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It’s not that the low n women are generally grossed out by the high n men’s count; it’s that they’re as equally grossed out by the low n hunters’ attitudes as the high n women are.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/23 01:10 PM
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Promiscuity and casual sex frequency being correlated doesn’t make promiscuity impulsive behavior in and of itself. People are either comfortable with having casual sex or they are not, and they act accordingly. It may just be that more impulsive people tend to be comfortable with it, and less impulsive people tend not to be. But that doesn’t mean every person that has casual sex is impulsive or having it impulsively, nor that every person who avoids casual sex is not impulsive. There are people…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/23 01:05 PM
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Casual sex isn’t an indication of impulsivity if the person having it sees no reason not to have it. It would be impulsive if a person was intentionally trying not to have it, but failed, but that’s not what most people having casual sex are attempting. That’s like saying, “reading books is so impulsive!” A person who reads would be like, “what are you talking about? There’s no reason not to read and I’m not trying to abstain from books, so why is it impulsive, exactly?”
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/23 01:04 PM
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Women also lose half of the mutual property and wealth during a divorce. Say the marital assets between a couple are, for simplicity purposes, one house, two cars, and 500k in savings/investments. The couple divorces and split the assets 50/50. They sell the house and move into smaller, less valuable houses. They each get one car and 250k worth of the savings/investments. Both of them are objectively less well off compared to when they both had access to all of the assets as a married couple. No…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/23 01:00 PM
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You wouldn’t force yourself to date someone you don’t want to date. You would examine your internal beliefs, where they come from, and what concepts they’re rooted in. Then you address whether they’re serving you or hindering you, not just in dating but in all aspects of your life. Then you let go of and change the beliefs that are hindrances, and see if your preferences change. I’ll do an example. Belief: “Women who have lots of partners are used and dirty.” Where that comes from: “I view sex a…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/23 12:11 PM
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Your boyfriend’s kind of a dick and you should probably break up with him. He thinks you having sex with him makes you dirty, and less valuable. Why? Because he sees himself as dirty and a devaluation to you. Why the fuck would you want that? Run. Find someone with healthy views on sex and women
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/23 11:17 AM
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Idk, have you thought about maybe being a person with an attractive personality and not playing games with sex?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/23 11:13 AM
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Perform boyfriend duties for some bitch you don’t even like until she gives you a crumb of pussy. Super alpha brah
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/23 03:07 AM
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Eat my nuts, @mods https://imgur.com/a/Ew4wKnp
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/23 03:04 AM
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I don’t see how sleeping with a woman early on gives you greater power to either deny a relationship or enter into one, though. That’s what you said originally. She either wants more than sex with him or she doesn’t, regardless of how early they have sex. And vice versa, I think.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/23 01:51 PM
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That still doesn’t give men who have sex early on any greater power. Either she wants to date him or she doesn’t. It takes ongoing mutual consent to form a relationship
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/23 01:24 PM
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Some of them don’t, but I don’t see how that gives them more power to determine whether a relationship happens
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/23 12:58 PM
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Depends how fat you are. Very fat people sweat a lot more, and morbidly obese people are at a higher risk of certain infections between their skin folds, often because of a lack of mobility needed to wash beneath them.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/23 09:54 AM
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I have seen many young girls who look much older, and I only realize that they’re not that old because they’re getting on a school bus, or they’re in my step daughters’ grades, or they’re holding the hand of a boy who obviously hasn’t hit puberty yet. Teenage boys look like teenage boys, and they’re not walking around shirtless in places where it’s inappropriate to be shirtless. They’re also not expressing discomfort over being ogled by adults (now, whether that’s because they’ve been conditione…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/23 06:41 AM
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It’s hard when you can’t go outside with your daughter without seeing half naked girls everywhere, or when you’re processing some childhood trauma. I mourn not being able to have just been a kid. I mourn the way that affected my whole development and a huge chunk of my adult life. I don’t want that for any other child, not my own nor strangers. I get that you’re not concerned about it
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/23 06:16 AM
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I hope to god nothing bad ever happens to them, but wouldn’t you just feel awful if something did and you remember how many times you posted that exact sentiment here? (It’s more than one.) Don’t get lax
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/23 06:12 AM
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I’m a woman (and a mum.) The Taliban would say these girls are sluts and need to wear burkas or that they’re ready to be married off. I am expressing concern that children are being confused for sexual adults because of the way they’re choosing to present themselves, and that maybe just a bit more coverage (a full length tank top that’s not so low cut, and shorts that actually cover their buttcheeks and don’t give them cameltoe, for example) might make them either actually less stared at and sex…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/23 06:09 AM
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The one on the right does. The left looks 18 to me. am in therapy as an adult for some issues related to being sexualized as a child, and now I have a daughter. This is an important thing to worry about.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/23 05:50 AM
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You’re not listening https://twitter.com/FrivviFox/status/1283483956797747200
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/23 05:34 AM
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I mean, cheating is shitty, but it’s shittier coming from the person who’s committed to a woman who just went through nine-ten months of hell, then labor and delivery, and then all the after-effects of postpartum to bear him a child, to whom he owes a stable family… I just don’t see why you’re focused on Ariana here, other than the fact that she’s famous and possibly because she’s female
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/23 05:33 AM
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It’s not just “teens wearing make up.” It’s “children wearing a shit ton of make up that makes them look like 20 yos” Like, okay, maybe a bit of mascara, blush, and some lip gloss would be fine. But when you get rid of your acne, give yourself “siren eyes,” and contour the baby fat out of your face, you don’t look like a kid anymore.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/23 05:24 AM
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Children should not have their breasts and butts on display in order to “look nice.”
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/23 05:22 AM
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I’m not saying that it’s right to leer at children.. but when we’re letting children present themselves as not only as what comes across as adults, but sexualized adults? I think that’s problematic as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/23 05:19 AM
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So… we’re not gonna talk about the fact that a man with a newborn was cheating?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/23 05:14 AM
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Big disagree. It’s just more natural-looking make up now. The “clean girl” aesthetic still requires a large number of product applications, and some girls are using it to make their faces appear more adult. https://youtu.be/OkqxisM4tow
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/23 04:59 AM
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She cheated while pregnant?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/23 04:57 AM
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The opposite of “abuse” isn’t “subtlety.” It’s “respect” and “kindness.” You can be direct, honest, respectful and kind about an issue, and still get the results you want.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/23 04:57 AM
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Yes. A nap + cuddles
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/23 04:23 AM
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Good
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/23 04:07 AM
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Exactly! Like idk when it became acceptable to walk around in basically sports bras and wedgied boyshort underwear in non-athletic settings, but this trend is not good
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/23 04:05 AM
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I feel like 13-17 yos are dressing and wearing full faces of make up in ways that make them look like full grown adults, and then complaining on the internet about how men are so creepy for leering at children. I’m not victim blaming or anything, but I’m also not sure what they expect to happen. I will never, ever let my daughter out of the house looking like some of these girls
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/23 04:00 AM
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There are ways of dealing with it in sensitive, calm, and kind ways… There are so many resources on effective and gentle parenting skills these days that there’s really no excuse to do it any other way. I am so grateful to be a parent in this era.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/23 03:56 AM
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I’m sorry that happened to you. I also think that sort of thing might be relatively common, that spergy people learn to mask well as result of facing bullying, abuse, or unforgiving social environments.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/23 03:48 AM
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18-25 yo men are not attractive
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/23 03:40 AM
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You absolutely can control your voice and body language. That’s what speech therapy and mirrors are for.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/23 03:39 AM
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I would not call that a “high functioning” autistic individual. High functioning autists are capable of learning how to mask so well that they are virtually undetectable. Yes, this is a possibility with lots of dedication, hard work, and intense focus whenever the individual is around others. It is exhausting, but possible. The dude in the video is likely in need of a lot of therapy, based on what he’s saying, in addition to needing to learn to mask.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/23 03:37 AM
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Jesus. Aren’t you sore afterwards? How long do BJs and HJs take?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/23 03:27 AM
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I think women probably look most sexually attractive from ages 18-25. (Probably some earlier in the body, considering girls are unfortunately developing adult-like bodies earlier and earlier these days.) After 25, collagen and hormone production begins to slow, and certain lifestyle choice start catching up with us (like stress, lack of sleep or hydration, not wearing sunscreen, etc.) By 30, the majority of women lose the youthful look.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/23 03:26 AM
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Of actual penetration? Non stop? That’s like, too long I think like 5-20 minutes is ideal. Most of the age peers I got with lasted less than 5. They could go for “multiple rounds,” but that doesn’t matter if they can’t get me off in one round… intermittent sex is just not good
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/23 01:34 AM
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Wait wait wait… Ariana had a baby?!
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/23 01:28 AM
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Youth = fertility. The most attractive female faces exhibit some neotenous features mixed with more adult features (like dark eyebrows and a leaner, more structured face)
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/23 01:25 AM
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Young women are hot no matter how old others get. I don’t see what the issue is.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/23 01:24 AM
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Men’a reactions to compliments are so wholesome and adorable <3
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/23 01:23 AM
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Maybe you should get your hormones checked and stay off of the internet for a while? It’s very unusual for men to not find many women atttactive
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/23 01:21 AM
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Peachy, oniony, sweaty pits!
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/23 01:19 AM
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Depends what they are feeding it and whether it has hormones and stuff
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/23 01:19 AM
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We used to say that last part before every cross country meet… miss those days :,(
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/23 01:15 AM
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I have found that older men tend to last longer
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/23 01:11 AM
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And bad body odor
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/23 01:10 AM
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I feel like you’re assuming that no men are trying to be in committed relationships, which I have not found to be the case
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/23 01:00 AM
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It’s so good to see people who actually understand how stats work.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/23 09:29 PM
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Marriage is nice
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/23 09:26 PM
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I don’t understand how having sex early on in the relationship gives the man more power (to determine whether there will be a relationship?) I slept with lots of guys early on and then decided I didn’t want to date them afterwards, whether because they were bad in bed or just not my cup of tea personality-wise. The ones that rejected me never had sex with me.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/23 09:03 PM
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70
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/23 02:11 PM
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Can I have sex with the attractive poor man until an attractive wealthy man comes along, in this hypothetical?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/23 11:19 PM
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Caretakers and home makers
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/23 11:11 PM
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I expected men to pay because I didn’t have any money, and eventually I came to desire traditional gender roles in which the man is the provider and the woman (me) stays home and contributes to the relationship through unpaid labor. Any man unwilling to demonstrate that he can provide in the simple ways was eliminated from the possibility of a committed relationship with me. I was also perfectly fine with free/cheap dates in the beginning, until he was sure he liked me and wanted to invest in me…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/23 11:07 PM
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Gotta get insurance that has mental health benefits… Idk what your specific issues with dating are to be able to say whether therapy would help or not
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/23 08:21 PM
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Well, it depends on what the issues are. You can’t learn game and how to be attractive from therapy, but you can learn things like how to overcome your insecurities, communicate effectively, avoid abusive relationships, open up to love, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/23 08:19 PM
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I mostly stay at home. I’m a military reservist and coming to the end of my contract, and I drive for Amazon and DoorDash a handful of hours a week.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/23 08:14 PM
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Try a different therapist or kind of therapy? I’ve been through 6 different therapists before one clicked. Yes, it’s exhausting, but it was worth it to find my current one. She is working wonders
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/23 08:13 PM
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He mentioned maybe meeting us somewhere on the weekend portion of the trip, which I would love
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/23 08:11 PM
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Technically me going away for 10 days doesn’t take away from our together-trip time, because him not being able to get away from work right now is the limiting factor here… it will set my savings back a little, yes, but not by too much. Hiking is an inexpensive activity. I should have almost enough to fund an international vacation by the time he can take off work.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/23 08:09 PM
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Oh for sure….In the past, we’ve gone on wonderful vacations together; I think together-trips are always ideal… we’ve just hit a bit of a slow season, financially, and so the only trip we have planned this year is to Disney, because it’s important to his mum (even though we’ve been like 3 times already and I would much rather go somewhere new. Not that I’m ungrateful, but.) So I’m kind of itching to get out on my own.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/23 08:05 PM
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True. What I’ve found is that a good partner will recognize when you’re trying to communicate effectively and understand his feelings, and he is then likely to reciprocate with understanding and willingness to change… a bad partner will not respond this way, and at that point, either couple’s therapy or ending the relationship is necessary.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/23 08:01 PM
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For sure
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/23 07:58 PM
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:) we will take lots of pictures
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/23 07:57 PM
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That’s something I’m a little worried about, as it’s been 80s and 90s where we live the past couple weeks… but we are going north, so it shouldn’t be unbearable, right? And I want it to be warm enough for swimming, otherwise I’d wait for the fall weather and foliage
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/23 07:54 PM
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Two year olds are old enough to play in the forests and rivers and climb on rocks and stuff, aren’t they? In the next year or two, she’ll be too big to carry in the pack. I’m estimating between $1500-2000 total. It’s a couple month’s worth of savings.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/23 07:52 PM
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Well, we sort of approach finances with him paying for our families needs (while I do all of the housework and childcare), and we use our own money for things that are wants.. I’m also saving up money for future “together” trips, but those are much more expensive, and I don’t make very much working only part time. So it will take time
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/23 07:49 PM
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If your partner has an issue with accepting constructive criticism, the time to bring that up is not when they are in the middle of a very basic task. It should be discussed when neither partner is busy and both are at ease, in a non-accusatory way, and again, with gentle suggestions and open discussion. “Hey dear, do you think maybe you have difficulty accepting criticism sometimes? Where do you think that comes from? Is there a way I can communicate with you better so you don’t feel attacked/n…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/23 07:45 PM
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People do it all the time
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/23 07:37 PM
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We will be driving at most 2 hours a day for the first 8 days, be sleeping in hotels, and the hikes will be short, with a large percentage of the time being spent playing in the woods and the waterfalls. I have ordered a child-carrying hiking pack so that I can carry her when she doesn’t want to walk, and many of the reviews say their toddlers went right to sleep. We will have maps with the routes, changing gear, snacks, and lots of water with us at all times.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/23 07:36 PM
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Okay; I’m having an AITA moment and I need the based people’s input only, por favor. Summer is fleeting, and I wanna go on a 10 day multi-state hiking trip with my 2 yo (partly because I want her with me, but also because the childcare is my responsibility and I have no one close by who can watch her for that long.) I am financing the trip myself. My husband A) doesn’t like to hike very much, and B) can’t take that much time off of work… He is a little bummed that I am going on a trip without hi…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/23 07:29 PM
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The correct way to go about correcting a man is to let him do it (provided whatever he’s doing isn’t going to have disastrous results), thank him and then suggest a different way to do it. For example: “Thanks for cleaning that toilet, honey; I know it was nasty… Just wondering, do you think it might be better to use the toilet scrubber wand first and then the pumice stone for stains?” Men are often very insecure, and anything that draws attention to their incompetencies can lead them to become …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/23 07:09 PM
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They do.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/23 07:03 PM
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By “plenty,” I mean that and average person takes care of themself, (eats well, goes to the gym, has good hygiene, wears fashionable clothing, etc) and doesn’t have a completely unattractive personality and the social skills of a toddler, it’s super easy to find whatever it is they’re looking for. There was no shortage of attractive men looking for a relationship when I was dating. There was no shortage of slutty women like me who were down for casual sex and just “seeing where things went.” Any…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/23 07:00 PM
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This is why traditionally-structured age gap relationships are the way to go
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/23 06:49 PM
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There are plenty of attractive men who want committed relationships, and there are plenty of attractive women who aren’t looking for relationship/are into casual sex. If you think Chad is always sleeping with women and dangling commitment and women have to settle with less attractive men in order to get commitment, please, go outside.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/23 06:45 PM
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Adult men purchasing sex work are not victims
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 11:01 PM
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It’s very similar behavior to spending money check to check , sparing no chance for short term pleasure in trade of investing in yourself a bit long term (or in sexual terms waiting for a relationship) where there’s a bigger potential payoff ( sex with someone you’re emotionally tied to feels better than recreational sex from what I’ve heard). Just because relationship sex is better, it doesn't mean casual sex won't scratch an itch while you're looking for a relationship-worthy partner. These th…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 10:52 PM
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>So to act on it every chance you get is like spending money every check and not saving money . How, exactly? It's not like money. We don't benefit from not having the sex we want to have. >my mindset is unattractive and therefore IM unattractive It is unattractive. Why would a woman want to be with someone who thinks she shouldn't enjoy sex the way men do?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 08:26 PM
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The overall consensus, in historical times, was that black people were unintelligent, savage, and didn't feel pain, and consequently they were enslaved and treated, to completely understate it, poorly, for centuries. But of course, if enough people knew that, it must have been true, right? >"Social stigma" as if people don't make up society. If enough people know a high n-count is bad, then it probably is by overall consensus. Nothing about your earlier comment suggested it applied only to thing…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 05:41 PM
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Should we apply that reasoning to racism and sexism too?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 04:43 PM
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It's not a matter of "not being able to control themselves" if they see no reason not to have as much sex as they please and therefore aren't *attempting* to control themselves
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 04:41 PM
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>then I'm sorry to tell you but he's solely using her body and nothing else. Nobody is "using" anyone else in consensual, casual sex. If you're trying to use sex that you didn't actually want to have to secure a relationship, and you're mad that it didn't work, you don't get to retroactively say that person was "using" you. You still made the choice to have that sex. I'm really tired of people saying this to absolve themself of any sort of responsibility for their own choices. like honestly
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 04:17 PM
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>men also need less of an emotional connection and are also significantly easier to please. Women who have casual sex do so without an emotional connection. Women being harder to please is a reason *why* some women are promiscuous; sexual pleasure is important to them and it can be hard to find somebody who brings them pleasure. The only way to find out if a man is good in bed is to sleep with him, and trying them out racks up one's n count. >I'm not saying that women should not sleep around at …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 04:13 PM
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Correlational studies on this topic are fundamentally flawed. N count obviously increases every time a person is sexually disloyal, and infidelity tends to end relationships, which leads to singleness and more sexual partners. There's also the fact that n count increases as time progresses, as well as the number of relationships people have been in, as well as opportunities for infidelity. It only makes sense that someone who is young and is in their first relationship and has an n count of 1 is…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 04:03 PM
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I forgot what I was going to say
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 03:31 PM
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>Random excuse, he's just dishonest. Nah, IDTS. We were on the cross country team together for 3 years, and I'm pretty sure he knew I had a crush on him all that time. He was generally nice to and protective of me. He also had a girlfriend who he ended up marrying and just had a baby with. >I didn't really care about other girls when I was already in love with someone else. Right. He definitely had tunnel vision. >Wow, women are honestly rarely ever called creeps/weirdos. IDT I was creepy. But d…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 12:17 AM
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Women: go to the gym to get higher value men. https://www.reddit.com/r/QOVESStudio/comments/14zkh5e/comment/jrytezp/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 12:04 AM
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Let me ask my husband
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 11:58 PM
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BRB, passport bro-ing my way to Washington
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 11:57 PM
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*convince*
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 11:56 PM
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I would like to be the woman, but in the past I think I tend to take on the man role :(
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 11:55 PM
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I think I've done it three times in my life and all of them were rejections... One family-zoned me ("I think of you as my little sister,"), one was in love with my best friend, and the other just thought I was a weirdo.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 11:52 PM
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"Showing your emotions" is not the same thing as being "depressed, soft, [and] mentally weak"
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 11:47 PM
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You probably just need to recomp, not really go down too much in weight
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 11:44 PM
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*crosses Seattle off of "places to visit" list* fuck
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 11:40 PM
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Right. So how do I convince them to have it with me?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 11:39 PM
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a 20 dollar drink better be like 75% alcohol and absolutely delicious
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 11:38 PM
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I've never been asked out by a woman :( I wonder if it's because I look pretty much exactly halfway between masc and femme? I can't imagine I exude only straight vibes; half the time I ask my husband if my outfit looks alright, he says I look like a queer in a sweater
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 11:37 PM
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eat less, do planks/stomach vacuums, and avoid foods that make you bloated
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 11:33 PM
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Yes, really... other than I don't have very nice titties... which, now that I think about it, what's even the point of getting with women without titties? Do I have to be the masc one in the interactions?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 11:30 PM
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Man, I'm in the military. I already mastered fireman's carrying the gay women im tryna smash
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 11:27 PM
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okay, check. what next?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 11:26 PM
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true
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 11:26 PM
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so then it'll only be the spoiled incel rich kids who want to shoot up the schools, or the hoodlums smart enough to make drug money and use the dark web who get their hands on guns, and the law abiding Americans won't have guns to defend their homes or children. great plan
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 11:25 PM
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How to pick up bisexual women as a bisexual woman?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 11:23 PM
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That depends on if it's used as a noun or an adjective, and whether the person is using it because "women" can be twisted into "People with penises who identify as women" and that requires specification...
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 11:11 PM
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I hate being hit on by men at the clubs. They're always drunk and sweaty and sometimes uncomfortably insistent... I don't think anyone is "gushing" about that to their friends. This is also why lgbtq clubs are generally more enjoyable, but unfortunately they are more likely to be a target of mass violence. I just want to go and dance and feel the energy of the music, lights, and crowd. I wear my ring, which glows in the dark, so it is noticeable even under low lighting conditions.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 11:06 PM
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sounds super effective. criminals definitely only source guns legally
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 11:00 PM
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not really machine guns. Rifles are typically fine
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 10:59 PM
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slut
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 10:56 PM
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I think men know right away, but it is a turn off to women for them to ask for that kind of commitment too quickly
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 10:56 PM
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how does one even do that?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 10:52 PM
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There’s a difference between “having a profession that requires you to be in a bikini and post on social media” and “having casual sex with different people specifically when you’re single.” You shouldn’t expect a partner to drop their whole career for you. You should expect faithfulness and monogamy from someone who agrees to it with you. Women act differently within relationships than they do outside of them. It’s the same way that men are socially permitted to have casual sex with many partne…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 02:52 PM
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That makes sense
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 08:25 PM
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I’m just wondering why a 23 yo would go to the trouble of sourcing paper maps
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 08:22 PM
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Digital maps are basically GPS
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 08:18 PM
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Just piping up to say it because a lot of people think it’s reliably reversible.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 08:17 PM
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Like a paper map, or a digital map?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 08:15 PM
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I’m 26
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 08:14 PM
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That’s what I tell him. Often times he’ll pull up the GPS and then not listen to it because he thinks he knows a faster way and I’m just like 🤦‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 08:14 PM
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He’s gen x
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 08:05 PM
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Keep in mind, not all vasectomies are successfully reversed. They are intended to be permanent contraception
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 08:05 PM
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Must be nice
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 08:03 PM
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Are there others? I haven’t heard of them
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 08:03 PM
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Depends what you look like. You can try posting to one of the ratings subs that offer advice for things like hairstyles and grooming. Then you either decide if you wanna be conventional or fulfill a niche, and then you work towards that. Most conventional men go to the gym and manipulate their diets to be lean and muscular. But if you wanted to look like a skater or an artist or a musician, you can get away with being skinnier.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 08:02 PM
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Does anyone else’s partner make fun of them for not being able to get places without GPS, or is that just a generational gap thing between my husband and I?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 07:53 PM
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Are they in middle school dating some dumbass senior or what? That was the cringiest thing I’ve ever read
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 07:43 PM
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Or at least trying to make yourself want to have sex. Lots of women get themselves in the mood in preparation for their partner wanting sex, if they have mismatched libidos
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 07:32 PM
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Looksmaxx, personalitymaxx, profilemaxx, and then match with sluts on dating apps
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 07:29 PM
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Be attractive and find yourself a slut
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 07:27 PM
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Right… I think a lot of people neglect to talk about it until they’re relatively deep into a relationship, and then suddenly one partner wants to go out and the other is shocked and impermissive. Or they’ll meet while they’re out and then expect the other to not go out anymore after they commit to one another
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 07:16 PM
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If both of you are okay with that restriction, great. Personally, I don’t go to clubs to meet people and get shitfaced. I might have one drink, enough to get tipsy, and just dance. I like to feel the energy of the crowd and the vibrations from the loud music and the moving lights. Makes me feel sexy and young and alive again… My husband doesn’t like it, so he doesn’t go.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 07:10 PM
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It depends on the individual. If your partner feels uncomfortable with you going out and one of the reasons is that you don’t handle your liquor well, this could be a useful conversation. Some people feel that dancing with others is cheating. I stopped doing that whenever I committed to exclusivity with my husband (although now that I think about it, we’ve never discussed it 🤔)
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 07:01 PM
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This sounds like a hypothetical that I didn’t participate in, so I’m not going to continue to discuss it with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 05:24 PM
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Updoot for stellar and healthy communication
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 05:21 PM
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Telling your partner “if you go to the club, our relationship is over” is essentially the same as forbidding them to go to the club.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 05:19 PM
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Sometimes people go out and they get in over their heads with the alcohol, and end up in unsafe situations. If you set boundaries before they go, it’s not because you don’t trust your partner, it’s because you want them to pause to think about it, so they’re more likely to be safe. It’s also good to explicitly communicate what you’re okay with in the context of your relationship what you see as “cheating”), so that there’s no “I didn’t know you felt that way” and hurt feelings if somebody crosse…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 05:18 PM
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Or, perhaps, a woman who doesn’t go to the club because she doesn’t like it. If you meet a woman at the club and y’all started dating, idk why you’d try to keep her from doing the things she finds to be fun
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 05:15 PM
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Instead of “you can’t go to the club,” consider: “Why do you want to go to the club?” “Can I go with you?” “It’s okay if you want to dance alone, but I am not comfortable with you dancing with other men.” “Can we set a limit on how much you’re going to drink?” “Will you watch your drinks closely and stay with your friends?” “Will you call me if you need a ride?” “Where are you planning on going? Will you let me know if your plans change?” “Are you comfortable with sharing your location with me o…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 05:11 PM
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That’s that “born with good bone structure, doesn’t work out too hard, and coasting on youth” bod
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 04:47 PM
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Do you have examples?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 04:44 PM
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They can’t afford them, but they take them anyway
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 12:07 PM
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For sure. There are still people who believe men can’t even be raped
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 11:46 AM
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I am someone who thinks that enhancing one’s femininity or masculinity, respectively, makes people better and more comfortable in this world. I have one very masculine part-time profession (the military) and one very feminine profession (SAHM.) While I find that the military makes me speak louder and boss my juniors around and be assertive (which I hate), my Marines also trust me more than their male counterparts to be compassionate towards their issues, to have things that they need, and to mak…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 11:20 AM
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False
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 10:52 AM
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27% are overweight, but how many are obese?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 10:49 AM
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I wonder if it’s just where that individual lives? Because I know if I called the police to report a male attacker/rapist, not only would I be taken seriously to get justice, the whole neighborhood would take up arms to find said male. I definitely lean more towards the “men can easily have their entire lives destroyed by accusations even if they’re unfounded” camp,
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 10:43 AM
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Good men are easy to please. If you find a man is not easy to please, either he is abusive, or you are a subpar girlfriend/wife, and you should carefully collect evidence to figure which of those it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 01:35 AM
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Oh, I misread. Well, that makes sense. the point of getting married is to split up what is essentially 3 jobs (housework, childcare, and income-generation) into 1.5 jobs. And its more efficient to combine household tasks and certain expenses
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 12:55 AM
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I wish I only had 7 hours of housework to do a week as a SAHM
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 12:32 AM
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I wanna talk about these recommendations though https://imgur.com/a/6cmDpb4
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 12:30 AM
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That’s less fun then causing drama tho
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 12:09 AM
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I tried to make pineapple fried rice, but it came out mushy and not fried
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 12:08 AM
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Blame your significant other so you can pull a Gone Girl
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/23 11:44 PM
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Yeah, but what if you sell one and then something happens to your remaining one?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/23 11:38 PM
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Casual sex is okay, and it’s also okay if you’re a person who doesn’t want to have if, or if you’re a person who doesn’t want a partner who has it.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/23 11:34 PM
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That actually looks like it would work really well, but that the body would reject it and make people sick, like implants already do to those who have them.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/23 11:32 PM
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It’s so nice when you think the meal you’ve made is shit but your SO actually really likes it and eats up the rest of it so you don’t have to suffer through it for lunch tomorrow
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/23 10:57 PM
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The honeymoon phase is “my partner is perfect and I want to spend every minute with them.” Afterwards, it’s “my partner is imperfect, but I love them anyway” and you don’t want to be with them constantly, but often. If you don’t like major aspects of them or their behavior, and you rarely want to be around them, break up
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/23 10:47 PM
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Both genders do it and it’s foolish
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/23 10:44 PM
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Idk, I feel like we have two for a reason
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/23 10:40 PM
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Link?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/23 10:36 PM
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Yes, I get women will have "casual sex." But my point is that we are not the same as you claim we are. Guys will have sex with almost anyone, even if they find you slightly unattractive. They don't need to go to a bar. They don't need to know your name, get a drink, talk, or anything. They just want flat out sex. My point was that we are wired differently. So again, what does men having low standards have to do with it being less socially acceptable for women to have sex with who they want? Beca…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/23 06:48 AM
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I don’t, and I’m married. I said it before, I don’t care what your preferences are.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/23 06:21 AM
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You are being ignorant to reality here. If an average lookimb guy walks up to 100 women and asks to have sex, none would have any with him. Even if they are "just horny." What are you on about? People have casual sex all the time. That doesn’t necessitate going about getting it in super awkward ways. Most of the time when women want a quick fuck, they go out to a club or just tinder up a man real quick. you can’t seriously be arguing that because the likelihood of a man getting sex by walking up…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/23 06:14 AM
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You’re making up hypotheticals and then applying them to all women. It’s real weird
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/23 05:55 AM
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I already explained why saying “it’s easier for women” is not a logical reason why women should be considered less valuable for having sex with all the partners they desire. Try again. After all, it's women who have exclaimed that sex is more emotional and about connection for them, while for guys its highly visual and physical. Women aren’t monoliths, and the ones that have spoken to you about this don’t speak for all of us. Some women don’t need to have an emotional connection before having se…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/23 05:10 AM
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The laws aren’t “targeting men,” they’re targeting prostitution, and just not prosecuting sellers of sex anymore, which just happen to be majority female. All these other analogies don’t matter. The reason why men are “disproportionately affected” by prostitution being illegal is because they are the ones making the personal choice to break the law that has existed before selling sex got decriminalized.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/23 04:55 AM
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So… because on average men’s standards are lower than women’s, women shouldn’t get to enjoy sex with as many people as they individually desire, the same way men are permitted to?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/23 04:50 AM
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It doesn’t fucking matter either way, with the drug thing. The government went from not allowing anyone to sell or purchase sex To not allowing anyone to purchase sex, and not punishing sellers of sex. They are not specifically targeting men because they are men, they are targeting people who are purchasing sex, and the ones who purchase sex just happen to be men. They are literally doing something that has always been illegal, so why should they not be punished just because selling sex is now d…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/23 04:48 AM
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The first sentence of the article you linked literally says “sentencingdisparity.” You know why it specifies “sentencing”? Because the laws are written to be neutral and enforced in a discriminatory way, such that skin color dictates whether or not people will be punished for doing the same crime. In the case of prostitution, men are the ones who are actually doing the illegal thing more often than women. So it’s not comparable.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/23 04:31 AM
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And why is it different if a man wants to enjoy sex with lots of different people vs a woman who wants to enjoy sex with lots of different people? Why are women locks and men keys, in your metaphor?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/23 04:25 AM
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Seems to me like common sense would be that people like sex and having it with different partners is acceptable for both genders.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/23 04:11 AM
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Like I said, I don’t care what your preference is
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/23 04:05 AM
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The laws for drugs are race neutral. Non-white people have been incarcerated for drugs more frequently than white people not because they use/sell drugs more frequently than white people, but because the law was unfairly enforced. If men get prosecuted for soliciting prostitution more frequently than women do, it’s not because the law isn’t gender neutral, and it’s not because it’s being unfairly enforced. It’s because men are soliciting prostitutes more frequently than women are.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/23 04:03 AM
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Historically, any participation in prostitution was illegal, buying or selling. They have only recently decriminalized selling sex, so that trafficking and abuse victims can get help. It remains illegal to purchase sex, for both men and women this is not about gender
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/23 03:55 AM
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You’re not making any points
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/23 03:39 AM
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The alimony laws didn’t need reform because they were disproportionately affecting male payers. They needed reform because it’s ridiculous for one adult to financially support another adult for the rest of their lives just because they were married at one point but aren’t anymore. Like you do realize that there’s nothing legally stopping men from having wealthier wives and collecting alimony in the event of divorce? And that men don’t need to solicit prostitutes? The only thing that’s changed fo…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/23 03:35 AM
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The “it’s easy so let’s shame women for it” argument is illogical and I’m really tired of it. “It’s easier for men to obtain voluntary sterilization procedures than it is for women. All men who have had vasectomies are STANDARD-LESS, DIRTY, LOW VALUE, SKANKS!” Like, has it never occurred to you that some women are just horny? So if sex is easy to get, why the hell wouldn’t they be having sex? I don’t care if you don’t want to date high n women, but ffs, come up with a sensical argument as to why…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/23 03:26 AM
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I don’t know if you know this, but soliciting prostitution has been illegal. They’re just trying to make it so that people (of either gender) can now get help and justice more easily IF they need it. It doesn’t matter that men are the majority of the people paying for sex. Say it with me now.. “it doesn’t matter if…”
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/23 03:16 AM
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The alimony laws were also gender neutral. It doesn’t matter if men are the majority of the people buying sex or the majority of people who have stay-at-home spouses. If enforced properly, they are gender neutral. The government doesn’t want prostitution to happen. So it’s leaving buying sex illegal, and decriminalizing selling in attempt to reduce human trafficking and make justice more accessible to abuse victims. Gender neutral. The government didn’t want divorced people being dependent on we…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/23 03:13 AM
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Oh, i see what you’re saying… decriminalizing sellers still isn’t sexist
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/23 02:59 AM
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They’re not saying sellers are “always” victims, but they’re removing the punishment from all sellers in attempt to make it easier for trafficked/abused people to escape or seek justice.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/23 02:47 AM
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It doesn’t ruin the argument at all. There are definitely laws that people enforce against certain races while letting other races off the hook. But hypothetically, if they were enforced fairly, the laws would be fair. Like, people spoke out about how black people were being incarcerated for weed and not white people, and now we’ve rolled back weed laws because we realized they’re stupid and unnecessary (once the govt figured out how to capitalize on weed sales, of course.) So hypothetically, if…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/23 02:43 AM
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The spirit of the law here isn’t “let’s punish men for buying sex” it’s “let’s stop people from engaging in prostitution but in a way that still allows trafficked people to seek help.” (however effective or ineffective that may be. I’m leaning towards incredibly ineffective, but they’re trying.)
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/23 02:30 AM
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Okay, and?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/23 02:26 AM
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That is a non-gender neutral and discriminatory law
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/23 02:25 AM
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I honestly believe this "trafficked" shit is a hysterical bogeyman. We aren't in the 70's with "pimps and ho's" on 42nd street, but even if that is some rampant problem amongst sex workers in the USA, why not just go after the TRAFFICKERS then? Trafficking definitely still happens and is definitely a huge issue. Nowadays it’s just done more underground. People are disappeared and taken to remote locations to be purchased and abused by the ultra wealthy, distopian-tv-show-style. They’re trying to…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/23 02:23 AM
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That would be unconstitutional because it would infringe on the right to religious freedom We don’t have a constitutional right to purchase sex
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/23 02:16 AM
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You’re not wrong. But we havent exactly put the brightest crayons in the box into legislative seats, have we? Do you have any solutions, by chance? (Not saying this as a rebuttal; im just curious if you have any clever ideas how to fix the issue)
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/23 02:12 AM
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They are, by definition of the word, orientation-neutral, yes. However, they are pointless, and they were actually ruled to be unconstitutional in Lawrence v. Texas in 2003. It is definitely discriminatory if only gay anal-sex-havers are being arrested for having anal sex, and not straight anal-sex-havers. Just like it would be discriminatory if women weren’t being punished for buying sex, but men were. It’s just that fewer women want to buy sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/23 02:09 AM
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Nobody is saying that women are being discriminated against via disparate impact as a result of decriminalizing the selling of sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/23 02:05 AM
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I mean they’re pointless (who cares whether people take it in the ass?), but they’re orientation-neutral too.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/23 02:04 AM
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Sex and gender identity are not the same thing
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/23 02:03 AM
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Yes. However, there are more effective laws and social system that could be implemented to reduce homelessness, instead of just making it more difficult for homeless people to find shelter. Like, sending tax dollars to homeless shelters and trying to improve societal mental health and cracking down on drugs and gambling, and… I suppose the argument could be made that we should be tackling the increasing issues with societal loneliness, but then again, there’s always going to be people who want t…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/23 02:02 AM
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Yes. You can be gay without having anal sex, and straight people have anal sex too. Edited to add: Although, there’s no good reason why anyone should care whether people want to take it up their poop shoots
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/23 01:52 AM
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That’s a more complicated issue, because while certain races face more obstacles to getting IDs, we also have an issue with voter fraud. The solution there isn’t to let people vote without ID, it’s to make getting IDs more accessible to those who need it.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/23 01:50 AM
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The reason why they’re decriminalizing the sellers is because they don’t want to punish people that are being trafficked or abused. It’s like giving amnesty to underage college students who almost die from alcohol poisoning. Law makers are hoping to reduce the demand for prostitution through making it riskier for solicitors, therefore those who are being trafficked will be less profitable to their traffickers, and hypothetically fewer people will be trafficked. It’s not because they hate men
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/23 01:48 AM
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A disparate impact policy or rule is one that seems neutral but has a negative impact on a specific protected class of persons. Didn’t know men who solicit prostitution were a protected class
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/23 01:35 AM
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A gender neutral law prohibiting voting would be that nobody with any X chromosomes are permitted to vote. We would call that “dictatorship.”
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/23 01:33 AM
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Because you and everybody else knows damn well that the VAST MAJRORITY of sellers are women and the VAST MAJORITY of buyers are men. So, what you’re saying is… men are particularly likely to engage in something made illegal… and that’s misandristic how exactly? “Wah wah we can’t do this thing that society deems immoral enough to outlaw! Why do you HATE MEN?!?!”
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/23 01:31 AM
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Thank you.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/23 01:22 AM
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I’m not gaslighting you. The law is literally gender neutral
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/23 01:20 AM
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Actually, this is a gender neutral law. It’s equally illegal for women to buy sex from men. Therefore, it’s not misandristic.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/23 01:15 AM
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How is anyone going to pay for a mortgage, car loans and associated expenses, all the different kinds of insurances adults need, food, clothing, cell phone bills, taxes, everything needed for a couple of kids… on 50k a year? That’s just not it
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/23 12:04 AM
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$50k a year is certainly not good money. $96k would be comfortable for a single person; certainly not for a family. I don’t know what she wants. We don’t talk. All I know about her is what I hear from my husband, and he’s not gonna ask her about that
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 11:41 PM
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That makes sense
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 11:19 PM
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I mean, maybe you’d just be an attractive woman
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 10:32 PM
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My husband doesn’t care about my sexual history because he’s not an insecure, misogynistic loser who worries that can’t please me in bed. He knows I’m not thinking about anyone else because he’s the best partner I’ve ever had, and that I’m unlikely to do better. Unless you meant “fuck around” as in cheating, which I would never do.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 10:30 PM
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Actually, it does. Many genes are switched off or on by the environment; it’s called “epigenetics.” So like, if you have lots of money and live a cushy life, you can control a lot more of these genetic triggers than you could if you were broke. For example, stress, poor nutrition, and chemical pollution are all contributing risk factors to cancer. It is inherently less stressful to be financially comfortable than it is to be poor. You can afford better quality food and to live in a less polluted…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 10:25 PM
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Opiate$, huh? I smell an opportunity 🤔 The universe stays blessing me
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 10:11 PM
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As if these things are comparable... one thing is just about some people calling you shallow while you can easily find someone who doesn't mind "dating down" the other is literally about almost no man even having that opportunity. Like I said, there are plenty of high earning career women that don’t mind having a lower earning spouse. They just might have higher standards in other categories, so you gotta maxx out on those, you know? Be fit, charismatic, fun, good in bed, useful in some other wa…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 10:07 PM
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Famous people aren’t really that much more attractive than gen pop people. It’s just that they have a fame halo
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 09:48 PM
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Those things are not necessarily mutually exclusive.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 09:47 PM
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Right
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 09:46 PM
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I often wonder if it’s not uncommon for people to go through hormonal phases that are like mini-puberties… lots of women say their boobs started randomly growing again in their 20s, for example. My husband is just starting to sprout chest hairs at 51 years old. The human body is weird
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 09:46 PM
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... could you define"feel loved"? No, I cannot. Not in a way that you would ever understand, worko
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 09:44 PM
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Wealth isn’t just money, it’s a sign that somebody succeeded. They had something that put them ahead of their peers. Wealth also means a secure life, insulated from stressors, and the ability to raise your kids healthily and with certain advantages which helps to assure that they are successful as well. Successful people make the babies -> the babies thrive and grow out to be successful adults -> they make more success babies… repeat ad Infinitum. Like I said, without women being sexually select…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 09:43 PM
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The median annual wage for archivists, curators, and museum workers was $50,120 in May 2021. The median wage is the wage at which half the workers in an occupation earned more than that amount and half earned less. The lowest 10 percent earned less than $30,450, and the highest 10 percent earned more than $96,500. https://www.bls.gov/ooh/education-training-and-library/curators-museum-technicians-and-conservators.htm#:~:text=museums%20is%20helpful.-,Pay,was%20%2450%2C120%20in%20May%202021. I woul…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 09:36 PM
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I am a SAHM. That’s the lifestyle I wanted, and that’s the lifestyle my husband chose to give me. Idk what kind of hours a person working at a museum puts in, but if the pay isn’t great, and my stepdaughter wants kids some day? She’s just gonna be paying all her income to send her kids to daycare to be raised by someone else, and her family’s QOL will be dictated by her husband’s income. Sure, she can get by with living in a small house in not-the-best or the safest of neighborhoods, in the not-…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 09:31 PM
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It’s not. If neither gender wanted the best partner they could get, the human genome would go to shit. It should be a matter of pride to only want a great life partner for yourself and parent for your children. Anyone else who doesn’t has low self esteem and, consequently, low standards.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 09:16 PM
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That is a bonus
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 09:11 PM
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Idk why they deny it. It’s not a bad thing
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 09:10 PM
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Why did my remaining wisdom tooth suddenly decide to erupt 26 years into my life
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 09:07 PM
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Oh, you were speaking hypothetically. That wouldn’t fly with me. I would tell him either to be honest with me about why, or he should be seeing some kind of doctor about his sudden change in libido.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 09:06 PM
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That happens to me often. How silly it is
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 09:04 PM
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Nobody is forcing any man to be a provider to a SAHM. The reason why men do it is because they value the work their wives do at home: managing the household, so that their husbands can come home from work and simply relax, and taking care of their children. This is simply another way of splitting the responsibilities, and Hubby would still have chosen to have the job that he does regardless of whether his wives wanted that in a partner— don’t forget, he benefits from being wealthy too. Nobody is…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 09:00 PM
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Don’t let the intrusive thoughts win
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 08:48 PM
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Yes. His is very aesthetic, and it’s attached to an aesthetic person
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 08:47 PM
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I feel like that’s a discussion you have with the person when you start dating them, if you feel strongly about it. You should ask them whether they want to continue to perform and engage in that sort of thing. Most famous people aren’t gonna give these sort of opportunities up in the middle of their careers…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 08:45 PM
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What are you talking about?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 08:43 PM
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I think I would feel hurt, but not necessarily un-loved… I guess it would depend upon the reason why he wouldn’t have sex with me
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 08:25 PM
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I mean… what does one really expect if you partner up with a performer?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 08:17 PM
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I’ve found that YMCAs have all the traditional gym equipment, but also some functional fitness gear (ankle weights, resistance bands, yoga balls, jump ropes, kettle bells, plyo boxes, etc.). They also typically have childcare, pools, saunas, and group fitness classes. Really great value for the price.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 08:15 PM
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It sounds like it was just a performance
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 08:02 PM
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Nothing is wrong with me. Probably because my female ancestors were hypergamous, instead of settling for inferior schmucks.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 07:58 PM
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I think that’s probably because women are conditioned their whole life to avoid being “shallow,” and told that love is so much more important than looks or money… it can be hard to realize, down the road, that you don’t have to settle for one or the other— you can simply have all three with the right partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 07:57 PM
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How is being part of your children’s life during the most important times a privilege ? Your kids are only little once. Some things are more valuable than money.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 07:48 PM
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I’d pick the third from left
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 07:47 PM
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Hypergamy is good for the human race. Somebody’s gotta gatekeep the reproduction
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 07:42 PM
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I thought he already did know this from our conversations about my dating history. I was confused by this being like, news to him
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 07:42 PM
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That’s what I’m sayin’
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 07:40 PM
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Men need sex to feel loved. True or false?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 07:40 PM
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🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 07:27 PM
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Today hubby and I were driving home from the gym, and he had me read the email his daughter had excitedly forwarded him. It was instructions from the museum she had been trying to volunteer at, since she thinks she’d like to work in archeological museums some day. I flippantly remarked that she’d better marry a rich man. Hubby gave me a sideways look and said I was being “mercenary.” I tried to explain that like, if you want a certain QOL and a low-paying job that you actually like, that’s what’…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 07:20 PM
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I would order them 3.04/7.73, then 4.76, then the highest one (forget his score)
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 07:08 PM
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Mostly looks like skin and photo quality, honestly
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 07:05 PM
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Aw yeah
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 06:59 PM
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Well, that’s an ego booster :)
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 06:53 PM
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Can you be more specific?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 06:48 PM
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Not if I wear TURTLENECKS
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 06:39 PM
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Simple. Some young women are more mature than their age mates and therefore find older men’s heightened maturity attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 06:37 PM
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Can you link one? I’d love that
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 06:34 PM
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The motherhood gap is the cost of being around for your children in the ways that they need you. It’s a privilege, really.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 06:33 PM
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Raising children into well-adjusted adults and supporting the men who are working is doing “nothing at all?” Okay. 🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 10:05 AM
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You wrote like three paragraphs without actually defining what’s wrong with staying home with your kids and keeping house while your partner provides
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 10:03 AM
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Bubble gut is a no no
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 09:58 AM
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That’s over 2k a month. Slumming it, yes, but liveable
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 09:28 AM
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True :/
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 03:56 AM
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4 is the limit, right? https://www.reddit.com/r/QOVESStudio/comments/14s7b2e/how_chiseled_is_too_chiseled_which_face_looks_the/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=ioscss&utm_content=2&utm_term=1
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 03:55 AM
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Nice!
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 03:50 AM
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Omg noo 😭 I’d be willing to be that a large portion of those replies were bots and men with feeder fetishes, though
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 03:50 AM
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This is true
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 03:47 AM
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“They” lied. Money matters to most women
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 03:40 AM
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Well, I don’t suppose it would cost exactly twice the amount to exist as a married couple as it does a single person, but it sure wouldn’t be a bad thing to have a little spare income from a partner who makes at least as much as you, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 03:24 AM
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I think ears are okay for most men. I’m okay with navel piercings too… but anything else is a no-no.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 03:18 AM
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I mean, y’all had it made. If it were me, I’d have stopped at the right to vote and earn property. Yes! Please don’t make me pull out the pig woman experiment P-pig woman experiment? 🫣
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 03:15 AM
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Wtf
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 03:09 AM
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That’s exactly what I’ve found to be true ime
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 02:27 AM
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Based and HVWpilled
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 02:18 AM
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The former Actually, more like “jewl-ree”
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 02:16 AM
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<image> Pack it up, boys
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 02:15 AM
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Well then you definitely do lol
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 02:14 AM
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At least you can correct a dog when they’ve been bad. Yelling at cats just gives them anxiety and then they’re even bigger shitbags
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 02:13 AM
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I don’t think so. There are lots of men that don’t care. And honestly, I wouldn’t mind like, soft prostitute utilization in a man’s sexual history, like sugar dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 02:11 AM
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Idk. I’ve always sort of felt like a dude who’s really grateful to be in a female body. I’d just have to go to work and be a provider. I think it’d be much easier to manage certain emotions without all the estrogen and progesterone, too.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 02:03 AM
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If I magically flipped sexes, I’m assuming my femininity would be converted to masculinity, and vice versa.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 01:53 AM
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I think most men do
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 01:52 AM
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I’m probably like a 6.5-7.5, so id assume I’d be in that ballpark as a man too. I don’t think it’d be as easy to seduce a woman, please her in bed, and secure her commitment, but I would learn fast enough, I think.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 01:51 AM
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🙈
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 01:48 AM
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Tasteful tats would be fine. Male friends would be okay as long as they’re not obvious or known orbiters.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 01:47 AM
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I don’t think it’d be very hard. I’m an attractive woman, so I think I’d be an attractive man too. And there are lots of women out there that like and want casual sex. I’d learn how to get good at seducing women and then how to be good in bed as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 01:46 AM
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Yeah, Id just want her to be employed and like, not dependent on her parents before getting married. I’d be the provider as a man. Idrc if my partner has had lots of casual sex as long as s/he was careful about not catching STDs
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 01:44 AM
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Not all of these are make-it-or-break it, but someone would have to have most of them. I am fit and attractive, so I think I would be as a man too. I have no heritable diseases or disabilities. I would make sure to have a good, stable way of making money so that I could provide a comfortable life for my family. I’d be an attentive father, and an empathetic and helpful co-parent, and I’d get a vasectomy when we were done having kids so my wife wouldn’t have to worry about BC or get sterilized her…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 01:42 AM
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What? Nothing about this is a “gotcha.” This is my opinion
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 01:29 AM
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I would still have a reasonable amount of casual sex until I found a suitable wife.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 01:28 AM
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Nah, cats are selfish, untrainable, anti-social assholes that destroy your house and give you mixed signals
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 01:27 AM
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Eh. I could pretend to be Christian well enough
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 01:26 AM
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RIP
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 01:12 AM
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If I was a man, these would be my standards for a wife: 20-25 years old is a healthy weight, exercises consistently, eats healthfully, has a healthy relationship with food wants 1-2 children and to be a SAHM makes $25-50k a year before marriage responsible with money and has zero to minimal debt is somewhat educated (if not at a formal college, then through other means), is intelligent, and enjoys continual learning has a similar sense of humor similar political views and views on parenting not …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 01:07 AM
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It’s okay to call gold diggers gold diggers. The best explanation I’ve heard from a woman who wanted her partner to make equal or more money than she did was that once she had kids, it was statistically likely that she’d miss work for a certain amount of time during pregnancy/delivery/postpartum recovery, and to pick up the kids when sick or if there’s an emergency. Or, she might decide, eventually, that she wanted to be a SAHM. So she didn’t want to take a QOL cut if she had to be financially f…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 12:40 AM
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It’s probably that a large percentage of women set their height filters for like, 6ft and up, not that the majority of them are specifically looking for 6’5 men
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 12:35 AM
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My milkshake brings all the boys to the yard, And they’re like, “Why’d you lie about the milkshakes? 🙁”
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/23 11:19 PM
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Imagine writing paragraphs about a divorced college drop out with multiple kids
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/23 11:17 PM
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Ask her why she’s sexually harassing my man and ask him if he’s okay
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/23 11:12 PM
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Are you having a stroke?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/23 11:02 PM
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$3000
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/23 09:55 PM
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He already does, but if it suddenly got smaller… idk, $30k? I guess it depends how much smaller. An inch, I could live with
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/23 09:55 PM
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This is the content I came here to read 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/23 09:42 PM
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I would totally call my family members to come take care of us if they didn’t live 6 hours away and all have school or jobs… not sure if any of Hubby’s friends would be willing or able to care our family when sick (they’ve got kids at home too,) but he hasn’t asked.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/23 09:41 PM
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Uh huh. It’s not like I can take my spouse’s temperature, or notice how often he coughs, sneezes, blows his nose, sprints to the bathroom to have diarrhea or vomit, and compare that to what I’m experiencing or anything objective like that. No, that would be a superpower!
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/23 09:03 PM
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It doesn’t matter whether a man has coovid or a cold; they come to a complete stop, whereas women just keep going with taking care of everyone else, regardless if they have the same thing. Yes, women are the more emotional gender. That doesn’t make the fact that men are babies about being sick untrue. Stick to the topic at hand. Very few men are going to work, let alone at manual labor jobs, when they’re feeling ill. Most women’s husbands will call off or leave early, and then come home and go s…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/23 08:21 PM
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Some of us, yes
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/23 08:14 PM
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Yeah, it is one of those moments, tbh. I was full of rage
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/23 07:41 PM
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Your mum didn’t take care of you? You’ve never seen media portrayals of 1950s housewives?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/23 07:40 PM
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See edit
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/23 07:32 PM
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Oh sure. “All these women are saying they’re upset because they have to push through their illnesses in order to take care of their sick husbands are really just covering up for the fact that they’re heartless bitches that can’t summon enough compassion to tolerate ANY sign of weakness in their partners to include minor colds” is toootally not at all like a conspiracy theory 🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/23 07:32 PM
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Honestly, you’re right; everyone should get sympathy. I’m just angry about the inconsistencies and the manipulation
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/23 04:50 PM
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I’m not resentful; this is reality and I’ve come to accept it. I just think it’s funny that when sick women have to take care of their sick husbands, and they’re not perfectly thrilled about having to carry on when they also feel like garbage, men take that as women being bitches who can’t bear to see their men being vulnerable ever. And even if it is “physiological differences,” why the fuck should men get sympathy? I don’t know how many times in my life I’ve heard women discussing how miserabl…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/23 04:22 PM
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Exactly
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/23 04:09 PM
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See other replies
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/23 02:58 PM
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Could it also be that more men work outside the home, and so more men were exposed to covid? Like I said to someone else, I don’t think men really experience more severe illness symptoms. I think they’re just not used to carrying on when they feel like shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/23 02:57 PM
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The immune response is what makes people feel like garbage. Your germ-ensnaring mucus clogging up your sinuses is what gives you a headache. Mucus in your lungs makes you short of breath when you have bronchitis. General inflammation is what gives you body aches during viral infections. If women’s immune systems are better at responding to sickness, wouldn’t we feel worse than men? We’ve got double the genes that code for the reaction, after all. I think it’s just that men are conditioned to exp…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/23 02:55 PM
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This is just how things are
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/23 01:57 PM
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I bet you’re real into conspiracy theories too, huh?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/23 01:56 PM
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It absolutely is true. Last time everyone in my household was sick with qovid, who was cooking meals and doing the laundry and administering the medicine? Me. Not my husband. He was laid out, like you said. And this is not just my experience; there are thousands of stories like this on the interwebs. “Men are babies when they get sick” is a meme for a reason
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/23 01:49 PM
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They barely tolerate me being sick (all men have stories about getting shit from women for being laid out with the flu or something). This is because when men and women have the same sickness, be it a cold or the flu or the coofvid, guess who still gets up and takes care of everyone else in the household even though they feel like garbage? Women. And the men lay on the couch for three days like they’re gonna die. Edit: Here come all the angry men. Hey, why don’t instead of arguing with me, prove…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/23 01:45 PM
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Having a lot of sex doesn’t necessitate that one is impulsive. You can just like having sex and see no reason not to do it, so you have a lot of it with whomever you please
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/23 11:47 AM
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There’s a difference between “I’m not going to date this person because she’s slept with too many people,” and “This chick is a dirty, used up, ran through cum sock! All sluts have xyz bad character traits!” The latter is 100% shaming, and you can’t just write that off as, “well it’s easier for women to get dates and sex.” Okay, well, obviously both genders like dating and sex, so tell me again why only women should refrain from those things ?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/23 11:46 AM
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I think you replied to the wrong person, but what I will say is that everyone experiences that, not just men
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/23 11:41 AM
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I don’t think anyone should be shamed for enjoying what comes easy
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/23 01:44 AM
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I pay for dinner whenever hubby forgets his wallet. Does that count?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/23 01:36 AM
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Are you talking about virginity?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/23 01:20 AM
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Eat food. Move your body. Love your spouse. Make babies. Play with your kids. Explore the world. Appreciate the little things.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/23 01:20 AM
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Oh man, I didn’t even think about witch hunting. Sorry bro
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/23 12:54 AM
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Ask her on a free/inexpensive date and if she goes, she’s not using you
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/23 12:52 AM
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I thought my husband was a butterface when we first met. Now I think he’s the handsomest man in the world, and I love him very, very, very much.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/23 12:51 AM
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What, you mean you can’t tell from that information?!
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/23 12:08 AM
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I’m a millennial, but I have, in fact, recently purchased a crop top for the first time… however, because I have wrinkly belly skin from housing a 10lb baby in my uterus, I only wear it with high waisted pants that just meet the lower hem of the shirt. I do go dancing, I rarely drink, I have one hidden tattoo (that I got when I was a virgin), I have no piercings (ear holes closed up), no “dead eyes,” naturally colored hair, I… don’t remember if I’ve ever done reverse cowgirl unprompted, I do not…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 11:40 PM
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And neon colored excessively long plastic nails, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 10:15 PM
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Woman who’s dated lots of older men here. I can confirm that they are, but lots have been socialized into believing that the attraction to younger women is “perverted” and “morally wrong” instead of just biologically normal. My husband is 25 years older and you would not believe the hate he gets every time I mention it on the internet.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 10:13 PM
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Yes. Every gen z female is a slut now
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 09:50 PM
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Depends on their hairstyle, I guess. The recommendation is every 6 weeks for a trim, at least.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 09:49 PM
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Oh, so like female pricing
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 09:39 PM
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How much is it?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 09:25 PM
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Voyeurism is watching other people have sex in general, not necessarily your partner. Technically you don’t have to watch your partner have sec with others to be a cuckold/cuckquean either.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 09:19 PM
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Idk, if she’s half naked and missing a few teeth and walking up to random men’s cars, that might be a good indication she’s a whore
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 09:08 PM
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Slut as in, having a given man’s definition of high n count.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 08:56 PM
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General correlations? Yes. But if you think every woman who dresses a certain way or likes to dance or does a certain sexual position without being asked (lol) or has a dead-eyed look or has slutty friends or or or whatever kind of nonsense men come up with…and you reject women with no further investigation beyond that, or you think the woman you’ve picked is a Madonna because she doesn’t have any of those traits, you’re a fool.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 08:47 PM
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Gonna start compiling a list of traits men think are predictive of women being sluts lol [redacted]
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 08:37 PM
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Cuckoldry has a humiliation aspect to it. The cuckold gets off on his partner being with other men and intentionally excluding him. People who are permissive of their partners dating/having sex with others, but there isn’t that humiliation or exclusion aspect, aren’t engaging in cuckoldry.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 08:35 PM
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I don’t know why people assuming having casual sex for fun/pleasure makes it “inherently [not] valuable.” There is casual sex and there is sex with someone you love, and both are still valuable. It’s just that one is intimate and one isn’t. In my view of things, cheating isn’t wrong because all sex is intimate; cheating is wrong because it would hurt my partner, and would violate his trust in me. My views about sex make less worried about him having sex with other people because it’s just sex. I…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 04:10 PM
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Source?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 02:58 PM
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Message him and ask how he’s doing
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 12:57 PM
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People who believe sex is a special thing that’s only meant to be had with someone they love still feel sexual attraction to and temptation for other people though. And those who only feel responsive libido can still catch feelings for other people while in a relationship. I think the things that really mitigate cheating are whether you feel like you’ve got the best partner possible at home, how strongly you believe in the importance of fidelity, and whether you’re getting your emotional and sex…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 12:12 PM
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I have zero piercings currently, my hair is not dyed, and my one tattoo is only visible if I’m topless. Once again, it is revealed how easy it is to fly under the radar
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 12:04 PM
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D&Cs are unnecessary before 9-10 weeks gestation and incur unnecessary risks, including uterine scarring that can cause infertility and the risks associated with anesthesia (death.) Women shouldn’t be getting D&Cs if they don’t need them.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 12:01 PM
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There’s no such thing as full-term abortion. Once the fetus is capable of surviving outside of the womb, the term is “induction” or “emergency c-section.” They induce labor and deliver the baby early, or surgically retrieve it, and this is only done for medical reasons. If the premie is able to survive, it is then given the medical care it needs to do so.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 11:58 AM
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anti-lifers No. They are called “pro choice” because they want people who want to keep their pregnancies to do so, and people who want to terminate their pregnancies to be able to do so. Abortions are not some light and inconsequential thing that some women need; they’re an unfortunate necessity and deeply unpleasant experience that women choose as a method of damage control. Anti-choicers want to take that choice away. They are not accurately “called pro lifers” because they don’t give a shit w…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 11:49 AM
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Medicinal abortions are not performed past 9-10 weeks
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 11:41 AM
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I don’t surmise that low n people feel less FOMO than high n people
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 03:55 AM
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Isn’t it funny that when anti-choicers talk about abortion, they often graphically describe DnCs, and rarely talk about medicinal abortions? Like they want it to be thought of as the most violent version possible, instead of just… a woman’s uterus shedding a pregnancy, just like it would if the fetus was incompatible with life to begin with.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 03:48 AM
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You just don’t shit where you eat. Don’t fuck anybody in the same social circles as you. Then there’s nobody to whisper about it to your friends and coworkers. The only person who can tell anyone is you. This is why I say the “town bike” argument doesn’t apply unless you live in a small town. Edited to add: also, any of your “friends” that tell a prospective suitor your sexual history aren’t friends. That’s your story to tell and no one else’s
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 03:33 AM
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Sluts tend to congregate with each other. Sooo… how do you know her friends are sluts?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 03:19 AM
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Pillsphere men are obsessed with cuckholdry, it seems. Either that or they don’t have any idea what the fetish is and they throw around Willy-nilly. The workplace environment is relevant because it’s like 95% men, and if they could just tell from looking at me, like you claim, there’s no way I’d be respected or successful. Even if it’s a non-sexual environment, people still judge each other for their personal lives, and that seeps into every interaction… like there was a dude who spent a crapton…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 02:58 AM
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Bruh, I told my husband my n count on our first date. He doesn’t care. We talk about all my sexual experiences quite frequently, because he’s curious and he likes hearing about what I like and don’t like and what we can do together. And like I said, other men I interact with think I’m sexually conservative. There’s no way that most of the men I work with would respect me the way they do if they knew what my sexual history entails. It’d ruin my career. They just have no idea, though. And there’s …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 02:50 AM
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Lol. Whatever you gotta tell yourself to be able to believe the women you choose are perfect Madonnas.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 02:42 AM
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Women would find ways to order abortifacients from other countries, or would induce unsafe abortions in other, less effective ways. Those who are unable or unsuccessful will have babies they can’t properly care for, and those babies will either suffer or be put up for adoption, and their mothers will grieve the separation from the children they grew in their bodies for the rest of their lives. Some would die from pregnancy and childbirth complications. But I think eventually they would go back t…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 02:39 AM
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I hate to break it to you, but most people do not buy houses outright these days. Even the extremely wealthy leverage loans to their advantage
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 02:31 AM
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There are many reasons why somebody might wear a given facial expression. You can look angry because you read something offensive on the internet, or because your boss unfairly denied your requested time off, for example. Similarly, people can look “dead eyed” for different reasons— like disassociating to c*pe with trauma, stress, or grief, general tiredness and consequently spacing out, or a variety of other personal situations and emotional states. To say that they are dead-eyed because they’v…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 02:29 AM
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Gaslight, gatekeep, boyboss 👑
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 02:19 AM
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We do like the winners
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 02:17 AM
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I can understand men who are in the public eye not wanting their significant others to dress in a way that can be perceived as trashy
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 02:15 AM
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The average number of sexual partners for men and women in the United States is 7.2, reports a recent Superdrug survey. https://www.healthline.com/health/healthy-sex/average-number-of-sexual-partners Don’t know about this source’s methodology or anything, but it’s not a number “off the top of my head”
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 02:11 AM
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I don’t know whether it’s hard to find attractive, low n women or not. All I know is that, in my experience as a high n women (by like 99% of people’s definition of high), it hasn’t been difficult to secure commitment from good men.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 01:58 AM
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East coast of the USA. Why do you ask?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 01:50 AM
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I’m a mega slut and I drink less than 5 times a year. You’re gonna need more accurate tells than that dear
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 01:49 AM
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I bet you’re fun at parties
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 01:47 AM
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What I’m saying is, the men here assert “all women who have a high n by my own standards struggle to get commitment from quality men.” But in reality, for every dude whose limit is, say, 5, there’s probably a woman who’s had less than that. For every dude whose limit is 15, there’s probably a woman who’s had less than that. So on and so forth. Because as the limits (or definition of “too high”) get further from the average answer in either direction, so do the number of women with corresponding …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 01:47 AM
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Rational, neurotypical people don’t see someone with dead eyes and immediately jump to the conclusion that it’s because they’ve had sex with some-arbitrary-definition-of-high number of partners. People are just fine after sex as long it’s safe, legal, and consensual.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 01:40 AM
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Stop it, my sides hurt
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 01:27 AM
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💯
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 01:27 AM
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You should be a comedian; you’re really funny
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 01:26 AM
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He’s alright. A little chubby-cheeked
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 01:25 AM
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Oh yeah. That chick you saw whose grandma just died? Or that other one who was up all night studying for a 2-hour-long exam? Or the one who’s thinking about how she’s gonna afford her medical bills? They’re all dead-eyed skanks!
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 01:23 AM
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Physically stand too close to them, have poor hygiene, scratch your genitals, spit in public, cat-call, leave the toilet seat up, drive aggressively, honk at them for no reason…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 01:10 AM
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If you’re defining “high” as “higher-than-average,” yes
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 01:02 AM
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Most sexually inexperienced people haven’t. That’s why it’s a virgin tell
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 01:00 AM
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I stay loling at dudes saying they can spot sluts just by looking at them. YOU ARE SO EASY TO FOOL ITS HILARIOUS.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 12:57 AM
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Like if someone just said “vanilla stuff,” I’d ask them to be more specific. Do they like kissing? With tongue or without? How do they feel about oral? What positions are their favorite? Talking or no talking? Music during? Etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 12:51 AM
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Correction: you know trashy women’s n counts because they have let you know their n counts. Everyone who knows me thinks I’m some kind of innocent angel, and meanwhile I was a superslut. I just don’t talk about it in polite/formal company. So, you can’t really say, “I’ve never met classy high n women,” because you don’t know if you have or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 12:33 AM
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Lmao. The vast majority of women are going to have fewer than 20 partners. The average is 7. This is why I laugh every time men insist that high n women struggle to get commitment. Men don’t even agree on what’s “high.” There’s plenty of “low” n women for the men who want that, and plenty of men who are generally apathetic about n count, or don’t mind a given women’s count, for the “high” n women.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 12:30 AM
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You’ve probably met them but just didn’t know they were high n. It’s not exactly written on our foreheads in red ink
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 12:26 AM
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Yeah. You said “allegedly”
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 12:13 AM
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No, cuz he doesn’t have the equipment to birth and feed babies from his body like I do. There’s a reason why women stay home much more often than men.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 09:33 PM
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That depends on if she was willing to put in the work to lose it again. If she went to the gym with me and was being more conscious about her diet and going to the therapy she probably needs, that’s a stick-it-out situation. If she says “fuck off” every time I invite her to work out with me or just sits around shoving food into her mouth all day, I’m out.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 08:30 PM
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Maybe she faked it so that the sex would end sooner. I’ve done that before
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 08:20 PM
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Virgin flags: you ask him what he likes in bed and he give vague, non-sensical, or exaggerated answers (like stuff that you only see in porn but nobody actually does or likes). Or he can only talk about things he can do to himself, as he’s never experienced a woman doing them to him. Or, if he doesn’t actually like the things he said he did when you do them with him. He doesn’t or can’t talk about any previous dating or sexual experiences, even when asked. You ask him how many partners he’s had …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 08:16 PM
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Just get a haircut bro! (But like seriously, FR) https://youtube.com/@Hairdoc
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 06:10 PM
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Every other comment is “divorce him!”
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/23 10:52 PM
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Yes, and?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/23 01:26 AM
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Talk with Atlas
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/23 04:56 AM
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When I was 25 I was married to a 50 yo
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/23 10:42 PM
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They probably know how to, but don’t want to do it for you
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/23 08:54 PM
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The avg women in the US is 5’4. Certainly tall enough to ride the vast majority of rollercoasters
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/23 08:50 PM
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You mean a vaccuum assisted birth ?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/23 08:46 PM
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https://www.nolo.com/legal-encyclopedia/paternity-issues-child-support-29847.html Here is a website with information on it. There’s a woman called Atlas who is a lawyer in the PPD discord server who can set you straight
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/23 08:45 PM
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Idk how it is in other countries, but in the US, you do not owe child support unless you sign the birth certificate, or if the mother names you as the father, sues you for child support, and the court determines via paternity test that you are the father.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/23 06:31 PM
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Your consent to reproduction, as a man, is ejaculating inside of a woman. In cases of reproductive coercion (which would include things like raping men or stealing sperm from a condom,) child support obligations should be waived, and imo, male rape victims should have a say over whether the non consensual pregnancy gets carried to term or not. Until then, men should either carry away used condoms with them, or destroy the sperm inside (think spermicides or hot sauce.)
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/23 06:15 PM
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I was honest about mine because I didn’t want to be with anyone who would look down on me for enjoying sex the way men are socially permitted to. Generally, I asked first, and then men felt comfortable returning the question. I didn’t want any of them to take the “ignorance is bliss” route either.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/23 03:16 AM
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I had a lot of casual sex and I still find sex to be a source of connection with my husband. Ime, there’s a significant difference between casual sex and sex with someone you love… I made sure to take precautions against STDs and unwanted pregnancies as well, so there genuinely were no negative consequences to having as much sex as I wanted.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/23 03:14 AM
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Fish, golfing, bodybuilding, history, food, spending time with his daughters…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/23 06:11 PM
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I can get that for free
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/23 06:07 PM
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Random surprise. I went away for military service and of course it was paid, and he’s been so supportive and patient that I want to use part of the income to do something nice for him.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/23 06:06 PM
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I have $500 that I would like to spend on something nice for my husband. Any ideas? I’m thinking more in terms of experiences and less in terms of items
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/23 06:02 PM
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Yes
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/22 03:23 AM
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I have castile soap somewhere. I recall not liking the feeling solid soaps left after showering though. I was using liquid shower gels before this for that reason. The soap nuts are working fine, it seems. We used unscented laundry detergent before, so it’s not noticeably different. Mint scented kitchen cleaner sounds delightful! I will try that out
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/22 03:23 AM
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I don’t have control over lots of other things that kill us, but I do have control over what I put on my skin, dishes, clothing, and food prep areas. And if this works the way I’m hoping, it will improve my quality of life and reduce the rate at which I’m aging. Eventually I’d like to be able to grow all own foods, raise my own meat, and go plastic-free. But those will be long-term goals and future projects
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/22 03:18 AM
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No drugs, either. Although i may try weed and lithium when I stop breastfeeding.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/22 03:08 AM
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No witch hunts! Mods!!
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/22 03:00 AM
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No, no, it’s okay. Come breathe in the pheromones. They won’t harm you…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/22 02:57 AM
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Studies apparently are giving mixed results on whether or not dietary consumption of eggs increases cardiovascular risk. I’m not really too concerned about heart disease; I eat really well and I exercise a lot. My resting heart rate is like 45 and the last time I had my blood pressure measured it was 90/60. Plus the egg yolk is going on my scalp. We are constantly being exposed to harmful chemicals. I’m not rubbing them all over my body anymore.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/22 02:51 AM
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I’ll see if my husband starts to object. So far he has not, and I stopped the chemical deodorants like more than a week ago.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/22 02:38 AM
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I can’t find a “natural” soap that doesn’t have bad shit in it. So far the water has been enough for me to feel clean anyway. Tea tree oil is a major endocrine disrupter.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/22 02:34 AM
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I used to watch it often, but I only watch it rarely now. I find my imagination to be… better, usually. Also, some people here have explained the ethical issues surrounding porn, so now I feel kinda bad for watching anything involving real people. I’m opting for animated versions or erotica now. I don’t care if my husband watches it or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/22 02:29 AM
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Today is day 2 of my No Soap experiment. I’m just using hot water to clean my body. I’ve used an egg yolk to clean my hair so far (it works surprisingly well?!) and ACV for a rinse. I’ve remade my usual leave in conditioner and body lotion without all of the cancer-causing and endocrine-disrupting ingredients. My hair is soft and my curl pattern is flourishing. My skin is soft and glowing, and I smell like vanilla and roses from the scented oils. The only thing is, I suspect my skin is going to …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/22 02:24 AM
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So are you just like, imagining messy break ups and how you would respond, or?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/22 02:14 AM
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… women are saying these things to you?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/22 02:10 AM
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Many, many. I stopped counting after 35
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/22 01:36 AM
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Maybe she just prefers more aloof partners, so everybody seems clingy. Or she just attracts that type of dude?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/22 12:59 AM
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Rough
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/22 12:52 AM
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That’s not what I’ve heard from the low n women here. I caught feelings for two of my casual sex partners. One was married with 5 kids and wanted exclusivity with me, but I said no, so we didn’t let those feelz get any deeper, and the other eventually became my husband
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/22 12:48 AM
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Q4all: what is your gender, and did you experience the “virgin cling” when you lost your virginity? If you’ve taken others’ virginities, did they get clingy afterwards?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/22 12:39 AM
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Is it? It seems like all the women who waited til marriage are very attached to their husbands, but thats obviously a biased sample, because they’re married… maybe we should do a q4all
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/22 12:29 AM
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I mean, I didn’t get the virgin cling when I lost mine, but ymmv with other women. The 4 men who told me I took their virginities got suuuper clingy though
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/22 12:17 AM
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Idk. I think men are more likely to be nexted if the women they’re sleeping with finds them bad in bed without an excuse. But I guess that’s fine if you don’t care about keeping the one you lost your v card too. (Although the virgin cling is real)
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/22 11:57 PM
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I didn’t know what orbiters were until I found TRP. By that time i was already married, so I cut off the orbiters I had and prevented any from becoming orbiters in the future. It was weird for me to have “friends” that only wanted to fuck me when it was never going to happen
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/22 11:36 PM
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Maybe omitting until right before the sex is about to happen? That way the woman doesn’t feel robbed of her opportunity to make it special for him, she’ll likely be forgiving about his performance, and less likely to back out now that she knows definitively that she wanted to have sex with him.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/22 11:24 PM
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It’s hard to say. On one hand, if a partner has pre-conceived notions about male virgins, they may judge their performance to be worse because of bias. On the other hand, their partners may be more forgiving of their performance if they understand they’re new to sex. However, I think most women would be put off of a man in general if they find out he’s a virgin, unless the women are virgins or very inexperienced themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/22 11:17 PM
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It can often be, if the partner who finds the other to be non-proficient (I definitely feel like there’s a better word there) has the patience to teach them. Often they’re just not willing and they move on to someone who is already proficient, and sometimes two people are fundamentally sexually incompatible.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/22 11:06 PM
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They want both. Some women can have sex with people with whom they don’t feel emotionally connected, others can’t. But everyone prefers technical proficiency to… non-proficiency (? Is that the correct word?), which is what virgins start out as.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/22 10:38 PM
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I felt “in love” with the dude to whom I lost my virginity. It didn’t make him better at sex. I do think you’re an outlier in your beliefs. Most women prefer technical proficiency.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/22 10:27 PM
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No. It would have, if the researcher had solicited more specific data relative to what we were discussing, and the data proved what he was saying.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/22 10:19 PM
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I definitely think all people are evaluating each of their partners’ technical proficiency, whether consciously or subconsciously. But that’s beside the point. Your original claim, IIRC, is that virgins can be naturally good at sex (in the sense of technical proficiency), and that’s the study you gave as evidence. The study doesn’t distinguish between technical proficiency and being happy to have been somebody’s first, in terms of what a “positive experience” entails. So it isn’t good proof that…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/22 10:07 PM
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So if 50% of the time a person gets a paywalled link from someone else, they’re going to have wasted their time searching for the full study… why should someone not expect a direct link to the study? Those are not good odds. You’re claiming that it’s sooooo easy to find these whole articles, but your estimation of the success rate doesn’t match that. If you have a link to the actual study, just send that one. If the person you’re talking to says “that’s not working for me” you can at least reaso…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/22 09:59 PM
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Well duh. People shouldn’t be drunk when they lose their virginity. And most people want to make others’ first times special. That doesn’t indicate that virgins are good at sex Eta: i would be interested in a breakdown of how many women said the experience was positive vs how many men, and also an examination of how many women say the actual sex was good, and not just that they were happy to have taken some dude’s virginity because of how it made them feel.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/22 09:46 PM
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I’ve tried looking up the DOI for the sources people have given me on this subject. Time after time the results gave me paywalled summaries of the studies, instead of the full journal article. So I gave up and decide to stop wasting my time, and now I want direct links or else I assume somebody is either intentionally making the full article difficult to access because the methodology is bad, or they simply lack the ability to evaluate the methodology and so they didn’t bother to read the whole …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/22 09:35 PM
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Thank you. That is a link to a proper study. Note that the examples of male responses included in the 59% positive experiences talk about the actual sex being good, and only 1/3 of the female responses talk about the actual sex being good. The other two mention feeling “special” for being his first and “impacting his life forever.” Eta: I’m also wondering how that one female respondent defines “experienced.” The solicitation for stories doesn’t specify what exactly was meant.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/22 09:26 PM
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No, but you could at least give the person you’re talking to at the moment a functional link, and then if other readers click it and it’s dead, they could alert you and ask for an updated link. And then you can either say “I don’t really have time to provide that at the moment” and be believed because you actually gave the correct link to begin with instead of making excuses and expecting other people to find it themselves. Or you could give it to them. You know how many people on here actually …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/22 09:11 PM
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Like i said, you can periodically check to see that your links are still working and provide updated links. It just seems like you want to make it difficult for someone to find the actual info you’re referencing, which is shady, to say the least. If it’s a good study and it supports your stance, you would make it easy for people to get to the important info. But you don’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/22 09:03 PM
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I do not understand why you would not just link the actual study that you want me to read, instead of a page full of links i have to click through to try to figure out which one has the info that would be needed to assess validity of a study
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/22 09:00 PM
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You could do the extra step of going to sci hub and finding an extra link if you are the one making a positive assertion, seeing as you want others to agree with you and the burden of proof falls on you. You could also copy and paste the relevant conclusions from your study into comments here. Anyone worth their salt is going to actually read the study to see if you’re cherry picking info though
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/22 08:56 PM
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So. Why. Would. You. Not. Link. The. Not. Paywalled. Study. In. The. First. Place
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/22 08:47 PM
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Are you daft? The whole point is that you can’t evaluate the validity of a study unless it’s open and explicit about how the data is collected and how they analyze the data to get to their conclusions. If your study is fucking paywalled, you aren’t privy to more than a brief summary of it, and it’s missing all the information needed to evaluate the validity. I don’t understand how you don’t understand why linking a paywalled study is essentially meaningless. It just means that you didn’t bother …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/22 08:43 PM
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this is where your link goes. There are no numbers on this page.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/22 08:40 PM
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If it takes two seconds, why wouldn’t you do it in the first place?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/22 08:37 PM
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How hard is it to link the fucking NOT-paywalled studies then, if its soooooo simple to get them? Why the fuck would you link a paywalled study and then act like your point is therefore more valid?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/22 08:23 PM
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Anyone who was good in bed was likely not inexperienced. It is still possible to be “experienced” and be bad in bed. They are not mutually exclusive. But if you’ve never interacted with a penis or vagina, or you’ve interacted with them on very few occasions, you simply aren’t going to be good in bed.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/22 08:20 PM
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Asserting that high n people all have negative personality traits is not a “preference.” Not wanting to date them is a preference. Shitting on them as people is a stigma
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/22 08:18 PM
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Or you could just link to a legitimate journal article about a study and not a pdf of one page supposedly from a study like a person who wants an honest discussion about this topic. The other one is a study that sourced it’s participants from ONE midsized college in the US, and vaguely defines promiscuity as “ever having had casual sex.” Which means someone with an n count of 1 who ever had casual sex is counted as “promiscuous.”
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/22 08:16 PM
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Nothing i clicked on led me to a legitimate journal article with an explanation of any study’s methodology
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/22 08:11 PM
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Sometimes truthful takes are boring
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/22 07:56 PM
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“Sky high infidelity rates” You don’t have a credible source for this. You don’t have to “blow things up” to move onto the next person. Most people end a relationship and start a new one without much drama. Serially monogamous people are not generally different in this regard than high n people. Also, people typically don’t offer commitment and invest in partners they have not throughly vetted. You wouldn’t marry and have kids with someone you don’t think will be faithful to you in the first pla…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/22 07:55 PM
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Preferences are different than asserting people have negative personality traits based on their sexual histories.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/22 07:47 PM
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All sexually inexperienced people are bad in bed regardless of gender. Nobody inherently knows how to make someone of the opposite sex feel sexual pleasure. It takes practice. That is logical. Asserting things like “high n people are more likely to cheat/divorce” and then not linking any actual studies is not logical.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/22 07:46 PM
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“Hoes” are neither good or bad. They’re just people.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/22 07:44 PM
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Articles that talk about how they sourced participants, what kinds of questions they asked, how they asked said questions, what they did to mitigate lying, who paid for the study, what math they did with the data, etc.?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/22 07:44 PM
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None of the men here constantly talking about how poor of partners high n people supposedly make ever link to actual journal articles about studies, with complete methodology sections. You literally cannot evaluate the validity of a study without that. If you link a journalism article that supposedly summarizes a study, but that article has no link to a legitimate journal article complete with ALL the results and methodology sections, that is not sufficient evidence to suppport your claim and I …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/22 07:26 PM
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If a woman tells you she has a boyfriend, she’s rejecting you. Don’t continue to pursue her, whether you think she’s lying or not. She’s just not interested in you.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/22 07:14 PM
1

Nay to all unless we’ve been in a relationship for a significant amount of time. Some stranger doing those things is creepy to me
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/22 07:05 PM
0

I have a hypothesis that promiscuous people bond with romantic partners just fine and have no trouble with monogamous commitment once they find somebody worth committing to. It’s just that they have high sex drives and high standards for relationship-worthy partners, and they see no issue with having casual sex in between relationships. Men who think promiscuous people make for bad partners just believe in this weird stigma and are using it to justify their insecurity about their partners leavin…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/22 07:01 PM
2

I have no cat. Therefore my body count is zero
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/22 06:50 PM
1

Def a stunner
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/22 06:47 PM
2

I just fail to see the logic as to why women can’t work as long as men
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/22 06:46 PM
1

Hot
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/22 06:44 PM
3

She’s a victim because a place that pretended to offer her a choice manipulated her into a decision that caused her a lot of pain.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/22 06:43 PM
1

Why is that a thing?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/22 06:42 PM
4

Aborted fetuses aren’t aware of their own existence. They’re not sad that they weren’t carried to term. But there is real bonding that happens between a biological mother and child, regardless of the circumstances, because she physically carried, made, and birthed the child… it’s often just better to terminate an unwanted pregnancy while the fetus is still undeveloped than to go through with being separated from a child you can’t care for, as well as all the mental, physical, and social difficul…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/22 06:39 PM
2

There’s no reason to resist, either
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/22 06:35 PM
1

Yup. And there’s no reason to “resist” either.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/22 06:35 PM
3

You just make him wear condoms and pull out, and don’t have sex when you’re ovulating or near ovulating. Plus there’s abortion, at least for now. Also don’t fuck the ones with existing baby mamas
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/22 07:45 PM
4

How do you know?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/22 07:44 PM
4

What if your daughter also just wants one thing from men?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/22 07:41 PM
0

Unless you wait until marriage before sex, unwed motherhood is always a possibility. Lets be real, most women don’t want to wait for marriage
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/22 07:41 PM
1

“I denied my wife sex for a month in the beginning of our relationship for virtually no reason other than I was playing weird games of chicken in my head, and projecting those onto her. Now I want to be congratulated for it.”
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/22 07:38 PM
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But… don’t you want the sex too? And by holding out you’re depriving yourself of the sex you want, presumably with the dude you’re holding out on. And wouldn’t a shady dude just pretend to date a bunch of women who hold out on him in order to have a steady supply of new women having sex with him? If it’s so easy to trick us?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/22 07:35 PM
1

He meant emails or AOL instant messenger
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/22 07:32 PM
3

Men can get STIs too, and while they don’t get physically pregnant, they’re still financially responsible for any unexpected children they make.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/22 07:27 PM
1

So you would remain friends with a convicted rapist?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/22 07:25 PM
1

Your labor isn’t free; you get paid because he pays both of your bills. If you worked outside the home, you would receive a wage, and be expected to contribute to the bills, and then both of you would have to pay your share for childcare. It’s like saying, “Well I could have been making more money this whole time, but instead I was supporting my spouse.” If you could have been making more money, why didn’t you do that instead of staying home and trying to take half of the money he did actually e…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/22 07:17 PM
1

But if he wasnt providing for you, you’d have to work, and then you’d have to pay for daycare. But since he’s working, you can stay home, and you don’t have to pay for daycare. He is enabling you to save that money just as much as you are saving him the money. Both are actively benefiting from the marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/22 07:06 PM
1

But the 1350 is money you also save by watching your kids. They’re your and your spouses kids. Both of you are being spared the expense. You’re supposed to support and stand by your spouse, even if they have nothing financially, provided they are contributing some other way. But in the case of divorce, they are neither your spouse anymore, nor are they contributing in the other ways. The active deal is called off.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/22 06:57 PM
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I am in the camp that you can’t be used for sex if the sex was consensual. You can be disappointed that a relationship didn’t come of it, but that doesn’t negate the desire you had for the sex, and you getting the sex, and it doesn’t the other person bad somehow because they didn’t give you this additional commitment that you wanted. Even if they did promise to give it to you, how do you know they didn’t just change their minds? And like, relationships are an even exchange too; you give commitme…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/22 06:31 PM
1

In a marriage in which one person stays home, it would be more like a janitor or a secretary for the office, and the lawyer who works there and pays the janitor/secretary.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/22 06:17 PM
2

Ah. I used to do that, when I felt inclined
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/22 06:11 PM
1

I feel like we’re going in circles. I just can’t see it the way you do
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/22 06:11 PM
1

Why is it impossible for SAHMs? I plan on doing that with my kid when she’s older
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/22 06:08 PM
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But the money your father makes also makes her life easier. So it’s a fair exchange while they’re together. Being provided for is already financial compensation for managing the household; you shouldn’t expect to be financially compensated twice if you divorce
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/22 05:57 PM
1

But don’t you think that allows the person coming into the marriage with nothing to contribute significantly less and then walk away with a lot more?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/22 05:46 PM
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Idk why any man would allow (and by allow, I mean choose a wife who wants to stay at home and pay all the bills, not allow as in give the legal right or like, require his permission) his wife to stay home if he has to pay her alimony if they get divorced. Alimony and 50/50 asset splitting are the default legal consequences of divorce, unless you sign a pre nup and/or find a woman who won’t take half of the assets you worked for even if she legally can. I just don’t think it should be legally man…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/22 05:36 PM
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Gamification to get children to do chores is a Montessori technique. Adults also do this to make chores fun for themselves. Seems like SAHMs don’t like the nanny because they feel guilty about not being able to parent gently/gamify things themselves… it really is hard, but it’s achievable with lots of practice.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/22 05:23 PM
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But that’s when both people are working
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/22 05:20 PM
2

Brutal
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/22 05:13 PM
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This sub makes me feel like a dude contentedly existing in a woman’s body
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/22 05:11 PM
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This
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/22 05:06 PM
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If my husband makes a million dollars working at his job while I make zero staying home and doing the housework, I don’t feel entitled to half the million if we divorce, because he made the money, not me. It’s “ours” while we’re married and “his” if we’re not together. He “assisted” me in paying the bills while we were married.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/22 05:00 PM
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You don’t owe anything to your roommate because you didn’t give anything to your roommate to begin with. Right, so why should you have to continue giving money to your wife when she’s no longer your wife? Look, people have options. They can either both work, and split the expenses AND the housework/childcare, OR one can work and provide financially, and the other can handle the housework/childcare. When you stop doing your half, you shouldn’t keep getting your half from your ex-spouse. If you ch…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/22 04:48 PM
1

Oh you sweet summer child lol
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/22 04:30 PM
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Alimony isn’t common, but it still exists. And I disagree with it in the modern age. When you have roommates, you also don’t pay for all their food and bills, while they stay home and get to be with your children. While it’s not easy to care for a household yourself, you’re still being provided for otherwise. When you stop managing for the home for both you and your partner, why should he be required to continue providing for you and himself?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/22 04:27 PM
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I didn’t dive headfirst into “relationships.” I had a lot of casual sex. Very few men were worth a relationship. The same way that every other person works. Apparently not, if you haven’t been sex drunk. It requires both the intense orgasms and the intimacy part. Don’t tell on yourself or your partner here. I’ve gotten my husband sex drunk before. He doesn’t have multiple orgasms, but he was close to orgasming for much of the sessions and then had very intense ones at the ends. Its so funny and …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/22 04:18 PM
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Yeah, but you don’t have to pay alimony to your roommates when you move out of your shared living space
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/22 04:14 PM
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Ahahahaha. Good one
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/22 04:09 PM
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Im sus of people that judge others relationships based on silly metrics when theirs are opposite.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/22 04:07 PM
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It’s 2022. Women can throw their kids in daycare and build careers if they really want to. They don’t have to sacrifice them any more than men do, other than physically producing them and then recovering from producing them.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/22 04:06 PM
1

Treating people like sexual objects goes both ways regardless of how much or how little one gender desires sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/22 04:03 PM
1

You realize you're actually saying absolutely nothing here? I don't know what basics are for you, and what are not basics. Basics are like, the foundation of vanilla sex. Like, can he do foreplay properly? Can he keep a rhythm, or is he jerky? Does he last long enough to get me off, or does he cum in two minutes and expect me to wait while he gets it up again? Does he know where the clit is, or is he playing with my left labia? Stuff like that. If your "needs" were extensive, then you were prima…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/22 04:00 PM
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If I talked about P’n’D or running through men it would be for irony purposes. I want to know how men react to the same sexism and gross attitudes they themselves often display. So far it’s been hamstering and denial that it’s even possible. I don’t care if anyone know how many people I had sex with, unless it proves a point.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/22 03:49 PM
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The ones that aren’t willing to get tested are higher STD risks. Yes, it takes time. So I guess they have to be willing to wait at least for a little while. I didn’t sleep with anyone who refused condoms. Sucks that it sucks for them; getting unexpectedly pregnant or being miserable on hormonal BC sucks way worse.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/22 03:47 PM
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Yes. Yes he does
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/22 03:45 PM
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Gentle parenting is what he’s describing. Yes, it is difficult to implement and uphold, because kid’s behaviors and emotions don’t always make sense to adults with developed brains. He needs to find a woman who can parent like Nelly, and also learn some things from her.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/22 03:41 PM
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What are you describing when you say “female blue balls?” Is it not just teasing you sexually and then leaving without giving you the sex? Or is it having sex but not getting you off? There’s contraceptive methods, condoms, and STD tests. If you track your body’s symptoms of ovulation, never have sex when you’re ovulating or close to ovulating, make all male partners wear condoms AND pull out, your risk of pregnancy is close to zero. If you get your partners and yourself tested before each new s…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/22 03:34 PM
1

Sorry. I’m married now
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/22 03:28 PM
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Does anyone actually care about “getting credit” for acquiring sex though? Like, beyond the age of 16?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/22 03:26 PM
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I’m pretty sure I have a higher sex drive than a lot of men
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/22 03:25 PM
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The women that don’t think penetrative orgasms are possibly haven’t met the right sexual partner yet. I have high standards for a sexual partner. My husband is the most attractive man with whom I’ve ever had sex. His parts are exactly the right size, shape, and hardness for my parts. He likes the same things that I like, and he’s as open to new experiences as I am. He was exceptionally good at the basics, and very quickly became excellent in the not-so-basic things. He taught me things I didn’t …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/22 03:22 PM
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That’s simply false, in my experience. There are a great deal of men that are apathetic about n count.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/22 03:07 PM
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Ah, well see, i slept with whoever I found sexually attractive. The ones that were good in bed got to sleep with me multiple times. I went on dates with the ones whose personalities I liked. There was only one I felt strongly enough about to agree to commitment/exclusivity with him, and that man became my husband. (Though many wanted that with me.) I didn’t have to starve myself of sex, and I still got a HVM. So yes, I did in fact “p’n’d” many men.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/22 03:06 PM
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I’m not saying that people who avoid casual sex or even those that successfully avoid premarital sex have low libidos. I’m saying, as a woman with a high libido, that it’s very difficult to wait for sex when you’re horny all the time, and as I see no reason to do so, I would not discourage a high libido daughter from casual sex. People with liberal views on sex see sex as just that: sex. They find nothing morally wrong with casual sex provided it’s between consenting adults who aren’t harming on…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/22 02:52 PM
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Pumped and dumped
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/22 02:12 PM
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Me neither
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/22 02:10 PM
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So like… a woman who’s partner can’t get her off through penetration because he always orgasms first just has to deal with never having penetrative orgasms or, in your eyes, she’s treating men like unfeeling dildos?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/22 02:09 PM
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It was always super frustrating for me if a dude came before I did, and I had to wait for him to get hard again if I wanted to keep going, whether that was 5 minutes or 30. I lose the momentum in that time. For me, the sex is pretty much done when the man is done. Maybe this TMI, but there are also men, like my husband, who orgasm and then stay hard for a good while afterwards, but get too sensitive for it to be pleasant for them to continue.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/22 02:07 PM
1

What about men who don’t like vaginas on their faces?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/22 02:04 PM
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Dicks should be between 6 and 7.5 inches. Yes, boners of steel only. Sponge dicks aren’t any better than dildos No need for an absent refractory period. Just last long enough the first round to get her off multiple times High libido is def a necessity. I think 15 minutes of penetration is fine. Longer than that is kinda meg
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/22 02:00 PM
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Poor dude :(
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/22 01:54 PM
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Bigger and taller isnt always better. A 7ft tall man with an 11 inch penis is not desirable
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/22 01:54 PM
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I’m gonna start saying I ran through and p’n’ded a lot of men and see what happens
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/22 01:53 PM
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Lots of men are willing to share while they’re married. If the marriage comes to an end, they don’t want to have to share with someone who isn’t their wife anymore
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/22 01:51 PM
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Men need to learn some self respect
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/22 01:50 PM
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Ooh ooh! I got one! Highly recommend
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/22 01:49 PM
1

But you, personally? How long would you wait?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/22 01:46 PM
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A man can dream, I suppose, of a woman who has sex right away but is also a super loyal and sweet lady. Do you think your daughter would turn out like that? Does it make any realistic sense to you? Uh, yes? I expect that she’ll probably have a high sex drive like me, the same way my mother did. I’m not gonna do anything to fill her with shame about sex or discourage her from having casual sex. I will try to impart my values about fidelity and the way healthy relationships function. Liberal view …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/22 01:42 PM
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Or more common things, like being into things that the other partner isn’t, one partner not lasting long enough to get the other off, one person being unwilling to try new things and the sex getting boring/repetitive… there are many reasons why two people could be sexually incompatible
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/22 01:33 PM
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Okay. So if your expectation is waiting two weeks and her idea of waiting is three months, what happens then? Also, it matters how many times you see the person and how much time you’re spending together, right? Like if you only see each other 3 times in 3 months, would you be willing to wait longer than if you saw her 20 times in 3 months?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/22 01:30 PM
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I see. Thanks for sharing
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/22 01:21 PM
1

There are sexual issues that simply can’t be “worked through” though
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/22 01:20 PM
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My husband’s first wife was a virgin when he met her, and it turns out she hated sex and deadbedroomed their relationship. Just as a single example. Mismatched libido and boredom fall under the umbrella of sexual incompatibility. There’s absolutely nothing you can do if a man has a small penis and you aren’t satisfied by it, unless you can be satisfied by him using a larger dildo on you, which I think most men would find humiliating and emasculating. I suppose you could go to therapy and/or use …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/22 01:19 PM
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Right, that’s what I think too
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/22 01:10 PM
1

That makes sense to me. Also i just realized I find kissing and cuddling to be way more intimate than sex
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/22 01:09 PM
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I didn’t want anyone to feel discouraged from answering or to get defensive, or to turn around and start easy-shaming for whatever reason
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/22 01:06 PM
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It’s really not. Lots of people wait for marriage to have sex, or marry the only person with whom they’ve had sex, and their sex life is awful. They have mismatched libido or are into different things or they just get bored… shit happens. You absolutely can love somebody and not be sexually compatible with them
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/22 12:35 PM
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So what happens if a man tries to initiate sex before you’re comfortable? Do you just tell him you’re not ready yet? Or do you get put off by it? Are things awkward afterwards? How many dates do you usually fit into a month?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/22 12:30 PM
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What if the woman he’s dating make him wait a month? Two months? Three? Longer? I don’t think most women that are firm about setting timelines for sex are only waiting two weeks. I still don’t think anybody is a necessarily a bad partner if he won’t wait for sex. You can like somebody’s personality and also place a high importance on sexual compatibility. And there are certainly others who are both high value and okay with having sex quickly and then seeing where things go, so why stay with some…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/22 12:20 PM
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Are you planning to marry your agemate, or someone younger? It’s weird to me to expect others to wait their whole lives to enjoy sex if you couldn’t do it yourself
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/22 12:16 PM
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Idk, it seems to me that a lot of relationships come from people having casual sex until they start to like each other enough to date. That’s how it always was for me. If I was a dude and a woman didn’t want to fuck me right away, I’d just assume she didn’t find me sexually attractive, and I’d just date someone that did.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/22 12:12 PM
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Do you feel icky about having had sex with someone who wasn’t your wife?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/22 12:09 PM
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Does making a guy you’re dating wait for sex actually work, since the attractive ones are typically looking for women that will sleep with them right away AND are relationship material, and men can also just string along multiple women at a time in order to get sex from them? Genuine question- not trying to put anyone or their strategies down. Also, if you make a dude wait, what happens if you get in his pants and find out he has a tiny dick? Or if he’s clueless in bed and unwilling/super slow t…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/22 12:03 PM
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Every time this argument comes up it’s always a platoon of only women vs a platoon of only men. It’s never a mixed platoon of each, like it is/would be irl. Generally women who are permitted to enlist in the military either become officers (who typically are not on the front lines), they fill a support/logistics role (supply, admin, logistics), or they take on roles that are specific to females (interacting with female civilians in cultures where strange men and women interacting is forbidden.) …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/22 11:52 AM
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Pretty sure if you like raped or killed someone your friends would not be your friends
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/22 11:44 AM
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Where do you think this preference comes from? Do you want to share every new sexual experience with your future life partner? Because I think that’s a valid value, provided you abstain from sex yourself. Or is it that you feel your future with is “yours” only? Because then you might be subconsciously viewing women as something to be possessed or owned, instead of people. Or do you think that sex makes people “used” or “dirty?” Because then your views about sex aren’t healthy. There are values c…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/22 11:41 AM
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I hope you find someone that shares your values, but also that that person doesn’t have issues with sex as a result of purity culture.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/22 11:35 AM
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You need to touch grass, friendo. Most women are not marrying men they despise just to have their lives funded
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/22 11:33 AM
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Pelvic floor therapy helps a lot. I recommend it to every postpartum woman, regardless if she birthed vaginally or via-section, because pregnancy in general weakens the pelvic floor, and you also may need it to close diastasis recti. (Also sex feels amazing after completing the therapy.)
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/22 11:01 AM
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Most women aren’t that ugly or insufferable. Also like, you can just not let yourself catch feelings for men unless they’re high earners
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/22 10:58 AM
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They’re harder to recover from, and you might have a more difficult time with breastfeeding
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/22 10:57 AM
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Why would I, when men will?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/22 10:55 AM
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I’m not sure what your kids have to do with either of their parents’ sexual histories. Eta: I don’t think about the father of my child having had sex with other women. Neither my eggs nor the sperm that would become our child were even in existence at that point
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/22 10:55 AM
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That’s a weird thing to think about
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/22 01:22 AM
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The way that people collect and interpret data can be biased. That’s why it’s important to evaluate a study’s methods of collecting data, and what math they did with it. Data can also be fabricated.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/22 12:31 AM
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Do have links to the actual studies, not just articles written about them? ETA I looked up the person who paid for one of the supposed studies mentioned in the article, and this bio was on a website… associated with him: https://borntomarry.com/2020/11/25/welcome-to-my-blog/ There’s a distinct possibility he could be biased, wouldn’t you agree? Second edit: Clicked the first link in the notes. Paywalled study. Summary only. No methodology info.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/22 12:16 AM
2

Do I still have my daughter? I just want grandkids
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/22 12:07 AM
1

I think it’s pretty equal
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/22 12:06 AM
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There you again with the “high n people are cheaters.” And yet I’m still waiting on a non-paywalled, transparent study to support that. Meanwhile I’ll be over here, being faithful and monogamous.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/22 12:01 AM
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They’re single at the same rate, id imagine
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 11:57 PM
4

here you go
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 11:55 PM
1

Yeah, but so many of them are single
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 11:47 PM
3

Ask him what? If he would date me ?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 11:46 PM
3

I’m feeding my ✨inner child✨
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 11:45 PM
0

Yeah, but you just don’t…pick the low earners
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 11:44 PM
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My n isn’t quite that high, but my husband married me. There are high n women everywhere that get attractive and successful husbands. Because again, plenty of men do. Not. Care. About. N count
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 11:43 PM
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Yes, because we don’t like teaching men how to please us. We are impatient Nobody having sex for the first time is good at it. If they are, they aren’t a virgin
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 11:41 PM
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No. I will continue to retard the boomerangs. consooome
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 11:40 PM
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Send me a study that isn’t paywalled and I will dissect it for you
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 11:39 PM
4

This is so nice to hear. Thank you for sharing
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 11:38 PM
2

For dinner I had tic tacs and some frozen corn I microwaved
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 11:37 PM
2

Devil’s advocate: guns for protection Step stools for reaching the top shelf Butter knives or rubber gloves with which to unscrew jars. Dogs or other women with whom to cuddle (There are lots of better reasons.)
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 11:33 PM
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I will never understand why average earning women are picking average earning men when there are high earning men who would be content with low-earning or average earning women
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 11:30 PM
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If women demand monogamy from a man who has tons of options, then they gotta follow our rules. We don't want high n. No, we don’t. Because there are plenty of hvm with healthy beliefs about sex that want to commit to us. What is the point of a man investing 10-20-50 years to a woman with a high liklihood of cheating? I have yet to see a study that is transparent about its data and methodology that can actually prove a linear correlation between cheating and n count (cheating is a conscious choic…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 11:26 PM
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Holy yeast infection
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 11:21 PM
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Papayas are the worst fruit
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 11:20 PM
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Objection. Oranges are amazing with cashews and dark chocolate
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 11:19 PM
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So, why should any woman ever want to have sex with you if your dick is going to “ruin her pussy hole?” Also, that bonding shit is garbage. You get oxytocin from cuddling and hugging, petting cute animals, looking at cute babies… and the most oxytocin a woman will ever experience at once is during and shortly after childbirth. We’re constantly producing oxytocin, regardless of the number of people with whom we’ve had sex, and yet we are still capable of bonding with new partners. We get serotoni…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 11:13 PM
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I would never date someone who views sex as something that I give to him, or sex as something that he does to me. Sex is enjoyable for both people, and it’s not a gift or a currency, and when it’s done consensually, people have it with one another. Most women don’t buy sexual services or fetish items from men because we have our needs fulfilled irl. There simply is no market. (Or hardly a market. There are such things as sugar mamas and male strippers, and women do watch porn, although we typica…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 11:03 PM
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Because people are people, not objects to be used and discarded. And if you think sex makes people dirty, or that it’s something that is done to women instead of something that women have with men, then you have an unhealthy view of sex. It’s equally unhealthy to feel that all men are rapists or lack self respect (are simps.) I get triggered over it because my experience as a high n woman had been completely different than what people here describe. I married a rich, attractive, amazing man, I l…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 10:38 PM
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At least you’re honest
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 10:29 PM
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Isn’t that misandry?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 10:28 PM
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The toxic ass attitudes some PPD users have about sex and women that’s evident when they use analogies about objects being used and talk about women being made dirty or less valuable when they have sex with men
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 10:24 PM
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Yikes
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 10:16 PM
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I want y’all to be reminded of your toxicity
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 10:02 PM
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Why didn’t they just get new financially stable husbands?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 10:01 PM
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Oof
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 09:58 PM
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Why do so many people refer to women accumulating many sexual partners as being “ran through?” (Run through? What grammatically correct here?) Is this an indication that they view sex as something they do to women instead of something men and women enjoy having with one another? because I see no other explanation. /#WomenArentSprinklers
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 09:55 PM
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It’s certainly possible to be bigger without juicing
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 09:26 PM
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You’re a good looking person, but you might attract more women if you put on some mass. I think fit women tend to like bigger men Also, heterochromia fam 🤙
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 09:16 PM
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25% fewer men would be in relationships, I would estimate
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 09:11 PM
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I think men and women both need to be competent in their respective roles, or their relationships are in trouble… however, most men will still have sex with their wives/girlfriends even if theyre failing in everything else, while most women would stop having sex with their husbands/boyfriends.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 09:10 PM
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The women in the 1700s were doing labor intensive work too. Most of them were farmers, and chores took a lot more physical effort without technology. Only the wealthy women could afford to sit around and look pretty
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 09:06 PM
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Initiating sex with your spouse should not be seen as disrespectful. That’s a sign that something is wrong
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 08:51 PM
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Right lol
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 08:46 PM
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Right? It was really toxic
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 08:31 PM
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Describing casual sex as “unpaid prostitution” is certainly… interesting
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 08:10 PM
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Not having a choice to do either is oppressive. But I would definitely rather be home with my kid, enjoying her littleness, even if it’s exhausting and lonely sometimes.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 08:09 PM
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Sorry that wasn’t clear to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 08:07 PM
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There are lots of women who write and share about their experiences with pain-free birthing on the internet. There are whole books and classes about it. They are certainly a minority, but I do believe them. The theory is that when you feel stressed, scared, or unsafe, it releases hormones that counteract oxytocin and relaxin, which slows down the birthing process and prevents your muscles from relaxing to let the baby pass through your pelvis, so the uterus is trying to push the baby out but it’…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 08:06 PM
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I didn’t scream or sweat when giving birth, at least not until I was stressed out from my hospital transfer. I am only attempting to describe my experience
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 06:30 PM
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And also from mother to child during pregnancy and birth
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 06:10 PM
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Why does “sweetness” equate to being a doormat?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 05:45 PM
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I mean, that’s what everyone tells you. And then there are women that have pain-free births
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 05:31 PM
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Men that have been socially conditioned to believe sex makes people “dirty” find high n women repulsive.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 05:19 PM
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I have
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 05:18 PM
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They say the more relaxed you are, the faster it goes and the less it hurts. (Although mine took fucking forever, so Idk.) Contractions did feel like intense period cramps. I’m having bad cramp today, which is usual for me because I don’t normally even get cramps, and it reminded me of my labor
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 05:17 PM
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I’m not really sure how else to describe the difference in sensation
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 05:14 PM
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That was not my experience with it
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 05:13 PM
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For me, nothing felt ‘sharp,’ even at the height of a contraction. After a certain point it just felt like a constant contraction… i suppose tearing your vagina would feel sharp, but I got an epidural at 9cm so I didn’t feel that part. Nor did I tear that badly, either
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 05:13 PM
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“Pain” and “physical discomfort” are different to me
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 04:49 PM
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The way I experience “pain,” ig, is like, a sharpness? And contractions felt very dull/round to me. It was a “I don’t like this and I want it to stop soon” sensation, but not an “ouch!” for me. (Does that even make sense?)
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 04:48 PM
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I would describe giving labor and childbirh less so as “painful” the way injuring yourself is, and more so as “a profound and inescapable discomfort that had to be endured for many sleepless hours”
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 04:36 PM
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That’s long enough to warranted feeling sad for at least a little bit, I think
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 04:08 PM
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So they were asking more specifically about your past relationships as opposed to sexual history? I used to ask about sexual history (specifically n count) before I slept with anyone, but that was to try to avoid people who had slept with like, an obscene number and were high STD risks, or men that were virgins or near-virgins that weren’t going to be good in bed. And then the men would ask me and I would tell them. It was never an issue. But I’ve never asked about past relationships
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 04:08 PM
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Yes! call them out!
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 03:38 PM
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How long were you two together?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 03:37 PM
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How did they do it?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 03:34 PM
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The sad thing is that I’m not new. Its just that all the people so confidently asserting things that are patently absurd is making me feel a little crazy. Like i just do not understand how anyone existing in the same reality that I am actually thinks that is how things are or work
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 03:24 PM
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I hope I get to that point someday
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 03:16 PM
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No, unfortunately. Looks it’s time for me to get off the internet again
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 03:05 PM
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“Types of women.” You’re just buying into the stigma about people who like casual sex. There are bad women who will make men wait months and there are bad women that will sleep with them before even exchanging names. They don’t have anything to do with one another
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 03:04 PM
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It seems like a lot of PPD users read shit on here and then assume that’s how real life is, and then they’ll base further extrapolations about it in posts. And I’m sitting here reading going, “That literally has never happened to me ever in my life… that is not how people work… wtaf?”
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 03:03 PM
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On what basis?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 03:01 PM
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“Those women.” Men who get into TRP are hurt by women in general, not specifically the ones that want to sleep with them on the first date.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 02:57 PM
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They don’t care either. Men like sex. So do most women. There aren’t consequences for casual sex as long as it’s safe, consensual, and proper birth control methods are implemented. You can project all your “red flags” onto people who are enjoying casual sex all you want. But people do not care You know what’s a red flag? Playing stupid games with people
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 02:55 PM
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I swear. To. God. People are NOT this neurotic about sex and how quickly you have it and with how many people IRL. PPD is the furthest thing from a representative sample you could get.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 02:52 PM
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And they also don’t care what you think
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 02:51 PM
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They don’t want to date you either, don’t worry
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 02:42 PM
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I guess whoever touches a butt/boob/dick first?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 02:39 PM
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Right. But the fat activists want everybody else to be fat too, because they feel guilty about not taking care of their own bodies.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 02:34 PM
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Well it’s more like people are struggling to control their eating, and there are strangers on the internet telling them that it’s okay to eat whatever they want and to embrace “self love” instead
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 02:25 PM
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There are certainly still a lot of people who know they don’t want to be fat and unhealthy, and a lot of people trying to lose weight, even if they’re failing. The HAES/fat activists convince some of them to give up and embrace bodily hedonism fully.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 02:11 PM
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6.5
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 01:55 PM
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People are worried their beliefs are contagious, and that more and more people will succumb to shitty eating and non-existent exercise habits.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 01:53 PM
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I had this problem when I first got into a relationship with my husband. His previous wife would laugh at him, shame him, or sigh and say “let’s get this over with” whenever he initiated with her, so he stopped trying. That carried over into our relationship. Over time it’s gotten better, since we talked about it. I told him I need him to initiate at least sometimes, or I don’t feel desired. Now that he knows I won’t reject, shame, or ridicule him for it, he does occasionally initiate. Most of t…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 01:46 PM
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HAES stands for”health at every size.” It’s an approach that originally focused on healthy habits as opposed to the number on the scale, but fat activists have perverted it into “your weight has no impact whatsoever on your health! You can be healthy at any size!”
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 01:34 PM
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Until you explicitly communicate about and agree to monogamy, no relationship is monogamous
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 01:23 PM
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There is not a causal relationship between infidelity and body count. Even if you slept with 1000 people, you can enter into a monogamous relationship and choose to be faithful. I stand firm on the idea that people who genuinely believe high n people are more likely to be cheaters struggle with fidelity themselves. That goes for people thinking that high n people aren’t happy, too. That is a stigma. I have literally never met a woman who couldn’t find a partner specifically because of her sexual…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 11:29 AM
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You’re completely misconstruing everything I’m saying. Oftentimes new partners know of and like things you weren’t aware of before. Sometimes it’s no new things, sometimes it’s one, sometimes many. You don’t really know going into it, but that’s okay because you’re not fucking them just as a means of getting better at sex, you’re fucking them because they’re attractive to you and you’re horny. (Yes, women get horny too, believe it or not.) The potential for new skills is simply a bonus. Maybe yo…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 02:45 AM
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You missed an opportunity to say “What are you wearing, Jake from state farm?”
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 02:15 AM
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I would consider somebody a subject matter expert for a specific sexual skill/trick when they have enough of a mastery over it to be able to teach somebody else how to do it correctly. It doesn’t necessarily mean they are an expert in bed in general— they don’t need to be for you to be able to pick up new things. I’m not reading the rest of your response.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 02:14 AM
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Well, think of it this way: you can learn a new skill by reading about it online, but you learn better with an expert present to guide and teach you. They can correct you if you’re doing something wrong, or explain how to make minor adjustments and such. You can google sexual tricks, but if the person you’re trying it out on doesn’t know how it’s supposed to feel, he might just think he doesn’t like it, instead of being able to guide you in the adjustments. Plus, like I said, you might just not …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 12:30 AM
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No rest for the wicked hehe
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 12:11 AM
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Because some things that one previous partner liked also can please a current partner. Like I said, sometimes our partners can teach us things that we like that we didn’t even know about before they did it to us. In this way, our sexual horizons are broadened, and knowledge is passed around. Eh. Virgins can have sex trauma, too. Pervasive society shame and stigma never helped anyone, either.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 12:01 AM
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Good. Who cares if other people don't think you're good in bed if the person you're having sex with does? I mean, that’s true as long as you’re still together with that person. But you can always learn how to please new and different partners with time, if need be. As long as they’re patient enough to have sex with you multiple times. You don't need to have sex with other people to learn sex tips and tricks. Information is at the touch of your finger. Then you can practice it with your boo witho…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 11:54 PM
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Having sex with 1 guy 100 times will make that guy in particular think you’re good in bed. If you have sex with multiple people, you’re more likely to pick up tips and tricks from new partners that a given individual might not even know he likes. If I only ever had sex with one person, I definitely wouldn’t have learned as much as I did. My husband certainly appreciates my experience. I was also able to teach him things that I liked, that he had never done before, because other people introduced…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 11:47 PM
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Nobody is good in bed the first time they have sex. If she is, sorry hun, she aint a virgin
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 11:41 PM
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How small/religious of a college did you go to?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 11:38 PM
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But… she’s a dude
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 11:29 PM
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I tried to tell someone that a while back and they insisted that I was a just a skank who lacked self control myself and was projecting it onto virgins
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 11:18 PM
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What?! That’s the worst trade deal in the history of trade deals
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 11:13 PM
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Ohh.. women larps might make sense for why there seems to be so many female slut shamers
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 11:11 PM
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That there is an alien
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 11:09 PM
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Honestly? Not very many. Maybe some of the dudes with super gross attitudes claiming to have girlfriends and/or high n counts
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 11:06 PM
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😫
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 10:54 PM
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That’s not one of ours. We don’t claim her
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 10:52 PM
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Like the sun :3
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 10:49 PM
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You poor stunted things
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 10:40 PM
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I get to have sex tonight :)))
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 10:32 PM
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…From Grandma’s house?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 09:08 PM
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Hard to do in the car
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 09:07 PM
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Ooh, deep stuff
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 08:58 PM
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PPD-adjacent podcast recommendations? If not PPD related, other recs?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 08:47 PM
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r/neckbeards
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 07:28 PM
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I can assure you, us whores are finding plenty of attractive men who are apathetic about n count, and even many who prefer experienced women in bed. Keep being mad about it tho.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 05:05 PM
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You mean women are presently enjoying the right to lives their lives as they please and gasp still finding people who want to marry them?! The same way men are?! The outrage! How dare they feel entitled to personal freedom! Don’t they understand that there are complete strangers that feel disrespected by their autonomous decisions?!
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 04:54 PM
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The entitlement is real in this one.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 04:51 PM
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Yes, people who wait for marriage for sex are rare. Women who do not place value on virginity but still desire for a single lifelong marriage with one person are not rare at all. It would be foolish to expect the first person you date to be the one you marry. My opinion is also that waiting til marriage is foolish because of the risk of sexual incompatibility. Most of the time you don’t even know what to expect or what you want from relationships and sex before you’ve tried it out with a couple …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 04:32 PM
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I don’t understand the question
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 04:22 PM
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But didn’t you say that if a woman isn’t interested in sleeping with you right away, you assume that she values a relationship with you more than sex, and that would make you sexually incompatible? I’m just trying to understand. Because I don’t think low n women are a) being open about their relative inexperience, because then men will try to take advantage of them or value them for the wrong reasons (aka purity culture) or b) sleeping with men outside of committed relationships. And it seems li…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 02:29 PM
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So if a low n count woman doesn’t sleep with you right away, but doesn’t explicitly talk about her sexual history, and you don’t explicitly ask, you would just assume she’s not sexually interested in you and you would next her, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 02:20 PM
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Yes. Polygamous marriages are illegal here in every state but Utah, if I’m not mistaken
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 02:14 PM
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I’d just have to guess and judge her based on her actions. So you would want her to have sex with you quickly in the relationship, but you would also… judge her for it? Would you assume she was like that with anyone? Do you think low n people are more or less likely to talk about their sexual experiences (or lack thereof) with someone they’re not dating yet than average or high n people?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 02:13 PM
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But if you were talking to a woman who wasn’t directly and freely open about, would you still date her?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 01:58 PM
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This isn’t a discussion about whether anybody should or shouldn’t get married. It’s about whether women who desire life-long monogamy in the form of marriage “rare” or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 01:48 PM
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Oh my sweet summer child. Get out while you still can N count refers to the number of people a person has had sex with.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 12:44 PM
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According to you, or professional dominatrixes?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 12:43 PM
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That sounds awful to me
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 12:14 PM
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Just because you can’t separate the way you treat someone in bed from the way you treat that person the rest of the time doesn’t mean everybody is like that. This is so solipsistic.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 12:05 PM
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Even then, there are people who get divorced or remarried more than once, and their n count doesn’t exactly reset between marriages. Are those people included? How long does the study run for? Was it just a snapshot in time? How do we know the low n people in the study didn’t go on eventually go on to get divorced as well? Plus, the older someone is, the more likely someone is to be high n and also to be divorced, because of the chronological nature of accumulating sexual partners, and also beca…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 11:42 AM
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The point is that it’s not exactly rare for women to want to remain married their entire lives
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 11:34 AM
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I hate that phrase. Unless you live in a small town, or somebody is sourcing their sexual partners from the same social circle (which, most people don’t do because it gets messy fast) nobody calls people they know “the local/town bike.” Most of the time other people don’t know an individual’s n count unless they ask.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 11:31 AM
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Before we date they often talk about their history. Do you only date girls that talk about this with you? Because what if someone just… doesn’t talk about it?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 11:27 AM
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You don’t have to have a high body count to have whatever negative trait you assume high n people have. For example, someone may think that high n people are incapable of remaining faithful in a monogamous relationship, but in reality, it may just be that that individual finds it difficult to remain faithful themselves, even if their n count is small. That’s how projection works. The fact of the matter is that women already sleep with whomever they want and still end up happy and in LTRs. There …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 11:23 AM
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How long do you usually have to date women for them to tell you their entire sexual history without you asking? Do you often have partners whose “friends” are comfortable enough with you to talk about your partners’ sexual histories? So basically… you expect low n women, who don’t sleep with other men quickly, to have sex with you quickly, otherwise you suspect she thinks you have the good qualities necessary for her to date you, and that makes you not want to date her?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 06:22 AM
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Apparently some men are viscerally repulsed by a woman’s sexual history. (But only after she explicitly tells them and not when they decided to approach her and ask about it.)
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 06:14 AM
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You can change your sources of self-worth, you know, if they are making you unhappy. And we can always learn new things that make us better for our partners. I do agree that sexual compatibility and mutual desire are important. I don’t think asking a woman how quickly she slept with other men, or how many other men she slept with, as a way to judge how much she desires you, comparatively, is uh… useful? As opposed to evaluating if the amount she desires you is enough for you, period.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 06:08 AM
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Healthy people’s self worth mostly comes from intrinsic sources. Do you like who you see in the mirror? Do you believe you are a high value man? Maybe after some introspection, certain men on this sub would realize they are projecting their own negative characteristics onto high n people.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 05:59 AM
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I was being as serious in my analysis of OP’s analogy as OP was being in making it. But I’m glad you found it humorous nonetheless
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 05:58 AM
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A good partner should increase your feeling of self worth, yes. But i do not think it is healthy for a person’s self worth to be entirely based on someone else’s opinion, or for it to always be relative to other people. Self worth should be mostly derived from intrinsic sources. It is less fragile that way. Initially you didn’t mention sexually satisfying your partner; you were talking about how soon a potential partner “gave it up” to you vs other men she previously slept with, and suggesting t…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 05:56 AM
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Apparently destructive drivers that ruin the cars
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 05:49 AM
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So basically… your self worth is pinned on how sexually attractive women find you compared to other men? And you value people more based on how they increase your sense of self-worth instead of on who they are as people?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 05:49 AM
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The analogy exposes the beliefs and attitudes the men making them have about sex, themselves, and women.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 05:44 AM
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That is not how that works. Also, if she didn’t feel sexually jealous, why is your virginity of importance or value to her?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 05:40 AM
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Just a reminder that as long as someone doesn’t live in a small town, source all their sexual partners from the same social circle, or advertise their sexual experience(s) publicly, nobody can ascertain anybody’s n count solely by looking at them. So, except for in those particular cirmcumstances, dating a high n person is unlikely to make you “look bad.” Also a reminder: not every sexual partner that high n people accumulate is necessarily from a relationship. Casual sex is a thing that many wo…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 05:36 AM
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Yes, it did. I feel sure that I have gathered a lot of info about you based on your responses here.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 05:21 AM
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Very specific.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 05:19 AM
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Where do you meet these women?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 05:18 AM
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Oh? With how many women-seeking-divorces are you presently in contact? And if I am not as rare of a spouse as I think, then that is certainly great news.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 05:17 AM
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The reason a majority of women initiate divorce is because they are not married to my husband, or somebody as good of a partner as my husband is to me. And also they are not me.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 05:14 AM
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You positively asserted that it’s “only a matter of time” before my marriage ends in divorce. That translates to mathematical certainty, or a probability of 100% If you want to go by divorce stats, fine. According to this website, 45% of marriages in the US end in divorce. According to this site, divorces are initiated 90% of the time when the woman is college educated (which I am.) That means it’s initiated by the man 10% of the time. If you do the math, if I behave like an average married pers…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 05:08 AM
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I am not engaging in “wishful thinking.” I am actively ensuring divorce is not in my future. You are just pessimistic.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 04:33 AM
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There’s a difference between people who say they never want to divorce and people who demonstrate that they mean it. And yeah, you don’t go into marriage expecting it to be sunshine and rainbows. You expect to get punched in the face, if we’re going with that analogy. You get punched in the face while your dating by unexpected conflict, and then you practice dealing with it until you become adept to handle it, the same way fighters do. Then and only then do you marry the other person. I’m not ge…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 04:28 AM
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Dating more than one person at a time is different than being comfortable with your partner, whom you feel is meant to be “only yours” sexually, having sex with other people.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 04:22 AM
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I have heard of marriages in which one spouse wanted a divorce, and the other spouse said, “No.” Qnd then they stayed married. They usually followed it up with “We’re gonna work on this” and then actually working on it. But the real “saying no” starts before anyone even thinks about divorce, with making sure you pick a spouse who also doesn’t believe in divorce, and then “working on things” effectively before they get that bad.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 04:20 AM
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And I haven’t tried breaking 17 minutes for a 5k. So that means no one else can succeed, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 04:13 AM
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I don’t like when n count preferences are compared to height preferences. Nobody is calling short men dirty, unhappy, faithless divorcées; they just say “I want someone taller.” They don’t try to rationalize the preference with character insults like they do with high n people.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 04:09 AM
1

Have you tried it?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 04:05 AM
1

Just say no
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 04:04 AM
1

I don’t believe in divorce
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 04:03 AM
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Alas, I am not
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 04:02 AM
7

Virgin hunters of PPD: “Women should remain chaste because we feel disgusted by the idea of them being used by other people before we get to use them. We will only marry virgins because we have standards!” Also VHOPPD: “If our hypothetical virgin wives don’t actually like sex with us, we will still expect them to have regular sex with us for our satisfaction only, or else we will divorce them, as is our right to do so.”
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 03:56 AM
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How the heck is a virgin poly? I think you’re also missing the point: any kind of sex (PIV, BJs, HJs, pleasuring with a toy, etc.) is unpleasant and feels like a chore when you have no desire to do it in the first place. Making yourself do sexual stuff when you do not actively desire it very often has very harmful effects on the psyche.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 03:37 AM
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Is that really what you want though? For a wife of yours to just feel meh about sex, as opposed to enthusiastically enjoying it, because she “doesn’t know what she doesn’t know?” For someone to stay with you only because she doesn’t know how it could be with anyone else? (As opposed to being knowledgeable and consciously choosing you because she genuinely enjoys sex with you?)
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 03:32 AM
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The study actually concludes that divorce and n count are somewhat correlated, but it can’t conclude that accumulating a high n count causes people to get divorced for several reasons, on e of which being that it doesn’t establish temporal precedence (confirming that people slept around first and then got divorced, as opposed to say, sleeping with zero or a small number of people prior to marriage, getting divorced, and then sleeping with more people afterwards.)
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 03:27 AM
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Is that how you view sex in general? Licking a toilet? That sounds humiliating
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 03:23 AM
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So her options are either have sex that she feels no desire for, or deal with evident feelings of jealousy when you interact or straight up have sex with other people, when you both feel that sex is something special and intimate you’ve been saving solely for each other? That sounds like coercion. I don’t think either of you are going to be happy.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 02:55 AM
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Today, I took my child to the zoo for the first time. I absolutely did not feel good about my body, my outfit, or my appearance in general. But, I remembered this post I saw on instagram about a mother and son looking at photos from the son’s childhood, and he asks where the mother is in all the pictures. She replies to him that she was behind the camera or out of frame. She explains in the post that she never felt confident about her body, and so she never felt comfortable being photographed. S…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 02:50 AM
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How does she feel about the last two currently? Is she open to it, or does it upset her?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 02:36 AM
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The part where you continue to defend it in the rest of the paragraph. ETA and also the part where you explicitly recommended it as a solution to OP. Intoxicated people cannot consent to sex beforehand because they may not be able to properly withdraw consent if they need to., like if a boundary is crossed or they simply change their minds. They are easy to take advantage of for this reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 02:32 AM
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I have a… somewhat personal question about duty sex. I think I’d prefer to DM about it. If anyone here is willing to listen and offer advice, I’d be really appreciative. Thanks
/r/RedPillWives07/09/22 02:28 AM
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RIP
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 02:24 AM
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Can you be explicit about what other options you’re referring to here? There is no way to mimic being penetrated by somebody else’s penis for the first time. It is an incredibly unique experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 02:23 AM
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And you think this is healthy? Having sex with drunk people while being sober is considered rape.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 02:15 AM
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She has no libido. She doesn’t actively desire sex ever. So once you want to physically penetrate her body, which is a whole different world of sexual exploration (not to mention that the first time can be physically painful), it’s always going to be duty sex. Do you understand what it would be like if you had to make yourself put up with somebody else putting a part of their body inside you for the rest of your life? Would you not feel like an object and completely unconsidered by the person us…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 02:14 AM
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What a horrible day to have eyes with which to read rapey responses from men who don’t understand how forcing yourself to allow someone else to use your body for the rest of your life affects a person’s wellbeing. JFC
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 02:07 AM
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You’re suggesting somebody drug themselves specifically in order for them enjoy sex for their partner?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 02:00 AM
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You don’t think it’s at all likely for a higher percentage of people who successfully wait til marriage to have sex just… felt less or no temptation because of low or absent libido? As compared to people who had a high or average libido and more opportunity for/stronger temptation for premarital sex?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 01:57 AM
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100% this. Im super glad you took time to explain this because i was very alarmed by his mention of free use in this context
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 01:54 AM
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Don’t marry this woman. You’re not going to be fulfilled with someone who has such a different amount of libido than you. As much as people like to pretend it isn’t, sexual satisfaction is a very important component of marital satisfaction and intimacy. Nobody is going to be mentally well trying to have duty sex for the rest of their lives, either.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 01:50 AM
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numbing of emotion from too many partners, inability to connect. That’s a myth. You can ask any of the many happily married high n people here.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 01:42 AM
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You can definitely rack up a high body count without ever having given into pressure to have sex by a specific person or specific people. You can definitely rack up a high body count without using prostitutes as a man. Those corrections made: my body count has had no negative impact on me whatsoever.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 01:37 AM
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It’s not?? Oh man, I’m challenged
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 01:34 AM
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$250,000 or more a year for height. No amount would make up for a small penis, in my book
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 01:33 AM
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Why not wait until you’re in a committed relationship or married? Because people have libido to satiate, sex feels good, and there is no reason not to have casual sex as long as it’s legal, consensual, safe, and you’re not an idiot that hamsters herself into feeling “used” afterwards.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 01:30 AM
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So that doesn’t really contradict the 50% success rate point that back_in_blyat brought up. 50% of married women are remaining married
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 01:26 AM
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The stat is that 80% of the times that couples get divorced, women are the ones who do the filing, not that 80% of all women file for divorce
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 01:21 AM
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1.) pick one man 2.) marry him 3.) don’t get with other men
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 01:18 AM
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I got married in my living room over zoom and I wear a silicone ring that cost like $10. I still very much enjoy having a spouse and a life-partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 01:13 AM
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No, silly. It would at least be black
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 01:09 AM
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Rate https://instagram.com/ruivasdeslumbrantes?igshid=YmMyMTA2M2Y=
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 01:08 AM
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That’s why people go off to college and visit bigger cities and find partners
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/22 10:15 PM
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Well it’s my hypothetical scenario
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/22 09:02 PM
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Pick me behavior would be if the woman didn’t want sex but had it anyway in hope of securing commitment. Having casual sex when you want it with expectations of commitment is just casual sex and being entitled.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/22 08:57 PM
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Somebody having sex because they want to is a pickme?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/22 08:18 PM
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I do understand that SOMETIMES a man will love bomb women and pretend to want a relationship with them in order to get sex. BUT a lot of times women will want sex with a man outside of a relationship, have sex with said man, and then expect a relationship to form afterwards. Then if it doesn’t, they accuse the man of “using” them for sex. Like they feel ashamed of casual sex and want to believe they’re not “that type of girl,” and so they’ll shift the responsibility for their own actions and des…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/22 02:33 PM
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I hear what you’re saying. In women’s brains, it’s “I love him so much, I want his babies!” And we (perhaps foolishly) expect the same thoughts from our men.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/22 02:23 PM
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Most standards are flexible if a dude makes up for it in other ways
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/22 02:18 PM
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For sure. Eyes deeper than their vagines
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/22 02:16 PM
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8-9 inches is freakin’ huge
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/22 02:13 PM
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Lmao. Did you tell her she can induce lactation without actually ever having been pregnant? Jokes aside, I think I was genuinely jealous. I felt that he must have loved her more if he was willing to get her pregnant, but not me. Later on, he told me that it was a very one-sided decision about having kids on his ex-wife’s part. That helped as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/22 01:45 PM
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Yes. I did my best to logic myself out of it. Idk if it worked or not because I eventually convinced my husband to make a kid with me, but either way, the feeling dissipated.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/22 01:24 PM
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Yeah, when I was ready to have a baby with my husband, I started feeling jealous that he’d given his ex-wife two children and was reluctant to have another with me. It was irrational, of course— he just didn’t want another child in general; it wasn’t that he didn’t want another child with me.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/22 01:11 PM
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My love and relationship needs are fulfilled. I’ve reproduced, and my child brings me much joy. But… i would like to have more time to myself to pursue hobbies, interests, possibly starting a business… but that will happen later once my kid is older and more independent
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/22 12:43 PM
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The point of the sub is to find ways to be able to travel safely to desired destinations. There’s nothing you can do about catcalling, but you can wise up to scams and such
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/22 12:36 PM
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Sounds like you need to get your affairs in order, girly
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/22 12:29 PM
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I would agree with that
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/22 12:18 PM
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I suppose it depends on how many options a given woman had in the first place, and how much she values them
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/22 12:07 PM
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Almost 26
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/22 12:06 PM
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They’re doing it laparoscopically. The only risk of ectopic pregnancy after a tubectomy is ovarian ectopic pregnancy, which is extremely rare.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/22 11:39 AM
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Tubectomy
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/22 11:34 AM
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The Wall is whenever someone’s options for decent partners steeply declines. For women, this is typically a matter of beginning to decline in physical looks and/or fertility, and for men, it’s when they’re broke and also ugly.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/22 11:11 AM
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I’m getting sterilized at the end of the month, and both pf my parents are trying to convince me not to. Their reasoning is that I “never know what will happen” in my current marriage and what if I “meet a man in the future who wants kids?” Never mind the fact that I don’t want anymore kids, and I’m just fucking tired of irrational pregnancy scares every month when my super irregular period plays games with me. Ew. Just ew.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/22 11:06 AM
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I just feel like at this point both men and women have the same… amount? Of gendered issues. One is not behind the other. So if you’re only focusing on gender equality as it pertains to women, are you really for genuine equality?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/22 12:25 AM
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If feminism really means equality, why do we still call it “feminism” and not egalitarianism?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/22 08:37 PM
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My partner and I identify as egalitarians
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/22 06:10 PM
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Not in Arkansas
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/22 06:03 PM
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I don’t believe in divorce. “The end” will be death doing us part
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/22 03:46 PM
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Dogs are babies
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/22 01:26 PM
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Why would I make a dog sleep alone in a garage if I wouldn’t do that myself? My dogs sleep in bed with me or on the couches. The point is that you could extend a little empathy here, and then maybe you would either do something about it or feel less pissed
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/22 01:24 PM
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It’s more like euphemism than fraud
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/22 12:48 PM
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Exactly
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/22 12:48 PM
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I was being polite. Semi colons are used to separate complete but related sentences. “as I explained earlier” is a subordinate clause and an incomplete sentence.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/22 12:27 PM
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Because there is finality to the ends of my replies, and I am being subtly passive aggressive, as I explained earlier. There are no cultures that consistently and intentionally misuse less and fewer.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/22 12:19 PM
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I’m not being pedantic. I only pointed out that “fewer” would be more appropriate here instead of “less.” I am acknowledging that I don’t use periods at the ends of sentences for cultural reasons. Also, I correctly used that semicolon.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/22 12:13 PM
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A) the study is paywalled, so I can’t evaluate the methodology or results. How many women included in the study were on hormonal birth control? How many had regular cycles to begin with? Did they collect the data for over a year, or were the women living in the dorms for over a year? B) women living in dorms separated by walls and attending classes during the day are not spending all (or arguably even most) of their time together.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/22 12:07 PM
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It’s an adaptation to texting; people my age typically only use periods at the ends of their messages/replies when they’re angry/agressive
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/22 12:01 PM
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What kind of studies are people doing where they’re keeping a bunch of women together 24/7 for several weeks? I would think that would be costly and hard to source participants
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/22 11:50 AM
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It’s not. If you spend a lot of time with other women, your cycles synch up. It happened to my platoon in bootcamp.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/22 11:47 AM
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I mean, no one’s stopping me from wiping first and then using the toilet. Doesn’t make that the correct order of things
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/22 11:46 AM
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Sure, but the way you want to speak is not correct
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/22 11:35 AM
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Well it’s not like anyone can just ascertain your n count by looking at you. They have to actually ask
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/22 11:35 AM
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But if you found a partner who demonstrated that they valued marriage and were willing to work hard at them, you wouldn’t, under any circumstance, marry her if she wasn’t a virgin?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/22 03:19 AM
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I don’t think most high n women are genuinely insecure. There are plenty of men who are literally apathetic about n count, and even some that appreciate “experienced” women, to choose from. But yeah, I do agree with letting preferences be preferences, as long as they’re not creating stigma and shame.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/22 03:07 AM
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I was really trying not to reply to you, but your argument suggests some internalized misogyny
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/22 02:57 AM
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Men are seen as inferior men if they don’t partake in the strict unhealthy gender roles society imposes on them. They are hated and not treated like human beings —> misandry I’m really thinking you’re trolling here. I refuse to believe that this is really going over your head
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/22 02:52 AM
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What? You said you hate high n women for wanting to normalize committing to them. Willow-girl asked why shouldn’t high n women expect to be committed to, or already find it to be normal, when many of us have been offered committed all through our lives, starting in our teenage years? Then you replied “Ah yes… only old men want virgins” And then I pointed out she didn’t specify that we’re being offered commitment only by old men. That was a thing that you brought into the conversation, you see.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/22 02:50 AM
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I was gonna ask follow up questions but then I realized i was being obtuse
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/22 02:33 AM
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My bad, it was firecaesar23. How are these misandrist? Hmm, I dunno, maybe because they're bad to men, and directed at men for the condition of being men??? These things are misandry the same way it’s misogyny to expect women to stay home, bear lots of children, and be subservient to their husbands, and to put them down if they try to be anything else. People need to be able to express their emotions to be mentally well, not just women. Rape is nobody’s fault but the rapists’, and happens to bot…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/22 02:28 AM
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EasternDog covered it pretty well already in his earlier response
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/22 02:17 AM
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Isn’t that kind of sad? Shouldn’t the best things about you guys be like, your deep emotional connection, mutual support, ability to resolve conflicts effectively, the amount of joy or laughter you share…? Not saying those are mutually exclusive to losing your virginities to one another, but like… to have them at the top of your list?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/22 02:13 AM
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What if she only ever had sex in which condoms were used?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/22 02:11 AM
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She didn’t specify “old”
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/22 02:09 AM
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Why do you believe sleeping with many people is immoral? Why do you believe people should exert self-control not to accumulate a high n? Is it just religious beliefs?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/22 02:07 AM
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*fewer kids. “Less” is used for collective nouns, like anything you can have an “amount” of, where “fewer” is used for nouns you would have a definitive “number” of.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/22 01:58 AM
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Probably too formal for a drunk person, but I personally appreciate the way you’ve spoken here. Kudos to you for being a good person
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/22 01:55 AM
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Of course not. But there are literally so many other high n people who do not fit these stereotypes. Like I am not the only one. It is absurd to assume these things about people solely based on the number of sexual partners they’ve had
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/22 01:43 AM
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Are you trolling right now?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/22 01:33 AM
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Let me count the ways. According to this sub, high n people: -Cannot find long term partners or committed relationships -Cannot bond with partners -Cannot be faithful within committed relationships -Do not take marriage seriously -Will always get divorced -Accumulate all of their partners from failed relationships (this one is mostly directed at high n women because oBvIoUsLy no woman ever has ever sought out and/or enjoyed casual sex) -Have mental health/self-esteem issues -Constantly compare e…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/22 01:31 AM
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Well, the ideas that men should constantly repress their emotions, can’t be raped (or if they were, it’s because they weren’t “manly” enough to defend themselves), and definitely shouldn’t be gay under any circumstances are both misandristic and extremely difficult to live with
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/22 01:18 AM
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You don’t think any non-virgins value marriage or are willing to work hard at them?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/22 01:13 AM
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Suuuuure he was ;) Jk. Sorry that happened to you
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/22 01:08 AM
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It looks like he sees a hottie across the (checks background) wedding venue?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/22 01:07 AM
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I wouldn’t want to sleep alone in the garage either
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/22 01:01 AM
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The number of misconceptions people have and assumptions they make about high n people would be comical if they didn’t try their damnest to cling to them when you poke holes in their “logic”
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/22 01:00 AM
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I mean, anybody I slept with, I wanted to sleep with also, so… we both “got what we wanted.” And now I’m married to an amazing man whom I love with all my heart, and we have beautiful home and a happy little family. I got what what I wanted. I sure hope that’s what he wanted too lol
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/22 12:55 AM
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If you’ve participated in swinging, you should know that unicorns are called unicorns because most women in the scene are neither single nor monogamous, not because most freaky people only want sex within relationships. Again, the vast majority of women are not “devoid of desire for male companionship,” but I assure you there are plenty of women who are just fine with casual sex until they do find someone who is relationship material, or between relationships. It’s not a binary between women who…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/22 12:34 AM
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I don’t necessarily think preferring relationships is “the rule.” There are lots of people who do prefer to be in relationships, but don’t wait to be in relationships to satiate themselves sexually. And there are those who will next a guy for not being good enough in bed or for being too small down below, and it sucks to have wasted a ton of time getting to know someone just to find out you’re not sexually compatible…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/22 11:36 PM
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Girls that have a high body count had multiple relationships that didn't work giving them a lot of trauma and trust issues. Not necessarily. Women like casual sex too.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/22 11:27 PM
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Lol. We had been dating for like 6 years and had a whole child by then
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/22 11:00 PM
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There is a difference between hookup material and relationship material. If a woman is into sex work she has several things that don’t make her relationship material for men…. The equivalent of men consuming porn, patronizing strip clubs/strippers, and subscribing to onlyfans creators are women who consume porn, patronize strip clubs/strippers, and subscribing to onlyfans, NOT women being sex workers themselves. Her naked body and porn is all over the internet which means your friends, family an…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/22 09:56 PM
1

Cautious?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/22 08:42 PM
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How long do you date a non-virgin girlfriend then, without marrying her?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/22 08:41 PM
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Did you take her virginity or did she lose her “pureness” to somebody who is not her husband?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/22 08:37 PM
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“Every dent in her soft parts???”
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/22 08:36 PM
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Why the separation? Is there a cutoff limit for how long you would date a woman with a 4+ n count?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/22 08:35 PM
2

Wdym by “getting her best?”
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/22 08:34 PM
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I asked my husband once to roleplay with me that I was losing my virginity to him. He looked horrified and said “Why??” And after I explained, he said “No thank you.” So make what you will of that.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/22 08:32 PM
1

Why do you set “virgin” as the standard for a wife?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/22 08:26 PM
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Masturbate, pee standing up, have sex with both a man and a woman, try to get women’s numbers, do the helicopter, lift heavy stuff, explore male-only spaces like the locker room, uhhh… man spread
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/22 07:18 PM
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An eye for an eye?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/22 07:12 PM
1

Isnt… everyone part of an ethnic group ?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/22 07:10 PM
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”You must be a woman!” I understood what you wrote friendo. You’re the one assuming all men think the same way and if they don’t they sound like women.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/22 06:58 PM
2

Based af
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/22 06:55 PM
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Post: Asks men what they think Men: “This is what we think” You: “That’s not what men think! You must be a WOMAN!”
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/22 06:54 PM
1

That’s fine for you. But high n people still find love and happiness all the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/22 05:33 PM
2

Based
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/22 12:51 PM
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Their must be a way men and women can meet each other half way. Where they can both be each other's emotional support, as well as each other's sexual satisfaction and needs met. You make sure that you are willing to listen to your partner, and work with them to resolve conflicts, not against them to “win.” You must be willing validate their emotions and help them to feel better. Then you pick someone who is willing to do the same, or who is willing to learn how to do the same. You show each othe…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/22 12:34 PM
3

Men can be both ugly and rich/charismatic
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/22 12:26 PM
2

Q4All: If you were stranded for the rest of your life on a safe island that basically had everything you needed to survive with a group of say, 10 other people of one gender, would you rather be stranded with all men or with all women, and why? Also please state your gender. Edit: assume the others will protect you against rape/violence (safety aspect) Edit 2: I’m surprised no one’s brought up period synching yet
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/22 12:25 PM
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No, they’re not the same thing. Yes, the latter is more serious
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/22 12:10 PM
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Hurt? How juvenile do you have to be for “hurt” to be your primary reaction to this? You should be concerned af, not hurt. (Also like, girls want their privacy; that’s normal. But not telling you anything about the dude she’s going into a canyon with?!)
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/22 11:41 AM
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”Being used as a fleshlight” Why are you assuming that’s how they feel? Do you not see consensual sex as something that two people enjoy? Do you see heterosexual intercourse as “using” women for your pleasure?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/22 11:37 AM
1

Are both the man and the woman working in this scenario? Who is paying the majority of the bills, assuming they make different amounts?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/22 11:33 AM
0

Logically wrong and assumptive, without evaluating the actual nature of your age gap relationship (whether the older person is actually taking advantage of you.)
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/22 11:30 AM
1

18 is thought of as the general age of adulthood, where people are given more legal freedoms, and the oldest legal age of consent in the US. 25 is frequently cited as the age at which “the brain finishes developing” by opponents of age gap relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/22 11:28 AM
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I would guess that most content posted on OF is posted consensually by the “creators” themselves. Provided it is leaked non-specifically to the general interwebs or to a few other strangers, and not specifically to people the creator knows, I would agree that is neither sexual abuse nor rape. They should know that nothing posted on the internet is private or impermanent. If it was leaked to people she knows (friends, family members, coworkers, etc), then I believe that would count as sexual hara…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/22 11:24 AM
2

That would be sexual harrassment
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/22 11:14 AM
1

I see. I think ive chosen ugly prints on purpose before
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/22 02:24 AM
1

Yes. 6 in minimum
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/22 02:13 AM
1

Do you have an example?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/22 02:08 AM
1

So by that definition, statutory rape isnt rape unless the minor is forced/afraid?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/22 02:03 AM
1

Just curious, ig. Do you mind if i ask how old you are?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/22 01:55 AM
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No, because she chose to get sloppy drunk and lose her inhibition
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/22 01:49 AM
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He doesn’t like angry sex, unfortunately
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/22 01:46 AM
2

Scenario 1 and 2 are nonconsensual, being that you told her what to do while she was inebriated. But not really rape, either. Scenario 3 is kind of shitty but not exactly nonconsensual. Woman, purple-leaning red. (Maroon?)
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/22 01:46 AM
1

I think it’s stupid. There’s no reason why anyone has to be metaphorical lock. And generally the only reason why we associate men with the key here is because it’s phallic in nature; there’s no logical analogy beyond that
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/22 01:40 AM
1

No. Pussy tastes gross
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/22 01:33 AM
3

Then he’ll think I’m trying to assert dominance 😟
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/22 01:32 AM
1

6, maybe? She seems tall. Relatively pretty face.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/22 01:31 AM
2

Uhh okay, i got one. Sometimes when he leaves the mail on the counter in my cooking space, I place it in his favorite recliner as an act of passive aggression
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/22 01:27 AM
1

Maybe PPD users who go there get autobanned
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/22 01:25 AM
1

They are not special enough in their own right to warrant any sort of effort to ask her out. She’s kind of average looking and a little too skinny for my tastes.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/22 01:24 AM
2

9.5
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/22 01:21 AM
1

How many times have you been married ?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/22 01:19 AM
1

I almost couldn’t believe it myself, but it did. I feel so close to him now, even while being hundreds of miles apart 🥰
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/22 01:11 AM
1

5.5. No
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/22 01:09 AM
6

“Stop having sex with men whom you wouldn’t shag casually. Work on your personality so that men actually want to be with you. That’s all you can do.”
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/22 01:07 AM
2

Yes. You don’t have to save someone’s contact info in order to remember their name. Literally any person with whom you talk, regardless of gender, is going to be offended if you don’t remember their name.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/22 01:06 AM
2

My husband and I almost fought this morning, but I managed to hold my tongue until his emotions finished processing and we were both calm. In the evening, he called me and we had such an amazing discussion about how we were feeling and what we could do better in the future. I felt listened to and understood. I cried happy and grateful tears. Empathizing and communicating effectively is so wonderful.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/22 01:04 AM
1

Keep exercising and eat a bit less for a while
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/22 12:52 AM
2

Condescending? As opposed to her thinking he’s effeminate, awful, and unworthy ?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/22 12:50 AM
1

I mean… remembering someone’s name when you’ve conversed with them for a while is just basic human-to-human respect. Her turning sour about it isn’t violating any of your “boundaries”
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/22 12:46 AM
3

Ive met many. They aren’t in their 20s
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/22 12:43 AM
5

my reply Edit: LMAO i got banned from that sub
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/22 12:40 AM
2

Nobody should be getting engaged at 18, neither to an age peer or somebody significantly older. I think 21 is like the minimum age anyone should be before engagement happens. Because then, even if you meet someone you can see a future with at 18, you’re either really sure of it 3 years later, or you save yourself from a big mistake.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/22 07:28 PM
1

Like I said, a correlational study doesn’t make it impossible for high n people to have happy, successful, and monogamous LTRs. That is not a reason to accuse people of lying here. People who are not educated in statistics and research methods shouldn’t throw out studies that they are ill equipped to evaluate every time, especially not as an excuse to put other people down.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/22 11:52 AM
3

If your man gains weight, it’s because you haven’t locked his genitals in a chastity cage til he slims down haven’t been cooking delicious, healthy meals for him to take to work with him. Take some responsibility ladies 🥰
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/22 02:03 AM
5

The first time I got pregnant, my husband and I temporarily broke up over whether we would circumcise a hypothetical son. His reasoning was that he “doesn’t know how to clean under a foreskin because he doesn’t have one.” I was like (with full pregnant rage) “WHAT IF WE HAVE A DAUGHTER?! WILL YOU NEVER WASH HER LABIA BECAUSE YOU DON’T HAVE THOSE EITHER?!”
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/22 02:00 AM
2

No :’(
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/22 01:55 AM
1

Yes
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/22 09:04 PM
2

Well… what size is his pp? Maybe it really is too small. Side note: personally I think that being too wet is less pleasurable for me (a woman) as well because there’s just less sensation overall. But like… you can’t do anything about it, unless you only have shower sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/22 07:13 PM
10

Single mothers usually work and utilize daycare centers
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/22 06:12 PM
1

Let me try explaining again. To prove that variable x causes variable y, three conditions must be met. The first is that x and y must be correlated (as x increases, y either increases or decreases) in a statically significant manner (meaning the results of your linear regression are not a result of pure chance.) The second is temporal precedence— variable x comes first, and then variable y happens. The third is that all confounding variables are ruled out. This is typically established only with…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/22 06:07 PM
1

You don’t think people know what researchers are trying to “figure out” when they ask them their n count, their satisfaction with their relationships, the length of their relationships, whether they’ve cheated, whether they’ve been divorced, etc.? OP basically asked the same questions: people with an n count of over 15, what’s your experience been like? And then those people will tell you. A study can take the data points and do a linear regression and say “well based on people’s responses, this…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/22 05:32 PM
2

You can dress well without wearing that.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/22 05:22 PM
3

Young women from the north who wear skirts tend to wear them on their waists, not around their hips, and they definitely don’t wear them with blouses that have super high collars. I don’t think I’ve seen anyone under 30 wear ballet flats in years. Young people wear sneakers now.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/22 05:21 PM
1

It’s a joke
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/22 05:19 PM
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Why do you think the people in the studies are telling the truth and that people here are lying?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/22 05:16 PM
1

When I met the person I would eventually marry, and he asked me to be exclusive with him, it took a couple months to get out of the “always open to new partners” mindset, especially when we had to spend time apart and couldn’t have regular sex. Eventually that went away and I have no desire for anyone else anymore. Nobody else was as good in bed as my current partner. We like to try new things often, and have a pretty diverse sexual repertoire, so I don’t get bored. Sometimes I miss the ego boos…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/22 05:09 PM
2

Not the wealthy ones
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/22 04:57 PM
0

Those are the type of women who would wear that
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/22 04:56 PM
3

Old republican?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/22 04:54 PM
1

They wanted a serious and committed relationship and I did not.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/22 02:34 PM
1

Only one man ever genuinely proposed to me and I am married to him. But there were a handful of guys that talked about like, having kids with me or imagined our life together aloud, and it was cringe because a) it was usually wayyy too soon into dating, and b) I had to acknowledge I didn’t like them as much as they liked me or couldn’t see myself with them long term, and so those instances were followed up with “It’s not really working out/I don’t want to see you anymore.” I can’t imagine being …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/22 02:22 PM
1

Soft proposals? Or explicit “I want you to be my exclusive gf/wife” proposals?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/22 02:09 PM
3

“I can’t believe I matched with you” is a turn off because it confers low self esteem. You can convey excitement to match without putting yourself down. Also if you match with someone, it’s obvious you think they’re attractive, so immediate compliments can be redundant, especially if every guy she’s matching with is leading with that. Compliments lose their meaning after so many repetitions. Idk why men don’t like being approached by women (maybe they feel emasculated?), but women don’t approach…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/22 02:06 PM
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Getting commitment from someone she feels is high value is much more difficult. Is it actually though? HVM want relationships too. It’s not every single one of them, but there are plenty that do.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/22 01:58 PM
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The men who will offer relationships too easily are devaluing their commitment, so of course you end up rejecting them. Does anyone actually think like that? I think most people want their happily ever after, and don’t want to have to struggle to get it. Healthy and enjoyable relationships are easy and straightforward. I assume people who are afraid to demonstrate their interest aren’t interested, or if they are, they’re not going to give me the level of open affection that I need in a relations…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/22 01:47 PM
1

You haven't always been the one rejecting men, you just moved on and you try not to think about it. I mean, I’ve never actually asked any man for commitment. Any time there was a lack of mutual interest it was just like, feeling them out, so to speak. And it would be like, “Hey, I really like this guy as a person and I can be explicit about specific things that I really like about them. I wonder if they feel the same way?” And then I would subtly investigate— does he talk to me outside of arrang…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/22 01:35 PM
4

Maybe this is solipsism, but I see so many male users here talking about men being “the gatekeepers of commitment” and women supposedly having a hard time getting men to commit to them, but… I just don’t think that’s the case? To me, it seems like any woman can gatekeep both sex and commitment, as long as her standards are appropriate relative to her own market value. But then again, there do seem to be a lot of women worried about getting pumped and dumped, and talking about trying to get men t…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/22 01:08 PM
3

There are certainly idiots that believe an ectopic pregnancy can and ought to be moved and re-implanted into the uterus. Though they are not common. It’s still frightening that people with such poor knowledge of how the female reproductive system works are in charge of making decisions regarding national reproductive rights.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/22 12:54 PM
1

Mace the leopards. Hope not to be r*ped to death.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/22 12:45 PM
4

People should always be honest when entering a new relationship, otherwise things are not going to go well. There are people out there that do care, and those that don’t. People should stick to people with whom they are compatible. The “classier” kind of prostitutes (sugar babies, escorts, etc.) rarely ever get caught, and unless you have criminal charges or somehow make yourself widely known for/publicly associated with prostitution, the likelihood of it hurting your professional reputation is …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/22 12:31 PM
3

No? Why would I want that
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/22 12:13 PM
1

Do you actively inquire into their sexual history? Because they definitely know once you start doing that.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/22 12:08 PM
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