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Not all women are into muscles or dominant men. Of course, not every man can look androgynous, but some can. Not every man can be a gorgeous twink, but some can. Just as not every man can be a tall broad shouldered mesomorph. Play to your strenghts and preferences.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/25 06:19 AM
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As a straight woman, besides the obvious things like taking care of their appearance and being emotionally open and sensitive, a bit of flamboyance and / or androgyny in a man is actually super hot. Lots of rock stars have that, for example. Or think the elves from Lord of the Rings. Or a lot of popular actors, like Depp or Cumberbatch. Being expressive. Of course, as always, it depends on the type of woman you're into and want to attract. If you're looking for a conservative woman, those probab…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/25 04:32 AM
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Women who stay single by their own choice are not treating ANYONE badly. They just leave people alone; yes, I would love to be "treated that way" by men, aka left alone. Please.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/25 12:16 AM
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Yet women who are mothers want this exact type of woman for their sons. They want a woman who IS submissive, supportive, nurturing, and caretaking of her son. Only real toxic women act like that, the type that are written about on /r/justnoMIL
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/25 11:43 PM
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Yup. Also the whiny and psychopathic "but you did anal with your ex and not with me, that means he's owning me", "you had sex with your ex after 2 dates and with me after 4 dates, that means he's owning me". It's not about the woman at all, or about his emotions for her, he probably doesn't care for her as a person at all. It's all about competition and status hierarchy with other men, in his head. An imaginary stag fight. Women need to recognize signs of this early and leave.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/25 12:04 PM
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Either you're interested in someone or you aren't. Bro. Where do you think that "interest" comes from? Yes, to an extent from the pictures, but to an equally big extent from the bio and messages. If the pictures are great but the bio is shit or the intro message is shit and shows he didn't read my profile, it's a no.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/25 03:27 PM
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I wasn't talking about her or her post, but about the post she replied to. Telling women to be quiet and some religious BS isn't exactly gonna make them like you.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/25 08:54 PM
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As if the post this lady was replying to was any nicer and wouldn't radicalize young women?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/25 02:22 AM
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That is an absolutely terrifying statistic and makes me very glad to be single.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/25 07:54 PM
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men usually want the leader role, especially successful ones Nah. Usually the men most obsessed with dominating women are the most insecure ones. The ones that are not satisfied and at ease with themselves, always thinking they have to compete with other men, and "at least" they get to dominate their woman. Have you never heard of the fact that the typical dominatrix clients are usually very successful, high-powered men?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/25 07:55 PM
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Oh PPD, never change. This is truly unbeatable comedy. This guy clamors for wholesome women, yet has a whole thread about how he essentially manipulated his girlfriend into a threesome and nutted bare into the other woman. My guy. No wholesome woman would want to be in the same room as you, let alone think of marrying you.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/25 10:45 PM
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Hi, I'm a millenial woman (not 40 yet tho) who's explicitly into men who don't act or look typically masculine (in the "rugged", "alpha", "dominant" sense), I like submissive men sexually, and I find a lot of east asian men very attractive. But yeah my preferences are not super common among my peers, will admit that.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/25 09:34 PM
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Can't speak for them cause I'd never date a trad masc man, but one potential reason is that pretty twinky men are just sadly extremely rare, especially above the age of 30, and in certain cultures even more so (like the US it seems, at least outside major cities). So they might be settling for a stable man, but their loins in actuality burn for hot androgynous men.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/25 11:23 PM
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You haven't met many women then lol. Certainly not many kpop fans for example. Women 30ies and up still cream their pants over Park Jimin. Saw your comment below, yeah can't speak for the southern US, I wouldnt wanna be buried dead there. Situation is very different in Europe or Asia
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/25 10:07 PM
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I would be up for that only if I'd really known him for a long time (6+ months at least) and trust was already established. I'd have to have at least a pretty good assessment of his character. I'm generally highly concerned about safety. Also, if there was any inkling of him doing this with sexual intent, I'd also decline. I'm not gonna have sex in the first few weeks of dating, I'm actually technically still a virgin, had my first sorta-sexual experiences irl at 30+ and it took a loooong time. …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/25 07:55 PM
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Yeah I have that too, although for me it's not AS extreme. But I will say I do think a lot less of people (as in, I pity them and .... whatever it is they clearly lack) when they don't love or at least like The Lord of the Rings. When I was younger and we all still lived at home, I also regularly made my younger siblings watch my favorite movies and tv shows with me (after I had already watched them and decided they were great, of course). A lot of the times they liked them too, but often not AS…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/25 03:27 PM
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This is an extremely good read, though kinda brutal, of many (not all) autistic men. I've only relatively recently realized I'm most likely on the autism spectrum, and I definitely have ADHD. I'm high masking though and have strong empathy, to the point where I often function as a therapist for friends and family. I had 2 relations (not actual relationships, more like friendships with the possibility of romance that ultimately didn't go anywhere) with definitely autistic men (most likely Asperge…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/25 03:09 PM
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I 100% concur with this, as a ND woman. Especially with the STRONG need for alone time, plus I also really enjoy making someone I like watch something I like and hoping for them to like it too. Idk if that's an autism thing or just a human thing tbh.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/25 03:00 PM
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Sex after 2 dates with the idea that it will lead to a relationship is not really casual sex though, it's just naive. Most women who have experienced this once or even a few times, and didn't like it, learn from it and set stricter rules for commitment in the future. (Which lots of the casually inclined guys complain about of course.) Also there is a very very big and broad area between sex after 2 dates and sex after 6 months, which I'd say most womens' first sex habits fall into. And dating an…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 10:23 PM
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Are you ..... trying to shame women who've had casual sex, while complaining that women don't care about men who can't get laid?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 10:11 PM
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Completely false, and I'm very sure you know this, but I'm still gonna spell it out for you in case you don't: Most women want a relationship, much fewer women want casual sex. If you want casual sex, you're competing for maybe 20% of women, whereas if you want a relationship, you're competing for 80-90% of women. Much better odds. Based on these odds, and so many more men than women wanting casual sex, the market for casual sex is completely skewed. Women, just like all humans, are gonna shoot …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 10:05 PM
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difficult love life Difficult love life is if you're lonely and can't find a relationship. I do feel empathy for people like this, unless they're hateful sexist assholes like many incels sadly are. However, I don't feel sad at all for anyone who can't get casual sex, that's just fulfilling a selfish desire for horny lust and doesn't substantially improve anyone's life.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 09:47 PM
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Sliver of sympathy just means to say something along the lines of " Damn I feel you, this is really hard " in a genuine way, thats it. Nothing else. I don't see casual sex as a good thing. A guy who wants casual sex is not a guy I wanna date. So I don't see it as a positive goal for a man to have, so I would I support it? (I don't "shame" people for it either, it's a free world and people can do whatever they want. I just personally don't see it as a good thing for myself or people I wanna date.…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 09:39 PM
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Why are you having sex with dudes like this? I'd be so incredibly icked out from him refusing a condom, I wouldn't want anything to do with him anymore
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 09:37 PM
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If a woman wants to avoid dying alone, she definitely shouldn't be marrying a man older than her (though that's what most red pill men prefer and talk about constantly). Even same age won't do, since men on average tend to die a few years earlier. Ladies, you heard it here first, if you wanna avoid your last years on earth being lonely and dying along, get with a younger man.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/25 12:47 AM
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Wow, I guess I'm really a picky bish, cause none of those are attractive to me. Closest to my type would be 12, but he's TOO skeletal and doesn't look healthy, and 9 is already too ripped for me, do not like those abs. I like actual twinks, skinny-lean, with some muscle tone, but not bulky or ripped at all. I guess "slender" and "svelte" are good words for my type. The last man I dated was 125 lbs at 5'9. This is ideal for me: https://pbs.twimg.com/media/GVAxNfGaYAAiEZz?format=jpg&name=4096x4096…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/25 10:16 AM
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Okay, so you have zero reading comprehension, have a nice life (full of awful sex most likely)
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 06:35 PM
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Why are you obsessed with reaching rather obscure super-deep in potential pleasure spots that not even every woman has or responds positively to, but ignore the clitoris RIGHT UP FRONT? This will never make sense to me about the whole big dick debate debacle. It seems this is not about women's pleasure at all (cause then you'd focus on the clit), but all about mens' ego about having the biggest, and desperately trying to find reasons to validate their idea that "big is best", no matter if actual…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 04:20 PM
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Why does it seem superfluous? Either that handle is "ironic" or it's in self pity, basically expressing "woe is me, all women want big dick alphas". Then his comment here might have been made from the self pity, basically saying "mostly all sex is PIV anyways, which means, woe is me, my poor small beta dick won't ever be enough". To which I am saying: that mindset in itself is huge and utter self own, not just cause of the self pity and insecurity, but also, because a dude with a small/ smaller …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 03:39 PM
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How does that make it any less of a self own to say that sex is mostly PIV (for him)?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 03:07 PM
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Do you not realize what a big self own this is? 😭
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 02:52 PM
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to be privileged by its nature doesn’t require an enjoyment of it to be experienced. I guess I technically agree. For example, a man doesn't have to want to become president of the USA in order for him to have the privilege of having better chances at this than a female version of himself. However, in the case of the female privilege of having many men want sex with you when you don't want to: for many women, they do constantly experience disadvantages because of this. I have to wade through hor…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/25 12:50 AM
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I don't even understand what you're trying to say. You were responding to a post that explains why MANY WOMEN (not just me, I didn't even make that post, it was another woman, so we're at least two lmao) are not interested in casual sex. You then compared this to a McDonalds meal and said, hey, well even if you don't like it (casual sex / McDonalds) that much, it's still an option. That might be true for some women, I mean clearly some women do have casual sex. Many don't, I'm one of those, and …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/25 12:33 AM
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The rules of logic. You want to compare apples to oranges to invalidate someone else's argument? It is not apples to oranges though!!! ... it only is if you think a heterosexual mate option is inherently more valuable or important for some reason than a homosexual one. If so, why do you think so? I don't get it. You and me are both equally uninterested in a random man. Why is him being into me any "privilege" to me? Is it a privilege to you when a gay man is into you? Is it a privilege to you wh…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/25 12:27 AM
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Wait, so ... you claim to speak for all men? I'm not that arrogant. I only speak for myself, but given the responses in this thread, it seems that a lot of women think kinda similar. I'm not speaking for them though, they are.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/25 12:11 AM
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You can toss the rules of logic out the window if you want, just be aware that you can't just selectively do that with the arguments you don't like, otherwise it's having your cake and eating it too. What rules? Heterosexuality? Just because I'm heterosexual does not mean I have to be with a man at any given time. If my choice is between a man I'm not into and no man, I will choose "no man" 100% of the time. Just like I choose "no woman" 100% of the time, cause I'm not into women. That's why the…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/25 12:09 AM
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Not all women are like me. I am speaking for myself as someone who does not have sex unless I have strong romantic and sexual interest in a specific man.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/25 12:05 AM
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But I hope you're not implying that heterosexual women are attracted to men to the same degree that heterosexual men are attracted to gay men. That is EXACTLY what it is. How is this news?! If you're not attracted to someone, how the fuck does it matter if they're a woman, a man or an alien? Unless I happen to find you attractive, you as a man are JUST as attractive to me as the average woman. Which is to say, not at all. Not in the least, not in the slighest, zero percent. I understand this mig…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/25 12:01 AM
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It’s an advantage when you’re looking to get with said gender. Okay, how about you get unlimited sexual access to hundreds of 95 year old obese women witih sores. Happy? You're straight, so you should be happy! Apparently I have to give such an extreme example to make it clear to men just HOW unwanted sexual attraction from men we aren't into is. You still seem to think we should consider it an "option" cause we're straight or something. Trust me, it's not. Not any more than you see those 95 yea…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/25 11:58 PM
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'I don't like McDonalds as much as my friend does It's not about "not liking it AS much". It's about not liking or tolerating it at all. It's like getting free steaks every day when you're a vegan. It's like getting free peanuts every day when you're allergic to them. It's zero benefit but actually ADDS danger. Trust me, if I could make myself completely unattractive to every single man except my chosen partner, I would immediately do that, and so would MANY other women (not all ofc, a whole gen…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/25 11:53 PM
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So is your argument that women are inherently homosexual? Is your argument that women are inherently asexual? Is your argument that women don’t like sex or men inherently? Sigh. Gonna explain it to you too. Gender doesn't matter when you're not attracted. If my attraction to a random person off the street is 0%, it does not matter if they're a man or a woman. I don't want it. I do not find the average man more sexually attractive than the average woman. I find a few men VERY sexually attractive,…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/25 11:46 PM
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The equivalent is not sleeping with the gender you're not attracted to, the equivalent would be sleeping with as many ugly women as they want. Gender doesn't matter when you're not attracted, how do you not get this? I'm just as not attracted to the average guy as I am to the average woman. If anything, if you forced me to have sex with either a random woman or a random man, I'd pick the woman, cause at least she can't get me pregnant and it's not gonna physically hurt. And yes, I'm fucking stra…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/25 11:43 PM
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Trust me, I am not any more attracted to the average man than you are. It baffles my mind that men don't see this, but I guess that's because the average man does have a bit of a baseline sexual attraction to the average woman, even if he doesn't find her particularly amazing. I don't think the reverse is true for the average woman, and definitely not for the more picky or introvert women that are fine with being alone.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/25 10:02 PM
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Dominant women are focused on what the men want and restrict/adorn themselves for male approval, Oh absolutely not. Maybe if they're selling it, in male oriented porn, or if they're a service dom, but otherwise no. I mean, it's up to the individual couple, everyone can do what they want, but this wouldn't be my thing at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/25 03:56 AM
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I'm neither religious nor traditional and still not interested in casual sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/25 02:40 AM
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No. People of both genders of course do settle in terms of looks, all the time. However, since many men claim to care about little other than looks ... for them settling must be really terrible. You only care about looks, and you really want that 10/10, but you only get a 5/10, and you don't care about anything else about her anyways (except maybe "don't be a bitch"). So why do men like this settle? Just to have "someone", though they don't even like her. And that's how these relationships will …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/25 09:13 PM
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This honestly seems like a big cultural divide to me. Over here in (western) Europe the majority of men are like you. Not all, ofc. Over here it's also majorly the more educated and somewhat "liberal" ones who think this way. In the US, people on average (both men and women) seem to lean more "trad". All these men gloating about wanting a pretty bangmaid who's also a virign. All these women who insist on men paying for the first date and preferably also lots of other gifts. It seems WILD to me. …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/25 12:11 AM
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the male POV is doesn't matter had sex. the posts you'll see of "i'm a 24yo old virgin and i'm cooked" are mostly by men, most men don't have the struggles you listed during sex. they just want sex and it to happen, the risk they'll care about after when their sex hormones or whatever wear off. You're probably correct, and while everyone is different, I don't think I'm the only woman who finds this a really repulsive attitude to have. Also seems really immature. I would never date or have sex wi…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 11:52 PM
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Do they want that because they truly value it in itself, or because they find it important that the woman is less experienced relative to him, so that he can feel like the dominant leader, and also so that she doesn't have more comparison to look back on than he does?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 11:48 PM
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100% agree with your very romantic take :)
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 11:46 PM
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Thank you for that very reasoned response, I agree with everything you said.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 11:45 PM
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Yeah sure buddy, women don't actually enjoy receiving oral sex 😭 I mean every individual does have different preferences, but please. That's like saying men don't enjoy blowjobs, they only like them cause it means women are in a submissive position there. I mean for some that might be part of it, but LOL if you think that's the sole reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 11:36 PM
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Men are criticized for being bad sexual partners, which usually means selfish, pushy, having porn expectations, unwilling or seemingly incapable of listening to feedback, and so on. Most reasonable woman would love a man with no experience but who's actually interested in and capable of learning what YOU like. Provided of course that they find him attractive in the first place.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 11:28 PM
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Wouldn't being trad make a woman more likely to avoid virgins? Trad means believing in traditional gender roles, like a man should be masculine and dominant and a go-getter and "not a pussy". The man should be more experienced than the woman in almost anything, including sex. I'm very not trad and I find male virgins very attractive, cause I don't want my men to be dominant or require them to be more experienced than me so that they can "lead" me.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 11:25 PM
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I would tell a girl "I can walk down a University road and literally see 50 different women I'd have no problem boning". And they would say while that can also happen to them it's not nearly as common. Your tastes are just way less discriminatory, or in other words, women are way more selective. Not only will much fewer men actually appeal to me physically so strongly that it causes a visceral reaction and grabs my attention, but also not even the hottest man on earth could make me want to have …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 09:54 PM
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All the stats that I see are how harshly men are graded on physical attractiveness especially on apps (which are now the place where people meet the most). Apps are a terrible place to compare perceived attractiveness, especially because of these 2 factors: Way more men than women on there. Anything scarce will immediately appear more valuable and attractive. Men don't know and / or often actively do not care about actually trying to appeal to women. Many men seem to think it's beneath them or "…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 09:41 PM
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Do you think most ugly men would truly choose an ugly woman as their first choice, if they had other, more attractive options? Please.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 09:35 PM
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Your argument is so dumb it hurts my brain. Do you really think a group of woman never ogles a hot guy walking by? You seem to have this almost pathological need to claim that men are sooooooo extremely different from women. Your boners are completely special. ... they are not. Women also get immediately attracted to hot people, and feel either an intrinsic want to bone them right then, or (depending on her personality) to get to know them well and if they like them, THEN bone them. For a long t…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 09:25 PM
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All I am saying is that it’s at the very least odd that women claim they hate this stuff but without them films like 50 shades wouldn’t even make it into production. Crazy idea that these are completely different women, huh?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/25 07:03 AM
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The problem is that some men do it to EVERY woman they sleep with, including the ones who didn't ask for it. In the sick assumption that she's probably gonna like it. And if not? They just committed sexual assault without a care.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/25 07:01 AM
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There's TONS of women who don't like them. Almost nothing is "a given" in sex, almost any "active" act should be asked first. You should ask before you shove your penis in someone's mouth, you should ask before you put your finger or dick in someone, no matter their gender. They might want the act but not YET. And if this basic concept of consent applies to acts that are legit 99% mainstream, then they go DOUBLY for acts that are at best liked by 50% of women, like the "light BDSM" in question h…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/25 07:00 AM
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You just casually confessed that you think it's normal to commit violent acts onto people without asking them first, just cause "it's mainstream". I hope all women who have this shit done to them immediately call the cops.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/25 06:43 AM
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Bro. Femdom porn is also popular. Would you think it's cool if a woman randomly spanks or chokes you without asking first?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/25 06:41 AM
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Choking can literally cause brain damage, even days after. Read up on carotid dissection. I'm a doctor and anyone who likes to be choked is either clueless or mentally unwell, and anyone who likes to choke others is a danger to society.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/25 06:19 AM
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Well, it's men and women. OP states that afterwards. You never mentioned why women would view men this way, and yet talk later about needing to feel comfortable around men for sex. Doesn't that answer your question? Cause the thread is about men caring about men. Women who look down on men for being weak are acting equally shitty. Men see these men as lesser because women do. That makes them more attractive, liked, and comfortable to be around. Yes, some women are attracted to bullies (which is …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 07:10 PM
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Yes, u are allowed to share your opinion, as everyone is on the Internet. If u are allowed to have preferences, why are u concerned that some people ALSO have their own preferences that could be dating 18 year olds or for girls dating guys in their late 20s? I'm not concerned. I wouldn't date a much older guy when I was younger, and I still wouldn't unless it was a coincidental meeting and he never looked for a younger woman in the first place. Provided I'm attracted to him, which is rare for me…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 07:05 PM
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So if an 18 year old girl says she is into guys that are 19-25 (not her age) would u also get repulsed, Repulsed is too strong a word, but perplexed, and I'd assume she's a sugar baby. I personally don't hold a lot of respect for women who choose that route, but it's a free world. What if girl doesn't want anything long term with the older dude and just wants short term fun? What if she is into being "submissive" while hoping that the dude is super dominant? They can knock themselves out. I don'…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 06:39 PM
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The men who need help the most are seen as the weakest people on Earth. That's just incredibly sad, isn't it? Why would men themselves go along with it? Seems like a crabs in a bucket mentality. Everyone wants to be the one on top and the rest can go die for all they care. Every male friend group I've had in the past has been about helping each other get more sex. This is absolutely insane to me. I'm not a guy but I'm pretty sure this isn't the case for male friends groups everywhere. However, a…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 06:35 PM
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Dude, I remember being in my 20ies back on okcupid, where you could see the age range anybody had selected for themselves. When I was 23 and saw a 27 y/o dude's profile that said "looking for: women age 18-26", you bet your ass I was SO repulsed. Not even his own age? Yeah good luck my dude You seem to forget that most smart young women know that they themselves won't stay young forever, so if a dude has a strong fetish for young age, it would be a really bad decision to bet on anything long ter…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 06:12 PM
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I would wager that there is a disproportionate supply of sub men over dom women. This is my impression too, though it's unfortunate. I bet part of it at least is culturally / socially influenced, by religion, social norms, etc. However, yeah. I would still encourage those men to try to find a woman who would compliment their true desires, cause that's by far the best way to live. And if sadly this isn't feasible, then at least try to find a "neutral" situation, instead of opting for the literal …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/25 04:17 AM
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Yes, of course. For both people, no matter the gender.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/25 03:21 AM
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What I do know is that gender roles seem to be far more entrenched in american dating culture. The whole "dating" concept in general, with going on explicit lavish "dates" and the idea (that many american women support too) that the man has to plan and pay to show that he's a "provider" .... all of that is WILD to me. In my country, you go on dates to the park or get coffee or whatever, at least for the first date, to see if there's even compatibility. And most people prefer going dutch (I mean …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/25 03:00 AM
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No. I do have american friends though. Why?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/25 02:47 AM
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Germany.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/25 02:40 AM
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Fair enouth, nothing wrong with personal preference. Just don't claim biological determinism.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/25 02:36 AM
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Fair enough. I'm just watching these spaces as an outside with a mix of horror and fascination, like a car crash.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/25 02:35 AM
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The point is that women are going for top tier guys who tend to fall in that dominant category. Who is "women"? What is "top tier guys"? Most relationships I know have 2 people from very similar socioeconomic and educational backgrounds as well as "looks-matched" and similar in lifestyle, so they're egalitarian that way. And like I said, I know many relationships that are slightly "female-led" (without being over the top) in which both partners seem happy and satisfied. TRP is just telling men w…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/25 02:34 AM
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And that's perfectly fine. I identify a lot with that description too. Not sure what you're arguing for or against here, though? My argument was that not all women enjoy being submissive, just not all men enjoy being dominant. Everyone should try to find a partner that is complimentary to them. In my opinion it's just stupid to bring gender into this, yet TRP constantly insists on this. It's part of what makes it trad and patriarchal and not just outdated, but plain wrong in my opinion.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/25 02:04 AM
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I personally deal with a lot of responsibility during most of my days and I want to feel like I have a partner who can effectively take some of that burden away when we're together. This is often true for submissive men too. (Both sexually submissive and "relationally" submissive.) However, many people also take lots of responsibility in their job but still prefer "calling the shots" in their personal life or sexually. I truly believe it has nothing at all to do with your job and is just an inna…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/25 01:57 AM
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I do think relationships can be completely egalitarian, but I will say that in real life I've noticed the vast majority of relationships do have one part that "calls the shots" a little more than the other person. One person that likes to defer a bit to the other person sometimes, let them make more of the decisions. However, at least in my egalitarian european country, there's a LOT of happy relationships with the woman being the one slightly more being the captain of the ship. And either way, …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/25 01:54 AM
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Many men would love to live the life described in the "red pill advice for women" category (including the being submissive and obedient to their partner stuff) but they would never get any pussy if they tried that. Then they should stop being so boring and go look for female dommes, we're out there. Yes, apparently less common than subby women, but so are gay men and women, and that's not holding them back trying to find the right partner for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/25 01:35 AM
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Wish I could upvote twice!
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/25 01:32 AM
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I mean, yeah, redpill is about the reality of maximizing mate potential. If your goal isn't maximizing mate potential, don't listen. Nobody cares. Only if your idea of "maximized mate potential" follows very traditional gender norms, including other things. If a woman isn't into "very masculine, dominant, provider men", following TRP advice would not serve her well at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/25 01:31 AM
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I assume it's mostly a kink thing. Lots of women for some reason love BDSM with the man being the dominant part, look at the success of 50 shades of whatever booktok is currently praising. This just fills that niche I guess. And also, being raised traditionally or religiously, some might just think this is the natural order and their duty. Look at how many millions of women truly believe in extremely patriarchal religions and let themselves be subjugated because of that.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/25 01:29 AM
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Being submissive isn’t constraining if you find a man you want to submit to. This is hilarious. Guess what, it's not constraining for you as a man either, if you find a woman you want to submit to. I assume you just wouldn't want that. Now imagine this: a lot of women also don't want to submit.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/25 01:23 AM
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RPW is for women who want to have a male-led LTR. How does one end up in that place, as a woman? Why would any woman want to be "led" by a man? Is this a kink thing?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/25 01:21 AM
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Those women aren't making ideal choices, not my problem though. Most men also care more about cup size than loyalty or intelligence, also not my problem. Doesn't mean that it's not incongruent to insist on something for ethical reasons / marriage success, that you don't fulfill yourself. It's like being a notorious cheater but not wanting to date another cheater.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/25 06:50 PM
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It would be equivalent to a man taking all these random women to Michelin star restaurants and fun activities like sky diving/boating/whatever, but the girl he likes, he splits the bill at McDonald’s. It's also equivalent to a man doing a bunch of random fucking himself, and then demanding a pure madonna, cause "men and women are different", as if mattered one bit here
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/25 03:03 PM
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I, too, had high standards. I just set my parameters narrower and talked to fewer men on a deeper level. Almost all of them met my standards for morals/values/life/the future, that way I just chose on chemistry and attraction. How exactly do you propose doing that on a dating app? Most profiles do not give much of anything to work with. Yes, I try to only match with profiles that DO have something to work with, but then that leads to only swiping on 1 out of 200 men or so. And even then, you can…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/25 02:16 PM
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Honestly, I don't know what they want and sometimes I don't think they know either. Have you ever thought that maybe different women experience things differently, have different physical and emotional makeups, and like different things? You will have no problem finding women who like penetration above all else, and women who would gladly go without it forever. And a lot in between.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/25 06:33 AM
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She could "consent" and enjoy sex thoroughly, sure, but when things go wrong, she will be the one bearing the lion's share of the consequences. She will also be seen by a lot of men as having "lost" something in the encounter, as being made less valuable now. The sex itself is seen by what I would say is a majority of men as something that is done TO her, she was "conquered", she "got fucked", etc. These are terms used daily by men.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/25 06:31 AM
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People are generally preferential of a dynamic that involves a more dominant person and a more submissive person. It's a dynamic that exists even amongst lesbians where neither of them are male or have a penis Yeah, and that dynamic in hetero relationships can also be a more dominant woman with a more submissive man.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/25 12:19 AM
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"High value" is a man who's romantic, looking for a highly compatible partner, not interested in casual sex. A man who's thoughtful, empathetic, kind, and sees sex as a connection and expression of love. If he's not that, I don't want him.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/25 09:39 AM
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High value men can get sex from other women easily no matter what so they won’t wait. Great, then they can go and do that. They clearly aren't "high value men" in my eyes. High value to me is a man who shares my values. The best strategy is to find a man you really, really like and give him everything quickly and maximally. Literally an oxymoron. I can't "really really like" a guy if I don't know him well. It takes time and effort to really get to know someone, to find out whether I really reall…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/25 09:34 AM
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A lot of women, yes. Not all. "it's hard for me to see a girl respecting and looking up to a dude that enjoys being dominated." is what you said, and that just seems like your idea of women (and men) is kinda limited.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/25 03:45 AM
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Men can be submissive, women can be dominant. Both can be switches. More news at 11. Seriously, is TRP stuck in the 1800's?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/25 03:30 AM
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Leaving aside the OP ... how does this make sense? If you tried anal before and hated it, why should you be "obligated" to try it again with another partner? That sounds completely irrational. Even most children are smart enough not to put their hand on the hot stove again if it hurt them in the first place. Why the fuck would I intentionally do something again that hurt or was otherwise a shitty experience? Now ofc, if the other partner really really really loves anal and can't imagine their se…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/25 03:20 AM
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No, not "men". Just some men, like you and your friend.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/25 07:32 PM
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You and your friend are both misogynists, and this woman should be glad to be away from both of you.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/25 10:36 PM
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You take it as an insult when it's the opposite. People go for people they have things in common with, usually. Someone who finds sex to be something really intimate and personal is most likely gonna want a partner who sees it the same way, to share this very special experience with, and cause they might see promiscuous people as "sluts". Gender is irrelevant here. Whereas someone who sees it as a fun recreational activity, is gonna want a partner who also sees it that way, and might see people …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/25 08:46 AM
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Until you get a stomach bug. Or get prescribed some antibiotic that unbeknownst to you messes with your BC. Or you're traveling or a shift worker and happen to forget one dose cause of the different time schedules. Plus BC does fuck all to protect against STD's. So unless it's a stable LTR where both people have gotten tested, I'd never go without a condom.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/25 04:26 PM
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A psychologically healthy man would also only enjoy sex if his female partner enjoyed it. Anything else is severely rapey.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/24 10:59 AM
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If you look at SOME of the things that give women the ick, it’s things that make the man look emasculate or childish for a moment like chasing a ping pong ball, jumping on a trampoline, using emojis in texts, etc. ... which is a sign how different women are attracted to completely different things. Cause for every woman like you describe, there's women who go CRAZY for men who do the exact things you describe. Do you see the massive followings guys like Harry Styles or kpop boygroups have? You c…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/24 12:05 PM
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So you want a woman to be forced to be with you, forced to have sex with you, with no option for her to leave you. I mean, I get why to a sociopath man this would sound like a good idea, but why exactly do you think any woman ever would consider this a good idea?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/24 01:05 PM
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Alos why the fuck would you date a older women when those women most likely would have ignored you when both of you were young. This logic has never made sense to me, cause it's not literally the same people. They didn't know you back then. By the same vein, you could say, why would you date a younger woman if she would have ignored you if you were the same age?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 10:33 AM
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Yes, when they leave it out they'll get MORE matches, but lower quality ones.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/24 05:10 PM
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We completely agree on that. I'm just wondering about where the like or dislike comes from.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/24 06:10 PM
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I'm not remotely talking about "what is possible," I'm talking about what is. Huh? Yeah, so am I. I am just confused by the claim that people are or should be only attracted to people of their own sexuality. It kinda makes no sense to me. I'm a fully heterosexual woman, and I am attracted to both straight men and bi men. Would you say this makes me not fully heterosexual?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/24 06:01 PM
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Again, you are acting like bisexuality and heterosexuality are interchangeable. They are not. They are entirely different sexual orientations. It requires no more "thinking" for a heterosexual person to be turned off by a bisexual person than it does a heterosexual person to be turned off by a homosexual person. It's extremely disingenuous to act like sexual orientation shouldn't matter when it comes to what we're sexually attracted to. Firstly, I agree with you that attraction is personal and n…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/24 05:49 PM
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Childcare is ridiculously expensive in Switzerland, so much so that most women stay home for the children cause it makes no sense to work just to pay for childcare. Apparently this is wanted by the conservative government. Maternity leave is way way worse than Germany for example. I would know, I'm a german woman contemplating going back to switzerland for my career, but having a child in Switzerland would be much worse financially than having a child in Germany. ... not that it matters much, co…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/24 04:55 PM
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Now you're just moving the goalposts. It doesn't actually matter that someone's fertile, only that they're fertile in the way YOU prefer. It doesn't matter that someone's a virgin, only if they're a type of virgin YOU prefer. Just say you want young pretty women, and admit you don't care about the other things.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 05:16 AM
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Now you're just moving the goalposts. It doesn't actually matter that someone's fertile, only that they're fertile in the way YOU prefer. It doesn't matter that someone's a virgin, only if they're a type of virgin YOU prefer. Just say you want young pretty women, and admit you don't care about the other things.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 05:16 AM
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I'm a female virgin who has frozen my eggs. Do I eternally beat the wall?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 03:41 AM
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Let's say she has a low b*** c****. She has been to most restaurants. How can Basic Bob "woo" and "excite" her? She has probably traveled. Basic Bob saved up enough money just to hear her say, "Been here with my ex." If Basic Bob tries to buy her a Chanel bag, that bag is being tossed in the closet with the bag she received from past men. And even if she rarely dated, she spent her own money on restaurants, travel, goods, and experiences. Basic Bob must complete with her. Unless Bob is above her…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 03:39 AM
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I mean, many men on the other hand would not even be friends with a woman they don't find at least a little bit attractive. That's even worse in terms of shallowness.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/24 12:52 AM
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Yes, because women are people, just like men. Some women, just like some men, are very stupid and very shallow. Do you think a profile of a hot woman with a despicable bio would not get a lot of likes? How is this a surprise to anyone? And how does this make anyone generalize that ALL WOMEN MUST BE LIKE THAT?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/24 04:14 AM
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Well if that's the case, if I can't tell which woman is gonna get dry as the Sahara as soon as I tell her I like cuddle time and The Notebook, then I'm never going to show that side. Nope, I love big trucks and football only if that's the case. So your goal is just to end up with A woman, doesn't matter what the woman is like? You're willing to be with someone who has a shit character and would leave you for showing weakness or being your real self? Why not have some god damn standards? Also, ha…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/24 04:01 AM
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God forbid a man have dating preferences. If your dating preference is "hot bikini clad surfer girls", you're pathetic for complaining about her being hot in a bikini while surfing. He wanted his cake and eat it too; get the hot surfer bikini chick and then make her into a modest housewife. Why not take a modest girl from the start? Cause, oh, they're boring.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 02:03 PM
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But you're impulsive yourself?? I don't think I'll ever understand this mindset. YOU SLEPT WITH HER TOO. You did the same thing. If anything, you probably pursued it more strongly in the case of average straight interactions. You were just the 100th guy to ask this month and she finally gave in cause she liked something about you. Why would any woman want a casual sex guy for LTR, to raise her kids? He's much more prone to cheating than a low n guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/23 01:25 AM
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You're like the 10th guy who's explaining that the status quo exists. Yeah, women are pickier, men will fuck sooner, of course that's happening. The question is WHY would you judge a woman for going to bed with you. She had more options, yes. Chances are you put in some more work (asked her out first, "made the moves", etc.) So? If anything, if we're judging by sinfulness and if see see casual sex as something sinful ... isn't it much harder to actively refuse something everyday? Women are bomba…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/23 01:23 AM
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You're explaining the status quo, not why a man would consider it a bad thing if a woman is less picky than average.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/23 07:43 PM
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You're explaining the status quo, not why a man would consider it a bad thing if a woman is less picky than average.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/23 07:43 PM
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You're explaining the status quo, not why a man would consider it a bad thing if a woman is less picky than average.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/23 07:43 PM
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Non sequitur. Yes, women ARE usually more picky for various reasons. But why would you think they're "supposed" to do that? Why would a MAN of all people think that? Shouldn't he be happy if a woman is less picky, instead of being like "ew, she actually wants me, I don't want that one"? Again, I'm very low n count and would only ever date a fellow low n count man, so I'm just morbidly curious what goes on in the minds of people who think so differently.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/23 07:41 PM
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Good luck trying to find a low n count woman who's fine with marrying a former manwhore. It's theoretically possible I guess, especially if she's very demure, but not very likely.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/23 07:39 PM
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She'll be able to tell he doesn't have much experience, she can't know whether he's a virgin. Same for the woman, esp. if she's used dildos before. It's usually common tell the other person, though nobody has to.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/23 07:36 PM
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I'm a very low n count woman, yet this topic still bothers me. If a man has this kind of outlook on women, I'd never date him. I wouldn't want to date a man anyways who engaged in much casual sex (trying it out once or twice would be okay, just to see that it's not for him). But what would be most important is that he'd see the women he slept with as equals that he fully respects. They had fun, they wish each other the best, they part ways and respect each other. I could never take a man serious…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/23 05:53 PM
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Women who have casual sex shame men who struggle with women all the the time. They have no ground to stand on in this conversation. Non-sequitur. The equivalent would be female virgins shaming male virgins. Which I don't think happens very often.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/23 05:44 PM
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Sure you can do that, but it's still hypocritical. You either believe what you're doing is right, or you don't. If you have casual sex, you must think it's right to have it. But then you look down on the person who's currently doing the exact same thing?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/23 05:43 PM
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It’s not hypocritical if one thinks that women are the gatekeepers of sex. But it’s not hypocritical of one believes that women are the ones who are supposed to be picky about whom they choose to have sex with and not men. No, that's exactly what's so hypocritical about it. Why should there be a "gatekeeper of sex", and why does it have to always fall on the woman? Why would you believe women are supposed to be picky and not men? To think that in the first place is highly hypocritical.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/23 05:38 PM
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