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Pedophiles have reportedly been using this too. There was some uproar about it a while ago within the kpop scene, because scrotes kept making deepfake porn that included underage female idols. It is sick.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/21 10:05 AM
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I know right :/ this guy will escalate it, all the signs are there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/21 08:57 AM
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I'm worried for her that if she does leave his ass, he'll get frustrated and it will escalate. She's saying he's already begging for her not to go, which isn't a very healthy sign of itself. He may seem sweet now but I'm worried that when he feels he doesn't have enough control anymore that he will act out some of those non-con "fantasies" on her in a totally non-con situation. This girl isn't safe.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/21 08:55 AM
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That's both scary yet so incredibly immature wtf
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/21 08:58 AM
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About an hour after this post a few more tiktoks were posted, by both the girls and the scrote. He made a tiktok about it himself to explain 'his side of the story' in which he explains that the holy spirit was what moved him to go up to these girls (lmao) and then he felt a wave of "righteous anger" when he spoke to them. He said he felt the need to do so also because pornography today is a huge problem, a problem he said he has had personal experience with... but because porn ruined his life h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 09:03 AM
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Oof... I totally know how it feels when your partner is using you to masturbate. It doesn't come close to love, intimacy or sex anymore. It just feels like your body is being exploited. I remember trying my hardest to build a relationship with him, unwilling to accept that to him I had become an object, not even allowed to humanity of a body. I remember how hard I tried to make it better for myself. I put effort into thinking of ways I could teach him how to pleasure me, I was so naive. And afte…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 08:57 PM
98

strip clubs are a common place for people to conduct business Please say sike...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 10:12 PM
98

Yeah, I actually really like that about this song
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/21 04:18 PM
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Right, I feel like that just implies the plain dehumanization of porn actresses. Like it is easy to say you care about humans and are highly aroused by rape porn, if you don't consider the women on the screen to be human in the first place.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/21 04:15 PM
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Yet there also seem to be personal attributes that have a mediating effect on these factors. Men who are highly aroused by rape porn — another risk factor — are less likely to attempt sexual assault if they score highly on measures of empathy, Dr. Malamuth has found. lol this part threw me off. I don't know who's conducting those tests, but I'd think being highly aroused by rape porn would knock somebody's score on an empathy test down by quite a significant bit...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/21 07:38 AM
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Unfortunately, you guessed correct.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/21 01:49 AM
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Oh, there sure are men seriously like this! 16-year-old me unfortunately got to go through some first hand experience..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 03:44 AM
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I know of more women besides you that have had similar experiences. It is insecurity but how much that insecurity is rooted in sexism really becomes obvious when those insecure men get upset when they notice the women they are talking to have a bigger vocabulary, but they pay it less mind when the person with a bigger vocabulary is another man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 07:56 PM
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They got a saddening amount of barely legal girls to a worrying amount of secretly illegal girls! Call that diversity!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 07:42 PM
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This! Sex-work is common and easy to get into nowadays, but it was absolutely never destigmatized
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 06:27 AM
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"Party at my place! Bring your own booze and do your own murders!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/21 11:25 PM
72

"Not all men", but is also ALL women's fault
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/21 04:03 PM
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I used to try so hard to get myself to like those things (a consequence of getting groomed as a teenager). Thinking I could get some sort of cool girl points in return, somehow thinking a man would see me as a real "prize" if I allowed him to dehumanize and degrade me. But it is not worth it. Turning yourself into a vessel for man's sexual wants is never worth it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/21 12:43 PM
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Unfortunately, murdering people is only difficult when you can recognize them as people. This guy, like all incels, did not see women as people, and it's obvious.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/21 11:45 PM
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As said in the linked article: incel violence is literally terrorism because it is ideological violence against civilians, done to prove an ideological point or create psychological fear. I'm so disappointed that in this case they seem to have wanted to take the other route however and frame it as a "public health issue" (because incels are so often poor victims of bullying and terribly misunderstood) rather than another act of terrorism. After all that talk about how much hatred the gunman had …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/21 03:29 PM
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I think his post is actually kinda funny cause it really shows how this man is so fucking used to living life on easy mode.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 08:28 PM
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I am no expert on this particular subject, so I have no specific numbers or statistics on the commonality of juvenile sexual assaulters to refer to. But I do know that the claim that pornography has influenced sexual assault among young people, has been supported my bigger organization such as Fight The New Drug. Doctor Kim Farrington talks about this in their podcast, Consider Before Consuming. She's a sexual assault physician with over 18 years of experience and has worked on over 500 cases of…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/21 09:51 PM
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Yeah. Though I fully agree with this post, I have trouble placing the prevalence of today's peer-on-peer classroom sexual abuse in this narrative.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/21 10:19 AM
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I'm a Gen Z woman and remember reading about the g-spot in a magazine like teen vogue. This was back in 2012 probably, so when I was about 12 years old. I also heard things about how some women allegedly just don't have that spot, or how the location of the g-spot is different per woman. Anyways, later when I was a bit older but still a teen (when I was admittedly still very naive) the g-spot gave me a few more negative experiences. Many men also knew about the g-spot, but it was like they claim…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/21 08:46 AM
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Hmm to be honest I am being nice and censoring myself because I don't want to feed trolls or get banned (so I tried to keep it tame and leave it up to interpretation: with the "it's easy to shame the guy, and I think it is partly warranted" I hope the emphasis is on 'warranted' and that shame is read as an understatement because in my opinion a exploiter like that deserves more). Anyways, though it is tempting, I try to not use FDS too much to openly shame men, I think that's just better for the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/21 08:12 AM
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A few months ago I was talking to a male friend born in 1997. He talked about how he had officially broken up with his first long term girlfriend but that they had sort of split up for a while before that already. She had even slept with other men in the times they were off. He was aware of that and accepted it, mainly because he felt sexually inadequate to her. Whenever he and his ex did something he couldn't get it up despite her trying. So, let me get this straight, the man is born 1997 and h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 09:40 PM
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"Society is doomed because women only fuck a small group of really tall men and stopped looking at the rest of us," he screeches, wearing an old shit-stained boxer while opening another tab of 'teen girl anal destruction' videos.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 05:36 PM
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IKR. A man just accidentally deleting a sex tape with his current girlfriend is so weird, in a time of men holding on to nudes from exes from years ago.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 03:44 PM
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"Of course her privacy isn't as important! She's an object whose only purpose is male sexual gratification!" /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 03:40 PM
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I think it is a lot easier for them to believe in all that false hope because the people at the top look like them (as in, they're both male).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 03:21 PM
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I just don't get how they wanna go NAMALT when also writing and normalizing shit like this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 10:04 AM
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I just don't get what is holding these grown men back from picking up a cooking book or looking up some recipes online? If you can read and write you can learn how to cook
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 09:47 AM
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I think the bottoms the Spanish team is wearing look ridiculously short even for them to be called "bikini bottoms." Crazy how that is made the standard. I wouldn't be comfortable wearing that, just to be ogled at, either. And while also having to see all my teammates butts too while playing sports with them- nothing personal, but no thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 12:23 AM
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This is also the problem I have with a bunch of anti-porn subreddits where there seems to be a new post from some recovering porn addict looking for pity points pretty much every day. They first say how they've been watching it for a long time and how they've gone down the rabbit hole to extremely gross and violent stuff. They say how they can't control themselves anymore and are ashamed about how much they enjoy those inhuman kinks. Then in their next sentence they say something about how they …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 03:15 PM
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I hope she considers this as a valid reason to break up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 02:45 PM
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I'm late but I feel the need to share that he's not only HV in looks but also in his actions: not only is he a well-trained martial artist, he's also someone who seems to deeply care about the safety of young women, because in 2013 Vidyut kicked off an initiative to teach self-defense techniques to specifically college-going girls and (female) working professionals.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 10:34 AM
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Unsurprisingly so there was something going around among a particular group of male sexless misogynists that looked like a table in which women were set up against dogs and they concluded that dogs would be the better life partners. Now I can't even bother to understand how one would be so frustrated about how a fellow human doesn't act more like a pet to you... On another note, it is also very in line with how stupid these men are in these circles, that they have such a serious concern/complain…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 08:40 AM
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Salt, pepper and garlic is for the spiced sex he wants daily.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 08:16 AM
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Giving him credit because he stopped having sex with her when he realized she wasn't in to it anymore.... the bar is in hell for these men wtf
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/21 10:39 PM
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I read the average of 4 times a year and I swear my eyes just rolled back into my head
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/21 05:23 PM
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After ignoring her boundaries to blatantly refusing to respect her boundaries, to the point where his wife is feeling uncomfortable and self-conscious in her own home, he should be happy it was only the sculpture of his wife that was gone and not the one of flesh and bone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/21 12:04 AM
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Honestly, I feel like this could save lives: If a man lies about his age online and prefers women that are significantly younger than him, please please RUN AWAY. I also made the mistake with brushing an older man's preference for women in their early twenties (more like 18-25) off as just an oddly specific preference. 18-year-old me could have gone without a lot of trauma if only I had recognized such a preference as the trait of a predator. Those aren't men that will treat you as a real person…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 11:28 PM
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Reminds me of my LVX (we were more like online fwb)... I was 18 and he was supposedly 21 when we met online. Later I asked for his age again, after I first saw a picture of his face and commented he looked older. He was very hesitant but I kept pushing because his unwillingness to say his age was so sketchy. In the end he confessed to lying about his age: he wasn't 21, he was 25 instead. He had only told me he was 21 in the hopes of seeming more approachable to an 18-year-old... At the time we w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 11:06 PM
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My 80+ year old grandpa is like this and I thought his generation of men would be the last to bring forth this type of man... Unfortunately, it turns out my expectations of men were set too high yet again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 09:58 PM
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She's not empathetic because he grew up poor? Wtf?! If he was so empathetic himself he would be on his way trying to repay the money she lent him and not trying to inconvenience her any further instead of this gold digging bullshit he's trying to pull now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/21 04:32 PM
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A lot of men find it hard to find empathy for a woman's sexual trauma. Especially the pornsick ones are hopeless, which unfortunately aren't in the small amount in todays day and age. I know a few of those guys who wanted to listen to me talk about how I got sexually abused (when I was 10 years old)... so they could use it as fap material...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 09:32 PM
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"Cum for me" is bad but the shit like "I wanna see you squirt babe" after zero effort is even worse, like mf this ain't sea world😭😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 08:59 PM
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Wish I knew this sooner. I was starting to wonder if I was asexual for a while, like if it was just a me-problem because the men I was with always seemed fully satisfied and excited from our sexual experiences but to me they were disappointing to mediocre at best... Turns out it was a men-problem and not a me-problem in the end when I found a guy that was actually good at sex :/ Vetting is important in a relationship, inside the bedroom just as much as outside the bedroom.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 08:50 PM
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True, now that you say it like that I think giving other women a platform is more valuable then convincing people that aren't worth convincing. I think you're right.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 07:31 PM
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Good point! Though on one hand I think hosting Lundy Bancroft would be a great way to showcase how FDS is not about hating men, but about offering women ways to protect themselves from toxic LV men. I see both FDS'ers as well as anti-FDS'ers wrongfully think FDS is about hating all men, so allowing Lundy Bancroft to speak would misprove that misbelief. On the other hand I agree that it is nice to have a completely female-only piece of media and keep it that way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 02:24 PM
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My local public pool has a time slot every Thursday morning that is strictly women-only. And, oh my god, what a success that is! Only one pool is open during that time but that pool is full of women all morning. I swim during that time too because it is so freeing to be able to swim without the feeling of men leering at you. It was also the only time I could convince my less confident female friends to go swimming with me. Next to that, this women-only time slot really has given a lot of muslim …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 11:34 AM
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Congratulations!! 🍾
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 03:30 PM
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Had to cut one of my best friends out who did the same all the time as well. Non-surprisingly, hindsight she was a huge pickmeisha.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 03:21 PM
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I really hope she will see how she deserves better soon too. She could easily escalate and bring herself in the hands of increasingly dangerous men. So I hope she ahs that realization. It's gonna be a difficult and even scary realization, but it will make her stronger in the end.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 04:36 PM
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I don't relate to her, but my past self does. Back when I got groomed a lot as a teenager this would probably have been me. I had a lot of social anxiety and was extra anxious around men. I could only bond with men through my sexuality. It came to a point where I wasn't used to making conversation with men anymore without feeling like a whore or feeling scared and unsafe. I was only used to sending them nudes and sexting with them, it was what I was used to. After all, from a young age I was tho…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 04:31 PM
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I consider porn to be misogyny, so I think that's sort of a tautology. Also, unfortunately, I think you can be pretty sure about those assumptions. Since finding porn is now easier than ever, the average age of a kid's first exposure was found to be at the age of 13 (according to a 2020 survey, this article from Fight The New Drug discusses the age of first exposure to porn and uses the findings from that study among other sources).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 02:40 AM
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They want anal but they don't want girls to actually enjoy anal? Sounds about male (madonna-whore complex to be specific)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 11:27 PM
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Specifically female children, I think. Cause I wonder how much different the reactions would be to a little boy crying over a football game instead. I would imagine many pf these twitter men to get nostalgic and feel more empathy towards a young boy, since they were also once young male football fans. I could also imagine them being more sympathetic to the image of a father-son relationship than a father-daughter one like this. Especially since lots of them have that weird 'legacy' thing going o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 11:13 PM
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Also all the girls that like to do girly things and enjoy to spend time on their appearance and don't want to be bothered with boys are just mean and rude! Those stupid pretty girls that are confident In themselves are so arrogant and superficial!! Just... my god, does the majority male writing board have some pent up aggression towards the girls they had a crush on in high school. It's sick how many of these shows I used to watch when I was little. No wonder, I grew up subconsciously believing …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 11:00 PM
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His kink is just misogyny. But they're right about that last part though: nothing unusual here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 10:36 PM
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I realized the bar was low for men when I talked to a male counselor about my sexual trauma and I cried because the last time I talked about getting sexually abused as a child and included the graphic details, the person I was talking to was jerking off to it. It was so weird to me that I talking to a man about this without him getting aroused by it or asking if I had found it hot or still fantasized about my own trauma. It felt so strange and almost scary to be respected.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/21 01:33 PM
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Yeah and unsurprising a lot of old, washed up male celebrities use those apps to get in contact with young tiktok girls... Ahem, looking at you Matthew Perry
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/21 10:59 AM
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You set the standards and the boundaries. Not her. Too many guys just going with the flow instead of dictating how it should go right out the gate. Uh, is it just me or does that sound eerily rapey (particularly about not allowing her to set boundaries)....🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/21 12:01 PM
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As Laura Bates wrote: many men think of women as slot machines for sex. They have different ways to go about that though, like !ncels who angrily claim the machine is rigged. Men like this in the post would fall in the category of aspiring PUAs who hope “to learn the exact secret combination of buttons to push and levers to pull, in order to trick the machine into paying out every time."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/21 11:54 AM
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Thanks!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 11:29 PM
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Just finished my final paper of the semester. I'm now searching for a movie to celebrate the start of my summer break with 💫
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 10:48 PM
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I can tell this guy never did any laundry that included women's underwear
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 10:40 PM
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I know of a few men who have admitted they've never even picked up an iron and don't iron at all...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 10:32 PM
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I'm disappointed, but not surprised.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 10:28 PM
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Thinking of this... Don't you think 40 year old single men usually look way worse than 40 year old married men? Jeez, I wonder why that could be...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/21 12:58 PM
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This whole things sucks and I haven't even finished it yet but I feel the need to comment on how much I hate that he expects the 20 y/o woman to dedicate herself to kids and her attractiveness but the 40 y/o man just has to dedicate himself to wife and kids... but not his attractiveness??? This just reminds me of how the bar is so low for men :( We, as members of society, truly need to put more pressure on men being attractive and normalize heterosexual relationships in which the woman is actual…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/21 12:54 PM
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Ewwww! What an unironic creep. His brain is so porn fried he can't even deal with the shape of a woman's legs :/ And then he has the audacity to blame it all on women wearing leggings? I won't even bother to try to comprehend how he equates the natural shape of one's clothed body to a man flashing his genitals to the non-consenting public?! Yeah... I just want to say that (in case he's reading this): if the female body is innately erotic to you that is most definitely a you-problem...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/21 12:32 PM
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Is the concept of doing things together for the sake of being together so hard to grasp? I think my brother does this too: when we agree to go somewhere together he often goes ahead and leaves me behind because "he's faster than me anyway" and it embarrasses me to have to loudly shout his name repeatedly to call him back. If we agreed to get somewhere together, I'd expect, y'know, just for us to stay together. Agreeing to go together is not leaving at the same time, separating along the way, and…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/21 12:40 AM
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Totally true. They're everywhere. One of the men that wanted me to be his online girlfriend when I was 15 (and he was 37) and who later coerced me to send him sexual pictures of me was a very active member in his community who went to meetings to learn and make connections about charities he was involved in. He was definitely one of the dumber ones but he stood out in how openly he showed that there was a huge cognitive dissonance between asking a high school freshman for nudes and still having …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 09:45 AM
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The average number of sperm per ejaculation is about 182 million so 181.999.999 sure do die mad :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 09:15 AM
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Bacot's abuser and stepfather was jailed for incest in 1995, but was allowed to return to the family home after three years and continued to rape Bacot. She killed him because she had the growing fear that he was going to abuse her daughter too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 10:50 AM
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Reminds me of that #JusticePourJulie case from a few months ago. A girl got groomed and raped by two dozen firemen over the course of two years when she was 13 to 15 years old. She first got in contact with one of the firemen who helped her after an anxiety induced seizure. He then got her phone number from her medical record and from there on started a deeply traumatizing relation with the 13 year old Julie who he treated like a sex object and passed on to his colleagues. Julie's mental health …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 10:36 AM
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This is totally something I can get behind. I hope everybody reads this post.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/21 11:21 PM
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He has so much audacity for a man standing at barely a 5'5
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 08:25 PM
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When I Was Your Man at least has some self-reflection. My pride, my ego, my needs and my selfish ways Caused a good strong woman like you to walk out my life As she should! Good on her! Seriously, everytime I hear this song I am so happy his baby is dancing with another man
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 08:21 PM
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I was a fan of him when I was around 15 but now that I am in my early 20's and I'm having a second look at it all it's just been disappointing tbh. It's so weird to realize how much my mindset has changed since then but it is definitely for the better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 07:18 AM
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Oh spreading those stickers is a great idea!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 10:32 PM
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Reminds me of how sexual assault sky rocketed during hurricane Katrina. And the crazy thing is that 1/3 of all reported sexual assault cases weren't made by helpless women who had been trying to survive somewhere completely unprotected (example: cases of women that got stranded under a freeway during the hurricane and got found by strangers who raped them), but from women who were already evacuated but got raped in the shelters. 1/3 of all sexual assault during Hurricane Katrina were cases in wh…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 03:44 PM
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... I think we found an infiltrator
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 12:41 AM
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🙋‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 01:19 PM
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I think on a cultural level we also need to use a lot more shame on men that find barely legal girls attractive. A rape conviction in Hollywood usually means the end of a career for the rapist, but I think we should draw the line a lot earlier. No more of stinky Leonardo DiCaprios that date girls that are just out of high school. I feel like a lot of men seem to think it is fine to be attracted to teen girls (as long as they're not below the age of 18) and even see getting a significantly younge…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 07:22 PM
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Though I'm guilty of enjoying his work, I must say Bo Burnham's stance is so confusing to me. He started his public career very young and has a lot of cringy, objectifying (especially in the few music videos he has, one in which he decided to ridicule teen girls for liking stuff like Bieber and 1D) and almost blatantly misogynistic stuff online from years ago. He definitely matured a lot since then and in his later stuff he often mentions how he looks back on his old stuff in embarrassment. Now …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 07:04 PM
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What the hell did I just read. I heard these sort of things online but didn't know men were seriously doing it irl too. You were so right for walking out on all of that, I'm glad you did. Just where the fuck does he get the audacity from? How the fuck does one's brain even work to expect sex from somebody who you just told is too embarrassing to be in public with? And how the fuck do you then not find it embarrassing to have sex with a person you find so unattractive? Just how the fuckkkk????
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 07:05 PM
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I lowkey feel like her whole discography can be a soundtrack to my personal growth as a woman. I remember listening to Electra Heart in my pick me days and now I listen to her again in my FDS days.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 06:56 PM
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Something I notice a lot more among male friends is that they just shut down when the conversation is heading to more serious or emotionally loaded topics. I think it's very rare for me to form a deeper connection with men because of that. With female friends I can joke and talk about everything, whereas men seem to like to restrict it to dick jokes a lot of the time. And damn do dick jokes get boring and annoying easily.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 01:52 PM
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True and it distresses me that his mom is also totally behind the "everybody makes mistakes" argument.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 02:46 PM
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Took her 3 children and a few lawsuits to realize something :/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 07:01 AM
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Two very heroic 14 year old girls indeed! They saved the man's life! I feel proud of them. But also... 18-year-old kicks a 74-year-old in the water and then just says "sorry, I didn't realize you were 74." Wtf?! Please don't let them write this off as a boys will be boys kinda thing, he needs to be hold accountable or he will continue to do worse with this mindset.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 12:20 AM
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Oh okay. I totally agree. It is sad, but all the more reason to keep FDS going
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 11:34 PM
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😥😥😥. Where are the parents while this crap is happening?!! Unfortunately I am still wondering the same. I only spend a very brief period of time with these people and most interaction with them was online so my parents didn't know. It is honestly just hard to remember and there are a lot of gaps in my memories from that period of time. I feel bad I can't really check up on that girl or help her, I know too little from these people and when I did know them I really wasn't in the best position men…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 11:15 PM
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It's complicated... Short answer: I didn't go out of my way to find a 50 year old man, but I did begin flirting with him and telling him I thought it was hot he was so much older etc. Longer answer: I got in contact with him more or less by chance on the internet. We discovered we lived close to each other, though we didn't get physical with each other at all over the course of the relation. In the beginning we just chatted "normally" (I got to be honest, I had the habit of chatting a bit flirty…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 04:10 PM
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Oh no... :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 11:12 AM
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She continued, if sex for some reason is absolutely necessary, Genuine question: is it ever really?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 08:03 AM
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Eh, I'm afraid these are less likely to be fake than we may wish them to be. These kind of stories resemble a lot of what I went through around the age of 18. Especially during a vulnerable time when recovering from an addiction or mental health issue, old predators know where to find you. In hindsight it is so obvious they only saw you as a piece of meat, but you're too broken, misguided, and confused to consider that or even think you'd deserve better. Me and a lot of the girls I knew back the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 07:59 AM
108

Exactly. She gave him multiple moments to complain about the lack of sex but he was the one who brushed it off instead. She showed him multiple times how considerate she would be if he was dissatisfied, yet he chose to lie every time. He had so many instances to tell her honestly he was having a hard time and was struggling with an addiction. But only now that he got caught he wants to play it on having a sex addiction... He's not trying to be mature or fair, he's trying to deflect blame.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 08:35 PM
4

Literally complaining about not eating dog food? Jeez, how do LVM not realize how low they are?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 08:24 PM
10

I experienced this too, but with hairstyles rather than makeup: After undoing years of internalized racism and wanting my hair to be straight, I started appreciating my natural curly hair. I used to just slick everything back into an easy ponytail, which caused years people throughout my life to ask/pressure me about why I didn't wear my hair down or do anything with it. When I finally got the courage to do it, and not be insecure about not having straight hair, I started having lots of fun with…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 12:15 PM
39

It's so dehumanizing :/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 11:37 AM
62

Exactly, she wasn't in much of a position to turn his help or the relationship down when she was 16.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 03:45 PM
1

Very understandable. Personally, D.O. is the man for me~
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 07:53 AM
46

I'm pleasantly surprised every Friday to see that there are all these kpoppie FDS'ers
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 05:33 PM
40

Not just work, this isn't safe for anything - NSFA
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 03:20 PM
38

Yeah, that sounds about entitled 31-year-old male... These sort age gaps are so common to these sort of stories, it is really sad. Men who hit 30 and suddenly feel entitled to the title of 'fatherhood' and decide they have full ownership over your bodily functions are a specific type of scrote.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 03:17 PM
8

He's a clear danger to society but unfortunately just not to the right part of society to make changes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 08:13 PM
2

Does anybody know where that picture/cartoon is from?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 06:01 PM
2

Honestly, I think you can scratch out "what if"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 05:57 PM
71

Oooooh, I never thought of the Baby Boom as the outcome of baby trapping women who had just had a taste of independence for the first time and had just experienced proof they could keep the country running without a significant proportion pf the male population. I never connected it like that but it really makes sense. Very interesting how male fear can have such a demographic impact.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 06:46 PM
11

Damn I didn't know this. I never watched this, I only ever heard about this show because it was in one of the assigned articles I had to read for my high school English course. I specifically remember the article going in depth on how well the show's production crew would "vet" to find suitable contestants. They had to surpass a survey and a few interviews. They said they judged on how interesting the people are and also on how appropriate this show is for them. A history of mental illness was a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 07:15 PM
58

Exactly. Who the fuck enjoys involuntarily given affection?! He clearly doesn't care about whether his partner is genuine in showing affection, he only cares about what's in it for him...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 07:00 PM
36

I was pleasantly surprised by Dua Lipa's Boys Will Be Boys too, for similar reasons. All of the lyrics hit home but I particularly love the bridge in which she clearly speaks to the NAMALT audience: "If you're offended by this song, you're clearly doing something wrong."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 06:53 PM
183

That Luhhh Youuuuuuuuuu! right before he murders her makes me so uneasy...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 06:42 PM
48

I discovered riot grrrl as a music genre. I think the punk rock scene does well at creating a place in which social and political issues can be commented on, but I wondered why it had always been such a boy's club kinda thing. I wondered why there weren't more punk feminist anthems, though to my disappointment I quickly understood why: the male listeners that this genre attracts are still part of the majority of men. So although they may enjoy lyrics that are critical of current power structures…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 01:09 PM
4

Wow. These are the four exact methods I kept seeing when I got groomed online by men double my age when I was a teenager. Never saw them this precisely pinpointed in a list. Thank you for making it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 12:29 PM
2

For real, I already find looking at a kid in a bikini and thinking "hmm sexy" child predatory enough, whether he himself thinks he's a good guy or not. Any pose by a kid to me is inherently non sexual. Put a kid in a bikini or naked on the bed, it literally does not change a thing because they're still just a kid. For a study based on images of sexually and non sexually posed children they'd need people who can already see children in a sexual light...🤢 I don't know what this guy is on but a san…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 04:09 PM
11

These tests pose the men and women sexually and non sexually, even the kids Wtf how is posing kids sexually even possible
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 02:43 PM
3

Probably not Ted Bundy. Bundy was allegedly charming, this guy... not so much
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 11:54 AM
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Uh, I don't know but I feel like a lot of people here are generalizing Gen Z to what they see from teen girls on tiktok... Sure, Gen Z tend to make up more terms for gender and sexuality issues, which could be used against them, but these are teens trying to do their best to keep gender issues alive within popular discourse. Sure, we on here can recognize things as objectification and sexualization, but again these are teen girls trying to express themselves in ways they're taught express femini…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 11:11 AM
15

The author of Demon Slayer has not revealed their gender themself, but an employee at the publishing company disclosed they're a woman. Knowing that makes the anime and all the love it's getting feel even better imo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 10:19 PM
3

Somehow I never really thought of myself as worthy of the term 'survivor'. But thank you for calling me that. It feels good to hear that actually I am a survivor; and it gives me strength :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 10:09 PM
20

Not a mom and also not married but in my early teens I used to get a panic attack or run out of the house whenever I saw the kitchen and dinner table messy. Those were the signs that my unemployed dad had decided to ignore all his responsibilities that day and pretend he didn't have a kid until my mom came home from her full time job. At most he came down to get some food for himself and then leave his filthy dishes for me to clean up... To this day, seeing a mess sometimes still triggers a lot …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 02:37 PM
95

Heavily agree. There's so much that I as a young girl felt like I had to be ashamed of, not because I myself was of that opinion, but because of men sexualizing every part of my body. I remember when I started growing boobs, which is such a natural thing in its essence, but I felt like they made my body so shameful and my boobs were embarrassing if they were too visible. So every time I stepped out of the pool I crossed my arms in front of my chest cause that felt more safe and protected (althou…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 02:13 PM
13

Reading this felt really inspiring to me. Just a few months ago, before I found FDS, I was just a day or so away from setting up my OnlyFans profile after being encouraged by my friends. I was 19 and had been groomed and sending nudes online for years, for free. Despite me telling my friends how I felt used and how depressing it was, and that the only reason I kept repeating that self-destructive circle was because I craved feeling like I was being desired, my friends (other 18-19 year olds just…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 12:13 PM
4

This is so disturbing. I fear she may end up on We Can't Consent To This if she stays with this psychopath.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 10:46 AM
19

Yes. One of them is expecting twins.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 10:03 AM
95

Have you seen Anna Marie Tendler's (John Mulaney's ex-wife) instagram though? She has been posting self-made photography in which she artistically tells her part of the story, even months before the news broke. They're very artful pictures of her, alone in an old house, wearing flowy satin dresses by candlelight.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 09:00 AM
54

True! But I kinda dislike tradmen in general, because a lot of traditional male gender roles are very often tied to personality traits I find a turn off such as high competitiveness, or just straight up toxic masculinity like less open displays of emotion and affection and a more emotionally distant position in child rearing. So I'll pass on the tradmen lol (unless they're as much into baking and gardening as me, but I'm afraid those are very few). Luckily for me I am bi, and most of my relation…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 06:21 PM
51

That's a funny note considering men praise acclaim being the more "visual creatures" huh... Could it be that perhaps that is only an excuse they tell themselves for the objectification of women and the sexualization of the female shape they enforce? Hmm.....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 05:38 PM
241

Yes, this is why I think lesbian cottagecore is a thousand times superior over straight cottagecore ¯_(ツ)_/¯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 05:32 PM
200

"Is he a shitty person" yes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 11:01 AM
25

So much detail yet the artist can't even draw her anatomically correct legs. One leg just be facing sideways for no reason while the other has the ankle bent at a 180 degree, for what? 😭😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 06:16 PM
24

It says "Gamer Boy, Me, Digital, 2019" at the top though... Or it could be a repost and the artist is not the one who put that caption there, or the "me" refers to the woman with inward knees in the doorway. Otherwise, I'm afraid the artist thinks it's quirky :/ Edit: The caption is formatted like "Title, Artist, Medium, Year" so it isn't guaranteed that the caption is saying something like "the gamer boy is me". I realize that now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 06:02 PM
129

I heard in China there's a 'break-up fee', which means that a guy (usually) pays his girlfriend a sum of money when they break up. Sounds like a funny practice, but unfortunately the usual reasoning behind this Chinese dating trend is pretty misogynistic: the money is meant as a compensation to the girlfriend for wasting her "prime" years of youth and that she now has to start over with finding a husband.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 10:38 AM
15

I am also 20 and I still read magazines until quite recently. I usually picked one out during my stay at the library and put it back after I read it. As a younger kid (pre-English knowledge so prob before age 12) me and my friends hung out at the library after school. We'd always read one such teen girl magazines that had a section dedicated to giving sex advice that had people writing in their craziest sex concerns and get their questions answered, a lot like you can find on reddit nowadays. Th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 04:47 AM
17

I think a lot of the hot actors similar to what Dicaprio used to be sort of died off when the early 2000's chick flick genre went out of style. Now you have shows and movies on Netflix with decent guys, but with the lack of mainstream movies and theater promotion, and the subsequent lack of recognition of a general public... they just don't hit the same. Plus movie actors in current times are competing for popularity with internet celebrities, which all really doesn't help them. Times have chang…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 12:03 AM
124

DiCaprio only dating girls born after The Titanic came out doesn't make him look any better either
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 08:52 PM
78

This reminds me of my brief experience using OLD when I was 19. I'm bi but set my preference to male because all my romantic/sexual experience had been with women so far and I was really curious about a heterosexual relationship. Well, the amount of old and ugly dudes asking to hook up threw me off completely so I changed my preference to exclusively female. Without the bombardment of scrotes the experience was a lot more relaxed and I immediately found a few interesting matches. Lo and behold, …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 12:28 PM
58

Deadass that man saying "do a lot of guys try to get you drunk? Sure. But does every guy? Of course not. But it depends on what your looking for." at 1:20 ... wtf?! Not only does he in his first sentence admit that men try to get women drunk on dates, he also admits that the amount of men who do that are a lot. Then rather than finding that concerning he proceeds to say "sure", like it is nothing to worry about that a lot of men try to get you drunk. And as if that isn't bad enough he then comes…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 12:08 PM
40

Men leering and staring at women and constantly checking out every part of a woman's body is already what stops me and some other women from going to the gym. Hence, I bet that a lot of men, including the ones crying over that TikTok, are already guilty of enforcing segregation themselves. They just don't think the results of their horny actions through enough to realize that a dude taking sneaky pictures of you or a dude staring with sunglasses on, and the even bigger amount of men who will def…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 07:04 AM
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Omg thanks for putting it this way. I read that about them having sex and I was generally disgusted but it didn't really click for me yet that when they did that, she was literally hours away from dead, which makes him so much more disturbing!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 08:53 PM
7

I am struggling with the same sort of things. I saw others have already commented with very handy pieces of advice. The only thing I have left to add that I didn't saw mentioned yet: for me it often helps to take a piece of clothing with me that is baggier. I love wearing tight and low-cut shirts and dresses but sometimes take a baggier hoodie with me that I can easily throw on if I start feeling unsure. The extra clothing usually stays in my bag or in the car but it helps to feel like I can eas…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 03:18 PM
41

True, this definitely ties in to how often they expect their girlfriend to also be their therapist and perform all the emotional labour.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 11:32 AM
32

I read that too when I googled him. His manager shared on Facebook that Paing Takhon was detained by a brutal military armed group (in 8 vehicles according to his sister) at 5 in the morning. At the time he was in a very poor health condition so his location couldn't be changed in time for his safety. His manager asked for people to spread awareness about this and to please pray for Paing's safety. Here is an article with some additional details on his detainment and what actions led up to it x
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 12:44 PM
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At first I found it a bit uneasy to suddenly see so many men in the limelight in such a women-centered sub. What didn't help is that a lot of men really aren't my type so seeing them and generally wondering how many of these men are LVM behind closed doors made me uncomfortable... Until I saw this truly fine af man. I feel blessed for having the privilege of seeing him. Thank you for introducing him OP. Now the picture of him standing next to a cute kitten is what has forever changed my stance o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 08:13 AM
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I totally agree, and this line of thought is actually what taught me something disappointing about men. I was puzzled as to why so many men portray single moms as 'failed parents' when single moms should actually be the direct opposite of that for prioritizing their children. Anybody who agrees that motherhood is about raising children should see that single mothers deserve nothing but respect. Besides, if a lot of men dream of women being the sole provider of childcare, then why do they hate si…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 07:45 AM
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Next to being a rape survivor he also made her a survivor of infidelity... But it is not him who put on pounds during pregnancy and he did the dishes so just 'why no sexual attraction to him anymore? hmm?'
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 07:00 AM
51

At this point it is not about losing or gaining kilograms or pounds, it's about losing the husband and gaining a secure sense of self-worth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 12:07 AM
70

I think you hit the nail on the head with "sexual attraction has to be nurtured constantly". So many men at dead bedrooms forget this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 08:50 PM
2

Hurt his feelings if you need to, that's only part of cOmMuNiCaTing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 05:13 PM
60

Dump him, he belongs to the streets.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 04:55 PM
19

Honestly I wouldn't be surprised if knocking her up was only part of his fetish to him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 04:32 PM
68

Unfortunately I've been on the internet long enough to know of the existence of a labor fetish
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 01:27 PM
17

Reminds me of when I was 12 and got my braces removed the dentist just kept making comments about how much more often boys would be hitting on me from now on (literally translated he actually didn't specify any age, I am just gonna assume he meant boys my age and not adult men like him). I don't understand how this man with his wrinkly face and overgrown nose hair did not feel any shame while looking down at a nervous 12 year old girl with her mouth wide open and commenting on how much more attr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 10:16 AM
5

this guy is into polyandry? okay...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 09:56 AM
54

In some cultures it is straight up seen as very disrespectful to call family members, especially parents and siblings, by their first names
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 09:45 AM
212

who wants to be infantilised by someone you’re having sex with? Pedophiles and people that romanticize pedophilia. I think the size of this group of people is frequently underestimated.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 09:39 AM
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lol yeah sure women's hypergamy is what immorally ruined the 'dating market' but men are biologically reasonably to call a 16 year old girl "a woman in her prime," of course... /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 09:32 AM
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I was also thinking about that last point. Men value validation and appreciation from other men so fucking much, it's always about how other men view them. Suppressing women is a way to legitimize their own highly esteemed male social world. Thus, expressing hatred towards women just because they're not men is by that logic part of a "pulling the others down so you stay on top"-method.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 02:55 PM
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She feels like she isn't valued because she isn't. Her feelings are truthful and they're there to protect her, she should listen to them. Seriously, ladies, don't let men tell you that you shouldn't trust your own feelings.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 08:44 PM
26

So rude of women when they don't act like NPCs ready to be conquered /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 08:19 AM
10

I have similar difficulties. I'm in a country where the population made a name for themself through the term "going Dutch"... My only advice is to stick to your own strategies and principles. Prioritize yourself and let the trash take itself out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 05:59 PM
21

Not OP but I tried searching for a source myself. I haven't come across those exact stats yet but I did come across that The National Crime Agency says that one in 35 UK men have a sexual interest in children. Let's say even one tenth of that number look at indecent images online, that is 75,000 people. Here is an article that discusses that statistic and some others. Like some other results of research that I cam across, it also talks about how assessing the number of pedophiles is usually very…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 05:29 PM
5

Yes. But note that those comments are very recent, they're from hours after this FDS post was made and even a few hours after my specific reply, while that article has been up for a week. I wouldn't find it unlikely that the commenters on the article calling out that language are members of this subreddit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 11:40 AM
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I think the wording of that article is so upsetting. This is the first paragraph used to describe the action (apart from the title): A teenager nudged a woman with his bike wheel as she ran for a train causing her to fall beneath and onto the tracks in harrowing footage caught on camera in early April. Nowhere is mentioned how this is part of misogynistic street intimidation. How women know this sort of behavior all too well. No, they phrase it as "woman gets nudged by a teenager, loses balance …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 04:30 PM
5

Exactly. You said it perfectly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 10:20 PM
31

It's sad though that a lot of the time once a field becomes majority-female there's a social devaluation (I don't think I'm wording this correctly, english is not my mother tongue). Computer sciences used to be more female-dominated but it got looked down on as just a secretary job. When it got more male-dominated it got taken more seriously. In many places life sciences suffer from the same kind of thing that with a growing female participation the science gets taken less serious and the degree…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 11:42 AM
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Honestly I thought finally seeing a girl my age being a pop star in baggy clothes was so much more empowering... Now I'd feel wrong policing her on what she can wear and what she cannot wear, so I'm really just gonna let her be. But still I completely agree, the way we define 'empowerment' when it comes to women needs to be questioned.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 11:15 AM
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Unfortunately, I couldn't back that up with research because I knew of no study that explored women's feelings on the subject. Apart from him admitting how baseless his whole point is, the lack of studies into women's sexuality is actually so sad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 08:41 AM
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Exactly. Just who sees a handful of 15-18 year old girls and calls them "women"? And who tf reads this and feels some reassurance cause 15 year old girls say something positive about their size? This article is a bit creepy in multiple ways and I'm glad others here are seeing that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 08:34 AM
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I don't think it's a joke. There is another post on this sub from about a year ago about this exact phenomenon and it has over 50 replies of other woman who dealt with LVM that would get hard ons when they cried... :/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 02:50 PM
28

Oh we really need to start having that conversation. Because I remember how for the longest time I just couldn't recognize my own experiences with sexual assault/rape because the perpetrator was another kid and thus did not fit the picture of an adult rapist that I had taught. I could only ascribe my trauma as a really weird form of school bullying in which I was constantly forced to take my clothes off, and because i couldn't relate to the usual portrayals of school bullying I found it hard to …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 01:56 AM
20

I think that's so much more what real empowerment looks like.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 07:00 AM
8

It's funny when men call FDS a hate group when this is the only place where women, including myself, can feel safe on Reddit. Says a lot about the differences in experience between the genders and overall misogyny.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 10:30 PM
45

Also to begin with a lot of fantasies are projections of things we sexually desire anyways...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 08:34 PM
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Same. I only realized the things I have been told by (older) women while growing up are controversial when I got to see them expressed on reddit. A lot of FDS strategies seems so natural in conversations with women in the real world.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 08:30 PM
27

If I complain about a behavior generally associated with men I have to watch my words and say "some men" because there are men who feel hurt if I make generalizations about them. But when it comes to porn it is suddenly perfectly fine to say "all men are like that" and call it a day?? Well on that note... I do consider the porn industry an industry of sexual abuse. Therefore every men that watches porn contributes to the reproduction of the porn industry, which makes the viewer of porn a bystand…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 08:27 PM
27

Men are the monsters in this world. They're terrifying. One's nightmare could be a man's fetish.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 06:52 PM
18

oh yeah, I'm such a leg lady
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 06:41 PM
51

I'm a bit of a visual creature so here are a few of my physical deal breakers: - overweight - a lot of facial hair - droopy shoulders - tiny hands - receding hairline - shorter than me - extremely muscular or thin - micropenis or a curved dick I do have a few bonus points for: - in shape - thick, muscular thighs and a round butt lol - nice smile (+ white teeth) - beautiful eyebrows - good posture (!)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 06:34 PM
18

Right! I completely agree.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 09:13 AM
193

The movie Gone Girl is pretty helpful with this too. If a guy only sympathizes with Nick and really pities him, and if he simultaneously cannot find an ounce of sympathy for Amy and does not understand anything about that cool girl monologue "because she went batshit crazy for no reason!!", it is a bad sign... I'm serious, I've seen men defend Nick like it was themself on the screen... :/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 01:57 AM
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Yes they were fellow soldiers. And that about it seemingly being a cultural norm honest doesn't shock me much anymore, men are fucked up as you said in your earlier comment. What seems weird to me however is that it's the people who will revert to animals when they are horny in most positions of power but that's patriarchy I guess...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 08:29 AM
12

Men definitely have a huge fucked up problem going on. I once had brief contact with a woman who specifically worked with veterans that had developed mental disorders from their time in the military who got to hear similar stories all the time, (tw: child rape) something she heard often was these men witnessing frequent child rape, or even being 'peer-pressured' into raping a child, and the guilt these men felt when the child died during the stay at their camp which was usual. Performing hyper m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 12:24 AM
20

I cannot for the live of me imagine my day being brighten up by a picture of someone's genitalia.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 07:00 PM
15

I hate this one so much
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 08:40 AM
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When the topic came to how badly sailors wanted to fuck sea creatures, it really reminded me of that guy from the 90's who would sneak into zoo's or aquariums to have romantic (read: sexual) relationships with dolphins. He even gave a step-by-step tutorial on how to have sex with female and male dolphins and then tried to moralize zoophilia. It resurfaced on reddit a few days ago. And, of course because it is reddit, a bunch of men started to "joke" (this is my wishful thinking, none of them sai…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 05:20 PM
11

Blocking them out is always the bast way too go, honestly
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 12:53 PM
75

This is cringe but I unfortunately had something similar once. I commented online about how I had a crush on a guy in high school, I confessed my feelings to him straight-up, he said it wasn't mutual, I thought that was fine because I didn't want to date in high school anyways, I just wanted to let him know I thought he was cool, so we moved on. What happens next? A bunch of hate DM's of course, because it turns out I will only do that to 6'3 Chad and treat other men like shit and I am probably …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 10:50 AM
11

Aren't you a single mother at that point.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 08:45 AM
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A madonna-whore complex could be part of the explanation. Like how Armie Hammer explained to the girls he was cheating on his wife with that he wasn't planning on cheating in the beginning, when he was dating his wife. But since he got married he hadn't been able to act out his kinks anymore. So, in his reasoning, he had to cheat because he now "needed" other girls who he felt less connected to and could more easily objectify and treat like fleshbags, for he now loved and respected his wife too …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 08:15 AM
14

I also think this is a bit childish... Funny in the hypothetical sense but a bit low to do this for real :/ Men sure annoy me in the gym when they creepily stare but making somebody who is just working on themself embarrassed on purpose ain't it. Especially if you can just ask somebody to be quieter. If I was too loud and a few people came up to me to just laugh and point at me I wouldn't take it well either, I would hide.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 06:26 PM
62

Same!! I love wearing my hair in pigtails so much. They look really cool and it's so nice how they keep hair out of my face and off my neck. By far one of my favorite hairstyles. But now I feel strange wearing them in public. I feel embarrassed and uncomfortable wearing pig tails in front of men, I think it's a gut feeling I developed as I got older and more aware of male depravity. For some time, I only wore my hair in pigtails in private and when I knew the only men around me were men I alread…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 03:19 PM
28

But also a boy's hormones are so out of control. They're horny and would stick their penis in anything. Don't put accountability on them to behave and control their sexual desires. Therefore women should stick to their role of being nurturing and should absolutely not use their power to take advantage of boys and remain in a care-taking role at all times!! Just... I wish we'd talk the same about grown men going after young girls.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 12:54 PM
94

I feel like there would be a lot of outrage particularly if we'd lure and manipulate young, barely legal boys just out of high school. Because how dare we damage those young boys so much they'd have long term psychological and physical issues?! Those boys had a life ahead of them!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 08:31 AM
17

Coming close and whispering "including your children" like the NVM men we talk about here care about those...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 07:55 AM
77

I have the same thought and agree so much. I think those electric pain simulators could really make a difference. I've seen similar videos and a lot of men tap out before they get to the level of labor pain, and when they get that they handle it for a much shorter time then women usually go through labor. It's so good to see them go wide eyed at the realization of what pretty much all women in their life go through.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 07:47 AM
53

That. And on a similar topic, when I do happen to like a female character I can guarantee some scrote has drawn some weird nsfw art of her that I will come across when I look up that character. It's so annoying...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 08:49 PM
18

Well, I think most people fall in love with people. And given that many "straight" men don't view women as people...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 03:04 PM
26

Ohhh this hits close to home for me. I'm proud of you for wanting to make that step out of it, it's a hard step to make. Living you life for yourself will always be better and more rewarding than dedicating your precious energy and time to dirty male satisfaction. Your life is yours, and so is your time and energy so you have all the right to take that back.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 11:11 AM
9

It only comes up for the videos that either YouTube staff or the creator recognizes and has labeled as mature content. I've only come across one such video recently, otherwise I would not have known they did this and that the age of my account isn't verified yet. So, I don't really know for how long they've been requiring this more complex sort of verification system (you can choose to verify through credit card but there's a second option as well). But if you don't come across recognized mature…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 11:34 PM
63

Even on YouTube clicking you're of age isn't enough anymore. They've set a system in place that needs credit card verification. I don't see why porn sites cannot do the same.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 04:26 PM
12

Yeah his "vital fluid" is not lost but the grey matter in his prefrontal cortex sure is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 02:41 PM
18

I once came into brief contact with the same kinda thing. I was 18-19 and he was in his early twenties. He tried to justify his attraction by saying "not all 14 year olds, only the busty ones". He assured me that he wouldn't do anything criminal, though he may have to reconsider if she were to come on to him first, but he did fantasize about them. I was lost for words, he was really legitimizing his pedofilia by saying they're not really children if they have double D's. I told him I started gro…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 09:02 AM
76

Reminds me of what Laura Bates wrote in her book Men Who Hate Women which contained a lot of insight into the manosphere. Specifically on the similarity between incels and PUA's: Both groups, Bates points out, essentially think of women as slot machines for sex. “The difference is that incels regard the machines as rigged,” she writes, while aspiring PUAs hope “to learn the exact secret combination of buttons to push and levers to pull, in order to trick the machine into paying out every time.” …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 08:30 AM
10

Explains how easily men unashamedly use sex dolls or treat other inanimate objects like those objects are their romantic partner (i.e. that man that "married" a plush My Little Pony toy and truly believed she was his wife and that this stuffed animal reciprocated the feelings he had for her).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 02:57 PM
2

Hmm I'm not sure where the Dutch self-defense laws would stand in comparison to the German. On paper, the Dutch laws allow for any self defense in proportion to the attack. What is deemed proportional differs in practice though. The use of a weapon is outlawed, period. If you have a weapon on you you will be criminalized/fined anyway. I do agree with you though, anti-racism and anti-sexism movements are relatively very progressive in these countries. I just want to make clear that I'm not dispro…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 11:12 AM
17

Netherlands definitely puts a lot less stress on women being refined to the role of homemaker and generally allows a lot of freedom in how you express yourself (their is still a lot of lgbtq+ hate, but I'm more talking about the little pressure on women to present themselves in a feminine way). However, I do want to warn that rules about sexual assault are a bit backwards... If you want to report somebody for rape you first need a lot of physical evidence to proof to the authorities that it was …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 10:14 AM
27

I just realized I have yet to meet a woman who has never suffered from some sort of body dysmorphia :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 07:17 PM
48

Yes. As John Stoltenberg (radical feminist husband of Andrea Dworkin): "Pornography tells lies about women. But pornography tells the truth about men."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 07:15 PM
3

wtf did he imagine the smell to be pleasant or something??! ... oh wait... he probably did, didn't he? everything that comes out a woman is sexy right? :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 11:54 AM
11

I'm also from a country in the northern of Europe. When I went on a class trip to Rome when I was 16 my mom warned me about Italian fuckboys (not the exact wording but... yeah). She confessed she always preferred to go to Spain over Italy when it came to our family trips, mostly because Italian men might be smooth talking but they're scammers and very dangerous for women. Although sometimes Italian men did seem more flirty (?) nothing really dangerous happened (but mind you I was traveling with …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 07:55 AM
26

I feel like very few 23-year-old men want to be a father, yet a lot of men in their late twenties and older will see no problem with knocking up a 23-year-old woman... Perhaps because by that age they are thinking more about the status than about the practicality of having kids. And (to follow their probable line of thinking) why should they have to think about the practicality anyways? They don't have to deal with their kid so much, a woman will. Because even at 23 a woman is a woman, therefore…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 07:02 AM
471

Based. The amount of times a white man called me exotic as a compliment makes me nauseous.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 08:46 PM
30

Shortly after Suriname became an independent country, my great great grandfather founded an elementary school. Starting from the roots up, a few female family members took it upon themselves to teach the classes to the children. Although that school in Suriname is still standing and seems to be going strong; a lot of my family has since moved to Europe. They were now primarily seen as black immigrants, despite their academic status in their home country, so they faced lots of discrimination and …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 11:53 PM
274

Or worse, imagine the everyday man who seems pretty normal and decent on the outside that thinks this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 10:46 PM
54

But don't forget porn is so empowering for women! /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 08:05 PM
15

Oh I totally get you. I am the exact same, unfortunately
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 07:56 PM
11

And culturally, violent sex is the only thing on offer. True, and it is also actively encouraged in many countries. Woman that enjoy sex or whom express pleasure during sex are frequently seen as dishonorable. A 'slut' doesn't just dishonor herself but also the people around her such as her family. I have an anecdote from a book that illustrates my point further but I have placed it in a different paragraph because it might be triggering (cw: child marriage + violent sex). When I read the ethnog…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 08:54 AM
3

That's good
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 05:36 PM
5

Is it really an increasing number? That's indeed scary... I thought these type of men were supposed to go extinct when we got to the 21st century :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 05:34 PM
43

It's funny because men can get very 'protective' of their girlfriend/wife in a way that they forbid her from having any male friends and I never got it because friends are just friends, right? But then I realized they're saying that because they're literally self projecting
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 05:29 PM
24

I'm younger than her and a year ago I was 'freaking out' for the exact same reason. I don't come from a culture or family that pressures to get married or settle down, rather it's more of the opposite, so that really wasn't the reason for my anxiety. I think for me it came down to a combination of two things. Firstly, I'm from a generation in which we had internet access at a pretty young age and naive as I was I got groomed by a bunch of men all throughout my teenage years. Online I was so pret…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 04:06 PM
2

Unfortunately, I'm thinking if he has access to the building's security cameras he might have access to some keys too. But I also hope it's fake.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 03:43 PM
4

Thank you, I'll make sure to wear it with class! :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 04:05 PM
7

That's great! I think we need more of such environments in which being your authentic self is encouraged. Especially for girls. Coincidentally I also did a lot of martial arts as a kid (starting at age 4 to when I was about 10 years old, it was my mom who pushed me to follow a lot of martial arts classes, telling me at 4 that sooner or later I would need it to protect myself). But unfortunately, for me personally, I think it kind of fed into the 'I'm not like the other girls'-mindset that I clun…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 04:03 PM
19

That's very interesting. I grew up in the Netherlands so it's not surprising that the societal pressures about how to correctly perform your gender that I faced would make for a very different experience growing up, compared to growing up in Saudi Arabia. It's sad but I think a lot of sameness can be found in how cultural/social rules are so rooted in misogyny, still it's very interesting in my opinion to see how that can work in such different ways. Unfortunately, it seems like it's just the wa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 12:49 PM
71

I grew up with the most irrational fear/embarrassment of wearing clothing in the color pink. Not just clothing, I would react with disgust to anything in the color pink, because I had been thought to. It took me about 18 years to realize that all that was stopping me from wearing the color pink, was the misogyny I had internalized as a kid. I'm 20 now and have recently started wearing dresses, skirts and jewelry, things that I always wanted to wear but was to afraid to actually do so. I admit I …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 07:52 AM
155

Men want their attention and compliments to be a woman's only source of self worth. But when she doesn't need their opinions and has a healthy self esteem completely on her own, it terrifies men because now they are faced with their own uselessness. Like they'll tear a confident women down because they have no meaning to woman's life otherwise. So when they give you a compliments it's often done out of the desire to be acknowledged themselves, rather than to uplift the woman receiving the compli…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 12:08 AM
39

Reminds me of that scene in Outlander where a man gets beaten, whipped, and raped, and a guy was saying to his gf (they had just seen it together) how horrifying and traumatizing that was to see and his gf agreed but later when he couldn't shut up about it his gf reminded him that all that stuff is exactly what happens in porn/in real life to women all the time. And this guy was like "........... that's just different" and said things about men needing porn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 02:28 PM
24

Because that sentence is dripping in entitlement. Just because you're in a committed relationship with each other does not mean you have any ownership to that person's body.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 01:47 PM
7

Yeah I also think it's part of a 'knock them down to the bottom so we can think of ourselves as on the top' type of mentality
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 06:42 PM
18

I wanted to say they don't regard us as humans but I'm willing to bet they'd feel more empathy for non-human species (i.e. a dog) than for women :/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 05:04 PM
50

Exactly. So many people brushed over the fact that she was an actual child and just go straight to victim-blaming because she was supposedly an "e-thot" and she was so mean online to these frustrated and heartbroken grown men. Or how the killer thought she cheated on him, so 'of course, any guy would be mad and heartbroken to find his girlfriend cheated on him' like that's something that makes his actions of brutally killing a child some sort of agreeable. This case definitely showed me how a lo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 08:03 AM
27

That's fucking sick. I'm glad you aren't having any of it though and choosing to protect your children from him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 07:37 AM
80

The second one is horrifying. Particularly the aftermath is so scary to me because so many scrotes sided with the killer and said she somehow deserved it... They hate that girl so much they don't even let her mother mourn in peace. >! Did you hear about that one scrote that jerked off over those pictures of her corpse and then send the pics of that to her mother? !< One of the most sickening cases of male depravity I've ever heard.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 07:20 AM
4

This is so sad. Can we do anything to help her?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 12:56 PM
28

I loved this part as well: You know who isn’t treated as over-the-hill the moment they reach 35? Men. There still seems to be a pervasive idea that men don’t have biological clocks and can become a dad at any age. However, I’m afraid sperm doesn’t exactly age like a fine wine; sperm quality declines as men get older. Studies have shown that babies born to older fathers have been found to have an increased likelihood of health issues, psychiatric problems and cognitive disorders.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 06:55 PM
84

It's great to see another FDS'er who's my age. However, it's not so great to hear teenage boys sharing child porn all over the web is a universal thing... I agree males coming of age today might be even worse off than before. I remember how 14-year-old boys sharing porn with each other during school was pretty much normalized so much that it was just seen as a male bonding thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 06:45 PM
4

And they're only 18...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 11:03 AM
9

Wow that's kind of similar to Western Europe, early 2010. Girls and boys were allowed to stay in the same class and we went over the biology book together. The chapter, and the corresponding class, for girls was strictly a scientific description of the fertilization of a human egg cell. For boys, on the other hand, there was an in-depth explanation about wet dreams, masturbation, having an erection in public and pornography (no, not in way that touches on the negatives of pornography. It was pre…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 08:10 PM
12

Again, the desire for younger women and girls is not biologically advantageous; many men argue that girls are mature enough to bear children when they begin menstruation (average age being around 13 or 14 these days). Even lower. A quick google search unfortunately tells me the average age of menstruation has since the 2000s lowered to around 12 years old (I've mostly seen data from the US and Europe, but in India the average lays around 13 indeed). Anyways, no girl this age is mature enough to …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 07:54 PM
177

I think that's also a very common grooming tactic they use online to get sexual favors from young girls ("can I get a nude to cheer me up please? :( or perhaps a blowjob to lighten the mood?" shit I've been there too many times). The online world adds extra pressure for them to use, because you are made to feel like that special place where they can share their feelings that they really can't tell to anybody in real life. They know therapists exist but they'd much rather go for young impressiona…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 08:37 AM
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Yeah and like she's acting so rude while it probably took him some time opening up to her about leaving her, so it's a sign he really trusts her... And it's not like he can help what he likes or what turns him on so I don't get why she's kinkshaming him like this /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 09:10 AM
18

Eh this could have gone with a jumpscare warning for that last pic
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 08:19 AM
16

Last year, my anthropology professors taught me that even though all cultures have different norms, incest is pretty much the most universal taboo. Looking at Reddit I have more and more trouble believing that, I guess their statement has become a little outdated...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 11:26 PM
42

I'm more of legs lady myself. I like them most long and muscular.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 10:47 PM
63

I actually think a lot of my faking orgasm bullshit back when i was younger was because I didn’t want to come off as just having been degraded and not gotten any pleasure out of it. It's sad but reading this put into words like that finally made me understand my past self a little better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 10:31 AM
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Do they REALLY think a woman is born with 1 inch lashes and lipstick on? They do. This reminds me of that guy who had the audacity to say my natural eyelashes (without mascara) looked 'male'... I think they're just so used to seeing women with make up on, as opposed to guys that wear no make up, they have started associating the presence of make up directly with gender. And the cartoons they watch as kids where any female character is drawn basically the same way as the male characters except wi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 10:14 AM
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The one about the epidural.............. sometimes male logic is so far beyond my capacity of understanding
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 11:12 PM
3

So happy to hear this! Women have boundaries and the right to hold on to then regardless of whether men like it or not. Proud of you for choosing to be you and stick to your limits. It’s 2021 and women don’t have to put up with disgusting men anymore. Exactly!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 01:20 AM
44

That's amazing! I'm happy to hear that there's a happy ending to this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 09:48 PM
131

I think the answer is simply that the male ego is very fragile. So, if he opens up to you about how it turns him on to cum up your nose you must not express any disgust or show that it weirds you out, because "it takes a lot for guy to open up about their kinks and it's a sign they trust you!" So you better be supportive and kind and open up those nostrils wide (inspiration from a recent post on a pickmeisha who proudly saved her relationship by snorting cum). To further illustrate: not so long …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 07:38 PM
39

They get so easily jealous about good looking actors and kpop idols. Like I've seen men go as far as saying it would be cheating if their girlfriend was a kpop fan. Yet those same men will turn around and watch porn, expecting their girlfriend to be okay with it because "c'mon now that's a basic need of men and every men does it!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 11:35 AM
42

Boys getting out of school later sounds agreeable. However, younger girls sitting in the same class with a bunch of older boys with and age gap of a few years on a day-to-day basis to me still sounds a bit... dangerous for those girls...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 07:25 PM
41

Who cares about her risking a pregnancy, something which could ruin her life, when-... when his feelees are sow hurt! 🥺 /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 07:20 AM
168

"Putting food on the table", I know most of these men don't even know how to cook a single meal (my grandpa included lol). For the most part the men in the 50s couldn't even feed themselves since their wife packed them their lunch and they were coming home expectant of a warm cooked meal already put on the table by their bangmaid. I feel like the only thing they were providing their wife with was a beating if dinner didn't suit their taste. Yeah from what I can see that provider narrative is mos…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 06:53 AM
11

Oh... I had a feeling it would be that :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 06:08 AM
30

I don't even want to know what number 10 is about.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 10:07 PM
23

Excuse me but that's sexual assault...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 06:51 PM
13

This! Every word of it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 04:49 PM
80

But if they can't get it, they'll probably seek alternatives. Jacking off to porn is the most obvious and easily available sexual alternative in high income western countries. I guess porn makes these scrotes so lazy even simply using their brain has become a less easily available option for them. Not that I'm surprised, most of those mindless and immoral porn addicts seem a bit braindead in the eyes anyways. They're really missing out though, cause a bit of creative thinking can do wonders to y…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 11:32 PM
12

It's okay most of us have had moments in our past we wouldn't be proud of today. I have similar reasons for that now make me so thankful I've found places like FDS. And by the way, even though it may have been during a pick me era in life, the way you broke up with your ex was some queen shit! It really made me laugh and what a hypocrite he was jeez...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 09:36 PM
46

He tried to make you feel guilty for not pushing for sex after he declined because he wasn't in the mood and stressed? In other words, he made you feel guilty for not being rape-y enough??? Well that's f***** up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 09:29 PM
43

A little unrelated but on the topic of rape culture and the normalization of sexual violence among men: Your comment reminds me of how in a 2015 survey among college age men, 1 in 3 admitted they would rape a woman if they were 100% guaranteed they wouldn't face consequences for it... Here's a link to an article that discusses and summarizes the survey and that also includes a link to the original academic report of the survey in the text.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 09:02 PM
13

Describing his wife as uppity and putting "girl outings" in quotes... Something tells me this disgusting discovery was only the last straw in a long list of straws
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 05:12 PM
34

That's what got me too, like during the meetings?? Nothing in his mind says it's weird to be emptying your bladder while talking to other people? It's gross on all levels.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 05:07 PM
7

there are elementary school kids with better social cues than this adult man
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 12:50 PM
24

This reminds me of the young boys living next to my grandparents. My grandparents, my parents and me (still a baby at the time) used to sit out in the garden when suddenly it started raining the pee of a few of the boys next door who where standing in their attic, hanging out a window, and using us as targets. When we complained to their parents we got the "boys will be boys" excuse and nothing was done. It also reminds me of that time I saw a man sit down at the front door of the house across t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 12:07 AM
9

A lot more open talks about what a vagina normally does. Yes, tell me about how normal discharge is, do give me the details (what colors can I expect, should it be thick or thin, how much and how often?). And don't just tell me why a woman menstruates, but please do tell me what's it like to actually experience menstruation. 12 year old me was shocked and disturbed with myself for reasons that could have so easily be prevented if widespread education didn't have such misogynistic undertones to i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 11:22 AM
4

Agreed! They're definitely a danger to society. Unfortunately just not to the part of society that matters...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 09:23 PM
30

I won't say that she loved it. She didn't. But she kept fucking them. Fucked them harder, even. And that fed fuel to the fire. Here he clearly expresses his awareness about how he knew she wasn't enjoying any of it anymore. Yet he turns around and directs all his annoyance again towards her. He describes how he thought the things that were done to her were the filthiest things, but it's her fault for getting those things done to her and hurting his feelings (and his peepee because her rape makes…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 11:49 AM
40

Indeed, gay men come across to me as less threatening or dangerous. It is also nice to be seen as just a friend, and not some object or thing to be conquered. However, they can be just as sexist. A personally close example is my younger brother who's gay and regularly brings up sexist video games, movies and memes. He's a weeb and when he was a few years younger told me his favorite genre is ecchi (que weeks of him playing big breasted lolita girls in bikini on the living room tv). It's like he'…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 11:50 PM
3

I had always thought of the phrase 'feeling like you could fly' as metaphoric, until the day after I got out of an abusive relationship. I'm glad to see that feeling that beautiful lightness is something common :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 09:03 PM
40

Same. To me it doesn't feel like a place to spread hatred, rather it's a safe haven where I can express the trauma I experienced based on my gender without feeling invalidated or scared some people won't agree with my trauma (like that's something to agree on).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 11:36 AM
2

Not liking professional porn sometimes just sounds like saying you don't like porn in which consent is clearly given.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 05:19 PM
27

Same. I suspect them being somewhere on the internet but I wouldn't dare look for them. Still the thought of it creeps me out and I feel sad for the time when I thought that the only way I could feel loved was by doing something that I didn't want to do. I found some solace in the thought of how I was younger and even though it was me who took the pics and send them, it wasn't my fault. I was just a teenager trying to experiment with my sexuality, secretly and away from parental guidance and on …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 05:58 PM
9

Unfortunately, I got shown that traumatizing video in middle school by male classmates and I can still recall the act of shitting in a cup was one of the cleanest things they did in that video.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 11:27 AM
46

Especially after he started talking about how he just couldn't bond with them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 01:12 AM
5

This. Why did he have to tell her mother first and then watch how the mother confronts her daughter about it? I get that he was worried about how easy it was to find their address online, but this part just comes across like he was hoping to see that daughter humiliated. The only reason why he had to do it indirectly and couldn't shame the daughter himself was because they've only been together for 3 months. Might be a stretch but that's what this feels like to me...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 02:43 PM
13

Oh this reminds me of those guys that immediately assume that women with the same hobbies are fakers. So, for example, if you tell them you like the same anime or something they will immediately quiz you about said anime. I once had a LVM insist I answer every question about the anime correct and if I couldn't answer a question he'd invalidate that I like the anime just so he could pose himself as 'the superior anime liker', 'the alpha anime fan', or whatever he'd like to see himself as. In hind…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 12:19 PM
4

Those same people are often adamant on the "not all men" discourse but somehow still subscribe to the convictions of "this woman likes it, so all women like it." (Sidenote/vent: I hate how throughout history there seems to be one gender who was never thought proper self-reflection skills. Of course both genders have their problems, but there is just this one party who seems to be more frequently failing in that skill and on a much bigger scale).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 01:43 PM
5

Agreed. The fact that he already knew her (it says at the end of the article it is unknown to what extent exactly) makes this all the more eery. He didn’t kill a random person he had no connection to; he had seen her before when he hit her with his truck.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 03:59 AM
1

True. I just don’t see how such a little white lie would be so harmful as you make it out to be. I agree, if you’re in a more committed relationship with each other you should just be truthful about it. But if the relationship is not that deep, I don’t think it’s bad to lie. It’s like you will probably say you’re fine if somebody just asks you “hey how are you”, even if that may not be the case. It ain’t that deep. Also how should you know before answering whether you came, if the guy will be ok…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/20 02:59 AM
1

Then quit fucking a guy who can't give you an orgasm if that's important to you. But it’s not important to her so there is no reason to quit her ways, right?? I think that’s her whole point. I don’t know why you are acting so pressed. It’s just orgasms. From my experience, for guys the question “did you have an orgasm?” is often synonymous to “did you enjoy it?” And, quite frankly, I can enjoy sex very much without having a single orgasm. Why would I tell them something they might feel hurt by w…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/20 02:20 AM
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