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7 years. Sounds like you're newly single? Are you enjoying having a clean place?
/r/Divorce_Men26/08/23 09:39 PM
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Yeah, it's easy to keep a clean place clean. And a dirty home is often a microcosm for how someone lives their life. Did I know? I knew her place was messy and she was busy. When I was in love, I excused it and thought things would be different when we would have lived together. I remember so much waste. Fill the pantry, fill the fridge to the point you can't move anything. It was too much work to look through the mess when the convenient ultra processed snacks were right in front. Such an ugly …
/r/Divorce_Men26/08/23 12:49 AM
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Yes. My ex is the type of person to buy and place fruitfly traps instead of doing the dishes and taking out the garbage regularly. (Bags will sit inside for a few days). She has a monthly cycle where she lets her place get to the absolute brink of hell, and only then does she pick up and clean. Granted she does a good job when she does, but it goes to hell fast and she never follows through with upkeep.
/r/Divorce_Men25/08/23 10:05 AM
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I got the closest I will ever get from her. After the divorce, she got evicted, and she started actually working really hard with the kids and going to work, trying to find a place to live. Talking with her at that time I said "You know, it would have worked out if you did this earlier". She had a visceral reflex to hearing that and looked down and away. Said nothing. It was only a short period she was productive. It's a complete trainwreck. She's on her way to being evicted again.
/r/Divorce_Men20/07/23 04:48 AM
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Are you staying together or separating? It's always a mistake to stay. If you forgive her and stay, she will biologically resent you for being "weak" letting another man get in between. If you don't forgive her and separate, she will see you as being strong, defending yourself, and taking necessary action. She will probably want to get back with you. Both situations take emotional strength. Especially don't pingpong back and forth. That's the worst. Women aren't as rational as men, nor are they …
/r/Divorce_Men30/06/23 09:33 PM
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You're certainly going through a lot. I have bipolar myself, and when there's an episode, It can wreak havoc on other people. It sounds like this happened to you. And also sounds like you went through what a lot of us did. That being towards the end of relationships, women can devastate, tear down, take everything, and leave the man as weak as possible before they leave. Doing this is a sign of an abusive relationship. I'm sure the abuse happened years ago to you, and wore you down over the year…
/r/Divorce_Men25/06/23 03:05 AM
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So, it's just a free pass? If you think about it, It can't be that much harder than proving the others. Could this be women protecting women? They go the emotional abuse route if they're going to go any.
/r/Divorce_Men22/06/23 01:16 AM
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Glad you did. Physical and sexual abuse are emergencies, but emotional abuse is completely fine. Pretty weird.
/r/Divorce_Men21/06/23 10:43 PM
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I hear you. I'm going through the exact same thing. Only the details are different. Make the call soon. It takes a while for them to get moving. It's time to fight dirty. She isn't your friend, and she's not a mother. She doesn't want what's best for you or your daughter. Think of anyone else you can notify or get moving. I called CPS last week on my ex. She's been evicted and homeless since February. Her and her 4 kids (one of which is mine) live in 1 bedroom of some guys apartment. It's a shit…
/r/Divorce_Men21/06/23 08:49 PM
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I can relate to so much of this. Most of all, the trauma to your child. It's hard, but you're doing the absolute best thing and taking the high road. Comparing your situation with mine, it's been hell living at dirt level working with her mother on a near daily basis. The in person exchanges have been brutal. I will see my daughter when I see her, but I couldn't see more damage being done to her. I took the step recently to cut the bitch out completely. After 3 days, stress is at a minimum. It r…
/r/Divorce_Men21/06/23 02:23 AM
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What does she do?
/r/Divorce_Men21/06/23 01:13 AM
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Yeah, very good point. Those early life experiences are very deeply ingrained. I still think it's more sympathy than empathy. Most family men I know are calm and analytical about what someone else is going through. It's that true understanding that everyone you meet has had drastically different life experiences, and it takes a lot of focus and listening to get the best idea about that, that I can.
/r/Divorce_Men13/06/23 03:01 PM
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I did once. It wasn't worth it. To be honest, I saw myself as weak having sex with the woman who ruined my life. Yeah okay it was good like it's always been. But to be honest it took a big hit on my word and my integrity. It was an attempt to get me back, And it was a step back in progress trying to get away from her. You need to make your own decision based on your knowledge of who she is. And she's manipulative and cunning, I would absolutely stay the f*** away.
/r/Divorce_Men13/06/23 12:57 AM
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That's an inspirational story. Awesome job dude
/r/Divorce_Men13/06/23 12:39 AM
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I know it's ridiculous. And she does too. It's just intentional on her part to undermine this.
/r/Divorce_Men11/06/23 11:57 PM
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Wow. Put a bug in your room. Crazy people are crazy. Mine reinstalled windows and named my computer "Amy". She also took out the bolt from the passenger seat of my car, thinking I was dating someone.
/r/Divorce_Men11/06/23 07:21 PM
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I'm glad it's turning around. Ridiculous behavior and lies usually don't hold up if it's not entertained. What kind of sense does any of that make? The thinking and problem solving process of some people is just at a 1st grade level. That, or it's trying to force a reason when there's completely nothing in the bucket. Trying to put out a fire with air.
/r/Divorce_Men11/06/23 04:38 PM
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Yep. They have 2 things on their minds at all times, it seems. And sometimes those things cross over, intentionally or not. It's easy to pick up on it if I pay enough attention. Most of the time, my ex talks all the time and is so boring I zone out, potentially missing things. Now that we're not married, I can definitely focus on the times that we do meet.
/r/Divorce_Men11/06/23 04:22 PM
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I'm so sorry. Such a horrible thing for her to do. That passive aggressive shit does not get punished enough. Only you, her, and anyone very familiar with the situation can understand this. To the outside world, if you say or do anything in the slightest to retaliate, that would make you seen as the bad guy with anger issues, even to the kids. The high road is so hard to take sometimes, but it's the only way.
/r/Divorce_Men11/06/23 04:18 PM
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Yes, alienation.
/r/Divorce_Men11/06/23 02:22 PM
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Makes a lot of sense. It's really hard to do this when wronged and I have every just reason to be upset and do something "proper" to fix it with my ex. It might feel good, but like you hinted, it wouldn't get the long term results I'm looking for. It feels like constantly being slapped, and the one thing I can't do is to block the hand because that would appear aggressive and nothing more. I will consider what you said in my plan moving forward. Thanks.
/r/Divorce_Men11/06/23 01:22 PM
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Thanks. I check in with her all the time when she's with me. Ask her if she's happy and how she is feeling. We spend a lot of quality time together over the years. But without trust, she's going to close off, And those conversations won't contain anything true. I've tried getting her into counseling for years. The two times we did, My ex made a snap decision to pull her out of the programs after she and I had an argument and was mad at me. Self-destructive behavior and sabotaging, I've dealt wit…
/r/Divorce_Men11/06/23 01:14 PM
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Yeah. That's a good idea. This "emergency button" thing, I need to do something about, and that's an obvious solution I wasn't able to think of at 2:30am when I wrote that. Thanks.
/r/Divorce_Men11/06/23 01:04 PM
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