivalent. if you didn't do that, and just divided ~22,000 by ~120,000,000, you're basically asking, 'for every man, how many are arrested for violent crime?' the answer to this is 0.002. 'percent' literally means per hundred, so when we ask 'what percentage of men are arrested for violent crime?', we're asking, 'for every hundred men, how many are arrested for violent crime?' we can go from …
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates21/04/23 09:29 PM
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i don't have much to add here, but maybe this post from u/thetinmenblog could give you something? i don't really know if there are any commonly accepted methods of measuring emotional abuse. the linked post isn't exactly that, but i think it's an indication that emotional abuse (accompanied by physical abuse or not) has a very large impact.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates19/04/23 08:21 PM
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That last paragraph is a pretty big deal, and a failure to properly manage it is a huge source of confusion when discussing domestic and sexual violence. There are a few common methodologies that get used in dv and sv research, and they all produce notably different results. Most sites and people don't note which methodology they use, which is just asking for miscommunication. You noted 'reporting', which can mean a few different things. Usually when we say 'men report less that women', or 'less…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates11/04/23 01:06 AM
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haven't you heard? feminism represents women; it's in the name! if you think something about feminism in aggregate, you clearly think that about all four billion women around the world individually! feminist men? non-feminist women? feminists who are more able to justify their positions than the ones we most commonly interact with? never heard of 'em.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates07/04/23 09:06 PM
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disconnected from the attention thing, but i am totally unwilling to resist my urge to talk about this: this isn't rigorous science, but the received wisdom among recreational steroid users (mainly in strength sports, since that's where usage tends to be highest.) is that androgens tend to magnify people's personalities, except for confidence, which always increases. having interacted with users myself, this definitely 'feels' like it's the case. there is much conjecture that the increased confi…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates31/03/23 09:33 PM
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not op, but, off the top of my head, i can point you to this paper (fox and fridel 2019). in particular, page 8, which contains a graph showing the change in iph rates over time, and the discussion section, which references earlier works, like from the dougan nagin rosenfeld team, that suggests that providing a strong system of support for ipv victims greatly reduces the rate at which those victims kill their partners. this, of course, can only examine women's behavior, since they have access to…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates24/03/23 07:49 PM
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yeah, definitely odd to see people who allegedly believe that women are strong and capable minimizing their violence. i wonder how these people would feel seeing a child slap an adult, or a male prison inmate coming onto a female guard aggressively. these are both situations that have pretty strong power dynamics, and i don't think that either would be considered non-issues. vibes-based conjecture time: i think the sorts of people who say this have tied up a lot of their identity into being a go…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates19/03/23 04:44 PM
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this sounds right. i was a really early bloomer, started shaving a couple months before turning eleven, reached my full adult height of 6'2 / 188 cm at 12, and i first noticed women being scared of me when i was 9. woulda been ~5'2 / 157 cm at the time, and probably had some visible cranial maturation as well. playing on playgrounds, sometimes mothers would see me with their kids, get antsy, and call the kid away. a couple of them got mad at me and told me to leave. that wasn't too a big a deal …
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates18/03/23 05:52 AM
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i think that's how most of us hear them. a woman is more likely to tell you to not look, or not say anything to you and go tell someone else.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates17/03/23 09:42 PM
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just looked it up, urban dictionary says that womenworsting is when someone is ideologically committed to believing that women always have it worse.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates12/03/23 02:04 PM
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lol. this argument is genuinely ridiculous; it's funny to see people try to use it. it's just another 'any problem a man has is his own fault' trash. 'sorry, train companies fought hard for the right to practice unsafe transportation. don't expect me to care about any of this 'massive ecological damage' shite.' like, something is good just because women worked to do it? another issue is that nobody actually knows whether of not women worked harder for it than men. how would you even know that? p…
/r/MensRights11/03/23 02:25 AM
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yeah, big agree on all this. i sort of feel like is should say more; we're both leaving a lot of ourselves out in the open here, but i don't know what else to say. thoughts and prayers, i guess? lol
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates07/03/23 05:55 AM
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definitely agree on the first point. unfortunately, i don't know if the average person really devotes the brain power necessary to this kind of stuff necessary to have a good level of nuance. this leads to the rough-and-not-so-ready one-dimensional understanding of identity groups as being either oppressed or oppressors. i think it's really only natural that this 'oppression olympics' would become common, and that the process you identify would reinforce this, and prevent it being challenged. i'…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates06/03/23 07:19 PM
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yeah, i've had a couple similar experiences as a child rape victim. after keeping quiet for 2 years because i didn't know what to say, 10 year old me finally opened up to someone i knew about the emotional issues that this caused me, and was promptly taught the word 'misogynist', and that bring scared of women made you one. this repeated itself a couple times, online and in real life. not all were so harsh, but really nobody was prepared to deal with me, i think. i'm not sure what exactly they '…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates06/03/23 06:53 PM
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I think this does a better job at actually diagnosing the issue than horseshoe theory does. Lots of leftists have the notion that equality is good, but lack the intellectual fortitude to actually make themselves think like egalitarians. They maintain in-group, out-group patterns of thinking, but they apply them in an oppressor, oppressed style. Fortunately, this shitty mindset does end up allowing them to stumble into lots of correct positions: gay marriage, equalizing funding for schools, etc. …
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates28/02/23 11:53 PM
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big agree on the asian = feminine race, black = masculine race thing. it feels kinda wierd to say, but it makes a lot of sense. some things are a bit of a stretch, like the association of asians with math and tech, and black people being good dancers, but that kind of stuff is pretty secondary compared to things like neatness and submissiveness on one hand, and physicality and aggression on the other.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates21/02/23 02:03 AM
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nah. i'm not violent, most of the men i know aren't violent, so it's pretty obviously not built into us. i've also been around some very, very violent women; the overwhelming majority of violence i've experienced has been from women. (almost all of the violence i've experienced has been sexual, not coincidentally.) there are a few confounders for crime rates. most crime is economic, and men are more likely to take on the role of economic provider than women are. theft, drug dealing, and the conf…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates19/02/23 04:00 AM
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depending on what you mean by predominantly. minorities aren't the majority of incels here in the west, they are overrepresented, especially east asians and south asians. i think i remember they have the terms ricecel and currycel. like the op said, minorities are generally seen as less attractive than whites here, not sure about other parts of the world, plus personality based racial stereotyping.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates16/02/23 07:07 AM
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have a look at the 'current law' section of the infanticide wikipedia article. a few countries codify that a woman who kills her newborn should be given a manslaughter sentence, rather than a murder sentence. canada's maximum sentence for infanticide is 5 years, while their minimum sentence for murder is life! i don't think we should be surprised to see that a similar mindset extends beyond infancy; kids are frequently seen as property, rather than as people, (this is a separate issue from gende…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates09/02/23 03:00 AM
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here's one. i didn't see this in a quick browse any of the brief reports linked on this page, but you can download the full data from a couple years near the bottom of the page. im using my phone right now, which isn't capable of reading those files, so i'm going off of memory here. 40% of lesbians, ~25% of straight people, 15% of gay men, 60% of bi women, and ~35% of bi men report being hit by a partner in the past 12 months. i'm not super confident here, especially about the straights and bi m…
/r/MensRights05/02/23 11:19 PM
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this is true. to those downvoting, this is a study, not an essay. while someone trying to gain a full understanding of how life experiences affect sexism will need more than just this study, all studies are made with the understanding that they are only small parts of the discussion. it's totally fine for these authors only address one side of this question. although, i must note that reading the article and abstract suggest to me that the authors probably are falling into the trap that other co…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates04/02/23 11:04 PM
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having only read the article and abstract, the only problem i can notice in the study per se is equating sexism against women to sexism. anyone in a men's rights sub doesn't need me to tell them that this is silly and one sided. now, i haven't read the study, but i can only imagine that the authors drew poor conclusions from their data. firstly, they didn't measure the way that women's deprivation impacts sexism against men. while it would be nice if they did that, it is not the responsibility o…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates04/02/23 07:29 PM
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not entirely the same, but i think this is strongly related: past trauma changes the way you walk, and folks with psychopathic tendencies can pick up on this. they use it as a cue for who is vulnerable to potential victimization. this is usually for normal crimes like mugging, but can also be used by abusers to find people susceptible to a toxic relationship. this is not the only study that finds this, just one off the top of my head; this is really well supported, and i think common sense isn't…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates30/01/23 07:42 PM
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not degradation exactly, but women are probably more likely than men to be aroused by aggression toward women. the 'probably' is there because this is the only study i'm aware of on this, and it has a pretty small sample size. but, it also supports my preconceived biases, so i won't let that stop me ;) in my own experience with the kink community, (which is pretty limited) i've found that people generally are just a lot more likely to be submissive than they are to be dominant. but, it's also ge…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates29/01/23 02:55 AM
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hypoagency and empathy gap, if i had to guess, plus a bit capitalism. i think i have a line of logic here that makes sense which would lead us to believe that gender roles started being seen as oppression around the late 1800's, and becoming more so over time. it starts with us accepting two things: that up until the industrial revolution, men were seen more as filling an economic role, and women more as filling a domestic role, and that hyper and hypoagency exist and are strong once technology …
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates20/01/23 08:18 PM
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proactive data collection. 'reporting' relies on the victim actively seeking out police, but there are surveys sent out to gather info from those who did not. national intimate partner & sexual violence survey by the cdc and national crime victimization survey by the bjs are the two biggest ones in the us. if my memory holds, about 1.4% of respondents to the nisvs report either being raped or 'made to penetrate' in the past year (made to penetrate is not considered rape, but a subset of non-rape…
/r/MensRights18/01/23 08:36 PM
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tbh, i don't really think that 'toxic masculinity' was ever really useful. there were already terms like 'harmful expectations' which are quite commonly used, and can can easily be modified to include any group by saying 'on...' men, women, people growing up in religious communities, student athletes, zookeepers, whatever. using the same phrase for everyone, at least to me, helps create vibes of solidarity and empathy by acknowledging that we're all subject to adverse external pressures, just th…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates10/01/23 02:07 AM
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i couldn't find anything on this in ~20 min on google scholsr, and i don't have it saved in reddit, so take this with a grain of salt, but: either here or on mensrights, i remember someone making a post with a couple of studies asking self-identifed feminists how strongly they identify as feminist, and how many close relationships they have with men. the general result was a negative correlation between self-identification with feminism and number of relationships with men. this, on it's own, ha…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates05/01/23 12:47 AM
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totally agree with everything you've said here, including the uncertainty around whether i'm just overreacting. i'd also like to add something that stood out to me: encouraging people to not exercise because they're having an irresponsible amount of fun is pretty ghoulish in 2022. not only is that joke mean-spirited, it's also completely inaccurate. sure, if those guys stopped playing, there would be a temporary reduction in torn acls or sprained ankles, but in 10 years there will be a notable i…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates01/01/23 04:38 AM
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that would depend on the particular study. some go by hormone treatment, some by surgery, some by social 'outness', some by identification. all of these measure different things, and can be compared to each other to find certain useful pieces of information, such as the proportion of people who know they are trans but are not out, what proportion of trans people want hormones or surgery but not the other, etc.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates27/12/22 11:27 PM
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here's one and two studies suggesting that there used to be more trans women than trans men until ~the mid 2010s, when that ratio began to invert. this slate article presents some conjecture about why this change happened. i would like to specially note the section on surgery, in which a trans-healthcare provider states that mtf surgeries are much easier that ftm, which leads to them being performed at different rates.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates27/12/22 03:42 AM
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i don't know where that study is from, but 75% of americans are white, according to the 2021 census.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates12/12/22 11:50 PM
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here's one on the perception of encouragent, enjoyment, and stress of victims of sexual assault at two different time points. the focus is on male victim / female perpetrator, and that's talked about in the abstract, but the full paper also covers other victim / perpetrator gender combinations. sci-hub used to have this one, but they don't anymore, unfortunately.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates07/12/22 12:07 PM
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here's something to look at. note, homicide is the intentional killing of a person, murder is a criminal intentional killing of a person. murder requires conviction, homicide does not. some irresponsible people will use murder or prison population, which suffers greatly from the gender bias you mention. (prison population is affected by length of sentence, making it even worse than murder convictions) specifically, look to the intimate partner violence graph on page 8, and the discussion section…
/r/MensRights24/11/22 09:38 PM
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after writing this, i read it and am not sure i got myself across clearly. i'm autistic and tired, so my ability to communicate is a little sub-par. if you have questions, please ask. the biggest thing women can do is not be like the poster mocking them. folks like the r/askfeminists poster are pretty common, and any degree of compassion is difficult to come by for lonely men. simply acknowledging that forming relationships is getting increasingly difficult instead of bullying is 90% of what is …
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates10/11/22 01:39 AM
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regarding selfishness, it has been found that ~60% of american men consented to some kind of unwanted sexual contact in the past year, with the most common reported reason being a desire to please a partner. unfortunately, data on this is extremely limited; this is the only paper i could find on it. if any y'all have others, especially if they're on women, it'd be great to see them! i'm sure you've all seen those surveys that find that over 30% of men haven't had sex in the past year? combining …
/r/MensRights07/11/22 02:17 AM
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it's possible, but we don't have any compelling reason to believe it. the largest collations of data in the field (this particular paper is an analysis of over 200 others) find that men and women perpetrate non-lethal intimate partner violence at equal rates, and in the seventies and eighties, before victim services were widespread, women represented, at most, ~55% of intimate partner killings. most years were quite close to parity. (that data starts on page 7 or 8, and they cover the importance…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates02/11/22 10:49 PM
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because defensive killings are done when a victim of violence fears further violence perpetrated against themselves of others, and sees killing the potential perpetrator as the best way to prevent that violence. it's not because more women want to kill their partners, but because women who don't want to, but would be willing to in order to escape violence, have other options.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates02/11/22 06:24 PM
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we think it's bad. here's a good article providing an overview of the deleterious effects. this is basically universal; essentially everybody in the mrm is against circumcision. the judgement in relation to fgm varies. both are, of course, human rights violations. people should not have medical procedures with no benefit performed on them, unless they are adults and make that decision for themselves. we can, if we want, have a pissing contest over severity by comparing it to various forms of fgm…
/r/MensRights02/11/22 03:30 AM
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national intimate partner and sexual violence survey exact numbers vary based on the year (usually between 0.7 and 1.7%), but this survey has been running annually since 2010. on average, ~1.2% of both men and women report nonconsensual sex in per year. some years do, in fact, find more men report nonconsensual sex than women, such as 2012. it divides rape and sexual assault into different sections, and bring made to penetrate is grouped in with sexual assault, which is why i've been saying nonc…
/r/MensRights31/10/22 07:35 PM
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to gap in death rate has not always been the case. in the early 70s, women were 55% of those killed by their partner, which is a much lower proportion than today. as discussed in the above paper, and, as far as i can tell, initially proposed by this team in 2003, the expansion of victim resources, such as dv shelters, largely acted to reduce the number of killings done defensively. since most of these resources were for women, we saw largely a decrease in men killed, with a minimal effect for wo…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates27/10/22 10:48 PM
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for the first gender equality question: 81 yes, 8 not sure, remaining no for second feminism question: 27 yes, 22 not sure, remaining no
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates27/10/22 07:46 PM
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cola et al 2020, sex differences in first impressions made by boys and girls with autism autistic boys rated more negatively than autistic girls by novel conversation partners. trend holds when boys and girls have equal severity of symptoms as assessed by clinician. not sure if this is helpful to anyone, but seeing this post reminded me that i have this. figured sharing is caring.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates23/10/22 02:08 AM
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mostly agree here, the 'slib does have good discussion, but they're pretty rare compared to boilerplate 'toxic masculinity bad' posts, and the mods tend to be a bit strict about critiques of feminism. r/leftwingmaleadvocates is much more useful for progressive mras; average higher quality discussion and better at backing themselves with data.
/r/MensRights17/10/22 09:36 PM
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true. back when roe got overturned, mensrights had a ton of talk about it, including multiple polls. i only looked at a handful of them, but every one i saw showed results suggesting that mensrights is equally or more pro choice than america at large. the idea that supporting women's rights makes you a feminist starts feeling kind of weird when you see that virulent antifeminists also tend to be more supportive of women's rights than the average person.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates16/10/22 08:28 PM
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definitely agree with this. [Cornwell, Mustard, van Parys, 2012-](http://) boys are given lower grades than girls of similar cognitive ability, as assessed by test scores. the gap disappears when controlling for differences in classroom behavior and social skills. the 'social skills' part is more important to me here, since others in this thread have talked about pathologizing normal male behavior, and this shows that 'bad' bahavior in boys may not actually adversely affect learning ability. i h…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates06/10/22 10:22 PM
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that is strange. the combined work and leisure time is just under 80 hours per week for both. assuming that they sleep 8 hours every night, a week contains 112 non-sleep hours. so there's about 30 or 35 hours per week here that's unaccounted for.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates04/10/22 11:24 PM
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true. it's myopically considering money to be the endpoint of value. a less capitalist mindset recognizes that money is only a tool, and is nothing more than an intermediary step between performing labor and improving quality of life. both paid labor and unpaid labor are just that: the transformation of your effort into a higher quality of life for yourself and your family. (marx would call this the expenditure of labor power to create use value :) ) some folks are tragically stuck in the idea t…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates04/10/22 11:16 PM
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the top comment in the friday thread, at the time of writing this comment, is from a man who feels "ashamed of my attraction to women and that to express it in any way would be harmful to them." and one of the replies states that it's not uncommon for members of that sub to feel that way. pretty gross that someone could recognize that their ideology is, if indirectly, shaming people for basic, near-universal traits, and just be fine with that.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates02/10/22 08:56 PM
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they could be interpreted that way, so maybe i need to phrase better, but that section in quotes is not my intention. i noted that the langhinrichsen-rohling and strauss & scott papers also find that men and women behave incredibly similarly while perpetrating and responding to dv, and that we don't really have reason to believe that there will be a large difference in the number of killings perpetrated by each, other than that men are generally more capable fighters than women. this is the key …
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates26/09/22 01:11 AM
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this is a very good comment, and aligns well with both the literature and the experience of living in economically deprived, high crime areas. (i've met a few muderers. all normal people, aside from the ptsd. they all killed to provide economic security. this usually took the form of competition between gangs to secure territory to sell drugs, or being on one end or another of a robbery or burglary that turned violent.) i would like to hijack this comment to provide evidence that the gap is far …
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates23/09/22 10:09 PM
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maybe. places like r/science, like much of reddit, are filled with feminists, but specifically feminist men who are lonelier than average. i've personally noticed that spaces like that tend to be considerably friendlier toward male issues than spaces with high concentrations of feminist women. that is especially. the case for issues like male loneliness which lots of reddit users have experience with, but also has the benefit of having been one of the issues deemed acceptable by feminism at larg…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates23/09/22 01:37 AM
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love to see a conversation like this. so much political discussion is quibbling over words that it's refreshing to see a short, to the point talk about differing interpretations where both participants are aware they're operating on the level of feelings. too often you'll see people talking past each other because they insist that their definition is the only true one. leaving room for the squishiness that's inherent to natural language is so important but tragically neglected. keep it up, y'all…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates22/09/22 01:19 AM
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totally. another big issue with the way people gather lnowledge generally is the over-valuing of personal experience. (typically, people spend time around people who are similar to them, especially in political spaces. this can lead to serious sampling bias.) this inability to navigate the gap between large-scale trends and granular, individual data is the source of a lot of wrong-headed thinking in both directions.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates22/09/22 12:56 AM
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american psychological association? i'm not sure what story they're referring to, but they have guidelines for dealing with men and boys that are not great. saying it's necessary for men and boys to recognize their male privilege and the power they have over women, and overcome their toxic masculinity.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates18/09/22 04:17 AM
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here's a couple of confounding factors: first and most obvious, boys are given lower grades for equivalent academic ability, likely due to higher sociabilty among girls making them more likable: Cornwell, Mustard, and van Parys 2012 next, the effects of teacher sex on student performance. the data is super messy here, so it's not as straightforward as confidently claiming 'same sex teacher = better'. Hwang and Fitzpatrick 2021 go over the literature, with lots of citations for those who want the…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates14/09/22 09:02 PM
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i am moderately involved in the kink community, and do have something the say here, some contradicting you, some supporting. first point: kink in not necessarily just sex stuff. plenty of people get are emotionally satisfied by power dynamics in relationships. for many, it really is a lifestyle. with that in mind, we can get into the important stiff. kink does not need to have anything to do with a person's "real" beliefs, although the two can bleed over. speaking as an enormously submissive man…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates13/09/22 03:57 AM
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am a little bit autistic, hopefully i can add something here. worth keeping in mind, only a little bit autistic, and also kinda hot, so this can be much worse for others. rant incoming boys: mostly it's social effects are pretty minor, and if introduced in a friendly setting (especially if another woman introduced us! very beneficial) she'll just think i'm weird, and i don't think it often manifests as fear. if we spend more than a couple hours together she'll get used to the weird eye contact a…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates26/08/22 07:23 PM
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really happy to help. this probably the philosphical idea that most influenced the way i think, and it's always nice to share with people :)
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates25/08/22 11:39 PM
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'manifold states' is, in this case, best understood to mean 'i got a bit carried away and accidentally said some pompous shit' lol 'manifold' just means numerous. i should have done a better job using a more easily understood word. 'state' refers to the way that something is. in our case here, the state of society if some of the different questions asked were true or false, taking into consideration different meanings of the words used. lets use an example, and i'll stick with the racism one for…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates25/08/22 11:09 PM
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she's right that the dictionary is shallow, and that words can't be perfectly understood with this tool.. where she's stumbling, though, is that she seems to think that there are people who know 'the real meaning' of words, and that everyone else is just being a silly goat if they don't accept the definitions put forward by those enlightened people. words mean what people use them to mean, and we use them to mean what we expect people to understand them to mean. if this seems flimsy and circular…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates25/08/22 09:05 PM
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copy pasting a comment i left under another post is this sub. it was in a different context, but it'll work here. all the stats here are for the usa. ~~~~~~~~~ not rape but domestic violence, but the '2/3 of intimate partner killings are men killing women' is a stat that gets thrown around a lot to justify ignoring male victims, but as can be seen on page 6 of this 2017 paper by Fox and Fridel*, this has not always been the case; intimate partner killings were near parity in the seventies, and p…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates20/08/22 07:10 PM
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here's a thought: could this be connected to the gendered pursuit dynamic where a man presents himself to a woman and she either accepts or rejects him? if a man engages in too-forward sexual behavior with a woman, (staring, touching, aggressive flirting, etc.) not only is he doing run of the mill boundary violation, he's also violating tge expected seduction chain by getting some kind of pleasure without her consent. he's jumping the line, so to speak. on the other hand, because it is presumed …
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates18/08/22 08:16 PM
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oh, as a man is hot enough to attract some amount of sexual attention from women, (which usually doesn't go anywhere because i'm a bit autistic and that weirds them out once i actually start talking :( ) my experience of rejecting women is that they don't take it well. i'm only 19 and don't really go outside much, but i've physically attacked by 8 women after curbing their advances. that is, of course, on top of the insults that come from nearly one of them. just guessing here, but it seems to m…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates18/08/22 10:00 AM
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not rape but domestic violence, but the '2/3 of intimate partner killings are men killing women' is a stat that gets thrown around a lot to justify ignoring male victims, but as can be seen on page 6 of this 2017 paper by Fox and Fridel, this has not always been the case; intimate partner killings were near parity in the seventies, and possibly reached parity before this point. data collected by Dougan, Nagin, and Rosenfeld suggests that the drop in the number of men killed by their partners is …
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates09/08/22 07:58 PM
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erin pizzey is at least one name that can be put to this. she opened the world's first domestic violence shelter, then later funded research that found that domestic violence wasn't gendered. she was banned from the shelter she opened and was the target of threats, stalkings, etc. she eventually left the uk and went to north america. she's not the only one similar things have happened to, just the most well-known because she is incredibly important in dv advocacy and also one of the most extreme…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates09/08/22 06:23 AM
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*bias against women
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates06/08/22 04:02 AM
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just throwing some stuff at the wall here; let's see if it sticks: hateful people love using online spaces as outlets because they face no real consequences for expressing ideas that are disliked. also, spending time around many different groups is an inoculation against hate, so people who spend a lot of time online are more likely to hold various -isms and -phobias. combine this with stuff that everyone here already knows about, the empathy gap, the universality of feminist ideas, the belief t…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates04/08/22 10:28 PM
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in- and out-group biases: Rudman et al, 2004 i think someone else in this thread posted an article that cited this, here's the original paper. (tip: citing original papers rather than articles makes you look smarter, bonus points if you know the author name and year) other studies on the same subject find similar results; you can look those up. perceptions of motives of domestic violence: Hamel, Desmarais, Nicholls, 2007 women, but not men, are more likely to perceive female-perpetrated domestic…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates02/08/22 08:08 PM
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i would love to agree with this, but my own experience, and i think the experiences of most members of this board, would indicate that feminism as a movement is inextricable from traditional gender roles. the main one being sexually dimorphic agency (just made that name up), which you mentioned, which attributes the whole nature of the world to male action, with female action playing a subjugated, lesser role. this is more or less the core tenet of feminism, which they call patriarchy. i can who…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates02/08/22 05:21 AM
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agree. as far as i can tell, both homophobia and transphobia in their most impactful forms are born from a fear of deviant male sexuality, (using 'most impactful' here because this requires people to already have some underlying transphobia to see trans women as just pereverted men) as well as a not male-specific dislike of people stepping out of their gender roles. it really does seem like many progressives simply refuse to admit that someone could be treated badly bacause they're a man, especi…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates30/07/22 08:23 PM
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don't forget the occasional rape victim using this rationalization as a coping mechanism.
/r/MensRights29/07/22 02:25 AM
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? and i know a man who was punched for groping someone, and the time i was raped by a woman was shrugged off because 'women are less violent than men, so it couldn't be that bad.' (paraphrasing) these stories only mean anything in aggregate; when we're talking about something difficult to study like usage of relatively uncommon phrases, one's individual experience must be weighed alongside that of others to find an average. they are meaningless without the broader social embedding. as far as i c…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates24/07/22 10:11 AM
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can relate to this, even though i'm not autistic. i'm quite left wing, so i get exposed to a lot of feminist ideas, and they really fuck with me in the exact way you described. they seem to vastly overcomplicate normal social interactions. all of this talk of trauma dumping and emotional labour is really cold and transactionalizing normal human interactions in a way that doesn't seem to happen in the real world. like you said, this rhetoric makes me wonder whether i've been abusing the people ar…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates21/07/22 10:43 PM
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any time i see these guys talking about how much they would have liked it, i can't help but wonder how many of them were or know someone who was raped by a woman as a kid and are just using this to cope.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates17/07/22 05:35 AM
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i can only speak for myself, and i tend to be a pretty trusting person, but the only issue i would have with using a small org run by a woman is that she's less likely to have experienced typically male issues, and would be less able to relate as a result. if you are empathetic enough, or are able to properly utilize people with personal experience with typical male issues, then this wouldn't be a problem at all. edit: just read some other comments under your last post. the idea to have educatio…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates16/07/22 06:49 PM
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i'm not sure what you mean by safeword outside of a kink context. can you help me understand? but even though i don't know what you mean, i'll take this opportunity to talk about kink in a way that hopefully connects to your message, although i'll be speaking more on institutional and broad issues rather than individual; let me know if i missed your point. you might have to use sci hub to get the full text, but [some data suggests](http://) that around 1/4 people have masochistic sexual fantasie…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates14/07/22 05:38 AM
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this is a fantastic resource, thank you for this.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates13/07/22 09:42 PM
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you're totally right. there has been an embedding of feminism into the left and a subsequent action from the right to use genuine, good-faith anti-feminist sentiments among young people with merely partially formed political ideas to bring them into a purely reactionary position; basically, feeding that anti-feminist sentiment, but without providing any new ideas for real positive change. this means that this energy is contained and remains nothing more than 'anti-feminist' with no ability to cr…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates09/07/22 08:42 AM
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approximately 120 american boys die of circumcision every year as well as causing lasting psychological harm
/r/MensRights04/07/22 10:55 PM
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thank you
/r/MensRights30/06/22 11:36 PM
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when you say 'male IPV homicides', do you mean homicides committed against men or by men?
/r/MensRights30/06/22 10:45 PM
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r/mensupportmen not the biggest sub, but hopefully some attention from here will help
/r/MensRights30/06/22 10:06 PM
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absolutely. the primary impediment to true democracy is financial capture, but it's also worth noting that if the constitution didn't have these inbuilt mechanisms, the republican party would hold far less power, and they do tend to be somewhat more human-rights-trampling prone than the dems, and the dems are horrible enough.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates25/06/22 05:43 AM
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yeah, this talk of overturning roe being the work of 'sexist men controlling women's bodies' really has me worried about our ability to correct any of these issues. as i'm sure everyone in this sub knows, the american government is no stranger to limiting men's bodily autonomy. the draft, 95% of criminal cases ending in plea (meaning ~2 million american men are currently serving a sentence for crimes they haven't been found guilty for. china has ~1.7 million people in prison, and india ~0.5, for…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates25/06/22 05:26 AM
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lol happy to help
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates24/06/22 08:05 PM
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definitely. hopefully this decision will spur some kind of durable large-scale action, because all the working class organizing i've seen in my lifetime (occupy and blm) have been sadly fleeting. the recent wave of unionization has been promising, but i also thought that blm was promising, so i won't hold my breath. this decision should be the death knell for the supreme court; in a fully functioning democracy that sclerotic, anti-democratic institution would be getting overhauled immediately. m…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates24/06/22 06:49 PM
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very nice, thank you for all this
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates23/06/22 10:29 PM
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tbh, i think the feminist positions held by radical leftits (marxists and anarchists) is something they picked up from liberals. like, their primary focus is on class (as it should be) but they do realize that something's fucked with gender, so they pick up the ready-made liberal non-materialist feminism and basically don't question it because they don't care that much about gender aside from queer liberation, and holding those opinions lets them get along better with libs. anyway, that's not re…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates22/06/22 10:18 AM
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happy to have you man. as another socialist, i generally disagree with people who 'are reasonable centrists' and 'take the good from both sides' but i do hold a similar stance on gender specifically, being very pro queer, but not exactly a strong supporter of feminism. this position does unfortunately run us afoul of both right and left. solidarity, man. for workers and for those who suffer under a restrictive gender system.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates22/06/22 09:52 AM
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hey, i don't really have any good answers to you question, but i feel like i should let you know that prior victimization actually changes the way a person walks and abusers are able to pick up on this. no concrete advice here, just be careful. your past experiences do unfortunately make you a target. i also have some experience with abuse and it is really terrible. i hope you do ok in the future.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates18/06/22 09:20 PM
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its 4:30 am here, sorry if this reads like shit and doesnt make sense tbh, i think y'all are largely right about the association of mras with the right being spurious and unreasonable, but i think we should acknowledge that the groups that are most fervently anti-feminist are far right ghouls who support harmful traditional gender roles, and that the extremity of their opinions gives them a lot more attention than groups that support a more measured pro-equality message. this is to say, for many…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates02/06/22 09:29 AM
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i know i'm late to this, but i still think i have something useful to say. relapsing is not going back to square one. it's really common for people to see failure as the end. addicts relapsing, people failing diets or exercise routines, not studying as planned, etc. this doesn't have to be true. falling off the wagon does not erase the progress you've made. that time when you were successful, as short as it is, is still valuable and still represents that you are making progress. it's cliche, but…
/r/MenSupportMen28/05/22 02:17 AM
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i think that was specifically in men over 40
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates28/05/22 02:03 AM
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